Direct_Cattle_6638 Archive

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0	dating after divorce at 55 with ED. need advice. Before going the prescription route try L-arginine and L-thiamine. The mental barrier is what you need to overcome, try not to fixate	/r/Divorce_Men	11/08/26 04:52 PM
6	How to show my ex-wife's new boyfriend that he has no authority over my children or me. I’m gonna be in the minority here but setting a good example for your kids seems like the move. Chances are your ex told him how “crazy and dangerous” you are (as all of ours have) and he is reacting based off that information. Don’t look at it as Alpha Beta, just try to be present and a good role model for your kids. Don’t let him disrespect you, but you shouldn’t disrespect him either. You can’t control the way things happen when you aren’t there, and ditto for him. Punching this dude will rui…	/r/Divorce_Men	02/07/26 07:25 PM
2	My kids basically begged me to stop the big weekends… so I said forget it and bought a $30 soccer goal Your kids are the perfect age for board games, try a co-op game. Highly recommend Pandemic!	/r/Divorce_Men	20/05/26 09:57 AM
3	GLP-1 related divorce? Her going through your phone is a major cheating tell. Usually this happens when the guilty party is looking to absolve any guilt	/r/Divorce_Men	18/09/25 04:05 AM
19	She would never cheat, right? Phone test gives you all you need. If she’s looking at her phone and you walk near and she angles it away from you, not good. If you ask her innocently “hey can I look something up on your phone real quick?” And she acts annoyed or says “just a sec” and tweaks things on the phone for a few seconds, also not great. If you want to find the truth, never show your hand	/r/Divorce_Men	13/09/25 06:25 PM
20	When does it stop? Do not compare your new girl to your ex, not fair for either of you. Forge new traditions, your old life is dead. It gets better quickly, focus on building the life you want	/r/Divorce_Men	08/09/25 01:46 AM
2	Social anxiety after divorce. Happened to me, you may have CPTSD from the marriage. How’s your eye contact with people?	/r/Divorce_Men	12/06/25 12:22 AM
2	How to Handle: Attending Kids Events Together mid Divorce Been there done that, tried to have a civil “family night” when we were getting divorced. My daughter freaked out every time it was time to leave, you have to put your foot down early and cut this off before it becomes normalized. It’ll be tense and stressful in the beginning but stand your ground, you are setting the stage for emotional codependency where your ex is the savior. Listen for the words your ex uses, high probability she is lightly alienating calling your house “dad’s house” and her…	/r/Divorce_Men	05/05/25 12:48 PM
16	What makes a woman “relationship material”? Not what you’ve been told. How they approach conflict, my ex wife would blame me and take zero accountability for anything. I’m not saying I’m perfect but there is no way that absolutely everything in the relationship was my fault... My new GF apologizes and takes responsibility. World of difference when you feel like you can communicate without criticism	/r/Divorce_Men	03/05/25 12:21 AM
2	Would getting a paternity test cause me more harm than good? Do it, I did this and it was one of the final nails in my marriage. I bought one “out of curiosity” that she found out about and flipped her shit saying if I used it we would be done and if I returned it maybe she would forgive me. Obviously I bought a second secret one and was able to find out that my kid is mine. The few days waiting period on the results was the saddest and most stressful times in my life. My guess is your love for your kids will not change but… it takes a certain type of per…	/r/Divorce_Men	10/11/24 10:13 PM
8	I jumped into dating too early. Here's my story and a friendly PSA to remind you guys to GIVE YOURSELF TIME Sometimes people can help you heal, and experiencing that healing together is quite bonding. It sounds like this may be the case with this woman. Generally the dating pool is terrible at our age I’m 35, you may be throwing away great companionship for your ego. Your emotional state is going to be a rollercoaster as you progress, also it seems like you feel guilty and undeserving of happiness which is very common amongst those that have been cheated on. If this woman is receptive I think you shou…	/r/Divorce_Men	24/10/24 03:51 AM
1	"Rebound?" Yep, nothing wrong with honesty. Stay the course, if you don’t wanna marry don’t marry, nothing wrong with a long term relationship with a ceremony down the road. If she is fine with having a wedding without a contract, you found yourself a winner	/r/Divorce_Men	08/10/24 12:10 AM
3	She want alimony included in prenup What I have seen is most of them “want a wedding”. If the license is being discussed, this is now a business transaction and you need to take the appropriate steps to protect yourself and your assets. You already know that this girl is trying to snake her way into your estate but just to be sure ask her, “will you be in a relationship where you aren’t married legally? Again I am happy to have a wedding and wear rings and all that I just don’t believe in the governments involvement in our relatio…	/r/Divorce_Men	02/10/24 12:59 PM
1	She want alimony included in prenup Here’s the new way to vet women for marriage. Tell them “I am happy to have a wedding and wear rings, we can even use all the pet names on each other and refer to each other as husband and wife. However I will not sign a marriage certificate, I know too many people that have been ruined in divorce and I refuse to put us through that” weeds them out, if they demand the paperwork… run	/r/Divorce_Men	02/10/24 12:34 PM
3	What are some of the most important lessons you've learned from your divorce that you wish you could share with younger men facing similar situations? Your future is more important than your ego	/r/Divorce_Men	03/08/24 02:19 PM
2	Toddler transition between parents changing demeanor Be vary wary of the terminology “home” it’s an incredibly powerful alienation tactic to frame the place where the mother lives as “home” and where the dad sleeps as “dads house”. Start enforcing that your child has two homes now and demand that your wife do the same. Also kids Noahs age thrive on routine, switching from room to room is gonna set you back a ton, pick a room and deal with the discomfort for the next few nights. Good luck man, it gets better!	/r/Divorce_Men	18/05/24 02:06 PM
2	The Gym is NOT the Answer for Everyone…and Could Even be Dangerous… I think the advice is more so “get attractive” and losing fat/gaining muscle is the most glaring way to do said change. The attention and treatment that you experience going from 20% bodyfat to sub 10% is essentially like driving a Lamborghini around. Plus the gym builds testosterone and gives you a tangible progressive system to ground you. Most gyms also have weight machines so it’s a pretty safe endeavor. “Hit the gym” is typically the best thing that anyone can do to be seen as more useful i…	/r/Divorce_Men	31/12/23 01:13 PM
1	How did you manage your relationship with kids post divorce.? If she is advising you cut everything so instantaneously she obviously doesn’t care about the best interest of the child, highly advise you get a paternity test as well. Do it discretely as she will go ballistic if she finds out	/r/Divorce_Men	15/12/23 01:41 AM
1	Finally had the talk Agreed, the abuse claim is coming. You can negate this by setting up a voice recorder on a table between you two and proceed to tell her to state that you are not abusive. It’s easy enough to do just say “I’ve done a lot of research after our last fight and this is a helpful exercise for couples to grow and show appreciation for each other. I want to record this conversation and what we appreciate about each other so that if we are feeling down we can listen to it again down the road.” Then bla …	/r/Divorce_Men	14/12/23 12:12 AM
3	Wife trying to come back after leaving me for affair partner She’s in the affair fog bro, time to capitalize. Draft up a separation agreement stating 50/50 split of assets and custody as well as no childcare or Alimony and tell her a relationship is contingent on signing that document. The future of the marriage will be based off her actions in the separation agreement, if she doesn’t sign it you have your answer and act accordingly. If she does sign it, stick to it and try your hardest to have it converted into an official decree because she’s coming bac…	/r/Divorce_Men	13/12/23 09:12 PM
1	How many of you have had an amicable divorce? Mine has been pretty amicable, you just have to remove emotion from the equation. Will I randomly get rapid fire text messages blaming me and abusing me based off how her day has been? Yes. That doesn’t matter though because if you see the writing on the wall it’s time to prepare for the long game. If the word divorce is spoken by either party during the marriage you have tops 5 years, it is in your best interest to either cut your salary down to or raise her salary to within 15% of each others …	/r/Divorce_Men	10/12/23 11:25 PM
1	Hitting the gym…. This was me, visible abs and multiple strangers complements about my physique throughout the whole marriage. She used to say “wow Ryan Reynolds is so hot” whenever she would see him shirtless in a scene. So I trained to look like him, then the goal post moved to “wow Chris Evans is so hot” in captain America, so I put on more muscle again, then the goal post moved again. Somehow it made her hate me more when her friends would ask about how often I worked out or why their husbands/boyfriends coul…	/r/Divorce_Men	10/12/23 11:09 PM