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| 217 | Learning seduction improved overall quality of life. | Inner Game | Disastrous_Affect742 | /r/seduction | 30/10/25 10:13 PM |
| 1 | Rough upbringing and inner game | Inner Game | Disastrous_Affect742 | /r/seduction | 25/02/26 06:39 PM |
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| 20 | Standoff with equally attractive girls?This makes me feel good cause I hooked up with a girl I went to school with this past weekend and her friend FaceTimed her and she made out with me on camera. I initially thought it was off but she invited me back to her place after | /r/seduction | 29/06/26 10:44 PM |
| 73 | fellas, would you rather keep up the dry spell in hopes of something better or keeping fucking these 4-5s?Tbh lately I have been passing on those 4-5 at bars that make it easy for me. Mostly tho because of the drama. Also I feel gross I these days if I sleep with a girl im not necessarily attracted too | /r/seduction | 25/06/26 04:46 PM |
| 11 | Heartbroken by ex saying the sex was badIn my experience take lead. From beginning to end. Foreplay , switch positions and guide her. The mental aspect is tougher but being present is what I belive she was getting at by saying your not passionate enough. Being comfortable with desire, let loose, try to get out of your head. But then again we're human and sometimes im not really into it either lol especially if its just a one night stand | /r/seduction | 19/06/26 02:16 PM |
| 1 | What made Dennis Rodman so attractive to high status women?Yeah non neediness and detached from outcomes. Although i feel like this is stuff your born with and not necessarily something you can learn | /r/seduction | 10/06/26 03:02 AM |
| 4 | Why women who approach are often more successful than men who doI had a woman once walk up to me at a bar and immediately start making out with me. No hi or any words.... i went with it. It was really hot. Then she went to the restroom. She came back and asked for my number and grabbed my phone put in in. She was early 30s and i was 22. I would text her and try to set up dates and she would always bail last minute saying i was too young lol | /r/seduction | 05/06/26 03:39 PM |
| 1 | How do you seduce Married womenFind what she's missing from her marriage and be that. Although this isn't seduction as much as it's just manipulation Then again tho if she wants you then it's just influence? Idk life's strange. | /r/seduction | 24/05/26 10:58 PM |
| 10 | Is There Anyone Else Here Who Likes Going Out By Themselves?Yeah that times I've gotten laid/lucky I was alone. | /r/seduction | 22/05/26 09:26 PM |
| 1 | Something I noticed about men who sleep with alot of women.Nope I never "disappeared" . You said that | /r/seduction | 22/05/26 03:38 PM |
| 1 | How to not get playedOffer something to women money , status, or looks can't offer | /r/seduction | 08/05/26 12:32 AM |
| 15 | How do you know if she’s interested?You know what they say "if ya have to ask" | /r/seduction | 05/05/26 11:18 PM |
| 1 | For the men who have casual sex a lot, how physically attractive are you?Id say 7-8/10 Green eyes , above 6ft , toned but slim. | /r/seduction | 02/05/26 05:07 PM |
| 18 | Something I noticed about men who sleep with alot of women.I was raised by a single mom and always had a lot of lady friends and I see what you mean. Even when I would start dating a girl and shifting my playful attention to my girlfriend.. my lady friends would get distant , cold , or upset usually indirectly. But yeah woman compete for attention that's valuable or just emotionaly stimulating | /r/seduction | 30/04/26 12:47 AM |
| 1 | Does anyone have any experience flipping the dynamic after fumbling the start?Just be present don't over do it. Don't care about the outcome, regardless your fine. In my experience being a bit more detached and letting her come to you works when women are hesitant. Although I'm usually self contained so when I really like a girl I still dont really open up as much I guess | /r/seduction | 26/04/26 09:51 PM |
| 2 | I posted that hooking up is fairly easy and the general consensus was it is not...0Its been relatively easy or natrual for me and as I understand myself more I see why. Certain traits help alot like low need for approval/validation, emotional detachment, non outcome dependent, and authenticity. Although looks are huge. I'm taller , green eyes , low body fat percentage. So I'm not denying alot of the women I've slept with made a decision before I said anything. What I'm finding harder is building a relationship that's actually healthy for me and satisfying In highschool I slept… | /r/seduction | 25/04/26 05:47 PM |
| 1 | Genuine desire is overrated?I have genuine desire for a woman at work I've known for two years now. Its a way different approach as with girls I pull in night life of hook situations they hardly know much about me so ambiguity about me works well. Especially since I'm normally self contained and don't preform much This girl at work though actually knows my personality. We've been flirting at work subtly for the last month and little by little I see her gaining interest as I share more of myself so it seems like it may lead… | /r/seduction | 23/04/26 09:26 PM |
| 2 | Is this a good approach plan for a work colleague I want to make move on?Neverrrr do a note man !!! That's amateur stuff !!!! The only time I did something like this was when the music was too loud at a bar and me and the bartender were trading notes on receipts which was cute lol. Just walk up to her say hi introduce yourself, then just straight up ask! Do a little 3-2-1 count then go no thinking | /r/seduction | 21/04/26 01:34 AM |
| 16 | Watching wholesome comedians has helped me so muchSam morril | /r/seduction | 18/04/26 09:56 PM |
| 1 | Places to hang out?The skatepark! Always the skatepark | /r/seduction | 17/04/26 01:59 AM |
| 1 | BarcelonaI've been there once on a skateboarding trip and both me and my buddy got laid lol. Although we met the girls through dating apps the actual bar/club/nightlife scene was fun and the women are down to chat , dance , and have a good time. If you speak Spanish that's a plus , also practice your dance skills!! Highlight of my trip was dancing with a girl from Germany at a night club. The women are all in great shape and very approachable compared to the states. I remember my first experience chattin… | /r/seduction | 16/04/26 08:25 PM |
| 5 | Best way to recover/ avoid hangover?I stick to 4 -6 drinks which seems like alot but I'ma a bigger dude. If I stick to that much I never get hangovers. Also only beer | /r/seduction | 14/04/26 05:30 AM |
| 1 | Is the life of promiscuity worth it?Some men die of thirst while others drown! Yeah I realized that i was craving emotional intimacy and to be seen clearly. What's wild is that now I have that and I received it from outlets not even tied to sex. For example a married woman at work has provided alot of emotional support for me and we became good friends. I made it a point to befriend more women and have more platonic relationships. Its wild because all the stuff I was looking for I found in casual benign interactions Also now I fee… | /r/seduction | 13/04/26 07:21 PM |
| 5 | Is the life of promiscuity worth it?Yeah a bit more than that now but I took huge break and have only slept with one woman this past year. Im honestly over hooking up casually , I at least want to meet a girl id possibly date or have something more intimate with. The last 3 girls I dated I ended things before we even got intimate because I knew it wouldn't work out. Im honestly fine waiting for something better and since I got it out of my system lust Dosent have the same grip it had on me | /r/seduction | 13/04/26 03:02 AM |
| 67 | Is the life of promiscuity worth it?Honestly after I got dumped I went on a tear. For me it was alot and honestly after a while I started feeling really empty and unfilled after sex with a new woman. Not sure how guys can get up to 100 body count and more. I got up to a bit over a quarter of that and just knew this lifestyle wasn't sustainable. Nowadays I'm more interested in dating a girl and having some level of emotional reciprocity | /r/seduction | 12/04/26 10:42 PM |
| 2 | Is pipe-smoking a turnoff?No women has ever judged me for smoking cigarettes.. if anything I would say it appeals to the female gaze | /r/seduction | 06/04/26 08:57 PM |
| 2 | Anyone here who has success with dating apps?Just redownloaded and got a subscription and I got two dates planned for this month. I get a ton of matches but the ones converted into dates is rarer. They seems to pick up in spring and summer Although I had alot of experience dating already when hopping on the apps | /r/seduction | 06/04/26 03:22 PM |
| 178 | She said "I've never done this before"... Do they usually say that?Probably meant to make you think she never puts out that early or first date lol. | /r/seduction | 05/04/26 08:04 PM |
| 1 | To those who have a successful hook-up track record with online dating what do your bios look like?Social proof , hobbies, full body pictures, bio should be aspects of your personality, be authentic in what you want/don't want. Suit pic or dog pic !! Hell both ! I maybe be lucky tho cause I'm taller and above average but most matches don't convert to dates for me depsite matching with girls id date. It doesn't even matter what you message once you match , some women are down to meet you from the get go !! Others arnet. | /r/seduction | 05/04/26 03:49 AM |
| 2 | what's everyone's body count here?25 years old and around 25 and more if counting blowjobs | /r/seduction | 02/04/26 04:08 AM |
| 1 | 3 Reasons Why Good Looking Guys Rarely Get The Girl They WantTbh my issue in my early twenties was sleeping with women I wasn't really interested in long term. Being an attractive dude If I go out to a party or bar I could pull easily and when I was younger I would take those opportunities that I wasnt really ecstatic about. I didn't realize that doing that in places I frequent or socal groups lowers desirablity alot. Now I'm still fun and engaging with those women but I let em know I'm not interested in them sooner and clearer and the girls in the group … | /r/seduction | 30/03/26 02:06 PM |
| 2 | Sexual allure is not hard to build up, and it's your fault if you don't have itLast night I went to a girls bday party. One of her friends was super drunk And heavily flirting with me but tbh I wasn't attracted to her. It was a new group so I was pretty reserved and just getting to know everyone.I was still being fun and engaging with her but once she kind of sensed I wasn't in to it she started getting disrespectful. I asked where my buddy was at and she said "why are you gonna go blow him" I gave her a look of disapproval and just got up and left. It felt nice!! Couple y… | /r/seduction | 30/03/26 12:13 AM |
| 7 | How much does being muscular actually help with attraction?If you wanna attract women build your personality!! I've been skin and bones all my life and pulled no problem. If you wanna attract dudes sure get big | /r/seduction | 20/03/26 02:50 AM |
| 3 | I have zero self-esteem. Like nothingYou need to develop self respect first dude ! Who cares what your coworkers think! For example it's a boundary of mine that I don't talk about sex at work. Even if I'm sleeping with someone at work , you don't owe those dudes anything. Next time just lay a boundary, they ask: redirect, be upfront, or a joke like mentioned! Besides those dudes sound like boys , I haven't talked like that about a woman since highschool | /r/seduction | 18/03/26 03:05 AM |
| 13 | I have zero self-esteem. Like nothingHey that's kind of how jobs work | /r/seduction | 18/03/26 03:00 AM |
| 1 | Cockblocking friendsDude most guys don't have much experience with women and it goes like this unfortunately. I'm glad one of my coworkers is a solid wingman and knows how and when to hold em lol | /r/seduction | 16/03/26 01:50 PM |
| 2 | Anyone notice patterns in the girls they attract?Slightly older women who are independent. I've always dated girls a few years older than me and when I was 18-19 they were 22-24 | /r/seduction | 02/03/26 10:30 PM |
| 7 | Tips on picking up girls at coffee shops and libraries?Hahaha it sounds like he's talking about girls like there pokemon types | /r/seduction | 28/02/26 03:59 AM |
| 0 | Is Instagram harder than dating apps?It was easier for me when I had alot of old contacts from highschool. I was able to date alot of the girls in highschool I wanted too but wasn't bold enough back then. Although I think these girls had some level of pre interest so it was easy | /r/seduction | 23/02/26 03:25 PM |
| 5 | Went to a bar last night, panicked, and immediately foldedYeah that's honestly my preferred place to meet women. Yes it does happen occasionally. Especially when there events like Halloween or new years it's a great time to meet girls. You have to go there with the intention of having a good time not getting laid. Sometimes you have so much fun that getting laid just happens. My advice would be to go and shoot some pool and ask a girl if she wants to play or bring a friend and mingle with another duo of ladies Although I think most men get discouraged … | /r/seduction | 21/02/26 06:27 PM |
| 2 | Not able bring girl to my place? Is that a disadvantage?Definitely dude , get an apartment it'll boost your confidence up too when your on a night out | /r/seduction | 18/02/26 01:03 AM |
| 1 | Is being known as the womanizer of a group a bad thing?I never talk about sexual exploits with women although sometimes I'll mention if I'm dating someone knew. I've gotten that label at work as Im alongside mostly women. I own it because it is an honest part of my life and I've always been a serial dater lol. So I don't try to hide it , I just own it | /r/seduction | 15/02/26 03:15 PM |
| 2 | Is irl game as hard as dating apps?Way easier as my presence isnt felt on the phone. In person women can see that I have listening skills , humor , and non needy energy. It's still a numbers game and if I have to guess I would say like 1/28 times I find a woman on a night out I vibe with and I get laid or some action. I'm gonna try my more day game as I've been interested in it latley | /r/seduction | 13/02/26 11:59 PM |
| 3 | I choosed my first victim she is a disappointed dreamerGeez dude !! Props on OP for starting but dude calling a potential romantic interest a victim is criminal dude lol I remember one post on here about a dude saying how he intentionally gets women drunk in hope they'll sleep with him | /r/seduction | 09/02/26 05:50 PM |
| 2 | What's the most women you've had in your roster at any given time?Not many probably like 3 and even that was stressful as they knew about each other | /r/seduction | 09/02/26 02:23 PM |
| 2 | Is casual sex or relationships easier to find as a man?Right after my fair share of abuse (: | /r/seduction | 06/02/26 11:02 PM |
| 24 | Slept with 65 girls last year.. here’s what I learnedAhh you just reminded me of what made me give up that lifestyle. Yeah the ghosting hurts , Ia friend of mine I had offered me casual sex with no strings attached and afterwards just completely ghosted me. I was going through some mental health stuff and coincidentally the casual sex just made me feel more lonely. | /r/seduction | 06/02/26 03:18 PM |
| 100 | Slept with 65 girls last year.. here’s what I learnedThat's pretty impressive. I think the most new women I've slept with in a year was like 12 and even that was super time consuming and although it was fun I was putting in way more energy than I should into it. Also that year was one of the most empty years of my life. Towards the end I would feel super numb after sex and a bit dissatisfied as it was hindering my personal growth Now a days Its like 3-4 a year and that's the sweet spot for me | /r/seduction | 06/02/26 03:09 PM |
| 12 | Is casual sex or relationships easier to find as a man?Hahah same here ! You can't always get what you want but if you try sometimes..you get that you need (: | /r/seduction | 06/02/26 03:04 PM |
| 1 | What car do you drive?Doesn't matter at all dude , I drive a shitty ass old Camry that can take us back to our apartment or sometimes we just stop at the back seat lol | /r/seduction | 04/02/26 09:00 PM |
| 9 | Bad nights are brutalHave some containment and restraint in your speech. You dont have to act be polite but don't play your full hand right away it seems desperate | /r/seduction | 02/02/26 01:23 AM |
| 3 | How to build confidence for wanting to start dating when you still live at home?As soon as I moved out and got my own place my confidence and self respect multiplied ten fold. I would work on that first Although when I didn't have my own place i still would get laid often either in my car or a hotel. So there's nothing stopping you from trying now. Also strangely now that I have my own apartment, I don't pursue woman as much or invite them back to my place. I kind of like the peace and quiet around here. I got laid way more when dates ended in the back seat of my car lol | /r/seduction | 01/02/26 10:30 PM |
| 1 | How do you keep busy?Always go fishing or hiking that works for me . Seriously being out in nature with no signal will make you less needy | /r/seduction | 26/01/26 05:29 PM |
| 2 | Does texting change when you get older?Honestly I don't do it , just use it for planning dates. You could talk yourself out of getting laid faster that way lol | /r/seduction | 26/01/26 05:55 AM |
| 3 | Any beginner who made 2026 goals how are you doing?Only goal was logistically. Got approved for an apartment today. Now I won't have any roommates to cockblock me lol Can't wait to go out now with a place to bring women back too conveniently. Right next to bars as well | /r/seduction | 26/01/26 12:34 AM |
| 4 | I went out with an 'expert' - still really feels like a numbers game though, tbhTbh I don't really pursue as much as I used too. It's still always gonna be a part of my life. Although I dont really mind going months without a woman or sex in my life. It's peaceful. I'm focused on building my life up right now and if I can get some play here and there .. cool. I am moving into Los Angeles tho in a month or so that might kick things up | /r/seduction | 24/01/26 06:02 AM |
| 19 | I went out with an 'expert' - still really feels like a numbers game though, tbhYeah that's the reality. I would be considered above average. Over 6ft , green eyes , low body fat % Still I go out couple times a month and on average have about only 2-4 sexual partners every year. I do spend quite a bit of time pursuing and talking to women. Most of the time it ends in rejection. | /r/seduction | 23/01/26 06:44 PM |
| 1 | Being seen as boyfriend material but not hookup potentialExactly!! There's a reason why they didn't have sex in 50 shades of grey until past the halfway point in the book. It's also why you should always have some ambiguity when showing interest. If you communicate that your available all the time , you'll watch her attraction die fast!. I always opt for a classy single kiss on the lips at the end of the date. You always want to be the one pulling away when things get heavy. | /r/seduction | 21/01/26 10:29 PM |
| 2 | Being seen as boyfriend material but not hookup potentialThat's solid advice also if she gives you any friction just say your goodbyes and dip ! Give her some FOMO | /r/seduction | 21/01/26 10:07 PM |
| 20 | What are the key things to learn / develop to become good with girls?Being self assured and authentic. Don't even think about what to say , just say it | /r/seduction | 21/01/26 06:33 PM |
| 1 | Just A Little Tip For Anyone Who Doesn’t Know…..The first one was. She was 19 when they dated. Blondish Latina and she was cool but it was odd talking to her as I was 18 at the age lol The other one not at all. She was busted lol | /r/seduction | 20/01/26 04:40 PM |
| 1 | Just A Little Tip For Anyone Who Doesn’t Know…..Yeah sounds like the type of chicks my dad dates.... Hes gotten two of them knocked up in the last 5 years 😁 ( they have some serious daddy issues, like me ) | /r/seduction | 20/01/26 03:46 AM |
| 2 | Just A Little Tip For Anyone Who Doesn’t Know…..One I asked a girl I found attractive at a bar for a cigarette. She was really receptive and eager to talk to me. We didn't have a lighter to light my cig and in my spur of the moment "smooth" thinking I put my cigarette up to hers so she could light it with hers lol.... That's when I found out she was there with her 60 year old bf lol. She was in her 20s and he just gave me a mean mug look and that was it lol. I've approached a lot of girls there with there boyfriends and I adjust my approach t… | /r/seduction | 19/01/26 08:04 PM |
| 3 | Is hookup culture cooked?Yeah alot of the dates I went on last year women had strict expectations of commitment before sex which in my mind makes no sense and I had too end things with a few of them because I can't in good faith give someone commitment before I know we're compatible Then the opposite side of the pendulum.. once I do have sex with some women theres all these covert contracts of stuff they expect now. Biggest one is my availability! It could also be because my boundaries have gotten a lot stronger now and… | /r/seduction | 17/01/26 10:18 PM |
| 3 | She said she’ll text me next week - is this usually a soft no, or am I overthinking?The first time a woman bails on me I leave it up to her to let me know when she wants to see me. There's been times tho where I'll hear nothing for weeks then on a Friday I'll text something simple like " wanna grab drinks tn?" And they'll reply fast and accept | /r/seduction | 17/01/26 10:01 PM |
| 8 | Is hookup culture cooked?It's still out there but I will say pre COVID there were way more women interested in casual sex and they didn't have as high standards. After dating apps alot of women who are average looking are seeing that attractive men are liking there profiles and they assume that means they can date them. This boosts there market value and thus now when they go out in public they think there on chads level Despite this there's still many women out there who want situationships. My issue is finding one tha… | /r/seduction | 17/01/26 09:59 PM |
| 2 | How to cold approach and get the date, pro guideGo for the kill advice is a bit creepy dude lol. Although I've had plenty of hook ups while drunk .. I've never consciously tried to get a women drunk for the purpose of sex. Sounds predatory. At most I buy a women a single drink My advice would be go out for the propose of having fun and when your really having fun sometimes getting laid happens | /r/seduction | 15/01/26 12:10 AM |
| 5 | The only reason you are single is your locationBeing born and raised in Los Angeles ive done well especially in my youth when I was in highschool in one of the valleys. I do think the LA county cities women are not as picky because of lack of options. I did find that because of subcultures I was a part of like skating and music dating has been very easy in Los Angeles. Not to mention the qualify of women here is top shelf imo Im moving closer to highland Park in a few months and I can't wait to find a local dive and try out my luck there. | /r/seduction | 10/01/26 12:44 AM |
| 6 | I get so fucking gassy stomach on dates/sleepover dates, i don't wanna fart up the bedroom. Do you guys have any tips??I be shitting? | /r/seduction | 08/01/26 03:03 PM |
| 2 | First date fire until kiss, then abrupt exit. Misread?Dude the same thing happened to me last week with a hinge date. Date was a wine picnic at the park (2nd date) vibes were great , intimate conversation, she remembered alot of details about me and afterwards it ended in a heated makeout session. I was feeling great afterwards and excited that I found a girl I was genuinely interested in getting to know. I went on so many dates last year and this was the only girl I really felt I could go the distance with. After the kiss she did seem like she was… | /r/seduction | 07/01/26 10:49 PM |
| 2 | Ghosted after really intense partyAlso I know it's old school advice but definitely waiting a few days before you text works in my experience. You don't wanna text a girl for reassurance she's still into you when she's nursing a hangover guys | /r/seduction | 06/01/26 10:25 PM |
| 2 | Overcoming resistance - plenty of make outs but most dates/first encounters don't end in sexMy advice would be to sell them on the idea of having sex with you and don't talk about it. I wouldn't talk about the stuff id do to her or even let it get too hot and heavy in public. All that stuffs for show , and if she just wants excitement and novelty well she just got it .. so why would she feel the need to go back to your place Just keep the idea building of you in bed with her. When your making out next time be the one to pull away from the kiss. Have her wanting more and pursuing you. | /r/seduction | 24/12/25 04:05 PM |
| 2 | Overcoming resistance - plenty of make outs but most dates/first encounters don't end in sexBefore I had my own place , alot of dates ended in the back of my car lol. It's possible to get laid without a place but you gotta really sell them on yourself a little better. If you don't have a car you could realistically get that , then look to get a place | /r/seduction | 24/12/25 03:30 PM |
| 2 | Girl that I like has genital herpes. Is it worth continuing?Honestly if you don't have it , I would pass. | /r/seduction | 23/12/25 07:45 PM |
| 3 | What are some subtle ways you can come off as needy without realizing it?Definitely, also when they go to the other extreme and intentionally disagree with something she likes or is passionate about. Super try hard energy | /r/seduction | 18/12/25 07:31 PM |
| 1 | My street pick up, what's yours?What kind drugs are you on dude ? | /r/seduction | 18/12/25 07:12 PM |
| 7 | My street pick up, what's yours?Your a predator? Nice | /r/seduction | 18/12/25 03:05 PM |
| 1 | If I want to maximize my opportunities with Latina women, should I go to NYC or Miami?Because Los Angeles has the best kind of Latinas. Mexicans. | /r/seduction | 18/12/25 05:59 AM |
| 1 | If I want to maximize my opportunities with Latina women, should I go to NYC or Miami?Highland Park and echo park are some of my favorite spots to go out. East Los is a huge area , sure some if it's ghetto. Where the night life and bars are at its very nice and pricey | /r/seduction | 18/12/25 05:55 AM |
| 1 | If I want to maximize my opportunities with Latina women, should I go to NYC or Miami?Really ? East LA has tons of beautiful women and active night life. At least that's where I go out. There's always events going on as well. I love it here | /r/seduction | 18/12/25 05:51 AM |
| 1 | If I want to maximize my opportunities with Latina women, should I go to NYC or Miami?Neither. Los Angeles | /r/seduction | 18/12/25 05:45 AM |
| 1 | is it ever worth tolerating toxicity just for sex?Tbh she was pretty cool and upfront about herself and her intentions with me. We had great chemistry in bed too and I wanted to keep seeing her but like I said each time we hung out she was asking a lot from me emotionally and venting to me about huge traumas that should be handled with a professional. It felt like when she told me these things I was at some responsibility to help her. The last ex I dated that has BPD wasn't physically abusive but when she was angry (a lot of the time) she would… | /r/seduction | 18/12/25 04:05 AM |
| 2 | Is anyone else sitting on hundreds of matches on dating sites with women out of the country but getting no love locally?Only on tinder which I assume is dead. On hinge I get love from the "type" that goes for me in life. The alt style younger women | /r/seduction | 18/12/25 01:59 AM |
| 1 | Is it true that the day game environment in new york has gone downhill or is it still good?I wouldn't expect Vegas to be #1. Im born and raised in Los Angeles and I love the diversity here as well as personalities women have here ! Definitely more sex positive | /r/seduction | 18/12/25 12:20 AM |
| 2 | is it ever worth tolerating toxicity just for sex?Yeah same here ! Its breaks my heart seeing reactive people with open emotional wounds! | /r/seduction | 17/12/25 11:05 PM |
| 3 | is it ever worth tolerating toxicity just for sex?Recently I was a situation like this. First date literally 2 hours in she mentions casually how she might have borderline personality disorder. She saw me react a bit and I let her know one of my exes had BPD. From them on i knew this wouldn't last long term. She told me straight out that she just wanted to hook up and no obligation on my end. I agreed and we only met up like 3 times until the toxicity was too much for me to handle. She would constantly get triggered by her insecurities whenever… | /r/seduction | 17/12/25 09:40 PM |
| 39 | Curious, what was your easiest lay?In highschool a girl purposely bumped into me And teased me saying "watch where your going Jay" With a really playful look in her eye. I was shocked she knew my name as I had never talked to her. A week later she texted me asking what time I got off work and if I wanted to have some fun. Closed as fast as I could , picked her up we smoked a bit then got down to business. There was a couple of these actually when me and my buddies were the only kids throwing parties as freshman and sophomores lol | /r/seduction | 14/12/25 05:34 AM |
| 5 | For those who have done cold approach, have you had women be mean and immediately tell you to go awayI always wonder to myself on nights like that whether it's just randomness of the universe or am I projecting needyness? I'm sure if I'm not in a good headspace my game could be a bit off and it seems like you said it's nights where all my interactions end up like that or at least not receptive at all. Then other nights all my interactions are welcomed | /r/seduction | 06/12/25 10:38 PM |
| 3 | Sexual / desire adviceWould your wife be cool with you going to a strip club maybe ? You could bring her and get dances together. It might be fun but honestly take it from a single guy. The grass is never greener. Hold on to what you got | /r/seduction | 05/12/25 03:42 PM |
| 166 | Stopped Chasing, now everything flows naturallyOnce you stop needing validation from women the game changes completely. It's puts you on the driver's seat and instead of "winning" them over you get to decide whether there worth your time or not. Also rejection is no big deal once you accept yourself | /r/seduction | 04/12/25 06:17 PM |
| 4 | Her intentions with you are irrelevant. What matters is your intentionsChat gpt? | /r/seduction | 03/12/25 02:24 AM |
| 1 | Hey would you say instagram is a waste of time what are the chances a girl will reply to you back in instagram ?I don't have any social media accounts and I do fine | /r/seduction | 01/12/25 07:29 PM |
| 7 | Your attractiveness is largely dependant on your social validationYeah but so much of pre selection is in your control. Just don't chase validation and be yourself | /r/seduction | 29/11/25 11:54 PM |
| 1 | Perfect amount of beers?4 ! | /r/seduction | 29/11/25 05:06 AM |
| 2 | As a man Is receiving a gift from a woman her form of seduction? How and why?All my girlfriends always gave me the greatest gifts that would frequently remind me of them. One of em was a hard guitar case for my expensive new guitar I had just bought. She knew how often I play and that id likely keep it for a long time causing her to be on my mind often lol. We broke up over 5 years ago , but I still have the case. Another girl I was dating got me a wallet a few weeks in. | /r/seduction | 27/11/25 11:15 PM |
| 2 | Do you have a “type” and how often do you go for your “type”?My niche would be women who are very Independent emotionaly and financially. They seem to also casually date men alot but want something more than that with me. I am emotionally expressive and have no problem being vulnerable with a women. Definitely a hopeless romantic. My two long term ex's were this way and they both would mention how they loved how easy it was to open up to me. Ultimately these relationships end due to me carrying alot of the emotional weight. Im trying to break this psychol… | /r/seduction | 22/11/25 07:38 PM |
| 3 | Are clubs decent environments to meet women? Or are bars better?Clubs aren't really my thing and it's been way easier to bring home girls from the local bars albiet still rare. It's easier to talk and flirt when you don't have to yell over loud music. Maybe I should learn how to dance better and try it out tho | /r/seduction | 21/11/25 04:02 PM |
| 9 | Is it bad to open up about your fuckboy beliefs/lifestyle to monogamous male friends?I made the mistake of doing this with friends who don't get any and the envy build fast. I only have one other friend who's a bit of a player himself and we talk about our sexual adventures lol | /r/seduction | 19/11/25 07:27 PM |
| 14 | How do you know if she is down to f***?My favorite way to test if a women is receptive to my advances is something simple such as asking for her hand. Usually if she's interested she'll give it to you and allow you to hold it and make eye contact. If her body language isn't open and inviting to you holding hands that's a sign you shouldn't go further. One of my ex coworkers I dated she said the moment she knew I was interested in her is when I asked to see her nails at work as an excuse just to hold her hand. The look in her eyes was… | /r/seduction | 18/11/25 03:25 PM |
| 2 | ONS ruins soul and mindI personally love me some loving on the run ! | /r/seduction | 17/11/25 10:32 PM |
| 4 | I feel my age is a -ve factorWhen it comes down to it thats exactly why they don't succeed at it. They doubt themselves and have no courage. If we could see it on a reddit forum , no shit your dates gonna pick that up.. | /r/seduction | 16/11/25 02:16 AM |
| 7 | How often do you guys get approached by womenI would say I'm above average and I hardly ever get approached in public. With the exception of bars. Although most of the time they give a sort of signal to talk to them. Also one time a girl walked up to me at the bar and started making out with me without saying a word. We then talked for like 5 minutes exchanged numbers and she left lol Alcohol definitely makes women approach alot more ! Hell, there was so many I talked too that seemed to have more game than me lol | /r/seduction | 10/11/25 02:11 AM |
| 3 | Anyone use escooters for daygame?Who are you trying to look like GOB from arrested development lol | /r/seduction | 08/11/25 03:46 AM |
| 2 | Anyone else feel empty after ons ?If I'm over pursuing it and having too much yeah I do ! So I try to limit it too only a couple times a year max! For me 1-3 ONS a year is enough to scratch that itch | /r/seduction | 08/11/25 12:08 AM |
| 1 | Has anyone ever asked an In-N-Out employee out either at the drive-thru or inside the restaurant?Guess you can say you were "In and out" | /r/seduction | 07/11/25 11:28 PM |
| 5 | Does it feel like a loss when you’re dating a woman and she wants to break up with you and you never had sex with her?If a woman I'm seeing is making wait for sex I'm not exclusive to her. Im definitely chatting up and dating other options. Its kind of counter intuitive for women to make men wait ! Especially if he's sought after | /r/seduction | 07/11/25 03:14 AM |
| 1 | Serious question: does watching the hottest and most intense porn actually affect you somehow? Like getting desensitized by it?I honestly watch some fucked up porn !! Lol but it's never really affected my performance during sex ... Unless I masturbate to porn earlier in the day and have sex later. I also take days off masturbating and that helps a lot with sex drive | /r/seduction | 07/11/25 12:32 AM |
| 1 | Had an off day socially, and it threw off the vibe with people I usually click with. Can I bounce back?I have days like that all the time at work. Some days I just wanna day dream in my head and be left alone. Nothing wrong with that | /r/seduction | 05/11/25 07:39 PM |
| 3 | Stupid simple natural seduction method that no one talks aboutYepp it's worked for me with the skateboarding and music community | /r/seduction | 05/11/25 07:37 PM |
| 1 | Volume and happinessHahah just seen your comment and sure dude whatever you say. Two of my LTR I've waited up to 3 months till we slept together. Those both lasted over 3 years together. Respectfully I'm not just interested in sex but if you are do you Trust me I've been THAT guy too who sleeps with women on the first date but these days I'm more discerning on who I sleep with. I prefer to see if we have a little chemistry first. | /r/seduction | 04/11/25 03:16 PM |
| 1 | Exploring CNC (I need more)Holy cr@p !! Your an animal man !! Gave me a great laugh | /r/seduction | 04/11/25 02:56 PM |
| 1 | Learning seduction improved overall quality of life.Thanks for the kind words (: !! | /r/seduction | 03/11/25 10:27 PM |
| 2 | Hard time escalating with specific girlId say both of them are right depending on what outcome you want. If you just want to sleep with her then go cold and she'll feel the need to increase on her end. If you really want to date this girl , well then tell her about how you feel lol | /r/seduction | 03/11/25 06:03 AM |
| 2 | Learning seduction improved overall quality of life.Not a crazy amount dude...... honestly I've never sat down and counted but but on average from age 17-25. I slept with 3-4 women per year. So for those 8 years. between 24-32 women should be my body count. Sounds about right to me , that's not counting other girls I dated and fooled around but never actually had sex, there was alllott of those. | /r/seduction | 02/11/25 12:03 AM |
| 2 | Females Halloween night energy was off or just me?Me and my buddy went out last night and we had had alot great interactions with women but they were there to just have fun ! I mean it's Halloween after all. One girl was practically throwing herself at my buddy and flirty talking away inches away from his face for more than 30 minutes and when he asked her for her Instagram she refused !! Similar thing for me as well.. way more women were open to dance and talk but definitely had there guard up more which is cool , I'm there mostly to get drunk… | /r/seduction | 01/11/25 11:54 PM |
| 1 | Learning seduction improved overall quality of life.As in how many women have I slept with? | /r/seduction | 01/11/25 03:41 PM |
| 1 | Learning seduction improved overall quality of life.Lol @ the people who asked me specifically what I did to improve and then down voted me | /r/seduction | 31/10/25 06:30 PM |
| 1 | Learning seduction improved overall quality of life.What helped me was pursuing hobbies that allowed me to socialize and also some that helped me recharge like hiking or being out in nature. This grounds me in other aspects of life and reduces stress. Also some of these hobbies I've been pursuing for over 13 years and I am well known in the community and mentor younger men as well which gives me purpose. Pursing a career that aligns with me and supports my lifestyle. Moving out of parents house and being self sufficient financially and emotionall… | /r/seduction | 31/10/25 04:05 PM |
| 9 | Learning seduction improved overall quality of life.What helped me was pursuing hobbies that allowed me to socialize and also some that helped me recharge like hiking or being out in nature. This grounds me in other aspects of life and reduces stress. Also some of these hobbies I've been pursuing for over 13 years and I am well known in the community and mentor younger men as well which gives me purpose. Pursing a career that aligns with me and supports my lifestyle. Moving out of parents house and being self sufficient financially and emotionall… | /r/seduction | 31/10/25 01:56 PM |
| 4 | Volume and happinessI love this !! I recently met a women who turns me on emotionally. We've already gone on 4 dates and no sex at all. I honestly don't even care, our talks are very deep and I'm able to be vulnerable with her without judgement. Definitely open to a "mini relationship" or just try my shot at a LTR | /r/seduction | 29/10/25 12:45 AM |
| 3 | How to Deal with Stares or Negative experiencesHonestly those kind of stares empower me lol. Especially when I approach a group of women and men. When they stop paying attention to the guys there with and they gimme those judgy looks lol. I eat that up , you should too. The women will appreciate it | /r/seduction | 26/10/25 07:40 PM |
| 14 | Fuck dating apps we gotta learn cold approaches and build confidenceLatley I've been strictly using dating apps and it works for me because I built on all these skills since highschool. It's rare I go on a hinge date and they don't want to keep seeing me. Although getting the date set up takes a bit off work | /r/seduction | 25/10/25 12:35 AM |
| 4 | There are 5 types of women when it comes to first datesWhat about #6 Just wants to get laid and could care less about who you are as a person. They'll build you up and say how great of a guy you are only to ghost or block you after you fuck. They may be cheating or getting over an ex. I'm trying to avoid that type after running into many of these. I personally am okay with just casual sex but I need mutual respect and if they can't give that im out | /r/seduction | 24/10/25 08:10 PM |
| 1 | Best dating app worth paying a subscription for ?I always just change up my profile and try to advertise my lifestyle on there. Im a guitarist and I do well with a certain type of women for sure. Try to get off the app as soon as possible and schedule a date | /r/seduction | 24/10/25 12:35 AM |
| 3 | An active sex life with 2 FWB’s Thanx to this sub!Nice dude I had two going this month until one of them caused a huge scene at a Halloween event and I cut her off for it. Ime most FWB I've been with had crazier drama than my actual relationships! Usually because my mental standards drop a lot since I don't see myself with them long term. Could get dangerous tho , so stay safe dude Also I had a similar situation your in with the ex gf as a FWB after she broke up with me. I slept with one of her mutual friends and it made her crazy hot for me. I… | /r/seduction | 23/10/25 10:12 PM |
| 19 | Best dating app worth paying a subscription for ?Hinge !! I've had a lot of dates and ONS from there. Just wear a condom | /r/seduction | 23/10/25 02:02 PM |
| 1 | Is it worth paying for Tinder?Hinge is definitely worth paying for. Take time and make a good profile and you'll find success | /r/seduction | 23/10/25 12:37 PM |
| 0 | How do you make same night lays easier off dating apps?Go out to get drinks | /r/seduction | 23/10/25 12:34 PM |
| 29 | I got laidThe timing is key !! Most of the sexual encounters I've had were right place right time. Not to say it didn't take effort on my end but the circumstances lined up for the women to pursue sex that evening. Maybe she just got out of a relationship and she's horny or she's traveling. | /r/seduction | 16/10/25 02:19 AM |
| -2 | Difference between a "nice guy" and a "good guy" is based on how attractive he is.I would say the difference between a nice man and a kind man is limits and boundaries A man need limits | /r/seduction | 14/10/25 12:40 PM |
| 1 | Looking for Wingman DubaiBro wherever there's a whole theres a goal lol | /r/seduction | 14/10/25 12:44 AM |
| 20 | Anyone else lose complete interest in girls who play hard to get?I got not patience for this type of behavior these days. Theres plenty of women that want to spend time with me out there | /r/seduction | 13/10/25 09:35 PM |
| 1 | Is it significantly harder to get to sex the first time with no alcohol?Damn near Impossible.. well not entirely but significantly more challenging. I only had luck with this in highschool. Alot of girls were open to just have sex purely for the experience not even a FWB situation just plain old one time transaction | /r/seduction | 12/10/25 02:23 AM |
| 1 | Need advice/resources to learn how to be more playful and teasing?? As a 23MI edited my response and answered of few of those | /r/seduction | 11/10/25 09:01 PM |
| 1 | Need advice/resources to learn how to be more playful and teasing?? As a 23MMy advice would be to have more platonic Relationships with women. Not to gain anything but just connection. It's how they bond with there friends, alot of them just playfully tease in an endearing way. Now too use this to escalate romantically you incorporate the body language. Playful taps on the arm or sustained eye contact. This stuff is alot harder but with practice it gets easier. Even platonic women friends I've had would lightly flirt with me just for fun and we never acted on it. a pers… | /r/seduction | 11/10/25 08:51 PM |
| 1 | Fun Halloween Costumes?I have long hair and a beard so my favorite go to costume bar hopping is shaggy. Just put on brown pants and green shirt | /r/seduction | 07/10/25 02:55 PM |
| 4 | Men, what winter piece of clothing are a turn on to see on women?I really love a simple cardigan (: | /r/seduction | 04/10/25 02:30 PM |
| 9 | Had To Deal With A FlakeSo now that I'm re- entering the dating world I definitely agree with this. Back then ? Aw I was a bit pathetic. I mean I'm a decently looking tall guy so never really had an issue getting laid but I had some bad self esteem issues. I would always attract that type of woman who looooves attention the fool I was id give that and more. Now tho ? I respect myself enough to not chase truly. I've built up a decent life for myself as a man and I don't NEED a woman , it is nice sometimes tho. | /r/seduction | 04/10/25 12:11 AM |
| 4 | What does a confident person on Instagram look like?That's a good insight, I used to play in a band with a woman who would post almost every other hour of the day on our "bands insta". She made the whole band so much about herself I quit. She definitely had some kind of personality disorder I believe. Everywhere we went if the attention wasn't all on her she would be visibly upset. | /r/seduction | 03/10/25 05:45 PM |
| 4 | I don’t think I’ll ever get a girlfriend and I don’t know what to do about itStop making excuses and using self limited talk. You are capable of anything brother.. but it wont happen unless you take action "I'm just not confident"... No one is! You have to be competent in life to have some form of confidence. Go out on the world and just try! Basically invest in yourself you won't regret it | /r/seduction | 01/10/25 02:03 AM |
| 1 | Broke deadbeats who pull beautiful women...how do they do it?My dad does it somehow. He's had 3 kids with different women and isn't involved in any other lives. Somehow he always has a new young girl and he's in his 50s. He's attractive, tall , and has all the time in the world to give them all the validation and attention they crave. I sound like I'm hating but tbh he's probably the reason Game came easy to me , I've seen him work it my whole life with tons of women lol He was good for something after all | /r/seduction | 29/09/25 10:45 PM |
| 9 | Starting conversation on instaOnly works if your know the women in real life it your very attractive or have a high follower count. It worked for me alot during school if I flirted and showed Interest with a girl in person THEN sent her a DM | /r/seduction | 28/09/25 05:33 PM |
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