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Most girls my age have already have a couple of sexual partners. I know experience does not equal being comfortable or good but it's hard for me to believe that a lot of girls are uncomfortable. As I say that the last thing I was with was very skittish about me being intimate with her even though she was old enough to be my mother. So I can see what you mean
/r/ExRedPill05/06/23 02:55 PM
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But it is relative to who perceives it. And I'm telling you this because my ex-girlfriend was not very emotionally mature but because of that she would tell you that I was the one that lacked emotional maturity. Don't get me wrong I believe you but I really question couples when they call the other one laughing in maturity because that can easily go both ways with more information
/r/ExRedPill05/06/23 01:09 AM
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I feel like the nearest is around what we call emotional maturity can get a little useless because it's going to look different for every boy and girl. You say he needs to have emotional maturity but that does not mean that he's going to be absent of insecurities or jealousy or anything like that. Human emotions just don't stop where another one begins. Even mine is sex and anything else I bet this zero typical dude can find the same flaws within you or anybody else he may fancy. And I'm not say…
/r/ExRedPill04/06/23 10:26 PM
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Given the choice when you want to spend your time with a guy who's more experienced so you don't have to go through that
/r/ExRedPill04/06/23 08:47 PM
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I can do all that. That's not the hard part, I guess it's just not feeling too comfortable with my own body
/r/ExRedPill04/06/23 08:47 PM
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Believe me I get all that I guess it's a little surprising, as I don't think many girls are going to be that patient but sometimes I do sabotage myself. One of my things we were getting to know each other and I have no condoms nor did I want to go through all the anxiety of trying to stay a wreck while having this condom on my dick. Some girls are really disappointed and thought that I did not like them when I really wasn't the case. Are you sure I shouldn't have anything to worry about. Don't g…
/r/ExRedPill04/06/23 08:03 PM
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Won't girls be expecting more though
/r/ExRedPill04/06/23 07:22 PM
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Of course I thought about it but no girl wants a guy with no experience and what's stopping a girl like that from cheating with a guy with more experience
/r/ExRedPill03/06/23 08:39 PM
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What do you mean.
/r/ExRedPill03/06/23 04:34 PM
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I thought about buying something that could help me practice.
/r/ExRedPill03/06/23 04:33 PM
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I've already done all of that and I can't really help you until you have done it. Believe me I've been in therapy about this. I have everything else down and I feel like I'm confident in everything else except for the penetrating part. It's very humiliating. One girl thought I wasn't attracted to her and she seemed very hurt but it was because I was nervous. I knew she liked me and I called her for a random hookup and I kind of regret it.
/r/ExRedPill03/06/23 04:30 PM
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Not every girl is going to be patient and understanding though. I've heard tons of stories where guys just did not tell and they still were able to succeed but I find that a little sad that they had to hide that part of themselves just to stop a girl from laughing at them. On the other hand I can't really blame the girl if she finds it laughable or a turn off. It seems like such a weird conundrum. There are a lot of guys that very much could go into their thirties and forties virgins. I find it …
/r/ExRedPill03/06/23 04:18 PM
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I mean giving hook up culture the experience of getting sex is usually over anything else. Even I've been through it without even orgasming. It felt nice to pleasure a lady and to have someone to cuddle. But it does kind of feel like you are pumping up your emotions for something that is by its nature like hitting a cigarette or marijuana. It's very different from being in a long devoted relationship
/r/ExRedPill02/06/23 04:15 PM
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I get what you mean.
/r/ExRedPill02/06/23 04:13 PM
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You sound very similar to me. And sorry I assumed we were a girl. But don't you think that puts guys like us at a disadvantage. It just feels like it's too overly respectable and not every girl finds it attractive based off my past experience. I grew up in the hood
/r/ExRedPill02/06/23 04:07 PM
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Let's say you went out on a date with a dude and everything went perfect. But he just kept having trouble staying hard because of nerves or past experiences etc. Would you be patient with him or would you just saw some aside for the next guy? And keep in mind if you do toss them aside for the next guy that's completely fine and within your right. But you got to understand where that guy is coming from?
/r/ExRedPill02/06/23 04:04 PM
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I will be careful. I guess I just don't feel like putting my heart out there anymore. My last fling I could have had sex with but I felt like it was too soon. And sometimes I can't gauge if the girl wants to have casual sex versus a relationship.
/r/ExRedPill02/06/23 04:02 PM
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I have tons of experience outside of penetrating a woman. Which is what I want to pay for. I feel like it gets easier instead of trying to form a connection with a girl with no guarantee that she's going to be respectful
/r/ExRedPill02/06/23 03:59 PM
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What do you mean by that. My sexual dynamic
/r/ExRedPill02/06/23 03:57 PM
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That's what I'm trying to research right now. Believe me for your first two paragraphs I did all of that but I still find it very difficult sometimes. Not every girl is trustworthy and patient. I was thinking after I sleep with an escort I would feel much better in bed with a woman therefore I wouldn't have to worry about this type of thing anymore. It's literally the only thing affecting my confidence
/r/ExRedPill02/06/23 03:56 PM
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I find this very confusing. Believe me I know that when you're in the moment of it most people aren't caring about how many people another person sleep with. And to further that I would even argue if an inexperienced person could still give pleasure in a good time then it didn't matter but it just feels like most of the time it's not true? There's been tons of girls I've since that were into me but I feel like I wouldn't be good for them because I didn't have as much experience versus them. Look…
/r/ExRedPill02/06/23 03:39 PM
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I've dated around at night they were fun completely absent of sex. I've done all types of other stuff with girls and I've had tons of good nights. In reality I'm actually pretty selective. I was able to make a very sweet lady friend of mine come without penetrating her. Judging by my ex-girlfriend's reactions she really enjoyed when I went down on her. I just don't think that given the culture we are in right now that experience man is something that is so worthwhile. I'm here and you bro believ…
/r/ExRedPill02/06/23 03:32 PM
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I hate conversations like this but you leave me no choice bro. I bet I am way tougher than you or whatever you think I may be. You can't tell because we're on f** Reddit, you have no idea what type of pain and misery I've been through and neither do I you. Do not try to pull that b**** move on me
/r/ExRedPill01/06/23 01:54 PM
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Already been through all that bro. Stop replying to me unless you have something actually concrete to say
/r/ExRedPill01/06/23 01:53 PM
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Then shut the hell up and stop replying to me then if you're not going to take it seriously
/r/ExRedPill01/06/23 01:48 PM
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Tell me how I'm lost? Explain it to me without some type of type of weird New Age red pill nonsense. Your comparison doesn't really hold water either. Flying around and gravity are very different than social connections and social dynamics. What I said still holds water. We can't tell young men if they need to be the sensitive and not toxic people but then demonize them when they act the opposite. And if a man does that toxic then we can't hack surprise given what Society we are already in. It's…
/r/ExRedPill01/06/23 01:46 PM
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Exactly and this other half of the conversation really needs to be taken seriously. Women cannot tell men that they should not immerse themselves intoxic masculinity but yet be the main contributors of it.
/r/ExRedPill01/06/23 01:44 PM
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Don't get me wrong I'm a big history buff and fan of historical stuff too but it's not something that's just fortune cookie and working. Please do not send me any stereotypical stuff about Marcus Aurelius or any other stuff like that I've already seen it. What I said bro was true. Right now as Society we do great work with analyzing gender roles and gender expression and where they come from but it seems like a society has a blind spot when looking at young men's experience and what they are exp…
/r/ExRedPill01/06/23 01:42 PM
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I'm not confused though bro. Everything I said was true
/r/ExRedPill01/06/23 01:40 PM
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Good day bro. You didn't even read what I said
/r/ExRedPill01/06/23 01:30 PM
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I get what you mean bro but once again life is not that simple. But when it comes to contacts like dating and stuff like that I do think the opposite party and what they think does matter. It doesn't matter in the sense to where it's your worth but how people perceive you and react to you does have an effect on your success. You can be as strong and emotionally stable as you want but if somebody else does not value that type of thing or refuses to see your value with that then you're not going t…
/r/ExRedPill01/06/23 01:24 PM
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I don't really believe in that type of s*** bro I'll be honest. And I say that is someone who has done exactly dead for many other things outside of dating and it's not like it's a superpower. No one really sees you doing this and it's a emotional thing that's abstract so it's not like you're going to win points for it either. I'm a visual artist. I'm a big black visual artist. So you can probably imagine that I almost had no respect and had to deal with a lot of disrespect in my younger years b…
/r/ExRedPill01/06/23 01:12 PM
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Believe me my friend I never accept any crazy standard even though I know what you mean. As men we almost have no choice but I'm glad to see more discussion about men standards and with their expectations are of women. And I think that's good because maybe within the next couple of generations you'll see much more better dating habits. But we still have to talk and discuss about this type of thing. Accepting it and asking accordingly doesn't really change all the problems and frustrations that c…
/r/ExRedPill01/06/23 01:06 PM
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I get what you're saying but what you typed out seems to be discontinuous. Even in my crazy history I have had some girls who are way more interesting and way more open-minded. But I've also had the Ops but it seems very hypocritical because on one hand dating his dating and there are no rules and All is fair and loved war. But what gets me frustrated is the hypocrisy and lack of self-awareness. So many girls expect guys to be there for them through everything awkward. Whether it be their body o…
/r/ExRedPill01/06/23 12:59 PM
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With that logic we can easily say that about the other way around which is stupid. I have already found my value in meaning but it is still very much a real barrier with women because it is true. A lot of girls are uncomfortable with a lot of things that they would consider not a big deal if it was the other way around.
/r/ExRedPill01/06/23 12:50 PM
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Not every woman but more women are usually given extra help and support versus their male counterparts for so many different reasons. There's so many different social plays at work. More men are going to be homeless and that makes sense. Men are expected to be hyper individual which means if a man is homeless then he must have done something to make himself like that right? Also if a man is homeless his pride probably will not allow him to ask for help for the same traditional masculine reasons …
/r/PurplePillDebate31/05/23 03:04 AM
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I can kind of agree with the first part. There are so many narratives that are slung a young men but when I look back at my own life as a young man those narratives really fit me especially considering Where I Come from. But perception rules everything. A guy can be confident but if he's not perceived that way then no one's going to treat them like a confident person. I don't really think that men are hornier but how men and women Express sexuality and how it is viewed and accepted plays a role …
/r/PurplePillDebate31/05/23 02:39 AM
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Of course but I think we're frustrates a lot of young men is for the fact that a lot of our narratives are telling us that men and women should be more equal and legality and in Behavior but that's just not the case when you look at our dating dynamics. And I think that's why so many young men have problems empathizing with younger women and vice versa. We are literally operating into very different worlds based off of two very different prerogatives. I'll admit when I was younger I could empath…
/r/PurplePillDebate31/05/23 01:22 AM
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I am a young man so I think I'm a little bit more qualify to speak on this experience. Believe me most young men are already doing all the stuff you mentioned in your comments. But that does not guarantee success. Think about how many men you rejected. I bet a good number of them thought they were pretty confident and okay and we're pretty social but that does not stop rejection and that's natural but this is where the imbalance come from. He was a lady can be insecure in experience and nervous …
/r/PurplePillDebate31/05/23 12:53 AM
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I'm a black guy so that has a lot to do with it. It's probably the most important thing. What you see has so many different psychological firing off once and it causes a lot of biases that you don't normally notice. I have had girlfriends friends and coworkers tell me that I could have been a player if I was basically more ruthless
/r/ExRedPill31/05/23 12:50 AM
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You can do all of them still not get date though. You can be the guy who's on computers and on drugs and give women as well though. That's why I hate so much the comment advice because any guy can point to the opposite guy and use him as a reference point. I think that's why that boys are brought up all the time because culturally were told it's me not to be like them but those are usually see succeed with women more. All of this is a big reason why you see so many online spaces dedicated to dat…
/r/PurplePillDebate31/05/23 12:12 AM
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Something I don't think a lot of people realize that most young men are already doing some version of that and that's why they have such a black and white mindset. Like imagine you were told culturally so many different times that you need to do X Y and Z and you do it but you still find yourself going home alone and wondering what you did wrong. Your whole second paragraph Was ironically me starting at age 16 to 21. I got no female attention. Fast forward to being 26 I'm in the most f***** up m…
/r/PurplePillDebate31/05/23 12:09 AM
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Yes I remember my ex-girlfriend telling me that. I've even had female friends tell me I would do better if I acted like the bug I look like. The real world still exists and even though these ideas are not really morally correct they exist for a reason. I hate the red pill but because I'm also a young man in 2023 I also know that I have done better ideas versus anything else. There are tons on Reddit and across the internet. I bet you could probably go to your closest male friend if he could give…
/r/ExRedPill31/05/23 12:00 AM
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I think we as a society or so concerned about the morality of sex because of the bad consequences but sometimes only focuses on those same things don't really give you a blueprint for Success if that makes sense. That's probably the biggest reason why you have young men acting like nice guys or whatever you want to call it. It's because they were told their whole lives that they are a sexual danger to young women at best or useless or weird at worst.
/r/ExRedPill30/05/23 04:23 PM
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So much of our society and behaviors come from the psychosexual. And whether or not that is biological or social I really don't think matters. I think some of us have to remember that when we are socializing we are going to be doing a lot of things that we don't think about in real time. That girl that writes along feminist article about consent and guys being creepy,. I don't think she was really concerned about that herself when she was out flirting with men and being touchy-feely. That dad wi…
/r/ExRedPill30/05/23 04:21 PM
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Agree. Because something that no one acknowledges with these conversations is that both young men and young women are both very much equally immature and unsure and very different about how they go about sex and dating but the same old standards are very much there. That's the main difference you see and probably the biggest cause for imbalances is that men and women are different. The shy and nervous girl doesn't have to worry about her game or how she approaches anybody because she will never …
/r/ExRedPill30/05/23 04:01 PM
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I kind of think that's what the red pill is trying to teach young men. I think something our society really has to be honest about is that male and female sexuality is not symmetrical at all. It's probably the key reason why young men and young women do have so many diametrically opposed experiences in the world. They are going to be treated differently by each other and by outer Society. I hate the connotation of sexism is only something that happens to women when it's a broad term for everythi…
/r/ExRedPill30/05/23 09:16 AM
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Retail actually help me get over a lot of blue pill beliefs. Not everybody is sociopathic believe me but men just do better going by red pill ideas. Believe me before I was red pill on paper I shouldn't have had any problems with attracting women. I was confident I will self assured I had every hobby ever and I was constantly social. Of course there's no guarantee for everything but something that I kept finding to get my way was for the fact that a lot of girls did take my personality ass passi…
/r/ExRedPill30/05/23 06:29 AM
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I've had two long-term relationships that did not really work out the best. Other than that it's been meaningless hookups. It gives me a little confidence boost to know that I'm attractive but it's really superficial and only lasts for a little bit. It's cliche but I missed out on that one good wholesome relationship.
/r/ExRedPill29/05/23 11:06 PM
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I've had two long-term relationships that did not really work out the best. Other than that it's been meaningless hookups. It gives me a little confidence boost to know that I'm attractive but it's really superficial and only lasts for a little bit. It's cliche but I missed out on that one good wholesome relationship.
/r/ExRedPill29/05/23 08:45 PM
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