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Again, not getting your dick wet isn't one of core feminist gender issues. If you think it is, fine. But you are walking around trying to get other people to agree with you, and they don't. Take it or leave it.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/01/26 02:16 PM
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I haven't even debated you, but I'm already having a cringe heartburn from all your "my core arguments could not be refuted logically". You seem insufferable, entitled and really, really emotional, shit posting on the "ask" sub with an agenda and arguments, not open mindness. Oh, and this is critique of you, so you can't refute it.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/01/26 01:55 AM
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Men not getting as much matches on tinder as women is not on the list of feminist priorities - even if it is a gender disparity. It is truly the least important issue out there for feminists. Go cry about it.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/01/26 01:49 AM
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If you spent as much time working on your career as you spend on arguing with feminists in bad faith, you'd make enough money to be attractive to those women you are talking about.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/01/26 01:46 AM
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Then you don't need to. Like nobody has to do anything if they are satisfied with their life. I wish I was there honestly. I wish I liked myself enough to just relax sometimes.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/12/25 01:35 PM
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Yeah I don't think a pathetic misogynist with a stupid revenge fantasy should reproduce. Call it eugenics all you want. I call it natural selection.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/12/25 03:51 AM
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Not really. I'm just happy this person won't be legally responsible for any kids. We don't need more misery in the world
/r/PurplePillDebate16/12/25 03:34 AM
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So there never existed a confident virgin? So no sociable teenagers? And you claim a single person can't have friends and socialize? Third wheel for what? Friend groups and hobbies exist, so does small talk. And you actually don't see how socializing and being likeable improves chances of romantic connection? What a weird take.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/12/25 01:33 AM
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You have free will
/r/PurplePillDebate16/12/25 01:31 AM
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"Many men here" is the key point. What a bunch of pathetic misogynists here fantasize about has nothing to do with that men seek in women. Which has as much variety as the variety in men. Look who Jess Bezos, Prince Harry, Barack Obama or George Clooney married. Like, true alphas by your definition. Leo's with their young girlfriends are the minorities. The majority of men don't seem to want a stepford wife.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/12/25 01:27 AM
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I'm really curious to see someone try to implement this little pathetic revenge fantasy of yours.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/12/25 01:20 AM
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Honestly, I'm 100% in support of OP. I also don't want them to reproduce.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/12/25 01:18 AM
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except you probably aren't going to be very confident socially if you don't/can't get bitches. What? Yes you are. You learn to talk to people, improve social skills and charisma, expand social circle. Yeah, it eventually will make it more likely to "get bitches".
/r/PurplePillDebate16/12/25 01:17 AM
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Actually every person who doesn't do it needs to be spelled it out. Because that's how you become a confident well rounded adult. By self improvement. Whether you get bitches in the process or not.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/12/25 02:59 PM
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"single adults at prime working age increasingly lag behind those who are married or cohabiting" God, everyone please read the subheading okay. You didn't even need to read the article.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/12/25 02:54 PM
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You are on reddit, what did you expect lol? An adult reasonable discussion?
/r/PurplePillDebate15/12/25 02:49 PM
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Self improvement is for you, not for other people. I can't comprehend why I have to spell it out for you.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/12/25 02:49 PM
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I don't think it's jealousy, I think it's stupidity and misogyny. And immaturity. Like, we know most of reddit users, especially with subs like this, are probably in their teens and twenties. Older people know that if they are single, it's very likely that their potential matches have been married or have kids. It has changed a bit in developed countries as expectations to have kids eased, but let's say, 20 years ago, if you are dating as a 30-40 year old, it's quite likely your matches have kid…
/r/PurplePillDebate15/12/25 02:47 PM
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I'm sorry to inform you, but your dad didn't want to see you.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/12/25 02:38 PM
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That's bullshit. Men don't want to see their kids. If they did, they'd get 50% of custody.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/12/25 02:37 PM
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What a dumb question. I already have a job, I don't want to spend a shit ton of time and resources to essentially become a content creator for something I am not passionate about, that (unlike what you dorks think) will never guarantee any return, and will also humiliate me and will cost me future opportunities. If that didn't happen, if you could guarantee... If I had wheels, I'd be a bicycle. But I don't.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/12/25 02:35 PM
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If you think you can assess someone's status by their Instagram, then I have bad news for you. Honestly, I think men being active on Instagram is a fucking cringe and red flag, unless they are an artist or something.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/12/25 09:58 PM
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Id say, you need to grow up and understand the difference between ads and real life. Dude, I'm sorry to break it to you, but Santa doesn't fly around the town drinking Coke. You need to stop being so gullible and recognize when someone is advertising something to you.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/12/25 09:38 PM
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"cool Instagram" Tells me everything I need to know about your views and values. Lol.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/12/25 09:33 PM
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What a weird take. It assumes the opinion about someone is immediate and unchangeable. I don't even understand what are you arguing for, what's your point.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/12/25 09:28 PM
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You make it a rule. It's not. Humans have too much variety, in experiences, personalities and genetics. There are almost no universal rules. Your last paragraph is very confusing. And, what's a higher standard? For looks, sex, job, social standing?
/r/PurplePillDebate14/12/25 07:10 PM
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Social skills changed.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/11/25 07:16 PM
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Yeah, sure. It's not like we have overwhelming evidence of women being perceived extremely negatively in male dominated jobs. And then motherfuckers here whine about "muh women don't take dangerous jobs". Make these jobs inviting for women, instead of raping and killing them.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/11/25 07:13 PM
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Yeah, a video about a woman murdered by a male for being a woman, and you think how men are victims. Great.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/11/25 07:09 PM
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You might believe every man is like this, but I know they aren't. And I wouldn't want to associate with a man like that anyway. If he sleeps with other women — or wants to sleep but doesn't in fear of me leaving — I'd be like, bye.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/11/25 05:29 PM
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So you say this and then wonder, why women don't wanna date men anymore?
/r/PurplePillDebate18/11/25 04:49 PM
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What efforts?
/r/PurplePillDebate18/11/25 02:10 AM
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Nope, but I tolerated red flags because I was needy and anxiously attached to a mediocre men below my league.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/11/25 11:35 PM
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Is it the "Is it embarrassing to have a boyfriend now?" Funny, but I was sharing this sentiment but couldn't properly phrase it, before seeing the article. It does seem embarrassing to have a boyfriend. By that I mean, it's embarrassing to post a boyfriend, and when I see influencers I follow start including their boyfriends or husbands in their content, I don't like it. I just didn't follow that dude, and just because she likes him, doesn't make me like him. These men are usually not charismati…
/r/PurplePillDebate16/11/25 11:32 PM
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Because it's based on dating apps "research". Where the only thing you can assess is someone's looks and presentation — which makes the standards for looks much higher. In reality the bar for a man's looks to work for most women, if they have all other qualities, is somewhat below average. To prove 80/20 is not real you have to fucking go outside and look at real couples.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/11/25 11:25 PM
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Who cares? Don't date then if it's a turn off. Be alone.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/11/25 11:21 PM
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I love when you guy show something you can't achieve as virtue.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/11/25 11:18 PM
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Look up How to people guy on Tiktok. He gives very good advice on social and communication skills. And he also covers the "you need to be hot to attract women" bullshit. Which is just total nonsense.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/11/25 11:16 PM
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Because it's a fake story lol
/r/PurplePillDebate10/11/25 06:48 PM
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It's not a fantasy, neither it's an absolute truth — it's just my opinion based on my experience and observations. I won't ever be interested in someone way older then me, and I don't see men who go for women significantly younger as in any way interesting or valuable partners. Perhaps objectively not every guy who doesn't want to talk to a woman he's dating is a loser, but they are in my point of view.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/11/25 06:44 PM
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Yeah, literally not true. Humans did evolve to find some things attractive (youth, symmetry, health) but it's highly variable. In hunter-gatherer societies, as well as societies where famines are prevalent, higher body fat is actually seen as more attractive because it means access to food, health and fertility. And yeah, that would absolutely include obese women by the modern BMI scale. Because BMI doesn't matter as much as waist to him ratio. Currently, different body types are admired in diff…
/r/PurplePillDebate29/10/25 01:56 PM
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Stats don’t lie, why so many more guys are single than women. Stats don't lie, but men often misinterpret it. Not saying you are, I'm honestly not 100% sure I fully understand your point, I just want to address the dating disparity. There are a few assumptions why more men identify as single then women of the same age range: Women tend to date men who are a few years older on average, that accounts for some of the difference. Women and men have different standards for what counts as a relationsh…
/r/PurplePillDebate27/10/25 02:30 PM
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Actually, some are. Gender wars has been my guilty pleasure, but I actually enjoy analyzing female side of the story more, it's more subtle and not tainted by violence. If you get into Femtok, or whatever it's called, women on TikTok sharing their dating frustrations, and many of them do not seem much different from the men here bashing women. These women almost always come from a heartbreak situation with someone who just wasn't that much into them, whom they designated their saviour. The situa…
/r/PurplePillDebate27/10/25 02:21 PM
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My life experience would be very different, so there's no real way to tell. A lot of nurture factors that affected certain views, motivations and insecurities might be irrelevant had I been a guy. But looking at my upbringing, and assuming the same exact genetical predispositions, and the same treatment from my parents, honestly, maybe not so different, but with less gender-based insecurities. I already grew up in a family that taught me love is conditional on achievements, so I'd probably be a …
/r/PurplePillDebate27/10/25 02:08 PM
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I'm usually calling out male redpill bullshit here, but this post is weird AF. Nobody should expect to settle for anybody. What is prime? Life isn't linear. Also, all sorts of people get all sorts of people. When you are younger and less experienced you are usually less discerning, but that's just right of passage. A very weird incoherent post that seems to want to rage bait and nothing else.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/10/25 01:40 PM
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Of course they exist. And I hold an opinion that they apply not only to looks but other stuff like your education, upbrining, career, friendships. Someone who’s an Olympic champion will be of a higher status than a similar looking person without accolades. But leagues are also quite blurry and will never be definite and standardized.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/10/25 05:54 PM
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when I was single I talked to multiple people at once and just through experience expected something to not work out. But I know early on if I’m into the person, usually once we get a bit physical (kissing) then I just can’t force myself to go on another date with someone. But if I learn they went on a date after a similar connection, it’s a no for me.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/10/25 05:49 PM
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Like everything in life, people have nuances. She may be avoidant. To be she reads a bit as a pickme, or immature. I can't imagine the context in which I'll be bragging to a guy in a romantic context about me loving casual sex and not catching feelings.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/10/25 12:37 PM
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Is that actually your worldview? Like, is that how you think interaction between men and women happen?
/r/PurplePillDebate21/10/25 12:34 PM
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The more I interact with the men on this sub, the more I notice a pattern. A lot of men here are obsessed with categorizing behaviors into rigid systems. Casual sex, number on the scale of attractiveness, rules everywhere. If something doesn't fit into your structure you either disregard it or try to force it in. That's why as a general rule, something can be true, but you take it to absolutes. You don't see nuance, you don't recognize what "statistically" means, you take it as a universal rule.…
/r/PurplePillDebate20/10/25 01:02 PM
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Eyes lie. I never measured a dick in my life, but I remember I saw a tweet from a port actor I liked, and he said he was below 8 inches, which was a bit of a surprise to me, cause his dick seemed massive. But then again if you look at the ruler, 8 inches is huge. Also no, after dating someone who's 6'3, 5'11 doesn't seem short. You guys are obsessed with comparisons.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/10/25 12:08 PM
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Of course you never seen that. Why would you? You can't see individual details of people's lives. The Chad thing you didn't see either this is a famous cliche that you believe is true, and it's soemthign that's a confirmation bias for you now. Also "shitty experiences" in a big chunk of cases aren't necessary because someone treated someone like garbage (although it seems in the moment). In a lot of cases it's a moderately shitty relationship or a situationship when the man isn't that motivated …
/r/PurplePillDebate20/10/25 11:59 AM
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I was wondering If any losers actually buy into Andrew tates garbage. Apparently yeah
/r/PurplePillDebate19/10/25 09:26 PM
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A lot of women have shitty experiences with a guy who broke their heart or whatever, it's like a right of passage. What you guys don't get is that these men are almost never "chads". They are almost never more attractive or hold more social value. A more typical situation is "giving the guy a chance". It hurts much more to be dumped by someone way below your league.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/10/25 04:50 PM
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He has a Madonna-whore complex
/r/PurplePillDebate19/10/25 04:42 PM
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Oh yeah, murder and violence is worse than rejection.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/10/25 10:51 PM
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You’re shifting the point that was about culture to be about you. I’m saying environment shapes opportunity, social skills and confidence — not that everyone automatically succeeds. Plenty of short and unattractive guys are in relationships and happy.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/10/25 10:01 PM
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Sure you do. Then why don't you leave those women alone, ignore them? Noone forces herself on you.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/10/25 09:58 PM
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Like you see, you yourself are adding qualifiers here and are not noticing the average looking men who sporadically have sex/relationships or the unattractive ones who almost never do. Yeah cause you don't understand how female attraction works. I even created a post about this long time ago, and males were like "your lying". Almost all of you are average, and almost all of you can be called cute by not an insignificant chunk of women. Men get 1/100th of appearance scrutiny that women have been …
/r/PurplePillDebate17/10/25 09:54 PM
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Probably some, but Brazilian women I know are also quite more social and outgoing than average.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/10/25 09:53 PM
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Ok this is actually insane, 9th grade is what 14?
/r/PurplePillDebate17/10/25 09:52 PM
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Women don't go on murderous rampages.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/10/25 09:50 PM
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Women like money and hot men. And? It doesn't override human desire to build connections. Like, it's funny how you guys assign all sorts of morals to promiscuous women (that you'd call anyone who had at least one casual partner) yet claim men all men get sense of self from how many women they fucked. I mean, I'm no psychologist, but this is just projection 101. I can tell you for sure, men like that exist, but it's definitely not all men — not even a majority. Majority is monogamous. Men like th…
/r/PurplePillDebate17/10/25 09:49 PM
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This is why I don't like when manosphere tries to appropriate science. Because it's not science, it's some cherrypicked assumption created to back their views. First of all, humans are biologically hardwired to murder, eat sugar and fat, and reproduce. If you are attracted to anyone but an obese by modern standards woman, then you are going against your biological hardwiring. Secondly, paternity uncertainty isn't even biological. In terms of evolution, humans have existed in cooperative childcar…
/r/PurplePillDebate17/10/25 09:43 PM
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It's easier for women but it's not that hard for a man. It's hard for virgins here sure, but for normal men not that hard.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/10/25 09:40 PM
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It is for all men. Just like money. Really disagree. I mean, I don’t doubt it is trie for you. It's also true mostly for insecure men who easily fall for social conditioning — and yeah, we live in a patriarchy that supports this toxic message. That's why you guys are suffering from it so much. But in most societies married men, not promiscuous men, has been viewed as having higher status. Promiscuity is often seen as immature and lower class — for men and women both. Emotional maturity is realiz…
/r/PurplePillDebate17/10/25 06:17 PM
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No they don't. But as soon as that unsuccessful guy goes online whining about how nobody wants to fuck him and how women are promiscuous bitches — well yeah I guess in that case he is a bad person with a horrible personality.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/10/25 06:06 PM
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Fair, it's not an overnight fix. But my point is that doubling down on redpill ideas of slut shaming and traditionalism won't really help you. But what might is to understand why a certain culture is that way. You can't change the society around you, but you can put an effort in what's in your control — like improving your social skills and creating connections with people.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/10/25 06:04 PM
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I mean, you aren't wrong lol, but it kinda proves my point that it's not looks, but culture and social exposure. You can also say that a man with a victim in his basement also has a lot of sex, I'm sure. Doesn't make it a desirable and healthy behavior.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/10/25 06:01 PM
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Yeah it's both, I'd say the isolation/individualist culture is more at fault. People just don't socialize, which is one of the strongest predictors of depression
/r/PurplePillDebate17/10/25 05:58 PM
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I anticipated this response hence my last paragraph
/r/PurplePillDebate17/10/25 05:57 PM
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A woman birthed Putin, so she's at fault. As a woman, I collectively apologize.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/10/25 03:45 PM
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I mean, you aren't wrong, a lot of people misuse the term "emotional intelligence". But it's interesting you singled out women. Venting and emotional vulnerability actually gets you halfway there. The second half — taking responsibility for it, communicate it, and find healthy ways to regulate it — is what men and women struggle with.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/10/25 03:29 PM
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I mean, it's fair, noone has to date people whose lifestyle is so different from theirs. It's not the preference that's problematic here. But in OP's case, and so many other men, these aren't just boundaries — they are full of resentment, comparison, envy and shame. It's not just "I don't want this partner". He's literally haunted by the imagined details of their sex lives, all the men they’ve been with, the comparisons he can’t stop replaying in his head. It's not preferences anymore, it's self…
/r/PurplePillDebate17/10/25 03:24 PM
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Exactly. It's true that casual sex is easier for women. The problem is that some men internalize it as proof that they are unworthy. Most people, men and women, don't live in extremes of "hundreds of hookups"or "total rejection". Most people build connections, date, seeing what works. Sometimes it's casual sometimes long term.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/10/25 03:14 PM
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He said he has only had two relationships and no casual experience. Which I don't think is unusual or shameful. A man would actually learn more from having sex multiple times with one partner than once with multiple partners. But it's not really relevant to what I wrote at all. His issue isn't lack of sexual experience — it's the shame and insecurity he built around it. And instead of addressing his own sexual inadequacy, he went to redpill to turn it outward making women the enemy.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/10/25 03:07 PM
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Having standards isnt the issue here, everyone should have them. OPs issue isn’t about finding the rigth partner - it’s about the resentment and envy he has towards women, that are covering his deep sense of inadequacy. He can date whoever he wants, but until he deals with his resentment and shame - he’ll just find new ways to feel threatened.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/10/25 03:01 PM
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Unfortunately, yes. This is why some men are so hung up on women having casual sex and obsessed with body counts. For many men, especially less confident or successful, sexual access is an indicator of status. They see women engaging in casual sex with men who aren't them and feel like a failure. It's not about morality, it's about ego. Deep down, they aren't even angry at women who have sex, they are angry that they can't feel like "real men" anymore, that women's desire doesn't revolve around …
/r/PurplePillDebate17/10/25 02:58 PM
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Look, it's not that different with dating as it is with friendships. Be likeable, nice to be around, be able to hold a conversation, have interests and passions, work on your confidence (which I think you only get if you get better at something).
/r/PurplePillDebate17/10/25 02:43 PM
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It's not the money tho. Like, I wouldn't be interested in dating a trust fund kid who has nothing to his life. I mean, having a financial security is nice, but what we will even talk about? I don't know about you, but I have respect and awe for people who achieved something cool, and is passionate about something. This is what makes someone interesting. Like all these convos are just so revealing. You guys seem to be stuck in the lowest levels of Maslow's pyramid. There's more to life, you know.…
/r/PurplePillDebate17/10/25 02:35 PM
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Yeah, no. Caring about someone's career and education is not the same thing as wanting someone for their money. I want someone more or less qual to me, intellectually and financially. I want to be equal, not to mother someone but also not to feel like I'm dragging someone with me. I mean, of course it would be cool to have a partner who is an olympic athlete, Hollywood star, royalty and Noble price winner, but I'm realistic about myself and my own persona.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/10/25 02:29 PM
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But if youre arguing that promiscuous women getting with average inexperienced joes does not come without issues No, I don't see that as an issue. It can be, depending on other factors. But what is an issue is a guy who thinks the way this guy thinks, getting into a relationship. What he is displaying is an immense immense sexual insecurity masquerading as moral concern. But it's not about morals, he feels sexually inadequate, and instead of facing his negative feelings about rejection, he creat…
/r/PurplePillDebate17/10/25 02:25 PM
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Well unlike him, the emotional little me didn't try getting into a relationship with hatred for men competing against a potential partner in my head and despising him for something he didn't even do. Worked out perfectly fine.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/10/25 01:33 PM
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That too. But it's not only convenience. It's also what you can get. And also what you want. A lowlife might want a rich surgeon but he can't get together with her. The more educated and successful people are the higher standards they get. Guess what, despite whiny internet virgins who would take anything, normal people with self respect and choices will also want to have similar values, views, intellectual level as their spouses. Not all, but those who actually value a person not a servant. Peo…
/r/PurplePillDebate17/10/25 01:27 PM
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Yeah sure
/r/PurplePillDebate17/10/25 01:19 PM
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Argue what? I see a sad insecure miserable men who is building fortresses of protection in his mind against problems this don't even exist. He already poisons a relationship that isn't even happening yet, expecting the woman to be an awful whore and despising her for not being good enough to have casual sex with. There's no chance to build a connection with anyone with that mindset. If you don't see it, you don't see it.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/10/25 01:18 PM
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No, I don't agree with that. Cause unlike you who got your info from other losers, I actually lived a life and dated and talked to people. You'd be shocked to find out what men have the most sex in my experience. And it won't help you. Enviously calling women "whores" because they can have sex and you can't is just pathetic.n
/r/PurplePillDebate17/10/25 01:15 PM
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Being a misogynist doesn't disqualify you for having sex. But it does for developing a true genuine connection with a woman. See, outside of Internet, normal people don't place this much value at the ability of getting sex. It's actually not that hard for a man, depending on how low his standards can go. There's nothing special about being able to get casual sex.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/10/25 01:13 PM
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Yeah it would. Unless he gets therapy and reexamines his toxic views, which won't be easy, he'll keep this disdain for any woman.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/10/25 01:11 PM
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It's sad you see it that way despite his very clear phrasing
/r/PurplePillDebate17/10/25 01:09 PM
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Does it matter? Also, I'm non western, I moved here as an adult.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/10/25 01:08 PM
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I made my point, I'm sorry you aren't capable to see it. Won't chew it for you, you guys need to pick up your own weight for once instead of demanding women do it.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/10/25 05:01 AM
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I was a teenager edgelord once, I know my kind quite well. Lol it's so funny how you guys just keep telling on themselves. "We don't care about height weight income" like you think it makes you sound enlightened? It makes you sound desperate. Like you'll take anything. Truly anything just not to be alone. It's fascinating how you have no standards and still can't get laid, which makes it probably impossible for you to imagine that it's actually not that hard for men to get laid.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/10/25 05:00 AM
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I have 2 answers for you. The same way as a man who is able to get casual sex. Date her, her to know her, spend time together, build intimacy, discuss values and figure. The same way as people build relationship. You can't. You won't be able to have a normal relationship with with brain cooked from redpill, that taught you all sort of bullshit about women and poisoned your views and values. You can't have a healthy relationship when you have layers of disdain and envy and hatred towards someone …
/r/PurplePillDebate17/10/25 04:53 AM
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Funny I was literally replying to another black/redpilled loser a minute ago who was specifically asking about sex with masculine men. If you want a dick that much, you can try it. It won't make you gay. Just leave the women alone ok
/r/PurplePillDebate17/10/25 04:41 AM
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Is that what you fantasize about? Masculine men having casual sex? Why don't y'all just come out already.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/10/25 04:40 AM
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Yeah I'm so tired of whiny men who repeat the same fucking points all over again. Like it's so pathetic. Just male desperate need to be a victim because they can't get laid.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/10/25 04:37 AM
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When I hear people who call themselves assholes I assume they are a teenage edgelord. I can't imagine a well formed person saying that. You are obsessing over body count, we aren't. It's not like we can't see that you do that out of pure envy.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/10/25 04:32 AM
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What? Isn't women's sexual past all you guys talk about here? Aren't you all obsessed with Chad and his dick? Or you only want to hear about male sexual encounters?
/r/PurplePillDebate17/10/25 04:30 AM
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You know I'd have that over someone who despises women openly and is chronically online
/r/PurplePillDebate17/10/25 04:29 AM
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These comments truly show your pathetic values
/r/PurplePillDebate17/10/25 04:28 AM
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Yeah and still most people date and marry within their social class.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/10/25 04:26 AM
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That's why y'all are having bad luck with women. You don't see how any actions you can take can help that. Learned fucking helpless from men. No wonder nobody wants to fuck that.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/10/25 04:25 AM
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The more I read the comments here the more I think you guys have cuckold fetish or something
/r/PurplePillDebate17/10/25 04:23 AM
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My boyfriend loses his dignity every time he goes down on me - which happens very often. He probably has no dignity left
/r/PurplePillDebate17/10/25 12:54 AM
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Yeah that happens but it's rare, and eventually women find out. These men can't form meaningful connections. It's not the norm, most women don't want to date garbage
/r/PurplePillDebate17/10/25 12:53 AM
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My boyfriend treats me like a princess and the OP would shit his pants in rage if he hears what my partner does for me. Yeah cause he loves me.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/10/25 12:48 AM
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Why no standards or boundaries? To me it seems like what you call lack of dignity is simple chivalry. Funny how you all want to go back to the good old times, yet clutch pearls when men act a little bit like men in the past.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/10/25 12:46 AM
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Performative male? As opposed to what, a performative alpha? I'd take someone who tries to be a decent person and reads feminist literature anytime over a misogynist who listens to some bro podcasts and is obsessed over women's body count.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/10/25 12:43 AM
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How?? Women are literally forced into marriages by their families in India.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/10/25 12:36 AM
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What kings mistress scenario? Women do not want to be dating the same guy, that's why those Facebook groups even exist. Or you mean throuples? I'm confused. Please talk to real women instead of listening to redpill crap.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/10/25 12:35 AM
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Yeah mentioning India is even dumber. Both countries famous for female infanticide, and second country with horrible treatment of girls and women today
/r/PurplePillDebate17/10/25 12:34 AM
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Most smart guys actually do. We live in a capitalist society where a partner who's bad with finances is the most detrimental thing to a relationship.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/10/25 12:07 AM
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Huh? I don't want to be a second choice, that's it. It's okay if he dated someone, everyone dated someone. I just don't want to settle - and don't want my partner to think he settled.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/10/25 11:54 PM
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What are you even talking about? Everyone needed to work. Or you are one of those dummies that considers the short tiny ass period of time in the 50s in the US the norm? Like 0.000000001% of human existence where white upper middle class women didn't work outside of the house?
/r/PurplePillDebate16/10/25 11:52 PM
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Women are not sharing the same men. There are shitty men who date multiple women because they unlocked the dating game, but it's not sustainable. Most people are monogamous
/r/PurplePillDebate16/10/25 11:46 PM
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In china there is disproportionately more men because of misogyny, what a dumb example. Yeah, very easy for an Indian woman to escape to the west. God, you people are just grasping for straws to prove how oppressed men are. Literally using examples of countries where women are killed for being women.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/10/25 11:42 PM
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What is bad treatment? No pussy when you want it? Grow up
/r/PurplePillDebate16/10/25 11:36 PM
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You don't understand metaphor
/r/PurplePillDebate16/10/25 11:34 PM
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Yeah they do? Or society does? Needing money to survive? What are you talking about?
/r/PurplePillDebate16/10/25 05:32 PM
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Majority of couples have two people working. And those where women don't work, they are actually providing their labour, which is unpaid, often unappreciated, doesn't translate into a career, doesn't pay benefits, doesn't provide pension, and is 100% relied upon a mercy of a man. I'd say the risk isn't worth it.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/10/25 05:31 PM
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Stats show that men and women are equal in intelligence, but whatever, what's the point with arguing with a miserable woman hating loser.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/10/25 05:28 PM
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I don't get your point. Of course, it's never proportional. But in general marriages should be 100/100, not 50/50 or 40/60. Basically, communism. Equal division of assets, everyone puts as much effort as they can. Like, I don't expect a husband who is temporary incapacitated to participate in equal chores, if he physically can't. I don't think it's fair for someone who has all the free time, and another person who has zero, to be 50/50 with chores. Like that's why a relationship should be betwee…
/r/PurplePillDebate16/10/25 05:27 PM
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Than you criticize capitalism, not gender dynamics. I agree, it's unfair that someone working full time cannot afford comfortable living — especially considering we have abundance of food and resources. I also agree that with changing gender norms, men's expectations should change as well. But I see it happening. Women and men both work, and absolute majority of people date and marry within their social class anyway. In fact, I see more and more women being primary breadwinners. Also, so what if…
/r/PurplePillDebate16/10/25 05:23 PM
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"Financial abortion" is not an abortion. It is literally giving away the little responsibility men already have. Like women already carry all the risk, and majority of the financial burden (since it's much more expensive to be a primary caregiver). Now you want men to have zero responsibilities? Men can decide what happens to their body. They can get vasectomies and wear condoms. They aren't protected against chance and fraud — but neither are women.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/10/25 05:17 PM
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I agree with your point. Despite more equality, the pressures are uneven - pressure for men to work, for women to be pretty and nurturing. But then again the outcome benefits men. One is more likely to have a decent life if they spend time building skills and career and not hoping to rely on another person. At the same time, the one who doesn't work is responsible for all of most unpaid household tasks, so I'm not sure why decision making shouldn't be 50/50. I mean, you are inviting a potential …
/r/PurplePillDebate16/10/25 01:09 PM
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I'm curious, what responsibilities he means? I see men having less than ever responsibilities - not even for themselves. All the "boys are doing poorly, men opt out of work" it's about men taking zero responsibility for themselves and their lives, when there isn't a woman in his life to take care of him. I'm shivering thinking what kind of authority these pathetic men can provide.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/10/25 01:04 PM
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Then explain what exactly you mean by what you want. Specifics, not some vague "more rights/equality" which means what exactly?
/r/PurplePillDebate16/10/25 12:59 PM
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1) men have reproductive rights. Men just can't become pregnant so they can't dictate what happens in other people's bodies (although in some states and countries neither can women). And both parents are responsible for the child. 2) there are real tangible evidence of sexism from hundreds of studies. Studies aboth blind audition, about gender neutral resumes and emails, about management complaints. There are no studies that show sexism towards man - only sexism benefiting men. Women aren't allo…
/r/PurplePillDebate16/10/25 12:57 PM
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I don't like gender division of traits. They are traits. More men I know then women are shy and insecure, and I know it's my surrounding, but should I start calling this a masculine trait? Being confident is a feminine trait if most women display it, right? In any case, I want a friend and a partner to have kindness and compassion and be gentle and nurturing to their loved ones.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/10/25 12:44 PM
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I have a limited amount of compassion in my day, and it's not going towards a whiny privileged manbaby. And I don't know why he needs my approval to be confident.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/10/25 12:39 PM
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Nobody is denying biology, but I'm arguing how manosphere misrepresents it to push their agenda. They never quote or listen to actual scientists who study this shit for a living. Also, it's not just biology, it's anthropology and social studies. We are not fruit flies, human evolution goes beyond biology. Example — people's preferences change dramatically based on the environment. If it was pure biology, we'd all be into fat chicks who are the healthiest to survival and reproduction. There would…
/r/PurplePillDebate15/10/25 02:08 PM
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Anyone I judge, I judge more than women who have causal sex, cause I don't those women at all. If someone responsibly engaged in an act that brings both people joy and pleasure, I don't care. In fact, you guys should be more open to it. I know you have chad brain rot, and think women only have sex with top men, but from my single phase I learned that the guys who fucked the most aren't the hottest - but they are from specific cultures who are much more open to casual sex. They weren't the hottes…
/r/PurplePillDebate15/10/25 01:42 PM
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I feel like if only redpill guys put this much effort into their personality, education and career, as they put into learning whatever skewed convenient redpill bullshit, they wouldn't need redpill.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/10/25 01:35 PM
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It's not wrong, and it not what you said.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/10/25 01:33 PM
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Lol what? You asked who I am comparing to, not who is the entire world. I'm using my empirical knowledge and my circle, not some made up stats. Sure, I'm excluding dirt poor third world country disabled trans untouchables or whatever. If you take the entire world, then those men having 4 limbs, full set of teeth, 3 hot meals a day, access to shower, a separate room to sleep in, a laptop, and making over 40k a year will put them near the top of the world. But I'm using the context of my environme…
/r/PurplePillDebate15/10/25 01:32 PM
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Depends. If all they do is complain while putting no effort into education or training or even looking for a more fitting job - then I won't have any sympathy for them.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/10/25 01:23 PM
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Yeah, and it seems to be working. I'm not sitting here whining that I can't get laid at least.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/10/25 01:22 PM
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I don't, since I don't know every man who isn't a loser. But generally it's quite easy to gage someone's views from a conversation or two. Happier and more confident and more successful men aren't usually misogynistic.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/10/25 01:22 PM
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"I'm not mad woman is sexual, I'm mad I as a man cannot take advantage of that" You are literally repeating what I said and still not seeing it. Yeah, something that is bad can be good depending on the context, how chocking is it. Eating food - good. Forcefully feeding someone food - bad. You can’t condemn objectification while building industries on it. Lol what? People literally condemn those industries. Criticism of objectification is criticism of patriarchy and capitalism. And bringing up po…
/r/PurplePillDebate15/10/25 01:20 PM
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Again, zero perspective. You guys are helpless
/r/PurplePillDebate15/10/25 01:12 PM
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"red pill is not about misogyny"
/r/PurplePillDebate15/10/25 02:25 AM
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I granted myself that right and it's quite helpful actually in finding a decent partner and good friends
/r/PurplePillDebate15/10/25 02:25 AM
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Most men are wrong then, or have no understanding what "dressing to feel confident" means
/r/PurplePillDebate15/10/25 02:24 AM
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Yes you do. You just don't like these choices.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/10/25 02:21 AM
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Yet again a man not understanding consent. It's like all these men bashing onlyfans but never squecking a word about porn. Men can't stand women owning their body without a man benefiting from it.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/10/25 02:20 AM
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Maybe they should have a hard look in the mirror
/r/PurplePillDebate15/10/25 02:16 AM
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In comparison to me, my friends, or even family members of those particular men. I know you want to catch me on some inconsistency but you can't. I'm not going to share their Facebook profiles for you to judge whether I am accurate in my rating. I am and you either believe me or not. Probably not, and I'm okay with that. But I'm not going to sit here with you and argue whether someone who has no friends, has no girlfriend, no career prospects and no education is perfectly average.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/10/25 02:15 AM
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consider us less than you Yeah but you put yourself in that position. Women don't walk around complaining about men's nature and how your standards are too high that you wouldn't date me. You do. It's like you are a job seeker cursing out employees and then complaining they consider you less then them. You are the one who wants something from women, not the other way around.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/10/25 02:10 AM
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The biological determinism is an extremely flawed view. Humans are also wired to kill, eat crap and reproduce. Yet less and less women want kids given a choice, and stoicism is an ancient practice. Biology does play a role but the way redpill uses it is misogynistic and dishonest.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/10/25 06:02 PM
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Sure sure
/r/PurplePillDebate14/10/25 04:01 PM
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I'm older than when I was younger, and lemme tell you, I was the easiest to manipulate until like my mid-20s, which I consider the worst age. I was insecure, unsure about what I'm doing with my life, struggling with all the aspects of life. I was so much more miserable than I am now. So maybe your statement holds true for women who lose the self-respect, confidence and support (inner or outer) with age, becoming more mentally unstable. But those who do the opposite are absolutely harder to manip…
/r/PurplePillDebate14/10/25 03:39 PM
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My take is that misogyny is a way for insecure men to feel better about themselves. They don't need to be complete losers (although most are) but when men feel at the bottom of the hierarchy of other men, they need to feel superior by putting women down. So I can see how someone relatively successful can be misogynistic. It's not like success heals all your traumas.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/10/25 03:36 PM
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Which is a famously vague topic, and somehow redditors seem the most educated and equipped to talk about it.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/10/25 03:34 PM
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Should I sent you their photos and SIN numbers too? And my Linkedin? No matter what I say you won't believe me, because the truth hurts you or clashes with your own ideology.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/10/25 03:33 PM
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I mean, I see it, sure. It's funny, cause I grew up in a post soviet country and moved to a Western country, and honestly, I think people my age are so much more coddled. Maybe it's just me and my family but generally I didn't have the privilege of being this comfortable and unaware.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/10/25 03:32 PM
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Unless you grew up attached to them, know about any mental illness or how the process situations, you wouldn’t know. Fair point. I can see how their parents could have been more encouraging of hobbies early on. But then again, it's clear that they aren't disabled or incoherent or incapable of doing something with their lives, of their free will.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/10/25 03:30 PM
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Because I have eyes and brain and I gossip and also one of them openly talks about it.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/10/25 03:28 PM
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I'm not adopting a made up definition, I'm going to the root of red pill definition — the original Matrix idea of waking up and seeing "the truth". "The truth" is that men are oppressed, feminists are taking over, modern women are unfit, women are lying, manipulative and hypergamous, only top men get laid, women want alpha for sex and beta for money. Did I miss anything? Is this the ideology you are okay associating with? I mean, no shade, you believe what you believe.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/10/25 03:27 PM
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Next time I see them, I'll bring scales. One is quite tall actually. But he's also the least social or charming. Never talks in front of new people. And when he does open his mouth, what he is saying is quite cringy.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/10/25 03:22 PM
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Maybe I have high standards, I measure everyone by my own stick tho.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/10/25 03:21 PM
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If your core argument is that I'm lying, then there's no point in arguing. But if you have a second to think, then ask yourself this question: if someone is busy and more or less successful and satisfied in their life working on the things they are working on — why would they want to spend time on talking about how men are oppressed and women's true nature and all that?
/r/PurplePillDebate14/10/25 03:20 PM
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I don't see how you can be a christian and not follow any of Jesus Christ ideology starting with feeding the poor or being compassionate.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/10/25 03:17 PM
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Yeah I didn't claim I did any peer reviewed study. Although there are studies confirming how losers are displaying more negativity towards women entering their spaces.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/10/25 03:16 PM
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They are. I don't think narrowing down the definition to filter out the junk is working. Redpill is an ideology, you can't pick and choose what true scotsman is.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/10/25 03:15 PM
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Honestly there is something toxic and dark about the self-help content because out brain sees consuming this content as improving because of the splash of inspiration — while doing absolutely nothing.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/10/25 03:14 PM
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Clearly the one that tells them they are disadvantaged, that women are manipulative lying bitches and also weak and stupid and men are superior.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/10/25 03:13 PM
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Blue pill is not an ideology. It's a blanket term of rejecting the red pill.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/10/25 03:12 PM
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I didn't see how repeating redpill bullshit was in anyway engaging in my post, so I ignored the comment.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/10/25 03:12 PM
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You see, I'm not picking on those guys. In fact I have sympathy and pity towards them — something I wouldn't want tho. What's fascinating to me is that these guys have potential. They don't come from drug addicted or dirt poor families. Yeah they weren't the greatest parents, but they weren't horrible either. They weren't born ugly or with a severe learning disability. They all have at least one sibling and all but one siblings turned out better and a bit more successful — in relationships, frie…
/r/PurplePillDebate14/10/25 03:11 PM
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It's funny when you guys actually reveal what's important to you. Being a womanizers is not something to be proud and brag about. It's actually quite easy to be one, despite what internet virgins think. When your sole goal in life is to fuck anything with a pussy, it's actually pretty easy, depends on how low you raise your standards. It's also not impressive, and quite pathetic really, since they can't get an actual connection, or achieve anything tangible, they don't even seem to enjoy sex (wh…
/r/PurplePillDebate14/10/25 03:06 PM
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As others have said here, these are just normal people, not "losers". That's a low fucking bar. Maybe when redpillers say women want "chad", they aren't completely wrong, if a "chad" is someone not completely pathetic in every aspect of their life. It's quite sad how this is the norm for you. But it's also reassuring because it seems to be quite easy to rise up above it.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/10/25 03:00 PM
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Yes I can, because your idealistic view isn't the reality. For one, if one is fit, active and has a good income, they are probably quite busy satisfied with their life to waste time on online women hating.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/10/25 02:58 PM
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Maybe if these men actually followed redpill advice, instead of consuming the advice content, they would be better off. But it's hard, you know. Easier to blame women and society.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/10/25 02:57 PM
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I work in tech and for what it's worth, many of us hate your guts. And what have I done for you to hate me?
/r/PurplePillDebate14/10/25 02:56 PM
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Nerds have interests at least.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/10/25 02:55 PM
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That's a leechy existence. But worst of all, this existence is the reason why they are so depressed and miserable in the first place. A life in a relative comfort without challenges is what makes someone unfulfilled.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/10/25 02:55 PM
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Let me tell you a secret, OP- YOU are average at best as well. You aren’t above/any different than the men you just described. No matter how critical I am of myself, by all possible measurable factors I am above those men. But it's not about me, it's about an observation I had. It’s time to wave the white flag 🏳️, ladies. It’s over. Just change & do something weird like be better human beings & the RP will eventually somewhat fade into the horizon. What are you on about? How am I in any way resp…
/r/PurplePillDebate14/10/25 02:53 PM
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What truth?
/r/PurplePillDebate14/10/25 02:49 PM
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Huh?
/r/PurplePillDebate14/10/25 02:49 PM
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Redpill isn't an ideology. Its quite literally guys sharing notes on what works / doesnt work for getting laid. That is it. I love how you conveniently left out all the misogynistic garbage. An unattractive male who whines about men's rights and society being unfair would get zero sympathy for any red pill dude. Its not a support group where everyone coddles eachother like female spaces. Have you even read the posts and comments in this sub?
/r/PurplePillDebate14/10/25 02:48 PM
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One is openly redpill, the other two are matching all the necessary red flags. Trust me, it's not hard to tell. Once a dude like that opens his mouth, you can tell.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/10/25 02:46 PM
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Confirm what?
/r/PurplePillDebate14/10/25 02:44 PM
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Hey, very convenient to twist redpill whatever you want it to be to make it sound better. Manosphere junk is not red pill. We clearly have very different views on what it is. If you are rejecting the junk, then why still carry all the negative connotations of the toxic nomenclature? You sound like someone wanting to get a giant swastika tattoo, arguing with me about the original Hindu meaning of the sun or something, claiming that the nazi junk isn't related to it. I'm sorry, but is, no matter h…
/r/PurplePillDebate14/10/25 02:44 PM
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You can't just force the redpill label on someone just because you want your ideology to feel more widespread. Most people don't subscribe to manosphere junk.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/10/25 01:00 PM
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I agree, it's the reddest flag.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/10/25 12:57 PM
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If you start your argument claiming I'm lying then I can argue with you, there's no point, cause your base argument will be "lies". And no, neither are in college. One just graduated after 8 years of what was supposed to be a 3 year program because he was failing and then changing his major. None of these my friends, they are in my family circle and a family of someone I'm close with. I don't think I'd come near someone like this in my life otherwise.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/10/25 12:56 PM
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I hate how doing self improvement has been appropriated by redpillers. They maybe just do self improvement. Red pill is not a strategy. Its a misogynistic ideology about how society is unfair to men and how women are bitches and liars. It might be promoting self improvement but it's core is the opposite of it - it's about blaming others and painting men as victims.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/10/25 12:53 PM
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Through family and a gossipy friend. One is openly a redpiller, the other two match all the checkmarks.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/10/25 12:50 PM
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Because all three I know through my family and family of my close friend. I'm pretty aware of their life.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/10/25 12:49 PM
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Thanks
/r/PurplePillDebate14/10/25 12:46 PM
2

Then what is bellow average?
/r/PurplePillDebate14/10/25 04:31 AM
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None of them are ugly, and they aren't even disliked, they are just self-isolating. They are just not doing anything. My issue with the ideology is that they do nothing in their lives, but pick a negative ideology that makes them bitter towards women, as if implying it's women's fault they feel so unfulfilled.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/10/25 04:30 AM
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Average redditor maybe
/r/PurplePillDebate14/10/25 04:25 AM
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I genuinely can't read this.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/10/25 04:21 AM
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I feel like it becomes a self-fulfilling prophecy.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/10/25 04:21 AM
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Well they chose an ideology that makes them more lonely and disliked.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/10/25 04:20 AM
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None of the redpill men I know are in any way improving their lives. I wish this was the advice they followed. Maybe they see consuming content about improving lives as improvement - but it's not. For them redpill is a way to explain that it's not their fault they are so sad instead of taking any responsibility for their misery.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/10/25 04:19 AM
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To me it seems like they just dump their frustration on women that actually comes from being really unfulfilled otherwise.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/10/25 04:16 AM
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They seem way below average. There are different criteria to judge what "average" is but I'd say a combo of a variety of factors, like looks, personality, family, career, friendship, health, education and so on. To be average you either are average in all these areas, or some areas compensate others. The dudes I know are below average or completely at the bottom of all of most items. And what's worse, they don't seem to be doing anything to improve their situation. I've actually heard the top of…
/r/PurplePillDebate14/10/25 04:15 AM
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He is smart, funny, charming, very loyal to his close ones, disciplined and dedicated, passionate about his hobbies, very clean and organized, talented and supportive. He also treats me like a queen, but I love him for what he is not for what he does to me.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/10/25 03:38 AM
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The situation you are describing is just a very disinterested women's and a desperate guy. Maybe it applies to this sub, but generally it's not the case.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/10/25 03:33 AM
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I wish you losers would shut up about Ukraine. Like how cool, bringing a war torn country led by a conservative psychopath to support your narrative.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/10/25 03:31 AM
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The "single childless women are happier" to me doesn't imply a correlation "marriage=misery" but a trend of women to be stuck in miserable and draining marriages and relationships. Being in a happy marriage is better than being single. Being single is better than being in a crappy relationship. It's simple. Also, it's a weird thought leap you have about motherhood. I want to hug and cuddle every cag but kids don't give me the same reaction. I just don't see them as cute. I can see a difference b…
/r/PurplePillDebate14/10/25 03:28 AM
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People have different life situations. I don't see how it's a red flag, unless you have a different definition of red flags.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/10/25 03:22 AM
5

So statistics lie? And women commit same amount of violent crimes they just weren't caught?
/r/PurplePillDebate12/10/25 03:49 AM
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I don't understand the privilege point. Women are clearly less aggressive then men. Men commit 90% of violent crimes. It's not a privilege, women are just less violent. Just because you have some video evidence of those 10% doesn't make it the end of privilege or whatever.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/10/25 12:49 AM
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The "bitch got caught" algorithm. Look, I can say the same thing of "males get away with bullshit is fading away as technology evolved" and reference numerous tiktoks, metoos and Facebook groups. What's your point? Yeah, being under constant surveillance has its perks, some people can't get away fully sometimes. And?
/r/PurplePillDebate11/10/25 10:07 PM
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Your language is very interesting. Sure, height you can't control. But looks? Education? Social and communication skills? Income? All these can change, and require effort. But you took a path of considering anything around you outside of your control, of being a poor little misunderstood victim who wants to be unconditionally loved for what, zero effort on your part? And why do you think you deserve it? Just because you want it? Like come on, why would someone love you again? What are you bringi…
/r/PurplePillDebate11/10/25 10:03 PM
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Looks like you are falling into a very particular algorithm
/r/PurplePillDebate11/10/25 09:58 PM
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Yes, I had a FWB situation once when we had good sexual chemistry but no romantic chemistry. It didn't last long, but it was nice. We met rarely, maybe once every few months. And it was friends with benefits, not just sex only, we spent time as friends, just not close friends.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/10/25 04:52 PM
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What about cases where dating doesn't lead anywhere? What about cases where the woman is much more into the guy, or the guy losing interest over time? Why is it always black and white for you people?
/r/PurplePillDebate10/10/25 11:25 PM
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Oh yeah? So why do you accept that this is false equivalence, but for the life of you can't understand that viewing female sexuality as male is also false equivalence? That women having access to free sex is not the same thing as men having access to free sex? That women don't want or need or benefit from it like men do?
/r/PurplePillDebate30/09/25 09:20 PM
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Considering men can't control themselves around women, and are so biologically wired, and also are less agreeable, less cooperative, more aggressive, maybe in a perfect world majority of political representation and leadership positions should be 80% women since men are just not biologically fit. Same with CEOs, since women are shown to be better at it.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/09/25 05:11 PM
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That's not what's happening in modern dating, that's the most fringe outliers, who don't seek a person, but a means to an end. Most people actually seek more than money/looks in a partner.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/09/25 05:07 PM
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Oh dating apps, where all people have are your looks — sure. In real life, no. The gender lines get blurred with time of course, since women are becoming more successful, but there is still wiggle room for both.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/09/25 04:59 PM
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Not interested in discussing ethics of prostitution either
/r/PurplePillDebate26/09/25 01:57 AM
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It's not any male argument, it's argument of desperate men who don't care about the characteristics of a woman as long as she is willing and has a vagina. Literally, lowest of the low. I like to assume that most people, men included, have some standards.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/09/25 01:32 AM
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I disagree, you are talking in absolutes. Women get away with less success, just as men get away with worse looks — that's true. But it's still important for anyone, directly and indirectly. The only way it wouldn't matter for women, would be in regards to men who are not seeing a woman as a human, and therefore just want an attractive object with a pussy. I am not considering those men because I don't care to.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/09/25 10:45 PM
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I mean of course, doing something cool and being passionate about something makes a person more attractive. I just don't get why OP needed to create some bullshit term for it.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/09/25 10:42 PM
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Sure, but men, for the most part, are not entering relationships before they become a contextual alpha. Especially Gen Z men. We are going in circles. I don't know how to explain that reddit isn't real life, and that dating is worse due to a variety of factors. Maybe look at poor people, bottom of the barrel. Those men fuck and date and don't give two shits about their lack of achievements. Do you have any other suggestions for resources/sites/books I can look into to learn more about what draws…
/r/PurplePillDebate24/09/25 05:20 PM
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I'm not a counter example, I'm literally one of majority of examples, because majority of people amount to nothing special. And majority of people get into relationships. Moreover, people date and marry within their social circle, there is an enormous amount of research about it. What attracted you to these "loser" men? I keep asking myself that. Daddy issues, perhaps. Like, if you cared to listen to women and their stories, you'd realize how common this is, especially when you are younger and d…
/r/PurplePillDebate24/09/25 04:31 PM
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I take personal attacks as compliments as it shows that because you had no rebuttal to make, you had to resort to personal attacks to make yourself feel better. I hope you succeeded. Ooff, I didn't realize you actually identify as that, thought you have some dignity. Sure it makes them a bit more attractive to some people. But it isn't a requirement. A woman can be a "loser" and still attract a man if she is attractive physically. A man has to be a contextual alpha. It is not optional for him. I…
/r/PurplePillDebate24/09/25 04:19 PM
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Yes it does. I don't know how to explain to someone who is desperate for a pussy and doesn't see women as human, rather than an object to satisfy their cravings. But any person, man or woman, is more attractive if they have a passion, something they are good at, something they achieved. Not only directly, but also because being fulfilled, content and inspired makes one a more pleasant person to interact and be around. It makes them less needy and pathetic.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/09/25 04:08 PM
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My point is this: Yeah cause most men actually get sex and relationships, not the top hottest ones. I don't know how it's so hard to comprehend, unless you never go outside, have no social circle and also are legally blind.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/09/25 04:04 PM
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You have the same access to a shitbox car as women. Go to grindr, you'll find all the sex you are missing.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/09/25 04:02 PM
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You know, those sexless men have equal access to bad unsafe sex as women do — with other dudes. Oh you don't want some guy to suck your dick? It's like telling a homeless man that you don't pizza.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/09/25 04:01 PM
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Almost every relationship starts as casual. You can't predict if it will result into something serious. Most of those women wouldn't continue if they were directly told the outcome of that date.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/09/25 03:59 PM
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Moreover, I heard that majority of these women come from restrictive backgrounds who see women's sexuality as sinful or shameful. I mean, doesn't take a phd in psychology to connect these dots.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/09/25 03:57 PM
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The majority aren't trying.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/09/25 03:54 PM
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I love how redpillers make up new terms and then get angry at women for something. So you say, that someone who is successful at something, and derives a sense of pride and confidence from it, is more likely to be successful with women? So wait, you mean women will less likely to be attracted to a whiny insecure loser who is doing nothing in their life? Contextual alpha bro
/r/PurplePillDebate24/09/25 03:54 PM
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Yeah cause most men actually get sex and relationships, not the top hottest ones. I don't know how it's so hard to comprehend, unless you never go outside, have no social circle and also are legally blind.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/09/25 03:49 PM
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Yeah it will. For one, self improvement will make someone less of a needy miserable unpleasant to be around insecure person.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/09/25 05:33 PM
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Why not?
/r/PurplePillDebate17/09/25 05:32 PM
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Yeah I don't get how hard is it to comprehend.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/09/25 08:57 PM
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Actually yeah, they aren't trying, and it's not a weird take. It's literally the first question — if you are unhappy about something, what did you do to change it?
/r/PurplePillDebate04/09/25 05:19 PM
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I never saw this particular combo, especially "social media", like who puts it there. Granted, I've seen overwhelming amount of the "travel and eating out", from either gender — which should be the proper low effort profile. In fact I was criticizing the one-sided complain of that bitter guy, not the fact that he pointed out how a lot of profiles are cookie cutter.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/09/25 05:17 PM
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No, I know why. I wonder why more men don't organize or join various clubs since they are claiming to be so lonely
/r/PurplePillDebate04/09/25 01:47 AM
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Are you implying something? Why not say it out loud
/r/PurplePillDebate04/09/25 01:45 AM
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Nice projection
/r/PurplePillDebate04/09/25 01:43 AM
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Wow, such a teenage "I'm different" vibe. Sure, being on reddit is much more original
/r/PurplePillDebate04/09/25 01:42 AM
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I don’t think men should join female majority interests just to meet women, but I think men should take women’s playbook and engage in their interests more socially.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/09/25 10:46 PM
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It's not paradoxical, you just aren't very discerning.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/09/25 08:46 PM
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They aren't gender segregated, but there's a majority of one gender in many activities. Funny enough, female majority activities are usually social, while male majority are not. You guys are choosing to not interact with people and then complain you are lonely.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/09/25 08:43 PM
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Yeah, excuses kept coming. When I immigrated and was poor af, I joined a hiking club that organized carpools. Meetups exist. You literally picked one of the easiest most common fucking hobbies and make yourself a victim.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/09/25 08:17 PM
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Oh wow, watching movies/shows, eating out and being on social media - something almost everyone does - is somehow despicable in your eyes because wahman. Yeah it's not like male interests of being hateful online and whining about not having girlfriends.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/09/25 08:15 PM
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I find much more women go outside and do social activities and create or participate in communities than men. My bookclub is only women. My art classes are majority women. Only my female friends organize outings and parties with friends.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/09/25 08:09 PM
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I'm.glad you have enough awareness to see why first hiking date is a bad idea. Too bad you haven't brought of, I don't know, hiking groups and communities.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/09/25 08:04 PM
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I just spent a week dismantling and rebuilding the six carburetors of my motorcycle. I actually love to do that. How many people do you think I met doing that? How many women do you think are interested in that? But even if it's a niche interest, there are online communities about everything. Especially nerdy interests. You might have more issues with it being a sausage fest, but it would be the same issue if you could filter through interests in a dating app. How about someone who enjoy hiking,…
/r/PurplePillDebate03/09/25 07:13 PM
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I'm absolutely not interested in dating A 45 year old, yet I'll be grossed out if a 25 year old woman dates a 45 year old. Women remember themselves at this age, and wish someone told them that the old dude doesn't think you are "too mature for your age" and isn't cool, he's creepy and pathetic. Unfortunately this is something you have to live through, the only way out is through.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/09/25 07:07 PM
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Two jobs aren't a monolith. Yet the same basic advice will increase chances of finding a job. Be on time, be organized, polite, clean, proactive with your resume, motivated and so on.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/09/25 07:04 PM
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I'm sorry but this take is weird. Why not go out and do the thing you are interested in, and meet like minded people? This is just the most basic idea. Why do you need an app to spoonfeed you that too?
/r/PurplePillDebate03/09/25 06:59 PM
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I can say the same thing about men.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/09/25 04:32 PM
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Yes you do
/r/PurplePillDebate03/09/25 03:26 PM
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Yeah they do. Or dont date people they like, or at all. In any case, same shit
/r/PurplePillDebate02/09/25 07:00 AM
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Why don't you understand that women also have to have a personality and qualities to get a relationship with someone interesting and not a desperate loser who will take anything? Like do you even comprehend that there's life and dating beyond the first approach?
/r/PurplePillDebate02/09/25 02:12 AM
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Not having sex in the last year doesn't mean not having dates. Also, it just confirms my point that most people are dating and fucking
/r/PurplePillDebate01/09/25 01:39 PM
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You'd be surprised how low the effort is of average and unattractive guys
/r/PurplePillDebate01/09/25 01:38 PM
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If they are so ugly, that nobody swipes on them, then they should get outside. Most men are normal looking and get matches, when they get their profile together
/r/PurplePillDebate01/09/25 04:00 AM
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Data from dating apps - medium where you literally have one criteria - visual. So of course the results will disregard anything else
/r/PurplePillDebate01/09/25 03:59 AM
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It is true in my case. And a lot of women around who are dating men who they didn’t think were that attractive in the beginning.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/08/25 02:11 PM
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Women don't see men like men see women. When a man sees a woman he's attracted to, it's straightforward. When a woman sees a man she's attracted to, this attraction is tied up to a fantasy. If he asks me out, if I say this, if he says that. A guy who isn't outright hot, can become one if he talks or behaves a certain way. That's why Adam Driver didn't get such a fanbase before Star Wars. It's not the actors face, it's the character. You can say sure, but he also became very famous after Star War…
/r/PurplePillDebate30/08/25 07:06 PM
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60k per year is faaaaar less than 5k per month, you forgot taxes
/r/PurplePillDebate30/08/25 04:13 PM
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Honestly, it's my guilty pleasure - gender wars online. I'm not proud of it. But it's hella entertaining
/r/PurplePillDebate30/08/25 04:09 PM
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Because women can develop attraction to men who she wouldn't be outright attracted to, based on a picture alone. But you guys can't comprehend this one fucking idea.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/08/25 04:08 PM
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Single doesn't mean not getting dates or not having sex. Most people below like 40 are single most of their lives
/r/PurplePillDebate28/08/25 11:34 PM
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You've got a charmed idea of what reality is these days, but otherwise go off. You'd be surprised, but there is life outside of lonely reddit losers Sure, show me those stats.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/08/25 10:10 PM
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Most men whom women call assholes just weren’t that much into that woman.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/08/25 03:23 PM
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I disagree with all those women who bash their “avoidant” exes, or start moralizing how terrible they were. If you look into those situations, in most cases a dude wasn’t that much into the woman, and she wanted more from him, got overly attached and got hurt. I’m not shaming her for that, but for the wrong conclusions that she carried from this scenario. That’s where this huge disconnect arises. A lot of men online can’t get a single date for whatever reason, so they assume it’s equally hard fo…
/r/PurplePillDebate28/08/25 03:21 PM
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This is very similar to how I view men, and men here don't believe me. Numbers are off, I wouldn't say it's 5% each way, more like 10%. Secondly, I would use "personality" instead of behavior. And personality in this case includes humour, charisma, charm etc. Yes it matters for the big majority of men who aren't the bottom "absolute no" and aren't the top models, who are also generally a no for me.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/08/25 07:29 PM
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Yeah, it’s all you guys yell about
/r/PurplePillDebate23/08/25 07:18 PM
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Numbers of what? What are you even talking about
/r/PurplePillDebate23/08/25 07:17 PM
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Barely any impact? Really?
/r/PurplePillDebate23/08/25 07:16 PM
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So? Results mean what? You interpret those results from your own lens.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/08/25 05:04 PM
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Yeah, the whole gamergate happened because some idiot decided to show it to his ex. No harm, sure. Not like the entire American political system got affected by some spiteful losers online.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/08/25 05:03 PM
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Yet another example of a man who can't even start to understand women's experiences.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/08/25 05:01 PM
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There's nothing wrong per se with yoga, so long as people don't basically fall headlong into performative enlightenment and thinking yoga is the best thing ever and trying to make your whole life revolve around yoga and meditation and feng shui. Yes I know feng shui isn't related to yoga. I'm sure you hold all those pseudo spirital male biohacker gurus to the same standard. True but at least religion has the benefit of bullshit excuses while crystal healing and astrology is just flat-out wrong. …
/r/PurplePillDebate21/08/25 04:47 PM
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What the fuck is wrong with yoga? And crystal healing and astrology is no more unscientific than religion. Yeah, why would women choose the only form of spirituality available that doesn’t see them as lesser?
/r/PurplePillDebate21/08/25 03:21 PM
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Which just shows you know nothing about a woman’s experience, you just project. Women don’t want to interact with men from that list. Men would never feel the threat women feel from unwanted male attention.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/08/25 03:16 PM
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This dynamic isn’t real. Broke people date and have sex more than mon broke population, turns out.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/08/25 01:22 PM
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Yeah if the guy didn’t pay but sent me that text, I won’t go out with him. Apparently he didn’t like me that much to offer to pay for the date, and it’s not like I purposely chose an expensive place for the first date, in fact I’d avoid them. I guess there isn’t a logical reason, there’s a gender difference reason. Men are more motivated in dating than women are, that’s how it is right now, so they naturally spend more in the beginning of a relationship. It later evens out. Yeah don’t date someo…
/r/PurplePillDebate13/08/25 01:17 PM
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The difference between their articles on fox news and msnbc are hilarious: https://www.sourcewatch.org/index.php?title=Fox_News https://www.sourcewatch.org/index.php?title=MSNBC You are so close to the point. 2) that study wasn't done by IFStudies, it was done by the General Social Survey which is done by the National Opinion Research Center (NORC) at the University of Chicago and is funded primarily by the National Science Foundation. I've heard about that research, I just pointed out that you …
/r/PurplePillDebate11/08/25 08:09 PM
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I used to have empathy but over time it's really exhausting to empathise with those who have what I want but act like victims instead of being grateful. Funny how you don't see the irony of this sentence at all. The only one who acts like a victim is you. Lemme get this into simple terms. Imagine you are in jail. Would you want the attention of men there? It's better than no attention, am I right? You have this option. Just make yourself more ugly. Or never leave the house. I am sorry you have t…
/r/PurplePillDebate11/08/25 07:55 PM
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Women make up majority of nurses, and elder care, which are both very dirty jobs that involve a lot of heavy manual labor.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/08/25 07:47 PM
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You just can't have empathy for someone who isn't you. I'd rather have zero attention, than attention from a lot of certain men. Because it also comes with awkwardness, threat and intimidation. The attention I'd get from some men equals the attention you'd get from some men.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/08/25 07:44 PM
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Ok, lemme explain in simple terms. I'd love to have a husband who can support me, so that I leave my job, who will also not ask anything for it. So that I can do my stuff and have someone else pay for it. I'm sure so does everyone else. But women aren't being idiots. From the fact, that it's quite impossible to survive on a single income, but even if it is, we are aware of danger of being overtly dependent on one person. So yeah, I am honest. It is idiotic to leave your job for a promise.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/08/25 07:39 PM
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I don't know any single women who want to leave their job and start a family.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/08/25 07:27 PM
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You are quoting institute for family studies, a conservative propaganda.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/08/25 07:27 PM
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There are studies, mate. \
/r/PurplePillDebate11/08/25 07:06 PM
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I kinda emphasize with your issue. I know, it’s shocking I’m defending men, but imagining myself as a man on a dating app, having to play the number game, assuming I got my profile to fit female gaze, and get matches regularly, and have to go to numerous first dates where I don’t even know if I’ll care for this woman, but having the expectation to pay for her. Even if I don’t like her, it would be awkward as fuck to ask for a separate bill anyway. Personally, I always insist to pay for myself if…
/r/PurplePillDebate11/08/25 02:38 PM
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Huh? Where you got this info from? Single childless women are the happiest demographic. They are wealthier, healthier and live longer.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/08/25 04:11 AM
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The women you get this way, yikes,
/r/PurplePillDebate11/08/25 04:00 AM
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Lemme ask you this, I’m curious. Would you want to pay for a woman who wouldn’t have sex with you for the first month/5 dates or whatever she has, but it’s a woman you like and are interested in pursuing, and she seems to like you and be interested in you and excited about you? Like, sex is potentially in the picture sometime in the near future, but not guaranteed, but she clearly wants to be courted?
/r/PurplePillDebate11/08/25 03:56 AM
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So you don’t want to be used for money but you want to use women for sex? The hypocrisy is palatable.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/08/25 03:49 AM
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So my point stands, I glad we cleared it out.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/08/25 02:35 PM
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No, I take it the right way. You clearly expect sex if you are paying, and refuse to pay otherwise. Quote, "don't want to be used". As if you are so wealthy that the only reason women would go on a date with you is for a free meal. And you know what? This fear of yours, "to be used", just tells so much about you, and it's a bit tragic how you hold on to it without any introspection. Ask yourself, why do you think the only thing you can offer to a woman is your money?
/r/PurplePillDebate10/08/25 02:34 PM
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No, I don't match with dogshit
/r/PurplePillDebate10/08/25 02:32 PM
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What quality posts? You are all repeating same points. And yeah it's on men why nobody wants to date them. Plenty of people are dating.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/08/25 03:52 AM
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What are you talking about? Casual sex, what all you mean by it, is hooking up with random people. Casual sex also happens when you start dating someone. So a person looking for a relationship, uninterested in casual sex, will still go through a casual phase, unless they are in sharia or something.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/08/25 03:52 AM
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Women are better looking because they are allowed to fraud their looks as much as possible. If all men were allowed to fraud with makeup, high heels, right clothing, there wouldn't be any difference. Fraud how? You mean makeup? Those before-after pics popular online? Are you really that dumb that you can't tell a full face of makeup done by a professional which costs a quite a lot, and works only for camera, and looks extremely heavy and cakey up close? Or are you really not able to tell what a …
/r/PurplePillDebate10/08/25 02:13 AM
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"roughly as many men as women) said they have had casual sex (73%) ever." So 73% had casual sex at least once. I don't see how that disproves OP. Besides, most relationships start as casual.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/08/25 01:53 AM
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Those guys don't even mean $50 on dinner, that's a tragedy to them. They are afraid to spend $10 on a beer or coffee with a donut without a promise of puss.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/08/25 01:50 AM
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Lol sure we believe that. I love how men who are bitching about paying 10 dollars for a beer are so scared of gold diggers. No gold digger would ever lay her eye on you, don't worry about that.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/08/25 01:48 AM
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If a man asks me to split the bill on a first date, I just assume he's not interested, and I lose interest. It's so funny how paranoid you are about paying. Like, if you are broke, don't date, or date other poors.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/08/25 01:45 AM
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Think about it - if an attractive woman had that many genuine options, why would she be on a dating app for more than a month? You are so close to the point, yet so far away.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/08/25 01:43 AM
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Self reflection? You mean the circlejerk of blaming women, discussing how they are shallow, repeating the same long debunked points from some blog from a decade ago? Or — my favorite — bashing therapy, which is a new thing, claiming it's not designed for men. Those men are doing self reflection? How come the only thing that comes from "self" is how women are all hypergamous sluts who need to be put in place? Give me a fucking break with this nonsense.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/08/25 01:30 AM
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I mean, if you have no standards with who you sleep with, then sure
/r/PurplePillDebate10/08/25 01:27 AM
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He wasn't ugly, I was just way out of his league. And it happens all the time to all sorts of women, because the reality is, women are just better looking than men on average. They are judged by their looks more harshly, and put more effort into their appearance. Men claiming how women date up are just ignoring every couple out there. Show me a celebrity couple where a man is hotter, and you would be able to find like 5 examples, among hundreds of those where the woman is more attractive. The po…
/r/PurplePillDebate10/08/25 01:26 AM
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Anyone who says "the bar for men is in hell" is basically telling on themselves for not having any self-respect. That's all there is to it. The bar is factually very high Yeah and almost everyone has poor self-respect until they get older and wiser Let's see some data Dunno, real life? All mid to ugly men getting with hot women? Or pop culture, that reflects society, with a hot wife and an ugly husband in every tv show and movie? Or that 80/20 okcupid study you all like to quote, conveniently dr…
/r/PurplePillDebate09/08/25 05:05 PM
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This line of thinking is why men can't get any matches, dude. They just refuse to believe what women say female gaze is.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/08/25 05:01 PM
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And way less divorces are happening too. Also it's socially acceptable to not marry, so it also contributes to this stat.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/08/25 05:00 PM
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Yeah, sure, it's women who are in the wrong. Not like men have valued women for their looks since the dawn of times, and still do. You get a tiny drop of your own medicine and go crazy.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/08/25 05:00 PM
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It's funny how you guys bash women for the exact thing you have been doing forever. It's like, women's looks have been scrutinized for centuries, but as soon as men's looks are for a fraction of what women went through, you go batshit crazy. The argument is that he was out of your league, not hot. If you are a 3 and he is a 5 or a 6, he is not hot but is still out of your league. If you are dating within your league, most guys are not going to treat you like trash. I was out of his league by far…
/r/PurplePillDebate09/08/25 04:59 PM
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I love how in the past it was "women go for money" and now it's "women go for looks". Like you can't take any accountability that it might be just you.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/08/25 04:53 PM
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People tend to LTR or marry within their "league" but the 80/20 rule is not about that. It is about how young women pursue the top 20% of men for as long as they can and only settle for the bottom 80% (since they can't all date and marry a 20%er). The real life effect is really attractive men having tons of options, attention, and possibly sex from most women, while a male 6 can't even get a female 5 to look his way. What exactly do you mean by "pursue"? Do you imply that top 20% of men don't ha…
/r/PurplePillDebate09/08/25 04:48 PM
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Yeah we need men to explain what we actually think
/r/PurplePillDebate09/08/25 04:43 PM
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A lot of men are horrible at dating app game.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/08/25 04:43 PM
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No that's not what maybe means. Maybe means he is attractive enough for me to get a crush on him once I know him better. Which is really most men of the appropriate age group.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/08/25 04:42 PM
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So the "women rate majority of men below average" is false then too, since it's a ridicolous blog post
/r/PurplePillDebate09/08/25 04:38 PM
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Maybe if you are a really desirable candidate, which is the minority. Some people are equally very desirable. Or you applied to a desperate company. Which is also the case for dating. There's a middle ground between humiliating rounds of interview, and being hired on the spot, and most professionals fall in that category.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/08/25 04:37 PM
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In the short term it absolutely benefits them. How?
/r/PurplePillDebate09/08/25 04:36 PM
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lol sure no woman is every lonely because there‘s some creep who would fuck her
/r/PurplePillDebate08/08/25 10:55 PM
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No it’s 2:1 in the best case scenario, and who knows how many of those women are bots. And the match rate can be easily explained by the tendency of men to swipe to anyone.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/08/25 10:54 PM
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I don’t know what the fuck are you saying. You don’t expect someone to want to marry you on the first date. Thats what dating is, figuring out if it’s a yes or no.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/08/25 10:50 PM
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Also loneliness isn’t male specific. You just yell about it the loudest, and murder people while doing that.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/08/25 10:41 PM
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Yeah actually it is always worth it. Builds character, something those poor lonely boys desperately need. I don’t understand your second paragraph.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/08/25 10:41 PM
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Sure, I love how specific and hive-mindy this obviously true story is.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/08/25 10:39 PM
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I’m sorry you cant say a study was bullshit because of a fact you don’t like, but pick in a fact you do like. You accept both or neither. Also that study was peer reviewed, I’m pretty sure they screened for hookers. It’s not 80/20 if you open your fucking eyes and look around you at real couples. People date and marry within their social class almost always. The only way this number applies if you look at absolute numbers on apps only, and consider dating app bias. There is about 80% male users …
/r/PurplePillDebate08/08/25 10:38 PM
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Yeah and boyfriend/crush goggles are a real thing
/r/PurplePillDebate08/08/25 10:32 PM
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Yeah, cause all those women are also a someones maybe. And considering widespread complaints about dating, everyone is maybe more often than not
/r/PurplePillDebate08/08/25 10:31 PM
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Lmao so you only pick the fact that you agree with from a dated flawed study full of escorts. Sure
/r/PurplePillDebate08/08/25 10:29 PM
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Yeah how insane a high schooler doesn’t have the wisdom to vet people better. I mean, you are supposed to be born with all this knowledge right
/r/PurplePillDebate08/08/25 10:26 PM
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Yet you entire ideology is based on this study. You can’t have it both ways.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/08/25 10:23 PM
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You know if it’s not worth to them to become more attractive to date, then why would anyone date them? Sorry but it’s an absurd take. It’s like whining about not being able to get a good job, but saying it’s not worth for them to get a good education or training.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/08/25 10:21 PM
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People can jump leagues But yeah generally life decides for you. People generally date and marry within their social class.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/08/25 10:17 PM
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Drop the entitlement. Everyone is a maybe. Sure would be cool if a job hired me right away, but I’m a maybe in their list of potential candidates.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/08/25 10:16 PM
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Of course you don’t believe it. Why would you listen to women at all, it’s not like you are obsessed with them
/r/PurplePillDebate08/08/25 10:15 PM
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This isn’t real data. That study you all like to reference is from a dating app, first of all. Second of all, you conveniently drop the second half of the study, that shows how women still messaged those men while men messaged top rated women.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/08/25 10:14 PM
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Good thing I talked about dating apps too. It comes right after the text you are quoting
/r/PurplePillDebate08/08/25 10:12 PM
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Blue pillers know about the Halo effect. But they also know that you, you know, talk to people and form your opinion eventually. Unless it was one short interaction.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/08/25 09:39 PM
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Yeah and women still won't date you
/r/PurplePillDebate08/08/25 09:36 PM
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You are conflating two different issues. Sexual freedom implies no judgement or double standards, or ability to engage in sexual acts without the puritanical attitudes towards it. There is a spectrum when it comes to this topic, just like any other really, but redpillers see it as black and white. There‘s a lot of dating, there’s hook ups, one night stands and so on. Typically sex only relationships meaning it’s a continuous thing, so either both parties want it, or only one. And generally it’s …
/r/PurplePillDebate08/08/25 12:35 PM
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Well it’s easier to blame hypergamy or chads than put an effort
/r/PurplePillDebate08/08/25 12:26 PM
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Sexuality is one thing that men and women significantly differ. And I'm not talking about libido. Being in sex-only situation is extremely damaging for a woman, not for a guy.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/08/25 05:51 PM
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They absolutely do. You use only "fat" as identifier for some reason. There is a higher amount of fit guys dating fat guys versus opposite, but it doesn't really say anything. Those guys can be fat chasers or desperate and settling. For the most part, people date within their own level of attractiveness and social status. But women can get away with less money/career, and men can get away with worse looks, that's all.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/08/25 05:40 PM
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The dating game isn't even that hard for most men, once they figure out how to make a profile based on female gaze.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/08/25 05:37 PM
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For the most part, yes. Rarely there's someone actually hot.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/08/25 05:36 PM
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No, most aren't. Some men are just good at the dating game. You all thing they are hyper attractive, but they aren't really. Some are, but most are average to alright looking.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/08/25 03:59 PM
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Yeah, it's not like in media, which is a reflection of society, the trend of hot wife and mid tier dude isn't the norm. Modern family, married with kids, forgetting Sarah Marshal, anything with Vince Vaughan or Adam Sandler. I'm not saying that those guys are uggos, but the women they are paired up with are supermodels. Nobody bats an eye about Beyonce's marriage but everyone was batshit crazy about Hugh Jackman's wife. And I deliberately picked famous people so that you don't claim "it's money …
/r/PurplePillDebate07/08/25 03:53 PM
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Yeah, dating app, a purely visual presentation. How else you judge? Also if you ever logged in as a woman you’d know that most men profiles are shit. True representation would be if you just look around and see real couples. The majority has a woman who is more attractive. The opposite is so truly rare that it makes people gossip.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/08/25 03:40 AM
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LMAO rhe 95% men I rejected were’t A+, some of them weren’t even C-, they were in a class for special kids and didn’t graduate
/r/PurplePillDebate07/08/25 03:36 AM
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If you hanged out in comedian circles you would absolutely see the cliche of “ugly comedian with a hot girlfriend” Looks are a great asset but charisma is unbeatable.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/08/25 03:34 AM
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its not a relationship. I don’t know where tho live but in the majority of western world a relationship is when both people decided they are in a relationship. Because when does it start then? When you do on a first date? Third? Kiss? Have sex? It’s called “dating“ and then new words like situationship or casual fling popped up. I dated quite a few people, but I say that I only had 3 relationships. There’s no fucking way Id call all the rest a relationship. And yes, I considered myself single an…
/r/PurplePillDebate07/08/25 03:20 AM
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The standards can’t be any lower
/r/PurplePillDebate07/08/25 03:14 AM
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Yeah cause single means not in a relationship, so when there’s no official title, you don’t call it a relationship. What’s so hard about that? Also men actually are more often calling themselves single than women in a situationship. This is partially why more men identify as single than women.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/08/25 03:06 AM
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There’s no need to smell anything. DMing someone is immediately off putting. Maybe those nice guys should DM ugly girls instead, maybe that will work.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/08/25 03:04 AM
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Check out those groups. None of men there are male models. Most are the typical uggo average type.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/08/25 02:59 AM
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Ew, do you know how pathetic and unaware the guys in DMs usually are? What if women aren’t attracted to such low lIves without basic social skills.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/08/25 02:58 AM
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To me that sounds like dating. Every serious relationship starts as casual.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/08/25 02:56 AM
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Im saying you are mixing 4 different concepts and jumping from topic to topic
/r/PurplePillDebate03/08/25 01:46 AM
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Active dating/sex life is not equal engaging in short flings. Also, not in my circle. Those who do date have a long term relationship in mind.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/08/25 02:10 PM
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Well this is what I call personality. I'm a simple person with non-English first language
/r/PurplePillDebate31/07/25 11:41 PM
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Then why everytime a guy says he struggles to get dates and it's actually kind of depressing for him (you know, sharing his emotions) ... he is faced with "you must hate women" ; "go take a shower" ; "you just have a loser mindset" ? Nobody says that, unless the guy phrases it like "I can't get a date because all women are shallow and go after 20% of men"
/r/PurplePillDebate31/07/25 11:35 PM
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When I say personality matters more, I mean charisma, humour, passion, not being needy etc. I don't mean a needy guy with attachment issues and no life, but who is "nice".
/r/PurplePillDebate31/07/25 11:34 PM
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Where did you get this info from?
/r/PurplePillDebate31/07/25 04:34 PM
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Then do that if it makes you happy
/r/PurplePillDebate30/07/25 01:50 PM
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No, it’s easy for me because I’m not a whiny pathetic loser
/r/PurplePillDebate30/07/25 01:49 PM
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I love how men envy that women can have short flings easier then them without ever listening to women who say that they actually are often quite shitty and damaging.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/07/25 01:48 PM
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God you are such a whiner. You feel sorry for yourself more than a teenage girl. Grow up
/r/PurplePillDebate30/07/25 03:19 AM
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She was probably really aroused thinking about her cheating
/r/PurplePillDebate30/07/25 02:54 AM
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Yeah having sex with someone not aroused does feel tighter. It’s also painful for every guy without death grip syndrome.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/07/25 02:48 AM
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Does it matter? You’ll be dead next minute.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/07/25 02:46 AM
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What is there to argue about? You are bitter and biased. No way women don't like you because of your charming personality.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/07/25 12:14 AM
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You are a charmer, I'm shocked women don't like you
/r/PurplePillDebate29/07/25 11:42 PM
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The entire life can be characterized s pointlessly wandering about looking for a hit of dopamine. A relationship won’t save you from it
/r/PurplePillDebate29/07/25 07:27 PM
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Im behind the tea app discourse but you are comparing a curated pic for a dating app versus a quick photo they took to prove identity of whatever. This is disingenuous at best. Even then It’s a very narrow selection of both. To prove anything you’d have to do an independent research with members matching their submission.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/07/25 05:35 PM
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So learn to get joy from other things then. Cultivate other areas of your life. Because this worldview “I’ll be happy only if I am partnered” will just set you up for failure even if you are in a relationship
/r/PurplePillDebate29/07/25 05:29 PM
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I never use makeup, not for some statement but because Im lazy and satisfied with how I look. Yet I’ve had as much frustrations with modern dating as any other woman. must be my personality then
/r/PurplePillDebate29/07/25 05:24 PM
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if all you hope in life for is to get a partner than you are setting yourself up for a failure. Life is more than that
/r/PurplePillDebate29/07/25 05:22 PM
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All the male comments here and the entire “male loneliness epidemic“ discourse, and also the bitterness towards women who share their desires to remain single are sort of proof.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/07/25 05:15 PM
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Not for me it wasn’t. Its very telling and concerning if it is for you
/r/PurplePillDebate29/07/25 05:14 PM
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People gave good basic advice, so won't repeat it, but I'll share something I heard on tiktok (I know, I know) that I found quite helpful. Imagine, you get a small glimpse into the future and you are told that you won't find a partner for the rest of your life. You don't get any other information, not how your life will go, not whether you'll be happy, nothing, just that you won't end up with a long term forever partner. What would you change about your life with this knowledge? What areas will …
/r/PurplePillDebate29/07/25 04:57 PM
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Not as important as it is to single guys, in general. But everyone is different. I find that younger women are often more desperate for a relationship and validation than older women.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/07/25 04:53 PM
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parental leave in sweden started in 1974 That's there they introduced gender-neutral parental leave. They started improving benefits for parents in 90s and 2000s, which increased the birth rates. It's still below replacement level, but it slowed down population decline significantly. france has less friendly family policies than its neighbors. that's not true. Not according to my research at least
/r/PurplePillDebate18/05/25 12:01 AM
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Yeah, it's the community and not the kids. You can't force a nuclear family but expect a community. It's not the "both parents" and American individualism, it's the village.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/05/25 06:07 PM
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That’s a stretch, having kids won’t guarantee them looking after you when you retire. I’m fact I’m quite sure most don’t.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/05/25 12:41 PM
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Well you don’t just state fertility rates of those countries, you compare before and after policies were implemented. They do slow down population decline although don’t reverse it. France has higher fertility rates among other European countries due to family friendly policies. I agree having kids suck. But there are people who want kids they can’t afford, and those policies will help them.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/05/25 12:39 PM
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I don't see how it's a problem. It's a problem for capitalism that needs infinite growth, and it's funny how every time the argument is "and who's going to take care of aging population" as if they give two single shits. How about, nobody. How about we stop artificially extend the life of people who have no quality of life left.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/05/25 01:07 AM
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look supporting single mothers is practically a financial drain than an asset. Lol having children is a financial drain not an asset. If people are so concerned about declining birth rates, they should invert that narrative on the societal scale, and not leave it to "personal responsibility". Funny how it's personal responsibility until people stop having kids. Then it's somehow "the duty to society". I personally don't care about declining birth rates — I think they should decline even further …
/r/PurplePillDebate15/05/25 11:57 PM
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Younger people mostly (like under 30), and it's starting to be quite a prevailing narrative. I am chronically online and catch kind of most recent trends, but the hate and backlash not only against women who want/have kids, but even women who want to find a partner, is substantial. Like, "Be single queen, be free, don't center your life around men" — which is not incorrect advice per se, but it's such an annoying narrative.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/05/25 11:52 PM
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Centrists are righties in disguise. And girlboss era is already dead. But yeah a lot of young leftists are more like "kids are the worst choice, don't be a dummy" I don't even know how to identify group of people that think how you claim centrists think. Maybe proper educated feminists who aren't chronically online.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/05/25 11:47 PM
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Kids also were working and therefore a source of income, not expense for a family. There also was no birth control. It's a more complicated issue than you are making it.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/05/25 11:43 PM
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I'm in Canada, and these incentives are a joke for women who actually want to have kids. For the subsidized (not free) daycare you have to get on a waiting list, and it's not easy. Housing and cost of living are very expensive. I mean, there are incentives on paper but they aren't making it that easy for people to have kids. There is a correlation between a countries development and their birth rates. Of course, and "countries development" is not a single factor, but a multifaceted vague observa…
/r/PurplePillDebate15/05/25 11:41 PM
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Didn't we all cry until like 15 years ago about overpopulation bomb? And what do you think stopped it? World population didn't decline since then, in fact it increased, just slowed down.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/05/25 11:36 PM
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men do not support single motherhood and never will single mothers are not exactly suitable dating materials for a whole bunch of reason How come "support" for you means dating? Like nobody gives two shits who you are sexually attracted to. What I'm saying is that if right-wing MAGA pro-birth men are so concerned about declining birth rates, they should be advocating for single moms, for supporting them financially and socially, since every woman who wants to have a child is at risk of becoming …
/r/PurplePillDebate15/05/25 11:34 PM
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I'm not talking about women's apprehension towards having kids, which is rational, but about all the voices on the left (from a younger demographic, like 30 and below) who seem to shame and feel contempt about mothers almost as much as rightwingers, if not more. And the issue is the algorithm that just narrows down and amplifies the side you are already on. That's why the growth of tradwife movement happened, which was a backlash to the backlash, which is a fantasy narratve response to another, …
/r/PurplePillDebate15/05/25 09:56 PM
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Yeah, but there are educated women who want to have a kid, or even several, who face backlash from all sides for that. From the left for being so dumb, and from the right for daring to complain or ask for handouts.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/05/25 09:51 PM
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I'm not a centrist, I'm a leftist who is annoyed by the leftist narrative coming mostly from younger people, about how horrible, miserable motherhood is, how it's the worst choice a woman can make, how her life will stop and career will suffer. Like, I'm not saying right-wingers are correct, but there are a lot of women who are doing fine and whose life continued after having a baby.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/05/25 09:48 PM
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Yeah it's crazy how right wing redpill pro-birth MAGA crowd is so against single motherhood — while single motherhood should be something they support if they want to get women on their side. A lot of women avoid or delay motherhood because there is such a backlash against single mothers and lack of support. Every woman who has a child has a risk to become a single mother. This is such a terrifying thought for so many women that they'd rather not become mothers at all.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/05/25 09:46 PM
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Absolutely, but the backlash to that is going out of hand. It's like even the idea of having a baby is perceived as something shameful, like it's "cringe". Because I recognize how much disdain and disrespect for new mothers there is.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/05/25 09:44 PM
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Having said that, the left has more incentive and chances to push for help for mother and families. Free/subsidized health care and childcare are largely liberal ideas. Feminism discusses mothers' problems and tries to offer help on a community level, and feminism is largely liberal as well. Well, I won't expect that from right wingers. But culturally, there is such a loud backlash in leftist circles about the idea of motherhood, like it's something shameful to want and choose. Obviously I'm tal…
/r/PurplePillDebate15/05/25 09:42 PM
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I read a very interesting point, that is kinda insane, but kinda makes sense, about how birth rates declined significantly after child labour laws were implemented. When having a kid became a liability rather than financial asset. And republicans are trying to bling child labour back, which will kill two birds with one stone. I think, it's not one thing, it's a whole array of factors that are inevitable with developing society that practices more freedom and equality. We will never go back to 5 …
/r/PurplePillDebate15/05/25 09:40 PM
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I really dislike when people just blindly point at that, ignoring all the nuances, but are quiet about implications of it. There is a variety of factors that contribute to less kids, and there is evidence that population decline did slow down when the government implemented policies to support families and reduce childcare burden. Payouts don't work, but what works is free daycare, improved infrastructure and support for parents, parental leave reforms.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/05/25 09:37 PM
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I mean they don't say the quiet part out loud, that "welfare moms" = non-white moms. They shouldn't breed, we need more white babies!
/r/PurplePillDebate15/05/25 09:31 PM
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They are unfortunately, in today's perspective. The idea of "nuclear family" came from that tiny period in postwar US, which is supported by it's individualism, which has spread to the rest of the developed world. So the solution is not to promote "family values" that stinks of religious garbage and turns away women who know they are expected to be subservient in this family model. It's a top-bottom approach, where focus should be citizens and communities, not "society" which is basically econom…
/r/PurplePillDebate14/05/25 01:44 PM
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Times all men in my life were ever put at risk to protect me, in my almost 30 years of life — zero. You guys are so desperate to be victims, I can't
/r/PurplePillDebate14/05/25 01:30 PM
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Incorrect
/r/PurplePillDebate14/05/25 01:26 PM
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I'd love to have a giant bed, where I can cuddle with my partner but also be able to spread like a starfish when I sleep without making in uncomfortable for him. As for separate bedrooms, makes sense since he snores and I have a sensitive sleep, but I'd rather have him wear a nose thingy to stop snoring, and I wear earplugs. I like chatting and cuddling before bed and the thought of getting up and going to a different room sounds miserable.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/05/25 01:26 PM
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It's not what agreeableness means. It's not "agreeing with everything". It means being kind, empathetic and cooperative. Women do exhibit less manipulative traits than men, but I haven't seen any research that talks about being manipulated — probably because it's impossible to count. I don't know. But my personal experience, just looking around, seeing all those crazy and pathetic groups men fall into like incels or MGTOW alpha beta cuck, I don't see how at least that subset of desperate angry a…
/r/PurplePillDebate14/05/25 01:20 PM
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Well maybe people in power should stop societal collapse, like consider climate change or wealth inequality. Not women who need to make babies to have exponential stock growth.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/05/25 01:12 PM
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What we have today is not the alternative — it's literally the product of the economic and societal systems of the past, comping to ripe.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/05/25 01:11 PM
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Makes sense. If you had to go through literal torture to get a kid, you wouldn't want one.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/05/25 01:10 PM
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That's probably correlation. Couples where men contribute less to chores = more conservative couples. Meaning the approach where woman "must out for her man whenever he wants it". Yikes, no thanks.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/05/25 01:08 PM
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children do better in life when raised by two parents As opposed to one parent. Sure, I could tell you that having no support is tough. What's even better than 2 parents, is a community and a big support system for the parents – or a single parent. People who come from big facilities/communities, that leave together or nearby, share resources, raise kids together, seem like the best outcome, and matches our biology. Nuclear family is what makes people isolated and miserable. The shitshow we have…
/r/PurplePillDebate14/05/25 01:05 PM
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Cause they find it to be a problem when women do it, it's okay when men do it. They are terrified by the loss of control over women.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/05/25 01:01 PM
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I mean, your gloating approach "the turns table" isn't very attractive. There can be multiple reasons why you are getting more interest. The economic sentiment didn't drop so much YET to see an actual significant change in people's behaviours.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/05/25 12:58 PM
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Why would I want the society to continue much longer if it means people's suffering? We would also continue much longer if we forcefully impregnated women. If the economic model is unviable, time to change the model. Also, Japan is doing fine, for the moment. If you've actually been there, you'd seen the actual issues it has. And it's not "women party too much and don't want to breed".
/r/PurplePillDebate14/05/25 12:55 PM
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Yeah, people break under pressure, and people can be manipulated. I don't think there's a gendered difference here, it's very individual. Usually, not always, but generally more educated people are less easy to manipulate. My point is that manipulated men can cause much more harm.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/05/25 12:51 PM
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Families are good for society, and families staying together, raises good children. Turns out, depends on what you mean by family. Nuclear family model is absolutely bad for society, we have this situation today because of very strong promotion of this model, which is unnatural. The reason people are depressed, alienated and lonely is because we abandoned the community, or a huge family, all living together (or in proximity), all hanging out with each other, with every member of it getting adequ…
/r/PurplePillDebate14/05/25 12:49 PM
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Mongolia isn't an example of a country with high gender equality standards. Statistically, gender equality and women's education in particular lower fertility.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/05/25 12:38 PM
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Hm really? Are women the ones always falling for fascism?
/r/PurplePillDebate14/05/25 12:33 PM
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If people with power actually wanted to prevent collapse, they would care about all the ecological issues, as well as human rights and inequality. >hookup culture is literally a regression back to our hunter gatherer days I actually disagree, from what I learned, hunter gatherer society had pair-bonding, and generally was much more beneficial for it's people than the modern "nuclear family" unit. They worked as a commune — everyone contributed their labour, children were brought up communally, a…
/r/PurplePillDebate14/05/25 12:32 PM
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Only responsibilities I have are to myself, my family and my friends. Oh, and at work, which is a contract that I made with my employer in exchange for money. I guess I have a responsibility as a citizen, but the citizen contract is about being a decent person and not breaking the societal rules. In return I get laws, infrastructure and protection (sort of). Nothing in this contract is about reproducing. And the government isn't upholding a lot of their side of the contract, so why should I go a…
/r/PurplePillDebate14/05/25 12:51 AM
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Cheaper to pay rent if there's two of you
/r/PurplePillDebate14/05/25 12:48 AM
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I heard that too, I also heard those studies were incorrectly interpreted and to be honest I'm too lazy to do any research on my own. But from my personal experience I've seen a lesbian friend move in way too fast with several of her ex girlfriends (and then breakup 6-12 months later), so I won't be surprised if the u-haul stereotype is correct, and moving too fast into marriage is one of the reasons behind the higher divorce rates. As for M-M marriages, I assume they marry at much lower rate th…
/r/PurplePillDebate13/05/25 07:08 PM
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People like charistamic likeable people more than desperate uncharismatic people
/r/PurplePillDebate13/05/25 06:43 PM
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I mean, women, when given a choice, choose not to have children or stay married. Yeah I guess societies need to force people into shittier choices.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/05/25 06:38 PM
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Ok I'll spell it out for you in simple terms, since you clearly have no grasp on these not so complicated concepts. OP replies to men whining about not being able to find a date/partner: improve yourself. Men not being able to find partners: noooo but but women are shit, they should improve. See the difference? Which group is demanding another group to be with them, give them attention and affection? I don't see women here whining and complaining about how terrible men are because they don't wan…
/r/PurplePillDebate28/02/25 03:21 PM
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No idea, but I don't see thousands of women whining and complaining how terrible men don't want to date them
/r/PurplePillDebate28/02/25 03:03 PM
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Yeah, just terrible women you happened to date. Sour grapes at its finest
/r/PurplePillDebate28/02/25 02:55 PM
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Yeah, they are wrong and bitter. You are the common denominator. If everyone around you smells like shit, then it's probably you who shat his pants.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/02/25 02:50 PM
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So seeing these flaws with dating apps, why can't you see that the same thing applies to women? That they have the same issues with dating? Its not just you, you are not that unique. Algorithm affects everyone. Yeah it's easier as a woman to get matches, but like 80% of them go nowhere, people aren't that motivated on each side. Yet people manage to build connections even with dating apps, it's just a much bigger pool and different rules. You know, if a fat person was whining in the comment why …
/r/PurplePillDebate28/02/25 02:43 PM
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many look at me like I'm a serial killer Gee, I wonder why. I don't see anything shallow about it, people sense something off about you and their instinct is to stay away. Maybe look inwards. I can tell from reading a few of your comments why people don't want to put an effort to make a connection with you. Because you are bitter and resentful, because you clearly despise people you say you want a connection with. People sense that. I don't know what result you are expecting with this attitude. …
/r/PurplePillDebate28/02/25 02:34 PM
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I did read the post, I was just flabbergasted by your comment. Your hypothetical successful man won't have problems finding dates that HE is attracted to, and if he can't for whatever reason, he sounds like he'd have enough self respect and self-sufficiency to not settle for someone who doesn't match him. If you go outside you'll see that most successful men in fact do date and get into relationships with women who match their level. Also going abroad, yikes. It's like admitting, nobody likes me…
/r/PurplePillDebate28/02/25 02:30 PM
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The way you describe the relationships is just 1:1 how I saw all those women complain about their situationships. At this point I don't even believe love bombing exists. In the initial stages of a relationship you have a crush on the idea of the person in your head, and then learn about them. Maybe they didn't like what they learned. Maybe they weren't ready for the intensity you brought. Maybe they were flaky, I don't know, but the reality was that they liked you less at some point and left. I …
/r/PurplePillDebate28/02/25 02:22 PM
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God your second sentence is just oozing resentment, together with jealousy. You can't simultaneously look up on women like they are some unattainable deity, and also detest them, and expect to build an actual connection with one. If all you say is true, then your issue is that you don't see women as people. Trust me, it's extremely noticeable when a guy has these weird narratives in his mind. Its very off-putting, I don't know if he's a very shy person, or will murder me and wear my skin, so I s…
/r/PurplePillDebate28/02/25 02:10 PM
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I mean, the private prison complex needs its unpaid labour. Sadly, men keep voting Republican, that will only worsen the situation.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/02/25 02:05 PM
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There's no hypocrisy in the advice, unless you believe that doing all that will automatically make hot model chicks chase you. It won't and you know it. If you can't see beyond your resentment towards women then think of a context of a friendship, or a job search. If someone says to you, I can't seem to find friends, they are all shallow idiots, then you'd tell them - make yourself more likeable, more interesting, put an effort into dressing nicely and being clean, but also develop other interes…
/r/PurplePillDebate28/02/25 01:59 PM
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Nobody is demanding anything from you, you don't have to entertain a hypothetical woman who aren't attracted to or respect.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/02/25 01:47 PM
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You sound like you hyper focus on a potential partner and develop codependency quite quickly. You'd be shocked how common it is among women - I feel like much more so then for men, like if you get to the female tiktok and listen to all the "men suck, he was avoidant, emotionally unavailable" - it's the exact situation like yours, getting too much into someone who's not that much into you (not yet, or just not). Been there, done that. You aren't the only heartbroken person here. Read the breakups…
/r/PurplePillDebate28/02/25 01:46 PM
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Your problem dude is that you pretend to decenter women while still think of everything you do through the lens of women. "Do you think it will buy me any goodwill from women?" First of all, yes, people love people who are passionate about things, and despite what many here think, women are people. And fixing vintage vehicles is quite cool and a real useful skill. Second of all, who cares if a certain woman likes that? You do it for you. Self improvement is for yourself, to make you a more confi…
/r/PurplePillDebate28/02/25 01:37 PM
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As a woman who was dating quite a lot, in my experience most men on dating apps I've talked to aren't necessarily terrible but meh, uninteresting, not good enough as potential partners - for me personally. I don't think most people aren't terrible in general, women just didn't like you, so you grew bitter. That's a clear way to be even more disliked by them.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/02/25 01:31 PM
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Then nothing will work, you just have to give up
/r/PurplePillDebate28/02/25 01:25 PM
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"Everyone agrees" lmao no they don't, maybe weird guys here do. I don't, neither do a shit ton of people
/r/PurplePillDebate28/02/25 01:23 PM
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It's a good topic for infuriating someone, but I can't disagree, from my own experience. I myself have witnessed the transformation of a man's life from an older nerd virgin to a dude with a hot girlfriend, once he stopped feeling sorry about himself (the situation was more severe than that and was causing him psychosomatic issues), went to the gym, got some direction in life, fixed relationships with his family. Like yeah, everyone has to step up if they aren't happy with their lives. So far, m…
/r/PurplePillDebate28/02/25 01:21 PM
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Nope, I always had sex quite early, like date 3-5 with a few exceptions. I'm very horny with a new crush. I didn't require anything, he put effort because he liked me. Every relationship starts as a casual relationship and then it can develop into something more.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/02/25 01:04 PM
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Yes
/r/PurplePillDebate28/02/25 02:47 AM
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Wow, can't believe I have to explain this. Context matters. A woman may fantasize about having 5 men rape her. It's in her head, she is actually safe. But if she's on the street cornered by 5 men, she is terrified. If you don't understand what a fantasy is, then I can't help you.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/02/25 01:11 AM
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If your worldview hinges on "men are helpless slaves to their testosterone and women are cold, calculating puppet masters" then maybe consider: a) talking to actual women instead of crafting weird conspiracy theories. b) checking your own internalized misandry. I know plenty of men who aren’t mindless sex zombies. c) looking inward, because this post screams personal crisis and some deep weird jealousy towards women. Like, are you mad at men, or at us, that we’re not constantly thinking about yo…
/r/PurplePillDebate28/02/25 01:00 AM
1

God you are so emotional, chill.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/02/25 08:57 PM
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The first study doesn't say what you claim in the slightest. Read it, it's in the first paragraph
/r/PurplePillDebate27/02/25 08:55 PM
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What a weird definition of husband material you have. I swear sometimes it feels like you guys are deliberately trying to make yourself feel worse. Despite me imagining marrying every single one of my crushes/exes, the first time I felt like someone is "husband material" was when I felt truly safe with the guy (who is also my current boyfriend). By safe, I mean: there was nothing to be anxious about (he didn't trigger my anxious attachment, and was responsible to all the requests for communicati…
/r/PurplePillDebate27/02/25 08:19 PM
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My experience was fine, especially with time when I got s bit more experience, recognized what I'm looking for and learned to see the markers of undesirable qualities for me, and unmatched/blocked them immediately instead of "giving them a chance" and dragging it out. Found a few short term relationships and situationships, several friendships, and my current boyfriend. Had my fair share of heartbreaks and pain, as is usual in life. I mean, it's just a tool, so it's about how you use it.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/02/25 08:05 PM
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Yeah I can also cherrypick cases where rapists are walking free because of their bright future, get great jobs or even become presidents. As for the crimes, there are many other factors that affect sentence length than the type of crime. And none of this has anything to do with the topic in question. Again, show me one famous man who got his career ruined because of 1 accusation.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/02/25 08:02 PM
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Prove it. In my experience it's the opposite. Not only it's shameful to say something like that, and most people don't, but everyone goes on to defend the guy.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/02/25 07:51 PM
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Funny enough just like you I'm not interested in wasting my time reading 6000 pages, and just like you, make conclusions from someone else doing the work. But my conclusions come from more or less established publications, who sort of have some kind of journalistic responsibility and editors, even to protect from potential lawsuits. Your conclusions come from "xanonunknown" - whoever that is, yeah I'm sorry if I don't care to believe an anonymous twitter account with 600 followers, whose only in…
/r/PurplePillDebate27/02/25 07:42 PM
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Yeah you clearly haven't heard a bunch of Depp fanboys pooling together to pay to reveal sealed court documents and then quietly pretending they didn't, since it just confirms the abuse. I knew it will happen during the case, I mean if men would point a dude to call a great person, why Johny fucking Depp, who was notorious for being an alcoholic and bankrupting himself because of frivolous bullshit expenses? The fact that you STILL think that case was fair, and Amber heard is the abuser, just pr…
/r/PurplePillDebate27/02/25 06:01 PM
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My research came from tiktoks I watched lol, but I followed that ticktoker with a weird name, who is a scientist researching human mating behavior, he's quite famous. I find the results to generally follow what I've been suspecting anyway, and don't adhere to particular ideology. I mean sure, but if you look at famous people for example, it's a small minority of men who marry trophy wives. Status matters, having similar education, worldview matters, being able to have a bond and a conversation m…
/r/PurplePillDebate27/02/25 05:52 PM
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Men do care about women's career, research shows. They just think they don't. Similarly, women care about men's looks much more than they think. There is a reason people generally date and marry someone of their own social status.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/02/25 05:41 PM
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If society forces male abusers to recognize their actions etc, I don't see it working because abusers still exist. Honestly, I see the opposite happening of what you just said, I see people defending men to death, while jumping to any opportunity to villanize women. Most people still believe Amber Heard was the abuser and Johnny Depp was a poor victim lol, despite all the shit that came out after. Sure, most celebrities quietly withdraw their support, but it wasn't public whatsoever. And I don't…
/r/PurplePillDebate27/02/25 05:32 PM
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Abusers don't see themselves as abusers lol
/r/PurplePillDebate27/02/25 05:04 PM
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It is a compliment AND the way it's worded in that post is in very bad taste. No shit he'd be upset about it. Sounds like a very backhanded compliment, if she even meant it that way.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/02/25 04:42 PM
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Few points. Some people are good at dating. After some time on dating apps I learned that the best dating profiles are never the best guys to date. Obviously these people will get more dating experience, just like some people are naturally more personable, have an easier time finding friends, or good at job interviews. I heard this joke from some comedian, and came to fully agree with it. Women have to go through that high school relationship at some point, and if they don't do it at high school…
/r/PurplePillDebate27/02/25 04:38 PM
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