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Nonconsensual pornography refers to the distribution of sexual or pornographic images of individuals without their consent. This may include images taken without consent or images taken with consent but later distributed without the consent of those in the images. These images are sometimes referred to as revenge porn. In March 2022, as part of the Violence Against Women Act Reauthorization Act of 2022, Congress first passed a federal law on this subject, allowing an individual to file a federal…
/r/Divorce_Men26/06/24 12:31 PM
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Seriously. During our separation my ex went on binges of railing against me and my family online and claiming abuse (to deflect from her affair. I guess the best defense is a good offense). I’m glad most of our mutual friends saw right through it and I never said a word let alone air anything publicly. I got the impression most people thought she was full of shit, rightfully so
/r/Divorce_Men05/03/24 05:19 PM
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50lbs in 2 months? Just want to say make sure you’re taking care of yourself my man. Losing weight is great but losing it at too high a rate can be dangerous.
/r/Divorce_Men04/03/24 01:50 PM
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I’d add to this, you should expect he may have trouble being open. I’ve seen the same story a thousand times including my own where the things we did open up to our exes about were ruthlessly weaponized against us. Having your closest confident betray your trust like that is pretty awful
/r/Divorce_Men29/02/24 12:38 AM
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Hey man, almost identical story. 32 here, was with my ex since freshman year. Lived together since we graduated and married 7 years, found out about the affair after she left. I ended up filing. I kept the house but still stayed with my sister for a few months just for support so I can relate. Did therapy for a few months and I musta been lucky because he was actually pretty good. It was helpful for those few months but I’m also happy now without it. All I can say is it does get better and I’m o…
/r/Divorce_Men30/01/24 12:05 AM
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Dude, fuck your friend. That’s not a friend. That’s a piece of shit
/r/Divorce_Men18/12/23 05:51 PM
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Did you outright buy the house or do you have a mortgage? If you just put a down payment pre-marriage but have been continuing to pay down principal while being married, she may well legally have a claim to some equity in the house, even if she didn’t contribute a dime. How assets are split very much depends on what state you file. I would definitely talk to a lawyer. I bought my house before I married but continued paying the mortgage into the marriage. My state has equitable distribution so ba…
/r/Divorce_Men14/12/23 03:06 PM
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Does she think that if she forecloses, the value of the house will drop enough for her to buy it outright? It depends on your market but at least here in the states, people don’t really get deals on foreclosed homes anymore. Maybe I’m not understanding but her strategy doesn’t make any sense
/r/Divorce_Men12/12/23 02:45 PM
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Is the mortgage in her name only? Wouldn’t a foreclosure absolutely wreck her credit?
/r/Divorce_Men12/12/23 02:41 PM
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Filing also doesn’t necessarily mean you initiated the divorce. Wife walked out on me unexpectedly but wouldn’t clarify if it was temporary separation or what. I tried reconciling, up until I discovered she was seeing someone. Tried settling but she didn’t answer for months at a time so I filed a complaint on grounds of adultery and desertion and they’ve finally agreed to settle. So while I didn’t initially want the divorce, I was the one who ultimately filed
/r/Divorce_Men09/10/23 02:54 PM
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It also bars alimony
/r/Divorce_Men01/10/23 10:51 PM
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I’d caution you against this. Some states do not recognize legal separation, such as Virginia. In those states, you are either married or you are not. So a sexual relationship during a ‘separation’ is very much considered adultery and can have consequences on things such as alimony etc. Be sure to look up the law in the state (if you are US) you plan to file in.
/r/Divorce_Men25/09/23 01:33 PM
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Yep. I’ve been a solid sleeper my hole life but couldn’t sleep more than 2 hours the first 3 months after and couldn’t eat. Lost 30 lbs in 2 months. Came back probably 3 or 4 months after that
/r/Divorce_Men17/09/23 03:03 AM
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In my state (Va) savings accounts are split based on the value at separation. Retirement and brockerage accounts are split as the value at separation +/- gains/losses derived from that value only, and not and principle contributions or gains therefrom after separation. Can’t speak towards other states. I will say it’s important to set up another savings account right after separation and direct deposit to that account and don’t intermingle with anything else
/r/Divorce_Men11/09/23 08:10 PM
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I had two, first charged, second didn’t. Went with the second but not cause he didn’t charge for the consult. I liked him cuz he wasn’t afraid to tell me what I didn’t want to hear. I’m in sales so I’d like to think I can see through bull shit and he was straight forward. Didn’t pretend to be my buddy but just a straight professional who knows 99% how things will shake out if things went to court
/r/Divorce_Men10/09/23 08:33 PM
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Conventional loans do not offer an option for assumption but other types do
/r/Divorce_Men31/08/23 06:02 PM
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My understanding is she would have every right to demand I take her off the loan because it impacts her ability to get a line of credit
/r/Divorce_Men30/08/23 01:05 AM
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Good for you man! Happy to hear that. I’m probably going from a 3.0% to 7.5% but it is what it is
/r/Divorce_Men29/08/23 06:20 PM
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What sort of loan do you have that they’re letting you assume the loan? Mine would not but it’s conventional loan.
/r/Divorce_Men29/08/23 06:12 PM
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FYI for some folks this may or may not be applicable. Look up if your state is equitable distribution and if so, what general calculation they use. I know a few use the Brandenburg Rule. This can save you quite a bit in terms of buy out if you made payments before marriage or after separation. Obviously your lawyer should be well aware of this as well but if you’re in the early stages, track down all your mortgage statements and down payment records as they can be harder to get as the years go b…
/r/Divorce_Men06/07/23 12:46 PM
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I mean, I’m not. Just look at my comment history. My point was OPs girlfriend likely had feelings of embarrassment for having been cheated on and still, at that time, wanting to be with her then husband. Having been cheated on by my ex wife I can understand that feeling. I didn’t tell a soul about my wife’s infidelity for 5 years, partially as to not destroy her relationship with my family but also subconsciously as the embarrassment I felt from it. I understand now I had nothing to be embarrass…
/r/Divorce_Men02/07/23 05:41 PM
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I might have a different take than some others. I think it’s Incredibly invasive to have looked through her computer and specifically things regarding her divorce. So, if I read it correctly, her husband cheated on her with a close friend of hers? Being cheated on as a married person is a horrible feeling. She may have initially wanted to stay with him after that happened and she probably feels embarrassed by that fact.
/r/Divorce_Men02/07/23 02:27 PM
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Right you are!
/r/Divorce_Men15/06/23 08:57 PM
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In a case like that, if your state allows at fault it may be worth considering. If you unwittingly financed her affair and trips, you may very well be entitled to reimbursement for those costs. Please do yourself a favor and document as much as possible and speak to a lawyer. Sorry for all that you are going through. No one believes it at first and nor did I, but it does get better
/r/Divorce_Men15/06/23 05:39 PM
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I’d keep him on your 50th birthday, especially since you already had plans. As a way to get over the conflict your ex contrived, you could plan something fun with your son and his friends on another day. I’d say stick to your guns. You give an inch and she’ll take a mile. Don’t negotiate with terrorists
/r/Divorce_Men11/06/23 10:47 PM
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Yea have to agree with some of the others. Cheating doesn’t make you a bad person but I really disagree with blaming others. My wife cheated and originally tried to say the other person took advantage of her emotional state, and then of course as we are divorcing she now says it’s my fault etc etc. If you need to get your D wet, then get divorced before you do. Simple as that
/r/Divorce_Men06/06/23 06:12 PM
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Sounds like sound logic to me! But didn’t stop my wife from blaming me for her cheating
/r/Divorce_Men31/05/23 03:01 PM
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I’ll be honest, finding out my wife was having an affair after she left actually made it so much easier to let go. Was one of the best gifts she could have given me
/r/Divorce_Men31/05/23 02:25 PM
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I believe it depends on the state (if you are US). For Virginia, adultery can absolutely bar you from alimony.
/r/Divorce_Men02/05/23 12:19 PM
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