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5

You clearly missed the sarcasm in that comment, despite it being pretty clearly evidenced by the "this in a nutshell is how screwed up our system is...." followed by an emphasis on how the kid, by virtue of being a dude, could easily be pegged as both victim and perp by the same law.
/r/MensRights20/09/17 12:45 PM
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I'm not a lawyer, but you might want to consider this a huge victory and just walk away from it. In some states the only requirement to establish legal (not to be confused with biological) paternity, and thus put court-ordered child support on the table, is to list a man's name on a child's birth certificate. At best, perhaps a visit to the JAG to explore your options would be in order.
/r/MensRights31/01/16 05:31 AM
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Not a week goes by in which we don't hear a story about a female teacher sexually abusing a student. But if I advocate for home schooling, or enrolling my son in a private school dominated by male teachers, I'm suddenly some right-wing, religious nutjob.
/r/MensRights27/04/14 05:59 PM
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Interestingly, he's the same columnist whose wife recently wrote "Men On Strike".
/r/TheRedPill05/12/13 05:49 PM
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She's already got a perjury conviction under her belt.
/r/MensRights11/09/13 02:36 AM
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Thank you. I feel dumb now. I've actively been searching for the term, and there it was right in front of me.
/r/TheRedPill27/08/13 08:14 PM
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While we're at it... I've been too embarrassed to ask, but can someone explain "hamster" to me?
/r/TheRedPill27/08/13 04:28 PM
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I think MRAs still believe in "the system", and that if they just talk about injustice long enough it will be corrected. I disagree (politely, of course). Like most other MRAs I've interacted with, it was my intimate experience with a lopsided court system/culture that made me aware of its existence. This is a nascent movement and, as such, it's primary focus is in convincing ourselves that we're not crazy, that we're not alone, and that we're not advocating for something ridiculous. Consider it…
/r/TheRedPill17/08/13 05:26 AM
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That child belongs to the community, not (just) the parents. Yours is a terrifying worldview. Please kill yourself.
/r/MensRights30/06/13 11:02 PM
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Juries are the final check and balance in the legal system. Judges and prosecutors can hate it all they want, but so what? In my experience, judges are forbidden from questioning jurors about their decision after deliberations have concluded. So unless you're exceedingly injudicious (heh) with what you say outside of the jury room, vote your conscience.
/r/MensRights27/05/13 05:34 AM
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It's ridiculously easy to make it through viore dire even when the question of nullification comes up from one of the case's attorneys... and you don't have to lie. I was on a jury last month and the prosecutor point blank asked if any of us were aware of "nullification" and if we supported the idea. I raised my hand, answered her few questions honestly ("no victim, no crime"), and was still selected for the jury. Two years prior I made it onto a jury for a narcotics case. The question of nullif…
/r/MensRights27/05/13 05:29 AM
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It's true. Source: The number of Canadian flags sewn onto Canadians' jackets and backpacks. If we're so different, why do they need to advertise the fact?
/r/MensRights23/05/13 01:03 AM
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Oh, I totally read it as him calling women on their bullshit. I think we're just seeing two different types of women. Actually, you've introduced a third type who couches her behavior by claiming victimization at the hands of a man. The first type is a self-aware, sexual creature who knows what a man is. She views seduction as neither negative nor positive; it's simply the social construct with which a sexual liaison is initiated. She doesn't "allow" herself to be seduced because she's a willing…
/r/TheRedPill21/05/13 08:31 PM
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I like your take on this, but can't help with being stuck with the imagery from the first line of the quote of a stuffy, frustrated woman who decides that the problem isn't that she's undesirable, it's that she just doesn't want any man to do any of that perverted sex stuff to her, or anyone else for that matter. And maybe that says more about me than it does about the hypothetical woman in the discussion.
/r/TheRedPill21/05/13 07:50 PM
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I think he was more into the "no true Scotsman" line of thinking. Woman: "No woman would actually allow herself to be seduced by a man." Man: "Yeah. Except for your girlfriend over there. I did everything you purport to hate, and seduced the panties right off of her." Woman:"Well, no true woman would ever allow herself to actually be seduced by a man." He's subtly implying that "right thinking" women are deluding themselves.
/r/TheRedPill21/05/13 04:22 PM
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You forgot any matters related to the military.
/r/MensRights16/05/13 04:43 AM
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I've not the faintest clue about the state of family courts in SA, but I'm going to assume that it's similar to just about every other western nation. There's little to no support for single fathers, and custody issues can quickly become bitter and extremely acrimonious. By which I mean, I feel your pain, man. Your ex is likely aware that she doesn't need one sweeping victory to win. All she needs to do is bide her time and wear you down. As one of the lucky ones who was awarded custody of his k…
/r/MensRights24/04/13 05:11 PM
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Holy hell... this could have been two actors re-enacting the circumstances around my divorce. Fellas, a woman who's about to sever a relationship will pull no punches. She'll be egged on by her friends, her family, her attorney, and her understanding of how our culture views these things. If you fail to gather concrete evidence for fear of violating wiretapping laws you will be crushed. It's like avoiding fighting a DUI charge so you can instead focus on getting that citation for not wearing you…
/r/MensRights12/04/13 12:45 AM
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If she's got a personality disorder she's likely convinced that she's the only one in the entire mess who's acting rationally.
/r/MensRights15/01/13 07:10 PM
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Put that passion into healing herself. A fundamental symptom of a borderline or narcissistic personality is that it's never their fault. As a general rule borderlines won't ever seek out therapy for themselves. If they do it's only because they've found the ability to look at their behavior objectively.
/r/MensRights15/01/13 07:09 PM
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And file a formal motion with the court to have her undergo a psych eval. If your ex really is a borderline personality (and from my own experience it sounds very much like she is, and so much more) you're facing an uphill battle.
/r/MensRights15/01/13 07:06 PM
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You're doing awesome, man. You're not just a dad, or a father, or a sperm donor to your kid. You're his daddy. You're his hero and you're his number one guy. I wish I could reach out and give you a man-hug. This is what victory looks like for guys like us. I hope that we're the vanguard of a cultural shift in views toward dads/single dads, but until then we have to endure those panicked moments when we see a cop walking toward us ("Oh shit... am I about to get served with a subpoena or warrant?"…
/r/MensRights15/01/13 07:04 PM
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It's worth pointing this out... in the US family court matters are distinct from the criminal courts. That is, it's a civil matter and the burden of proof and rules of evidence are a lot more relaxed than they would be in a criminal prosecution. I've talked in other threads about how recording my ex and keylogging our home computer not only kept me out of jail but also helped me to win custody of my son. The very last thing I was worried about was falling afoul of wiretapping laws because, at th…
/r/MensRights23/12/12 03:29 PM
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I won custody of my then two-year old, and while there's plenty of harsh truth in most of the replies I hope you don't abandon the custody fight. First rule of business: behave as though a judge is watching you 24/7. Don't do anything that could even be mistakenly construed as stupid. From now until the judge's ruling, you are a Boy Scout poster boy. Don't risk so much as a speeding ticket (and please, if you're gonna commiserate over drinks, have a DD). You've got a lawyer already. Listen to hi…
/r/MensRights20/12/12 08:48 AM
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No. No. No. I know your heart's in the right place but this is bad advice. IANAL, but recording calls between my ex and I proved to be the second most valuable tool in my winning custody. Agreed, there are some matters of wiretapping law that you should consult your attorney about. But there is a greatly diminished expectation of privacy amongst married couples, and the instant you can bring any doubt into a judge's mind about your ex's behavior the odds swing in your favor. Keylogging a shared …
/r/MensRights08/11/12 03:40 AM
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Start recording every conversation with her. And don't listen to anyone without a law degree who cautions you about potential violations of wiretapping laws. This is an abusive relationship and whatever you can do to extricate yourself from it and protect yourself from further attacks is fair game.
/r/MensRights31/10/12 03:03 PM
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Someone posted in the other thread that often statutes of limitations don't kick in until the victim reaches the age of consent (IANAL). Regardless, I suspect that if there were a DA who chose to investigate this, and if that DA chose to then pursue charges, the fact that the abuse occurred over a span of years and the rapist has demonstrated zero remorse would be a huge factor in how the charges were applied.
/r/MensRights17/10/12 05:18 AM
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Don't sweat it. Anyone who's come out of an abusive relationship with a BPD (or any personality disorder) person will hopefully realize two very important things: 1. Your conditioning as a male in contemporary culture set you up for failure, and 2. a direct result of that is that you likely embraced some degree of co-dependency in your relationships. It sounds to me as though the relationship you just escaped prompted you to hit the reset button on your expectations and the acceptable costs of a…
/r/MensRights08/10/12 09:41 AM
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I'm sorry you've had to/are going through this, man. It seems like you acted utterly rationally so big props to you for that. As others have said, it's time to retain an attorney. Even if you have zero intention of ever filing a single motion, affidavit or complaint, spend a bit upfront so that you know your rights.
/r/MensRights25/08/12 01:23 AM
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It'd be interesting if a well-funded organization could FOIA the results of every court evaluators' reports from the last 20 or so years. I imagine there'd be an obvious pattern contained in them.
/r/MensRights04/08/12 12:19 PM
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Juries also do this. A buddy of mine who's a criminal defender will, with almost no prompting, go into a finely tuned rant about how every juror believes they're CSI-material after watching season after season of legal dramas.
/r/MensRights02/08/12 02:56 AM
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Please see it from a strangers perspective... No. And fuck you for suggesting that. I'll see it from the perspective of a father who, like millions of other fathers, has never done a single thing to threaten a child. I'll see it from the perspective of a mere "civilian" who takes offense that this cop proceeded to lecture the dad for not being obsequious enough to show gratitude for the harassment. I'll see it from the perspective of one who cherishes his natural rights to go about unmolested by…
/r/MensRights01/08/12 04:02 AM
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I like this. Start with the Texas AG and include the presiding judge. Start a (very polite) letter-writing campaign. See if there are any interested media outlets. This is a great chance for MR folks to put on their best face and defeat this with overwhelming input that's not of the crazy-pissed-off-guy stripe.
/r/MensRights29/07/12 12:55 AM
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This is really a local matter, but oftentimes the minute divorce papers are filed the jurisdiction it's filed in issues an automatic bar against transporting minor children out of state for any reason. In my case, when I filed for divorce the court issued a prohibition against taking my son out of the county. Granted, my ex was in a position, and quite likely to take him across country... but the precedent is there. My attorney even mentioned that she'd seen a number of custody arrangements in w…
/r/MensRights29/07/12 12:48 AM
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I live in a single-party consent state, but my ex and her attorney actually had the gall to petition the court to have me arrested for violation of federal wiretapping statutes. The short version is that I was very much in a situation like the story linked, and actually did have an order of protection served against me. Fortunately, beginning on the day my ex punched me and I ended up dialing 911 I had some mechanism on me to record every interaction with my ex. By the time we wound up in court …
/r/MensRights12/06/12 01:17 PM
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This comment allegedly posted by the sister of one of these despicable cunts was posted less than an hour ago: I'm sorry, but the women should NOT be charged. The one in the back right seat is my sister; they did nothing wrong except tell a little white lie. The guy was being a huge jackass and not allowing them to smoke...like wtf? They went to Club Hyde and their night was ruined because of the jackass. They've received more than a just punishment because there's a posted Youtube video used t…
/r/MensRights28/05/12 03:41 AM
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I'm American, and lived in the UK for nearly 8 years. I had the rare privilege of enjoying the services of the NHS and the US military healthcare system. A hospital outside of Edinburgh was the only medical facility I've ever been to in the world where care was delayed until I could provide assurance that I was solvent enough to cover the care. And that was just for a few packets of rehydration salts and some aspirin. So yeah, the US healthcare system sucks because it's not funded by an exorbita…
/r/MensRights27/05/12 03:03 AM
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Can you sue a public defender for malpractice?
/r/MensRights25/05/12 07:12 AM
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I think the suicide statistics would suggest otherwise. Divorce for men is a brutal game of survival in which every player is out for blood, while for women it's a game show with lots of fabulous prizes and cash money. And a pre-nup is exactly worth the paper it's printed on. All it takes is a judge with an attitude to render the whole thing null and void.
/r/MensRights17/05/12 04:14 AM
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This. I'm not sure that you have any reasonable recourse through either the police or the criminal courts (I mean, sure, there's probably some legal recourse, but that assumes that the police/courts will actually act on your behalf). I think the best course of action is to get at least an affidavit on your attorney's letterhead notarized and filed with the presiding judge. As the dad you're forced into playing the long game, which means the burden is upon you to demonstrate patterns of behavior.…
/r/MensRights13/05/12 11:53 PM
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Do what I do: chuckle grimly at the idea that people think we're going to vote ourselves into a state of enlightenment.
/r/MensRights07/05/12 07:33 AM
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Can't upvote this enough. Words of wisdom: women will, either of their own volition or on the advice of their attorney, play this game solely to get your ass locked up.
/r/MensRights14/03/12 03:05 AM
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"Command + F" ....and.... yep. Everything here is as it should be.
/r/MensRights14/03/12 03:02 AM
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Except that there is. It's akin to all the Facebook chatter I see about this year's elections. People still think we can vote ourselves out of this mess. Do you really think we're going to legislate a better climate for those of us born penis'ed? If you do... God bless you and good luck. Personally I see this as a two-pronged movement: 1. we need to alter the cultural perception of what it is to "be a man", and 2. we need to alter the risk/reward ratio that our current lawmakers, courts, and enf…
/r/MensRights12/03/12 03:17 PM
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Revenue Minister Peter Dunne said he was also unable to talk about Mr Anscombe's situation, but added he was very concerned and had asked the department for an urgent report on the case. Look, everyone! There's nothing to worry about. The Inland Revenue dude asked for an urgent report, not just a regular "whenever you get around to it" report. So we know he's taking this very seriously and everything will soon be in order.
/r/MensRights12/03/12 02:50 PM
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Amen to that. I worried that my reply would come across as pedantic because I think I get where you're coming from... that a mechanism exists for either party to seek spousal support. My only quibble is that support isn't an entitlement. It's simply regarded as such where women are concerned because they're so wildly successful at getting judges to award it. Thinking further on this I was considering my own situation. I'm a dude who was awarded primary custody of a special needs two year old (no…
/r/MensRights11/03/12 12:01 AM
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There are very few hard and fast rules in the family court system, and very few of them insist on entitlements of any sort for either party. While the legal framework may allow a man to seek and be awarded spousal support from his ex, there is no legal entitlement for it per se. If there were an actual legal entitlement you'd see a whole lot more men (and I mean orders of magnitude more men) getting an alimony check every month.
/r/MensRights10/03/12 11:22 PM
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Just curious... why the caveat? Had she been a fit parent, and all other things being equal, would you argue that she should've been awarded custody?
/r/MensRights04/02/12 05:54 AM
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HAHAHAHAHA!!! ORLY? Have you ever been the husband in a divorce/custody battle? Because lemme let you in on a little secret: her lawyers will do EVERYTHING conceivable to attack his character. The playing field is so uneven, the precedents so outlandish, that any guy who puts his attorneys on a short leash is just asking to be fucked by the courts.
/r/MensRights04/02/12 05:48 AM
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From my own experience, had I paid closer attention to the dynamic in my ex in-laws' marriage I would've known to run far and run fast. My ex father in law, while a bright and motivated individual, was absolutely subservient in every way to his wife. My ex mother in law, while a sociable and pleasant enough person, was absolutely self-absorbed and utterly unable to comprehend that her actions could affect the people around her. I'd also caution to look at your future wife's relationship with her…
/r/MensRights26/01/12 11:27 PM
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I don't have any cites to give you, and I know anecdote does not equal data, but it makes sense to me. When I headed into my custody fight I was fortunate enough to know several folks who'd formerly worked with the family courts in my area. Each of them, most of whom are incidentally women, stated identical numbers for this jurisdiction. The challenge in making sense of it all is that we have to understand that most fathers still don't seek custody simply because they assume/are advised that it'…
/r/MensRights15/12/11 07:19 AM
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It's one of my few gifts :D
/r/MensRights08/12/11 06:24 AM
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Thank God that the courts will see this for what it truly is: a mental health issue. That poor young woman got her heart broken and reacted in the only way she knew how. It really wasn't her fault, ya know? They'll give her a token probationary period, send her to "anger management counseling" (lololol...whatever that is) and in a year her record will be squeaky clean. That asshole who cheated on her though? A public ass-whoopin' was too good for him. String him up by his nuts and let the feral …
/r/MensRights06/12/11 06:15 PM
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Sorry to piggyback on this excellent comment, but OP... listen to the man. Request a psych eval; bilateral (meaning you both undergo one) if necessary. Your therapist's testimony may carry some weight if they've provided services to the gold digger, but having an actual MD conduct a series of standardized tests which actually include a diagnosis of BPD will be a huge boon to you. I speak from experience. My ex requested a psych eval on me, I agreed with the condition that it be bilateral, and lo…
/r/MensRights08/11/11 01:13 AM
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If you're being uncouth then so am I! I was surprised to see that thread go to the front page, but crossed my fingers that r/MR would see it and infuse it with some hard stats.
/r/MensRights02/11/11 09:57 PM
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Big (manly) internet hug! Congrats, dude!
/r/MensRights05/10/11 02:55 PM
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Great advice (as well as the other posts). Especially this: Never, ever, move out of the house. In most jurisdictions that equals automatic abandoment which equals automatic loss of custodial rights. I'll add my normal two cents... If you have a smartphone download the Qik app or something similar. Use it to record every interaction with your spouse. Lemme repeat that- record every interaction with your spouse. If you don't have a smartphone get yourself to Target or Wal-Mart and snag a Flip cam…
/r/MensRights05/10/11 02:54 PM
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Excellent point. The problems lies in the fact that at least in the US married people enjoy an enormous set of "rights" and "privileges" that are not extended to single people or same-sex couples. What this really is is a great argument against the idea of involving the government in marriage (or civil unions) at all. If two or more consenting adults of any sex/gender wish to combine their lives, let it be done via a civil contract, and only involve the courts for serious breaches of that contra…
/r/MensRights02/10/11 04:14 AM
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I read the brief and it's breathtaking in its callousness. As far as "becoming an orwellian cesspool"... I submit that we're already neck-deep in it. "Land of the free" is anachronistic. "Land of the free- until-you're-finally-caught-in-the-legislative-dragnet" would be more accurate.
/r/MensRights28/09/11 04:02 AM
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My thoughts exactly. And I love how the headline suggests the assault occurred after the spat. As if it were just an amusing afterthought.
/r/MensRights25/09/11 03:30 AM
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Ooh... I dunno, man (about the phone). I'd call Telus and ask (maybe they can auto-forward SMS to your phone or an e-mail account?). Barring that depending on the phone there are software tools you can buy that will basically dump the core files from the phone to your PC/Mac. You might be getting into some odd legal territory there, and those tools usually require you to have at least temporary access to the phone so you can install the app/software. Some of 'em are designed explicitly to track …
/r/MensRights14/09/11 05:30 PM
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Good call on the Google docs... I was gonna advise that you keep this stuff somewhere in the cloud but you grokked that right out of the gate :D As for recording, I never really found an easy way. I actually carried the Flip camera with me and my iPhone and ran both simultaneously because... well... I dunno why. Paranoia? The iPhone's voice recorder worked brilliantly even when shoved into the pocket of my cargo shorts. If it becomes really too burdensome I'd suggest just trying to ensure that y…
/r/MensRights14/09/11 05:13 PM
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I'm sorry, man. Really. You're about to get a whole new perspective on life and I genuinely hope it's a positive one despite the stress it'll cause. I've been there and it sucks, but it's not all doom and gloom. First, you will get through this. That's your new mantra. Repeat it all day every day, "I will get through this." Second, talk to an attorney so that you understand your rights and your obligations. Some very reasonable sounding advice from laymen may turn out to be devastating to your c…
/r/MensRights14/09/11 02:35 PM
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This reminds me: I'm almost out of bacon. (My dog loves her bacon)
/r/MensRights06/09/11 06:32 PM
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As has already been said, you need a lawyer, OP. I know it sucks, and finances are killing you... but the simple truth is that you have a slew of rights and obligations and there's no way a layman can be familiar with all of them. More importantly, it's clear that your ex is going nuclear and this may turn into a protracted legal battle. By finding a lawyer you'll be paying not only for legal expertise but also expert familiarity with the judges in the family court. Your attorney will know exact…
/r/MensRights02/09/11 03:46 AM
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That's because the nominal job of a Legislator is to legislate. It'd be awesome if we could replace that tile with something more appropriate, something like "Fucking Myopic Opportunist With the Power to Shred Civilians' Lives". "Three Felonies a Day" by Harvey Silverglate is a great resource to find out just how fucked the US legal code has become as a result.
/r/MensRights01/09/11 02:25 AM
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His nuclear option should be two one-way plane tickets back to Spain.
/r/MensRights30/08/11 05:55 AM
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I'm glad that was helpful :) I recently won a nasty custody battle myself so I'm totally eager to share what I think helped the most. You're correct that a journal can't be used as evidence. What it will do is give your lawyer a very strong record of events and a good playbook to use when deciding how to deal with the judge. It's important to consider that, while you're paying a lawyer for their legal expertise, you're also paying for their intimate knowledge of the court system and the judges t…
/r/MensRights26/08/11 03:40 PM
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One of my favorite essays on chivalry is here. ...but the channeling of romantic love into practical service has a deep history in the West, one where often -- usually! -- the lady was more powerful than the knight offering his service. Maurice Keen, in Chivalry, explained how the Medieval ethic of courtly love allowed women to enter the power structure. The foundational concepts behind chivalry were based on what, at the time, would have been considered a very egalitarian notion. But its modern…
/r/MensRights26/08/11 03:26 PM
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Lawyer up quickly. Find a complete shark, and negotiate a payment plan with them if finances are tight. They'll probably want a retainer so be prepared for a ding to your finances right up front, but DO NOT let that dissuade you from getting a lawyer. Forget everything you've ever learned or believed about being honorable and gracious. Your ex is drawing the battle lines right this very moment and she will use whatever tools are at her disposal. Your honor and dignity don't equal a fart in a hur…
/r/MensRights26/08/11 02:56 PM
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$900 a month when she makes 120k a year... Yup. Exactly. I was kind of floored when, on top of that, the order stipulated that I'd also reimburse her $150 for every month that she visits her son. Because it wasn't my choice for her to move 2500 miles away for a job. And I did have to fight for custody. Not too surprisingly it was a fairly contentious and bitter courtroom fight that took about five days in the courtroom over two weeks or so. There were some very nasty allegations leveled at me; e…
/r/MensRights23/08/11 07:09 AM
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The good news is that it seems there's a trend toward closing that gap in some areas. The bad news is that it's still one huge fucking gap. Funny that this was posted today as this morning I had another hearing in front of the judge to reconsider his denial of my motion that my ex should pay some of my legal bills. He said "No". I'm an unemployed, full-time student (which means I'm living on student loans now that my savings were destroyed in the litigation) who was awarded primary custody, yet …
/r/MensRights23/08/11 12:01 AM
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Well... yeah. But that's a different animal entirely. You're talking about neglect. The discussion is the lack of any kind of means to account for how CS payments are actually spent. I get ~$900/mo in CS from my ex-wife. Whether or not I actually use that to support our son is immaterial to the court at this point. That is, there is no legal mechanism which requires me to account for how I choose to dispose of that money. And this is the crucial point in the whole mess. If the courts were actual…
/r/MensRights17/08/11 07:49 AM
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Seriously, that's an excellent idea. But in all divorces, especially those in which custody is established, a judge has to sign off on it. It's not a matter of personal preference, it's simply the law.
/r/MensRights17/08/11 07:34 AM
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No. It isn't. I have never heard of, nor in my case is there, any stipulation from the court as to how or even whether CS payments must be accounted for. The calculation to arrive at the CS figure may be broken down into daycare, medical, food, etc. expenses, but the recipient of CS payments is under zero obligation to report how that money is actually spent.
/r/MensRights17/08/11 03:16 AM
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When partners separate, it's best financially for them both to have joint custody - then no one pays child support to anyone else. Nice concept, but it'll never happen. There isn't a judge in the US who will sign a divorce decree that doesn't include some stipulation for on party paying the other child support. My ex tried this argument with our mediator (before talks broke down and we went to court). She insisted that she'd pay for our son's care when he was with her, and I would do the same wh…
/r/MensRights17/08/11 03:14 AM
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Mr Sherratt said the affair came to an end soon afterwards. Giving evidence for Dr Stacey’s defence, he said he had had to appoint a solicitor to write to Mrs Stacey asking her to stop contacting him and his wife. The woman's paramour sought legal relief to compel her to stop contacting him. He also felt compelled to testify in her ex hubby's defense. This chick is a legitimate bunny-boiler; a fact which didn't escape the judge's notice.
/r/MensRights09/08/11 07:38 AM
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You mean it's not realistic to have conclusive results from a blood test delivered on the same day?
/r/MensRights31/07/11 05:03 PM
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http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Antiterrorism_and_Effective_Death_Penalty_Act is also a worthwhile link. IANAL but if I read this correctly it places a pretty severe restrictions on habeas corpus relief in a capital cases: "For example, before AEDPA the judicially created abuse-of-the-writ doctrine restricted the presentation of new claims through subsequent habeas petitions. The AEDPA replaced this doctrine with an absolute bar on second or successive petitions. Petitioners who attempted to bring …
/r/MensRights29/07/11 07:14 PM
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It's an excuse to throw a very expensive party where you're (nominally) one of the guests of honor.
/r/MensRights29/07/11 06:51 PM
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I'm not sure if this is the same case but there was very recently (within the last six months or so) a very similar one in which the court ruled the accused/convicted hadn't filed the proper paperwork in a timely enough manner to warrant release. Remember: we don't have a justice system, just a legal one.
/r/MensRights29/07/11 05:06 AM
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This is it. There is no justice system. Just a legal one. Especially in the family courts. It's never about equitability, the best interests of the child, or even mediating a dispute between two parents who've grown to hate each other. It's about the state satiating its hunger for power.
/r/MensRights27/07/11 05:50 AM
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Freudian slip: when you say one thing and mean your mother.
/r/MensRights27/07/11 05:49 AM
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Except that in the commonwealth countries (Great Britain, Australia, etc.) it isn't necessarily used to feminize a man or otherwise compare him to a woman. I've heard the phrase "good cunt", "funny cunt", or some variation of the word used positively countless times in those countries. Again, the use of the word as referring explicitly to women or something feminine is pretty much limited to the US. So yeah, it's certainly misogynistic here in the US but elsewhere... not so much. Which puts to l…
/r/MensRights27/07/11 05:43 AM
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Funny because I'm only aware that "cunt" is regarded as exclusively derogatory toward females in North America. In Great Britain it's used much more freely than here, and there it's overwhelmingly directed at men, as in "He's a cunt". So any claim that the word has "the full force of the patriarchy behind it" strikes me as being slightly myopic.
/r/MensRights27/07/11 03:24 AM
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Good point. I will say, however, that small victories within the government overall seem to indicate that we're trending (however slowly) toward that goal. I remember 20 years ago when the interviews were initiated for my first security clearance investigation. DADT had just been implemented, so the questionnaire still had questions regarding to homosexuality. Within just a few years we went from that condition to having unisex bathrooms installed in .gov facilities to accomodate transgendered c…
/r/MensRights24/07/11 01:31 PM
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Interestingly, it was the integration of the military in the 1940s that undid a lot of the damage done by the Wilson administration a couple of decades earlier. Prior to Woodrow Wilson the federal government had been largely desegregated, a fact that seems to have been lost to history. Granted, we've come a long way culturally toward extending at least the premise of equal treatment to the LGBT community so the repeal of DADT probably won't have quite the impact that racial integration had 70 ye…
/r/MensRights24/07/11 01:26 PM
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I totally agree. It just seemed to me that OP was upset that a dictionary would include a patently sexist definition of the word. I guess my larger point is that the battle isn't about redefining rape superficially, rather it's about changing cultural attitudes about what the word means.
/r/MensRights23/07/11 08:27 PM
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And the white knight detective who assisted her.
/r/MensRights23/07/11 04:43 AM
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Maybe I'm playing devil's advocate here... but dictionaries and their publishers do not establish a word's definition. I think a reasonably argument could be made that the legal definition of "rape", that is the definition used and adhered to by any court in any jurisdiction, expressly reserves "rape" for describing sexual violence committed by men. This doesn't make it right. I'm just pointing out that getting a dictionary publisher to modify their entry to be gender-neutral wouldn't be worth t…
/r/MensRights23/07/11 04:43 AM
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An even better solution is to eliminate the government entirely from having anything to do with "marriage". Let all marriages, whether traditional, gay, any flavor of poly or otherwise, so long as they're between consenting adults, be strictly matters of private contracts. Only allow the government to involve itself in matters of fraud, theft or actual abuse. You sign a contract when you buy a new cell phone plan. You sign a contract when you finance the purchase of a car or a house. You sign a …
/r/MensRights23/07/11 04:35 AM
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Maria is heir to some part of the $850million trust that funds all Kennedy insanity. Since Cali is a 50-50 community property state does this mean Arnold gets to go after half of that?
/r/MensRights22/07/11 07:52 PM
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You and I must've read different articles. Just one of seven points covered sex, and frankly he was spot on with that. Too many women suffer from Guilded Pussy Syndrome, believing their vaginas hold unfathomable magic powers and so should only be used sparingly, usually in order to keep their men in line.
/r/MensRights21/07/11 06:22 PM
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The mayor be on the right track but I have zero faith in the DC Metro PD. And that sucks because DC, for all of its myriad faults, is really a very accommodating city for LGBT folks.
/r/MensRights21/07/11 06:11 PM
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The last line in the article: "Allen and his wife have since gotten back together" He may not have narcolepsy but he definitely has stupid.
/r/MensRights21/07/11 05:55 PM
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I'm slightly reluctant to post this here as it has mostly to do with the Red vs. Blue political dichotomy, of which I'm generally pretty dismissive. However, Bill Whittle is an excellent essayist and orator so if you can get past the political parochialism there's an excellent and brief explanation of The Frankfurt School and how it was arguably the genesis of "political correctness" and various "isms" including feminism. edit: spelling
/r/MensRights21/07/11 07:06 AM
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This a thousand times. If you look at the US legal system it becomes pretty obvious that there's an almost concerted effort to stigmatize and diminish the role of black men as fathers and husbands. Drug laws and their related sentencing guidelines alone have been at best incidentally racist if not overtly so (the debate over sentencing for crack cocaine vs. powder cocaine is a great example), and have effectively demolished the black family dynamic in too many communities.
/r/MensRights21/07/11 12:19 AM
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I'm ranked #55 overall. Impressive, but Coach and I would prefer the 89th spot.
/r/MensRights20/07/11 08:19 PM
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This is good stuff. I'll try to dig up similar info on my state's requirements for modification. It could be useful to try and aggregate this stuff in one place.
/r/MensRights20/07/11 08:19 PM
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Once I finish picking my jaw up off the floor I'll give you a loud and hearty "w00t!"
/r/MensRights20/07/11 01:53 PM
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More cherry-picking bullshit from the NOW cows... In "Ongoing Postdivorce Conflict: Effects on Children of Joint Custody and Frequent Access," Janet Johnson and her colleagues compared children in court-ordered joint custody with children in sole-custody homes. In both situations, the parents were in "entrenched conflict." This study showed that under these circumstances frequent shuttling between both parents in joint custody "is linked to more troubled emotional problems" in children than the …
/r/MensRights20/07/11 01:29 PM
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I approve of your approval, but there's a cautionary tale in here... The truth is that in 90 percent of custody decisions it is mutually agreed that the mother would be sole custodian. According to several studies, when there is a custody dispute, fathers win custody in the majority of disputed cases. The truth is that in 90 percent of custody decisions it is mutually agreed that the mother would be sole custodian because a significant percentage of fathers are convinced that fighting for custod…
/r/MensRights20/07/11 01:20 PM
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FIRE has a really good track record of taking schools to task and getting them to act like grown-ups. Frankly, the fact that FIRE has taken up Caleb's cause should be the final nail in the coffin for anyone who thinks Caleb deserves what's happened to him.
/r/MensRights19/07/11 09:48 PM
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The divorce settlement was ridiculous. $100,000,000? Puh-fucking-leeze. But then I recall that Elin was going for $750,000,000 originally and I have to wonder, did Tiger get a bargain? Full disclosure: I think Tiger's a repellant shit-stain and I have absolutely zero hesitation about lol'ing all over regarding his lost endorsement income. That $100,000,000 figure for the "privilege" of buying himself out of the marriage sticks in my craw though.
/r/MensRights19/07/11 05:53 PM
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Your point has some merit. I'm reluctant to engage in any sort of economic boycott because I tend to find such responses shrill and ultimately ineffective. I'd much rather that what happened last week on The Talk be used as an example of how men are treated culturally than as an excuse to get those harpies fired. I replied in another thread comparing the treatment of Don Imus and Opie & Anthony to the "ladies" of The Talk. My disgust over the whole thing is twofold: First, there's obviously two …
/r/MensRights19/07/11 04:49 PM
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Don Imus makes a joke about "nappy-headed hoes" and the entire weight of the NAACP, Al Sharpton, et al come bearing down on him. It becomes a national news story discussed by pundits on FoxNews, MSNBC, CNN, etc. Imus is excoriated by the press, unceremoniously fired, and his livelihood severely damaged in the process. Opie & Anthony have a homeless guy on their radio show who, unscripted, discusses how he'd like to fuck Condoleeza Rice and Laura Bush. The shitstorm is immediate and thorough. O&A…
/r/MensRights19/07/11 03:27 PM
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Thanks man. I wasn't trying to steal your thunder, just sharing to let you know that you're suspicions are correct. Sounds like you've got things under control where you're at, which is the right way to head into a divorce. Best of luck to you, sir!
/r/MensRights18/07/11 02:27 PM
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You are spot-on. Brief version: Gave up a six-figure income to move thousands of miles to the town my ex's family is from. As part of my agreeing to do that she agreed that I'd be able to return to school full-time and be the stay-at-home dad for our (then unborn) child. Her exact words were, "I'm not cut out to be a stay-at-home mom anyway." 8 months after the baby was born (about 15 months after I gave up my fat income) she jets back east to take a job, leaving me alone with the baby. A few mo…
/r/MensRights18/07/11 07:20 AM
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I can't tell if you're legitimately asking a question, if you're thick as pitch, or if you're trying to stir the pot. Speaking just for myself... I don't give a fart in a hurricane about discussing "what a man is". I'll leave that for gender studies majors and other marginally-employable professional students.
/r/MensRights18/07/11 07:06 AM
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I second all the advice to contact a lawyer. I'd also tell you to stay the hell away from this chick. Seriously. Do not communicate with her in any way, and especially do not communicate with her through anyone else. If she calls you or e-mails you and begs you to come over to talk about this because she realizes how wrong she was, your first instinct should be that it's a trap (this is an insidious but effective trick chicks use all the time with restraining orders). It sounds like you're (righ…
/r/MensRights18/07/11 06:45 AM
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http://www.cbs.com/info/user_services/fb_global_form.php From the YouTube link omegaflux posted. But I'm not remotely confident that it'll have any impact.
/r/MensRights16/07/11 11:05 PM
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I watched this and couldn't help but draw a connection between shit like what these harpies spewed and our culture's affinity for making prison rape jokes. The worst kinds of suffering a man can endure are now nothing more than punchlines to terrible jokes.
/r/MensRights16/07/11 11:04 PM
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And his son wouldn't be seized by the state, charged with any crimes or even merely ordered to undergo psych treatment.
/r/MensRights16/07/11 10:32 PM
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Gays are not real men Just because I'm up for the lulz... Please give us your comprehensive definition of a "real man".
/r/MensRights16/07/11 10:30 PM
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The state they live in won't provide help/will take the infant if you refuse to list the father's name so that they can bill him for support. I can't imagine how this could possibly be legal. Not that I doubt some bureaucrat would try it, but it sounds like someone's trying to scare her. I'd call a local women's shelter and ask them if they can offer some kind of legal assistance to find an answer.
/r/MensRights16/07/11 07:06 PM
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I think there's a touch of hyperbole in this story. Just because the Pentagon has plans for a draft doesn't mean that they plan to implement a draft. There are a lot of very smart people whose job it is to develop plans for any contingency. This story is the equivalent of saying "Pentagon develops plans for nuclear war". Such plans certainly exists but aren't evidence that missiles are about to be launched.
/r/MensRights16/07/11 05:51 AM
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Why thank you ;)
/r/MensRights16/07/11 12:23 AM
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I think you might be overlooking the important fact that Jones' case was a civil one rather than a criminal one. The investigation (such as it may have been) didn't lead to any criminal charges against KBR or its employees. Jones was never denied her rights to due process.
/r/MensRights15/07/11 10:10 PM
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As a general rule, if it can fit onto a CafePress mug or t-shirt I'm not interested. I hate bumper sticker religion, bumper sticker politics, and bumper sticker rhetoric. MR isn't immune. Let's not get bogged down by arguing about slogans.
/r/MensRights15/07/11 08:44 AM
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The trouble started in week two, when Karel announced she was cutting me off sexually until I finished a book proposal that should have been done a year ago. shakes head
/r/MensRights15/07/11 03:25 AM
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Be careful about advocating for the legislation of morality. Slippery slope, etc., etc. There's a lot to be said for a guy who takes it upon himself to assume responsibility for a child he learns isn't his. There's nothing to be said for advocating that the full force of the government compel that man to assume responsibility for a child he learns isn't his.
/r/MensRights11/07/11 07:23 PM
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This is actually a very good article. There's a ton of stuff out on the webz about how to get your finances in order, secure real and personal property, etc. but there's shockingly little advice about how you should actually behave during divorce litigation. Por ejemplo... REFUSING to acknowledge the positive parental traits of the other parent It makes sense. Judges have heard it all; they know you really dislike your STBX, and they don't need to watch the two of you duke it out with over the t…
/r/MensRights10/07/11 05:43 AM
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Contemporary philosophy studies strike me as nothing more than mental masturbation. Classical rhetoric/logic studies (which sadly fall into humanities or philosophy programs in most liberal arts schools) are, IMHO, an absolute prerequisite for getting the most out of degree programs in the hard sciences. I'd go so far as to advocate that rhetoric be made a mandatory component of coursework from middle school on.
/r/MensRights09/07/11 11:00 AM
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Maybe that says more about the deterioration of culture There's the nut of it right there. A smarter man than I has referred to this deterioration as "The Endarkenment". In an age where feelings matter more than ideas, the logical conclusion is that we become increasingly removed from logic.
/r/MensRights09/07/11 10:55 AM
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I just divorced a woman who was clinically diagnosed with a non-specific personality disorder. The hard lesson here is that she will not change. When my marriage fell apart I entered counseling, and was warned from the get-go that people with personality disorders, even when they recognize that they have one, are incredibly difficult to treat/deal with. Run. Then heal. You'll be far, far happier in the long run.
/r/MensRights06/07/11 03:33 AM
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There's a vast gulf between "this is probably a good idea" and "this is such a good idea that we'll bring to bear the entire force of the state to enact it". It's great that you find the convenience to be worth the loss of your financial privacy, but don't think for a minute that the proposed legislation has at its root a desire to ensure that non-residential parents fulfill their monetary obligations to their children. If that were the case the very first thing any commission would do would be …
/r/MensRights04/07/11 08:22 PM
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But yeah, the issues were my point, as to whether straight men would be interested in a gay man's problem, and vice versa. I'm almost embarrassed to say this but... fuck yeah! :D Embarrassed because it hadn't occurred to me that there might be a need to bridge differences within The Movement. But then I'm very new to the whole MRA thing so it's not like I'm an expert. So for the record I, as a straight dude, stand proudly beside my gay brothers.
/r/MensRights23/06/11 10:05 PM
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In the two weeks after I called the cops we'd tried to reconcile. Daily marital counseling sessions, we were living under the same roof (she'd been fired from her job back east a few weeks earlier; normally the baby and I were living out west while she was working out east. Her choice). We had a heart to heart one day and I told her very plainly that I though we were getting divorced. Cue a lot of accusations about me "stealing her baby!" and her saying "I'm not paying child support if I can't h…
/r/MensRights23/06/11 06:20 PM
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You're spot on with the journal. Here's why they're so important: your wife knows that the system is stacked in her favor. Her family reminds her of this constantly. Your mutual friends will tell her this. And the attorney is giddy in knowing they're representing the nominal "victim" in the case. She will use every dirty trick, every questionable tactic, and any possible excuse to not only discredit you, but to also catch you in a lie or an inconsistent story, and to goad you into lashing out. Y…
/r/MensRights23/06/11 02:51 AM
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Big (manly) hugs to you! Congrats, man!!
/r/MensRights23/06/11 02:36 AM
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The scariest moment was when I dialed 9-1-1 after a big argument that culminated in her punching me in the back of the head. I knew the odds of me winding up in cuffs were a lot bigger than the odds of neither of us winding up in cuffs. Fortunately, the officers who responded to the call were utterly professional (except for the sergeant, but I think he just did't give a shit). I did go to the courthouse the next morning to petition for a DVCPO but relented at the last minute. When the judge sai…
/r/MensRights23/06/11 02:36 AM
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Exactly. Which is why I feel guilty regarding this as a "win". It's the best possible outcome for my little man, but for all of us it's still bittersweet.
/r/MensRights23/06/11 02:32 AM
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don't lie to the judge, they hate it and will make you pay. Yes! This a thousand times. Judges also hate it when you ignore or disregard their instructions. Seriously, fellas. Some of the best advice is also some of the least... sexy???... advice. I've said this in a few other threads here but a well-kept journal is your best offensive and defensive weapon. Also, remember that family court judges have seen and heard it all, so their BS-detectors are amongst the best in the world. A little humili…
/r/MensRights23/06/11 12:56 AM
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With pleasure! I'm trying really hard not to sound like I'm gloating (but... you know... I am. A little :D ), and hoping instead that anything I say is useful for guys going through this.
/r/MensRights23/06/11 12:53 AM
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Thanks! I've spent the afternoon alternately laughing and crying... because, ya know, I'm a sap ;)
/r/MensRights22/06/11 11:37 PM
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I know, right!?! :D But every little victory counts.
/r/MensRights22/06/11 11:36 PM
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I agree. This happened in a state that's considered among the most conservative in the country. From what I've been told through the process the judges in this state are actually amongst the most progressive, and have written a number of nationally adopted family court guidelines that are a real boon to dads.
/r/MensRights22/06/11 11:34 PM
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Visitation is exactly what I proposed in the divorce petition: she gets five consecutive days a month with 14-days notice, and two one-week periods a year. She lives about 3000 miles away and the only thing about visitation that struck me as odd is that I'm to pay $150 per visit to defray the costs. I'm a marginally-employed/unemployed full-time student and she makes a six-figure income (though up until a few years ago I was pulling down six-figures so there may be some inclination on the judge'…
/r/MensRights22/06/11 11:33 PM
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Thanks very much for the eloquent reply. I'm speaking only anecdotally, but my experience suggests that whatever equalizing the courts attempt is still tempered by outdated gender roles. In the last few hours I received the final ruling on my divorce/custody case. Me, full-time student (read: not employed though until a few years ago I was a six-figure earner). Her, employed full-time earning six figures. I filed and sought divorce based upon her extramarital affairs, and I also sought primary c…
/r/MensRights22/06/11 07:50 PM
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I represent mostly men, and my and my colleagues' opinion is that women are more likely get the short end of the financial stick. This really surprises me. Can you elaborate on this? Is it the result of the jurisdiction you practice in, or is it representative of family law in the US as a whole? I'm legitimately curious. I know anecdote does not equal data but I have yet to meet, hear or read about, any divorce in which the wife ended up spending tens of thousands in legal fees, paid an exorbita…
/r/MensRights22/06/11 06:24 AM
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Not necessarily. In the state I live in common-law marriage is automatically assumed after 10 years of cohabitation.
/r/MensRights22/06/11 06:14 AM
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I know. It's almost as though the false accusation was secondary to the whole thing. I mean, this poor, poor woman and all the emotional suffering she endured by virtue of failing out of her course. And, oh yeah, some dude somewhere got his life turned upside down because of her lies... but that poor, poor woman! What about the woman!?!
/r/MensRights22/06/11 01:09 AM
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You're right! I was thinking Louis C.K. ten years ago... but knew that wasn't quite right.
/r/MensRights22/06/11 01:05 AM
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Male nurses/nursing students unite!
/r/MensRights22/06/11 01:04 AM
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And somewhere some family court judge and his/her sycophants in the Department of Human Services issued the following statement: "Meh. Not our problem."
/r/MensRights22/06/11 12:38 AM
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My divorce and ensuing custody battle. I joke that there's nothing special about the two except that they happened to me, and if I'm very honest I have done exceptionally well in the results from both. But from the moment I first dialed 9-1-1 after she assaulted me, through the court awarding her a temporary DVCPO, to my being granted temporary custody, through the actual divorce litigation, I have been acutely aware of just how much of a liability it is to have been born penised. The dialogue a…
/r/MensRights21/06/11 04:02 AM
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I'll try to dig it up but somewhere recently (Deadspin.com?) there was a pretty frank story about the increasing number of pro athletes who insist on witnesses to their sex acts, usually a member of their entourage, for the sole purpose of avoiding legal shakedowns. It might be apocryphal/bullshit but it makes sense.
/r/MensRights20/06/11 04:44 PM
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You're right, and my description of the link was poorly phrased. It's more a reflection that one day out of the year doesn't diminish the other 364 days in which fatherhood is marginalized.
/r/MensRights19/06/11 09:38 PM
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"Ban" is perhaps an unsavory word choice, but I agree with the sentiment. It's the same argument I make about gay marriage: the state has zero authority to regulate a private contract between two or more consenting adults except in instances of fraud. Marriage is, and should be legally recognized as, a private contract between consenting adults regardless of the gender or sex those adults. The family court system is an unjust and unnecessary... not to mention exorbitantly expensive... agent whos…
/r/MensRights19/06/11 09:30 PM
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Funny how a provably crazy woman's allegations were given greater weight than a perceived crazy man's defense. Remember folks: it's not a justice system, it's just a legal one.
/r/MensRights19/06/11 06:13 PM
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It's awesome how you boiled down a ten year ordeal with the family courts into a trite, petty little two sentence blurb. The guy was found not guilty of domestic violence by the court. That should have been the end of the story. Instead, he was then dragged through a star chamber of requirements placed upon him by the very same court in conjunction with a private practice that stood to benefit financially from dragging things out as long as possible. He balked, and the Only Ones decided his atti…
/r/MensRights19/06/11 02:41 AM
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"The Oprah University of Consciousness" was where I lost it. Brilliant!
/r/MensRights16/06/11 09:51 PM
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I'm upvoting you 'cause I really hope your take on it is more accurate than mine even though I remain concerned that OP's wife has shown some very worrying colors.
/r/MensRights14/06/11 08:50 PM
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Sorry, but the onus is on OP's wife, not him... Anyway, after a heated, vitriolic series of fights, she threatened to initiate divorce proceedings if I ever brought up an MR argument or even got caught reading /MR again. She seems to have drawn her line in the sand and it's utterly unreasonable; she threatened divorce if he ever brings the topic up again. I honestly hope OP and his wife can move past this but she's put him in an impossible position. I know anecdote does not equal data but my per…
/r/MensRights14/06/11 04:09 PM
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No kids in this case, but Mary Winkler killed her hubby, absconded with the kids, got seven months in the county lockup and an appearance on Oprah. I did a quick google search and found this article. It's a decade old but it's frightening just how much post-murder justification it engages in. Most mothers just seem to understand how a woman could kill her child. and Frequently, women who deliberately killed their child or children suffered from some form of mental illness or had a history of men…
/r/MensRights14/06/11 08:17 AM
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It's obviously controlling and I would even say abusive. This. A thousand times this. Abuse manifests itself in many forms and this is absolutely abusive. Your wife isn't upset about your reading a MR subreddit. She's pissed that you've obliquely challenged the power structure in your marriage. Ultimatums are reserved for the most grotesque violations of marital vows; infidelity, abuse, etc. Not for something as innocuous as a philosophical or academic pursuit. Frankly, I'd start looking for an …
/r/MensRights14/06/11 07:19 AM
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Journal, journal, journal. You strike me as a spectacularly level-headed dad so kudos to you for that. And it seems like you're prepared to take the hard road to primary custody so double kudos for that, too. I don't trust CPS any more than I trust the police, but I'm hoping your experience isn't entirely awful with them. My only advice is to keep a journal of everything, and try to go back as far as your memory allows to document every interaction with your ex. It's a PITA but it's such a helpf…
/r/MensRights14/06/11 07:10 AM
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I don't think the spanking is the issue. It's that it's happening in direct contradiction to the court's order. Family court judges tend to take it somewhat...personally... when their plaintiffs and defendants ignore their orders. OP, for what it's worth, I'm sending you big high-fives for being such an engaged and reasonable dad with this. It's probably time to go full-blown Law & Order on your ex, especially if your kids are making noises about wanting to live with you, and I wish you all the …
/r/MensRights14/06/11 07:05 AM
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Fellow male nursing student here... what really grinds me about this is that you're in an impossible place. You could raise a stink to the hospital administrators but then you risk being labeled a troublemaker. Or you could suck it up and risk knowing that future male students are going to be treated the same way. If there's a silver lining in this I'd say it's simply my personal observation that you can learn as much from shitty leadership as you can from stellar leadership. Someday you'll be i…
/r/MensRights13/06/11 09:19 AM
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I spent about ten minutes reading through that forum. I don't think I have soap that's strong enough to wash away the stench from that experience.
/r/MensRights06/06/11 10:53 AM
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I just would've thought American law might make a degree of sense. heh. That's adorable ;) I'm absolutely not an expert in UK law but I did live there long enough to get the distinct impression that child support (maintenance?) is always paid through the state (on this side of the pond that isn't always so, though mechanisms exist for it to be handled that way). So I'd take a wild guess that the distinction between legal paternity and actual, for-realsies paternity are of no interest to the UK .…
/r/MensRights06/06/11 10:49 AM
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I'm a dude, currently receiving child support payments from my ex and pretty much I have license to spend the money as I see fit. I've no obligation to provide her with receipts or invoices of any kind. IANAL, and I don't live in Cali (nearby though), but when we attempted mediation I was told that this is pretty much the standard nationwide.
/r/MensRights04/06/11 12:02 PM
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The custody matter still hasn't been resolved (she stipped to the divorce outside of the actual courtroom stuff) but should be soon. I've had temporary custody for several months, and hope that the judge makes it permanent. I'll be certain to post the outcome here when I get the ruling, which should be soon.
/r/MensRights03/06/11 08:47 PM
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Rage and other emotions are certainly powerful motivators, but they do not make a person any stronger, though they may ignore pain more. I think we're in complete agreement but I'm just expressing myself awkwardly. As with OP, it's a matter of how much risk someone is willing to put themselves in in order to affect damage, and the extent of the damage they wish to inflict. A non-crazy person can probably have their thought process rebooted pretty quickly with a punch to the mouth. A crazy person…
/r/MensRights03/06/11 07:40 AM
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Upvote but I think she was using a little creative license to maker her point. A 5'2" female pissed at you hasn't got the same "mass" as a 5'2" crazy female pissed at you. There's a marked difference in the potential injurious energy between the two. And I gotta also confess that instinctively I'd be reluctant to engage an attacker who's a female, and I imagine a lot of guys feel the same way. Whether it's due to some ingrained pseudo-chivalrous thing or a "WTF? Is a chick really going to punch …
/r/MensRights03/06/11 07:00 AM
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Some were just arrested and indicted. I'm really not trying to be a tool, and I'm sure you didn't mean to be flippant, but even the mere accusation of rape, let alone an arrest and indictment for rape, can seriously derail your life. Just because someone was "only" arrested and indicted, but ultimately exonerated, for a grievous crime they did not commit doesn't mean that the system worked for them.
/r/MensRights31/05/11 09:45 AM
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I kinda believe he sucks... Yes. He sucks. He sucks like an extremely sucky thing. Ask him if his legal malpractice insurance is up to date because you'd like to be compensated for his suckitude. :) And how. the. FUCK!!! does someone with a PhD in Psychology convince the court that they're unable to earn an income?!? Holy hell but my head hurts. I'm sending you mental hugs, man.
/r/MensRights29/05/11 09:41 AM
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Goddamn but your lawyer sounds like an idiot. I'm sorry, dude. Your whole situation sucks but if she's getting income from her dad there are ways of finding out (and I'd guess she never reported that in her disclosures to the court). Hire a PI with financial experience and figure out who's cutting the rent check for your wife. Ditto utilities, car payments, etc. Also, she had multiple affairs over the course of your marriage and that didn't influence the court at all? I figure Cali is a no-fault…
/r/MensRights29/05/11 09:37 AM
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Certainly a question worth posing to your attorney but my understanding is that once a custody matter is resolved through the courts any modification to it requires a "clear and compelling material change" to the kids' circumstances. At least in my state it does, which means she can't just decide to act the ass and try to file for a modification because she's "found herself".
/r/MensRights19/05/11 06:59 PM
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The most important part of a journal (in my case anyway... which I hope resolves itself like the OP's did) is that it gives your lawyer a great playbook. Remember, your attorney is only as good as the info you can provide to him or her. I spent four days in the courtroom with my soon to be ex and I cannot tell you how many times my attorney and I were able to go through my journal and come up with fantastic questions to pose to my wife while she was on the stand. Another benefit of a journal is …
/r/MensRights19/05/11 06:54 PM
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