DivorceIsRape Archive

Upvotes	Title	Category	Author	Subreddit	Date (UTC)
4	Rent-free living (co-habiting) for STBX in place of alimony check?		DivorceIsRape	/r/Divorce_Men	07/04/19 01:16 PM

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1	Rent-free living (co-habiting) for STBX in place of alimony check? I hear ya. Thank you for the perspective.	/r/Divorce_Men	08/04/19 07:13 PM
1	Rent-free living (co-habiting) for STBX in place of alimony check? Thanks again for those details. I agree. I'll pursue it as you suggest, and see how it goes.	/r/Divorce_Men	08/04/19 02:49 PM
1	Rent-free living (co-habiting) for STBX in place of alimony check? You have to be REAL sure that you're ok with that kind of toxicity under your roof. I don't see it as toxicity honestly. We don't fight, don't argue, and the reason why we are divorcing is because we have grown apart. The thing is that we still trust each other enough that we feel the other won't screw us over. Now maybe that's a rare thing, or maybe I'm just a naive fool. But I can assure you, there's nothing toxic about the situation. What kind of message is that sending your child about how a…	/r/Divorce_Men	08/04/19 02:47 PM
1	Rent-free living (co-habiting) for STBX in place of alimony check? so remarrying and having more kids with someone else is (likely) not a consideration. That is a great point actually. STBX has her tubes tied, and other complications that make any future pregnancy not possible. And that also makes the one kid they have the center of both their parental universes. This is true as well. She's a fantastic mother, and neither of us would want the other's relationship with our kiddo affected by this. half the week is his 'custody time' and the other half is his job,…	/r/Divorce_Men	07/04/19 10:15 PM
1	Rent-free living (co-habiting) for STBX in place of alimony check? If you go this route, this is actually the biggest hammer you want to use in dealing dealing with the attorney's, courts, etc - "you are doing this in the best interest of the child" - which 'supposedly' is what the courts are supposed to be doing. Thank you, I will keep that in mind, it makes sense. That's basically what I'm hoping for as well. And the fact that STBX and I are already just roommates (dead bedroom), so this is basically making the whole thing official. What you need to do is tre…	/r/Divorce_Men	07/04/19 10:12 PM
1	Rent-free living (co-habiting) for STBX in place of alimony check? Sorry, yes, I should have mentioned. My age is 40, STBX is 45. Honestly, I have no desire to get into another relationship so soon. Yes, that might change 2-3 years down the road, but I'll cross that bridge when I get there. I think I can make it 5 years with this arrangement. I have specific goals after this divorce (make money, and get in shape and healthy), and women are just not a high priority at this stage in my life. Like I mentioned, we would both agree to not bring people over to the ho…	/r/Divorce_Men	07/04/19 05:08 PM
1	Rent-free living (co-habiting) for STBX in place of alimony check? Thanks for the reply. See below Is she not able to make a decent living? She's just finished going back to school, and will be starting a new job soon. However I made a lot more than her back when she worked, and the situation will continue to remain the same even when she goes back to work now. I know it seems like the best financial decision now but keeping up the charade for the kids sake won’t work in the long run. The way I see it we aren't really keeping up a charade. We still respect each…	/r/Divorce_Men	07/04/19 03:50 PM
1	Help understanding why men get married Exactly this. And like you said, I was naive.	/r/Divorce_Men	07/04/19 12:52 PM