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The timing is important, with humor. It's like food: too much spice in a dish and all you taste is chilli. With calibrating and escalating, learn to read the body language, plenty of videos on YouTube.
/r/seduction12/05/22 06:36 AM
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This
/r/seduction11/05/22 04:32 AM
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Good
/r/seduction08/05/22 07:12 PM
1

Stop being anxious.
/r/seduction08/05/22 04:31 PM
1

Dance classes.
/r/seduction08/05/22 03:33 PM
1

No pain, no gainisk
/r/seduction08/05/22 11:53 AM
1

Be
/r/seduction08/05/22 11:52 AM
1

I wouldn't. If she wants, she'll come back, if not move on.
/r/seduction08/05/22 11:50 AM
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Oh, could there be problems with HR? Gosh, I would have never thought ... but hey! with plenty of tact, maturity and social acuity it will be all sorted ...
/r/seduction07/05/22 11:07 PM
4

Leave coworkers alone.
/r/seduction07/05/22 07:45 PM
3

You have to have something to say, that is not a cheesy cliche. Then, if her reaction is positive, you introduce yourself and carry on with an interesting conversation, spiced with some wit humor. If her reaction is still positive, you escalate.
/r/seduction06/05/22 04:20 PM
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Whichever you like
/r/seduction05/05/22 07:07 PM
1

Yes, if you are not successful. No, if you are successful. There is another basic factor: does she like you enough to sleep with you? If yes then making a move early is good but making a move too early might be detrimental (as well as moving too late). There is definitely a window of opportunity there. If she doesn't like you enough to have sex with you, whatever you do won't make any difference.
/r/seduction04/05/22 10:43 PM
1

Maybe she has thyroid conditions ...
/r/seduction04/05/22 10:35 PM
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Dancing classes. Women outnumber men 5~10:1
/r/seduction04/05/22 10:31 PM
1

Associations, hobby classes (dancing, outdoors hiking, arts), choirs, ...
/r/seduction04/05/22 05:24 AM
1

Always reciprocate. Open up a bit and let her match. If she doesn't open up in return, bad sign. The same with sexual innuendo, kino, etc. You have to push a little bit in the inter, in order to keep interest but without being unpleasant (or boring) ...
/r/seduction02/05/22 02:07 PM
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Well, there are plenty of real reasons to be anxious (illness, war, unemployment, bills, family ...). Girls and "seduction" shouldn't be one ...
/r/seduction02/05/22 07:24 AM
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Yes, they do lose interest: they have so many options that if you miss your chance = next. Stop being anxious. If you succeed, great ... if you don't, you've lost nothing. The only medicine is to have more and more opportunities.
/r/seduction01/05/22 07:57 PM
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So she's just not comfortable spending time with you alone? That would be a deal breaker for me but you do whatever you feel like.
/r/seduction01/05/22 01:03 PM
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So, as soon as she met you in person, she became less into you and refuses to go on a 121 date, after you even traveled to her country? ... It all seems very clear to me.
/r/seduction30/04/22 07:03 PM
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Dancing classes, packed with women.
/r/seduction30/04/22 05:00 PM
1

Approaching complete strangers in public is easy. Achieving something is difficult. Provided that your intentions will probably be completely obvious to the girls, you'll have to find one that likes you and is in the right mood at that point in time = numbers' game. Reading body language can help, further, it's better to approach only those girls that smile, look at you, give signals of interest ...
/r/seduction30/04/22 04:52 PM
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Look for attractive & intelligent girls. They exist. They are found in places like museums, art galleries, theatre, literary cafes, cultural associations ...
/r/seduction30/04/22 12:57 PM
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Do you mean that confidence is more 'natural' when you have achievements to back it up? I agree. Otherwise being confident is a plus. Being arrogant is a minus but I wouldn't equate "confidence without assets" = "arrogance".
/r/seduction28/04/22 06:30 AM
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Don't be bothered, just find another girl, and another, and another. If she comes back, fine, ... if not, you'll have other options.
/r/seduction27/04/22 10:47 PM
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Would she bite you if you talked to her? You don't need to flirt, let alone sleep with her, just be normal and talk. Learn to interact with women, in all possible ways.
/r/seduction27/04/22 08:28 PM
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With difficulty
/r/seduction26/04/22 06:31 PM
1

Save some money and pay.
/r/seduction26/04/22 06:30 PM
1

I don't think so
/r/seduction26/04/22 03:08 PM
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We all have flaws. Forget about tricking girls and all that PUA stuff. It works for certain types of men with certain types of women. You don't seem to be that specimen. Learn to love people's humanity and be interested in them, how they feel, what are their dreams, what are their weaknesses and their fears. Once you have understood the person in front of you , try to make their life a better experience for the little or long time that you spend together. Sometimes a funny comment, a little stor…
/r/seduction25/04/22 09:30 PM
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And you have to detect them
/r/seduction24/04/22 07:22 AM
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Also if you don't see the planets, it doesn't mean that they're not there. Women don't have a light that goes off when they're interested in you. You have to get the clues and make a move; this is how it works, most of the times ...
/r/seduction23/04/22 10:32 PM
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Exactly
/r/seduction23/04/22 08:08 AM
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All I can say is: be outcome independent. Live the moment and enjoy the interaction. If it goes anywhere, great, if it doesn't, you've lost nothing.
/r/seduction23/04/22 08:05 AM
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Women are also labelled and shamed a lot. Ever heard of the term "slut"?
/r/seduction23/04/22 08:00 AM
2

I would move on.
/r/seduction22/04/22 07:58 PM
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1) First problem: "... I am a bit shy". 2) " ... I do know some people here too but I can't say I have a real social circle even if once or twice a month I get to clubs and bars with them"... not enough effort. 3) " ...I do study in university when I can (study rooms) but mostly on my own. " : studying is obviously a priority and if alone is more productive, then yes, otherwise, no. 4) " ... I used to be the one who makes invitations and make plans in groups but then I stopped": why?. 5) "I'm ha…
/r/seduction21/04/22 04:50 PM
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You have to be outcome independent. If you are too invested, you'll sound needy and desperate and ultimately unattractive.
/r/seduction20/04/22 08:51 PM
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Don't overdo.
/r/seduction20/04/22 08:47 PM
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He seems to know what he wants and what he wants is not always virtuous. He probably intimidates women (and most people), by testing and judging them. He also probably doesn't hide the contempt for those he thinks are not at par with his intelligence and enjoys when these people are embarrassed . Not a pleasant specimen, by the sound of it.
/r/seduction20/04/22 07:49 PM
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Trial & error
/r/seduction20/04/22 07:30 PM
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First there must be physical attraction. Luckily, women are quite tolerant, in this respect and gym + personal hygiene + tasteful clothing can improve things a lot. With regards to being "oneself", this is how I read it: pretending to be a different persona, in order to seduce, will be most likely exposed with a sh*t test and rejected. You have to be your attractive self. Are you a natural arrogant "bad boy" or some kind of James Bond on a secret mission? Good for you, you'll be successful with …
/r/seduction20/04/22 05:29 PM
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True. Be genuinely not interested, don't fake it, this is my advice. If the woman wants, she can raise my interest, by giving signals or whatever, otherwise she is just a "person".
/r/seduction20/04/22 04:51 PM
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Seek advice from a professional, not from Reddit
/r/seduction19/04/22 09:22 PM
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Sex on the same day? You oughta be very, very good at the game. And lucky. You seem to have done well, why don't you invite her for a date? Then you'll have the opportunity to escalate, ... maybe.
/r/seduction19/04/22 09:15 PM
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I also think that the success rate of the so called 'cold approach' is probably very low. There's also a thin line between that and harassment. Interaction should be at parties, with friends, events. Work should be used to network and know new people but I am strongly against trying to seduce coworkers.
/r/seduction18/04/22 07:27 PM
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I would not approach on the street, unless there was a welcoming smile on her side.
/r/seduction18/04/22 01:33 PM
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Precisely
/r/seduction18/04/22 12:08 PM
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The chance of success in relationships is proportional to the number of interactions you have, with people in general, with women in particular (if you are after a romantic relationship). Beware that quantity is not the same as quality, albeit quantity has a quality of its own ...
/r/seduction18/04/22 07:55 AM
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What's wrong with your ethnic profile? Leave this nonsense to the racists. You are a human being and that's all that matters. Improve what you can and accept what you can't change.
/r/seduction17/04/22 07:59 AM
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Hollywood events & superyacht parties.
/r/seduction17/04/22 07:38 AM
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Accept that life brings joy but also pain. Being insecure is normal, ruminating on it is unhealthy. Look deeply into yourself, know your insecurities, find workarounds and move on. Choose paths in life that suit you. Are you going to be the new James Bond? Me neither. No point in aiming at that and then whining because you can't achieve. You insecure about your ethnic profile? Within your group, I'm sure there are beautiful and high value women to date.
/r/seduction17/04/22 07:36 AM
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If you are attractive enough, with the right amount of self esteem, being nice is a plus, not a minus. Probably you come up as needy, which is something very different ...
/r/seduction16/04/22 10:38 PM
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The one that that woman likes.
/r/seduction16/04/22 07:41 AM
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Next
/r/seduction15/04/22 10:07 PM
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You have to know each other and the date is the opportunity to do so. Don't force the conversation, be interested in her, what she likes and dislikes and see how compatible the two of you are.
/r/seduction15/04/22 07:47 PM
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Grow a pair
/r/seduction15/04/22 07:01 PM
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First your grades, then girls
/r/seduction15/04/22 05:41 PM
1

This
/r/seduction15/04/22 09:27 AM
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Be interested, be interesting. Don't be boring. What do you like? What are the topics that you know and can talk about?
/r/seduction15/04/22 09:26 AM
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Get a good job, that should be your first priority. Second, go to the gym, third network, network, network.
/r/seduction15/04/22 09:23 AM
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You have to have something to say. My advice is that, again, context is crucial. You are queueing at the movie's ticket booth: " ... let's hope that this movie of xyz is as good as the previous one, to make it worth this hassle...". You are at the bookstore, she's browsing : "That's a good book! I read it last year ...". If she reacts positively, you carry on.
/r/seduction15/04/22 06:15 AM
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Off you go ...
/r/seduction14/04/22 08:35 PM
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Context is crucial. Would you approach if she was speaking on her mobile or reading a book? How about if she looked bored or smiled at you. Learn to read body language ...
/r/seduction14/04/22 08:34 PM
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Approach only if they smile at you
/r/seduction14/04/22 08:19 PM
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Girls accept a lot from a boy, except for insecurity which is the worst woman repellent on planet earth. Forget about sex and having or not a girlfriend and interact with girls, as you would with a male friend; at the same time, be receptive of any signal of attraction (body language and double meaning remarks). Only if there is some kind of chemistry, make a move.
/r/seduction14/04/22 08:17 PM
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She agreed to sleep with you? Come on ...
/r/seduction14/04/22 06:47 PM
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Context is all. I found approaching easy and generally welcome on the train, because it's a boring situation, and a little chat is entertaining. The same happens whilst queueing at post office or anywhere. Obviously a minimum degree of empathy is necessary to understand when the approach would be a nuisance, e.g. the girl is talking on her mobile or reading a book with her headphones on, etc.
/r/seduction14/04/22 06:37 PM
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Attractiveness
/r/seduction14/04/22 06:27 PM
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Well put. It's a broad subject, in fact, linked to emotional intelligence. I, as a man, lacked in it and I had to learn, or, better said, exercise and develop it. At some point, in my career, I took a training position and I was under probation for six months. The fact that I knew the subject inside out was not sufficient, at all. At the beginning it didn't go well. I was my stubborn and arrogant self, defending my status of trainer who knew better, to the bitter end. Negative feedback was pouri…
/r/seduction14/04/22 06:21 AM
1

Invite her for dinner, watch a movie and then sleep at your place?
/r/seduction14/04/22 05:55 AM
1

I don't like them but I don't judge tatooed people - the same with people who wear a hat. I don't wear one but if people want to, it's their business.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/04/22 09:44 PM
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Authors: Oscar Wilde, PG Wodehouse, George MacDonald Fraser, Nikolay Gogol, Jerome K. Jerome, Terry Pratchett, Woody Allen, Stephen Fry, Bill Bryson ... there are many others.
/r/seduction13/04/22 09:30 PM
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Read books.
/r/seduction13/04/22 07:23 PM
7

A psychologist
/r/seduction12/04/22 08:11 PM
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Seek professional advice.
/r/seduction12/04/22 07:10 PM
3

She friendzoned you. What you want to do is up to you.
/r/seduction12/04/22 07:08 PM
0

If you are attractive, it's easy to become indifferent, if not 'arrogant', towards the attracted.
/r/seduction12/04/22 01:56 PM
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Nowhere. Some girls are like that; a little bit of petting and that's it. Why? Because she can. She's in a self service restaurant, where she has an infinite choice: rather than sitting down and chosing one meal, she prefers to have a nibble here, one there, taste this, taste that ... without bonds or obligations to any boy in particular, and ... most importantly, ... no risks associated to the complete sexual act.
/r/seduction11/04/22 07:25 PM
0

Leave coworkers alone
/r/seduction11/04/22 06:21 AM
2

Leave coworkers alone
/r/seduction10/04/22 10:07 PM
2

Ever heard about stoicism?
/r/seduction10/04/22 09:24 AM
2

Therapy
/r/seduction10/04/22 09:19 AM
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Indeed. All this PUA stuff is overrated. A little light chit chat, body language and being easy going.
/r/seduction10/04/22 08:04 AM
1

Could the problem be coping with pressure and stress? All paid jobs involve a degree of pressure and stress ... generally it comes in proportion to the remuneration, the more money you earn, the more you have to endure. Having difficulties with people interaction (let alone seduction) has the same root problem. Seek professional advice before it's too late.
/r/seduction09/04/22 07:07 AM
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I was always, in women's eyes, relationship. I wanted to hookup but those kind of girls (the "easy" type) ignored me totally. I always attracted the LTR type.
/r/seduction07/04/22 10:17 PM
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Seek professional advice.
/r/seduction07/04/22 10:13 PM
2

Humor
/r/seduction07/04/22 06:23 AM
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You have some valid points. Women, on average, are more "emotionally" intelligent and can read, better than we man can do, between the lines of an interaction. They can detect an insecurity and sometimes reject a man on the basis of that but by no means their arts protect them from manipulators ... in fact they often fall prey of such individuals who exploit them ruthlessly. These "dark triad" men beat women at their own game. It must be said that often it's the most superficial women that can b…
/r/seduction06/04/22 08:33 PM
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Well, they don't want the awkward situation that go with the rejection, you might react violently (they don't know) therefore will give you the number or whatever so that you'll leave her alone.
/r/seduction05/04/22 09:30 PM
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They never give you a second chance, in my experience ...
/r/seduction05/04/22 09:26 PM
2

Success, any sort of
/r/seduction05/04/22 09:21 PM
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Be outcome independent. Women sense that you want intimacy (and especially if you haven't had it for a while): this is their forte. Most men, especially the young ones, are lost at this point. They are lost for words. Try to understand the person you are interacting with and adapt: this means also putting yourself in their shoes. You have some seconds to decode the body language and understand the vibe. With new acquaintances most people like to have a light conversation, with a little humor, to…
/r/seduction04/04/22 08:29 PM
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First of all: you are overly concerned about other people's judgment. This is hampering your happiness. You seem bright; honestly, are you doing something seriously awkward in public or are you behaving "normally"? If the case is the latter, considering that "normal" is a broad spectrum of behaviors and attitudes, you can put your interaction to better use, e.g. try to understand other people's feelings and respond to these accordingly. An old lady wants to cross the road? Offer to help. A girl …
/r/seduction04/04/22 06:57 PM
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She'll give you a hint, to start the game. It can be subtle, or sometimes not so subtle. Examples: - on a very hot day, she says "How hot it is, I feel like taking some clothes off" ... me: "I hope it'll get even hotter, then (wink)"; - the cashier at the supermarket till "have you found everything you were looking for (with a mischievous smile)?" ... I'm not sure but I might have found something that I wasn't looking for (mischievous smile in return) ..."; Then you follow up, based on what she …
/r/seduction04/04/22 06:22 PM
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Opportunity missed
/r/seduction04/04/22 05:45 AM
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Pretty much
/r/seduction03/04/22 09:33 PM
1

Mobile phone? Email? Whatsapp?
/r/seduction03/04/22 09:31 PM
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Better ask directly, in person.
/r/seduction03/04/22 07:41 PM
3

Did you ask her for a goodnight kiss?
/r/seduction03/04/22 07:15 PM
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Who, the girl that you goofed with? Providing you with the feedback of your interaction and what you did wrong? This is not how it works, forget about it. Women expect you to just know the right moves, which depend on the girl and her moods. If you blunder, they will gossip with their friends, big time. What did you say and / or do? Rewind and replay the film of your interaction. You might be able to spot it yourself.
/r/seduction03/04/22 06:03 PM
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Hints. I once was in an ASDA and, while scanning the items I bought the cashier asked (with a mischievous smile) "have you found what you were looking for?" ... I should have smiled back and replied along the lines "possibly but maybe I have found something that I wasn't looking for". I was not in the mood, so I replied "Yes, thanks", paid and left.
/r/seduction03/04/22 05:56 PM
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And how are we supposed to guess?
/r/seduction03/04/22 05:49 PM
1

Easy. Learn to dance. Pay for lessons.
/r/seduction03/04/22 04:53 PM
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Yes, it is true that many of them are mainly into fashion, make-up and possibly watching chick-flicks on Netflix. In other words, they are superficial and therefore boring. Imagine after having had sex, to quench the thirst, ... what do you do together or talk about? Good filter, isn't it? Young men should start looking at girls through this lens, to filter the girlfriend (and potentially wife) material.
/r/seduction03/04/22 04:51 PM
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Stop over complicating things. The way others will perceive you is up to them.
/r/seduction03/04/22 12:08 PM
1

Yes, I finished my degree, then found a job. Only then things started to improve ...
/r/seduction02/04/22 10:45 PM
2

And horny
/r/PurplePillDebate02/04/22 07:02 AM
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"You seem the right person to take care of it"
/r/seduction01/04/22 10:41 PM
2

Anything light that allows you to know each other better; hobbies, recent travels, movies seen, favorite food, etc. Avoid politics and religion, philosophy, computers, science (at least for now).
/r/seduction31/03/22 04:42 AM
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Possibly an invitation to flirt. You could have replied in kind, like "Thank you ... and I like your make up". Whether it would have led to a date or anything, that's another story.
/r/seduction31/03/22 04:36 AM
1

Why don't you try to give mixed signals?
/r/seduction30/03/22 09:44 PM
1

You have to make a choice
/r/seduction30/03/22 09:40 PM
4

Muscles, not fat. Deep, not squeaky voice. Stoicism, not drama.
/r/seduction29/03/22 07:07 PM
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Dancing classes. Girls / women outnumber men 5:1, if not more ...
/r/seduction29/03/22 04:54 PM
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Flirting in a work context is never advisable.
/r/seduction29/03/22 05:37 AM
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Exactly
/r/seduction29/03/22 05:22 AM
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Leave coworkers alone.
/r/seduction28/03/22 07:49 PM
8

Dark jokes about child rape???
/r/seduction28/03/22 07:41 PM
6

Dancing classes. Women usually outnumber men.
/r/seduction28/03/22 07:39 PM
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37
/r/seduction28/03/22 06:05 PM
1

Totally. If you want something from somebody, you have to understand their point of view. And sexual promiscuity is not something that benefits a woman, in any manner.
/r/seduction28/03/22 06:04 PM
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It's the right mix of innuendo, humor, touching ... Trial & error, my friend. What works for me, might not work for you: the more your moves are compatible with your personality, the smoother and easier the process.
/r/seduction28/03/22 05:24 AM
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Very simple. With the girls you are "not interested" in, you have an attractive attitude (e.g. you don't give validation), with the girls you like you become needy and insecure, the two most repellent traits that a woman can see in a man (despite what they say). You have to become "outcome independent" no matter what, with all the girls and let them earn your attraction.
/r/seduction27/03/22 10:18 PM
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Oneitis. Move on, it's damaging you.
/r/seduction27/03/22 10:12 PM
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U/CompetitionFair7686 posted a good example
/r/seduction27/03/22 06:11 PM
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Ok ... remember that you have to develop YOUR sttle, not his ...
/r/seduction27/03/22 08:18 AM
1

Join an acting class
/r/seduction27/03/22 08:16 AM
3

Assuming that these patterns have any significance (I think that if you asked 1000 people, you'd receive 1001 different descriptions), 1) define "nice guy" and define "alpha"; 2) bridge the gap ...
/r/seduction27/03/22 08:12 AM
0

Leave coworkers alone
/r/seduction27/03/22 08:07 AM
16

So, are you going to be like him?
/r/seduction27/03/22 08:06 AM
1

Exactly
/r/seduction25/03/22 08:33 PM
2

I don't know OP but any combination of stoic and boring is possible, in principle ...
/r/seduction24/03/22 03:57 PM
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Last week I went to see a dance happening, where a set of dance schools (from classical to hip hop, Irish, etc.) performed live. Young, fit, pretty girls outnumbered boys 10:1, apart from breakdance: some schools (e.g. a team of 16 ...) didn't have a single male.
/r/seduction24/03/22 06:45 AM
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Being stoic and being boring are not the same thing.
/r/seduction24/03/22 06:38 AM
1

The worst trait for a man, in women's eyes, is insecurity.
/r/seduction24/03/22 12:18 AM
1

Fail & learn, yes ...
/r/seduction22/03/22 06:42 PM
2

You are on the right path, bro. Quite quickly you'll lose the insecurity. Keep on the approaches, be perceptive ...
/r/seduction21/03/22 09:56 PM
1

You are obviously doing the wrong things and insisting in these unsuccessful ways. When you interact you have to be suave, not clingy, not nervous, not needy nor, worse of all, insecure (unforgivable sin, in women's eyes, despite what they say). As I already said: be outcome indifferent. Interact to have fun and let her have fun, too: nothing more, at that point. Sex is a remote possibility that she has to bring into the scene, not you: this means that she'll give you a subtle hint, often with t…
/r/seduction21/03/22 09:50 PM
2

You have to be outcome independent. The interaction must not point towards sex, at the beginning. First you interact, as you would with a guy but with all your senses awake. Generally, very quickly, girls will give you a signal: green or red light and you have to spot it (if you don't, it's your fault): watch videos about body language, there are countless. If the light was red, don't even bother continuing the courting; it will not succeed, and this is where you end up friend-zoned, in the best…
/r/seduction21/03/22 09:27 PM
2

And girls have girl-friends, so being friendzoned is positive, unless you have feelings for that girls, in which case it's quite bad ...
/r/seduction21/03/22 08:44 PM
1

And why do you think is that?
/r/seduction21/03/22 08:40 PM
2

Whatever makes you happy.
/r/seduction21/03/22 08:39 PM
3

The latter.
/r/seduction21/03/22 08:34 PM
1

On the date: touch, kiss.
/r/seduction19/03/22 05:05 PM
0

Very true
/r/seduction19/03/22 07:26 AM
5

Maybe he has found another girl and he's keeping the contact with you, just in case, or he's very shy.
/r/seduction18/03/22 07:12 PM
1

Therapy.
/r/seduction18/03/22 06:21 AM
2

No pain, no gain.
/r/seduction17/03/22 12:19 AM
2

Introduce yourself. See how they react ... say something funny, see how they react, and so on
/r/seduction16/03/22 08:54 PM
1

Find a shy and introverted girl.
/r/seduction16/03/22 07:37 PM
3

Pregnancy primarily, then the std are more likely to affect the woman. Finally, once alone with the man, if she changes her mind for any reasons, she could be forced into having sex, beaten, etc.
/r/seduction16/03/22 04:12 PM
1

So are women guilty because you are thirsty? Consider that for them sex bears FAR more risks than for a man, no wonders that they most of them are reluctant (or extremely cautious) when it comes to that conclusion. One little red flag from the man's side (e.g. typically poor social skills, insecurity, etc) and she ghosts...
/r/seduction16/03/22 10:11 AM
7

Be more outcome independent; it's too easy for a girl to trigger your desire and then leave you with your thirst ...
/r/seduction15/03/22 11:31 PM
10

It's a mating dance. You have to do the right steps and she will reciprocate, if she's interested. Start from an innocent interaction; if she wants you to initiate the dance, she might give you a tip. Often girls are shy and just as clueless as boys so the signs of positive interest could be very minimalistic elements of body language. More seduction savvy girls will be bolder. Reciprocate and escalate, by perceiving her feelings is the key. Is she comfortable with the conversation or bored or n…
/r/seduction15/03/22 10:54 PM
35

It happens. Sometimes they display green flags, to get validated by your desire and expectations and then they leave you with that. Feeds their ego. Sometimes they seem indifferent and then out of the blue they end up in bed with you. They are moody, unpredictable and live the moment (or, we shall say, the period). Accept that and move on.
/r/seduction15/03/22 09:41 PM
261

I am not sure how much they are consciously aware of the skillset guys have to have but they are certainly aware when a man does not have one of these skills.
/r/seduction15/03/22 03:41 PM
1

What does make you laugh?
/r/seduction15/03/22 12:50 PM
1

By trial and error
/r/seduction15/03/22 12:49 PM
1

You need to achieve something. Challenge yourself and succeed. Could be as simple as learn to play the guitar and pass the Level1 exam, or learn a language and pass the Level1 exam or get hired by a too employer: the exam component is important, there must be a challenge.
/r/seduction15/03/22 12:46 PM
1

Trial and error
/r/seduction15/03/22 07:18 AM
1

Even in the middle ages, drops of the "deadly nightshade" extract (atropine) was used to dilate the pupils and make women more sexy. Anyways, I've seen that dilation in a woman's eyes and you understand when it's genuine attraction.
/r/seduction14/03/22 11:26 PM
3

Friendzoned
/r/seduction14/03/22 08:39 PM
2

Sure. Also darkness induce pupils' dilation. However, when the other factors are removed, it's an ioi.
/r/seduction14/03/22 08:31 PM
5

With her legs up in the air
/r/seduction14/03/22 06:27 PM
3

https://www.medicalnewstoday.com/articles/dilated-pupils-meaning
/r/seduction14/03/22 06:25 PM
1

Being young is a problem that sorts itself out naturally ...
/r/seduction14/03/22 10:30 AM
1

You risk a claim for sexual harassment. Employment and career terminated. It happened to a colleague who had an affair with a coworker. They broke up, had an argument by the coffee machine, where they were calling each other names and almost got physical. She filed a claim with HR.
/r/seduction14/03/22 08:46 AM
1

Leave coworkers alone.
/r/seduction14/03/22 07:50 AM
1

As soon as you see an attractive girl your hormones take over because of scarcity and the girls sense it from a mile away. 1) Be outcome independent: she's a PERSON, not just an orifice carrier that you can't wait to fill up. Your anxiety comes from the fear of sexual rejection. Simply put sex out of the equation, unless she gives you green light signals. 2) If there's chemistry between you two, great, if not tough, it doesn't matter. The case you described is clearly "red light" (legs away from…
/r/seduction14/03/22 07:49 AM
1

How old are you both?
/r/seduction14/03/22 07:39 AM
3

Yeah, maybe for a slice of cake and play monopoli
/r/seduction13/03/22 11:34 PM
4

No more than before, probably even less, as long as you have your house in order.
/r/seduction13/03/22 08:12 PM
20

There are such places. Problem is you have to pay ...
/r/seduction13/03/22 08:03 PM
31

So you want to find a place full of "9's and 10's" at your disposal for casual sex?
/r/seduction13/03/22 07:47 PM
18

Probably in clubs and bars, problem is they are mixed with all the other girls who are not interested in casual sex and in my experience, the latter are the majority. They don't wear a badge thet declares their intentions (I wonder why, lolz) ... one clue could be, possibly, that those inclined to promiscuity might be wearing slightly more revealing clothes, but not necessarily ... let me know if you're successful in your quest, but I have my doubts.
/r/seduction13/03/22 07:43 PM
1

Family, children
/r/PurplePillDebate13/03/22 07:52 AM
1

Isn't the ratio men:women unbalanced on OLD platforms, anyway?
/r/PurplePillDebate13/03/22 07:50 AM
2

The fight club ...
/r/PurplePillDebate13/03/22 07:45 AM
1

If you don't have anything to say of course words don't come up.
/r/seduction11/03/22 11:50 PM
15

Very true
/r/seduction11/03/22 11:40 PM
2

Good luck
/r/PurplePillDebate10/03/22 12:00 AM
11

Nah, men would like to have a harem, women would like mr. Perfect to fall in love with them. That's because men are men and women are women. Most of both genders have their typical flaws and both will be disappointed.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/03/22 10:30 PM
2

It's fear of rejection, 100% in your head. Put it this way: if you were a sales representative, would you be more nervous before meeting a $1000 potential client or a $100000 potential client? Now, if you don't make a move with the xyz girl, you wouldn't lose or gain anything. If you were to make a move, you could be A) successful or B) rejected. What would you exactly lose in the B scenario? Nothing, apart from a chink in your ego, which exists, again, 100% in your head. Reserve your fears for …
/r/seduction09/03/22 09:51 PM
4

Stop being weird
/r/seduction09/03/22 05:54 PM
2

As always, beware of those that promise instant miracles.
/r/seduction09/03/22 06:21 AM
2

She doesn't like you and you like her and she knows. So what? It happens. Be normal and just move on. Next time you like a girl flirt with her yourself.
/r/seduction08/03/22 11:30 PM
1

Intelligence? Very sexy, because it's quite rare.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/03/22 09:00 PM
2

Put yourself in a situation where you have to concentrate on your body, in the present. Drama, dancing, martial arts or something where you have to perform and you can't ruminate self defeating thoughts. Reserve the fears for more serious stuff; think of people in Ukraine: how afraid would you be, if you were in Kyiv at the moment?
/r/seduction07/03/22 05:02 PM
6

This is depression.
/r/seduction07/03/22 04:09 PM
1

Another girl is the quickest way
/r/seduction07/03/22 04:06 PM
2

The deal has to be sealed sooner. The longer you wait, the more likely it is that they lose interest.
/r/seduction07/03/22 04:05 PM
1

It's fear
/r/seduction07/03/22 04:03 PM
1

You can't know in advance. It takes time to know a person and you have to live together for a while, meeting just for sex and spending an evening a week in the restaurant, club or with friends is not good enough.
/r/seduction07/03/22 07:49 AM
1

When you are with her you are happy, when she's away you are unhappy. Simple.
/r/seduction07/03/22 07:05 AM
2

I don't agree fully. Women are compassionate beings, just not sexually. Don't expect a woman to give access to her genitals to men that she is not attracted to, because they are "fragile", "insecure", "emotionally hurt" and so on. This is not how their attraction works. On the other hand, I don't know the statistics of how many women vs. men volunteer to work for charities (e.g. the red cross, the Samaritans, etc.), it would be interesting to discover.
/r/seduction06/03/22 04:26 PM
1

Not even so secretly
/r/seduction04/03/22 09:30 PM
2

Family & friends, are the most effective channels. Best make friends, which is easy in Italy, then get introduced to girls.
/r/seduction04/03/22 12:23 AM
2

Falling in love with a person that reciprocates is good, falling in love with a person that does not reciprocate is damaging.
/r/seduction02/03/22 06:34 AM
3

Leave coworkers alone. You risk your career, your job. If it didn't end up well, you'll be still forced to see her and if you "mismanaged" the relationship, there's a risk of a harassment case filed against you.
/r/seduction02/03/22 06:14 AM
1

Oneitis
/r/seduction02/03/22 06:09 AM
5

Stop overthinking and move on
/r/seduction02/03/22 06:07 AM
2

Exactly
/r/seduction02/03/22 06:04 AM
1

You should have had a clarification. If she lost interest in you because she was seeing another guy, ... what can you do? Accept and move on, but at least you know. And don't do this blocking stuff, it's childish. Next time, if it happens ask frankly and directly if she's seeing another man. Obviously matters change when you are married, e.g. lawyers need to bay their bills, too ...
/r/seduction01/03/22 05:17 PM
1

There's little point in approaching and courting girls that are not into you. Furthermore, girls are periodically moody and, even if one was into you, you might make your move in the wrong week of the month and reap no results. In a way it is a number game. The odds are against us and you have to try but try wisely. Reading body language is a must have skill. A cold approach is similar to a salesman's attempt to sell you a life insurance (or something). If you already have the product, or you ar…
/r/seduction01/03/22 06:45 AM
2

Yes. It's hard to deny that the attitudes towards sex are different for the two genders. I don't know much about the LGBT world, so I won't speculate. The pills and the other birth control techniques are a very recent thing and haven't shifted the basic instincts. The woman not only risks far more in the sex act and has to invest so much more in what can follow (pregnancy / childcare) that no wonder that she's not interested / attracted to random promiscuous sex. Furthermore, her fertility is qu…
/r/PurplePillDebate28/02/22 08:32 PM
1

If you are afraid of rejection, what about road accidents, incurable diseases, unemployment, mobs, aggression, war? There are far bigger threats out there than a girl's rejection, which is only a pain if you let it be. Incidentally, women are NOT attracted to fearful men.
/r/seduction28/02/22 07:34 AM
1

Be outcome independent. Women have far better social skills than us. When you interact, they perceive your thirst from a mile. Assume that the conversation is NOT leading to sex, unless SHE gives you some hints and these hints are typically subtle. It's up to you to feel the mood and juggle the interaction properly, they are on their playground ...
/r/seduction28/02/22 07:09 AM
1

When you approach, it is possible that you find that they didn't want to be approached; they legitimately have their own businesses to mind. Develop empathy and feel the other person's moods, it's a great asset in life, regardless of seduction.
/r/seduction28/02/22 07:03 AM
1

Depends. Opening up a human, genuine side of one's personality is good, e.g. while arranging a date telling her that you are "not keen on crowded places, because they make you nervous", is ok, imo, shows that you have vulnerabilities and you are managing them. Being insecure e.g. not having a proposal on where to go for a date is a no-no.
/r/seduction27/02/22 11:06 PM
1

Yes, you guessed right. Flirting they were ...
/r/seduction27/02/22 10:58 PM
24

Be decent, be human, it's that simple ...
/r/seduction27/02/22 10:56 PM
19

An insecure man is sexually repellent to most women, especially young, especially if attractive. An insecure, meek man was a liability before civilization and the instincts that drive newly fertile women are the same as 50 thousands years ago. Things change with age, men become more confident, women feel the ticking of the biological clock.
/r/seduction27/02/22 08:32 PM
1

Indeed. Plus, no pain = no gain. I would also add that you have to develop empathy.
/r/seduction27/02/22 05:47 PM
4

Accept that going through life there will be pain, mistakes, drawbacks, consequences, and so on. These are part of the journey. It is not all gifts, no costs experience: if you use your brain and instincts hopefully success and rewards will more then compensate the mentioned negatives. There are no magic scrolls. You have to pave your own path, as what worked for me does not necessarily work for you. Good luck.
/r/seduction27/02/22 01:26 PM
1

If you want to take, you have to give. What are you giving?
/r/seduction26/02/22 11:50 PM
1

If you want to grow muscle, you have to follow a diet and hire a personal trainer. Apart from that, you have to take risks, which is a manlike attitude: most girls, albeit not all of them, prefer men that are masculine. After all, what do you have to lose?
/r/seduction26/02/22 09:44 PM
1

And what do you have to offer?
/r/seduction24/02/22 07:51 PM
5

These men have an alternative career in the catholic church. Otherwise, becoming gay is always an option.
/r/seduction24/02/22 07:48 PM
1

Possibly you are right. A less threatening scenario would be better, to start with ...
/r/seduction23/02/22 07:50 PM
5

Nope. I'm average and I have been approached. Maybe half a dozen times in my entire life. It's not the norm but it does happen. As others have said, more attractive and/or valuable men will have experienced that considably more often. Attractive people have it easier ... who would have guessed? Moreover, if a man has a girlfriend / partner / wife, his value gets automatically boosted (pre-selection) and some women get into "competition" mode.
/r/seduction23/02/22 07:48 PM
1

Bowling, zoo, movies, theatre, other amusements?
/r/seduction23/02/22 07:39 PM
2

Seek professional advice.
/r/seduction20/02/22 12:28 AM
1

Seek professional advice.
/r/seduction15/02/22 11:40 PM
51

Smile. If they smile back = green light to approach.
/r/seduction15/02/22 11:33 PM
1

Keep it funny. Life is serious enough. You'll become the "breathe of fresh air in an otherwise dull existence".
/r/seduction14/02/22 06:46 PM
1

Apart from not hitting at coworkers, in general, as soon as it is established that you get on well, you ask her out, what's the problem ?
/r/seduction14/02/22 06:34 PM
10

You have to use your imagination, while looking her in the eyes ...
/r/seduction14/02/22 12:00 AM
1

Women want quality in their partners, men seek the quantity of partners. Many of both genders will be disappointed ...
/r/seduction06/02/22 08:07 PM
2

Your call. I would ...
/r/seduction06/02/22 07:00 PM
3

How many times have you said "I" in your post, OP? Maybe this is your problem, other people (and women) exist and have feelings, priorities, lives, backgrounds ... are you capable of connection?
/r/PurplePillDebate06/02/22 09:12 AM
3

You have a dry humor, as you say. I think that if this is your style, you should stick to it. In terms of being playful, consider that girls (women in general) love cute, cuddly situations (e.g. videos of cats being silly) and images because they are supposed to deal with kids, therefore they retained this children-compatible approach to fun. You have to tap into your childhood memories, e.g. what cartoon / animated movie did you enjoy the most and why?
/r/seduction05/02/22 03:47 PM
3

As someone rightly said, if you want to keep her as a friend, that's alright but then treat as if she was a male friend and, if she teases you, just to keep you keen, turn the table and tell her that, sorry, you only see her as a friend and see how she likes it.
/r/seduction05/02/22 09:42 AM
1

In my experience, no.
/r/seduction05/02/22 08:40 AM
2

She wanted validation and to feel powerful: make you simp and then reject you. It happened to me several times. Typically they do that when there are other people (her girlie friends) around and they can be seen. What I did in these circumstances (after having fallen into the trap a couple of times) is I move slightly away, as if I want to make room, effectively putting some centimetres of air between me and her. If she teases verbally, I give a little gentlemanly smile and then revert the conve…
/r/seduction05/02/22 08:38 AM
1

You have your self esteem and pride. Ask yourself: is this girl worth the risk of hurting your self esteem and pride? Is she signalling a green flag?
/r/seduction04/02/22 08:50 PM
3

Therapy
/r/seduction04/02/22 08:41 PM
2

Exercise: go to public places, e.g. a mall and approach people, men, women, old, young, just to have a little small talk. A typical topic is the weather...
/r/seduction04/02/22 08:40 PM
1

You are NOT an idiot. These things happen, actually similar outcomes are more common than success. You need alternatives
/r/seduction03/02/22 01:52 PM
2

Don't take the whole thing seriously ...
/r/seduction30/01/22 09:14 PM
0

Trial & error. There are no shortcuts. Interact with as many girls as possible and learn, ... fast
/r/seduction30/01/22 09:13 PM
1

Confidence comes with age and experience
/r/seduction30/01/22 09:11 PM
4

Confirm
/r/seduction29/01/22 08:23 AM
1

There's so much on offer nowadays to a single and so many marriages don't last anyway.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/01/22 11:11 PM
1

It never happened to me. I can confirm, from my experience, what you said. As soon you are no longer "new", the level of potential romantic interest melts away like an ice cream in a volcano ..
/r/seduction25/01/22 08:57 PM
-16

Watch "Friends", that's the kind of humor
/r/seduction23/01/22 02:22 PM
8

I think, without any title in anthropology, that girls are attracted to "aggressive" men, because in the pre-historic millennia of humanity, these men were better hunters / warriors, therefore better providers of food and protection and guarantors of the offspring's survival.
/r/seduction23/01/22 01:15 AM
1

Other people exist and have feelings, desires and emotions. You have to connect.
/r/seduction22/01/22 11:49 PM
1

Seems that you are concerned a lot about yourself and very little, if anything, about her.
/r/seduction22/01/22 11:36 PM
1

What does this tell you?
/r/seduction22/01/22 11:27 PM
-2

How many times have you said "I", in your text?
/r/seduction22/01/22 09:54 AM
1

Exactly what it is. Question is: what do you have to offer?
/r/seduction19/01/22 11:15 PM
1

Body language videos on youtube
/r/seduction19/01/22 11:11 PM
4

She might want only validation; maybe she wants to sleep with you ... only one way to discover.
/r/seduction19/01/22 11:10 PM
1

If you want to speed up the improvement, don't forget to hit the gym
/r/seduction18/01/22 09:18 PM
-6

Become rich
/r/seduction18/01/22 08:48 PM
2

This
/r/seduction17/01/22 11:20 PM
1

No
/r/seduction17/01/22 11:20 PM
0

Only if they give a 'green light' signal.
/r/seduction16/01/22 10:46 AM
1

movies, art, literature, music, food, ...
/r/seduction11/01/22 11:01 PM
1

Today? Not many ...
/r/seduction11/01/22 05:22 PM
1

It happens. There is no logic. Women are periodically moody, this could be an explanation ... in any case: next. That one was not girlfriend material, that's for sure.
/r/seduction09/01/22 10:46 PM
11

My advice: move on.
/r/seduction09/01/22 08:54 PM
1

Well said!
/r/seduction31/12/21 11:18 PM
3

Friendzoned.
/r/seduction15/12/21 06:28 PM
14

Read books, watch comedies, go to comedians shows ...
/r/seduction12/12/21 08:18 PM
1

Yes
/r/seduction09/11/21 10:50 PM
2

You have to understand whether the counterpart wants to be with you. There's more to consider than just what you want ...
/r/seduction04/11/21 11:18 PM
1

If she thought that she might lose you she would probably change attitude ...
/r/seduction28/10/21 06:20 AM
4

Go seek professional help. Therapy.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/10/21 06:16 AM
1

Women have periodic mood swings, it's their nature. You can cope with some patience and humor, to de-escalate. Disrespectful behaviour is another matter. How willing are you to tolerate it? What kind of relationship do you have?
/r/seduction28/10/21 06:10 AM
15

It was very, very sad for a girl when nobody approached her. Things improved massively with online dating but only for the minority of girls that use them. Normally, they are very shy and would give subtle signs of interest, hoping that the boy that they like would notice. 90% of the times their signs don't get noticed. I missed so many opportunities in the past, because I did not pick these hints and yes, without even realising, I rejected these girls
/r/seduction19/10/21 10:39 PM
2

Be friendly and civil but forget about any romantic involvement and don't invite her or chase her, unless she comes back with a proposal (unlikely).
/r/seduction19/10/21 10:28 PM
0

Don't ask it. They don't have an answer.
/r/seduction12/10/21 08:28 PM
2

Hating yourself is easy. Doing something is difficult.
/r/seduction12/10/21 08:27 PM
1

When she's with you she's into you. When she's with someone else she's into someone else.
/r/seduction12/10/21 08:24 PM
1

Goals in general. Goals with women will follow.
/r/seduction11/10/21 05:41 AM
1

Success. Set goals and achieve them.
/r/seduction10/10/21 07:24 PM
1

Build slowly and subtly
/r/seduction07/10/21 07:36 PM
1

Start very neutral, then see if the counterpart gives the "green light" signal ...
/r/seduction07/10/21 07:35 PM
6

Women give out hints, most of the times very subtle, typically involving body language or double meaning phrases. The hint can be either positive (e.g. "escalate, please") or negative ("don't escalate"). You need to decipher the signals and decide your next move. Young men (like me, many years ago, now) unfortunately haven't got a clue and must learn from their own mistakes.
/r/seduction07/10/21 07:29 PM
3

Interested? Yes. Is it a good idea to flirt with a married coworker? No.
/r/seduction06/10/21 07:11 AM
1

Normally. Leave sex out of the equation, until they feel comfortable and give you green ligh signals.
/r/seduction05/10/21 09:30 PM
1

You are not entitled to happiness: how about you going towards it, rather than expecting it to be served to you on a silver platter?
/r/seduction03/10/21 09:58 PM
2

"Just be yourself" is both good and terrible advice. Terrible because is very vague and open to interpretation, good because it tells you to avoid acting and pretending to be a different persona
/r/seduction29/09/21 08:33 PM
14

Correct
/r/seduction29/09/21 08:29 PM
8

Maybe she just want sex from you, no romance.
/r/seduction28/09/21 06:18 PM
2

Some are more into this stuff, some less. Understand other people and propose pastimes accordingly. Some girls are into cultural stuff, like art galleries; you don't take these to a luna-park, for example.
/r/seduction28/09/21 01:59 PM
3

I don't know, I am a man, plus I never met anyone calling himself perfect ... have you?
/r/PurplePillDebate24/09/21 08:58 AM
3

Well, you hit a nail on the head; men want a harem. Women want Mr. Perfect. Both will be disappointed, by the look of it ...
/r/PurplePillDebate24/09/21 06:01 AM
1

Does the gender distribution on OLD platform bias the distributions? If 70% of the (real) online profiles are male, the few women there are super spoilt for choice. Why wouldn't these few women be picky? If you are on the market for a car and there's certainly no shortage of these, wouldn't you try to get the best your money can buy?
/r/PurplePillDebate23/09/21 10:34 PM
-1

The 80/20 rule is simple: 80 years old men are attracted to 20 years old women. I can't speak for women but I suspect the same applies.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/09/21 10:23 PM
1

Insecurity in a man is probably one of the biggest turn offs for women, compare it to being physically unattractive in a woman. A competent and confident man, that is also caring, reasonably in shape and intellectually stimulating wins with quality women against the yob, who only appears to be confident to those that are weaker than him. When I was insecure and broke, as a student, I had the longest dry spell and miserable time of my life. Once I got financially independent, confidence came back…
/r/PurplePillDebate23/09/21 06:28 AM
2

My advice to fix insecurity is to achieve in life and keep improving yourself, every day. It's a life long path. If you think that you have a condition, seek professional advice / counselling; your first port of call would be your GP.
/r/seduction22/09/21 06:43 AM
17

Women give you green or red light signals, both verbally and non verbally while interacting with them. These signals are subtle, most of the times: learn to decipher them. There's no point in flirting with a girl that is not receptive / interested.
/r/seduction22/09/21 06:38 AM
1

Have goals and achieve them. Are you financially independent? Do you own a house? Are you physically fit? Can you play an instrument? How many languages do you speak? How many books do you read per month? Do you have a job that satisfies your career ambitions? Have you got the scholarship degrees that you aimed for?
/r/seduction22/09/21 06:33 AM
14

Seek professional counseling / therapy, before things get worse
/r/seduction21/09/21 03:57 PM
2

Record yourself and listen: you might have a monotone voice. YouTube has videos about how to fix that.
/r/seduction20/09/21 08:52 PM
1

Don't get drunk
/r/seduction19/09/21 07:25 PM
3

My experience (as a man) is that women's attraction is more articulated and complex than ours: it involves looks, intelligence and power (money, authority, charisma ...). Percentages? I suppose these are individual. In a one night stand scenario, looks are predominant. In a lifelong partner choice, probably 33% each?
/r/PurplePillDebate19/09/21 04:00 PM
2

Maybe your offer is not so appealing, maybe they were not interested in the first place (regardless of you) ...
/r/seduction19/09/21 01:15 PM
1

Quite a lot of art has some erotic vibe. If you two find yourself in front of a painting or a sculpture, e.g. of a nude pose, say something and se how she reacts. It is not unlikely that she might actually anticipate you (good sign). If she moves quickly away, on the other hand = bad sign.
/r/seduction16/09/21 08:44 PM
3

Skinny is better than fat.
/r/seduction16/09/21 08:03 PM
1

How about badoonz?
/r/seduction16/09/21 09:54 AM
1

For me it was easy, provided that I had something to say and you are not obviously just trying to get in her pants. E.g. in a shopping mall, I was at an automatic checkout till and the woman in front of me paid with contactless at, so I said: "it works like magic, doesn't it?", implying that the technology was amazing, she nodded and said "yes, it's amazing", so I replied "one must be careful not to overspend, though", so we had a 5 min interaction. Another time, in the London underground, I ask…
/r/seduction15/09/21 06:40 PM
3

You have two options; either you: A) recognize that cold approach is not your way (as you say you are successfully interacting when you already know the girl), or B) you go through the pain and force yourself to approach, until you don't feel the pain barrier any more. How much do you like it when you are cold called on the phone by a sales person trying to sell you something that you don't particularly need? Well, from a girl's perspective it's like you are trying to sell her your willie. She m…
/r/seduction15/09/21 05:54 PM
1

I agree with that ... what I meant is to remove that "I am desperate for sex" vibe that girls and women in general detect in a split second.
/r/seduction14/09/21 04:18 AM
2

Don't fool yourself.
/r/seduction13/09/21 09:29 PM
3

Probably interested but confused, like 95% of them girls. Not surprisingly.
/r/seduction13/09/21 09:16 PM
7

Wrong attitude. You want to get laid, desperately and women don't want to spread their legs to a desperate man. You have to forget about having sex in order to have sex.
/r/seduction13/09/21 09:15 PM
26

You know the answers. Put them into practice. For real.
/r/seduction13/09/21 09:08 PM
3

The former
/r/seduction13/09/21 09:06 PM
1

Join an acting club
/r/seduction13/09/21 08:09 PM
14

I would start with #5
/r/seduction12/09/21 07:52 AM
-3

Women want to have sex with the big bad boy and have a family with the sweet hard working daddy. The full prize is that the latter fathers the children of the former. Their archetypal fantasy (endlessly exploited by the female-oriented erotic novels and movies) is to meet the dark & dangerous outlaw (oozing with testosterone), get ravished but make him fall in love with her and turn him into a sweet husband. All of these instincts happen periodically in a sequence cyclically ruled by the ovulati…
/r/seduction09/09/21 10:54 PM
2

Bars, clubs, associatins, classes, unions, schools, political parties, gyms, shopping malls ... everywhere
/r/seduction08/09/21 10:07 PM
2

Ok
/r/seduction07/09/21 08:52 PM
2

You do what you feel is right and own the consequences. Be polite but not a doormat.
/r/seduction07/09/21 07:59 AM
8

Do you want confirmation of your assumptions or do you want to do something?
/r/seduction07/09/21 06:48 AM
8

You've been friendzoned. I don't think there's much other than that.
/r/seduction07/09/21 06:46 AM
2

Personal hygiene
/r/seduction06/09/21 09:37 PM
1

No
/r/seduction06/09/21 09:34 PM
3

There is nothing as interactive as another human. Interact as much as you can with anybody and learn from every interaction. Experience is the antidote to insecurity...
/r/seduction06/09/21 09:33 PM
1

Next, I am afraid. If she comes back be polite, if not, that's it, basically ...
/r/seduction04/09/21 09:56 AM
1

That she was bored and probably not in a great mood (could be that she has her period) ... Anyway, she has way more options than you and these situations are all too common.
/r/seduction03/09/21 10:29 PM
2

Yes but what are you interested in? If you are into dancing, as an example, join a dance class, and you'll find girls that have a common interest to talk about. If you are interested in nature, join a hiking club, etc.
/r/seduction02/09/21 04:27 PM
1

Nah, are you interested in sport, music, movies, literature ... ?
/r/seduction02/09/21 05:58 AM
1

What does interest YOU? Do you talk about these things to anyone (girls or boys, doesn't matter) and do you actually have a conversation?
/r/seduction01/09/21 09:46 PM
3

No volunteerung is a good idea, if you believe in what you're volunteering for. If all you want is meeting girls, then I'm not so sure ...
/r/seduction01/09/21 08:27 PM
6

Therapy
/r/seduction26/08/21 10:08 PM
1

You give off that vibe, obviously. "Nice and normal" is actually very good, except for those girls looking for a "bad boy", in which case being nice and normal is a handicap. Believe me, these girls are nothing but trouble (and drama): they want to be mistreated for a reason that they only know. If you don't mistreat them, they'll start to mistreat you. Avoid.
/r/seduction26/08/21 10:07 PM
2

Move on, to another girl and make this one past history.. The idea is to stay connected with a lot of people and a lot of girls, especially. It's like being a company: A) having one only big client, you are totally depending upon. If they leave you, you may as well go bankrupt and homeless; B) having a lot of clients and constantly cultivating more. If one client deserts you, it's annoying but not a tragedy. Does it make sense?
/r/seduction24/08/21 07:19 PM
1

You see a car passing, "what is a car that you like?", you see somebody walking a poodle, "Cute, do you like dogs? Do you have one" ... use some imagination
/r/seduction24/08/21 03:06 PM
1

C'mon ... if you're out and have food "what's your favorite food"
/r/seduction24/08/21 02:59 PM
2

Soft next
/r/seduction24/08/21 02:57 PM
2

It happened to me too. I got back in touch with the girl I was mad about in my twenties, much later in life. She certainly was attractive then and still is for her age but I saw in her a touch of narcissism: she always only talked about herself, her achievements, her problems. She never even once asked me about how I was, what I did, etc. I treated her in a friendly way, but I realized that she was not a person I would have wanted to spend my life with.
/r/seduction24/08/21 08:33 AM
1

Try to see the real human being in her and in any other woman (and person, in general), before seeing the idealized image you created in your brain. This avatar image can be of a woman you are in love with or a manager that you hate. You should be able to see not only the human weaknesses but also the others' point of views.
/r/seduction24/08/21 06:14 AM
2

What does she do in her free time? What do you do in your free time? Her/your ideal place for a holiday? A short weekend? ... the subjects are just infinite
/r/seduction23/08/21 10:28 PM
3

What does she do in her free time? What do you do in your free time? Her/your ideal place for a holiday? A short weekend? ... the subjects are just infinite
/r/seduction23/08/21 10:20 PM
1

Jeez, sex is meant to make babies. Clear? Procreation. The basics stayed the same for thousands and thousands of years, since we were hunters-gatherers. The man's ideal strategy is to inseminate as many women as possible (strength is in numbers), the woman's ideal strategy is to mate with the most powerful man around, who could protect her and provide for her and the offspring. The woman has everything to lose from sexual promiscuity, in an environment where the pregnancy poses a significant lif…
/r/PurplePillDebate23/08/21 08:39 PM
3

We all f*ck up, it happens. Nothing better than finding another woman to court; this one is lost.
/r/seduction23/08/21 08:14 PM
1

Exactly
/r/seduction21/08/21 07:38 AM
3

Attractive people (men as well as women) can easily be arrogant, because they are constantly validated without ever having to work for it. My theory is that women (and men) are attracted to jerks (or their equivalent counterparts) because they are handsome / hot. Who would you prefer to sh*g? A super intelligent & sweet fatty or a bitch with a beautiful body?
/r/seduction20/08/21 09:49 PM
2

Yes.
/r/seduction17/08/21 06:56 AM
1

You haven't done any major mis-steps, so that interaction will be forgotten. Be professional-friendly from now on.
/r/seduction13/08/21 05:43 AM
3

Coworkers are a no-no. Too much risk.
/r/seduction12/08/21 06:52 PM
5

Absolutely this. Coworkers are a no go zone, if you live in a country or work in a company that enforces anti-harassment policies. It happened in my workplace (not to me) and the case ended up in court.
/r/seduction07/08/21 06:47 AM
1

You have to understand the other person's feelings and adapt. You approach a girl in the mall; would you start with a lecture on quantum mechanics? No? Why not?
/r/seduction02/08/21 09:10 PM
3

Dancing classes
/r/seduction27/07/21 10:08 PM
1

Possibly now not relevant anymore. Good teeth instead ...
/r/seduction26/07/21 11:40 AM
7

Women are NOT men with tits. Their priorities are different. A man craves sex 10~100 x times more than a woman, because of the higher level of testosterone in the bloodstream. Both sexes are attracted to healthy, fit young bodies but, in order to be attractive to a woman, you have to meet the some of the requirements for the long term survival of her offspring: A) have good genes (be tall, preferably, strong jawline, good eyesight, muscular); B) be a provider of protection and resources for hers…
/r/seduction25/07/21 10:26 PM
1

Don't expect it from women, that's all. They all run to help the man that's already strong. If you have emotional breakdowns better rely on good (male) friends or a professional therapist. Once you find a good woman then she might stay by your side in time of hardship, in which case it's a life long companion that deserves love, loyalty and dedication. Unfortunately I've seen a few friends' families collapse as soon as money ran thin or as soon as the man slipped into depression. This is not to …
/r/seduction24/07/21 10:13 PM
1

Works like this: if your looks are average, about 40-50% of women would find the idea of dating you acceptable, while a minority will even find you absolutely awesome, with all the in betweens. Some would not be available, because in a relationship, some would be available, even if in a relationship. How many of these would sleep with you straight away, without at least some interaction? Maybe 0.1%. What do you have to do? Simples: interact and understand how much enthusiasm is the other person …
/r/seduction24/07/21 04:03 PM
1

Isn't there a subreddit called redpillwomen?
/r/PurplePillDebate23/07/21 10:12 PM
2

I've read it and it applies mostly to business scenarios. There are analogies between sales and game, albeit not that many.
/r/seduction23/07/21 08:18 PM
2

If one girl is not interested, this is perfectly within her right.There are millions and millions of other girls, everywhere. What more do you need to develop an abundance mindset?
/r/seduction23/07/21 08:14 PM
1

You are 100% sure? Yeah, right ...
/r/seduction23/07/21 08:09 PM
8

When you were ignoring her, she was chasing you. Now you're chasing her, she's ignoring you. Typical. Move on and leave her with her current man ... forever.
/r/seduction23/07/21 08:07 PM
1

You reciprocate the bothering; invest if she invests (other move on)
/r/seduction23/07/21 06:55 AM
1

Too outcome dependant. You are thirsty and girls have a radar for needy, insecure men; their process for weeding out these categories of males involves revealing their sexy body parts and sh*t testing: learn how to pass these tricks (plenty of material on YouTube); A flirty interaction is 50% words, 50% body language: learn to read body language (plenty of material on YouTube); Don't fear the rejection: avoid coworkers or wives / girlfriends of friends and from the family circle; only approach t…
/r/seduction22/07/21 10:08 PM
2

In this circumstances, you say something neutral, like "have you administered many patients today?" and see how she responds. If she just says "yes", and then turns away, not a chance, otherwise if she interacts, you reciprocate. It's simple.
/r/seduction21/07/21 09:35 PM
1

That's my opinion, you do what you like ...
/r/seduction17/07/21 01:09 PM
1

Avoid coworkers
/r/seduction17/07/21 06:42 AM
2

If girls test you, it's a good sign
/r/seduction14/07/21 05:52 PM
3

Museums, art galleries?
/r/seduction06/07/21 06:15 PM
1

You have to fight, in life, for the things that you want, unless you were born rich. Get qualified by studying whilst working (hard), then change your job for a better paid one (hard) and go to the gym regularly (hard). If you don't fight somebody else will take your place and all the girls.
/r/seduction02/07/21 08:11 PM
2

Success. This is the ultimate silver bullet.
/r/seduction02/07/21 08:05 PM
0

Develop a muscular body and find a job that pays well.
/r/seduction28/06/21 10:34 PM
7

Women have an instinct for confidence and can spot a needy and insecure man from miles away. You are outcome obsessed and this makes you anxious. Forget about it and one day you'll succeed but not now, with this attitude.
/r/seduction28/06/21 08:34 PM
1

You approach them with one thing in mind and they can see it through
/r/seduction28/06/21 08:16 PM
9

Attractive people are spoilt for choice and can become arrogant. In other words: they are not attractive because they are arrogant, they are arrogant because they are attractive, as simple as that.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/06/21 09:57 PM
5

By being funny and receptive to her signals and remember A) be light and not too serious, B) have fun C) sex is only a remote possibility at the moment so don't focus on it and don't get caught staring at her bits or bare skin;
/r/seduction11/06/21 03:41 PM
1

All you need is a ods with more women than men ...
/r/PurplePillDebate01/06/21 07:17 PM
1

Never
/r/seduction01/06/21 07:12 PM
1

Rabbits' strategy. Seed as much as possible, some will survive ...
/r/PurplePillDebate01/06/21 10:11 AM
1

"Hi, I see you making good progress at "xyz", my name is "jkl"" ... possibly with a smile?
/r/seduction31/05/21 08:18 PM
1

Cognitive behavioural therapy
/r/seduction31/05/21 09:18 AM
1

Read books
/r/seduction31/05/21 09:15 AM
3

Yes. But you have to notice and, believe me, most times men (me included) don't detect the subtle signals that are thrown at us, so an average woman won't necessarily succeed so easily in attracting the man that she wants. Makeup and revealing clothes are there to invite approach but what if the approach doesn't come?
/r/PurplePillDebate31/05/21 07:50 AM
4

Agreed. Offer & Demand law; one side has the sex leverage (by making it scarce), the other side has commitment. Women are picky on their sexual partners because sex is NOT their priority. Us men are blinded by testosterone and, before the age of 30, we have this animal urge to copulate. After 30, the table turns, women become anxious because the biological clock is ticking and commitment becomes scarce ...
/r/PurplePillDebate31/05/21 07:43 AM
1

Has this subreddit been hijacked by incels?
/r/PurplePillDebate30/05/21 09:13 AM
1

Lack of social skills. That's the problem. When you interact with many people you'll detect a signal that means "flirting" (e.g. initiating the mating dance) as opposed to neutral friendly conversation. Someone flirting with someone else is like a salesperson, trying to sell something (themselves) and they'll "casually" throw it in the conversation. In a small chat scenario, person A will throw a bait, generally followed by a mischievous look in person B's eyes. All person B has to do is hold th…
/r/PurplePillDebate30/05/21 09:11 AM
1

Wars were in the past a way to cull the surplus of men, nowadays wars probably kill men and women in equal numbers
/r/PurplePillDebate29/05/21 07:42 PM
1

If it sounds too good to be true, it probably is ...
/r/seduction29/05/21 07:32 PM
2

Avoid coworkers
/r/seduction26/05/21 07:31 PM
1

Join an acting club
/r/seduction26/05/21 07:29 PM
2

Yes
/r/seduction26/05/21 07:27 PM
1

No pain, no gain
/r/askTRP23/05/21 06:48 AM
1

100%
/r/seduction22/05/21 11:07 PM
2

No more mr nice guy
/r/seduction22/05/21 11:06 PM
0

Of course
/r/seduction18/05/21 09:25 PM
3

Some girls do these things; quite often because of a very painful / uncomfortable period, when they feel horrible and behave horribly. 3~4 days later she might be a totally different person.
/r/seduction18/05/21 07:58 PM
3

And this
/r/seduction17/05/21 09:50 PM
2

This
/r/seduction17/05/21 09:49 PM
-1

Yes
/r/seduction15/05/21 05:54 PM
1

Different people react differently. Some women like it direct, some don't. You have to understand what type you're dealing with ...
/r/seduction12/05/21 09:44 PM
1

Find a girlfriend
/r/seduction12/05/21 09:41 PM
3

Be very careful with coworkers: you risk a claim to HR for sexual harassment and lose your job and reputation. Coworkers are good to introduce you to friends. Apart from that, you have to understand the type of person you're dealing with and find common ground of conversation + read the body language response to what you say and adapt to make her comfortable +
/r/seduction10/05/21 03:30 PM
4

You have anxiety about "how people might judge you"; the reality is, whether you like it or not, people care very little about you (or me, for that matter), apart from your family and a number of close friends. People are mostly concerned with themselves and often, when they show interest, they want to sell you something or they need you to sort out some of their problems. That said, my best advice is don't try to seduce close friends or coworkers (let alone family) because things might turn awk…
/r/seduction10/05/21 03:20 PM
1

Because the golden age for men is between 30 and 40, whereas for women is between 20 and 30 ...
/r/PurplePillDebate09/05/21 11:09 AM
1

Body language and how to read it ... plenty of videos on YouTube.
/r/seduction09/05/21 11:05 AM
22

Personal hygiene
/r/seduction04/05/21 09:10 PM
4

Pretty girls are in demand
/r/seduction03/05/21 10:40 PM
1

Remember that sex is meant for procreation. Kids require stability.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/05/21 10:18 PM
1

Very important
/r/seduction02/05/21 10:12 PM
1

Learn to read body language
/r/seduction02/05/21 10:07 PM
2

I have seen short, non attractive men succeed and "chads" fail in life. There is more to life that being able to pickup a chick effortlessly in a bar, because of having won the genetic draw. When it comes to build a career, keep a family together and raise kids competently, having had it easy with easy women doesn't help that much.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/05/21 10:47 PM
11

Indeed. 7.5 billion people on earth and increasing. Do we need even more people?
/r/PurplePillDebate01/05/21 10:38 PM
1

If your conscience is clear and you haven't made a fool of yourself, there's nothing to worry about.
/r/seduction01/05/21 10:12 PM
1

Probably some issues in her family
/r/seduction01/05/21 08:51 AM
1

It's up to you
/r/seduction30/04/21 05:20 AM
0

You have to accept that your ego will not be rewarded all the time and setbacks occur sometimes. If being rejected by a woman hurts more than losing a loved one then maybe reconsider your values.
/r/seduction30/04/21 05:20 AM
2

Accept that life has painful moments and that you have to endure them. You have to be resilient and these are minor problems, compared to what most of the humanity has to go through. Spare your grief for serious trouble, such as losing a loved one, losing your health, losing a job, etc.
/r/seduction29/04/21 10:31 PM
1

It's about becoming the better version of yourself, not the poor imitation of someone else ...
/r/seduction29/04/21 05:46 AM
2

The easiest way is to "be yourself"; this advice is so vilified because people interpret it as "expose your vulnerable side", "cry", "show your emotions" and all of that. In reality the "be yourself" method consists in not putting up a fake persona, just to attract women. It doesn't work. One of their skills is, in fact, to detect discrepancies in your attitudes and your deeds (how successfully they manage it, it's debatable). I never was 'dominant', 'macho' and I'm not good at acting (it requir…
/r/seduction28/04/21 10:46 PM
3

😁
/r/seduction25/04/21 10:15 PM
1

You will always have doubts; unless you had the crystal ball, there's no way to predict the future, therefore a mistake can always happen. Experience helps a lot but it's not the silver bullet. You will, by experience, recognize things that are worth worrying about (health, family, job, personal improvement ...) from other negligible issues. Also consider that people spend far, far less time judging you than you might think. In fact the vast majority of humanity don't care about you at all. Valu…
/r/seduction25/04/21 10:08 PM
8

1) Approaching strangers is much better than trying to seduce acquaintances, god forbid coworkers! If rejected, there are no relationships to become awkward, sour or end up in front of an authority; 2) Have empathy and sufficient social intelligence to understand what is appropriate. Vulgar comments or disrespectful remarks are NOT appropriate. Humour is appropriate; 3) Spare your fears for the real dangers: losing the loved ones, losing your health, losing your job. A rejection is just an almos…
/r/seduction25/04/21 09:51 PM
1

Dancing classes
/r/seduction25/04/21 10:39 AM
1

What do you have to lose, apart from a chip in your ego? Keep your fears for real dangers, e.g. losing your loved ones, your health, your income. One tip is only ever try to seduce girls that are not within your circle of friends, relatives or coworkers, so you won't feel awkward afterwards if rejected. In other words strangers.
/r/seduction25/04/21 10:39 AM
-1

Change city
/r/seduction23/04/21 10:13 PM
4

Maybe you're not on the right path (for you).
/r/seduction23/04/21 10:13 PM
2

Why shouldn't a woman try to find the best possible man, genetically or socially? She has far fewer eggs than the typical man has sperms and her window of fertility is more limited. On the flip side, men abandon families, to chase younger, more fertile women. It's an instinct, from both sides, to optimize their sexual strategy. How many women leave tgeir partners for a richer and more attractive man or how many men leave their wives for young ballerinas, I don't know.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/04/21 07:35 PM
1

Rabbit attitude. Their force is in numbers: inseminate as many women as possible.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/04/21 10:41 PM
2

Yes, it exists, as an instinct, but not all woman wil follow it. By the same token, all man have the instinct to sleep with as many women as possible but stay loyal to their wife
/r/PurplePillDebate21/04/21 10:34 PM
2

Everything can be done in moderation. Problem is drugs (and alcohol) mess up the pleasure receptors and make people crave it, so, it's difficult to exercise moderation and one ends up overdoing. E.g. a reefer with friends on a Saturday evening followed by a good laugh is likely not a problem (apart from the legal consequences), smoking every day is damaging.
/r/seduction21/04/21 08:07 PM
1

Avoid coworkers. Polite-professional / friendly
/r/seduction20/04/21 09:16 PM
1

The best is trial & error
/r/seduction18/04/21 10:15 PM
1

Tell the truth (politely)
/r/seduction18/04/21 10:12 PM
1

After 30 years of cohabitation and 24 of marriage, things got a bit stale ... to put it bluntly: do you like watching movies? Good, is there a movie that you really love and you have watched several times? Fantastic, now from the day you got married, every time you turn the TV on (or you go to the movie theater), they will be playing that movie.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/04/21 07:46 PM
1

Plenty of rom-coms on Netflix, to get inspired from. "Friends" also inspires. They love that kind of humor. Me, not so much ...
/r/seduction12/04/21 07:32 PM
1

Which is more akin to their views
/r/seduction11/04/21 04:32 PM
1

Most wouldn't, a minority would. After a couple of dates it's more likely
/r/seduction10/04/21 11:10 PM
1

Long term relationship
/r/seduction10/04/21 11:06 PM
1

Get intimate (consensually, obviously), then you decide if you want a LTR or whatever. I learned by experience: sex is part of the equation.
/r/seduction10/04/21 11:04 PM
2

1) Understand women's "signs of attraction" (plenty of body language videos on YouTube); 2) create a rapport with the girl (if she's willing to reciprocate); 3) get intimate (again, if she's willing to reciprocate); 4) decide if you want to continue to date or move on.
/r/seduction10/04/21 10:57 PM
1

I don't think either of these tactics would work
/r/seduction10/04/21 10:50 PM
1

If a woman wants you sexually, she'll try to make herself understood. Problem is, we don't always understand, because they communicate it non verbally, most of the times but not always. In my case I missed the message, most of the times but not always ...
/r/seduction10/04/21 10:16 PM
1

Women have an advantage on dating apps, where they are massively ounumbered and simp men would shag anything that breaths ...
/r/PurplePillDebate10/04/21 06:54 PM
2

Indeed; remain polite, because she's a coworker but don't respond to any flirtatious conversation, change topic and be "professional friendly".
/r/seduction10/04/21 07:11 AM
2

It happened to me and she was hot. I was new in the workplace and got some attention from the office ladies and girls as I was the novelty. The self proclaimed "beauty" started flirting. I started to respond. The moment the opportunity came (I thought), she became cold and detached. Retrospectively, better, workplace flings are nothing but trouble.
/r/seduction09/04/21 11:58 PM
2

First: avoid coworkers. Second: logic doesn't help to understand women. Third: she probably just enjoyed teasing you but had no intention to go beyond the flirty banter. Once she proved to herself that she was capable of seducing you, she got her validation, now she'll play hard to get, just to extract more validation and see you simping after her ...
/r/seduction09/04/21 11:47 PM
1

How old are you?
/r/seduction08/04/21 10:26 PM
1

If she says that, red light, disengage (politely) & move on
/r/seduction08/04/21 10:24 PM
1

Absolutely. Religion wants to put their stamp on the emotional life of everyone.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/04/21 07:36 PM
1

There will always be people better off than ourselves, more successful, with bigger d*cks. They will have more sex and success in life. So? Everybody can find a partner, a job and their place in life. It might be more difficult than the average, or less. Be stoic and stop whingeing: you can't control your genes or your family background but you can control how you respond to the challenges of life.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/04/21 07:22 PM
2

Indeed
/r/PurplePillDebate05/04/21 07:12 PM
3

Nothing wrong. I don't find them attractive but I'm sure most of them don't find me attractive, so it's fine ... there's no obligation to sleep with everybody. Apart from that live and let live.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/04/21 07:10 PM
4

Lack of empathy = autism
/r/PurplePillDebate05/04/21 07:05 PM
1

Understand women and the way they communicate interest (or the lack of). Body language, watch videos on YouTube.
/r/seduction31/03/21 09:30 AM
1

She doesn't seem particularly interested. Reply out od courtesy but move on.
/r/seduction31/03/21 09:27 AM
4

I've seen that happened
/r/seduction30/03/21 05:42 PM
13

Avoid coworkers
/r/seduction30/03/21 04:15 PM
3

Do what you feel right and learn from the outcome.
/r/seduction30/03/21 04:14 PM
1

Interact without second motives, e.g. forget about "having a relationship" (especially with coworkers).
/r/seduction30/03/21 07:09 AM
1

Problem is you are forcing yourself into something that you're not comfortable with, just because you have one goal in mind (to get laid).
/r/seduction29/03/21 08:09 PM
2

They an ego boost by seeing men salivating after her body or, even better, by men approaching her and she rejecting them.
/r/seduction29/03/21 08:03 PM
1

sidebar, FAQ #1
/r/seduction29/03/21 07:57 PM
1

And under what kind of rule of the law would you enforce the sharia in non muslim countries and for what offence in the statutes would you restrict the liberties of female citizens that are meant to be equal in front of the law? It seems just raging misogyny to me ...
/r/PurplePillDebate22/03/21 01:18 PM
2

Such as polygamy? Women not having the right to go out on the street unveiled and unless accompanied by their husbands / male member of the family? Is this what you would like to impose to the western secular democracies? What a nightmare ...
/r/PurplePillDebate21/03/21 08:12 AM
0

So what is the model society, Saudi Arabia?
/r/PurplePillDebate21/03/21 12:22 AM
2

Sadly, yes. In non "feminist" societies, where the sharia law rules, polygamy is legal. Those societies are even more imbalanced towards the "have's" and against the "have not's" ...
/r/PurplePillDebate21/03/21 12:19 AM
2

It's the therapists' job to address the psychological problems, if any. What are you suggesting, sex vouchers for registered incels, paid for by the Government? Arranged marriages with supermodels?
/r/PurplePillDebate20/03/21 10:03 PM
7

There was always a surplus of men, this is why wars were fought between the various clans & tribes. Nowadays, on the dating apps, the same happens: there is again a surplus of men, therefore women can afford to be choosy. Sperm is cheap, eggs are precious. Nature wants us men to compete, this is why successful men have "harems", inferior men have none. That said, it is absolutely possible to find and keep a partner, for a normal man; inept autists who can't communicate and don't understand the b…
/r/PurplePillDebate20/03/21 08:37 PM
2

Whatever
/r/PurplePillDebate20/03/21 08:28 PM
21

Thank goodness for sexual liberation. If some people are too inept to find a partner, too bad.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/03/21 04:58 PM
2

Blunt, I would call it. Most women are uncomfortable being approached by a complete stranger. In a social context (a dance class, a hiking club, etc) you have to read the subtle signals of interest (if any) and progress on these. One thing I discourage is flirting with coworkers; risk of sexual harassment complaints to HR and dismissal.
/r/seduction19/03/21 06:40 AM
1

To feel valued.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/03/21 11:56 PM
2

It's much, much easier if you get to know them socially, rather than cold approaching ...
/r/seduction18/03/21 11:41 PM
1

It's a catch 22 situation: a boy is attractive, therefore successful with girls. Said boy becomes arrogant with girls, because he's spoilt for choice. People think that arrogance is the cause of sexual success, in fact it's the other way around ...
/r/PurplePillDebate14/03/21 10:51 PM
2

True. Not a socially wise feeling but unavoidable ...
/r/PurplePillDebate14/03/21 08:44 PM
2

I think reality is simpler: sexually successful people tend to be more arrogant, because they are entitled to receive without giving. The equation women make is: if you are giving without being asked, this means you're desperate (sexually unsuccessful). In other words, not arrogant = loser. If a partner is not desired by other women, he must have flaws that might be not immediately obvious (short, crooked face, weak, obese) and the said woman should better avoid him. Mating with a subpar partner…
/r/PurplePillDebate14/03/21 08:42 PM
1

Risk of harassment claim? It happened between two coworkers that had a relationship and split up acrimoniously. She went straight to HR ...
/r/seduction14/03/21 06:42 PM
2

Sidebar, FAQ #1
/r/seduction14/03/21 06:36 PM
4

Plus the risk of sexual harassment accusations (seen that happened to a colleague)
/r/seduction14/03/21 01:43 PM
2

Better avoid coworkers
/r/seduction14/03/21 08:33 AM
1

Some do ...
/r/seduction12/03/21 09:21 PM
1

This is where you need to be extremely receptive, especially to the body language, but also clues that she will give (positive or negative). Can you understand when a girl is comfortable to be in your presence or when she can't wait to leave? In this case (or actually well before she gives signs of impatience), politely disengage. If she's comfortable, she might launch a subtle tease (e.g. "do you always speak to all the girls who come to this bar/mall/club?" A.k.a. sh*t test) or a clue (e.g. "w…
/r/seduction12/03/21 09:20 PM
1

Problem is, for many, is that when they realize that they are unattractive, they haven't got a clue of how to reverse that.
/r/seduction12/03/21 08:58 PM
5

Women's understanding of the seduction game rules is higher than men's. There are so many posts from young men who are absolutely clueless. There are probably girls equally unsuccessful. They tend to be passive and hope that a high value male passing by will spot them, fall in love and have the guts to approach (I'm simplifying). When this doesn't happen they don't have any kind of plan B, they slip towards depression and accept their spinster fate. By contrast, many men react by doing things, d…
/r/seduction12/03/21 08:54 PM
1

1) Courage and 2) ownership of the consequences, whatever they might be.
/r/seduction09/03/21 03:23 PM
1

More than anything, fear holds you back from living and gaining experience and, without experience, there's no confidence and so on. Accept that mistakes and occasionally suffering happen in life but, if you use your brains and some willpower, hopefully success will prevail ...
/r/seduction08/03/21 11:38 PM
2

It's impossible to give advice without knowing you and her. Even in this case what works for me doesn't necessarily work for you. Enjoy her company while you are with her and, if you care, make it so that she enjoys her time with yoy, too.
/r/seduction08/03/21 10:41 PM
3

Real or fake confidence? I never managed the fake, so I can only speak about the confidence that I have (might be little or much, idk). For real confidence, what you need is: 1) Know yourself (your strengths and weaknesses), 2) Experience (of situations and their outcomes), where you survived, managed, won The contrary of the above is what stops you ... The fake confidence is the confidence of (the actor playing) James Bond: you might as well join a drama school and become an actor, because this…
/r/seduction08/03/21 10:00 PM
0

You're too easily heartbroken. Seduction takes resilience, you can't give up so easily. Having said that, you're ready when you feel ready. If you are insecure, then you're not ready.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/03/21 01:52 PM
1

Try then
/r/seduction07/03/21 01:44 PM
0

Because they can.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/03/21 01:42 PM
1

On online platforms, yes.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/03/21 01:41 PM
1

Perfectly
/r/PurplePillDebate07/03/21 12:23 PM
3

I know that at your age it's difficult but you should leave sex out of the equation, when you meet a girl that you don't know, until you know her and, as you said, you are then confident enough to flirt. When you meet a new girl, you are meeting a person, first and foremost: it is reasonable to get to know each other, before starting to "game" her or start sexualizing a conversation (which requires a ton of confidence). There is another benefit in looking beyond her bits and your urge to have se…
/r/seduction07/03/21 01:45 AM
3

They believe their own narrative (... what they want to be true). Most of us luckily never go out of control, to the point of harm, however the instincts are there. Boys are generally more rowdy in class and need physical exercise to let out steam. Sometimes a family's history of abuse perpetrates an abusive habit, sometimes it's innate but the blunt response of society is to regime the violence into the armed forces and police and incarcerate the deviating antisocial initiative (predominantly m…
/r/PurplePillDebate06/03/21 11:57 AM
5

Rape, abuse are again down to male innate aggression instinct, I'm convinced, because of testosterone again. I'm not being mysandric or mysoginistic. A man who can't control his instincts to a point of harming other individuals has to be prosecuted, imprisoned and/or undergo therapy. We know that antisocial and criminal behaviour is predominantly male, so is the prison population. Unfortunately being nastier than the surrounding environment (preys, predators, competing tribes ...) was a good tra…
/r/PurplePillDebate06/03/21 11:35 AM
3

It's all about testosterone; we have 10 times more of it in our bloodstream than women: we are wired to be craving to have sex with and inseminate as many women as possible. In doing so we clash inevitably with other men with the same goal and we have to compete with them for the females, as it happens in many species in nature. Guess what, testosterone makes us also aggressive, because for hundreds of thousands of years the competition was physical (in order to weed out weak males and improve t…
/r/PurplePillDebate06/03/21 10:14 AM
1

1) Understand women and their goals in life (for the majority of them having sex is easy and not a priority) 2) Learn to read the body language. Plenty of videos on YouTube 3) Recognize the positive indicators of interest and their contrary
/r/seduction06/03/21 12:23 AM
1

Exactly.
/r/seduction03/03/21 07:31 AM
5

Leave coworkers alone.
/r/seduction02/03/21 09:26 PM
3

Avoid coworkers
/r/seduction02/03/21 07:43 AM
2

You have to make your move at the right time: not too early, not too late. By the look of it, you lost the magic ...
/r/seduction28/02/21 11:02 PM
2

Perfectionism: https://en.m.wikipedia.org/wiki/Perfectionism_(psychology)
/r/seduction28/02/21 08:21 AM
1

If there was a magic formula, it would have been discovered not hundreds but thousands of years ago. Whoever claims that they can teach you a special and infallible trick, that was obviously some sort of a jealously kept secret, is selling snake oil. The ingredients of the pie are always the same: masculinity, handsomeness, humour, social awareness, status ... the mix is personal and individual, though. As it was pointed out on this sub-reddit before, what works for you doesn't generally work fo…
/r/seduction28/02/21 02:02 AM
1

And why should a girl be "got" by you?
/r/seduction27/02/21 07:58 PM
3

Often girls give hints, generally with body language but sometimes even verbally. The mindful man will capture the signals and act accordingly. As an old man, now I think back of my interactions with girls / women and sadly remember tons of missed opportunities, because I failed to move when the green light was on. The opposite is also true; girls will send you negative signals if they are not interested in a romantic / sexual interaction. Red light? No point in insisting at all.
/r/seduction27/02/21 08:44 AM
7

There are men who are seductive without even trying while others struggle all their life. It's all about finding one's own way, imo. What "just be yourself" really means is develop your own style: assertive and bold or shy and mysterious it's what suits you. Just don't pretend to be James Bond or some sort of fictional / fake persona ...
/r/PurplePillDebate24/02/21 09:32 PM
1

There are all sorts of ...
/r/PurplePillDebate22/02/21 08:35 PM
1

Women settle down, a lot. Men do, too. At the end of the day we all have to accept what we can have, rather what we would like to have. It works both ways.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/02/21 07:15 PM
1

I'm old and married, maybe this thing of women only going for the top 20% men is an OLD issue, e.g. if you are absolutely snowed with men, why shouldn't you be choosy? Real life is different (I think) ...
/r/PurplePillDebate22/02/21 06:30 PM
1

Community Info: FAQ#1
/r/seduction20/02/21 08:45 PM
1

Yes, it's common
/r/seduction20/02/21 08:44 PM
1

Not attractive enough?
/r/seduction20/02/21 08:43 PM
1

Community Info: FAQ #1
/r/seduction20/02/21 08:39 PM
15

Men are attracted by a young female body, with some degree if nakedness. Women are attracted by 1000 different things (including an athletic male body). Women have to be sexy, men have to be 999 other things (intersting, misterious, charismatic, successful, funny, sociable, aggressive, caring, protective, creative, violent, smart, clean, perfumed, rough, gentle, committed, cocky-funny, respectful, strong, vulnerable, challenging, reassuring), ... practically every adjective and its contrary.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/02/21 07:49 PM
2

Agree
/r/seduction17/02/21 08:03 PM
2

Correct
/r/seduction17/02/21 08:02 PM
1

A. Having children, B. Legal protections
/r/PurplePillDebate17/02/21 07:35 AM
3

Look at what people do and compare it to what they say.
/r/askTRP17/02/21 07:30 AM
4

Don't over invest in her. Have fun and be outcome independent.
/r/seduction16/02/21 07:43 PM
1

The human females invest much more in reproduction than their male counterparts. Childbirth was a life threatening event and in many countries with poor healthcare it still is. No wonders women are picky. They need to survive and ensure the survival of the offspring, so the partner has to be the best possible choice. The caveman "optimum" (strong, aggressive) is not the modern day "optimum" (wealthy, successful), so some girls get confused, especially in their younger years and get pregnant with…
/r/PurplePillDebate13/02/21 10:14 AM
5

It's like drinking; an alcoholic would drink anything, even aftershave, a non addicted person can be choosy. It's all a chemical rush caused by higher levels of testosterone that makes us men crave sex desperately. The same hormone makes us aggressive. Why is that? Because nature wants men to compete for reproduction. All the rest is a byproduct ...
/r/PurplePillDebate13/02/21 08:41 AM
1

Because they can
/r/PurplePillDebate11/02/21 10:28 PM
11

The "nice guy" is just an insecure man. And male insecurity is punished, not only by women but also by society in general and on the workplace, too.
/r/seduction10/02/21 11:24 PM
2

All sort of men manage. Some have more difficulties than others. It's normal.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/02/21 09:37 PM
20

Like what, hypnosis?
/r/seduction07/02/21 01:00 AM
1

Nah, both parties can be selfish. Women are naturally more skilled at social interaction and strategies, because men are single minded: go out, hunt, return to the cave with the kill, have sex, sleep, repeat. We understand social unwritten rules with more difficulty. If I am not mistaken, autism affects more boys than girls; autistic people have big problems with subtleties of social interactions but the highly functional ones are phenomenal at some tasks, such as complex calculations.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/02/21 11:26 AM
1

Women are naturally red-pilled, men have to learn ...
/r/PurplePillDebate06/02/21 12:35 AM
2

It's a mating dance https://m.youtube.com/watch?v=hgE6GwnzQMU
/r/PurplePillDebate06/02/21 12:32 AM
2

Effect of overpopulation. Loss of libido and low testosterone ...
/r/PurplePillDebate06/02/21 12:30 AM
1

More women in the workplaces and around? = More opportunities to meet them, great, I am all for it! Do you think that women should be only allowed to be housewives?
/r/PurplePillDebate04/02/21 11:31 PM
1

You are in control of your self worth, by definition.
/r/seduction04/02/21 11:24 PM
1

At my age (60), these aspects are more or less = 100%
/r/PurplePillDebate03/02/21 07:35 PM
2

Men are supposed to be strong, physically and morally. Nothing new ...
/r/PurplePillDebate03/02/21 07:34 PM
0

They enjoy seeing you salivating.
/r/seduction03/02/21 07:28 PM
2

A new broom always sweeps better
/r/seduction02/02/21 11:49 PM
1

Generally, to be Machiavellian, you need intelligence, albeit it's not used for 'noble' purposes.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/02/21 09:05 AM
2

Dark triad characters are not only more successful in the sexual marketplace, but also in climbing the corporate career ladder and in politics. This applies to men and women too. These individuals succeed in most competitive fields because they are generally cunningly intelligent, ruthless (e.g. callous to other people's feelings) and determined.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/02/21 08:13 AM
5

Now, as a man, I never fantasized about raping a woman, I find the sole idea abhorrent and off turning ... in my fantasies, women are 100 % welcoming and willing (reality was not that rosy) ... what do you fellow men think?
/r/PurplePillDebate30/01/21 11:16 PM
10

And also a workout, saves paying a gym membership
/r/PurplePillDebate30/01/21 11:10 PM
0

Empathy towards other people, understanding their feelings, especially women.
/r/seduction30/01/21 09:16 AM
1

Exactly
/r/seduction25/01/21 08:38 PM
1

If the couple is from two nationalities, it's easier to gain a citizenship if you married
/r/PurplePillDebate24/01/21 05:55 PM
2

It's China, India etc that matter the most. 1st world countries are not the majority of human population ... that said, in many of these countries the average age has gone up, too (from teens to early twenties, perhaps) ...
/r/PurplePillDebate24/01/21 05:37 PM
1

The younger you have kids the better I (m) had mine at 40 and it's hard to put up with them, the older you get. Children are childish (as they are supposed to be) and patience is in shorter and short supply as you age. From a female standpoint it's more difficult to get pregnant and give birth to healthy children, plus they take longer to recover from pregnancy. My advice is early 30s.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/01/21 04:33 PM
0

It's in the US. Not representative of the whole world.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/01/21 04:27 PM
1

Not enough information. You have said or done (or not done) something and put her off, obviously ... you say it was intense, so? She was maybe expecting you to act and you didn't ...
/r/seduction24/01/21 04:25 PM
1

Hmmm ... I've heard from my S.O. (+ other ladies) that the "horny" phase is ~ a week after the period has finished, but, what do I know? What always puzzled me is the purpose, from the evolutionary standpoint, of the "concealed ovulation": apparently this is rare, amongst other mammals, including apes.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/01/21 04:13 PM
1

There you go
/r/PurplePillDebate23/01/21 12:48 AM
1

It will but the discrepancy in numbers is still there
/r/PurplePillDebate23/01/21 12:46 AM
1

Nowadays dating is online and there still are far more men than women on the platforms ...
/r/PurplePillDebate23/01/21 12:42 AM
10

Women are NOT as horny as men. Simple. The ovulation plays a role, hence their desire is cyclical (typically) and sex is risky for them. Men's mating strategy, on the other hand, is "copulate with as many women as possible", therefore the end result is a huge excess of male offer vs female demand.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/01/21 12:38 AM
8

What is the problem? You need two to tango; if you approach in "seductive mode" and the other person reciprocates, you carry on. If you don't intend to seduce but be friends you don't do the innuendo, the kino, etc. Not being honest is when you promise friendship but really all you want is sex (and it generally doesn't work).
/r/seduction23/01/21 12:27 AM
1

You are saying that the dates went well .. well, judging by the follow-up, it seems not and what's worse, the poor outcome is repetitive. Something to do with being needy and asking for a second date? Going for the physical contact without a green light signal? What is that you do every time, because this might be the clue?
/r/seduction22/01/21 08:27 PM
1

My experience (I am old) is that once you mess up, that's it. If you performed poorly and lost an opportunity, there simply isn't a second chance. Better move on. Of course stay civil and polite but that girl is game over.
/r/seduction22/01/21 08:18 PM
1

Life is short
/r/seduction22/01/21 08:13 PM
1

A very handsome man can afford to treat women with arrogance, because he's in demand. The same happens on the women's side. Attractive and successful people are generally neither submissive nor humble. The whole saga of the "Nice guy" is totally clear. Women (most of them) like men that are masculine, not some weak and insecure man-child. A man that is attractive, physically and psychologically strong and at the same time kind and caring is twice as attractive. Unfortunately too often men that a…
/r/PurplePillDebate21/01/21 11:17 PM
1

It all boils down to what we define as a "nice guy". A meek and weak man, incapable of owning his own decisions and afraid of any confrontation, is not only unattractive to women but also a potential victim of abuse and bullying. A woman wants a masculine man who can ideally "defend" her (this is a primeval instinct, rather than a factual necessity, nowadays). Who wants a wimp that is afraid of his own shadow? This doesn't mean that this man has to be a criminal or an antisocial character, but i…
/r/PurplePillDebate20/01/21 11:45 PM
17

Your decision. I would go, it's beneficial to socialize.
/r/askTRP20/01/21 07:44 AM
1

Stop being an introvert
/r/seduction18/01/21 09:42 PM
7

Maybe these books are not worth the paper they are written on ...
/r/seduction18/01/21 09:42 PM
2

Planning and organizing is entirely your task ...
/r/seduction18/01/21 07:44 PM
2

True
/r/seduction17/01/21 08:32 PM
6

Intellectual attraction does not imply sexual attraction
/r/seduction17/01/21 07:29 PM
6

Do you care about her and her happiness or is it just "me, me, me"? If you care and nurture and are rewarded with a kick in the teeth, it's time to move on.
/r/seduction17/01/21 07:27 PM
1

This is social skill at its finest; there's a thin line between teasing with humor and offending someone. This implies understanding the other person and being deeply empathic. Tease or mick somebody who you don't understand in depth and you might end up in trashing their core values and triggering a hostile response. I've been there, done that. There are people who accept names and attributes and love cynical humor, while others become defensive / aggressive. With age & experience I improved a …
/r/seduction16/01/21 12:38 AM
1

Women give subtle green / red light signals, with body language (plenty of YouTube videos) and conversational hints, e.g. her: "I really like that band, I would love to see their gig next month... "; you: "Why don't we go together?"
/r/seduction15/01/21 08:31 AM
1

Well, women like masculine men (threatening) but also boy band effeminate types (non threatening), also depending on the celebmodels . When approaching 30 they definitely move towards the family man ...
/r/PurplePillDebate10/01/21 11:39 PM
2

If you are not available before, what's weird in setting the date 2 weeks away? True, she might change her mind 6 times between now and then but this is part of the game ...
/r/seduction10/01/21 11:03 PM
1

To an extent stereotypes of beautiful women change more than those of handsome men (since the ancient greeks). In the centuries, though, long hair, moustache or beards came and went, along with the make up ...
/r/PurplePillDebate10/01/21 07:56 PM
2

That's brilliant!
/r/seduction10/01/21 06:04 PM
5

Could be double edged; the counterpart might feel valued only for their body parts and that can be a put off, especially if the girl is quite attractive and she knows it. The fact that you love her eyes, smile or what's below is a given and cheap to them. These girls prefer to be appreciated for their intelligence and wit.
/r/seduction10/01/21 11:17 AM
1

Beauty standards change in time ...
/r/PurplePillDebate09/01/21 09:16 AM
1

A movie you have both seen? Did you like it? Yes/no, why? A place where you both have been: Did you like it? Yes/no, why?
/r/seduction08/01/21 08:58 PM
1

Normally
/r/seduction06/01/21 09:11 PM
31

Means 'don't force a fake persona'. Develop your own style.
/r/seduction04/01/21 07:16 AM
4

Drink a big glass of water between drinks
/r/seduction04/01/21 07:13 AM
3

We all are more tolerant towards attractive people
/r/PurplePillDebate03/01/21 09:39 PM
1

It's an age of learning. You should improve yourself on all fronts, body, mind and career. The reward will come eventually but if you are not gifted naturally (with looks & money), there's no way to escape the hard work (and the inevitable disappointments). I reaped the benefits later, about the age of 27.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/01/21 01:16 PM
1

How old are you?
/r/PurplePillDebate03/01/21 12:52 PM
1

Why are you not interesting, do you think?
/r/PurplePillDebate03/01/21 12:49 PM
1

How do you become interesting to them, then, what do you think?
/r/PurplePillDebate03/01/21 11:08 AM
1

They might, technically. I think that they are not inclined to it. I had 'casual sex' once and ditched the girl the day after. She cried and I felt like shit. Never did it again.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/12/20 10:10 AM
-1

Nice as caring and respectful = good; nice as a doormat (with a hidden agenda of manipulation) = bad.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/12/20 10:38 AM
1

There must be other areas of improvement you have not yet explored ...
/r/seduction28/12/20 11:18 PM
1

Good
/r/seduction28/12/20 11:00 PM
2

Improve yourself
/r/seduction28/12/20 08:36 PM
-1

You are probably right.
/r/seduction27/12/20 11:50 PM
1

Start wars and send the surplus men to the front. Ops, this solution is not original ...
/r/PurplePillDebate25/12/20 08:29 AM
1

Agreed
/r/seduction21/12/20 08:30 PM
1

No. Just watch any documentary. It's a pattern across all species (except for fishes, I suppose).
/r/PurplePillDebate21/12/20 05:48 PM
2

Men are supposed to compete for reproduction, this is nature's design (the ugly truth). A man who can't reproduce is seen as biologically losing the competition. A woman who is sexually inactive is seen as potentially faithful and therefore desirable, because of the paternity uncertainty. These are primeval drivers that are to a major or minor extent mitigated by social rules but still present.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/12/20 07:27 AM
2

Panic attacks (besides dating etc)? Speak to your GP, u might need professional counseling
/r/seduction21/12/20 07:20 AM
1

In most cases they look at you then look away, sometimes with a little mischievous expression, they also twitch their hair and that's it. 80% of men (me included) don't get it. In more rare occasions they initiate the conversation.
/r/seduction19/12/20 10:03 AM
1

Well, it's true that many of those who " don't mate at all " could improve. Some are really hopeless, though. ... from what I see, reddit seems to be a magnet for the latter.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/12/20 08:27 PM
3

Human society is complex than the jungle but, in essence ... men have to compete. Some mate a lot, some don't mate at all, this is how it works in nature.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/12/20 08:17 PM
2

So, if there are more thirsty men than thirsty women. I always suspected that, but, is it more due to women being less interested in relationships (and sex) or because a relatively small number of men entertain a disproportionate number of women?
/r/PurplePillDebate15/12/20 08:08 PM
1

It's your life
/r/seduction14/12/20 06:33 AM
1

And life is too short to be shy
/r/seduction13/12/20 07:35 PM
3

Their psyche is warped https://en.m.wikipedia.org/wiki/Hybristophili
/r/PurplePillDebate13/12/20 07:34 PM
2

Read body language (plenty of videos on YouTube). Introduce yourself. Is she giving any positive signals (smiling, touching her hair)? If yes, good, if no, probably there's no point. Be indifferent to the outcome and don't brood on rejection.
/r/seduction13/12/20 07:25 PM
6

You have your entire life in front of you. Forget about what others think of you (girls included). You can't change their views other than having integrity; they can think what they want, as long as your conscience is clear. Be focused on your improvements and watch out for body language signs of interest (plenty of YouTube videos).
/r/seduction13/12/20 12:09 PM
1

How old are you?
/r/seduction13/12/20 12:04 PM
0

Gym of any type. And stop being anxious.
/r/seduction13/12/20 11:55 AM
5

Avoid coworkers, too much risk
/r/seduction13/12/20 10:53 AM
1

Avoid coworkers
/r/seduction13/12/20 10:52 AM
1

The fact that you can't find the person attracted it doesn't mean that these girls are not there, probably it's your inability to read body language and signs of attraction. Second consideration, when you detect attraction you have to flirt, which requires some social skills. Third consideration, are you fit, well groomed and well dressed?
/r/seduction13/12/20 10:51 AM
6

Pay a gym membership
/r/seduction11/12/20 09:14 PM
1

Could be ... my experience is that all the girls I've been with, they said that they saw me as "family", e.g. as somebody that they knew for a long time before they actually met me. One night stand? It never happened. I guess that in the modern online dating scenario I wouldn't stand a chance ...
/r/PurplePillDebate06/12/20 02:24 PM
6

At the end of the day the mating strategy coincides with what is the best for the genes to survive in the long term. Men want to spread the seed as much as possible as the best strategy to replicate, and youth / fertility is the main driver, as simple as that (pump & dump). Women's cost of reproduction (pregnancy, childbirth, motherhood) is much higher, so is their exposure for a significant period of time, hence they search the best genes and the leader traits that will carry the winning traits…
/r/PurplePillDebate06/12/20 10:45 AM
1

Attractive guys = bold / confident, unattractive guys = creepy. Pick your side.
/r/seduction06/12/20 09:36 AM
1

Read books
/r/seduction04/12/20 07:42 PM
5

There are risks of in these professions, albeit I was told by both a former police chief and a Iraq / Afghanistan veteran that , if the procedures are followed, the risks are comparable to those of the construction industry. I find it hard to believe, when thinking of operations in a war theatre but I have no idea, really. What we see in movies is probably exaggerated for entertainment purposes.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/12/20 08:41 AM
14

I've heard from several women that they are attracted to the "uniformed" professions (e.g. armed forces, police, etc.).
/r/PurplePillDebate04/12/20 06:46 AM
1

She was intimidated
/r/seduction01/12/20 10:52 PM
1

Normally, they would keep orbiters, unless the "silverback" gorilla was overly jealous ...
/r/seduction01/12/20 10:51 PM
2

You don't bring it up out of the blue. If the conversation is about human behaviour, you might have something to say from the book you've read. If the conversation is about, say, France, having read Proust or Balzac can provide you with things to say. The more you read or the more documentaries you watch, the more you can contribute to a conversation on any subject.
/r/seduction01/12/20 07:25 AM
3

Could it be that these "black triad" men care less about what others think (often they care less about others, period), therefore are not shy, introverted and therefore better at playing the "game"? Kind and caring dudes that are positively assertive have probably even more success. As it is continually re-affirmed, it's confidence that matters.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/11/20 09:57 AM
1

Yes
/r/seduction29/11/20 12:20 AM
0

There's no point if she's not into you; if she is, almost everything will work, if she isn't, well, it's the other way 'round.
/r/seduction25/11/20 05:45 PM
1

How attractive are you? In order to stand out, you have to be outstanding (the more attractive she is, the more attractive you have to be) ... if you are not really hot, you have to hope that that particular girl likes you, which does happen and you have to spot that and seize the opportunity.
/r/seduction25/11/20 05:41 PM
1

It can skip generations ... I think because it's a 'recessive' genetic trait ...
/r/seduction25/11/20 06:38 AM
3

Interesting. Describing a fictional character, however well and plausibly, does not equate to understand a different human being.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/11/20 10:56 PM
2

Agreed
/r/seduction24/11/20 10:36 PM
1

I always wore glasses. Had average success. Obviously short-sightedness is bad genetics and probably I would have done better if I had 10/10 sight but there are girls who don't mind. You will never attract everyone ...
/r/seduction24/11/20 10:29 PM
1

It's more like the "dry" humor suits some people, the "silly" humor others ... It's all about understanding the other.
/r/seduction22/11/20 10:53 AM
1

Women have a radar to detect falsely "nice" guys. They prefer genuine jerks, an apparently kind & caring person with a hidden agenda is creepy and worrying.
/r/seduction22/11/20 08:41 AM
2

Do you have this "cynical humor"? That works (with some people) ... don't expect to be successful with 100% of the "audience", though.
/r/seduction22/11/20 08:36 AM
3

What does make YOU laugh? Give examples
/r/seduction21/11/20 05:38 PM
1

Fear
/r/seduction21/11/20 09:13 AM
11

Neediness / insecurity and fear / entitlement / whinging / introversion / hypocrisy / poor personal hygiene / self esteem issues / covert contracts (e.g. acting as a nice guy but being a jerk in disguise) / selfishness ...
/r/seduction21/11/20 09:11 AM
3

Read books (e.g. Oscar Wilde, Bill Bryson, ...), watch movies ("a fish called Wanda", anything from the Marx Brothers, ...).
/r/seduction21/11/20 08:02 AM
11

Yes. There is a part of our brain (the limbic brain, I think) that is emotional and more primeval than the pre-frontal cortex (the civilised and logical mind). The limbic brain, also called the lizard brain, is in charge of three basic survival processes: fight, flight and freeze. If you heard a shaking in the bush, in a forest at night, what would you do? It could be a threat (a predator) or just some wind or a birdie. You don't know. You either run for life or freeze or attack the bush with th…
/r/askTRP20/11/20 11:05 PM
1

Indeed
/r/seduction19/11/20 06:56 PM
3

It's not factual but perceived as such. As a man, I am still under the impression that showing vulnerabilities is a turn-off for women but, in reality, it's a turn-off for me in the first place, e.g. if I feel weak and vulnerable, I don't feel worth of attraction, therefore I am not attractive.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/11/20 08:50 AM
2

I play the guitar. I berated myself for not being able to play like Jimi Hendrix. Is that what you're doing? If you have a goal, such as being a successful researcher in medicine, you have to work out all the details of the little steps in between and pursue them one by one.
/r/seduction19/11/20 06:55 AM
1

Ok
/r/seduction16/11/20 06:35 AM
9

Capability to reason sensibly and empathy
/r/PurplePillDebate15/11/20 07:32 PM
3

Smile; if she smiles back, approach
/r/seduction15/11/20 07:02 PM
1

Build rapport, touch (the hand, the forearm); if she responds positively (body language, smiles) go for the kiss
/r/seduction15/11/20 07:01 PM
1

Just tell her
/r/seduction14/11/20 02:55 PM
1

Women detect fake confidence a mile away (all they need to do is a little sh*t test ). Learn to identify your strengths and weaknesses and accept that the occasional pain is part of life
/r/seduction13/11/20 07:06 PM
4

I feel, my feelings, ... It's all in your head
/r/seduction13/11/20 07:00 PM
1

So we, and the information we generate, travel together, at the speed of light
/r/PurplePillDebate13/11/20 06:32 AM
1

Slower?
/r/PurplePillDebate13/11/20 12:01 AM
1

Can we go a little bit faster?
/r/PurplePillDebate12/11/20 10:27 PM
1

Fantastic. Do you sell the tickets?
/r/PurplePillDebate12/11/20 08:46 PM
1

Oh, so we are also moving at the speed of light, right?
/r/PurplePillDebate12/11/20 07:14 PM
1

So all we have to do is travel faster, what speed di you recommend?
/r/PurplePillDebate12/11/20 06:34 PM
1

Then we travel towards the information
/r/PurplePillDebate12/11/20 05:24 PM
1

Oh, I didn't know ... but if we are moving towards the future and the information from the future travels towards us (as you claim), we should be meeting somewhere in between, shouldn't we?
/r/PurplePillDebate12/11/20 09:50 AM
1

Ok, if so why don't we know it in advance?
/r/PurplePillDebate12/11/20 09:33 AM
4

It's normal to be insecure. Everybody is, to a degree, in front of a new situation. It's also normal to experience pain in life, it must be accepted. The rejection hurts but it's like a mosquito bite, in the big picture of life. Losing a loved one, losing a job are serious stuff. Being rejected is nothing.
/r/seduction10/11/20 08:01 AM
1

None of these, I am old & old fashioned. My experience goes back to my teens, twenties and early thirties. Then I got married. I think the basics didn't change: you have to have your life in order and read the body language.
/r/seduction09/11/20 02:03 PM
1

I haven't recorded the conversations. I spoke about things that interested those women in particular plus I was witty and funny. In the case of the one that became my wife, she liked the fact that I spoke French to some people in the cafe we were sitting with some friends. You have to perceive the interest and the appreciation from the body language.
/r/seduction09/11/20 04:35 AM
1

Some sort of magic scroll?
/r/seduction08/11/20 10:32 PM
21

Study hard, work hard, workout hard and have fun.
/r/seduction08/11/20 10:30 PM
1

If you are worried, the approach is unlikely to work ...
/r/seduction07/11/20 09:57 PM
1

No, it's just that to approach you have to be upbeat and joyful, e.g. have an excess of 'positive energy' to share ...
/r/seduction06/11/20 11:02 PM
1

It's normal, indeed. You have to be in a happy mood, though, otherwise it would not work ...
/r/seduction06/11/20 10:58 PM
1

Are you happy, first of all?
/r/seduction06/11/20 07:49 PM
1

If you say so
/r/seduction04/11/20 10:27 PM
2

Perceive the girl's reactions. Advance or retreat accordingly. Simple.
/r/seduction04/11/20 07:36 PM
2

Their risks are much higher than yours
/r/seduction03/11/20 09:47 PM
3

Yes
/r/seduction03/11/20 09:46 PM
1

Mike Tyson
/r/seduction03/11/20 08:00 PM
-1

Be extremely handsome, well dressed and possibly drive a Porsche or a Ferrari
/r/seduction03/11/20 07:53 PM
1

It is a bit weird, indeed
/r/seduction02/11/20 11:04 PM
1

Touch (a little bit, the arm, the hand, her hair), if she reciprocates, escalate . If she recoils, end of
/r/seduction02/11/20 11:04 PM
2

It depends on where you live, what you do ... I did a lot of train commuting in my younger years (as an example) and there I met a lot of girls... other people go to bars & clubs, gyms or dancing classes
/r/seduction02/11/20 07:28 AM
2

In real life it's difficult to cold approach a woman out there in the wild and not embarrass yourself. If you have a handle, it's totally different. Say, you are in the dance class and you like this woman. You go to her and say something like e.g. "wow, you really do this step very well ... I don't seem to manage, can you show me?" (just as an example). Then you raise your antennas to capture her vibe: does she smile and is she happy to interact or is she uncomfortable and visibly cold / suspici…
/r/seduction01/11/20 11:17 PM
3

After 25
/r/seduction01/11/20 07:55 AM
2

Ok
/r/seduction01/11/20 07:30 AM
1

Legalized prostitution
/r/PurplePillDebate31/10/20 11:12 PM
1

The friends circle, the school
/r/seduction31/10/20 10:58 PM
2

This
/r/seduction31/10/20 10:55 PM
1

She mothballed you. Move on.
/r/seduction31/10/20 10:51 PM
1

Invite her on a date
/r/seduction31/10/20 09:34 AM
1

Meet as many people as possible
/r/seduction31/10/20 09:32 AM
3

Remember that you're risking your job, as a minimum (#metoo). Maybe she wasn't in the socializing mood, maybe she had other things worrying her, totally unrelated to your interaction. Maybe she's aware of the advice not to flirt at work.
/r/seduction30/10/20 11:41 PM
2

Avoid flirting with coworkers
/r/seduction30/10/20 10:57 PM
2

You can only discover by trying ...
/r/seduction30/10/20 11:25 AM
2

It doesn't, in fact but when with a partner there you tend to see mainly other couples. Of course you stay in touch with the good old friends but not necessarily the less intimate ones.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/10/20 11:03 AM
2

Can't a woman not be sexually attracted to a man? It happened to me, more often than the other way 'round. Sometimes I stayed a friend with her, sometimes I didn't, mostly because of circumstances (job, career, move town, studies, found a partner ...).
/r/PurplePillDebate30/10/20 08:35 AM
1

These rates mean little, especially if self-attributed. Nor your friends' opinions, especially if male. Look at the results and see where you need to improve.
/r/seduction30/10/20 07:10 AM
1

Biologically the sexual act is a tool to reproduce (fishes have a different system). From this perspective the woman's investment in pregnancy, childbirth, child raising is far more than the man's. The male chosen has to be also capable of providing for the new / expecting mother. Add, on top of all this, that the window of fertility of the woman is more narrow. Women are picky when it comes to the choice of the partner. What is there to be surprised of? 300,000 years ago the choice was simple: …
/r/PurplePillDebate29/10/20 11:30 PM
1

Maybe you are not as attractive as you think (you can improve that, always). Secondly, neediness and insecurity are among the worst deterrents of girls: they have evolved it for hundreds of thousands of years, specifically to weed out physically and psychologically weak men.
/r/seduction29/10/20 11:04 PM
2

Nothing that is human is perfect.
/r/seduction29/10/20 05:29 PM
1

You can become attractive, by going to the gym, building a career in IT and developing an interesting hobby.
/r/seduction29/10/20 07:09 AM
27

Women fall for the wrong guys, very often. Their sixth sense is anything but infallible. All they do is filter out the insecure guys that they are not attracted to. A confident petty criminal or a shy man with the athletic body will pass through the filter. I've seen women spending a big part of their life with the wrong guys and complaining.
/r/seduction29/10/20 07:07 AM
8

I have seen 'unattractive' people with successful careers and attractive people failing. Those used to climb uphill and struggle for everything are more resilient. Those who always had it easy, can crumble at the first serious hurdle. You are not responsible for the genes your parents gave you, you are responsible for how you react to it.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/10/20 08:16 PM
1

Exactly. Don't overthink. If it works, it works; if it doesn't, it doesn't. You might succeed or fail and learn from it. In both cases you are better off than before. Remember: attraction can not be negotiated, no matter what you say. If she's attracted, she'll send signals accordingly (e.g. smile and giggle). If she's not attracted she'll be dismissive / nervous and cold: signals of rejection. At this point it is better to politely disengage.
/r/seduction28/10/20 07:53 PM
1

This
/r/seduction28/10/20 07:42 PM
1

Define 'normal' conversation, please
/r/seduction28/10/20 07:40 PM
1

What is the contrary of 'normal conversation'?
/r/seduction28/10/20 07:36 PM
1

So you want a LTR man who likes sex (a lot) ... I agree with you that many of us men love (to talk about) sex but are actually pretty inhibited. You have to meet physically and experience the 'touch & feel" of a person. The most sexually satisfying relationship I had was in my late twenties, with a girl who claimed that she understood that I was highly sexual by the way I touched her (hands) on our first date. One thing that helped was that at that point in time I had yoga and martial arts exper…
/r/PurplePillDebate27/10/20 09:00 AM
1

So you want something between a LTR and FWB? Maybe an "open" LTR? When you are in the market for something "tailor made", the choice narrows and the price goes up, normally ...
/r/PurplePillDebate27/10/20 08:41 AM
1

"Find" is the key ... where do you look for these guys?
/r/PurplePillDebate27/10/20 07:24 AM
2

I believe a majority, given that most women don't have sex at their top of priorities but rather family stability & kids.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/10/20 07:03 AM
5

Indeed.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/10/20 06:54 PM
1

If you say so
/r/PurplePillDebate25/10/20 02:45 PM
1

I am not a woman, therefore idk.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/10/20 02:21 PM
5

Things change, albeit slowly ...
/r/PurplePillDebate25/10/20 02:20 PM
4

Not sure. Fat women are shamed, because they are expected to be sexy, which is unfair. Men are not expected to be sexy, rather "confident". Insecure men are perhaps equally targeted by a shame culture ("grow a pair", "man up", etc). In fact if you don't like the attitude or the appearance of a person, you don't have to sleep with them. If the only metre of judgement is appearance, as in the dating apps, unattractive people are discriminated, quite badly.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/10/20 02:08 PM
1

Maybe one day it will come. Nowadays there is a trend to fight "fat shaming". Fat, however, can to a certain degree be objectively identified. 'Ugliness' , on the other hand, is very arbitrary and varies enormously across eras and cultures ...
/r/PurplePillDebate25/10/20 01:10 PM
11

Do you expect 'Society' to address that, e.g. with laws against 'unattractiveness' prejudice, like it is done against racism or LGBT?
/r/PurplePillDebate25/10/20 11:38 AM
33

Good looking people have it easier, not only in dating but in careers, too. The water is wet. If a man or a woman are unattractive physically, they have to work harder to find and retain a partner. The water is wet. Women are more interested in a stable relationship than in casual sex. The water is wet. As women's investment (and risk) in a childbirth is far higher than men's, they tend to be selective in choosing their partner, albeit not always successfully. The water is wet. As there are more…
/r/PurplePillDebate25/10/20 11:35 AM
1

Perfect
/r/PurplePillDebate25/10/20 08:15 AM
3

Maybe, or maybe not, why wouldn't you be good enough?
/r/seduction24/10/20 06:43 PM
2

Inferior to whom?
/r/seduction24/10/20 06:03 PM
2

Anxiety is triggered by something, doesn't come out of the blue: do you fear judgment? Do you feel the same way at exams / job interviews?
/r/seduction24/10/20 11:30 AM
4

Put the fear on a scale: 0-100. 0 = nothing to fear at all, 100 = death by a painful incurable disease, a wild animal, a natural disaster and so on. Where do you place this fear? If you bought a lottery ticket, how much would you fear NOT winning a million? Near to zero: if you won, great, if you didn't, you have wasted a pound (or a dollar, or a euro). Hardly the end of life, is it? In this case, if the date was unsuccessful, all you will have lost is some time (e.g. 2 hours) and few dollars to…
/r/seduction24/10/20 08:17 AM
2

And what's wrong with that?
/r/PurplePillDebate23/10/20 11:01 PM
1

You don't "have" to date, if you don't feel like. It's ok. You don't have to.
/r/seduction23/10/20 10:31 PM
2

Of course, wouldn't you do the same with a hot girl vs. an average / ugly one? Attractive people attract more than non attractive people and they always will: the discovery of hot water.
/r/seduction23/10/20 10:28 PM
1

It's nothing but fear. Of rejection. Plenty of videos, tweets etc, on the matter. Does rejection hurt? Yes. Just accept that pain is part of life and life is short. Does it hurt more than being sent to fight in a a war? No. Watch the 1st half hour of "Saving private Ryan". Does it hurt like a terminal cancer? No. How does a rejection from a girl compare to being send to war or being diagnosed with a limphoma or a sarcoma?
/r/seduction23/10/20 10:20 PM
2

Exactly. You can start by touching the hands. If she responds well, go for the kiss (gentle). If she doesn't respond well to the hand touch, next
/r/seduction23/10/20 10:11 PM
2

Depends on her response ... improvise, use your imagination, it might work, it might not. Maybe she's already with someone, who knows? Trial & error, my friend ...
/r/seduction19/10/20 10:07 PM
2

You have to put energy into your life: nothing is free. If you want money you have to work a lot, or work very smartly. If you want an athletic body, you have to spend hours in the gym. If you want to learn a language you have to practice and study it. Your bad habits are just fear of pain and craving of instant gratification. You have to accept that without pain there is no gain and rewards come after efforts.
/r/seduction19/10/20 10:04 PM
4

Start with "hi, how are you?"
/r/seduction19/10/20 09:52 PM
1

Dancing classes
/r/seduction17/10/20 10:36 PM
1

You have to be extremely attractive, confident and fun, to make them make the first move. A fit body and good taste in dressing are the first step. As someone rightly said, just forget about seducing girls, have fun yourself, do things that interest you and be curious and happy.
/r/seduction17/10/20 10:35 PM
2

Try to understand women's (girls') point of view on dating and relationships. By doing so you should be able the avoid you the typical men's mistakes.
/r/seduction17/10/20 10:27 PM
1

Yes, definitely. They are massively affected and have pains and huge mood swings. Some more than others. They can be sad and depressed or aggressive and ratty or a combination of these moods, especially if you try seducing them. You can tell generally by the scruffy look and the snappy responses. On the flip side, while ovulating, they are super-horny. Some more than others. If you meet a girl in that time window, your chance of sleeping with her are 10X. Problem is, mother nature, for some reas…
/r/seduction16/10/20 06:32 PM
1

Women are like that. Who knows. She might have detected a streak of insecurity in you and lost attraction, there might be another guy, maybe her period was starting. My advice: next. Be polite and friendly but farewell.
/r/seduction16/10/20 05:18 PM
1

Ok, maybe that's why ... you generally don't ask, you escalate
/r/seduction16/10/20 05:11 PM
1

Become rich and extremely attractive
/r/seduction16/10/20 05:10 PM
1

You asked her to become her boyfriend?
/r/seduction16/10/20 05:01 PM
1

Indeed. It's simple.
/r/seduction14/10/20 07:04 PM
2

Oneitis, nothing but
/r/seduction14/10/20 06:58 PM
3

Does it hurt in the body? Does it kill or cripple you? Will you die if she rejects you? Is it maybe all about your fragile little ego?
/r/seduction14/10/20 06:56 PM
3

If you want to have casual sex with a different above average woman every evening you go out, then no hope for that. If you want to find a LTR, then it's a different story.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/10/20 08:40 AM
1

So what do you want to hear, then?
/r/PurplePillDebate10/10/20 08:38 AM
2

Some people can do it a lot with little or no consequences, other people get in trouble, become apathetic, develop conditions. Better avoid.
/r/askTRP09/10/20 09:40 PM
1

Look at what people do, despite what they say. If she doesn't respond, she's not too interested.
/r/seduction07/10/20 07:06 AM
4

Anything: politics, thermodynamics, football, videogames, heavy metal, programming languages, mediaeval philosophy ...
/r/seduction06/10/20 06:48 PM
15

Something they do, sometimes they don't. There is no magic formula.
/r/seduction06/10/20 06:11 AM
3

It is a natural process; does calling it courtship, rather than 'Seduction', help? If you like a woman and you are willing to sleep with her, you'll communicate in a language that is not 100% verbal; she'll respond in the same language. Nothing is disrespectful, unless you intend to humiliate and harm psychologically that woman.
/r/seduction03/10/20 10:41 PM
3

You can seduce and remain respectful at the same time. You'll make these women happy, they want to be seduced ...
/r/seduction03/10/20 10:28 PM
2

Move away
/r/seduction03/10/20 10:18 PM
2

It's normal and how it should be done. People you share some history with, it never worked for me ...
/r/seduction02/10/20 08:14 PM
3

Things that make people like to spend their time with you.
/r/seduction30/09/20 09:15 PM
3

Perhaps you don't do / say the right things.
/r/seduction30/09/20 08:52 PM
3

Yes
/r/seduction30/09/20 08:46 PM
2

Why?
/r/seduction30/09/20 08:24 PM
1

Probably
/r/seduction30/09/20 08:14 PM
4

By liking each other, lots. Do you think girls should like you?
/r/seduction30/09/20 08:10 PM
5

Interesting, are you happy with that?
/r/seduction30/09/20 08:05 PM
6

How's your anger management?
/r/seduction30/09/20 07:48 PM
2

How old are you?
/r/seduction30/09/20 06:32 PM
2

You developed oneitis. Read the sidebar FAQ#1
/r/seduction29/09/20 02:25 PM
2

Maybe she's not interested
/r/seduction29/09/20 02:21 PM
1

Read the sidebar: FAQ#1
/r/seduction29/09/20 06:30 AM
1

Your decision
/r/seduction29/09/20 05:41 AM
2

You propsed to date, she said she was tired after work, which is legit. You opened, good. See if she gives signs or comes up with some kind of counter-proposal. If yes, she's interested, if not move on.
/r/seduction28/09/20 09:31 PM
1

True
/r/PurplePillDebate27/09/20 10:14 PM
2

Very true
/r/seduction27/09/20 10:02 PM
3

"... and only thinking about getting laid and trust me women can usually sense that" Exactly. Women flirting process is designed to weed out the insecure men. Consider that when you meet a woman for the first time, the chances of sex are less than 1%, assuming that you are interested yourself. As the interaction progresses, you have to understand, through the body language, through what she says, through the way she looks (or not) into your eyes, whether the chances are going up or have crashed.…
/r/seduction27/09/20 10:02 PM
2

A good looking girl has hundreds of options. Maybe she'll reply, maybe not. In the meantime, don't overthink, move on.
/r/seduction27/09/20 09:25 PM
1

Few months???
/r/seduction26/09/20 11:22 PM
1

That's life, in a nutshell
/r/seduction26/09/20 05:15 PM
2

100%, still, the issue is not to be underestimated: consider cognitive behavioural therapy
/r/seduction26/09/20 11:57 AM
2

I feel, I feel, my feelings, I feel ...
/r/seduction26/09/20 09:16 AM
2

It's simple: read understand the other person's feelings, written in body language ...
/r/seduction25/09/20 10:58 PM
2

Priority: finish your uni with good grades
/r/seduction24/09/20 10:56 PM
1

Who knows ... a laugh? Some people write lol, she writes haha.
/r/seduction24/09/20 10:55 PM
5

Excellent
/r/seduction23/09/20 09:54 PM
1

At about 23 I fell in love with a girl who wasn't interested: that was one of the worst mistakes of my life, it costed me the rest of my 20's, a depression that is still coming back from time to time and a lot of misery. Don't. I have more than trice your age. Read the sidebar, FAQ #1. I wish I did then. Time is on your side, if you don't waste it.
/r/seduction23/09/20 09:52 PM
1

Dancing classes
/r/seduction23/09/20 09:44 PM
0

Hi
/r/seduction22/09/20 10:11 PM
1

Oneitis. Read the sidebar and move on.
/r/seduction22/09/20 10:08 PM
1

There you go, swimming is low impact, highly effective in shaping your body.
/r/seduction22/09/20 10:07 PM
1

Do what you want and own the consequences
/r/seduction22/09/20 07:17 PM
1

Can you swim?
/r/seduction22/09/20 07:15 AM
1

In my experience I came out well with some girls and I was useless with others, no matter how hard I tried. I came out saying the wrong things, making the wrong moves at the wrong time, etc. It's a mating dance: with some people you move in sync, with others you don't.
/r/seduction22/09/20 07:10 AM
4

Ask for the number nevertheless
/r/seduction21/09/20 07:31 PM
3

Why don't you try?
/r/seduction21/09/20 07:23 PM
1

Time is on your side
/r/seduction21/09/20 07:06 PM
2

If you are < 55 you still have lots of chances ...
/r/seduction21/09/20 07:02 PM
2

This is not the case with all women. Those who have self-esteem problems behave like that. By the same token, men with low self-esteem simp.
/r/askTRP21/09/20 12:51 PM
6

They have low self esteem and they want to be punished (for what, they only know)
/r/askTRP20/09/20 09:45 PM
15

Mood swings
/r/askTRP20/09/20 09:43 PM
1

Probably
/r/seduction20/09/20 09:06 PM
1

As a rejection
/r/seduction20/09/20 09:06 PM
2

Driving a Ferrari or a Porsche. Also wearing a Rolex watch is pretty effective. Being tall & muscular is also advisable ... possibly with perfect teeth.
/r/seduction20/09/20 03:43 PM
1

Wait and see but in the meantime, move on.
/r/seduction19/09/20 09:36 PM
1

You have oneitis. Read the sidebar and move on.
/r/seduction19/09/20 08:05 AM
1

She is not. Your feelings are self made.
/r/seduction19/09/20 07:53 AM
1

Read the sidebar
/r/seduction19/09/20 07:37 AM
1

You risk your job
/r/seduction18/09/20 11:50 PM
7

Don't date colleagues
/r/seduction18/09/20 11:47 PM
2

You are overwhelmed by your hormones and go into the overdrive mating mode. Try to think about your future plans for life and if that person would fit (or not) into your life: e.g. if the girl is shallow as a puddle and spends all her day on Instagram and gossips, do you really want to invest in a relationship with her? If all she can talk about is Love Island, after having mated repeatedly and produced babies, can you see yourself sitting in a living room and spend an evening with her?
/r/seduction17/09/20 02:58 PM
1

A professional therapist. The sooner the better.
/r/seduction17/09/20 05:28 AM
1

Is this your job for future or just temporary? Having a good income is very important, second health and fitness, thirdly a hobby, that is possibly social, e.g. dancing classes
/r/seduction16/09/20 10:08 PM
1

Have you got a job?
/r/seduction16/09/20 07:16 PM
1

Are you worried about other people (especially women) judging you?
/r/seduction15/09/20 09:16 PM
2

Couldn't it all boil down to a disproportionate number of men vs women using the dating apps?
/r/PurplePillDebate14/09/20 09:43 PM
3

Attractive people (male or female) have it easier. Especially with regards to sex and career. Does this mean that they are happier? Not necessarily.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/09/20 08:15 AM
-1

With your mouth, usually
/r/seduction13/09/20 06:04 AM
7

A gentle sort of casual touch on the hand / forearm: if she's happy with that or even better if she reciprocates, you can escalate, then go for the kiss. If she retreats or shows signs of discomfort, that's it. Don't insist, she's not interested, end of the story.
/r/seduction12/09/20 09:18 PM
1

I think you did well. Bad luck happens. Never mind. Archive and look forward to your next experience.
/r/seduction10/09/20 10:46 PM
1

Good attitude. Keep on going.
/r/seduction10/09/20 10:44 PM
1

Nothing. Move on.
/r/seduction10/09/20 10:42 PM
1

Trial and error
/r/seduction10/09/20 07:03 PM
2

Don't mess with coworkers
/r/seduction09/09/20 06:29 AM
1

Stop being shy
/r/seduction07/09/20 06:35 PM
1

Try, what do you have to lose?
/r/seduction06/09/20 09:31 AM
1

As we say "the whole world is a village" ... human nature is what it is. Having money (or not) and living in a large city has more to do with the social behavior than being "American" or "European".
/r/PurplePillDebate02/09/20 10:35 PM
11

Absolutely true.
/r/seduction29/08/20 06:09 PM
1

Women are indirect, unless they are very upset (it's generally bad news when they are direct). I was useless at picking signals. Typically I would have realized the next day that a certain behavior was a covert signal of attraction. Because of that I wasted at least 50% of opportunities (more like 90%).
/r/PurplePillDebate28/08/20 08:12 PM
1

Avoid coworkers: nothing but trouble.
/r/seduction28/08/20 08:05 PM
1

Chemist here: chemist is not everything but everything is chemistry.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/08/20 05:47 PM
5

I would move on and I would not call her. If she called, then it's up to you, whether you want to see her again or not.
/r/seduction23/08/20 08:49 PM
0

Maybe. Never happened to me.
/r/seduction23/08/20 08:38 PM
7

You have to see things from their point of view. If you were a girl, would you go to a stranger's place at the first date?
/r/seduction23/08/20 08:35 PM
1

Too outcome dependant. Try to see them as human beings
/r/seduction22/08/20 07:35 PM
3

Look at the human being behind the body you are attracted to
/r/seduction22/08/20 07:32 PM
6

It's ferar of life. Life brings joy and pain. By avoiding pain (social interaction, rejection, ...), you are avoiding joys as well (friends, relationships, sex). You have to make mistakes, own them and learn from them. If you use your brain, the mistakes will not be too many and too severe and the lessons learned useful.
/r/seduction22/08/20 11:03 AM
1

Culture can be a huge gift or a liability. You can be fascinating or boring. Depends on how you convey it. Humour is always a good way to spice the conversation. Get inspired by some funny literature / movies / plays.
/r/seduction21/08/20 08:49 PM
9

I am not a psychologist but maybe a child who was deprived of motherly affection, as an adult, craves affection from women in an immature / creepy / awkward way?
/r/PurplePillDebate21/08/20 07:12 AM
1

Indeed. Wealthy & attractive people (men and women) can often be arrogant and selfish: they are used to be served and adored and treat other people as tools. The attractors are wealth and beauty, the assholeness comes with the package. There are also selfish, manipulative and nasty individuals that are neither wealthy nor attractive (or not both at the same time). Are they more sexually successful than their kind & gentle counterpart? I am not sure and this is extremely difficult to measure.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/08/20 09:58 PM
1

Good looking and rich are often (not always) accompanied by arrogance and contempt towards those perceived of lesser value/status ...
/r/PurplePillDebate19/08/20 07:21 PM
2

Chemistry. I had also to do national service in my country, at the time
/r/seduction19/08/20 06:11 AM
1

I was a failure up until 28ish, then things changed, a lot (degree, job, gym, etc); it's all to do with confidence. If you are happy with yourself, things work. Your primary concern should be about achievements.
/r/seduction18/08/20 07:04 PM
2

I made the same mistake with a crush of my twenties. You are investing too much in these girls, trying too hard to be interesting and of value and you end up looking boring, patronising or desperate. Don't. Think that romance and sex is a possibility but the aim (for the time being) is to have fun. It is a mating dance and you have to dance in sync with the tune. The nature of the game is apparently superficial and vapid but there is more to it. You are vetting each other. She assumes that you w…
/r/askTRP18/08/20 10:24 AM
1

Women are human beings with virtues and faults, just like anyone; try to see beyond the sex & affection that you crave. Is she a interesting, mature person or are there red flags (poorly) hidden underneath a desirable body? Will she add value to your life or end up in a waste of time?
/r/askTRP18/08/20 09:44 AM
2

This
/r/seduction17/08/20 02:06 PM
2

They live in a fantasy land where men have to be strong, confident, fragile, bold, shy, gentle, rough, caring, ruthless, delicate, muscular, sweaty but perfumed, young , experienced, tall, sincere but macchiavellic, all at the same time. We live in a fantasy land where women will jump on us to have sex, so both genders project their own fantasies onto each other.
/r/seduction16/08/20 09:27 PM
1

You're overthinking. You will have many more opportunities to improve (guaranteed : you are 20). You did well, learn to seize the moment and move on.
/r/seduction16/08/20 09:21 PM
1

It's an 'art', not a science. Not all people are born as talented artists. If you do it right, it works... as soon as you make a mistake, it becomes weird and creepy.
/r/seduction13/08/20 11:17 PM
6

Humour, with a little bit of spice here and there.
/r/seduction13/08/20 11:13 PM
1

You are developing oneitis. Read the sidebar, FAQ1
/r/seduction13/08/20 11:10 PM
1

Sex
/r/seduction13/08/20 08:12 PM
2

Watch what they do, don't believe what they say (this applies to humans in general).
/r/seduction13/08/20 07:11 PM
3

She wants validation from you, maybe more (giving something in return), maybe not.
/r/seduction13/08/20 07:09 PM
12

Agreed. A bad, exploitative friend-zone is equivalent to f*uck-buddy status (a plate). If a girl really likes a boy, as a person but is not attracted to him sexually, there is nothing wrong in being "friends", albeit the two genders, imo, has a different idea of the friendship status. The man's friends are more like let's do something together with the rest of the "hunting pack" (play a sport, go fishing, get drunk ...), whereas women's are more like let's meet "one to one" and chat about other …
/r/PurplePillDebate13/08/20 01:41 PM
1

Watch videos on YouTube about body language. You have to spot positive as well as negative signals.
/r/seduction12/08/20 10:19 PM
3

A. Because they can, B. Become more attractive
/r/seduction12/08/20 07:38 PM
1

Don't torment yourself, we all wasted opportunities, certainly I have. What are you afraid of? Are you going to fight a bear bare handed or are you going to enter a burning building to fight the fire? Don't be awkward and cold approach out of the blue; if the girl gives signs of interest, smile, if she smiles back, introduce yourself.
/r/seduction11/08/20 08:11 PM
-1

Men are natural risk takers, women are natural risk avoiders. Any change in the status quo entails a risk and the female is therefore suspicious ...
/r/seduction11/08/20 08:00 PM
1

Try to see the human being behind the attractive looks
/r/seduction11/08/20 06:11 AM
5

Dating coworkers = bad idea
/r/seduction10/08/20 05:41 PM
4

In the short-term: money and looks (the order of the two may vary), then intelligence. In the long-term, the priorities might reverse.
/r/seduction10/08/20 09:49 AM
1

For game? It's good for LIFE. A better life can (maybe) improve your game but not directly.
/r/seduction10/08/20 09:44 AM
2

Interesting question. I couldn't give advice to my 2 daughters, all I did was give example of hard work, honesty and dedication to the family. They from very early understood how these things are important. They are hard workers, honest and reliable but they also have different passions from me and they criticized me often for being all work and no play. In terms of men they are very different. One has been for 4 years with the same boyfriend (a very shy nerd), the other doesn't seem capable of …
/r/PurplePillDebate09/08/20 10:05 PM
14

In real life
/r/seduction09/08/20 04:59 PM
1

Good. Achievements so far to own and be proud of? These are the landmarks of your life path. I met men very good with women, whose life turned out a disaster. Those who have it easy from the start (rich family, good genetics) can very often be overwhelmed by the first difficulty they encounter.
/r/seduction09/08/20 10:07 AM
2

By what you yourself are saying ... what do you think? is it more likely to be below or above what you'd like it to be? Anyway, smv it's a trope, not a commodity traded in the stock exchange.
/r/seduction09/08/20 09:49 AM
2

Social success: build a career, make money. Women will come, guaranteed.
/r/seduction08/08/20 11:51 PM
2

Make money
/r/seduction08/08/20 11:48 PM
5

Get rich, in the meantime go to the gym, in the meantime spend more time in grooming and dressing well.
/r/seduction08/08/20 11:46 PM
1

I agree. I was subject to advances, too and only once I reciprocated. It was a mistake. It turned out that she was only looking for validation and an ego boost and didn't really intend to sleep with me. Retrospectively, albeit I felt bruised at the time, it was better that things didn't progress any further and I didn't do or say anything inappropriate. Nowadays, no matter what, I don't flirt at work: if a colleague gave that sort of signals, I would politely change the subject. Women are much m…
/r/PurplePillDebate08/08/20 11:39 PM
2

Take a cold shower every morning, for a month. Repeat until it works.
/r/seduction04/08/20 10:50 PM
5

Craves attention. Next.
/r/seduction04/08/20 10:49 PM
1

Take a cold shower every morning
/r/seduction04/08/20 10:48 PM
7

Porn is like watching people stuffing their faces, while you starving. It self harming.
/r/seduction04/08/20 10:46 PM
5

Chemistry is not everything but almost everything is chemistry.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/08/20 10:37 PM
7

Between 7:00 AM and 7:00PM
/r/seduction03/08/20 08:12 AM
2

Read the FAQ#1, sibebar
/r/seduction01/08/20 10:44 PM
2

You can keep her (girl A) as a friend, if you want, as long as the friendship is genuine, from both sides but I would look around for a girl (B) that is willing to have a relationship with you. Then you'll observe how A will react.
/r/seduction01/08/20 03:10 PM
3

You have oneitis and been friendzoned.
/r/seduction01/08/20 01:34 PM
4

Define "nice". I don't have an anglophone background, so I equate "nice" to polite and respectful, which I think are positive characteristics. Being a doormat or spineless is different from being "nice".
/r/PurplePillDebate31/07/20 07:29 PM
1

The problem will sort itself out, eventually
/r/seduction30/07/20 07:19 PM
1

Not an easy choice.
/r/seduction30/07/20 05:36 AM
2

Maybe you should become a priest
/r/seduction29/07/20 10:00 PM
1

Nope, let's say consultancy (even worse faff than software or project management ... )
/r/PurplePillDebate29/07/20 07:24 PM
2

Maybe because in the hunter-gatherers' era the number of females in a clan dictated the long-term survival of the clan itself. Men took risky jobs (hunting, fighting) and lived short and violent lives, to ensure the short term survival of the clan. This is also why we die earlier than women. There was no need for the species to get rid of old age man ailments, because most men didn't reach old age, anyway.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/07/20 06:18 AM
7

Wot? I thought that 9 women could deliver a baby in a month ...
/r/PurplePillDebate29/07/20 06:10 AM
1

You think
/r/seduction29/07/20 06:07 AM
1

I have no experience of online dating. When you meet, during your delivery, initiate some small talk. If she's happy to chat, good. If not, move on.
/r/seduction27/07/20 10:29 AM
0

YouTube
/r/seduction27/07/20 08:35 AM
1

Start with small talk: if she responds positively, make your moves, if she doesn't, forget it.
/r/seduction27/07/20 08:35 AM
2

It's your job, do whatever you like but own the consequences.
/r/seduction27/07/20 06:48 AM
8

Exactly. It looks like a statistic from an OLD platform is the definitive proof that women find 80% of men unattractive. Women (and men) don't only judge on the basis of appearances (pictures). Are women more choosy than men? Definitely yes, for obvious biological reasons. When meeting IRL things are different.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/07/20 10:29 PM
1

Experience
/r/seduction25/07/20 11:40 PM
1

The line between seduction and sexual harassment is very thin. If you don't succeed and come out as awkward, the woman could file a harassment claim with HR. If you are successful and you have an affair and then things get sour (as it happens), the woman could file a harassment claim with HR. Don't even think of dating a student. You are putting your job and reputation at risk. I've seen this happen.
/r/seduction25/07/20 06:45 PM
2

Be a little bit misterious, a little bit funny, a little bit unpredictable
/r/seduction25/07/20 06:11 PM
1

Read body language
/r/seduction25/07/20 08:32 AM
3

You tried small talk and her response was lame? Move on. As suggested, she's at work. Chances are that she might be overlooked by a supervisor and doesn't want to be inappropriate with a client, or, more than likely, she's not into you. In any case kill the oneitis before it starts to develop.
/r/seduction25/07/20 08:31 AM
3

It happened. I was lost for words and missed good opportunities. It is all in the past now. All you have to do is, if you want to flirt, smile and reciprocate with some added humour. E.g. the girl says: "I like your hairstyle!", response could be: "Oh, I am happy to hear that: I spent a fortune with the barber last week. I love your hairstyle, too" or some other little compliment and continue until
/r/seduction25/07/20 08:25 AM
8

I don't recommend messing with clients / colleagues
/r/seduction24/07/20 06:50 PM
2

It's also beneficial, in the long term, to be comfortable being with just yourself, regardless of being in a relationship or not, because moments of momentary loneliness will happen.
/r/seduction24/07/20 06:47 PM
1

Lots of negativity to get rid of ... can you think of some way to practice kindness, not just towards girls but in general, e.g. doing some volunteering for a charity?
/r/seduction22/07/20 10:24 PM
1

You are practicing martial arts, running business, boxing, competing and doing all that hyper masculine stuff. Kudos, all good. You should be super successful but for some reason this does not seem to be the case. Have you ever tried to put yourself in the shoes of the counterpart and tried to empathise with girls and understand what they need, how they feel and think (not from a PUA - manipulative perspective)?
/r/seduction22/07/20 09:25 PM
6

Touch a hand, then the forearm, if she's happy wit that, go for the kiss, etc
/r/seduction22/07/20 05:47 PM
3

Don't be ridiculous.
/r/seduction21/07/20 09:58 PM
2

Smile and say "hello, my name is ..." etc
/r/seduction21/07/20 09:56 PM
0

Why are some guys so obsessed with women dating this way or that way? Isn't it obvious that most of the time attractive people (men / women) attract more people (women / men)? There are, there have been and there will always be exceptions.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/07/20 10:09 PM
2

Eggs are precious, sperm is cheap.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/07/20 10:02 PM
3

In the past, war was a way to curb the males in excess ...
/r/BlackPillScience19/07/20 10:06 PM
10

The OLD market seems to be disproportionately in favour of women. Probably it's just because there are many more men using these platforms. We men are hornier because of the higher levels of testosterone in our bloodstream. Women, on the contrary, are not very interested in casual sex: they have much more at risk (pregnancy, std, violence); it's nothing else than over-supply and low demand that makes the customer choosy.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/07/20 02:04 PM
1

Try something different. Join a club, e.g. hiking/outdoors, ballroom dance, photography, whatever ...
/r/seduction19/07/20 01:18 PM
1

No
/r/PurplePillDebate19/07/20 01:16 PM
1

Do you intend to go on like this?
/r/seduction19/07/20 01:13 PM
1

Most likely too late
/r/seduction18/07/20 09:14 AM
1

I think it comes from zoology studies, gorilla silverbacks and dominant couples in packs of wolves are called 'alpha'.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/07/20 08:19 AM
3

There are more colors than black and white
/r/PurplePillDebate17/07/20 07:06 PM
2

Chocolate
/r/seduction16/07/20 07:06 PM
4

Go to the gym, invest your money wisely, study hard, work hard (making the right career choices), have interesting hobbies, enjoy your free time with good people, dress well, eat well and live for yourself, not for the others.
/r/seduction16/07/20 07:03 PM
7

Do you read books at all? Try Oscar Wilde
/r/seduction16/07/20 05:37 PM
1

Attraction is not negotiable, nor managed intellectually (i.e. we have to be attracted to each other because of the children or because we are paying a mortgage ...), it's either there or not.
/r/seduction16/07/20 05:27 PM
2

Read good books, listen to good music. Learn to draw. As suggested, do bodyweight exercises. There are millions of ways to self improvement. Accept that at this point in life there's no immediate fix, it will change, the problem is not if but when.
/r/seduction16/07/20 07:14 AM
-1

Excellent post. It deserves to be put in the sidebar, imo.
/r/seduction16/07/20 07:01 AM
1

Mistake
/r/seduction15/07/20 07:41 PM
0

By magic
/r/seduction14/07/20 02:10 PM
3

Are you planning to continue like that?
/r/seduction14/07/20 02:09 PM
2

The extended adolescence. This attitude is encouraged because mobile young singles in career can enjoy endless opportunities to spend: clothes, drinks, travels, clubbing, gadgets, hobbies, OLD. We tend to forget the ultimate imperative: procreation. As soon as children appear, life changes, for the worse, in the eyes of the eternal adolescents. Nappies, sleepless nights, responsibility, bills to pay, child sickness / well being, school, job security. I don't know who's more guilty of these attit…
/r/PurplePillDebate14/07/20 06:18 AM
1

You are like a salesman before a meeting with a million dollars' a year client. You would be nervous. Would you be less nervous before a meeting with a $5000 / year client? In your case it's your own attribution of value to that particular girl that makes you nervous. It's all done by yourself to yourself, there is not a million dollar / year contract to be lost if the client 'rejected' you ...
/r/seduction13/07/20 07:47 PM
2

You got it right: start a convo with something not sexual and see if she is willing to chat, if not goodbye.
/r/seduction13/07/20 07:37 PM
1

What they lack in looks they compensate with the other traits.
/r/seduction13/07/20 06:59 AM
7

Chronical pessimism is an excuse for not trying. Those who claim "but I've tried" haven't tried in all possible ways.
/r/seduction13/07/20 06:55 AM
3

Good luck
/r/seduction13/07/20 06:51 AM
1

Say something neutral, e.g. "Sorry, I invaded your space, it's a long journey and these seats are a bit tight!". If she responds smiling ,"that's ok, I am used to long journeys" (or something similar), you have a little invitation to continue the chat. If instead she mumbles an "ok" and keeps tapping on her phone, that's it, no point in insisting. Simple enough?
/r/seduction12/07/20 09:55 PM
1

100%
/r/seduction12/07/20 10:22 AM
2

Read
/r/seduction12/07/20 10:20 AM
7

Out of my experience, no.
/r/seduction12/07/20 10:09 AM
6

What do you have to fear?
/r/seduction11/07/20 04:39 PM
1

Good. Probably self-employed would be the final goal. Any preference? E.g. I know a couple of luthiers that are doing pretty well, building, repairing, tweaking string instruments. Would that appeal to you or would you prefer to become a gas engineer or an eletrician? Problem is, you'll need to go through some sort of apprenticeship.
/r/askTRP10/07/20 10:31 AM
5

The job where you are happy to work. A "career" is a subjective concept. Could be doubling the income every 10 years, could be having 100+ staff responding to you, could be a job where you have enough to live off by working 10 hours a week and dedicate the rest of the time to family/hobby/friends. What is that YOU want?
/r/askTRP10/07/20 08:20 AM
11

If she was cheating, would she so obviously display her sexy lingerie? Maybe she's trying to tease you, so that when back you would want to bonk ...
/r/askTRP09/07/20 08:49 PM
1

Should impress the crowd of girls and prepare them for the mating ...
/r/seduction09/07/20 07:45 PM
1

Excellent
/r/seduction09/07/20 07:43 PM
2

I think, without evidence though, that as an extramarital affair involves two people and apparently less women are cheaters, that a) fewer women cheat but those who do, do it with multiple different men; b) men cheat more with unmarried women (e.g. younger than them, not married).
/r/PurplePillDebate09/07/20 09:20 AM
1

I think r/marriedredpill is a better place for this thread
/r/seduction09/07/20 09:07 AM
1

Where?
/r/seduction09/07/20 06:03 AM
1

Community Info
/r/seduction08/07/20 08:24 PM
8

Obviously the bigger your "attributes", the better
/r/seduction08/07/20 08:23 PM
1

Confirmed
/r/seduction08/07/20 08:20 PM
26

Be naked.
/r/seduction08/07/20 08:12 PM
1

Sidebar, FAQ #1, first paragraph.
/r/seduction08/07/20 08:11 PM
2

What then?
/r/PurplePillDebate07/07/20 10:07 PM
1

Given the unbalance between the cost of sex for men and women (pregnancy), it's biologically sound that women are much less interested in random hookups with random guys. This explains why there is such an imbalance between the number if men and women on the OLD platforms. The biochemical reason is that they have far less testosterone in their bloodstream. Men, on the contrary are more competitive, aggressive and always ready to mate. Men are natural risk-takers, women are natural risk-avoiders:…
/r/PurplePillDebate07/07/20 06:45 AM
3

I think your vibe is "reliable, responsible, loving and caring". Which is good, in principle. They see their eventual future babies to be fathered by you. If parenthood is a process, they see you completing it. It's now a question whether they would like to initiate the process with you or with someone else. The message could be positive at around 30 yo. At 19, I'm not so sure.
/r/seduction07/07/20 06:26 AM
1

Forgot to say, JB is the quintessential white knight ...always saving beautiful women ... (where the Cambridge five were in reality gay + spying for the Cremlin)
/r/seduction06/07/20 11:19 AM
8

Professional advice, e.g. behavioral therapy.
/r/seduction06/07/20 06:56 AM
2

James Bond is a fictional character, who acts in the name of good and punishes the bad boys giving them the taste of their own medicine. It's a typical 'revenge drama' type plot (e.g. the count of monte cristo, A. Dumas), mixed with elements of a spy story, seduction, exotic sceneries, violence and car chases (). When published was aimed at glorifying a secret service that was just discredited after the scandal of the Cambridge five (Philby, Burgess, etc).
/r/seduction06/07/20 05:50 AM
2

Good boys that are also fun are at the top of the league. It's a myth that girls prefer 'bad' boys. The so called bad boys are generally those who have the guts to approach and are not needy.
/r/seduction05/07/20 09:48 PM
6

The memories of Giacomo Casanova, Venetian
/r/seduction05/07/20 09:44 PM
1

Well, our reptilian brains do not appreciate overpopulation. I think that living in an overcrowded place might actually turn the libido down; experiments have been conducted on mice and the rodents cease to mate when the cage gets overcrowded.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/07/20 09:07 PM
18

Eggs are precious, sperm is cheap. A woman's reproductive biology dictates to mate with the best man possible (physically fit, good genes, capable of providing), because she will be hampered by pregnancy first, child caring second, for many years. A mans optimal reproductive strategy is to impregnate as many women as physically possible (during a lifetime, potentially thousands). This simple reality is supported by the hormonal mix of the two sexes and explains why women are so picky.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/07/20 11:47 AM
8

Exactly: good guys or bad boys both have the attention from the opposite sex, as long as they are attractive. I would say that attractive kind boys fare pretty well, as far as I could see.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/07/20 06:35 PM
1

Every action bears risks and opportunities
/r/PurplePillDebate03/07/20 01:14 PM
6

To have a family & kids. If you don't want either, don't marry. Simple.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/07/20 06:54 AM
3

The best remedy is find another one
/r/seduction02/07/20 09:10 PM
-2

You are nervous around girls that you find attractive? Really? Wow, how unusual. Look it's all about the value you yourself put in the girl. Imagine you were a salesman, about to meet a £1,000/year client and then a 1,000,000 client. When would you be more nervous?
/r/seduction02/07/20 07:42 PM
1

You might be successful and have an affair, then for some reason you two break up. A) you will not be able to avoid her, you will have to interact, whether you like it or not; B) She might be vindictive and report you to HR for harassment.
/r/seduction01/07/20 09:19 PM
1

No, at school, college, at an event, an introvert can be spotted
/r/seduction01/07/20 08:55 PM
2

Plenty of them, problem is, they tend to hide
/r/seduction01/07/20 08:08 PM
1

Find an introvert
/r/seduction01/07/20 07:18 PM
2

I advise you against messing with coworkers. It might go badly ...
/r/seduction01/07/20 07:17 PM
1

Join an association, a society, a charity, a gym, a club of some sort where you will meet like minded people. Dancing classes, perhaps?
/r/seduction29/06/20 07:56 PM
1

And what do you think?
/r/seduction28/06/20 09:10 PM
1

Learn to read body language and approach those that send green light signals
/r/seduction28/06/20 03:53 PM
8

Who knows, opportunity missed, move on ...
/r/seduction28/06/20 12:18 PM
3

Are there reliable statistics on the rape accusations that turned to be false vs. the total of cases?
/r/PurplePillDebate28/06/20 08:53 AM
1

Socializing is easy for someone, feels like work to others. Looks like you have to work.
/r/seduction28/06/20 08:41 AM
2

Ask her phone / Instagram / whatsapp? You are a geek aren't you?
/r/seduction27/06/20 02:53 PM
5

I think that trp provides a package of 'tools' to interpret a reality that was always there and frankly quite obvious. I personally found some of these tools useful (e.g. being 'nice' is counterproductive) but I don't agree with other elements, e.g. those that involve politics.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/06/20 08:40 AM
1

Yes. Spread the seed surplus, as widely as possible, vs. ensuring the best all-round male specimen: genetically and as an inseminator, defender, provider. Eggs are precious, sperm is cheap.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/06/20 08:33 AM
1

Women have an innate radar to pick insecure men. They also sh*t test us for this very reason. I don't think faking a different persona is likely to be successful. Confidence comes from experience and knowledge of self.
/r/seduction27/06/20 08:25 AM
42

You like that girl, obviously. The more value YOU put into her, the more nervous you become. Imagine you were a sales person before a meeting with a millon pound a year potential client ... as opposed to a client worth 10k / year potential client. When would you be more nervous? It's all your own value attribution process. You answered well, I think, anyway.
/r/seduction27/06/20 08:20 AM
1

Two pence comment 1) The average height of the population seems linked to the availability of food and climatic conditions https://www.livestrong.com/article/542877-the-average-height-of-humans-over-time/ and also genetic factors, which might be influenced by the preference given to tall men, if this is true; 2) Male mammalians are designed to compete among themselves for reproduction and hence improve the species. The driver is testosterone and the capability of one man to impregnate multiple w…
/r/PurplePillDebate26/06/20 10:22 AM
1

Indeed. Young urban professionals (= yuppies) or dinks (double income, no kids) are big spenders plus they are available to all sort of sacrifice for career. Get smashed with drinks and loud music all Saturday night? Easy-peasy. Spend 3 weeks in Ibiza sex & drugs & rock & roll? Easy-peasy. Wanna a convertible BMW? Easy-peasy. Wanna work 70 hours a week? We can arrange. The moment you have a mortgage, kids at school and a wife with her job, that's the end of the party-sphere and the brave new wor…
/r/seduction25/06/20 07:33 PM
1

I am twice your age plus more. Confidence comes with experience, to an extent: when you find yourself in situations that are repetitive, you would be confident, in that you would know the outcomes, given certain acts from your side. The flip side is that a) nothing is ever 100% repetitive; b) life always presents with unprecedented situations. The 2p piece of advice is: understand the context of a situation and spot similarities and differences between the past experience. In a totally (or large…
/r/seduction25/06/20 07:16 PM
3

How old are you?
/r/seduction25/06/20 06:36 AM
3

You become 'cultured' in those subjects you are interested in. If then those subjects make you 'interesting' to others, good, but your self improvement is the goal, not the approval of others. I think that you should create your own list of subjects of interest and set your own journey through it.
/r/seduction25/06/20 06:35 AM
4

Try to learn to play Chopin or Rachmaninoff on the piano; it will keep you busy for some time ...
/r/askTRP24/06/20 07:36 PM
1

No, they generally left me
/r/PurplePillDebate24/06/20 07:31 PM
1

The reason why in the western societies marriage is postponed until later and later is because of protracted adolescence: games, internet, clubbing, abundant money, available sex & birth control, drugs, parties, alcohol, travelling, etc. People are reluctant to leave the never ending party, only to find themselves in a sphere of monogamy, responsibility, childcare, having to count the pennies to pay the bills ... problems after problems!
/r/seduction24/06/20 07:25 PM
2

Exactly
/r/seduction24/06/20 07:14 PM
1

Who knows, maybe 20,000+ years ago, we probably lived in small communities and the number of females was not high (especially because the best ones were booked by the alpha caveman). A rejection from one female of the clan, might have meant rejection from all the females, given the pre-selection mentality. Our poor beta hunter-gatherer would have had to leave the tribe, travel for many days (avoiding the dangers presented by an unfriendly mother nature) until another tribe was found: guess what,…
/r/PurplePillDebate23/06/20 07:12 PM
14

A HVW, as you call her, is a person willing to commit to a relationship and put energies, affection, trust and patience into it. I do exactly the same. I don't know if we are HV but we have been together for almost 30 years and raised 2 children so, I suppose, we have been HV to each other. Rowed together in the same direction in calm and rough seas.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/06/20 05:07 PM
1

Disgusting no, not above my moral standards
/r/PurplePillDebate22/06/20 11:40 AM
1

Eggs are precious, sperm is cheap. Women (a majority, imo) instinctively want to be sure that the partner will stay to provide for her and the offspring, during pregnancy and after. This is why they avoid casual sex and promiscuity. This is exactly what a number of men want (I'll make an assumption: a majority ...?). Ergo a majority of men want what a minority of women are willing to offer. When a woman is out for casual sex (no moral judgment here) and she has an ample choice of potential ons p…
/r/PurplePillDebate22/06/20 08:22 AM
0

I think it's partly the theory about how we evolved in small tribes and therefore very few options. (I.e. if the girl you liked didn't like you, that was pretty much it and you're an evolutionary dead end.). This
/r/PurplePillDebate22/06/20 08:12 AM
12

Pre-rejection
/r/PurplePillDebate22/06/20 08:03 AM
3

Be vague. A gentleman is not supposed to reveal this type of information. As suggested, say that you would be monogamous in a committed relationship.
/r/seduction22/06/20 07:48 AM
3

The sidebar has more than enough, man.
/r/seduction21/06/20 05:24 PM
1

Be aware that 'flirting' with a 15 y/o might send you in prison and stain your reputation or, in the best of cases, make you lose your job.
/r/seduction21/06/20 01:10 PM
2

Being able to be calm and rational in all situations, especially the critical ones. Not panicking when life challenges you. Having moral standards
/r/seduction21/06/20 01:06 PM
1

Leave coworkers alone, especially if she's underage
/r/seduction21/06/20 01:03 PM
1

If she has interest, it's good ... if she hasn't, it's not worth insisting, anyway.
/r/seduction21/06/20 01:01 PM
5

Indeed not. They are normal people. Attraction is not negotiable, it either is there or not. All you have to do is to understand if there is attraction: if not, politely withdraw. If you want, you can friendzone the girl or friendzone each other. When that happened I never came back to court or try to seduce. That's it, she's forever a friend, only. A friend is a good thing to have, though.
/r/seduction20/06/20 10:16 PM
17

I wasted many years of my life longing after a girl who wasn't into me. She liked me, as a person, so she did not avoid my company and was friendly but not romantically attracted. In this particular case, she did not exploit me or use me for free lunches, car lifts or anything like that. Some people claim that girls who friendzone boys use them as ATM's or emotional tampons. This is not my experience. It was just my silly fault and I hope that I could open the eyes of more boys, so that they cou…
/r/seduction20/06/20 10:03 PM
2

Correct me if I'm wrong but the m:f ratio in the population is somewhere 49:51. Maybe, in the OLD communities the ratio is very skewed (e.g. m:f = 9:1) giving the impression that women are attracted only to the top 10-20% of men.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/06/20 07:47 PM
1

Good
/r/PurplePillDebate20/06/20 03:37 PM
2

At your age there are PLENTY of divorced people around; dating should be easy, finding the soulmate less so ...
/r/seduction20/06/20 03:26 PM
0

A colleague of mine had an affair and, as it invariably happens, things turned sour. The two had an argument by the coffee machine and there were two other bystanders. He was leaving when she called him names; he turned back while gesticulating and while she was moving towards him, so he inadvertently touched her chest. After that the two calmed down and parted. He went back to his desk, she went straight to HR to report the incident as sexual harassment. HR at the time was in the staff reductio…
/r/PurplePillDebate20/06/20 03:24 PM
2

What do you prefer?
/r/seduction20/06/20 02:54 PM
1

You need a girlfriend, ons would not work. With the intimacy of a loved one the problem should be solved easily. The lack of self esteem puts you in a catch 22 situation, though. I would address that first: being great in bed is not very important in the big picture of life and is not the only thing that would make a girl happy.
/r/seduction20/06/20 09:24 AM
1

Obviously, in the COVID19 era, OLD is predominant.
/r/seduction19/06/20 10:07 PM
6

Did you watch the first 30 min of "Saving Private Ryan"? If you were on that landing boat, how much would you have paid to do 10 cold approaches a day for the rest of your life, rather than having to face the enemy's bullets? In the big picture of life, how much does does a rejection count, especially if done by a stranger girl (not a colleague, not a family friend, etc.)?
/r/seduction19/06/20 08:00 PM
3

Agree 100%. I wish I knew that in my 20's
/r/PurplePillDebate19/06/20 01:37 PM
3

Women are driven by emotions, sex is a generator of emotions to them (a mean, not an end). A men that is emotionally attached to them is an asset (a notch in the gun butt, more so if physically attractive and/ or rich and/or famous); if the man gets emotionally attracted to another woman it's a defeat, a loss of value, a damage to their self-esteem.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/06/20 10:19 AM
7

In sincerity, I find it funny how we (myself included) are aroused by watching other people having sex ... It's like starving and being hypnotized by watching other people stuffing their faces with huge dinners. Women's "porn" is more like literary fiction & tv series (especially those with complicated family sagas, psychological abuse, infidelity, intrigue, etc.). They are much less stimulated than us by visualizing sex acts, at least most of them. If you want to be the equivalent of a pornstar…
/r/askTRP19/06/20 10:10 AM
1

Cognitive Behavioural Therapy
/r/seduction19/06/20 08:27 AM
1

By talking and listening and finding a common ground.
/r/seduction19/06/20 08:26 AM
2

Close that chapter & move on
/r/seduction18/06/20 10:39 PM
1

Ok
/r/seduction18/06/20 08:10 PM
1

A good looking artist, rather ...
/r/seduction18/06/20 08:06 PM
2

You can shout your name loud
/r/seduction18/06/20 08:04 PM
2

Ok ... how about 6 & 3/4?
/r/seduction18/06/20 08:03 PM
2

I am afraid that if you ate crayons in front of her, she will find you interesting.
/r/seduction18/06/20 08:01 PM
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