Doingmybestinlife Archive

Upvotes	Title	Category	Author	Subreddit	Date (UTC)

Upvotes	Comment on	Subreddit	Date (UTC)
43	FDS subreddit is NOT a landfill for depraved male content. Thank you, It’s been difficult reading all these negative posts with few positive buffers in between. Really makes you lose hope. Also potential suggestion: could we have a dedicated day where the focus is a lot more on hopeful and positive content? The world is depressing enough as is	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	03/04/22 01:47 PM
33	Why I DON’T EXPLAIN. On boundaries, disappointment, and self-shielding: You don’t have to explain to an emotionally abusive man why he isn’t allowed to hurt you anymore. This was a really important read, thank you. We’re fed all this messaging that it’s up to us to “communicate”, but look, if you have to communicate the most basic things (like how to not be a disrespectful person)…. Leave him and find someone who cares. If he starts arguing “well I didn’t know!” - find someone smarter lol	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	21/03/22 10:12 AM
14	Don't cry, beg or show emotion or over communicate. State what you want then leave when it's not met. Men enjoy the begging, crying and emotional outbursts because they know this means you're wrapped around their finger and will stay. It is a massive ego boost for them to have that power over you We women are socialized that when a relationship is bad, we just need to keep working harder to make it good. But men don’t think that way. This kind of mentality is just garbage and what led me to react in similar ways outlined above. But you just gotta learn to walk away when they’re not on the same page as you and aren’t treating you the way a man should. You just can’t reason with LVM.	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	12/03/22 07:01 PM
8	Never feel bad about enforcing boundaries The biggest lesson I’ve learned from my previous relationship is that even if you neglect your boundaries for the sake of maintaining peace and for them to be happy, that doesn’t mean that they’ll do the same for you. Just because you go through so much to please them, that doesn’t mean they’d do the same for you. I really wish young women would be taught this before they get into dating.	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	28/11/21 02:31 AM
30	See how he treats his family, especially the women And if their relationship is like that and the guy does something bad, don’t expect his mom to be on your side…. She’ll just enable him	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	26/11/21 07:05 AM
36	See how he treats his family, especially the women Just because he treats his sisters well doesn’t mean he’s a HVM though… my ex was always an amazing brother to his sisters. You can guess what kind of boyfriend he was though, since he’s an ex.	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	26/11/21 07:03 AM
62	Do NOT procreate with bum ass men! First thing that popped into my mind was “is this weapon used incompetence? The guy needs that much help to care for his kid?” But I think this is just straight up incompetence…. And if he daughter grows up in an environment like that… I’m worried she’ll learn to accept this kind of behaviour from her future partners	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	17/11/21 08:55 PM
69	Reject a man if you meet him in the wild and your gut screams NO but your people-pleaser wants to give him your number I wonder what people think about using the classic “sorry I have a boyfriend” excuse? Seems to work well but it is infuriating that women’s choices are only respected safely when there’s another man involved…	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	14/11/21 06:35 AM
29	If he has to think about why he loves you, he doesn’t love you. Or, if all the reasons why he loves you revolve around himself 🙃 “you listen to me, you care for me, you make me feel good” etc	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	07/11/21 06:30 AM
54	Do not project your moral compass and attitudes onto men - you will lose every time. This took me so long to understand. I just kept manipulating myself to believe that he does want to change, he does love me, and it won’t happen again. He’d cry, he’d beg for another chance, he’d say all the right things, and I felt bad for him. But now I know to be a lot more careful with who gets my love and empathy.	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	04/11/21 08:54 PM
19	(TW: SEX, VIOLENCE). These are texts men sent to me when I used to engage in BDSM. Even when they hide behind a "nice guy" facade, this is their true nature. Looking back, I I can't believe I ever accepted being treated this way. BDSM is not liberating or empowering, it's ABUSE. “Like you’re an inanimate object” 🤮 I’m so sorry you had those experiences	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	04/11/21 02:54 AM