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Lmao I had a guys text me for two an a half months "wanting to meet up" he never did. Just made vague plans and canceled them. Alot of people do this cause they're bored. Your friend is right, if he's so desperate to meet, he can just ask her.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/05/22 11:51 AM
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no, because there are reasons why some women don't want to ask guys out that don't have anything to do with laziness or vanity. For example, men will generally sleep with anybody. so I know that I prefer a guy to ask me out, because then I'm sure that he actually likes me. Whereas if I ask him out, he might like me or he might just not have anything else going on and he's just going with it for the novelty of being asked out. Not to say that this is fool proof, but this sub always tries to apply…
/r/PurplePillDebate26/05/22 11:43 AM
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What your not understanding is Women and Men have different needs for relationships. Availability for men is great, Availability for women means absolutely nothing. The straight male perspective on dating is not the right or superior one, it's one of many viewpoints.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/05/22 11:11 AM
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Hmmm, Short and stocky. So between 5"7 and 5"10) and kinda wide shouldered, soft bellied. Sporty (both likes to watch them and occasionally play them), good taste in music and opinionated cause I like to argue. Someone who values communication and commitment. Who wants animals, babies and a house. I'm pretty much describing my partner, lmao.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/11/21 12:42 PM
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She drugged men and robbed them, but as far as I know (and my limited google search), there was no raping involved. I don’t think it’s right to drug and rob people. But like the men on this sub advocate, maybe the men in that situation should have “made better choices” Going home drunk with a random stripper isn’t exactly safe, Moreover, you grow up poor, sometimes you do things, and this is not gendered. In my defense, I was talking about American (maybe western) culture. I think in this situat…
/r/PurplePillDebate26/06/21 10:47 PM
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Again the Cardi B comment doesn’t make sense because A, she successful in her field. There’s not that many people who could go from reality TV to multi platinum artist, in 2 years. If it was easy to do everyone would do it. So I don’t like the idea that just because you particularly don’t like Cardi B‘s music or style that means that she isn’t worth anything. B, by all measures is a success for her life she has the money, she has the husband, she has a daughter. To go to your larger point about …
/r/PurplePillDebate26/06/21 09:55 PM
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This is an issue of poverty, not race. Black women aren’t terrible for being black, we are just disproportionately poor. Cardi B is also married with child. She’s not trying to attract men on Reddit, she’s trying to attract rappers who like big asses…which she successfully did.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/06/21 03:55 PM
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Where do y’all be finding all these terrible black women? Are you sure you’re not looking at poor women who happen to be black? Myself and my friends are college educated, physically fit women, who are married or in LTRs.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/06/21 03:05 PM
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That’s a leap. FDS is literally grandmas advice, not some cope by ugly women. And regardless, no matter how ugly a woman is, SOMEONE will find her attractive and that’s all you really need.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/06/21 03:03 PM
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Not everything, ofc. But the reason everyone is so focused on who’s paying for dates, and what you can bring to the table and divorce rape is because this shit actually happens to us.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/06/21 04:25 PM
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I honestly think this is a symptom of capitalism. You live in a society where social safety nets are very strong, so women and men don’t have to behave this way. The facts are that if a women wants to stay home and take care of her baby after birth , she needs a husband that can provide. Y’all also have reasonable childcare so women don’t have to choose between the work force and motherhood. Capitalism forces all of us to be incredibly selective about our partners because the fall out is immense…
/r/PurplePillDebate16/06/21 03:51 PM
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I want to show you screen shots so bad. Men are not the master conversationalists you think buddy.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/06/21 09:31 PM
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Oh I gotta see a source on this one
/r/PurplePillDebate13/06/21 02:48 AM
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Or maybe he was unreasonable? I didn’t rub it in his face, I generally don’t even tell people I’m a lawyer at first blush because they get weird. He didn’t finish college, but he had an online business that I thought was cool and he seemed comfortable with his life. I never talked down or made him feel bad. He just wanted a trad con relationship and I’m not about it.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/06/21 01:12 AM
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That’s reasonable for the first few months. This convo was after date 2.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/06/21 09:50 PM
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He had a tone to his voice, I’m not gonna break down the whole conversation, but it did not go how you outlined it. I also find it to be an odd question in general. To highlight I said I wanted a partner and he said men don’t really want partnership. Me and this man were not compatible.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/06/21 09:43 PM
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He said it like it was a challenge. I talked about the kind of marriage I wanted (because that was the topic he brought up) and he basically asked me what I did to deserve what I wanted. “What do I bring to the table.” It was weird, if he felt like I was full of myself then stop calling me.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/06/21 09:21 PM
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I literally say, you can give me head but I’m not doing anything else. They don’t believe me and then come over anyway, then it’s shocked pikachu face when they realize I was serious.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/06/21 09:16 PM
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I mean, I get mistaken for a high schooler incredibly often so, I don’t think I’m close to the wall here. Black don’t crack. I wouldn’t say I have problems dating, it’s more just finding the person that’s the right match
/r/PurplePillDebate12/06/21 08:56 PM
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I think all my exes were very hot so
/r/PurplePillDebate12/06/21 08:52 PM
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I have been called both attractive and interesting by many people yes.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/06/21 08:42 PM
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Yes, you intimately know my sex life. Know it better than me.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/06/21 08:12 PM
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Ok -He unmatched me on the app and then lied about it. -His parents died from COVID in December but he felt emotionally ready to date -He didn’t have any friends -I told him to keep dating other people and he said “that’s like if I was your husband and you were putting condoms in my pocket -He refused to accommodate any requests I had on the dates included area, food and activities -he was 35 but complained about how old he was
/r/PurplePillDebate12/06/21 06:34 PM
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That’s not even the reason I broke up with him, there were other red flags dude. Relax.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/06/21 06:29 PM
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I’m only 27 sheesh. That’s very young to be married in the north east. And no my standards are just a smart guy with a good head on his shoulders and is capable of taking care of himself. If he outshines in one area, I’ll let him slack on another, kinda like a point system. I don’t think the kind of man I want is particularly rare. I like “out there” personalities, but it’s not a must. I like broad shoulders, but also not a must.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/06/21 06:23 PM
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My point is that what one person wants in a marriage is different from what another person wants in a marriage. It’s someone’s a fucking life partner, it’s not like there’s a universal standard. So I wasn’t about to sit here and say well “this is what I’m good at” and “that is what I can do”. I don’t know what he wanted. Only he can make that determination by spending time with me. He told me that he wants a huge family, for example. That’s great for some women, but I only really want one kid, m…
/r/PurplePillDebate12/06/21 06:14 PM
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Ohhhh. In my experience, it takes a while for people to commit to each other and not see other people. You can’t make the determination with someone you’ve been on one or two dates with.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/06/21 06:01 PM
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Oh this is wayyyy before exclusivity. This is like hey I just met you, we’re dating for a few weeks to see if there’s chemistry and real feelings, then sex. Then after a couple weeks of building a foundation we become exclusive and put a title on things, maybe a two month time line. But before the title, I don’t expect any sort of monogamy. ...how are y’all dating?
/r/PurplePillDebate12/06/21 05:56 PM
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Huh. I’ve never had causal sex with someone I wanted or expected a commitment out of. That’s not a winning strategy.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/06/21 05:51 PM
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Cause he can get his sexual release elsewhere? He also gets the better sex once it does happen. If if I’m sucking dick then i better make sure you like me.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/06/21 05:49 PM
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That’s warped. Why are you doing tricks for the guy your using for sex?? With me anal and blowjobs are strictly boyfriend energy. In fact I’ve had guys come over and eat my pussy and then send them home, lol. My hookups never get the best of me, that’s nuts.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/06/21 05:36 PM
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Impress the hookup guy?? He’s there to impress me, that’s why he’s only a hookup.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/06/21 05:13 PM
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It’s incredibly difficult to find man who has everything I have at 27. I would be elated if I found a functional adult with a good head on his shoulders and real career prospects. Actually a similar list was placed in a “what are your standards” thread a few weeks ago and all the guys were like “this is why women can’t find a good man” Also I don’t expect any guy to audition for me. I expect him to be himself, and if I like him, I’ll take him as he is. You can’t change someone, so you might as w…
/r/PurplePillDebate12/06/21 05:11 PM
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I was busy getting a doctorate sorry.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/06/21 05:05 PM
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No? I honestly don’t. I’m pursuing relationship with someone. I can’t have sex with everyone who looks at me twice. Is it so much to ask to hang out a few times to see if you like me?
/r/PurplePillDebate12/06/21 05:04 PM
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It’s more like “if we have sex and you don’t feel strongly for me then I have to go through a breakup where I feel used and shitty” Personally I only wait a month or so for a guy I see real potential with and he’s fully free to date other women. I’m just trying to make sure he’s not just in it for the pussy. It’s not like this is months and months of run around.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/06/21 04:58 PM
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*Conventionally And that’s not a problem, I break necks in this city. Men, women, and NB people approach me and I’m never wanting for a partner in that sense. This issue is finding a partner that I find attractive and intelligent, who has future goals that align with mine. While I’m sure people factor race into their selection process (I do as well), there are enough people in this city who don’t care about it for me to have options.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/06/21 04:52 PM
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I told him it was a weird question, especially early in the game. I’m not auditioning for anyone, he either is into me or not. He was also well aware that I’m a good girl who comes from a two parent household, I live alone, cook and clean for myself, have a full social life and recently graduated from law school. If he was confused as to what I could add to a partnership that’s on him.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/06/21 04:38 PM
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I do! He’s expressed that same unsureness about children, but he gave me actual reasons instead of vague nonsense. More to do with his current life stage, rather than a lack of desire for children in his life. I told him we’ll take the summer and get to know each other a bit more, and revisit in the fall. If he still feels like this then we’ll part on good terms.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/06/21 04:13 PM
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I’m doomed I guess.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/06/21 03:50 PM
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I don’t see why the quality of sex would differ. I’m trying to have the best sex possible, so why would I not do things that I enjoy doing with my husband. That’s strange.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/06/21 03:49 PM
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No, it’s “I’m in love with you and I’m trying to figure out if you’re in love with me”
/r/PurplePillDebate12/06/21 03:46 PM
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Because women fall deeper in love after sex? Wow so terrible.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/06/21 03:26 PM
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Idk, I wanna have my kid pretty early in my career and thought people would be more ready.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/06/21 03:17 PM
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I may have to adjust my screening process, that’s fair.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/06/21 03:15 PM
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That’s fair! I will say that women, at least myself personally, have a less clear cut attractive meter. That’s why you hear “I didn’t like him on our first date, but by the third he’d won me over” Or “getting to know him made him more attractive.” We can kind of will it to happen in a way that men can’t. I wasn’t that attracted to my ex, but I forced myself to be cause my ex was awesome. With my current partner sex is much easier and I check him out all the time. A light bulb went off and I’m li…
/r/PurplePillDebate12/06/21 03:14 PM
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To find the man I want to spend my life with attractive and interesting? Don’t feel like it’s a big ask.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/06/21 03:01 PM
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I know! I’m one of them! I’m just trying to find my partner who is.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/06/21 02:55 PM
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!! It’s really bizarre.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/06/21 02:53 PM
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Typically because of the emotional investment. If I REALLY like you, having sex will only make it worse and I’m not trying to get my heart crushed if it turns out we don’t feel the same way. With a guy regulated to sex, If I never see this person again, it means nothing to me. I’m not experiencing the same level of risk. You also have to understand that most women place a completely different value of sex. It is not scarce to us, so we want to be valued for more than that. Valued for our product…
/r/PurplePillDebate12/06/21 02:51 PM
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I’m dating in NYC and it’s impossible to find a man to have kids with. If I like him and he’s smart, interesting, and attractive, he “doesn’t know what the future holds” If he’s interested in kids, he’s going at a warp speed pace and super tradcon. One dude asked me what i brought to the table, and if I understand what men really want in a marriage. We’d been on two dates. It’s incredibly frustrating especially since I thought I’d be meeting my life partner at this (late 20s) stage.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/06/21 02:37 PM
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The sub also says social class is not as heavy of a weight to men as it is to women. I definitely think looks are the focus here. A woman doesn’t look bad if her man is ugly, but I man does if he’s woman is ugly.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/06/21 01:59 PM
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I was with you until you said the female social circle approves. I think men’s friend groups are more influential in the relationship because a woman’s “value” is in her looks. It’s literally a meme that a woman may hesitate to show her friends pictures of the guy she’s dating because he may be not the most conventionally attractive. (Ex. “I promise he’s cuter in person, he just takes bad pictures”) It’s also a meme that “this is my man and I don’t care how he looks I’m gonna love him” and damn …
/r/PurplePillDebate09/06/21 01:17 PM
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That’s so fascinating. I feel like I know (and dated) a bunch of middle of the road guys. Maybe with 5 or 6 body’s in there mid-20s. That’s probably my biggest group. I know a handful of men who are virgins and a another handful of super slutty guys.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/06/21 11:00 AM
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I don’t have a “small circle of friends”. I was in a large sorority at a state school, I live in NYC now and go to a party or social event once a week. I know a lot of people frankly. I’m not saying that the stats are wrong, I’m saying that it wouldn’t even occur to most girls that a large amount of boys aren’t having sex, simply because if they are sexually active, then every around them is.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/06/21 10:55 AM
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Just so you know, most women are completely unaware of this. The guys in my social circle, the guys that I fuck, have all have previous relationships and one night stands. So the idea that a majority of men are out here sexless is foreign to me, and I only really learned of it through this sub. If you asked this question to a group of girls, they’d probably say men had more sex I general.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/06/21 09:46 PM
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Every man who cares about me told me not to approach. I'm not listening to ramdoms on the off chance that the guy is in love with me yet extremely shy.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/06/21 10:42 PM
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I didn’t know private companies or the American government was in the business of giving away money for nothing. It also took me 3 months post Bachelor to find something , so I wish I knew about all this non work that women do.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/06/21 01:38 PM
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This is kind of low effort. Most “men” “work” at “jobs” too.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/06/21 01:25 PM
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It sounds like your just talking shit about poor people. Most adult women work at jobs. Most adult women are not on government assistance.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/06/21 01:15 PM
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Why is “jobs” in quotation marks and a very small minority of American woman are on welfare.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/06/21 01:04 PM
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I agree. Relationships are so personal! If I’m presumably going to spend the rest of my life with them, then I should be allowed to be as specific as I want, because I’m the one who has to deal with it. If someone wants a juggling superstar with a flair for Japanese, who likes BDSM, then they are allowed to choose that.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/06/21 01:06 AM
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You just wrote a paragraph about how thankful women should be that men are attracted to us and when I rebut that men aren’t exactly the greatest, it’s not an argument? It’s your own argument reversed, pal.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/05/21 07:20 PM
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Yeah, and y’all are just peaches to deal with.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/05/21 07:17 PM
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I like shorter 5”8-5”10 and stocky. Barrel chest, hairy , a little belly
/r/PurplePillDebate28/05/21 03:04 PM
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Not the entire industry that’s literally based on women “becoming”. Women have to give the illusion of being. As in we have to look like we haven’t done anything to achieve what we are and that’s what men most appreciate. But part of feminism is his desire to want to “become” as in we don’t want to be valued for outside appearances but what we can make of ourselves. I guess there’s the idea that men wanna be valued for what they are not what they can produce.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/05/21 03:00 PM
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I’m particular about dates cause of my upbringing, man pays. That being said after the first couple dates I let my date know that’s how I roll and if he’s uncomfortable we don’t have to continue. This also doesn’t extend to anything else. I don’t expect gifts or a complete coverage of household expenses, but something doesn’t sit right with me about getting dolled up to pay for my own food. At that point you’re my friend.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/05/21 05:50 PM
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I guess it’s confusing that y’all want to spend a sizeable about of time with someone, even share a life with them, and give no thought to the kind of person that should be. I guess that’s why the “ball and chain” jokes started. A bunch of Boomers married people they hated cause they had no taste.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/05/21 03:17 PM
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I swear I must be hideous, I've never had anything approaching hundreds of likes. 😂
/r/PurplePillDebate24/05/21 03:26 PM
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My best friend married at 23 and had a baby 6 months later. She's a fantastic mom and lovesher kid but everything else is miserable and we (my friends) have to send her money pretty regularly. My parents married early and it worked out, but it's a big risk.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/05/21 12:37 AM
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LMAO. Sorry I’m hot.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/05/21 03:40 AM
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I’ve literally had the worst sex with “hot” guys. The best sex I’ve ever had was a random repressed Muslim dude who was not noticeably hot to me. The hot Greek dude was painful and had sharp finger nails. There’s not correlation. I’ll die on the hill.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/05/21 03:33 AM
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How hot a guy is does not mean he’s better at sex. Maybe it will get him into bed, but I’m not more likely to orgasm if he’s a 9 rather than a 7. I actually have personal experience fucking men with literally no motivation to lie so, whatever.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/05/21 09:35 PM
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Hotness has 0 correlation with this. In fact the hotter the guy the worse the fuck in my experience. Women’s orgasms are not visual, so a pretty face won’t make you wet.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/05/21 09:23 PM
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A lot of guys point out that a woman who can’t keep friends is a red flag. Again, we are talking about normal guys who get into relationships every now and again. Not basement dwellers desperate for the smell of pussy.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/05/21 02:19 PM
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Random guys come up to me pretty frequently and the only time I’m offended is of it’s a guy clearly much older than me (27) If an ugly guy comes up to me at a bar, I’ll be polite and say I have a boyfriend, but I won’t call him a creep unless he’s pushy or touchy .
/r/PurplePillDebate17/05/21 07:52 PM
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6 dates, 1 date per week.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/05/21 11:05 PM
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1) More people got on the apps during that tim 2) you are now old
/r/PurplePillDebate05/05/21 06:48 AM
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we get very mixed messaging on this. I’ve never been successful approaching a guy so I stopped doing it. Additionally a lot of guys say that they don’t like it and it would just be more for the compliment of getting approached rather than a real interest in the woman. My brother says if he likes a girl he would approach her and her doing approaching doesn’t really do anything for him.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/05/21 06:25 PM
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No I don’t have to admit that? What?? I have 15 aunts and uncles. The majority of which have been married over 30 years. Again, you based your stereotypes off of tv which has intentionally portrayed black people negatively for decades. Dysfunctional relationships is usually a sign of poverty, and Latina women are equally loud and “aggressive” but it’s cute when they do it somehow. If black women looked and behaved so badly , then why are half the white women in Hollywood desperately trying to lo…
/r/PurplePillDebate01/05/21 09:33 AM
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I swear y’all just say blatantly racist shit. I have a mixed race group of friends. The amount of fat black women is roughly the same as white women. One fucking episode of Maury and now “Black women are all fat and angry.” Fuck off.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/05/21 09:17 AM
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FDS is literally my grandmothers dating advice. She got my step grandfather to take on 6 kids, as a black man and a bus driver in the 60s. If she says it it’s Bible. It’s literally be busy, hold off on sex. If he’s not treating your right bail. Nothing immoral about it.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/05/21 02:57 AM
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Okay I’m not going back and forth with you. Nobody owes anyone anything and everyone sucks. Bye.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/04/21 05:04 PM
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Golf claps? Men consistently undervalue emotional support on this sub as if their girlfriends and wives are providing free therapy. I am in law school, I rely HEAVILY on my boyfriend, and I’m grateful for everything he does to help me feel strong and capable. If I got a job at a big firm and left him for some partner it would be shitty, no two ways about it.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/04/21 05:01 PM
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....Emotional support is a thing? Sticking with crazy schedules, mood swings, and distance is a thing. That’s a lot! By your logic it’s safer for a girl to just date a regular guy because of course he’s going to leave her when he find someone better, even if she puts up with the demands of that kind of relationship.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/04/21 04:53 PM
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To be a professional collegiate athlete is not in anyway easy. It is an incredibly demanding schedule. It is incredibly hard on the body and you could suffer serious injury. These men often travel to play in foreign countries! To support a person through all of that and then when they sign a contract it’s over? Please. And this isn’t fictional. There are many men who want a new woman after they’ve risen in status.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/04/21 04:45 PM
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Quite a few women hold the man down, only to get left when he finally “makes it.” Please look at almost every professional sports player for reference.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/04/21 12:11 PM
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Do you mind going into some detail? I would like a list.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/04/21 10:28 PM
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Sure! I’m mostly thinking of two guys, but it is happened casually with a few others. One was kind of a grungy loser that I knew in freshman year, but I really liked him and I let him know that I liked him. He basically told me that he wasn’t interested at all and we’d be better as friends. Now, he will not get out of my Instagram DM‘s. At one point he told me he “regretted not picking up my flower.” He usually sends a message every few months, responding to some thing and asking why he hasn’t h…
/r/PurplePillDebate21/04/21 02:08 AM
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This actually happens to women as well, probably not as often. But a few times now, boys who rejected me HARD on college are flying into my DMs about how they regret hurting my feelings. Please 😑
/r/PurplePillDebate21/04/21 01:55 AM
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I mean, my law school thesis is on unwed father paternity rights and when I presented it to my classmates, all o them found it to be interesting and compelling. If by “woke” you mean actually TikTok teens then there’s your problem.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/04/21 01:48 AM
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1 It was me, I’m the cheater. Everyone was suitably and rightly horrified and raked me over the coals for it.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/04/21 12:39 PM
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We have the opposite experience. My mom explored nothing, stuck with my dad at 16 and always encouraged waiting till marriage. I knew at 10 when she gave me the first talk, that life wouldn’t be for me.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/04/21 06:36 PM
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Please spend some time in deadbedrooms, the ladies there are SO hard up.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/04/21 09:36 PM
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Your really telling me that if a guy is hot enough that a girl will date him regardless of what he’s like. This sub, I swear.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/04/21 12:13 PM
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You can absolutely be hot and mean or hot and weird, or hot with emotional issues. Having abs won’t cover a personality disorder.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/04/21 11:45 AM
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Wait wait. Why are we assuming that she if doesn’t spend time with a guy, she doesn’t find him attractive enough. What if she just doesn’t like him.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/04/21 11:19 AM
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Collecting didgeridoos. Which is fine, just interesting for a white guy in his 40s to have 25 didgeridoos. Edit: and needs his girlfriend to know every minute of this collection process so we need to talk about it at ad nauseam
/r/PurplePillDebate10/04/21 11:13 AM
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So I am 27,and my boyfriend is 43, so I feel like I can answer your question personally. My boyfriend has never been married and doesn’t have any kids. He’s a good boyfriend. He pays for things,he is generally on top of what he needs to be, he’s financially stable, he is sufficiently romantic and I really see a future with him. With that being said, he is a little off. He’s weird, he has different hobbies, and I can understand why women who are a bit more conventional may have left him behind. I…
/r/PurplePillDebate10/04/21 03:35 AM
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Zane was so good!! My sexual awakening.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/04/21 03:10 AM
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Hmm. I’m at 13, so I’d probably prefer someone close to that, up until the high 20s. Basically I don’t want to date anyone where sex is a big deal to them, either if they don’t have it often and it’s this huge emotional weight or if they are constantly seeking it out so much the number is sky high, and the angle is always to score.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/04/21 11:45 PM
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Hmmm. It’s irrelevant now because me an my boyfriend are pretty serious, but I’ll keep this in mind if we don’t work out.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/04/21 01:35 PM
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How would they even know my personality if the app is based on pictures. Again, never had any trouble dating, but less matches on the apps than other woman. Also, my parents are high school sweethearts and I’m 5”4, 125. I don’t have any “tough” mannerisms and was typically called an Oreo growing up.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/04/21 01:27 PM
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Really?? Maybe I have bad pictures? I mean maybe I am ugly? But I get approached irl, and nobody ever has a problem with my looks, but dating apps have never crazy for me.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/04/21 01:23 PM
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People do alot of things just because I'm black, hun. In fact, once a guy matched, and messaged me to tell me he's thinks I'm really pretty...but he doesn't date black girls.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/04/21 12:56 PM
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It's probably cause I'm black and black women get less matches than everyone else.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/04/21 12:42 PM
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I am fine, I do have a boyfriend, and if we broke up, It wouldn't be too hard to get another one. I live in NYC, there plenty of men to go around. I've just hear on the sub all the time that woman are just swimming in matches, totally overwhelmed, "thousands" as this thread has mentioned. Has literally never been the case for me. I have options OLD, but not crazy amounts.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/04/21 12:36 PM
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I'm hot yeah. Never been called ugly once in my life, get called beautiful/pretty/hot by a man daily if you count my boyfriend, weekly if you don't. Still only would make about 25 matches a week, nothing approaching thousands.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/04/21 12:25 PM
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The fact that I’m getting less matches than a 50 year old woman is depressing. I’m only 27 and in pretty good shape. Well, the studies do say that black women have it worse than anyone on these apps.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/04/21 09:39 AM
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Lmao. Thousands he says.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/04/21 03:01 AM
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This is the one! Why would I sleep with some random on the internet, when I can just sleep with the one of the 20 or so dudes in my social circles. I’m on a dating app to date.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/04/21 09:16 PM
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It’s not necessarily a post about race, but culture. There are plenty of white cultures that mimic the duo that I’m speaking of. But fine, your sub, your rules I guess.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/04/21 06:39 PM
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Yeah, if I were a white woman with everything else being the same, I’d go for it. But I’m in a high earning job, and attractive. My boyfriend is white and people just...defer to him, even when he’s bullshitting. I’d like to see what that’s about.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/04/21 03:28 PM
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Nahhh. But not cause of sex. I have no desire to be a black man, at all.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/04/21 02:45 PM
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I mean check your fat activists? The people I follow are working on medical discrimination and and fair pay issues. I highly, highly recommend “What We Don’t Talk About When We Talk About Fat.” by Aubrey Gordon. Really opened my eyes to the actual issues, which are discriminatory in nature, rather than who does or doesn’t want to sleep with them. And I eat 2,000 calorie meals often enough and I’ve been 125 for the last 6 years, I just have a kick ass metabolism. The idea that we’re interested he…
/r/PurplePillDebate05/04/21 09:43 PM
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Americans (and the west in general) generally think that fat people are fat due to reasons entirely in their control, and if they “put down the fork” as someone in this thread says, then all would be well. Thus they cast moral judgement of these people and so the fatphobia. This completely ignores that there are 32 and counting causes of obesity, the vast majority of people with eating disorders live in fat bodies, and believe it or not, there are people who eat balanced diets and are physically…
/r/PurplePillDebate05/04/21 06:45 PM
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Okay but there’s a lot of gray area there. What if I go on 6 dates with a guy (who’s an 8 or 9) and it doesn’t work out. Is it cause I wasn’t hot enough or he just didn’t like me, or I him. I would think that anyone who is bothering to take me on dates sees at least some potential for long term and can be factored in. I also haven’t noticed a meaningful difference in guys who I’ve done an ONS, guys I’ve dated for a few months, and the two boyfriends that I’ve had. The temporary guys weren’t part…
/r/PurplePillDebate29/03/21 07:39 PM
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So how do you know your league? Who will LTR you?
/r/PurplePillDebate29/03/21 06:28 PM
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Okay so I read through the handbook and I did a key-word search for “bills” just be be sure. I don’t see where it says paying significantly more than half is a tenant of FDS. They advocate strongly not to go 50/50, especially in situations where the man makes more, but it seems the consensus is proportionality, and to avoid being a SAHM.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/03/21 07:45 AM
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The facts that paying for dates and waiting for sex is “insanely high standards” is crazy to me. It’s not that hard to come by lol.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/03/21 08:44 PM
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I do six weeks instead. Total game changer. Quality of guy I dated went up astronomically.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/03/21 08:10 PM
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I’ve only had two. One was an 8, my current boyfriend is maybe a 6. He’s really funny.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/03/21 07:03 PM
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I’m not really sure? Guys fuck anything and I’ve went on dates with everything from a 9 to a 4 so I’m not sure how I’m supposed to get an accurate gauge.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/03/21 06:15 PM
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I mean, even going from my 20s to my 30s was a big leap for me personality wise.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/03/21 12:50 PM
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Exactly. I can buy my boyfriend food on a one on one, but he would die if I payed in front of his friends.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/03/21 01:23 AM
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I’ll be devils advocate! Used FDS when the sub first got underway, got a Boyfriend who I’m still with and actually very happy with. So it’s gotten very bitter with content lately. But if you are an anxious dater like myself, yes it was better for me to wait a while before I had sex with my current boyfriend because I wasn’t interested in becoming a clingy mess after sex three dates in. Yes, I let my boyfriend do most of the initiations in the early days, because I am again ,an anxious dater, and…
/r/PurplePillDebate21/03/21 02:51 PM
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I like my men short and stocky! 5”8 and broad!
/r/PurplePillDebate12/03/21 02:42 PM
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ALL of the apps have the singular purpose of introducing you to another person. What happens after that it’s up to the people involved.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/03/21 04:00 PM
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My first date with my boyfriend was the Whitney museum in NY. It was amazing.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/03/21 12:08 AM
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This is the one! If a woman winds up in a toxic or abusive situation, it’s somehow her own fault for not recognizing it. If someone is truly manipulative, that’s a really really hard thing to do.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/03/21 11:23 PM
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Hmm. He has an average face and build with a bit of a tummy. But he’s 6”5 so do with that what you will. He’s definitely the least conventionally attractive of my boyfriends, but his personality really makes it, and I’m attracted to him.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/03/21 11:09 PM
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So romantic. Women flock to you I see.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/03/21 10:56 PM
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I really don’t. It’s an unfortunate attraction that I must bear.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/03/21 05:46 PM
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Wait wait. Forgetting my birthday is constructing a stressful situation. God, the bar is in hell.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/03/21 04:57 PM
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No. Post sex I usually feel cuddly, even if the sex wasn’t good. Clarity moments are big life moments for me. Holidays, Birthdays, Vacation. Where there’s a certain standard of behavior he is supposed to meet and he just doesn’t. (Forgetting my B-day, dropping the ball on V day, weird around Christmas or Thanksgiving) It’s my favorite stress test. But other than that, nothing. I wish women could dump all our hormones out to have clear headed decision.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/03/21 02:03 PM
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Okay looks don’t matter doesn’t mean “you can be hideous and I don’t care”. It means you just don’t have to be hot. For most women there’s a LARGE window between not awful and totally hot. When we say looks don’t matter, it means that you don’t have to be particularly attractive, but actively ugly was never on the table.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/03/21 09:01 PM
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I think you can want to help people around you genuinely, yes. I thought about it, and I wouldn’t say I was a horrible person.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/02/21 03:08 PM
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At least for me, this is mostly because of children. I will be doing the bulk of childcare because...that’s what women do. I can earn all the money and take care of the kid. If not for that, I don’t really care what a man makes.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/02/21 01:38 PM
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Every prominent woman in politics is a bitch automatically, apparently 🙄
/r/PurplePillDebate25/02/21 01:31 PM
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That does not mean he’s happy or fulfilled? We do this thing with celebrities, that just because one aspect of there lives are great, then the rest must be. Life sucks and then you die. That’s literally true for everyone on the planet. Find your happiness where you can, but there are no easy fixes, including money or beauty. Just different problems.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/02/21 01:50 PM
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There’s no amount of anything that would make life “easy and fun”. That’s not the nature of life.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/02/21 01:42 PM
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Listen, the guys on this sub can bitch about SoCieTy, but the facts are in college, I only knew a handful of dudes who were doing anything but playing video games and getting trashed. While 75% of the girls were grinding it out for post grad I thought it was super weird then, and I’m seeing the effects now, the lack of hustle men under 30 have is really strange. My boyfriend is 40, an artist, and does LSD a couple times a year. Somehow, he manages to have his shit together (a 401k!, Stable emplo…
/r/PurplePillDebate22/02/21 06:24 AM
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You’re imagining what playing the race card feels like, also we’re human beings, lol.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/02/21 03:44 PM
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What do I win? Embarrassment? I mean I have two black brothers and a black dad. None of them have ever accused someone of being racist to get a date. I know the internet makes it seem like black ppl are winning right now. But it’s the internet. Just because people get canceled on Twitter doesn’t mean we’re all on vacation or that it has any bearing in our day to day life.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/02/21 03:34 PM
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How does the race card help you with dating? As a black woman is has not been a help to me let me tell ya.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/02/21 03:26 PM
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So this conversation is about the black man’s typical approach to women, which is usually less bumbling and awkward then white guys. This is not about whatever issue you have with black people. Stay on topic.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/02/21 03:17 PM
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Wow, black men with jobs don’t exist. Didn’t notice.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/02/21 03:08 PM
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Frankly, the handbook is a good move if you have trouble setting boundaries. Also if your pretty and nice men will pay for your food. That’s just the truth.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/02/21 07:33 PM
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I used the FDS handbook to get my boyfriend. He’s great, 10/10.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/02/21 03:28 PM
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Bully? No. I’ve had to do the whole “he’s cuter in person” deal, but no ones ever threatened a friendship over it. Even if the guy were trash, I usually just give them a look and say “I’m not gonna tell you what to do but....” and leave it at that.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/02/21 04:48 PM
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But again, black people have built things. Tulsa is a great example. This country doesn’t have a great history of being kind to mass black enfranchisement. Typically leaders are killed, groups are criminalized and disbanded and businesses are bombed. Yet we still have Black Owned Business popping up everyday. I admire the resilience, frankly. Just because you want to call attention to something that is wrong, doesn’t make you a victim. I’m pretty well traveled, thanks. I’ve actually come to the …
/r/PurplePillDebate03/02/21 08:58 PM
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Well because there has been no acknowledgement. The Jews received reparations and an entire updated school curriculum after the Holocaust in Germany. Native Americans have also received an apology and compensation. When it comes to Black Americans, it’s simple denial up until it’s so far back that we should be “over it”. It’s ridiculous to say someone is embracing victimhood like most of our people aren’t living in spaces gerrymandered and redlined to all hell, with not a decent grocery store fo…
/r/PurplePillDebate03/02/21 08:31 PM
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I mean, I say that as someone who’s parents busted out their bootstraps and I myself am currently finishing up my JD. My point is with many black folks like yourself it’s either excellence or nothing, while white people get to enjoy just living there life. While I understand the idea of improving your condition, to say the problem with black peoples of that we aren’t actively working out of our Sabotage quick enough is missing the mark.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/02/21 08:15 PM
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Okay Clarence Thomas. I am a fan of black mediocrity. Why do we always have to be better? Dig ourselves out of centuries of disenfranchisement, sabotage, genocide and outright poverty and if we don’t we are a failure. Life is hard enough without the additional responsibility of bringing up your race. We shall overcome, amiright?
/r/PurplePillDebate03/02/21 08:02 PM
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I mean, you realize there are reasons these things are prevalent that we had absolutely no control over right?
/r/PurplePillDebate03/02/21 07:55 PM
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This is not the sub for this, but awful take. Black Americans people don’t have a spontaneous, cultural failure that exists in a vacuum.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/02/21 07:54 PM
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Maybe not abuse, but I'm def on guard with a guy I don't know.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/01/21 02:22 PM
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Ok, so there are PLENTY of stories of POC kids getting called ugly in school only to get to a more diverse environment and suddenly find out they were just black/Indian/East Asian and not ugly at all. I MYSELF experienced this in going to my all white college in the middle of nowhere, then moving to NYC and suddenly having huge options. Race is a factor in whether people will date you, at least in America. But it’s how you all get with women’s experiences too, if you haven’t personally experienc…
/r/PurplePillDebate24/01/21 10:08 AM
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🙋🏾‍♀️🙋🏾‍♀️🙋🏾‍♀️ It took 3 years, dating books, and actively seeking my type and setting boundaries to start getting nice, interesting, attractive men. I had to go full hypergamy frankly. I’m “pretty for a black girl” so I have no idea how much that helps or hinders, but only have one friend who seems to have the easy time you did. Everyone else, it’s a bit of a slog.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/01/21 12:57 AM
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Gee, thanks.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/01/21 10:17 PM
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I must be hideous then because LOL. Edit: I can get a man to have sex with me. Everything else described is in no way a given. Again, maybe I’m just not hot enough.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/01/21 10:12 PM
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The takes on this sub that describe women’s real “thoughts and motivations” are so so wrong. And THEN! A women will make a post accurately explaining a woman’s experience and the replies are just outright rejection. And I’m like, “well how would you know?!?!”
/r/PurplePillDebate22/01/21 10:05 PM
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I’ve never, ever heard dating be described as anything but an exercise in pain from a woman. Who the hell is getting “excitement, entertainment and free food”? Ego boost??!?!
/r/PurplePillDebate22/01/21 10:03 PM
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So we’re eliminating women over a certain weight, women over a certain age, and non-white women...who probably already have money. Yeah, those girls are swimming in men, I guess.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/01/21 09:45 PM
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Lol, I always wonder who these magical women with perfect lives that y’all talk about are.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/01/21 09:22 PM
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It happens when the guy expects a girl to be all over him and she's not. I don't know what switch that sets off but then he's blowing up your phone.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/01/21 02:39 PM
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okay so regardless of how you feel about it the leading cause of death in pregnant women is still homicide by a male partner.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/01/21 04:58 PM
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Still hate it here. Yes women are the evil. Have a good day.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/01/21 02:50 PM
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Oh my god, I hate this sub.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/01/21 02:09 PM
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This is not a “some” argument. Are the facts that women are more likely to suffer gender based violence? Yes. In y’all haste to scream “not me! I’m not like that” it avoids the issue. OP is saying that a lot of women aren’t clearer based on fears of violence. Everyone in this thread jumped to act like it’s some far off paranoid possibility, but it’s not and we can see it in the numbers.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/01/21 07:36 PM
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And I don’t know a single woman. Yet we know statistically by every metric men are the more violent. I was just responding to OPs totally anecdotal experience.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/01/21 07:24 PM
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So are we gonna argue that women are more violent towards men than vice versa? Because we know that that’s not the case.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/01/21 07:21 PM
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Yes, lucky you.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/01/21 03:46 PM
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Or maybe the guys are crazy, and we as woman have to think about rejection violence instead of the idea that it’s somehow always the woman’s fault.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/01/21 03:38 PM
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No. My friends or myself did not encourage crazy behavior by being a “bitch”
/r/PurplePillDebate10/01/21 03:09 PM
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What does that even mean? They were regular looking guys.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/01/21 03:04 PM
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I mean lucky you? I watched my friend get punched out in Times Square. I had a friend who’s ex-boyfriend turned into a stalker and she changed phone number three times. I my self have be followed and touched by strangers on the street. Just cause you’ve had pleasant experience doesn’t mean it’s a cop out, and this encourages men to think that rejection violence is some myth.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/01/21 02:55 PM
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I mean lucky you? I watched my friend get punched out in Times Square. I had a friend who’s ex-boyfriend turned into a stalker and she changed phone number three times. I my self have be followed and touched by strangers on the street. Just cause you’ve had pleasant experience doesn’t mean it’s a cop out, and this encourages men to think that rejection violence is some myth.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/01/21 02:54 PM
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You can immediately notice personality. If a guy comes in a bar is he well dressed? Is he with friends ? Do they look like they’re enjoying themselves? All good indicators.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/01/21 03:24 PM
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This is a terrible take. If a guy is awkward, looks will NOT carry him. I don’t care if he’s an Adonis.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/01/21 03:14 PM
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OP explains how female attraction works. As usual men on this sub continue ignore what they don’t understand .
/r/PurplePillDebate08/01/21 10:55 PM
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Just to go a little differently, I don’t care how “hot” you are, it’s energy/game/personality/chemistry that will seal the deal. The best sex I’ve ever had was with a guy that I wouldn’t have looked twice at if he walked by me. We just clicked well physically while we were on a date. Looking at a picture is not going make a woman wet all on its own, that’s why smutty romance novels exist. We need the story, the background. Attraction is situational.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/12/20 08:25 AM
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Y'all... really spend alot of time thinking about this.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/12/20 01:17 PM
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It’s unique that couples confide in each other? I reiterate my point that y’all don’t go outside. How are you supposed to have a functional relationship if you can’t talk about your problems.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/12/20 06:28 PM
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More like that one girl in 6th grade broke his heart and he’s never been able to recover, so that why he has trouble with commitment 😒
/r/PurplePillDebate02/12/20 02:30 PM
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Yet here I am, listening to my bfs problems. Like I did with every ex..because that’s how relationships function.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/12/20 02:14 PM
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It’s literally a trope that men use there girlfriends as free therapy. I swear the sub doesn’t go outside.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/12/20 02:10 PM
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Lmao. Fat losers cheat all the time. You have to understand culturally women are encouraged to “give the nice guy a chance”. You see this troupe in sitcoms, romcoms, adam Sandler movies. I don’t know a single girl who’s significant other is more attractive than she is. Hell, I love my boyfriend to death, but he’s punching above his weight with me as well. This idea that women only want super hot guys...there aren’t that many super hot guys. You can turn on the Bachelorette right now, and out of …
/r/PurplePillDebate28/11/20 05:09 PM
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Threads like these are why I jumped on the men are trash train. This is so inconsistent with my reality. I get street harassed daily. I’m talking men roll up on me, follow me, try to touch me, say incredibly lewd shit. I was airdropped a dick pick last week. I have to turn around when a certain cashier is on shift at my grocery because he won’t let me buy my food in fucking peace. I keep a very low hair cut and I’ve had to switch barbers three fucking times because they won’t take “no I won’t go…
/r/PurplePillDebate28/11/20 02:59 PM
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Oh please.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/11/20 02:40 PM
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I think you can’t date however many people you want simultaneously. But once people start having sex you have to pick one.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/11/20 12:36 PM
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Inb4: male behavior is morally neutral but when women do it it’s a choice.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/11/20 03:44 PM
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Nature is in no way an equalizer, do you know how many things happened because of sheer, dumb luck? We live in a civilized, just society because we made it that way. We can’t be both cooperative and engage in survival of the fitness.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/10/20 03:24 PM
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That is why there are other admissions standards besides test scores. It’s not enough to be black. A student should also demonstrate other areas of strength. Listen the courts have been battling with affirmative action since it began. There’s no perfect answer here. AA can be patronizing especially when kids assume that’s why your in the school and not on your own ability. But the facts are that every kid in this country doesn’t get the same opportunities to be great, especially kids of color. W…
/r/PurplePillDebate26/10/20 01:10 PM
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Okay, it’s not the fact that I’m black that carries the weight. It’s that because I’m black I’ve likely had a vastly different experience than most of the people applying, thus making me more valuable as a student.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/10/20 01:01 PM
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Race has increased value because studies show that a diverse environment contributes to better productivity and learning. Having the exact same type of person in one environment hampers growth. There was a guy who got into Columbia law even though his scores were under average, but he happens to be a Native American and Chieftain of his small tribe. So the admin team had a choice. An Asian kid with the exact same profile that they had already admitted many times over or an under represented mino…
/r/PurplePillDebate26/10/20 12:52 PM
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Test scores don’t automatically make you a better student? Was your admissions not controlling for GPA, extra-curriculars, or strong essay writing? Race is supposed to have a weight similar to extensive volunteer work, or veteran status, or increased hardship. If your school thought they could admit a trash student cause they were black and somehow that would make it fair then I’m not surprised it didn’t work out.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/10/20 11:40 AM
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What? What was the admissions process if they brought in POC who goofed off? Affirmative Action is about trying intentionally to diversity your student body using race a ONE factor for admission, it is not just letting anyone in to the school.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/10/20 10:00 AM
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It is true of other races, including South Asian and East Asian women. Edit: Hell I’ve seen WOC get turned down for white women who objectively don’t even look better than them. A gorgeous Indian girl I was friends with in college would get passed over for over weight acne prone white women. I hate when guys get on here and talk about how they can’t get a date and has never attempted to talk to a non white girl in their lives.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/10/20 08:49 PM
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Bullshit. Maybe that works on white girls but every moderate to ugly woman of color I know can’t get play on a dating app if she tried.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/10/20 05:15 PM
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If you can find me a case where a man genuinely lost his job and went to jail for a singular awkward hug, I will rescind my argument. I often feel like men will do this thing where they say “I told a joke, I thought we we’re friends” and the “joke” was about a woman’s huge tits and dick sucking lips. Your POC to White argument doesn’t hold water with me here. I don’t think the situation draws a parallel.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/10/20 03:12 PM
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I’m not. I do not understand how a man can be confused about what counts as sexual harassment. Of course some women can make things up, but some men rape women. I’m not talking about bad actors, but is there really confusion about what is appropriate in a professional environment?
/r/PurplePillDebate22/10/20 02:27 PM
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Okay so women get raped often. I wasn’t aware that this was breaking news.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/10/20 12:27 PM
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I didn’t know spending time alone with a woman from work is sexual harassment. I’m not talking about women who make things up, I’m talking about sexual harassment. Touching, sexual jokes, quid pro quo. I wasn’t aware that “friendly banter” was on that list.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/10/20 12:26 PM
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So never hug a woman who works with you. No exceptions. There’s your answer.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/10/20 10:26 PM
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Women rely on more social cues than men do. We can see how someone might say no, but their body language or tone says another thing. This is why when a woman will describe how she was offended by something her friend did to her boyfriend or husband, he really doesn’t understand the full context. Or those skits where a women will say “I’m fine.” when she’s clearly not fine, but the man takes it at face value. We see these little things, and expect men to see them because it seems obvious. But men…
/r/PurplePillDebate21/10/20 10:20 PM
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No, no. Men set up this “How could I ever know, it’s so subtle ???“ straw man when sexual harassment and assault is very clear. I was talking about the push pull of courtship not hugging some girl at your job.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/10/20 07:35 PM
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I’m starting to realize that most men don’t have the social skills to understand the dynamic that is essential this. There’s a no that means yes, and a no that means no. And most women know which is which, and they assume that men do to. They don’t. Since we’ve eroded at the culture that would protect men and women from these social pitfalls pit falls, we (as women I think) have to make adjustments. I.e Be more clear.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/10/20 07:13 PM
1

Lmaooo.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/10/20 04:48 PM
5

Sure. But you acknowledge that the women’s obligation is higher, due to the physical and fiscal effects.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/10/20 03:25 PM
5

So women have to eat right, abstain from alcohol, weed, and cigarettes. Refrain for serious exercise. They have to do pre-natal check up and miss months of work. Not to mention hormonal consequences and the extreme pain and trauma from birth. Only for the child to go to foster care for years of sexual and physical abuse. TL:DR only women have an obligation to children they don’t want.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/10/20 03:21 PM
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So only women have a obligation to children they don’t want?
/r/PurplePillDebate12/10/20 03:13 PM
5

So men and women both have an obligation to the children they produce, willingly or not.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/10/20 03:10 PM
3

Talking about a LARGE chunk of the US there buddy.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/10/20 03:06 PM
3

Assuming this is the US. Abortion is legal in 10 states. 18 States it is illegal. The rest are in a gray area. What roe v. Wade did was make abortion a right. That right could be overturned on in a few weeks, stay tuned. I will also tell you that this decision was couched in a right to privacy, and it was not about rape or Heath of the mother
/r/PurplePillDebate12/10/20 03:05 PM
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No, I’m giving an equivalent. The reason it’s socially acceptable for women to seek child support in those circumstances is the same reason why it’s not socially acceptable for a women to seek an abortion when it’s the reverse.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/10/20 02:57 PM
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If a man pokes holes in condoms or hides birth control, why isn’t it socially acceptable for a woman to get an abortion?
/r/PurplePillDebate12/10/20 02:45 PM
11

So you’re saying if a woman messes with her BC and gets pregnant, it’s socially acceptable to seek child support?
/r/PurplePillDebate12/10/20 02:40 PM
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FDS is my grandmas dating strategy. I have no idea why people act like the side bar is revolutionary.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/10/20 02:34 PM
21

That’s not socially accepted??????
/r/PurplePillDebate12/10/20 02:33 PM
1

Thanks! Didn't look right while I was typing, but I didn't feel like checking.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/09/20 12:29 PM
5

I think it's way more common for women to have painful sex? Even sex I fully consented to can wind up hurting if the person isn't careful. That's what I mean for compacity bad sex.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/09/20 12:53 AM
5

Ahhh. Women have a much larger compacity for bad sex so that makes sense.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/09/20 12:06 AM
9

I'm even more confused. What's the point of being attractive if it doesn't correlate to when it's useful? I can't see how a pretty face does anything for you.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/09/20 11:19 PM
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I have a question, does “most attractive” mean best at sex? My boyfriend is the least attractive of all my boyfriends in an objective sense, but he is the best at sex.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/09/20 07:21 PM
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It would blow PPDs mind that I know women, myself included who have had ONS with average to below average men. This very strange myth that only Chads get causal sex when in reality it’s “I’m drunk, this person is talking to me and he seems cool.” The sex is almost always mediocre and the women not going to come, what does it matter if he has a nice jaw?
/r/PurplePillDebate29/09/20 02:21 AM
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I've never been insulted by a man who wanted to split a date with me, I just...don't see them again? I would text that I had a nice time, but I wasn't feeling it and wish them well. As a "man should pay for dates" woman, my intention is not to force a man into paying for me? It's the way I gauge Intrest. If a guy is like "you pick the place" and "you plan it" AND we pay for it together, I assume that this guy wants to fuck me and thats it. Maybe that's the wrong assumption, but I don't see how i…
/r/PurplePillDebate25/09/20 09:31 PM
1

I see expect a lot here. Like men can want to pay, but women shouldn’t expect it. What does that mean? Does it mean that women shouldn’t refuse to see a man again based off of him wanting to split the first date?
/r/PurplePillDebate25/09/20 08:45 PM
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You grow out of that by late 20s or so. When my parents go out with friends, one couple always pays the bill, they never split. I stopped splitting when I got a job with a 401k.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/09/20 08:10 PM
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Okay, calm down. People have been raised differently in regards to relationship dynamics. But a man who had been raised to pay for dates isn't "more wrong" than a man who's been raised to split it.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/09/20 08:06 PM
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Money doesn’t necessarily mean wealth. After a certain age, maybe 27 and above, I wouldn’t date a man who wasn’t supporting himself seriously and paying all of his bills on time. But you don’t really need to be rich. Also dating rich in my city usually comes with crazy hours and a Cocaine addiction. I would say creativity is where it comes in for me. My boyfriend have taken me some most amazing dates, a lot of which were free because he finds deals online for these things. I have no issue with a…
/r/PurplePillDebate24/09/20 06:46 PM
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The way my Instagram feed has a new proposal every fucking day, I wish this was the case. Cause now I just feel old and left behind and I'm giving my boyfriend side eye. To note, my social circle is MC+ college graduates, who tend to get married.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/09/20 11:57 AM
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This is area specific. No one in NYC starts dating seriously (dating for marriage/high commitment), until late 20s, early 30s. Even then it's really common to see guys in there 40s with young children here. Marrying age in th America varies significantly based off where you are.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/09/20 02:32 AM
1

Are men emotionally fulfilled with causal relationships?
/r/PurplePillDebate23/09/20 10:42 PM
2

How else was I supposed to prove I was black? I’m not gonna argue with you over it when I can simply show you and remove all doubt.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/09/20 06:47 PM
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Check me out on Insta, @courtwoodards , my page is public . You can DM and I’ll verify that we are having a convo on Reddit.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/09/20 06:36 PM
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Yeah. I feel like this is a theory thing that never works in practice. Exactly zero of the guys I’ve approached have very worked out. Even if I initially get their number and we go out, it just never goes anywhere. I’m just gonna pick from the guys who are into me, thanks.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/09/20 10:00 AM
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Okay, as someone actually with this dynamic everyone can get off their high horse. I’m 27, my boyfriend is 43. He does currently make more money than me, and pays for most of our dinners out, but I’m not being lavished in gifts and vacations and I will our earn him by next year because I’m a lawyer and he’s a teacher. For the most part we have an extremely normal relationship, that it’s not characterized by his apparent creepiness, or my daddy issues, or any weird sugar baby set up. We go to yog…
/r/PurplePillDebate17/09/20 05:34 PM
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So your TL:DR is: Woman marries bum= “your fault, make better choices” Woman considers money in any way = “golddigger bitch” You literally can’t do the right thing as an American woman apparently.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/09/20 01:42 AM
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Okay, we're human beings. Nobody has to prove anything to you. Either do it or don't, but testing people to see if they measure up to whatever standard you have is wildly immature. To quote the men on this subreddit, make better choices. Secondly, the amount of men who think they are getting tricked out of 60k is insane to me. There are people with actual gold who have to worry about these things, and that's why pre-nups exist. The vast majority of men, don't really have enough money to be explo…
/r/PurplePillDebate13/09/20 10:50 PM
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Yes, money is a COMPONENT in my choice. Just like sex was a component in yours. Nowhere did I say that it was my only requirement, nor did I say that this man had to be rich. I hate this high horse bullshit. Men want to be providers, but only if the women doesn't ask. It has to be a gift. She can't even choose men who want to be a provider, cause then she's a good digger. She has to jump through hoops to prove that she's qualified to know about your shit 401K. Whatever dude. Glad we're both in f…
/r/PurplePillDebate13/09/20 10:08 PM
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I can't believe that wanting a man who is capable of taking care of himself and family is gold digging. We've really reached this point as a society. I'm glad I got my old school irish-catholic boyfriend. He was raised half way decent, clearly unlike then men of Reddit, who think basic familial responsibility is a burden, but can't be assed to wash a dish. Give me a break.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/09/20 09:26 PM
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So because sex is an important part of a relationship, does that make you a John? I assume that you seek women you would like to havve sex with in a relationship, so now you're a sex crazed asshole and your entire relationship is JUST about sex. Glad I got that cleared up.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/09/20 08:50 PM
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Single mothers are women who are taken in my men. Most (but not all) don't think they are going to be single mothers. The dude is typically a sweet talker, he says they are gonna be a family, blah blah blah. Then he leaves, or he's abusive, or cheating or neglectful so she has to leave, and then it becomes about her bad choices and how she should have chosen a guy who didn't suck. Hypergamy is choosing the best guy you can get, so that you would not wind up on the situation outlined above.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/09/20 02:06 PM
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I'm being 100% honest. I'm fucking 29. My concern are my eggs. I want to have a kid and get my career started. My boyfriend isn't even rich, he just has a good job with good health benefits. I'm a lawyer, if I want to go on vacation and buy a bottle of wine at expensive dinner I can do that. I want a condo and good schools in this expensive ass city. For that I need help. I'm trying to set of my life here, not dick around on some guy for Instagram pictures.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/09/20 01:35 PM
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Men with money DOES NOT equal I never will work a day in my life and completely take advantage of any dude I date I'm such a shitty person because I want to have a kid in an expensive city and I want some actual fucking help while doing it, instead of some loser with 7 roommates and a mattress on the floor. All y'all fucking do is complain about single motherhood, but when I have a plan to avoid it, it's a problem? Seeing as I have a few friends in med school it's takes a lot more drive than wan…
/r/PurplePillDebate13/09/20 01:30 PM
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...yes. My partner who willfully participated in the making of said child.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/09/20 01:21 PM
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Why does it have to be me or my spouse. This sub has such an either/or mentality that makes no sense. Currently I live in NYC, I make 75k. My boyfriend makes 115k. In Manhattan, we are middle class. I know that I want a child within the next 2 years, and I want to take the year off, before sending them to daycare. I'm dating a partner who can handle that. Not that I won't contribute, but that he is able to help in a significant way. Single mothers make "bad choices". I'm trying to make good ones…
/r/PurplePillDebate13/09/20 02:37 AM
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....I'm a lawyer. My boyfriend is a teacher. Relax. He makes a good salary and benefits, which if I wanted to take off to care for my kids I could do so.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/09/20 01:51 AM
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Lmao, "just make enough money so that you can support yourself and a small child(ren) after a major procedure that has significant hormonal and physical effects. Sure.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/09/20 01:07 AM
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Because I want to have a safe environment for my children? And not to put them in shit daycare three months after I give birth? Fuck off.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/09/20 01:04 AM
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Love this, because it's the actual answer. One of the biggest reasons I go after men with money is that I want to children and be able to take the year off after birth. That's just not happening with a blue collar worker. If there was free childcare and longer maternity leave, my spouses income wouldn't matter that much. But in America that's just not the case. I feel like people talk so much shit about single mothers, but the complain about hypergamy.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/09/20 10:31 PM
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Blame America. I’m not marrying a man who can’t support me and child throughout unpaid maternity leave.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/09/20 08:48 PM
1

I dunno. I like my boyfriend, he’s funny and he smells good.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/09/20 01:38 PM
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Please don’t justify your preference. I’m black, and I get a lot of “You’re pretty, but I don’t date black girls.” already. If it was accompanied by because you guys are statistically more violent, it’d get really insulting, really fast. Just date who you like.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/09/20 10:51 AM
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I’ll push back on that, actually. When someone is charming, most people agree that they are charming. My boyfriend is a bit older, and very average looking generally. But I’m attracted to him, because is charismatic.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/09/20 12:25 AM
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I do it cause it’s polite. It’s a social norm. I genuinely believe it’s rude not to offer to split the bill. I reach for the wallet, and if a dude lets me split it I’d be happy too! I always bring my own money. However, he’s just not the man for me. Seeing how I’ve only had to do it twice, in NYC of all places, it seems to me that most men are on the same page as I am.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/08/20 02:55 PM
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Call it what you want, but out of the 30ish first dates I’ve been on in the last 10 years, I’ve had to split it exactly twice. Guys who want do that are in the minority, so they should find a girl who’s into it to prove how independent she is or whatever the goal is there.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/08/20 03:02 AM
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You’re on your own girl. I’m not paying on a first date.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/08/20 10:49 PM
1

Well you self select, I guess. I always do the purse pump. But if I split the bill on the first date, we just aren’t the match and have different values. But a purse pump is common.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/08/20 10:44 PM
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I think that’s a little doomsday. I know plenty of stepparent relationships that are solid including my mother and half-brother. Yes it could go wrong, but you can also get hit by a car tomorrow. Anything and everything can go wrong. I would judge the relationship by individual compatibility and if everything seems stable on the baby mama/ baby daddy end. I find that catch all rules limit the kind of people you can meet. But hey, that’s just me.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/08/20 04:58 PM
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You guys are harsh! But I want children, so it’s not as much of a deal to me.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/08/20 03:58 PM
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I’ll back you up. My boyfriend straight up says dudes are gross and women are better in every way, lol. Additionally, there are things he told me that he’d never share with his bro’s, cause that’s just not their relationship.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/08/20 10:58 AM
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I’ve known my best friend for 20 years. She’s never gone into detail about her sexual experiences. That’s not the marker of “friendship”. He wouldn’t tell me about that shit. We have a brother-sister thing going on honestly.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/08/20 02:44 PM
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For example. I have a male friend that I met when we were both single. We had over a year to make any sexual moves. Nothing happened. We both got into relationships, nothing is still happening. I would venture that the attraction wasn’t there on both our parts. Also known as platonic friendship.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/08/20 02:40 PM
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Okay, relax. Male-Female friendships exist. Just because you’d never do it doesn’t mean it’s impossible.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/08/20 02:36 PM
1

I think cheating is a lot more relationship specific than people want to admit.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/08/20 04:42 PM
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“Weak welfare state” People are leaving this out like it’s not actually huge. If I want to have children, I have a very small window to do so in a way that doesn’t effect my career. In addition to the fact that I’m only given 3 months maternity leave, and daycare is 800 a week. Other countries childcare is free, and maternity leave is 12 months. Other women can afford to be cavalier about there relations because there are social safety nets in place that America just doesn’t have.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/08/20 04:37 PM
1

... okay? Well a lot of people already answered so.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/08/20 01:29 PM
1

I'm not asking for advice on my relationship, it's going to continue this way regardless. I'm asking the question in the title.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/08/20 12:25 PM
1

Is financial weight the only kind of weight?
/r/PurplePillDebate03/08/20 06:10 AM
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I demand equity. Men and women are not the same, equality just ends up being a hammer that treats everything as a nail.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/08/20 05:05 AM
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I basically wanted to understand the fuss, and thought I'd get a more nuanced reply on PPD.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/08/20 03:26 AM
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I mean I'm obviously going to continue with my relationship, but PPD guys say this shit too! I more want to understand the mindset.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/08/20 03:14 AM
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Lol, you know how many men will give dry ass, one word, wyd’s on dating apps? This isn’t a women problem it’s a people problem.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/07/20 06:48 PM
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They actually weirdly rag on success stories? I joined FDS when it first got started, followed the side bar, got a boyfriend within the month. Reported back and everyone told me to beware of love bombers and things are too good to be true. I was like well screw you guys. What do you know, we’re still together and he’s not a dick 🙄
/r/PurplePillDebate14/05/20 01:23 AM
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So my parents are in there 50s. They been married 30+ years. My dad has never let my mom pay for food. Ever. They still have sex, and I think were a pretty nice family. Y’all are not vetting women either, and then are surprised at the results.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/05/20 01:07 AM
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Wait. So your saying even though a man chooses to have unprotected sex, with all the risk that entails. After conception, he has no obligation because the women ( in incredibly limited circumstances) can choose to get an abortion? That’s your argument here?
/r/PurplePillDebate14/05/20 12:57 AM
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...your last paragraph is verbatim FDS strategy.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/05/20 12:49 AM
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You hit the nail on the head for me! I went to an all girls school for HS. I didn’t really even know I was pretty. So I’m all hormonal, deprived and boys wanted to sleep with me! It was the first time in my life I received male attention. I really didn’t get that I was supposed to hold out, or that boys could want to sleep with me without actually liking me. The whole thing was very new and overwhelming.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/02/20 12:43 AM
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Wow, you’re an ass.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/02/20 05:31 PM
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Nobody is saying that age isn’t a factor. There are certain things we don’t understand about each other. We are in different life stages. However we acknowledge that instead of pretending it’s not a issue. I guess our relationship isn’t built on what we have in common, but showing each other our differences.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/02/20 03:14 AM
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I wish I knew! As a mid-20s women in a relationship with a guy 15 years older, the Internet is screaming at me that I’m a low self esteemed, idiot with Daddy issues and my boyfriend is a narcissistic pedophilic monster who only wants to use me. He also is somehow crusty in his early 40s. The truth is he’s the only one who reads the news articles I send him. He supports me unconditionally while I achieve my JD, he is wonderful musician and I somehow have picked up 3 chords on the ukulele. He plan…
/r/PurplePillDebate18/02/20 09:58 PM
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Lol. He puts up with my shit too! It’s a trade. No one on earth is perfect. Every single person you deal with is going to have something about them. My boyfriend talks nonsense words when it gets too quiet and he’s unstimulated. It’s incredibly annoying because once he gets going, it’s hard to turn it off. He makes up for it by being smart, creative, funny, amazing in bed and taking me out to dinner. That’s not a crime, it’s a relationship.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/02/20 02:52 AM
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I agree with this! My boyfriend has ADHD and he comes with some quirks. I would have been much less willing to “figure him out” so to speak if he didn’t make 6-figures (and use that money for us to do nice things together)
/r/PurplePillDebate13/02/20 12:35 AM
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I should have put an edit. Nobody is going after Chad. Yes, someone that we are attracted too, but no heavily muscled, Jaw lined football players. If anything, my ideal body type for a dude is on the short stocky side. The only girls I know who are dating extremely attractive guys are the bitchy ones. Regardless of how pretty they themselves are.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/02/20 01:06 PM
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I call BS. My number isn’t huge, but probably something that most PPD dudes wouldn’t feel comfortable with. No one knows my number, I’ve never told my girl friends, and I shroud the entire thing in mystery. Additionally I’m in a completely different city. Frankly, this scare tactic that your 30 year old boyfriend is going to find about your 18 year old frat fuck is incredibly unlikely.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/02/20 01:27 AM
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Okay when I said blow it up, I’m thinking of one instance in particular. It was over valentines day. He (in my opinion) dropped the ball. In previous relationships, dudes would tell me the usual (this is an invented holiday, it doesn’t matter, etc) I let myself be convinced that what I wanted was stupid and got let down a lot. My bf started on that same shit, and missed getting a reservation for the restaurant I wanted to go (even though I told him weeks ago). I don’t care if it doesn’t really m…
/r/PurplePillDebate04/02/20 05:25 PM
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Lol. I’m 100% an inconvenience.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/02/20 04:39 PM
2

It’s definitely not an act. In some ways I feel like I’m really being myself. I definitely misrepresented myself. While I definitely give him attitude when I’m annoyed, I don’t think I’m incredibly hard to handle. If he gets tired of me, then fine. You live and you learn.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/02/20 04:33 PM
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Reason behind my dating choices? Mostly environment. My parents are upper middle class and I lived in a nice NJ suburb. I’ve never been around black guys and when I do, we don’t really relate.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/02/20 07:25 AM
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Okay, I’m not cursing him out or anything. When I’m annoyed I just let him know. I’ve never been rude to him.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/02/20 07:19 AM
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I don’t let little things go, in the name of keeping the peace.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/02/20 07:17 AM
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That may be it. All my life, I’ve been told to calm down. I’m a black woman who dates mostly outside of my race, and I was going through a huge effort not to be a walking stereotype. I just got tired.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/02/20 07:16 AM
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I was definitely hiding feelings.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/02/20 07:13 AM
1

Abusive? Cause I ask him to hold the door open? Please.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/02/20 07:10 AM
2

One of my crazy friends has at least 60 pounds on one of my chill friends.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/02/20 07:09 AM
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I have severe period pain, so I take birth control to try and mitigate. It’s my first month so I’m attempting to wait the full three months before I switch to something else. My boyfriend never pressured me to switch from condoms, he also got a full panel STD test and showed me the results without my prompting.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/02/20 07:05 AM
1

Yeah. Ya know that’s fair.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/02/20 07:03 AM
1

I wouldn’t say I changed my personality. I feel like I made my relationship sound way more dramatic than it actually is. Really I just didn’t do things I didn’t wanna do because my bf wanted to do them. I don’t allow things I don’t like to happen out of fear of making waves. I let myself be emotional when I feel insecure or weird and I tell him I feel insecure or weird. Basically I’m upfront with everything.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/02/20 07:01 AM
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Lol, I didn’t cry about the door. I just asked him to open it. I cry when I’m feeling emotional. I just started hormonal birth control, it’s a weird time. My point is that I’m not suppressing my feelings about things even if I feel that they aren’t things to be getting upset over. I just let him now how I feel, even when it’s inconvenient. (I’m 27! But probably 5 at heart)
/r/PurplePillDebate04/02/20 02:29 AM
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Listen. I know women are supposed to be inherently attracted to douchebags but, I grew up in a two parent household. My parents adore each other. My dad does absolutely everything for my mom. They have date nights every week. They still have sex, well into their 50s. My dad is a nice man, who definitely contributed to me being a spoiled little girl, and adult woman. Maybe he’s a beta. If that’s what beta looks like, then I’m fine with that.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/02/20 11:51 PM
0

I guess. But he’s cute so I’m fine with this.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/02/20 11:42 PM
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Yep. Totally bratty. But I let it slide in the past even though it bugged me. So this time I said “Babe, please open the door. I don’t like it when you don’t.” And he started opening the door.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/02/20 11:18 PM
2

Yeah I feel like in theory the guy knows that the chill girl is an easier relationship, but in practice they pick the crazy one.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/02/20 11:12 PM
2

I’m not either. I’m just saying that to me it seems like nice guys and nice girls finish last.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/02/20 11:09 PM
5

This sounds like “girls LOVE nice guys who listen to them.”
/r/PurplePillDebate03/02/20 11:05 PM
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I just need to do something different. I’m learning from the comments that it’s more about enforcing boundaries than being crazy, so I’m taking that into account. But I finally feel like I’m being heard. My boyfriend is tall and awesome. I don’t want to go back to before.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/02/20 11:03 PM
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Ya know, you might be on to something.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/02/20 10:36 PM
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With my current boyfriend I started out this way. He’s only known “crazy” me. He asked to be exclusive a month in and took me to dinner to formally ask to be my boyfriend a month later. That’s when I decided to stick with crazy me.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/02/20 10:33 PM
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That’s definitely not my circle so you could have a different experience. Most of my friends are standard, bachelor watching, IG loving, NYC girls. My artsy or gamer girlfriends have a completely different dynamic.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/02/20 10:31 PM
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I’m going by what the guys say here. Skinny girls, long hair, not huge makeup wearers.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/02/20 10:29 PM
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Okay calm down. I was never like “I’m so nice why don’t boys like me.” 🙄
/r/PurplePillDebate03/02/20 10:28 PM
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Yeah, nope. I lowered my standards into the basement. Could not get an LTR despite trying for one for the last 2 years or so. I cannot rate my own self. But getting hot guys to fuck me has never been hard, getting a relationship is a whole different story. I think this is because I’m a pretty black girl who’s circle is primarily white. So guys constantly tell me I’m hot/beautiful/interesting , but aren’t super interested in bringing me home. Again, I can’t rate myself. But I’m called attractive …
/r/PurplePillDebate03/02/20 10:11 PM
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And Women don’t want a guy who gonna treat her like a jerk, or a bad boy. She was a guy who’s nice, friendly, treats her super kindly.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/02/20 09:55 PM
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Not the case in my social circle. These are LTRs.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/02/20 09:44 PM
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I tried! The lower my standards went, the worse I was treated.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/02/20 09:41 PM
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We actually did have our first big fight. Although I was crying because I’m a crier, it was a quick one and we hugged it out. Like I said my desire is not to be mean to him. I just don’t go with the flow so much.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/02/20 09:02 PM
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Maybe its a normie thing? When I google this, I get plenty of results saying that guys dig the crazy chick.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/02/20 08:52 PM
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Dude if you knew who I tried to make work. Short guys, bald guys, fat guys. Short, bald, fat guys. Guys barely making minimum wage. I kept lowering standards because I thought I had to be punching above my weight, even though everyone kept telling me I was so pretty. I just figured people were lying because guys with literally nothing going on would not commit to me, or would even cheat???? I withhold sex for 6 weeks and start being incredibly demanding and my tall, musician boyfriend falls over…
/r/PurplePillDebate03/02/20 08:50 PM
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That’s why I feel like this is something that guys say. Like women say they want someone nice and sweet.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/02/20 08:45 PM
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I browse FDS occasionally, and while there are some gems. It can veer into the bitter zone. There’s also too many rules. According to them, I should never date cops, military guys, lawyers, guy who ask for drinks, guys who are more than 5 years older, guys who move to quickly, guys who move to slowly, guys who smoke weed, etc. I just wanna date people I like.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/02/20 08:40 PM
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Lol. Nope. They were losers. I just go for guys with jobs, who can dress well. I also have a preference for shorter men. Consistently played, lol. My current boyfriend is the most HVM I’ve ever dated. He’s 6”5, makes 6 figures, and is a white dude, which is kinda hard for me to pull as white men are typically interested in girls wayyy lighter than me.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/02/20 08:33 PM
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Let me be clear. It’s not that I wake up and start trying to be mean to him. It more like if he does something annoying, I call him on it. Even it’s a small thing that in the grand scheme, doesn’t really matter. I also just started hormonal birth control and I’m a more emotional about things. I don’t even attempt to suppress it. If the tears come, they come.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/02/20 08:28 PM
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If you live in NY or NJ, shower everyday, have a job, and are reasonably in shape...I have no problem setting you up.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/02/20 08:21 PM
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I definitely see this being the case!
/r/PurplePillDebate03/02/20 08:17 PM
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Hmmm. That maybe it. My chiller friends aren’t that excited. They are just nice, normal girls.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/02/20 08:16 PM
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Well they don’t look it. Thinking of my top three highest maintenance friends, their boyfriends are smoke shows.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/02/20 08:10 PM
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Guys lose interest in me in sub-6 months (besides my two LTRs) Every guy my friend has dated lasted minimum of a year and a half. She broke up with all but one. She’s currently in her worst mental health period since she was diagnosed since we were kids. Her current boyfriend of three years is amazing, and incredibly patient with her. He’s also an ex-marine, his body is amazing, his nice and funny, and absolutely what I would describe as Chad with a great personality. I love my friend, but she’s…
/r/PurplePillDebate03/02/20 08:07 PM
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Very very true. But they like tell me stories and send me screenshots of text messages. So my barometer isn’t too far off. And nope. The guys that are playing them are not particularly cute. And the standards get lower and the years go on. My other best friend, the most easy going person I know gets up at 5:00 AM everyday for the gym. She has on of the best bodies I’ve ever seen. She not going for super hot guys, but basically someone who looks like they tried. Most things end after 6 months, or…
/r/PurplePillDebate03/02/20 08:00 PM
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Yeah I get that. I’m not mean to my boyfriend or anything. But as an example, I called him out on not holding the door for me last week. In a previous relationship I would have never said anything because it’s not a big deal. But this time I did. And he’s opening the doors now.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/02/20 07:39 PM
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This is more in a general sense. I realize this is anecdotal, but I had a large group of female friends in high school. I went to a state school and joined a sorority. I know a lot of women. My view point bares true in about 80% of the people I know.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/02/20 07:36 PM
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Well, I’ll check back with you if it goes down in flames. But I’m 27. The other way wasn’t working.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/02/20 07:31 PM
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That may be it. I just didn’t wanna be crazy, cause apparently guys hate that.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/02/20 07:30 PM
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Late 20s. But I’ve seen it since high-school. I’m not saying you can’t be a cool, chill chick and get into a relationship. But I have consistently seen high maintenance women have a far easier time getting a handsome boyfriend who treats her nicely.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/02/20 07:29 PM
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The standards for my chill friends are getting lower and lower as time goes on. Maybe I’m wrong, but I’ve seen at least 5 examples of both sides of this. I’m seeing it in my own relationship.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/02/20 07:26 PM
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I have one friend who has 60 pounds on me. (I’m 5”4 118) She was also waiting for marriage for a long time. She also is a loud, hard to handle person. To the point that me and her argue about stupid shot all the time. Her boyfriend of 5 years, who was a dead ringer for Zane Malik, took her to Disney World. I have seen this girl demand and demand. And she gets it.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/02/20 07:23 PM
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He’s actually incredibly even keeled. When I started crying the other day, he made me tea and wrapped me a blanket.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/02/20 07:19 PM
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That sounds like a lot of work. Obviously if you are happy in that relationship dynamic, then more power to you. But my man is 100% the do-er in my relationship. I haven’t planned or paid for a date in the 6 months we’ve been together (aside from the few times I’ve made dinner for us both) I call/text when I feel like it, but mostly he calls me. I’m not doing any of the leg work here, I just enjoy my life and my time with him. It’s a lot nicer and more comfortable for me because I’m pursuing a J…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/01/20 08:42 PM
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I think this is a "grass is greener deal" There are no soul mates, just a bunch of people that you can make it work with. We are all human beings, literally any person you date is going to be annoying at some point. There gonna have a bad habit, y'all are going to disagree. Leaving your relationship because you built up a false person in your head that's going to be so much better is stupid.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/01/20 02:29 PM
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I honestly don't think he's "won" at anything. He didn't know what he was doing, everything was borderline painful for me I was so dry. It was a waste. I'm also down to do whatever with my current man. He wanted me doing anal, upside down in a swing? Fine. You honestly get used to the look of someone. Chad looks cannot carry you in a relationship no matter what PPD says.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/01/20 02:00 PM
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Dude, I try not to monitor them. But they actively flirt in front of their children. It's disgusting. But my parents really in their mid-late 50s and absolutely do not have a dead bedroom.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/01/20 12:12 AM
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Yeah that’s a little sweeping. I can’t quite orgasm penetratively with my partner (we’re working on it) but it definitely feels amazing and not numb at all.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/01/20 10:18 PM
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Why does every marriage HAVE to be a dead bedroom? My parents have been together 33 years. I literally heard them going at it last week.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/01/20 10:08 PM
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You get used to it. I spent my early 20s in a relationship with Chad. After literally two months, his face just became normal. That didn’t keep me going or make me like him more. The sex was meh, he never remembered anything important to me, failed out of college, and still to this day working on a associates degree at 28 years old. My current boyfriend is not as conventionally attractive. However, he’s smart, kind, interesting and he can actually fuck. Much better in my opinion than a pretty fa…
/r/PurplePillDebate27/01/20 09:40 PM
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She doesn’t want to marry him. They did an interview together and he’s very into marrying her, but she said being a girlfriend is sexier than being a wife.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/01/20 03:15 PM
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This STI thing kinda bugs me. My n count is 13 and I’ve never had an STD/I , but I know two girls who’s number are sub 5, who’ve both been burned due to infidelity. STI doesn’t automatically make an irresponsible or high n-count person.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/01/20 03:07 PM
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So do you have anything that supports your claim that the opposite is true?
/r/PurplePillDebate23/01/20 07:45 PM
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This is from 2015? https://journals.sagepub.com/doi/full/10.1177/0022146515596354?url_ver=Z39.88-2003&rfr_id=ori%3Arid%3Acrossref.org&rfr_dat=cr_pub%3Dpubmed
/r/PurplePillDebate23/01/20 07:34 PM
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You realize statistically, men leave women who are ill far more often than the opposite.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/01/20 03:19 PM
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Of course not! All I'm saying is that, for all reddits bitching, most guys I know pay for the vast majority of dates. Not that it's savior for the vast majority of relationships.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/01/20 01:45 PM
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Unrelated: What do you guys talk about? Between my boyfriend and I's age gap and different racial and cultural backgrounds, making conversation is something we stuggle with occasionally.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/01/20 01:20 PM
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I don't know that that's true. There are some men who still follow more traditional guidelines. Reddit acts like any man who's paying for dates is somehow being forced to, but it's not always the case. My dad is huge on women not paying, and he's instilled it into my brothers.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/01/20 06:40 AM
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Maybe. I mean you all say that I’m supposed to stop wanting to have sex with my very cute bf if we ever get married. That kinda sucks.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/01/20 11:06 PM
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I did two months. Works fine. PPD won’t acknowledge but the facts are to get a man, you best chance is not fuck him. Sure, first date sex can result in an LTR sometimes, but if he’s into you, he will wait.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/01/20 07:42 PM
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CEO who cheats and is never home, Professional athlete who beats her. Men here are always thinking in these black and white broad strokes. Everything must somehow boil down to your physical appearance even though the old saying is, “For every beautiful woman there is a man who’s tired of fucking her.”
/r/PurplePillDebate20/01/20 07:35 PM
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Exactly. You spend a lot of time with someone and you know them. Someone cannot fake an entire personality for years. Do you due diligence.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/01/20 07:29 PM
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Okay but that’s better then 90% of the guys on this sub. They literally do nothing with themselves, you can’t have fun with them, and the complain about girls not wanting to fuck them. For gods sake, why would we?
/r/PurplePillDebate20/01/20 07:15 PM
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My main point is , who is fucking all these hot guys? It’s not like every woman of earth can just stand in front of a hot guy and he’s down. She’s probably fucking a very average douchebag with a very average penis. Hot guys are already taken. The handsome, rich, nice ones have girlfriends. I’m not saying there aren’t women out there who settling, but I’m 26 and my peers who are marrying are doing so with averages guys and their past boyfriends ( whether promiscuous or not) were all very average…
/r/PurplePillDebate20/01/20 04:57 PM
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This is where I’m stuck. I feel like men think we were all fucking Chad’s our entire college careers or something. For the most part, the average girl is fucking the average guy. The guy may have confidence/game, but as someone who was in a sorority at a state school, I saw the guys that my friends /sisters fucked. A very, very, small percentage of them were as hot as y’all make them out to be. In fact, the guys who are really attractive, usually were super nice and didn’t really fuck around. (H…
/r/PurplePillDebate20/01/20 02:08 PM
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This is sweeping. There are plenty of short men who are great. My best friend is in a relationship with a wonderful man who treats her like a queen. She’s is Med school, he is in law school and they are planning their wedding when they both graduate. He’s never hesitates to drop everything to be where she needs him and he’s 5”6 and honestly, very handsome.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/01/20 08:50 PM
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It’s fine. Men who use OLD are not inherently worse then men who don’t, tbh. My current man I I met on okcupid, he’s great. My previous boyfriend, I met at a party. He was, ehhhhh. I personally don’t know a single person male or female not one a dating app. I know many who’ve met there spouses on apps. The thing is you can’t over invest. If a guy makes a gross pass, block. If you’re not interested or excited about going out with him, block.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/01/20 05:35 PM
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I like this a lot. FDS can get a little “rules” happy and sometimes too many guidelines will have you over analyzing your actions and the guy you are dating, instead of just focusing on his actions to see if he’s worth a damn. It really is all about the prioritization of yourself and your time. As long as any effort you give your man is proportional (actually slightly under) the energy he gives you, you will be in good shape.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/01/20 05:25 PM
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Girl no. I’ve been with my boyfriend for 5 months and I have not picked, planned, or paid for a single date. At best, I tell him what I’m in the mood for an he makes it happen.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/01/20 03:40 PM
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My friend got cheated on my her boyfriend of 5 years and he gave her chlamydia. Having an STD doesn’t mean you sleep around. My number is higher than hers, and I’ve never had one.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/01/20 05:17 PM
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I’m fine with bald guys, just not balding guys. Once it starts to go, just cut it off.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/01/20 05:10 PM
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I think men and women can be friends. It’s the close part that’s the problem. I have a few guy friends from law school. We get coffee/lunch maybe twice a semester. If I see them in the hallway, I’ll ask a how class is going and I’ll ask about girlfriends/wives. Once in a blue moon I send a text just to check in and I’ll show up to whatever housewarming/birthday party/etc that happens. In other words they are my friends genuinely, but it would never be to the point that an SO is concerned about m…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/01/20 08:57 PM
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I always say, “I’m looking to meet people and go on dates.”
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/01/20 07:42 PM
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“I like food choice. Let me know the time and place.”
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/12/19 10:26 PM
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I’ve been dating my bf for 4 months and he still only has me twice a week.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/12/19 02:10 AM
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Probably because you said something that the mods thought was considered “at-risk” pick me behavior. It will change, the more you post and if you have quality advice to give. Also, don’t take it seriously. This is a sub, not a church and these women are a support, but also internet strangers. The flair ultimately means nothing.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/12/19 12:27 AM
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I’ve read it. He goes into an entire game plan from meeting a guy to commitment and which steps that you should take. It is however, things that we say on the sub. There’s no new relationship advice because all the relationship advice is the same, exactly what you highlighted above. I do think if you’re looking for more of a step-by-step guide, then the book might be useful.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/12/19 05:48 AM
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You would never be unsure about a guy who’s truly interested. My boyfriend confirms when I’m free either on the date or the next day. He’s always trying to see me, and so should anyone who trying to see you. Back burner or cut off any guy who’s not consistently trying to see you.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/12/19 11:52 PM
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You can teach your son to be a good person! You can teach your son many many things. But how he treats and interacts with women will always be something he learns from men. He will learn from how the men in your life treat you, not from what you tell him to do. My father didn’t teach me how to me a woman, he can’t. He doesn’t know how. That’s why it’s important to make sure your children see healthy gender roles and dynamics.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/12/19 11:40 PM
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He cannot learn how to treat women from his mother. He can only do the from other his father/other men.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/12/19 10:35 PM
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So many women make their sons psudo-boyfriends. It's so sad.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/12/19 05:50 PM
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Also seems fake. What six year old has money?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/12/19 03:53 PM
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This! Men and women are not equal, they are equitable! It's supposed to be men do certain things and women do other things and it evens out!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/12/19 03:37 PM
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I find it's better to find your own style instead of your friends. In my early 20s all of my friends could do makeup better, had a style that was very classic pretty. As much as I tried to emulate, I never felt like I came out looking right. It was only when I started paying attention to how I looked in things and what I wanted to look like, did it become alot easier .
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/12/19 02:54 PM
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Lol 5"9 , "a little extra build" "I need to make friends on okay Cupid"
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/12/19 02:39 PM
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And the fact that even the guys in the comments aren't into it kills me.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/12/19 03:30 PM
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Just a different perspective, here. Playboy over the years has actually done some decent journalism, to the tune of interviews with Aryn Rand, John Lennon and even MLK. No, I am not disputing that it's a pornography magazine, but the intent behind Playboy has always been to be both intellectually and visually stimulating for male audience. Frankly, it's one the decline cause there are too many words for today's pornhub and anime-girl depravity. I would ask generally why he had a Playboy magazine…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/12/19 03:12 PM
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Okay, but marriage is like a man spending money. It's not the act, it's the act for what it implies. Which is a high level commitment. The highest a man can give you. Many anti-marrigae ladies are not looking at it for the protection that it affords. You need visitation rights, you need tax benefits, you may need insurance if something goes wrong, you need protections if you decide to build a life with this person (like property purchase) and it all goes tits up. If you decide to have children w…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/12/19 01:41 PM
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I disagree. This is why a man can date a woman for 6 years, break up with her, and then marry a different woman 6 months later. The second woman has standards and didn’t allow herself to be treated the way the previous woman did. My guy asked me to go home with him after our third date. He wasn’t successful obviously, but I wasn’t gonna penalize him for trying. It’s in his nature to try. It’s been about three months. He plans, executes, and pays for all our dates. I’m treated very nicely, but th…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/11/19 10:01 PM
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Make other plans. He is the one who’s supposed to confirm. If he confirms with you to late, then say you didn’t hear from him so you made other plans.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/10/19 05:30 PM
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I actually like this quote. To me it means that looks aren’t everything. You can be the hottest chick in the world and still get fucked over by some loser. So wasting your time and emotional energy on trying to achieve some perfect physical ideal will not get you a healthy, lasting relationship. The better thing to do is work on your confidence and self respect. I live in NYC and see the hottest guys walking down the street with actual 5/10s. But these girls are happy with who they are, they fee…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/10/19 04:26 PM
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I think you cannot conflate oral and anal sex. If either partner is refusing oral sex, that’s just a compatibility issue, because oral sex is typically not painful. (Unless of course some guy is trying to face fuck you while to the point that you start tearing. But I hope you all know how that might be unpleasant) Usually, guys don’t give head because of weird masculinity hang ups and girls don’t do it because they feel it make you below your partner. Both can be talked through. Choking and slap…
/r/PurplePillDebate30/10/19 12:16 PM
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Thankyou! I hate when guys pull out that "Oh, whoever she fucked at 18 got anal, but I didn't. I must be the leftovers." Dude, she probably feels like she finally doesn't have to have sex that she dosen't like or performs acts that degrade her because her husband cares about her and won't demand it.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/10/19 01:05 AM
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Roll Tide. I’m sorry, that was low effort. But sis, dick is a dime a dozen. You can find good sex from a non fucked up person. Cut and run.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/10/19 03:31 AM
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That’s what gets me. The minute my standards went up, the better my dates have gone.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/10/19 07:43 PM
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I don’t think it’s a good or bad thing per se. I think it’s what works for me and my relationships. Some woman like the Dutch thing. It’s just not for me. But I also make this clear when I started dating people. And low and behold, most guys had no problem "paying for everything".
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/10/19 08:05 PM
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“Unless you take me out on a real date, I won’t go out with you.” Gasp The manipulation!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/10/19 03:43 PM
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You just put your own words in my mouth. I believe my boyfriend/husband should take care of me in certain ways and that I should take care of him in certain ways. Because that’s how partnership works. I am taken seriously. I have a good career, and great family and I man who I truly care for, who truly cares for me. My father never let my mother so much as open a door since they started dating. Why would I accept anything less for someone who wants to be my partner? I have standards. You don’t h…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/10/19 03:41 PM
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I believe in the social, political and economic equality of the sexes, what ever that makes me. I also have traditional values when it comes to gender relations due to my parents 33 year long marriage where my dad told me in essence “Don’t pay for shit, your worth more than that.” Low value males are just losers who try to scam and manipulate you for sex. So yeah, worthless
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/10/19 01:48 PM
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Wow. I didn’t know I was an incel with how much dick I’m getting from my boyfriend who PAYS FOR ALL OUR DATES.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/10/19 05:25 AM
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Y’all are reaching so hard. “Men should demonstrate interest and respect boundaries” is somehow equivalent to violent rape fantasy. Got it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/10/19 04:19 AM
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I watch porn a lot as a woman. Speaking to other woman, I’m starting to realize how apparently strange that is.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/10/19 11:10 PM
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Lmao
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/10/19 09:49 PM
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Your “crush” is built up in your head, honestly. You don’t know this person. Have you ever texted and talked with a guy on the phone to build up your date, and he sounds wonderful! Then you get to the date and he’s boring/rude/childish/dumb/etc? This is most crushes. Your supplementing what you don’t know with the best case scenario and making up a completely different person. Just tell yourself it’s not true. Listen, we all probably have a handful of girlfriends that we trust unconditionally. I…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/10/19 01:11 PM
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That’s so funny seeing how Barack pursued her aggressively and she was his supervisor when they met. But yeah, he opened all her doors.
/r/MGTOW20/10/19 04:53 PM
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Okay calm down. Women can have casual sex just fine.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/10/19 06:08 PM
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It’s tough! The instinct is to not say things to make it easier on the guy or to be polite. On our first date, my guy said he wanted to “order the asparagus for an appetizer unless I had any objections?” It took everything in me to speak up because I hate asparagus. Before I would have said it was fine. That night I said, “ I’d prefer something else actually, not a big fan.” Later in the night he told me that he liked that I didn’t just eat what he wanted.
/r/RedPillWomen25/09/19 09:46 PM
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Well I've been seeing a guy for the past month as a bit of an experiment. I like him, but not so much that all reason goes out the window. Between both of the books, (Why Men Love Bitches and Men Don't Love Women Like You) I've distilled everything down into simple, actionable things I can follow. My things are important and they take priority over a man I don't know. No canceling plans, arrangement of schedule or last minute dates. If you have something to say, say it. Accept and reward gifts/c…
/r/RedPillWomen25/09/19 09:32 PM
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Bitchy is the word that is used, but neither of those books are advocating for rudeness, meaness, etc. They simply say do not drop anything, or build your life around a man when your dating him. Don't cancel plans with friends, if you disagree with something then say it, he should be reaching out more, let man earn your attention/affection and focus on vetting, etc. I've been implementing these rules in the last month to fantastic results.
/r/RedPillWomen25/09/19 08:06 PM
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I tried to break up with my ex twice and he refused. Only to dump me 2 months later, lmao.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/02/19 06:00 PM
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Oh wow dude. I don't even wanna touch that with a 10 foot pole.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/02/19 02:38 AM
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Deserve?!?
/r/PurplePillDebate17/02/19 02:36 AM
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I think it's a little bit of both. With minorities, colorism is huge. The lighter the better, and being dark is almost always a negative that you have to make up for in other areas. White guys can have some fetishism come into play (and obviously just regular racism) but if you can dodge that then your skin color is not usually an issue. I find that dating an Italian guy who's parents or grandparents are straight from Italy usually works out for me. Then there's the element of "Ha, you may not w…
/r/PurplePillDebate06/02/19 07:38 PM
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Are you in the south? I live in a predominantly black neighborhood, and yeah there's a big girl or two in the group but, I would not say the majority of women are fat. Hell, my 6 closest friends are black and all of us are underweight.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/02/19 07:22 PM
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I'm not blaming black men. But for a girl of Lupita Nyongo's skin tone, it's would be hard, almost impossible to date a black guy. They will refuse and call you names on top of that. The three friends I have that are that color gave up years ago and just date white guys. Other ethnicities can be harsh. The one Asian guy I was seeing was embarrassed and refused to let me meet his family. The Puerto Rican guy's grandmother was racist and told him I was probably dirty. It's just not easy.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/02/19 07:19 PM
1

No, but most have it naturally.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/02/19 07:14 PM
1

I'm talking about a Kardashian ass dude. If that's not your thing then okay, but it's clearly a popular body type or girls wouldn't be killing themselves on squats and with ass surgeries trying to get it.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/02/19 07:11 PM
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Okay. Simplified, most black women have an ass to speak of. Most white woman do not. Men persue black women, just not in the crazy numbers you see for white girls.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/02/19 07:08 PM
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I feel it moreso goes by skin tone then specific race. You get away with murder, the lighter your skin is. I also do agree that there's alot of pedestal placing. You've "won" if you can get a white guy. It's completely insane. But in black woman's defense, we have an internal issue with black men not being all that intrested in us either . So it becomes an issue of being able to take what you can get. I have so many friends who are beautiful, smart girls who cook, clean and suck dick. But are st…
/r/PurplePillDebate06/02/19 07:06 PM
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Being black/Hispanic/south asian is seen as some sort of deficiency that you have to overcome by being so pretty that basic white man is ready to disregard your race. It's gross and I hate when people try to act like this is not a thing.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/02/19 06:35 PM
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Thankyou. I'm pretty, and I don't get the world thrown at my feet. In fact it get, "you're pretty for a black girl" , "what are you mixed with" and my personal favorite "you are different then what I thought." So yes PPD, tell me more about how having a vagina means I can do anything I want.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/02/19 06:05 PM
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Weight distributes on our bodies differently. I'm not saying that there aren't overweight black women, but we tend to carry it on our thighs, hips and boobs, which many men go for. In fact I used to get teased for being too small.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/02/19 06:02 PM
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Yes. But you typically have to be an exceptionally pretty WOC to do as well as an okay white girl. I've seen it over and over again.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/02/19 02:28 PM
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Did you just lump in Chanel Iman and Beyonce with the average American brown girl?????
/r/PurplePillDebate06/02/19 02:06 PM
3

A lot of what men seem to be female privilege only apply to young and attractive women Young, attractive, white women
/r/PurplePillDebate06/02/19 01:31 PM
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I would agree with this. There is a decent amount of overlap. But ALOT of the shit y'all talk about in here are so far out of the realm of the POC experience.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/01/19 01:44 AM
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Yeah, I'm coming around to realizing that. I always take it with a grain of salt, but the general foundation just works.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/01/19 06:45 PM
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Your comment is dead on! I was everything every guy in here describes as his perfect woman. I’m even very slim and pretty physically attractive. But I could not get anything serious. The second I dialed it back and added a bit of mystery and chase, it was on.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/01/19 04:07 PM
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I do take everything with a HUGE grain of salt. And the captain/first mate shit is weird. But dude, results are results.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/01/19 03:46 PM
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I actually had a whole red pill moment over the last 6 months or so. So, this question is right up my alley. I strove to be low maintenance. I had sex early, went dutch on dates. Opened my own doors. I talked about sports and books, drank beer. My whole persona was a girl who was cool and never would trap you into anything. I never got shit. No relationships. No one offered to do anything with me. I used to get constantly told, “D, you are so cool, I can tell you anything, you never get mad if I…
/r/PurplePillDebate20/01/19 03:39 PM
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To hop on your white/black analogy, I disagree. I am also black, btw. Most black people don’t have a problem with a black joke. It’s just that a black person will say, “haha pumpkin spice latte” and then the joke back will be “haha you don’t know your dad” If something is funny, usually people will laugh.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/01/19 03:27 PM
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It's not that I'm falling to their level, I'm just not going out of my way.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/01/19 07:31 PM
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It just sucks cause you like them a lot, and then it's like three or four hours to reply. I think on the female end, you never want to seem clingy. So you make excuses, like "clearly he has a life, your being crazy" But it still sucks because you know actual truth is, "he's just not that into you". To combat it, a few years ago I just started putting exactly as much effort into it as the guy did. So I stopped thinking of interesting things to say, if I was only gonna get "lol, yeah" in reply. I …
/r/PurplePillDebate09/01/19 01:17 PM
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Oh no, I'm weepy and emotional. I'm totally in love with my current FWB, and he's friend zoned me hard. I'm pretty much exactly the same as any mid-20s girl. Which is my point. We are all capable of a lot of shit. Sometimes you like them and sometimes you don't. PPD has an issue with everything having to be an absolute for some reason.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/01/19 12:48 AM
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She just has low self-esteem and needs you and the other guy to be a crutch for her problems. Leave the mess alone.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/01/19 12:42 AM
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Lmaooooooo. I can assure you that I've had sex with a guy or 5 purely because they were hot. Had no interest in getting in a relationship with them or even being their friends tbh.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/01/19 12:24 AM
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I don't even care who people are texting as long as they are up front. I've seen people straight up lie. Say they are intrested in something serious but just need time, say they're "just friends" but expect girlfriend/boyfriend treatment, get unreasonable when the other party moves on. I'm not saying don't play the game. Everyone plays games (not just women!!) But anyone who straight up lies for pussy/money/dick has moved into fuckboy/hoe territory for me.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/01/19 09:52 PM
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We've officially reached the point of PPD where men do nothing wrong ever. This sub sometimes. A fuckboy is just a manipulative asshole. Both sexes have them, I don't understand why we continually try to absolve either sex of responsibility when sometimes people are just assholes.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/01/19 05:32 PM
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It's not a minority of men dude. Make your way to r/NFL this weekend during the playoffs and have a look.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/01/19 05:49 PM
2

Maybe? The hand thing is a little young, tbh. I'd rather a soft shoulder bump or the leg thing.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/12/18 03:00 PM
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Ugh. My skin would be crawling sitting through that. Y'all have no concept of subtle. Dude, touch once or twice. Or leave your legs in a position where it could have been an accidental bump and let her meet you half way. Women want to feel like you actually like them, unless they happen to be on a casual sex mission. No one wants to feel like a zoo animal with constant petting and blantant innuendo.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/12/18 12:30 PM
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This was the only advice that actually sounded blue pill.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/12/18 05:24 PM
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There's a maternal thing for men, I think! When I find a shy, quiet boy that's really cute, i 100% want to protect them against the world.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/12/18 05:08 AM
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I would just never discuss it? I've never had anyone ask me. But I often think about if anyone of the women I dated count.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/12/18 11:55 PM
1

What exactly is high? 5+ , 10+, 20+ I feel like I see various numbers. Also how does this fall for LGBT women. I know the pills typically don't acknowledge the rainbow community. But as a bi-sexual women, my numbers vary depending on the sex of the person. Does that contribute to my N count or is it an only penis thing?
/r/PurplePillDebate15/12/18 11:03 PM
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I asked my dad this, cause I wanted a male perspective. "Marriage is designed for two people to come together, and be more than they we're as individuals. Your mother makes me better, and I make her better. I also wanted a family, I wanted you and you brothers to live with me, in the same house and have my last name."
/r/PurplePillDebate14/12/18 11:18 PM
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Never said I was the most confident person ever. I'm insecure as fuck, tbh. Although I would try my absolute hardest, I don't know that I have a ton of wifely skills. I don't cook super often and I'm hella messy. All I got going for me is that I like sucking dick and supporting dreams. If you married me, then you honestly just have to like me. I don't really come with anything else, which is why I would never pressure someone into it. But I'm myself, I'm dominemm. I have to stay true to that and…
/r/PurplePillDebate14/12/18 06:02 PM
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Okay then. I don't see it that way at all. I just admire my parents marriage and would like to make a go of that. If the person does not want to, then so be it.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/12/18 05:55 PM
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Read the words that I am typing. If he feels that there is little to no benefit to marrying me, then I do not want him to marry me. I have no interest in a partner who is doing it because he has to. No one is obligated to stay with me. Plenty of fish in the sea!
/r/PurplePillDebate14/12/18 05:35 PM
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Ohhh, I don't know that scene at all. I grew up upper middle class, daughter of a large chruch pastor, and I'm currently in law school. Not getting married isn't even an option for me or anyone else in my current social circle. Randoms on Facebook from the neighborhood, who didn't even finish HS ? Yeah they never get married.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/12/18 05:32 PM
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Deal breakers are deal breakers, dude. I'm not doing it. If I get pregnant (and that's a large if, as I'm incredibly careful) then maybe we can work something out for the kids sake. But just as I wouldn't force someone to marry me, I shouldn't be forced to stay in a 5+ year relationship unmarried. Find a girl who's cool with it.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/12/18 05:27 PM
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I'm not forcing my world view on anyone. Me and that person would just be incompatible. I would like a partnership. A partnership for me requires marriage. If the guy I am with is opposed to marriage why would I compromise my ideals? Just like, why should he? My parents have been married for 35 years and together for 40. And that's the relationship in intrested in having. I have no interest in being anyone's long term girlfriend. I do not want a "baby father". If I die alone because no one wants…
/r/PurplePillDebate14/12/18 05:20 PM
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Risk, dear. Risk! Words and actions are nothing. I am willing to go there for the guy I wind up falling in love with, because I trust that he will carry me, as I will carry him. Marriage is the first step to that, because it's not easily undone. Marriage is saying "I believe that I will be happy with you (and you alone) for the rest of my life." And putting your money where you mouth is. If a guy cannot do that, then I'd rather be alone. I don't want anyone who half loves me, and not willing to …
/r/PurplePillDebate14/12/18 05:00 PM
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I've experienced the exact opposite, I'm in the Northeast. Rich guys come from rich, two family homes. Socially it's starts to look bad at a certain age if you children are unmarried. Especially ethnic peoples. Poor people, what's the point of getting married? Two 0s just add up to 0.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/12/18 04:42 PM
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Some men don't want to get married for whatever reasons y'all come up with and that's fine. But PPD and real life don't match up for me that often. There are many men out there who want women to be there wives (not girlfriends, not baby mamas) On the female side of things, I'm just not doing it. 6 years, 8 years and I'm still your girlfriend? Call me shallow, but no it's not enough. Marriage is a risk! If I am not worth that risk to you, then we just don't need to be together. That's fine, but d…
/r/PurplePillDebate14/12/18 01:37 PM
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Yep.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/12/18 01:26 PM
2

I've seen personal anecdotes on Reddit (of all things) debunk a peer reviewed study.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/12/18 01:19 PM
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I totally get that. Why would you guilt someone who doesn't want kids into having kids? Sounds like a recipe for resentment all around. People often ask me why I don't have kids yet. Umm, because I'm not in a financial position to give my children the lifestyle that I want them to have? Popping out babies, unmarried, living of 60k doesn't sound fun. 😒 Anyways, thanks for the discussion and open mind!
/r/PurplePillDebate12/12/18 04:29 PM
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And that's cool! If you feel like you can live the best life for you if you don't have children, then more power to you. A friend of mine is leaning towards Childfree, because she's more of an animal person so I subscribed to r/childfree in order to better understand her perspective, but all of it just seems obessed with how much better there lives are without kids (or hellspawn) and it just feels weird and kind of vicious. And idk, I had a good childhood. My parents are awesome, my brothers are…
/r/PurplePillDebate12/12/18 04:14 PM
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Well, some people like children. So much so that they want to produce them. Childfree people always seem a little manic to me. "GUYS LOOK HOW MUCH FUN I'M HAVING WITH NO KIDS! SEE!?!?!!"
/r/PurplePillDebate12/12/18 01:18 PM
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I did not, thanks for letting me know!
/r/PurplePillDebate09/12/18 01:36 AM
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I mean he said women, not all the women I'm not related to. And that doesn't make sense anyway. "To me, my sister/mom/daughter/aunt/cousin/etc, is a really fun and cool person, but in the wider world she's only useful for her holes." How does that work.? But I showed my brother this post, to get some more insight. He says. "So did I just read a bunch of grown ass men, mad cause they can't get bitches? Shit, I'd be mad too, fuck these hoes. " So y'all have some support!
/r/PurplePillDebate08/12/18 11:04 PM
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Okay, let me go ask my brother sitting on couch. Will update with response. Update: "D, stop talking to weird ass white people on the internet. Something is clearly wrong with them."
/r/PurplePillDebate08/12/18 08:06 PM
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I'm quite certain that the men in my life do not see me as such.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/12/18 08:05 PM
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This is the saddest incel/Redpill theory. Women have no real identity aside from a vagina. The emotional damage the someone had to have gone through to even reach this point. Yikes.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/12/18 08:03 PM
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I mean...I like shy boys?
/r/PurplePillDebate06/12/18 04:49 PM
4

Yes. But that's not looked at positively. No matter the circumstances a man who abandons his child will socially be considered a dead beat
/r/PurplePillDebate29/11/18 02:28 AM
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A little different. In a physical abortion the child does not exist. In a financial one, half of someone's DNA is still out there, and the father is in essence, ignoring him. I just wouldn't be comfortable with that. What does that mean for my future children with the man (you have a half-brother, your father just ignores him) what does that mean when the child is an adult and wants to find his parent?
/r/PurplePillDebate29/11/18 12:20 AM
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I've heard this idea a bunch of times, and while it makes sense in the situation, I feel like morally/societally it would never be looked at in a decent light. I can't imagine dating a man and he tells me "yeah, I technically have a kid, but I got a legal abortion." Yikes.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/11/18 06:17 PM
2

Interesting.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/11/18 09:03 PM
3

Ohhhh. Hmm. Are you saying that generally men have no interest in doing anything to get to know a women that they are attracted to? Men in general would prefer an FWB situation and if they realize in a couple weeks that you kinda cool, then it's time for dating?
/r/PurplePillDebate24/11/18 08:02 PM
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Wow, don't we feel special.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/11/18 07:39 PM
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Because we have different values as men and women. Or so the pills taught me. Sex is nothing. I can have it. May be great! May be horrible! Will probably only be "okay" Commitment? Someone who looks at me, sees a whole person, and likes me so much that they don't wanna be with anyone else? That's slot better than "okay".
/r/PurplePillDebate24/11/18 07:33 PM
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She's fucking Chad because she knows it's not going anywhere. It's safe to sleep with him. There's no emotional investment and when he inevitably disappears it's not as bad. She's not sleeping with you, because that would put her in the position of fucking two guys. Neither of whom actually gives a shit about her. And she probably actually likes you.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/11/18 07:23 PM
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Dude. I went to a state school. I was in a sorority. The amount of girls I knew who had the looks and confidence to dangle sex like a treat is far, far, lower than the ones getting strung along by Chad.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/11/18 07:02 PM
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It's not a power game. Withholding sex is not to punish you! It's to protect ME.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/11/18 06:54 PM
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Which insane, because it only benefits them. But they act like women are the crazy ones for not having sex with anyone they show the slightest level of interest in.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/11/18 06:36 PM
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Another thing is that y'all think sex is the same for us as it is for y'all. There's been exactly one time in my life where a guy got it right on the first time, In addition to all the complicated emotional attachments that can get fabricated when a woman has sex. That's a whole lot of risk for a little chance of reward. Why would I have mediocre sex with someone I'm not even sure I like on the off chance that he likes me and wants to commit? As r/redpillwomen touts, women are the keepers of sex…
/r/PurplePillDebate24/11/18 06:29 PM
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It's the "early and often" or really just the early. Women and men are different. Most of the guys I've spoken to who are in LTRs know very early that this is the woman that they want to deal with seriously. Women take a while. There's an infatuation period. Then we gotta see how you treat your family and friends, then we gotta see how you go about your goals, then we gotta see if that little thing we think is adorable starts getting annoying. I can be dating someone for a month and still be on …
/r/PurplePillDebate24/11/18 04:23 PM
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...You see how these two statements don't really correlate with each other right?
/r/PurplePillDebate24/11/18 02:01 PM
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I think it's a combo of both. To continue on with your analogy, yes, people want jobs because they want money. People also want certain jobs in order to do certain things. So when an interviewer asks, why do you want this job. They may be a ton of mitigating factors as to why that particular job is a good fit for that particular person. Company culture (aka personality) is a thing. I don't think TRP or TBP is necessarily wrong in their opinion. They just overestimate the importance of their chos…
/r/PurplePillDebate23/11/18 11:35 PM
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I guess. Whatever. Dating is really, really hard. I'm kinda jaded at this point.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/11/18 03:53 PM
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Not quite yet. Right now it's just really fun. But two months from now he might meet a girl that rings his bell and then I'm gone? Would not be able to deal. I'd rather get out when we can still be good friends without the sex.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/11/18 04:45 AM
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He absolutely does! But come on. "Yes, let's be great friends who have great sex and find each other hysterical. No dating tho." It's just not sustainable. At least for me.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/11/18 03:52 AM
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This is true. Humans have there own agency. He's free to give sex and affection. And I'm free to end it. Thanks for giving me a look in his head.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/11/18 02:30 AM
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It's absolutely the right thing to do if you ever get back into the dating pool. I need boxes. If your role in my life is sex, then let it just be sex. How this even started was me randomly hooking up with him. I didn't think anything of it. The HE asked me to dinner and started hanging out with me during the day. So I thought, does he want something ? Turns out no. We could've kept having after bar drunken sex, but nooooo. Keeping things separate helps manage expectations. This thing with him h…
/r/PurplePillDebate17/11/18 02:15 AM
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Yeah. You sound like him, actually. He's very romantic. I'll say something like "oh, this girl is pretty" and he just throws in "you're pretty, though" Today I was rambling on about something, and he interupts mid sentence to compliment my cheekbones of all things. We can fuck and I can leave, that's a standard FWB relationship. But the constant compliments, sleepovers, and just general affection makes this incredibly difficult for me. And he is consistent, he's brings up that we aren't going an…
/r/PurplePillDebate17/11/18 01:46 AM
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I've been thinking alot about this. I'm a girl in a FWB situation that is rapidly becoming dangerous for me, so I'm gonna start pulling back . The thing is, I feel like a womens affection is really active, and depends on the things guys do. So every new text, experience, affectionate look is contributing to how much I will begin to like you. Someone I didn't feel strongly about a few weeks ago, I'm starting to hate pulling myself away from him when I leave the house. Mens love and affection is m…
/r/PurplePillDebate17/11/18 01:23 AM
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Here! African-American at your service. I'm a bit neutral towards RPW. I naturally submit to my man, cause well, he's my man. But I shy away from Captian/First Mate. I do notice that I attract mostly non-black men. I'm medium skinned toned with a shaved head (yeah long hair is not gonna be a thing, but it works) I’m small with a happy personality. I trend to giggle with the boys and I get a ton of attention for it. Works for me!
/r/RedPillWomen06/11/18 06:47 PM
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Lmao. Mila Kunis is apparently a 5. That's insane.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/11/18 03:29 AM
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Yes. But for many people, sex brings kind of a false closeness. Although you feel super connected and close to a person, as real foundation isn't there. So you start to trust or even love someone that may or may not deserve it. I know, cause it happened to be with my first boyfriend. I thought cause we we're having sex and he said all these sweet things, he must really love me. He ain't. So people who are vulnerable choose to protect themselves from that. And for them...it works.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/11/18 02:08 AM
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Because for a lot of women, sex makes you feel close to men. Then you can't see when you've been taken advantage of cause you judgment is all fucked. This way the can remain in control of the situation.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/11/18 01:37 AM
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Self worth. The media isn't great about portraying black women as desirable. And then black guys fall all over the Kardashians or Black women with great features/light skin alà Rihanna. What's left for an average brown girl. I didn't think I was particularly pretty until I got to college and all these hot guys from other races we're into me. It's just not the message we receive. I'm also very skinny, so I never had the hips or ass would be run after. Then a ton of people have absent father's, so…
/r/PurplePillDebate01/11/18 02:11 PM
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In my community, (and I'm just speaking for me personally, not all black people) it's the opposite So many girls who are fucking guys, having kids, letting them live with them, paying bills, driving them around. And they're not even a girlfriend. Guys hit you with "names are worthles, "I just want to vibrate with you on a higher level", "only you and me understand our connection" White guys never (ime) pull that deep connection shit, it's either ONS, Friends with Benefits, or LTR. You always kno…
/r/PurplePillDebate01/11/18 01:57 PM
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Well that's you. I have two friends who are waiting till marriage. Not even for religious reasons, just cause they don't want to be taken advantage of. They have long term, fairly attractive boyfriends. I have one friend who waited a year, the guy married her. A few who wait months. My best friend has depression and doesn't really have sex with her boyfriend....the Chad like Marine. Tbh, these girls aren't hurting for LTRs. To the point where I think if I want something long term I should hold o…
/r/PurplePillDebate01/11/18 12:34 PM
0

Are you black?
/r/PurplePillDebate01/11/18 04:45 AM
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Be that as it may, I'm not going there.Also people talk. You fuck two guys, the whole block thinks you're a hoe. No thanks.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/11/18 02:30 AM
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THIS. "Ask the guy out" "just sleep with him if you want" "don't be afraid to double text" Bull fucking shit. Maybe that works occasionally. But me being forward nhas never worked out.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/11/18 01:41 AM
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HUGE! I could never, ever, ever expect to keep a black man by putting out of the first date. I'd never hear from him again. You gotta wait at least three. I know girls who swear by three months.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/11/18 01:37 AM
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125 a year in N. Carolina. Mannnn what a dumbass.
/r/PussyPassDenied29/10/18 01:23 PM
7

I find interesting that so much of the male conversation around child support/abortion/etc sounds so much like whining. "But I didn't wannaaaaa get her pregnant. I shouldn't havvvee to deal with it." I know that although I am as responsible as I can be, there's a small chance each time I have sex that I could get pregnant. I can either take the chance, or get my tubes tied and be sure. But there is always is chance. And I consent to that chance. Half these guys could be fucking you raw, three ti…
/r/PurplePillDebate28/10/18 06:20 PM
3

I'm still on "a baby isn't alive until it's born" That's a little sick dude.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/10/18 07:38 PM
2

Um, first few weeks is okay, but an 8 month baby can hear dude...
/r/PurplePillDebate27/10/18 06:37 PM
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Tell that to the rising rates of death by childbirth. To me it's less about being a parent and more about risking my life and extreme physical pain.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/10/18 06:20 PM
3

Lmao. Another white people thing. Nobody can afford for two people to stay home.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/10/18 02:32 PM
1

Ahh to be that one girl who likes her men between 5"6 and 5"10. Every woman looks at me like I'm insane.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/10/18 08:12 PM
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Society accommodates for women's periods? Since when? It's not like you can take days off, or that there's free sanitation options in bathrooms, or people don't assume that's why a woman happens to be in a bad mood.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/10/18 11:53 AM
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I love the period/childbirth brush off. As if those things aren't huge.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/10/18 11:53 PM
1

him thinking his best friends are as interesting to me as they are to him and trying to force group activities with all of us instead of just going out and doing his thing without me Jfc! I don't care about your friends weird drama.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/10/18 03:58 PM
9

--Laziness. Y'all can't be bothered to plan anything, or be organized, or remember that it's mother's day can you please be decent and pick your mom up a card.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/10/18 03:27 PM
1

Sorry! It was just a thought and you guys we're on my mind today.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/10/18 03:08 AM
1

A gender non-conforming person.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/10/18 02:44 AM
1

Lmao. But a guy who fucks just cause it's available, that's alright? Either way, I'm not 19 anymore. I've gotten enough validation and self-esteem so that I don't have to sleep with every guy that wants me. But thanks for the life advice.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/10/18 09:31 AM
3

THIS. It is always always always about what other girls think. So many of you are concerned with alpha this, beta that. It means very little.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/10/18 02:40 AM
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Well this isn't bias towards sex workers at all. Jesus.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/10/18 05:43 PM
1

I was drunk and I wanted attention. At the time it didn't even feel like it was a betrayal, its like oh this cute guy thinks I'm cute. What did that have to do with my boyfriend? So yeah. I loved him very much. Took me over two years to get over it after we broke up.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/10/18 03:13 PM
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I do find that lower income/lower education guys are more proud? that they have a smart SO. The guy I'm seeing right now seems to be really into my law school aspect and is hella supportive. But he's a trade school guy. A guy from law school however, isn't all that interested in dating me.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/10/18 02:32 PM
2

LMAO. When I cheated on my boyfriend, yet loved him very much.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/10/18 05:29 PM
1

I absolutely would not do it. Yes, a "baby-daddy" can voluntarily give what thwy want, and be involved. But I'll be damned to go to court. Fuck outta here, keep your money.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/10/18 04:02 AM
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But don't you have to persue child support? It doesn't just automatically happen right?
/r/PurplePillDebate13/10/18 11:02 PM
4

Ahhh. I guess I don't know men who make more then there wives. My mom has always had more money then my dad. What would be the point? To look desperate and like you can't as a mother provide for your child. I feel like if I was dumb enough to have a kid with some guy who isn't interested in parenting, I'm not gonna beg for money on top of that. Jesus Christ.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/10/18 10:56 PM
1

Hence "more people than I thought"
/r/PurplePillDebate07/10/18 04:27 AM
1

Dude. I wouldn't hire that girl to work at Dollar Tree
/r/PurplePillDebate06/10/18 08:54 PM
1

No my point was it's more common to lie about it than I previously thought. But you know that. You just want to make whatever internet point you are trying to make here I'll leave you to it.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/10/18 08:27 PM
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Sigh. Maybe you just don't understand what I am saying. Before 3 days ago, I was under the assumption that it was nearly impossible (note: NEARLY) for a person to make up a sexual assualt. It's awful, it's just an awful experience. What is wrong with you to even make something up? And then. In order to support Kavanaugh. My friend tells me that story, and says that it was bad but she wouldn't ruin that guys life over it. Someone snuck into her home, her bed, supposedly and she is concerned about…
/r/PurplePillDebate06/10/18 08:18 PM
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Or maybe, I know this girl better than you?
/r/PurplePillDebate06/10/18 07:57 PM
2

Her tone of voice. The fact that we we're at line in Starbucks. The fact that the story sounds right out of a teen drama. The fact that someone broke into her apartment and woke her roomates up and got guys down the hall involved, but no one thought to call the police?
/r/PurplePillDebate06/10/18 07:54 PM
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Wooowwww. Getting felt up as a 9 year old, by a shitty old person in a church. I'm glad I don't make it into the "real sexual assualt" category
/r/PurplePillDebate06/10/18 07:49 PM
2

Well we're you hurt by it? Does it give you flashbacks? Did it affect how you view women? I'm not sure why but the narrative that I hear a lot in this situation is "when someone does a wrong, then it's your responsibility as a victim to get over it because the career is more important than the teams"
/r/PurplePillDebate06/10/18 07:37 PM
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Will agree. As someone who had something happen to them, it was bizarre to me that anyone would lie about something so horrible. I can barely think about what happened. So me and friend were talking about the kavanaugh hearing, and she goes on about how she waited toolong and such. She then proceeds to make up a fantastical story about how a guy broke into her college apartment and got in her bed, but her next door neighbors came in her room and beat the guys up. And it was terrible but, she got…
/r/PurplePillDebate06/10/18 06:24 PM
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Lmaooo. Yeah, I need to get over it. Disney princess syndrome is hard. Every guy "could be the one" in my head.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/10/18 05:08 PM
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I kind of want this attitude about it. I like dating, I really enjoy casual sex. But I'm always worrited about two months of dating before inevitably finding out that this guy wasn't actually interested beyond sex, and feeling like I wasted a ton of time.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/10/18 04:30 PM
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LOL. when I fuck because I enjoy orgasms.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/10/18 02:01 AM
5

With you. Anyone above a conventional 8, I don't have time for. I don't need the ego. And I don't trust myself to make good decisions cause I'm too caught up in how hot the guy looks. Frankly the confidence is my key. As long as the guy isn't overweight (and even then I'm a bit flexible if it's a fullback/lineback kind of build) I'm literally fine, if the guy is sure of himself.
/r/RedPillWomen19/09/18 11:35 PM
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Hmm. I'm in law school currently. I've wanted to do it since I was very small. I've just worked so hard for it, and it's my thing. I know everything can't be number one. But it feels like everything is a "vital organ." I don't wanna be an alone career woman. But I also don't think I could be a stay at home mom, with my life revolving around my family. Idk, I think I should make a separate post.
/r/RedPillWomen15/09/18 12:53 PM
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This is what bugs me about RPW. of course I want a great manly husband and children, but apparently I have to sacrifice everything I've ever wanted to do? I'd rather take my chances out there with the betas.
/r/RedPillWomen15/09/18 04:25 AM
1

Thank you so much!
/r/RedPillWomen26/06/18 07:29 PM
1

I know a guy and we are friends, texting alot etc. I like him a bunch and I'm not sure if he feels the same. Anything in the cards?
/r/RedPillWomen26/06/18 05:17 PM
1

Ahhh, so you guys flat out aren't interested in LTRs. Should be obvious from the title. Thanks!
/r/MGTOW17/01/18 08:14 PM
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Okay, as a women, I have a question. I'm not judging or giving you guys shit, I promise. If I want to date a guy, and Iike him and want him to find value in me as a person, then how do I go about it? I like to think I'm a cool person, I have alot of interests, friends, etc, but should I assume with all men, all of that is irrelevant because I have a vagina? Cause if so...Woof.
/r/MGTOW17/01/18 05:11 PM
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Thank you. I can rest easy knowing I don't have to impress you anymore.
/r/MGTOW31/12/17 08:55 AM
2

Wow, that makes so much sense. Thank-you!
/r/RedPillWomen12/08/17 12:54 AM
2

What's stopping me from getting organized? Should I take a chance on someone who's different from my norm? Thanks so much!
/r/RedPillWomen11/08/17 05:50 PM
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