DonnieWearsVelvet Archive

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1	How to Quit (Christian) If you are in addictive habits like porn or whatever else, Don’t “fight” it. Instead own it…. Love yourself by drawing that part of you in and asking what is this destructive habit feeding in me? What is the unmet need or core desire? Is it a lack of love, is it boredom, validation needs, etc? Learn to identify what’s lacking and find ways to meet it in other ways. Get into the sidebar and read all the materials. Start treating yourself well by working out, having self respect and boundaries amo…	/r/RPChristians	02/05/26 02:23 AM
2	RPC Creators The Family Captain Giff Lasta	/r/RPChristians	02/02/26 07:39 PM
2	How do you reconcile red pill advice w/ Christian values when it comes to dating? Usually that involves you orbiting the woman, measuring your “goodness” based on her emotions. Go read the side bar	/r/RPChristians	26/01/26 02:04 AM
2	How do you reconcile red pill advice w/ Christian values when it comes to dating? What’s that got to do with anything? Having frame means you have your own mental point of origin, centred on mission and values. Commands respect from men and women. They didn’t “run game”, but that’s just tactical	/r/RPChristians	26/01/26 02:03 AM
1	How do you reconcile red pill advice w/ Christian values when it comes to dating? There is no dichotomy. Christ had an iron frame. So should Christian Men.	/r/RPChristians	25/01/26 10:58 AM
–	When to step back with a highly virtuous bit passive woman? At what point does discernment become unfair lingering? When you’re ignoring your own criteria, having taken decisive action in doing due diligence. Is extreme passivity in a “good woman” something that realistically changes, or does it hard-lock the dynamic? You mold her and will get what you tolerate in the marriage. Is she responsive to your molding? Sounds like you want a bit more initiative. If you haven’t made that clear perhaps a chat about it and vet responsiveness over time. How do you …	/r/RPChristians	18/01/26 09:02 AM
3	Trying to understand the ‘Pitfall’ I think the people saying "what do you want?" have it right. What do you want to do with your life, apart from having a great woman? (that isn't really an end in itself). Get out and busy building for that... most likely she'll buy into it and you'll have a great helper for the journey. Women are responsive. The hard work is actually building yourself. Rather than looking for the pot at the end of the rainbow, realise you've already done a lot of searching. She was the best there was. Why not ru…	/r/askMRP	05/01/26 05:31 AM
3	Craziness and disrespect despite dread in a marriage Poor response, supplicating to the system, organisers or whoever. Makes you sound like your job runs your life and makes your decisions for you. No frame.	/r/askMRP	11/10/25 10:28 PM
3	Craziness and disrespect despite dread in a marriage Why is it important for you to mentor beauty pageant girls? Let’s assume this is creating crazy dread levels. Cost v benefit? You’re high status and important. Seems like all downside when you can choose where to get high reward on your time.	/r/askMRP	11/10/25 05:50 AM
3	Wife's gone frigid. Advice needed. The divorce threat was simply a control grab after peacocking failed. Serious threat, so risk manage appropriately. She’s giving IOI. Make sure you don’t screw up like you did earlier.	/r/askMRP	03/10/25 05:57 AM
7	Wife's gone frigid. Advice needed. Dude, openly call out the unhealthy dynamic that’s been created and verbalise your own contribution to that. It’s okay to acknowledge you had stupid bullshit playing out in your head. Then Irrespective of her reaction or shit testing, get about implementing the advice others here have given	/r/askMRP	02/10/25 10:46 PM
14	Wife's gone frigid. Advice needed. in my mind there’s no coming back from that Rubbish. Her peacocking failed so she upped the dread. It’s just words. Worry about it if papers come. Until then OP should focus on fixing his errors.	/r/askMRP	02/10/25 10:39 PM
1	Where do I start in the side bar? If you lack purpose, the place to start by working on yourself. - get yourself fit/jacked. Get abs. - don’t just quit your job for lower pay - decide on a new career direction and make plans to pursue - read the Bible in a year. Try the chronological and get a picture of how the whole thing hangs together - make a plan for your finances. Learn investing. Save and invest. - get some hobbies (preferably a ‘sexy hobby’) - re-read the sidebar materials until you understand it all As a man of faith t…	/r/RPChristians	29/09/25 01:08 AM
5	What are the biggest mistakes most men make in their first year of marriage? You have a massive opportunity - many guys come here to course correct after a decade or two of drifting in the wrong direction… way more effort to fix. Prevention is better than cure. Here’s what I’d do in your position: work on myself more than my wife does (physical, mental, spiritual) Realise the state of my marriage depends 100% on me Learn to pass frame tests (I’m guessing these have been minimal so far). Set the tone in the bedroom… if it’s not satisfactory realise it’s on you to fix. Rea…	/r/RPChristians	08/09/25 02:18 PM
3	Girlfriend makes hurtful comments about wanting kids with different traits than mine First ever post in 5 years. Doesn’t sound genuine to me	/r/askMRP	08/09/25 03:04 AM
3	Advice And Wisdom Needed This is a very harsh lesson relating to the protection of ego. If you ask for advice here, it will usually centre on mental models you should abandon and the work you’ll need to do in becoming a man with stature. Go back to the drawing board. Forgive yourself for the screw up. Use the sidebar resources and work out how you can become the oak that can easily handle shit tests like this.	/r/RPChristians	01/09/25 12:21 AM
1	Unknowingly married someone with BPD (and was pressured into doing so) How much of the Sidebar have you read? You haven’t posted that. Asking for advice on divorce makes it sound like you haven’t read WISNIFG. It’s the wrong questions to ask anyway. Red Pill men have iron frame. Clearly you didn’t have that entering the marriage, and while you’ve made some progress, your questions indicate the frame you need still isn’t there. So the focus needs to be 100% on building your own frame in what looks like difficult circumstances. You do not have to engage with her mani…	/r/RPChristians	26/08/25 09:50 PM
7	Unknowingly married someone with BPD (and was pressured into doing so) also why do you think it’s important to tell us your height bench or net worth? Rule 2	/r/RPChristians	26/08/25 09:13 PM
6	Notes from an awesome Dad "Primer on Children" I have been prepping my son about this journey we're gonna take when he is 12. I have 2 boys, 12 and 7. Hadn’t even considered this. Thanks for sharing!	/r/MarriedRedPill	24/08/25 09:25 PM
4	Not sure what to do, need guidance. Essentially what this says is that you don’t currently have a lot to offer your wife, and she’s treating it as such. You need an action plan. You need to learn what frame is and get about building one. You have a lot of reading to do - (Sidebar). You need to lift. Since you’re here at RPChristians, you need to take your faith more seriously. Doing the above for an extended period would be a massive transformation. Only then would you be an a position to measure your wife’s response. But you have…	/r/RPChristians	10/08/25 09:55 PM
1	OYS - Where Progress is Made (07/28/25) For example, I bought a better vibrator for her, but she refuses to use it because she's used to the old one that's bulky and noisy. I bought restraints and said they could be used on either of us in any way that sounded fun, and she had immediate disgust and told me never and that I should return them. There is no interest in trying new positions or situations or role play. It's very challenging. Are you Trying to Fix Sex in Your Marriage?	/r/RPChristians	29/07/25 05:55 AM
3	Hot and Cold strategy; should Christians use it? Depends how you use the strategy. Come in showing strong interest, then give space for her to respond. That’s a good strategy on both sides. If by “cold” you mean rude, mean, or manipulative, it’s just deceptive, low-level behaviour	/r/RPChristians	24/06/25 09:57 AM
6	I am filled with RAGE Yes, you're getting it now. It IS hardcore. Yeah I guess mission comes first. Though mission should be something you just ARE (or are becoming). Less like a goal, more like entering a state of being. So much so that any one person who is a net liability and not asset gets the boot. Emotional attachment, 7 years of shared experiences be damned. Sure, but that's assuming you have the clear thinking to determine if the person is a net liability. I think you're acknowledging the lack of OI, being in…	/r/askMRP	24/06/25 03:27 AM
8	I am filled with RAGE u/Nntropy is making a good point. You're missing it. "The issue is I feel imasculated in my relationship. I can only imagine how much more powerful I can be in driving my mission if my lady desired me for the man I believe I have forged myself to be." Since your mission relies on another person (at least to feel more powerful in it's pursuit), you are not outcome independent. You need your lady to come to the table. You're in her frame.	/r/askMRP	24/06/25 02:46 AM
2	Removing obstacles to prayer This is good stuff. I heard a simple analogy from Luke 11:9 recently... An acronym using the letters A-S-K. (A) Ask (S) Seek (K) Knock Imperfect prayers are still better than no prayers. "You miss 100% of the shots you don't take" Keep putting those prayers up in all formats and ways. God can shape them over time towards his intended outcome.	/r/RPChristians	18/06/25 03:31 AM
3	Husband and mother in law relationship Ask him why he seems to want monogamy with his mother. You shouldn’t have to compete for that	/r/RPChristians	08/06/25 02:47 AM
2	How to Find a God Fearing Woman God fearing women will be attracted to God-fearing men. She will sniff out quickly the depth of your faith. The prayer and scripture are good but if it makes no difference to your everyday life, it’s a religious expression if dancing monkey	/r/RPChristians	28/05/25 12:31 AM
1	OYS - Where Progress is Made (05/05/25) The fact that you want her to be “Fair” means you’ve lost frame. You’re dependent on her coming to the party (so to speak) or your views will not be validated. You’ve been “unfairly treated”. Protection of what you think is fair, is ego IMO. And It’s not outcome independent. The only thing you should worry about is how you show up. The vax discussion is tricky of course, but you have to realise it’s her fears and feelings driving that. You can’t rationalise her through the feelings. Negative enq…	/r/RPChristians	08/05/25 01:43 AM
2	OYS - Where Progress is Made (05/05/25) “The next level is to consistently hold frame when wife initiates an UNFAIR conversation…” Your use of UNFAIR shows ego protection. Like you’ve been wronged. It’s her frame you’re in. Feelings don’t care about your facts.	/r/RPChristians	06/05/25 03:46 AM