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I specifically said “very young women and girls”. Perhaps you missed the comments here (in PPD) arguing that because the legal age of consent in some places is 12 or 13 or 16 makes it ok.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/09/22 02:17 AM
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No what?🤷‍♀️
/r/PurplePillDebate01/09/22 02:02 AM
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I'm going to go out on a limb here and (as a woman - even if older than dirt - who never embraced the "casual sex" thing) say that most women who do not participate in casual sex, are not really interested in relationships with men who DO participate in casual sex because our attitudes about sex and intimacy are not well aligned so I would imagine that the transition to "slut shaming" that you describe is fairly rare.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/08/22 07:28 PM
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I doubt he’d complain 🤣
/r/PurplePillDebate30/08/22 11:16 PM
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I think the zealots in both arenas are desperately seeking a place to belong and a community to feel a part of. If that community helps them to shift blame for their dissatisfaction to “others”, so much the better. The core components of both seem to be cranky white men who are pissed that their default “King of the jungle” status is dissipating and society is becoming closer to a color/gender blind meritocracy. Too bad, so sad. Y’all had a good run🤷‍♀️
/r/PurplePillDebate30/08/22 11:07 PM
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Yes, but you also seem saner and more balanced than the average RP bear. 🤷‍♀️
/r/PurplePillDebate30/08/22 11:03 PM
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Based on the endless commentary from men here, there are almost zero women who some men would reject a sexual advance from so...essentially when the Venn diagram of "all women" and "women you would accept a NSA blowjob from" is a near perfect circle, it indicates a certain indiscriminacy, no?
/r/PurplePillDebate29/08/22 04:02 PM
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Choosing to be a sex worker as a profession is different IMO from an indiscriminate pursuit of a living "outlet" for selfish sexual friction.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/08/22 02:13 PM
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People can be selective and still have a number of lovers over the years. People whose only criteria for selection is that the other person not say no are a bit different.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/08/22 02:07 PM
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Great. Another excuse for people to not leave their houses and learn how to negotiate personal interactions and build relationships IRL. What could possibly go wrong? After all it’s worked so well for young people so far🙄
/r/PurplePillDebate29/08/22 01:52 AM
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Would you respect a woman who would fuck almost anything? Would you not feel a bit of contempt for someone who valued themselves and their body so cheaply? Same thing 🤷‍♀️
/r/PurplePillDebate29/08/22 01:14 AM
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I feel nothing but perhaps a soupçon of mild contempt. Some men will literally fuck warm fruit. Their thirst and lack of standards is not worthy of a response.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/08/22 11:50 PM
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Women prefer men who are taller than they are. Average woman = 5’4”. Average man = 5’9 1/2”. So a baseline difference of 5 1/2” is just standard. Some women definitely prefer a larger than average difference, some don’t. Arbitrary extreme preferences are far more common in young people who aren’t necessarily prioritizing enduring adult relationship skills and “forever” compatibility (nor do they need to because they’re not necessarily looking for a “forever” relationship at the moment). Personal…
/r/PurplePillDebate27/08/22 03:02 AM
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I'm not interested in someone who hits on me without knowing a single thing about me other than my looks; I don't do casual sex.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/08/22 04:29 PM
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No. Never.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/08/22 02:37 PM
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Totally doesn’t work on chickens btw.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/08/22 03:06 AM
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I am very familiar with ASD. Some factors that may be at play are: Stimming, even if it is so subtle as to be almost unnoticeable may cause undefinable feelings of unease in others. Lack of eye contact. Not recognizing neurotypical personal space boundaries. Verbal scripting (again, even if subtle). Either flat or exaggerated affect as compared to neurotypical. Awkward gait or hand / facial movements (often due to focus on inner world as opposed to shared world). These and other possible tweaks …
/r/PurplePillDebate26/08/22 02:13 AM
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That part of the article was referring only to young women participating in hook-up culture. Is it a big surprising "gotcha"? It specifically says that these preferences are not applicable to anything else so once again it sounds like you are using the word "dating" to only mean causal sex.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/08/22 02:54 PM
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Do you actually believe that drivel? Really?
/r/PurplePillDebate25/08/22 02:18 AM
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Then you would never ask for a paternity test? If so, bravo.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/08/22 11:18 PM
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Universal paternity testing takes the personal insult out of it entirely. That is very different than bringing it down to a personal level where there is an implied accusation. How do you not understand the difference?
/r/PurplePillDebate24/08/22 09:21 PM
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That 28% figure is for men 18-24. I would hardly count everyone over 24 as being elderly🤣🤣🤣
/r/PurplePillDebate24/08/22 09:10 PM
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I think often the point that is confused is that some men feel that because they rank themselves as above average in looks, they should be getting lots of casual sex with "their looksmatch". They seem not to understand that if you're an asshat, your looks don't matter, you're still unfuckable to all but the most troubled women. The corollary to that is that a man who is not above average in looks, is short or chubby or similar can sometimes overcome that through personality, charisma, humor etc.…
/r/PurplePillDebate24/08/22 06:02 PM
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Men will literally fuck warm fruit so...their "standards" for sex or servitude don't really have a corollary in the average woman's life.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/08/22 05:42 PM
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If a person is not having success at finding what they want with people who meet their standards, they have a few choices: Keep looking. You may or may not find success, but no one said that you can't try. Try to improve yourself until you meet the standards of the people you want. You may or may not find success, but no one said that you can't try. Lower your standards until you're successful finding what you want, even if it is not with who you originally wanted. Decide that if you can't get e…
/r/PurplePillDebate24/08/22 03:53 PM
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https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/social-instincts/201507/when-men-arent-good-looking-they-think
/r/PurplePillDebate24/08/22 02:33 AM
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It was a CDC study.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/08/22 01:34 AM
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Only 29% of Americans age 18-34 were married in 2018, compared to 59% in 1978.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/08/22 11:52 PM
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According to a fair amount of research, the key drivers for the decrease in sexual activity in young adults in general and men specifically are: the decline in youthful marriage (biggest driver by far), living at home with parents, video games and freely available porn and fewer alcohol related activities. Additionally young men are more likely to be intentionally unemployed or underemployed. More likely to exclusively use social media and dating apps and forgo in person social interaction oppor…
/r/PurplePillDebate23/08/22 11:26 PM
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So again, you said that women are the ones who " live more in a world of how they think things should be vs what actually exists in reality.". Women are fine with the current reality. Men apparently, are not since they are frustrated and want the women to change the world to how they think things should be (aka easy access to casual sex with their choice of women).
/r/PurplePillDebate23/08/22 09:37 PM
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And yet ...women are not the ones here complaining about "how things are" and how women need to make them different...Puzzling, no?🤔
/r/PurplePillDebate23/08/22 09:05 PM
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As it is now, the vast majority of men struggle even to get women below their level of attractiveness. It is absolutely ridiculous, and only seems to be getting worse. Look! A leg 😁
/r/PurplePillDebate23/08/22 09:03 PM
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Kind of like this post? Yes, I agree, all of the men agreeing with it should stop bitching just accept it
/r/PurplePillDebate23/08/22 07:33 PM
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Gender characteristics and gender roles are two very different things. Vocal timbre has nothing to do with distribution of labor or abilities or expectations of others.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/08/22 07:18 PM
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I mean George Costanza was a hand model for a minute, so I guess anything is possible🤣
/r/PurplePillDebate23/08/22 05:18 PM
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So you think a woman on Tinder is less likely to get pumped and dumped by a less attractive guy who is on Tinder looking for quick sex?🤣 Possible I guess, but so far as I know, character quality is not directly inversely correlated to attractiveness... Even if that's true, women who are looking for just sex / hookups won't care because they are not looking for a relationship. Women who are looking for a relationship are generally not on Tinder choosing via swipe (yes, there are exceptions) becau…
/r/PurplePillDebate23/08/22 05:03 PM
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If memory serves it was as an 8...🤣
/r/PurplePillDebate23/08/22 04:39 PM
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You still have not provided an answer for this: In the absence of any other criteria, why would women not choose the most attractive option? What would be the point for women in NOT doing that? You just restated that men swipe on more women, no one is disputing that. The question is why would women want to do that?
/r/PurplePillDebate23/08/22 04:25 PM
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And yet OP is saying that if men can't get what they want, it's women's fault and if women can't get what they want...it's also women's fault.🤷‍♀️
/r/PurplePillDebate23/08/22 04:03 PM
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In the absence of any other criteria, why would women not choose the most attractive option? What would be the point for women in NOT doing that? Some men swipe a lot of women because they desperately want to get laid, don't need to find the woman as attractive to want to fuck her and think their odds of actually getting laid may be better with a less attractive woman. Women are not as desperate to get laid, generally do need to find the person attractive in order to want to get laid and will ch…
/r/PurplePillDebate23/08/22 03:58 PM
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Each woman get to decide who she feels is attractive, just as each man does. People choose to interact with those that they (as an individual) feel are attractive. No one else's opinion or "rating" of themselves or others will change those fundamental facts. Attraction, for many women, starts with individually determined baseline physical appearance. No one else gets to decide what that threshold is or should be. If that threshold is not met, there is no chance of attraction or engagement. If th…
/r/PurplePillDebate23/08/22 03:11 PM
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Then it’s a good thing that you get to choose that👍. Isn’t freedom grand?
/r/PurplePillDebate23/08/22 03:34 AM
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No. Vaccination is not a part of the sexual revolution which is the topic at hand.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/08/22 03:16 AM
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The freedom to make choices about one’s own body is.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/08/22 03:03 AM
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Just waiting for some 20 year old virgin to chime in calling you betabux and warning that a dead bedroom is right around the corner 🤣
/r/PurplePillDebate22/08/22 11:11 PM
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I do not and have never engaged in casual sex because it is not my preference. That said, my right to do so should I choose to is a hill I will fight and die on. I do work at a high level in a male dominated industry and am eternally grateful to the generations of women who helped to make that possible. In it's purest form, women's liberation is about choice. Having the right to choose one's own path and not have it mandated by others base on gender. It was never meant to specify what that choic…
/r/PurplePillDebate22/08/22 05:03 PM
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I think that there are far more women who will refuse to be cloistered by men's hypocrisy and fear than there are RPers (et al) with the ability to compel it although I do agree that there are a very vocal minority who are highly motivated to do so.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/08/22 04:44 PM
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"The tree of liberty must be refreshed from time to time with the blood of patriots and tyrants. It is it’s natural manure. " A bit dramatic in this context, but you get my point. Omelettes / eggs
/r/PurplePillDebate22/08/22 04:33 PM
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“They who can give up essential liberty to obtain a little temporary safety deserve neither liberty nor safety.” ― Benjamin Franklin
/r/PurplePillDebate22/08/22 03:46 PM
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The article you linked is specific to (speculation re/the rate for) children born outside of marriage. I agree that paternity fraud is horrible but it’s disingenuous to imply that those numbers (even if true) are also true of children born to married parents.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/08/22 12:32 PM
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That has only worked when women were dependent on men for subsistence. That ship has sailed. The times they are a changing. Men need to adapt or accept that their individual genetic journey is over. Must be difficult for some to swallow the fact that women in many places can no longer be coerced into a lifetime of misery just to survive. We get to be active participants in the decisions that shape our lives and fertility. Deal with it!
/r/PurplePillDebate21/08/22 08:14 PM
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So…you think that women would suddenly have sex with undesirable men if they had fewer choices and a far greater chance of having an unwanted pregnancy with the child of that undesirable man? Nope.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/08/22 08:00 PM
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You specifically referenced “the fate of the planet” and “population decay”🤣. So if your concern is just US population, why not open up immigration? Boom, problem solved 👍.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/08/22 07:49 PM
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Did you seriously just compare starvation to a dry dick? Really?
/r/PurplePillDebate21/08/22 07:44 PM
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Then there’s really no problem. It doesn’t matter if “individual men” aren’t getting sex. The population is not collapsing. It is expanding and that expansion is projected to continue. World population projected to reach 9.8 billion in 2050, and 11.2 billion in 2100. The current world population of 7.6 billion is expected to reach 8.6 billion in 2030, 9.8 billion in 2050 and 11.2 billion in 2100, according to a new United Nations report being launched today.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/08/22 07:36 PM
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According to Darwin’s Origin of Species, it is not the most intellectual of the species that survives; it is not the strongest that survives; but the species that survives is the one that is able best to adapt and adjust to the changing environment in which it finds itself. Men who want to be sexually successful and pass on their genes need to adapt to the changing world, not try to roll back the changes to accommodate their inability to adapt.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/08/22 07:29 PM
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Pretty sure they’re having more sex WITH birth control and online dating so eliminating those is unlikely to help sexlessness.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/08/22 07:23 PM
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World population projected to reach 9.8 billion in 2050, and 11.2 billion in 2100. The current world population of 7.6 billion is expected to reach 8.6 billion in 2030, 9.8 billion in 2050 and 11.2 billion in 2100, according to a new United Nations report being launched today. TLDR: the population is not collapsing 🙄
/r/PurplePillDebate21/08/22 07:21 PM
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Ah so you’re not really concerned about the lonely sexless guys, you just want EVERYONE to be lonely and sexless. “Misery loves company” to save humanity?🤣
/r/PurplePillDebate21/08/22 07:11 PM
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Not really, usually the topic will be broached and discussed casually during the relationship and of the parties are on the same page, the man will propose. Where are you from? Maybe things are different there?
/r/PurplePillDebate21/08/22 01:51 AM
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Held accountable for what, exactly?🤔
/r/PurplePillDebate21/08/22 01:48 AM
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So why are you asking about proposals from men who women want? If a woman wants to marry a man and he proposes marriage , they usually get married 🤷‍♀️
/r/PurplePillDebate21/08/22 01:37 AM
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Again, at least here, men usually don’t ask unless it’s been discussed and he knows she will say yes. Men generally aren’t just proposing to random women…
/r/PurplePillDebate21/08/22 01:35 AM
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Again, that’s not really how marriage proposals usually work in the US (and I imagine Europe is similar).
/r/PurplePillDebate21/08/22 01:29 AM
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She doesn’t want anyone to marry right now🤣
/r/PurplePillDebate21/08/22 01:13 AM
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Ok, I think I understand the disconnect here. OP, at least here is the US (with the exception of some fundamentalist religious groups), surprise “out of the blue” marriage proposals don’t really happen. If a couple is in a serious, long term relationship, they will discuss (often many times as the relationship and parties mature) marriage, family goals etc. if both parties are interested and ready for that step, a formal “Will you marry me?” proposal may occur. In general men rarely propose with…
/r/PurplePillDebate21/08/22 01:12 AM
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My ex husband had our kids tested TWICE when I filed for divorce. I’ve never seen someone so disappointed that they ARE the father 🤣. And no, I had never been unfaithful nor did he have any reason to think that I could have been. Of course he also tried to say that we had never actually been married so🤷‍♀️. Poor thing, who knew that the government keeps records of those things and burning wedding pics doesn’t erase the “proof”🤣
/r/PurplePillDebate18/08/22 11:43 PM
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I was thinking bitcoin or giftcards
/r/PurplePillDebate18/08/22 10:45 PM
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Average men all around the world are in relationships, married etc.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/08/22 07:21 PM
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I use Tinder as I travel all over the world So as you use Tinder all over the world, are you looking for a committed relationship or are you expecting women to want to hook up with you even though you've never met before?🤔
/r/PurplePillDebate18/08/22 06:01 PM
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There is no reason a man should suppress his sexual appetite simply because some women say it makes them uncomfortable.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/08/22 04:45 PM
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It's like some little kids, negative attention is better than no attention...🙄
/r/PurplePillDebate18/08/22 02:52 PM
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What about input from random magazine, peer pressure, and cultural pressure? How is that a response to my comment?
/r/PurplePillDebate18/08/22 02:48 PM
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So, just to make sure that I understand...you want sex from a woman AND don't care about her comfort level because you shouldn't suppress your sexual appetite? Interesting, kind of does not bode well for the sex being a great experience for her does it when you appetite trumps her comfort?
/r/PurplePillDebate18/08/22 02:47 PM
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Women are entitled to determine their own needs regarding sex and relationships without the input of random men. The only men who have any right to input are those specific men that specific women choose to seek for sex and relationships. Random men are not "expected" to marry anyone regardless of their sexual lack of experience. Go outside and meet real people.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/08/22 02:36 PM
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TLDR LVM is big mad that being creepy and predatory is frowned on by society.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/08/22 02:31 PM
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No photos or videos of any kind. Ever. My personal policy is never to take or send an image that I wouldn’t want my father to see because once the image is out there (or even saved in the cloud), it can end up anywhere. See revenge porn for reference… I realize that this may be an unusual boundary in the era, but I’m comfortable with it.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/08/22 11:22 AM
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Or y’all could just learn to load the dishwasher, pick your own socks up and maybe remember your loved ones birthdays 🤷‍♀️
/r/PurplePillDebate18/08/22 11:07 AM
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So beta buxing is good if you use your passport?🤣
/r/PurplePillDebate18/08/22 03:01 AM
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Give up on casual sex. The % of men who are interested is far larger than the % of women who are willing. The segment of women who are willing (regardless of their “rank”) have the pick of the litter and will choose based on sex appeal and proximity because that’s all that matters for casual sex.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/08/22 02:58 AM
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Welcome to the RP / PPD fantasy world 🤣
/r/PurplePillDebate18/08/22 02:54 AM
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I think even Stacy behavior is far more diverse than meets the ideological needs of some participants.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/08/22 02:41 AM
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I believe so. The men (some, not all) on this sub seem to believe that women are all hopping from bed to bed 24/7 with “Chad”. I believe that reality is very different.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/08/22 02:27 AM
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There’s a very significant difference between values and personal preferences. Values: I do not, and never have, believed that casual sex is a good idea for me morally. Values: I believe that, for me, sexual activities are best as a private encounter between 2 people who care about each other. That means no other partners, no extra partners, no photos or video, no public intimacy. Preference: ok with using a feather, not ok with using the whole chicken…aka, kink-lite. Preference: a healthy sex l…
/r/PurplePillDebate18/08/22 01:55 AM
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As a gesture of affection and appreciation, definitely. As an attempt to be appreciated, no.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/08/22 11:33 PM
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Do you think that might have something to do with her husband?🤔
/r/PurplePillDebate17/08/22 09:26 PM
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You do realize that you could reverse the argument and it would still say the exact same thing...it becomes a chicken and egg argument. He stops making an effort, she stops feeling sexual. She stops feeling sexual, he stops making an effort. In your example, they are both wrong and if you want to label it accountability, both parties are removing their accountability for the success of the relationship.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/08/22 08:55 PM
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Accountability for what?
/r/PurplePillDebate17/08/22 06:44 PM
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Hmmm, are you very sure that these guys are still treating their wives exactly the way they did when they were dating? Still going on nice dates? Still being sweet and affectionate? Still complimenting her and trying to do special things for her to make her happy? Are they still trying to look good and smell good and be attractive and sexy to her the same way that they did before? No? Well golly, you mean that they completely misrepresented who they were and did a diabolical bait and switch? May…
/r/PurplePillDebate17/08/22 03:33 PM
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If a man is trying to exclusively select for unstable women with shaky self esteem, it looks spot on. If he is looking for an actual functional and emotionally mature adult, then this will pretty much rule out success.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/08/22 03:07 PM
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I was referring to OPs suggestion to approach a stranger and say “Hello, I think you’re cute. Would you like to go on a date with me?”
/r/PurplePillDebate17/08/22 11:13 AM
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“I don’t have hunter eyes…all is lost😡” “Oh no, my canthal tilt is off by 3.6 degrees, doomed to perpetual virginity. Must kill evil bitches”
/r/PurplePillDebate17/08/22 01:52 AM
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Brunch.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/08/22 01:49 AM
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Nope. Being a slave to odd looking dangly bits doesn’t sound like fun at all.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/08/22 01:34 AM
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Why in the world would I? I’ve earned every year.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/08/22 01:22 AM
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I’m fairly sure that you feel that’s a gotcha 🤣. Nope. The younguns feel the same way. Crazy right?
/r/PurplePillDebate17/08/22 01:18 AM
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Obviously 🙄. Although I certainly don’t speak for all women, many women share this opinion.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/08/22 01:09 AM
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Here’s a thought…you thinking I’m cute is not a reason for me to want to date you. You thinking I’m cute is not a reason for me to want to spend time getting ready, going to the date, the date, going home from the date and spending my hard earned money (because splitting the check, right?). I can’t believe that this needs to be explained but apparently it does. 🤷‍♀️
/r/PurplePillDebate17/08/22 12:40 AM
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Not if no one ever wants him back for an encore!🤣🤣🤣🤣
/r/PurplePillDebate15/08/22 03:44 AM
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And amazingly no one in this thread agrees with you🤔. Hmmmm, puzzling isn’t it…almost as if you’re completely wrong 🤷‍♀️
/r/PurplePillDebate15/08/22 03:42 AM
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Honey, I’ve been having great sex for longer than you’ve been alive 🤣. You’re going to need to accept that, as a woman, I know more about women’s bodies and sexuality then you do. It’s very cute that you called me “sweetie” though 🤣
/r/PurplePillDebate15/08/22 03:36 AM
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Oh honey, bless your virginal little heart. 🤣 Women who know their own bodies and are confident in their sexuality know how to enjoy sex. Every woman is different and when a man knows how to please a woman, he knows how to please ONE woman. Great sex is about communication, each party knowing their own body and being genuinely interested in learning about their partners body (along with desire, sensual attraction etc.etc.etc.). The odds that any person will be the “best” lover their partner has …
/r/PurplePillDebate15/08/22 03:19 AM
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Clearly most men are underachievers🤷‍♀️🤣 /s
/r/PurplePillDebate14/08/22 01:45 AM
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https://www.census.gov/newsroom/stories/equal-pay-day.html https://www.payscale.com/research-and-insights/gender-pay-gap/ https://www.statista.com/statistics/934039/gender-pay-gap-select-countries/ In 2022, the uncontrolled gender pay gap is $0.82 for every $1 that men make, which is the same as last year. Payscale’s gender pay gap report does not show that the uncontrolled gender pay gap has closed during COVID-19. If anything, closure of the gender pay gap during 2020 and 2021 reported by othe…
/r/PurplePillDebate14/08/22 01:37 AM
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Because no smart woman would do that?
/r/PurplePillDebate13/08/22 11:10 PM
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The unequal expectations, gifts, spoiling, royal treatment without reciprocal generosity. Using men for money and service whether as a cruel game or just an exhibition of selfishness. Viewing women as anonymous prey. Notches on a bedpost. Treating women with casual cruelty or intentional disdain and disrespect. In both cases, a brutal failure to recognize and respect the humanity of the other and the treatment of dating and sex as adversarial as opposed to an opportunity for engagement and partn…
/r/PurplePillDebate12/08/22 11:21 PM
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All of this may well be true, but I think there may be a much simpler explanation as well. When insecure / scared / hurt people get a tiny bit of perceived leverage or power, some of them will turn into bullies in a misguided effort to feel big and powerful and safe. In some women, this comes out as described above. I would imagine that behind every loud, preening TikTok QUEEN, there is a woman / girl who is trying very hard to feel big and tough but probably really doesn't if you peel back enou…
/r/PurplePillDebate12/08/22 10:01 PM
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I’m guessing you have a dog in this fight so let’s just agree to disagree huh?
/r/PurplePillDebate12/08/22 02:09 AM
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Well, in addition to aspiring sugar daddies, there are also deluded old farts so who’s to say which is which?🤣
/r/PurplePillDebate12/08/22 01:55 AM
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The ones looking for sugar babies tend to say things about being generous or looking for mutually beneficial relationships etc.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/08/22 01:45 AM
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Ok🤷‍♀️. If they were that attracted to you and your personalities mesh, you wouldn’t be having these difficulties. So, something is off. It’s either looks or personality/interaction style.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/08/22 01:30 AM
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I have no idea who you’re trying to attract. I do know that you’ve repeatedly commented that your very physically attractive and I’m telling you that I just don’t see it. I’m not trying to be mean and I’m assuming that you are attractive to someone but that may or may not be who you’re interested in🤷‍♀️
/r/PurplePillDebate12/08/22 01:26 AM
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I’m very familiar with BPD and the challenges that it brings to those who live with it. You have my sympathy. That said, it may not show immediately as BPD to those unfamiliar with it, but it does show up as being a little or a lot off kilter.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/08/22 01:21 AM
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I saw your pic in your post history. Very niche appeal. The further one is from traditional beauty standards the harder it will be. In addition, contrary to what you seem to believe, looks are just one ingredient. Not determinative of attraction in and of themselves.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/08/22 01:19 AM
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That doesn’t make you a bad person but it definitely makes you a more challenging person to be involved with. 🤷‍♀️
/r/PurplePillDebate12/08/22 01:17 AM
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While looks are highly subjective, there is some chance that outside of a very narrow niche, you may be overestimating your attractiveness quotient. That combined with what you described as severe BPD and your repeated posted difficulties in soliciting female interest without being labeled as creepy, I think that there’s a possibility that at least some of the women aren’t “playing hard to get”…
/r/PurplePillDebate12/08/22 01:13 AM
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Plus severe BPD. Not a super hot combination. 🤷‍♀️
/r/PurplePillDebate12/08/22 12:58 AM
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Check post history…
/r/PurplePillDebate12/08/22 12:52 AM
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Post history may shed some light on underlying challenges…🤷‍♀️
/r/PurplePillDebate12/08/22 12:47 AM
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I’m aware of the difference. I’m fairly sure that the men I’m referring to aren’t looking for either and are just trying to get the benefits of that sort of arrangement without the customary contribution…
/r/PurplePillDebate12/08/22 12:27 AM
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50+ year old balding paunchy men on OLD, pics of fancy cars, watches, boats etc. Looking only for slender, attractive women 18-29 and specifically saying NO GOLD DIGGERS!🤣🤣🤣
/r/PurplePillDebate11/08/22 10:11 PM
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If he's present in their lives and cares for them without really bothering with the others, is there and tearing apart and forcing going on? So his wife is just supposed to suck it up and stay with the man who not only cheated and fathered a child with another woman, but is the kind of man who would just "not bother" with that child? (and no, there is no chance that she or the kids will not know) and his kids are supposed to ignore the fact that they have a half sib? The stigma is probably only …
/r/PurplePillDebate11/08/22 07:04 PM
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If a cheating man gets an affair partner or ONS pregnant, he is effectively siphoning off support from his wife and other children for 18 years at a minimum. In addition, he is tearing apart his own family and forcing his children to be siblings with the result of his wandering dick for their entire lives. He is creating a child that will always bear the stigma of being the result of an affair and never having a full time father unless he leaves his family for the affair and then it's the origin…
/r/PurplePillDebate11/08/22 05:46 PM
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🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣 That is just so freakin' DUMB. I truly don't know how you guys can say those things with a straight face!
/r/PurplePillDebate11/08/22 05:37 PM
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I think (really, really hope) that you forgot the /s...
/r/PurplePillDebate11/08/22 05:16 PM
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Stay tuned for all of the pAtErNiTy fRaUd rage comments and "for men to get sex with different women is an accomplishment, for women it's easy, therefore good for men / BAD for women" crapamoli. Basically, it's a double standard.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/08/22 04:45 PM
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How about because when he decides he need a newer shinier trophy the woman has absolutely nothing to fall back on? I'm going to take a giant leap and assume that you are not also advocating that in the case of divorce, these "trophy wives" should get alimony and an equitable share of the marital assets... I won't even try to explain human dignity, equal partnership, self respect, being valued as a whole person etc. as I have a feeling those would be foreign concepts...
/r/PurplePillDebate10/08/22 06:29 PM
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Makes sense🤷‍♀️.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/08/22 05:07 PM
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Is this Groundhog Day?
/r/PurplePillDebate10/08/22 12:31 AM
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It’s only “over” for those who cling to what they think they need and ignore what will actually bring them happiness. Some here can scoff and deride “settling”, but letting go of shallow theoretical “requirements” in the face of concrete real life qualities is an important part of maturing and learning about yourself and real life and true happiness. Those who never reach that point are destined for failure sooner or later.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/08/22 12:28 AM
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I doubt those women would be pursuing an actual relationship at this point though so you and your ilk aren’t really changing the relationship pool, you’re just monopolizing the casual pond🤷‍♀️
/r/PurplePillDebate09/08/22 11:28 PM
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That’s casual fuckery though. I was referring to actual relationships…different animal all together.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/08/22 11:21 PM
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Keep telling yourself that.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/08/22 11:02 PM
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This is a fantasy used by unsuccessful men to justify their bitterness.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/08/22 10:29 PM
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For every woman in a relationship, there is a man in a relationship (not including non-hetero couples and poly folks of course). One can assume that they are mostly attracted to each other or were at some point. How is that not fair? If you are actually using "dating" as a euphemism for casual NSA sex, then too bad, so sad...we don't GAF, that's not an arena where "fairness" applies. Far more men than women actively participating / trying to participate because they enjoy the overwhelming benefi…
/r/PurplePillDebate09/08/22 08:16 PM
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News flash: your ego and threats do not “dick”tate when a given woman will be comfortable having sex with you and the fact that you are admitting to intentionally “punishing” women for not meeting your timetable is not persuasive to your cause. “Fuck me right away whether you want to or not or else I’m going to manipulate you into feeing the very shame that you fear” is not a compelling wooing technique…
/r/PurplePillDebate09/08/22 02:52 AM
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When I’ve seen this used, it describes the standard that men already in relationships or marriages have to meet in order to be praised. I.e.: He did a load of laundry while his wife was in the hospital. He spent time with his kids without calling it “babysitting”. He usually takes out the trash when asked. He once cooked a meal (no sides, but he tried). He doesn’t usually shove her head under the covers when he farts in bed. He actually remembered their anniversary even though he was a couple of…
/r/PurplePillDebate09/08/22 01:48 AM
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Kinda lizardy 🤣
/r/PurplePillDebate09/08/22 01:34 AM
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Ah, I misunderstood 🤣.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/08/22 12:20 AM
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Why is he sticking out his tongue?🤣🤣🤣
/r/PurplePillDebate09/08/22 12:06 AM
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Not true… “Did you know men show signs of aging sooner than a woman? This is because men have strong muscles located around the forehead and glabella area, where fine lines appear. Although most men don’t speak to friends or family about their appearance, they definitely focus on signs of aging every time they look in the mirror. According to the American Society of Plastic Surgeons, more than 400,000 men in the United States receive botox or other injectables to enhance their appearance. “
/r/PurplePillDebate08/08/22 11:58 PM
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The scenario was not that they are unattractive, it was that they are “meh”. IMO, that leaves a lot of room for attraction to grow. Ymmv🤷‍♀️
/r/PurplePillDebate08/08/22 12:18 AM
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For all of those who chose “B”, what happens when they are 45, or 50 or 60 or 70 or get cancer or go bald or have loose belly skin from bearing your children or get ED or any of a thousand perfectly normal things that mitigate “hotness”? What’s left to sustain the marriage?
/r/PurplePillDebate07/08/22 02:03 AM
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But can you truly imagine facing those things with someone that you’re not truly friends with?
/r/PurplePillDebate07/08/22 12:48 AM
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But who do you want by your side when you lose a child or a parent? Who do you want to face when you lose your job or get a big promotion? Remember, the intention is for a lifetime together. Who is going to understand and work with you when ED strikes or a bad biopsy? Who is going to be the one you’d choose in 30 or 40 years when “hot” is a distant memory?
/r/PurplePillDebate07/08/22 12:43 AM
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Good night. As time allows I respectfully suggest that you make a concerted effort to apply your considerable intellect to this issue. I am confident that by removing emotion (anger/hurt/fear) you will realize that black pill theories are comically reductive and that you are capable of a much more nuanced analysis that can lead you to far less apocalyptic conclusions. Sleep well 😀
/r/PurplePillDebate07/08/22 12:36 AM
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A all day. Attraction can develop through pleasurable sex with someone you love (plus all cats are grey in the dark). Hot lasts a minute, a discordant personality is forever.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/08/22 11:50 PM
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Ok, trying a new method here: OP, we don’t know anything about you. What about you is a positive and would be attractive to a woman? Are you smart? Hard working and either accomplished or on your way? Are you kind or funny or amazing with kids or animals? Do you have any interesting hobbies or intellectual pursuits? Do you volunteer your time to those less fortunate? Are you a whiz at Scrabble or Wordle? Are you an amazing baker or gardener or handy with tools or cars? What is special about YOU?…
/r/PurplePillDebate06/08/22 11:41 PM
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If that’s the hill you choose to die on, fine. I’m going to bet that men who communicate and interact with women in a positive way might get the occasional compliment. Bitter, angry men who avoid and dislike women probably don’t 🤷‍♀️
/r/PurplePillDebate06/08/22 11:30 PM
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Most women don’t ask any men out. Some women ask some men out. In general attitude is what eliminates the options that someone might otherwise have.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/08/22 11:20 PM
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Feel free to continue to wallow in self pity with a soupçon of bitterness 🤷‍♀️. It certainly isn’t going to improve your prospects but it sounds like you don’t really want to find a relationship with a woman anyway.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/08/22 11:17 PM
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Everyone has options. They may be few and far between. He may have to work pretty hard on himself and he may have to be more proactive than some but to expect options to drop into your lap is just silly.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/08/22 11:12 PM
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Wait! Based on OPs comments in the thread he is expecting that women are going to approach, initiate conversation and offer up intimacy and the fact that they don’t means that men have no options 🤣. Hard truth, cupcake, that’s not generally how it works. To expand on that dumb fish/fisherman thing you all love so much, if you wait for the fish to fling themselves into the boat, filet themselves and hop onto the grill, you’re going to be a very hungry boy…
/r/PurplePillDebate06/08/22 10:57 PM
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If anyone (man or woman) cancels w/ no offer to reschedule or just doesn't make any effort in general it means that either they were never very interested in the first place or that something put them off. People (men and women) will make dating easy for those that they really like.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/08/22 01:46 PM
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Anyone can have whatever standards they want as long as they either meet the reciprocal standards of those who they want OR don't bitch and whine about how other peoples standards are too high. You can't have it both ways
/r/PurplePillDebate06/08/22 01:43 PM
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I would have more respect for that than sulky nastiness.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/08/22 01:45 AM
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I totally understand if a male friend needs to step back. I feel sad but I understand. What I hate (going through this right now) is a male friend who develops feelings and then gets periodically snarky and mean because I don’t want to jump on his dick instead of distancing himself.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/08/22 01:34 AM
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Ok, I don’t do casual and never have (I am 100% sure it would not be a healthy choice for me) plus I’m old AF so take this with a lb of salt but… I’ve known more than a couple of women through the years who have had ONS / casual flings. I think most were seeking attention, validation that they were attractive, trying and failing to fill an emotional void. They really suffered and were sad and even when they tried to be “mature” and “easy going” about it, it wasn’t a positive thing for them. A co…
/r/PurplePillDebate06/08/22 01:24 AM
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Boys and girls are both children. Sex with children is rape. Rape is always wrong. The end. Age gap relationships between adults can be manipulative and exploitative OR loving positive experiences depending on the individuals involved. Child rape is not an “age-gap relationship”, it’s not a relationship at all, it’s a crime and a betrayal of human decency.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/08/22 10:28 PM
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Experience helps women to spot the bad apples, unfortunately experience also helps the truly bad apples to be better at hiding it in the beginning. The men who complain here either just aren't very good at hiding it or are going for women who are very good at spotting it. The women who complain here are either very bad at spotting it or are going for men who are very good at hiding it in the beginning.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/08/22 01:30 PM
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Yup. They look really good and then…they speak 🤣
/r/PurplePillDebate05/08/22 12:23 AM
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By being a "good listener" I became the guy she discusses her problems with, never the guy she fucks. I think it's likely that by being a good listener and a decent person, she wants to be friends with you instead of nothing with you. I don't think that is what is preventing a sexual relationship.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/08/22 07:35 PM
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With the caveat that I don't ever decide whether or not someone would be a good intimate partner right away, the possibility process is as follows: A red light is always a red light. A yellow light can go either way . Funny enough, an initial green light usually turns into a red light🤣
/r/PurplePillDebate04/08/22 07:28 PM
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You forgot to say “in the moment” again 🤣🤣🤣
/r/PurplePillDebate03/08/22 10:02 AM
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You forgot to say “in the moment”🤣🤣🤣
/r/PurplePillDebate03/08/22 01:58 AM
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You’re a toxic cutie pie. 🤷‍♀️. Kind of like a benign narcissist. More amoral than immoral but breezily oblivious to the harm that you likely cause to those who make the mistake of caring about you. Just a guess 🤷‍♀️
/r/PurplePillDebate03/08/22 01:49 AM
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But…but…his mom said he’s an 8!😢
/r/PurplePillDebate03/08/22 12:59 AM
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Please dump her asap. It’s probably the only kind thing you will do for her. 🙄
/r/PurplePillDebate03/08/22 12:44 AM
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I’m trying to give you the benefit of the doubt but based on some of your comments here I’m really starting to think you should just end it with her. It sounds like she deserves a man who will enthusiastically choose her. You seem to be a bit of a fuckboi who is better off with and better suited to the type of girl / casual sex that you’re used to for now. Not criticizing you, just sounds like a recipe for pain for her.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/08/22 12:42 AM
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Perhaps consider that is not a strategy but a personal boundary?
/r/PurplePillDebate03/08/22 12:26 AM
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Advocating rape? Really? Wow…
/r/PurplePillDebate02/08/22 11:55 PM
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OP, don’t listen to this guy if you want to have any chance at an actual real relationship. He seems to be a charming boyslut who leaves a trail of shallow carnal carnage in his wake.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/08/22 11:55 PM
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I think a full head / body shot in the doorway of a 7-11 would be more useful.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/08/22 11:46 PM
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I suggest that you consider your feelings about her and her feelings about you and ignore any “pill” stuff that sounds like it’s encouraging you to snatch defeat from the jaws of happy relationship victory.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/08/22 11:35 PM
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We keep explaining this. Each woman has a baseline threshold for attractiveness that is the bare minimum that she can imagine being intimate with. Once that threshold has been met, each woman has her own individual way of assigning weight to the other characteristics that are important to her. Those could include: Sex appeal Personality Intelligence Common values Etc etc etc. That process (which may be deliberate or subconscious) may result in a YES, a maybe pending further input or a NO (despit…
/r/PurplePillDebate02/08/22 11:29 PM
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As I woman I only have sex in an exclusive relationship. Always have and it’s what works for me. If that doesn’t work for someone else, I happily encourage them to move on. IMO, sex is an important part of a mutually fulfilling relationship between people who choose each other above all others, not a test drive. Ymmv🤷‍♀️
/r/PurplePillDebate02/08/22 11:26 PM
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First article: "The study found that 31 percent of adult men said they’d commit to a person they were not in love with —- as long as as she had all the other attributes they were looking for in a mate –- and 21 percent said they’d commit under those same circumstances to somebody they weren’t sexually attracted to. The equivalent numbers for women were far lower." So...this literally has nothing to do with the post. It is about some men being willing to drop their re/ love 31%) and sexual attrac…
/r/PurplePillDebate02/08/22 09:01 PM
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Imagine a man being specifically told that his lewd behavior was turning his wife off, giving her the ick, and making her REALLY not want to have sex with him, continuing and escalating that same behavior and being surprised when it doesn't result in enthusiastic sex...Yeah, that makes so much more sense than having an actual conversation together about what would make her want sex...
/r/PurplePillDebate01/08/22 12:57 PM
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I question the premise that OP has repeatedly had these conversations. These repeated posts lack the ring of truth and feel far more like a disingenuous attempt to forward an agenda.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/08/22 12:48 PM
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Boys and Men are different. Men are adults and have the capacity to consent to sex. Boys are children and lack the capacity to consent just like girls. Say it with me: Having sex with children is Rape. Rape is wrong, always wrong.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/08/22 12:01 PM
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https://www.mei.edu/publications/iranian-women-campaign-stop-rise-honor-killings Do you mean the way men in Iran are legally allowed to kill women, children, homosexuals etc?
/r/PurplePillDebate01/08/22 11:49 AM
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I doubt it but that’s still not harems.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/08/22 09:07 AM
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He asked what it “looked like”. I just provided examples.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/08/22 09:02 AM
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🤷‍♀️
/r/PurplePillDebate01/08/22 01:38 AM
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Assumes facts not in evidence.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/08/22 01:32 AM
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No. Not sorry. At. All.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/08/22 01:32 AM
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No problemo!🤷‍♀️
/r/PurplePillDebate01/08/22 01:31 AM
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We keep explaining this. Each woman has a baseline threshold for attractiveness that is the bare minimum that she can imagine being intimate with. Once that threshold has been met, each woman has her own individual way of assigning weight to the other characteristics that are important to her. Those could include: Sex appeal Personality Intelligence Common values Etc etc etc. That process (which may be deliberate or subconscious) may result in a YES, a maybe pending further input or a NO (despit…
/r/PurplePillDebate01/08/22 01:29 AM
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Really? Why? I’m serious, why would it?🤔
/r/PurplePillDebate01/08/22 01:20 AM
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WE are really old🤣
/r/PurplePillDebate01/08/22 01:11 AM
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That sounds very middle school.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/08/22 01:05 AM
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Old school hot. 🥰
/r/PurplePillDebate01/08/22 01:01 AM
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The other two are Robert Redford and Paul Newman.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/08/22 01:00 AM
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According to statistics, if we could keep guns out of the hands of men from 17-29, the murder rate would plummet. Just saying…
/r/PurplePillDebate01/08/22 12:59 AM
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So he’s the Howard Stern of the RP world?
/r/PurplePillDebate01/08/22 12:41 AM
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They probably thought you were a cutie (not in a sexual way but a good kid way).
/r/PurplePillDebate01/08/22 12:38 AM
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https://images.app.goo.gl/HsWXeqGfeJrrBonH9 https://images.app.goo.gl/nnb7oJXAC7UYuDN68 https://images.app.goo.gl/JRT6sBosxQDP9fyj6
/r/PurplePillDebate01/08/22 12:29 AM
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They stopped coming to my house! I’m not sure why. It could have been being greeted by my two really big kinda scary dogs or the time I told them that we could discuss it while they helped my split and stack firewood…either way I seem to have scored naughty list status. 😁
/r/PurplePillDebate01/08/22 12:21 AM
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Good, maybe you can translate for the rest of us?🤷‍♀️
/r/PurplePillDebate01/08/22 12:17 AM
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Yet more evidence that clippers are a sex aid…
/r/PurplePillDebate01/08/22 12:15 AM
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That hasn’t been my experience 🤷‍♀️
/r/PurplePillDebate31/07/22 11:53 PM
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Is that clown buying mentions on Reddit? Never heard of him before yesterday and now ever other post is something about him🙄
/r/PurplePillDebate31/07/22 11:46 PM
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Maybe you should carry bullet proof backpacks like they make for school children now…
/r/PurplePillDebate31/07/22 11:38 PM
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Yes please. Agent orange that entire region.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/07/22 11:37 PM
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I think you mean televangelist…it comes from evangelical not angel. The term evangelical derives from the Greek word euangelion meaning “gospel” or “good news.”
/r/PurplePillDebate31/07/22 11:13 PM
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With the lovely added almond flavor…
/r/PurplePillDebate31/07/22 09:30 PM
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Grapes (assuming seedless). No stem to awkwardly hold, no juice dripping down your arm or sticky fingers, nothing getting caught in your teeth.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/07/22 09:28 PM
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No one (outside of FLDS and similar) is ever going to have a harem. Seriously, they’re just not going to be a thing no matter how much y’all dream about it🤣
/r/PurplePillDebate31/07/22 06:55 PM
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Geez, you guys really want harems to be a thing don’t you🤣. Sorry buddy, not going to happen. No self respecting woman would willingly sign up for that crap.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/07/22 06:43 PM
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Based on what you wrote here, no one called him creepy at all🤷‍♀️
/r/PurplePillDebate31/07/22 03:36 PM
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Try “Mommy and Me” type groups. There are probably some music/art programs or kiddie gym things. From there you get play dates/ play groups going and before you know it you’re friends with a bunch of moms with similar age kids.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/07/22 01:55 PM
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Or…you could ask their opinion re/ literally any other tenet of libertarianism. Maybe “big government”? Taxes? Gun rights? Decriminalizing all drugs?
/r/PurplePillDebate31/07/22 01:50 PM
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Feel free to show yourselves out with our blessing. Just don’t hang out outside brandishing torches and pitchforks and threatening to burn the house down 🤷‍♀️
/r/PurplePillDebate31/07/22 11:35 AM
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I’m single and right now far happier this way. That said, I’ve been married, raised children etc. so perhaps that’s why? I can see how someone could be unhappy if they feel as though they’ve missed out on those experiences 🤷‍♀️. I’ve been in serious relationships post divorce and enjoy being in an exclusive relationship if it’s a really good relationship but don’t really feel like it’s necessary to my happiness. I also don’t do “casual”, just not my thing. I own my own house and business, have a…
/r/PurplePillDebate31/07/22 11:30 AM
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Don’t blame us for reacting to men being ridiculous and dishonest 🤷‍♀️
/r/PurplePillDebate30/07/22 11:59 PM
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I should buy stock in ladders w/ all of these young pups wanting to climb over the wall!🤣🤣🤣
/r/PurplePillDebate30/07/22 11:21 PM
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If men were honest about their height on OLD I would be willing to entertain those under 6’. I used to be open to anything 5’8 and up but having been burned by too many dishonest munchkins, I’ve learned to subtract at least 3-4” from claimed height. In general men who claim 6’ seem less likely to be lying by a lot, but the 5”8” - 5’11” zone is usually (not always obviously, but more often than not) men who show up far shorter than advertised. The funny part is that they will swear blind that I m…
/r/PurplePillDebate30/07/22 08:50 PM
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Wait…so you believe the TikTok numbers but not the actual studies? Well bless your pointy little head…
/r/PurplePillDebate30/07/22 12:33 PM
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Come on in, the water’s fine!👋
/r/PurplePillDebate30/07/22 02:50 AM
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2 active cases of Polio in NY State right now.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/07/22 01:37 AM
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The fatality rate for varicella was approximately 1 per 100,000 cases among children age 1 through 14 years, 6 per 100,000 cases among persons age 15 through 19 years, and 21 per 100,000 cases among adults. That’s not a huge number but it’s certainly a big deal for some and for their families 🤷‍♀️ In addition, if a pregnant woman gets chickenpox it can cause potentially deadly issues for the baby.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/07/22 01:35 AM
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Aww, that’s so sad and pathetic. Couldn’t he get a job doing commercials for a discount electronics store or something? Maybe wearing a cape or a shiny top hat or something?
/r/PurplePillDebate30/07/22 12:49 AM
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I have zero idea who this is but, based on comments, I think that’s probably a good thing.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/07/22 12:30 AM
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But often hilarious so 🤷‍♀️
/r/PurplePillDebate30/07/22 12:28 AM
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Snarky observers: The ones who sit back, may offer input for genuine inquiries but generally revel in roasting the turdblossoms.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/07/22 10:23 PM
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Most adult men are in control of their own fork…
/r/PurplePillDebate29/07/22 01:42 AM
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Tried it. Benefit of the doubt / people can change / blah blah blah. Never again.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/07/22 01:39 AM
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Hmmmm, how about hidden 24/7 surveillance to compare online and IRL behaviors and online vs actual appearance and lifestyle and attitudes. Then publicize the contrast far and wide (protecting individual identities). Saturate peoples every day life with the examples. See if that kind of transparency would: A). Improve online honesty B). Improve mental / emotional health by exposing the reality of the online fantasy world that makes so many people feel bad about themselves and their own lives.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/07/22 01:31 AM
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You don’t have children do you…🤣. Hint: babies and young children have a LOT of needs beyond feeding 🤦‍♀️
/r/PurplePillDebate29/07/22 12:56 AM
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Bacon = ❤️
/r/PurplePillDebate28/07/22 11:00 PM
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In today’s version…”Waaaaaaa, even OLD women won’t fall out of the sky onto my dick!!! It’s not FAIR! Don’t they know they’re old and should be grateful?” 🥱
/r/PurplePillDebate24/07/22 11:16 PM
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Yikes!😱😱😱
/r/PurplePillDebate24/07/22 12:30 AM
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Jesse is a sniveling child. Mike is sexy in a bizarre twisted anti-hero way.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/07/22 12:10 AM
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Nope. I would continue to admire his dedication to the cause and continue to support that cause but I would not continue the marriage.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/07/22 02:47 PM
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It's not fair at all. Preferences are preferences and no one does anyone else a favor by ignoring a clear lack of attraction. It sounds like you behaved well by not wanting to hurt her feelings and your friends were wrong to shame you for your preference.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/07/22 08:47 PM
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Translation: why is this woman allowed to say things that I disagree with or challenge my false perception of reality and call out my privilege?
/r/PurplePillDebate21/07/22 08:13 PM
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Translation: "Even ugly women won't fall from the sky onto my dick. It's not FAIR!!! They should be grateful for my seed cause my mom says I'm definitely an 8😡. If you females don't shape up soon we're all going to grab our own balls and go home and then you'll be sorry!!!"
/r/PurplePillDebate21/07/22 05:32 PM
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So call him a letter name. How about Zee? Or a color name, Green? A fruit name, Concord A vegetable name, Pepper? If you want a plant name, Sorrel or Thorn?
/r/PurplePillDebate20/07/22 11:37 PM
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No, I mean Seven. https://m.imdb.com/title/tt0697774/?ref_=ext_shr_lnk
/r/PurplePillDebate20/07/22 11:34 PM
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By all means give your child an androgynous name, but don’t intentionally paint a giant target on his back by giving him a blatantly feminine name. Why not just name him Seven?🤣
/r/PurplePillDebate20/07/22 11:29 PM
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Nope nope nope. A good relationship flourishes when each party feels lucky to be with the other one. If a man either doesn’t feel that or worse pretends not to in order to manipulate me, it’s not a relationship that will continue. No exceptions.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/07/22 10:08 PM
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Agreed. The power imbalance would likely be the defining characteristic.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/07/22 09:56 PM
2

Absolutely but OP was talking about getting laid, I think an age-gap pseudo-relationship with financial support construct is more likely but will still be rare.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/07/22 09:29 PM
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Sure. Just like every trophy wife or Trophy GF ever. I can definitely see that happening more frequently 🤷‍♀️.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/07/22 09:25 PM
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Doesn't matter because dick is still free and plentiful and that is not likely to change.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/07/22 07:55 PM
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Oh honey...bless your heart. Women will never have to pay to get laid. Dick is plentiful and free. Old dick, young dick, hot dick, etc. etc. etc. If a woman, of pretty much any age, wants to get laid all she has to do is not say no. That is especially true for wealthier women who can afford their cosmetic and health maintenance. Sorry kiddo, sugarmommas are never going to be a "thing"🤣🤣🤣
/r/PurplePillDebate20/07/22 07:43 PM
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Based on your repeated posts with the same basic complaint where literally no one agrees with the premise or argument, this really seems like one of those situations where you should look at the bottom of your own shoe...
/r/PurplePillDebate19/07/22 01:02 PM
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You just said the “problem” is because “men are way hornier”…. 🤣
/r/PurplePillDebate19/07/22 12:36 PM
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Translation: "If I decide that a woman is my looks match, then she should be required to have sex with me otherwise LIFE IS NOT FAIR AND WOMEN ARE VERY VERY BAD..."🙄 Tune in tomorrow for episode XXXIII...
/r/PurplePillDebate19/07/22 12:31 PM
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Surely you’ve seen the “She’s my looksmatch therefore she should have to have sex with me “ posts…
/r/PurplePillDebate19/07/22 01:21 AM
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This same exact post got deleted by Mods 10 months ago...
/r/PurplePillDebate13/07/22 12:52 PM
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Per post history: 27 days ago OP was almost 30, 22 days ago he was almost 40, earlier today he was 50 and per his comment here, he is now 69. I am fairly certain that virginity is a lesser problem than apparent Reddit Progeria...
/r/PurplePillDebate12/07/22 03:55 PM
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Old fart perspective: It starts with kids, Kids don't leave the house and play and go on adventures anymore. They don't learn how to communicate with, negotiate social challenges with, and relate to other kids. This behavior continues into the teen years when hormones start complicating things and social practice / interaction is even more important. Everyone is on their phone / computer and have lost the skills and experiences needed to communicate face to face and the desire to interact IRL. A…
/r/PurplePillDebate12/07/22 02:31 PM
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Wingspan doesn't help if your second toe is longer than your big toe...didn't you read the "Dating Standards Manual, V5"? Duh! /s 🙄
/r/PurplePillDebate11/07/22 03:51 PM
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https://www.hikiapp.com/ Is a dating app specifically for people on the spectrum. I don't know if there are similar apps for schizophrenic folks, but google is your friend.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/07/22 03:48 PM
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Chug! Chug! Chug! Oops, I mean sip, savor, sip…
/r/PurplePillDebate10/07/22 12:09 AM
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Depends whether “get” means open the fridge or drive to the store…🤔
/r/PurplePillDebate10/07/22 12:01 AM
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If women are on the path to out earning men, does that mean that y'all will stop with the silly "betabux" whining thing?
/r/PurplePillDebate01/07/22 05:06 PM
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Pretty sure there are repeat offenders in that number...
/r/PurplePillDebate01/07/22 03:36 PM
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Again, overweight and obesity rates are pretty even across age and gender.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/07/22 03:22 PM
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Because the abortion stats and violence against women stats are about us wanting to have control of our own bodies and choices. The dating "stats" that you all like to exaggerate and manipulate to "prove' whatever the "I can't get my dick wet" grievance of the day is are centered around men whining about one of the circumstances in which we DO have control of our bodies and choices. Not really of equivalent importance...
/r/PurplePillDebate01/07/22 03:15 PM
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Overweight and obesity rates are pretty evenly spread across both age and gender
/r/PurplePillDebate01/07/22 01:47 PM
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So…what kind of “regulation” are you suggesting exactly? Please be specific.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/07/22 10:01 AM
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Get into therapy. Get back to school (whether college or trade school). Get exercise outdoors. Start by walking at least an hour a day if you need to start slow. Work your way up. Find a local opportunity to volunteer. Animal shelter, soup kitchen, reading to the blind or kids, yard work for the elderly…whatever floats your boat. Just do SOMETHING for someone who needs help without expecting anything back. Place a limit on your screen time every day and stick to it. Eat more vegetables and don’t…
/r/PurplePillDebate01/07/22 01:32 AM
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Dating apps are awful for everyone I think. The specific flavor of awful varies of course but basically…ughhhhh. In other words, it’s not just you. It’s not just men. It’s a truly terrible way to try to connect with people in any meaningful way. The last time I was on OLD was about 13 years ago (yup, I’m a geezerette) and it wasn’t quite as horrible but the current immediate gratification/ lack of basic manners behavior is just toxic for everyone.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/07/22 01:08 AM
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I was referring to the standards for women that seem to be popular here of being nurturing, agreeable, supportive, chaste-ish, etc.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/07/22 01:01 AM
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I’m not familiar with these but they do sound bad from your description. I’m not in favor of any ideology or cult-like belief system that broadly generalizes all of a given (otherwise non criminal) group as behaving in a specific way.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/07/22 12:59 AM
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Win / win🤷‍♀️
/r/PurplePillDebate30/06/22 11:51 PM
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Of course. There’s no benefit in association with someone who views your entire gender with contempt. 🤷‍♀️
/r/PurplePillDebate30/06/22 11:05 PM
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I would agree that there are even fewer outliers where the woman is older by more than a couple of years.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/06/22 10:19 PM
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Young women perhaps but generally not women over those ages.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/06/22 08:21 PM
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Nope. Some outliers may but in general 5-7 years older is probably a pretty hard upper limit.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/06/22 08:20 PM
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This. I find that I can admire a young studmuffin the same way I would admire a painting or a statue or in some cases a particularly cute puppy. None of that means that I am attracted to the youngster, just that I can recognize beauty in all sort of things.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/06/22 08:19 PM
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Well adjusted adult.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/06/22 06:15 PM
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You do realize that overweight and obesity rates are pretty much identical across genders, right?
/r/PurplePillDebate30/06/22 09:51 AM
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I’m pretty sure you mean neurotic not necrotic (I’m I wrong, you should probably see a Dr…).🤣🤣🤣
/r/PurplePillDebate30/06/22 01:17 AM
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So...you're saying it's the female version of "post-nut-clarity" that you all use to justify pumping and dumping? Guess it just takes us longer to get there sometimes🤣 Maybe, just maybe, this is a convoluted way to say "she got to know me better and dumped me and I'm big mad so...she must be a flawed person otherwise we would be happy together".
/r/PurplePillDebate29/06/22 05:06 PM
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Feel free to google. The OP's question is re/ whether bias is biological or cultural, not a race to the bottom of the gender misery pool.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/06/22 04:46 PM
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Once the wage gap is closed, this makes more sense as presented. That said, I see no reason why the man should be expected to pay as dating is an individual pursuit and the gender wage gap is a societal issue. If the gentleman has a strong preference, I will allow him to pay for the first date (I offer to split of course). For subsequent dates, I prefer alternating as it's less awkward than splitting. However, if I know that there will not be a second date because I am just not interested (unles…
/r/PurplePillDebate29/06/22 04:44 PM
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Women are 75% of victims of revenge porn. Marital rape is still essentially legal in 12 states. Nearly one in seven homicides worldwide involve killing of an intimate partner, and men are four times more likely to be the perpetrators of these offenses. Yes, actually it does...
/r/PurplePillDebate29/06/22 04:21 PM
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No. I am positing that any perceived "pro-female bias" that OP see in the west is culturally motivated, not biologically motivated. Also please note that while the treatment of women and girls in some non-western cultures is especially egregious, most of the above also occur in the west.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/06/22 01:18 PM
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Men commit 8o% of homicides.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/06/22 03:21 AM
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Whenever we see this argument it posits that women should be held to the same standards as men. What would happen if men were held to the same standards as women instead ?🤔
/r/PurplePillDebate29/06/22 03:18 AM
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Can’t say I’ve ever rejected a man because of his voice. It’s more the words, not the timbre.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/06/22 03:12 AM
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Women and girls are 71% of human trafficking victims. Women are 75% of victims of revenge porn. It is completely legal to beat wives in 15 countries. More than 5,000 women and girls are murdered in “honor killings” every year, most of which are deemed to be justified by local courts. Marital rape is still essentially legal in 12 states. https://www.governing.com/archive/gov-marital-rape-states-ohio-minnesota.html Nearly one in seven homicides worldwide involve killing of an intimate partner, and…
/r/PurplePillDebate29/06/22 03:09 AM
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Definitely cultural. The atrocities routinely committed against women globally prove that out.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/06/22 02:21 AM
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I can be attracted to and interested in a man…and then he opens his mouth…POOF! Attraction gone, Interest negative. It’s not because I have endless options, it’s because I gained a useful piece of information that informed me that he was a turdblossom disguised as a prospect.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/06/22 01:57 AM
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I'd rather be moderately attractive rich woman. I have no desire for the kind of attention an EXTREMELY attractive rich woman would get and while one can hide wealth, show stopping looks are more difficult to mask. Edit: Also zero desire to be a man, rich or poor.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/06/22 10:32 PM
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Dang, that stupid “fair and balanced” instinct gets me every time 🤦‍♀️
/r/PurplePillDebate28/06/22 09:39 PM
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Why would you assume that they did?
/r/PurplePillDebate28/06/22 08:13 PM
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How is it "negative" to women to say that we are better at asking for and accepting help and that one effect of that is that we are more likely to survive?
/r/PurplePillDebate28/06/22 08:12 PM
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Men's physique is just like anything else. It starts as pass / fail. If it's a fail, that's it, zero chance. If it's a pass, it becomes a maybe and other qualities are considered (face, personality, sense of humor, adulting ability, ambition, drive, love of dogs, ability to make good tacos - whatever that woman's preferences include). It is all weighed and balanced. Then we bring out the abacus and ledger and, by a combination of calculus and chemistry, come to a decision. FYI, that's also why t…
/r/PurplePillDebate28/06/22 08:09 PM
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It has been repeatedly pointed out here and elsewhere that far more women than men are on anti-depressants. This is often used as a way to disparage women as being disproportionately afflicted with mental illness. The counterpoint to that is that men are 3.7x more likely to commit suicide and almost twice as likely to abuse drugs or alcohol (often used as a method of self-medication). With the caveat that I have zero medical education or experience, can we not draw the likely conclusion that dep…
/r/PurplePillDebate28/06/22 07:18 PM
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I take climate change VERY seriously. Some men not getting as much casual NSA sex as they want? Not so much. The theory that compelling virginity /celibacy followed by monogamy until death is the only way to maybe avoid the collapse of civilization? Horse pucky.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/06/22 04:48 PM
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According to data, humans have been around for about 6 million year, anatomically modern humans have been around for between 2-300,000 years. The first recorded marriage was in about 2,350 BC. so about 4,372 years ago... That seems to indicate that for the vase majority of human existence, marriage / pre-marital / post-marital considerations didn't exist. Take a deep breath folks, civilizations come and go but we're probably not doomed as a species because OF exists or incels get big mad.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/06/22 02:46 PM
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Love is love. Do what (who) makes you happy.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/06/22 01:13 AM
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Nut allergies are common 🤣🤣🤣
/r/PurplePillDebate27/06/22 12:33 AM
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How about we just leave you AND your nuts alone, hmmm?
/r/PurplePillDebate27/06/22 12:24 AM
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Did you even look at the list? Seriously? Please point out a single tax credit that backs up your theory. I am a woman and a business owner and have not benefited from a single targeted incentive. Ever. Do your homework before you make sweeping assumptions.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/06/22 01:22 AM
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Here’s a comprehensive list of all of those incredible “tax credits”🙄 https://www.abovethecanopy.us/woman-owned-business-tax-benefits/ Really life changing…/s
/r/PurplePillDebate23/06/22 01:06 AM
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Ummm, banana peel…duh🙄
/r/PurplePillDebate20/06/22 03:11 AM
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If we’re going to be allowed to call out everything posted here that’s objectively dumb, I’m gonna be busy…brb, I think I’m going to need snacks -this could take a while🤷‍♀️
/r/PurplePillDebate16/06/22 04:35 PM
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Nope. Have a makeup free selfie in my profile.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/06/22 06:20 PM
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I’m dating to find a LAT LTR. Not interested in casual or in cohabitation/remarrying, just that sweet spot in the middle. IMO, the majority of 50ish guys have truly terrible pictures which makes it a little hard to tell what they actually look like (although I’m becoming an expert on the inside of mens noses…). In general middle aged men look…middle aged. Some are fit, most are not. Some are quite handsome, most are not. I guess it’s all relative. The baggage varies. Some have young kids, some a…
/r/PurplePillDebate12/06/22 06:09 PM
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Golly, it’s a good thing that men never complain about women using creative angles in their pictures to hide things. After all, maybe they just think they look better from above and contorted into a pretzel 🤷‍♀️
/r/PurplePillDebate12/06/22 05:42 PM
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I couldn’t care less. The issue is the hiding.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/06/22 04:27 PM
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Geezerfishing is when the pictures depict a 50 something, reasonably attractive man and what shows up is a paunchy, balding relic in yellow pants who may or may not have been the man in the pictures 30+ years ago…
/r/PurplePillDebate12/06/22 04:26 PM
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Super common…
/r/PurplePillDebate12/06/22 04:23 PM
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Ummm, that’s why I said that I’m sure it looks similar from the other side…🤷‍♀️
/r/PurplePillDebate12/06/22 04:23 PM
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Bald men who wear a hat in every single picture.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/06/22 02:53 PM
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As a woman in that dating market, I have found that the odds are good but the goods are odd… On OLD, hatfishing, heightfishing, and geezerfishing are the norm. “Athletic” is the new “Morbidly obese but played football in junior high”. Etc.etc. I’m sure it looks similar from the other side as well. That said, there are some wonderful people who are sincere and respectful. It’s just a matter of whether or not their baggage matches your baggage 🤷‍♀️.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/06/22 02:34 PM
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I have mistakenly ended up in relationships with several men who apparently did need to be needed and got very cranky when I didn’t actually need them. It always confuses me. Why would anyone prefer to be with someone who needs you as opposed to someone who chooses to be with you because they want to?
/r/PurplePillDebate10/06/22 11:24 PM
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Generic or genetic ?🤣🤣🤣
/r/PurplePillDebate10/06/22 11:20 PM
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Well that’s just silliness and presumably juvenile male ego. A woman may choose to renew an association at a later date but the idea that somehow a man’s magical peepee creates an obligation or “claim” is just absurd. And FYI, there is no one from my past with whom I would choose to renew the association. Exes are exes for a reason.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/06/22 11:06 PM
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He’s baaaaaaaack…😆
/r/PurplePillDebate10/06/22 01:31 AM
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So how many “bodies” do you have?🤔
/r/PurplePillDebate10/06/22 12:44 AM
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Couldn't he just pee on her slippers? /s
/r/PurplePillDebate09/06/22 03:58 PM
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So…a sullen, juvenile blank stare is more effective than a conversation in maintaining the health of an adult relationship? Wow…just wow. 🤦‍♀️
/r/PurplePillDebate09/06/22 02:10 PM
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Then perhaps your frustration should be directed into self improvement 🤷‍♀️
/r/PurplePillDebate08/06/22 12:13 AM
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Yes, but a bit of introspection is in order. Why would they want to? Cui Bono?
/r/PurplePillDebate07/06/22 11:49 PM
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OK, <opens mind>: What do you feel that the genuine / valid "problems of modern dating" are? Please specify whether you are talking about actual dating / relationships or the pursuit of casual sex. What do you feel are the actual "solutions of modern dating's problems"? Again please specify whether these solutions are for actual dating / relationships of the pursuit of casual sex. If you can answer those questions clearly and concisely and offer rational and actionable solutions, perhaps it will…
/r/PurplePillDebate07/06/22 08:45 PM
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Realistically, if you aren’t regularly finding success with those that you choose, your standards are not aligned with your appeal… That doesn’t mean that you need to change your standards, just that you may not be successful in attracting anyone who meets them. Based on post history, your weight may not be your primary impediment…
/r/PurplePillDebate06/06/22 06:04 PM
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So you wouldn’t want to be with a woman who used to be fat and unkempt and then lost weight, got in amazing shape and was now beautiful? I mean, she’s the same person right? And yes, you should weigh people based on the totality of their appeal and accomplishments. That’s part of being an adult.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/06/22 11:24 PM
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I know if I DON’T want to within a few minutes. Everyone else is a maybe until I know them pretty well. That can take weeks or more.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/05/22 03:16 AM
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Exactly but it’s not just women, IME men don’t really get it either.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/05/22 02:31 AM
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I don’t text back during work hours. Ever. I explain this before hand. If folks can’t handle that boundary, I consider it a bullet dodged for both of us🤷‍♀️.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/05/22 02:00 AM
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Funny how all of those men are very different types…almost as if…not only do all women NOT like the same type, but individual women don’t necessarily have a specific type! Oh dear, their little RP heads would explode if it wasn’t for the fact that they will discount everything that differs from the approved awalt narrative…🤣
/r/PurplePillDebate30/05/22 12:13 AM
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Oh also Neegan (not sure what his real name is).
/r/PurplePillDebate29/05/22 09:06 PM
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Mayhem Robert Redford/Paul Newman (The Sting era) Tom Selleck (Friends era, not Magnum PI era) Tom Hardy
/r/PurplePillDebate29/05/22 06:40 PM
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Everyone is replaceable. Everyone. It might hurt a lot, it might be really hard to move on, but there’s no “one true love”, there are many possible loves of many different kinds. There are seasons of love, the intensity of “first love”, the hard work of marital love, the comfort and ease of mature love and a thousand shades in between. Being “attracted” to a person is just one small piece of any of those. It ebbs and flows throughout life and life’s challenges and joys. Also, FFS, pedestals are …
/r/PurplePillDebate28/05/22 08:29 PM
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“Masking” is a specific trait of sociopaths. Pretty textbook. If these guy are doing this and still struggling they just aren’t very good sociopaths.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/05/22 01:03 AM
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Or those who do this could just accept that they are sociopaths and seek help 🤷‍♀️
/r/PurplePillDebate28/05/22 12:42 AM
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In general on this sub, the men are asking for advice on how to get laid as easily and with as little effort or potential consequences as possible, the women are providing advice on how to obtain and maintain an actual relationship (which would presumably include sex once established). Both call their version “dating”.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/05/22 12:05 AM
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Ewwwwwww
/r/PurplePillDebate25/05/22 02:22 AM
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“swimming in pussy”? Clearly you don’t understand what it means not to lead with your penis 🙄
/r/PurplePillDebate24/05/22 01:34 AM
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Be a decent human being with good hygiene and a good work ethic. Learn to view women as actual human beings. Don’t lead with your penis.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/05/22 12:59 AM
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I think that part of the problem is that those signs of interest are usually signs of just that, interest, not intent or a green light to guaranteed fuckery. Interest can mean mild curiosity, openness to a conversation/introduction, appreciation without intention, etc. Unfortunately, there is a not-insignificant % of men who assume that “interest”, in and of itself, means DTF. It doesn’t. It should also be noted that simply not scowling and growling can be interpreted by some as a sign of intere…
/r/PurplePillDebate23/05/22 12:33 PM
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Nah, we just hate it when y’all have fun at all🤣 /s
/r/PurplePillDebate18/05/22 02:28 PM
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Clearly we are talking at cross purposes here. I’m not certain what your objection is or what point you are intent on proving but I think we are going in circles here and would be best served by cordially agreeing to disagree.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/05/22 05:44 AM
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That may well be true. Mens profiles in general (at least in my geriatric demographic) are really bad. Certainly many are not showing themselves off to advantage. I can’t speak to the younger folks.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/05/22 05:39 AM
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I don’t swipe on the super-studs. If they reach out to me with an interesting message I will engage. I don’t understand why you seem to be so intent on getting a “gotcha” here. There really isn’t on to be had. Again, in my experience, the super good looking ones tend to be “players” (because they can?) not all, but many. I do not pursue them because that’s not what I’m looking for. If they pursue me, I will engage and if we are aligned in our interests and intentions I would certainly entertain …
/r/PurplePillDebate18/05/22 05:35 AM
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Fair enough. I will date down in looks, as long as they meet the minimum threshold, before I compromise on other characteristics that I consider to be more important to a successful relationship. I guess that counts as dating “even” or potentially “up”, just by different metrics.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/05/22 05:26 AM
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I guess they could and if they do reach out I entertain the conversation but thus far it hasn’t really resulted in a good fit🤷‍♀️
/r/PurplePillDebate18/05/22 05:22 AM
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Again, I don’t date for casual sex etc. (not shaming those who do, just not my thing) so my priorities may be different.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/05/22 05:19 AM
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IRL, probably about 40%. On OLD it’s definitely lower because their pictures are truly terrible so it’s impossible to tell. Seriously, if you haven’t made a fake woman’s profile, you really need to do it so that you see what we are dealing with.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/05/22 05:12 AM
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They’ll learn…
/r/PurplePillDebate18/05/22 05:08 AM
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But…do you really expect a woman (or man in the reverse) to entertain a relationship with someone who they can’t imagine kissing without getting grossed out? I don’t think that really counts as a shallow threshold.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/05/22 04:49 AM
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If a woman can’t imagine being with you physically without being grossed out, your character is a nonissue. If she can, then character is the next hurdle.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/05/22 03:56 AM
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How would you possibly know what my standards are?
/r/PurplePillDebate18/05/22 03:28 AM
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Lol. No. I’m actually a bit conservative sexually. I was married early and for many years.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/05/22 03:15 AM
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Lol. Exactly. I’m considered attractive (as an old lady) and skip right over the super hot men on OLD🤣
/r/PurplePillDebate18/05/22 02:55 AM
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Here’s the thing, as a woman, when looking for a partner (I don’t do casual sex/FWB/ons) there is definitely a baseline threshold for physical attraction that needs to be met. It’s not crazy high, but I need to be able to look at a man and imagine kissing him without any Ick. Once that threshold is met, other characteristics become determinative (personality, integrity, intelligence, ambition, basic temperament etc.). So yes, looks matter but…
/r/PurplePillDebate18/05/22 02:27 AM
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That’s what the dog is for!
/r/PurplePillDebate17/05/22 02:13 AM
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I choose a dog and a hitachi. Problem solved.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/05/22 02:07 AM
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People are attracted to what they’re attracted to. 🤷‍♀️ The caveat is that when you have a fairly narrow focus, you aren’t entitled to bitch and whine about your lack of success or complain that the women that you want, don’t want you. That’s all. Other than that, go for it and best wishes in your search.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/05/22 02:01 AM
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I’m a woman and I actually do all of those things 🤷‍♀️
/r/PurplePillDebate16/05/22 01:36 AM
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Lol. I split and stack 6 cords a year.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/05/22 01:35 AM
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You are mistaken. Perhaps it’s your subconscious that wishes it was true 🤷‍♀️
/r/PurplePillDebate15/05/22 07:10 PM
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No. We do not.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/05/22 07:08 PM
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That could work if the parties agreed to live at the standard that the lower earner could comfortably contribute 50% towards. In general this obsession with who makes more $ is not really a positive for developing a true partnership and it seems like some folks are looking for ways to weaponize a disparity in their favor and to the detriment of the person they supposedly love…why not just stay single and keep every shiny penny for yourself?
/r/PurplePillDebate15/05/22 06:50 PM
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Initially no, eventually yes, of course.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/05/22 01:26 AM
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And you wonder why you struggle with women? That’s despicable.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/05/22 01:01 AM
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So…they will be grateful for the charity f*ck? Ick. I went to college with a guy who exclusively hit on “below average” girls. He justified his predation by saying that they should be grateful. He was an asshole and he hurt a lot of wonderful women who believed his bs. I really hope that karma eventually caught up with him. I’ve seen Uber attractive women behave similarly. Don’t be that guy or girl. People (both men and women) deserve to be treated with respect, honesty and integrity. There is a…
/r/PurplePillDebate13/05/22 10:56 PM
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Apparently women prefer less “alpha” men during a recession. https://www.nbcnews.com/id/wbna47109664
/r/PurplePillDebate12/05/22 02:13 AM
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According to post history he’s 32, 5’8”, 185 lbs, balding, works in retail and may or may not be a hypochondriac…
/r/PurplePillDebate11/05/22 10:00 PM
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Ok, for the sake of argument, let’s say that you are a true 10, the mythical Chad come down from beautiful people heaven to grace mere mortals with your supreme studliness. You come across Mama June and decide to be benevolent and offer to give her the gift of your magnificent dick. She declines (for any reason or no reason at all$. THAT IS HER ABSOLUTE RIGHT AND YOU OH GOD-LIKE CHAD ARE NOT ENTITLED (MUCH LESS FORCED TO “BRING HER BACK DOWN TO EARTH”. FULL STOP. There are no exceptions. Ever.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/05/22 09:44 PM
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Question is are they too stupid to know that a) a ruptured ectopic pregnancy is likely to be fatal for the woman AND b) ectopic pregnancy doesn’t result in a live birth -ever, OR are they just purposely trying to kill women?
/r/PurplePillDebate10/05/22 12:43 AM
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That is an obsession for men, by men. Outside of the preferences of similarly ripped gym bunnies, we generally don’t care and actually prefer a much more natural fit and healthy looking body. The veiny bulgy thing is a guy thing.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/05/22 11:47 PM
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I understand that. My point was that OP was trying to use your trad marriage to say that his plan (woman with a full time job moves in and basically does all domestic chores and has sex with him as her “rent” for room and board in a non-exclusive/non-committed arrangement) is the way things are supposed to be.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/05/22 08:47 PM
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What are you actively doing to find a potential partner and what are the qualities that you are looking for?
/r/PurplePillDebate08/05/22 08:35 PM
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But would you do that in an uncommitted relationship with no possibility of marriage?
/r/PurplePillDebate08/05/22 08:23 PM
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Does she work?
/r/PurplePillDebate08/05/22 03:11 PM
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He said that he stays home. I believe she works, just at a low income job.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/05/22 03:11 PM
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If you want to have a happy relationship, you will be a partner. Leveraging your income to gain an advantage over the other person within the relationship is toxic and manipulative behavior and a recipe for resentment. Want a deadbedroom? That’s a pretty good way to get there…
/r/PurplePillDebate08/05/22 01:42 PM
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Are you her partner or her employer?
/r/PurplePillDebate08/05/22 01:22 PM
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Yes.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/05/22 12:53 PM
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So following that logic, birth control the prevents implantation of a fertilized egg (the pill, IUDs etc) are the same as abortion? Should funerals be held and death certificates be created for eggs that fail to implant (50% of fertilized eggs are lost before a women misses a period). Of the 50% that actually implant, about 20% end in miscarriage. So do you think that 60% of human life naturally ends before birth? If so, that’s probably the battle to fight since it dwarfs abortion (18.4% of 50% …
/r/PurplePillDebate07/05/22 01:19 AM
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I don't know why this is so difficult to understand: Far more men are interested in NSA casual sex than women (in every age group), therefore the segment of women who DO want that will have the pick of the litter and those who are not that "pick" will not have a lot of success. That does not change with age and NEWSFLASH - everyone's physical appeal changes over time, not just women's. There is no magical age where dozens of horny crones chase after "wealthy , experienced" paunchy, bald, liver s…
/r/PurplePillDebate05/05/22 03:48 PM
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Because once you sort through it, it seems that the main "problem" is the "suffering" of a bunch of young men who are mad that they don't have easy access to hot and cold running NSA casual sex.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/05/22 03:00 PM
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Are you seriously comparing not have easy access to NSA casual sex with genocide? Please tell me I am misunderstanding…
/r/PurplePillDebate05/05/22 10:52 AM
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FYI: 51,869 people died of colorectal cancer (23,826 females and 28,043 males). 42,275 females died of breast cancer.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/05/22 03:08 AM
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So many tempests, so few teacups…seriously, outside of Reddit et al, the world is turning, people are dating, marrying, having children etc. Is everything perfect? No, of course not and it never was. Different times, different challenges. Of course relationship timelines have changed. People live longer, fertility science progresses, women are getting higher education and entering the workplace in higher numbers. So instead of getting married at 25, people are getting married at 27. Some are coh…
/r/PurplePillDebate05/05/22 03:00 AM
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I’m guessing that some men will kill rather than get caught. They might not have gotten caught if abortion was easily accessible, but a baby pretty much guarantees it.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/05/22 01:56 AM
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Wonder how many pregnant mistresses will be “disappeared” by their married / prominent lovers…
/r/PurplePillDebate05/05/22 01:39 AM
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Nicely done👏👏👏🤣
/r/PurplePillDebate04/05/22 02:04 AM
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Lol. Ok, if you read it, explain why my username is amusing (and yes, yes it is).
/r/PurplePillDebate04/05/22 01:38 AM
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Oh FFS, turn off the video games and read an actual book like maybe “The Picture of Dorian Gray” by Oscar Wilde🙄
/r/PurplePillDebate04/05/22 01:30 AM
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Excuse #5,762 for why women aren’t interested in casual sex with someone … Most folks might tend to examine their own contribution as the common denominator in repeated unsuccessful interactions, just as most folks who smell dog crap everywhere they go eventually check their own shoes… But no! Once again, it must be the fault of ALL women, whether individually or in groups or as a gender overall. On behalf of women everywhere, we are collectively sorry that you feel that way and suggest that you…
/r/PurplePillDebate03/05/22 11:35 PM
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Smaller town.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/05/22 08:53 PM
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Hell, I’m old AF according to PPD and it entirely depends on my attitude. If I’m unguarded and friendly (NOT flirtatious, just normal, casual friendly) it happens a fair amount. If I’m sporting RBF and avoiding eye contact and casual conversation, almost never.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/05/22 05:55 PM
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Be kind, especially when you really don’t want to be. Think about what you say before you say it and if you’re not going to mean it tomorrow, or next week, or next year, don’t say it. Actively and intentionally try to do something that will improve your partner’s day, every day even if it’s something very small. When there is conflict, resolve it and move on. Don’t revisit it or sulk about it or punish one another once both parties agree that it’s done. Make your partner feel desirable and desir…
/r/PurplePillDebate01/05/22 12:07 AM
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Copying my comment from this exact post 18 hours ago…🙄 Oh FFS, yet another expose on "the pathetic lives of older women" by an young romantically challenged man-child. Y'all have zero idea what you are spouting off about. It would be funnier if it wasn't also a little sad. Perhaps you would be better served by trying to figure out women your own age than by getting all giddy trying to imagine the TRP promised "post wall gotcha" that's going to magically grant you cosmic payback for whatever wron…
/r/PurplePillDebate30/04/22 02:56 PM
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The thing is that women can (and usually do) find a man attractive but have zero interest in having sex with him based on that alone.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/04/22 01:33 AM
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News flash: when women are apathetic it’s because they are not really into the guy. It’s possible that she may warm up to him in a “slow burn” way, but unlikely. In other words, if she wanted to, she would.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/04/22 12:09 AM
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Oh FFS, yet another expose on "the pathetic lives of older women" by an young romantically challenged man-child. Y'all have zero idea what you are spouting off about. It would be funnier if it wasn't also a little sad. Perhaps you would be better served by trying to figure out women your own age than by getting all giddy trying to imagine the TRP promised "post wall gotcha" that's going to magically grant you cosmic payback for whatever wrongs you feel have been done to you thus far your dating …
/r/PurplePillDebate29/04/22 08:42 PM
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Very true but I have a feeling OP is a chubster. 🤣
/r/PurplePillDebate28/04/22 04:55 AM
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Fair enough. I freely admit that my perspective is skewed as a (much) older (female) business owner. The $63,214 number is the average for 12 months of full time employment and from my perspective seems incredibly low but I do understand that younger folks earn less especially when starting out. I do think that, to be considered a viable relationship prospect, an adult (assuming not caring for small children) needs to be working full time and advancing in their chosen career path to the best of …
/r/PurplePillDebate28/04/22 04:37 AM
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https://www.zippia.com/advice/average-american-income/
/r/PurplePillDebate27/04/22 04:34 PM
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A "successful" PUA type who has multiple ONS is not likely to be a good model for someone who is seeking an actual functional adult relationship (and vice versa).
/r/PurplePillDebate27/04/22 02:00 PM
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The funny thing is that listening to dating advice from men who are also struggling to find and maintain a fulfilling relationship seems to be a regular occurrence here…pretty sure that’s a worse idea. If you want advice, listen to people who you personally know who actually have and keep happy, successful relationships (aka not the manosphere, red/black pill communities, TikTok, PUA coaches etc). That can be a parent, sibling, family friend, teacher etc. what matters is they actually have the k…
/r/PurplePillDebate27/04/22 11:27 AM
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Exactly!
/r/PurplePillDebate26/04/22 01:23 PM
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The problem is that 99/100 it’s a musty smelling bridge troll standing way too close in the produce section making creepy comments about zucchini…
/r/PurplePillDebate26/04/22 12:37 PM
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He claims to be a 7-9🤣🤣🤣
/r/PurplePillDebate26/04/22 10:32 AM
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Average personal income is$63,214. Median personal income is $44,225. https://www.zippia.com/advice/average-american-income/
/r/PurplePillDebate26/04/22 09:37 AM
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I distinctly remember you claiming to be a 7+ and whining that you couldn’t get a woman who’s your “looks-match” but…post history says you are 32, 5’8” and weigh 185 lbs which makes your bmi over 28 which is solidly in overweight territory. Nothing wrong with that, but both metrics put you below average, not a 7+. That would seem to indicate that you are actually punching up…
/r/PurplePillDebate26/04/22 02:50 AM
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Average bmi is almost identical for women and men across all age groups. 26.6 for men, 26.5 for women.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/04/22 02:33 AM
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Men who are below average (I.e/ below 5’9”, bmi over 26.6, income below $63,214 - and yes, those are the US averages) are going to struggle especially if they are targeting above average women (above 5’4”, below 176 lbs, bmi less than 26.5, income-y’all don’t care about income right?). The reverse is also true. 🤷‍♀️ It doesn’t matter where you try to meet people if you’re trying to punch up. It’s going to be very difficult.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/04/22 12:42 AM
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Unless Cheetos dust and video game points become fungible commodities, I think the world is safe from the revenge of the nerds…
/r/PurplePillDebate23/04/22 03:12 AM
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Understood. I was afraid you were going to go all “apocalyptic women are chattel to the incel uprising”…🤣.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/04/22 03:01 AM
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So what’s the solution that isn’t being disputed?
/r/PurplePillDebate23/04/22 02:56 AM
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So you’re saying there’s a secret cabal of women yearning to motorboat their guy?🤣🤣🤣
/r/PurplePillDebate23/04/22 12:58 AM
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I truly hope you mean yoke, not yolk🤣🤣🤣
/r/PurplePillDebate23/04/22 12:56 AM
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Ummm, I don’t think you realize that different women have different opinions and values. The women celebrating an NBA hooker party are not likely to be the same woman who object to men seeing sexworkers… Contrary to some of the silliness here, we are individuals. 🙄
/r/PurplePillDebate23/04/22 12:30 AM
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Oxytocin is also produced by petting a dog and by eating so I’m pretty sure paying for OF is a choice…
/r/PurplePillDebate22/04/22 02:37 AM
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And it’s somehow women’s fault that thirsty men are willing to pay? 🤣
/r/PurplePillDebate22/04/22 02:14 AM
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So what are these ladies requesting that you are fulfilling (specifically) and what are they refusing when you request it (specifically)? Vague whining and non-specific “poor persecuted me” comments do not support your contention.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/04/22 12:04 AM
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What is it, specifically, that you are providing and what is it, specifically, that you think that you should be receiving in return?
/r/PurplePillDebate21/04/22 11:24 PM
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Have you read the fable of the fox and the grapes? That.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/04/22 02:01 PM
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So…women overestimate men’s complexity and depth of character and men underestimate women’s complexity and depth of character…sounds about right 🤷‍♀️
/r/PurplePillDebate19/04/22 11:56 PM
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1 3 4 5 2
/r/PurplePillDebate19/04/22 08:37 PM
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u/flamingcoochies ? Is that you? No mention of cuck culture but I’m pretty sure…
/r/PurplePillDebate19/04/22 03:57 AM
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So if a mother is widowed, you are morally and ethically opposed? Interesting line to draw…
/r/PurplePillDebate18/04/22 02:57 AM
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That’s what I do🤷‍♀️. If interested I offer, if definitely not interested, I insist.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/04/22 10:49 PM
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There is a difference between losing a job through no fault of your own and behaving as if your new job is to get a job and either losing a job through laziness or poor behavior and / or sitting around playing video games and failing to aggressively seek a new job.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/04/22 08:40 PM
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Ummm, people go out on dates to determine whether they are interested in pursuing something further with each other or not... Sometimes the answer is yes, sometimes it is no, sometimes the answer is maybe and you need to spend more time together to figure it out. Would you prefer that women reject invitations for dates from any man with whom she is not 100% certain she will have sex with (on his time table)?
/r/PurplePillDebate13/04/22 08:36 PM
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Why do wives go after the mistress instead of the cheating husband? People don't always react rationally when they are hurt and angry...
/r/PurplePillDebate12/04/22 09:16 PM
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People, (men and women) often make mistakes when they are young and immature. I genuinely don’t understand the bitterness when one is a measured, mature choice instead of an impulsive mistake. People learn what they really want and what is really important to them by making mistakes and learning from them. Wanting to be that mistake is short sighted no matter what gender you are. Why would you prefer to be the problem rather than the solution?
/r/PurplePillDebate11/04/22 03:30 AM
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NEVER been a conversation or consideration.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/04/22 01:13 AM
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No one (man or woman) is entitled to sex. No one (man or woman) is entitled to a relationship. It would seem that a lot more men than women *want* casual sex, so the roots of an imbalance are there even before one considers peoples individual standards / preferences. The fact that most seem likely to select for casual partners based on primarily looks (because not much else matters in that scenario), the imbalance is exacerbated. People are (generally) waiting longer than in the past to look for…
/r/PurplePillDebate07/04/22 06:18 PM
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Wow, you really have zero idea about how women's bodies work, huh?
/r/PurplePillDebate07/04/22 04:26 PM
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Here’s the key, anyone can have any standards they want. What they cannot do (men or women) is complain and blame those who meet their standards for not choosing them as well. That seems to be where the problems occur.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/04/22 03:00 PM
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People (men and women) have the right not to be abused or harassed for refusing someone else's desire to have sex with them. No person's failure to achieve casual sex is never equivalent to the violation of another person's physical safety. That is no where near an equivalent concern. I'm certain that constant rejection / failure in any context is demoralizing to anyone. If that occurs, it is incumbent upon the one failing / being rejected to change their own circumstances. Whether that means ch…
/r/PurplePillDebate06/04/22 08:28 PM
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"It's possible that the man, if he is repulsive, would be better served by being told why he is repulsive so he can change that and be more successful propositioning another woman later." You cannot seriously think that this would go well for any woman? Who is more likely to NOT react badly? A man who has a face-saving excuse for failure or a man who feels (rightly or wrongly) insulted which exacerbates his failure? How many actual men do you think would receive that message and say "Why thank y…
/r/PurplePillDebate06/04/22 07:43 PM
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So, to follow your train of thought here (and I desperately hope I am misunderstanding your point): The man's goal is to have sex with a woman who doesn't want to have sex with him. The woman's goal is to avoid having sex that she does not want to have, with a man with whom she does not want to have sex, and to do so in a way that minimizes the danger to her. So...We should be concerned about the man's goal here? We should consider that verbally abusing the woman or not taking "no" for an answer…
/r/PurplePillDebate06/04/22 06:31 PM
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That is awesome!
/r/PurplePillDebate06/04/22 06:07 PM
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Hentai is the most popular porn search term so why aren't people dressing up as cartoon characters then?
/r/PurplePillDebate06/04/22 05:08 PM
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But if your just "bored" why choose degradation and slapping over say...birthday hats, cupcakes and balloon animals or furry underpants and yodeling? (actually there are probably people into all of those things too, so what do I know?)
/r/PurplePillDebate06/04/22 04:39 PM
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Those people who go out in February and break the ice to jump into a lake for funzies.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/04/22 04:23 PM
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No clue but once you figure it out, please also explain furries, poop fetishes, those "Polar Bear Plunge" people and anyone who likes runny eggs. The world is full of mysteries beyond my comprehension...as long as it's consenting adults🤷‍♀️.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/04/22 04:04 PM
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Warren Jeffs et al...
/r/PurplePillDebate04/04/22 04:43 PM
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Your therapist needs to understand the magnitude of those “symptoms” in order to help you address the causes as well as helping you moderate self damaging thought and behavior patterns. Show your post history (including and posts and comments that you’ve deleted) and let your therapist decide how important that information is. You are in a dangerous spiral here.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/04/22 12:16 PM
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I’ve learned the talking points, vocabulary and behavioral cues that allow me to quickly cease all contact with RP adherents. Win / win👍
/r/PurplePillDebate29/03/22 12:40 AM
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The whole RP universe massively overestimates the % of women who are interested in "stranger" sex. Statistics show that of the 36% of women who have had a ONS (that does not mean that 36% regularly do, just that they have had at least one), only 17% of those actually enjoyed it. The difference you are referring to is that instead of being societally and financially compelled to choose "between men", women are able to choose between being with a man at all or not.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/03/22 03:44 PM
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I think you are confusing possible interest with sex. Women, in general, have to be able to imagine that we could possibly have sex with a man before investing too much time. That is a threshold level of physical interest. It does NOT mean that she has decided to have sex with him, it just means that she is not UN-attracted to his physical appearance. If she is UN-attracted to him, she will not pursue, regardless of anything else. That is not negotiable and "investment" on either part would be a…
/r/PurplePillDebate28/03/22 03:04 PM
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You can repeat it as often as you want but your invented “cuck culture” just isn’t going to catch on🤣🤣🤣
/r/PurplePillDebate27/03/22 11:26 PM
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Your double negative is changing the question to be “ Why do most people think that people spreading red pill rhetoric are corrupt state actors”…. And the answer to your question as asked is that most people don’t think that because it’s silly.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/03/22 02:45 AM
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And seriously, how many women have sex with that many men at the same time in the first place? Not that it doesn’t happen, but it’s definitely the exception, not the rule. The whole thing feels like a boys version of what he’s want to do if he was a hot girl with a soupçon of bitter misogynistic betrayal. 🤣
/r/PurplePillDebate26/03/22 02:09 AM
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This sounds like an angry sexless adolescent’s fantasy of how “hot girls” live. There are a tiny minority of girls who may behave this way, but if it’s more than 1%, I’ll eat my chapeau. Seriously, get over the fantasy world of women’s sexuality that seems to be envisaged by celibate boys. That said, if I take you tall tale at face value, they gave it a fair, monogamous try (3 months) and were sexually incompatible. Breaking up was the right choice. 🤷‍♀️
/r/PurplePillDebate26/03/22 01:34 AM
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Guys get annoyed or mad when they find out a woman they've been seeing is choosing to not have sex with them (despite different past behavior) because it implies the guy is not attractive enough to make her really want to sleep with him. So...he gets mad at her because he doesn't feel attractive? Regardless, there is not reason for getting annoyed or mad. Just like any fundamental mismatch in expectation, the parties (assuming they are adults) should be able to cordially and politely move on to …
/r/PurplePillDebate25/03/22 05:54 PM
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Women generally reject the men they don’t desire.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/03/22 01:57 AM
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Fewer women are choosing to marry every day. And yes, yes they are. Do you consider yourself a HVM? If so, why?
/r/PurplePillDebate25/03/22 01:24 AM
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I think most men, excluding the manosphere misery squad, are happy with what most women offer. Go outside! There’s a big beautiful world full of people who love and find joy every day.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/03/22 12:40 AM
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I’m just gonna leave this here…🤣🤣🤣 https://www.reddit.com/r/ImpregPersonals/comments/t5976i/florida_be_a_new_mommy_and_carry_new_babies_come/?utm_source=share&utm_medium=ios_app&utm_name=iossmf
/r/PurplePillDebate25/03/22 12:36 AM
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No man who would ask that of a woman is a HVM in the first place.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/03/22 12:04 AM
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I would imagine that the specific alchemy depends on the individual man
/r/PurplePillDebate24/03/22 11:47 PM
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I guess I would wonder why it’s any of your business unless you’re the HVM in question 🤷‍♀️
/r/PurplePillDebate24/03/22 11:15 PM
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I thought that was RMV?
/r/PurplePillDebate24/03/22 02:20 AM
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Access to sex with women is not the same as a right to food, healthcare and fair pay with safe working conditions… Are you advocating for a “Pussy Stamp” program?
/r/PurplePillDebate23/03/22 11:43 PM
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Effectively they are though. There’s no objective panel doling out ratings so if casual sex is the metric for SMV, then…
/r/PurplePillDebate23/03/22 11:18 PM
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If her SMV is a 1, how does her “delusion” matter to anyone else? Why do you care? If men would stop fucking anything that moves, and stick to their “SMV equals”, this wouldn’t be an issue would it? 🤷‍♀️ Who, exactly, is the 5 “who climbed a mountain” valuable to? Besides himself for a few minutes…
/r/PurplePillDebate23/03/22 11:10 PM
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Some of the guys here are just totally bizarre, period. 🤣
/r/PurplePillDebate22/03/22 12:17 AM
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You do realize that there is a huge swath of women who find that whole persona absolutely repulsive, right?
/r/PurplePillDebate21/03/22 08:38 PM
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You can't. We are born with it 😉. Kidding
/r/PurplePillDebate21/03/22 07:39 PM
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So…every couple of months you create a post like this and spam it all over Reddit trying to drum up support for your personal puritanical crusade…how’s that working for you? Here’s an idea, maybe spend that time interacting with actual women instead of obsessing about how much premarital sex they may be having🤷‍♀️.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/03/22 11:39 AM
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I think it’s far more subjective than you think. Consider that men like both Kate Moss and Kim Kardashian. Women’s preferences are equally diverse so you might be able to develop a Venn diagram that is somewhat true to life, but anything more exact will not be materially accurate.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/03/22 12:49 AM
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And yet, the second two seem to be a higher hurdle than the first 🤣🤣🤣
/r/PurplePillDebate21/03/22 12:16 AM
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It’s important to note that “attraction” is composed of far more than physical appeal. Physical attributes are certainly a mandatory first step, but that alone is not enough to ensure attraction vs. passing attention.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/03/22 12:11 AM
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Unless you are talking about hook up culture / ONS (which far fewer women are interested in than some of y'all seem to think), many women have a minimum threshold for physical factors in order to consider being interested, but after that threshold is met, personality makes or breaks it regardless of how much a given man may surpass that threshold.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/03/22 11:03 PM
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Reciprocal STD testing? Absolutely.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/03/22 01:07 AM
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Not that fast. 🤣
/r/PurplePillDebate18/03/22 11:56 PM
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Far more older men want to remarry than older women do so you’ve got it backwards 🤣 https://www.pewresearch.org/social-trends/2014/11/14/chapter-2-the-demographics-of-remarriage/
/r/PurplePillDebate18/03/22 11:42 PM
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Once they lose their youth, there aren’t many men who wants them. As an older woman, I can tell you that your theory is categorically false.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/03/22 08:59 PM
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You're not seriously agreeing with OP in drawing a moral equivalency between men cheating and women being attracted to attractive men are you? Or agreeing with what he seems to be proposing i.e./ that in order to resist our natures, men should resist cheating and women should somehow force themselves to be attracted to unattractive men?
/r/PurplePillDebate18/03/22 07:41 PM
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It seems as if you are cherry picking data points to make it seem as though the stats say that men are equally sexually victimized by women. That is simply not true. If you compare the lifetime numbers, the picture is very different: Women raped: 21,840,000 Men made to penetrate: 5,451,000
/r/PurplePillDebate17/03/22 09:44 PM
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Across all types of violence, the majority of female victims reported that their perpetrators were male. Male rape victims and male victims of non-contact unwanted sexual experiences reported predominantly male perpetrators.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/03/22 09:06 PM
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As a species, yes. As individuals, no.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/03/22 04:59 PM
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Needs: Air Water Shelter Food That's it. You do not "need" diversity. You do not "need" sex. You definitely do not "need" porn.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/03/22 04:42 PM
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Dry spells of 1-2 years as an adult and if anything that makes me less understanding of the bitter angry lonely men.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/03/22 02:51 AM
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You logic is flawed. By only interacting with women who approach you, you are actually ending up with fewer women than you would have as the initiator. There is a pool of women who could potentially be interested in you. Of that pool, there is a smaller subset that is willing to / interested enough to approach you. By all means do this if it makes things easier for you, but don’t imagine that you are leveling the playing field. You are just playing in the shallow end of the same pool.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/03/22 05:48 PM
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What’s wrong with you? Seriously?🤣🤣🤣
/r/PurplePillDebate11/03/22 09:25 PM
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Are you really asking why I am not interested in bitter, angry, sex obsessed young men?🤣
/r/PurplePillDebate11/03/22 08:48 PM
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I'm saying that we should all pursue full lives. Love is a wonderful part of that equation and an import part of overall happiness but it is not the ONLY thing that matters and brings joy. The single minded pursuit of sex is creating bitter angry men. That single mindedness and bitterness is, in large part, preventing them from finding what they are looking for in the first place. I am saying that getting out of a "me me me I want I want I want it's not fair!!!" mindset is vital for ones well be…
/r/PurplePillDebate11/03/22 03:27 PM
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Yes, I do these thing. I have extensive experience volunteering with the IDD / special needs community and it is one of the best parts of my life and brings incredible joy and satisfaction. I also foster and work with rescue dogs, preparing them for their forever families. Giving of one's self can bring incredible rewards and the shift in perspective is invaluable in understanding what is really important in life and in love.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/03/22 02:25 PM
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Old stick in the mud here… Never really liked porn. I have enjoyed some erotic literature🤷‍♀️. In general my imagination is better (for me) than what some producer decides is sexy. Is h***tai x rated cartoons? Is that really a thing? Seriously? Yikes, must go drag my carcass over to the tar pits to join my prehistoric peeps….ciao🤣
/r/PurplePillDebate11/03/22 12:55 AM
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AUG., 31, 2021 — A new, first-ever report of its kind released today by the U.S. Census Bureau shows 15.2 million, nearly 1 in 6 (16.5%), adults age 55 and older are childless. Of all adults ages 55 to 64, 19.6% were childless, compared to 15.9% of those ages 65 to 74, and 10.9% of those 75 years and older.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/03/22 03:32 PM
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The question is, do you want to be with the kind of woman who is attracted to douchnozzle guys and criminals or do you want to be with the kind of woman who cares about making the world a better place and is looking for an actual relationship with a real partner?
/r/PurplePillDebate10/03/22 03:30 PM
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But I am neither bitter nor miserable. If I feel unhappy using social media, I stop. That is part of what I am advising OP to do.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/03/22 03:27 PM
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But being a better person and realizing that there are other things in life than a desperate pursuit of a wet dick WILL help with women. Bitter, desperate, angry men give off a vibe that is instant lady boner killer., no matter how hard they try to fake confidence. A man who would otherwise have reasonable success will never have a chance until he gets out of his own head and starts enjoying life and stops blaming women for not choosing him. There may well be a chicken / egg issue, but once he i…
/r/PurplePillDebate10/03/22 03:09 PM
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I was advocating volunteering because giving to others is not only a worthwhile way to spend your time but as a side effect it often helps people to get out of their own head and gain some perspective. Re/ social media, IMO, people with otherwise happy and fulfilling real lives can dabble in social media without adversely effecting their lives BUT those who do not have full lives IRL are at risk for sinking into the morass of echo chamber reinforcement of their grievances (whether those grievanc…
/r/PurplePillDebate10/03/22 04:39 AM
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Get 100% off of Reddit and all other social media. Cold turkey. No exceptions, no excuses. Allocate ALL of the time formerly spent on social media volunteering with animal shelters and the special needs community (try coaching Special Olympics athletes if you want your world view to improve 100%). Do NOT give voice to your former “pill” opinions/ideology to anyone any time. Every time you feel the urge to do so, do 10 push-ups and put $1 in a jar. At the end of a year, donate the jar money to wh…
/r/PurplePillDebate10/03/22 04:05 AM
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Is it 50M or 70M? Get your argument straight. Where did prostate cancer death come into the discussion of the legality of abortion? Are you asserting that men are ready, willing and able to care for, raise to adulthood and financially support those 50-70M babies? If that were the case, no child would ever grow up without an active, involved and supportive father. Pretty sure that’s not the case.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/03/22 03:00 AM
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Lol. I caught my starter husband (married at 21, divorced at 23) poking holes in condoms with a sewing needle 🤣. Nope nope nope - that’s the sound of the divorce bell tolling…
/r/PurplePillDebate08/03/22 02:14 AM
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But what if pregnancy = baby and abortion wasn’t an option…
/r/PurplePillDebate08/03/22 02:10 AM
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Imagine if men had to drink it to prevent pregnancy…🙄
/r/PurplePillDebate08/03/22 02:02 AM
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If the god squad manages to outlaw all abortion, do you really believe that birth control access won’t be on the chopping block right behind? It’s not about protecting zygotes, it’s about legislating vaginas and the “females” that they’re attached to…
/r/PurplePillDebate08/03/22 02:00 AM
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There is some evidence that pennyroyal oil can cause abortions by causing the uterus to contract. But the dose needed in order to cause an abortion could kill the mother or cause life-long kidney and liver damage.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/03/22 01:34 AM
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A little death math for you: There are roughly 73 million abortions per year The maternal mortality rate is at about 210 per 100,000 live births. Therefore we can reasonably assume that if abortion became unavailable globally, the annual # of maternal medical deaths would increase by at least 150,000 plus an unknown # of women who die from botched illegal abortions. In addition, the most common cause of death in pregnant women is murder. Pregnant women are more than twice as likely to be murdere…
/r/PurplePillDebate08/03/22 12:36 AM
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I just love it when a young man tries to tell an older woman how her attraction works🙄 Oh honey, no. But it’s cute that you think you know. Trust me, at 24 you know very little about life or women at all.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/03/22 04:08 PM
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The inherent fallacy in that is the idea that women “of a certain age” are still attracted to the same men that occupied their youth. Hint: they aren’t. In general, women’s attraction ages commensurately. We can admire a young man as we would a painting or sculpture but don’t feel attracted to those kids. Our real life passions are inflamed by more age appropriate men. It’s seriously not a competition.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/03/22 04:18 AM
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But bastardized by the “He man woman haters” club in recent years.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/03/22 02:41 AM
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There are beautiful and ugly (and everything in between) women and men at all ages. Lifestyle, socioeconomic advantage and genetics all play a role.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/03/22 01:06 AM
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“The wall” is an artificial construct designed by boys and men in a largely futile attempt to denigrate the women who reject them in their 20s. It’s sexual sour grapes.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/03/22 01:00 AM
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Probably 1, maybe 2. Definitely not 3.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/02/22 01:59 AM
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It’s called constructive abandonment and is a cause for fault divorce.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/02/22 12:56 AM
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https://www.statesidelegal.org/lso Legal Services Organizations by State This article lists legal services organizations for every state. You may find free legal help at the listed organizations should you meet the financial requirements.
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