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Welcome to the effects of hookup culture 🤷‍♂️ I'm of the opinion that the only way to feel an equal mental/ emotional level is in a committed, loving relationship. And if you still f don't feel it, you might have some internalized issues to look into.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/05/24 07:30 PM
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I think you need a better phrase than WAW. This isn't tied into the supposed virtue of women. It's actually tied into the recognized vulnerability of women.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/05/24 08:07 PM
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Yes. I agreed with that point. 🙂
/r/PurplePillDebate16/05/24 07:20 PM
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More women would be getting approached by the men they don't want IRL. 🤣
/r/PurplePillDebate16/05/24 05:59 PM
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I agree with your last point. That's why the first thing I wrote was pointing out OP's poor correlation. I try to consider all possibilities when looking at statistics. Your point about gang relations is another factor. There's no doubt that biases play a factor as well. But I would have you consider something that can be tied into that. Many times, there is an accepted reasoning for a crime committed by women that men aren't as likely to receive. It comes from the idea that women are more likel…
/r/PurplePillDebate16/05/24 05:51 PM
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What are the age ranges and educational demographics. From my experience, every woman I've come across has been told a career is most important. When speaking to those in the process of obtaining this, the thought of kids only sounds like a burden. It's not surprising that many would respond with a "no" or "maybe."
/r/PurplePillDebate16/05/24 05:37 PM
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I'm surprised it's not more. Depending on what definition you accept (it's ever changing amongst ideologues), Western civilization can still be viewed as patriarchal. You're provable thinking of the definition that describes patriarchy as being tyrannical to some degree.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/05/24 05:33 PM
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Practically every media and school system pushes the idea that it's important for women. Meanwhile, boys are taught that they've been born into a patriarchy and need to fix that.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/05/24 05:30 PM
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They are more driven to it because of the "girl power" push they're given starting in elementary school and all through life. There's no reason why this would cancel out the desire for the man to be the breadwinner. "Cake and eat it too." 🤷‍♂️
/r/PurplePillDebate16/05/24 05:28 PM
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By your reasoning, black people who are first-time offenders should get longer sentences than Asians who are first-time offenders because black people make up the majority of crime. Are you really OK with going by such logic? 😬
/r/PurplePillDebate16/05/24 05:24 PM
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OP's issue is making a false correlation between the court system and the world in general. But he's 100% correct about the disparities concerning sentencing. You're not wrong about priors having an effect on prison sentences. But you ARE wrong if you think this accounts for the whole disparity. Simply look at rulings on first-time offenders for the same crime, and you'll see that men still get much harsher sentences.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/05/24 05:20 PM
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Why is this shocking? There's a burden of performance placed on men that makes it hard to realistically ever think you've obtained your peak. I'd be more surprised if a bunch of guys said otherwise.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/05/24 04:13 AM
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Not a single result surprised me here. However, I AM curious to see who expected to see different results on any given category. 🤔
/r/PurplePillDebate16/05/24 03:49 AM
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A woman should bring to the table what you require her to bring. This is no different than you bringing to the table what she expects you to bring. Relationships are two-way. If you find yourself getting involved with women who think sex is enough, it's because you are drawing that crowd.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/05/24 02:28 AM
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It's surprising that this needs further explaining. The evidence I require depends on the claim being made. A claim requires my due diligence to confirm its validity. I'll entertain a claim in so much as the evidence being gathered suggests the claim is still possible. To be clear, a lack of evidence that something happened is not evidence that it didn't happen. So if a claim is made for which there is no evidence whatsoever, I'll set preventative measures in place according to circumstance. For…
/r/PurplePillDebate15/05/24 08:39 AM
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I don't believe men. I don't believe women. I believe facts and evidence.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/05/24 01:01 AM
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Sorry, bud. This definitely fits in the category of being a "you" problem.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/05/24 05:28 AM
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What is it with people arguing against points that no one made? I'm going to need you to read what I wrote. Like, actually read it. I also think you need to actually read the details of the stats you listed, but that's not something I care to address right now. Let me help you out. LESS important does not mean UNimportant. In general, who is worried about sex more? An 18 year old or a 40 year old? How about between a 40 year old and a 60 year old? If you're being objective, you'd say the younger…
/r/PurplePillDebate12/05/24 09:16 PM
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As soon as I saw the title, I knew you'd have a bunch of naysayers. Your goal is admirable, not idealist. The positives definitely outweigh the negatives you're going to be given. Also, something to note is the fact that not abstaining has in no way made relationships better. Sexual compatibility is a nebulous concept that people ascribe more value than they should. You can take to Google and find countless people talking about relationships that they realized had no substance once the sex waine…
/r/PurplePillDebate12/05/24 03:31 PM
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Is it really that hard to believe that some men don't care for it? This is actually kind of sad.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/05/24 12:46 AM
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I no longer mind the man vs. bear debate. I just wish someone would present an interesting new take on it that adds a degree of nuance. Like... Bear or biological man, who now identifies as a woman?
/r/PurplePillDebate11/05/24 05:11 PM
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I no longer mind the man vs. bear debate. I just wish someone would present an interesting new take on it that adds a degree of nuance. Like... Bear or biological man, who now identifies as a woman?
/r/PurplePillDebate11/05/24 05:11 PM
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I no longer mind the man vs. bear debate. I just wish someone would present an interesting new take on it that adds a degree of nuance. Like... Bear or Man (who identified as a woman)?
/r/PurplePillDebate11/05/24 05:09 PM
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Out of curiosity, were the three things you listed recommended by women?
/r/PurplePillDebate11/05/24 06:18 AM
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By your own reasoning, you should be saying only traditional women AND TRADITIONAL MEN should get married. But do you agree with the traditional expectations for men? Are you going to be the sole bread winner, and provide a life that a traditional woman sees as worth living and raising kids in?
/r/PurplePillDebate10/05/24 09:20 PM
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That was kind of the point I'm making. People make promises they don't intend to keep. Yet, they're signing contracts under that pretense. I don't blame men who see this and say, "No, thank you."
/r/PurplePillDebate10/05/24 09:08 PM
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I said this in another Q4M post. "I think life without women would make living pointless for men. They are literally the perfect compliment to us. They can make a high two fold better. They can make you keep going when you're trudging through a low point. They've been the inspiration for so many amazing developments. The inspiration for some of the most beautiful musical pieces ever arranged. And they have the most amazing superpower. The ability to foster life in their body is absolutely phenom…
/r/PurplePillDebate10/05/24 08:23 PM
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Watch this... https://youtu.be/SSVXbgR4JFs?si=EjZT5yWJWGiqFWRk and move on to something else in life. 👍
/r/PurplePillDebate10/05/24 08:06 PM
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I would argue that EVERYONE needs to practice this. Not just religious people. 👍
/r/PurplePillDebate10/05/24 07:46 PM
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I was being facetious. But all jokes aside, I've actually found that I'm able to guesstimate how the women I'm familiar with will answer this hypothetical. And, oddly enough, the ones I've sensed that I shouldn't get more familiar with chose the bear. 🤔
/r/PurplePillDebate10/05/24 07:45 PM
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At first, I found it to be an annoying trend of asking stupid hypothetical questions wherein people never objectively assess the ramifications of the choices being made. Now I pay attention to it to know which women I'll absolutely keep my distance from. I very much like this question and the results that followed.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/05/24 06:46 PM
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It's interesting. I believe in the foundation of marriage. I'm happily married. And yet (outside of religious beliefs), I can see why men don't want to engage in it in the west. In the other post made just before this, I noticed the most common point being made is that they don't want to sign a contract that's so easily broken. I see protest against this mindset with various reasons given. But none of them actually address the point these men are making. This has me wondering. Don't most people …
/r/PurplePillDebate10/05/24 05:56 PM
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First and foremost, I don't see a point in being in a short-term relationship. So, the same red flags that would prevent me from proposing marriage would stop me from being in a relationship with them in the first place. 1) I see a lack of discernment concerning the sexual partners they've had. 2) I see a lack of accountability, even in the simplest things. 3) They display blatant disrespect for service workers. 4) They want to live a lifestyle that's not congruent with raising well-adjusted kid…
/r/PurplePillDebate10/05/24 05:30 PM
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Even in an unhealthy relationship, there's no reason to cheat. Just leave? 🤷‍♂️
/r/PurplePillDebate10/05/24 01:58 AM
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This is a perfect example of how words and expressions devolve over time. "Boys will be boys," in its original context, was meant to convey the stupid/ weird things boys do when learning to navigate the urges that come with increased testosterone. However, people hear things and parrot them without understanding proper context. Over time, you get this being applied where it definitely shouldn't. Like frat boys doing shit they should have grown out of years ago. The same goes for the expression "…
/r/PurplePillDebate09/05/24 06:24 PM
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I practice "reason before reaction." I don't live by statistics. At least not before looking into how the statistics were put together and if there were biases involved. I always weigh pros and cons. I own guns. And because I know that statistic, I know what causes it to be the case and set up precautions to prevent it. Same thing with what I eat and drink. Because I know that it's habits the effect you. Not one in a while actions. I'm chuckling as I wrote this because because I see how rigid it…
/r/PurplePillDebate09/05/24 04:30 AM
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Thank you. All I usually get for my attempt to approach everything objectively is disdain from all "sides." 😅
/r/PurplePillDebate09/05/24 03:53 AM
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I'm baffled by men and women, BOTH, who do the same things while simultaneously acting like it's the other sex. 🤷‍♂️ Oh yeah, and I think what you're noticing is again the exaggeration of degrees. For example, men and women are emotional. But if we're being honest, women are more emotional. Now let's take that truth and exaggerate it and say, "Women cry over spilled milk!" Men who ascribe to the idea of a "hive mind" are doing this.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/05/24 05:28 PM
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I casually comment on here. Often, when on the toilet or when I'm unable to sleep. I literally don't use anything else. So, to answer your question? Yes. And I'm happier for it. How about you?
/r/PurplePillDebate08/05/24 05:15 PM
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Hive mind is the male equivalent of when women say men are insecure. It's the exaggeration of something that has a degree of true to it. But saying it's a "consideration of and for others" is also a misrepresentation of the thing that's being exaggerated.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/05/24 04:53 PM
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The interest in and appeal to celebrity for any kind of standard is retarded. Don't bring this up like it actually means anything.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/05/24 04:44 PM
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I'm just going to leave this here for you. https://youtu.be/SSVXbgR4JFs?si=EjZT5yWJWGiqFWRk
/r/PurplePillDebate08/05/24 04:04 PM
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At this point, I can only assume you're arguing in bad faith. I never said take my word for it. I mentioned the very thing you'll need to get access to to have the information that you can't pull from government databases. Do you not know what a HIPPA violation is? I'd like to think you aren't responding in such a way without actually looking up things I've mentioned. So either you're reading to argue rather than understand. Or you're being disingenuous. Go do the training. Or ask other provider…
/r/PurplePillDebate08/05/24 04:01 PM
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"Look within" implies introspection. Saying you meditate does not necessarily mean you assess what YOU might be doing wrong in all of this.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/05/24 02:09 PM
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I commented on this on another post, but I'll ask it here while this post is still fresh. Why the tendency to jump from one extreme to another? I see this from both sides. Man says he doesn't like an arrogant woman. Woman says, "What, do you want a woman with low self-esteem?" Woman says she wants a man that's not broke. Man says, "Why are women gold diggers?" Addressing your point; by and large women want a man that's better than them in every aspect. AND THAT'S PERFECTLY FINE. The issue is tha…
/r/PurplePillDebate08/05/24 02:05 PM
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You misunderstand. This has nothing to do with meditation and everything to do with how you're choosing to view the world. If all your relationships seem transactional, you're looking in the wrong places. Find out what's causing YOU to pick those women. Is it really possible that "ALL WOMEN ARE THE PROBLEM?"
/r/PurplePillDebate08/05/24 01:42 PM
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If that's what you think you need to look within. You're looking in the wrong places. 🤷‍♂️
/r/PurplePillDebate08/05/24 01:14 PM
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Yes, NEED. Men and women are better together. Literally, every marker shows that men and women are worse off when not pairing off. Temporary comforts you might enjoy by dodging a lot of the nonsense associated with dating do not outweigh the benefits of having done so. Sure, there are exceptions to this rule. But there are also extremes that men go to with isolation and/ or suboptimal arrangements for dynamics that should have been found in a significant other. Those get REALLY bad.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/05/24 01:04 PM
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Honestly, posts like this seem so pointless to me. Half of what you put is a warped view of something that's existed FOREVER. But I can't sleep, so I'll address your bullet points. ● men have other ways to game women, similar to how you see makeup. ● pay closer attention. The "less obvious" examples you gave are literally still obvious. What you should be really worried about are these insane new filter features. ● who cares if they actually wear it for themselves or not. Whether they believe th…
/r/PurplePillDebate08/05/24 12:56 PM
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Yes and no. You absolutely shouldn't chase. Chasing was fine back when the woman actually wanted to be caught 😂 Dating? Sorry, but that's a difficulty that men need to learn to engage with. And it's only as difficult as your mate selecting makes it.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/05/24 12:38 PM
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The short answer is BOTH. Yes, Tinder monetized the desperation of men. But, before said transactions are even garnered, these apps make money by selling their user data. The more traffic and engagement they can show, the more profit they can make off of said data.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/05/24 12:32 PM
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Incorrect. I can tell you read to respond and not to understand. I mentioned what I do because it explains how I have access to the data that I do. Did you not actually read what I wrote? The fact that you just said it was "one population" tells me you're defaulting to talking points you've excepted rather than actually taking into account what you're being told. I see this a lot here (from all belief systems, admittedly), and it's disturbing. I very clearly said this includes shallow subsidies.…
/r/PurplePillDebate08/05/24 12:23 PM
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I don't believe religion should dictate law. I can fully believe in religious values while simultaneously recognizing that a humanistic perspective is required when talking about standards as it pertains to a society composed of a mixing pot of beliefs. What are you struggling to make sense of?
/r/PurplePillDebate08/05/24 05:12 AM
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I've literally never seen an example as you've described. Every time I've heard "pick me" thrown around, it's been used as a shame tactic. Usually, by man hating feminists. I have no interest in a woman who would abandon her actual character/ interests in order to appease men. A woman that wants to cater to HER man and positively receives the same treatment, on the other hand? Yeah, I'm happily married for a reason.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/05/24 03:21 AM
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I'm going off over a decade of data. We're talking about copious amounts of objectively obtained information and a sample size of 50+ thousand. You could use this to foster major studies dozens of times over. "Right back atcha" doesn't work here, friend. AGAIN, saying something is on the decrease does not negate CURRENT issue, or the apprehension people decide to take concerning it. If 50% didn't end in divorce? And people had to be married to have andraise children? I'd agree.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/05/24 03:00 AM
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With all due respect, your lived experience does not dictate reality. Alimony is a thing, and men play out 90% of the time. Both parties might feel the effects financially, but men are by and large the ones hurt in the worst ways. Your comment about earning potential and gendered stereotypes tell me you're not looking at this objectively. I'm a contract manager who oversees grants, which total tens of millions of dollars annually, devoted to helping the homeless population and those needing shal…
/r/PurplePillDebate08/05/24 02:15 AM
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Yes, I was referring to common law when I mentioned state that hold men liable as if they were married. Cheating could be one reason why a guy backs out of an engagement. But that's pretty obvious. There shouldn't be a surprise that wedding plans are ended. More covert reasons why a man would see a woman as not fit for commitment would be something like.... 1) She wants to be out with her single friends all the time. 2) She's a 4 time widow. 3) You find out she used to lure men from the clubs to…
/r/PurplePillDebate08/05/24 01:39 AM
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There are all kinds of justifications for the points you've listed. But the reasons for not wanting to get married are simple. 1) They realized how absolutely destroyed men get in divorce court. 2) The significant other did something that removed their confidence that they're not likely to get divorced (i.e., destroyed). This bleeds into living together due to some states that would say the man is liable in the same way as if they were married. And obviously effects not wanting kids due to men g…
/r/PurplePillDebate07/05/24 10:58 PM
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You've essentially said the same thing that I said. Except you've wrongly given the other traits an overruling value. In general, a man won't even make it to overlooking a lack of attraction. Guys don't approach gals because they think they MIGHT have a stellar personality. They find them attractive FIRST and then hope they have a stellar personality. Looks are paramount. It's just not enough on its own for an LTR.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/05/24 06:46 PM
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🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣
/r/PurplePillDebate07/05/24 05:35 PM
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It failed because the premise of it is idealistic. Flawed in its nature. It's marketed as a space where women can potentially interact with the men they want without "being bothered" by the men they don't. In actuality, the average woman doesn't want the average man. At least when it comes to dating apps, where the data is very clear. So the likelihood of them even sending a 👋 is very low. Dating sites are reliant on interaction to generate revenue. You'll never get that when women are forced to…
/r/PurplePillDebate07/05/24 05:10 PM
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Bro, did you see what just happened here? For the past week, there's been bear vs. Man threads ad nauseam. In them, one of the most common rationales for choosing the bear is that they know the bear can kill them, and that's it. The man? He could keep them alive to rape and torture, which they deemed a fate worse than death. But when it's a man voicing his fear of a false allegation, which leads to the same type of torture and fear of rape? Actually, worse, because you're now surrounded by a gro…
/r/PurplePillDebate07/05/24 04:37 PM
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https://youtu.be/7BY83m_4SGw?si=qnVbNRl52Of9Vp70 This guy has pretty much addressed everything I see guys posting on the sub 😂
/r/PurplePillDebate07/05/24 06:58 AM
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Thank you for proving you lack basic comprehension. I said they were the perfect COMPLIMENT. Words have meaning. Never said women are perfect. But they were designed to compliment us. If a woman isn't living up to God's design, that doesn't negate my point. Also, I said they CAN do all those other things. Again, words have meaning. None of this suggests they're angels. And I said this as well. I followed this by saying the same way they can uplift, they can do the opposite. If my first words imp…
/r/PurplePillDebate06/05/24 06:26 PM
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You are the male equivalent of the people you hate on. And you misuse the word "simp" like they misuse the word "misogynist." It's clear you didn't read all that I wrote if you think I just hand out undue praise to them.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/05/24 04:50 PM
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People are way too concerned with what other people think about something that will only affect you in the end. The people you're asking the opinion of aren't going to partake in your relationship. All you need to do is ask yourself what you value. Then, find someone that matches those values. If you believe sex is meant to be used for bonding and procreation, don't get with someone who ran rampant in hookup culture. If you don't care, don't care. It's that simple.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/05/24 12:44 AM
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Yes, I know what hoeflation is and where it was derived. I said you sound black pill for rhetoric like what you just used. Get out of the cities, bud. You don't need to be a passport to find traditional women. That was my point.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/05/24 08:40 PM
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You sound black pill, my guy. I spoke of a lady. Not a hoe. A hoe wouldn't even get the crumbs off my table. Your not implying that all women are hoes, are you? If so, you clearly aren't capable of commanding a lady's love and respect, are you? What's wrong? You've never had a lady trust you enough to do what you tell them?
/r/PurplePillDebate05/05/24 04:29 PM
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I'm 40. And clearly better at picking women than a lot of you. My wife and I have been together almost half my life, and I can count on one hand the number of arguments we've had. I'm smart enough to set boundaries ahead of time and emotionally intelligent enough to nip nonsense in the bud before it escalates. Sounds to me like you should be asking me to be your mentor rather than writing off what I said. 🤷‍♂️
/r/PurplePillDebate05/05/24 04:10 PM
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In general? I don't think the options you gave were sufficient. I think life without women would make living pointless for men. They are literally the perfect compliment to us. They can make a high two fold better. They can make you keep going when you're trudging through a low point. They've been the inspiration for so many amazing developments. The inspiration for some of the most beautiful musical pieces ever arranged. And they have the most amazing superpower. The ability to foster life in t…
/r/PurplePillDebate05/05/24 04:43 AM
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I'm sorry, whose logic? Did you just ignore my logical point to join the other commenter in ranting about something I didn't say? That's... odd...
/r/PurplePillDebate05/05/24 04:27 AM
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With all due respect, how did you come to your conclusion based on what I said? Maybe I misread what you were trying to say because your punctuation is terrible, but it reads like you went into a rant that has nothing to do with my point. 🤔
/r/PurplePillDebate05/05/24 04:25 AM
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This is not a good analogy 😅 The woman absolutely has the right to set a new standard due to a bad past experience. And the man has every right to say no thanks and move on. Let's just make sure we apply this evenly. So if a man says he won't pay for dates or anything else because he invested in a woman that used him, let's make sure your response is the same as you expect him to have concerning waiting for sex. 👍
/r/PurplePillDebate04/05/24 11:59 PM
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Read what I said again. Like, actually read it. I chose my words carefully. I was very specific when I stated the statistics for starting off with nothing and gaining generational wealth. You're clearly defaulting to talking points that don't apply to what's been said. No duh, immigrants that come here from wealth do well. They also didn't start off with nothing. They started with wealth. And they returned to wealth. They didn't GAIN generational wealth. Look at legal asylees that come here, not…
/r/PurplePillDebate04/05/24 11:40 PM
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Note that I said stats, verified by reality. The anecdote did not stand alone. It was complimentary. For example, if I said my stats show, I shoot 50% from the 3 point line. And then I mentioned that I just made half my shots shotsin a shootout. I do stats for a living. Everything you just said, I'm well aware of. And it's what I eluded to when I said it's best to place an emphasis on school and gainful employment. Everything you wrote supports my point that is not a race thing. Once you recogni…
/r/PurplePillDebate04/05/24 09:49 PM
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You don't like statistics that are verified by reality? I've had 3 people try to kill me. All of which were my own people.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/05/24 09:21 PM
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You're pretty close to the mark with this and your other comment. I would add that women saying they don't need men doesn't have to be taken negatively by men. I recognize that the very reason they can say this is because men have created a society that can cater to your every need. Being a part of this is well enough. And yes, in addition to what you mentioned above, I would add mentoring. Big Brothers and programs like it. You're going to want to be the best you that you can be if you're also …
/r/PurplePillDebate04/05/24 09:14 PM
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They say if you look for something in everything, you'll make sure you find it even when it's not there. It's not the 1950s anymore. The biggest threat to black people today is other black people. There are more things in place to help black people succeed than any hindrance you imagine there to be. This is coming from a black man, raised by a single mother, who grew up in Inglewood and Compton. Take school seriously. Apply for student aid, plus all the black only scholarships. Or pick up a trad…
/r/PurplePillDebate04/05/24 09:04 PM
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Everything you mentioned was addressed and/ or given a remedy in my initial comment. 👍
/r/PurplePillDebate04/05/24 07:43 PM
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I think the mental health "crisis" is manufactured and blown out of proportion. Here's some food for thought. There has never been a bigger push for therapy and all this touchy feelie stuff than in the 21st century. The result after 2 decades of this? An absolutely insane increase in people with mental health issues. I'd argue that the vast majority of them just need to get physically healthy and find a purpose in life. Men especially. We're designed to build, provide, and protect. If we're not …
/r/PurplePillDebate04/05/24 06:55 PM
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Ah, now I see where you're struggling to grasp what I'm saying. You seem to think men go after everyone they deem "attractive." Your low view of men is causing your confusion. NO. I'm sorry, but men aren't the dogs you must think we are. Just because we find someone attractive doesn't mean we'll uncontrollably pursue them. We can think a woman is attractive and not care to know them, the same way a woman can find a man attractive and still reject his advance. Being attractive is the 1st prerequi…
/r/PurplePillDebate03/05/24 06:06 PM
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When I say narcissist, I'm using it as it was originally intended. To describe someone with an actual disorder. Not its devolved version. Like how the word love is meant to describe an intense feeling of deep affection. But people use it to describe avocado toast. People will call other people a narcissist when it really doesn't apply.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/05/24 04:16 PM
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You said, "No man is actively trying to have a relationship with half the women he meets or more." Nobody said they were. I said the average man finds the average woman to be attractive. This is the first prerequisite to him being willing to date them. You said, "The criteria he has for trying to start a relationship will be far stricter than be average." I said there was more to it than being average. Far stricter? Nope. I'll repeat. How the woman fairs beyond that depends on everything else no…
/r/PurplePillDebate03/05/24 07:35 AM
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You make a great point against an argument that I didn't make. 👍
/r/PurplePillDebate03/05/24 06:57 AM
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Serious question. Why post this? Who cares if anything you said is true? So what? What, then? If you go the passport route and find what you're looking for, does it really matter what others have to say about it? As long as you and the one you're with are happy, why devote so much effort as typing a single syllable about the matter?
/r/PurplePillDebate03/05/24 03:31 AM
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Your sand analogy was a fair point made. One that I agree with. I just checked out after reading the first two statements. My comments addressed the original post that brought forth the idea that a person would treat a relationship like they would a job. Ie this mindset of jumping ship if you're not getting everything you want. That's fine in the workplace. Although I'd argue, it just creates a whole new set of problems. It's counterproductive to a relationship. Relationships are not 9 to 5. The…
/r/PurplePillDebate03/05/24 03:26 AM
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That's a fair point. I always perceived this as a bunch of people conflating a "hmmm, this would be nice" situation with it being a preference. The meaning of words constantly devolves. Like how people say they love any and everything.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/05/24 02:30 AM
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I agree 100% about those who have fetishes or unresolved issues being no good. That's why I made it a point to distinguish between preference and prejudice. As far as the data you mentioned. I think this is more so a matter of the degree of the preference. For most guys, their "preference" is forgotten the moment any appealing woman enters the room. 😂
/r/PurplePillDebate03/05/24 02:11 AM
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You've constructed an argument against something I didn't say. I'm not sure why you would do that. 🤔 What about my comment pointed to historic "stable" relationships. Moreover, why would you associate my statement about stable relationships to those that involved marital rape and a woman's autonomy being heavily restricted? Honestly, I get the vibe you're arguing in bad faith.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/05/24 01:54 AM
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When someone’s arguments take the form of personal attacks and name-calling it’s a pretty clear admission that they don’t have anything valid or worthwhile to say. I've been with the same woman, happily married for almost 20 years. Everything in starting is based on objective reality concerning men. Feel free to come with an actual argument against what I said. I'll not entertain another baseless statement.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/05/24 01:38 AM
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I think absolutely nothing of it. And you shouldn't either. Because a preference is not a prejudice. Everything I said in the comment you replied to can be applied to what you just commented. The same guy that states the preference you referred to can be attracted to a woman outside of it.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/05/24 01:30 AM
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With all due respect, this is a shit take on your part. To equate a "nice guy" to someone "pretending to be friends with a woman hoping that she will fuck him eventually" is such a disingenuous depiction of the situation. And it shows a lack of empathy for the difficulty that men face that get them placed in this situation in the first place. The guys in the friend zone are typically men who fear rejection. So they try to place themselves in a manor that will present the best opportunities to ev…
/r/PurplePillDebate03/05/24 01:11 AM
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I'm sorry, but you're speaking from a place of privilege. You can say it's not an odd game because women have the luxury of being able to sit idle and filter all the suitors that come their way. As a man, a relationship typically doesn't just fall in your lap. You have to go out and initiate things. Thereby, hovering around an interest, stuck in the friend zone because you're scared of rejection, is a losing game versus devoting your time to bettering yourself and finding someone with equivacol …
/r/PurplePillDebate03/05/24 12:33 AM
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Things that are conducive to making more money are typically not the best practices for building loving relationships. People are trading long-term stability for short-term benefits because the results come quicker. Honestly, I see such practices as building a house on a foundation of sand. You don't realize how unstable it is until the ground shifts from under you.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/05/24 12:29 AM
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I think people are far too caught up on the idea of a "type" when it comes to men's tastes. The studies are very clear on this. The average man finds the average woman to be attractive. In the end, that's the only prerequisite for a guy to be willing to initiate an attempt to foster a long-term relationship. How the woman fairs beyond that depends on everything else not ascribed to looks. And even then, it mostly derives from whether or not he thinks she will bring him peace or a headache.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/05/24 10:39 PM
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Chat GPT is like anything else in life. A mixture of right and wrong, with things tethering on the extremes as well. While interpersonal dynamics between men and women are virtually unchanged for all of human history, you can't exclude the fact that (in the end) it must be taken on a case by case basis.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/05/24 10:33 PM
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Emotional manipulation is hard to identify. Women are more prone to do this than men, under the guise of vulnerability because they know it will invoke a favorable response. Men are more prone to externalize negativity in the form of anger, which is easier to identify and is shunned by society. That's the basis of your post? Just wanted to make sure I'm reading this right. To this, I would say... Manipulators, manipulate. This is bad regardless of who is doing it and the form it takes. But it re…
/r/PurplePillDebate02/05/24 10:27 PM
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I think you're coming to a wrong conclusion due to conflating a dating statistic and overlooking another fact. What you're referring to is the fact that people typically end up with a significant other that was in their "circle." This could be anything from a coworker to a friend of a friend in a friend group. But knowing each other doesn't translate to actually being friends. It's more accurate to say they started as acquaintances. But also, even assuming your premise was correct. How many guys…
/r/PurplePillDebate02/05/24 09:45 PM
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Not gonna lie. The way you wrote this made me chuckle. I'm not here to contest or support what you're saying. I don't think this is a discussion that ever bears fruit. There's just far too much nuance on a case by case basis to ever really address it. But I appreciate the humor in which you wrote it.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/05/24 07:04 PM
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This is basically a "I saw this exception one time, so the way the world works isn't the only way" kind of post. It reads like a rich person telling poor people that money doesn't matter. Or saying, "You can be rich too." JUST WORK HARDER! In the real world, EVERYTHING matters. For the record, this isn't a "men are doomed" response. I'm of the opinion that men are fortunate in the sense that there are multiple things that women look for in a man. So you can excel in the categories you can do som…
/r/PurplePillDebate02/05/24 06:53 PM
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There's so much to unpack here... First and foremost, men and women don't typically have the same love language. Men are more inclined to view affection through physical touch. A woman can feel affection from a guy taking them out to lunch, AND THAT'S IT. So yes, according to the definition of affection that you're going by, women can easily go 6+ months without THAT. That being said, I'd look at the actions of each woman individually before even worrying about something like this. Actions speak…
/r/PurplePillDebate02/05/24 06:36 PM
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Sorry, you misunderstood me. I was touching on the expectations voiced by those who find issue with men who can immediately cut ties similar to what you wrote. It was not meant to convey what I thought your specific thoughts were on the matter. But rather to address a train of thought I expected to come up in the discussion. Sometimes, I'm a bit too preemptive. But I DO already see it arising here. So my sentiments are not too far off. The idea I was trying to convey was that I believe it's a ma…
/r/PurplePillDebate02/05/24 01:23 PM
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A few things come to mind from reading this. 1) Social media has really given women an abundance mindset when it comes to dating. I've been off the market for almost 2 decades, but I can't help but notice that y'all will disqualify a man for the smallest shit. Like, his shoe lace hoops weren't even! 😂 2) Having a crush as an adult is a sign that you've still got some growing up to do. 3) A guy having a type means literally NOTHING in the grand scheme of things. As long as it's not based on a pre…
/r/PurplePillDebate02/05/24 01:01 PM
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I think it's actually insane to read that people think a man is beholden to the child of a woman who cheated and committed paternity fraud. I'm a foster father. I'm currently adopting a 3 year old boy that I've been taking care of since the day he was released from the NICU. He's one of 5 children to have been in my care thus far. I fully intend to foster and adopt as many children as should need love for as long as I am able. But if you think for one damn moment that I should endure the trauma …
/r/PurplePillDebate02/05/24 12:27 PM
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Currently, I see feminism as a women's advocacy group. That is to say that it is centered around that which benefits women. I've held this opinion ever since I was in middle school and really started paying attention to history, statistics, and social dynamics. To put a measurable timeline to this, that was almost 30 years ago. Before that, I accepted what I was told; that it was about equality. But I couldn't help but notice that this "equality" was never distributed evenly in all regards. Ther…
/r/PurplePillDebate02/05/24 08:54 AM
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I in no way have ever looked at myself as being top-notch. And I was raised to believe that taking pride in something you didn't earn is vanity of the highest degree. But at 6'1, and being in good enough shape to play multiple sports at a D1 level, I've been on the receiving end of more attention than I'd like. The number of women who think they can touch you as they please is disturbing. Worse, the number of women that resort to insults when you call them out on it is infuriating. The fact that…
/r/PurplePillDebate27/04/24 09:04 PM
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This idea of "settling" is the problem. People are more entitled today than ever before. Everyone seems to think they deserve better than they do. Learn to appreciate everything in your life and find someone who thinks the same. THAT will result in the best life experience you're going to have.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/04/24 06:31 PM
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All I see in those pics is a headache. 🤷‍♂️ Social media really has y'all wanting what's not good for you...
/r/PurplePillDebate27/04/24 06:10 PM
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I don't think it's as many women as you seem to think it is. It's just that the ones who do speak the loudest. The word "misogyny" is absolutely overused. But I've noticed that the ones who use the word can never properly define it when pressed about it. It's rare that they'll actually say it means the hatred of women. The fact that most women don't know what the word mysandry means should tell you where this stems from. You can blame social media and indoctrination in schools. This reminds me o…
/r/PurplePillDebate27/04/24 05:33 PM
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Your wording and examples lead me to believe that you're suffering from confirmation bias. You're so bothered by something that you've witnessed a few times that you've become acutely aware of what you'd deem to be an overreaction. I reject your preface that this is "more often than not." I think people tend to hone in on negative interactions rather than uneventful ones. I'd also argue that you seem to be ascribing a mentality and motive in situations where you couldn't possibly know. To me, wh…
/r/PurplePillDebate08/04/24 12:58 AM
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By definition, this means neither of you are simps. 😊
/r/PurplePillDebate08/04/24 12:23 AM
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Has anyone else ever noticed the tendency of people to take a "This over that" stance? I've found that people who get a good balance of both are far less likely to draw conclusions that stray far from their intended mark than those who take the "either or" approach.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/04/24 12:21 AM
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Focus on the incite, not the donuts that he's mocking. The internet will make you believe that a vocal minority is the majority. I brought him up because he touched on the fact that women's rating of men become more in line with how men rate women once they're in a setting of familiarity. THAT is what you should focus on. I'll reiterate my point about getting out and experiencing different cultures. When you're established and have something you're passionate about, you'll find that women in you…
/r/PurplePillDebate07/04/24 06:22 AM
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What did you think?
/r/PurplePillDebate07/04/24 06:07 AM
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I think your first problem is that you're caught up on something like the simplicity of male sexuality vs. female sexuality. Despite the current cultural push, men and women are not the same. Men are, by default, the pursuers. Why would women need a thousand podcasts on understanding men when they can just stand back and have a thousand men pursuing them. But a man has to understand women in order to garner reciprocal attention. That being said, I feel for you, bud. The dating climate is disastr…
/r/PurplePillDebate07/04/24 05:59 AM
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