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And there is more than one type of trust. You have "I know you're not a murderer" trust and then you have "I know you won't abandon me" trust.
/r/seduction16/07/21 04:53 AM
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Have you slept with her yet? If not, ask her to come over. If she turns you down or makes excuses, then she is just looking for your validation. Now, if you already slept with her, then she's probably just bad at texting.
/r/seduction16/07/21 03:50 AM
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Because women give their numbers out like it's nothing. You're not doing bad though. Two dates out of nine approaches is really good. The only way to guarantee more dates is to approach women that show you some sign of interest. I've increased my conversion rate to way above 50% by doing that. It takes more time, but it's worth it.
/r/seduction15/12/20 09:55 PM
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I 100% agree.
/r/seduction28/11/20 08:26 AM
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Exactly. The only way to beat this is by looking like a guy with options. You'll still be on thin ice but you can move forward. If you're an average guy like me, warm approach is the key to success.
/r/seduction28/11/20 06:59 AM
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You're 100% correct. I've tested this for years. Pre-screening has pretty much cut my rejections by like 90%. The trade off is that the women will vary in attractiveness. It still ends up being better though. You end up with 5 approaches for 5 almost guaranteed lays with some average to above average women vs 20 approaches for one flaky dime.
/r/seduction27/11/20 06:46 PM
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Like another guy said in here, naturals are generally not cold approaching. They tend to go for the women who show interest. Another thing about naturals is that they have something that women are attracted to including confidence. So, they'll be tall + confident or handsome + confident or comedian levels of funny + confident. A lot of guys on here think they can just be confident. A woman might appreciate the confidence, but any asshole could fake it. Do you have something she wants? That's wha…
/r/seduction27/11/20 06:40 PM
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The whole "listen instead of speaking" thing is not great advice. In the beginning of any conversation with a stranger you will have to do most of the talking if you're the one who approached. You can't expect a stranger to just start telling you all of their life's secrets just because you said "good morning". The eye contact thing is spot on though.
/r/seduction15/11/20 11:48 PM
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Thanks! Glad I could contribute.
/r/seduction12/11/20 06:53 AM
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I added in another comment that I've done this many times before. Hundreds of times. I've also seen many other guys do it. My point is that women have different reasons for why they like a guy. They're not all looking for comedians. Edit: Also I left out that I had a very engaging conversation with her on the phone. The entire reason why I was able to have sex with her so quickly is because of how much we connected.
/r/seduction12/11/20 01:24 AM
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She made it clear to me that she hadn't hung out with him yet. We saw each other a few more times after that then she ghosted me. Maybe he was the reason why. The guy was hilarious. My point was that women choose who they want for reasons we often can't explain. I'm sure if I didn't shoot my shot, he would've gotten to her first.
/r/seduction11/11/20 11:38 PM
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Maybe it was amazing to her, but it was literally: "Hi." "What's your name?" "You look nice." "Who did you come here with?" "What's your number?" This is dry to me, at least. I don't see why it's so unlikely though. I've bagged women plenty of times with the same basic convo. To be fair, I did have a much better conversation on the phone with her. I guess that's where I make up for the dryness.
/r/seduction11/11/20 11:32 PM
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The issue here is that guys think the act of making her laugh is what makes her want to have sex with them. So, they end up overdoing it and coming off as needy (the ultimate pussy dehydrator). The truth is that you don't have to be George Carlin levels of funny. If she likes you, she'll laugh at even your weakest jokes. You need to focused on getting to know her, showcasing whatever hard value you have (looks, popularity, connections, knowledge in her field), and escalating.
/r/seduction11/11/20 09:18 PM
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I was once in a room with an amateur stand up comedian. He was of course the funniest guy in the room and had all of the women dying of laughter. They were flirting with him all night. There was one woman in particular who he seemed to be focusing on. I caught her outside during this party and had a short, boring, conversation and got her number. I ended up speaking to her on the phone the next day and had her come over and we had sex. While she was there, she got a call from the comedian guy an…
/r/seduction11/11/20 09:10 PM
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Yeah but it's arguably more important than inner game. These are things that women can see and thus can get you eliminated right from the start. It's all about having a competitive advantage. This sub has you guys thinking inner game is the force or something. In the real world, plenty of guys are confident and charismatic. It's very common, especially in big cities. The problem becomes how will you compete with them if they have everything you have and more?
/r/seduction07/11/20 06:53 PM
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The problem with that is that you will have to constantly be charismatic and enjoyable 24/7. Whatever reason a woman chooses you for has to always be there for you to keep her. The moment you slip up, she will doubt you and shit test you. The only way around this is to make her invest in you so much that the investment itself becomes the value. Also, there are levels to it. You can be as charismatic and enjoyable as you want. What are you going to do when another charismatic and enjoyable man is…
/r/seduction07/11/20 06:46 PM
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Thank you! A lot of guys in this subreddit (the PUA coaches in particular) push game like it's some magic spell book. Women are still human at the end of the day.
/r/seduction07/11/20 06:35 PM
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I guess I wasn't too clear. My original point is how do these things lead to sex with a woman you just met? Knowing that you can satisfy a woman and acting like you can doesn't mean she's going to have sex with you or even like you. I've had great sex with women without thinking I can satisfy them. I've been rejected by women that I was 100% sure I could satisfy and give an orgasm to. What you think you can do doesn't matter in the grand scheme of things. You can have the world's greatest mindse…
/r/seduction04/11/20 01:30 AM
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Lol no. I'm very experienced. I hate these vague terms and non-practical advice. I give men advice that they could go out and put to use and see results. "Vibe" and "mindset" sound good but the problem is that it can't be measured in any way. You can't just send novice out into the world with abstract shit like that. You couldn't even tell me what those terms meant. You could be talking about bubble guts for all I know because you left it so vague. I'll make it easy for you. Give me ONE example …
/r/seduction04/11/20 12:28 AM
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So basically Step 1. Acquire unspecified "vibe" and "mindset". Step 2. Talk to a woman about... something. Step 3. ??? Step 4. Have sex.
/r/seduction03/11/20 11:57 PM
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But it's so vague that it's useless advice. Exactly what are they and how do you use it in practice? Or is it something that just magically happens by chance?
/r/seduction03/11/20 11:46 PM
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What do you mean exactly? What are some practical things you've gotten from this? No "vibe or "mindset" abstract nonsense.
/r/seduction03/11/20 10:05 PM
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THANK YOU!! I've been waiting for someone in this thread to say this. OP is a dating coach so admitting that attraction is biological and can't be created but only amplified goes against his interests.
/r/seduction20/10/20 07:27 AM
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Because if she likes you, she likes you. If she doesn't, at least you tried. It's a win-win. When a girl is not into you, there isn't much you can do to change her mind. She has her reasons, whatever they may be. Just move forward until they stop you.
/r/seduction11/10/20 03:08 AM
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No problem! Yeah, I've read Models. I absolutely recommend it. I also recommend checking out the Book of Pook. It's free, too. I learned a lot from that and this ebook called "The Lothario Upper Hand" on Amazon. They both feature a lot of practical advice.
/r/seduction09/10/20 07:42 AM
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Just stay in contact and keep improving yourself. Eventually, they'll see that you're a better option than their other situation. Don't chase or put any pressure otherwise you'll scare them off and send them back to the other options. Be friendly and cool. Edit: This is all assuming you got the number. Eventually she'll give you an opening. This will come in the form of her telling you her availability or maybe something like "I want to see (movie)". Obviously, with covid this may not be the cas…
/r/seduction08/10/20 09:35 PM
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Prolonged eye contact. But just a girl checking you out doesn't necessarily mean she wants you to approach. So after prolonged eye contact, you need to check if she's positioning herself to be approached. She'll start hovering around you when there's plenty of space. Maybe she's sticking around in the vicinty longer than she has to. What you're looking for is effort on her part. Edit: They're essentially doing things to get your attention.
/r/seduction08/10/20 04:04 AM
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Things like "what's your name?", "where are you from?". These are very boring questions, but they get the job done. I'm not trying to have a long conversation. I'll get to know them more after I get the number. Keep in mind this is when I'm out and about. If I'm at school or work or some kind of event, then I'd just talk about something related to that. Typically, I approach and give a compliment. Then I use some filler interview-like questions. Sometimes I'll ask something that I actually need …
/r/seduction08/10/20 03:14 AM
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This is a a very good breakdown. To add to this, I think the neutral vibe tends to come from women who have other potential suitors but still find you attractive. In those cases, I think what's happening is that you're competing with another guy that isn't present. This is when you put your best foot forward.
/r/seduction07/10/20 06:40 PM
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Great! However, do not make the mistake of thinking that eye contact is what's making the women check you out. All it did was help you notice receptive women, but it also made the women think you're open, too. And that's a good thing. When a woman wants you, you'll notice that the process goes very smooth. Treat game as a filter--weeding out women who are not interested--and life gets so much easier. Nowadays, I just go outside and look for women are checking me out and I just approach. No gimmi…
/r/seduction07/10/20 05:06 PM
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It depends. Is she actually putting effort in to be sarcastic or bitchy? Lack of effort is the biggest sign that a woman is not interested. Use logic. If she's still standing with you and talking while having a clear exit, then she's likely testing you to see how willing you are to stick by her. In that case, don't get into your feelings. Continue as normal and then close.
/r/seduction03/10/20 05:33 PM
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Well, I guess you're gonna just have to take my word (and most women's) for it. I'll be sure to try and stare at random women in the eyes for four minutes to make them fall in love me and hopefully cross a dangerous bridge with them.
/r/seduction01/10/20 05:49 AM
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So how would one go about doing this? There are guys who would like to know.
/r/seduction01/10/20 03:28 AM
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There are also a number of scientific studies that support my argument. Here's a study that finds that women value physical attractiveness over personality: https://link.springer.com/article/10.1007/s40806-017-0092-x Here's another study that found that women preferred physical attractiveness over status: https://pubmed.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/14524006/ Now think about the studies that found that women go for good looking men in online dating. Women themselves are always saying that physical attraction…
/r/seduction01/10/20 03:26 AM
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Woah. Chill out. My whole point is that women are the choosers. And their choice is made before you say a word.
/r/seduction30/09/20 06:34 AM
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Number 31. You can't make a woman sexually attracted to you. Women decide this before you even open your mouth. These tips are great for making women like you as a person. Liking your personality is a prerequisite of course. However, a lot of guys, contrary to popular belief, have decent enough personalities to not turn a woman off. Trying too hard to attract women will only hold you back. Too many guys worry so much about what to say and give themselves approach anxiety. Once you accept that yo…
/r/seduction30/09/20 02:55 AM
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You say this yet cold approach has ONLY ever worked for me at parks, stores etc. Clubs and bars tend to be way harder to get any woman's number. Most guys I know have the same experience. To be fair, it isn't really a "cold" approach. I wait for women to give me a sign.
/r/seduction29/09/20 12:02 AM
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The problem with social circle is that if you get rejected by one female, it can affect the other women's perception of you. Dating apps only work if you have the looks for it. The best way to get women is warm approach--women who you see regularly but do not know. These are women who may work at the same building as you, go to the same school or church as you, live in the same apartment complex. Then there's the warm-cold approach. That's when you're a complete stranger but she sends you signal…
/r/seduction28/09/20 11:50 PM
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Here is the issue though. If one of the girls don't like you, it may influence the others. Edit: It can also work the other way. If a girl in the group likes you, it may influence the others to feel more positively about you. It all depends on which friend's opinion is more highly regarded at that moment. In general though, approaching groups is better. Also, NEVER approach women who are by themselves from behind. Just trust me. Try your best to let them see you first.
/r/seduction25/09/20 08:26 PM
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Because the truth is that women either like you or not and they decide this before you even open your mouth. You cannot talk a woman into being sexually attracted to you, but you can certainly talk her out of it. Knowing this has helped me immensely when it comes approaching because I know I don't have to impress anyone. You can just be yourself as long as you're not needy. However, you will need to accept that the women you want may not be the women who want you.
/r/seduction30/11/19 09:24 AM
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Actually, giving women an out might help more than hurt. It makes them feel more comfortable to continue when they know they had the option to leave.
/r/seduction18/10/19 08:31 PM
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In my experience, when a woman asks you for your name, that's a sign that she's into you. I've had amazing conversations and number closed without ever getting asked my name. When that happens I get ghosted. But almost every time they asked for it, I eventually had sex with them.
/r/seduction18/10/19 08:23 PM
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Definitely. And how easy it is to lose that sexual attraction varies depending on who you are and who the woman is. That's why I stick to a few basic rules. The main ones being 1. Act like you're experienced. 2. Don't be needy.
/r/seduction09/10/19 09:57 PM
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True but being a likeable person does not always translate to sexual attraction. That's why you have men and women who are best friends with each other and make each other happy but aren't having sex. That "spark" isn't something you can force. It just happens. But you CAN lose it.
/r/seduction09/10/19 07:43 PM
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Wow I'm sorry. I thought you said the opposite--guys you didn't like but changed your mind with words. I absolutely agree. What I meant by "nothing you say matters" was that you can't MAKE them want you with words. So if she likes you then you don't have to try and impress her. You can just be yourself. But if she doesn't like you, you're not gonna talk her into liking you.
/r/seduction09/10/19 06:05 PM
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Can you give some examples? That is valuable information. Just ONE example.
/r/seduction09/10/19 05:05 PM
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I've always said if a woman likes you nothing you say really matters. But on the flip side if a woman DOESN'T like you, nothing you say really matters.
/r/seduction07/10/19 05:20 PM
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What you're forgetting is that women will meet MULTIPLE men that fit her type. So in the end the man with more money, looks, or status still has the advantage. This concept is really only effective in extremes. Just having a button down with jeans will NOT kill your chances with a reserved woman. But having many tattoos and face piercings might. Another thing we can't forget is that women simply like who they like. If she likes you enough, she will try to mold you into her type.
/r/seduction04/09/19 05:17 PM
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Women think anything that is "obvious" or "pointless" is stupid to talk about. So you gotta have a little foresight to see what can either of you gain or learn from a particular topic. For example talking to her about the eating habits of manatees is stupid. So just talk about yourself and her to be safe. Don't even think too hard about it and the less you speak the better. Actions > words.
/r/seduction20/07/19 04:00 PM
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I know exactly what your problem is because I had the same one. The issue is that they're attracted to you in person, but they don't like you "on paper". They like you, but don't like the IDEA of you. So after the date they begin over-thinking their relationship with you and become scared of things going further. They want to avoid getting attached to you. It could be your ethnicity or something else you can't change. Women are shallow as hell. The long-term solution is to build social proof, be…
/r/seduction20/07/19 04:11 AM
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I became fearless when I realized that most women already made up their minds about me before I approached. Guys think you have to use a bunch of techniques, but you just need to know how to not sound stupid. When a woman really wants you she'll do most of the work by positioning herself for you to make certain moves. It's up to you to know what the right move is.
/r/seduction20/07/19 03:52 AM
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Game is your ability to know what's the next appropriate step to take.
/r/seduction20/07/19 03:44 AM
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What was her excuse to you her number?
/r/seduction07/07/19 04:31 PM
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This is interesting. I'll try it out. Thanks
/r/seduction02/07/19 12:23 AM
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Oh okay. So I think your problem could be one of three things: 1. She found a new guy. 2. She wants your commitment, but doesn't think she'll get it. 3. You did something that turned her off.
/r/seduction01/07/19 07:07 AM
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Do you mind sharing some of the things that you texted to make the girl obsessed with your friend? Maybe just a rough outline?
/r/seduction01/07/19 06:47 AM
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Did you have sex with her at any point?
/r/seduction01/07/19 06:35 AM
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No. Don't shit where you eat. She's clearly just being a tease. There are thousands of sexual harassment horror stories. Read some of them.
/r/seduction01/07/19 06:34 AM
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"What are things I should be saying to sexually attract a female with my words? aka flirting." There is nothing you can SAY to a female that'll make her attracted to you. You'll have a much easier time once you realize that her mind was made up before you even opened your mouth. Your goal after you approach is to build trust and comfort so she'll be okay with being alone with you. There's no trick to sealing the deal. You just need get her alone and make the move if everything is going well. Act…
/r/seduction01/07/19 06:30 AM
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Proud of you! Keep doing what you're doing. Don't change up. But I will say this. Try not to take TOO long to make a move. She won't exactly tell you outright when she's ready to have sex. You'll have to judge for yourself. Hell, she may even be ready the next date, but she won't say it. Too fast > too slow.
/r/seduction01/07/19 04:21 AM
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I think the second option might be best only because it sounds simpler. You want to get your logistics to be perfect. The smoother the process the eaiser it is to get laid. Good luck on your date, man. Glad I could help. Just make sure you at least attempt to take her back to your place. Go with the flow and you'll know when to make your move.
/r/seduction25/06/19 06:23 AM
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Don't plan phone calls with women. Just go right ahead and call her. The thing about women is that if they want you, they want you and they'll make everything easy for you. She will be excited to get your call if she's into you. She's not gonna suddenly drop you just because you didn't text before calling. If she doesn't answer, you wait until she gets back to you. Because a woman that wants you will definitely return your call or at least text you. Neediness is one of the few things that can ki…
/r/seduction25/06/19 05:42 AM
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I like to set the date to be as soon possible. Sometimes I ask them out the same day I want to take out. It lowers the chances of getting flaked and you don't have to worry about texting in between. Always get a woman's schedule so then you'll know when she's free BEFORE you ask her out. Like if I know she's free on Saturday then I ask her out Saturday morning or Friday night. Keep the texting light and fun, but have one good, deep, lengthy phone call on one of those nights (if you didn't have o…
/r/seduction25/06/19 05:26 AM
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