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May Goals PHYSICAL (starting to end of month) FSQ 180 - 190 lbs BP 185 - 195 BSQ 210 - 225,m OHP 127.5 - 135 DL 275 - 300 Doing okay on these. I definitely do better with my gym buddies to cheer me and spot me when needed. When they aren’t there I lose my steam a little, or at least I don’t feel as motivated or safe doing big lifts. No excuses... I have to be able to progress whether they are there or not. Good news is as I move into heavier lifts I have a lot of great stability from the core I’…
/r/MarriedRedPill07/05/19 02:19 PM
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look. most “men” on mrp are losers. some of us are recovered losers tho. the flawed logic in so many comments here is that if you’re on reddit asking how to threesome, then you dont deserve one. maybe you’re a loser for being here but recovered losers are capable of threesomes too. always follow the 90/10 rule. whatever group of men you’re around... 90% are losers. 90% of men are losers. 90% of men on reddit are beating it to porn instead of self improving. 90% of men on mrp are LOSERS too. that…
/r/askMRP19/04/19 04:17 AM
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do u?
/r/MarriedRedPill06/04/19 12:27 PM
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hahaha yeah i fired this out over coffee this morning. it’s a typo but let it live as evidence.
/r/MarriedRedPill04/04/19 06:38 PM
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...but due to an injury I got depressed. So you’re a victim huh? She has put on weight which I have nothing against. Yes you do. You pretend it doesn’t. Her confidence as a woman has drowned but I support all of her endeavours. No you don’t. You pretend to. I don't think I'm whiney.. I'll ask her that another day. Yes you are. And so very very lost. Hit the sidebar or don’t bother posting here.
/r/askMRP22/03/19 03:16 PM
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Er hem... let’s ask better questions what did you stop doing right? Let’s count the differences. You were novel and mysterious at one point. STFU and have your own life. You wouldn’t have settled for one position of scheduled sex when you met. She was attracted to a man with standards and the courage to dump her for not meeting them. Now onto the things we don’t know about you. How’s your physical appearance? Are you as in shape as you were? Might she expect that you would become more fit as tim…
/r/askMRP20/03/19 09:31 PM
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PHYSICAL: Cut continues, new numbers Hit some new numbers on 5x5. I deloaded after my injury and have worked on form and control. Happy to say I'm ass to grass, stretching in between sets and doing lite yoga and massager every night. OHP: 125 DL: 255 BP: 175 BSQ: 185 FSQ: 165 The cut continues. Currently hovering at 183 and want to get to 180 while still progressing on 5x5. It's the little things that make the difference. Adding complexes on off days and saying no to that last bite is the differ…
/r/MarriedRedPill19/03/19 01:47 PM
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i always appreciate your insights. you’re always deep into it. i wrote this piece in my journal to cement in my head that i help others in order to match my actions to my values, not appease anyone else. i purposely left out my context, stats, etc from this post. what no one here knows is that my mission is to serve a particular issue i’m passionate about. i’ve worked in non profits my whole life, my current company is all on my back to serve that issue and i constantly donate and work in-kind, …
/r/MarriedRedPill19/03/19 12:50 AM
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OP’s dad is wise. I’m a downtown guy, uptown girls love me. They don’t need anyone financially so it’s more about your style and presence. Just a gigilo...
/r/TheRedPill10/03/19 04:41 PM
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Marriage is a separate from kids. I’m married to a girl with lots of inherited assets so honestly the dread is on her not me. That said, we plan to have kids in the next few years. She’s a good option because she has RP fundamentals to her, hates hypocritical feminists, expects high self ownership from me and herself as well, she’s a caring doting feminine counterpart to my leadership qualities. We make a great one two punch that kids need.
/r/TheRedPill04/03/19 06:52 PM
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OYS PHYSICAL: Finally it's time for brutality Finally able to go 5x5 in the gym. I’ve been on “endurance” since hurting my back in November. I had to go all the way back to the bar, and focus on mobility. I’ve been doing yoga almost everyday since. It’s curious month for me since I’m cutting and at the same time going back into 5x5. This month I’m planking 10 minutes every night (60 sec, 90, 90, 120, 90, 90, 60). My goal is a 6 pack for my birthday in April which is 100% in my control if I cut d…
/r/MarriedRedPill12/02/19 02:37 PM
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“Most people don’t have it within themselves to even have the insight to think they’d ever want to change their nature. It’s easier to trot out “Just be yourself” when someone has that introspect. People don’t want you to change. Your predictability gives them comfort. You’re an easy element to deal with so they think that if you act in some new way you’re not being authentic.“
/r/MarriedRedPill12/02/19 02:05 PM
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As the gatekeeper to commitment I set the terms. In our current relationship I can pursue other women and she can pursue other women. My wife rubs it to lesbian porn and has a threesome fantasy that she has not pursued. I’ve made it clear that I find her with another woman hot and not a conflict whatsoever. If she wants me there as well, cool, if not she can go enjoy it by yourself. I can’t negotiate her attraction or desires.
/r/askMRP10/02/19 10:40 PM
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i feel ya on this. i’m here to create record of how far i came. be great it it helps someone else. but it’s function is to have some cringe in the bank if i ever get too lazy.
/r/MarriedRedPill05/02/19 04:09 AM
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I have my wife kiss my cock goodbye in the morning (clean your damn cock first). Takes 30 seconds and she’ll be horny all day without fail. Makes sex great when there’s an 8+ hour build up.
/r/askMRP30/01/19 06:37 PM
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No idea who that is and u/vasilly turns up nothing.
/r/MarriedRedPill29/01/19 02:23 PM
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Sex is like oxygen. It's only important when you're not getting any. Never be hungry. People sense it as weakness and run away. How do you reconcile these two thing? In general you seem like you care way too much about fucking. Elevate your goals in life and sex will be a natural by-product.
/r/MarriedRedPill29/01/19 02:21 PM
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PHYSICAL 34 Y.O., 5'10", 185lbs, 12% BF Currently cutting back down to 175 again. Was up to 190 during bulk and it was great to see my face so flushed out, and that a large T shirt could be tight but I miss the definition of abs. If I cut back to 175 I'll be sub 10% BF. Currently doing 5x5 three days a week, and planking in between, with one day of rest a week. I feel so much better physically having done yoga almost every day this month. I really need to add the massager into my routine after 5…
/r/MarriedRedPill29/01/19 02:15 PM
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Secret: men have feelings too. Don't blame him for the mental load. When my wife tells me she's overwhelmed and does so without pointing a finger at me, it triggers a feeling of "My wife's in trouble, I'm off to the rescue!". Men hate feeling nagged but love feeling powerful. Make him feel like he's saving the day instead of doing what he's told.
/r/RedPillWomen29/01/19 01:51 PM
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honestly it’s just from within. i’m an artist and just not motivated by money or influence but i’m very motivated by freedom, curiousity and new experiences and people. it’s REALLY important to know your carrot as a self employed person. pursuing money or fame feels like i’m whipping myself to go forward, but meeting new people and traveling that comes along with being a self employed artist is like a carrot that i really want. as far as books, i do remember toni robbins saying “i can’t give peo…
/r/MarriedRedPill22/01/19 11:43 PM
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Maybe give us some more details like your age, and location (urban/rural/suburban). The modern dating scene differs a lot by age and location. Also there are a lot of options and scenarios based on your interests (hobbies, events, etc).
/r/RedPillWomen22/01/19 04:39 PM
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PHYSICAL: C+ I’ve added yoga every day this month. I missed 2 sessions this month but in general I’ve been stretching when I have a minute. Went out of town this weekend so no gym available but I did my 100 push-ups and some planks each day. Plus snowboarding a pretty good core workout. Hit the gym last night and strangely my right knee acted up on the sled... so I’ll need to reload a little and watch my form. Right now I’m cutting from 190 to 185 or maybe even 183. If I maintain muscle, that’d …
/r/MarriedRedPill22/01/19 04:34 PM
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I think the surface is T&A. Tits and ass are lovely in both male and female minds, highly sexualized in the surface. Men don’t see some other dudes cock as sexy, or a signifier or sex, they see it as competition to be fought off. Under the surface is where I’m baffled still. How could my wife enjoy a FFM? It makes no sense to me “as a man”. So there something subliminal or subconscious about it. My wife responds very well to other women flirting or chasing me. FFM is a grandiose version of that …
/r/MarriedRedPill22/01/19 12:02 AM
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I echo this dudes warning. It’s like we’re not allowed to say we’re happy with our wife here, dare I say she’s better than other women? The fact is there is a greater spectrum of men than women. Some women are a better fit than others, some are objectively “better” but most women cluster around the mean. With men there are few keepers and mostly losers. Women know this, but many men today don’t, they’ve been tricked into thinking we’ll all be equally treated the same whether we hustle or not. Hi…
/r/askMRP18/01/19 02:53 PM
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Am I remiss to believe that the violence from men is only going to get worse? I know we’re supposed to work on ourselves first and not talk about fight club but is there a point where we go beyond leading by example and start speaking out? It’s acta non verba for sure, but when is speaking an action in and of itself? Like pulling aside a young man and saying hey I see your anger, but there’s a way forward, come own your shit. I hesitate to bring it up here because most of us aren’t ready to lead…
/r/MarriedRedPill17/01/19 02:18 AM
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Owning your shit is extremely hard when you're beating yourself up instead of lifting yourself up. Shout out to anyone here who deals with PTSD or honestly shout out to everyone here who needs to start seeing how awesome their potential is and how that's only limited by our lack of imagination on what we can become. I'm a self-employed artist in between projects right now and I'm writing 2 books and it's beating the shit out of me. Can I do this? Am I allowed to do this? What the fuck do I think…
/r/MarriedRedPill08/01/19 01:42 PM
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i need a bit more of that flirting in public in front of her. honestly it’s the best fuel for her.
/r/MarriedRedPill05/01/19 04:43 AM
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honestly this sounds like something my wife would do. she’s quite a chicken with many things and this has so much social push and veiled power shifts that her forebrain will scream to pull back.
/r/MarriedRedPill05/01/19 04:42 AM
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exactly. i stopped posting here. in fact i need to get off reddit entirely. glad to see u get it. let’s quit together! but one of the functions of fellowships is to remember core principles. better to find RP in the real world.
/r/MarriedRedPill30/12/18 03:04 PM
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I’ve asked multiple times for stories/advice on MRP but there’s a reason no one offers advice here. MRP is self selecting. All dudes on MRP are not threesome potential. Basically all dudes on Reddit TBH.
/r/MarriedRedPill30/12/18 12:33 AM
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Life is too short not to state, entertain and explore your dreamlike fantasies. I’d celebrate faggots or cucks who at least have the courage to live life on the edges. Unlike most of the boring worthless “men” here on MRP who are dominated by the world and their wife. Life is short. Get yours. But yeah I wouldn’t do MFM because reasons. With a buddy and a plate sounds like a better option.
/r/MarriedRedPill30/12/18 12:31 AM
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One would think. She’s my dream girl and I could list the reasons.
/r/MarriedRedPill30/12/18 12:22 AM
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No judgement on the ONS but the deception was looked down on. I agree with him, the lying was hurtful. ultimately I figured my wife would forgive easier than give permission which is so far the case. That said she could easily have said GTFO which would have been okay too. Outcome indifference.
/r/MarriedRedPill30/12/18 12:21 AM
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Yeah I have similar misgivings about going to my regular PCP but a local endo would be clueless? And what do I need an endo for? Does TRT need prescription? Or should I use other supplements meanwhile?
/r/askMRP22/12/18 02:56 PM
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the injections affect fertility? did u talk to your pcp about the clomid?
/r/askMRP21/12/18 04:03 PM
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i really didn’t feel any difference after starting finesteride or rogaine. i suspect i’ve had low t my whole life. explains a lot.
/r/askMRP21/12/18 04:02 PM
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I'd agree that "responsibility" is the better word than "fault". Gets to the point of action faster. When it comes to apologizing, my rule of thumb is I will typically laugh at my mistake, and simply say what I'd do different. If I do ever apologize, I do it once and never linger on it. Some people often ask for more apologies, more self-flagellation. Don't. They don't actually want another apology, they want an end to their negative feelings. Distract them. Tease them. Disappear. Put on a recor…
/r/MarriedRedPill20/12/18 01:51 PM
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While this seems different on surface from what precipitates the “main event” around here, it is essentially the same. Main events are caused by seemingly irreconcilable differences. Most of the men here (and many who aren’t here) make a dead bedroom their contention because they are needy, whiny losers who no one wants to fuck. Still others feel the tension of a main event coming because their vision of the home/family/lifestyle seems irreconcilable with hers. Such was the case with me. If you …
/r/askMRP19/12/18 08:29 PM
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Welcome. You haven’t said how old your wife is. That may come into play here. You’re fairly old to be undergoing a major mind shift like RP. That’s rare. While there are many who awaken at 50+, there are very few that make actual life changes above age 30. Your wife may be one of those who awaken but will not make changes. One of the first tenets here is to save the man not the marriage. I’d suggest proceeding your current trajectory for at least a year before looking back to see if your wife is…
/r/askMRP19/12/18 03:11 AM
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48 laws and art of seduction were fantastic. i’ll give that one a go.
/r/askMRP06/12/18 04:19 AM
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i tried jockos podcast and couldn’t get into it. his books better?
/r/askMRP05/12/18 03:06 PM
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hey i’m about at the end of iron john. i loved it but it’s a bit like a thesis towards the end. thick stuff. he provides counter examples of symbolism so it’s entertaining but thick.
/r/askMRP05/12/18 03:05 PM
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Podcasts don't get much love here. Probably because they aren't static and can change like blogs? u/bluepillprofessor 's book reviews were really helpful to me early on.
/r/askMRP05/12/18 06:15 AM
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Been a while. I remember it blew my mind at 15. See how it holds up.
/r/askMRP05/12/18 06:13 AM
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Interesting. I'll give him a try.
/r/askMRP04/12/18 09:49 PM
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Read em all. Looking for more.
/r/askMRP04/12/18 09:49 PM
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Congrats on the upcoming year. Celebrate by treating yourself to another.
/r/MarriedRedPill21/11/18 06:47 AM
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> This should probably go on the OYS thread I'd agree if you were actually owning your shit with this post. > I found my mission. Your mission a better job? A better girl? Kicking heroin? What's your mission in year 2? New socks? > I’m trying to give value to everyone. Well mister you don't really give us any here. Why? Exhibit A: > I am working hard at everything I do. This is basically your post in one sentence. See how broad it is? Actually assess your weaknesses, where you specifically made …
/r/MarriedRedPill20/11/18 09:34 PM
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I’m not going to say he shouldn't look after himself ... Then don’t. Telling him to drink is retarded.
/r/askMRP13/11/18 03:58 AM
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But fundamentally - why do we get into relationships? Trust. Yep. As funny as it sounds she’s barely hurt about my 7 ONSs because I kept the core of the relationship intact for a possible reconciliation. I also didn’t get caught but I revealed as a DL13 kind of thing. So she’s more scared than untrusting and I think dread is very different than distrust.
/r/MarriedRedPill10/11/18 06:43 PM
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Good luck on everything. Self care is vital for you right now.
/r/askMRP10/11/18 06:38 PM
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I agree with you addressing her feelings after the announcement. You no longer have any contract with her, so your kindness comes from a genuine place and isn’t a covert contract. It’s just the proof you are upstanding man that she should want to be the bio father of her girl.
/r/askMRP10/11/18 05:53 PM
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Out of curiosity other than a few 3somes with your wife what do you hope to gain from this? What if she doesn't have the kink and she is desperately trying to keep pace with you? Will you finally fucking end it? Beyond a threesome, I’m intrigued that my wife may have a hot husband fetish. This would be a jackpot for me. It’s not just about sex. I realized in my MRP journey that new women bring out my best, they inspire my fire, I want to impress them, I want to seduce them. And all of that fire …
/r/MarriedRedPill09/11/18 06:48 AM
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Yeah anyone about to tie the knot is nervous about monogamy. Cue in bisexuality and you got a loud shot clock counting down.
/r/MarriedRedPill08/11/18 11:19 PM
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Can confirm. An out of town girl about to marry a woman checked my schedule for months til our schedules coincided. Guess she’s not ready to eat muffins for the rest of her life. Water will find a way.
/r/MarriedRedPill08/11/18 04:12 PM
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Smoke em if you got em. I toke with my wife 3x a week. Dropped acid with her last August. You do you baby.
/r/askMRP08/11/18 06:22 AM
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There is no "right move" without frame. All "right moves" stem from that right frame of mind. If this happened to a man who had abundance mentality, what would he do? Whatever he did it wouldn't matter what the wife or the bartender or the friend did.
/r/askMRP06/11/18 02:38 PM
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This. I have an alarm on my phone that just says "You die" at 10pm every night. Making progress means you must fuck up sometimes, and so you must reset, go back to the line of scrimmage, get smeared again and again until you don't. Monk mode is a thing for bachelors but not really in marriage. Hard mode is hard. Make it so the "failed test" is just a blip in your future.
/r/askMRP06/11/18 02:31 PM
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OYS #100: 2 years in edition Yep it's been 2 full years since I stumbled upon this subreddit. It was right after a blow out argument over the phone with my wife. I couldn't figure out why she was acting so shitty. Yeah... it's because I was acting shitty. It took way too long for me to figure out that other people won't respect me if I have no plan, no will power, and no frame. Why should they? PHYSICAL: Finally out of injury mode? I hurt my back 1.5 months ago. During injury time, I swapped out…
/r/MarriedRedPill06/11/18 02:20 PM
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that’s a solid point. in some way or another she feeds on drama. right now we are straight planning a ffm which is exciting. i’ve learned if life doesn’t keep her on her toes, she’ll usually invent drama. better to have her frustrations feed my mission than leave it to chance.
/r/MarriedRedPill02/11/18 07:05 PM
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Yeah I remember my first real relationship at 23. I broke it off after 1.5 years. Slept with someone else, and we got back together. She found out about the other girl, wanted me more than ever. Repeat that 2 more times. It made no sense at the time, now I understand the hysterical bonding. Since this is OYS, I think the chink in my frame is that I actually do think about if she'll cheat (or ever has). Honestly is does me 0% good to even consider it. Spending my time patrolling my girl is a wast…
/r/MarriedRedPill31/10/18 03:20 PM
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I have no idea what's in her mind, nor will I. But I think it's my nature to push imagined boundaries including hers and other girls. When I find out where exactly that boundary is, then it shifts and morphs, and I begin again. So be it. It doesn't take an ounce more of energy if I'm congruent and ready to walk from disrespect. She could cheat. And she has recently said it would be easy for her (read: shit test) but my gut says she's not interested. This relationship is slowly revealing RP truth…
/r/MarriedRedPill31/10/18 03:14 PM
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I think it’d be an excellent FR. Some classic words from her like “I’m strangely turned on by your cheating. My therapist said that can be normal.” My goal is to have my side of the marriage open but I don’t have any models here or offline. Next Wednesday I’m headed out of town for 2 weeks. I still haven’t committed to monogamy, and I honestly don’t want to. The main issue is that “talking about it” amounts to “negotiating”. She has a threesome FFM fantasy that we explore, and Monday she initiat…
/r/MarriedRedPill31/10/18 12:27 PM
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Username checks out. Is this something that happened to you?
/r/MarriedRedPill31/10/18 12:23 PM
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MRP: Is DL13 a thing? PHYSICAL: Doctor says I sprained my lower back Still looking for a clear diagnosis but for now heavy lifting is out. Low impact, aerobics, yoga, stretching, muscle relaxers and icy hot before bed are in. Owning my shit means I should have bought that lumbar pillow for my long drives/flights and should have made stretching a part of my lifting regime. ​ SEXUAL: Told wife about 7 ONS in the last year Sex has been incredible. Wife is all for everything since I revealed that I'…
/r/MarriedRedPill30/10/18 12:37 PM
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Rather than ask the right thing to do, ask what will change depending on the path you take. NO BLOWIE: You continue improving right? You find other offers down the road because abundance right? Wife either does or doesn’t get on board because you don’t care and it’s not about her right? TAKE THE BLOWIE: You experience a little “reward” for your work but you don’t take your foot off the gas right? She finds out maybe but you don’t DEER and don’t lose frame right? You don’t justify your blowjob, o…
/r/askMRP29/10/18 12:12 PM
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we’re not supposed to feel sorry for ourselves but this is a shit moment as a man. you deserve empathy for getting canned but all she can think of is how “affected” you are by losing your job, and what this means to hear quality of life. and yet, you should have given her the stoic or even comic presence. it sucks but it’s also a serious motivator to not let anything knock you out of frame.
/r/MarriedRedPill25/10/18 04:03 AM
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I have a similar situation. My wife comes from money, I come from poverty. She’s gonna inherit $3-5 million, I’ll inherit a $50k cabin in the woods. My wife and I do not have a prenup. She brought it up before marrying but I simply stated that I don’t give a damn about money and if she insisted on a prenup than we weren’t right for each other. That said, my wife’s trust has helped immensely. Our house is in the trust. Our kids education is in the trust. The fact that I do not have a prenup has b…
/r/MarriedRedPill17/10/18 03:20 AM
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i have a simple routine. visualize myself dying as i go to bed each night. i’m a new man every day. literally nothing a woman said matters tomorrow. or to put it in wider perspective. nothing anyone said today - including you - matters more than a fiddlers fart tomorrow.
/r/askMRP15/10/18 03:10 AM
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this is the post that i needed to see
/r/askMRP05/10/18 12:34 PM
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OYS: Road Edition (3 weeks) I’ve been on the road for a few weeks now. 3 weeks ago I flew into City 1 and met my ‘assistant’ there. Really a friend who had flown out to help me on a project on her own dime. The last night there she was showing me how far she could spread her legs. I wrapped a belt around her hands and we made out for a while. Dropped off assistant and then wife flew out to City 1 for a weekend. Bang bang bang. Awesome time kayaking, seeing new sites, and eating cool food. Meanwh…
/r/MarriedRedPill02/10/18 07:10 PM
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If you’re fucking a plate you shouldn’t care whether SHE can handle DL12. Can YOU? Can you hold frame and tell her that the sex isn’t good enough for you? Can you do this without accusing here of anything but just stating that you wanted more and went and got it. Can you stand there and say I just have a higher sex drive babe with no shame and without DEERing? I’ve been ONS-ing for a year now and if my wife finds out I’ll just shrug my shoulders and say I told you I wasn’t happy with our sex lif…
/r/askMRP24/09/18 11:32 PM
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That’s why i see no need to rebutt any of the anonymous “men” of MRP. They debate my story but have no context. My wife giggled within the context. Nuff for me.
/r/MarriedRedPill20/09/18 04:34 PM
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the only fail is you are making is not saying what you’re going to do about it. dont give me this whoa is me shit. walk away, punching bag, read, make a plan.
/r/askMRP17/09/18 03:07 AM
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The reason she doesn’t let up on you is because her nagging IS WORKING. Your wife’s words made you come whine on an internet forum. She owns your feelings. You’re being a whiny bitch. She is dominating you. Grow the fuck up and actually stop giving a shit, instead of pretending you don’t.
/r/askMRP16/09/18 01:07 PM
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Artist. New product. Hard to value. Too many clients types. I think I need to develop sales funnel for different product/customer fit.
/r/MarriedRedPill07/09/18 03:38 AM
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I was doing 5 x 1 minute sets and then up to 5 x 2 minute sets. It was killer for not much gain. I say you just do perfect form for as long as you can for as many sets as you can. The point is getting great targeting. If you're compensating with arms or back, stop and assess form.
/r/MarriedRedPill05/09/18 06:31 PM
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I've got two one at home and one for trips. Yeah it can burn me up good. The problem is I had shit habits with my core. For my whole life I just sit down with no stabilizing from the core. I've been training myself to use my core at all times. Sort of like you can't even target the muscle area for a while until you have some muscle there. That's helped and now the ab roll has something to target.
/r/MarriedRedPill05/09/18 06:29 PM
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“Remember though that you don’t learn here.” Ain’t it the truth. We get a glimpse of the lesson plan here that’s all. Reading Reddit posts is not the same as learning!
/r/MarriedRedPill05/09/18 01:09 PM
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I’m 5’ 10” and i started at 175 and was probably 17% bf. I was doing mostly endurance and lost 5 lbs over 6 months which brought me to about 14% bf. Then i started 5x5 and added creatine and whey and bulked without realizing it. 12 mo the later I was suddenly 188 and about 13%bf. Now i’m cutting - about 180 at the moment - and i think a cut down to 175 would put me at 10% bf. there’s no quick way. honestly i was over developed in the chest and arms and pathetic in the core (and legs). there’s on…
/r/MarriedRedPill05/09/18 01:01 PM
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“Being alpha” is a retarded concept here. But men use it as a goal to provoke action from themselves. Being alpha is a nonspecific goal but it’s fine for now as long as you make specific actionable tasks for yourself.
/r/MarriedRedPill05/09/18 12:50 PM
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I can tell by reading your post that you're in a good headspace to make some progress. I agree 100% that you are limited by your addictions. We almost all are when we begin choking down the pill. For my first year I started and stopped a habit each month. One month I'd give up fap and start doing planks each night. Or I'd give up sugar and add in reading in the morning. The point is you can't change yourself overnight. Here's a football article for you. If you start thinking life is a game where…
/r/MarriedRedPill04/09/18 12:46 PM
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PHYSICAL: Weighing more than your dad This was a total mind fuck. I was talking to my step-dad and he's lost a lot of weight. The dude is my height 5'10" but has always been around 215, but now down to 175. I'm at 185 and I realize I'm bigger than my dad. I guess it was coming but it shocked me. All of us seek a rippled stomach, I'm genuinely curious... how many of you have visible abs? I can seem them without flexing in most any light. And I know right now - for the first time in my life - that…
/r/MarriedRedPill04/09/18 12:36 PM
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i get it but honestly my back is sore from coughing for 2 weeks straight. not a good time for deadlifting full load.
/r/MarriedRedPill31/08/18 06:35 PM
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first for both of us but my sister, brother, dad have all dropped so i had a lot of guidance. can't remember what shrooms was like. this was half a tab so it wasn't a hard trip. the most important thing is having a purpose and surrounding yourself with nature.
/r/MarriedRedPill29/08/18 11:13 PM
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worth a shot. my sister and her ex had a great time on x. i might wait a little bit. maybe x on new years lol
/r/MarriedRedPill29/08/18 11:11 PM
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she shies away from surprises so this one took finessing. i lead us to new adventures, she follows reluctantly at first but then is grateful. she really is a great companion to explore with.
/r/MarriedRedPill29/08/18 11:11 PM
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34yo | 5'10" | 185lbs BSQ 185 | FSQ 150 | BP 175 | BBR 150 | OHP 125 | DL 250 married 3 yrs to 32 yo | together 7 | 0 kids ​ PHYSICAL: Recovering from cold, good time to deload I got hit with a nasty cold. Phlegm for 2 weeks now. My left ear closed up with fluid and couldn't hear much for the last week. I was on vacation for 9 days of it and kept exercising through it but decided to rest up for about 5 days last week and didn't do much besides hiking. I got home yesterday and hit the gym with so…
/r/MarriedRedPill28/08/18 01:51 PM
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if you were doing something awesome, you’d assume they would follow you. allow them to opt out but give them a healthy teasing. if you were doing something necessary, you’d assume they would help you. never ask them to opt in to something necessary just tell them what they need to do. feeling helpful is their reward, soon they love helping you.
/r/askMRP23/08/18 02:19 PM
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dude you need to explore to know your mission. it doesn’t come from doing the same thing and suddenly you have a new huge goal. it’s like everything else here, make progress by taking action. go try new hobbies, new groups, new cities, and one day something will pique your interest and you can’t stop thinking about it.
/r/askMRP23/08/18 02:07 PM
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if shit needs to get done you do it regardless of how you feel. the point is some people wait til they feel “up to it”. which probably never comes. it’s like waiting for motivation beforehand, rather than just doing it and feeling satisfied after.
/r/TheRedPill23/08/18 01:48 PM
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my mentor told me good feelings follow good actions.
/r/TheRedPill23/08/18 03:27 AM
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i’ve got this same negative self talk pretty bad. always been with me, my whole life. not sure why, maybe the abuse as a kid. maybe feeling less than for growing up poor. regardless i really relate to what you’re talking about at a deep level. i once tried to use that voice to propel me, but shaming myself into good behavior turned out to be a retarded premise. “unrelenting standards” is how my mentor described it. “low self esteem” is another phrase for it. as faggoty as others here will say it…
/r/MarriedRedPill17/08/18 02:04 AM
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2nd. In my experience, girls are excited by a man who embraces his negative emotions in a funny or amusing way. It’s attractive to be able to relate with someone they esteem higher than themselves. Just don’t it so often that negativity becomes your identity. And don’t do it in a “somebody save me” kind of way. Girls have a fantasy that they can relate to a high value man. It’s exciting for them to have the illusion that you’re like them for a moment.
/r/TheRedPill12/08/18 03:22 PM
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just gonna say i’ve been taking finesteride for 3 years with no issues. sounds no good for you but it may work for others. i’m very happy i took the leap
/r/askMRP05/08/18 09:32 PM
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whifff... right over your head. what's this new dad stuff? did she say that or are you saying that to yourself? either way our point is that you need abundance mentality and general confidence. the kids will be alright. you'll be alright. nothing can break you. and therefore nothing can break the kids because you're their dad and you own your shit and you are the shit.
/r/askMRP28/07/18 12:12 AM
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Women will give it up for an artist. If he's talented then it ups his SMV and if he's passionate it strokes her drama button. And about your wife... I saw this scrawled in many art school bathrooms: "art girls are easy"
/r/askMRP26/07/18 01:56 PM
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"new dad"? Is it really that easy to go to the grocery store and get a "new dad". If you've been improving your value - and continue to do so - then you can go to the store and get a "new girl" so much easier than she can get a "new dad". So many things are stacked against us in marriage, but time is on our side as men. Remember that it gets harder for her to find a replacement for you, and much easier for you to replace her.
/r/askMRP26/07/18 01:46 PM
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Stop making your destination "sex with her". It should be "sex with a woman I want". Swallow that and do the work. And eventually it won't even be a destination. It'll just be something that happens when you pulled into a station, or oops I fucked her in the sleeping car. #trainsex
/r/MarriedRedPill26/07/18 01:40 PM
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r/tinder is a train of cringe
/r/MarriedRedPill26/07/18 01:35 PM
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Since I got home from my trip the wife has been moody and pissy. I listen to her problems with other people because it builds value between us, makes us more solid to have a common enemy. But when she's complaining about what we're doing together that moment then I say knock it off.
/r/MarriedRedPill26/07/18 01:31 PM
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Same. My wife has a business degree, dad's a banker, and she comes from an educated finance family. She's makes better decisions than most of my family. I have a masters in finance. What I'm getting at is that you and your wife can be awesome with money. In our house, there's no bickering about "who's better with money". We consult with each other on all big decisions. But when it comes to making the final decision, it's on me because I'm the long term planner and the one comfortable with risk t…
/r/MarriedRedPill26/07/18 01:18 PM
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Owning my shit #999 I'm reading the "Monomyth" by Joseph Campbell and I see that I'm right down in the abyss about to confront the powerful being. Ah fuck it, I'm getting off reddit.
/r/MarriedRedPill26/07/18 01:06 PM
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intrapreneurship is a great path for those who can innovate within someone’s else’s company. to be honest it’s way harder to start your own company than to just start doing what the fuck you want at work.
/r/MarriedRedPill12/07/18 02:51 PM
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alienated from my true self... fuck that’s a pretty accurate diagnosis
/r/MarriedRedPill12/07/18 01:38 AM
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If something provides a tangible threat to my MAP, I will act. I have done so before, and I will do it again. I will lie cheat and steal to keep my life going in the direction I want it to. I know my life goal and I’ve been exploring some “shortcuts” by letting go of morality and trying new things. Lessons learned are: Half-truths and audacious claims are just necessary in building a business. When you know what you’re meant to become, some will say you’re full of shit. If it ruffles you, you’re…
/r/MarriedRedPill10/07/18 05:51 PM
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It’s been a whole nother red pill growing a business and seeing how much people posture, flex, half-truth and overpromise just to get further.
/r/MarriedRedPill10/07/18 12:20 PM
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It’s not good. In my OYSs my weakest part is always mental. I definitely have PTSD from some childhood trauma and so I’m hyper vigilant, in an anxiety producing way. I was raised with a lot of principles and values. I can look back and say i’ve lived with integrity. But I’ve been experimenting with dishonesty to see if it really does get you farther. It sort of does but you have to keep up the rouse which is very dissonant to me. As far as MPoO I’ve only had strength there when I was semi religi…
/r/MarriedRedPill10/07/18 11:41 AM
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yep. this is where i came to and am still sorting out. i played with the effectiveness of dishonesty. i had to in order to get over the morality of it. i agree that others see through the mask, and having to hide shit feeds ego.
/r/MarriedRedPill09/07/18 09:46 PM
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I know. I'm waffling hard this past month. There's just something really empty feeling right now. The ego is still so strong and I want others to like me. And I still can't accept the world as it is.
/r/MarriedRedPill09/07/18 03:31 PM
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Divorce is like that max deadlift, maybe the first time you REALLY lift. You sweat, scream, etc. When you one shot the heaviest wright of your life. All the preceding efforts allow you to pass the test. Then as soon as you pass you have to regularly lift that weight. But you’re stronger, you’re grateful for the pain because you are stronger and you handle divorce level stress with strength and finesse.
/r/MarriedRedPill08/07/18 09:56 PM
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thats an idiotic response. calling her a psycho because she’s expressing her high valuation of you? your girl is supposed to be jealous. OP this isn’t your problem, it’s hers. therefore no problem at all. you don’t have to fix anything. your only problem is now you need non chubby girls to start swolesting you. dial up that jealousy and yes be willing to walk from legit crazy.
/r/askMRP05/07/18 01:08 PM
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SEXUAL: Doing whatever I want That's it. Just doing whatever I want. Putting my finger on her dirt button. Telling her I want a sloppy blowjob. Just doing whatever I want, when I want. On a side note. I'm just going to set up a threesome and if she plays some bitch card, I'll just fuck the other girl in front of her. I'm tired of her half in / half out moralizing bullshit. She doesn't need to approve of the other girl. PHYSICAL: OK to rest, just be honest Missed 3 days in a row. First two becaus…
/r/MarriedRedPill03/07/18 04:37 PM
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This has nothing to do with the girl. Just men’s insecurity allowing a girl to influence their actions.
/r/TheRedPill01/07/18 05:58 PM
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u/idle135 ok here's my "goals" >sculpting now >pitch a lot >focus on body and business and other things I already said
/r/MarriedRedPill20/06/18 12:25 PM
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They seem mostly defined by how my wife treats me It's all in how you read it... you could also read them as: They seem mostly defined by how the man feels victimized and entitled.
/r/MarriedRedPill20/06/18 12:22 PM
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Broke my keyboard like a 2 year old throwing a tantrum. Wife keyed in to that a bit, which turned into a whole thing. ... So actually FEELING it this much has made me realize that my great self control is actually just a huge sham. Yep. But you're not here because life is peachy. r/MRP is for men who've lost control of the ship. I would refer you to the sidebar, find out what captain you are. Own this problem as yours and yours alone.
/r/MarriedRedPill19/06/18 12:29 PM
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OYS: 19 MONTHS EDITION PHYSICAL: Sculpting Now Well after ballooning up to 188 lbs on bulk period, I'm cutting down to 180 to see how things carve out. After a week of diet, I notice some great definition at the gym last night. I used to look around the gym a year ago and see dudes and wonder how in the world the could be lean AND buff. Now I get it. It's just good old fashioned put-the-time-in. There is no big secret, it's just going to the gym for years on end. Pretty cool how that works. MENT…
/r/MarriedRedPill19/06/18 12:22 PM
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OYS 1.5+ YEARS INTO THIS PHYSICAL: Losing weight for the first time in my life. At 5'10" I've been gaining a lot of muscle and now I tipped the scale at 190... christ. I think I've gone up to 12%BF from 11%. I told myself I'd stay at 175 and just get leaner at the same weight but it's so friggin easy to just put on muscle now... but it comes with fat too. I'm gonna slim down to 185 or 180. I'm curious if that will chisel things out but I'll do that over a month or two so I don't lose muscle. I'm…
/r/MarriedRedPill12/06/18 06:55 PM
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Thanks dude
/r/MarriedRedPill06/06/18 07:35 PM
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What I do is set up new experiences with her, not just new sexual. In general she’s a homebody (and honestly an awesome FO), one who loves just coming home and having routines. I can’t force new things on her, just lead. But damn it’s 3x easier to have new experiences with someone new.
/r/MarriedRedPill06/06/18 11:38 AM
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I’m the middle of that. I’ll go finish.
/r/MarriedRedPill06/06/18 11:35 AM
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Lol I have two of that same wheel. One for home and one in my road rig. It’s more like most ab work outs target my back too much? I play with form and it helps a little.
/r/MarriedRedPill06/06/18 11:30 AM
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Exactly. Joking about hitting women is anti-woman. Joking about divorce-rape is anti-man. We should be aghast at both. Boy isn't it strange that being anti-something seems to intensify the opposition and create conflict? Fucking strange huh? The SJWs don't understand this... they instigated the silent majority to mobilize.
/r/MarriedRedPill05/06/18 02:23 PM
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Incels are the canary in the coal mine that is a gynocentric social order. I wonder if a similar thing happened in the early 20th century right before the women's movement. Bill Burr said something to the extent that men had the power and they fucked it up, joking about beating their wives, mocking their second class status by spanking them in advertising, it was all deeply demeaning to women's identity as nurturers. So they became more masculine, Rosie the Riveter, shoulder pads, etc. Now it se…
/r/MarriedRedPill05/06/18 01:39 PM
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Be grateful you have college age girls to talk to... you wanted hard mode right? The goal is to just be open and social and of value. Anyone can talk to anyone, there are no rules. I repeat, there are no rules. No one can stop her from talking to you and vice versa. Just like you need to quake a little bit pushing the bar up, you need to put yourself in situations that discomfort you. Next time imagine yourself with giant antlers walking around town. Who wouldn't want to talk to the guy with hug…
/r/MarriedRedPill05/06/18 01:27 PM
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Get chatty. It's all about starting. It becomes a habit to just be a social person. Perhaps you're afraid of being "that guy" who is annoying and talks too much? Some dudes have that problem, while some dudes have the opposite problem where they are autistic and awkward as fuck because they are "talking in their own head" instead of talking to other people. Your mission is to have neither problem. Find a way to honestly enjoy new people and new topics, be curious, seek mutual amusement in talkin…
/r/MarriedRedPill05/06/18 01:20 PM
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you guys weren't nearly as brutal as I was led to believe you could be We're brutal when we sense you're full of shit. When you honestly own your shit, there's no need for us to brutalize you. That said... Don't lie on this specific reddit account. What the fuckity fuck is this? Why would you ever lie in online forums? This is truly self-defeating pointless behavior. The whole premise of online anonymity is that you can get honest feedback from strangers with no repercussions in your actual soci…
/r/MarriedRedPill05/06/18 01:17 PM
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OYS: Get back on mission, but try new things everywhere PHYSICAL: Trying new moves 5'10", 180lb, 11%BF. I'm cutting a little bit, and throwing in some new exercises. I really miss this one ab machine at the YMCA, haven't found anything like it since. I tried a machine at my new fitness place and seriously fucked my back for a week. I only seem to build abs with heavy weight and I can only do heavy weight on that one machine without fucking my back. Ab rolls and planks are okay but nothing was be…
/r/MarriedRedPill05/06/18 01:07 PM
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I’m saying start with the bar in order to work on technique. PT is good as is watching videos. In the end practicing is what works. A lot of people brag they are lifting such and such amount but their form is bad and so they’re actually not as strong or mobile as those who have good form with less weight. 5x5 is great because it’s a full body workout in a short amount of time. You start with the bar or a little weight and then add 5 lbs each session. Once you max out, you stay there for a few we…
/r/MarriedRedPill31/05/18 12:29 PM
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Past sins... hmmm... When you man up and live right for a year, you won’t give a shit if your sins are forgiven AND anyone worth having in your life won’t care about your past sins either. My wife wants to have a kid, it’s not a form of validation for me at all. It’s just an option. Think about that. We recommend lifting for a reason, at least go in and give it a shot. Watch some vids and try the 5x5 exercises, and start with just the bar if you have to. See how you like it.
/r/MarriedRedPill31/05/18 12:48 AM
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either because I am presenting it in a too dominant way while not being dominant enough on the overall, or simply because she doesn't want to be led but to be the captain herself. Some women simply do not have a direction in life, nor do they want to be directed. I call this what it is: STUBBORNNESS. Imagine she has literally no rudder on her boat, and at the same time she doesn't want to accept any direction because of her pride. Symptoms include: doesn't respond to simple cause & effect, impli…
/r/MarriedRedPill29/05/18 01:14 PM
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What are your physical stats: Height, weight, BF%, how much can you lift, what are your times for running Running is good, but lifting is emphasized here for reasons. We're here to give you insight so share the details. How does that make any sense? I'd be fine if she went but also delighted by another pregnancy. What is my mind trying to tell me here? Or have I developed some outcome independence? Because her getting pregnant means you'd recommit instead of "not knowing what to do"? There's a c…
/r/MarriedRedPill29/05/18 12:56 PM
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Failure is good. Self-assessment is powerful. Now adjust and grow up.
/r/MarriedRedPill29/05/18 12:51 PM
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OYS: Death is the Only Result Edition Just finished "The Subtle Art of Not Giving a Fuck" by Mark Manson. His basic premise is (A) life is short and there's too many things to care about; and (B) life is continuous suffering, so don't go chasing "rest" or "escape". The lesson then is to do something that is worth suffering for. PHYSICAL: New Gym, New Goals I just got a membership to a new gym where they have enough racks to do 5x5 without waiting forever. Here's my currents stats and summer goal…
/r/MarriedRedPill29/05/18 12:47 PM
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Thats a damn insightful comment. Thanks.
/r/MarriedRedPill25/05/18 02:28 PM
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I see. Yeah that’s kind of happening but in a different way. I need more content and I’m gonna crowdsource that and aggregate, but I can’t thin out the brand.
/r/MarriedRedPill23/05/18 11:43 AM
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I feel like life is leading me to my destiny. I never really believed destiny, fate, things happen for a reason stuff. But I just listen closely to what’s happening in my industry and I see a path opening in front of me to do something new. I don’t know if this is how it works for other people but I’m essentially moving from being an artist to employing artists to help artists and it’s amazing.
/r/MarriedRedPill23/05/18 02:14 AM
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Dude it’s like everyone who hasn’t built something big is like “be sensible” and those who built something big are like “yeah you gotta have an audacious idea”. I feel like it’s both... like do the next audacious endeavor but in a sensible no bullshit manner.
/r/MarriedRedPill23/05/18 02:11 AM
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You mean when she tried to put me on the defense, but I was like "you think this is okay?" Still I feel worked up. Clearly still wishing I could change the past. To me, unfollowing was like "i don't want any reminders of my wife's mistakes in my home". To her it may have seemed like mate-guarding. MRP has had a lot of back and forth commenting on this, like I'm being true to my frame but at the same time lowering my value in her eyes. I ere on the side of doing what I want and not caring about w…
/r/MarriedRedPill22/05/18 02:40 PM
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no matter how many times you touch, the stove is still hot. lol Dude she got upset and was like "we shouldn't talk about this because we'll just get upset" to which I laughed out loud. Clearly she was upset. I found the irony too much and started choking with laughter. the spotify scene was weak as fuck IMO In my opinion too.
/r/MarriedRedPill22/05/18 02:34 PM
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Damn she was reading 50 SoG in front of you in a dead bedroom? We all have our cringe moments. Oof.
/r/MarriedRedPill22/05/18 01:56 PM
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Yeah I feel like love is to risk putting yourself out there without expectation of return. My counselor calls it “the willful extension of oneself”, like I know I can’t control the outcome (through legal contract, covert contract, social pressure, etc) but I’m gonna choose to enjoy this moment without fear of loss. Like when someone goes skydiving. I know it can end badly but I LOVE doing this. If I die... no regrets. I chose this experience with all the risks.
/r/MarriedRedPill22/05/18 01:48 PM
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Not your fault that she wants a double house budget. Def not a failure to lead, just a part of life. The solution is not some secret technique. Just understand that you will under no circumstances make a bad investment. Know that 100%. Nobody can sign that paper for you. If you can absorb that into your frame, then it doesn’t matter what she thinks, or the realtor thinks, or the Jones’ think, you are the judge of yourself.
/r/MarriedRedPill22/05/18 01:40 PM
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The essential diff between shit yes and comfort test is who is being talked about. “I feel like I’m not good enough, like I’m never enough” is all about her feelings about her, likely a comfort test. “You’re never home and when you are you only care about yourself” is all about you, a clear shit test. Most definitely that was not “an event” which would be about divorce or separation. If you get to overtly implied threats about the same, then you should prepare for the event. It more seems to me …
/r/MarriedRedPill22/05/18 01:36 PM
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**OYS: Last Call** **PHYSICAL PAIN: 5x5 bringing it** Since my new gym has proper racks I've been going up in my 5x5. I think I've been holding back because I don't quite enjoy the pain enough. It's like I want to lift heavy weights but I don't want to *struggle*. I mean I def don't want to hurt myself, but I feel like I can go another 10%. I often make jerky movements and don't go all the way up and down because I don't want to struggle. The exception is my squat which is not all the way down b…
/r/MarriedRedPill22/05/18 01:16 PM
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It’s practice. Just keep doing the right thing (not investing in valueless behavior) and suddenly it will be a habit to just shrug off irrelevant draining and distracting situations.
/r/MarriedRedPill15/05/18 04:14 PM
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Bingo. And the harmony is that she should see you sweating in the backyard and feel you up saying how sexy you look.
/r/MarriedRedPill15/05/18 02:45 PM
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Exactly. She doesn't want validation for her physical work, nor does she give a shit about the box being left out. She wants to "feel" differently about her man. You could work her 3x as hard with chores if you make her glow. "Damn babe you're so cute and happy when you pick up the house, you're such a great girl and you know what good girls get". Versus trying to guilt her into doing "one small favor please" and see how that ends up.
/r/MarriedRedPill15/05/18 02:25 PM
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She's clearly not impressed or she wouldn't care about these little "emotional labors". IMO, the things she's upset about are 99% meaningless. The real reason for writing the article is that she's hunting for the reason she no longer has feelings for her man, and she hates that hunt. A woman who sees you as the prize would never write this article because it's fucking awful to justify staying with someone. Of course, we're not here to say what the woman should do or feel. Forget what the woman s…
/r/MarriedRedPill15/05/18 02:17 PM
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Listen to this man. We are all in agreement that your OYS is not an OYS at all. Moving is hard for sure. I moved in Jan and without a fuck ton of prep, it will mess up your gym routine, your sleep schedule, your nutrition, work/life balance, etc. But guess what? Life doesn't wait. I agree that you're negotiating sex. But why? I know you don't want to think about this. You just want to move, just want things to stabilize... but during a move, during a time of destabilization, she's off balance, y…
/r/MarriedRedPill15/05/18 01:27 PM
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Since I cheated on her 14 years ago, she's been EXTREMELY insecure and suspicious. Since I've chosen to stay with an insecure and suspicious woman for 14 years, I've slowly let her dominate me with her moods. Here ya go bud. This is the area you need to wake up to. Focus on the words I used... chosen to stay and let her. You have chosen this situation, and you can't change her. You chose your actions and your response to her actions. Stop giving her needs your focus. What do you need? Do that. J…
/r/MarriedRedPill15/05/18 01:19 PM
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OYS: Be the man you would be confident in PHYSICAL: Feels so good to be back on 5x5 Got a membership at a different gym that I was "meaning to get to" for months. I haven't done a routine of 5x5 since October. My old gym didn't have racks so I had to use the "smith machines", racks which really don't require stability. However this is actually a good thing because I have a bum knee and I focused on building strength in my stabilizing muscles, I've been maxing out the leg adductor and abductor ma…
/r/MarriedRedPill15/05/18 01:05 PM
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I feel ya. I think it’s more that when enough time goes by we see how that moment led to a new opportunities. Random yes, and it causes more random, but sensing the future opportunities of a moment means I can seize that moment and redirect my energy. “What can this hardship create? How can I use this loss to propel a new trajectory?” Etc.
/r/MarriedRedPill13/05/18 05:11 AM
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Sorry don’t wanna share too much here. It’s a mix of visual and broadcast arts.
/r/MarriedRedPill09/05/18 02:17 PM
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PHYSICAL: Gained 10 lbs suddenly? Went out of town last weekend for a much needed vacation. Sure we blew money going out but we'd both been working hard and just wanted to have fun. I bought new shorts, shoes, pants, shirts and a jacket. My style is a blue collar artist with no stains and clothes that fit. I wear leather shoes/boots, wool shirts and sweaters, thick denim, and a low key cap. Went to a new gym while out of town and they had a scale (my regular gym doesn't). I weighed 188lbs...!!! …
/r/MarriedRedPill08/05/18 01:07 PM
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Cool. You’ve got a plan.
/r/MarriedRedPill03/05/18 02:54 AM
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Yep.
/r/MarriedRedPill03/05/18 02:53 AM
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I’m in the entertainment business but most of my work is out of town. I kept thinking “why isn’t she noticing what other women are?” Then I started doing social outings with her and the jealousy factor kicked in fast. I’ve definitely put a lot of work into physical and game but the kicker is that I’m often on stage now. My seduction type is very much “the charismatic” so public events with the wife present is when dread finally kicked in.
/r/MarriedRedPill03/05/18 02:53 AM
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It seems like a lot of your post is in response to her actions/reactions/feelings. It sounds like she has controlled the dynamic in the household/relationship. So don't be surprised when she fights back against A&A or AM. She also sounds like she is extremely intelligent with emotion and language. You're outgunned there hommes (for now). Instead, understand that she has no power over you, never did, never will. When you choose to "care" (and caring is a choice) you are choosing to momentarily co…
/r/MarriedRedPill01/05/18 01:33 PM
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What's your plan for addressing cash flow? Also, investing in good clothes is a wise short term investment. It can bring up confidence and social value, both of which have impacts on your ability to bring in cash/raises/deal with bullshit.
/r/MarriedRedPill01/05/18 01:25 PM
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OYS #??? Coming up on 1.5 years PHYSICAL: Switch it up I've been bored at the gym so I'm switching it up. I've been doing complexes at home. For those who don't know, a complex is a dumbbell or barbell routine where you do 4-6 exercises without stopping. Then you rest and do about 4-5 sets total. I use two 35 lb barbells and do 4 sets of 5 exercises, usually 3 leg and 2 arm. And then I change it up each time - it's sort of a cross fit style workout. My current gym has limited racks so I definite…
/r/MarriedRedPill01/05/18 01:21 PM
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Exactly. There's nothing wrong with wanting that beautiful treatment that we give to children. Love, care, protection. And your keyword is "forced", they want to be enticed and shepherded into responsibilities and obligations.
/r/MarriedRedPill24/04/18 12:57 PM
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OYS: WIN-WIN STYLE I'm doing my OYS a little differently this week. I just finished chapter 4 in "The 7 Habits of Highly Effective People" and there's a homework assignment at the end. It's very much OYS, so I'm putting it here. 1. Think about an upcoming interaction wherein you will be attempting to reach an agreement or negotiate a solution. Commit to maintain a balance between courage and consideration. I’m spoken with my wife about opening up my side of the relationship. I don’t want to chea…
/r/MarriedRedPill24/04/18 12:45 PM
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I like the comment. A satire of the self obsessed mind state. I’ve been too self focused lately.
/r/MarriedRedPill21/04/18 12:18 PM
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Confused... you can’t own a charity. 501c3, foundations, et al are board run. I agree with the ethos of your plan to build the 20% audience by pushing away the 80%. You might still need leads of both sorts for that? We’re well off topic now LOL.
/r/MarriedRedPill18/04/18 06:08 PM
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Damn we’re in the same boat. I’m getting a studio to hire a DP right now and follow me for 6 months. Then pitching a 50 part series from a list of over 400. FYI I just shot a promo vid in 4K in 60FPS on my iPhone 8. People in the industry thought it was pro.
/r/MarriedRedPill17/04/18 09:42 PM
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You hit it 100% and I needed to hear that. I’ve been feeling the highs and lows and wondering what was going on. You explained it so well. I knew there was some kind of lesson I already knew that I’d forgotten. Ive been reading Meditations first thing in the morning. The best balance to rampant western capitalism is stoicism and eastern philosophy. It works for so many entrepreneurs I know.
/r/MarriedRedPill17/04/18 09:39 PM
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men chasing that validation look for more and more. Getting less and less in return. Exactly. Your mission should not require any validation. None. Not a drop. The point is to show up, outcomes are irrelevant. We should chase deeper self-discipline, great self-awareness.
/r/MarriedRedPill17/04/18 01:09 PM
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OYS: "WHEN DO I GET TO MOVE ON?" EDITION PHYSICAL: Feeling tired, bad habits setting in, wife is dialed up I went to the gym on Friday and haven't been back since. That's 1-2-3 days without going to the gym, which happens about every 6 months when I've been sick or feeling exhausted. I've been feeling sick for a few weeks since my flight and maybe it's that. But I've also been feeling stressed and that's not helping. Meanwhile the wife is initiating and fucking my brains out because dread is dia…
/r/MarriedRedPill17/04/18 12:54 PM
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Eh, it's actually my #1 communication method at the moment. Time's are changing, email is dying, I could go on.
/r/MarriedRedPill10/04/18 01:27 PM
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The wife is not much of a fan, so I bought tickets anyway and told her to come or not. You seem overly proud that you DNGAF. I think what you did is fine, but watch how you phrase this to yourself. Think about if you were gaming a new chick, would you describe it this way? Or would it be more like this: Never sure what she's into but I bought tix to a rock show and we had a great time. Frame is everything. Frame this as you're an interesting man doing interesting things, not a man who doesn't ca…
/r/MarriedRedPill10/04/18 01:25 PM
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Decided in lieu of typical OYS I'll post the sidebar books I've read and what I learned ala the recent "Cut the Shit" post on /r/askmrp NMMNG: Men are trained to proactively take care of others and then believe others are then obligated to them in some way. WISNIFG: You don't owe any particular feeling to anybody. MMSLP: If you want a better partner, or better anything, GYST. How to Win Friends: Read it twice. Always appeal to the other person's self interest. TRM Year 1: Women are incentivized …
/r/MarriedRedPill10/04/18 01:17 PM
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Glad I found this comment as I usually don't venture into the AskMRP minefield. I feel like I'm approaching the place of having a high value woman that I don't want to lose. It's been an interesting journey for me as my situation is opposite of a lot of men here since we have no kids and the divorce would benefit me more than her. She actively supports my mission. She respects me. Sex is consistently getting better. Why wouldn't I continue to invest in this? You're right though, I had to kill th…
/r/askMRP10/04/18 04:50 AM
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Let me tell you man, you've come to the right subreddit. Problem 1 I think your wife became explicit and is stating things bluntly now because subtlety and subtext didn't work. My guess is she was alluding to how upset she was with the marriage over the year prior. Looking back do you any signals you were missing? You should read "the medium is the message". Once upon a time this would have helped you. But right now she's being explicit. So don't bother reading between the lines on this. She def…
/r/askMRP10/04/18 04:36 AM
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how many times have you done this now? are you seeing any drop in efficacy? Not at all, in fact it seems to be bringing us to better sex and also better comfort in between as well. I've accepted her for what she is, and I've also accepted that drama is a natural result of a sexually charged relationship. I've also learned to enjoy the ride. There's great passages in "Way of the Superior Man" about learning to appreciate the unknown and oscillating nature of women, something like "you are the lon…
/r/MarriedRedPill09/04/18 02:04 PM
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I'm waiting for a good FR on threesomes but no one seems to be able to offer any notes here... I'm spending more time on /r/sex lately.
/r/MarriedRedPill09/04/18 01:57 PM
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Just for my girl, I wouldn’t extrapolate it. I’ve learned that she loves being on the edge. I swear to god she is stubborn as fuck about the strangest things until I say “okay well then I guess it’s over” and then she begs for me to stay and overcompensates. I won’t say AWALT but mine is. It sounds like 4 dimensional chess for sure but I’ve learned to make it work.
/r/MarriedRedPill09/04/18 02:40 AM
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Nah that’s pretty close. But with black mesh tights.
/r/MarriedRedPill08/04/18 10:37 AM
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I’m not learning the dark arts to seduce just one woman.
/r/MarriedRedPill08/04/18 10:36 AM
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Great post. I appreciated the personal parts of it.
/r/MarriedRedPill03/04/18 04:59 PM
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LAST OYS AS 33 YEAR OLD PHYSICAL: Next rung, next notch, next plate At this point taking care of my body is something I crave. When I'm away from the gym or have to settle for foods outside my diet, I just straight up miss the regimen. It's fascinating how one year totally changed my cravings and discipline. I need to work on going to bed and waking up at a better time. I've turned into a midnight to 8am kind of guy and that's not the best me I can be. 11pm - 7am is the better fit. I also need t…
/r/MarriedRedPill03/04/18 04:51 PM
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Goddamn that was a great post. They're only confident because they're the biggest guy in THAT room. Or because they're the richest guy in THAT room. Or because they're the funniest guy in THAT room. And the moment someone walks in who beats them in that particular category, they shrink. Jesus this is some cringey behavior that men - and me - engage in. Confidence based on comparison is just dick measuring. Confidence should be based on confidence. Yes, the lifting helps, the studying helps, and …
/r/MarriedRedPill30/03/18 02:53 AM
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Who gives a shit? Let her whine. Bang other girls. Tell her if she bangs another guy it's over.
/r/askMRP27/03/18 05:06 PM
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Robert Greene, same guy as 48 Laws of Power. It should be sidebar IMO. He mostly wants you to know your seducer type and her victim type but there’s a third crucial piece of knowledge. What seducer type am I? I’m mostly Charismatic with a touch of the Ideal Lover. Play to your strengths and you’ll slay. However knowing this is pretty ineffective without knowing... What victim type is she/wife/plate? What are her weaknesses? This is easy once you STFU, look and listen. A girl who wears trendy clo…
/r/MarriedRedPill27/03/18 03:26 PM
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OYS: Machiavelli, the Belly, and College Game PHYSICAL: Bulk and the Belly The only disadvantage to bulking is that most if my weigh goes straight to my paunch. I’ve discovered the superior joy of being a man with muscles and a little pudge over the lesser joy of skinny fit. The greatest joy will be shredded but that doesn’t happen easily. When I started training hard in Nov 16, I weighed 175 but went down to 170 and then up up to 178. I’m on the road which means being creative about exercise an…
/r/MarriedRedPill27/03/18 12:37 PM
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OYS: On and off the saddle edition PHYSICAL: No excuses I’m at the airport right now, going out of town for 2 weeks. I won’t have access to a gym for the first week so I’ll have to improvise. I can do 100 push-ups, 10 minutes of planks, 200 squats (maybe less if I can’t find some weights), and I’ll try to find a staircase or ledge to do pull ups at the AirBnB. Gotta buy some creative and protein when I land to stay in regime. I’m 5’10” 175 with 11%bf. My previous goal weight was 175 with 10%bf, …
/r/MarriedRedPill20/03/18 04:32 PM
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Neither is openly open yet, and I’m not interested in sharing her with other men. I’ve told her I want my end open and it’s a long climb to win her trust to do that. She has to understand that I will be with other women, but I won’t replace her status at the top. At this point she knows through social evidence that other women seek me out and that monogamy is not going to fulfill me moving forward. I do spin plates out of town but have only alluded to that subtly when dread was helpful. Being ou…
/r/askMRP19/03/18 01:11 PM
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I’m probably not a good case study. At least not yet. I’m just building value and pointing the relationship towards what would make me happy.
/r/askMRP18/03/18 11:26 PM
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Not legally separated. Which would actually be legally not as advantageous since we have no prenup and as her husband I stand to gain more by staying married. But legal things aside, we’re just learning to be a different type of relationship.
/r/askMRP18/03/18 09:07 PM
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No kids, not separated anymore but keeping my distance so to speak. We live together again but I’m gone 7-10 days of the month it’s not too suffocating. Not many women are okay in the gray area like this but it’s where my wife seems to appreciate my value the most.
/r/askMRP18/03/18 09:04 PM
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Yeah. Her trust had a condo we lived in, sold it in Dec and moved into another condo in the city. My contribution is fixing things up which is my hobby anyway. It’s a good combo of her family’s resources and my resourcefulness. We make a good team honestly. She takes care of the live things like pets and plants. I take care of the cars and house.
/r/askMRP18/03/18 09:00 PM
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Are you actually asking why I've stayed (so far)? I'm about 16 months into MRP. 33, 5'10" 175, 11%bf, sidebar blah blah. Months 0 - 6 I had serious one-itis. I have to make this work right? Nope, it takes two who want it. Self improvement will change her right? Nope, it only changes my options. Months 6 - 9 One-itis was smashed by then but leaving immediately was not worth it. I made a plan to leave at 12 months, saved up, bought new car, etc. Months 9 - 11 I started making the hard plans to lea…
/r/askMRP17/03/18 08:14 PM
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I think your post is fine. A bugle blast to the men who settle for unhappy status quo. The u/SteelSharpensSteel reply is fine too. He's keeping you in check about trying to be a red knight. But your reply to the reply is not fine, it's butt hurt. Thanks for your patronizing reply, buddy. I'm killing it, thank you very much. "Guys who give a shit what people post on Reddit. Why do you care?"
/r/askMRP17/03/18 07:57 PM
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Remember it’s not about “sex”, but about embracing actions that can lead to sex. Sex is not within our control, only our influence. The point then is not “sex” but “sexual strategy”. Again if your end goal is “sex” - or any other outcome that relies on another person - you’re at least partly in someone else’s frame.
/r/MarriedRedPill14/03/18 12:44 PM
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Not much new here. PHYSICAL Missed the gym over the weekend because of bathroom renovation. Up to the wee hours each night. At least I did my push ups on Friday. So I messed up Men of March. The point is I hit the gym on Monday even though I was still sore from the renovations. Been a while since I posted stats. 175lbs, 5'10", BF 11%. No idea what my 5x5s are because I've switched gyms to Planet Fitness which doesn't have free weights I need. I need to (will) find a gym with a national membershi…
/r/MarriedRedPill14/03/18 12:28 AM
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You’re looking for a strategy WITH HER. You need a strategy WITH YOU. I recommend monk mode or any mode where you stop trying to control/influence/manipulate her and gain full mastery over yourself. There is no substitution for lifting, improving your SMV, having a mission that’s more important than sex, and a frame that results from that. If you come to a situation like this bj situation the answer is not a strategy for coercing her, it’s a strategy on improving yourself so she (or anyone) actu…
/r/askMRP09/03/18 04:27 AM
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What the hell is a “Mormon mom” is that a figure of speech or literally look for a Mormon milf?
/r/askMRP09/03/18 04:08 AM
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Bumping this. Wife wants FFM threesome and honestly it’s hard to coordinate. Im willing to do a prostitute for the first go round but I’m not interested in paying for sex.
/r/askMRP09/03/18 04:07 AM
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If you've read the MAP, then you know it emphasizes attacking your weakest areas. The fact that you've read this many books at week #4 tells me you're focusing too much on that area. How the hell are you absorbing that knowledge when you've only given yourself 4 weeks to act differently? I would say your weak area is probably physical. That BF% is pretty bad. Halfway through reading your post I was thinking "How is this man's wife "very kind"? I suspected that your wife was probably overweight t…
/r/MarriedRedPill06/03/18 02:39 PM
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I gotta agree here. You're being negative with yourself. You don't need to pat yourself on the back for everything but you gotta have some positive reinforcement for the good changes you're making. You've been at this a year, so you know you've made progress right? A big turning point for me at one year was experiencing the attention of other women. External validation? Yes. But was it a positive reinforcement for all my effort? Yes. Like u/Persaeus is saying, you can game and release even in yo…
/r/MarriedRedPill06/03/18 02:28 PM
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OYS: Men of March Part Deux Anyone else doing Men of March again? Last year u/thefamilyalpha gave us an incredible set of challenges. There was a list of don'ts and then a new list of do's every day. 1 You will not masturbate, edge, or touch your dick for pleasure during the entire month. You can have sex, but not with yourself. On it. Last year this had a huge impact on me because I realized in order to get off I had to game my wife. This year it's not even an issue. 2 You will not watch porn, …
/r/MarriedRedPill06/03/18 02:13 PM
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OYS: 16 months of progress **PHYSICAL: I hit the gym 5 days this week and my diet is on point. At 16 months of steady exercise and diet my progress is steady as well. 5'10", 175 lbs, 11% BF. MENTAL: Estimate, plan, steady, pursue When I do each set at the gym I do a little mental routine before I lift. (1) I estimate how many reps and sets I'll do. (2) I check my plan for form. (3) I make sure the bar is safe and I know where to throw it if I hurt myself. (4) I power through. This 4 step pattern…
/r/MarriedRedPill27/02/18 05:02 PM
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A lot of men come here with advice on “what should I do”. There is no play by play advice. The better question is “who I should be”. You should not be afraid of her feelings or words, you should be curious. You should not be waiting to see what her offer is and if you should take it, you should be sure of what you want in your relationships and stating it. You should not be resentful but you should be thinking about a good life for yourself and how you’ll achieve that.
/r/askMRP24/02/18 06:07 PM
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What I learned this week. Earlier this week I was feeling hungry, but I was having a hard time initiating. I feel the anxiety. Afraid of failure. Even though there is nothing to lose, I feel the anxiety of possible failure. I got a couple numbers that didn't go anywhere. I analyzed my actions, my words, saw a couple weak spots, but just chalked it up to being a numbers game and decided not to analyze any further, but just keep pursuing. So I give up on acting a certain way. Just BE. If I just AM…
/r/MarriedRedPill23/02/18 04:37 PM
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Meaning plates or multiple families in different ports?
/r/MarriedRedPill22/02/18 07:19 AM
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This. It’s what a friend would do. Ask him what he means, tell him you’re concerned too.
/r/askMRP22/02/18 12:23 AM
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This is sound. My wife was getting her feelz from an ex when I found MRP. I had allowed the friendship because they “were just friends “ when I met her and I had friendships with exes too. I figured if I can just be friends with an ex, then she can have friends too right? Not so. When the relationship turned challenging she wanted to spend more time with him. I said no. She didn’t like “the boundary”... hmmm... what she really didn’t like was that her husband’s value wasn’t high enough, wasn’t g…
/r/askMRP22/02/18 12:21 AM
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In my experience so far there will always be a rope. That’s the nature of being a leader, they’re behind you, maybe, 10ft, 100 ft, maybe 1,000, but it doesn’t matter. You still continue no matter the distance. Sometimes they drop off completely. Doesn’t matter. Others join. Or don’t. Again it doesn’t matter. I can’t speak for being a father, but with no kids in the picture I see no reason to slow down for the mother. Even with kids, I would slow down for the kids only sparingly, and probably nev…
/r/MarriedRedPill22/02/18 12:06 AM
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her period-stage horniness is not just your run-of-the-mill horniness—it’s a more sensual, rub-me-all-over horniness. A lot of times our sex during ovulation feels more like make-up sex. It’s more raw. It’s carnal. In an engine there's a compression stroke and an exhaust stroke. They look the same but they are performing different functions. https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=MnJWmo5CjAs
/r/MarriedRedPill08/02/18 02:06 PM
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As always, thoughts, criticisms, etc, are appreciated. I welcome constructive criticism. Why do you care what we think? Probably because you love overanalyzing. The truth or at least your truth is simple and quiet. You'll only hear it if you stop the constant grinding noise of overanalyzing. Step into the void. Only there can you know nothing. Only by knowing nothing can you understand something profoundly new. Stop checking this post and stop writing whatever Part II post you're planning. Fucki…
/r/MarriedRedPill08/02/18 01:54 PM
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You're asking loaded questions of yourself. Let's do that for your wife too. Do I as the wife have the right to destroy my family and the kids childhood because of my selfishness? She declares "why did you put the pillows together? We are not going to have sex, that is clear" Me: "Ok, goodnight then". She: "What, was that the only reason you put the pillows together?" Me:"Yes, that and a good cuddle afterwards" She: "My god, poor children to have such a father" My god for the children to have su…
/r/MarriedRedPill08/02/18 01:28 PM
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Your options 1 - 5 are sort of truncated dread steps but let's rearrange them. Bargain (otherwise known as therapy, otherwise known as BP) Stay and work Check out emotionally Spin Leave You CAN'T skip them. Do them in order. See how therapy is #0? It doesn't work for her to go to therapy, maybe you can go to solo counseling. You can only work on you. Which leads us to #1. Stay and work. Keep doing this even when you begin to check out emotionally... ...which you should do right about now. After …
/r/MarriedRedPill06/02/18 02:41 PM
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OYS 14th month edition PHYSICAL: Back pain, still bulking I strained my back, somewhere in the middle right. It didn't seem to affect my lifting but when I stretch or breath in super deep it feels tight. I made use of a really nice massager. Wife gives me back rubs and says it's not a knot but a whole section of my back that's swollen. Going to the gym 3-4 times a week and I'm looking better each month but I don't really have a clear goal with my body. I had a dream last night that my legs were …
/r/MarriedRedPill06/02/18 02:23 PM
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Can I put in a warning here. I’ve seen some guys who get dropped at a low point get their shit together and become awesome once more. Except they secretly want their old girl to notice that progress and validate by getting back together. Or they want mutual friends to notice and see that he was the prize and she messed up by dumping him. Not accusing you, just know a few guys whose pride misdirected their progress. Lots of good advice here from Rian Stone and Gargantuan Blarg. Like they said, go…
/r/askMRP06/02/18 05:10 AM
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Explain. How is this not congruent? Mistakes and fuck ups are part of the process right?
/r/MarriedRedPill01/02/18 04:38 AM
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Thanks this is the solution ala 48 Laws of Power.
/r/MarriedRedPill31/01/18 10:34 PM
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Wife said the other night and I quote, “You can sleep with other women but only if I’m there too.” That was my objective all along. She now has a man that is valuable and she’s acting that way. She’s stubborn and prideful as hell so I had to go to dread level 10 really hard with her. I’m stubborn and prideful too and I had wife goggles hard and it took sleeping around for me to realize my one-itis. I fucked up by not walking from a crazy plate. I kept going back for more. Now I have potential fa…
/r/MarriedRedPill31/01/18 10:32 PM
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This is the correct response.
/r/MarriedRedPill30/01/18 02:58 PM
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Some good ownership here. SteelSharpensSteel is right. What's your plan? You identify the problems but no redress? Look into this... it may be a pattern.
/r/MarriedRedPill30/01/18 02:48 PM
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Finish up NMMNG and WISNIFG but I think the MAP will help you a lot. He talks about Red, Green, and Yellow. Red is "stop immediately", green is "start immediately", and yellow is "watch and moderate". Red: Start cutting down on smoking today. Not tomorrow, today. Read up on different tricks people use to quit but start that journey today. You need to feel in control of your mind and smoking, sugar, porn, or whatever is hijacking your power. Green: You're underweight for your height, eat lots of …
/r/MarriedRedPill30/01/18 02:40 PM
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OYS: Massive Fuck Up Edition Well you all warned me I was playing with fire. Bad plate-spinning may undo a great deal of my work. "great deal of my work" What does this mean? Well after progressing levels 1 - 10, I straight up told my wife two Saturdays ago that a girl asked me on a date and I went. I made zero moves on the date, just gamed her hard and had a great time. Read my OYS from last week if you want the whole story. Well this finally pushed wife to take some ownership and action. Multi…
/r/MarriedRedPill30/01/18 02:18 PM
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It’s like this. Imagine you had 10 beds with 10 women in them. If you went to all 10 beds and each woman turned you down, you’d stop doing what you did. If it worked with 3 out of 10, you’d probably keep doing it. You have 1 bed with 1 woman, so it’s hard to practice a numbers game. So here’s my advice (besides lifting obviously). Work on your abundance mentality. Go out and flirt with other women. Read Art of Seduction. You’ll realize who the fuck cares if “1” woman doesn’t want you? If you’re …
/r/askMRP26/01/18 01:58 PM
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Glad someone posted this. I read into this a little and it’s a big old cringe lesson in what I learned in college: If she says you’re creepy it means you’re showing interest in someone who isn’t interested in you.
/r/MarriedRedPill24/01/18 01:28 PM
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OYS: Something Just Shifted at Dread Level 10 Okay, truth be told I've already gone to level 11 and had some trim on the side but she doesn't know this. In progressing through dread, my goal was not more sex, it was to have a pervading and dynamic sexual magnetism in my life because expressing my masculinity daily gives me energy, power and satisfaction (the real goal). I find it bullshit when men come to MRP wanting more sex. Fuck you and your needs from other people. What do you really want fr…
/r/MarriedRedPill23/01/18 02:28 PM
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This this this. At what point will the Tampa Bay Bucs have a winning record? Answer: If they win every game from here out, somewhere in the 10th season. https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/NFL_win%E2%80%93loss_records But if there's one thing we as men can bank on, it's that women do not logically keep score like games won. They're damn resentful but god bless their illogical fickleness. They'll turn on a dime if you incentivize their feelz enough.
/r/MarriedRedPill16/01/18 04:37 PM
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In the past I wanted to try to fix her, now I just want to know typical patterns and the best way to react (to her reactions of my leadership). This is your current road and you have to take this road. But I'm going to show you the next turn up ahead to entice you to keep going. On the next road, you won't be thinking about "the best way to react"... she will. That turn will be right around when you have a strong MAP. Do you?
/r/MarriedRedPill16/01/18 03:49 PM
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I need to fucking start doing this. It's blocking everything. Swoosh. Nike emblem. Just do it. Chip away. Don't dwell on the totality of it all, just focus on next steps and it slowly gets resolved. This is how I imagine a day should go with her after divorce. FUCK YES. This is your goal. Real personal experiences with people you love without succumbing to fears or drama surrounding that relationship. Keep your eyes on this prize with your daughter. He just doesn't give a fuck. I sort of envy th…
/r/MarriedRedPill16/01/18 03:45 PM
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OYS: STOP-WITH-THE-MEDIOCRITY-ALREADY EDITION PHYSICAL: Feels great to be back in the gym, I crave exhaustion We just moved into a new house and so it was 4 days away from the gym but 4 days of lifting and carrying. I have a tendency to rely on arms instead of activating my core so I made sure to use my core a lot with the dolly and when carrying. Just squeeze man. I just don't think to use it unless I'm being very intentional, but damn it's so much better. I hit the new gym in the neighborhood …
/r/MarriedRedPill16/01/18 03:31 PM
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This is a solid but brief RP lens on marriage counseling, which is too often painted with the bluest brush possible. You're talking about grey areas and revealing that it's not a binary. You're also only talking about a Gottman concept and not trying to speak for all counseling concepts. There's value to walking through that and I appreciate the post. Despite what a lot of users are commenting here, I think this is a valuable post. Thanks.
/r/MarriedRedPill16/01/18 05:09 AM
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I told her that I was pursuing therapy, and that she didn’t have to be afraid of me anymore. But she is. You're not fixed. You're on a journey and she'll likely be afraid of the old you for at least a year. That's okay. That's your challenge. It's like getting rid of a beer gut or planting a tree. It takes time. Most men here get shit tested but a woman who's afraid will comfort test you. Start passing these. Even after a year she will still (and IMO she should) be afraid of the old you. You fuc…
/r/MarriedRedPill09/01/18 12:15 PM
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PHYSICAL I've started up 5x5 again and i'm sore as fuck. The nice thing about 5x5 is all the moves can be maxed to make my muscles struggle and stutter and then I'm sore as hell the next day. I've been more regimented about taking creatine 30 minutes before the workout and protein directly after. I also got a massager to break up the soreness. I was away and using Planet Fitness which doesn't have the right equipment for 5x5 but I did take advantage of the tanning beds. Not being a pasty ghoul i…
/r/MarriedRedPill09/01/18 12:05 PM
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OYS: Seriously Own It Edition PHYSICAL: New gym? Back to tracking Being on the move for most of December I bought a Planet Fitness membership since you can use any gym nationwide (up to 10 times per gym in a year). It's perfect for a traveler and I love the tanning beds because I'm a pale motherfucker and I look great with a slight tan. However, they don't have free racks, just those strange pulley "Smith Machines" which aren't tall enough to do OHP, and DL is just impossible on them. We're movi…
/r/MarriedRedPill02/01/18 01:09 PM
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Having options definitely has a positive feedback loop. For example, wife and I on vacation this weekend and she’s being awful and pouty. I go to the gym and a potential plate is messaging me about what she’ll do to me when we hook up. How the hell can I take my wife’s whiney storm seriously when I have this as an option? And yet - as you say - the real goal is not just having “abundance” but having an unshakeable abundance mentality. But I didn’t truly feel that abundance until I had some on th…
/r/MarriedRedPill01/01/18 01:53 AM
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Yep. You don't troll trolls. No value to be gained. Walk away from idiocy (don't reply).
/r/MarriedRedPill27/12/17 05:16 AM
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OYS: 13 months edition Physical: Cold set me back but that was my rest period I had a pretty toxic cold the last 9 days. Just finally getting over it but I need to swing back into my exercise regime. I hit the gym Friday and Saturday, then when we were out of town for 2 days I did 100 push ups and 7 minutes of planking. Didn't do anything today. I'll hit the gym Wed and Thu and then I can go back to pushup and planking when we go on vacay to Montreal. I allowed my diet to wonder over the holiday…
/r/MarriedRedPill27/12/17 04:15 AM
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Mmmmm... I appreciate the crystal ball you bought at a garage sale. She'll actually have more to lose when she gains the inheritance. We have no pre-nup. Stop giving free advice when you don't know the situation.
/r/MarriedRedPill22/12/17 01:27 PM
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Yeah I just watched Butch Cassidy and the Sundance Kid last night. They were sort of addicted to the game at the end, couldn't go straight, and kept putting themselves in deeper things. I think this last month of plating was more about gaining perspective than getting my dick wet. I was out of town and traveling with a project that turns a lot of women's heads. I wanted to know the abundance again and it certainly ripped off the wife goggles. Gaming other women taught me that my wife deserves to…
/r/askMRP22/12/17 01:25 PM
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I'm guilty of the contempt and stonewalling horsemen. Hers are the criticism and defensiveness. They just tumble into each other super fast. Christ what a slippery slope. Me: Hey could you do ? (legitimate request) Her: You always ask me to do , you never let me . (criticism, accusation, lack of "I" statements) Me: Oh you poor thing. You know I was just did last night, it's your turn. (sarcasm that is actually veiled contempt) Her: I'm always walking on eggshells around you. (defensiveness, play…
/r/askMRP20/12/17 01:58 PM
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Hey tell me more about the Gottman Method. A few people have brought it up including my wife's counselor. How did it start out and what were some changes you noticed?
/r/askMRP20/12/17 02:52 AM
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Look, you don't control when girls fuck you. You DO control when you fuck yourself. You don't control the build-up of cum in your system. You DO control whether you rub it out to porn or not.
/r/MarriedRedPill19/12/17 12:26 PM
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PHYSICAL: Rest and Restore I've got a hell of a cold. Laid me down pretty fucking hard yesterday. So no gym, I need my rest. Went to the doc and got some lab work done. We had sex two days ago and I went for sex last night even though we're both sick. I should have seen that sniffles and acheyness was a no-go. I turned down a sad handjob after about 20 strokes. She says she "feels pressured". Once upon a time when I was spanking it every other day, we had the same libido. I'm considering spankin…
/r/MarriedRedPill19/12/17 12:21 PM
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Looks like I deleted an important line in the original. I'm concerned by ghosting her that it will activate some kind of vengeful mode. I had this happen with a woman in college, she dived deep and mailed my used underwear to an ex. Explain the text situation. Do you not use text at all? Or just make it clear (overtly clear?) that you text her?
/r/askMRP18/12/17 12:09 PM
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Yeah, this set up transactions between me and my wife. I would say overall it dried up sex with her. I also experienced it with a plate. I say cuddle if you want to, escalate if you want to, tell her to sit on your face if you want to, etc.
/r/askMRP18/12/17 05:23 AM
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This works for me.
/r/askMRP18/12/17 05:19 AM
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Yeah I don't agree with you fully. The thing is that his frame didn't necessarily shift - maybe he's actually curious about having HIS vision achieved through counseling - but the reality is that SHE probably FELT that his vision pivoted for her. I've dealt with this scenario in other ways. You do you, just also keep in mind that being congenial to someone on the attack can invite a land grab.
/r/askMRP18/12/17 05:18 AM
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Got a video or audio?
/r/MarriedRedPill18/12/17 05:02 AM
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Dude this is sad sad sad. You're telling me to be careful? The real lesson here is to not try and base happiness on another person. If you get emotionally codependent with ANY woman, then it's going to suck. And yes, you are codependent. Read exhibit A We were perfectly sexually compatible and we met each other’s emotional needs completely. I have never felt such a deep connection to another woman and she felt the same. It was astounding what we felt for each other. I wish I could put it in word…
/r/MarriedRedPill18/12/17 05:01 AM
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I disagree. It's not meant to be a "quality" dissertation or revelation. This is a honest, insightful 6 month check in with no whining. Please keep these.
/r/MarriedRedPill13/12/17 03:17 PM
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My wife wants kids in 3-4 years. What's her age? Has she given a deadline?
/r/MarriedRedPill13/12/17 03:02 PM
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This is an awesome and honest post and I relate a lot to this. Both my wife and I have emotional baggage - we were both abused as kids. You'd never know from looking at either of us. So yeah preselection. You're spot on in that your wife and my wife are looking for a rock and we were looking to her for that. Ugh... it's pathetic looking back. I kept pushing her to be the rock... cringe. Now I'm be the rock for me, for everyone, I need no one to tell me that I'm doing a "good job". I don't know i…
/r/MarriedRedPill13/12/17 03:01 PM
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Complex question actually. I measure my good and bad habits in different ways. What gets measured gets managed, but the point isn't to manage, it's to do it! My MBA tells me to hire the least amount of managers as possible. Keep the dashboard lean and simple. Am I chewing my nails or biting my cheeks? The evidence is obvious. Am I making enough, spending too much? Again it's obvious with QB reports or bank accounts. Am I grateful? Have I been doing my gratitude list in the morning. Am I reading …
/r/MarriedRedPill13/12/17 02:30 PM
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OYS: IT'S MY LIFE, IT'S MY FRAME EDITION PHYSICAL: Abundance is real, it can happen in 3 hours. I'm on a 5 week tour and I head home on Thursday. Since my last OYS I had another fling, well maybe a couple. It took 3 hours of meeting her before we fucked. 3 hours. This exploded my world with abundance mentality. I walked into a room spotted the hottest girl and told myself "You will talk to her". She made it easy when she asked a question that I could relate to. When her and her friend got up to …
/r/MarriedRedPill12/12/17 02:01 PM
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PHYSICAL: Just keep pounding, validation is not needed. Hit the gym all but one day this week. Saw an older dude hitting the squat sled hard and asked his regime. He said he does 8 sets! I did 6 with my typical weight and holy fuck I really feel the burn in my quads. I posted a pic of me standing on top of my new ride at the beach because why not have some fun. My two high school crushes - and an ex - commented on how hot I looked. Validation is needy I know but it definitely felt good. MENTAL: …
/r/MarriedRedPill05/12/17 07:02 PM
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I love seeing over 200 comments here. PHYSICAL On the road so this is pretty critical. Other than skipping two days in a row at the gym, I've been working out daily and feeling great. And on one of those two days, I still did push ups. Where I'm at right now, the Planet Fitness is out of town so that's a long ass drive. Made out and crashed with a college girl last night. Not a great body but I'm a sucker for a pretty face. We hit a couple spots and then I took her to the beach to wade in the wa…
/r/MarriedRedPill30/11/17 01:38 PM
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Not sure if everyone is like this but mission is maybe the most important thing to me. A major shortcoming of mine is I get caught up in bullshit minutiae real quick and get pissed off and ruin progress. Knowing my mission by heart helps me explode out to macro perspective again. Other guys get this macro perspective from negative visualizations, or other stuff.
/r/MarriedRedPill27/11/17 01:29 AM
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Well this is why I've stayed on MRP for a year. Your insights are spot on and brothers like you have helped me immensely. You're absolutely right. Banging that first girl ripped off the goggles pretty quick. It brought me back to when I was just me, living my life with no apologies, what do I have to lose, go for it, seize the day. There was something about this relationship that suffocating my drive, I stopped taking chances. So I'm taking risks again. I declared a break while I left for a mont…
/r/MarriedRedPill27/11/17 01:25 AM
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Here's the thing which makes my sitch feel a little odd compared to other guys here. I'm an artist married to a trust fund girl and there's no pre-nup. You could say she was my beta-bux, sugar mama, whatever you want to call it. Once married, I put her first, lost my fire, settled in, got lazy for 1.5 years. She began disrespecting me... 1 year of MRP, and I'm in a good place to reassess what I want. On paper it's a dream scenario. I travel off and on with my art project banging random girls, co…
/r/MarriedRedPill22/11/17 02:19 PM
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I was worried about it but decided to give it a shot. No side effects 3 years in.
/r/MarriedRedPill22/11/17 01:59 PM
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OYS #53 - Brand New Year Edition Well I can feel it. Year #2 is a completely new level. I worked my ass off on year #1 in order to be at this starting point. If I could predict what the greatest challenge will be this year it's this: It's time to put away childhood. At 33, I'm a full grown man. No more excuses. No more whining. No more pity parties. No more neediness. Half measures receive no credit. I have to 100% own my issues. PHYSICAL: This is my lump of clay At 173 lbs, 11%BF, I'm the best …
/r/MarriedRedPill21/11/17 05:46 PM
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Hey man. You'll never find your mission. You'll realize it was there all along. It's not something you choose, it's something that's revealed to you. It doesn't scream. It doesn't even whisper. It's just there. You can't see it in the mirror. You can't use anyone else's prescription. Even this reply I'm writing is taking you off track. Maybe you don't know your mission - I don't think most people ever do - but I promise you it is there waiting for you to claim it.
/r/MarriedRedPill21/11/17 05:31 PM
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Right... so that's why she talks about me plowing a woman while she gets eaten out by her or tasting a woman on my cock. She wants MFF. But you're right about in and out of frame.
/r/MarriedRedPill20/11/17 02:13 PM
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Replying to all the comments in this chain. Am I butthurt? Yes. Do I appear butthurt? Yes. Am I acting out of butthurt? No. This has been a slow next and that definitely shows up as a DLV. I'm saying no to boundary pushing even if it appears as insecurity. Internally I'm swallowing my pride and working a long plan to a better life. This current trip is a lever to next her. She senses that and I didn't need to say a damn thing. If I could do it over, it'd be the same thing but with less words. I …
/r/MarriedRedPill19/11/17 08:56 PM
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Just for clarification, she's into a MFF threesome. Frame and mystery are related for sure. The game I run with girls now (including wife) is all about what I don't say. I answer with innuendo, redirection, or wouldn't you like to know?. I realize women don't really want the right answer, they want a feeling.
/r/MarriedRedPill19/11/17 08:35 PM
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On break and traveling. She tested a boundary I made regarding her ex, lied by omission, used plausible deniability. I told her we're on a break and we'll reassess the relationship when I get back.
/r/MarriedRedPill18/11/17 03:11 AM
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OYS: Exactly One Year Edition PHYSICAL I'm on the road for a month so I got a Planet Fitness membership. Limited racks and different equipment but I'm overall very happy. Even started using the tanning bed to sun my buns for fun. Wife and I are on a break. I had my first make out and grope session with a new girl for the first time in 7 years. Felt amazing. MENTAL This is still my weak zone and I've been exhausted from the 1,500 miles of driving in the last week. I'm caught on sleep as of today …
/r/MarriedRedPill14/11/17 05:32 PM
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OYS: Time to Stop Making Excuses Edition PHYSICAL: I know I'm making a trade off Yesterday was the 3rd day in a row that I didn't exercise. Since I started a regular regime one year ago, I never went more than 2 days without a burn. I just worked three 16 hour days in a row and you better believe I had time-sensitive shit I had to do at night too. Do I want the burn? Fuck yes, but I decided my goal over this three day work-nado was to get as much sleep as I can. So did I sleep? Nope, apparently …
/r/MarriedRedPill02/11/17 02:05 PM
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"Self improvement to the grave." Yep.
/r/MarriedRedPill28/10/17 03:01 AM
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Yeah for sure. So much shit is gonna go down in the next two weeks. It'll be an interesting report.
/r/MarriedRedPill25/10/17 08:08 PM
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OYS: 2 Weeks Before 1 Year of MRP Edition Last week my frame was wrecked. I had a shit attitude because I was overextended and my mindset was suffering from constantly not meeting my standard. After a conversation with a college president, he convinced me that a PhD was wrong and that I had a chance to out maneuver the whole industry by being an entrepreneur. So I stopped studying for my GREs, and gave my clients my best. I stopped researching grad schools, and started researching new clients. B…
/r/MarriedRedPill25/10/17 02:10 AM
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I think mission is one of the things I nailed to the floor early on, so I'll share how I did it. It's all about giving your gift in its fullest. It doesn't have to be a hard skill (like woodworking or baseball) or an occupation (like a doctor or author), that shit will trip you up. A lot of men here start out by thinking, "Do I have a mission?" STFU with that noise. The question is, of course, "What is my mission?" and you need to start looking at the granular evidence before you just make up a …
/r/MarriedRedPill23/10/17 11:39 AM
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Enough of #2 to be productive. Not enough of #1 to get traction.
/r/MarriedRedPill18/10/17 05:43 PM
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Reminds me of Tony Romo's wife's incredible business idea for "sassy spray": http://www.nbcdfw.com/blogs/blue-star/Candice-Romo--399089091.html
/r/MarriedRedPill18/10/17 05:38 PM
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You nailed the difference. I want dread #1. BP: 170 DL: 250, I do 5x5 instead of 1x5 SQ: 170 max on the bar, 300 and climbing on the sled. I have a bum knee and the bar aggravates it. OHP: 125 BBR: 170
/r/MarriedRedPill18/10/17 05:16 PM
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Do I even need to state #4? That's where her mind goes instantly anyway. I feel it's better not to issue an ultimatum, but rather let her free associate.
/r/MarriedRedPill18/10/17 11:27 AM
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Yeah and the frame comes with the art. Gotta put in the work making the masterpiece, the frame goes around that. I made the mistake of being all frame and no substance before. That shit won't fly when there's multiple women shit testing you.
/r/MarriedRedPill18/10/17 03:56 AM
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33 years old. 5'10". My goal is 10% BF and 175 lbs with a balanced strength through legs, core and upper. Goal is to hit and then maintain at that level, and never injure myself. Probably will take another 6 - 9 months. What did I say? What did she say? Context is everything, so keep in mind that she brought up a threesome months beforehand, literally talked about a woman taking my dick as part of an ongoing MFF fantasy for months now. I brought it up maybe 2 weeks ago. I had taken her out for a…
/r/MarriedRedPill18/10/17 03:46 AM
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Yes, operation scorched earth is sitting in the garage. I have a better vision though. Never hired a pro before. Honestly it's kind of bummer to pay compared to ONS in the past. Guess it's worth the experiment. /u/vengefully_yours and /u/VasiliyZaitzev I'd appreciate any insight into one-side open relationships. Nobody ever talked about that in sex-ed. I think the wife is open-minded, but the approach would be crucial.
/r/MarriedRedPill17/10/17 10:37 PM
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Hmmmm... good point. I'm not sure. It's not a simple equation that her dreading losing me = sex drive for me. It seems that her dread can result in duty sex, i.e. a sad handjob.
/r/MarriedRedPill17/10/17 10:24 PM
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No I haven't. I don't really exhibit any of those prolonged symptoms. I'm canceling some shit off my plate.
/r/MarriedRedPill17/10/17 04:56 PM
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Yep, and I know it. I need to back off doing too many things. I prioritized yesterday into urgent / not urgent and important / not important. Then I got a note from my therapist to reschedule my exam. He wrote "anxiety disorder" on the note, and it really hit home. I'm doing too much at once.
/r/MarriedRedPill17/10/17 04:49 PM
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OYS Almost Year One Puke Edition Been at this since early November last year. I remember how I was feeling and I remember reading this forum for the first time. The screwy thing is I never thought I'd have this much progress and yet I'm fucking sad as hell. PHYSICAL IS STEADY I'm seeing the abs come in. This is something I always wanted, and here it comes. /r/progresspics is inspiring but almost everyone there is dropping or gaining big numbers. I've stayed the exact same weight of 174 pounds wh…
/r/MarriedRedPill17/10/17 11:50 AM
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Ah... sometimes two paths diverge and sometimes they never meet again.
/r/MarriedRedPill11/10/17 04:02 AM
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This is one of the most profound things I've read here. I've reread this like 5 times now. It's something I've felt but never been able to put into words. They want their feminine to be underlined by my masculine. If a true alpha came out of nowhere, dominated the room with silent powerful presence, and then ravished them with attention, that's an enormous compliment, and it means they can relax, their exhausting work of playing such-and-such part can just melt away, and then they're putty in yo…
/r/MarriedRedPill11/10/17 03:59 AM
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Explain?
/r/MarriedRedPill11/10/17 03:08 AM
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Another OYS. Here I am 11 months into finding MRP. PHYSICAL Went a solid 5/7 days at the gym which is my goal. I've found that the squat sled is the best way to really work my legs since I have bad knees. The knee compression sleeve helps too. Been hitting the ab curl machine and doing 5 sets of 10 reps with descending weight, 190, 185, 180, 175, 170 and it really makes a difference. Honestly finding the right exercises and having the right form is as crucial as how much and how often you lift. …
/r/MarriedRedPill10/10/17 10:26 PM
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OYS - trying a different format this week Marriage I totally owned the wife's birthday last weekend. I planned a trip a few hours west, hit a dog parade, her favorite artist had a show at her favorite museum, then a restaurant I knew she would absolutely love. She loves hiking but I didn't know that her period would make hikes a PITA for her. The hotel was crap for the price, but it's the only place that allowed dogs and as the dog parade and hikes were a big part of the trip I chose that. It's …
/r/MarriedRedPill04/10/17 08:28 PM
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PHYSICAL Haven't hit the gym as hard lately. Honestly I've been busy with work and that's where I need to generate the most traction right now. I weighed myself in at 177.5, the most I've ever weighed and now I'm doing a slight cut down to maybe 172. My ideal weight is between 170 - 175 and BF at 10%. It's not all about exercise, some new threads, being genuinely happy and smiling has been huge. I had a number close yesterday and supposedly we're going to a show tonight, we'll see if it's legit.…
/r/MarriedRedPill26/09/17 06:48 PM
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PHYSICAL Hit the gym all but 2 days this week. On one of those days I did the ab roller at home. When I weighed myself tonight it was the most I've ever weighed, 177.5 lbs at 5'10", so I'm going to start cutting now. My goal was to stay between 170 - 175 while slowly going from somewhere around 18% BF to 10% BF. I think I'm at about 12.5% and if I do this cut right I'll keep my muscle mass and be near 10%. The abs will finally poke through. MENTAL I'm reading 48 Laws of Power, 7 Habits and rerea…
/r/MarriedRedPill22/09/17 03:33 AM
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Thanks man. The more we talk about, the more it seems like a mix of hot husband (which is a big validation for all the work I put into the sidebar) and a bit of bi-curious And honestly I can't argue with how hot a pair of tits is. I'm totally fine with her enjoying another woman as long as there's something in it for me.
/r/askMRP22/09/17 02:56 AM
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PHYSICAL Missed two days in a row. No excuses just wussed out before bed. I'm really impressed with my progress over the last 10 months but I want to stay hungry. My diet is excellent. New Habit This month I cut out sugar. Had one cheat day where I was stranded for an hour before an important client meeting and needed blood sugar so I quick bought a cookie before the meeting. MENTAL Been reading 48 Laws of Power. Excellent way to focus on the relationships around me before work. Also a great buf…
/r/MarriedRedPill12/09/17 10:43 PM
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PHYSICAL Worked out 5/7 days. I grew pretty bored of 5x5 so I'm inserting isolated muscle groups in to keep this interesting. I've avoided bicep curls because I didn't want to focus on "beach muscles". I wanted more of a svelt look that wasn't just upper legs, upper arms, and upper torso. I've done a regime of forearms (extensors, reverse curls) and calves (seated calf raise, toes on the squat machine) and it's given some great definition to my extremities. I want the look of being fit just by l…
/r/MarriedRedPill06/09/17 11:22 AM
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Holy shit. This is an amazing post. The contrasting stories are insightful. At first I thought you were replacing the same floor... I was like great job but did you replace the same flooring to have this comparison story? Hahaha Seriously your story and your tone says everything is about dominion over self and not blaming others.
/r/MarriedRedPill30/08/17 12:02 PM
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PHYSICAL 33 yo, 5'10" 170lbs, 12%BF. Was out of the country for over a week with no access to a gym. Did a little hiking and sex but otherwise pretty sluggish. Did 5 sets of 2 minute planks or 5 sets of 20 push ups for about 6 of the 10 days. I had hit the gym for a hard month before I left and honestly needed the rest days. I watched my diet okay but hit the sugar too hard. Every month I set a new habit - no computer games this month - and next month I'm eliminating unnecessary sugar. I was a s…
/r/MarriedRedPill30/08/17 11:39 AM
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PHYSICAL Hit the gym 6 days last week and my diet as been good. I'm not being consistent with how much I'm lifting and I need to track things better. Sometimes I forget my phone where I keep notes and it's "Am I incline benchpressing or ?" "Did I back squat or front squat ___?" 5x5 STATS (171 lbs, 5'10", BF 11 or 12%) BSQ/FSQ: 175/155 OHP: 120 BBR: 150 (Incline) BP: 155 DL: 245 (5x5) MENTAL I've been enjoying counseling. I knew my counselor from church and at first I was concerned but it's actua…
/r/MarriedRedPill16/08/17 12:34 PM
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I don't have a side piece exactly. I've followed the advice here and played a lot of "catch and release". I have a few that are more or less "caught", but I haven't made any moves. Just enjoying the game. Two plates happen to be bi - one is in an open lesbian relationship and the other is single. Why am I on MRP if my wife is so awesome? She is amazing in many ways but also resentful and manipulative. She has a lot of unresolved issues in the past and plays the victim like a sport. Another comme…
/r/MarriedRedPill16/08/17 03:03 AM
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Thanks for simplifying my concerns into one acronym. I see the potential for trickery in this and that this could be a ploy of "giving to get". One of her games is to play the victim. When I read your comment I realized that she could be lining up the mother load of a victim card.
/r/MarriedRedPill16/08/17 02:34 AM
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Understood. Thanks.
/r/MarriedRedPill16/08/17 02:30 AM
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I'll have been on this journey for a year in November. I have one year benchmarks I want to earn and my OYS is about where I want to be weekly to get there. BODY After purposely plateauing I'm going to start raising my weights on 5x5 again. My body needed a rest, but now it's rested. After the initial motivation (anger phase) I've found a mental shift that's helped me have more power. Current - 1 Month - 3 Month DL: 245 - 265 - 325 (Incline) BP: 165 - 170 - 180 BBR: 155 - 170 - 185 OHP: 120 - 12…
/r/MarriedRedPill05/08/17 01:23 PM
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BODY Hitting 5x5 and ready to start a new run. I've been focusing on my legs because my upper is proportionately stronger. Weight 175, Height 5'11", BF 11% (Incline) BP 175 BSQ 175 FSQ 165 BBR 150 DL 240 MIND Much of my mind goals are around habits, work and reading. Currently reading 7 Habits, Art of Seduction, and every once in a while rereading How to Win Friends because that book is perfectly written for me. I have a very hard time focusing on work. I'm behind on a few things and I'm self-em…
/r/MarriedRedPill31/07/17 03:37 AM
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PHYSICAL Bought an ab roller and goddamn, this is new pain. 5 sets of 8 full extensions and I'm hurting the next day. I had to unlearn the high reps of low weight school of ab workouts. For so long I thought running long distance would give me abs... pffft. Everything I hear now says build ab muscle with lots of resistance and then stay out of the cupboards. Was out of town for 10 days and we've fucked 4 times in 4 days since I returned... I believe this is ovulation synced up to dread. I'm not …
/r/MarriedRedPill18/07/17 09:03 PM
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PHYSICAL Was traveling this week but exercised everyday. Didn't have access to weights but I did pull ups, push ups, squats, planks, crunches and went for a run. While out of town I took a stab at bar girls and had fun. Wasn't looking for numbers, just long drawn out eye contact and lots of laughter was my goal. I'm sense real progress in my physique and dress. If I raised myself one point in the last 8 months, maybe I can raise another in the next 12. Honestly I'm grateful that there is so much…
/r/MarriedRedPill13/07/17 01:19 PM
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Most of all, the unwritten rule is therapists do not confront women—especially about cruelty. If anyone gets confronted, it is usually the man. T'was my experience.
/r/MarriedRedPill11/07/17 12:17 PM
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Physical My goal last week was to never take two rest days in a row. And I just took two in a row. I could blame the huge party in Sunday and then flying/bussing for 8 hours yesterday, but let's be honest and say that I didn't have a game plan for how I'd get to the gym around that. I've been visiting people or having people visit us and not wanting to be rude I've made the decision to not leave to work out, or not work out because I didn't want to shower at their place. But I clearly am not hap…
/r/MarriedRedPill04/07/17 01:01 PM
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MONTH 8 Physical I've taken more rest days than normal. I haven't been getting my schedule together in time to go to the gym before it closes, or I've been "busy" until it's "after bedtime". So I need to pack that in without excuses. Last night a friend came into town and we were having fun playing a game, and I knew the gym would be closed by the time we were done. No excuses, so I did my push ups and leg lifts even though I went to bed late. What's that old saying? "If you make something a req…
/r/MarriedRedPill27/06/17 01:15 PM
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Can confirm. Wife is asking me for more vulnerability and she has no appreciation that this is not something men are rewarded for. In my particular situation with my wife, I'm confident that she is looking for ammunition to get under my skin. I don't think women desire a vulnerable man. But she can have more leverage over a vulnerable man, and that's an advantage. Why tell women your weaknesses? What do you really want and will being vulnerable achieve that? When the wife asked me for vulnerabil…
/r/MarriedRedPill21/06/17 01:56 PM
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Physical Doing 5x5 SL and switched up so that my muscles have more time to relax. I've shared the program in OYS before so I don't feel like posting it again. I didn't exercise the last two days because of long serious talks into late night and felt that my sleep was more important. This is okay, but I had made a guideline not to go more than one rest day in a row, so I blew that last night. I'm looking at my watch which says 11:45pm and thinking how a workout and a shower are not as vital as sl…
/r/MarriedRedPill21/06/17 01:41 PM
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Physical 172 lbs, 5'10", 11% BF. I decided to do 5x5 twice a week instead of three, and then put in different exercises. I have big pecs and arms so I'm specifically targeting my back, stomach, forearms and legs. I found that if I do the same lift more than once a week, I'm not recovered enough, still stiff, and I can't lift as much. I'm going to add in a foam roller to help with this. I do yoga on rest day to prepare myself for a week of lifting. Mental I started a nightly journal that I call "…
/r/MarriedRedPill14/06/17 08:45 PM
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How was it useful for you? [This one] (https://www.amazon.com/Dont-Want-Talk-About-Overcoming/dp/0684835398) was pointed out a few weeks ago here on MRP.
/r/MarriedRedPill06/06/17 01:20 PM
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Not interested in plates, but I had a lunch date yesterday, a beach date next week, and regular numbers being offered to me. Do you have a good reference for power talk?
/r/MarriedRedPill06/06/17 01:15 PM
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Physical: Back to the Burn Doing 5x5 three times was working great but it had some drawbacks like stiffness and a little tedium. I could feel myself not giving it everything because I was feeling stiff and bored from the same motions so I decided to switch it up for the month. DAY 1 Overhead press 5x5 Deadlift 5x5 Back Squat 5x5 DAY 2 Planks 2x5minutes Pull ups 5x10 DAY 3 Forearm curl 5x10 Calf raises 5x10 Flexor 5x10 DAY 4 Front Squat 5x5 Barbell Row 5x5 Incline Bench 5x5 DAY 5 Ball twists 4x50…
/r/MarriedRedPill06/06/17 12:06 PM
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Fucking brilliant! ...shit clank clank
/r/MarriedRedPill31/05/17 12:36 PM
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She saw me again on the way out and wished me a nice holiday. Good on you for gaming an old gal. Happened to me at church on Sunday, lots of eye contact, touching my arm, things a young gal could never do without judgement. It's not a contest to see if a certain age or attractiveness is into you. Old people can see if you have genuine character, because why else would you talk to her? I'm curious how you feel about Art of Seduction. Have you figured out your seduction type? Do you know what sedu…
/r/MarriedRedPill30/05/17 12:21 PM
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BODY Slowing down and resting every other day. Reached a point where I was feeling deep aches in my lower back and groin. So I switched to long stretches and yoga on the off days. I feel great, like my progress. Bought some new clothes yesterday, a very rare thing for me that needs to become more common. Wife is negging her body a lot lately. Lots of "How do I look in this?" Dread is really setting in hard on her, and she wants reassurance or validation from me. I used to say things in order to …
/r/MarriedRedPill30/05/17 12:12 PM
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Wife has said in her own words that she's afraid that the new and improved me is too good for her and she's afraid I'm losing interest in her. This isn't all bad. Desire is a cleaner burning fuel but dread gets the job done too. This is precisely where I'm at with my wife, she openly dreads losing me, but she's not quite sure she desires a future with me. I got good advice that comfort tests are an opportunity to lead with your vision of what a great relationship entails. When she's scared, show…
/r/MarriedRedPill26/05/17 09:55 PM
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BODY Started 5x5 two months ago and here's my progress. Overhead Press 115-120, absolute murder every time Deadlift 210, fucking ouch Back Squat 195, feels great Front Squat 150, hard as fuck on my wrists, working on flexibility Bench Press 170... but doing 5x10 115 on incline instead because I don't want tits Barbell Row 155, decent form might need to deload Doing 5 sets of 2 minute planks on my days off. MIND NMMNG MMSLP WISNIFG Book of Pook Rational Male Year 1 The Art of Seduction (half done…
/r/MarriedRedPill26/05/17 09:40 PM
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He made a good point. If you're posting on the internet then you either don't want to admit what you really want (you need our permission) or you don't know what the fuck you want. MAKE A PLAN FOR YOUR LIFE. Does she fit in it? Proceed accordingly.
/r/askMRP23/05/17 06:36 PM
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That's great insight and a goddamn relief. I've stated my vision forward in life in terms of me, what I want to do with my life. She wants on board, because she says she loves the adventure I've got going.
/r/MarriedRedPill22/05/17 09:45 PM
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Watching actions - not words - has been the greatest lesson of coming to MRP.
/r/MarriedRedPill22/05/17 12:07 PM
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You think it's BS?
/r/MarriedRedPill22/05/17 11:05 AM
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BODY Started 5x5 back on 2 months ago and here's my progress. Overhead Press 95 --> 115 Deadlift 95 --> 205 Back Squat 135 --> 195 Front Squat 95 --> 145 Bench Press 115 --> 170 Barbell Row 95 --> 155 I started at 173, dropped to 170 after 1 month, and now I'm back up to 173. MIND ~~NMMNG MMSLP WISNIFG Book of Pook Rational Male Year 1 The Art of~~ Seduction (half done) Getting Everything You Can Out of All You've Got (half done) SPIRIT Went to a Landmark forum at the suggestion of my sister. Th…
/r/MarriedRedPill18/05/17 02:11 AM
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Don't lose faith in the process. Sometimes failed tests mean that you are entering a new level for yourself. Adapt and overcome.
/r/MarriedRedPill12/05/17 04:52 AM
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I think you're in a weird binge-purge cycle with your anger. You were clearly angry before that text conversation as it was full of resentments. Admit that you're angry before hand - at least to yourself - and it can't sneak up on you. Anger is a very productive emotion, but it has to be a controlled burn.
/r/MarriedRedPill10/05/17 06:43 PM
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Emotions are their realm. Do your best not to fight on their turf. Exactly.
/r/MarriedRedPill10/05/17 06:42 PM
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Yeah I play the tape forward to the sex part and think it through. But it's hard to imagine new experiences with my wife, but it's easy to imagine with strange women. I'm out of town right now and I've enjoyed the attention from my improved physical appearance and presence. The waitress at the diner eye-fucking me. And then she knelt down in front of me to take my order with her face right at my lap... with that look in her eye. Jesus. And last night I stayed at a friend of a friends. Just me an…
/r/MarriedRedPill10/05/17 06:34 PM
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I've used Ideal Lover successfully all my life, but you mustn't over do it. Also, not all women respond to it, since some find it as if you are lowering yourself before their eyes. "Ideally" you're not becoming smaller in her eyes at all, you're seemingly entering her spirit. You're confident; you're all that a man should be for himself, but also you're so secure that you have the ability to somehow enter her world momentarily. Why can't a man understand me just for once? And momentarily is the …
/r/askMRP10/05/17 06:13 PM
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Chances are you're more than one seducer type. I have a touch of Ideal Lover, but am mostly the Charismatic. One of the points of the book to accept your motivations and accept the other's motivations, then proceed accordingly. Motivations for a large part determine one's seducer type and seduction victim type. The Ideal Lover has downsides, but mroe secuder types are all about advantages. It might be more fruitful to think about what seduction victim type you are, which is all about how you get…
/r/askMRP09/05/17 04:03 PM
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Final That's all I got, tear me up. Actually, I'm really proud of you. You didn't make any excuses here. Even with a fucked up disk you came up with a redirect on your workouts instead of giving up. Even with your wife tracking you, you still posted because it's about your actions, not her reactions. You switched to Kindle (I did too) so you can keep going on your goals without distraction.
/r/MarriedRedPill09/05/17 03:51 PM
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The only thing I fear now is sliding back into my previous ways, and that is firmly within my control to prevent Amen.
/r/MarriedRedPill09/05/17 03:42 PM
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Unfinished tasks don't go away, they stack I'm not giving my work 100% and I know it. Yes, I have high standards, but I'm self-employed and I only short-change myself by slacking. Everyday it feels like I left a good 10% of the tasks undone and I have no excuse except I allowed myself to get distracted. That 10% just goes right on the plate for tomorrow, which means I'm probably a good 10 hours behind where I want to be. Being self-employed means nobody whips you or motivates you, your client wi…
/r/MarriedRedPill09/05/17 03:39 PM
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Don't pull a number in a small town.
/r/MarriedRedPill05/05/17 01:38 PM
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I absolutely agree with you. Messed up people pick messed up people.
/r/MarriedRedPill05/05/17 04:25 AM
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Chilling is for closers Took a "chill day" on Monday. I work from home and did maybe a couple hours of work and just played computer games. Lounging like this always puts me in a bad mood for 24 hours because I feel ashamed. I either need to learn to enjoy the moment without shame or just get back to work. Scrawny buddy is an inspiration After having my initial gains, I had been not giving the gym 100%. Since finding a gym buddy, I've been having a great time at the gym. Watching this dude strug…
/r/MarriedRedPill03/05/17 12:11 PM
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Shitty parenting - NEVER divorce - is what leads to fucked up kids. My mom divorced my dad because he was a drug dealer and a burglar. She then married an abuser and tried to make it work. In both cases us kids suffered not because of "marriage" or "divorce" but by being around irresponsible, low-standard adults. Set standards, have boundaries, refuse to be a party to your kids being damaged. Also, forgive transgressions but never move the goal post.
/r/MarriedRedPill01/05/17 11:57 AM
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Great post that I needed to hear. I read it in a book. Maybe a month of living it and it becomes my M.O. Then she reads it in my actions. Maybe a month of living in my M.O. and maybe it become her M.O. Maybe. I can only lead, I can't make anyone follow.
/r/MarriedRedPill26/04/17 02:49 AM
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Are you trying to convince me or her? I don't care but she does and she saw through your rouse. Opacity is a visual term implying you can hide shit which you failed at. Blame the bank, blame her curiosity, or her advance banking skills... or maybe come up with a way to do things differently next time and post that instead of explanations (justifications).
/r/MarriedRedPill26/04/17 02:44 AM
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Read what you write. Everything is a reason (excuse) why life just didn't go your way. I feel for you. But unless you can identify what you would do differently, something like this will happen again. OYS is about what you learned, not how life beat you up.
/r/MarriedRedPill26/04/17 02:39 AM
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Reading your post, you're doing a bad job at hiding money from someone who seems to know more than you. If it were me I would be totally transparent or be totally opaque. I think anything in between is asking for trouble.
/r/MarriedRedPill26/04/17 12:47 AM
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I’m learning more and more to shift my hamster and my wife’s hamster to positive stuff rather than get bent over the negative stuff. This is good medicine for me too.
/r/MarriedRedPill25/04/17 08:45 PM
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"It is just something I wanted to play around with". That ended the first confrontation - but she wasn't done. A deceit and not even a defensible one. That's gonna bite you in the ass later. "Doesn't the bank send out a tax statement at the end of the year?" Why are you even asking her the question? Is she the expert? Way to be a leader. "Ah, so you are going to hide money from me". I looked her, and raised my eyebrows and simply replied "Yes". A ballsy move that I respect, except it proves the …
/r/MarriedRedPill25/04/17 08:42 PM
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I just trimmed my nails and I've been biting my nails for 25 years. Guess how hard it was? Not at all. I made excuses for 25 years. They were so chewed back that it took a month to grow them to a point of trimming (and I take biotin too). Next month, I stop biting the inside of my cheek. WEEKLY REPORT Complexes and not red-knighting a gym buddy Started getting into complexes based on a OYS suggestion last week. Waterbury Complex with dumbbells and I'm laying on the floor exhausted in under a hal…
/r/MarriedRedPill25/04/17 12:44 PM
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You don't tell her with your words. You lead the sex, and you change it up. Exactly. A sexually exclusive relationship begins with you getting your sexual needs met. Stop assuming she should understand your feelings and change for you even though you aren't requiring it. Start behaving as if good sex is your requirement for a sexually exclusive relationship. If the sex is so terrible, maybe it's time to dread up or move on.
/r/MarriedRedPill24/04/17 02:59 PM
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It's hard to recognize change. One day she'll notice others treating you differently and she'll come on board (or not).
/r/MarriedRedPill19/04/17 06:52 PM
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While attempting to be fun and playful and building desire through kino, she will say "Stop! You're being needy". Hate to say it but if the wife really thinks you're hawt, she wouldn't say you're needy. A horny wife needs to fuck her hawt husband. Some folks here would say to step up your game skills, but I'd take a look at the physical first.
/r/MarriedRedPill19/04/17 12:38 AM
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Ashamed to post it but after building and building on my goals for 6 months toward my birthday I rewarded myself by taking the day off, jacking off, getting high and cheating my diet. I thought it would be a nice "pat on the back" but by 7pm I was depressed beyond words. The depression lasted for 48 hours and was punctuated by a stupid fight in the car with the wife. I knew she was hitting PMS and stressed out in the car so why the fuck did I engage? Because clearly didn't value myself. I litera…
/r/MarriedRedPill18/04/17 06:22 PM
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Good shoes and a good mattress will make 50 - 100% of your life that much better.
/r/MarriedRedPill18/04/17 06:13 PM
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I think horniness can be quelled by beating the biscuit but sex drive isn't satisfied by that. This is a pretty important distinction for me. I didn't come to MRP from deadbedrooms. I was fine with the quantity and quality of sex we were having, but now I know that it was dead by many other's definitions. Sex was once a week and then I was milking the cucumber 4 times a week. I was okay with that but when the relationship was going south I knew sex had to get better for both of us. I'm on a no f…
/r/MarriedRedPill14/04/17 05:49 PM
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Stop telling us the situation, start living in the solution. Can you even imagine your life in a different situation? Even your username is in her frame.
/r/MarriedRedPill14/04/17 12:37 PM
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I had been failing at shit tests for at least 9 months by shutting the fuck up in an autistic manner : every time wife would bitch at me and starting to belittle or insult me, I would just STFU, smile like I DNGAF and even nod a bit for good measure. This led to her telling me she could not see any future but separation ASAP last month because there was no more emotional intimicay between us. Know that when women (and a lot of men) go from covert communication (discussing generalities, reading b…
/r/MarriedRedPill14/04/17 12:33 PM
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Gentlemen, here is how my bro-in-law fucked up every one of these tips. Learn from his epic fail. 1. Know why you are divorcing. Well, he didn't read the writing on the wall - fights, drugs, debt, chaos - and my sister divorced his ass. 2. Know that it is hard to be a man and be divorced without a fault on your side. My sis cheated on him right before the divorce... so he was the victim right? Well the courts don't care and he want to jail for tracking her with GPS and pulling a rifle on her lov…
/r/MarriedRedPill14/04/17 12:23 PM
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You and your wife sound funny as fuck. Great job keeping it fun. I agree texting is logistics AND just funny shit.
/r/MarriedRedPill14/04/17 11:28 AM
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News stories are overwhelmingly about things you cannot influence. Exactly, yet your post is about something I can influence: me and my behaviors.
/r/MarriedRedPill13/04/17 11:13 AM
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I know, I know... I get asked this frequently. But it's not all about $$$. I want to scale the impact I can have on my passion, and I can do that through academia and consulting. A professorship allows a great deal of latitude and freedom with my schedule. Then I can still consult and do cool sector projects on the side. A PhD in my field (not Art History obviously) will get me a $100k/yr job as a professor and I can still do another $50k on the side to keep it interesting. That's a lot more tha…
/r/MarriedRedPill11/04/17 06:00 PM
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Thanks for the advice. I'm not sure how scaleable my consultancy is, but I'm interested in grabbing partners soon.
/r/MarriedRedPill11/04/17 05:40 PM
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You and me both. Baffling for sure but once you start reading her behavior, it ain't so baffling anymore.
/r/MarriedRedPill11/04/17 05:39 PM
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Do you want to fuck? Say so. Are you fuckable? Fix that.
/r/MarriedRedPill11/04/17 12:56 PM
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Read, lift, OYS each week.
/r/MarriedRedPill11/04/17 12:55 PM
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Birthday week! I set some goals to achieve by my bday and while I didn't get 100%, I'm proud of what I've accomplished. Got down to 12% BF, not bad, I now see a path to 10%. Making over $4k/mo from my own company, now I know that I can go to $6k/mo. Had an interview for my PhD, won a residency, applying for others, taught me to put myself first in life. Finished the dresser and 3 benches I'd been working on (except for that one last part). Since being butt-ass broke in January, I've saved $5k to…
/r/MarriedRedPill11/04/17 12:50 PM
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I'm not sure on your industry but I would bet there's an employer who gives incentives to do a masters in something. I know a lot who got an evening MBA that way and increased their earning potential.
/r/MarriedRedPill08/04/17 01:06 PM
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Pretreated pine can survive very well but it's toxic as hell and a soft wood. Cedar is soft too but rot and bug resistant, and very affordable. Teak is hella costly, Mahogany somewhere in the middle but strong as shit. Ipe is a low cost hard wood but hard to find. Make sure to pick an exterior stain that will work with your wood. Certain woods like cedar have natural oils that resist moisture but also resist stain. You can always do a plastic composite decking surface. But you gotta do it right …
/r/MarriedRedPill07/04/17 12:41 PM
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For me it does. Some programs pay you. Some programs will double your salary, some will not.
/r/MarriedRedPill07/04/17 12:32 PM
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I feel you on the lurk-until-you've-got-something-to-contribute but the long post shows that you've been holding things in? I practice things alone until I feel confident and I think that's a fine strategy for not looking like a goof. But here at OYS it's anonymous and not about perfection, it's about weekly fuck ups. So keep practicing your music in private til you wanna shred it on stage, but OYS here every week anonymously.
/r/MarriedRedPill07/04/17 12:31 PM
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I brush with it brah. My teeth are jacked AF.
/r/MarriedRedPill07/04/17 12:27 PM
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What's your weather like? Snow, rain, freeze, or desert?
/r/MarriedRedPill07/04/17 12:26 PM
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So proud of you. Thank you for posting.
/r/MarriedRedPill07/04/17 12:24 PM
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Dude. The local UU is the same. If I put up with the republican intolerance, then I get to hang out with all the tolerant, open minded, new age people. I seriously love this church but wowzers they are bias politically.
/r/MarriedRedPill07/04/17 12:23 PM
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First off, post every week instead of lurking for months then posting a wall of text. Part of OYS is being routine and doing things in a timely manner which seems to be your weak area. Still did MoM 100 pushups and continue a “do as long a set as you can before bed” regime – 50+. Not a clea return to the routine, which I could blame on schedule but I’d be better making time and owning it. What gets measured gets managed. Write down your numbers each day. It will keep you accountable. I didn’t re…
/r/MarriedRedPill04/04/17 12:30 PM
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What is "future study"?
/r/MarriedRedPill04/04/17 12:15 PM
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Are you a masochist? There's no strength in being injured. If you over do it, you're being counterproductive. Better to slightly underdo than overdo. I just watched my gym bud blow out his back and now he'll NEVER be able to lift like he did.
/r/MarriedRedPill04/04/17 12:14 PM
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LIFTING I started 5x5 late March. My squats are at 145, which is low but I have a fucked up knee and it's easy does it. Other stats are OHP 100 / DL 125 / BP 145 / BBR 115. I'm eager to hit my max, but my gym buds recommended form, form, form. HEALTH Going to dentist today, dermatologist tomorrow. I've been bad about preventative maintenance and I lived like I'd die at 50. I used to want to be au naturale but now I take creatine, rogaine, finesteride, whitening strips. It feels good to invest in…
/r/MarriedRedPill04/04/17 12:11 PM
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My benches were live edge, meaning I had to find a local guy who would sell me slabs. I found someone on Craigslist and I got three slabs for $80. Sand them (plane it if you can) super smooth with higher and higher grit each time. Poly it 4 - 5 times, I prefer satin finish. Sand in between each coat of poly. The simplest leg solution is hairpin legs off of Amazon, it'll run you $40-45 for a set, and they just screw right in. I did some fancier handmade legs but it'd be hard to describe that in a…
/r/MarriedRedPill04/04/17 11:29 AM
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Hell yeah I'm angry. And when I embrace it correctly, I carve out a better life for me, my vision, and my loved ones. Not gonna let anyone shame me for embracing an incredibly useful emotion.
/r/MarriedRedPill03/04/17 03:00 AM
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Can we be honest here? You didn't catch shit. Your game is shit. Take this as evidence that you should be lifting instead of polishing a terd here on Reddit.
/r/MarriedRedPill02/04/17 08:00 PM
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would you enter into a business partner agreement were the most likely outcome is a 40-50% disaster rate and you lose everything? What are you even saying? First of all you don't lose everything (just your wallet if you're an idiot). Second, I've owned three businesses and only one is still up. Failure? No, it's been my paycheck for 5 years now using my exact talents. Don't let statistics stop you from going after what you want. If you want a marriage with a particular someone, then go for it be…
/r/MarriedRedPill31/03/17 12:54 PM
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My mentor told me "Our word is one of the few things in life that we have 100% control over." Usually takes just 5 seconds to consider how else we might reword the promise. As a project manager, I learned to use a few qualifiers (scope), a punted deadline (schedule), or a negotiation for more resources (cost) and it makes a big difference.
/r/MarriedRedPill29/03/17 11:47 AM
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I was shocked when I realized how often I open my mouth to get another person to feel or do something. It was unconscious and required a lot of reading and self-reflection to uncover. I thought I was OI, but there's some deep, life-long mechanisms at work in me. I didn't get the reaction ____ There ya go. You tried to fix something instead of you doing you.
/r/MarriedRedPill29/03/17 11:40 AM
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Once a week for the past few months I was doing 5 sets of 30 leg lifts at the gym. I've found it best to keep my ab exercises varied, but I'm dedicating myself to planks for 2 more weeks to see what happens along side 5x5 SL.
/r/MarriedRedPill29/03/17 11:29 AM
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It was a weird circumstance in the beginning, she really was shitty but has gotten better now. However, we learned this weird song and dance where: She would avoid basic tasks I would ask She would give reasons (bullshit) I would give reasons (manipulation) Now we just go from part 1 to 2 and back again. I can't control part 3, but I can refuse to do part 4 of the dance. My BF% is low enough that I just want to build muscle now. I don't want to go below 170 at 5'10".
/r/MarriedRedPill29/03/17 11:26 AM
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3 minute set, 2.5, 2, 1.5, 1 = 10 minutes while I watch fail videos and the laughter makes it much more challenging! The ball sounds like a good add-in, I'll try it.
/r/MarriedRedPill29/03/17 11:22 AM
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Woke up at 3am and my gift is to be the first post here. A blank canvas where men are going to own their shit this week. Need to finish building a dresser and 3 benches as that was my goal for Men of March. I'm a little behind on that with no excuse but it's starting to look damn good. I'm proud. Also we got a puppy on Sunday who might possibly die. Something is really wrong with her lungs or throat or ???? The vet is baffled. Gave her some meds, but have to take her in again today. All this add…
/r/MarriedRedPill28/03/17 09:11 AM
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Yes. The faggot comments are to keep you from being arrogant. There is always another level. Go there no matter what is said here.
/r/MarriedRedPill28/03/17 12:22 AM
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I think you started failing at the game. You don't control the game or the coach, just your reactions. I don't know much about cricket but you should welcome the frustration, it teaches your son to remain poised (which he did) in spite of his emotions. You, however, lost your shit. Now that I think about it, a lot of dad's lose a shit test at their kid's games. Some of them scream at the game, some go home and take it out on their family, some just put the anger in their pocket and hit the iron …
/r/MarriedRedPill27/03/17 11:37 AM
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Essentially I'm running a MAP that leads to a fork in the road in 12 months. Stuck is a sorry-for-myself way of saying I'm building towards a decision in a year.
/r/MarriedRedPill26/03/17 02:50 PM
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This was a good point. I spent sometime just doing my thing and my hamster fell off the wheel. I'm learning that if I've been having fun and getting what I want out of a day, then I process situations more clearheaded.
/r/MarriedRedPill26/03/17 12:57 PM
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My MAP is building my SMV, personal assets and getting into a doctoral program next year which will most likely be a relocation. There's no advantage to leaving the marriage at the moment. Better for me to make a decision next spring.
/r/MarriedRedPill26/03/17 12:55 PM
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Assess whether this is a shit test. None of us can diagnose without a great deal more detail. But there is no divorce until you both sign on the dotted line. You have time. Just STFU and read WISNIFG before you even respond to the D word. I bet you both engage in manipulative conversations and don't even address what you actually want out of marriage.
/r/MarriedRedPill26/03/17 12:49 PM
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Thanks man. It's nice to be beat up here every once in a while when my hamster gets let loose. Been carrying her for years. My MAP is leading to a main event in about 1 year. I gotta just focus on me. Meanwhile I will probably need more help from the books and the forum.
/r/MarriedRedPill24/03/17 01:39 PM
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I agree. The problem that got me here was arrogance and requiring too little of myself.
/r/MarriedRedPill22/03/17 12:00 PM
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Just Read, Don't Criticize Reading WISNIFG and Book of Pook. My goal is to Finish WISNIFG by the end of the month. I mostly loathe any "self-help books" but I'm pushing myself through and applying what works. I really have a hard time with my cynicism reading the books but it's no excuse for not digesting the material and applying what works. Making My Own Challenge Added in TFA's 100 push up a day challenge to my 6 day/week workouts, but I had misgivings about concentrating on chest which is my…
/r/MarriedRedPill22/03/17 11:54 AM
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Exactly. This is about getting what you want, not dragging her along. You go have fun. She follows or she doesn't. Either way you win. Who gives a fuck if she had a bad trip? Did you have fun?
/r/MarriedRedPill20/03/17 01:11 PM
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I'm in the center of the chart. Fucking centrists. Are there any other centrists out here in MRP? Since coming to MRP I've been looking for some kind of diagnostic on where I am on alpha/beta, and whether I should be taking the yellow or the green arrow. The chart simplifies things and shows that progress (arrows) can be made and there are thresholds (dashed lines) to hit. I feel like most of the posts and the books are more of a treatment plan, when what I really needed initially is a diagnosti…
/r/MarriedRedPill20/03/17 12:58 PM
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Holy shit that row exercise is brilliant. Thanks.
/r/MarriedRedPill17/03/17 02:15 AM
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I'm using measuring tape at several spots, neck, waist, et al. Dunno if that's more or less accurate.
/r/MarriedRedPill17/03/17 02:14 AM
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Homebuying has nuances and it seems like you took the "shut up and trust me I know what I'm doing" method of communication. She's right to be asking questions about an incredibly serious purchase. She dropped the matter at that point as the kids needed attention... Well then she didn't really "drop the matter". This doesn't mean she thinks you're right or smart or acting like a leader; the matter still remains but she's off to attend to another task that requires her attention.
/r/MarriedRedPill17/03/17 02:13 AM
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On vacay so I'll make this quick. Been doing the Men of March challenge and so far so good. No fap, no porn, missed a couple days of push ups, half-assed a couple challenges, but I feel amazing. I wish I had done all the challenges to the T because just doing 90% has made a big difference. The big step here was when /u/thefamilyalpha said to give genuine answers to people. I stopped apologizing for having desires, I've been too much of an ascetic monk and Im learning to unashamedly pursue my des…
/r/MarriedRedPill14/03/17 08:38 PM
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You will be tempted by a fag and a fap, but don't give in. I had a prayer for years that helped me. Help me to crave what is good for me. And to have aversion for what is unhealthy for me.
/r/MarriedRedPill07/03/17 02:37 PM
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Great stuff. I'm heading out of town on vacation and exercise is going to be different without the gym. It will probably come down to running and pushups which I can do anywhere. I just want to say that as a childless married man, I have zero excuses for not nailing every challenge you're putting out there. I have massive respect for a father who is finding the time to do all this plus be a good dad. Accolades to all the dads here.
/r/MarriedRedPill07/03/17 02:30 PM
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Brother you deserve to be paid. Thank you.
/r/MarriedRedPill07/03/17 02:26 PM
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I feel you. See my OYS this week and every week. Last week I decided fuck it and let my anger out. Frankly it's a supply and demand thing for me. If I get angry at everything then it lowers the perceived value of my anger. If I am sparing about when I exhibit it, then its stock goes up and its taken more seriously. Think about it, if someone who is a cool cucumber gets pissed at you, they probably will register your complaint. But if you're always ticked off, then what could possibly be out of t…
/r/MarriedRedPill07/03/17 02:24 PM
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I just have to say THANK YOU MRP. 3.5 months of sweat, anger and effort and now things are dislodging and starting to flow. I'm doing the Men of March challenges and I recommend to everyone. PHYSICAL Been weight training regularly and really cutting on calories, fats, carbs and sugars. I can't believe I was such a sugar fiend 3 months ago. Now I can't stomach a sugary object (the taste is awful) though I really crave pastries and I'm damn surrounded constantly. I have to pat myself on the back f…
/r/MarriedRedPill07/03/17 02:14 PM
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I'm on east coast time so it would be better to have these waiting for me in the am so I can start my day with them. Yesterday (Friday) I didn't have this post but... Would you believe it? I bought a fucking picnic basket and filled it with nice shit from the Italian deli down the street. Then we went out of town to a show. How weird that I did the exact thing Men of March #3 was going to recommend? Also I sent a donation to /u/TheFamilyAlpha and all of you should do the same.
/r/MarriedRedPill04/03/17 02:45 PM
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I'm not saying MRP is responsible. MRP is a great solution. I mean that I came here less than 2 years into marriage with a fine sex life and was shocked when most of what I read here on MRP is men who hit a wall with their married sex life. They came here with an issue I wasn't having (yet?) and it freaked me out. Forecast: is that coming down the pipe for me? Probably if I don't do preventative maintenance now.
/r/MarriedRedPill03/03/17 01:42 PM
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What I'm getting at is that you sound bored. So maybe there's something that you classified as boring or lame that you should revisit.
/r/MarriedRedPill03/03/17 01:37 PM
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You’re weak. You talk loud and bully people but it’s in an attempt to compensate in your lack of belief in your own strength. You’re the guy who talks a big game, but inside your screaming because of how insecure you are and if you were to be slapped across the face by a real man, you’re more likely to cry than fight back. This one hit me. I had some big expenses and hit some real walls in my career over the last year and it's brutal hearing no over and over while the bank account goes dry. I'm …
/r/MarriedRedPill02/03/17 07:36 PM
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Yes, but as a type A person who tried "just being" for a year or two, I can tell you that it was immensely depressing for me. It wasn't fun to "just be". I needed something to strive toward. "Being" was a tool for gratitude but not a tool for prosperity.
/r/MarriedRedPill02/03/17 07:31 PM
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But for the first time in my life I am having trouble finding a challenge I care about Maybe your challenge is to give a shit about something that you once thought was stupid?
/r/MarriedRedPill02/03/17 07:27 PM
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COUNSELING SESH #2 Marriage counseling is working brothers.. so far. I wish I started this years ago. Why is it working? I had no expectations. I anticipated and surrendered to the worst possible outcomes. I really don't care if it ends in divorce. I don't care if the counselor "sides" with her. I want a better marriage or no marriage. It's a pretty textbook situation where I'm irritable and she avoids conflict; and that repeats in a million recipes. I even lost my shit towards the end of the se…
/r/MarriedRedPill01/03/17 02:30 PM
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Damn. That post is good.
/r/askMRP26/02/17 01:23 PM
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God damn. I feel like I'm learning sign language with a blindfold on. What you're saying is precisely how my wife acts. I don't think all women are like the ones we're describing here, but mine absolutely is what you're describing. She reads the impression of a situation and then responds to optimize her preferred emotions. It's usually automatic, and yet I'm still caught off guard. I gotta learn my shit here. It's crazy how if I just cross my eyes when she's harping she'll laugh and actually fo…
/r/askMRP22/02/17 02:17 PM
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Do squats in the backyard with your kid. Lifts paint cans in the garage with your kid. Every time he cries do a front flip. Figure it out.
/r/MarriedRedPill22/02/17 01:28 PM
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Basically go after what I want to surround myself with. Text my good buds and see if they wanna get a drink or go do something. If they're too busy with kids or work, then I'll get out to an event anyway and make new friends.
/r/MarriedRedPill22/02/17 01:26 PM
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Side gigs can become perfect storms really quickly. In some situations the only success is just navigating with a positive attitude. Laugh it off?
/r/MarriedRedPill21/02/17 02:24 PM
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I have a crazy sugar tooth and I've practiced just say no. When I find myself with junk in my hand, I gently then put it down like kryponite. The big thing is to give myself a compliment when I abstain - withholding from a bad idea is an achievement. Some of the worst shit tests are when everything is going smooth. The wife wants to know that you're a cool cucumber in ANY circumstance. I read about a wife shit testing a guy at his father's funeral. A fire drill will come when you least expect it…
/r/MarriedRedPill21/02/17 02:21 PM
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Physical Got a nasty bug on Friday night and it laid me really low. I managed to go skiing and hit the gym this weekend so I feel like I tread water here and that's progress considering how bad this bug is. Goal of a visible 6 pack by mid-April is still on. Work/Career Things are turning a corner with income now, clients are happy and recommending me. But I have to keep networking and applying myself to new markets. Have to refine what it is I do: my goal is to be a master of something, not a ja…
/r/MarriedRedPill21/02/17 02:08 PM
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This was a really helpful reply. It's not even covert, I'm definitely nursing a revenge fantasy after all the bullshit she's been pulling. Tonight is the first night of counseling. I keep reminding myself that I'll have to go in with 100% OI to get the most out of it. It seemed like that's how a lot of guys end up here through deadbedrooms, etc. but sexual might mean just relating to the difference between the sexes, not just about having sex. I guess I was reading too narrowly.
/r/MarriedRedPill21/02/17 01:54 PM
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BODY 32, 5'10", 172 lbs, 13% BF. Been hitting the gym 5 - 6 times a week. I started taking creatine 6 weeks ago, and upped my protein. Also started taking branched amino acids that I got as a promo. My goal is to have 6 pack for my birthday coming up. Happy Birthday me. MIND Our relationship has been a war zone. I'll go into detail some other time. Suffice to say, she's admitted she's got some serious issues to work through. We've lined up marriage counseling. She thinks I need personal counseli…
/r/MarriedRedPill14/02/17 03:53 PM
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Do you have a recommendation on a key logger?
/r/MarriedRedPill01/02/17 03:14 AM
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I realized my goals here were not specific enough so I'm trying to declare weekly goals that I can be more accountable too. I used too many platitudes so here goes. Physical Goal: Need to "hurt" at least half of the week. Progress: I realized that I just wasn't feeling the burn anymore even though I was upping the weight and the reps. Right now I'm doing weighted exercises 5/7 days and then running 2/7 days. Frankly, I wasn't doing that extra rep. I hadn't been willing to struggle, get red faced…
/r/MarriedRedPill31/01/17 01:02 PM
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tailor the lesson I read all the "true stories" here with YMMV in the back of my head. And I think that's why they say this is not a sub for play by play advice. The actions that worked for you in this situation will not necessarily work for me. But the attitude that worked for you in the situation might lead me through mine. It's hard for me to identify the attitude that leads to a touchdown, it's really fucking easy to just memorize the play by play moves but that won't get you to the endzone.…
/r/MarriedRedPill30/01/17 12:51 PM
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Running game is pointless if you don't have OI, SMV and the body to back it all up. Are you more ripped and dressed nicer than the boys she'll see at the club?
/r/MarriedRedPill28/01/17 02:02 PM
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Exactly. He had the opportunity to play the game before she left.
/r/MarriedRedPill28/01/17 02:00 PM
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I'm still not sure your post belongs on MRP because I feel like most of us here will just go to other subs for financial advice. But... it applies heavily to me. Much of my journey on MRP has involved being my own business, how that shapes my role as a provider, and the fact that I have a general partnership with my wife. Yes you read that right... I own a business with my wife... at least for now. I won't reveal what exactly the business is but essentially it's a super fun consultancy with cool…
/r/MarriedRedPill28/01/17 01:48 PM
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You can't blame ADHD here. You don't get to blame any external source anymore. Sorry you had to swallow the red pill but now you are trying and there is no sympathy for any disorders here. Let the rest of the world make excuses, now you make solutions not excuses.
/r/MarriedRedPill28/01/17 02:58 AM
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Women interpret even an inoccuous question about their thoughts or opinions, or even checking to see if they're having a good time, as asking if a decision you made is okay. Holy shit. That's so simple I never noticed it. I've been asking her to grade me every fucking time I'm curious how she's doing during a thing I planned out. I mean I'd be a social potato if I didn't ask for a weigh in every now and then; but I gotta meter how often I'm doing this.
/r/MarriedRedPill27/01/17 10:34 PM
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That was never the goal, saving the relationship is her job. Exactly. I improve me. She follows by improving the relationship. Kids benefit. That's the order. If I don't start the chain by improving me, then she will not improve the relationship with a loser. Kids suffer. I don't have kids. But that's how I suffered as a kid. Dad was pathetic. Mom couldn't respect a pathetic dad. Kids have no dad.
/r/MarriedRedPill27/01/17 10:29 PM
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The ‘tamed’ Alphas are also the guys with wives who’ll try to actively minimize his Red Pill transformation. Yep. Three months in, and wifey is upping the control on recovering alpha alright. She likes it but then it knocks her off guard. Their wives are simultaneously aroused by this rekindling of his Alpha dominance and fearful that he will come to see her as the failed investment she likely is for him. I definitely had an anger phase over the last few months but now I'm going through the "ple…
/r/MarriedRedPill27/01/17 10:26 PM
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Don't overthink the "reevaluation". A lot of wisdom here is to not question your observations and just start doing the right thing. Hit the gym. Shut up and listen. Read the books and stuff on the sidebar.
/r/MarriedRedPill27/01/17 09:49 PM
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A fucking oak truck? The metaphoric structures are goofy but yeah that's what an oak truck does. I keep reading about the man needing "a soft place to land". How about a woman needing "a chassis that can hold it the fuck together"?
/r/MarriedRedPill27/01/17 01:52 PM
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It's hard mode for sure and you were looking for a higher bar right?
/r/MarriedRedPill27/01/17 01:48 PM
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Women are usually good listeners but not when the hamster has them in a choke hold. That's when the ears and eyes close and they start perceiving you, and sensing what you say, and how you made them feel. Note that men can make women feel things but if a man ever said that his woman made him feel something he'd be laughed out of the fucking room. /u/RP_SuitScholar is on the money when he says that you have to accept this and then adapt how you respond. When my wife is in hamster mode - and isn't…
/r/MarriedRedPill27/01/17 01:45 PM
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Goddamnit that's 100% accurate.
/r/MarriedRedPill27/01/17 01:35 PM
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Welcome.
/r/MarriedRedPill27/01/17 01:30 PM
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I might be taking a 5 year position in the city in the fall and then we'd sell our place and move.
/r/MarriedRedPill27/01/17 01:27 PM
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See my other comment. This is me maintaining order on my universe.
/r/MarriedRedPill27/01/17 01:27 PM
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Exactly. I like order in my universe. The sink is not a storage bin for dirty dishes. The garbage maxes out at 3/4 full. I'm proactive, taking care of shit before it's an issue. My wife is a raging bitch when she's hangry. AWALT? After a 11 hour work day/commute she has a daemon inside her and it requires a "snackrifice".
/r/MarriedRedPill27/01/17 01:26 PM
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/u/weakandsensitive is right that this is a dear diary wankfest you wrote here. I posted something like this early on and got BTFO in the comments. A post like this doesn't help anyone - it just serves to make YOU feel better. It's a soliloquy to a support group that doesn't exist on MRP for a reason. There is a group of men on MRP who have been on a path for years (not me or you, still rookies) who come here to brag about their hard won accomplishments. They (not me or you) are leaders here bec…
/r/MarriedRedPill27/01/17 01:17 PM
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Story time from college. My Friend was super pissed when his Buddy fucked his Girl. Friend went to confront Buddy. Buddy basically said, "Look Friend, if Girl was willing to fuck me, what does that say about her?" Friend realizes something, "Buddy, anytime you can fuck whatever Girl I'm with go for it, so then I know to dump her ass and at least you'll get something out of it."
/r/MarriedRedPill25/01/17 02:59 PM
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I'm allergic to shrimp and all shellfish... ...but I'm taking her to an oyster bar on Saturday night!
/r/MarriedRedPill25/01/17 02:51 PM
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My BSG is an amalgam of Disney movies and bullshit that girls told me would make them not be upset anymore... I was lucky and had a bad ass mom growing up. Although I worry about what my MIL has taught my wife about doing this to our kids someday.
/r/MarriedRedPill25/01/17 02:48 PM
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I agree. Except I was an asshole and nearly nuked my marriage. I failed almost every comfort test... so now I surprise her with comfort and that's been huge. Being a pushover is no bueno, but surprising her with small thoughtful things has patched up some of the fallout from my asshole days.
/r/MarriedRedPill25/01/17 02:42 PM
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PHYSICAL GOAL: Be stronger every day til I'm in my 50s I'm definitely owning this area. "Owning" is such great word. It means you don't make any excuses, you alone own the situation here, and I am owning my health 100%. I've been attending the iron church every other day, and running once a week for 3 months now. Progress is everywhere. Adonis belt coming in, abs are starting to define, I can literally run and never get tired. My endurance is crazy high. I may be in the best shape of my life rig…
/r/MarriedRedPill25/01/17 02:27 PM
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PHYSICAL GOAL: Be stronger everyday until I'm in my fifties Exercise: Got in a run and three trips to the gym. I was doing 5-6 different routines and 4 sets of each, now I'm doing 3-4 routines and 5 sets of each. HUGE difference. I am still fricking sore this morning from 2 days ago and that feels great. My goals are to build shoulders and abs. Sex Life: She's been legit tired from her full time job with a 3 - 4 hour commute. Plus she's with a somewhat whiny crew of all girls all day and I'd be …
/r/MarriedRedPill17/01/17 01:16 PM
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I like the concepts here but I'm not sure the word interdependence is accurate. The prefix inter means between or against... so I see interdependence meaning dependence between people, rather than independence that benefits from others. Maybe defined better as inter-independent? Post-independent? I get how it's different than the word codependence though, which is like a relationship of mutually emotionally dependent people. Good post.
/r/MarriedRedPill13/01/17 06:03 PM
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I'm ready to settle. You're not acting the prize. Exactly. You're talking like a man who is plateau-ing all over the place. 40 yo is not your peak on any level! As newbies, you and I are coming up on MAP time. From what I understand that's when I will set a course that I will chart for life, there will be no plateau.
/r/MarriedRedPill13/01/17 03:05 PM
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I say "No prob babe. I'm gonna burn some energy before bed." You're just a guy who wants to crush something. Don't justify it to her. It's about what you want to do. If you wanna fuck, go after it. If you wanna lift, then go lift. But yeah if it's midnight then you come off as insane. If you wanna fuck, don't wait til lights out.
/r/MarriedRedPill13/01/17 03:00 PM
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So glad for this post being here and conversation. I was one of those that started out living right, then went beta because reasons. Now I'm going back to the man I was in the beginning. All along I have two huge reliefs: I'm going back to a first impression and not setting up a new one. Thank god I woke the fuck up in the first place.
/r/MarriedRedPill13/01/17 02:41 PM
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PHYSICAL GOAL: Be stronger everyday til I'm in my fifties. PROGRESS: 5'10, 172 lbs, 13-14% BF. Hit the gym 4 times this week. Now that we have a membership I can really up how much I lift and add some bulk. The adonis belt is coming in, I'm getting excited for a 6 pack someday but will need to add some cardio in which is hard in snowy, icy winter. I've always had a good chest and arms so I'm trying to focus on legs and core. I'm taking squats slow because I have a bum knee. Sex has been incredib…
/r/MarriedRedPill11/01/17 01:32 PM
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Oversleeping and missing my workout is a big let down for me. It's a blow to my esteem when I break a promise to myself.
/r/MarriedRedPill11/01/17 01:11 PM
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That's a toughie regarding shaving. Did she ever mention your body hair the first couple times she saw it? what did she say then? Anytime my wife says she likes a certain part about me I never fully believe her, she is not a literal kind of person. She might say "I like beards" when she just wants to feel how a beard makes her feel at that particular moment. 5 days later, she's a different person, incongruent huh? I try to watch how she responds, her words are misleading. Case in point. At the b…
/r/MarriedRedPill11/01/17 01:09 PM
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This is a great concept. Yes, I definitely appear (am?) condescending. I don't open my mouth unless I believe I'm right and I wouldn't tell you when I think unless I thought it would be helpful. My wife typically supplicates. Is feels typical though. So that's the CPTN/XO ideal?
/r/MarriedRedPill08/01/17 04:36 AM
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In my experience, ultimatums aren't good examples of leadership, but they aren't necessarily control either. You're just stating what you know about your limits to the relationship. Do this and I'm gone. You don't control her actions in this equation, just stating the cause and effect. For me it matters more if you're trying to emotionally manipulate or physically intimidate her into "choosing" your rules. I've mostly been with submissive women and they don't always view my rules as rules but wa…
/r/MarriedRedPill04/01/17 03:47 PM
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This. I will not accept any entertainment having an amount of control over my body or mind. I live my life. If porn or video games or apps or food or whatever start changing the way I want to live... good riddance.
/r/MarriedRedPill03/01/17 01:53 PM
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PHYSICAL GOAL: be stronger everyday til I'm in my fifties. PROGRESS: I did well being in vacation. Hiking isn't really enough strain for me so I threw extra water in the backpack. It's hard to exercise on a road trip but I ate right and did my push ups, abs and ran. Yesterday we got a gym membership so now I can hit heavier weights than I have at home. I'm excited. For the first five years, she wanted sex more than me. Then I let sex get boring and she went starfish. Walking around shirtless sho…
/r/MarriedRedPill03/01/17 01:48 PM
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PHYSICAL GOAL: Be stronger every day until I'm over 50 years old. Stats: 5'10", 173 lbs, 13% bodyfat. Wife and I are on a roadtrip vacation so this was gonna be tricky because we're staying in camper trailer and showers are coordinated around staying with family. Managed to get two runs in and use some laundry detergent jugs as makeshift weights (no excuses). We splurged on a hotel one night and I hit the exercise room hard. Coming back she said she "was concerned people would ask why I was with…
/r/MarriedRedPill30/12/16 12:08 PM
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PHYSICAL GOAL: Be stronger everyday til I'm 50 something. MENTAL GOAL: Pass every shit test, no exceptions. SPIRITUAL GOAL: Have an attitude of gratitude. PHYSICAL: 32 years old, 5'10", 170 lbs, 14% body fat. Lifted 5 days, ran 2 days. That's an A+ for me but I need to get some heavier weights to earn a grade like that again. I'm really glad I didn't let myself fall too far from my athletic 20s but I slacked and had to get angry at my atrophy to get this dedicated again. MENTAL: I came to MRP a …
/r/MarriedRedPill21/12/16 02:27 PM
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Anger is my fuel for the gym! When I'm pissed at myself I lift really well.
/r/MarriedRedPill21/12/16 01:50 PM
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Great job on health and appearance. It's its own reward in many many ways. Keep improving yourself for yourself. Keep doing the right thing because you're a man who does the right thing. One of the thing BluePillProfessor said is that as men we make women's happiness a priority but women don't do the same... and that is biologically and socially enforced for all time. So you need to put your happiness first and then only share your abundance with her. If you're living right, there will be an abu…
/r/MarriedRedPill21/12/16 01:48 PM
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OWNING MY SHIT - 12/13/16 GOAL: Get physically stronger everyday til I'm 55. Pass every shit test & comfort test always no excuses. Attitude of gratitude and abundance will get me through any challenge. EXERCISE: Ran three times this week and a buddy agreed to run with me in the mornings. He skipped yesterday but I did not. Been lifting every other day but I need heavier weights. I crave the pain now. Why wasn't I taking my anger to the Iron Temple before? Grade: A DIET: Now that I'm exercising …
/r/MarriedRedPill14/12/16 04:37 PM
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I hate when people comment this but... username checks out.
/r/MarriedRedPill12/12/16 02:22 PM
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When you're at your lowest that's when women can shit-test you the hardest. They do it because they're scared by how weak you are. It might come off as kicking you when you're down, but it's more about assessing your frame amidst great pain. Maintain an attitude of abundance and personal strength.
/r/MarriedRedPill12/12/16 03:40 AM
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Look up the list of 9 seducer types and the 18 seduction victim types on BluePillProfessor's podcasts. The "dandy" is a seducer type that is kind of a mix of effeminate, pretty boy and well dressed man-about-town kind of thing. Think David Bowie or Orlando Bloom. So find out what your seducer type(s) is(are) and what her seduction victim type(s) is(are). Then figure out which one of your seducer abilities will activate her seduction victim type(s). http://thewayoftheintj.blogspot.com/2015/03/if-…
/r/MarriedRedPill12/12/16 03:33 AM
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This is what my buddy said about his newborn, "I can't believe how much you can get done without a kid". He meant that "kids make you less productive" and also that "kids make you more efficient". So it's not a total loss, you net a lot in learned efficiency. But I don't think life is about efficiency or productivity. I think it's about duty and commitment. It's easy to get laid, it's damn hard to be a good man. For me, the benefits of my marriage aren't measured in sexual pleasure or money or e…
/r/MarriedRedPill06/12/16 12:07 AM
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So very proud of you OP. You've had the journey of a lifetime in 2 years time. The satisfaction is all yours when you look in the mirror and see what you've achieved. DON'T EVER FORGET. Maybe the best way to not forget is to not rest, just keep going, find new frontiers.
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