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| -1 | Hmm..Dude, have you seen any of that red pill shit? It may not be rape but it’s at least comparable to the shit we’re seeing this girl say. Also human trafficker Andrew Tate is a hero to many guys. | /r/AntiFeminists | 09/01/23 03:04 PM |
| -16 | Hmm..“That’s modern day dating”. Not at all in my experience. Some people are shit at picking partners and then blame the opposite sex for their own lack of ability to pick good people. | /r/AntiFeminists | 08/01/23 09:44 PM |
| -29 | Hmm..I’m sure you’re fine with all men being judged by rapists and assholes, right? Or do assholes just exists and gender has nothing to do with it? | /r/AntiFeminists | 08/01/23 08:26 PM |
| 4 | What to do if you’re young and matured fast? All the girls my age seem so immature. How to find wifey material?I came here pretty much to echo this dude. I found my partner pretty late, 34 and she was 30. I had finished med school and gotten a chance to have fun. We both had tried relationships and one night stands etc, we both came into this relationship knowing what we wanted and knowing many of the pitfalls of a relationship. We now have a kid and it’s great but having a family and a job and all that changes things. We have very little time for ourselves. I really recommend just enjoying the ride, if … | /r/seduction | 17/10/22 04:11 PM |
| 15 | Easily bored by everyone I meetYou. Are. The. Problem. Stop coping and try actually living life. Stop focusing on sex. Stop focusing on who’s having sex and who isn’t. You are the fucked up one. Please seek help. | /r/seduction | 14/09/22 01:40 AM |
| 8 | How can I (M22) ask her (F21) to shave down there?Came here to say exactly this. You should feel fine with asking for something and then respect whatever answer you get. It’s not toxic for you to ask for something and it’s not toxic for her to reject that something. You seem to have the right attitude, you’ll be ok. | /r/seduction | 21/08/22 12:05 PM |
| 1 | I see people here saying women are rooting for you, just approach. But ive also seen the darker side of women. Some women i approached used me to brag in their social circle in a negative way. One woman even said to me ‘not if my life depended on it”This stat is most probably not true. I’d love a source on that. I did Google a study that says 1 in 3 men aged 18-24 aren’t having sex but that’s pretty damn far from 80% | /r/seduction | 12/08/22 04:00 PM |
| 0 | I see people here saying women are rooting for you, just approach. But ive also seen the darker side of women. Some women i approached used me to brag in their social circle in a negative way. One woman even said to me ‘not if my life depended on it”The thing is shit people exist, men and women. If both sexes judged the opposite sex on our worst specimens, nobody would ever get laid. | /r/seduction | 12/08/22 07:41 AM |
| -6 | he is a 10/10 but has no social media. what he is?I really hope you’re not taking life advice from that dude | /r/seduction | 04/07/22 04:54 PM |
| 8 | Talk me out of this; Taking one girl to another girl's showThe main problem is you lying about your relationship to each woman. If you bring another date and are honest about it to both women, there’s nothing wrong with it, they can take it or leave it. What you’re doing is just very slimy and shitty behaviour. | /r/seduction | 10/03/22 03:56 PM |
| 22 | TBH getting pussy isn't that difficult despite what i thought beforeLol at thinking equal opportunity exists in the US | /r/seduction | 13/02/22 05:08 PM |
| 11 | I can't do it, I'm giving up, and accepting this as my reality forever.You’re thinking of killing yourself. $2000 is cheap to save your own life. That being said, lack of pussy isn’t your problem at all. You need to seek professional help and stop thinking a lay will solve all your problems. | /r/seduction | 09/02/22 02:26 AM |
| 2 | Are there even single women at bars. women that arent in a group?Ok I’ll reply one last time and then give up on you like you’ve given up on yourself: Your problem is that your world view is completely warped. You think that if you do x and y you now should get to fuck. That’s not how things work. Go out, better yourself as a person. I don’t mean get swole as that’s way less important than people make it out to be. Go be a good person without expecting anything in return. Find things you enjoy for yourself and do them. You act like a victim because you don’t … | /r/seduction | 03/02/22 04:24 PM |
| 3 | Are there even single women at bars. women that arent in a group?There it is. You’re out of shape. Probably working a job you pretty much hate. Life is pretty miserable for you. You’re miserable and treat people like shit because of your entitled ass. The world owes you exactly nothing. Women owe you exactly nothing. Figure out your own shitty life before trying to drag others down into your hole. A good place to start is shutting up, stop blaming anyone but yourself and start listening to people that actually have the success that you want. | /r/seduction | 03/02/22 03:56 PM |
| 6 | Are there even single women at bars. women that arent in a group?I mean, let’s be honest, there’s 0 chance you’re jacked. You have a horrible view of women and life in general. You seriously need to figure your head out, it’s a mess. You admit wanting to kill yourself, so your shit personality and character isn’t only affecting those around you, it might actually kill you. Please seek professional help, look within and be humble. You’re young and inexperienced, why the hell do you think you know better than everyone? Drop everything you “know” and prepare to … | /r/seduction | 03/02/22 02:24 PM |
| 0 | How do I dm girls on instagram?Don’t be jaded and bitter like this dude, that’s a good start. | /r/seduction | 18/01/22 01:41 PM |
| 2 | If you have a 4 to 5 inches length junk you are perfectly fine don't worry about it!Your dick also isn’t getting any bigger so don’t worry about whatever you can’t change. | /r/seduction | 29/07/21 08:52 AM |
| 6 | Girls texts you fun party pics but no invite LOLThat’s BS though. Depends on the person but her saying “I’m partying, come join us” opens her up for rejection and girls are insanely scared of rejection. That’s why they want you to be pretty straight forward and lead, it lets them reject you (or accept) and takes the risk away from them. | /r/seduction | 28/02/21 10:45 AM |
| 7 | Cute guy approached me but I got nervousIf a cute girl surprised you by saying something flirty, would you be all suave about it? Before I started thinking about this stuff I missed more than a few opportunities I knew I had with girls because I was too nervous/scared to act. I literally knew she wanted me to hit on her and I wanted her but still I couldn’t act. Same shit happens to women. It’s just good to keep in mind. | /r/seduction | 23/09/20 06:52 AM |
| 6 | dont overthink, just openBecause you’re thinking a good opener exists. They really don’t. The opener honestly doesn’t matter as long as you’re fun and positive. Now will they work? Nothing will work every time. But confidence and a positive attitude increase your chances. Outcome dependence reduces them. | /r/seduction | 09/09/20 09:23 PM |
| 4 | dont overthink, just openThis is just completely wrong. I hope you realise that most people are pretty cool. They might not fuck you for opening a door for them but that might have a lot more to do with your attitude and view of life than anything else. | /r/seduction | 09/09/20 09:06 PM |
| 5 | dont overthink, just openHonestly saying “you probably won’t like me” could be a pretty good opener. So could the rest. The point is there’s no such thing as a good opener, or at least that any opener is better than none. | /r/seduction | 09/09/20 09:04 PM |
| 12 | How would you like to be propositioned by a woman?A girl has pulled the “do you live near here?” line on me. On anyone that isn’t completely dense it should signal intent pretty clearly. | /r/seduction | 06/07/20 08:26 PM |
| 5 | Now that I’ve been dating this girl, girls have been hitting me up left right and center. It’s like they’re a magnet to things they can’t have easily?Not completely going to shit over your point because I definitely believe there’s some truth to what you’re saying. But there’s also the fact that you’re now free to interpret flirtation as just that, you don’t have to see if there’s really anything behind it so you can just write it off as “wow I had a chance with that girl and that other girl”. When single you get chances but have to either take them further or forget about them and if they don’t go any further they’re just a missed opportunit… | /r/seduction | 05/04/20 01:26 PM |
| 6 | How Changing Your Attitude Can Increase Your Attraction With WomenAs someone stated before it’s doing too much too soon. I’ve been pursued by a girl I had thought was cute. But she very quickly started talking about having kids, we were 20 and had been going out for about 10 days. She wanted all these things very quickly and was such a big fan of mine. It was very suffocating at the time and felt as though I had to make a drastic life decision right then and there and also felt as though she’d be very tough to say no to (she was). The girl needs a while to get… | /r/seduction | 28/03/20 12:40 PM |
| 3 | Alternatives to stop jerking off so much?If your balls are deep inside of the girl I’m pretty sure you’re doing it wrong... | /r/seduction | 10/03/20 12:14 AM |
| 1 | Watch "Love is Blind" on Netflix to better understand relationships and what NOT to do as a guy.They’re deciding whether or not to get married. It would be way worse of her and weirder not to talk openly about your finances. Many people would hide their financial troubles until after marriage. | /r/seduction | 06/03/20 09:24 AM |
| 8 | This sub in a nutshell nowadaysExactly! While dating seems insanely complicated before you do it at all and gain some experience, the bottomline is that it’s pretty simple. The problems start with oneitis and that type of BS. Guys on here often want advice to get a specific girl. Sorry dudes, that’s not how it works, if it did you’d have a million guys dating Margot Robbie right now. Move on when you don’t find interest, she might come back to you, she also might not. Neither outcome matters. If you’re looking for a job you d… | /r/seduction | 27/02/20 10:41 AM |
| 20 | This sub in a nutshell nowadaysThe crazy thing is if a date goes well and she wants to kiss the rest doesn’t really matter. Be smooth or awkward, be whatever. After attraction hits your awkward becomes cute to her. The alpha BS is mainly guys who haven’t experienced much and think of dating like a video game. If you don’t do everything correctly it’s game over. Life doesn’t work that way. | /r/seduction | 27/02/20 10:34 AM |
| 45 | Asked out a girl in my class on TuesdayI agree but we can’t control others. We’ll always encounter people that don’t behave optimally, all we can do is strive to do better | /r/seduction | 13/02/20 02:07 PM |
| 1 | I’m going to get good with women!Lol is this a joke? Said nothing about “deserve”. But I’d counter that with nobody deserving anything from the world at all. You can earn things. One of the ways to earn things is working out. There are other ways but you have to have something to offer to deserve anything. If you have 0 in body you better bring crazy personality or crazy money or insane skills in bed etc. Or are you asking out obese retarded girls all day? If not, get the fuck off your high horse. | /r/seduction | 14/01/20 11:03 PM |
| 2 | I’m going to get good with women!If I didn’t give the impression I’m an expert then I don’t see the problem. Maybe you’re the problem? I also have to remember some people on the internet are literally 12 and stop getting into arguments. Good luck with whatever you’re doing. | /r/seduction | 14/01/20 01:24 PM |
| 2 | I’m going to get good with women!Fair enough, you were just being a dick to massage your own ego? Cool. | /r/seduction | 14/01/20 01:19 PM |
| 2 | I’m going to get good with women!You don’t have to take my advice but that’s how all forums work. Whether or not you’re in a medical/science subreddit or not (alright sometimes guys are verified but I digress). It’s up to you to find what resonates to you and apply it to your life. For me it was more the general stuff and bigger life changes. For some it’s maybe just knowing how to escalate. Honestly for many I just think it’s getting an ok, that something isn’t “wrong” to do. So if I gave the impression I’m pussyslayer3000 I a… | /r/seduction | 14/01/20 01:12 PM |
| 5 | I’m going to get good with women!Honestly not in my experience. I’ve been rejected a bunch but usually nothing mean was said. Sometimes the rejection has been harsher than other times but I honestly don’t remember a time someone was actually rude. Then again if someone’s rude about just an approach for being asked out she’s not worth my time anyways. Also I mainly date girls I “know” from work/school/friends which makes a lot of these things easier. Going in with 0 previous connection is harder. Also tourists are a good way to … | /r/seduction | 14/01/20 06:42 AM |
| 2 | I’m going to get good with women!Asking someone out is exactly that, you’re asking. If you’re looking for a way to be sure you don’t get rejected, it doesn’t exist. There’s a leap there and you have to take it and sometimes you’ll be disappointed. But in order to get that win you just have to trust your instincts and ask. | /r/seduction | 14/01/20 06:24 AM |
| 20 | I’m going to get good with women!Honestly the problem isn’t just one thing. The guys on here are in very different situations. The only common theme is not getting girls. Some are in college, fit and generally cool dudes, have friends etc, just have trouble finding success with girls. Then there are basically incels, dudes that think women are bitches for not wanting to suck on their dirty dicks even though they themselves have 0 to offer in return. Also there’s a disparity in what guys are looking for. Some are looking for hoo… | /r/seduction | 14/01/20 06:22 AM |
| 5 | HOW To Use Misinterpretation - A SUPER EFFECTIVE Flirting MethodYeah and that’s probably contributing to your lack of success with women dawg | /r/seduction | 18/10/19 02:29 PM |
| 38 | Just got out of the Friend Zone. Knew I would get rejected. Actually feels strangely good.You’ve had that pregnant pause with a girl, right? That’s a moment. We know when there’s sexual tension and when she’s waiting for a move. If you’re feeling it, she’s feeling it. She might still reject you but that’s still a moment. | /r/seduction | 20/09/19 02:42 PM |
| 0 | Being a nice guy isn't the problem, the problem is being boring. Too many genuine nice guys are not interesting enough for a woman to want to get to know you more.I mean a trip to Tenerife sounds pretty mundane | /r/seduction | 07/09/19 12:17 AM |
| 3 | Being a nice guy isn't the problem, the problem is being boring. Too many genuine nice guys are not interesting enough for a woman to want to get to know you more.Practice. Say stupid shit. That can be endearing as hell. Don’t be afraid to make bad jokes and own it when you do, make a joke about how bad that joke was. It’s relatively easy if you just go for it. Being funny is great but being fun is what really matters. The funniest people I know are usually not the most fun people. Think George Carlin vs Jimmy Fallon (I hate Jimmy Fallon but he’s an extreme example of what I’m getting at). Carlin is smarter and funnier but he’s a miserable grump (his onst… | /r/seduction | 07/09/19 12:16 AM |
| 6 | Why so much hateAlso there’s “famous” PUAs out there laughing about how they forced a girl to have sex with them and laughing about it. Fucks up people’s perception of the community. | /r/seduction | 11/07/19 02:09 PM |
| 16 | How To Get Started Approaching Women - Newbie GuideThat’s not a TLDW. A real TLDW would be made so that I get the info laid out in the video without watching it. You just list what you talk about, not your conclusions. It’s the equivalent of showing your work but not including the answers on a math test. | /r/seduction | 09/07/19 04:52 AM |
| 7 | The one thing that improved my game DRASTICALLYIf a pretty girl is nice to you and “gets your hopes up” by being nice and charming, is that her fault? Or do you own your own emotional responses? In my opinion we can only be responsible for ourselves and I don’t think being charming or even flirting with someone you don’t want to sleep with is disingenuous and I’ve never really heard anyone complain about that quality in someone. | /r/seduction | 11/06/19 01:29 AM |
| 25 | The one thing that improved my game DRASTICALLYI recommend “flirting” with girls you aren’t interested in as well. Being seen as the kind of guy that’s at ease with everyone and makes everyone feel comfortable does wonders. | /r/seduction | 11/06/19 01:27 AM |
| 1 | Great example at the pool.Girls give you an opener all the time. Also we think we’re being obvious when we flirt but girls also have trouble noticing, I know because I have a lot of friends that are girls and they’re often oblivious when they’re hit on in public. | /r/seduction | 29/05/19 01:38 AM |
| 1 | Girl on tinder wants to meet me but I’m worried I look different and hideous irl compared to my picThat depends on the girl. In my experience a lot of girls look through all the pics, they like that part, while guys swipe faster after only seeing the first pic. But a lot of girls swipe quickly but then scrutinise your profile if you match. Ideally you want a pic that shows your face well. Another one or two that show that you have a life; hobbies. Then one or two of you with friends. | /r/seduction | 28/05/19 11:55 AM |
| 1 | Girl on tinder wants to meet me but I’m worried I look different and hideous irl compared to my picThe problem isn’t your look but weird mirror pics aren’t the best way to go. Get pics of yourself doing stuff. At least one good face pic. Then pics of you and your hobbies and one or two of you with friends. | /r/seduction | 28/05/19 11:42 AM |
| 2 | Girl on tinder wants to meet me but I’m worried I look different and hideous irl compared to my picYou don’t. Your tinder pics are crap though but you got a date so good on ya. Go meet her and see what happens. | /r/seduction | 28/05/19 11:27 AM |
| 2 | Just saw this sub and holy shizYeah I think most guys can relate to that feeling in some way. What helped me a lot was having friends that are girls. I can shoot shit with them very similarly to how I do with the guys and it’s not only fun but for me it was eye opening. I can be as weird as I am and girls aren’t disgusted by me, in fact they find me charming and fun to be around when I am all out myself. It’s fun to be around people that goof off and are odd because they give you the permission to be weird by default. | /r/seduction | 25/05/19 12:47 AM |
| 12 | Just saw this sub and holy shizI know I’ve not gone for girls because I just wasn’t “feeling like it” that night or whatever. If she rejects you it may even just be circumstantial. PSA: Do not read this as: she just wasn’t in the mood, keep trying. If you made a move and she said no the ball is now in her court. It might never be kicked again but it is definitely her turn to kick it and there’s no good reason for you to do so until she does first. | /r/seduction | 24/05/19 05:09 PM |
| 1 | How do I respond to this?Awesome! Now we know she had a horrible personality and you dodged a bullet! What a win! On to the next one! 😉 | /r/seduction | 24/05/19 01:23 AM |
| 5 | How do I respond to this?Pls u/vivenapoleon let us know how this goes! This is an awesome reply! | /r/seduction | 23/05/19 04:12 PM |
| 3 | What about seduction for women?Lol wtf? As with men it’s important to look your best (not saying model thin or anything, just wear nice clothes, work out some and take care of hygiene). After that having a life is awesome. Find interests. Cultivate a fun personality. Read books such as How To Make Friends And Influence People. | /r/seduction | 21/05/19 01:24 PM |
| 9 | I hate walking downtownFair enough, enlighten me. I’m happy to help if possible. How hard are you working to better your situation and what makes your situation so impossible to change? | /r/seduction | 18/05/19 01:55 PM |
| 8 | I hate walking downtownOh sorry I’m mistaken, your attitude is obviously wonderful. I’m honestly just trying to say what you need to hear. The world isn’t out to get you. You can go out and get things and be grateful for what you’ve got. Or you can wallow in self pity. The latter is easier and an understandable decision but don’t waste our time with it. | /r/seduction | 18/05/19 01:29 PM |
| 23 | I hate walking downtownJesus. What a load of BS. I’m a doctor and have worked with the severely disabled, physically and mentally. I worked with a kid whose dad shot himself with a shotgun in the garage in the middle of a dinner party. People that really hurt aren’t whingeing and moaning all the time. It’s always people like you that have it pretty good but because you’re not rich and banging a 19 year old Heidi Klum “the world hates you”. Here’s the thing. The world doesn’t hate you. It’s indifferent. You’re one in 7… | /r/seduction | 18/05/19 01:20 PM |
| 3 | How do I make sure that it's a date and not a friend hangout?That’s always the risk you have to take. It’s easy asking a girl to do something with you if it’s just as friends. But it will never lead anywhere. You have to risk a bit of embarrassment and rejection to get what you want. No risk it no biscuit. | /r/seduction | 18/05/19 12:42 PM |
| 6 | How to reply to "you probably have a small dick"Yeah this is bs. Shit tests exist but some girls do it in a bitchier way than others. I’d probably not like this girl much but that’s just me. That being said I think if you want to pass this test and not just pass on this particular girl your best bet is probably turning it on her like that dude said. Yes game is played. No we shouldn’t get salty. Just because a girl is playing the game doesn’t mean she can’t also be a bitch. | /r/seduction | 19/04/19 11:46 PM |
| 7 | I just can't do it captain, I don't have the power.You can look at it this way: since you’re just a loser that can’t break out of this anyways and life doesn’t matter.... who cares? Go say hi to anyone. You’ve got nothing so you’ve got nothing to lose. You already feel like shit, why not feel more like shit? Who cares? The upside is you might not feel like shit. The downside is you might feel like shit... oh wait you already do so who cares? | /r/seduction | 14/04/19 12:04 PM |
| 14 | How do i respond to "i have dated many bad boys" shit test ?The fact is what you say isn’t what matters and anyone who says that doesn’t know what they’re talking about. It’s all about attitude. Obviously don’t tell her she’s a dirty cunt but as long as you’re confident and non phased you’re fine. | /r/seduction | 08/04/19 08:56 PM |
| 71 | How do i respond to "i have dated many bad boys" shit test ?I see these requests for “answers” to shit tests all the time. The answer is usually what you say doesn’t matter as long as the vibe is fun and you’re confident. If you’re a “good guy” type saying: “time to try a good one then”. Would be fine. There’s a ton of answers that’ll do the trick. Even if you “fail” this shit test it’s all just about staying confident. Sometimes cocky and sometimes vulnerable but never an asshole and never weak, that’s usually where guys mess up. Being cocky in a way th… | /r/seduction | 08/04/19 06:43 PM |
| 6 | You're Already Good Enough!Your weight is a problem. But luckily it’s one you know exactly how to tackle. The rest doesn’t really matter, you’re not cripplingly short and money actually doesn’t matter to the people you’d want to attract. So either do something about your weight and start talking to some ladies or stfu. Also there’s tons of poor fat slobs I know that get laid so don’t give us that bs. Just stop rejecting yourself. Stop making excuses. | /r/seduction | 05/04/19 07:24 AM |
| 23 | Went dancing at the club tonight. Something totally awesome happened!He’s definitely loaded by normal standards but by the standards of the girls he dates he’s practically poor. He is charismatic though I’m sure and fame helps. | /r/seduction | 31/03/19 08:31 AM |
| 1 | I think im in love with my best friend but she has a boyfriendHey just curious on how things went. I understand if it’s none of my business though. | /r/seduction | 23/03/19 02:12 AM |
| 1 | Locking upExamples of anything? You have outcome dependence. Try to view it as a win that you just went there and said something, now you can’t lose. Stop looking for perfect tens, talk to all women, fuck it, talk to men too. You’re still barely supporting the weight of your own head and you want to run. Chill. This isn’t the end of the world. The girl at the bar you think is perfect will probably never be in your life again. She’ll definitely not be there if you don’t talk to her. Just go and say hi. She… | /r/seduction | 22/03/19 07:15 AM |
| 1 | how do I stop being so sensitive?Love you too man, love you too | /r/seduction | 18/03/19 01:36 PM |
| 1 | how do I stop being so sensitive?Strong man don’t cry! You are a great human being, never change. The world is wrong, you are right. You’re unhappy but as long as you’re right all is well. Are you seriously 34? Please do yourself a favour and grow. | /r/seduction | 18/03/19 11:50 AM |
| 1 | how do I stop being so sensitive?I know mental illness from all angles. It’s nothing to be ashamed of. You don’t have to be alpha all the time. You can actually be happy but you have to step out of your comfort zone to get there. I wish you all the best and hope you find the strength to face your issues one day. | /r/seduction | 18/03/19 09:58 AM |
| 1 | how do I stop being so sensitive?Every comment on everything you post is negative towards you. People telling you to look for help. Is everyone wrong or may you possibly be wrong? You’re 34 and single and seem to have 0 idea of how to get a girlfriend. You don’t seem happy at all. What makes you think you have any idea of how to live life? | /r/seduction | 18/03/19 08:49 AM |
| 1 | how do I stop being so sensitive?You need professional help. I’ve gone through your posts, you’re seriously angry and I’m genuinely worried you’ll end up acting on some of your dark thoughts, ruining your life and the life of someone innocent as well. You don’t seem to understand human interactions well and I understand that must be frustrating. Therefore you should get help, talk to a psychiatrist and trust them. Whatever you’ve been doing up to now hasn’t been working so stop thinking you have any of the answers. Get help now… | /r/seduction | 18/03/19 08:18 AM |
| 1 | Dancing Helps!You’re just all buzzwords and bs. Have your own personality and maybe people will like you. If you don’t believe that girls opinion or advice just ignore it, no need to be a shit bag. You think you’re being alpha but believe me you’re just being sad. | /r/seduction | 18/03/19 07:54 AM |
| 1 | Dancing Helps!Lol dude you have to chill. If this is your actual attitude and the way you treat anyone that genuinely tries to help you it’s no wonder people don’t want to dance with you so to speak. You don’t look ugly, you just have an ugly personality. Figure that out and maybe you’ll have a chance at attracting someone. Good luck. | /r/seduction | 18/03/19 07:27 AM |
| 1 | I think im in love with my best friend but she has a boyfriendYou have to tell her that, exactly that. | /r/seduction | 06/03/19 04:39 PM |
| 5 | I think im in love with my best friend but she has a boyfriendMake a move. If she kisses you back or whatever back off and say you want to be with her but you can’t keep seeing her as long as she has a boyfriend. Then the ball is in her court, she completely knows what you want and she has a decision to make. Don’t answer anything unless she can say she’s single. Don’t stay up late chatting or whatever. | /r/seduction | 06/03/19 12:01 PM |
| 1 | Why are people attracted and attached to those who self sabotage?Anecdotal but some people are willing to do anything to get what they want. I know a girl that’s with her bf of 10 years still because he becomes insane when she tries to break up. She’s pretty much stuck. He’d send messages every single day saying how he needs her and he’ll kill himself etc. She’s codependent and goes back to him. Normal people aren’t willing to go to such lengths, there are other examples of how guys like this manipulate or threaten or do pretty much whatever it takes to get a… | /r/seduction | 05/03/19 08:56 AM |
| 3 | Approaching at barsThat should be alright. Or lock eyes until she looks away and then approach. This isn’t a multiple choice quiz, stop overthinking, main thing is approaching. You’ll learn shit along the way. | /r/seduction | 14/02/19 12:36 PM |
| 2 | Approaching at barsHave you read anything? Don’t break eyecontact. Approach immediately after, don’t try more eyecontact, that’s creepy. Then just hope for the best. | /r/seduction | 14/02/19 07:41 AM |
| 3 | An interesting phenomenon discussionProbably read it on here somewhere. Definitely words to live by. | /r/seduction | 06/02/19 01:04 PM |
| 4 | An interesting phenomenon discussionHonestly just my experience but I hear models is good. | /r/seduction | 06/02/19 12:20 PM |
| 11 | An interesting phenomenon discussionI think it has a lot to do with your own confidence. You may get hit on more but also you notice it and interpret it as that instead of feeling insecure and thinking a girl was just looking at you by accident or whatever. Only thing that really works for me is always assume attraction until proven wrong. Make them say no (yeah that sounds rape-ier than it’s meant). Just make sure you’ve checked if she’s into you before you do the rejecting for her. | /r/seduction | 06/02/19 12:00 PM |
| 7 | Friends cockblocking me in every possible waysI remember taking the piss out of one friend more than others. I didn’t realise it. One night he just asked me “what the fuck? Why are you like this to me?”. And it shut me up and since then we’ve been best of friends. It’s very likely they don’t realise it so let them know and if they don’t change their behaviour you might have good reason to look for new and improved friends. | /r/seduction | 01/02/19 11:20 AM |
| 4 | [Need Advice] "Saving" Someone's GirlfriendI’ll begin by saying that if you want a relationship with her you should really question her loyalty to a partner, what she’s doing is shady at best. If you all out think she’s special you should give her an ultimatum if a relationship is what you’re after. I don’t really see meeting the bf being a good idea in any sense. | /r/seduction | 27/01/19 02:55 AM |
| 10 | The Tightrope "Nice Guys" Need To WalkStill applies if you’re looking for a girlfriend mostly. Apply things you think work for you and disregard others, don’t throw the baby out with the bathwater | /r/seduction | 21/01/19 05:15 PM |
| 8 | Is nice guys that bad?Needy isn’t the same as her always wanting to be with you, believe me there’s a difference. At least in the context used on seddit. Needy refers to a need to always need reassurance that you want her, that you love her. You can’t talk to other girls without her at least pouting over it. You think you can reassure her and make her trust you, but that’s a fools errand. It will only ever be temporary, eventually she’ll find a new reason to worry/be jealous. She looks through your phone and if you d… | /r/seduction | 16/01/19 02:21 PM |
| 1 | Will I get girls with this method?I mean what? Depends on anything but the magic trick. Those guys are having fun with it, charming and smiling and just seem harmless but with intent. If you can pull that off you actually don’t need the cards but they’re a fun distraction (the camera for them may help in a lot of cases, also being two guys helps it not seem as weird). My point is work more towards having their attitude and demeanour when approaching than learning a stupid magic trick. | /r/seduction | 15/01/19 02:52 AM |
| 5 | How to get girls who don’t talk to you unless you talk to them firstStart being the guy that talks to everyone, not just girls you want to fuck. It takes a while but that’s the best way to start getting girls to open up to you. They see you all the time at class, if you only talk to pretty/hot girls you’ll come off as a fuck boy. | /r/seduction | 10/01/19 06:06 PM |
| 6 | What do you do when you still miss someone years after seperation?Cut off ties. Delete her from social media. If you honestly want to get over her you have to stop the obsession. Delete her number. But of course you’re welcome to look at her spring break pictures and wallow in self pity all you want. | /r/seduction | 04/01/19 07:00 PM |
| 11 | What do you do when you still miss someone years after seperation?What type of closure? You know she’s not into you now and she’s actually into someone else. What would constitute closure to you? | /r/seduction | 04/01/19 04:47 PM |
| 3 | What do you do when you still miss someone years after seperation?How long has it been? Were you dating and if yes how long? Why did you break up? If you weren’t dating did you ever tell her how you felt? | /r/seduction | 04/01/19 04:22 PM |
| 9 | A recent study concluded that the main reason why women were not orgasming was the difficulty to focus when having sex with their partner. Here are some tips that could help you stay in the present moment.As someone that’s at one time or another struggled with sexual things, I had ed for a bit, have had a girl with problems to orgasm and have had trouble finishing myself, it’s my experience that a girl will be pretty gracious about the whole thing. This was with different girls. One really nurtured me out of ed, it was really just performance anxiety and she made me feel very comfortable. Another blamed herself for me not finishing. The girl that couldn’t orgasm talked to me about it and we tried… | /r/seduction | 03/01/19 12:28 AM |
| 3 | How to get over a girl I like at work?Ok then shit where you eat. Just go for it. The worst you can get is a no. The best you can get is a yes. If you never say anything the best you can hope for is nothing. | /r/seduction | 31/12/18 08:17 PM |
| 5 | How to get over a girl I like at work?Fair enough I’ll be clearer. Don’t decide her answer before you ask, just ask. That’s my advice, go to her, tell her you like her and would like to take her out. If she says yes, great! If she says no, that’s fine too now you can focus on other girls. I guarantee if you’re nice about it she’ll respect you more either way. | /r/seduction | 31/12/18 08:15 PM |
| 106 | How to get over a girl I like at work?Depends on the job. Your career? Or just a job at Subway? If you care about the job don’t shit where you eat. In my experience the best way to get over oneitis is forcing her to reject you. By that I mean stop being a wuss and ask her out, if she says yes great, if she says no now you know where you stand and can work from there. Don’t reject yourself. I used to do that a lot, I was sure a girl wouldn’t be interested in me so I blew it before there was an it. Just ask her and see what she says. … | /r/seduction | 31/12/18 05:46 PM |
| 11 | How to respond to girls who have difficulty opening up?Ya’ll give some horrible advice. | /r/seduction | 29/12/18 01:38 AM |
| 1 | as a girl, i get nervous talking to guys over text. any tips on how to deal with that?Also Tinder is pretty easy. Just treat it as a can’t lose situation. Just chat and see what happens with strangers. If they keep responding you keep responding (provided you want to) and in the process you get better at texting. If they end it, stop texting or unmatch, you know it wasn’t to be and that’s fine. You’re not for everyone and you don’t want to be. | /r/seduction | 28/12/18 10:17 AM |
| 6 | as a girl, i get nervous talking to guys over text. any tips on how to deal with that?Usually when we like people we give them a lot of allowances. Don’t be too critical, throw things out there, talk about what you like and let it be damned whether he likes it or not (people like people with passions even if they don’t match their own). Honestly get out of your own head. There are dale carnegie tricks and stuff, but what’s worked best for me with girls is just honesty and trying my best not to show myself at a discount. By that I mean just show who I am, if you don’t like that we… | /r/seduction | 28/12/18 10:00 AM |
| 5 | "I feel like an alcoholic drinking like that"Order tonic, grape soda or soda water. People usually don’t ask what’s in your drink. If they do just be honest that you don’t like making others uncomfortable by your non drinking. Usually works for me, either situation puts most people at ease. | /r/seduction | 26/12/18 02:48 PM |
| 2 | Honestly? I physically feel pathetic and i want to fix that but dont know how or where to start.We don’t really control how we feel, but we can control how we deal with feelings. You felt jealousy, if you’d have acted on it you’d have something to regret. You didn’t act on it, you understood it was wrong and now the feeling is gone. Don’t be too hard on yourself. | /r/seduction | 24/12/18 12:23 PM |
| 10 | Am I alone in this?Definitely not who I want to be but it’s none of my business what two adults do together, they can be assholes if they like. Worry more about yourself and let others do what they will do. | /r/seduction | 19/12/18 09:59 PM |
| 2 | I went solo at a bar and it went surprisingly wellGo learn dance for fun, that’s great but I mainly recommend learning to move with rhythm and learning to enjoy dancing. You don’t have to be Spider-Man 3 level of a dancer, just be fun to dance with. | /r/seduction | 14/12/18 08:51 AM |
| 11 | Do you know the odds of dating a supermodel?Pretty sure your math doesn’t check out but you go for it. | /r/seduction | 12/12/18 10:56 AM |
| 4 | I went solo at a bar and it went surprisingly wellI definitely recommend learning to dance, not only will it help with girls but if you find a way to enjoy it it really is pretty awesome. Smoking and drinking aren’t necessary at all. I cut back on my drinking a while back and sometimes would get bugged about it (nothing bad just questions by drunk people). To combat this I drank a lot of club soda or tonic water. It looks like a drink and most people won’t question you about it. If you can go without drink and smoke I recommend doing that. Trus… | /r/seduction | 12/12/18 10:23 AM |
| 3 | Negativity on this subI don’t mind the griping. I see guys get bitter on here and that’s a chance for others to remind them they have to stop bitching and get back in the game. It may sound pointless but there’s no other answer. | /r/seduction | 11/12/18 07:35 PM |
| 10 | I went solo at a bar and it went surprisingly wellIf you’re traveling just say you’re traveling and wanted to check out the nightlife. I’m not very used to getting interrogated, most dudes know what’s up and don’t care. If you’re in your home city just anything goes really. Tough day at work and you needed a drink on the way home. Just felt like going out. Main thing is you shouldn’t feel weird about it, it really isn’t that weird. If you’re confident enough you can definitely say you’re out to pick up chicks. | /r/seduction | 10/12/18 08:43 PM |
| 75 | I went solo at a bar and it went surprisingly wellIt’s surprisingly easy, especially when traveling. No baggage of friends and you can be whoever you want really | /r/seduction | 10/12/18 01:00 AM |
| 3 | Being too 'gamey' as a beginner?I don’t think “being yourself” means just acting the same as you do around your guy friends. It’s more about finding a way to be playful while also staying true to your own sensibilities. I’m used to close up around girls I liked. I’m very playful with my siblings and friends. But around girls I liked I’d just close up. Instead I started just trying being a little more stupid and playful. It was small steps but in the end I became very playful with everyone and I can feel tension build pretty fa… | /r/seduction | 05/12/18 09:43 PM |
| 3 | Understanding Women They Think DifferentlyI just don’t really see it as beneficial. I want to be me and won’t change to be the guy a specific girl wants. I want to be a guy that girls are interested in, but running after the whims of a specific girl is a fools errand. If you’re controlling don’t pretend to be chill because you’ll end up having to show who the fuck your really are in the end anyways. Just flirt and ask out and see where it takes you, either she likes you or not. Finding out whether she likes you when you act different fr… | /r/seduction | 04/12/18 02:04 AM |
| 10 | Understanding Women They Think DifferentlyThis is BS in my experience. I’ve dated girls that used to date a bodybuilder or a much taller man than me or less successful or very different clothing or very different attitude in general. I’m a pretty sensitive quiet guy and usually take a minute to feel comfortable with others. I also date a vastly varied group of girls. I’ve dated tiny girls (which is closest to being my type), tall girls, funny, smart, boring, dumb, quiet, loud girls. I’ve been attracted to very different types of girls. … | /r/seduction | 04/12/18 01:38 AM |
| 2 | There’s a cute blonde in 1 of my 7 classes. We’ve never talked directly but she laughs at all my jokes. I have her number but I didn’t get it from her, a mutual friend wants me to date her so she gave me it. Any advice on how to best approach her?Don’t use her number out of the blue. Best way is to get it from her. Otherwise you run a big risk of being creepy. So just go to her and get those digits and then work from there. | /r/seduction | 28/11/18 12:47 PM |
| 2 | So tiredHave you put in any work? Are you educated? Good income? Have you tried to lose weight? Do you try to dress nice? Personal hygiene ok? What makes you tired? Really sounds like you’ve not done much. You may be depressed though and if so you should seek professional help. | /r/seduction | 27/11/18 12:51 PM |
| 6 | *** 5 Tips For Flirting With Women***So you’re handsome? Then you’re just bad with people I guess. Maybe you are full of yourself. Not putting a girl on a pedestal =/= being an asshole | /r/seduction | 17/11/18 07:54 PM |
| 2 | Should I fake standing her up, to play with her emotions, she says she is not ready for a relationship after saying she likes me.It may work it may not. Your best bet is just to be honest about what you want. Usually works best for me. I’ve done the lying and manipulating thing, ends badly for everyone involved. | /r/seduction | 17/11/18 11:27 AM |
| 4 | What Is The Ideal Penis Size, Ladies?To some guys size of tits, ass, stomach, add any conceivable physical feature matters. To some girls it’s the same. To some guys personality is more important, same with girls. To answer your question: just be a cool dude to be with, try and satisfy her, don’t worry about your dick size. If she cares and likes your dick, great. If she cares and hates your dick there’s nothing you can do about it anyways. | /r/seduction | 17/11/18 11:23 AM |
| 1 | How would you do when girl teases you about not good at social/ get rejected often?When I started being brave enough to admit to my faults was when I really started pulling. I think I just started feeling more comfortable in my own skin. | /r/seduction | 14/11/18 01:15 PM |
| 1 | Should you keep approaching if you have a 100% failure rate?You’re relatively fit? You’re fun to be around? Can you be a little assertive and make a move? Do you dress ok? Is your hygiene ok? Do you have friends? If you have a good friend that you trust you could ask him/her. | /r/seduction | 09/11/18 03:04 AM |
| 4 | Should you keep approaching if you have a 100% failure rate?What do you think you’re doing wrong? I can almost guarantee it’s not looks... figure out what’s wrong, do your best to fix it. Get back out there. Have you seen the retards out there with cute gfs? You can be one of those retards! | /r/seduction | 09/11/18 02:32 AM |
| 3 | Talking to girls I likeForce yourself to talk to them like normal, you’ll be shitting yourself on the inside but usually they can’t tell (and even if they can tell often they’ll find that cute). I had the same problem as you. I’d just ask myself what I’d do if she was someone I wasn’t attracted to and act on that impulse a lot. Later I could build on that to work on building attraction but that’s a good place to start. | /r/seduction | 07/11/18 03:07 AM |
| 1 | I wish I wasn’t born with a sexuality. Why did this have to be?Just start doing shit you’re proud of. For me it was running, chess and volunteering. Have a life. Find your own worth. I know it all sounds self helpy, but well it’s pretty straight forward. You know interesting people, what made them interesting? Do that. If you feel worthless you’ll project that. Be an exciting dude. If it’s really depression get help. Professional help will be good but you also have to put in work. Work out every day, not to be a macho man, just get your heartrate up for 30 … | /r/seduction | 31/10/18 05:26 PM |
| 2 | I wish I wasn’t born with a sexuality. Why did this have to be?Are you someone worth being with? If not, why? Please don’t say looks because there’s a lot, I mean a lot of ugly ass dudes that aren’t single. You got good career prospects? You shower? Are you fun to be around? Do you make any effort? Are your standards too high? Identify what your problems are and fix them. | /r/seduction | 31/10/18 05:05 PM |
| 1 | Gift suggestions for a girl from a guy who’s trying to get out of the friend zone.I’ve actually been rejected by girls who I’m still friends with and I’ve rejected friends. If she’s cool she’ll understand and be friends still. But you can’t become a whiny bitch and keep bringing it up, you took your shot and that’s that. Knowing I had romantic feelings towards them and me knowing some girls had that for me, actually brought us closer. The crazy ones don’t get to be friends anymore. It’s all about honest communication, that develops trust. | /r/seduction | 31/10/18 04:07 PM |
| 2 | Gift suggestions for a girl from a guy who’s trying to get out of the friend zone.Go talk to her. Tell her you like her as more than a friend. Use seddit techniques if you like but main thing is to be honest without laying it on too thick. Just tell her you’d like to ask her out sometime. If she says no you have to forget about it though. She’s not the one, there isn’t a one and there never will be. She’s probably great but so are a lot of other girls and they might actually be interested. Weird big romantic gestures, meaningful gifts and declarations of love all reek of desp… | /r/seduction | 31/10/18 03:39 PM |
| 1 | How to add girls to my social circle?Also throwing parties. We were always throwing parties in college for the sole reason of having an excuse to invite girl group x or y. | /r/seduction | 10/10/18 10:16 AM |
| 7 | I got rejectedThat’s a horrible mindset. Any fool can’t get rejected. You have to put yourself out there and for a guy like OP that sounds like a pretty big step. I at least relate having had to overcome that fear of rejection and that was in the end really the hard part. The easy part is when you get actually pretty good at it and have sex occasionally with girls you’ve picked up. Getting rejected can definitely be a win in my book. | /r/seduction | 17/09/18 01:06 PM |
| 39 | I, a previously 20 year old kissless virgin, just had sex last night thanks to this subredditCarry condoms. STDs are a real asshole and carrying a couple of condoms is easy as pie. Also you never have to show them unless you get to use them and at that point it isn’t weird. | /r/seduction | 10/09/18 05:22 AM |
| 1 | Practicing dealing with AMOGsUsually works best to ignore most of that type of behaviour and be the cool guy that’s fun and cool with everyone. Don’t get me wrong, don’t be the nice guy. But don’t take it too seriously and just be confident that you know the girls and they know you and you’re not a loser so all is well. A guy acting like a jerk in that way reveals his own insecurities. | /r/seduction | 08/09/18 11:37 AM |
| 9 | Fairly confident on game, terrified of sexIf it’s a dating scenario and you want to be with her I’ve found vulnerability is fine if not attractive. Tell her you want her to enjoy it and you worry about satisfying her, preferably after sex. Don’t be needy or anything. Bad sex happens at some point to most people, even experienced people. Good sex usually is a result of two people doing it together a few times and learning what makes each other tick. | /r/seduction | 08/09/18 11:10 AM |
| 1 | I feel like ending it all - I need emotional intimacy...I agree. Finding a professional to talk to is never a bad idea really. I understand the desperation but thinking the problem is a lack of relationship is misguided. | /r/seduction | 08/09/18 11:06 AM |
| 4 | I feel like ending it all - I need emotional intimacy...Ending it all is not an option. If you’re thinking about that seek help NOW. I’ve had suicidal thoughts but always known it’s not an options so I just let them come and go. If you’re really contemplating it get help. If not don’t ever say that you might do it to others. It’s a horrible thing to lay on people if it isn’t a serious concern. If you often use dramatics like that you may want to read up on personality disorders such as BPD. If you seriously want to kill yourself=look for help If you … | /r/seduction | 08/09/18 10:35 AM |
| 1 | How Do You Handle Constant Failure?You’re afraid of rejection and therefore don’t put yourself out there. If you’re not afraid of rejection, not afraid of this one girl saying no and knowing you’ll find others willing to date you will be able to say fuck it and try new things on dates. Try touching her arm or try kissing her or tell her you love her too soon. Everyone here likes acting as if there’s all these unbreakable rules, there aren’t. Not one seddit rule is unbreakable. I’ve been on a date where I feared I was boring her b… | /r/seduction | 04/09/18 02:21 PM |
| 2 | How do I show interest without coming off a clingy?Be polite at all times but remember to not be afraid to say what you want/don’t want. When you reject someone don’t hum and haw. Just say you’re not interested in that way. In my experience it’s way better than being lead on as the other person refuses to make a decision. It’s ok for a little bit not to be sure but in the end make your disinterest known. Also when you’re doing the pursuing you have to be sure your intentions are clear. It makes it easier for the girl to say yes and you won’t com… | /r/seduction | 29/08/18 04:28 PM |
| 13 | How do I show interest without coming off a clingy?If you are “the leaf in the wind” learn to take rejection well as early as possible. If you go after what you want you won’t always win. But the victory is all the sweeter once you get it. | /r/seduction | 29/08/18 12:55 PM |
| 1 | Does height matter in dating?Fair enough | /r/seduction | 28/08/18 08:42 PM |
| 3 | Does height matter in dating?Working with what you got is improving what you got. I’m able bodied so I work out. I’m no Stephen Hawking but I study hard. I’m no Bill Gates yet I’ve made sure my finances are in order and I have my own apartment out of it. Etc etc. Working with what you’ve got is not just accepting where you are and not doing shit about it. | /r/seduction | 28/08/18 07:07 PM |
| 35 | Does height matter in dating?Guys prefer fit girls. That doesn’t mean no guys ever fuck fat girls and it doesn’t mean no guys ever fall for fat girls. Most girls prefer Brad Pitt looks wise over me. That doesn’t mean I’ll never get laid unless I look like Brad Pitt. Guys have to stop looking for excuses and finding ways of working with what they’ve got. | /r/seduction | 28/08/18 12:12 PM |
| 18 | Can we, as a community, limit the amount of people posting about their specific problemsPretty sure that math doesn’t check out | /r/seduction | 23/08/18 09:21 PM |
| 6 | How can I IG DM a girl in the best way possible?Rule of thumb is a rejection on Tinder means move on. Otherwise you've just got oneitis, which it definitely sounds like you have. She's just a girl but you've built her into your dream girl. Just remember she poops and move on. | /r/seduction | 22/08/18 09:12 AM |
| 2 | The hard part only starts when you get it.Have you been on this sub for long? It’s a lot about inner game and your own growth. Becoming your own person and figuring out what you want. Yeah there’s some tips here and there for “quick fixes”, but recently it’s mostly been more about the inner you. Also you may have the confidence in yourself but not the confidence in yourself as a sexual being and then those “tricks” help a lot. | /r/seduction | 10/08/18 09:12 AM |
| 1 | How To Walk Into A Bar This Weekend?You may not identify as one but I’ve read your other posts. Lots of hating women and porn and worries about baldness. Being bald is not your problem, an awful personality is. | /r/seduction | 10/08/18 02:09 AM |
| 6 | How To Walk Into A Bar This Weekend?Can yeh you really? Is that why you’re in braincels? If you seriously think inceldom is a “lifestyle” and not just a bunch of excuses and coping mechanisms for your failed sex life you’re deluded. I know zero guys that get women that think even remotely the way you do. Also a lot of the incels you tout aren’t bad looking. They’re just horribly creepy and socially fucked up guys. Learn to interact with people, be introspective. It’s not easy, in fact it’s super fucking hard and takes a long time … | /r/seduction | 09/08/18 09:45 PM |
| 2 | Going out in the field for the first time- any advice?Oh well it is that simple as long as you can handle the rejection. Also what works now won’t necessarily work later in life. Good luck to ya | /r/seduction | 08/08/18 12:27 PM |
| 3 | Going out in the field for the first time- any advice?I’m from Iceland and used to pick up tourist chicks a lot. It helped to assume they were Icelandic (this works best when your country/region is known for pretty women so it’s a little hidden compliment). I’d start by addressing them in Icelandic. When they didn’t understand I’d say “oh you look very Icelandic/Scandinavian”. Almost every time they took this as a compliment. Also did it once with a black girl which got a laugh so it’s a win/win. Just an easy conversation starter. If you yourself a… | /r/seduction | 08/08/18 11:50 AM |
| 1 | Help ya boy out with some day date ideas?? (Specifically in LA if possible)I live in Reykjavik so very different location but after dating tourists I’ve just started taking local girls on “touristy” dates. So many things you never do or see in your own city as a local. Just google what tourists do in LA. | /r/seduction | 06/08/18 11:03 PM |
| 7 | Weird Eye Contact QuestionNah you’re pretty damn good looking and tall and fit. No homo | /r/seduction | 06/08/18 10:37 PM |
| 1 | Friend brings me down, ruins setsThat’s tough. Not really sure how I’d go about doing that to be honest. Good luck though | /r/seduction | 28/07/18 02:16 PM |
| 1 | Friend brings me down, ruins setsIf you haven’t gone out together since you chewed him out maybe talk to him beforehand and tell him what you expect from the night and that he’s welcome as long as he’s there to be part of that. That way he gets a chance to redeem himself and if it doesn’t pan out you gave him a fair shot. People can get very isolated in relationships. As a friend it’s our duty to try and help them not do that, but of course if they don’t help themselves you have to know when and where to draw the line eventuall… | /r/seduction | 28/07/18 10:47 AM |
| 7 | Friend brings me down, ruins setsWhile I’m happy if my friends are good wingmen that’s not remotely what I have friends for. I have some friends who are great guys and would drop everything to help me out, but they’re horrible wing men. As long as OPs friend is actually a good friend in other areas I kind of feel like OP is being a bit of an asshole to what sounds like an old friend. That being said of course there are “friends” that don’t give as much as they take. These roles also usually switch in a relationship, I might be … | /r/seduction | 28/07/18 10:27 AM |
| 18 | What is the different between social skills and seduction?It’s pretty connected. But I’ve always been pretty good socially. I had a lot of friends, guys and girls, and even teachers loved me. I could charm my grades up often and was usually the life of the party. I love dancing so even that wasn’t a problem. But for reasons I didn’t understand I didn’t get girls very often. I had to learn that I also had to go after girls. I will say though that for me it’s always been less about conventional “game”. It’s more about learning to be honest with myself an… | /r/seduction | 23/07/18 03:21 PM |
| 2 | Shy guy actually wants some freaking love but doesn't know howListening to someone that’s passionate about something is fun. You’ll be able to tell her something about programming she doesn’t know or hasn’t thought of. | /r/seduction | 22/07/18 12:36 PM |
| 2 | I fucked up yet another date. I really don't know what to do anymore.You probably have to work a bit on your conversational skills. What works for me is just saying things. Think how Jennifer Lawrence is thought to be very charismatic or Craig Ferguson. They both just say weird stuff all the time, often very out left field stuff. It's surprising and new and fun when people do this. It doesn't work every time but I've gotten pretty good at saving a bad blurt after the fact. Honesty and saying random stuff will get you pretty far in my experience. Also you have to … | /r/seduction | 22/07/18 06:17 AM |
| 6 | Progress!It’s always the least creepy to own it a little. If you’d have walked back in and said “I wanna give you my number, you seem fun. Text me sometime”. The chance of her being weirded out is reduced a lot. You can even say that you don’t normally do this or that you’re a little nervous. It can be endearing and less creepy. I know everyone here’s all about alpha stuff, but I’m not really alpha but I get chicks now. What works best for me is honesty, sounds weird but it works. | /r/seduction | 21/07/18 08:20 PM |
| 3 | Would it be messed up to ask someone on a date if you only want to be FWBFeel free. It’s just not who I want to be as a person. Also I never said he had to say it before being asked. Just be honest whenever asked. Girls have surprised me way more when I’m honest and most often respond pretty well to whatever truth there is. | /r/seduction | 18/07/18 05:20 PM |
| 56 | Would it be messed up to ask someone on a date if you only want to be FWBStart by getting sex. If ever asked be honest about your intentions though, don’t go all in and say you’re looking for a fuck buddy, but say you’re not really looking for a relationship at the moment. | /r/seduction | 18/07/18 12:41 PM |
| 1 | How to avoid being a nice guy?Make a move. You’ve felt those moments before with girls, there’s a lull in the conversation and she looks at you expectantly. Make a move. Whatever move. You may be rejected there but she will look at you in a different light and may even give you a chance later. | /r/seduction | 12/07/18 07:52 PM |
| 31 | How to make it clear to a girl you are interested in her sexually without risking the end of your existing friendship with her if she rejects you?In my experience it’s easiest to just tell them you think they’re pretty or whatever as soon as possible. I’ve had friendships that started off with me flirting with her. The flipside, being friends for months and then suddenly blurting out you want to fuck her, doesn’t ever work. If you’ve been friends for a while you should find ways to escalate over time. It’s just so weird to get all those feelings thrown at you at once. Plus there’s a lot of pressure if you’re already friends, you can’t jus… | /r/seduction | 11/07/18 03:31 PM |
| 6 | I'm 22 never had sex yet met a girl, she asks if I'm a virgin what to doLive and die by the truth. In the long run it’s better. Just explain why if she asks why you’re a bit late in the game. If she’s cool she’ll respect that. If she likes you she likely won’t mind. | /r/seduction | 09/07/18 03:05 AM |
| 6 | 7 Mistakes Guys Make in Bed (And How to Fix Them)While lasting while “inside” is great I think showing you want to please her is more important. Licking and foreplay are very helpful. | /r/seduction | 29/06/18 05:59 PM |
| 14 | How many days do you have from meeting someone to asking them out too avoid the friendzone?That is the answer because a lot of guys on here have a huge problem with oneitis. That’s crippling and can stop you from perusing anyone that isn’t “her”. My advice would be to tell her how you feel and see what she says. It has worked for me. If she’s not interested, move the fuck on. | /r/seduction | 12/06/18 09:33 AM |
| 35 | Freshly-Divorced, Looking for a Wingman (Seattle)Hey hope you find someone, good luck out there. Also bagging prey is not a phrase you’ll want to keep using lol | /r/seduction | 12/06/18 09:04 AM |
| 1 | As somebody who probably has an addiction to one night stands. This is how i approach women or groups of women at any location.In settings where there’s not much else to go by, looks are more important. Find places where you get to know girls a bit. I’m punching far above my weight just because I do a few different social activities as well as working in a place where there’s a lot of women. | /r/seduction | 12/06/18 01:57 AM |
| 4 | As somebody who probably has an addiction to one night stands. This is how i approach women or groups of women at any location.I promise you women are not very hung up on looks. A friend of mine was similar to you, a virgin until 25. He shifted his world view then. He started just talking to girls for the sake of talking. Not trying to get pics of tits or whatever, just getting to know more girls. I notice a lot of guys just need more women in their lives as they seem to think women are so different from us almost to the point of being alien. I promise you, you are not too ugly to have a girlfriend. You may have too lit… | /r/seduction | 11/06/18 03:44 PM |
| 4 | Making it clear that you like someone is more sexually attractive than hiding your feelings, new research finds.That must be tough. One of my best friends stayed in the closet until he was 25, mostly because of his own denial and self hate. How old are you? I’m sure you’ll figure it out and it’s such a big thing societally still in many places, wouldn’t dream of rushing you. But living life for yourself (without maiming others), whatever that means for you, is required for happiness. I hope you find a way to be stubborn for yourself and not others. I’m not the person to give advice on how to get closer to… | /r/seduction | 09/06/18 06:42 AM |
| 9 | Making it clear that you like someone is more sexually attractive than hiding your feelings, new research finds.Wtf? You’re gay and don’t want to do anything with boys? Because you’re young? Still closeted? Can’t fathom this as “I’m straight but don’t want to do anything with girls” is not a sentence you’d ever hear, I don’t think. Not pressuring you or anything just peaked my interest. | /r/seduction | 09/06/18 05:49 AM |
| 15 | This is my first time saying "no" after a girl acted like a bitch to me two weeks earlier and then reached out - old me would have gone for it anyway, I'm proud of my progressWanting to fuck is fine. Wanting to fuck no matter what is the reason you won’t be fucking any time soon. It may sound counter intuitive but it’s the truth. | /r/seduction | 08/06/18 04:48 PM |
| 322 | This is my first time saying "no" after a girl acted like a bitch to me two weeks earlier and then reached out - old me would have gone for it anyway, I'm proud of my progressEveryone here’s so thirsty. Well done OP. You stuck to your guns, listened to what you actually wanted and didn’t act out of desperation. There’s plenty of easy fucks out there, you don’t need that bitch. | /r/seduction | 08/06/18 05:44 AM |
| 80 | Don’t Fall In Love W/ Girls. Fall In Love W/ The Things That Get The Girls.A lot of guys want to live in the belief that a girl would solve their problems. Girls are wonderful, but if you’re miserable without a girlfriend your miserable with one. Have something worth getting, be a catch. I had ok success early on with girls but I let myself become a bit of a slob. I wasn’t focused on anything but my studies while in college and I became boring. I was dating an amazing girl but I didn’t feel good enough for her and ended up convincing her of that as well. I’m just as bu… | /r/seduction | 06/06/18 04:29 PM |
| 46 | Don’t Ask How To Get Pussy. Ask How Pussy Can Get You.Different girls go for different guys. Being put together is the number one thing. Watch your hygiene, watch your weight, wear nice clothes, stay groomed. This ugly thing is bull because maybe 0.1% of the population needs something drastic. Most guys just have to get real. The world doesn’t owe you nice pussy. Lower your standards maybe? So many guys complain about not getting laid and all they do is pine for that perfect 10. | /r/seduction | 31/05/18 10:38 AM |
| 3 | Don’t Ask How To Get Pussy. Ask How Pussy Can Get You.There’s pills for that. Very embarrassing but I had that problem when I was younger and it 100% had to do with confidence. Gym, less masturbation and just feeling like I had my shit together and “deserved” to be fucking chicks fixed it for me. If that doesn’t work there’s always pills. | /r/seduction | 31/05/18 10:33 AM |
| 1 | [FR]Night out at bar. Didn't get laid but still had great time.Awesome! Good job | /r/seduction | 20/05/18 04:28 PM |
| 12 | [FR]Night out at bar. Didn't get laid but still had great time.Great to get out there! Just go out for a good time at first, don’t worry about girls looks, just talk to girls. You don’t have to have sex with a girl just cuz ya’ll talked. But getting used to just talking to girls helps you get comfortable with it. You’re obviously outcome dependant, otherwise you wouldn’t worry about looks so much. I’d recommend working on that for now. I don’t mean lowering your sex partner standards, but you don’t need standards for who you talk to. | /r/seduction | 19/05/18 12:05 PM |
| 1 | Honestly, do you have better luck with the women you approach with a desire to sleep with? With women who you don't care about at all? Or with playing the numbers game and going until you get one that sticks regardless of if she is who you'd normally go for or not?You’re preoccupied with being liked. I often fall into this trap, been getting better at not giving a damn but it’s hard. Get more rejections under your belt. Say the last thing you should/think you should say. Say your weird opinions, dark opinions, whatever. My most interesting conversations have come from me (or the other person) just blurting something out. At least for now don’t worry about the rules. Don’t worry about saying she’s pretty or not saying it. Just go with whatever. See reactio… | /r/seduction | 09/05/18 05:36 PM |
| 3 | I keep cockblocking myselfYour problem is you’re not ready to be vulnerable. I’ve gone home with girls and not been able to perform. I’ve also blown my wad way too quickly. Usually I do well but shit happens. The thing is the average person isn’t a porn star and isn’t used to porn star fucking. Plus in my experience the good sex almost exclusively comes later. Good sex is about trust and playing together and knowing how to please each other. Also a girl that this has happened with has never had a negative reaction to me … | /r/seduction | 09/05/18 05:11 AM |
| 1 | Confidence at an all time low, never was high anyway.First off the bat: stop trying to get laid. Approach as much as you want but don’t think about sex at all. Approach girls you have no interest in and guys, whatever. Be that guy that’s fun and has fun. Don’t. Think. About. Losing. Your. Virginity. Being a virgin doesn’t define you. Now start working on things you want to work out. Wanna be fit? Exercise and eat right. Wanna be funny? Join an improv class. Do things you’re not comfortable with doing, it’s college, you’re supposed to be finding yo… | /r/seduction | 08/05/18 09:19 AM |
| 2 | Why cant I be myself around girls?You definitely can. You don’t and it’s hard(at first) but you can. I used to be a lot like you. But I started telling girls what I wanted and thought and it’s only lead to positive things, almost solely. It’s more than worth the few rejections I’ve had (they’re usually very soft ones and often leave me feeling pretty good about the interaction). Just do it, seriously! | /r/seduction | 07/05/18 09:21 AM |
| 15 | "Introverted girl" ended up going crazy over me.Building on what u/thenaturalbigboy said, don’t be afraid to say outlandish things. Just a random thing that popped into your mind about anything at all is usually well received, it can seem funny and quirky (as long as that thought isn’t “I kill people in my dreams” or something). Being unafraid to fail is endearing. Think about comedians, they seemingly don’t care if they bomb (the good ones anyways). It makes the audience relax and in a conversation it makes the girl relax and feel free to sh… | /r/seduction | 23/04/18 01:17 PM |
| 10 | How do I go from a nice flatline conversation to being edgy, witty, and flirtatious during dates?For me I’d always feel put on the spot and start panicking. I’d feel like I had to win with the next phrase or all was lost. It wasn’t until I started really leaning into that energy that I started feeling charming. I don’t know if that makes sense. It’s saying the things you’re really thinking in the moment. Just throw it out there, weird, intimate, funny, stupid. Whatever. Usually my most random thoughts get the best response. You’re suddenly in control and realise you can say whatever, you wo… | /r/seduction | 13/04/18 05:48 AM |
| 5 | (FR) Shortest “date” of my lifeI don’t agree. It didn’t work this time but often “hanging out” feels more casual and non-commital at first while you’re feeling each other out. Then go for the full on date. Works for me usually. | /r/seduction | 11/04/18 03:29 PM |
| 32 | Follow up on my whole 'not shitting where you gym' situation.No man it's all about tricking her into having sex with you and being very manipulative. Then later moan about women being manipulative. Neg a bit here and be super alpha, never back down and never say you're sorry. It's awesome cuz you never have to make real connections, grow or be vulnerable with someone. This sub's just full of beta bitches. | /r/seduction | 28/03/18 02:35 PM |
| 2 | How to ask a girl outDefinitely explore your interests, the added benefit of helping with pussy is great, but the main thing is it makes you a better, happier, more rounded person. | /r/seduction | 22/03/18 04:16 AM |
| 2 | How to ask a girl outI live in Iceland and what I have is a tiny fishing boat my grandpa left me. It’s not a yacht in Miami. But let me tell you, get yourself any kind of boat and the ladies will love you. They’re always highly impressed and believe me operating that boat is easy peasy. But being in Iceland means the weather isn’t often great for romantic boating trips so it’s not ideal. | /r/seduction | 22/03/18 04:05 AM |
| 3 | How to ask a girl outWhat do you do for fun? Any hobbies or anything cool like that? Often helps to be in your element. I’ve gone snowboarding with girls and running and out on my boat. It doesn’t have to be a big thing, just somewhere you feel comfortable. | /r/seduction | 22/03/18 01:56 AM |
| 1 | Quickest ways to become more attractive as a manI definitely agree that you don't have to be fit. But being fit is a relatively easy way of feeling confident and accomplished. | /r/seduction | 19/03/18 11:29 PM |
| 7 | Quickest ways to become more attractive as a manThe quickest way to Mars still takes a long time. He didn’t say “quick ways”. Honestly the quickest way is finding a prostitute but I’m guessing you’re not looking for that. | /r/seduction | 19/03/18 05:12 PM |
| 21 | Quickest ways to become more attractive as a manMen have been trying to fuck for millenia. It’s not really a new science and there aren’t going to be big revelations. If you’re waiting for that one tip to make you Casanova you’ll not get there. Want to be fit? Exercise and take care of your diet. Want to be attractive? Take good care of yourself. Want to do well at school? Study hard. Want to excel at work? Work harder than the others. These aren’t very original because they’re just truths. They aren’t sexy pop bs that you can hang your hopes… | /r/seduction | 19/03/18 05:11 PM |
| 18 | No idea what to do with tinder matches.Instructions unclear, I have a date with a Kaiju now. | /r/seduction | 13/03/18 04:17 AM |
| 4 | Overthinking is the bane of my life.Work on your health. Mainly to stay healthy, with the benefit of looking better. You don't need a six pack and killer arms, just don't be a sorry sack of s***. Drink less, smoke less, do drugs less. I mean do the things you like but drinking and drugs aren't a hobby, they won't make you interesting. They are fun from time to time but if they become what you're known for that's not hot. Work hard at whatever it is you're doing with your life. Whether you're a doctor or a janitor, take pride in it… | /r/seduction | 04/12/17 05:55 PM |
| 18 | I did it reddit, I finally worked up the courage and talked to a girl!Approach everyone at the venue and hand out flyers. Get a backpack and a shortsleeved shirt. Put on a tie. Convert to Mormonism. Convert others. Find a nice Mormon girl. Platonic dating. Then get married. Please put this in the sidebar mods. | /r/seduction | 25/10/17 01:19 PM |
| 5 | I did it reddit, I finally worked up the courage and talked to a girl!You can message ppl on IG and as long as you know each other before hand it's fine. Very weird messaging a stranger out of the blue though. I mean it may work but 99% of the time it'll just be weird and creepy. | /r/seduction | 25/10/17 01:16 PM |
| 7 | I'm 22 years old, I'm a failure with woman and I am feeling suicidal. Help?Your lack of success with women comes from self-esteem problems. I'm guessing everyone in this sub has experienced that. You really need to find your own peace, if not happiness, before the women part. I promise you, if you enter a relationship with that attitude you'll be hung up on that relationship. Your happiness will be a function of how well the relationship is going and it won't be going well because nobody wants those high stakes. | /r/seduction | 20/05/17 11:53 AM |
| 24 | I'm 22 years old, I'm a failure with woman and I am feeling suicidal. Help?That's not true at all. People usually mis identify their own problems horribly. He does have to put in the work himself obviously, therapy hinges on that. But thinking that not having a woman at 22 is cause enough to be suicidal is just wrong! | /r/seduction | 20/05/17 11:50 AM |
| 3 | I'm 22 years old, I'm a failure with woman and I am feeling suicidal. Help?I'll start by saying you might need professional help. Not getting women sucks but the reason you're suicidal is never that simple, it's a contributor but I promise you I know that not having women doesn't in and of itself make you suicidal. You need to start with yourself. Nobody is going to look at you differently until you start doing it. u/knarkefaen has a pretty good plan set out for you. Exercising is key! This is not about getting that six pack even though looking better is a happy side e… | /r/seduction | 20/05/17 11:48 AM |
| 1 | Would anyone be interested in a website which detailed many different hobbies and how to get started, equipment needed, etc?Khan Academy's doing alright even though Youtube exists. | /r/seduction | 18/05/17 03:40 PM |
| 1 | Would anyone be interested in a website which detailed many different hobbies and how to get started, equipment needed, etc?Why start Facebook when you have Myspace? Because you can do what Myspace does but better. | /r/seduction | 18/05/17 12:22 PM |
| 3 | The downside with being attractiveWhat you're saying isn't really that being attractive sucks. You're saying that having no game sucks. Looks don't really matter, at least nowhere close to how much game matters. So whether you're attractive or ugly it doesn't matter, stop whining and learn game. | /r/seduction | 29/04/17 05:22 PM |
| 5 | Simple Tips For More Natural ConversationsI recommend open questions when you get into that frozen minded silence where you seem not to be able to say anything. One of my go to's is "have you ever been in a fight?". It sounds a bit blunt and weird to just throw out there but it's a question that most people not only answer yes but a story follows, you can follow with your story (I'm not talking hero stories here, most fights are pretty pathetic and usually funny afterwards). I've once had this backfire but it revealed a huge red flag, t… | /r/seduction | 25/04/17 01:59 PM |
| 2 | How To Connect With Girls, By Being Your Weird-Ass Self [xpost from /r/socialskills]There are podcasts and stuff you can look into, listening to the moth helped me somewhat for example but in my experience it's just exactly that: experience. Don't get deterred by a few bad stories you've told. Usually it's not the story that's the problem. Practice which parts to keep in and which to cut out. When others tell a successful story try and figure out what's successful about their telling of it, why/how do they make it a good story. Good story telling isn't easy and I'm not great at… | /r/seduction | 25/04/17 09:55 AM |
| 2 | How To Connect With Girls, By Being Your Weird-Ass Self [xpost from /r/socialskills]Go for it. Telling people you're working on yourself is both impressive and endearing. How old are you? I'm guessing if you're somewhere between maybe 23-35 a LOT of people are in the same situation as you without you knowing it. I know it seems like a large age gap but the thing is people figure out at very different stages of life that life takes a bit of figuring out sometimes. It's not just living and voila you're a CEO with a trophy wife and three awesome kids. You have to actively seek out… | /r/seduction | 22/04/17 01:34 PM |
| 2 | How To Connect With Girls, By Being Your Weird-Ass Self [xpost from /r/socialskills]Share. Tell stories and fucking ask to be listened to. Also don't take cutting off as too much of a slight, it happens to all of us. Pick up by saying: As I was saying. If the person you're with isn't a dick they'll actually feel a bit bad about cutting you off, don't pile it on. It's usually not done on purpose. Practice your stories too. My brother is a master at this, he tells the most mundane shit and leaves everyone in stitches. It always comes down to not caring too much what others think … | /r/seduction | 22/04/17 01:31 PM |
| 1 | How To Connect With Girls, By Being Your Weird-Ass Self [xpost from /r/socialskills]Ok so making conversation doesn't come naturally to you maybe? OP's saying you can start being a person that makes conversation without pretending to be someone else. Alright you may have to "pretend" to be comfortable with small talk and making conversation but that's all. Then in the end you're suddenly a person that's really good at talking to others even if it's about your LARP sessions with your grandma. | /r/seduction | 22/04/17 01:26 PM |
| 2 | How To Connect With Girls, By Being Your Weird-Ass Self [xpost from /r/socialskills]I recommend not leading with the "not watching TV or movies". Talk about what you do do and not what you don't do. I love TV and movies and often feel like people are judging by saying they don't as some pretentious way of seeming deep. Not saying you meant it that way but if I feel it I'm sure many girls feel it too. Languages are very interesting and especially if you're from an English speaking country, since ya'll don't often speak multiple languages. I'm sure you have fun slang or sayings t… | /r/seduction | 22/04/17 01:23 PM |
| 2 | How To Connect With Girls, By Being Your Weird-Ass Self [xpost from /r/socialskills]Well the learned behavior is largely learned in school, middle school and high school. I mean people still will do that but first off people laughing at your weird shit is fine as long as you can laugh along and it's not something you have to hide. I love any type of music, I love Creed and it's stupid but I'm fine with people laughing at that. Everyone's been into something they "shouldn't" be into, something uncool. Some girls have spent hours on the Sims or Candy Crush and some may even surpr… | /r/seduction | 22/04/17 01:17 PM |
| 2 | How To Connect With Girls, By Being Your Weird-Ass Self [xpost from /r/socialskills]I'm not really a fan of phrases to say but one of my go to's, when I'm in a pinch, is "have you ever been in a fight?". You don't have a fight without a story and 90% of people (yes also girls) have been in some sort of a fight in their life. No joke usually people light up when you ask that because it's something nobody asks yet it's specific and doesn't require much thinking on part of the one being asked. I will say there's a tiny risk there as I asked a girl I didn't know at all and she went… | /r/seduction | 22/04/17 01:13 PM |
| 1 | How do you guys get into deeper and more personal conversations with people?If things are going well, you've gotten a bit of banter in etc. you can spring a serious question basically out of nowhere. I have a friend that does this and he's so fucking good at it, it's an art. Just go serious and ask "so why did you pick psychology?". Then push for a real answer. Obviously don't go overboard, people may have their reasons not to answer, but don't be afraid to be serious. It's good to be able to be fun but nobody respects a clown. | /r/seduction | 04/03/17 08:47 AM |
| 1 | "i don't have time for your pettiness today"Btw going down on girls isn't a bad thing unless it's something you don't want to do. You seem young and lots of guys on here love being tough online and acting as "alpha" as possible. The fact is that being alpha has all to do with your desires and rules, not some external perception of what alpha men should be/do. Find out who you are. Find out who you want to be. And then travel that road. | /r/seduction | 01/03/17 03:52 AM |
| 2 | "i don't have time for your pettiness today"Yeah guys on here are often a bit too harsh and go all out in making sure no girl gets one over on them. But this girls obviously just playing with you. I'm pretty sure you guys don't have time for each other's pettiness, at least not at the moment. Distance yourself, especially since you kind of seem to have oneitis. | /r/seduction | 01/03/17 03:48 AM |
| 10 | I just failed completely in my pursuit of one woman I was really into and i can't stop smilingIt's easy to break the spell. Go. Ask. Get answer. Yes or no I promise you it's easier than endless waiting for the what if. You got this. | /r/seduction | 16/12/16 01:51 PM |
| 2 | You see a girl you find attractive...It really does suck the first time. But once you get better at it it doesn't really hurt that much. It's like they say about great quarterbacks being able to forget their bad plays, it's 100% mental. | /r/seduction | 15/12/16 12:35 PM |
| 2 | [FR] First approach ever. I never felt so proud of myself.Soooo bitter. Funny how a bunch of guys obsessed with being alpha are some of the whiniest bunch out there! | /r/seduction | 11/12/16 07:36 PM |
| 17 | Kanye shows weakness and loses frame. Kim wants divorceNot usually on here but you realize your confirmation bias here, right? First off usually more breakups happen if there's more tension on the relationship, right? As a doctor I've seen both men and women leave their spouses during difficult health complications. Also you're skating by stories of women helping men out of their problems, June Carter for example basically saved Johnny Cash from alcoholism (those are his own words). Sharon helped Ozzy out, he'd be dead without her. Not saying there'… | /r/TheRedPill | 08/12/16 04:03 AM |
| 35 | Effect of weed on gameThe less you have to lean on substances the better. When I started out I'd drink and I got pretty good at drunk game. But I had to kind of relearn a lot when I wanted to drink less. I always say do whatever works for you, but if you can do it without substances that's always better | /r/seduction | 04/12/16 03:06 PM |
| 1 | [34M] Where am I, and where do I go from here?Most men do have to somehow show their accomplishments whatever they are. Sure there are those few with ridiculous good looks but even they need to have something else (I have a friend who was called "Hot [his name]" all through high school and college but he had a tough time of finding a girlfriend until he became an engineer and suddenly he was swimming in it. Don't brag but don't hide things either. If there's a funny/cute story about something that brings out your accomplishments go for it. … | /r/seduction | 29/11/16 03:47 PM |
| 8 | The only lesson I learned during the almost 1 year of studying and practicing game, and why being yourself is actually a good advice.Set yourself short term goals and one or two long term ones. Example of a short term goal: exercise every other day this month. Example of a long term goal: finish first year of college. It's all about putting one foot in front of the other. I'm not that smart yet I have a medical degree. It was not about being smart. It was all about showing up. If you show up every day you'll do work. Whatever it is you want to do. Sit down with the guitar every day for fifteen minutes, I promise you many days… | /r/seduction | 28/11/16 01:15 AM |
| 1 | A good 30 sec video that shows how to handle yourself when asking out womenI don't know if you have friends that have done dale carnegie. The ones that copy it like robots come off as aliens trying to act human. Others take parts and incorporate them into their natural character. The problem isn't dale carnegie, I know for a fact it's helped people a lot, but some people just take it too much to heart and too literally. | /r/seduction | 23/11/16 05:51 PM |
| 2 | A good 30 sec video that shows how to handle yourself when asking out womenAll these rules are well and good and great guidelines while you have no idea what you're doing. But once you get your confidence don't worry too much about them, do what works. I know guys who have this special awkwardness that just melts girls, if I tried it it'd be creepy. I know other guys who are kind of light hearted but very domineering, that's not my style either but it works for some. Find the way that works for you, the guidelines help but when you're far enough into the process you mi… | /r/seduction | 23/11/16 03:52 PM |
| 43 | Starting to get really frustrated as I see so many people get into relationships and have hookupsHe's telling you to relax. Even this post is dripping of desperation and bitterness, believe me people spot it miles away. If you're obsessed with closing and anxious around girls you're obviously not just enjoying things for yourself and you're way too outcome dependent. Seriously chill the fuck out. This is really common though, especially for guys who've travelled a long way, they feel they've done the work now they're owed some pussy. That's not how it works. Keep going out and having fun, f… | /r/seduction | 22/11/16 09:39 AM |
| 1 | Last minute negative thoughtsYou can try to send one more time but if you don't get a good vibe from it I recommend cutting your losses. Honestly a girl like that is a rabbit hole everyone's gone down and it usually doesn't end well, don't get hung up on it. Sometimes you get a cool down like this and then see the girl later and she's disappointed you haven't kept following and then suddenly you have a chance. But you have to be genuinely ok with letting her go. | /r/seduction | 17/11/16 03:21 PM |
| 2 | Last minute negative thoughtsNr. 1 was really poorly handled, feels both needy and lacking confidence, especially in the beginning keeping things pretty light is key. You could've responded with "yeah tell her to fuck off" or "yeah my friend Bob is game", just show you can hang. Your response shows you as being prepared for rejection. Nr 2 seems to have been ok handled but you got a bit of oneitis with her I think. You started thinking she was perfect instead of really just relaxing into it. It's poker, if you're good you p… | /r/seduction | 17/11/16 11:47 AM |
| 50 | I have never had a girlfriend and do not know how to start dating.Good news: you're on the right track just trying and the fact that you're asking out girls you barely know is super ballsy so stand tall and be proud of that, whatever the problem is it isn't you being a pussy. Bad news: There's no quick fix. I can not tell you that if you follow three easy steps you'll have a girlfriend by Christmas. Real talk: Start on yourself. Do things you are proud of. Work out. Dress well. Shave. Groom yourself. Become someone you would like to know. Read up on the sideba… | /r/seduction | 15/11/16 09:29 AM |
| 6 | Models Mark Manson (My Notes)I don't really believe in the "don'ts" of seddit. It should be about doing. Even if you do the wrong thing that's something you can learn from and build upon. I guarantee you if you go up to 100 girls and say they're hot and then carry on a conversation at least a few of them will be into it. Not doing something is the nr. 1 evil of seddit. Do and then learn, try and do the right things but remember that not doing is the wrongest of them all. I'm not a PUA at all, I'm moderately attractive and r… | /r/seduction | 08/11/16 03:58 PM |
| 3 | 5 Truths That You Don’t Want To Hear in PickupThis is not true. I've been super hung up on a girl, gotten a text while working/studying/running and just kinda lived off that small excitment for a while. Then when I have the time I'll respond. I feel like maybe nr. 1 is true for high school students or something. But if you're a working man with all the shit the world throws at you you really can't always be bothered to reply to someone. | /r/seduction | 03/11/16 01:44 PM |
| 3 | This is why girls don't make sense to you. You're listening wrong. [xpost from /r/socialskills]Well yes and no. You want to listen and find ways of making people you like happy. A lot of guys don't listen at all to girls, they see a pretty face and everything else is irrelevant. If that's your type, fine. Telling a girl she's boring to get her to desperately try to impress you is something I don't get. She is boring, why would you want her attention? If you do it to get the attention of a girl you are interested in and don't find boring just know saying it will get her attention you're no… | /r/seduction | 31/08/16 04:47 PM |
| 21 | This is why girls don't make sense to you. You're listening wrong. [xpost from /r/socialskills]The truth is some people aren't worth our time. Some people are manipulative to a fault (we all are to an extent). Some people seek attention and don't worry at all about how they effect people around them. These people should be avoided. Don't play into their hands unless you want to win at manipulative games that won't ever lead to anything healthy. This does not mean you should become bitter and think that "women are manipulative bla bla" men can be just as bad. The fact that some people are … | /r/seduction | 31/08/16 04:42 PM |
| 13 | How to Talk to Women: 5 Easy Conversation TopicsSo my girlfriend told me about a trip she went on when she was younger, she went all over. Instead of saying "oh nice" I asked "wow that's so cool, what is your most memorable moment there?" She has a whole bunch of stories and like me (I went on a similar trip when I was younger) she wanted to tell them, enjoyed telling them. It's all about starting conversations from what they say. If they say nothing maybe they have nothing to offer. The problem isn't always you. So relax, try and be engaged … | /r/seduction | 24/08/16 03:09 AM |
| 1 | 5 Critical Steps When Asking for a First DateThese posts sooooo often get bogged down in these minor details. I understand that it helps guys that are new to it get a bit settled and feel like there's a plan in place but it's also very important to remember that if she says yes to a date that's the key. Finding the date may even be awkward but nobody that has dated for a while would tell you this tiny awkward looking for a date thing makes or breaks your chances with a girl. Tl;dr: get the date, find a date, do date, do date (insert creepy… | /r/seduction | 29/07/16 08:06 AM |
| 8 | This is roughly 90% of the Game. I'll leave this here.That's not true in my opinion. We grow up counting the bad points way more easily than the good things. I do way more good things than bad, that doesn't mean I never do bad things but I try which makes me overall good. That does not make me special since I think most people are good. Even the really bad are very often just good people in a fucked up situation. | /r/seduction | 21/07/16 02:02 AM |
| 17 | 24 years old and going on my first date ever. What are some things I should know?Best case scenario her parents are also dead, and you have sympathy grieving sex in the parking lot. (this only happened to me once though) Sympathy grieving sex is never a "best case scenario" | /r/seduction | 29/10/15 10:34 AM |
| 1 | 24 years old and going on my first date ever. What are some things I should know?Have you not been here for long? That good looking is almost a myth, don't get me wrong there are the very good looking among us and they're off fucking super models never having to think twice. But most of us are at best handsome and girls actually go for that, like all.the.time. That girl seems to like OP since she would go out on the date with him. So the kino thing shouldn't be too much of a stretch. | /r/seduction | 29/10/15 10:33 AM |
| 1 | 24 years old and going on my first date ever. What are some things I should know?It's been said before but as someone who's been in your shoes I know it can't be said enough. Relax! It's not a big deal even though it feels like it. Just chill. She's probably nervous too. I can't find it now but I read about a study that found that people on first dates usually don't notice what the other person does wrong as much as they notice what they themselves do wrong. There are no magic words. Just try and have fun :) Good luck OP and you're awesome for asking that girl out! | /r/seduction | 29/10/15 10:29 AM |
| 1 | My Guide to Street GameChiming in for a bit of annoying older reassuring "it gets better". The fact is the younger you are the more shallow you are (generally). Whether you're a guy or a girl. Don't get me wrong, physical attributes will always factor into attraction but won't be as much of a featured player as you get older. High school is a bitch. Keep working on your game and talking to girls and you should be fine. If not right away things should improve in college :) | /r/seduction | 29/09/15 06:38 AM |
| 1 | Guys older than myself, What are some things you wish you had known about women when you were 20?I have worked with too many addicts and mentally unstable people to believe the "cheaters will be cheaters" nonsense. People change, often a lot. People often learn from their mistakes. Some don't and I'm really sorry if that's your experience. But just like I shouldn't say cheaters never cheat again, you should not say cheaters will be cheaters. Because not all people are the same :) | /r/seduction | 29/09/15 04:56 AM |
| 3 | Guys older than myself, What are some things you wish you had known about women when you were 20?I never never like absolutes. One of my closest friends was married with two kids and got cheated on. They took a break for a while but found each other again in the end, I think the break was about a year. They are going 2 years strong and both are superbly happy (unless this friend is just always lying to me which is not at all the way I know him to be). She is a wonderful woman actually and a good friend of mine too. She made a mistake and knows it. As a general rule you're on the right track… | /r/seduction | 28/09/15 08:54 AM |
| 3 | 4 Body Language “Hacks” To Get More GirlsNOTE: This does NOT mean to “puff” your chest out. It means lightly “pinching” your shoulder blades back, like your exposing your heart to the world in front of you. Standing up straight is basically this and it does not look weird if done correctly and is generally more attractive than being hunched (obviously there are always exceptions, there are people who love licking toes for christ sake). Check yourself out in the mirror doing it. At first it'll feel unnatural but a long with exercise you… | /r/seduction | 14/09/15 09:29 PM |
| 20 | 4 Body Language “Hacks” To Get More GirlsI like all the tips but I'm not a fan of the headline. So much of seddit stuff is marketed as a quick fix. "10 tricks that will get you laid" or something. There really is no shortcut and after you've traveled the long road for a while you realize you wouldn't actually want there to be a shortcut. My favorite parts of seddit are the parts where it talks about becoming an overall better person. I used to be completely useless with women and while I'm no Casanova but I'm in a relationship now and … | /r/seduction | 14/09/15 09:27 PM |
| 2 | Different ways guys have initiated the first kiss with me.Your "most successful encounters situation" doesn't usually lead to much more than a one night stand. Maybe you'll meet her again drunk later and bone but usually not a relationship starter (not saying it doesn't happen). Also if that's what you're after, that's fine. All my relationships have been with a girl I met sober. I might have escalated the flirting with her a bit tipsy but we met at work first or some class or whatever. I take a bunch of classes because they are a great way of meeting … | /r/seduction | 03/09/15 02:35 AM |
| 1 | How to SIGNIFICANTLY reduce approach anxiety and that awkward feeling when talking to girls [Serious]You too guy! While seddit is great it's all about results and finding your own way. If it works for you I'm happy for you ;) | /r/seduction | 02/09/15 01:56 PM |
| 1 | How to SIGNIFICANTLY reduce approach anxiety and that awkward feeling when talking to girls [Serious]Fair point. | /r/seduction | 02/09/15 01:18 PM |
| 3 | How to SIGNIFICANTLY reduce approach anxiety and that awkward feeling when talking to girls [Serious]No by your logic we should all just walk to random women and fart loudly while staring into their eyes, then just stand there silently until she leaves or tells me to leave. It's super awkward so I'll turn into Don Draper just by doing that a couple of times. What u/wedembrownies suggests is basically immersion therapy. You look your phobia in the eye in small steps, each step scarier than the previous one. You look at a snake on TV, then at the zoo, then held by someone else, then you hold it. … | /r/seduction | 02/09/15 04:18 AM |
| 2 | [FR] From a first timerFirst timers get really stuck in the pit of tiny changes in phrasing. Confidence and being fun and forward is KEY. Everything else is pretty much bullshit. You did really well, the fact is you win some you lose some. Even if you are really experienced you will have losses. But the fact is it's exactly the same with this as in sports, the greats are the ones with a short memory for bad plays ;) | /r/seduction | 29/08/15 04:56 AM |
| 9 | So I finally did it! As a girl, I asked a guy out.This can be accomplished on the date :) | /r/seduction | 19/08/15 11:52 AM |
| 36 | So I finally did it! As a girl, I asked a guy out.Damn for a guy this is insanely hot! I've been asked out twice and both times I felt like George Clooney for a day! You're awesome!! | /r/seduction | 19/08/15 11:51 AM |
| 0 | 20/M and a kissless virgin.Made out for the very first time. UPDATE!!Oh I forgot this is the internet, of course it's best to assume the worst and berate OP. OP never said the neighbor wasn't a friend, he did say he had a key to his neighbors place which suggests some friendliness at least. Also what the neighbor don't know won't hurt him ;) | /r/seduction | 17/08/15 05:56 PM |
| 21 | 20/M and a kissless virgin.Made out for the very first time. UPDATE!!Your second point is awfully negative. First off I don't mind people fucking in my bed if they change the sheets, cum isn't radioactive and should go into the condom if things are done right. Some sweat or whatnot isn't going to kill anyone. The kid has NEVER had sex. He's probably even wondered if it ever would happen for him. Opportunity arose and he jumped on it. People forget what it's like to be a virgin. | /r/seduction | 17/08/15 09:42 AM |
| 2 | Stop Worrying That Everyone's Having More Sex Than YouSome guys on here are serious blue pill dudes! I'm guessing that's what's happening here since the author is a woman. She had many valid points to me who worried a lot about having too little sex until my mid twenties. | /r/seduction | 11/08/15 03:47 AM |
| 2 | Beginners: How to ask for her number (flowchart)It means a tiny bit, more positive than a no, right? | /r/seduction | 31/07/15 07:53 PM |
| 13 | Beginners: How to ask for her number (flowchart)Honestly I think Seddit gets way too into these tiny phrasings. Either way, if you've done the stuff that matters right she'll probably say yes (unless she just doesn't like you that way). She won't be thinking "woah what a loser asking for my number". She will not think "wow this 150 lbs dude with the glasses really is a mans man, making statements". Just fucking ask for the number, the exact wording won't matter unless your hitting on a moron. | /r/seduction | 31/07/15 07:52 PM |
| 2 | Pretty sure I'm losing my virginity tonight, need advice. 25mSeriously relax. Number one two and three. Honestly the first time usually isn't the best and that's ok, God knows I was nowhere close to good on my first try. If the girl likes you she will write it off as it was your first time together, which also is usually a bit awkward as you're both feeling each other out and figuring out what's your pace together. Just relax, that's seriously my only advice. Later you can worry about licking and clit play or whatever. You're riding a bike for the first t… | /r/seduction | 31/07/15 05:25 AM |
| 6 | Here's a great video for you guys that need a little help on the dance floor like myself!As someone pretty good on the dance floor, my experience is taking the lead and eye contact are waaaaay more important than moves unless you're really good at the moves. Those little moves are fun and all, but just be confident out there. Also I find there's a time and a place for grinding but then that's just a personal preference I guess. | /r/seduction | 22/07/15 04:17 AM |
| 0 | Ever run into "nice girls"?But he's saying she's nice in the way that she wants him to like him...right? It's fucking annoying to try and date someone who doesn't have opinions if there's any chance they conflict with yours. Then again trying to fix people rarely works. I think the best advice for this guy, if he really is interested in keeping this thing going, is being supportive and encouraging to her. Show her that she can be herself around him. | /r/seduction | 12/07/15 11:24 PM |
| 6 | How do you go about proposing a FWB relationship to a woman?This is good advice. I will add to it that if she ever asks you should be honest with her. But as long as she doesn't ask and it's all just fun, you're fine :) | /r/seduction | 19/05/15 05:36 PM |
| 1 | Losing girls because I live so far awayHow about never minding same days? If a girl is dating you for a bit she won't mind visiting your small town for a bit or taking you the her own place.. | /r/seduction | 12/05/15 05:44 PM |
| 3 | What Women Are Universally Attracted ToThe trick that works best for me is actually honesty. Saying what I want to say when I want to say it. It's often really scary. I really believe this is the best way of attracting girls. Saying you like them or you think they are cute whenever you feel like saying it. Saying you disagree with them when that's what you feel. Say you don't care when you don't care. | /r/seduction | 27/03/15 12:42 PM |
| 7 | 2 tips to making any apartment nice, no matter how shitty it is!Pile of cocaine on your desk will make any room more inviting bitch!! | /r/seduction | 01/03/15 02:06 AM |
| 2 | "All guys want is sex" shit testI feel honesty is often the best way forward. "For me it is often just about the sex but once in a while you find a girl that you want to call again". Then you put a bit of pressure on her to actually be more than just a girl hoping you do all the work. Nothing works 100% of the time but being honest has helped me way more than trying to be suave. It also kind of depends on what you are looking for. I am looking for something real while trying to have fun with it. If your goal is actually only s… | /r/seduction | 26/02/15 07:49 PM |
| 6 | Why are many of us afraid of women?But men have had approach anxiety forever. Read books from way before WWII, it's always been there. I think we also have a bit of a personal bias. "Since I'm not getting chicks something must be wrong with society". Society is doing fine, our population is growing like never before so some men must be getting women, right? | /r/seduction | 08/02/15 05:59 PM |
| 5 | Why are many of us afraid of women?You don't have to be very well read to know that approach anxiety has existed since forever. Not everything is a "problem of our times". It's just part of the human condition. Guess what! Loads of guys have girlfriends and are doing fine. There will always be some of us that don't do as well in that department. | /r/seduction | 08/02/15 05:55 PM |
| 1 | Creating sexual tensionVery easy and effective way of establishing touch that you both should be comfortable with is complimenting her ring or watch (obviously she'll need to have one for this to work). When she shows it to you you take her hand as if to examine it. Then you can comment on her hands being nice or something. Helps start things off and escalating the kino should be a bit easier from there, instead of stroking her cheek right off the bat. | /r/seduction | 27/01/15 03:41 PM |
| 2 | Can't speak for all women, but for me, and many other women I know, this is how you keep seducing a woman throughout a relationship. The maintenance is just as important, IMHO.I completely agree with you. Plus I have been in a serious relationship where sex was all we had in common and it ends up being thoroughly unfulfilling. I agree that dinner, then movie, then sex sucks, but who the fuck is doing that all the time? Fucking her right away all the time isn't the answer, just don't be a super boring idiot. Don't get me wrong, sex is a big part of getting girls, but interaction with girls also gives you something different than interaction with guys even without the s… | /r/seduction | 22/01/15 03:26 PM |
| 2 | Female journalist challenged to date 60 men in 2 months details 10 mistakes men make on first dates. Thought you guys might find this interesting.It seems that advice from women on this subject really gets to some guys on here, I've seen the exact same advice given by men but then for some reason it's fine. She does perhaps not have the authority to decide what's right or wrong on a date, but she can tell us what she likes and that might give us a glimpse into what women in general want. No need for the butthurt. | /r/seduction | 21/01/15 02:04 PM |
| 2 | By Making A Game Out Of Rejection, A Man Conquers FearI only listened to the podcast, but I think part of it is also finding out you'll possibly get fewer rejections than you might think. | /r/seduction | 17/01/15 04:54 AM |
| 3 | Would you take this bet? The simple maths behind why more approaches increases value of approachNo because what do you risk with an approach? A bruised ego? You really don't risk anything, perhaps you perceive yourself taking a risk, but in reality you're not going to lose a single tangible thing. If you have worked a bit on yourself and then approach 100 girls, I guarantee you'll get at least 5 positive responses. Self work is crucial though and always will be. | /r/seduction | 06/01/15 05:15 AM |
| 1 | Stop worrying about "Text Game"Yeah, don't get me wrong, I completely agree with you in general. It was just good to keep things going like that if it was a while until I could get a chance of meeting them. Plus it's kind of fun to get answers randomly throughout the day. | /r/seduction | 26/12/14 03:23 AM |
| 3 | Stop worrying about "Text Game"So...This is very specific advice for people in a very specific line of work...but I used to work at a hostel. And I used to have a girl in "every port" as they say. I met them at the hostel, some were just staying for a night, some for longer, sometimes things happened while they were staying at the hostel, sometimes it was only a kiss or just flirting. I then added them on facebook (once in a while they'd add me) and just sent them a quick hi. Then I'd keep in touch by just sending a question … | /r/seduction | 26/12/14 01:44 AM |
| 1 | [FR] Cutie studying at a coffee shopYou're so brave. I've grown a lot in the seddit community but still haven't had the courage for cold approaching. I've done alright with girls I meet through friends and all though, but the balls for this are huge! Be proud man! | /r/seduction | 15/12/14 01:47 AM |
| 4 | [FR] First date with HB9, ended in K-close and confidence boost.Thanks! :) Seddit really changed my perspective a lot and I don't think I'd be here without it. There's a lot of crap on here and I had to really pick and choose what works for me, but the good stuff here really matters. It's only 3 months in and if it were earlier for me (in the seddit stuff) I would be worried about oneitis. But now I've really tested the waters and I just feel strongly that she might be it. I really hope I'm right and will be hurt if I'm not...but I know if I'm not that there… | /r/seduction | 09/12/14 07:31 AM |
| 9 | [FR] First date with HB9, ended in K-close and confidence boost.While I agree with /u/synthtwo that it's a personal scale, I think the emphasis on the "hotness" of the girl can kind of lose the point here. I love the self improvement part of seddit and think it's THE most important part of the community. I know that I myself had trouble with these rankings of girls when I lacked confidence, because I was afraid of what people might think. I'm now in a loving relationship that I think might be it for me, but I got there by going through all kinds of HBs. I be… | /r/seduction | 09/12/14 02:18 AM |
| 9 | A little tip on how to become the person you want to be.I advise everyone that's trying to better themselves to keep a journal. Haven't thought of the 3rd person angle before and might use it. Personally I feel just keeping a journal forces you to look at your life honestly, force yourself to write a bit about your day, what could you have done differently? What did you do well? | /r/seduction | 05/12/14 05:00 PM |
| 5 | What the fuck is going on with this sub!?Could there be an automatic response with sources for beginners...a bot or something that also tells them this isn't where to go? I guess it's kind of the same as sending them to the side bar... I don't computer good | /r/seduction | 29/11/14 10:32 PM |
| 14 | [FR] Girl on vacation in my hometown.Please stop posting all this "never!" or "always!" bullshit. I agree in general the assertiveness is better, but if you're not a robot and can read people even the tiniest bit you should be able to assess the situation a little bit. | /r/seduction | 24/11/14 03:12 AM |
| 2 | How can you tell if you're being nice to be well-liked or just genuinely nice?This is the perfect way of saying it. It's not exactly the wanting that is the problem. I do things I don't really want to do all the time, because that's the guy I want to be. I drive my grandmother all over the place, take shifts off the hands of coworkers if needed, go visit patients on off hours etc. It's not all things I necessarily want to do, but it's things the man I want to be does. | /r/seduction | 23/11/14 05:31 PM |
| 3 | How can you tell if you're being nice to be well-liked or just genuinely nice?This is a huge thing in cognitive behavioral therapy (CBT). While maybe she is a bitch, I mean some people are, it won't help you one bit to think that. You will start thinking negative thoughts about her and in return yourself "what!? I'm not good enough!? Who the fuck is she!?". Maybe she's having a bad day, maybe she wasn't sure you were smiling at her, maybe she is shy about her smile etc. Cynicism has a way of backfiring and becoming a self fulfilling prophecy. Bottom line is you can't real… | /r/seduction | 23/11/14 05:27 PM |
| 2 | Becoming the Man Women PursueYou're telling me women don't want you? It's obvious from your comment that you're bitter and butthurt, full of resentment towards women. I thought bitches loved that! What am I missing? | /r/seduction | 14/11/14 05:15 AM |
| 1 | Something a Female Friend Told MeWhy is that not a logical decision then? It's sooo illogical to want to make offspring with men that have proven their talents at providing. Your point baffles me whether you're talking about money or looks. It's all stuff that helps you pick up women, just like looks help women pick up men. | /r/seduction | 04/11/14 07:30 AM |
| 4 | Something a Female Friend Told MeSo many guys on here can't let go of their bitterness. Seriously, it's only hurting you. Beth Stern is married to Howard for his looks obviously, many men are more attractive than Jay Z, not many women are more attractive than Beyoncé, Salma Hayek dates Francois-Henri Pinault. I can name more examples. Are you telling me these women couldn't find model type trust fund babies willing to marry them? Women don't want bitter boys that whine about women not being "logical" while they themselves look … | /r/seduction | 04/11/14 01:41 AM |
| 4 | Something a Female Friend Told MeIt's easy to get bogged down by that. Looks are only manageable to a point. Keep yourself clean, groomed and fit. The rest you can't change, so stop being hung up on it. If it helps Billy Joel went out with Elle Macpherson AND Christie Brinkley, that's overcoming some serious attractiveness gap. | /r/seduction | 04/11/14 01:33 AM |
| 3 | Something a Female Friend Told MeWhy are they going for a hail mary on the 10 yard line when they're only a point behind? Kick that sucker! | /r/seduction | 04/11/14 01:30 AM |
| 6 | Best first kiss tool I've used. College. [FR]That's just wrong. Haven't you ever been out with a girl and everything goes well but you just go in for the kiss too soon, then later she's up for it? I can easily see how creating a moment like this would speed up the process. | /r/seduction | 27/10/14 04:58 AM |
| 18 | Really not a bar/club person, where are some more relaxed settings to meet women?Any kind of classes you might be interested in anyways, cooking class, dance class, improv etc. Dont go only to meet girls but be aware. You work on your inner game while also meeting girls. Two birds one stone muthafucka!! | /r/seduction | 26/10/14 11:42 AM |
| 1 | Guide on drinking with friends/acquaintances and sharing intimate stories?Yes! Friends are a great place to get advice on everything. I have a few close friends, both female and male, that I tell it all to. They do the same with me. Other people's problems often seem easier to fix and it's fun to laugh at each others anxieties. But in the end I can trust my friends, they're a vault. | /r/seduction | 24/10/14 09:01 PM |
| 3 | Guide on drinking with friends/acquaintances and sharing intimate stories?I agree with most of the people here, if it's actually with friends, open up. Be vulnerable and honest. While the "selling yourself" is initially good it's very annoying when friends keep trying to convince you of their own greatness. These people are already on the hook, they're your friends, you'll have to do something pretty bad for that to end. Relax and be in the moment :) | /r/seduction | 24/10/14 04:06 PM |
| 2 | General tips for a foreigner. Please if anyone can shareIt's really easy to cold open with asking for directions and then moving into something else. It's so weird how much freer you feel with foreigners, there are 0 consequences (I know that also goes for at home, but it's just more obvious abroad). I love talking to girls while traveling :) Also if you stay at hostels and stuff girls there will be very open to hang out and talk etc. People are extra open to new experiences while traveling. | /r/seduction | 22/10/14 08:33 PM |
| 1 | What if you have more value than the girl?To be honest I find that girls that don't have a life, that are boring etc. start losing their attractiveness as it goes on. The oposite goes for girls I wasn't too keen on but then end up being really intelligent and fun to be with. Just keep dating and look for that attraction, don't overthink it. It's great to have gone through all the phases of seddit and now you feel pretty good about yourself. You don't need perfection, just happiness and fulfillment. | /r/seduction | 21/10/14 05:43 AM |
| 3 | “You are really nice and that scares me.”This is 100% a personal thing. Setting boundaries is just being comfortable with telling people what you want, feel and by extention what you don't want or what you dislike. If you're fine with all the banter it's fine, if you feel at all uncomfortable with it, don't be ashamed to say it. The hardest part is just being honest with yourself about what you really feel and having the confidence to express that feeling. If what you feel is a good atmosphere with friends joking around, that's great, … | /r/seduction | 15/09/14 08:51 AM |
| 2 | “You are really nice and that scares me.”I agree, but some people seem to have a hard time with it, especially guys that have been bullied in school etc. Some people have to kind of work on it. | /r/seduction | 15/09/14 07:45 AM |
| 14 | “You are really nice and that scares me.”This is a bit of a tight rope since you don't want to be the whiner that can't take a joke. In my experience you just have to know where the boundary is. First off don't do a polite laugh at everything, if you find something funny laugh, if not it's OK not to. This seriously took me a while to figure out. I don't believe OP means you have to shut down the light hearted banter between people, at least I hope not since that comes off as very uptight and unconfident. One has to have a bit of humor … | /r/seduction | 15/09/14 07:02 AM |
| 2 | How do you SHOW attraction?Find something about the girl that you feel isn't too invasive and tell her. Recently I told a girl I had liked for a while that she was kind of cold and sarcastic, that she put up walls and held people at a distance, which was unusual for pretty girls. She was really impressed with that and I felt her whole attitude change towards me. You might have to be kind of good at reading people to do it though. I ended up fucking the whole thing up, but just that one thing was magic. | /r/seduction | 26/08/14 12:35 PM |
| 6 | How do you SHOW attraction?I love it when girls do that thing where they put the hand on your knee or forearm while talking to you. That being said, we're dumb as buckets, be pretty forward. Don't throw yourself at a guy, I know some guys will say they love that but I think generally a guy wants to have to at least feel like he's done some of the work. Case in point, I was out recently and a girl practically threw herself at me. She was pretty and I'm not at all the kind of good looking that's used to that kind of attenti… | /r/seduction | 26/08/14 12:29 PM |
| -4 | How do you SHOW attraction?Not really. You're basing this on the fact that when you date someone she doesn't seem to know what she wants in relation to you. If you have female friends where the sexual attraction is minimal you can actually ask them and they will tell you and give you pretty good advice. It's the same with most guys. I never know what I'm doing wrong but I can easily tell every single friend of mine exactly what he does wrong. | /r/seduction | 26/08/14 12:24 PM |
| 21 | [IG] Nice Guys Listen UpThe problem is these nice guys equate being a good person with sacrificing everything they are for others. You can't be yourself if you always sacrifice your needs, desires, feelings, opinions etc. just to be liked. I used to be a nice guy. I'm no ladies man since I stopped, but I'm way happier than before. It's ALL about confidence. Confidence can not be faked though, it's an active self evaluation. Writing a journal has helped me loads, because it forces me to reflect on my day. Have I spent i… | /r/seduction | 06/08/14 09:52 AM |
| 1 | This sentence has helped me so much. Maybe it will help you as well.That's bullshit. The friend zone is in so many ways bullshit that guys are terrified of entering. If you verbalize your intent and want for someone the friend zone is usually averted. It's not averted if you go up to a girl and talk to her and never tell her it's because you think she's pretty and want more. | /r/seduction | 15/07/14 07:33 AM |
| 2 | This sentence has helped me so much. Maybe it will help you as well.Because some guys are concerned about annoying others, fucking up their day etc. It's good to know that just going up to a girl will probably make her feel good, regardless of who you are and how it goes. edit for their | /r/seduction | 13/07/14 03:40 AM |
| 5 | No gf. No friends. How to pass summer holidays off work?You sound depressed. I have dealt with depression from every angle possible. Friends and family have had it, I have had it and as a doctor I have treated it. It's a cliché for a reason: the first step is admitting that you have a problem. You're a man, men deal with their issues, that might mean asking for help. Do you have someone you trust and can talk to? If so go to them! In addition seek professional help. There's a lot of good ideas here and all will help. Get a bit of a schedule, work out… | /r/seduction | 06/07/14 09:46 PM |
| 1 | First cold approachs, rejected!If you don't have clinical anxiety (and even if you do) challenging that aa will help make it better. I used to get shaky hands and completely lose my breath, I still get nervous, but now it's just a soft burn in the pit of my stomach. Anxiety turns into excitement with practice :) | /r/seduction | 23/06/14 10:46 PM |
| 1 | Wow! Eye Contact plus a smirk does work!Well if you're anything like Robert Redford you won't need Seddit... I'm saying I'm gay for the man, the man not the lesbian. | /r/seduction | 04/04/14 10:21 AM |
| -4 | Epiphany I had while travelling in ChinaI wir fight you and kir your famiry | /r/seduction | 02/04/14 09:07 AM |
| 1 | Start viewing Seduction as a BUSINESS MODEL.Glengarry Glen Ross tells you everything you need to know. ABC - Always be closing. Because c̶o̶f̶f̶e̶e̶ sex is for closers only. Edit - added "only" | /r/seduction | 27/02/14 05:48 AM |
| 1 | How do you respond to really lame excuses?This is a pretty good idea, one of those "crazy enough it just might work". | /r/seduction | 19/12/13 06:12 PM |
| 2 | How do you respond to really lame excuses?I think this is a pretty good way to go about it. Plus stopping texting is better than killing it by saying something rude. It's happened to me a few times that I've been texting a girl, it never went anywhere but then I meet her again and things go smoother. | /r/seduction | 19/12/13 06:08 PM |
| 12 | How do you respond to really lame excuses?This sounds very bitter. No idea if it works, but I don't think that's a msg I'd want to be sending out. | /r/seduction | 19/12/13 01:08 PM |
| 12 | FR: Angry Bar GirlSomething about the way you write, what you say, it all comes out like something Holden Caulfield would say. No idea if that's a put down or a compliment. | /r/seduction | 13/12/13 11:41 AM |
| 1 | when i am not interested in a girl my game is better than when i am interested. how can i make my game better when i really like a girl.Exactly this! And the problem is when it's happened for me the girl was just very aggressive. Because the line between drunk enough to act and too drunk to function is way too thin for me. | /r/seduction | 04/12/13 07:13 PM |
| 3 | when i am not interested in a girl my game is better than when i am interested. how can i make my game better when i really like a girl.Wish this would help but I have friends of any type. One of my best friends is gay, I have a bunch of girls I hang out with as friends and then I have dude friends. I think the "not trying to seduce part" is more of a problem, as I more often than not end up in the friend-zone (although I hate calling it that and talking about that, it seems so bitter to me). It's really the sealing of the deal that's always been my problem. I meet a girl, obvious flirting ensues, things seem to be going well, I… | /r/seduction | 04/12/13 04:51 PM |
| 2 | when i am not interested in a girl my game is better than when i am interested. how can i make my game better when i really like a girl.Well I have the same problem as OP. But my problem is socially I've always been very good. I feel ridiculous talking like this about myself, but talking at parties and getting to know people has always been my forte. I'm popular and have plenty of interest from the ladies. But as soon as I feel things are going well I start doing as OP does and fuck things up. I'm not a closer as it were. | /r/seduction | 04/12/13 02:05 PM |
| 6 | Being a male and a friendly male puts his arm around you over your shoulders.I do this too. Me and my friends are naturally affectionate, i have a bunch of very close friends and we hug and even sometimes kiss each other on the cheek if it's been a while...I promise it sounds gayer than it is. Usually it has actually worked in my favor. Shows you are comfortable and have a good group around you. | /r/seduction | 30/11/13 04:35 PM |
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