Dr_Velociraptor_PHD Archive

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2	To Liberate yourself is the only way to Play this Game. This isn't a game issue. I highly, highly caution you against thinking this thing was all that salvageable through better or heightened game. You have to, I mean HAVE to understand women are people too. And just like you'd expect of any man, some have their shit together, their goals ironed out and their emotional state is something they can observe and control. What you have here is a flaky girl, someone who doesn't know what she wants. Maybe she's only somewhat attracted to you, and isn't sure…	/r/seduction	12/02/14 11:11 PM
7	Any of you guys want to get close to girls and have regular casual sex but hate the culture around pickup and game? You've already got a good bit of feedback from all kinds of perspectives here, but I still feel like I might be able to offer something to this conversation. First off, I want to begin with saying I believe you when you say you are an academic individual. Every aspect of your post is very pointed and attentive to details. I'd be interested to know what you study, because I feel like you have a scientific mind with how you pick apart the formal elements and details of what has happened to you. As…	/r/seduction	01/02/14 03:38 AM
42	Top 10 Mistakes Intelligent Men Make With Women [72 mins] In regards to social intelligence, I find the only practical thing that has worked for me is to slow down or "power down" my focus on what I'm going to say to 1/4th or 1/5th of its natural speed. I invite myself to instead watch her eyes, scan her phase , take note of her posture. I basically go into observation mode, like I'm watching a movie as she talks. It's a difficult thing to explain, but I have to get out of my head and focus on her, or even any other person I'm talking to. When the natu…	/r/seduction	17/12/13 11:11 PM
1	[FR] Seduced by a French guy (Girl's POV). Long, but I hope it's worth a read I don't mean to say that accepting and understanding that physical beauty intrinsically increases social value is itself a limiting belief. That's just the nature of the world, some people have an advantage over others in all sorts of fields, beauty being one. But a massive number of people are inclined towards immediate discouragement at the prospect that others have an advantage. I'd like to continue using your metaphor if the basketball player, as it perfectly reflects the relationship of loo…	/r/seduction	03/07/13 03:22 PM
1	[FR] Seduced by a French guy (Girl's POV). Long, but I hope it's worth a read See, this is what it's about, the journey and learning from that journey. Rather than being a victim of circumstance and life you chose to apply yourself, learn and improve when you strayed. It's such a simple concept, but the majority of people don't apply it, they wallow in excuses and false promises that life will turn around without their effort or intervention because life got worse when they stopped putting in effort and intervening. So instead of being a 30 year old wistfully excusing him…	/r/seduction	03/07/13 01:34 PM
2	[FR] Seduced by a French guy (Girl's POV). Long, but I hope it's worth a read Thank you for the thoughtful reply. I feel like you and I have a similar outlook in regards to all this. Your attitude seems casual and devil may care, which is the way I think of attraction and dating. You don't seem to cling to that illusory notion that with the right actions, the correct amount of calibration you can control someone else. Sounds like you just believe in opening up opportunities and using your best effort to capitalize on the chances you get. That's a good attitude. I think my…	/r/seduction	03/07/13 01:26 PM
1	[FR] Seduced by a French guy (Girl's POV). Long, but I hope it's worth a read One of the core concepts that the idea of seduction touches on is the dybamic of social value. There are times this community gets a bit carried away, or makes mountains of mole hills, but I believe the concept of social value is one of the core truths of life that this community actually has some understanding of. What I mean by this is that of course a French guy outside France has an advantage. This is because outside France a man's social value naturally increases due to scarcity, exoticness…	/r/seduction	03/07/13 01:11 PM
9	[FR] Seduced by a French guy (Girl's POV). Long, but I hope it's worth a read It's a statement that is at least in some regards a limiting belief. When someone has practiced a honed a skill to a certain level they become effortless and casual about it. If you have natural talent with any skill, you will progress more smoothly and confidence is often less of an issue in terms of said skill. Being good looking gives the slightly softer edge to learning seduction, seeing as you start with a mild advantage, that many naturally attractive people become more smoothly integrated…	/r/seduction	03/07/13 02:13 AM
3	To all those wondering "How on earth do I fake confidence?! I still don't know what to say..." Here's some thoughts. I'm glad you enjoyed that sentence, I was proud of it. In terms of the way you feel, where you tend to realize you like a girl and begin obsessing over her, trying to micromanage your every encounter or theoretical encounter...well...I do that a lot too. Actually, it's derailed the only two good contenders for a long term relationship I've met in the past year. I realized I liked them quite a bit more than most girls I meet a suddenly I'm trying to impress them, and then almost immediately the g…	/r/seduction	27/04/13 01:47 AM
5	To all those wondering "How on earth do I fake confidence?! I still don't know what to say..." Here's some thoughts. There's a bit of fine tuning in socializing that can impact this. OP is right, being warm, friendly and talkative with everyone for the sake of warmth and fun will NEVER result in negative reactions. But we've all met a bar creep before, that guy that makes you fucking uncomfortable in a way that's hard to describe. A lot of that has to do with, in my experience, a sense of neediness. Even if he's a dude and just making friendly conversation, if I get the idea that he wants something from me or …	/r/seduction	26/04/13 10:57 PM
1	Confidence. The military and seddit. I share your distaste for alpha and beta. They're simply ghost terms for more complicated subjects, allowing us to simplify these complex subjects to a level where we can begin to understand the basics enough to learn. This sub almost always leaves out the importance of relativity of personality, you can't be everyone's bosom buddy and remain true to yourself. Learning what you want to be, and finding a group you click with is more important than trying to ascend to some mythical universal alpha…	/r/seduction	10/04/13 02:03 PM
2	Confidence. The military and seddit. See, I think I get what you're trying to say here, that an element of the 'alpha' image is leadership, and you could be very contented but be a hermit and this would be missing the leadership qualities normally ascribed an 'alpha'. But you use hostile and subjective language. For example, what precisely, constitutes a pathetic loser? I've met broke guys with no real job skills, life focus and crippling drug addictions who everyone follows like puppies because they're charismatic. I've had those …	/r/seduction	10/04/13 01:59 PM
19	Confidence. The military and seddit. To piggy back on this subject, I've been fascinated by the social interactions of primates my whole life, and lately there's been a lot of interesting new perspectives on the subject. I'm certainly no expert, just a hobbyist, but a lot of the newer studies seem to show a more dynamic, less rigidly structured primate society. For instance, a recent article I read, and I wish I could remember it so I could link to it, talked about the rather sudden and unexpected murder of a fairly cruel alpha. He…	/r/seduction	10/04/13 01:33 PM
3	Is this subreddit only for guys? What is your "perfect fit" for you? I'm always curious to see where people have the best success meeting people (plus it gives inspiration as well!). I think this is an insightful question. It perfectly reflects an early belief I had when I had only just embarked on this endeavor. I thought at first that bars were the place to be, after all hadn't I been raised to understand all single people meet at bars my whole life? So, for a time I went out with my more outgoing friends, got into the bar sc…	/r/seduction	04/04/13 10:23 PM
1	Is this subreddit only for guys? Thank you for the compliment. I love writing, and am slowly teaching myself to speak slower and with more meaning and thought so I can better express myself verbally. My tendency is to be excitable and energetic in person, which is not terrible, but meditation is helping me learn to actively choose what 'mode' I adopt at a given time. My latest goal has been trying to get out more and make more friends, through Reddit gatherings, going to bars, etc. It's slow going, but it's definitely helping m…	/r/seduction	04/04/13 04:15 PM
5	Is this subreddit only for guys? No. You're not rambling at all. I like the way you say you are "trying on" different personas. Like finding a sense of style for clothing, equally I find we need to find a sense of style in regards to how we present ourselves. And the more styles we have available, the wider our possible audiences become. So it sounds to me like you 'get it'. The journey may be far from over (I don't actually believe there is an end point, there is no perfect end to self development), but I'm glad to hear you se…	/r/seduction	04/04/13 02:39 PM
6	Is this subreddit only for guys? Remember that one of the core values that much of this community expounds is to be unabashedly comfortable with yourself. It's fantastic to improve yourself, but if you are improving yourself for the sake of others you're already tying yourself to outcome dependence. You're basically telling yourself "If I just modify this about myself, people will want to be around me more." This might even be true, but be sure that whatever changes you make are changes you will enjoy for their own merits, on y…	/r/seduction	04/04/13 01:06 PM
1	[FR] Met a girl on the street. Three days later I had her in bed. Four days after that she told me she loved me... Although I cannot argue the point you make about the morality of putting the brden of choice on thw cheater, I find your final point about maturity fascinating. Why would it be anything but reasonable to expect maturity from a potential sexual partner or SO? I have spent a staggering amount of time working on myself so I can be a fully realized and mature individual, and I absolutely expect others my age to act with integrity and maturity in all their actions. I'm very curious why this should be…	/r/seduction	13/12/12 05:04 PM
1	What ONE change gave you the biggest improvement? I think you may be missing out on an aspect of working out here. It's not always solely about looks and physical self image. I myself started hitting the gym to look better and improve my chances with women. It turns out it offers so much more. Working out is about discipline and pushing boundaries. You never reach a point and just maintain. Rather you start discovering all the amazing aspects of your body. You become more aware. And the natural momentum of pushing physical boundaries, such as b…	/r/seduction	25/10/12 03:43 AM
2	The Often Overlooked First Step to Success with Women You're an exceptionally well spoken and eloquent writer and thinker. Thank you for this very careful and in depth response, it's insightful and I feel I learned from it. That said, I can immediately relate to all you've said, and likely your situation. My longest and most intense relationship was with a girl who, as I later learned, had been subject to sexual abuse as well as physical and mental as a child and adolescent. She behaved characteristically in line with most, in fact almost all, of y…	/r/seduction	20/10/12 12:12 AM
5	The Often Overlooked First Step to Success with Women The issue is that someone like that is being brutally honest that they don't have time to 'repair' someone. If you think you don't deserve someone, that's very, very telling about some emotional and confidence issues. It's also somewhat manipulative, because now it requires the partner to 'pity' the 'weaker' one in the relationship, and is implicitly a little bit like begging the person not to leave because you're all they have. I'm not saying she's right or wrong. If my SO said that but had man…	/r/seduction	18/10/12 04:51 AM
9	The Often Overlooked First Step to Success with Women I'll tell you right now it does work. But like anything challenging it doesn't feel like you've 'made' it until you stop wondering if you've made it. I know that sounds bizarre but that's how it is. If you are desperate still for the change it hasn't happened. Further though...I'd like to expound on TAOofSTEVE. He's right, you simply relentlessly remind yourself that you're awesome. You really have to have a mantra in your head that you're fucking awesome. Say it out loud. Be more cocky with you…	/r/seduction	18/10/12 04:45 AM
1	The Often Overlooked First Step to Success with Women I'm gonna go ahead and call bullshit on that video. Not because it doesn't demonstrate a point, it does. That being that both genders start off incredibly shallow in terms of selection preferences. Think about how many women you write off daily as not viable because they don't fit a physical consensus your mind has preselected as the right fit for you (too fat, face not right, crooked teeth whatever). However, as you get to know people things change. A massive amount of what constitutes romance,…	/r/seduction	18/10/12 04:29 AM
1	Jaded by Game - Why I Game and Not Date I still remember some of my friendships from my childhood. Talks up on hills in summer sunshine or in the witching hours nestled in our sleeping bags, talking about how we'd never stop being friends. I sometimes struggle to remember what their names were, now. My little tirade's point is this, we all sometimes want to have a touch of immortality, that certain je no se qua that lingers like a prize at the edge of human relationships. That we can obtain the seemingly impossible and find that legen…	/r/seduction	09/10/12 08:40 PM
5	Girl starts to talk about another guy, what do I do in this type of situation? Thanks for being one of those girls that understands this. Being on a date is a chance to open up and get to know someone. I'd rather spend it trying to learn a girl's interests, hobbies, humor style and favorite bands/movies/books. What we 'think' we want almost never actually ends up working. It's generally useless fetishization of the idea of a person rather than the actual content of a person. It's fun to fantasize about how awesome a geeky/artistic/gamer/glasses-wearing/astrophysicist/cyber…	/r/seduction	02/10/12 08:11 PM
38	Girl starts to talk about another guy, what do I do in this type of situation? I'm going to tell you straight up that there is no secret technique. You literally just kiss her. There's no way to gauge the perfect time besides the fact you want to kiss her. This is not something you think about, not something you can micromanage or plan. Clear your mind and a plant a kiss on her lips. Keep it quick and simple, no tongue, and see how she reacts. This moves you out of this painful zone of wondering if she even likes you like that. If she does, great, she'll probably kiss you …	/r/seduction	02/10/12 07:59 PM
1	Trapped in negative thoughts, sex problems, unconnected with my masculinity. This guy needs help. I've known my fair share of what we'll call 'late blooming virgins'...guys who are virgins at an age they feel ashamed about. Now, I can't say that I know what that feels like exactly to be in your position, but I've watched these guys heap pressure and self hate on themselves for what I consider to be nothing. At least in the grand scheme of things. Look at it like this...you fucking got to fooling around with a girl. Maybe it was kinda awkward to prematurely ejaculate but can we focus on the i…	/r/seduction	23/09/12 02:30 AM
7	I'm a fan of daygame but recently visited a bar one evening. I left confused, thinking, Why do people try to socialize in places that are too loud to socialize? That's where the whole kino idea comes in. You've got to stand out from the other guys somehow. Every guy can bump and grind. I mean, there's so many things you can do, it's really a matter of your personal creativity and personality. Since I don't want you to be left with only generic advice here's a couple recommendations. Keep in mind all require a sense of authority and confidence to pull off. Timidity will foul it up. Try leading her while dancing. Admittedly, this takes some basic rhythm a…	/r/seduction	21/09/12 12:53 AM
21	I'm a fan of daygame but recently visited a bar one evening. I left confused, thinking, Why do people try to socialize in places that are too loud to socialize? Uhh...dancing can be a pleasure in and of itself. So I enjoy going out to dance with complete outcome independence cause, well, I just like dancing. Futrther, more or less because I'm one of the few guys enjoying himself on the dance floor (helps I have a sense of rhythm too), I usually end up dancing with several girls, which is fun in and of itself but also makes for easy isolation to a lounge seat once we've had our fill on the floor. From there it's screening and logistics really. I say scre…	/r/seduction	20/09/12 05:38 PM
16	Seddit, we need to talk I think everything you've said here is entirely true. As well, OP is right that 'outer game' or technique posts have really dropped off in this subreddit. And while I feel that the two major reasons they have dropped off are a combination of what OP said; that being that inner-game posts are more seductive in their general message, and what you've stated; that white knights downvote such posts and turn them into flame wars because of 'manipulation'. I'd like to present one more possible cause fo…	/r/seduction	18/09/12 04:20 PM
1	My problem with Seddit I am sorry that I don't have access to super caps lock, or like a special font that could have better conveyed that spacedicks is serious shit. Granted, I'm a little internet jaded. I've not seen it all, but I've seen enough that I can guess at what's left to see. But spacedicks is still a little too much for me. tl;dr: Spacedicks: Welcome to the Internet.	/r/seduction	05/09/12 06:59 PM
1	My problem with Seddit And all that really matters in the end is that you understand who you are well enough that your life remains balanced. That you get enough socializing and time to yourself to feel balanced, successful and happy. Your mind will tell you if you aren't obtaining this balance with that general sense of malaise, stress and the constant question "what am I doing with my life?" If you're not hearing that question, you're probably doing what you want to be doing regularly.	/r/seduction	05/09/12 06:55 PM
3	My problem with Seddit What's there to be confused about? Sounds like you understand yourself well enough. Introversion doesn't preclude socializing, going out or being the life of the party, it simply measures if you expend energy to do so (intro) or if you gain energy like a social vampire (extro). At the end, the two types don't mean "likes people" or "doesn't like people". Introverts usually fucking LOVE people. At the right time. In the right doses. Under the right circumstances and in more one on one interaction…	/r/seduction	05/09/12 06:53 PM
4	My problem with Seddit Maybe you've just given yourself a window into the heart of the issue. You just compared talking to girls with a dangerous, irresponsible and foolhardy act. If you cannot swim you are extremely likely to physically die, to cease to exist, if you go in the deep end. To compare the mental and social disciplines to the physical is illogical, plain and simple. You're committing both a logical fallacy and enacting a limiting belief. Talking to girls is in no way dangerous. The absolute worst outcome …	/r/seduction	05/09/12 04:44 PM
2	My problem with Seddit Brother? Is that you? I didn't know you reddit. Wait...or is this my sister. DON'T GO TO SPACEDICKS! For the love of all that is science YOU'RE TOO YOUNG! Save your innocence, oh, your poor sweet innocence...the things I've seen...oh...gawd...	/r/seduction	05/09/12 04:28 PM
29	My problem with Seddit I'd like to see this comment near the top. This is what Introversion and Extroversion actually are. I'm an extrovert, I can get a call at 10 pm when I work 7am the next day to hang out and I'll say yes. Why? I can manage 2 hours of sleep if I have a night of awesome social interaction because it energizes me and makes me feel alive. I exit a scenario where I met 7 new people invigorated for a day or so. My roommate on the other hand? He can't do this. It's a bad idea for him to go out spontaneou…	/r/seduction	05/09/12 04:25 PM
3	Some men smell like "White Picket Fences" and some men smell like "Sex and Sin" - Part One itsamatterofattitude already summed up a very good point to answer your question. I notice a thread of an idea in your head about "types of guys." It puts the image of molds in my mind, as though people are cast from types or 'classes' and you need to 'make the jump' to be another 'type'. Now, only a fool would argue we aren't shaped by experience, that in a way we are molded by parenting styles, teaching, friends and numerous other experiences. But I'd like to throw a different idea your way, r…	/r/seduction	23/08/12 03:24 PM
2	Some men smell like "White Picket Fences" and some men smell like "Sex and Sin" - Part One I think you're thinking a little too narrowly about the gym. It's not all guys built like Thor grunting and sweating and just trying to build upper body. There's guys like me there built like Peter Parker who can run on the treadmill for eternity. I still lift, I do everything in the gym. But for me I'm not there for bulking. Rather, I'm there for toning, strength building, stamina and most of all energy and body awareness. As you work out you become more intimately aware of your body, of each m…	/r/seduction	23/08/12 03:10 PM
2	I'm a girl, and I think some of the PUA techniques are bad news. Hear me out. I don't think it sounds insensitive. I personally feel love and sex are too tightly wound up. Yes, sex can strengthen bonds and can be a step on the journey to falling for someone. And yes, love makes sex better with that person. But the two things still exist in their own spheres, despite any overlap. It sounds like the phase was pretty natural. Sometimes no strings attached sex is exactly what you need. There's an unrealistic perspective I feel that everyone you sleep with you have to at least…	/r/seduction	20/08/12 01:50 AM
7	I'm a girl, and I think some of the PUA techniques are bad news. Hear me out. Just curious, about how old are you? Mid to late twenties? You have virtually the same perspective as I now hold on relationships/pickup/sexuality. Except I'm coming from the male perspective, so women accepting my advances or not no longer really matters to me. And I, too, thought OP sounded slightly younger due to a few of the viewpoints expressed. Not that they weren't insightful, but the whole idea of self-esteem coming from other people was me in High School/College, not me now. Also, more …	/r/seduction	18/08/12 02:53 PM
0	Are white knights overwhelming Seddit? See, I'm not attempting to preach morality precisely. I'm attempting to establish there are gratifying experiences wholly outside sex and relationships. This subreddit is very particularly concerned with sexual seductive techniques, and I simply feel that sometimes I see a sort of tunnel vision here for the mentality "doesn't matter, had sex." Sociologically speaking, almost every cultural value or norm besides maybe taboos on incest are "bullshit terms." Successful rapists are actually more suc…	/r/seduction	04/07/12 12:54 PM
3	Are white knights overwhelming Seddit? I disagree that you must be amoral. Amorality may give an advantage if the plan is purely to get laid as often as a possibility arises. But that seems so short sighted in the landscape of overall personal growth. And you can still get laid turning women down from time to time.	/r/seduction	04/07/12 02:45 AM
4	Are white knights overwhelming Seddit? I've read through most of the comments here, and with a few exceptions like portmanteu's comments, I'm seeing a distressing level of polarizing dialogue based on shallow dualities. "White Knights" versus "PUAs". "AFCs" versus "sedditors". "Honor" versus "douchebaggery." And my favorite "beta" versus "alpha". This sort of oversimplification neither enriches the discussion nor does it even strike at any kind of better understanding of the issues at hand. It reeks of chest thumping and tribalism. "…	/r/seduction	04/07/12 02:42 AM
2	Is it even worth trying if I don't have a job, live with my parents, and am on probation? Try flipping around your example. If someone, either guy or girl, walks up to you in a bookstore and says "Hey, sorry to bother you, I never do this...but I saw you reading H.P. Lovecraft from across the room. He's like my favorite author and I had to come introduce myself..." Is that REALLY that bad? Especially imagine if it was someone who sounded really confident and comfortable with themselves. Would it be so bad to then start talking about Lovecraft, what you like don't like, which story yo…	/r/seduction	27/06/12 02:50 AM
4	Girl is mentioning her physical insecurities, am I on the right track? I think maybe you're confusing the intent of this subreddit a bit my friend. Sex is only one piece of the bigger tapestry of meaningful interaction with the fairer sex. This subreddit is about gaining insight on yourself, who you are and honing that into a stronger personality which just so happens to be very, very attractive. Despite whatever reputation precedes it, this reddit is not about 'tricking women' and 'making them' have sex with you. Instead, I'd recommend you try to understand the fe…	/r/seduction	19/05/12 03:39 PM
3	Help me! Betrayed in LTR, is my game dead? Your game's not dead. Don't start thinking in absolutes like that. Game is a skill, a social skill that derives itself from a base of confidence and is aided by an ability to not be haunted by failures or tormented by possibilities. That's outcome independence. Now, I don't know you personally, but I went through a slow, horrific breakup, just like yours. Found out only after getting cheated on, trying an open relationship, breaking up, and even continuing to live with her because I hadn't the h…	/r/seduction	12/05/12 02:45 AM
1	Dealing with emotions as a PUA Well that's great to hear. I've just seen some people go down a darker road by becoming victims of their diagnoses. Glad you avoided that deftly. I myself had to pick up the pieces of a bad break up and am in a far better place now too, so I'm happy someone else has achieved success in that. Keep going strong my friend!	/r/seduction	17/01/12 01:09 AM
1	22/f here, just thought I'd let you know some things that have worked for me recently if anyone's interested It's all about timing, trust levels and the amount he dished. With a fairly liberal amount of her own personal preference. Just after sex is a good time to either be quiet or else joke around. You just did a stress relieving, fun activity. Serious business talks about psychological issues are better saved further down the road after a better rapport has been established. If they were hooking up and dating consistently for a a month or two, maybe then. Also...just like every guy has standards and…	/r/seduction	17/01/12 12:55 AM
12	22/f here, just thought I'd let you know some things that have worked for me recently if anyone's interested Why are you trying to slut shame a girl? What does that accomplish? Girls can't have fairly casual sex for fun? I don't get it, I thought a pretty core tenet of this community was trying to avoid slut shaming and to make sex fun for women too.	/r/seduction	17/01/12 12:51 AM
1	Dealing with emotions as a PUA I'd politely caution you against self diagnosis, or even in believing too much in terms and diagnosis. Psychology is incredibly new as a science and is tackling one of the most difficult and mysterious subjects. Currently they are mostly just categorizing and identifying terms and conditions with a lot left to do. You are not a term. You are not PTSD. You are not any abbreviation. You are an individual who can never be fully fathomed by others, maybe not even yourself. That's fine. You don't hav…	/r/seduction	14/01/12 08:10 PM
1	Dealing with emotions as a PUA This is some very insightful wisdom. I can particularly relate to the advice of not fighting the feelings for her, but letting them morph into a new role for her in your life. I somehow successfully turned an ex who cheated on me into a still treasured friend. At first, there was a dull ache every time I saw her. Now it's fairly easy to be just friends on a platonic level. Partly this is due to time, partly due to her being mature enough to talk through some problems and partly due to moving on …	/r/seduction	14/01/12 08:03 PM