Drag0n_N3rd Archive

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3	For the men who NEED to hear this - READ IT <3 & women who need to see that even we can change <3 This is very accurate. I'm (35M) going through it too, together 14 years, married for 11 with two kids, 5 months separated now. She (33F) asked me to leave the house, and like a fool I did. But I'm glad I did. In the beginning, she made me believe that it was about 95-99% my fault, and I acknowledge the areas that I started slacking in, and I acknowledged my mistakes. But she has never really acknowledged her mistakes. Instead, she justifies her actions. And here more recently, I've started to s…	/r/Divorce_Men	22/04/26 03:34 PM
1	Wedding ring Mine isn't gold. It's some kind of titanium I think. Hard to remember exactly what after 11 years.	/r/Divorce_Men	19/04/26 01:55 PM
1	Wedding ring I waited until I was able to accept that it was over. Was almost 2 months into the seperation. Put it on a shelf so I wouldn't lose it. Not really sure what to do with it now, honestly.	/r/Divorce_Men	18/04/26 12:42 PM
1	Struggling with separation This sounds so much like me. Also married for 11 years, together for 14 (and best friends for 10 years before that). 2 kids. Separated in November. 35 yrs old (36 next month). I'm fairly sure my stbxw is a covert narcissist. I put up with so much shit for years. I've also been craving any form of physical intimacy like a simple hug. I've also considered escorts, but I'm too poor to afford that, and wouldn't even know how to find one. Haven't tried any apps yet. The withdrawal from physical touch…	/r/Divorce_Men	14/04/26 01:10 AM
1	How many months before giving up Thank you. I greatly appreciate it.	/r/Divorce_Men	21/02/26 04:59 AM
1	How many months before giving up Thank you for the thoughtful replay. I had some more introspection just yesterday, about what it was that put me in survival mode (which then progressed into burnout). The conclusion that I arrived at is that I had begun to feel unloved. And as she herself said, I got her leftovers. But in reality, it was more like table scraps. She put me, her husband, last. She was busy trying to be a good mother, a good nurse, keep the house running...but she put me last. And it made me feel unloved. Haven't …	/r/Divorce_Men	21/02/26 01:48 AM
1	How many months before giving up It took me about 2 months to give up and accept it was over. I've kind of become calloused and hard-hearted towards her since. I acknowledge that its my fault that she is done. But she still won't see from my perspective as to why things happened the way they did. Only hers. I've started to realize two things: 1) I was going through burnout and became complacent and stopped "fighting for the marriage" while still in the marriage, and 2) her toxic, narcissistic traits (which may be partially beca…	/r/Divorce_Men	15/02/26 02:55 PM
2	Survived a High-Conflict Divorce with Kids - Lessons From the Trenches Thank you for this. Still in the very early stages of my divorce. Hoping it wont turn volatile, but I'll be preparing for if it does.	/r/Divorce_Men	13/02/26 09:07 PM
6	“Mental Load” Sounds like what my STBXW would say. And during this separation, I asked her to do one small thing (send me a two word text: "check calendar" when she would add something), and she freaked out saying it was hard enough just to remember to put stuff on the calendar in the first place, and I just needed to check it every day. And that is just one small example. She has previously stated that I have "no idea all the things going on in a woman's/ her head to keep this house functioning." She even ma…	/r/Divorce_Men	09/02/26 07:22 PM