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Oh, I definitely have affective attachment. But I am wholly content being single, I did do therapy to address issues of self esteem and it has allowed me to value my mental stability above anything else, meaning I have zero tolerance for dating games and bullshit. It probably makes me excessively demanding. I have my shit together. I sometimes wish I had someone to share that with, but my life is so fulfilling its not much of a priority. Sometimes I do meet someone I actually do like enough and …
/r/seduction16/02/19 12:36 PM
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I mean, its good advice and all but some of us have a great life with lots going on when single, and it all becomes a mess of anxiety when we meet someone. Its like there's two versions of me, and even I really dislike the person I become when I get emotionally attached.
/r/seduction16/02/19 07:03 AM
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I kinda refuse to believe that there are no social activities in your area you could partake in. Hit up Meetup. Hiking groups, dancing groups, language exchanges, cooking class, dude, join Yoga classes if you must. Even if through the action of socializing more you end up making more nale friends than female, thats progress, by expanding your social circle you will be getting an in on events those social circles organize and you can bet your ass there will be girls at such events.
/r/seduction20/05/18 11:51 PM
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Aa others mentioned, ask everyone out on dates. During dates, dont just be friendly and chatty, make a move if you like her. Theres better guides than me out there on kino/physical contact but this is soooooooo fucking vital for you to express your physical interest in her, otherwise you are sending friend signals and you will never seal the deal. So basically: 1. Ask her out, chat/establish some rapport. 2. Make your physical interest crystal fucking clear. Parties and booze help facilitate bot…
/r/seduction25/03/18 02:03 PM
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We have shit mods who think it should be up to the people to decide what makes top page or not. So, this has become a kind of /r/incels 2.0 where any post ridiculing women for whatever random reason gets upvoted, even if it clearly isnt ppd.
/r/PussyPassDenied21/10/17 05:49 PM
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Originally the subreddit was about women thinking they can get away with shitty behaviour simply because they are women, and being denied. These days, its just about bad shit happening to women. Time to unsub.
/r/PussyPassDenied14/10/17 07:50 PM
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Its kinda telling that this is the best and funniest post this sub has seen in months. Take my upboat you glorious bastard.
/r/PussyPassDenied14/10/17 07:35 PM
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Grindr? Trip to Thailand? Craigslist ads?
/r/PussyPassDenied14/10/17 07:29 PM
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Only sometimes?
/r/PussyPassDenied14/10/17 07:23 PM
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Women AND men play games at all ages. Took me a while to learn to not give a shit. Seriously, beauty and looks are so fucking common, but finding someone who is actually engaging and proactive is a much more lofty goal to aim for. As soon as you find you are doing most of the legwork, that for me is a sure sign of its time to bail and find someone more engaging.
/r/seduction11/10/17 09:48 PM
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What seems to work is teasing them relentlessly. Like she's your bratty little sister. I say "seems" because honestly I am like you OP and my default mode is friendly guy (and its great for making friends, I have a metric shit-tonne of friends) , but what I have observed from friends who are great at flirting and bantering, and also pretty successful with women, the "bratty sister" approach seems to work wonders for them.
/r/seduction05/07/17 02:20 PM
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I got a Penthouse Letters kinda vibe myself
/r/seduction17/06/17 05:46 PM
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I am an introvert. I am not a leader. I am non-confrontational. But somehow, I seem to have an ease to make people want to hang out with me. Because I'm a good listener, and chime in only when necessary or for the odd quirky funny/sarcastic remark, I'm very easy to get along with. Was a time when I lived mostly on my own with very little social contact, these days I keep having to turn people down so I have some me-time, which in all honesty I value more than social time. How did I get there? It…
/r/seduction19/04/17 09:38 AM
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It also definitely depends how many matches you are getting.. if you are travelling abroad in SEA and getting 100 matches a day... then yeah, Im not going to custom make openers for each one of those! Incidentally, I go with "Hey!" or "<name of girl>!!". It works reasonably well, makes you sound more pumped than a "Hi.." which is like the textual equivalent of a limp noodle handshake. :D
/r/seduction28/02/17 02:17 PM
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"Hey" or "Hi, whats up" has worked for me several times before. But generally speaking I think crafting a nice 2 line personal greet works better. All "Hey" does for you is ensure that if a girl replies, chances are she really did love your pics/profile, and is a quasi sure thing, because lets be honest, "Hey" is as lazy an opener as they come. Personalised openers will definitely get your foot in many more doors.
/r/seduction28/02/17 10:04 AM
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Indeed. Someone on this thread recommended OP read Mark Manson's models, but I think reading his more recent "The subtle art of not giving a fuck" may be more helpful.
/r/seduction16/01/17 07:49 AM
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The girl im currently seeing i hooked up with the night of the first date. There was both oral and PIV. A couple times at night, another in the morning, another at noon (I spent night morning and afternoon with her). The answer to your question is, do what you enjoy. I enjoy giving oral (and recieving) so I went to town. She loved it. There is no rule and you wont have the perfect answer... Shes a new person and part of the fun is finding out what you both mutually enjoy. And thats the only rule…
/r/seduction10/11/16 09:14 PM
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I think theres apps that will do that for you.
/r/seduction21/08/16 10:33 PM
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What about the elevator glance? Im shit at reading signs but I take it's a positive one?
/r/seduction09/08/16 06:17 AM
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Well, arent you a charming motherfucker. Thats me being a cunt too, BTW.
/r/PussyPassDenied01/08/16 09:36 AM
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Life.. isn't really that simple. Don't take this the wrong way but you are both so young yet that you are still defining your identity beyond youths with a troubled past. Its good you found comfort in each other but you are only setting out in life, and your past doesn't define you. Its just a moment in life, and if your relationship is anchored on the fulcrum of mutual comfort.. rocky times may be ahead. Young love is often doomed because who you are today may be radically different tomorrow, a…
/r/PussyPassDenied26/07/16 09:15 AM
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Especially on the phone, amirite?
/r/seduction14/09/15 01:21 PM
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There are plenty of very handsome men who aren't douchebags or clowns. Met many of them. And they get all of the girls. So what you are saying is.. most women will drop their panties for a hot dude who has his shit together? YA DONT SAY! themoreyouknow.jpg Looking over your replies you come accross as very entitled and sexually frustrated. Yeah there are gajillions of guys that are better looking and way better human beings than you are, but stop carrying that fucking chip on your shoulder and t…
/r/seduction31/08/15 07:24 AM
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Or even better, go full sarcasm and ask her to regale you with thriling tales from the wild world of accounting!
/r/seduction27/08/15 09:22 AM
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Not everyone needs to be the worlds best seducer - there are actually more things in life than approaching and getting laid. Props on OP for saying Im happy with what Ive achieved, time to move on to more things.
/r/seduction24/08/15 06:44 AM
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Theres some decent guided meditations on youtube that will start you out. Search for guided meditation, mindfulness, vipassana. Its really not hard to do in the sense that all it consists of is sitting down and focusing on your breath for 15 minutes a day. whats hard is convincing yourself its not a waste of time, becasue unlike running, grooming, approaching women, you will not see an immediate impact to your efforts. But even the scientific evidence is there, meditation improves your life in s…
/r/seduction10/08/15 11:42 AM
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Treat her like you would treat a bratty little sister. Its always playful, not intentionally douchey and hurtful.
/r/seduction10/08/15 10:48 AM
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This sounds like the setup to a Judd Apatow movie.
/r/seduction03/06/15 08:48 AM
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Make it your goal to get rejected as much as possible. Why? Because the more this happens the less you care. And the less you care, in all likelihood, the more confident you are and the less you'll get rejected.
/r/seduction06/05/15 08:50 AM
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It really isn't. The point of hanging with your mates is to have fun, whether that's going to the movies, having a meal, watching a game and drinking beers or doing anything at all. Gender doesnt come into it. What DOES come into it is whether you are attracted to or infatuated with every fucking woman you meet. Then yes, doing the above is like dating because its natural for you to want a progression with someone you are attaching desire to. If you really want to get laid with every female spec…
/r/seduction06/05/15 08:41 AM
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Same thing here. My patents divorced (amicably, they remain good friends today) and most marriages in my family ended in heartache. My mothers second marriage was a pit of toxicity and dispair, my fathers second wife died of cancer. Deep down, I have this sensation that it all is destined to end terribly, so why bother? It took therapy to accept that there are no happy endings, and life is about learning to let go and enjoy the periods of happiness in between each loss. Live for today, and not i…
/r/seduction04/05/15 01:16 PM
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Dont know if the Super Size comparison works. Some McDunkles or BlahblahKing employee tells me I "should" super size that.. Id be like, I don't think so buddy, small is fine. DON'T TELL ME WHAT TO DO FASCIST PIG! Then again, I do sub to /r/firstworldanarchists
/r/seduction17/04/15 09:04 AM
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Miiiiinaaa. LOOOK INTO MY EYES. MIIIIINAAA! :-E
/r/seduction30/03/15 08:01 AM
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I kinda have to agree. Unless its one of those super rare occasions in which after meeting someone there is insane chemistry and obvious, apparent attraction.. Im not staring into someones eyes like Im Vlad trying to glam Mina Harker. Miiiiina. Loooook into my eyyyes, MIIINAAAA. Shudder.
/r/seduction18/02/15 08:50 AM
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If they don't like you, they look away while hoping you won't approach. If they do like you, they'll hold it and return a smile. Id make a note that it depends on the woman. Some are shy, and will look away. If they are interested, however, most will usually after a short instance look back to check if you are still looking at them. Its all a fucking mindgame anyway, you can drive yourself mental analyzing every IOI. Its best just to assume she's into you and go ahead and approach because lets f…
/r/seduction13/02/15 11:48 AM
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Jesus. Anywhere in SEA will do. Seriously. You look foreign? No reason you shouldnt get laid. Last resort, fire up tinder. Have 5 propositions to fuck within 15 minutes of swiping right. Seriously, tis that easy. Philippines, Thailand are super easy. Beware of traps. No matter how beautiful they are. Pro tip: if "she" is super super hot and super TALL, be WARY. :D
/r/seduction30/01/15 01:56 PM
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I think you are on to something, in the end they are two paths that may lead to the same place. Mystery/Strauss PUA focuses on "getting laid" and in the process of getting there, you build skills and character that helps you attain more self awareness and a hunger to develop yourself more as a person, becasue inevitably, after getting what you want at the snap of your fingers, you will crave a connection that goes beyond a one night stand or a NSA relationship. Manson on the other hand, focuses …
/r/seduction07/01/15 12:32 PM
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I never saw it as settling for Manson either.. what he spoke of seemed to make more sense and more natural. I also never understood why everyone at the time was so enamoured with The Game - when I read it it seemed more like a cautionary tale of what may happen to you if you go down this path. It did not inspire me to use all the "tricks" exposed in it to get laid, becuase having read it and seen how hollow the reward could be.. it was not a path I wanted to take. I did not want to learn routine…
/r/seduction07/01/15 12:18 PM
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Everyone tells me the same thing. I tried once, went cold turkey. It.. did not go well for the both of us and when we eventually rejoined, we were closer than before, even intimate. But since, shes backed off again. I realize she is neither ready nor willing to take things further but I also am incapable of going cold turkey again. My main goal for 2015 is meet more people and branch out, so I slowly and surely can distance myself to a point where we can simply be friends without the mutual emot…
/r/seduction07/01/15 11:14 AM
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Texting is a huuuuuge issue. I used to think it wasnt until I expeirenced fist hand how it can fuck up your real life connection when it doesnt meet the level of connection you had while texting. You idealize what things with her may be like and she does the same with you, and when you meet, things are different. you dont see the same thing you had on your little screen, and that throws you back and plants the seed of doubt. So better to keep txting to the abre minimum. If you really to want to …
/r/seduction07/01/15 08:46 AM
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This kinda hits home but I don't know if in a healthy way since in my situation the reverse applies. I have insanely good chemistry with this girl, she calls us soul mates, but for some fucked up reason she cannot see us as an official couple despite the fact we practically live like one. I care for her deeply and cutting her out of my life seems painfully unsurmoutable, but perhaps I too need to cut down on the time we spend together (which is practically every other day) and pursue other oppor…
/r/seduction07/01/15 08:32 AM
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I'd also argue it depends on the girl. Some crazy shit to one will earn you screams and slaps, while another will lap it up like a kitten with a cream bowl. Sometimes its hard to gauge which type you can use which lines on. This is where a "Fuck it, got nothing to lose" mentality helps. And a cheeky delivery too.
/r/seduction30/12/14 10:15 AM
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My opinion as a recovering Nice Guy, is that the dishonesty part is kinda true. Why do many nice guys hang with their object of affection? Is it to enjoy her friendship alone in an entirely platonic sense, or is it because they are sticking around in hopes that they can leverage that friendship into something more? The dishonesty part, even if unintentional, is where you are showing your front as a friend without ever making it apparent you want more than friendship. Sure, many crushes survive t…
/r/seduction30/12/14 10:11 AM
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In her underwear on the couch with you? And you didnt make a move?
/r/seduction30/12/14 09:44 AM
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Some of them are ridiculously hot. RIDICULOUSLY. If it werent for the extra dangly bit.. GODDAMNIT. Fuck you, Thailand! ._.
/r/seduction11/12/14 10:44 PM
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In thailand anything goes! :D
/r/seduction11/12/14 05:30 PM
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Tinder in SEA is like shooting fish in a barrel. Here in Spain nobody uses it and Spanish girls are notoriously unperceptive to locals, but in SEA, christ, you look even vaguely foreign and you get offers for sex up the wazoo. Source: went on vacation to SEA this summer. Can confirm, its ridiculously easy. Preemtive disclaimer: no they are not all hookers and out for your cash, but be wary. Also be wary in particular of more than average tall "girls". Traps abound, though they are very upfront a…
/r/seduction11/12/14 04:27 PM
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Dude. I see her 6 days a week. Been on solo dates. Its complicated.
/r/seduction28/10/14 04:53 PM
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You and me both brother. 1.5 months here. Its just become apparent to me that the movie we sometimes build up in our head is so sweet that reality can never compare and disappoints more often than not. Each bruising makes you tougher though, helps you get sooner out of your head so chin up, even though it hurts like a sonovabitch.
/r/seduction28/10/14 12:23 PM
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Sheesh, time for some tough love, where to begin.. Its good you decided to stop pitying yourself (at least enough to get off your ass and do something about it), taking care of all the exterior stuff, thats good. It helps your self esteem to certain extent, but its not going to be enough. Any woman with half a brain will smell the reek of desperation on you and say FUCK no unless you happen to catch some horny girl drunk off her ass. You are going to fuck her, possibly with whisky dick, she pass…
/r/seduction04/08/14 11:49 AM
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I'm in Mallorca, which is the island SE of Barcelona in the Mediterranean. Dunno about BCN, but spanish girls here are nowhere near as easy as tourists. In fact, most spanish girls around here have a pretty high reputation of divas, spoilt by a generation of spaniards and "pagafantas" (spanish slang for dude who exists to buy you a Fanta) eager to please and keep them content. YMMV of couse, but foreigners are way easier to hook up with.
/r/seduction04/08/14 07:24 AM
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i know im a loser i hate myself Low self esteem and self loathing are SUCH attractive qualities. :P Cut that shit out, reading through your posts there is a certain air of approval seeking and low self esteem attached to your quest to get laid. If you don't value what you have to offer, how do you expect women to do it as well?
/r/seduction04/08/14 07:14 AM
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This entire story is so ludicrous an OP such a massive douche that it reeks of ThatHappened, Seddit edition, to me.
/r/seduction07/04/14 08:34 AM
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Mystery is all sorts of fucked up, especially in that book, but he does have some sound advice here.
/r/seduction12/02/14 08:45 AM
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Dude, dont be mad, you dodged a fucking bullet! Next time you'll cut her loose quicker! you just cant buy a life lesson like that, consider yourself fortunate. :)
/r/seduction05/02/14 12:39 PM
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Protip: dont overthink it. You are really young, seriously, just have fun, keep dating with the single goal of meeting new women and having a fun afternoon / night, while leaving open the possibility that there could be repeats. Getting a GF is easier than you'd think, but getting the RIGHT one for you, isn't. There's nothing wrong with you, so there's nothing to fix. Just go out there and meet people. Youll eventually meet the right one.
/r/seduction21/01/14 12:10 PM
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I think maybe you are giving Tinder more props than OP. While I agree that approaching makes you in the long run a more confident man, all Tinder does is get your foot in the door. You can be super suave in text, but if you aint up to scratch in person, Tinder wont get you laid. OP had to make his moves, build rapport, escalate, take risks. I doubt getting laid on Tinder is as easy as hitting up any random chick and asking her if shes DTF, though im sure some may roll that way. :P
/r/seduction12/12/13 05:11 PM
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Kinda skimmed through each point and this very same thing came to mind. Generic tips to become extroverted, tips you could give to any guy, barely even pertaining to introverts. THIS is a far better introvert's dating guide, IMO: http://www.reddit.com/r/seduction/comments/1omu2f/a_neurotic_introverts_guide_to_seduction/ The TL;DL version: Play to your strengths. And jesus, dont be fake. Just be polite, and above all, HONEST. Dont fake interest in a subject if you find it dull or uninteresting, m…
/r/seduction04/12/13 01:46 PM
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Thanks for that. When in doubt, escalate, eh? Makes me want to kick myself in the head when I think back at all the missed opportunities because I was being too "respectful" of their personal space, which usually meant not even touching them. ARGH. Took a lot of dates that went nowhere for me to man up and just make a damn move. It does work, most of the times.
/r/seduction22/10/13 09:28 AM
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Your definition of an introvert is a bit off. Introverts enjoy socializing as well, but we thrive on one-on-one interactions or small groups, and require some cooldown time alone every now and then to recharge, while extroverts recharge from socializing and being out and about. Being an introvert does not mean you have no or few social skills.
/r/seduction22/10/13 08:53 AM
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Awesome post, saved. A question about escalation though - do they ever initiate? I have a FWB kind of situation, and shes generally always in the "Friends only" mood, though she doesn't really deny my advances (kisses, touches), but it is always up to me to initiate, which kinda messes with issues of insecurity (am I not attractive enough to her?). In your experience, do women ever initiate or make the move, or is it always up to the guy to touch, pull closer, kiss, escalate, and their role to r…
/r/seduction21/10/13 11:18 AM
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Hahaha, you are right, there is always someone worse off than you, good to keep in mind! Also: she came around, looks like we are meeting today, she wants to go lingerie shopping with me. So TIL: It pays to be patient and keep the lines of communication open!
/r/seduction04/10/13 08:22 AM
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Count your blessings if she doesnt reply your texts, at least its a clear sign for you to move on. There are worse situations. Such as, she replies, flirts, sends you racy pics but it never really manifests in a repeat date. FML.
/r/seduction03/10/13 10:01 AM
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Good for you, man, you may feel like Charlie Brown in good grief mode, but take comfort in knowing that asking her out is also your way out oneitis. You know that door is closed, so pursue other opportunities, and if they don't exist, seek them out. The world is full of beautiful, funny, unique women! Once you realize you could have your oneitis with any one of them, paradoxically you will be less likely to oneitis ANY of them, because you come to the realization that you have options. And that …
/r/seduction04/09/13 12:09 PM
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Ill second that motion.
/r/seduction03/09/13 07:53 AM
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I guess thats the part that I find toughest to concile with. Some amount of drama is awlays to be expected, but I keep forgetting that ultimately, nobody can help anyone else. THAT is my hardest habit to break. Hell, even therapy is just a means for a patient to realize how to HELP MIMSELF, not for the therapist to help you and point out your flaws. The correct attitude may be as you say, "dont wanna talk about it" or "figure it out yourself" but that does seem very coldhearted. Dont know if I h…
/r/TheRedPill08/08/13 11:32 AM
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Its not the first time its happened. Last time it happened (with another girl), it took me a little longer to cut her loose. At least that time, it was a FWB and I was getting sex for the aggro, but even then I only could stomach a month of drama. I was talking with a friend about it today, he hit it pretty much on the head when he said: "You need to identify if the person is either friend (somoene you hang out a lot with and truly care about past having social fun with), or someone who sucks yo…
/r/TheRedPill08/08/13 10:33 AM
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Damsel in Distress Perhaps the most renowned of female tooling tactics, the Damsel in Distress ploy, aka the Wounded Gazelle Gambit, has lured many a man into precarious, and sometimes life-threatening, situations to ostensibly “save” a woman usually from a predicament of her own making. Or, just as often, from a manufactured predicament that serves no purpose other than to redistribute time, energy and resources from the man to the scheming woman. Had this happen to me yesterday. Woman who has …
/r/TheRedPill08/08/13 08:04 AM
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Another Spaniard here, I live in Majorca. Ill second /u/cocinerodiabolico Spanish women, in general, are terribly entitled, their behavior bordering on the diva-like. They are a bit more laid back in the south, from what I hear, but in big cities like Barcelona and Madrid, its not going to be easy compared to other European countries, particularly eastern ones. Spanish women, especially the stunning Mediterranean types, seem to wor under the "you gotta work hard to earn me" axiom, though of cour…
/r/TheRedPill06/08/13 09:21 AM
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It gets knocked a lot for lack of men practicing it, but Pilates is the BEST for posture. For Scoliosos however, yoga/pilates may alleviate some ot the symptoms but it does not stop the progression of scoliosis. Some poses can actually be harmful, so its always best to check with your instructor.
/r/seduction27/05/13 12:38 PM
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Move along, 3 dates and no chemistry means Shes Just Not Into You that way. The world is full of women, try another one.
/r/seduction27/05/13 12:26 PM
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The definition of "sacrifice" is to give up something you treasure or value, for something that in a future may give you even greater value. I know what you mean about finding time being hard when you already do so much, but you should view your time as an investment, and occasionally it pays off to give up the comfort of the familiar to plant seeds of opportunity that you may reap a bounty of wealth from in the future. The key is stepping out of your comfort zone as much as possible. Every new …
/r/seduction25/05/13 12:51 PM
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Unless your town is so small that online dating is not an option, try new activities and hobbies that expose you to new social circles. If your town is so small that you already know everyone... Consider moving. You are young even at 30, the world is your oyster! You do no seem to intend to settle for any wishy washy man, so why settle for small horizons? Maybe thats something to think about.
/r/seduction25/05/13 11:35 AM
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Surely OP will deliver! ... ...right?
/r/seduction25/05/13 11:31 AM
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FYI the HB scale isnt objective, its subjective. One man's HB10 can be another mans HB5. Even the values are subjective, beauty after all, is in the eye of the beholder. Some people may not care for shyness, others may be turned on by it. All you can know from a persons HB rating is how hot his target was TO HIM.
/r/seduction25/05/13 11:29 AM
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What about people who wear sunglasses? This always unnerves me, whenever I try to practice eye contact with strangers on the street, someone with sunglasses always psyches me out.. are they glancing back? are they ignoring? what do I do?! Look! don't look! Look away! Look back! Smile! Eugh. Too late, they are gone. Sometimes I feel like Gollum.
/r/seduction25/04/13 10:52 AM
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Those kinky, sex-crazy, lesbian incestuos foreigners!
/r/seduction19/03/13 07:26 AM
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Boy, that escalated quickly.
/r/seduction04/03/13 02:55 PM
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Sure it can be a "legitimate course of action". The same way you can hire a consultant for 2000 bucks to parrot material you can read for free online - wether you read the material yourself or have him parrot it for you, the benefit is the same because its effectiveness will always depend on how YOU apply it. It certainly is your money and it is your choice if you wish to burn it, but I think the real question here is, "Is going to a bootcamp going to be more beneficial than me studying the mate…
/r/seduction30/01/13 07:46 AM
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Lucky you, for me its usually the other way around! :P Your solution is simple, use online "chat" (SMS, texting, whatever you have) as a tool to simply arrange meeting in person, which is where you shine anyway.
/r/seduction29/01/13 03:02 PM
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On a public bench at a low-traffic roundabout (it was at night, very few cars drove by) and a little later in the middle of the road (it was under construction and we got tired of cars driving by and maybe catching us). While wearing inline skates. It was very uncomfortable. Give me a bed or couch over fucking over asphalt any time of the day.
/r/seduction29/01/13 02:44 PM
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