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I can easily hold a conversation. This issue is initiating and low self esteem with seduction.
/r/seduction25/04/23 01:50 AM
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You’re right, it’s a mindset I need to work on. I am trying, especially with therapy but it takes long to unwind such self-hatred. What do you mean by “expressing yourself” though?
/r/seduction10/04/23 10:24 PM
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I know how to be social, my mind just goes blank when talking to women. Everyone says “just say hi” or “can I buy you a drink” but no one ever tells me what to say next. I also have no clue how to flirt.
/r/seduction10/04/23 06:52 PM
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“Set achievable goals”, this was has been tough. My goal has been to approach a woman at a bar but I’m always too terrified. I also rarely see women alone at a bar, they’re usually in a group, so it’s even more difficult considering talking to one woman is scary enough as it is. My own therapist has required me to do it and i’ve constantly failed. I just don’t know what I could do or say to get someone’s attention like that.
/r/seduction10/04/23 05:07 PM
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Probably a stupid question but do you mean by warmups?
/r/seduction04/01/20 02:02 AM
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Deep down I know I do but it flows with family and friends because they know me already. I also have no opportunities to practice because I live in a small town with no social life and I go to a small college where I rarely have a chance. My problem is either a girl doesn’t want to get to know or I just don’t know what to say at all because of the amount of pressure the opportunity. I really don’t know what to do and I’m worried about just sticking to tinder.
/r/seduction03/01/20 11:45 PM
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I mean like I don’t know how to open at all and even think of anything to say after. Am I just doomed?
/r/seduction03/01/20 10:13 PM
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What do you do if your mind goes completely blank?
/r/seduction03/01/20 09:31 PM
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I have more success online than IRL. I live in a small town and a small isolated college so I don’t have many openings to meet women, especially considering I really don’t know how to meet any IRL.
/r/seduction07/11/19 08:09 PM
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What are your tips for being charismatic?
/r/seduction07/11/19 08:07 PM
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You’re right, I definitely should’ve specified that I am not a virgin, I just deal with self-loathing and anxiety most of the time. Considering it happened once, I’ll reach out and see what happened. If it happens again, I’ll figure it out. Quick question, do you think it’s a bad sign if I am the one that mostly initiates doing stuff with her?
/r/seduction07/11/19 03:57 AM
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Thank you for the wise words man. This is the only bad thing she's done and it just happened today. Do you think I should confront her about it?
/r/seduction07/11/19 03:20 AM
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They are things for me and other people (besides my passion which is for me). I have many things to say. I don't really have trouble with women, I'm just currently depressed because of a girl I'm seeing. She slept over last night but since the afternoon she didn't acknowledge me when she passed right by me twice, so I'm feeling really ugly and hurt right now.
/r/seduction07/11/19 02:41 AM
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Many people broke me down. What good is it going to do by talking to people I’m not interested in? The point is those I’m interested in are not interested in me.
/r/seduction07/11/19 02:07 AM
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Easy to say when you're not dealing with an addiction or not having impulsive habits.
/r/seduction07/11/19 01:10 AM
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I am basing my value on rejection. That I am unwanted, unattractive, boring. If I successful with women, I wouldn't be so hard on myself.
/r/seduction07/11/19 01:06 AM
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How does one keep positive through constant rejection and always being dropped from relationships because the other person finds someone better than you?
/r/seduction07/11/19 12:45 AM
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I know how to have a conversation with a woman. My self-esteem is bad because of my relationships with women. When you get rejected so much, it feels like a constant uphill.
/r/seduction07/11/19 12:29 AM
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How am I suppose to get into a women’s head if I don’t understand women?
/r/seduction06/11/19 11:53 PM
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I’m scared because because of my low self-esteem from constant rejection and my addiction to pornography as a coping mechanism. I am recovering from such addiction but I still feel so unloveable at times that I’m completely anxious to talk to a woman or even imagine someone liking me.
/r/seduction23/09/19 09:09 PM
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If I was in a city, I could definitely follow this but I go to a college of 2,500 people in a very isolated area, so I’m pretty anxious whenever I’m trying to talk to a girl.
/r/seduction21/09/19 01:35 PM
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