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We know in Mark 7:18-19 that Jesus clarified and changed the law of Leviticus declaring all foods as clean to God. He spoke that. Romans 13:1 gave authority to government, because God established it. John 4:21 He abolished the temple as the center of worship. He changed many laws. 1 Timothy 2:9-10 “Likewise, I want women to adorn themselves with proper clothing, modestly and discreetly, not with braided hair and gold or pearls or costly garments, but rather by means of good works, as is proper f…
/r/PurplePillDebate10/10/24 07:34 PM
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1 Corinthians 6:19-20 Do you not know that your bodies are temples of the Holy Spirit, who is in you, whom you have received from God? You are not your own; you were bought at a price. Therefore glorify God with your body.… Your body is not your own. It's a part of Christ and not to be desecrated according to the scripture.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/10/24 07:09 PM
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It's usually that they don't trust him. The only thing I am concerned about is whether or not the kids have things going on at that time that require both of us.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/10/24 06:57 PM
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Where is ink specified as unholy or unacceptable? As an immodest outward adornment done for vanity. I’m not so interested in spouting hellfire and brimstone about something stupid like painting on skin. I don’t have tattoos myself, but like… this is not a hill for anyone to die on. I have a tattoo. I'm stating what the evangelical church taught us.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/10/24 06:45 PM
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Does the new testament have verses against outward adornment? Does it have verses against vanity? Then there is this one, which is probably the most important. 1 Corinthians 10:31 So whether you eat or drink or whatever you do, do it all for the glory of God. 1 Timothy 2:9-10 Likewise, I want women to adorn themselves with proper clothing, modestly and discreetly, not with braided hair and gold or pearls or costly garments, but rather by means of good works, as is proper for women making a claim…
/r/PurplePillDebate10/10/24 05:49 PM
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Does Noah stop building the Ark and submit to those in power over him? Does Lot submit to the demands of the men of Sodom? God commanded them to do these things. They have to obey God first. God apparently also says submit to your husbands in the same way that you submit to Him, even when he doesn't obey the Word. Those instructions are quite clear. Should you not submit to your husband and obey him then you're also not submitting to God’s commands for marriage.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/10/24 05:17 PM
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1 Corinthians 3:16 Don’t you know that you yourselves are God’s temple and that God’s Spirit dwells in your midst? You're definitely not allowed to alter or defile a temple.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/10/24 04:55 PM
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What does "obey the word" mean? What does "submission" mean in this context? Let's see what it means, because it is listed too. Ephesians 5:22-24 Wives, submit to your own husbands, as to the Lord. For the husband is the head of the wife even as Christ is the head of the church, his body, and is himself its Savior. Now as the church submits to Christ, so also wives should submit in everything to their husbands.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/10/24 04:10 PM
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Think about this verse in context. It means your husband can still get to Heaven as long as you're a good enough wife. It's plain english. You don't get to choose which scripture to follow. Submit to your husband even if he doesn't obey the Word, but in this case she's granted a divorce. Sexual immorality is the only acceptable reason listed.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/10/24 03:57 PM
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1 Corinthians 3:16 Don’t you know that you yourselves are God’s temple and that God’s Spirit dwells in your midst? I didn't know that graffiti on a temple was acceptable.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/10/24 03:53 PM
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at best, they’re not sins, and at worst they’re adiaphora. God said, in Leviticus, do not get tattoos or cut your skin. It's directly attributed as from God. There's no way around that. You going against the direct word of God is a sin. I don't know what kind of Christian theology you could have studied that says otherwise.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/10/24 03:44 PM
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The wife is asked to submit to the husband, ONLY when he is submitting to God. This is not what the Bible states. 1Peter 3:1 Likewise, wives, be in subjection to your own husbands, so that if any do not obey the Word, they may also be won without the Word by the conduct of the wives,
/r/PurplePillDebate10/10/24 03:37 PM
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Leviticus 19:28 You shall not make any cuts on your body for the dead or tattoo yourselves: I am the Lord
/r/PurplePillDebate10/10/24 03:07 PM
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She has a problem with her religion, not the article. The Christian Bible does say all of those things and Christians are supposed to follow the teachings.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/10/24 02:28 PM
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How would you feel, internally? No idea. Would you lean towards believing him, believing his accuser, or withholding judgement? I would try to withhold judgment. Would you vocally support, defend, and stand by him? Would l stand by my son? Yes, as his parent. Would i call her a liar? Hell no. What factors would most strongly affect your judgement? Any evidence. Would you help pay for legal services (assuming he's young) if there was an administrative, civil, or criminal case against him? I would…
/r/PurplePillDebate10/10/24 01:39 AM
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But many women do it out of desperation. I still consider that rape. A wife is still raped if she consents because she knows her drunk husband will beat for her saying no and rape her anyway.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/10/24 07:03 PM
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Are strippers not consenting? I was a stripper. I consented to dancing. I consented to be looked at. That's it. I was never touched. What about nude modeling? Nude models are not touched either. When is it a commodity that’s wrong to sell? When the situation could also be rape. I do not believe that sexual consent can be bought or sold. Rape is sex that a person does not want to have with another person.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/10/24 06:35 PM
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Would you ladies here prefer if a man strictly had causal sex with sex workers, so he would put all focus on LTR when you two date? Instead of for example ghosting you the day after you where intimate? Do you think more men should visit prostitutes instead of whining about lack of sex on the internet? How can it be then that there are some who are against sexual services? I don't believe that consent can be bought, but this issue doesn't reach me in any kind of way.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/10/24 06:14 PM
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Prostitution and pirated movies aren't on the same level either. I can see why a lot of sugar babies never have sex with their clients. It's not worth the risk of a criminal record.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/10/24 03:01 PM
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I don't watch pirated stuff. I do my best to not break the law. I don't speed either. I respect the laws and l don't act shocked when criminals are willing to break multiple laws either.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/10/24 02:37 PM
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There was no defense of it either. Would you like to try again? Prostitution is already a crime . These girls are criminals. You're saying that being shocked criminals commit crime is defending them.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/10/24 02:29 PM
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I didn't mention "him" at all, but okay. 😂
/r/PurplePillDebate09/10/24 02:19 PM
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Sugar dating is prostitution. You can't be shocked that they're looking for other ways to get the money from him.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/10/24 02:18 PM
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I don't hate people that sleep around. They're not hurting me in any way.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/10/24 10:19 PM
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Raisins
/r/PurplePillDebate08/10/24 06:32 PM
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I love it unless my 1 sister in law makes it.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/10/24 06:09 PM
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Hurricane Sandy
/r/PurplePillDebate08/10/24 06:08 PM
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This sounds like every child's Thanksgiving plate 15 mins into dinner. 😂
/r/PurplePillDebate08/10/24 05:58 PM
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That one is weird to me. It's mashed potatoes with stuff in it. That's not potato salad.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/10/24 05:54 PM
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I can't relate. We've been friends with mostly the same group of people since childhood.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/10/24 05:52 PM
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Idk about that one. 😒
/r/PurplePillDebate08/10/24 05:49 PM
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I haven't had the Japanese kind.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/10/24 05:46 PM
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I like a classic southern potato salad, but the warm German one is pretty good.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/10/24 05:43 PM
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Potato salad. Yes or no
/r/PurplePillDebate08/10/24 05:34 PM
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5'8-5'9 is ideal to me
/r/PurplePillDebate08/10/24 05:07 PM
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I would be a train wreck if it weren't for my "in laws". They're 100% my parents and saved my life literally. These people are the only reason I survived and turned out as a functional adult with a healthy happy relationship.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/10/24 04:00 PM
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Pregnant at 16 and had him at 17. It was rough, but very worth it.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/10/24 03:23 PM
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I'll be 30 at that point. According to ppd my life will be over and I won't care either way, but double digits is a big deal.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/10/24 03:21 PM
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My birthday is this weekend and all I can think is that means my first baby will soon be 10. 😭 Make it stop!! I'm not ready for double digits.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/10/24 03:12 PM
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That's why you never see most women fighting over men and most people are partnered.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/10/24 01:43 AM
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You think that everyone not dating their supermodel celebrity billionaire ideal imaginary dream partner is settling? Even when they're genuinely attracted to their partner and want to be with them?
/r/PurplePillDebate07/10/24 11:58 PM
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I don't think that they're settling unless it's someone they don't find attractive or genuinely like as a person.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/10/24 09:45 PM
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Statistically most people are partnered.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/10/24 09:32 PM
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they acknowledge that they only see a very small number of men worthy of investing more time to get to know for a possible relationship I am only interested in a small percentage of men. Most women aren't interested in dating men of all ages, all cultural backgrounds, or men that they find neutral or worse in appearance. Of course that's going to be a small amount of men. It's not really different for men. Men might open to having a ons with more women, but most are not interested in seriously d…
/r/PurplePillDebate07/10/24 09:30 PM
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Same
/r/PurplePillDebate07/10/24 07:58 PM
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Fridge puppy is so cute.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/10/24 07:55 PM
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I think that makes the biggest difference.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/10/24 07:49 PM
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I can't imagine another person exists that I would have been willing to be with through all of that.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/10/24 07:46 PM
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I wouldn't be compatible with someone wanting to wait, religious, shy, anxious, or really introverted.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/10/24 07:43 PM
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Not better or happier. Could you find your connection with another person.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/10/24 07:36 PM
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They're both evil and don't care about innocent civilians on either side. The families of the hostages have every right to hate him right along with the terrorists.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/10/24 07:26 PM
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Question for people in long term relationships. Defining long term as longer than 2 years. Do you think you could find what you have now with someone else? I couldn't do it.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/10/24 07:19 PM
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Give it a few weeks. You need to settle into a routine.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/10/24 07:10 PM
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It'll get better. New places can feel terrifying even if we're excited for the change.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/10/24 07:08 PM
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Some people are shocked when you do that but haven't expressly flirted with them before that point, but I think that's more within social circles.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/10/24 07:03 PM
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There's a key to it. Make small talk a few times before doing it so she has some sense of you. Oh, that's the guy that always asks how my day is going. What have you done in that case? Nothing more than basically saying they look nice. You haven't made it awkward to go back or looked like a creep or desperate.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/10/24 06:56 PM
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It's fine to slip her your number on a piece of paper and say you're interested in getting to know her outside of work. That's no pressure and leaves it up to her.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/10/24 06:50 PM
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I would want to know why he's a virgin.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/10/24 06:44 PM
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I also found r/eatcheapandhealthy and r/mealprepsunday. Good luck
/r/PurplePillDebate07/10/24 06:34 PM
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I'd rather see him locked away for life where he can't see or talk to his family either. He's no better than the terrorists that attacked that day.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/10/24 06:28 PM
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I hate seeing what the Israeli govt has done to the civilians of Palestine, but omg that was sad watching the protest of Israeli families outside of Netanyahu's house trying to bring their innocent loved ones home and he's focused on expanding the war.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/10/24 06:25 PM
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Maybe r/budgetfood ?
/r/PurplePillDebate07/10/24 06:21 PM
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My kids love raw veggies with ranch or hummus. I keep little bags of chopped veggies in the fridge for them.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/10/24 05:53 PM
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I don't understand people that hold resentment for their partner over not wanting to feel degraded by a sex act for them. None of these people are out here like you deserve to cheat on me because I stayed with my cheating ex. Fair is fair and I want you to feel like I am doing the most for you.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/10/24 03:22 PM
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Yes, and we have sex nearly daily, because our relationship is good and leaves us in that space to want it.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/10/24 11:05 PM
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Neither of us do. It's all in or nothing happens. We had those talks.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/10/24 11:02 PM
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My consent is black and white. There is no gray.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/10/24 10:52 PM
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I think it depends on what you mean by “not feeling it.” I’ve had sex with my spouse when I wasn’t rabidly in the mood and I think that’s being a good spouse. Nope. I want sex or I don't. There's no such thing as good pussy points.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/10/24 10:46 PM
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Your spouse should try to be a good spouse in return for your efforts. Being a good spouse isn't allowing someone access to your body when you're not feeling it.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/10/24 09:28 PM
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It's usually not. That creepy feeling is just them being socially off. It's the same reason that a lot of people with autism struggle to make friends.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/10/24 09:41 PM
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Creepy isn't a reaction to hearing that they're a virgin. It's a reaction to being around them and whatever is putting everyone else off. that don't involve him being evil That's a moral judgment. No one said anything about evil.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/10/24 09:37 PM
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Feelings aren't childish or rational. They're feelings and they can't control them.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/10/24 09:33 PM
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Why is it so hard for society as a whole to understand the struggles that these men go through? Why is it that frustration is treated so negatively? Would you not feel frustrated if no matter what you did you would never get a satisfactory result? Why are people so quick to dismiss them and show such a lack of empathy? Because it's not the fault of the other person for not finding "you" attractive and it usually gets blamed on their high standards. Their standards are not a problem when they're …
/r/PurplePillDebate05/10/24 09:04 PM
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This guy is not asking in good faith. He's already arguing in the comments.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/10/24 08:53 PM
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You win. Lonely men are creepy and we're all disgusted by you. There's no point in asking questions or for you to try to date at all. You have life completely figured out. Are you happy someone is agreeing with you? Is that what you want? You obviously don't want the truth from us if you're going to argue that everyone is lying.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/10/24 08:52 PM
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No, we're stating facts. Creepy and weird are feelings. It's not saying someone is a rapist, pedo, or a bad person. People have no problem voicing those opinions when they have them. Why did you ask women a question if you don't want our answers?
/r/PurplePillDebate05/10/24 08:45 PM
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they give out 'bad vibes' 'creepy' Those aren't moral judgments. Those are feelings the women have around them.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/10/24 08:43 PM
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How would you feel? Would you feel special to him? Would you feel like you are one of many? I will say it again. I don't give a shit how he treated anyone else. He treats me to my expectations or he's gone. I care about my life alone.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/10/24 02:15 PM
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I don't think escape funds are acceptable when it's built from marital funds. That's completely different from having your own money before the marriage. Being a stay at home mother can be dangerous. She should have a skill or education to fall back on and her own money before doing that. Paternity tests and prenups are fine.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/09/24 02:36 AM
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He and the kids are quite happy and content after 10 years together. I have to be doing something right.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/09/24 09:41 PM
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I am professional pretend t-rex.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/09/24 03:54 PM
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Too many people bring a vibe of heaviness and stress everywhere they go.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/09/24 03:52 PM
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Damn, where have you been hiding? In my house with my kids playing cars and dinosaurs. 😂
/r/PurplePillDebate28/09/24 03:51 PM
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I'm fun, relaxed, and generally cheery at all times. I love sex. I'm fit and attractive. I'm supportive of my partner in every way possible. I'm financially independent and don't rely on anyone else. I'm emotionally stable and self aware. I'm already happy on my own and content with my life. I don't need someone to complete me or fix me. I love being active and l'm a great fit for another social active extrovert.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/09/24 03:31 PM
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Suddenly “fairness” is no longer a concern, but coercing women to cater to male insecurity remains the order of the day. I do not ever need justification to go full ass crazy and get to the bottom of anything that I believe is hurting my kids. There is no well he did this so I can check or I deserve to act this way because he did a test. That's not parity. If you suspect someone is abusing your kids you call the authorities. You can take them to a doctor.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/09/24 02:30 PM
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Maybe nobody told y'all, but you do get to choose what you accept in a relationship. You don't need to give that man a child and you don't need to stay with him. Acting out of spite won't solve shit but it will create a terrible environment for the child.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/09/24 02:13 PM
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So, point by point as I'm on mobile so I don't know how to use quotations: Use > directly before the material you want to quote. You can also press and hold to highlight and select quote.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/09/24 02:26 PM
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Like 10-15 mins at a time. We have an infant, 2 yr, 5 yr, and 10 yr old. We also have 2 puppies. There's no real free time beyond that. Something always needs done.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/09/24 10:06 AM
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I wouldn't mind 3 or 4 hours a week as long as he wasn't ignoring the kids or other responsibilities.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/09/24 09:17 AM
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We have 4 kids. There is no spare 2 hours a day where things don't need done. That's not possible unless he's actively ignoring the kids.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/09/24 09:14 AM
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What goes in the womans mind when games makes her upset? I wouldn't get upset or turn off his games. It's not compatible with the lifestyle that I want. I'd find a partner better suited for me and hope he finds someone that doesn't care about the games.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/09/24 09:00 AM
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Asking for a paternity test is the same as putting the father on child support regardless of being with him. A lot of men don't like comparison. She's not saying you're not going to support your child. That payment is security for your child.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/09/24 02:12 AM
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I've only had 1 friend like that and she was dating an equally toxic guy. I dropped them both. I don't get into other relationships. Their drama isn't my problem or obligation. I have kids. I'm not trying to raise grown adults in a consenting relationship too.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/09/24 11:43 PM
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Older men aren't wanted by the majority or young women. They'd still be hooking up with guys their own ages.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/09/24 04:02 AM
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We bought him the apple pencil a few weeks ago and he's been really into drawing on his iPad mini.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/09/24 01:25 AM
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Is that small percentage still a hell of a lot of men? Absolutely.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/09/24 01:15 AM
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Fantastic. You never need to comment about absent fathers or men that abandon their families again. I also expect to see you speaking up against men on the financial abortion threads when they argue they shouldn't have to have to support that child. They want kids, but not that one.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/09/24 01:07 AM
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Some men do. You don't speak for them either.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/09/24 12:57 AM
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Most fathers don't view their kids as some kind of "social status." I didn't say most fathers. I said a lot of men.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/09/24 12:55 AM
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We have 4 children together. He feels very strongly about being a parent and his responsibilities towards them.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/09/24 12:22 AM
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I say all that to say just because it’s your understanding that the mother is No, it has nothing to do with my views. My husband wouldn't have 4 kids if he 100% didn't believe in being a full time hands on parent. I have however seen enough men say those things to know that the mindset exists.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/09/24 12:19 AM
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He's had an iPad since he was 5. It's never been a problem. I don't let my kids sit around staring at a screen.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/09/24 12:17 AM
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My kids are not allowed free access to electronics.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/09/24 12:11 AM
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He's really starting to get into digital art and this is the tablet for it.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/09/24 12:11 AM
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No. My son already has an iPad. My kids are not allowed free access to electronics. He wants it for making art.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/09/24 12:10 AM
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It's abuse to my buy my kids what they want?
/r/PurplePillDebate19/09/24 12:08 AM
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No, it's acknowledging the reality that bad fathers exist and not every man wants kids because he plans on parenting them. There are great fathers too, but it's a lot easier to want children when you're not expected to be the one raising or birthing them.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/09/24 12:07 AM
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I just purchased an iPad pro for my 9 year old for Xmas. Spoiled little brats. 😂
/r/PurplePillDebate19/09/24 12:04 AM
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It was Israel. They told the US state dept that they were planning an attack in Lebanon before it happened.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/09/24 11:28 PM
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Entirely separate topic here however I feel like many women have jaded views of men. I know men that see their kids a handful of times a year. I know men that live in different states than their kids and talk to them every other week. The one thing they have in common is telling anyone that will listen how their kids are everything to them. There's nothing they wouldn't do for their kids, except see them, parent them, and pay their damn child support. I have kids. I have 4 beautiful kids. You wo…
/r/PurplePillDebate18/09/24 11:24 PM
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Unfortunately having a child doesn't force you to grow up and it doesn't turn you into someone else. Idiots have kids too. You feel bad for their children, because there's nothing else you can do.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/09/24 10:50 PM
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I've seen plenty of men like that. Look at all of the deadbeats out there. That truth doesn't discount good dads existing.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/09/24 10:45 PM
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You realize that I wouldn't have done less for him if we split tomorrow right?
/r/PurplePillDebate18/09/24 10:39 PM
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I haven't left him. I have no ex. If we broke up that would be the case.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/09/24 10:33 PM
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I have no idea. Look at the resident literal sperm donor that thinks it says something about him despite these women not wanting anything from him other than jerking off into a cup and disappearing forever. He "has kids". It's probably more of an breeding kink than a desire for kids.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/09/24 10:21 PM
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I don't think most men are interested in having kids. Kids are work and they're expensive. I think a lot of men are much happier saying they have a kid as some kind of social status as opposed to being a parent.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/09/24 10:05 PM
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Higher. I've put him through dental school, gave him children, and financially supported him while doing taking care of the kids too.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/09/24 10:03 PM
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I completely understand why women are choosing not to have children. They're a ton of work. Kids are expensive. Pregnancy and childbirth can cause permanent damage and lifelong pain. Men do less childcare and parenting. I myself have 4 kids. The first child was unplanned and if he wasn't an amazing dad and partner it would have been the only child. The risk for "maybe it will work" is too much when you consider that it's a lifetime commitment.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/09/24 03:12 PM
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I wouldn't want to trade lives with anyone.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/09/24 04:44 PM
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My family and friends.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/09/24 04:42 PM
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childrearing is more accurately characterized as somewhere in-between work and a hobby, like gardening for instance. No man that has friends at work and socializes during work hours has a real job either under your criteria.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/09/24 03:19 PM
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Men: Caring for children is not work. Also men: Why do you expect me to come home and do more work by helping to take care of the kids? That's your job.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/09/24 03:15 PM
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Having a great privileged life doesn’t make you a better/Good person, being poor or having trauma doesnt make you an asshole that doesn’t appreciate people and things. No shit. It's a good thing I never said that.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/09/24 04:20 PM
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Being poor or having trauma does not make you a better person or partner. Having had a great privileged life doesn't make you an asshole that doesn't appreciate people and things.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/09/24 03:32 PM
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It has become a thing where its something i cannot tolerate, and will tell any future girl about this behaviour. This is something all men and women love. Please compare me to your ex and complain about their behavior while you continued to stay with them. Nothing else says strong independent partner like that. 🙄
/r/PurplePillDebate16/09/24 02:47 PM
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I will give my potential partner every conceivable reason for her to leave I guess that's nice, but I don't consider made up bullshit rumors to be my problem or my responsibility to deal with either.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/09/24 04:26 PM
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That's weird as hell. False rumors are not your problem or a discussion for a date.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/09/24 04:21 PM
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I honestly don't see the need if he was never arrested, charged, or anything like that. Any other rumors that you need to disclose? If you did nothing it's only a rumor. "My ex falsely accused me of cheating on them." Should that be said too?
/r/PurplePillDebate15/09/24 02:48 PM
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No. I wouldn't want to date a lot of people for a lot of reasons either. That doesn’t make someone bad or hateful.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/09/24 02:41 PM
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How would women feel about men who did this? Cool. Don't date women that say they were raped. That's not a problem.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/09/24 01:51 PM
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How's your pasta? Did I tell you that l was falsely accused of rape? Please pass the bread.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/09/24 12:03 PM
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The food was amazing. My family cooked all of it, including the big pot of jollof rice.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/09/24 10:58 PM
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It was rough. I thought I was going to pass out. My brother is a firefighter and he does this thing whenever someone starts acting up or he's losing an argument. He throws you over his shoulder and says you're out of control. Let's go. That's what he did to me. Our family thought he planned it and everyone was laughing and I was yelling put me down!! My dress! He stood me up and said you're fine. You can do this.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/09/24 10:51 PM
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A train wreck, but it happened. I'm very grateful to have older brothers that know exactly what I need. I had a panic attack at the end of the aisle and I couldn't move. I was about to freak out and run as far as humanly possible. It was so bad.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/09/24 10:40 PM
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That's not a hot take. Condoms until sterilization unless you're actively trying.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/09/24 10:32 PM
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There's no one on the planet I trust less than my father. He's followed closely by his brothers. There's no one on the planet I trust more than my 2 brothers, my partner, and his dad.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/09/24 09:53 PM
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I mean, thats pretty much a clear indication that you don’t really fuck with the guy anyway if you can’t just be together. I couldn't fuck with a guy content to do nothing constantly. I want to be out. I want to have fun. I want to spend time with friends. I want us to have a friendship as well. My hobbies are my hobbies and your hobbies are your hobbies we shouldn’t have to both want to do them to be in a relationship, attracted to each other and unconditionally love each other. We have no reas…
/r/PurplePillDebate07/09/24 02:40 PM
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The first major fight in that ND late bloomer man's relationship was when he should have been the most selfish! During the conflict escalation, he had every right to threaten to cheat on the NT woman, as well as every right to follow through and actually cheat on her! No sneaking around is necessary. He had every right to belong to the 57% of of men who have committed infidelity at some point in their lives, not just married men. After coming back from the cheating, it is he who had every right …
/r/PurplePillDebate07/09/24 02:28 PM
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Women hate being objectified when they don't want to be objectified That's called consent. But let's say that you do not want to tell others what to do with their body. Okay, that's fair. But, why don't women criticize women that try to sexualize themselves to appeal to men? You answered your own question. They don't want to tell other women how to live. There's another part to the answer. Everyone knows that it would make no difference. We're sexually harassed as children at 10-12. Do you reall…
/r/PurplePillDebate07/09/24 09:18 AM
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Say it! He's marrying a single mom with 4 kids. One is an infant.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/09/24 11:07 PM
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At least we know to avoid guys into anime because they're pedos.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/09/24 10:33 PM
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So the guys watching incest porn actually want to fuck their mom/sister and the guys watching teen porn want to fuck underage girls. Got it.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/09/24 10:25 PM
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how's he not gonna conclude that perhaps art does imitate real life afterall?🤔. You're telling me to avoid guys that like horror movies because they secretly want to kill people? Or is that going to be different?
/r/PurplePillDebate06/09/24 09:50 PM
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free toothpaste and rinse from the dental assistant You're supposed to get those every cleaning. Be concerned about the times you didn't get it. It's built into your cleaning bill.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/09/24 09:47 PM
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Wrong thread🤣 How is she a single mother with no kid to take care of? She's a known child killer and this father left his marriage for her.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/09/24 09:32 PM
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I am still a single mom!
/r/PurplePillDebate06/09/24 09:25 PM
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It depends on what they need/want. My kids will always be my first priority.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/09/24 09:22 PM
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For actual needs? Absolutely.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/09/24 09:19 PM
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We both prioritize the children.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/09/24 09:11 PM
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We were trying for a boy and a girl. 5 was our absolute limit.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/09/24 09:05 PM
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I'm 26 and he's 27.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/09/24 08:50 PM
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/r/PurplePillDebate06/09/24 08:43 PM
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No.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/09/24 08:42 PM
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Yes. State says I am a single mom.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/09/24 08:34 PM
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It was maybe 3 days before he said he felt no discomfort. It wasn't bad at all for him.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/09/24 08:20 PM
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PPD lied to me? Take that back. They would never!
/r/PurplePillDebate06/09/24 08:18 PM
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Not anymore. He got the snip snip. He said 4 was enough.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/09/24 08:17 PM
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Damn it, again. I pay my own bills.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/09/24 08:16 PM
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Damn it.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/09/24 08:14 PM
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Absolutely not.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/09/24 08:13 PM
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That fact changes nothing. Answer the question!
/r/PurplePillDebate06/09/24 08:11 PM
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Is my boyfriend a cuck for marrying a single mom of 4 kids? What does that say about him?
/r/PurplePillDebate06/09/24 08:09 PM
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I think it changes when you kill your child.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/09/24 07:56 PM
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Men would rather date a child murderer than date a single mom
/r/PurplePillDebate06/09/24 07:33 PM
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np.reddit.com/r/retroactivejealousy/s/4xbS80NRFW Right here. You're blaming all of your anxiety and depression on her. She caused your retroactive jealousy. She doesn't deserve your love and attention. She didn't make those other men jump at her command. Boohoo you stayed with her despite blaming her for your feelings. She had to break up with you. You wouldn't even leave her. What should we do with men like you? Please tell me why this good girl goddess would choose a so called degenerate that …
/r/PurplePillDebate06/09/24 04:23 PM
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You're demanding that women be accountable for their choices while you cry about your own with no accountability. Why is that? Should women stop you from dating since you can't pick good partners?
/r/PurplePillDebate06/09/24 04:13 PM
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What ass burn? I've been with one man and have no complaints about him. 😂 Now what should we do about men like you who regret your choices and then cry on reddit? Should we stop you from dating?
/r/PurplePillDebate06/09/24 04:01 PM
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Men that date sexually active women and then whine on retroactive jealousy and blame their partner for their choice to be with them?
/r/PurplePillDebate06/09/24 03:35 PM
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Did that. There's no way to stop what is happening to me.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/09/24 08:07 PM
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The wedding is for his parents and our grandparents. I want them to have that. It's not the ceremony that's getting to me. It's the legally married part. My parents had an extremely abusive marriage and he was a pastor. I am 100% against marriage, but I realize it's now the best decision for him and our kids with my illness. It's not the wedding ceremony or him. It's marriage and the power it gives someone over another.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/09/24 07:57 PM
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I know his parents and our grandparents would love to have a wedding. I want to do it for them. They were all so happy when we said we were doing it for legal reasons. I told him that we might as well do a little low key thing for them.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/09/24 07:44 PM
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He's said multiple times that it's totally fine if it's too much and l change my mind about doing it.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/09/24 07:41 PM
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https://www.purewow.com/food/cold-dinner-recipes
/r/PurplePillDebate05/09/24 07:35 PM
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It will be a success as long as I don't try to jump in the ocean and swim home. That is worst case scenario.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/09/24 07:32 PM
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We're doing it for legal protections in case l get really sick. I was recently diagnosed with diabetes and it's been pretty rough. I have been taken to the er multiple times.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/09/24 07:28 PM
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Thankfully. I had a long phone call with my therapist this morning. I have to push through it. It'll be okay somehow.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/09/24 07:19 PM
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I don't think anyone could be here if they had a perfect normal life. They would hate it here.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/09/24 07:18 PM
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They're broken and I hope they get help.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/09/24 07:11 PM
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I actually have had people say I deserved it for having a mixed kid. Saying I don't have whatever is nothing. Nothing shocks me anymore. My usual reaction to those things is wow, their life must really suck. Couldn't be me acting like that towards others. I won't ever let the evil out there ruin my life. Forward is the only direction.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/09/24 07:08 PM
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Thank you. I CAN do this
/r/PurplePillDebate05/09/24 07:02 PM
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Some people are evil. It is what it is and I have come a very very long way since then, but I don't think I can ever totally get past it. I don't know if that's even possible when something like that happens to you.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/09/24 07:02 PM
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It's going to be an evening beach thing outside of my uncle's house with only close family.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/09/24 07:00 PM
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Those same people probably cheated at some point.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/09/24 06:59 PM
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Thanks ❤
/r/PurplePillDebate05/09/24 06:49 PM
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My biological parents tried to kill me because I was pregnant at 16 and wouldn't have an abortion.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/09/24 06:44 PM
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Thanks love. I keep telling myself it's okay. He would never do that. I have a good life. I have a great life. I am surround by amazing people that would kill off the entire world before they would allow someone to harm me. At least he seems to know it's not personal. He said to stop worrying about him, because he knows it has nothing to do with him. I hate my brain.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/09/24 06:42 PM
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It's because it's in 2 days. Just a beach thing with close family and dinner and dancing at my uncle's house afterwards.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/09/24 06:39 PM
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Thank you for your ppd assessment.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/09/24 06:33 PM
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Thank you for that.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/09/24 06:30 PM
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Idk if you have to have them for it to be ptsd or not. It think it's the severity or something.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/09/24 06:30 PM
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Anxiety is not having flashbacks that trigger panic attacks. Thank you for your ppd assessment.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/09/24 06:25 PM
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Thank you for your ppd assessment, but I think l will listen to my doctors and therapist that have been treating me for a decade.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/09/24 06:24 PM
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PTSD sucks so bad. I can't stop crying and having panic attacks over this wedding. I've been puking my guts out and feel like the biggest piece of shit alive. He's a wonderful person! He's absolutely nothing like my crazy racist father. He would not hurt me and my brain will not let it go. Sorry for venting. I hate myself right now.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/09/24 06:21 PM
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Wth? You met 2 of them?
/r/PurplePillDebate04/09/24 07:17 PM
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Good for you. Where was he acting entitled to dating or women?
/r/PurplePillDebate04/09/24 07:14 PM
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He didn't say dating is unfair. He said life is unfair and he was talking about his disabilities. He said it's not okay for people to assume he's a horrible person and that's why he's single when he knows it's because of his autism and mutism. You took that and jumped to but he really meant dating isn't fair. He didn't mention that once.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/09/24 07:12 PM
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I can see how women might find it attractive, but what are the odds of meeting someone that does that? I've never met anyone in my life that has mentioned that.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/09/24 06:57 PM
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Blacksmithing? Seriously?
/r/PurplePillDebate04/09/24 06:27 PM
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Can you find men on this sub calling a disabled woman entitled because she said no one was interested in her with her disabilities?
/r/PurplePillDebate04/09/24 06:24 PM
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I love almost anything with mushrooms. They're one of my favorite foods.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/09/24 09:49 PM
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What did you cook today?
/r/PurplePillDebate03/09/24 09:35 PM
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Many have autism and struggle to maintain friendships let alone more. Don't act like a fucking dick to them.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/09/24 09:18 PM
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Wtf. I have seen you vent and get down on both women and yourself. That response is horseshit. Don't listen to them. You do not come across as entitled. Sometimes frustrated, sometimes angry, but mainly sad about it. That's completely normal. They can go fuck themselves.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/09/24 08:48 PM
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You know stuff like this comes up on this sub and the last time I said that so many people said there's nothing wrong with a partner bringing it up. "It's not like they cheated on you." Good luck sleeping when I say cool, I want to fuck your brother as a response to that. Why you mad? I didn't fuck him.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/09/24 03:49 PM
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I would a leave a man for even suggesting the idea.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/09/24 02:47 PM
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I would prefer a wife who wants to do threesomes with me Another thing that you'll probably have to hire out.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/09/24 02:24 PM
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Wtf is this? He can't speak. He can't read. He's not texting or talking. Exactly what is he doing with a phone? Please make sense with these things.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/09/24 02:48 AM
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Definitely true for my kids.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/09/24 11:44 PM
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I can't believe my baby is 5 months old today. 😭 Slow down!!!!
/r/PurplePillDebate02/09/24 11:23 PM
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A lot of people are here because they're bored and some of the crazier takes are so bizarre that you ask yourself the same question. How did that person end up like that?
/r/PurplePillDebate02/09/24 11:03 PM
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She's so sweet. I love seeing her animals.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/09/24 10:44 PM
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There are some very nice people on this sub. I chat with a guy on here and he's the nicest. He sends pictures of a turtle that belongs to a family member because my son likes to see him. Little things like that can really brighten someone's day.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/09/24 10:28 PM
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Omg, he went with the names. 😂
/r/PurplePillDebate02/09/24 09:58 PM
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I don't understand how anyone gets to that size with people around them. It takes a lot of calories to maintain excess weight, especially a lot of excess weight.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/09/24 09:43 PM
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They already are and you haven't made a single argument against that. You know the terms of the contract when you sign. You are partners. Everything combined belongs to both. You can divorce at any time. The govt isn't involved anymore than any other contract so what are talking about?
/r/PurplePillDebate02/09/24 09:31 PM
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You don't need a license to be married now. You can have a civil ceremony without the legal contract and have an agreement notarized.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/09/24 09:28 PM
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Is it possible to have it that high? What's the weight of the heaviest woman you were with?
/r/PurplePillDebate02/09/24 09:25 PM
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I guess it is possible, but it seems very unlikely. It makes me feel like a shit person, but l genuinely think to myself their partner has to be mentally disabled to like them if they're not imaginary.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/09/24 09:18 PM
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I can think of a handful of people that have posted and I thought there's no way you're not single.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/09/24 09:12 PM
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Wow. She needs real help.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/09/24 09:05 PM
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The genuinely curious non racist people that ask usually have something along the lines omg, your kids are gorgeous. What's their ethnic ancestry?
/r/PurplePillDebate02/09/24 09:03 PM
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We decided on a small wedding ceremony in Puerto Rico on the beach. If we're going to make it legal we might as well have the wedding for my grandparents and his parents and grandparents. After the wedding we're having a party in my uncle's courtyard with lots of food and dancing.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/09/24 08:10 PM
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Pretty soon l'll stop wearing leggings and fitted t-shirts and care about his opinions more than my mine. 😂
/r/PurplePillDebate02/09/24 07:53 PM
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No need for feelings for him. We've been together for a decade and have 4 kids. He knows.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/09/24 07:10 PM
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Diabetes. Still hate it, but we're doing it for legal reasons.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/09/24 07:09 PM
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Yeah, l'm doing it. Congrats to diabetes for fucking up my whole life plan!
/r/PurplePillDebate02/09/24 07:08 PM
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Getting married on Saturday. I'm trying to not jump in the ocean and swim my ass back home. Edit: Thanks for the congratulations, but this is terrifying.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/09/24 07:05 PM
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Can you honestly tell me that every relationship, including the one that created you, needs to be incentivized? Explain to me why you need a personal contract, let alone a marriage contract. That is an incentive to remain married. You yourself said that loving someone is a choice and not a contract. If you truly wanted the govt out of marriagr there would be no contracts. All it sounds like you want is default prenups and to feel like a special snowflake. "My marriage isn't like other marriages.…
/r/PurplePillDebate02/09/24 03:41 PM
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my thesis is, why should the state sanction marriages in the modern day? Do you want your marriage contract to be enforceable by the govt or do they need to keep their noses out of it, which includes the courts? It's a simple question.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/09/24 03:23 PM
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Do you want your private contract to be legally enforceable? That's state sanctioned marriage regardless of the origin of the contract. What would be the point of a contract that isn't enforceable? Who is the only entity that can enforce or "sanction" those terms? The govt. All you want to do is change the terms of marriage.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/09/24 03:12 PM
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You see that role as enforcing private marriage contracts. That is not keeping the govt out of marriage.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/09/24 03:06 PM
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I think all cheaters are disgusting.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/09/24 01:53 PM
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Get the gov't out of Marriage: Marriage contracts should be privatized You want the govt to stay out of your marriage. Okay, I understand that. Have a religious ceremony without any legal protections or requirements. That's not what you're suggesting. You want the govt involved. You want legally enforceable contracts, but a different kind. Who do you think enforces or breaks those contracts? A govt court.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/09/24 01:28 PM
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I said manipulate, not groom.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/09/24 02:24 AM
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You have chosen shitty men. You're saying they're not bad guys, but they're clearly contacting you looking to cheat. You picked bad men. They don't regret their choices. They're trying to fuck you.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/09/24 08:19 PM
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I would agree.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/09/24 05:02 PM
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Not bad? You called her old and desperate and neither of you wanted to be together long term. Do you really think that a woman that actually wants marriage waits 10 years to bring it up? You were also a place holder and now either of you have actual options.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/09/24 05:02 PM
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She's old and desperate NOW You're still with her because you can't do better. 😂 This was not the flex you thought it was having to settle for a woman you consider a whore.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/09/24 04:52 PM
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Bro, come on. You don't have better options if you spend a decade with a whore you call old and desperate.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/09/24 04:44 PM
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This is sad for both of you.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/09/24 04:20 PM
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5'8-5'9 is ideal to me.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/09/24 04:16 PM
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I prefer men that are only slightly taller than me.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/09/24 04:09 PM
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Under 5'7 is probably where it gets extremely hard for men to date.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/09/24 04:07 PM
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I wouldn't care as long as he wasn't manipulating or lying to her.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/09/24 02:11 PM
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When a guy and girl in our friendgroup spend time together without us we assume they are going to start dating Y'all are really sitting around saying people are going to date because they decided to hang out once without everyone? That's dramatic and weird to be discussing as adults. Are you teens?
/r/PurplePillDebate31/08/24 09:30 PM
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Feelings and displaying those feelings aren't the same thing. No one assumes anything has changed unless a conversation is had or someone starts acting differently. People still hang out one on one quite regularly as friends. They go grab food, they go do activities, and they invite each other over without either person thinking it's a date invite.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/08/24 08:14 PM
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Most people don’t worry about avoiding confusion because they know it just friends.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/08/24 07:53 PM
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I haven't used apps. I've been with my partner since 10th grade and weren't dating at all. We were hooking up and I didn't care that he was seeing other people at the time.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/08/24 04:57 PM
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It's not when you have been hanging out for the last 3 months, drinking, going out, eating, and not even flirting had happened. That is a friend. If you invite a female friend over to hang out does she need to ask you if you're suddenly trying to fuck or date her or if you're still cool? Should she do that every time?
/r/PurplePillDebate31/08/24 04:25 PM
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Guys: we've been hanging out as friends for 3 months Also ppd guys: How didn't she know that the 10th casual hangout is automatically a date?
/r/PurplePillDebate31/08/24 02:06 PM
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Fucking flirt at least. He was her friend. Even other guys on this thread agreed with what I said. He doesn't even mention having flirted with her. It's not just that. You invite friends over. That's normal. It's not normal to invite someone to dinner at your house for a first date. She had 0 reason to think it was a date at that point. All of these things are what they mean when they say read the room.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/08/24 01:56 PM
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You don't know the difference between come back with me and would you like to come over for dinner. That's sad.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/08/24 12:40 PM
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He also doesn't understand the difference between do you want to come back to my place and would you like to come over for dinner on Sunday. He thinks they're literally the same thing.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/08/24 12:32 PM
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I agree with you and I don't see why she wouldn't be surprised by that. He doesn't mention flirting once.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/08/24 12:23 PM
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So you have no idea what inviting her back to your place means. Okay. "Do you want to come back to my place?" It's literally that. It's not code. It doesn't mean to do you want to come over on Sunday for dinner. It means come back with me now.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/08/24 12:22 PM
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I casually met this girl three months ago, and we hit it off right away. We went out for drinks, laughed a lot, and attended concerts together with my friends. We had an amazing connection, and even my friends mentioned that the vibes between us were great. After three months of awesome experiences, getting to know each other, I invited her over for dinner at my place. I cooked for her, she brought some beers, and we had a great time talking, laughing, and sharing our dreams and hopes. At the en…
/r/PurplePillDebate31/08/24 12:13 PM
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After three months of awesome experiences, getting to know each other, I invited her over for dinner at my place. I cooked for her, she brought some beers That doesn't sound like a romantic dinner. That sounds like their previous relationship only it was only the 2 of them.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/08/24 12:05 PM
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I read the thread. 3 months of hanging out with his other friends. Concerts, beers, and all of the normal friend group stuff, so not really an acquaintance at that point.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/08/24 12:04 PM
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Where does OP say it was a romantic dinner? Candles? Flowers? Music? Or did he invite her over they ate dinner?
/r/PurplePillDebate31/08/24 11:58 AM
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Do you assume a male friend is trying to fuck you if he invites you over? Just the 2 of you? No, you don't. Why would a female be different if you haven't been flirting and bantering? Don't ask for sex or a relationship doesn't mean don't flirt.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/08/24 11:50 AM
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I'm raising my kids. My house is paid for, by me. He pays his child support. That's enough for now.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/08/24 01:22 AM
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Good for you. I didn't care that l supported him and the kids for 7 years while he got an education to make that 6 figures. I paid up front for that education so he didn't have interest accruing loans. I will expect the same from him regardless of his financial situation.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/08/24 01:15 AM
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We do not and will never share finances.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/08/24 12:55 AM
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This attitude is why I would never be a traditional SAHP and why I don't have shared finances. I will never have a partner that thinks going to work for 8 hours makes him entitled to not do half of the parenting and necessary clean up at night.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/08/24 12:11 AM
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So 50/50 is fair enough when he wasn't working and was a student and I was working, but not fair now that he's working? You said that was fair enough. Look at your last comment.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/08/24 11:52 PM
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Why shouldn't it be an equal split of duties when you're both home?
/r/PurplePillDebate30/08/24 11:36 PM
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I do dishes. He cooked. His working has nothing to do with it. It was the same when he didn't work and was a student.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/08/24 11:32 PM
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I expect him to do half of the childcare and half of any clean up that is needed when he's home. It's what is was when he wasn't working and what it is now that he makes 6 figures. A job doesn't change your parental responsibilities in the house.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/08/24 11:28 PM
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The problem is i am talking about culture and you want to talk about youre personal life. You absolutely trauma dumped. My personal life is not statistics? Is it? Just admit that you don't want women asked that question because the answer doesn't suit you. You would have no issue with my personal anecdote if I said no, of course not, because my family is amazing. You wouldn't be bring up cultural vs personal life. You would be saying, "See, men aren't the problem. Why do you feel that men are da…
/r/PurplePillDebate30/08/24 07:31 PM
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You literally said ask them if they should fear their fathers/brothers/sons. You not liking the results isn't trauma dumping. I will not engage in any conversation. You don't engage in conversation. You don't know how to engage in conversation. You get pissed off and resort to personal attacks. You whine that nobody can debate with you because your arguments can't be proven wrong. You refuse to engage with facts. The biggest physical threat of violence to a woman comes from a partner or family. …
/r/PurplePillDebate30/08/24 07:20 PM
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You asked and I answered. Now you say women that have been abused by those closest to them, which aligns with statistics, are not capable of debating the topic? Were you hoping for a no? Yes, we have reason to fear those men too. Now what?
/r/PurplePillDebate30/08/24 07:14 PM
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Ask them if you should fear your father/brother/son. Yes, my father attempted to kill me for defying him. I was removed by the state. That same man told me men are dangerous. He wasn't wrong. The men closest to us are the biggest threat to our safety.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/08/24 07:06 PM
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What is the number one violent threat to a woman? It's a man that's in her life be it her partner or a relative. Why do men not accuse other men of hating men when they teach their daughters these things? This stuff doesn't pop out from nowhere. Why is the response to violence against women other men saying that they're more in danger from being attacked by other men? That in no way helps prove that men aren't exactly what those women are saying. It's not all men, but it's enough to be a problem…
/r/PurplePillDebate30/08/24 03:45 PM
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Risking your lives for strangers without getting any rewards for it is just useless and stupid How many firefighters and ems personnel do you know in case of an emergency? Would you expect them to be stupid and useless for your family or should they decide you're not worth it?
/r/PurplePillDebate30/08/24 01:27 AM
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I'm hysterical and he's comparing my happy brother to a fictional superhero that's written sad. Wtf is happening right now?
/r/PurplePillDebate30/08/24 01:25 AM
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If you're gonna debate with this aggressive attitude then there is no use speaking with you Aggressive attitude? You're the one saying he shouldn't be doing the thing he loves, that saves lives, because you don't see him getting anything out of it. He doesn't need a pat on the back. It makes him feel good knowing that he did something.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/08/24 01:19 AM
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Saving other people while living constantly a depressing life with no joy , do you think it's worth it ? He has a happy life. He loves his life. I hope that you never need the services of those people, because your logic says they'd be idiots for saving you or your family. You won't hold the same opinion if your own family needs that assistance. They'll be heroes.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/08/24 01:16 AM
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He knows he's saved people. He knows their families aren't crying in grief. That's enough.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/08/24 01:12 AM
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You have to admit that even if you don't give a damn about the men you think should risk their lives for strangers, you don't want the men who are useful to you to die or end up having jail over a stranger. My brother is a firefighter and was a Marine. He's spent his entire adult life risking his life for strangers. I'm proud of him. I would be devastated if something happened to him, but I would still be proud of him for doing everything that he could for other people without asking for anythin…
/r/PurplePillDebate30/08/24 12:54 AM
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And what do women get? Extra cleaning to do, bearing children that will ruin her body, a man that disrespects her every time he follows another thot on social media, a man that doesn’t even provide for her. You know that you choose your partner, right? You don't have to choose that.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/08/24 08:42 PM
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No, we're not married, but we are together.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/08/24 07:18 PM
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It's a joke because paternity results are always 99.9+ in the results. He's aware that the kids aren't more or less like him. I can't believe I have to explain this to people.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/08/24 05:48 PM
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What part repulsed you? His joking about which one is most his. Yes, it's a joke. I didn't have kids with a moron.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/08/24 05:05 PM
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Okay, you can be repulsed by a man joking about a test that he HAD to take for child support.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/08/24 05:03 PM
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He was pissed when he took the test request from his parents like that, but they knew it was needed for future child support. His parents also immediately took me in and finished raising me. They 100% financially supported me just as they did for their other kids and completely supported the baby while I finished high school. Before the test was ever done they had spent thousands of dollars on me no strings attached. I wasn't about to be offended over a DNA test. They wanted to know and that's f…
/r/PurplePillDebate28/08/24 04:27 PM
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We wanted a boy and a girl. It could have ended at 2. Blame his boy making ass.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/08/24 04:00 PM
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I wasn't offended at all by the request. We were both minors. His parents took me in and supported me. They supported our baby too. My parents tried to kill me. The paternity test was nothing. My boyfriend took the reasoning wrong. His parents are amazing people.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/08/24 03:23 PM
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Was marriage out of the question? 🤔 I was against marriage. We're getting married next month. A notarized statement of acknowledgment of paternity is considered enough. It's the law now, but I was in no way offended. We were kids.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/08/24 03:17 PM
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You can technically leave for any reason, but in practice you need to be a little forgiving if you want to sustain a marriage for the long term. Cheating is not a small accusation.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/08/24 03:16 PM
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Also, thanks for calling me a dumbass, even though I'm asking LEGITIMATE questions about comments you chose to share online. So, I think you're mean. You read that wrong. His dad said that to him. I don't have experience with parental law etc, but you must have been in your 20's by child 4, right? All 3 younger kids were born in my 20's. Was paternity still a legal issue with his parents after probably more like 6-7 years? Their father is a weirdo that likes the percentages shown on the test so …
/r/PurplePillDebate28/08/24 03:15 PM
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That has nothing to do with blue pill. It's a legal matter.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/08/24 02:55 PM
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No, my kids understand it's a joke, they're all half him, and he loves them equally. Not everyone is out here looking for problems.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/08/24 02:53 PM
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You choose what you will tolerate. He's not wrong for leaving her over an accusation of cheating. Those are his boundaries.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/08/24 02:46 PM
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I was 16 when I got pregnant. He was 17. We needed the test for child support paperwork and his parents asked if I would be okay with it. My partner was actually really unhappy about their request, because he said they were accusing me of being a whore when I was a virgin when we got together. He said looked at him and said you need the test for child support you dumb ass.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/08/24 02:44 PM
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I was 16 when I got pregnant the first time. It's totally natural and warranted at that age. We also needed it for child support. Then we got the results. They come in percentages. I have chosen a very special type of man that wants to know which child is "most his" by the highest percentage so he can claim that one as "his baby". He just likes the numbers, but they are necessary for child support too. Edit: Jfc people, it's a joke. He's not claiming one of the kids as his actual favorite.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/08/24 02:42 PM
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I do disagree. My partner and I share everything, including pass codes. We don't ask to get into phones or computers. We also don't snoop or feel a need to check on others. There are consquences when you make an accusation of cheating. I get that she's emotional and insecure. I have been pregnant 4 times. It's not an excuse for those feelings to turn into actions. My kids have all had paternity tests too, but he wouldn't have 4 kids if I ever felt for one second that he was accusing me of having…
/r/PurplePillDebate28/08/24 02:07 PM
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He was justified in leaving the moment she started accusing him of having an affair and demanded he prove himself, not by looking through the phone.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/08/24 01:59 PM
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For real? We should add violent and stupid to that list? Thank you.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/08/24 01:38 PM
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Women enjoy sex. Just only with around 5% of men, the most attractive ones Go outside. Women are happily with men that aren't models everywhere. You don't think they have sex? They have kids with them.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/08/24 01:31 AM
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Prison gay is very much a thing. Women have VERY, VERY high standards for attractive, only being attracted to around 5% of men, almost entirely due to unchangeable genetic qualities. That doesn't mean women don't enjoy sex or seek pleasure.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/08/24 01:29 AM
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? If you think women's safety is more important than men's hurt feelings, why be a hypocrite now and think women's feelings are more important than men's safety? You expect, "trust me" behavior only from men towards men. You realize women are every bit as much scum pieces of shit as men are right? My kids were tested. You're barking up the wrong tree. I tell men to get tests. This came up because you said you can't say men are this or that while you act like hypocrite and do it to women. If it's…
/r/PurplePillDebate28/08/24 01:27 AM
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Men want a hole. Women want a partner they're attracted to physically. And?
/r/PurplePillDebate28/08/24 01:25 AM
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Okay, and? That doesn't mean women don't want or like sex. They'd rather masturbate.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/08/24 01:22 AM
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Being mad because your partner values their safety over your hurt feelings makes you soft. Tell that to the men screaming over man vs bear. Tell that to the men saying child support shouldn't be a court issue and should be up to the man and what he wants to pay rather than security for the mother. 😂 I guess men are indeed soft. You should probably stop saying it's a woman thing.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/08/24 01:20 AM
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<image> But not soft. Women are soft.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/08/24 01:13 AM
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You don't think women orgasm?
/r/PurplePillDebate28/08/24 12:28 AM
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Are you that woman that says women can't feel sex?
/r/PurplePillDebate28/08/24 12:24 AM
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She has a job. It's not a relationship offer.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/08/24 12:12 AM
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Why are men paying for sex from stranger if they tie love and sex together? They wouldn't. Sex work is done outside of a relationship for a man they don't want. We like sex. We only like sex with men we want. That shouldn't be hard to understand.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/08/24 12:10 AM
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I have no idea how getting a vasectomy is supposed to help a man who wants to raise a child that is his own. Not getting married isn't going to help him either. You say you want tests for your future kids. She agrees or you move on.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/08/24 11:24 PM
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That's what I said. Don't get married. Get a vasectomy or don't have sex. It has nothing to do with marriage. Ffs imagine if 29.8 percent of women were tricked into flushing their lives down the drain to raise the children of their husbands' mistresses. I wouldn't be shocked if a significant number of men had mistresses and children getting money from married men that their wives know nothing about.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/08/24 11:18 PM
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Yes? This is based on the same paper that I am citing. You can look it up yourself (the paper itself I mean; it is available on Researchgate). 1.9%/3.7% is the estimate for high paternity confidence subsample, not for general population. Most of these men are in fact the fathers of their putative genetic children; only 29.8% could be excluded as biological fathers of the children in question. That's a far cry from 55%. Not an issue at all; potential dating pool is slashed in half. Do you care ab…
/r/PurplePillDebate27/08/24 10:53 PM
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https://www.discovermagazine.com/the-sciences/the-paternity-myth-the-rarity-of-cuckoldry
/r/PurplePillDebate27/08/24 10:37 PM
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I don't see how it's sexist to say meet your expectations as a man.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/08/24 10:34 PM
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It's men that go on endlessly about how a man is being stoic, capable, strong, a leader, and is logical.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/08/24 10:29 PM
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55 is upper estimate from test labs (USA); "unknown confidence" estimates are between 10 and 30. Let's go So 30% of the tests where the man suspected he wasn't the father? That means 70% were the father despite their suspicions. 1 in 2 will go ballistic at a suggestion of paternity test despite having nothing to hide. How is this an issue? Move on, but no, your dick or something.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/08/24 10:23 PM
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"She won't fuck me if I do that." Oh well. Stop bitching, man up, and grow a pair. It's a conversation. Men, the rational logical gender. 🙄
/r/PurplePillDebate27/08/24 10:07 PM
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I would say not true. "Women may consider resources." A hot man has never been asked his career before a hook up. That's all you need to know. Yes, some women will settle for money. Some men will settle too. They settle for women they don't like or less attractive women for what they also provide. "Men look for fertility and health." Men will hook up with fat old women. That's neither youthful, healthy, or fertile. People are people. Don't overcomplicate it.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/08/24 09:49 PM
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You might want to change your flair. Red pill says women are attracted to status and resources.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/08/24 07:31 PM
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I feel the same about child support and yet men flip the fuck out over it. That man is a piece of shit if he feels that a woman shouldn't have that security for their child. It's also the number one reason that a woman should get the test done.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/08/24 07:22 PM
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We have one account and it is a picture of us. We're not big social media people. It's used for family living far away and close friends. There's no real reason to have 2 accounts.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/08/24 04:32 PM
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Also, these men exist. They actually have a term. Introverts. Lol. Introverts exist and l don't find them attractive. Introverts also have friends. They prefer small social settings. Introvert doesn't mean friendless. I like a man with a social life. I like social men that fit in easily and make friends. I like that I can him to a party and he can have fun.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/08/24 12:59 AM
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Your hypothetical man doesn't exist. He's texting her, calling her, venting EVERYTHING to her, doesn't want her to go with own friends because he's happy that way. Why can't she be happy with him too? It's a compatibility issue. He has no other social life and it's a problem.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/08/24 12:55 AM
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You can't have one person who is your entire social outlet. It's too much on them.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/08/24 12:51 AM
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Because l need a partner with other social outlets and a life outside of our relationship.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/08/24 08:48 PM
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Having a small social circle isn't a red flag, but having no friends is a red flag and a complete deal breaker for me.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/08/24 06:12 PM
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Like a legal guardian? Like a partner. Why am I with you if you're not my partner? It seems as though women care about the relationship between partners more than many men. Men seem to care about what is provided to them in a relationship in regards to sex, house chores, and cooking.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/08/24 09:18 PM
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I would end a relationship where that wasn't the case, because why am I with you if I don't consider you to be the most important person to me? Why are you not the opinion I value the most? Why are you not the person I can go to and rely on for anything? That's a broken relationship to me. It happens or it doesn't. A relationship where we're not that to each other isn't worth it for me.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/08/24 08:58 PM
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https://ibb.co/HtL2Bff These are your responses to me straight from my history. Notice how nowhere in any of your responses did you mention that. "Maybe it's the way you worded it." Wow, totally sounds like l was calling him names, right? I'm supposedly name calling and the worst you can say is that my wording made me seem critical of his standards.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/08/24 08:32 PM
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You're thinking of someone else.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/08/24 08:08 PM
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So the majority of women don’t care to control their diets that means he needs to stfu and put up with it? Tell me what that has to do with what I said. Is he not cutting out the majority of women. He is and l said his standard is fine. 😂
/r/PurplePillDebate21/08/24 06:38 PM
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Interesting that you say that he was chewed out because I said his standard cuts out the majority of women in the US . Is that how that works? That's chewing someone out? Well okay then.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/08/24 05:05 PM
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I wouldn't say settling. They like them for more than pure sex appeal. Men do the same damn thing. Men literally pay for my attention and to watch me dance in a club. No touching is allowed at all. Are the women they date being fucked over because he's not throwing thousands of dollars at her? He can't like her? He can't want her? He has to be settling?
/r/PurplePillDebate21/08/24 02:51 PM
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You're asking why women won't treat you like you're the hot fun guy. You're not the fun hot guy from their past. Why won't men treat a 45 year old single mom like their dream girl? Because she's not their dream girl.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/08/24 02:04 PM
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Planned a weekend trip to Vegas for him and his best friends while I stayed home with the kids.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/08/24 01:14 AM
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Gents don't be stale, give her the chaos she craves, make her cry a few times. It's very important for a woman to get an emotional experience from a rship, that's kind of why she is there. Sorry, but I don't have bpd. I don't have time for games and drama. He can take his ass right out that door the moment he intentionally creates drama in my life.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/08/24 01:01 AM
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Not necessarily l want to fuck him, but he's fuckable. A guy I would be willing hook up with if things went well.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/08/24 12:38 AM
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Probably 20-25% for wow, that person has really nice features. 2% maybe for instant damn, look at him.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/08/24 11:10 PM
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😂 If physical attraction didn't develop i wouldn't continue seeing them. Sorry, but I enjoy my sex life and wouldn't touch a man that didn't turn me on.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/08/24 11:02 PM
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It's what he's talking about.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/08/24 10:51 PM
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Usually black athletic men, long nicely kept neat dreads, nice features, beautiful smile, slightly taller than me at 5'9ish.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/08/24 09:33 PM
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Date? Sure. Give them a chance? Yes. Lie and say that I am physically attracted to them immediately and have any desire to fuck them? No.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/08/24 08:58 PM
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Instantly sexually attractive? Yes, it's a very small amount of men that fit my type. I see attractive men every day, but they're not my type. They're attractive men, but not sexually attractive to me.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/08/24 08:54 PM
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Males who avoid single mothers likely don't have the means to provide for the child because they're broke That child shouldn't need provided for by the man. He has parents. This guy isn't and he shouldn't be supporting that kid.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/08/24 04:06 PM
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No, we're in very different stages of life even if he weren't too old.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/08/24 02:31 PM
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Can you explain what is wrong with scat play between 2 consenting adults and why that comparison somehow equals hate? Do you have a problem with people that engage in it?
/r/PurplePillDebate15/08/24 10:36 PM
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I have every issue with the way you chose to explain said preference. Yes, because one disgusts you and you apparently equate disgust for an act to hatred of the person engaging in it. I do not.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/08/24 09:48 PM
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I don't want to be with a guy into anal sex at all, I don’t want to be with a man that had 3somes. There's a ton of things that actively turn me off and that's okay. It's my partner. I want everyone to have the freedom to live how they want and with whomever they choose. I don't want it in my partner.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/08/24 09:42 PM
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Yes, I compared 2 consenting adults engaging in sex to 2 consenting adults engaging in sex play.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/08/24 09:17 PM
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the same women attacked this idea as being unethical and wrong. That's a question only that guy can answer for his own morals.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/08/24 09:16 PM
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Because I am not homophobic? Being turned off by something isn't hate of any kind.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/08/24 09:14 PM
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I don't know that it would change anything for me. I'll be honest. I find the idea of 2 men or 2 women together sexually to be personally disgusting. The thought makes me gag. It would be like asking would you date someone that was into scat play. Fuck no, that's disgusting even if they don't ever ask you to do it.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/08/24 09:09 PM
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But if someone says I am in this situation what can I do and the responses are to call him everything from a misogynist, freak, reincarnation of satan just to justify their shitty behavior towards an individual that's pretty fucked up in my book. It is fucked up that they did that. That also wasn't the question. The question was is it a red flag and what do I do if they ghost me when I share the truth. There's only 2 answers to that question. Lie or try to find someone that overlooks his inexper…
/r/PurplePillDebate15/08/24 08:55 PM
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I think you're confusing empathy and sympathy. Empathy is nothing more than understanding how someone feels. I don't know what you expect from strangers when asked for advice. There's nothing we can really tell him. It sucks. That's not a lack of empathy. Called him a freak This is wrong for anyone to do, but I think women are this sub are less likely to show compassion to men on here because of the way they're also treated.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/08/24 08:21 PM
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I wouldn't be comfortable with doing that.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/08/24 08:10 PM
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No, it's a really painful smallpox type of rash.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/08/24 06:36 PM
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but spending 6k there in a few hours most likely means High end clubs run those type of fees and they're club charges. That's not for prostitution.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/08/24 06:26 PM
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Racism. https://www.npr.org/sections/goatsandsoda/2022/11/28/1139403803/who-renames-monkeypox-as-mpox-citing-racist-stigma#:~:text=Monkeypox%20disease%20now%20has%20a,has%20been%20used%20for%20decades.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/08/24 06:05 PM
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Pretty uninhibited, probably an 8. Risk averse probably a 3-4.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/08/24 05:53 PM
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Are you recovering from major surgery? That's impressive.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/08/24 05:45 PM
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The disease is similar to smallpox but less contagious, and the virus is spread primarily through close contact with infected animals or people, and the consumption of contaminated meat. Mpox can also be spread through sexual contact, and there is a risk of transmission to a fetus.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/08/24 05:38 PM
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We went grocery shopping for my son's birthday party tomorrow. He's trying to convince me that he could eat food for 30 people by himself. I love little kids.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/08/24 05:36 PM
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More women need locked up.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/08/24 03:02 PM
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I've seen women say ugly men with crazy social skills get laid. That definitely can be true. Short men too. Not short, ugly, and awkward. Awkward is the biggest killer for most men.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/08/24 03:01 PM
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Sexual attraction isn't a pill color.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/08/24 02:55 PM
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Why would women be different than guys? No guy is out there like wow, she's so kind. That makes my dick so hard. Physical attraction is not moral.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/08/24 02:37 PM
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Do women think so-called "Cheds" just happen to have sex by coincidence? No,, they're hot. Because they're morally good? No, they're hot. No, they're acting nice to get into your pants too. Sex isn't a nice guy reward. They're hot. Why is this so hard to comprehend for many people? Why are you trying rl turn sex into something moral and calling it unholy?
/r/PurplePillDebate15/08/24 01:33 PM
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What grievances?
/r/PurplePillDebate15/08/24 02:01 AM
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Okay. That's not on women to fix.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/08/24 01:50 AM
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Live your life. Don't let the haters judge you. Thats your $3.50 and banana.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/08/24 12:55 AM
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It is an issue for the directionless men that seemingly cannot get into a relationship It will remain and issue for those men. The majority of men figure it out.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/08/24 12:54 AM
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it might impact relationship stability on a larger scale, which is worth discussing Is it true love or people won't divorce? They're far from the same thing. Relationship stability sounds great on paper. My parents also sounded great on paper. There's no way that abusive hellhole was falling apart. Not having other experiences or being shamed into staying doesn't create stable families or relationships. It creates prisons. You could outlaw premarital sex and relationships after divorce. It's not…
/r/PurplePillDebate15/08/24 12:41 AM
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You're welcome!
/r/PurplePillDebate15/08/24 12:33 AM
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intervened I think you meant intertwined.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/08/24 12:31 AM
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I’ll give you $3.50 and one banana 😒 It better be signed for that kind of money.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/08/24 12:29 AM
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Be monogamous if you want. Don't date women/men that engage in lifestyles that aren't for you. Trying to control the actions of others isn't going to stop them from wanting those things, suffering from fomo, and leaving their relationship. You might not get what you want out of life for a relationship. Is that worse that you being forced to be in the type of relationship that doesn't make you happy? No, and we shouldn't try to change that. Let people live how they want and it's your job to find …
/r/PurplePillDebate14/08/24 11:53 PM
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Expectations like conflict resolution, knowing how to kiss, knowing basic relationship boundaries
/r/PurplePillDebate14/08/24 10:49 PM
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Could be that or really poor social skills. Might be autism or something else making him seem off.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/08/24 10:41 PM
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I don't think there is one, because there's usually a serious issue that has put people in that position.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/08/24 09:19 PM
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He can lie, but I said I don't think it will actually help him. I don't think he'll get as far as getting a relationship even by lying.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/08/24 09:10 PM
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There's nothing he can do about that.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/08/24 09:01 PM
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Actively hostile and not liking you are not the same thing. There's no expectations of being accepted by individuals or being welcomed. No one has to be your friend. No one has to date you. We're entitled to the same basic protections in regards to discrimination and that's it.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/08/24 06:35 PM
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If someone believes im destroing America because i am Muslim should we as a society hold that person accountable for their personal opinions? Absolutely not. They're entitled to them. What they're held accountable for and should be held accountable for is their treatment of you in regards to actual discrimination. You can be a racist. You can't outwardly act like one against others.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/08/24 06:09 PM
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No, there are other crimes considered much worse than that. Why should or would it be treated any differently? You don't need a conviction or even an accusation for other people to think things about you either way. What should we as a society be held to do for having personal opinions of others? 🙄
/r/PurplePillDebate14/08/24 05:52 PM
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Does he lie and say he has experience? It's definitely not going to help in a relationship. He's going to not understand stupid little expectations or how to do things and it will be held against him, because he claims to have the experience.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/08/24 05:34 PM
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No, I don't think that. In that case they were convicted in good faith by a jury of their peers and had the chance to defend themselves. That's how our system works. There's nothing special about a wrongful rape conviction vs other convictions.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/08/24 05:29 PM
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The same options they have now. Sue the state if it was malicious prosecution.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/08/24 05:25 PM
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What Does self Improvement and agency (power, willpower, freedom, being an active individual) in life mean for a woman? I think this is a very good question. Keep in mind that I am 26 and these things probably do change with age and life stages. Self improvement is being the happiest best version of myself that I can attain in the circumstances. Staying on top of my mental health to remain in a good space that's always looking forward. Being fit and healthy in body and mind is always a top prior…
/r/PurplePillDebate12/08/24 06:24 PM
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Most people do identify being comfortable with themselves as their true self. I said I will not ever change something about myself that makes me happy for the attraction of a man. You do realize there are men into that look too, right? Should women that aren't comfortable with body hair grow out their hair so she's more attractive to him and his preference? No, that's fucking stupid.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/08/24 05:24 PM
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😂 And? Why would I change anything about myself when l am his type? Find a partner that you are compatible with in those ways.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/08/24 04:55 PM
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I wouldn't change anything that I like about myself for the attraction of a man. We're not compatible. It's that simple. I'm not growing/removing body hair. I'm not gaining/losing weight. I'm not going to act differently than my natural personality. I'm not doing anything sexual that I don't want to do. I'm not changing how I dress. We would not be compatible. I am happy and comfortable with who I am and I am the type that my partner also prefers.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/08/24 04:43 PM
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You're the one talking shit at me about that stuff. Don't come at people if you don't want an attitude in return.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/08/24 01:20 PM
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He's going to post some ridiculous incel shit, isn't he? He's going to make completely unrelated comments and talk about finances and investments on behalf of other men and be pissy because I wanted a man I find attractive from the start. Imagine the god damn horror of it all while men on here bitch that women settle. 🙄 He's almost 5'9. Anything else? Want his salary too? He didn't make a fucking dime while I put him through dental school. Want my sexual history too? I was a virgin until we hook…
/r/PurplePillDebate12/08/24 12:08 PM
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Oh guaranteed he'd end things when I said I ain't fucking you, that mess is disgusting. Are you happy I communicated to him how disgusting I found his natural body?
/r/PurplePillDebate11/08/24 10:29 PM
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because of a minor cosmetic preference He is not physically attractive to me. The fact that you would ghost someone who would otherwise be perfect for you He's a hairy man and I prefer men that don't have a lot of body hair. Oh well. that is easily fixable with communication Communication won't make him naturally have less hair. because you think communicating that preference is wrong It's not wrong. It's unnecessary and he is obviously okay with his hairy back. Let that man find someone attract…
/r/PurplePillDebate11/08/24 10:13 PM
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I highly doubt you are dating someone who literally fits every single one of your preferences. He absolutely fits them down to the perfect height. Like you're telling me if some dude checked all of your boxes and you thought he was handsome, but unfortunately he had a shit ton of back hair that you'd prefer trimmed, you wouldn't be with him? Come the fuck on lmao. I would probably gag and ghost him. I'm being honest. I am shallow and that's okay. It's my life. The correct course of action there …
/r/PurplePillDebate11/08/24 09:57 PM
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That's great, but I wouldn't date a man that didn't already fit my preferences. I don't know why a gf or wife would be with you if she doesn't find you attractive to the point where she needs to say something about it. That's weird to me.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/08/24 09:46 PM
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I'm not married and I have 4 children. You get child support. Why didn't I have an abortion? I love my kids. I wanted my kids. My children are not a burden. I am not dependent on him for anything. I'm happy with my life. What if he suddenly decides that he found another girl and just dumps you because you two were nothing in the first place? Go, do you, and live your life. Be a great father and live your life. Sorry, but I don't want a man that has to be with me. He doesn't do that because he wa…
/r/PurplePillDebate11/08/24 08:59 PM
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I think most people would prefer to do what fits them personally. I wouldn't change my habits if any man, including my own, didn't like it. It's my body, time, and choice to do with it what I want. I wouldn't want to be with someone that expected me to change myself to be uncomfortable because it's what they prefer. Go find that person. You're not for me.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/08/24 08:51 PM
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You're asking him to pay up front.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/08/24 08:07 PM
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No, first you PROVE you can do the job, THEN we'll discuss compensation. That's a sex worker. Just say that.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/08/24 07:57 PM
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I carried condoms. I wouldn't fuck a man that didn't carry his own if he was trying to get laid. That says unprepared, lazy, and willing to put my health at risk. My partner and I split the cost of them. But a man that is trying to get laid on a date without a condom? Solid no.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/08/24 04:32 PM
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I do, which is why condoms are a must.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/08/24 03:47 PM
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Does that mean they don't care about their health either? That's what that means. There's plenty of ignorance to go around. It won't ever be my problem. I care about my health and expect my partner to do the same.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/08/24 01:36 PM
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Take some accountability. I have 4 kids. I take accountability for my actions. Bring a male condom with you, regardless if he does or not. I wouldn't fuck that man regardless of having condoms. That's a man that doesn't take his health seriously.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/08/24 01:49 AM
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Omg yeah. She's a therapist and immediately recognized the damage that need to be contained immediately. They're seriously angels. My partner and I were 16/17 and hooking up in high school. We weren't dating. I ended up pregnant. My parents demanded that I have an abortion because the father black. How very Christian, but shocking coming from a southern pastor. Obviously his parents weren't thrilled, but they said whatever, that baby is a blessing. They raised me all over again into a healthy pa…
/r/PurplePillDebate10/08/24 11:33 PM
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You're a blessing. My parents were not. As a result they spent the last decade of their lives not seeing or speaking to any of their 4 children. They lost custody of my twin to my oldest brother. They've never seen a picture of our kids let alone met them. All 4 of us have moved on to blessed lives.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/08/24 11:25 PM
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I always say you can't expect someone to show up in the bedroom when you haven't shown up anywhere else.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/08/24 11:22 PM
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Unfortunately. There's a protective order in place. It's been a decade. We will never speak again. I have parents. My partner's parents took me when I was 16, pregnant, and my father literally tried to kill me. I have an amazing mom and dad. I wouldn't give them up for anything. Those are my parents. The people that created me can burn in hell and I won't blink.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/08/24 11:16 PM
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I would say that being in a relationship where you're both not giving everything to create that sexual attraction isn't worth it.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/08/24 10:56 PM
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He's dead. I'm living a happy life with my kids. Best revenge ever.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/08/24 10:47 PM
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I've never used any birth control besides condoms. Female condoms are less effective so l wouldn't use them. Don't have sex with me if you're not prepared to take responsibility for the consquences of our actions. That's how l have always felt.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/08/24 10:08 PM
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Suppose that you were forced to time-travel back to when you were a kid (with your memories and brain also reverted to that point), and you would repeat your entire life. I would choose suicide rather than live with my dad again.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/08/24 07:41 PM
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I'm sure she felt honest, but psychological denial is about trauma tolerance not honesty. "I assume I am right therefore I am right with no evidence." Okay.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/08/24 05:19 PM
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She didn't like cross dressing and said that. There's nothing to suggest that she was unhappy with being a woman, especially when she said she enjoyed being a woman and appreciated it more so after living as a man.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/08/24 05:16 PM
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A TERF Is a political stance. She had no issue voicing her opinions. She had no issue admitting that she was wrong, which she did in her book.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/08/24 04:59 PM
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That's not gender dysphoria.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/08/24 04:57 PM
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You... You do realize that you don't have to be trans to struggle with gender dysphoria... Right? And that Cis People suffer from gender dysphoria as well. You did know that, right? Of course l know that. You do know that you ignored the post, right? Please present evidence that Norah Vincent struggled with being a woman or didn't feel like one.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/08/24 03:53 PM
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Vincent checked herself into a mental institution. Once she left, and was satisfied with her mental stability, she decided to check back into institutions across the country. She tells her story in Voluntary Madness: My Year Lost and Found in the Loony Bin. https://www.npr.org/2009/01/05/99015989/voluntary-madness-details-life-in-loony-bin
/r/PurplePillDebate10/08/24 03:44 PM
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She didn't voluntarily reveal she had gender dysphoria, because she didn't believe that transgender people were the gender they identified as... She didn't reveal it because she didn't have it. She was born a woman that liked being a woman and she later acknowledged the social privileges of being a woman. She did not have gender dysphoria. You can't just throw shit on people and say they didn't want to admit they had something. She felt bad for men. She felt bad for lying. She struggled with the…
/r/PurplePillDebate10/08/24 03:40 PM
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Not two identities, two gender identities. Meaning she was struggling to come to terms with her gender dysphoria that creating Self Made Man caused her. She never claimed to have gender dysphoria. She herself said she experienced treatment resistant depressive episodes because she lived a lie and it took a toll on her. She liked being a woman. She never thought she was a man or wanted to be a man.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/08/24 03:30 PM
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She said that lying and struggling with 2 separated identities at one time fucked her up, not the male experience. leading Vincent to admit herself to a locked psychiatric facility, stating it was the high price she paid for "the burden of deception" of a separate identity and for trying to hold two gender identities in her mind.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/08/24 03:16 PM
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She died from suicide right after publishing. She published the book in 2006. She lived as a man in 2003. She died in 2022.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/08/24 03:11 PM
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You think she killed herself 20 years later because of that? 20 years later. 20 years.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/08/24 03:06 PM
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This is a question only that specific man can answer.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/08/24 10:51 PM
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My ring was $250.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/08/24 06:19 PM
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Not any kind of diamond.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/08/24 06:13 PM
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Respect? Men. Easy access to sex? Both. Higher pay by default? Men. People paying to impress you? Women. It all comes down to your idea of being privileged.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/08/24 05:19 PM
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You thank him and then tell him that you really don't want a ring.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/08/24 05:04 PM
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My parents tried to be helicopter parents. The only reason that my sister and I had any kind of lives is because my oldest brother would come pick us up and take us to his house on the weekends. He allowed us to run around and have friends without being watched. He let us go to parties as teens and be normal. I hate to think of how fucked up l would be if he hadn't been there to counter that.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/08/24 03:40 PM
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Kids should be allowed to be kids without parents constantly hovering over them every second. Good for your niece.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/08/24 03:30 PM
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Well, if all of this is disgustingly common, all I can say is it's interesting that my sister said she never experienced any harassment. Why didn't your parents let her out alone? That should answer some questions for you. Your parents know it exists.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/08/24 03:28 PM
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Yes, and the point is that in real life, this is how I see most people grow up. It's some weird Reddit thing where everyone grew up running off and frolicking outside all day when they were little kids. That's helicopter parenting. My 9 year old has more freedom than your sister. How you grew up isn't the norm.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/08/24 03:27 PM
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It depends on the definitions of rapist and gold digger. 100+ 250+
/r/PurplePillDebate06/08/24 11:02 PM
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I know many women on here pretend like they have no idea that a relationship means sex, as this sub does revolve around sex/relationships. So, if relationships don't mean sex to you, then please dismiss this post. Thank you. I would like you to find a single man that thinks he's in a relationship from fucking an escort.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/08/24 06:06 PM
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I've only had one relationship. It was meant to be a hook up or fwb. Neither or us had any intention to form a romantic relationship.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/08/24 06:00 PM
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This is one of the best ways to determine whether or not your partner is serious about you. The best way to see if they're serious is to play games? I'd drop a man for that shit too. They're not the one if they need to fuck with your head because they got insecurities. Next.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/08/24 12:48 PM
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At what point did you become proud of yourself in the relationship? What did you achieve in that particular relationship that made you proud of it? Never? It's not an achievement. I'm proud of my partner because he's a great man and a great father, but that's it.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/08/24 10:32 PM
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Primary or shared custody has little to no bearing on how good a father a man is, how responsible he is, etc. Again, not said. If you come to a discussion, expect to have some views thrown around. That's fine, but try to discuss what they said and not make up your own shit and pretend they said it.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/08/24 09:53 PM
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Your immediate bias is a perfect example of how OPs question is valid in how we pre-judge groups of people. In your two groups, I really wish people on this sub would learn to read before they start throwing a tantrum and accusations of bias. Poor description. A man who left his partner and child is one thing That was never mentioned. What I described was shared custody vs sole or primary custody.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/08/24 09:08 PM
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This means nothing unless a woman is looking for a LTR. A woman looking for casual dick doesn't care what that guy thinks outside of the bedroom because she's not thinking about him. Why do you want to tell them how to live or think?
/r/PurplePillDebate04/08/24 06:19 PM
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What you're saying is that men need to stfu about the vast majority of single mothers and how they have no fathers or support in their lives. Thank you for the statistics. I hope you feel better after assuming it was a misandrist rant when I was restating what men constantly say on their own when it comes to single mother. A single parent is a parent raising a child alone with no participation from the other parent. It's not someone divorced that has primary custody or receives child support. Si…
/r/PurplePillDebate04/08/24 02:25 PM
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That knocks out the VAST majority of single men with kids, because their mothers are also raising them. The same goes for single mothers.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/08/24 02:00 PM
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Really? Seems odd that most men are much more engaged now but most woman still got knocked up by a hot loser that doesn't support or see his kids. It can't be both.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/08/24 01:39 PM
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OP, please define single dad for this conversation. A) Is it a man that has primary custody of his child or is possibly raising it alone B) He fathered a kid and isn't with the mother These men are not viewed the same.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/08/24 01:17 PM
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Most single dads have their kids every other weekend and maybe a night through the week. The child isn't nearly as big of a factor in their dating life. The fact that he fathered a kid isn't seen as attractive.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/08/24 01:08 PM
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I can't agree with this post at all. I don't think it's going to stop cheating. It's not going to create less resentment or make people step up at home and with parenthood. It won't create attraction between them. I would rather have shared goals and plan to reach them.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/08/24 08:54 PM
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My point is this: words alone are not always sufficient in every situation for giving and determining consent. (For example, you’re shacking up with your partner in bed and roleplaying. You want to tease him, so when he reaches for you push him away and say, “Oh, no. You can’t touch me there..” while smiling and biting your lip. If he does go on to touch you, is he assaulting you in this instance?) It's not assault if she consents. Now answer this question. Is it assault if he assumes that she i…
/r/PurplePillDebate03/08/24 06:32 PM
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because it means she is Fucking nuts
/r/PurplePillDebate02/08/24 06:14 PM
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That's not harmful to either side. It's a neutral outcome.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/08/24 06:02 PM
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"We need to tell men that the second a woman says no or hesitates that he should leave the area." Those weren't your words?
/r/PurplePillDebate02/08/24 05:46 PM
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It's not bad faith. You asked a question in bad faith. Women wear "sexualized" clothing to work every day. They're not wear a thong and cupless bra only, neither is your date. You can't say that implies something.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/08/24 05:45 PM
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Awsome you avoid the point or you are a moron who doesn't understand the question i lean to you dont want to anwer because if you do it hurts your view. You're mad I answered the question? I don't fuck clients. I don't ever touch clients. It's a 0 contact club. It's a little early for you to get this post deleted for personal attacks like all of the rest.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/08/24 05:39 PM
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Is this your post?? www.np.reddit.com/r/FeMRADebates/s/Lx8PkjvWAq <image> Is that not you saying that if a woman says no for any reason a man should leave despite actions to the contrary? It is you. It's 3 months ago.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/08/24 05:37 PM
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Do you think i am excusing or lessening rape in any way? Based on your past posts and this one? I absolutely do, because you have said multiple times that rape and sex are the same thing and that women bear responsibility for it while also admitting that men are too pushy. You say women need to enforce their boundaries and then make this post about why no doesn't always mean no and it's okay to still have sex if you think she doesn't mean it and her actions don't match her words.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/08/24 05:32 PM
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Do you wear only a cupless bra and thong to work? Do you not understanding the concept that clothing is an expectation indication but not sufficient to make a determination? I'm a stripper. I can promise you there is 0 expectation or desire because of clothing. When I go out with friends l wear a lace bustier as a top. You call that lingerie. It's clothing. It's public clothing. Do you wear only a cupless bra and thong to work? What date is showing up wearing only that for you to make this "indi…
/r/PurplePillDebate02/08/24 05:29 PM
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So does me knowing that the overwhelming majority of rapes are completely non violent help you at all? Do you understand that those rapes are no less rape and still a serious crime?
/r/PurplePillDebate02/08/24 05:23 PM
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Do you think i am pro rape or something? No, I don't think you're pro rape. I think you believe that rape is something extremely specific in your mind that involves violence and force rather than consent. I do think that you want to change what is no known as rape to been seen normal again and more complex than it is to people or the law. Finger your sleeping partner and she wakes up and says wtf? She has every right to have you arrested for rape. That's on top of your arguments on how you don't…
/r/PurplePillDebate02/08/24 05:16 PM
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Complexity of Sexual Relationships: The author acknowledges that sexual relationships are complex and that oversimplifying consent can lead to misunderstandings and potentially harmful situations. What harm comes from accepting a no at face value? What dangerous or harmful situation can present to either party?
/r/PurplePillDebate02/08/24 05:05 PM
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"You can tell when no means yes, it's complex." No, it's a rape charge.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/08/24 05:02 PM
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Your multiple posts on consent?
/r/PurplePillDebate02/08/24 04:58 PM
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You are obsessed with getting around consent and it's fucking weird. No means she can call the cops and she's not lying when she tells you that she said no or stop. Try explaining that to the police and see if you get arrested because you stuck your dick in crazy.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/08/24 04:49 PM
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He better not cry when the police are involved. Words are not always sufficient for determining or establishing consent. Strange how that doesn't apply when hearing a yes.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/08/24 04:47 PM
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Nope, because it doesn't fucking matter. The word no is enough for you to leave. You do not have sex with anyone that says no unless they explicitly state that they have changed their mind and want to have sex.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/08/24 04:45 PM
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Actions don't matter once "no" is spoken. It can be said in the middle of sex and you must stop instantly or it's rape.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/08/24 04:29 PM
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I've only been with one guy and we've been together since we were 16/17. I would stay single and only have casual sex if we ever split up. My partner says the same thing. We've both seen what's out there, but so many people are extremely bitter, obviously mentally ill, or completely socially inept. It wouldn't be worth sifting through that mess.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/08/24 04:16 PM
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For me settling is accepting something that you don't want in order to avoid being single.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/08/24 07:26 PM
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Show me examples on social media of virgin shaming that was not any of the things I listed. If its common, it should be easy to give me an example. This is the dumbest shit ever. Excusing it by saying they asked for it doesn't mean it's not real, which is your claim.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/08/24 05:06 PM
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They're still using virginity to insult them. Assholes or not the virginity is used to mock them.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/08/24 04:52 PM
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You said women have responsibility in being raped and asked if they're having sex. <image> Only the rapist is responsible for rape even if she fucks every other man on earth. Even if she's fucked him before. Only rapists are responsible for their actions. Get it together. Women having consensual sex has nothing to do with women being raped.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/07/24 07:33 PM
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Are women no doing sex? Not if they're being raped. They're a victim of a crime, not a participant.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/07/24 07:25 PM
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Afterward, the guy decided to call things off instead of just ghosting her. So naturally, she sent him a money request for his half of the bill (from the last date). Why is that natural? Is it natural for a guy to bill a girl that doesn't want to see him again and he paid? No In response, he sent her the receipts from the first two dates. Absolutely petty and childish. There's nothing petty or childish about that. He paid for the first 2 dates. Where is his half of that if she deserves hers? Wha…
/r/PurplePillDebate31/07/24 11:19 AM
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Abuela gives dating advice. I don't know that it's good.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/07/24 07:24 PM
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I wouldn't use a site without one. I want to know if that man has been arrested. I don't need his name and address. I do need his criminal history. It's also why I would never accept ANY cold approach. I sure as hell am not taking the word of other people as gospel either. It's weird that you think criminal history is too personal and invasive, but guys can comment if she was down to fuck on date one or if they felt used because they didn't get laid.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/07/24 07:17 PM
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Background checks Are not new https://www.datingadvice.com/for-women/dating-sites-that-do-background-checks
/r/PurplePillDebate30/07/24 07:06 PM
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Personal opinions are not objective or even factual. They're emotion based observations.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/07/24 07:04 PM
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Think about what you're asking for here. Write a review for the person you want that said no. There are millions of reasons to trash them to protect your ego. Every review is from someone where it didn't work out. That's pointless to me. Give me a criminal background check and tell me where his momma lives. It's a done deal.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/07/24 06:50 PM
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That wasn't their only complaint. It's also apparently unnatural that they're expected to not stare at or harass girls. The teachers shouldn't punish them for having hormones. They wanted gender segregation. I say let them have it if they think it will help.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/07/24 05:51 PM
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That boys can't focus for the class length. They can't sit still. They have to fuck around and wrestle or goof off. They swear it was somehow different back in the day. Idk where they got that idea. I feel like they have no attention spans and their parents fed them snowflake bullshit about it not being their fault.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/07/24 05:46 PM
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Because most complaints l've seen from men are that the classes are catered to and taught in a way that only works for girls. Guys say they need something different. They shouldnt be taught together if that's actually the truth.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/07/24 05:42 PM
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I say lemme get some of them lips real quick before you go baby all seductive and shit and she gets turned off 😂 That's so bad. Suggesting, a statement or asking is the most dominant way to try to get something in my opinion besides just going for it physically. "You gonna gimme a kiss before you get out this car right?" Is that a statement or asking? Men think we're in control and being dominant by having to read all these "nonverbal cues" and do all this guessing and shit. Ffs, say I want to k…
/r/PurplePillDebate30/07/24 05:40 PM
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It doesn't seem like school helps a lot of boys with that despite girls being there.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/07/24 05:35 PM
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Didn't you hear boys can"t pay attention in school because they can't sit down? We don't need to pay them more for less work.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/07/24 05:11 PM
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All male schools with only male teachers. No distractions from females.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/07/24 04:36 PM
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you're "everything but perfect sexually partner" isn't satisfied. That doesn't exist.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/07/24 04:30 PM
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instead of communicate with her my desires and work out how we can accommodate/compromise No, you're missing the point. No means no, not we can compromise. You either get over it and live with the vanilla sex or you find someone else.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/07/24 04:18 PM
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Yeah, that's the point of casual dating. Only idiots have casual sex trying to lock down a man.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/07/24 03:56 PM
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Hot guys usually have no problems getting casual and don't consider it some weird achievement.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/07/24 03:53 PM
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No, I enjoy my kids having their father in their lives.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/07/24 03:48 PM
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Women start doing extreme vetting as a reaction, including making guys wait and expecting elaborate courtship or expensive dates to “compensate for the risks women take.” I wouldn't use it and I wouldn't care about what another woman said. That person was rejected and probably jaded.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/07/24 03:45 PM
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If she's not into the idea then it's a no. Find someone compatible instead of blaming that woman for not liking what you want.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/07/24 03:41 PM
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That depends on our relationship. Is it sexual now? No? Stfu.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/07/24 02:38 PM
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Neither of them sound attractive. I wouldn't want to fuck either of them with any amount of time spent dating them. .
/r/PurplePillDebate30/07/24 01:37 PM
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Having fulfilling and satisfying sexual and relationship experiences is a fundamental human right that can enhance an individual's quality of life. The ability to pursue one is a fundamental human right. It's not a right to have it or to have the type of person you want.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/07/24 11:45 AM
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Most folks would prefer a society where people stay civil and respectful of others due to morals and their own self regulating will rather than being legally forced to behave. Those kids were doing nothing wrong before he yelled that them. I guess l should start yelling at guys that approach random women just living their lives and tell them to leave her alone. Otherwise we'll be no different from loud shit-throwing chimps in the jungle. Neither do they. Who exactly were they controlling or atte…
/r/PurplePillDebate30/07/24 10:50 AM
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As people turn blind eye to this - young savages keep testing and pushing the boundaries of that's allowed, gradually going from being loud to vandalizing property to hurting people during their degenerate activities. All assumptions from kids being loud in a donut shop where no one else, including the employees, said a damn thing. You don't get to control public spaces where no one is committing a crime because you don't like their behavior. Kids horsing around is not antisocial behavior.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/07/24 10:27 AM
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But what if they were doing nothing except acting like kids, hurting no one, and he should have kept his mouth shut? Different situations require different reactions.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/07/24 10:08 AM
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Do you think the kid's reaction to being asked to keep it down was appropriate? It wasn't anymore inappropriate than a random guy yelling at them because he's on a date. I would expect better from an adult than I would a teen. He wanted to look like he was in control. He wasn't. Don't do dumb shit and then cry you were bullied.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/07/24 10:27 PM
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John can do what he wants, but he better not complain when Sarah lies about being on birth control or uses him for a free dinner and fucks Chad afterwards.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/07/24 09:39 PM
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How is this so fucking hard for you people. Im advocating for what actually will help protect kids. You're advocating that more adults, that haven't been vetted by the parents, have unsupervised access to children. That's not helping anyone. There are predators out there in every situation possible from schools to your church. You have a real fucking problem when your kids don't trust you for advice or are afraid that you're going to judge them. You also got a real fucking problem when your argu…
/r/PurplePillDebate29/07/24 09:07 PM
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That's not what I said. His reaction to their noise was inappropriate. He should minded his own damn business and let teens be teens. The store owner doesn’t have a word to say but a random jackass gets to do it? Mind your business.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/07/24 08:45 PM
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So we dont know who initiated the dating conversation but again how that conversation happens is important. Doesn't matter even if it's the child. The adult should know better. . If they are giving advice on how to suck dick ya way over the line, No bro, topics mean nothing. Your words. Blowjobs are a topic. Dont know what you think this proves never said ask and believe, i said their actions demonstrate they understand. If a M.A.P. shows they dont care or understand consent or the psychological…
/r/PurplePillDebate29/07/24 08:42 PM
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So you dont care about any context? Its not some weird its a person in the same career, its like if a coworker were 15 or if you volunteer there are teens there too. You're not going to be worried if your kids 30 year old co-workers start texting them asking about their dating lives? That's not normal. If a M.A.P. shows they dont care or understand consent or the psychological harms thats a person you can say is dangerous but they arent dangerous because of the age they are attracted too. They w…
/r/PurplePillDebate29/07/24 08:21 PM
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When you were 15 you never asked any adults about dating? I wasn't talking to any non relative adults unless they were a close aged older sibling of a friend. No, definitely not some weird ass 30 year old. So if thats the only aspect i knew about the person no, but that is because i dont know them. Yet you want people to have empathy for others they know nothing about except that they're a pedo. I wouldnt want a stranger who has not been vetted to watch my kid pedo or not. But it's weird to you …
/r/PurplePillDebate29/07/24 07:50 PM
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Idgaf who this person is, but no grown ass 30+ adult should be talking to children about those topics. You'd all lose your fucking minds if you found out the gay neighbor was texting your 15 year old and discussing dating. That is entirely inappropriate. The people who see grooming or attack non-offending pedophiles are making the same dumb assumption that women are making: "Men are unable to control their sexual desire to the group that they are attracted to." We don’t see this assumption with …
/r/PurplePillDebate29/07/24 07:36 PM
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8 or 9 for that. They're old enough to understand that this is going to hurt for a little bit.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/07/24 07:23 PM
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https://www.medicalnewstoday.com/articles/masturbation-effects-on-brain#positive-effects <image>
/r/PurplePillDebate29/07/24 07:13 PM
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Then see a sex worker, but drop the companionship argument. Masturbating releases oxytocin too.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/07/24 07:11 PM
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Yet they have these one night stands without any promise of commitment. Sounds like they want both and found the ONS while waiting.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/07/24 07:09 PM
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Biologically it’s not the same. Because of the companionship aspects, like you mention in another comment. We should all try to pair up in relationships. Yet men don't want an asexual, because sex is the reason they're with them. 🙄
/r/PurplePillDebate29/07/24 07:00 PM
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You don't think these women are having sex with guys they want? They have those choices. It's not an illusion for women to know that they have sexual choices.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/07/24 06:52 PM
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Except that they're fucking these men and if all they want is to fuck then they got exactly what they wanted. That's called reality.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/07/24 06:45 PM
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Then masturbate.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/07/24 06:38 PM
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women have the illusion of choice simply because men are desperate for sex. That's not an illusion. That's their reality. You don't need sex. No one needs sex. Go masturbate.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/07/24 06:22 PM
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You want her to shoot teen boys for mocking you after you tried to act alpha and put them in their place? 🙄 They're teens being teens.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/07/24 05:26 PM
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Why would I believe that all men or women share a belief system and specific ideals when the blue pill is anything but doesn't adhere to red pill and red pill is supposed to be nothing but a tool box that helps men find sexual success?
/r/PurplePillDebate29/07/24 05:21 PM
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Why is he yelling at a group of teens to begin with in the situation? I wouldn't call that being bullied.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/07/24 05:14 PM
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I don't hold negative opinions of either gender. I hold negative opinions of very specific men.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/07/24 05:02 PM
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Wow, your country demands that your kids have educational standards, vaccines requirements, and you're not allowed to mutilate them? You better hurry up and move to the land of the free as soon as possible. It sounds like absolute hell living in a place where child abuse isn't protected by religious and parental rights. 🙄 You'll never be free like us Americans. What 3rd world shithole are you from again and are you accepting immigrants? Asking for a friend.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/07/24 04:54 PM
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Lucky you. In the US we have homeschooling where your parents can teach you whatever the hell they want. Will you graduate? Doesn't matter. You were educated for the required hours.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/07/24 04:44 PM
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Here they won't let you enroll your child in school till you have them vaccinated and show them proof. Religious exemption.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/07/24 04:39 PM
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My mom, actually partner's mom, was a victim of FGM in Nigeria. Neither should ever be considered acceptable or legal. Maybe you should consider a new god if your deities demand a blood sacrifice from your children to show YOUR commitment? I don't feel like that should be a controversial thought, but it is one here.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/07/24 04:37 PM
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You also have same right to not get them vaccinated against diseases that could kill them because you believe they contain microchips or cause autism. You're free to not allow your child in health class to learn about their own bodies.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/07/24 04:33 PM
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No, I don't think there should be an exception. The US backtracked and made FGM legal again on the same grounds. Your religious freedom should not violate the rights of another to not be harmed.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/07/24 04:22 PM
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If it is part of your religion, simply let your kids freely decide to get it done when they are adults. That's not what the faiths say. It says you will mutilate your children or you're not following your faith. It's not about having it done to join the faith.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/07/24 03:51 PM
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"Religious freedom and parental rights."
/r/PurplePillDebate29/07/24 03:45 PM
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If you don't want to commit, what makes you think you are entitled to the bf/husband privilege? She's the problem if she's doing that shit for a man before commitment. Don't have casual sex if you're not into casual sex. This shit isn't hard. She looks desperate treating a man like her husband and he doesn't see her as a potential girlfriend let alone wife.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/07/24 03:44 PM
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My children, barring an actual medical problem, remain as they were created until they're old enough to consent. That means no circumcision and no piercing baby ears. There's no need for it.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/07/24 03:32 PM
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I think it should be banned. I prevented my sons from having it done to them. We shouldn't be removing body parts without a medical problem that needs cured by that procedure.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/07/24 03:24 PM
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This is not punishing a man that doesn't want anything but casual sex from you.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/07/24 03:22 PM
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Then keep fucking him because you want to fuck him and stop pretending that he and his lack of commitment is the problem.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/07/24 02:27 PM
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Don't keep fucking him or assume that he wants more from you. Leave him and find a guy that wants commitment.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/07/24 02:20 PM
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Hebrews 13:4 Let marriage be held in honor among all, and let the marriage bed be undefiled, for God will judge the sexually immoral and adulterous. Revelations 14:4 It is these who have not defiled themselves with women, for they are virgins. It is these who follow the Lamb wherever he goes. These have been redeemed from mankind as firstfruits for God and the Lamb, Matthew 5:28 But I say to you that everyone who looks at a woman with lustful intent has already committed adultery with her in his…
/r/PurplePillDebate29/07/24 01:09 PM
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Men had to tolerate parasitic relationships with Women who demanded they provide all resources If they wanted to fuck them they did. I don't disagree with that at all. You couldn't fuck someone's daughter and walk off. You also couldn't marry her, because that was her father's decision. if needed their life for them Women did the same through child birth. were cannon fodder For other men as well.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/07/24 06:06 PM
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Waitaminute what exactly do you think my position is? She's the prize She's not. Her virginity is the prize. Her doing the chores, fucking, and taking care of everything is the prize. Never her.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/07/24 06:03 PM
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Probably not. Her value (to them) is contingent on her being traditional. You're admitting the value is not her as a person. She is not the prize. The fucking and traditional behavior he gets from her and that can be replaced by anyone.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/07/24 05:40 PM
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Those were American laws until the 1970's.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/07/24 05:38 PM
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What traditional woman had a right to leave her husband? What one had a say in how money was spent if he said no? What one had a right to not be hit or not be raped before the 1970's? That's called property. That's not a partner or a prize.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/07/24 05:34 PM
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Hispanic and southern
/r/PurplePillDebate28/07/24 05:29 PM
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Purchasing something doesn't mean you value it. They value what it provides to them, not the object. They're an object that can be replaced, like all employees. Do you think they would stay with that woman the moment she stopped being traditional? Do you think if she stopped having sex the man would be like I don't care, because my prize is always first. Fuck no.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/07/24 04:09 PM
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TIL slaves were the real prize in society. 🙄
/r/PurplePillDebate28/07/24 03:58 PM
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Well traditionally, males were the providers, courted women, paid for dates, etc. People work, fight, compete, pay for prizes. Therefore it stands to reason the woman is the prize in the relationship. Traditionally women were property to be purchased. Men always had control and the final say. Prizes are valued. Prizes aren't controlled. Women were never considered the prize.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/07/24 03:51 PM
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You are desirable in your age Who is looking for a 30-35 year old gold digger? 😂 A broke man seeking a sugar baby.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/07/24 02:13 PM
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Both are desire-able but for superficial reasons. Both are being settled for in the case OP described. You can't be settled for and desirable.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/07/24 01:51 PM
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I empathise that most men will be devastated to know that his wife/gf only looks upon him as a provider/walking ATM. A lot of men are aware of that fact. It's usually the women in these situations that are shocked to learn that the husband settled for her and he doesn't find her to be this young charming sex kitten and the best thing in the world that wowed him. He's aware that you're basically a prostitute that sold yourself to a man for provision. There's nothing really attractive about that e…
/r/PurplePillDebate28/07/24 01:26 PM
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10 years or 5 years is a semantic and pointless argument against the broader point being made. So is your anecdotal evidence about 3 or 4 men in history and acting like they were the norm while domestic violence and substance abuse were the norm 100 years ago. 😂 You shouldn't need to be waiting until you need fertility aid to be mature enough to have kids. It's a very good thing that only a minority of people are using them and it's almost never due to waiting too long to have kids. Less than 15…
/r/PurplePillDebate26/07/24 02:36 PM
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100 years ago the average age of first child birth was 23. It's 28 now. Wtf are you talking about that there's some 10 year difference? The average age of marriage has risen by 5 years. You making up shit isn't an argument.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/07/24 02:13 PM
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Yes, we SHOULD be encouraging people to have children young. No, we shouldn't. I say that as a former teen mom. I was in no position at 17 to be raising a child. The only reason that I am where I am now at 26 is because of my boyfriend's parents. They taught me to be a good parent. You are sincerely fucked up in the head if you think giving birth qualifies anyone to raise a child. There's a reason that domestic violence and substance abuse was rampant in the past. It wasn't because people were m…
/r/PurplePillDebate26/07/24 01:57 PM
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Bro, you're so right. We need to go tell those men paralyzed in car accidents from the waist down that they shouldn't be relying on fertility aids. Same goes for women with ovulation disorders. Why the fuck were these people that can afford $50k treatments thinking that they can have kids? We should instead rely on raped children and women, teenagers, and young adults to get pregnant, ban abortion, and then ask these people to adopt the kids that were never wanted because all life matters only u…
/r/PurplePillDebate26/07/24 01:14 PM
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No parent should have that legal right. The child is old enough to consent or not. If they're not enough the parent is saying you can rape my kid. Why is that allowed anywhere?
/r/PurplePillDebate26/07/24 12:07 PM
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Conservatives want women to have children with good fathers and be a carrot on the stick for them to keep them running the rat race. Good fathers don't marry children and rape minors too young to consent because the child's father said it was okay. There's no way around that and these "husbands" need to be put in prison. <image>
/r/PurplePillDebate26/07/24 11:37 AM
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https://www.jahonline.org/article/S1054-139X(21)00552-8/fulltext00552-8/fulltext) <image>
/r/PurplePillDebate26/07/24 11:00 AM
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<image> You mean they want married children having children. Not the single children. Those raped underage girls are whores to the Republicans. They're not creepy child rapists if there's a lifelong marriage contract involved. Do you know how much her husband will spend on her high school wardrobe? 🙄 I want to hear a single lawmaker explain to me how a 16 year old can't consent to sex, is entirely too immature to have sex, but her parents can consent to marriage, her having sex, and having child…
/r/PurplePillDebate26/07/24 12:56 AM
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It's weird that Republicans want to talk about childless women while actively taking steps to keep women childless by banning ivf.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/07/24 12:44 AM
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That's gorgeous too! You're really talented!
/r/PurplePillDebate25/07/24 08:50 PM
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That's a really beautiful photo. I don't know anything about photography, but I like that one a lot.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/07/24 08:43 PM
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Did you shoot that?
/r/PurplePillDebate25/07/24 08:28 PM
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What percent of men are committing these crimes? 100% of paternity fraud is committed by women, but you threw a fucking hissy fit over paternity tests and said he should have chosen better. 🙄
/r/PurplePillDebate25/07/24 07:54 PM
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It can do that.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/07/24 07:29 PM
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Maybe not. Seems like common sense.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/07/24 07:00 PM
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She expects you to care about her kid and apparently so does OP. A good start would be not sending home a drunk to care for that child alone. If she can't drive herself then she is drunk.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/07/24 06:25 PM
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What kind of date pays to send a drunk ass mother to care for that poor child alone?
/r/PurplePillDebate25/07/24 06:20 PM
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"I am giving up part of my evening to spend time with you." So is he and you don't think men spend time on their appearance? They do. She's sacrificing her limited time with her child? Stay home until they're with their dad. The safety factor? She's not worried about her safety if she's drinking to the legal limit of intoxication and needs an uber. Be real. It is not that man's job to accommodate her entitlement issues.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/07/24 06:13 PM
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Because she only gives a shit about herself and not her date enjoying himself or the fact that he is also giving up his evening to spend time with her. She wants to put in 0 effort in return while she expects way more. That's crazy.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/07/24 03:09 PM
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Two: Pay for the babysitter - don't assume she can foist her kid on someone for free, or that she should cover the cost. Doesn't that sound like the father isn't involved? She doesn't have any free time to go on dates without a man paying for a sitter?
/r/PurplePillDebate25/07/24 02:17 PM
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4 is not reasonable at all. At no # date should you be meeting someone's kids and she's saying the 1st instead of my kid won't meet anyone without an established relationship? This bitch is crazy. Why are you introducing your kids to people when you're not in a committed relationship?
/r/PurplePillDebate25/07/24 02:08 PM
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These are all extremely unreasonable. That's not his kid and not his problem. She's acting like a sex worker by expecting to be financially compensated for her time. That's called a sex worker.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/07/24 01:59 PM
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It's crazy.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/07/24 12:58 AM
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They're acting entitled to something doesn't make that thing an entitlement.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/07/24 11:21 PM
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They don't have it. They're aware. That doesn’t stop people from wanting what they don't have and that doesn't equal an entitlement to it.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/07/24 11:15 PM
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Then no one should also be entitled safe food, healthcare, clean water, education, housing or public safety. Who thinks people are entitled to that? Should be and reality are 2 different things. You're not entitled to those things either.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/07/24 11:13 PM
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For people to accept that no one entitled to a partner or relationship and that being alone is okay.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/07/24 11:08 PM
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So is protecting your child from.molestation. That requires never leaving your child alone with anyone else in the entire world. That's not what she said. She would never leave their father alone with them.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/07/24 08:54 PM
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The legal obligations don't change because a child was planned. Planned or unplanned is the same responsibilities.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/07/24 08:21 PM
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A paternity tests confirms you are the parent. It doesn't confirm that you didn't cheat or weren't raped. A birth certificate is a legal contact stating that you take financial and legal responsibility for this child as your biological own. Do you think that child support and a custody order is an accustation that your child's parent is going to kidnap them or financially abandon them without that paperwork? Are prenups an accusation that you know you're marrying a gold digging asshole that woul…
/r/PurplePillDebate24/07/24 07:56 PM
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The only way to be assured your infant isn't molested is? To not have an infant in a world where child molesters exist. There is no fool proof method, but I was saying wanting a paternity test isn't the same thing as saying you can't trust your partner.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/07/24 07:37 PM
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I've noticed that women will constantly over exaggerate what they bring to a relationship or overvalue it. In addition to that they also seem to undervalue what men provide. Men decide what is of value to men. Women decide what is of value to women. It's the same for both. No one is being undervalued, because that trait isn't valued to that sex.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/07/24 06:06 PM
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Because marriage itself is supposed to be a legal contract. What do you think signing a birth certificate is? It's a legal contract for the child regardless of paternity.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/07/24 05:16 PM
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Prenups are for years later when the relationship is not going well. Your logic says they shouldn't marry that person. Why do they need a piece of paper saying their future loving spouse won't leave them and screw them over? They're marrying someone they obviously don't trust under that circumstance.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/07/24 04:50 PM
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Im talking about committed relationship. Discussion over since you want to get off topic. So am l. Why would you be committed to a man that you think will kidnap your children and financially abandon them if you're not giving him pussy and dating him? Choose better.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/07/24 01:44 PM
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What does that have to do with being in a committed relationship and still demanding a DNA test without any proof of adultery? What does your break up have to do with kidnapping and financial abandonment? Not a damn thing either. It's about assurance.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/07/24 01:37 PM
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I guess you wouldn't get a custody or child support order after a divorce or break up? Because the last thing you need is assurance. He hasn't kidnapped your child or not supported them in the past. There's no need for those things. That's the energy your argument is bringing.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/07/24 01:29 PM
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This has the same energy as the “I’ll always get paternity tests on my kids” guys. No it doesn't. Assurance isn't the same as distrust or an accusation.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/07/24 01:22 PM
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You can define it any way you want. No. That's the definition of physical arousal and a woman can not have enjoyable sex without it. There's no female privilege on that despite your ranting.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/07/24 01:07 PM
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Do you understand the issue now? I always understood that woman can't have enjoyable sex without physical arousal. It's the exact same for a man. Perhaps you should understand what physical arousal means and admit you were wrong instead of trying to argue that a woman can get wet on coke. A lack of physical arousal, not being wet, is the same as not being hard. A man is not physically aroused if he's not hard. That's the entire fucking definition of the words. Wanting sex, being turned on, and p…
/r/PurplePillDebate24/07/24 12:29 PM
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You probably have no idea about erections and physical arousal Physical arousal is only the physical part. Jesus Christ stop feeling like a genius. It has nothing to do with being turned on.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/07/24 12:14 PM
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You don't know what physical arousal is either? I'm not shocked. Physical arousal isn't the state of being turned on. The female equivalent of your statement is that a woman can have enjoyable sex with a dry pussy. She can't.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/07/24 11:46 AM
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You think women can have enjoyable sex without being physically aroused? In what world
/r/PurplePillDebate23/07/24 06:16 PM
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women: get to know women as people without pursuing them for relationship/sex and eventually something more will grow Who is saying something WILL grow? There's a possibility, not a guarantee.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/07/24 02:56 PM
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It working out was sheer luck. We hooked up in high school and ended up getting at 16/17. Now we're 26/27 and finally had our last child. He's finished dental school, licensed, and working. It was all worth it.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/07/24 06:47 PM
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It really wouldn't actually be a lot if I had a partner equally doing that, but was a major source of contention living with people who did almost none of that! Once he gets home from work he jumps in with both feet to help. He cooks dinner every night, does homework with the oldest, and if i didn't get through something big he gets it finished, like having laundry with a 3 month old.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/07/24 06:11 PM
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I wipe the dogs feet when it's raining, but you can't stop mud from coming inside. The dust is insane if i don't give everything a quick wipe daily and I have a dust allergy. We have a golden retriever and a shetland sheepdog. I am a firm believer in keeping it clean enough that I never need to spend significant amounts of deep cleaning it. I use a microfiber cloth wrung out with hot soapy water and give everything a quick wipe down. I hit the light switches, lampshades, and everything in one go…
/r/PurplePillDebate21/07/24 05:32 PM
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Where do you live a slaughter house? I have 3 little boys. 2 of them are toddlers. I have a 9 year old . I also have 2 almost year old puppies that are also constantly in and out. I don't want my crawling around on a dirty floor after their bath. Yes, I mop every single day. Also you dont wash your towels? They're replaced daily. We do not reuse towels in our house.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/07/24 04:55 PM
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That sounds fairly standard. I have 2 young dogs, 2 toddlers, a 9 year old, and an infant. My house would be destroyed and covered in dust if I didn't do things more often.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/07/24 04:27 PM
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Sweep- daily Mop- daily Dust- every other day Windows- are seasonal outside and once a month inside Deep clean both bathrooms- once a week Toilets are daily Clean the fridge (throwing out bad food and at least wiping the shelves)- food gets thrown out when it goes bad. Leftovers are removed after 3 days. Something is getting wiped up daily Wash dishes- multiple times a day Clean the kitchen sink- bleach the sink once a week or as needed from raw meat. I wiped it down with soapy water daily Do la…
/r/PurplePillDebate21/07/24 03:57 PM
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Anything else? The stats don’t lie. I guess it’s the 5 foot 8 guys fault who’s now twice as suicidal as the 5 foot 10. Should have been born taller dammit! Small male babies are more than twice as likely to commit violent suicide regardless of their adult height. https://www.newscientist.com/article/dn13196-men-born-short-are-more-prone-to-violent-suicide/
/r/PurplePillDebate21/07/24 08:55 AM
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Do you really think that 5'8 guys are being treated so badly over their height that they're twice as likely to kill themselves compared to average height men?
/r/PurplePillDebate21/07/24 08:43 AM
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The average height of the men in that study is 5'10. 5cm is 2 inches.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/07/24 08:36 AM
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I guarantee they don't want their gf/wife "showing love" to other men.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/07/24 11:29 PM
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The ONLY men, outside of my partner, that l am willing to compliment on their appearance are family members or very close friends.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/07/24 10:14 PM
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Did you use the N word?
/r/PurplePillDebate20/07/24 09:41 PM
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Your edited article completely disproves your point here. Children that aren’t identical twins are very different when raised together. The nature vs nurture argument is really not an argument. Why is it so hard to accept that girls and boys are genetically hard wired differently, we don’t think and select the same, we don’t chose the same careers, have the same hobbies or show emotion the same way and this isn’t socialization? They found the same results among fraternal twins. Fraternal twins a…
/r/PurplePillDebate20/07/24 03:44 PM
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You have shown no science. 😂
/r/PurplePillDebate20/07/24 03:31 PM
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I am an identical twin. We share some things, but we are very different people with very different lives and choices.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/07/24 03:11 PM
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We have so much in common and so much love for each other we already refer to each other as husband and wife jokingly. No it's not for everyone only those crazy enough to believe anything's possible, but as far as I can tell the average feminist would have us both suffering in our respective lives for their misplaced ideology that we couldn't possibly have a relationship Do you though or has all of this taken place in less than a month and you thinking it's normal is explained by your own bpd an…
/r/PurplePillDebate20/07/24 02:03 PM
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You say this as if pregnancy is a minor inconvenience and not something that permanently alters your body. It's also a choice for a woman to have sex, get pregnant, and to give birth..Adults don't hold their personal decisions against someone else. On top of that we’re expected to give the baby the father’s name. Again, that's a choice. No one is forcing you to do that or to be with a man that expects that. My children have our last name. We combined our last names and we both use it as well. Th…
/r/PurplePillDebate20/07/24 04:20 AM
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Thank you
/r/PurplePillDebate20/07/24 04:03 AM
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By the nature of human reproduction, men will never contribute the same amount in birthing a child. That's all they can't do equally. They can feed babies, change them, wake up in the middle of the night, walk them when they're fussy, do laundry, and do every single thing a mother can do except give birth and pump breast milk. That's literally it. Most men don’t contribute their fair share to household chores or child rearing. That's a choice for a woman to stay with him. That's not a male natur…
/r/PurplePillDebate20/07/24 04:00 AM
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Everyone makes mistakes. Huge mistakes and small ones. We've all hurt other people knowingly or unknowingly. Maybe it was intentional or maybe not. You nor anyone else can change the past. Did you learn from it? Do you understand how, why, and where you fucked up? If the answer is yes then make apologies where you can and let go of where you can't. Becoming a better person is about you today and tomorrow, not your past mistakes. You have to forgive yourself at some point too. That's one of the h…
/r/PurplePillDebate20/07/24 03:36 AM
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My birth parents are one of the reasons I am changing it. It's my last connection to them and I despise it. I am named after a Bible character and my abusive father was an evangelical pastor.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/07/24 03:26 AM
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But it's surprised me how many men change after kids. Several couples that seemed great, the men were quite bad after kids came along. Some definitely do change because they feel the woman is locked down and won't take a chance on leaving. Call his bluff and one of 2 things will happen. The wife has one less child to care for on top of her babies or that man will suddenly remember that he can function as an adult and parent independently. My partner and I often talk about how much pure bs people…
/r/PurplePillDebate20/07/24 03:24 AM
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I am aware of the hidden work of raising kids. I have 4 myself. That's when you have a talk about that hidden work and point out that they're not pulling their own weight and you need them to step up.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/07/24 03:11 AM
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Why do people assume you can 100% vet every one? You can't, but people sure as hell find ways to excuse how they expected their partner to change. They say they never could have known that was coming. He'll do more to help clean when he's not so stressed from this project. He's busy now because his best friend is going through a rough patch. He needs time to decompress after a hard day of work. For too many people there's always an excuse until they decide to leave and then they say they never c…
/r/PurplePillDebate20/07/24 03:09 AM
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I just needed her not to be such a repressive, overprotective, paranoid, narcissist. You needed your own place.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/07/24 02:36 AM
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Yes. They can stop having kids with men that don't believe in 50/50 child rearing and that would solve most of their issues.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/07/24 02:24 AM
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I absolutely hate my name and l'm filing paperwork to change it to my nickname.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/07/24 01:41 AM
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Thank you.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/07/24 11:49 PM
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I have the worst news. My sinus pressure and sore throat is covid.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/07/24 10:56 PM
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That is child abuse. You can't knowingly expose kids to porn.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/07/24 07:03 PM
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Some people aren't looking for relationships for years at a time.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/07/24 06:37 PM
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It's only really crazy if she had long term relationships in there. It's less than a 2 year from the average age of losing her virginity. I know people with a lot higher and I know multiple people like myself that have only been with 1 partner at the same age.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/07/24 06:32 PM
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It should be changed to Every potential victim deserves a fair investigation into their claims regardless of gender or status.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/07/24 06:26 PM
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There's no way in hell any guy would be making this comment if she asked him for random dick for her birthday. "She's a whore. Leave now before she cheats. Your relationship is over." She's only trying to spice up their sex life.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/07/24 03:41 PM
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we have 1 daughter who is 6 months old And he's openly talking about wanting to fuck another woman? 😒 [removed by reddit], would be overreacting, but leaving his ass is acceptable. He can want to fuck someone else. He can also face the consquences of that decision. Is she bi or is he trying to cuck her to her face and call it a gift to him?
/r/PurplePillDebate19/07/24 03:38 PM
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It's definitely a real thing.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/07/24 03:03 PM
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For some men it's just not meant to be. I wish this fact was met with acceptance instead of blame. That fact is accepted. It's the same men that won't accept that fact when they start talking about sex is a need and women need to understand and support them. Why do they need to understand beyond l'm sorry that's out of reach for you? It can't be changed. They can't force themselves to be attracted to you. Do you want a celibate asexual relationship with no physical contact? Try dating an asexual…
/r/PurplePillDebate19/07/24 02:57 PM
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A homeless shelter is housing. That's why they exist.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/07/24 01:52 PM
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Advocate to make sex work legalized in that case.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/07/24 01:50 PM
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In my opinion 100% is lust. Love is a lot deeper and is based on your experiences built ovet time with that person.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/07/24 12:20 AM
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It was lust at first sight. He was my high school crush. We hooked up at a party but I had no intentions of dating him. He was a cocky manwhore. We got pregnant a few months later and ended up being in a relationship. 10 years and 4 kids later I have 0 regrets about my choices.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/07/24 11:13 PM
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Many women desire marriage Many people want kids one day too. It doesn't mean they're thinking about or trying to get knocked up by every person they date. Women wanting marriage means they want to end up with a guy that makes them want to commit their life with them. You have no way of knowing that from a early dating. They date, have fun, and probably have sex. Most relationships end up not working out. You repeat it until you meet the one that works.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/07/24 01:53 AM
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If women wanted marriage and commitment only Those aren't the women having casual sex. Those women are usually waiting for marriage because it's the only thing that interests them. Women will treat guys who want ltrs on dating apps like shit, 💩 Those women don't want those specific men. It's not because that man wants a ltr. treat fuckboys nice always responding to their messages They're attracted to and interested in those men. They want long term commitment from those men, but they're also ope…
/r/PurplePillDebate18/07/24 01:43 AM
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She looks like she's only about 12 years old. That's precious. I love it.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/07/24 07:36 PM
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https://www.amazon.com/Inserts-Anti-Slip-Cushions-Blisters-Slipping/dp/B0BDCRHPGB/ref=asc_df_B0BDCRHPGB/?tag=hyprod-20&linkCode=df0&hvadid=692875362841&hvpos=&hvnetw=g&hvrand=14825269523670978250&hvpone=&hvptwo=&hvqmt=&hvdev=m&hvdvcmdl=&hvlocint=&hvlocphy=9006754&hvtargid=pla-2281435179818&psc=1&mcid=03c42c4a1ab539b28c5e66f03af21f12&hvocijid=14825269523670978250-B0BDCRHPGB-&hvexpln=73&gad_source=1
/r/PurplePillDebate17/07/24 06:47 PM
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Cushioning for the achilles area.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/07/24 06:47 PM
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Layer thick socks and get heel pads.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/07/24 06:44 PM
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Aww, that little girl was so overwhelmed.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/07/24 06:26 PM
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He's really cute when he smiles, but he's not my personal type.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/07/24 05:58 PM
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Theo
/r/PurplePillDebate17/07/24 04:57 PM
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But never at the men who wont pay child support. There were multiple comments in my responses saying they agree it should be mandatory or that men that don't pay deserve to be punished. You can be pissed at both sides creating a child they can't support.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/07/24 07:56 PM
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A lot of people know they're with cheaters and stay. Finding out the kid isn't yours isn't nearly as shocking as find out they cheated AND it's not yours.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/07/24 06:27 PM
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I love well maintained dreads.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/07/24 06:16 PM
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Did you read the name of the sub? Purple pill debate. It's a gender issues debate sub. This not the red pill.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/07/24 06:16 PM
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It's done by age, gender, educational level, and state in the article. This is not a dating sub.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/07/24 06:13 PM
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i think “mandatory” is more going to be like “offered at no cost.” you have to be able to opt out. Hell no, then men would blame women for that too. She wouldn't have fucked me if I said yes to the test. I had no choice. I was a victim.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/07/24 06:12 PM
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I support it at 10+ weeks of pregnancy. It's a simple blood test. I think there should be a DNA database that automatically identifies the father to stop pissed off women from naming someone else they want in their lives. Men do that shit too knowing it's not their kid and it's wrong. There should also be mandatory child support orders put in place immediately for all unmarried parents. It would solve a lot of problems.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/07/24 06:03 PM
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Most men are fat. Most men are in relationships. Most men are getting sex, but not from me. The argument can't be of course this magical woman exists when most men are fat and fucking while men also state that women have so many options that they never need to settle.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/07/24 05:22 PM
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"Awww I liked you more when you were a teddy bear". Women, why do you lie to your guy friends like this? Some women do like it. I am not one of those women, but I know them.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/07/24 05:08 PM
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the empathy gap is large This is most of the problem in society for every single issue.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/07/24 05:01 PM
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I honestly almost never see hate towards single mothers unless it's about govt assistance or in regards to not wanting to date them. I can understand why people get pissed about govt assistance. Unless you were raped you did choose to have a kid with a man that couldn't support a kid. People are allowed to have opinions on people wasting their tax dollars for any reason. Not wanting to date someone isn't hate. Where are you seeing hate outside of that?
/r/PurplePillDebate16/07/24 05:00 PM
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That's exactly what it is and why people should get tests before at the birth of the child. Most men wouldn't instantly abandon a child despite their claims online. They think they would, but they probably wouldn't. I find it ironic that men are saying women hate men when they have the same emotional reaction to a worst case scenario in their head. Women fear being raped. That's why so many choose the bear. Most women probably wouldn't choose the bear in real life either. It's strange seeing so …
/r/PurplePillDebate16/07/24 04:18 PM
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The abandoning a child from paternity fraud argument is the male version of man or bear. It's an emotional reaction based on a worst case scenario.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/07/24 04:02 PM
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https://www.fidelity.com/learning-center/smart-money/average-salary-in-us The median salary is 59k.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/07/24 03:22 PM
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The average salary is not minimum wage in the US.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/07/24 03:15 PM
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The child doesn't deserve to be murdered for the actions of his parents. The child shouldn't be forced to risk their life through a pregnancy that is often times the result of a rape from their own parent. This will in fact be my default position for quite some time now. It's always been the default position that women and children should be punished for the crimes of men. You haven't discovered anything. Since almost all of you are quite proud of your lack of empathy for victims of multigenerat…
/r/PurplePillDebate16/07/24 01:14 PM
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Oh no, you've discovered that other people are also allowed to have equally valid opinions. Soon you'll discover that those opinions and laws aren't forcing anyone to do anything.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/07/24 12:48 PM
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Imagine men so callously saying that a raped 13 year old child needs to give birth because 2 wrongs don't make a right. Do you need to imagine that or do you want the list of states where rape isn't exempt for abortion? But somehow most of y'all feel entitled to do exactly the same about victims of paternity fraud. And do so casually and with the full approval of your conscience. That's textbook definition of evil.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/07/24 12:41 PM
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Why would a woman not forgive a cheating man in an awesome relationship, when it's clear that the cheating doesn't lead to commitment and emotion towards another woman, and the existing relationship is still full of love and commitment to each other? That's not an awesome relationship when he's spending his time elsewhere while ignoring me, our kids, and our relationship. Our relationship would end instantly and permanently. We'd speak for the concerns about the kids and only for that reason. Th…
/r/PurplePillDebate15/07/24 11:41 AM
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Imagine forcing women to do the same Imagine if under no circumstances can a woman get divorced once they sign the marriage certificate. This is the same as a man being able to but, but choosing to not get a paternity test? Paternity tests are 100% legal and a choice in the US. Denying paternity is also a valid choice in the US. No man is being forced to claim a child and being denied legal recourse because they signed a marriage certificate. There's also no need to imagine that scenario for wom…
/r/PurplePillDebate14/07/24 12:29 PM
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You can't manipulate your way out of a court ordered test and no other test counts to prove that you're not the father.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/07/24 01:54 AM
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But the law does say that the husband is the presumed father in all cases unless contested.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/07/24 01:52 AM
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I've had many arguments with men on this sub that say mandatory child support is bullshit. The state should protect you from fucking a lying whore, but it shouldn't be responsible for protecting her from fucking a deadbeat.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/07/24 11:26 PM
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You should have read my other comments. I have no issue with mandatory testing. My kids have all been tested. Do it and it makes mandatory child support orders faster and easier too. It's a win win.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/07/24 11:21 PM
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To insinuate that it’s men’s Responsibility to determine that the child is his before signing a legally binding document that gives him no way out is 100% his responsibility. and should stay on the hook because for raising kids thay aren’t theirs is ridiculous I never said should be. I said they are, because they declared themselves the father.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/07/24 11:20 PM
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Again, should have been handled long before then and if you have reason to suspect cheating your marriage is already over.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/07/24 11:07 PM
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For sure. That's why you settle it well before you are married. It should have been brought up long before then if it's important to you.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/07/24 11:06 PM
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Where did I say that was the only way? I also said l have no issue with making it mandatory and you responded to that comment. What is your issue here?
/r/PurplePillDebate13/07/24 11:05 PM
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Bring it up when dating. I want that piece of paper that says these are my kids. That's not personal to them.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/07/24 10:59 PM
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Okay genius, show me where l said they deserve it? I said they should get the tests. I guarantee you not a person on this planet isn't telling women that we don't need to take precautions because shitty people exist. Men are not exempt from that logic either.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/07/24 10:54 PM
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I know, right? Like why can't I get blackout drunk in bars and walk around naked without fear? Why do I need to lock my doors at night? Why can't I do those things?
/r/PurplePillDebate13/07/24 10:45 PM
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It's also a wild take to say women take accountability for your actions and not men, but you feel comfortable doing that just as freely. I don't expect men to protect me from my decisions. Why would expect differently?
/r/PurplePillDebate13/07/24 10:38 PM
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There are some women that wouldn't have kids with a man that says he wants them tested. Do you want kids with a woman like that? It's a self solving problem. All of my kids were tested and there was 0 question that he was the father.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/07/24 10:36 PM
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Make it mandatory with a database so people can't hide from their responsibility and order child support at birth by default. It would solve a lot of animosity between parents.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/07/24 10:34 PM
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I see red pill men on this sub every day talking about it's a woman's fault and she should have known, well so should he. That's what equality looks like. Use your damn rights and speak up and get a test. Stop crying about fucking whores and getting whore results. Be accountable for your dicks.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/07/24 10:24 PM
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In most states a husband is the presumed father. Which he can still contest like every other man. It's not stating he IS the father and can't deny it. He can get a test and not be responsible for supporting that child. Outside of that law most women threaten divorce if a husband demands a paternity test. Context matters. Asking your pregnant emotional wife for a test is not the same as saying I want paternity tests for my future kids. Getting checked for stds is the norm, but your wife asking yo…
/r/PurplePillDebate13/07/24 10:20 PM
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In the case of married men he always has to ask for the test and deny paternity. It is assumed he is the father. Signing the certificate is him agreeing that he is the father.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/07/24 10:17 PM
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By saying use your balls and get a fucking test instead of crying that a piece of paper saying you're the father means you are the father? Cool.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/07/24 10:08 PM
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We should have automatic testing. In an ideal world there would be a DNA database that automatically identified the father and a child support order is automatically entered by default for unmarried couples.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/07/24 10:07 PM
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There's a difference between I want my future children paternity tested and you are now pregnant and I am questioning if you cheated. Exactly like there is a difference between going to get std checks before condomless sex and asking your husband 3 years later. Context matters.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/07/24 09:56 PM
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Can you show me law that says the woman is not being poisoned by her husband when he makes her coffee regardless of the contents of the coffee? Can you show me the law that says it's her duty to test the coffee if she believes the coffee is poisoned?
/r/PurplePillDebate13/07/24 09:54 PM
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So if financial status is a factor in a woman’s sexual attraction or sexual selection. Then that’s literally speaking for itself. Is not paying for sex.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/07/24 09:51 PM
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Asking for a paternity test before signing a birth certificate is more complicated than you seem to think it is. I have 4 kids, all tested, and never offended.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/07/24 09:50 PM
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The idea that sexual consent can be bought is your opinion. Let me assure that for the many women it is not for sale or ever an option. Consent is up to only the other party to give it.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/07/24 09:39 PM
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Yeah bro, you choosing to sign a birth certificate without a test is totally the same as being raped. You acknowledged the possible outcome when you took these decisions... You are saying without a doubt that you are the father. You're not saying maybe. You're not saying no. You're not flirting with it to see it's level of interest. You're saying that's my kid.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/07/24 09:37 PM
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Same logic here, if the woman fails to disclose her infidelity that makes her husband's signature on the birth certificate (obtained through deception) invalid. That logic only applies if she knows that her lover is the father. She could in good faith wrongly assume that her husband fathered the child and that's not allowing him to sign it deceptively. US law already states that the husband is the presumed father unless directly contested. It says it is the husband's duty to dispute paternity if…
/r/PurplePillDebate13/07/24 09:34 PM
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I don't believe that consent can be bought. Bonus question: Why do most of the ultra rich men choose women who charge for sex rather than those who are NOT striving for marriage? Most are married. Where are you getting that idea?
/r/PurplePillDebate13/07/24 09:25 PM
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It's your duty to get a house inspection. You are otherwise buying the property "as is". You also have house insurance for that reason.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/07/24 09:21 PM
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All they can require is child support.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/07/24 09:04 PM
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But what if your wife /gf cheats on you and begets another man's kid? Who made you sign the birth certificate? But some court will force him to send them money, meet the kid and be on cordial terms with his ex. In what universe is this fair? You are acknowledging that you are without any question the father when you sign that paper. Married men, outside of France, aren't forced to sign it either and can request a paternity test.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/07/24 09:03 PM
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I will never not believe in 50/50 for childcare and housework when you're both present in the home. I made 100% of the money and I wouldn't expect anything outside of pulling my own weight for work in the house or with the kids. Now he's working and he comes home and cooks dinner. He does 50% of the childcare and helps with whatever needs done throughout the night. It's not that difficult and I am not his mother, nanny, or maid.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/07/24 05:55 PM
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of you would have an issue if your man went to a strip club... and don't say it's different... He goes to the strip club. It's never been a problem. I was a stripper. I don't give a shit if he goes to clubs, drinks, and dances with other women. I don't care if he talks to other women. No touching. That's it. Keep your body parts to yourself. I never touched a man dancing and was never touched by a man.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/07/24 04:25 PM
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No, the question is why are you continuing to date someone that is not compatible with your lifestyle for either party. If I want to go out with the girls I am going out. If he doesn't like that then he shouldn't have been dating someone that he knows likes to go out with the their girls.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/07/24 04:16 PM
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it perfectly acceptable for a dude to say I can't go cause wife/gf says no He's a grown ass adult. He can go. He's choosing to not go and often times it's said as an excuse because he's not that into hanging out with you. The ONLY time he asks me if we have plans is because he wants me to invent some reason for him to not go. Your boundaries are about you and what you will tolerate in a relationship. They are not about preventing anyone from doing anything else. Your boundaries mean that you lea…
/r/PurplePillDebate13/07/24 04:03 PM
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"You think you're ready. You're not ready. You're ready for a few manly tears, like Grey Worm admitting he was afraid to lose Missandei. You're not ready for ugly-crying, lying in the fetal position and rocking, going to pieces, being unable to function. You're not ready for horizonless grey depression that you can't 'cheer him up' to dispel. You're not ready for crippling anxiety. You're not ready for incoherent anger at everything and nothing for no reason. You're not ready for him to be lost …
/r/PurplePillDebate10/07/24 10:53 PM
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I noticed too.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/07/24 03:34 PM
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We're not married yet, but we have one signed for it. Edit: It heavily favors me in the event of a divorce and was his idea. I never wanted to get married, but our circumstances have changed making marriage the option that makes the most sense for our family.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/07/24 02:47 PM
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He's a grifter whose wife supported his lifestyle. He was twice divorced and was only married for 4 years total.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/07/24 01:58 PM
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You never even mention that this is a description of your literal husband. Like are you this dense or just self righteous enough to think you’re the only woman in the world with a decent man? You're really asking me that because I described what attracts me to a man on a question asking what attracts me to a man? Should I be with someone l'm not attracted to or describe a lie? Do you expect me to suddenly be attracted to something else if I were single? What is your real problem here? Actually i…
/r/PurplePillDebate07/07/24 10:47 PM
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what really attracts you in a man? It was not asking for you describe your partner. Yes, it was asking what specific women are attracted to in a man and he happens to be my ideal. Idk why that bothers you, but okay. I answered what attracts me in a man and he happens to have all of them. He has many other traits that I did not list, because they are not the things that attract me.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/07/24 10:24 PM
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Thanks, but l don't need luck. We've been together for a decade now.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/07/24 09:57 PM
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If he's conventionally attractive and fit.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/07/24 09:22 PM
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I like slightly taller, but not tall. People that are huge compared to me make me feel uncomfortable. It's hard to feel attraction and discomfort at the same time. I'm Puerto Rican/white
/r/PurplePillDebate07/07/24 09:12 PM
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5'6
/r/PurplePillDebate07/07/24 08:59 PM
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Because that's the most attractive to me. Why do you care about it?
/r/PurplePillDebate07/07/24 08:09 PM
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I’ll take that as an indirect compliment, and a W You should. Curiosity though, are you yourself of black or something else? Puerto Rican/white
/r/PurplePillDebate07/07/24 06:47 PM
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It's a good look.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/07/24 06:32 PM
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It also perfectly describes my partner.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/07/24 05:03 PM
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Athletic, 5'8--5'9, conventionally attractive, straight white teeth, neatly groomed, very hygienic, educated, intelligent, emotionally stable, self aware, great social skills, protective of his family, loves kids, confident, compassionate, driven, longer dreads, tattoos, and black.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/07/24 04:36 PM
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Keep in mind, unlike the male orgasm, the female orgasm wasn't (isn't?)1 even necessary for our species survival. Starting now, no woman could ever have an orgasm again and the human race could continue. It really is purely recreational. Women can only get pregnant 72 hours a month. The male orgasm is otherwise useless and purely recreational. You can also get pregnant from pre cum, making the male orgasm recreational as well. It really is purely recreational. The contractions pull the sperm upw…
/r/PurplePillDebate07/07/24 01:54 AM
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I don't feel that way. I also think there's a lot of fucked up men with a ton of baggage and very little to offer that expect way more than they can give too. That's not realistic for either gender.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/07/24 03:34 PM
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Why is advising men to do the same thing in the same situation unconscionable? Where did I say that? Where did I say the man I described would date a promiscuous woman? I didn't.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/07/24 03:30 PM
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The only thing with a virgin woman is that you have a lack of evidence on that front, and it's also fucking dumb to take that lack of evidence and conclude absolutely she'll be some virtuous wife that isn't going to have her way left right and centre when you aren't looking. Same thing with any man or woman. Everyone started as a virgin. I also think that if you as a man are stupid enough to try and pursue a serious relationship with said woman, that given her high enthusiasm for sex in her past…
/r/PurplePillDebate02/07/24 03:11 PM
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You issue seems to be being on the receiving end of something you deem arbitrary and being judged as inferior because of it. Don't dish it out if you can't take it is what I'd say. That's exactly what I am saying, but men don't like that. Why would a virgin woman put up with any of that shit? They shouldn't.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/07/24 02:53 PM
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They weren't taught anything except to beat their kids. You can't do that now. "Oh well, we tried everything. Give them the ipad."
/r/PurplePillDebate02/07/24 12:43 AM
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Happy birthday, Hannah!!
/r/PurplePillDebate02/07/24 12:39 AM
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Sorry. I wasn't suggesting that you're in favor of it. I wouldn't be surprised if those kids get hit either. I was saying it doesn't teach kids anything but fear. The issue is a real lack of parenting. Kids need present parents. They need boundaries and models for good behavior. They probably talk to their parents the same way and their parents don't care. My kids know that would never fly for a second in my house. They're getting punished if they're disrespectful to a teacher, parent, or someon…
/r/PurplePillDebate02/07/24 12:38 AM
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There's never a good reason to hurt a child as punishment. That's child abuse. You don't need to scar your children to raise them properly.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/07/24 12:23 AM
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This is why a woman shouldn't marry a man that has ever simped, been dumped, "dumpster dived", or "has a crazy ex". Don't commit to someone else's discarded trash that begged for pussy.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/07/24 12:10 AM
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Men lead with sex If you’re a woman and the 300 men you talk to lead with sex, if the 25+ men you go on a date with lead with sex, it’s entirely on you for picking these men. You heard it here, ladies. If you date a man it's your fault, because men are men. Take accountability for them.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/07/24 08:19 PM
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Why is a small task taking up half of his time? Are you sure it's a small task? I have a newborn, w toddlers, and 9 year old. Fuck half of your time at home. That's weird as hell that you think you deserve a break from work and shouldn't have to deal with small things, but it's my job from the moment I wake up to take care of you and the kids. I'd rather be a single mother and have less laundry and less people to feed.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/07/24 01:05 AM
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If it's such a small task if shouldn't be an issue for him to do too.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/07/24 12:13 AM
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Do you not need to feed your children? Do kids not need cleaned up after in the evening? They do, so where is the argument that men don't need to do those things at home too? That's the entire point. It doesn't matter that I paid for our lives for him to follow his dreams. I never held that against him. I never held him to high expectations because I was pulling more weight at the time. You do what needs done in your family and your home.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/06/24 11:29 PM
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Not anymore and I never plan on needing to work again. I'm 26. Bought the house, put money in the bank, and put him through dental school interest free. I did that all while giving him 3 sons and taking care of them, the house, and paying 100% of the finances for 7 years while he was in school during the day and studying when he was home. I don't want to hear shit about who earns what. You're home. Do your part. They're not with a paycheck. You want to be a paycheck? Go ahead and stop complainin…
/r/PurplePillDebate30/06/24 11:25 PM
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A man is with his partner. She meets 9 out of his 10 wish list items except she wasn't a virgin when they met. She had sex with only her ex. He keeps seeing her and fucking her, but in 2 years he leaves because he finds the woman that does all that and is a virgin. Are you really going to find that acceptable say yes king don't settle?
/r/PurplePillDebate30/06/24 08:24 PM
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I agree with you here. The only thing that I would add is "ALL of your standards" That's fine, but this is not. This is not the case I have presented. The case I'm presenting is - you ARE happy because 9 out of 10 standards, requirements, preferences are being met. You're satisfied or you're with them because you don't want to be alone. If you're actually happy then that 10th standard doesn't actually exist.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/06/24 08:13 PM
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Why are they dating people long term that don't meet their standards? If you know you won't be happy then the answer is no unless the other person also wants something short term. This is no different than the starter gf or placeholder gf and no one likes that. Don't commit to anyone that doesn't meet your standards.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/06/24 08:07 PM
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It really fucks with a man’s self-esteem if he thinks he’s attractive and valued but gets rejected again and again and again. None of those women would have pursued you. Women do pursue men that they want and will do so openly and aggressively depending on their level of desire for him. It feels like you're asking why women don't pursue men they not really interested in dating.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/06/24 08:00 PM
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It's in the very first sentence. It's great to not settle for less than your standards Stop looking after you find them. It doesn't matter that Jane met a ceo. You will sabotage your own happiness and then you, not your standards, are the problem.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/06/24 07:13 PM
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I'll repost my answer since the thread was deleted. It's great to not settle for less than your standards, but once you find that person don't be stupid and keep comparing them to others out there or keep raising your standards and expectations. People can sabotage their own happiness too.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/06/24 06:54 PM
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I don't like to tell other people how to live, but in my world sexual consent is not for sale and I wouldn’t want to be with a man that thinks differently than that. I say that as a stripper.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/06/24 05:58 PM
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Because I don't want a man that paid for pussy and I don't ever have to date a man that paid for pussy. They're called preferences and deal breakers. Paying for pussy is on that list.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/06/24 05:52 PM
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He wouldn't be my partner. If you're too damn lazy to cook and take care of your kids and their needs like an equal partner you can leave.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/06/24 05:28 PM
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No, you should absolutely have them, but recognize when they have been met. Like don't get pissed when Jane meets a ceo and suddenly think that your guy that made you perfectly happy suddenly isn't enough and you deserve better.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/06/24 04:46 PM
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It's great to not settle, but once you find that person don't be stupid and keep comparing them to others out there or keep raising your standards and expectations. People can sabotage their own happiness too.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/06/24 04:41 PM
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Why don't those same guys want to date prostitutes?
/r/PurplePillDebate30/06/24 04:21 PM
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I don't want to date a guy that paid for pussy.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/06/24 04:06 PM
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I expect my partner to work full time, come home, cook dinner most nights, and then do half of the needed work with the kids and the house. Those are his responsibilities as a parent and partner. I am not with a paycheck.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/06/24 03:22 PM
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I don't care if you pay for sex. I'm not dating a guy that did it.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/06/24 12:44 AM
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Most young people lived with their parents if they weren't married. They weren't struggling to stay above the poverty line. It was the time of wild parties, dancing, and drinking.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/06/24 12:36 AM
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I've had lust at first sight.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/06/24 10:50 PM
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We no longer need each, atleast not in the way that most of us did a 100yrs ago. Through out most of recorded history, men and women came together out of necessity, and that necessity was rooted in survival. Life was extremely hard, the vast majority of humanity was living at a subsistence or poverty level and few people can do that alone. 100 year ago was the roaring 20's, a period of economic prosperity The 1920s saw the large-scale development and use of automobiles, telephones, films, radio,…
/r/PurplePillDebate29/06/24 09:56 PM
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The funniest part is that's not even what happened. He wanted casual and she didn't. She broke up with him and started dating a teammate to make him jealous, not his best friend. Guy comes to his senses and says he's not right for you, okay, let's be monogamous. No where does she say she was sleeping with the guy. He WAS seeing other women too and that gets turned into she was a whore, a cheater, and their kids need paternity tests. 😂
/r/PurplePillDebate29/06/24 06:08 PM
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An objective 9 is a supermodel.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/06/24 04:20 PM
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If you get into the 9+ girls most the time are really nice, because everyone is so nice to them. How many supermodels have you known? That's a 9. It’s the 6-8/10 girls that are kinda hot 8/10 is professional model level, not kinda hot.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/06/24 04:00 PM
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She didn't even cheat. It was a casual relationship that she ended and started seeing someone else and he was dating g other people too. These men are pissed about nothing.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/06/24 03:18 PM
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You mean people giving so much of a fuck about the marriage of someone else that the googled his back ups and then harassed them because they have no god damn lives caused issues.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/06/24 02:04 PM
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Her apology. The wife of the Los Angeles Rams player issued an apology to Joe Cox—who was Matthew's backup quarterback during their time at University of Georgia—for publicly sharing that she dated him during college to make her now-husband jealous. Sharing a photo of Joe with his now-wife Erica and their three kids, Kelly wrote on Instagram Stories June 25, "I am so sorry for the media storm that happened last week that made its way into your lives." "You have ZERO involvement in what I spoke a…
/r/PurplePillDebate29/06/24 01:59 PM
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She chose a guy to hang out with to get his attention. It doesn't mean she fucked him. That's 100% an assumption and it really doesn't matter if that's how people take it.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/06/24 04:21 AM
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Where did she say she fucked him?
/r/PurplePillDebate29/06/24 04:11 AM
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I said it's fair. When one side lies it can't be expected to be different for the other one.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/06/24 03:17 AM
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I said that.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/06/24 03:15 AM
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Unattractive men are repulsive for sex and relationships. Doesn't mean they can't accommodate a girl for free dinners. They're both fine when neither side is telling the truth about their intentions.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/06/24 03:09 AM
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No, she's not who he assumed she was based on what he knew. He assumed she wouldn't be like that because she ticked these other boxes. These women aren't lying. Nothing was said.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/06/24 03:05 AM
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Doesn't matter if that's not what she wants out of it. See an escort and save yourself time.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/06/24 02:41 AM
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Why should she love you if you're not giving her something she wants from the relationship? Same reasoning, but guys act shocked that women are humans too.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/06/24 02:39 AM
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Is it? Men want to hear that she loves everything about you, but she doesn't find you sexually attractive and wants a relationship without sex? That's her loving you honestly for who you are as a person. How many men are taking that relationship?
/r/PurplePillDebate29/06/24 02:12 AM
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"In the way that you want" isn't honestly.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/06/24 02:03 AM
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So it's like chasing hoes and single moms but also claiming they're repulsive? That's not different. Or saying they want a nice family oriented woman for a family but chase the bpd girl with a history of cheating? Different like that?
/r/PurplePillDebate29/06/24 01:51 AM
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It's not different. Men do the same thing. She was perfect until he found out that she fucked around in college. He thought he was in love with an idea, not the person, and it was never the person. It was who he wanted her be in his head.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/06/24 01:34 AM
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You're pissed off that men aren't loved unconditionally despite not loving their partners in the same way? Seems like a strange thing to be pissed about.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/06/24 01:25 AM
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I see a lot more men putting up with that shit than the reverse, that’s for sure. Bitter, ugly, fat wives with laundry lists of honey dos You said love them, not sticks around because they don't want to be single.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/06/24 01:21 AM
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The best you can hope for is that your physical and personality characteristics align to an archetype she finds attractive. Are you pretending that men are different? You'll still love a woman that gains 150lbs, becomes argumentative, and stops having sex? 🙄 Oh no, men will never love you either.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/06/24 01:15 AM
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Had his wife been a virgin, or not a low value woman: dropping her panties for his best friend, the Stafford's would never have to experience this trauma and spot light. All of a sudden, the daughters actual father is in question, her loyalty is in question, her marriage is in question, and her future is in question. This exact situation was covered in a book released last year. Where is her husband questioning any of that? He wanted a casual relationship with her. He got that. Why are all of yo…
/r/PurplePillDebate29/06/24 12:47 AM
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No
/r/PurplePillDebate28/06/24 09:40 AM
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Clearly it works if 40% of relationship are formed online.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/06/24 09:07 PM
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I have 0 regrets. I never touched a man or got naked.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/06/24 08:55 PM
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Dancing on a stage. I was a stripper.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/06/24 02:00 PM
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She's telling them upfront that she is legally married to another man in what she hopes is a lifelong commitment. There's nothing unspoken about that. She's saying l want and I am with him. Those men are aware and want to deny that fact.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/06/24 01:03 PM
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I cut them off completely. The only time it's appropriate to try to flirt with me is when I am on stage dancing. I didn't ever speak to them outside of the club. I've been in a relationship for 10 years now and l'm 26. Every man in my life knows that. You're disrespecting me if you drop hints or make it known that you're interested in me. I don't keep disrespectful people around or people that want a different relationship than the one that we have as friends.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/06/24 12:54 PM
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That doesn't mean she will find one subjectively hot.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/06/24 10:08 PM
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oh i seen their exes as one of these is my cousin and her friends. You have seen all of her exs and dudes she slept with? there are plenty of desperate men that will commit to women that wouldn't be able to walk a long distance. Those men are not 7s. That's well above average considering 8 is a literal model tier male.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/06/24 08:52 PM
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Go ask to see their exs and come back and tell me they only dated 7s and above. I can guarantee you that they did not unless they were 7's themselves. Did you forget what sub you were on? Men fuck down, but they don't commit to less good looking women.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/06/24 08:47 PM
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I agree with you, but some men don't care. To each their own.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/06/24 08:42 PM
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I am not "women". I am me. You're physically attractive or not.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/06/24 08:40 PM
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She finds his money attractive for sure. Some women want money above all. That is attractive to them, but it's not physical/sexual attraction.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/06/24 08:40 PM
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No, you're attractive to me or you're not.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/06/24 08:33 PM
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Attraction is not static, but rather fluid and relative, and is directly proportionate to your options/abundance. Ugly is ugly even without options.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/06/24 08:23 PM
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Nobody ever assumes my boyfriend is the father of our kids. He's Nigerian and I am Puerto Rican/white. My kids all look like olive skinned green eyed Puerto Ricans. The genetics of my grandfather can't be overpowered.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/06/24 07:59 PM
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Now I know men who don’t want children do exist. (And I’m not even going to get in how many there are vs women.) But I don’t see the benefit for childfree men to settle down with a single woman. Again, if you’re in high demand, companionship isn’t particularly rare. High in demand people have no reason to settle down unless it's what they want. That is the reason and the only reason. That goes for women too. What's in it for either party otherwise? Nothing.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/06/24 10:24 PM
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He was right there when these women announced that the reason they weren't interested was because they were nice men. These bitches were all over the men until they displayed the first sign of niceness, because that's how real life works for OP.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/06/24 02:29 PM
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I believe you can control how many people like you as a friend but do to the innate existsence of compare and contrast, and competition in dating I don't think you control who likes you to the degree that not having a woman interested is always your fault. You're wrong. There are autistic people that find it impossible to make friends in life. They're not terrible or unlikable. People avoid them. That's not their fault. Dating is the same. It's not necessarily their fault, but there is something…
/r/PurplePillDebate16/06/24 11:43 PM
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I have never seen it used like that before and it's a bit weird. It's a guy trying to escape the friendzone because he never wanted to be friends. That's called wishful thinking.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/06/24 08:21 PM
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No one calls that the fuck zone. The fuck zone is your friend with benefits wanting a relationship and you not wanting it. You are relegated to the fuck zone. Only fucking as the friend zone is only friends.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/06/24 08:13 PM
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There's no fuck zone with no fucking. You are describing the friend zone. It's in the dictionary because it became so popular. https://www.merriam-webster.com/dictionary/friend%20zone a state of friendship in which one's romantic or sexual interest in someone is not reciprocated
/r/PurplePillDebate16/06/24 08:01 PM
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The fuck zone is wanting more than sex and not being to get commitment or a relationship from them. The friend zone is wanting more than friendship and being unable to get it. I think you have them backwards.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/06/24 07:57 PM
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This feels like a common courtesy issue that applies to everyone.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/06/24 02:24 AM
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That's covered under it.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/06/24 02:12 AM
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Do you have any rules in your relationship? What are those rules? We have 2 rules. #1 Don't talk negatively about each other to others. The only exception is to his parents. #2 Neither of can make decisions unilaterally for our family. We compromise on an agreement or nothing gets done on that topic.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/06/24 02:07 AM
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afford to let outdated norms of age dictate our future. Younger women bring vitality and dedication, essential for navigating modern challenges and securing our cultural legacy. It's time to prioritize practicality over sentimentality and embrace a strategy that guarantees the continuity of our values through responsible parenting and stable families. Responsible parenting, stable families, and dedication require men that stay with their wives. You have defeated your own argument.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/06/24 01:21 PM
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We have the same problem.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/06/24 12:44 AM
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That's the best way to not do them.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/06/24 12:41 AM
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Tried one. It was gross. I am not cut out for alcohol.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/06/24 12:40 AM
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Pizza is good.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/06/24 12:37 AM
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It was too gross to do more than a sip.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/06/24 12:36 AM
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might be the weed 😂
/r/PurplePillDebate15/06/24 12:32 AM
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I have tried a sip of several types of alcohol. I hated every one. It's not for me.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/06/24 12:31 AM
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Has anyone else never done drugs, smoked, or been drunk?
/r/PurplePillDebate15/06/24 12:24 AM
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I hate every single time a man asks me out or says he has feelings and wants more for the simple fact that l haven't shown interest. I wasn't flirting with him. To me that says that you don't care about my obvious lack of interest and do it anyway. Why would that interest me? I end the friendship and move on.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/06/24 02:09 PM
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It is a different person. He wants opinions on it. It's weird that he compares a girl wanting to dance with friends and not on guys to a guy actively doing things for another woman instead of his partner.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/06/24 08:09 PM
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The real issue is that he's a homebody and she's not. He's doesn't seem super worried about it according to his responses. He trusts her.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/06/24 07:58 PM
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but that's not comparing apples to oranges unless she is spending time at clubs with men. The original post he wants to discuss. My girlfriend is saying that when she can she wants to go to a nightclub to dance and twerk. Not on people but just in general.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/06/24 06:18 PM
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Should the guy object or not? Why "should" he object? It's a not a problem for her to go out. Date people that don't want to go to clubs.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/06/24 04:49 PM
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No, it's perfectly legal in the majority of US states. You need parental permission or a judge to sign off on it.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/06/24 12:49 PM
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Kids come first.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/06/24 03:02 AM
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I'm bitter for saying I wouldn't fuck anyone not hot and wouldn't settle for bad sex? How does that work?
/r/PurplePillDebate11/06/24 04:39 AM
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No, there's none of that. He's home with the kids too. Sorry, but hot guys make good partners too.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/06/24 04:35 AM
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Culture
/r/PurplePillDebate11/06/24 03:08 AM
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26 and picking 26-28
/r/PurplePillDebate11/06/24 03:06 AM
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Birth control exists for those that don't want to get pregnant. Is that news to you? And those guys deserve to see your comment before paying for your child's college tuition!!! They don't need to worry about my comments. I wouldn't fuck them either way. I get $400/week in child support and my kids have college funds. I'm considered a single mom. We're together, living together too, but not married. I would get over 3k a month if we ever split. Rage about men getting screwed for supporting their…
/r/PurplePillDebate11/06/24 02:21 AM
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I would take that over a sexless relationship with a man that isn't doing it for me.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/06/24 01:48 AM
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If you prefer to be alone then that's what you prefer. I can't fuck a man I don't personally find hot and I wouldn't tolerate pointless sex. Either way sex wouldn't be happening. Why would I choose either?
/r/PurplePillDebate11/06/24 01:47 AM
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A hot man that's great in bed. There's no compromising for me.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/06/24 01:13 AM
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All 4 of them without an issue. We were teen parents with the first so it made sense. I had no issue with it then. We have a 2 month old at home and he loves getting those results because the labs determine paternity by percentage. He likes to determine which child "is more like him" based on whatever the 99.9+% comes out at and he call that one "his kid". You can get a test done after the 2nd month of pregnancy with a simple blood sample from the mother. There's no medical risk to mother or bab…
/r/PurplePillDebate09/06/24 02:57 PM
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My kids have all been tested. I have 0 issues with paternity tests. Get one if it's important to you. There's an important caveat to this situation. You're a fucking bitch if you wait until she's pregnant or that baby is born to bring up something that important and it 100% looks like an accusation of cheating at that point. That's unacceptable and you have no right to cry about the consquences of your actions from waiting until that point, even if it means her leaving with your kid. Waiting to …
/r/PurplePillDebate09/06/24 02:42 PM
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Warm approaching and social circles are better than dating apps.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/06/24 04:56 PM
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but knowing the other kind is out there is just dreadful Choosing to continue to date and engage with men that aren't treating you well is a choice too.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/06/24 04:24 PM
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When men say it, I assume they mean choosing not to have sex when upset or angry. No, that's valid. Sex is something you need to want and being angry is definitely not sexy. Using sex as a weapon like withholding it to get things or using it as a reward. You want to fuck them or you don't. It is not a reward or punishment.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/06/24 04:04 PM
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Using sex as a weapon. Blaming your lack of control on your emotions on being a woman. Disguising your mental illness as being a woman. Being extremely catty or jealous. "I'm just a girl." Not like other girls women.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/06/24 03:06 PM
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The question was would I be willing to have/or had kids for society. No, never. I had my kids because I love and wanted them.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/06/24 10:41 AM
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They said women are witholding affection from men and causing mental health issues. Those men should pay a sex worker. They won't be "denied affection".
/r/PurplePillDebate07/06/24 08:27 PM
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I have 4 children. So, women of the west, would you be willing to make a sacrifice like having a kid to save humanity / civilization / your country, or would you rather pursue hedonistic pleasure while the world burns? Will I fuck a man, go through pregnancy, deliver, and devote the next 18+ years possibly raising kids alone for the future of society? Hell no, but you can go adopt some foster kids if you're really worried about humanity.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/06/24 05:04 PM
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Points 1, 3, and 4 are the same reasons that women shouldn't date men that struggled with women.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/06/24 04:39 AM
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I would choose how they think.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/06/24 05:48 PM
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There are stay at home parents that do none of that except for watching their kids. There are people that work extremely demanding jobs too. I don't think you can say which is generally harder when neither side has an average that you can really compare.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/05/24 03:40 PM
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She definitely looked well cared for happy surveying her kingdom. Those horns are something else.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/05/24 01:05 AM
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RIP little goat
/r/PurplePillDebate31/05/24 12:58 AM
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Mine looks at me and asks if we're busy that weekend. I know that's my clue to make something up.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/05/24 09:45 PM
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That's no different than what a lot of men say too.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/05/24 09:44 PM
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Where is the line between wanting something and acting entitled to something? When you're pissed that you can't have it and act like that's unfair.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/05/24 08:19 PM
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My partner and I have been together for a decade and have 4 kids together. He only uses that excuse if he's not feeling it. We keep a calendar on our phones for planned activities and neither of us asks to go out and do our own thing. Obviously we need to plan it with the other because of the kids, but that's it.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/05/24 07:38 PM
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I prefer to hang out with my family, female friends, and then couples.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/05/24 02:26 PM
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So any man complaining at work about being distracted or less friendly because they're hungry, tired, or upset is saying they can't hold down a job? That's your claim?
/r/PurplePillDebate28/05/24 03:37 PM
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Where did she say that she couldn't do her job? Men bitch about being hungry messing them up too, or being tired, or being horny, or being upset. Are those men saying that they can't do their job too?
/r/PurplePillDebate28/05/24 03:28 PM
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Those men are not saying that they cant perform their full time job while doing weight loss regimen Where are women saying that?
/r/PurplePillDebate28/05/24 02:56 PM
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lol, if women are incapable of performing in full time job without stuffing their face with muffins then they deserve to be paid less. There are equal numbers of obese men. Your statement makes no sense. Sad state of women, cant even regulate their own weight without drugs You can add this to your list of male problems too. No lazy just pathetic This one can go on that list too.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/05/24 01:35 PM
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Men wear shoe lifts, grow out beards, get hair systems, take steroids, stuff their underwear, and they wear makeup too. People like to look the best that's possible.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/05/24 02:45 PM
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I don't care what someone else does, but I think men whining about it are gross and delusional thinking that older women or ugly women are the only ones that find it weird. The only guys whining about this topic are the ones that can't get the women they want.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/05/24 08:02 PM
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You were trying to stunt on men on this sub, saying your son has so many gfs, lolol I was stating a fact that you were offended by. It's not that people aren't teaching their kids how to flirt. It's a lack of social skills. No one is taught how to flirt. And you didn't teach him anything? We taught him how to make friends. Men that can't "talk to women" have social issues, not dating issues.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/05/24 11:54 PM
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Mothers will help their daughters do makeup all the time. That isn't seen as a big deal, but it's quite a large part of seduction for women. Most mothers are very much against make up for their teen daughters unless it's for a dance or something. They're learning from tutorials online. So where on earth did your 9 year old pick up how to flirt, be seductive, or be sexually attractive? Wtf? Why the fuck do you think 9 year olds are judging others as sexually attractive? They like him because he's…
/r/PurplePillDebate24/05/24 11:45 PM
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It's weird thinking that it's normal for a parent to teach you to flirt, be seductive, or sexually attractive to another person. That is not the role of any parent.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/05/24 11:31 PM
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/r/PurplePillDebate24/05/24 10:34 PM
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Yes, be healthy. Exercise and a healthy diet are important. Be social and learn to navigate friendships. That's what parents need to teach their kids. Don't be afraid to fail or to try new things. I have kids and sadly my 9 year old has had more gfs than most guys on this sub.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/05/24 09:44 PM
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Parents aren't there to teach you how to date.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/05/24 09:35 PM
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I am attracted to a man because he's hot and I like his personality. That's the only reason I am attracted to him. I still wouldn't date a man with no direction or plan to get himself ahead in life.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/05/24 09:32 PM
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but slapping backs? I said ass. Slapping anyone on the ass is assault and harassment. It is not normal behavior, but try it out on your boss and see.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/05/24 08:30 PM
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If your partner cheats is the person they cheated with responsible as well? Absolutely not. They're a terrible person if they know it's cheating, but they're in no way responsible for your partner.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/05/24 08:25 PM
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slapping backs and butts That's considered sexual assault and harassment, not normal behavior.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/05/24 08:18 PM
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She's going to desire man 1 more, but she might get with man 2 for money.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/05/24 11:53 PM
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They're treated differently because you need legal contracts. You could potentially get that with a partner too saying any resulting pregnancy would be considered a sperm donation. That is what it would and should require. It would also prevent these same men from changing their minds and trying to force themselves into the lives of the mother and child after the fact. They're not the father. You can't have it both ways.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/05/24 03:45 PM
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Here's another. https://www.cnn.com/2014/01/23/justice/kansas-sperm-donation/index.html
/r/PurplePillDebate19/05/24 03:40 PM
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Through a legally signed contract that outlines the agreement. Sperm donors can be required to pay support without that agreement too. https://www.seattletimes.com/nation-world/sperm-donor-liable-for-child-support-judge-rules/
/r/PurplePillDebate19/05/24 03:34 PM
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Involve legally binding contracts.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/05/24 03:28 PM
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I stated I will not be debating the evidence issue in the post Legal protections require legally admissible evidence of a contract. Saying you would do something is never a legally binding contract.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/05/24 03:10 PM
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I might agree to this is there's a notarized statement signed by both parties beforehand, but otherwise no. You had sex and pregnancy can be a result. Your body isn't pregnant. Your body and mind aren't going through it. You have no say after the fact.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/05/24 02:58 PM
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My father tried to murder my unborn son. I don't think my brothers cared that he paid for their college.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/05/24 11:35 PM
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I could see being a callous piece of shit to a partner but to your father, who raised you, is crazy. Bad parents exist. All 3 of my siblings and myself disowned our parents and refused to speak to our father even as he died of cancer. Your kids don't owe you shit.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/05/24 11:26 PM
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Do you think that's pretty average for a lifetime?
/r/PurplePillDebate16/05/24 08:54 PM
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HOW?? How have you been in that many failed relationships?
/r/PurplePillDebate16/05/24 08:18 PM
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There's no reason or need to shame them. That's awful behavior. They wouldn't be hurting anyone with their ai "partners". Don't date them and leave it at that.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/05/24 08:17 PM
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I am finished shopping for father's day. The boys picked out their own gifts for him and I picked out a few things for him too. I love little holidays!
/r/PurplePillDebate16/05/24 07:51 PM
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Same
/r/PurplePillDebate16/05/24 07:46 PM
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🤣
/r/PurplePillDebate16/05/24 07:39 PM
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How many long term relationships have you had? Long term defined as over 1 year.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/05/24 07:35 PM
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Wherever I am to my grandparents in Puerto Rico.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/05/24 06:30 PM
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This was one of his last comments. You have time. I didn’t have my first girlfriend until I was 32. And now I sleep with almost every girl I meet up with on dating apps.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/05/24 12:19 AM
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/r/PurplePillDebate15/05/24 12:17 AM
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<image> If you look at his profile he got interest from girls online. He was getting numbers immediately. Then he admits he never asked anyone out.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/05/24 12:16 AM
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He's had plastic surgery and a hair transplant. He decided to shave it afterwards and grow a beard.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/05/24 12:09 AM
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His parents are from Nigeria. The food is delicious.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/05/24 12:06 AM
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That looks so good. Jollof rice is one of my favorite foods.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/05/24 11:21 PM
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Also great that I had a reason to buy a ton of candy 😂
/r/PurplePillDebate14/05/24 11:14 PM
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It's crazy. I have so much to learn. I've been sticking to my diet so I can avoid insulin. I exercised this morning and then I was really tired. I didn't know exercise would lower my blood sugar. It makes total sense, but it never crossed my mind once. My mind has been follow the diet and everything will handle itself, but apparently it's not that simple.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/05/24 10:58 PM
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Type 1
/r/PurplePillDebate14/05/24 10:53 PM
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I'm okay. It felt really awful, but I have been doing pretty good the last few days. I only needed to use insulin once since Friday. I've been following the diet very strictly to try to limit the need for it. you’ve experienced a lot of major life events in the past year or so, Moved, found out were pregnant, was hospitalized with covid, had the baby, and now diabetes. It'll be okay. I just have to adjust to how this blood sugar stuff works. I had low blood sugar all of my life before this diagn…
/r/PurplePillDebate14/05/24 10:52 PM
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Thanks. I didn't know it could drop dangerously low that quickly if you don't eat or drink. The doctor told me to drink orange juice or milk and to eat immediately. I guess I waited too long taking care of the baby. I got so dizzy and nauseated. I was shaking. I yelled to my parents for help.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/05/24 10:44 PM
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There's a lot of different sweeteners that you can use to cook that aren't as bad as sugar. Sugar free candy is still sweet. We ordered a ton of stuff off of Amazon to try and a lot of it is pretty good.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/05/24 10:41 PM
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The doctor said my fever swollen glands were probably a virus I had, but my blood tests showed l have diabetes and that lowers your immune system AND caused me to lose weight.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/05/24 10:29 PM
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Yes.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/05/24 10:27 PM
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Over my cold dead body!!! They have sugar free chocolate. It was the first thing I checked for shopping. 😂
/r/PurplePillDebate14/05/24 10:26 PM
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I fell asleep and skipped lunch. I thought it was fine. My phone alarm woke me up and said my blood sugar was only 70 and I needed to eat something. I was making food and then got caught up taking care of the baby and it happened.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/05/24 10:24 PM
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This diabetes thing isn't as easy as l had hoped. I almost passed out from low blood sugar. 😒 my blood sugar needs to pick a side and stay in its lane!!
/r/PurplePillDebate14/05/24 10:07 PM
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Not having straight white teeth would be an instant no.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/05/24 02:38 PM
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That's what we call my grandfather. 😂
/r/PurplePillDebate14/05/24 02:32 PM
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Your kids don't owe you any type of relationship either.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/05/24 12:45 AM
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That sounds really nice. I hope it's a nice day for you both.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/05/24 12:12 AM
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Did you have a nice day with your mom?
/r/PurplePillDebate13/05/24 12:00 AM
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Happy Mother's day, PPD!!
/r/PurplePillDebate12/05/24 11:53 PM
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The one time a bee shows up. I wish him well.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/05/24 08:42 PM
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he is allergic to bees and forgot his epipen. Deal breaker. I can't accept a man that doesn't take his health seriously.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/05/24 08:41 PM
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It's always the guys that want an age gap relationship and they blame "undesirable older women being jealous" as the reason for their failures.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/05/24 03:04 PM
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Sorry, but 16 year old me regularly had to deal with the same bullshit from guys in their 20s and older. There's too many gross ass grown men out there creeping on kids. The majority of girls have experienced it. Now y'all want to be like "adult legal women", but we weren't that, and men were saying the same shit. “men only target these women for aforementioned naivety and vulnerability, it has absolutely zero to do with this coincidentally being the time when they are at peak female attractiven…
/r/PurplePillDebate10/05/24 02:50 PM
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Yes
/r/PurplePillDebate09/05/24 06:48 PM
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No
/r/PurplePillDebate09/05/24 05:31 PM
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Thank you. I am trying to remain positive. At least it's not cancer. They've done a lot to make it easier to deal with too. I don't have to stick my finger multiple times a day. I have this needle patch in the back of my arm that l can read anytime I want to check it. It can even send alarms and tell me that my blood sugar is too low or that I need insulin. I have an insulin pen that I turn the knob to get the right dose and don't have to worry about preparing needles. They gave me an easy to us…
/r/PurplePillDebate09/05/24 05:21 PM
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Great job!
/r/PurplePillDebate09/05/24 05:13 PM
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Probably his teeth or his eyebrows. I am so picky. I need everything to line up to find him hot.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/05/24 05:10 PM
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The worst part about having a twin is needing to call them from your doctor so they can get tested for whatever you have now. I have diabetes.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/05/24 04:57 PM
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I wouldn't add that qualification. If they hate any group of women it would be a problem. That's not the same question as do you hate a specific woman.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/05/24 03:28 PM
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I did test for that. It was negative. It put me in the hospital last year.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/05/24 01:52 AM
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Wouldn't l have something else? Some kind of symptom? I have nothing!!!
/r/PurplePillDebate08/05/24 01:00 AM
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Has anyone else had fevers for 2+ weeks and no other symptoms?
/r/PurplePillDebate08/05/24 12:04 AM
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He cheated in the past, but he's lying in the present. Run.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/05/24 11:47 PM
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Good for them.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/05/24 11:45 PM
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Have 4!!
/r/PurplePillDebate07/05/24 10:34 PM
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Do you hate or look down on women? That would be my question.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/05/24 08:35 PM
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He loves animals.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/05/24 08:00 PM
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He's expects you to work until and if you get married. After that he expects you to cook, clean, and raise the kids.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/05/24 05:31 PM
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Obviously.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/05/24 05:29 PM
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Nope, 0 physical attraction.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/05/24 05:26 PM
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Q4A: Would you ever consider a relationship with a person that you personally considered ugly if they were nice or had money? Not a little fat, but they can work on that unattractive, but ugly.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/05/24 05:20 PM
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I took my 4 year old to spend his allowance and he got 3 goldfish and a tank for them to put in his bedroom.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/05/24 05:01 PM
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How often are you having sex now?
/r/PurplePillDebate02/05/24 09:53 PM
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Not enough for who? Most couples have sex twice a week.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/05/24 09:38 PM
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I have 4 kids. Tell me more about my sexless future. Please read these words. Children go to sleep. People usually stop having sex because one partner resents the other. We aren't have sex at the moment because our baby is only a month old as of today, but we had and will continue to have sex damn near every day.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/05/24 09:36 PM
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I don't think you realize that sex ends with children. What???
/r/PurplePillDebate02/05/24 09:31 PM
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Yes. He can push me in a wheelchair and enjoy his birthday.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/05/24 08:38 PM
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Baby Emmy is one month old today!! ❤
/r/PurplePillDebate02/05/24 08:31 PM
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Why doesn't the wife get the husband to help? They usually do. Many men will say they're babysitting their own kids. Why doesn't the extended family take on those tasks regardless? That's not their job. They got their own lives. Husbands and wives need to step up equally with the childcare and providing for the home, whether it's inside or out.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/05/24 08:09 PM
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I would like more information on option B. What are these govt enforced plans to force men to stay, parent, support, and nurture their children?
/r/PurplePillDebate29/04/24 05:16 PM
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We have a problem with parenting today. People mostly stopped beating their kids, but it's like so many can't figure out how to parent, or how to get their kids to respect them without scaring them with a different form of abuse. You don't need to let your kids control the house to not abuse them.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/04/24 03:15 PM
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Also, as a teacher, people are gentle parenting wrong children should still have boundaries and accountability. I have seen this a lot with my friends. Gentle parenting isn't not punishing your child. Gentle parenting is not disrespecting, yelling, or taking your frustration out on them when kids do stupid stuff.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/04/24 02:28 PM
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Yes
/r/PurplePillDebate29/04/24 12:04 AM
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My boyfriend had a vasectomy a few weeks ago. I wouldn't take a drug, but I would have gotten surgery if he hadn't. We're done having kids.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/04/24 03:21 PM
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but you seem like you wouldn't think twice about it either lol. I have 4 children. He's an amazing father and husband. It's not hard to define. You owe your children to raise them and to participate in their upbringing as much as humanly possible. That means spending time with them, nurturing them, providing care, and putting them above your desires. based on her individual happiness/expectations It hurts your kids too. Would you really rather have had a mom and dad in the same home with no affe…
/r/PurplePillDebate24/04/24 01:08 AM
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Having kids with the understanding that you will be doing most of the child-rearing (say averaging 70%). Your husband is fine to contribute more domestically or financially if you want to work less or if you guys need more money, but he is upfront about not wanting to do 50/50, particularly when the kids are young and not self-sufficient. He is fine not having kids if you aren't up for this. When he is home I expect him to be 100% present and involved 50/50 for housework and the kids. He can pay…
/r/PurplePillDebate24/04/24 12:35 AM
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The boys should love it.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/04/24 10:59 PM
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No. My son wants to see the newer one. I think it's called into the spiderverse?
/r/PurplePillDebate23/04/24 10:55 PM
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We're watching Spider-Man
/r/PurplePillDebate23/04/24 10:43 PM
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Omg. He got me my favorite crackers for a snack for movie night!!! Chicken in a biskit!! I love this man!
/r/PurplePillDebate23/04/24 10:38 PM
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My partner would hate me if I had treated him that way and I would hate myself for it too. This isn't a relationship. This is a business partner that you're fucking. There are no feelings in business. I want a relationship and equal partner in my home. Our relationship is built on equal effort and energy. It's insane to me that you wouldn't consider 8 years of working hard in university as contributing nothing and they should have to make up for that by doing more at home or working harder later…
/r/PurplePillDebate23/04/24 02:46 PM
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None would be acceptable. -1 is fine with not being a present/active parent. -2 would never be a present partner and expects his partner to make up for that to support him -3 is desperate, has no standards, and no experience
/r/PurplePillDebate23/04/24 02:28 PM
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How does that work when I travel for my job? Does she just bank the chores that I have to make up later? Like when I get home from the red eye, I immediately get cracking to catch up on the chores I owe her? Wait until you have kids. You will also have to make up for those childcare hours you'll be slacking on for those 2 days a week that she's home alone with them. Think about how equal your relationship will be and how much she's going to love and appreciate what you provide to your relationsh…
/r/PurplePillDebate23/04/24 02:19 PM
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You're wasting your breath. He believes women shouldn't be allowed to make decisions. He's also a racist that said I should off myself because my kids are mixed and he would have tried to kill me too. Save yourself the effort. He also said my dad wouldn't have been abusive if my mother were better. 🙄
/r/PurplePillDebate22/04/24 05:26 PM
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I've been with the same guy for a decade and he got his first job this year. He was in school for our entire relationship. Men can be loved without money.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/04/24 05:18 PM
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Human matchmakers typically offered a monogamous service. You were forced to commit to a match and pair off. But all modern dating apps effectively default to a polygyn and polyandry You couldn't keep seeing that matchmaker. No one enforced monogamy. The outside world still existed.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/04/24 04:39 PM
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He always looks like he's been plotting as a mad scientist. I don't get it, but I love him.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/04/24 12:10 AM
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Best boyfriend ever. He took the boys out to have some daddy time over dinner and he came home with fries. My little guy had the most evil grin. "We binged you a pwesent, mommy!"
/r/PurplePillDebate22/04/24 12:05 AM
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He brought me home chili cheese fries without me asking. That's love.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/04/24 11:38 PM
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I hook up regularly From here??
/r/PurplePillDebate21/04/24 11:21 PM
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Well done to mummy getting to 36 weeks 2 days shy of it. That was my longest. My body hates late pregnancy and does everything possible to evict them. My partner was amazing during my pregnancies. You want it? I will get it. You don't want that? I don't know why I bought this damn thing. It really helps that his mom is a therapist. He was raised properly.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/04/24 11:09 PM
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Yeah no. You do not care if your partner is telling you something multiple times and then acting as if they're for saying it's a problem. For her words to get through there needs to be a degree of insistence and preparation to have a fight, and her actions need to support her words: you can't keep allowing him to get his way after these chats. Or she could go be with a man that respects her when she speaks and takes her seriously. These are all choices.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/04/24 11:00 PM
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The littlest one is 2 weeks old. She's doing fantastic. She's a little on the smaller side as expected, but she had no problems at all. We almost made it to 36 weeks. My boys are all tanks capable of taking out an entire house in one pass through it. 😂 Please to anybody with newborns don't see them when you know you are sick even if it's Christmas. I think people outside of immediate family should stay away until vaccines are had. That stuff is nothing to play around with and there are so many o…
/r/PurplePillDebate21/04/24 10:57 PM
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I would fall apart. All of my kids were early, but the last 2 were given steroids to speed lung development along. My 2nd child was 32 weeks at birth and he had the tube. He was the earliest. Every procedure and piece of equipment was pure hell and I knew nothing was wrong with him. He was only early. I can't imagine going through that knowing your baby is sick.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/04/24 10:47 PM
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Thankfully none of my kids have ever been that sick. No hospitals needed other than a little time in the NICU. I can't imagine the terror. "It's a minor infection. We're keeping them to be safe." THAT'S MY BABY!! 😭 Have you been allowed to stay with them the entire time?
/r/PurplePillDebate21/04/24 10:38 PM
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Poor little one. I hope they recover quickly.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/04/24 10:29 PM
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My father forced us to go to one for his church. It doesn't work and it's creepy af.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/04/24 10:10 PM
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I would get the tattoo. I wouldn't be in a relationship where there's regular arguments. You are not compatible.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/04/24 10:08 PM
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He's older, by less than a full year. He might be fitter at the moment because he didn't push a baby out 2 weeks ago.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/04/24 09:56 PM
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When is the wedding?
/r/PurplePillDebate21/04/24 09:53 PM
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So when I bring it up, my partner just shrugs it off like it's no big deal. He doesn't understand why I'm making such a fuss over something so small. And honestly, it's frustrating. Can't he see that this is what I need to feel satisfied He doesn't care.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/04/24 09:25 PM
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This is an issue with your guy, not men. Stop having sex if he doesn't care about your sexual needs.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/04/24 08:42 PM
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you should have never gotten pregnant or had sex with someone who was not ready to be a father. I got pregnant and clearly he was ready to be a father, because he has been an amazing dad beginning the moment we found out about our first. A paycheck is not a father. Might I kindly suggest that you learn to read? When I worked my kids were sleeping. I was home with them all day. I raised my kids. My home has always been organized. My kids have always been taken care of 24/7 by their mother and fat…
/r/PurplePillDebate21/04/24 02:44 PM
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Yeah okay. I have stayed home with my kids all day while their dad was in school since they were born. I stripped a few nights a week to support everyone. My children see how hard their father worked to go from a teen parent in high school to a successful dentist. He's not my child. I wouldn't want a man that thinks like that either way. We've been together for a decade and we have a happy relationship with healthy happy children. I couldn't ask for more. I need a partner. I don't need money or …
/r/PurplePillDebate21/04/24 02:04 PM
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He just started working for the first time this fall. I supported him for 8 years and our children while I put him through dental school on a loan from my savings interest free. He now makes what I made that entire time. Is there a problem?
/r/PurplePillDebate21/04/24 01:25 PM
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We don't combine finances. It's my house. He is 100% expected to come home after work and do 50% of the house chores and childcare.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/04/24 12:48 PM
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Men that want to lead or control relationships. Men that think finances replace being a partner. Men that don't parent or provide half of the effort at home.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/04/24 11:58 AM
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Isn't it just coincidental that for some reason all these "self harmers" who cut their arms predominantly white women in the west? This is from your own study A total of 20 574 individuals (16–64 years) presented with self-harm; ethnicity data were available for 75%. Rates of self-harm were highest in young Black females (16–34 years) in all three cities. Risk of self-harm in young South Asian people varied between cities. Black and minority ethnic groups were less likely to receive a psychiatri…
/r/PurplePillDebate19/04/24 09:29 PM
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That's my cousin's name. It's short for Isabella.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/04/24 09:05 PM
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So it's "women" but "no man"? that's concerning. where are the posts on this sub of men doing that? You're making fun of girls committing suicide. You're the one making fun of girls with self harm scars. You're the one that made a whole as post about attention seeking because someone talked about female mental health. That would be you. Now where are the female versions of these posts?
/r/PurplePillDebate19/04/24 08:55 PM
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"The south shall rise again!!" Alright Curt, you keep thinking that.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/04/24 08:48 PM
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men's issues are usually fucking obvious because everyone and the media reports on it and men don't collectively engage in a government level coverup where every single one of us pretends it isn't an issue But they still do it for attention despite that. there's so much unanimous gaslighting coming out of the women's side that some of my noticing needs to be discussed with others to make sure I'm not going crazy. Where are the women on this sub mocking and posting stories of men committing suici…
/r/PurplePillDebate19/04/24 08:44 PM
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It's weird as hell to see guys mocking any suicide, because y'all be quiet as hell, or even defend them,, when a depressed man goes off and kills a bunch of innocent people, including kids. Tell me they didn't want attention. How many men live stream their killings or suicides? Let's pretend this is a woman thing though, right?
/r/PurplePillDebate19/04/24 08:26 PM
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I'm dead bro💀tf is this: Inside the 'death party' of a woman, 45, on Canada's radical assisted suicide program: Sipping tequila with velvet slippers on to Rod Stewart's Forever Young | Daily Mail Online This is why I have no sympathy for guys crying about a lack of love in their lives. You mock a terminally ill woman's last moments because she wanted to die happy surrounded by her loved ones.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/04/24 08:11 PM
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Sooo many confederate flag t shirt wearing men That's unfortunate.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/04/24 08:03 PM
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I've seen this, but it's always been a minority of break ups. I've also seen it with the genders reversed.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/04/24 03:11 PM
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But your relationship will never be what it could've been if you'd won her over the proper way. You can't win someone over. That's not how wanting someone works.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/04/24 01:48 PM
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/r/PurplePillDebate18/04/24 07:49 PM
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Yes and yes.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/04/24 07:42 PM
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You should rewatch it. "You haven't been on a 3rd date. I don't know if he's playing me by then." Something like that. "Why should I expect that man to stick around for me?" "What's the name of your boyfriend again?" What do those phrases say to you? "What's the bare minimum of a woman?" "A surprise lunch is the least I can do", for what? She lists out all of his traditional behaviors. Paying, picking her up, and all of that. Yeah, she absolutely does imply that.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/04/24 07:10 PM
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Calling women hoes for having sex is also toxic unless you plan on giving your spouse a dead bedroom. Pick me women are toxic. They're all opinions, but what you label as pick me and toxic are both shitting on people that aren't like them. You don't need to attack people to disagree with an idea. Look at that video. She implies that the non traditional girl is probably getting repeatedly played because she doesn't follow the traditional behavior. She also implies that women that aren't tradition…
/r/PurplePillDebate18/04/24 06:55 PM
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"You can't expect traditional treatment from a partner without providing that in return." What are other ways l can say that? "I don't know why these used up hoes act shocked that a man doesn't want them and wants me instead. Princess treatment for princesses. 💅" Why do you need to call her a hoe? Why do you assume that a man is looking for something traditional? Why are you a princess for being a virgin that plans on popping out kids and relying on him financially? That's a pick me. Pick me gir…
/r/PurplePillDebate18/04/24 06:40 PM
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Most men and women get married at some point. 25% of 40 year olds have never married and that's a record high. I've this guy who's wife is spending so much time with her "unmarried female friend", that the man is alone at his house most of the time That's not because she has a single friend. That's because the wife likes spending time with her friend more than her husband.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/04/24 06:25 PM
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It's the l'm not like other girls part that makes her a pick me. You're asking how can a man be critical of other men without looking like a white knight or a simp. It's not hard. If you expect a certain level of treatment from your partner you should be providing it in return regardless of gender. Women can't expect men to treat them like trad without being trad. You don't need to try to make other women look like they're less of a woman, being played, or bitches to acknowledge it.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/04/24 06:20 PM
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That's true.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/04/24 06:04 PM
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Look at the edited OP. Totally different now.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/04/24 05:58 PM
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Look at how much he changed the OP. 😂
/r/PurplePillDebate18/04/24 05:57 PM
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I just saw his edited OP. He changed a ton.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/04/24 05:53 PM
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He said they all think they have the perfect boyfriend, but they all magically joined these groups with no suspicion, and ALL of them found out they were being played with multiple other women involved. That shit doesn't happen. They wouldn't be on there if they actually felt that way.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/04/24 05:53 PM
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No, he said it's that in a response.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/04/24 05:50 PM
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Maybe post a screenshot that is about a girl telling you she found out in these groups that her perfect bf was cheating on her?
/r/PurplePillDebate18/04/24 05:47 PM
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Okay, but women that think they have the perfect homebody boyfriend aren't joining those groups. Men on here love to miss the obvious point.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/04/24 05:45 PM
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100%
/r/PurplePillDebate18/04/24 05:30 PM
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He clarified. They're not dating the same man. They're all apparently dating separate cheaters and that somehow equals them sharing the same boyfriend.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/04/24 05:24 PM
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Yes, because OP said their "boyfriends". I didn't originally imply a relationship. He did that with his OP. Are you saying boyfriend doesn't imply an established relationship?
/r/PurplePillDebate18/04/24 05:23 PM
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This is the story you told. They went on a group "Are we dating the same guy? ", it was crazy they were sharing the same boyfriend with 5 other women! Not one or two or three, but 5 can you believe this!? Now they weren't sharing the same boyfriend and all of your friends date cheaters who were in fact all different men.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/04/24 05:13 PM
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Why are you bringing up something that has nothing to do with what l said? You're aware that it's called dating and not is my committed boyfriend cheating on me, right?
/r/PurplePillDebate18/04/24 05:11 PM
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The men they are dating aren't part of this group. Those women looked up their guy, after one lookedup her man and found this, other became curious and found the same thing! They went on a group "Are we dating the same guy? ", it was crazy they were sharing the same boyfriend with 5 other women! Not one or two or three, but 5 can you believe this!? I need you to pick a coherent story for this larp that you want to debate. Were all 5 women dating the same guy as in your OP or did these female fri…
/r/PurplePillDebate18/04/24 04:27 PM
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These people are not attractive if they have to lie to get something from the other person.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/04/24 04:22 PM
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They're not on those sites to begin with because they don't suspect him of cheating. This isn't some standard behavior. That's paranoid shit. The women on those sites are like the guys on this sub. AMALT, you can't trust them, check his phone, and a million other things. Do you think women get signed up automatically or something?
/r/PurplePillDebate18/04/24 04:20 PM
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Don't forget the pictures. Isn't he perfect?
/r/PurplePillDebate18/04/24 04:16 PM
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I received a manicure from a 2 year old. I highly recommend it if you're looking to try out a new painting half of fingertip look. The Bluey stickers were the final touch.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/04/24 04:13 PM
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You realize this is based off of real actual are we dating the same man groups that exist for this reason. Those groups are for women that suspect their man is cheating. They're not the same women as the ones that think they have a homebody who is perfect and gives off no shady behavior.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/04/24 04:08 PM
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These women wouldn't join that group either if they really believed that about their man. This post has more red flags than China.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/04/24 03:56 PM
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All 5 women believed they had the perfect loyal man and somehow they all ended up in a group, at the same time, to see if they're dating the same guy? They're all your friends and have either never met or have never discussed their relationship around each other? In what world does this happen?
/r/PurplePillDebate18/04/24 03:46 PM
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I'm leaving, blocking him, and calling the police the moment he crossed those boundaries. Stalkers are mentally ill.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/04/24 01:56 PM
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I'm going to take a guess and say it's this part. expects mutual understanding and inclusion in every decision She's not submissive and allowing you to control the decisions aka "taking the lead".
/r/PurplePillDebate18/04/24 01:47 PM
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You’re southern, right? To the bone. I love a good potato salad.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/04/24 06:20 PM
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Food tastes better when it's the only think you can possibly think of eating or wanting and the bath definitely gets better when you can soak all of your aching swollen body parts. The sex really doesn't change.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/04/24 06:11 PM
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but I've never had a meal or bath better than sex... You have obviously never been pregnant.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/04/24 06:08 PM
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Why is potato salad so good??
/r/PurplePillDebate17/04/24 06:00 PM
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