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w/ the Sub-reddit style on, you can filter the posts you want/don't want to see....
/r/TheRedPill10/09/13 03:25 PM
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Also, "“But what’s the [evolutionary] disadvantage of large testes to invested fathers?”. Raises more questions than it answers.
/r/TheRedPill10/09/13 03:24 PM
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This post from two weeks ago includes a number of demonstrations on how to improve your speech: Ding Dong exercise[3] - Lower vocal range Using the diaphragm[4] - Learn how to speak with your diaphragm
/r/seduction20/06/13 04:51 PM
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You know that analogy Bruce Lee gives about being water, and flowing? Regardless of generalizations about Asian girls, if you meet someone who lacks confidence, be the confidence. Flow into the void - fill it. There's probably an equally apt sexual metaphor in there, as well.
/r/TheRedPill19/06/13 12:54 AM
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Thank-you.
/r/seduction19/06/13 12:52 AM
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Neither. Just ask normally. Not annoyed, not upset. Just asking.
/r/TheRedPill19/06/13 12:52 AM
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Next morning I see her, I say good morning etc, and expecting her to say something about the previous day, but she completely ignores it like she didn't do anything wrong. This was your moment to call her out directly and honestly. "What happened to you showing up yesterday?"
/r/TheRedPill18/06/13 09:28 PM
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I think in this particular case it's the whole lack of tone over text. He might say "whatever" very softly, or inflect it in such a way that it sounds like, "no worries", or "it's cool". Notice he pairs it with a body-language gesture of approval-giving (not seeking): he puts his hand on their shoulder.
/r/seduction18/06/13 05:59 PM
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Looking at your smart-phone constantly when there are people in front of you whose attention you could be commanding and engaging is a great way to spend time instead of investing it.
/r/seduction18/06/13 05:57 PM
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Watch how he speaks clearly (not the same as articulately, he does repeat himself, or pause half-way through a sentence to redirect how he wants to say something, he gives himself permission to do so)...he doesn't conform to their (the hosts) expectations about how he should be or act (just a flippant comedian). He does not completely censor himself or his thoughts: confidence. And, on a very practical level, he projects his voice, and he speaks slowly.
/r/seduction18/06/13 05:51 PM
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They're saying (bluntly, in their own way) that you don't need (or want) the gratitude, thanks, or appreciation that comes from helping someone. That's the "say whatever. Or ignore it". You didn't help the person for their gratitude, thanks, or appreciation. You did so because you were capable of doing so, and chose to. That's it.
/r/seduction18/06/13 05:48 PM
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Be firm in speaking the truth. When you start back-sliding on your own principles to accommodate instead of confront people, you're laying the ground work to let yourself get shanked in the future: you're enabling that behavior by tolerating it. Calling out BS garners more respect than dislike in the long run.
/r/TheRedPill17/06/13 06:42 PM
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Don't take this as trite, but make him work-out, as a first step. Don't try the cerebral approach...just be a bro and help get him lifting and such.
/r/TheRedPill17/06/13 06:39 PM
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Awesome respond. Kudos and glad you enjoyed the extra food :D
/r/TheRedPill17/06/13 06:37 PM
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damnit! Well, I'm working on the body. And I have a sword of omens. My grandfather was a Gandhi look alike though so there's not much I can do about the hair :D
/r/TheRedPill17/06/13 06:29 PM
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Best take-away from the linked articles is this statement though: Women who are interested in you wont confuse you.
/r/TheRedPill14/06/13 04:57 PM
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There's this 'wheel of pain' Conan wears about his neck in the first Barbarian movie: I have a replica I wear.
/r/TheRedPill14/06/13 04:51 PM
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You wrote it better than I - it gave me insight into the way (some) women think. The better to avoid them!
/r/TheRedPill13/06/13 07:47 PM
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Develop your own values, live them, and model yourself as the kind of parent you'd ideally have wanted for yourself.
/r/TheRedPill13/06/13 03:57 PM
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Encountering BS is a great way to ground and test the truth of your own values.
/r/TheRedPill13/06/13 03:48 PM
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Also in the minority - don't be so quick to dismiss the extraordinary value of reading what goes in the head of this person- I'm glad she put to words the solipsist mirror-world her mind inhabits - incredibly enlightening.
/r/TheRedPill13/06/13 03:45 PM
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Agreed. A society of men, a world of men, will always be better than a world of beta-boys.
/r/TheRedPill11/06/13 02:19 AM
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IMHO it shouldn't take all of this to come to the understanding (you just reached, tiredness aside)...but I've been reading your posts and am glad you've made many interesting and insightful comments here.
/r/TheRedPill11/06/13 01:55 AM
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Alpha is the natural state. Beta is conditioned. The terms are reductionist, but the concepts they describe encompass a great deal of depth - all men can aspire to be and realize their alpha, but that does not mean that they all have exactly the same personalities, likes, dislikes, nuances, etc. Complication...is often conflated with complexity. It is not necessarily so, nor do I believe people should strive to be "complicated".
/r/TheRedPill11/06/13 01:43 AM
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What a headache.
/r/TheRedPill11/06/13 01:37 AM
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Posture ones incredibly helpful; thank you very much for sharing these.
/r/seduction07/06/13 08:49 PM
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Yes! There are tons of free TM meetups that'll help you develop those skills.
/r/seduction05/06/13 08:34 PM
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Approved
/r/seduction03/06/13 03:46 PM
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The priority they give to any particular preference on the list at a certain point shifts over time and can change depending on context - the weighted value of each attribute isn't constant, or static. Interesting post but worrying about "what women want" shouldn't be occupying your time - as nicething said just mentally include the parenthetical (attractive and) before each qualifier to get the truth of it. And attractiveness is universal - being a confident, interesting, self-developed man.
/r/TheRedPill30/05/13 04:11 PM
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Alice doesn't follow Magua for all his being a stone-cold warrior - she throws herself off a cliff. What does Magua do? Moves on. But then Magua's immediately dealt with by Chingachgook and one of his sons. I don't disagree w/ Magua's views, though. Women can make men fight stupidly for no reason - __ - (although in this case there was already fighting going on, anyway).
/r/TheRedPill30/05/13 04:01 PM
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OP in this post (apparently fr Finland) mentions something similar concerning how differently Finnish females react to touch, in contrast to his being with a Spanish girl who was more receptive (partly b/c of culture).
/r/TheRedPill27/05/13 03:08 PM
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Honestly communicating honest intentions, indeed, make honest action much easier - that's the mantra I've been practicing. Your post and this one on getting over Kino trouble have been very helpful for overcoming some mental blocks I have about being comfortable again with touch.
/r/seduction26/05/13 09:45 PM
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When I say half-assed resistance, I mean she would tell me to stop in a no-means-yes sort of way (seriously - I am not a rapist, she was loving every bit of it) but I could tell from her body language and even her tone that she really did want it. For the sake of being not rapey (and perhaps being AFC) I did mention that I would stop if I genuinely believed she wanted me to, but also said that it was clear that she was loving it. This was incredibly helpful to read and clears up a lot of confusi…
/r/seduction26/05/13 09:06 PM
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be aggressive, be sexual, be a man. If nothing happens, keep being that way - with other women.
/r/seduction24/05/13 05:02 PM
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Go for a mix of NGAF and friend-zoning her. Worst outcome is you now have a potential wing-woman and over-come some of the AA vibe the subtext of your initial exchange suggests. Best out-come, well, you know.
/r/seduction23/05/13 01:38 AM
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Don't feel bad. It's not a missed opportunity, just a missed sign. Remind yourself of it next time she's sharing your company.
/r/seduction23/05/13 01:33 AM
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Odd. It says [removed] when I try to expand it.
/r/seduction23/05/13 01:29 AM
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Grats for sharing. A lot of guys are so hung up in their head-space about touching because we're constantly being screamed at by society that it's all bad, wrong, creepy, evil, etc. If a girl's sharing her space with you, do what people recommend - let your hands brush naturally, guide her by the small of her back to the bar, wherever - if there's no interest, you'll see it right away - she'll shy away and immediately creates space between the two of you. If there's no resistance, THAT is usuall…
/r/seduction23/05/13 01:21 AM
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She left off with "check out [her company's] website"? I'd say 'no'. (Why'd you delete your original post?)
/r/seduction23/05/13 01:17 AM
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Two words: assume attraction. Once you're let in (and remain in) their space and received an IOI or 2, ignore the doubt rattling around in your head-space and flip the script. It should never be, "Does she want to <whatever> with/to/at me", but "Do I want to <whatever> at/with/to her?" If Yes, then sarge on man.
/r/seduction23/05/13 01:11 AM
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Strippers, in a weird way, can game far better than most. To generalize a bit, the usual story about their backgrounds, issues, and ambitions means that most overtures on their part = they want some AFC to pay for their brunch and martinis.
/r/seduction23/05/13 12:52 AM
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You neglected to mention what information was on the card, what her body language was projecting, etc. Try to get a better read next time (if there is a next time).
/r/seduction23/05/13 12:51 AM
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You fixate too much because you don't have options, so you'll fall in love with the first person you see...
/r/seduction22/05/13 04:28 PM
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Keep things in the present, doesn't project into the future. Good advice.
/r/seduction22/05/13 03:50 PM
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Tone is lost in text, and you can't kino - so I can't play up my strengths from the other side of a computer screen; reduced to a set of stats, I have horrible reply rates. On-line dating for even a dude with his things in order makes it seem like a sniper-machine gun method works best - send accurate messages to everyone you want messages from. This is why it's more worth the effort to actually GO OUT in groups and meet other people.
/r/seduction22/05/13 03:05 PM
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Generalizing helps to an extent, but this post might give the wrong impression. You're right about the varying standards of beauty (see Rubenesque body types) over time, and I do see the hipstersexual look everywhere here in NYC, but that doesn't appeal to every girl (only a certain sub-sect that use the look as a cue). What does? A healthy body will always be attractive, and in general a fit, healthy body has looked the same over the centuries.
/r/TheRedPill20/05/13 08:32 PM
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These are not guys who want to look like the mutant space gorillas we have for bodybuilders these days. These are guys who want to look within 15 per cent of Patrick Bateman.
/r/TheRedPill20/05/13 08:29 PM
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This was a nice attempt, but the analogy wasn't terribly helpful. Women are women, not glaciers -- purple prose has its place, but not here.
/r/TheRedPill20/05/13 08:26 PM
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Good rebuttal for the 'if you worry about anything, you're insecure' knee-jerk response.
/r/TheRedPill20/05/13 08:23 PM
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Well put - meeting and mating other girls leaves your "platonic" friend with one less branch to reach for, even if she doesn't consciously realize it.
/r/TheRedPill20/05/13 08:18 PM
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God-dam, reading that was like some horrible form of torture...
/r/TheRedPill20/05/13 07:57 PM
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Make it 8, and make it super obvious - points for humor, creating a little space for pondering about Luke, and you're not lost to shorter attention spans.
/r/seduction19/05/13 10:45 PM
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Insightful quote (linked to here, off of Google Books) Which suggests that stress, including the mental stress of uncertainty, is an ingredient in attachment or love and that perhaps even manifestations of hatred (its polar opposite) somehow enhance love. A simpler (without being reductive) obvious take-away is that you lose your ability to appreciate any emotion or sensation without at least some exposure to a contrasting emotion or sensation. Or, as Ishmael said: "The more so, I say, because t…
/r/seduction19/05/13 10:37 PM
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If the problem is chronic unemployment and the unhealthy outlet for energy it breeds in the form of violence, say THAT. Language affects reality for people who can't read between the lines and see subtext, and she knows exactly what's she intimating when she says "Men are becoming too masculine" instead of what I wrote above.
/r/TheRedPill16/05/13 04:34 PM
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I'm not sure why they don't, actually. Maybe there are unintended consequences that science hasn't yet figured out how to negate. Maybe it feels like "cheating" (I am just purely speculating, not saying that's how women think). Maybe many women are happy to age out of attractiveness for a variety of reasons - here was a thread linked to a few days ago that covered just that. Without passing judgement, note that many of the responses reflected less of a concern about maintaining attractiveness af…
/r/TheRedPill16/05/13 02:12 PM
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I appreciate what you've submitted so far, so thanks for sharing and keep posting.
/r/TheRedPill15/05/13 06:38 PM
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Attractive/attracted to me sexually - has low number of past partners Not mutually exclusive things. Insist on the former, not the latter, otherwise have fun chasing unicorns.
/r/TheRedPill15/05/13 06:33 PM
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Hormonal decline, in incredibly rudimentary terms - the chemicals inside of a person that make it easier for them to stay fit/in shape/attractive hit a drop-off point (even accounting for genetics and good habits) at different ages and rates for the sexes. For most men it can be a slow ebb or even plateau with hard work. For many women, the drop-off is steeper.
/r/TheRedPill15/05/13 06:21 PM
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This is why looking for the male role models in their life (or the absence thereof), and whether they seek attention, appreciation, or approval (not necessarily the same things) can be helpful to understanding what they're looking for in a mate.
/r/TheRedPill15/05/13 03:05 AM
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Read the posting rules and intro to the forum in the sidebar again. The entire point of this sub-reddit is not some grand, over-arching philosophy to guide your life and lead you to eternal happiness. It primarily deals with examining and encouraging the re-framing and re-emergence of the masculinity of straight men as that relates to sexual interactions with women. In any case you already got the reassurance you seemed to be seeking from anthropophobe's second response (which common sense could…
/r/TheRedPill15/05/13 02:59 AM
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On what I found useful: In facing the foe, ammunition is the most precious thing. He who shoots uselessly, merely to reassure himself, is a man without guts. There is a lot to be gleaned from that.
/r/TheRedPill14/05/13 09:34 PM
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This. Language shapes reality, but to what extent is up to you.
/r/TheRedPill14/05/13 09:13 PM
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That's legitimate, and it's understandable why you are feeling that way. But you can either coach yourself to build yourself up so you don't need that from other people, or follow your societal conditioning and pine away for it from someone else - thus leashing yourself to a person that looks like they'll give you emotional satisfaction. Which do you choose?
/r/TheRedPill14/05/13 09:06 PM
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What does the term 'shadow' mean in the context of the article? EDIT: since I didn't know, and for benefit of anyone else wondering, "The Shadow Cabinet is a feature of the Westminster system of government. It comprises a senior group of opposition spokespeople who, under the leadership of the Leader of the Opposition, form an alternative cabinet to that of the government, and whose members shadow or mark each individual member of the Cabinet. It is the Shadow Cabinet's responsibility to critici…
/r/TheRedPill14/05/13 08:57 PM
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Why is any woman worth it? Why is any man worth befriending? Why is human being worth knowing? You're losing the game when you lose the abundance mentality and convince yourself to hate everyone for their nature.
/r/TheRedPill14/05/13 08:54 PM
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Do you not see a problem with seeking fulfillment and completion from someone else, period, outside of yourself? Pook et al, "Date yourself, make yourself happy, look to women to enhance, not validate/complete/fill the void of your life." Otherwise, to get the sort of psychological satisfaction you want, you have to pursue it. To get anything you want, you have to prove yourself worthy of it, to earn and then take it -- no one will love you simply because you wanted to be loved.
/r/TheRedPill14/05/13 08:45 PM
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Ah-ha - was just linking to the same. Great minds then. Comprehensive answer, hopefully this will raise more visibility on these problems (in Reddit, anyway.)
/r/TheRedPill14/05/13 08:43 PM
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The question to ask yourself is whether you believe mass media entertainment likes that shapes your reality or mirrors it. Either way, the reality it affects may only be your own.
/r/TheRedPill14/05/13 03:23 AM
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Except in the case of geographically isolated indigenous populations living exactly as they did centuries ago, and with no access to a modern diet, this makes sense but is hardly revolutionary thinking. Yes, take away the constraining imperative to spend all day hunting or gathering your food, and with a calorie surfeit the brain now has time to do other useful things, like build advanced civilizations...(and then promptly vegetate into decadence, and now see the Western Man's rediscovery of the…
/r/TheRedPill14/05/13 03:10 AM
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Once you start to improve your state you become outcome dependent on keeping that alive... Definitely a danger if you've learned to yolk your self-esteem to validation from women, but I would hope TRP's sidestep that sort of mental pitfall. I like that I'm seeing a shift in terminology and focus away from strict methodology and towards mindset.
/r/TheRedPill13/05/13 08:51 PM
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Heartening to read something that genuine...
/r/TheRedPill13/05/13 08:47 PM
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You know what they say about text and tone. Up-voted when I realized.
/r/TheRedPill13/05/13 08:34 PM
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This can't be emphasized enough. The point is not to hate-fuck all women. You can be friends if the friendship is equal. Too many Beta orbisters hamster themselves into White Knighthood idiocy believing that it is, when it is clearly not. But it does not mean you can not have the rare wing-woman peer.
/r/TheRedPill13/05/13 07:13 PM
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What is this? Fucking Yu-Gi-Oh? Pokemon? It's the little mind that needs to paint other people and themselves into neat little boxes. Alpha/Beta/Smegma, those should be jumping-off points for understanding broad characterizations of behavior, not strictly defined academic definitions of Who-Is-a-What. FFS.
/r/TheRedPill13/05/13 07:08 PM
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Alpha is mastery of the self. Your statement otherwise reads as implying as, 'I can only be an Alpha in the context of my relationship, subservience to/domination of other people. I there-fore find it easier to be an Alpha when I am not threatened by the presence of others.'
/r/TheRedPill13/05/13 07:05 PM
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Great story but you're projecting Western hamster values, obviously. The whole point of the article is that this an example of a society with a different set of gendered norms that (apparently) works for them.
/r/TheRedPill13/05/13 04:53 PM
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From an earlier article (linked to near the end of the above), "How Young Women Promote The Hookup culture": "Women who feel guilty building anything meaningful with a male. They are more consciously working toward a model of “new femininity” constructed for them by modern feminism, and somewhere along the line they’ve been getting the message that they cannot get there with a man or by adhering in any way to more traditional models of femininity. The movement that claimed to be all about offeri…
/r/TheRedPill13/05/13 04:41 PM
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Fair enough, good point.
/r/TheRedPill13/05/13 04:22 PM
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I debate the 'true to their nature' line; It's part of their nature, but is that behavior the whole of their nature in its entirety? I'd argue for the nature vs nurture (in favor of the latter) model in saying she behaves this way because society has rewarded it. EDIT: Actually, never-mind, I was reading generalization where they may not have been any: 'true to her nature' may very well be the truth of it.
/r/TheRedPill13/05/13 04:10 PM
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Actually, this is a okay reason: there's a difference between getting an artificial insemination for genetic/medical/legit reasons and just demanding to fuck someone else. That says nothing about whether he should passively let her steam-roll him on that sort of decision, however. Or, you know..they could adopt.
/r/TheRedPill13/05/13 04:04 PM
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if you meet your Beta on the road, bury him.
/r/TheRedPill13/05/13 03:59 PM
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Okay, better follow-up, I think I followed your line of reasoning - for some people the investment of efforts vs inaction has no opportunity cost trade off skewed towards the latter mindset, and that triggers a downwards domino spiral in other who observe it (absent societal intervention through education, empowerment, etc.) - but only for the weak willed and ignorant. There's presumption of sex being the end-goal in a horse-before-the-cart way, to that argument; I would counter that getting eno…
/r/TheRedPill12/05/13 10:14 PM
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If only in a slight way, this is the small step towards a TRP becoming a shitty circle-jerk oblivion of memes and reaction threads...NO.
/r/TheRedPill12/05/13 10:11 PM
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Post on seduction if you haven't already...I thought that was what it was for... I mean I can't invite her to a drink if I know she has a bf (and she knows that I know). Or can I? I can't invite her to a drink Or can I? Or I can. FTFY.
/r/TheRedPill12/05/13 10:05 PM
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Excellent answer, but point of inquiry for clarification: isn't the TOTC essentially, "everyone shits in the yard if no one specifically owns [assigns value to] it?" - I'm not seeing how that concept ties into the rest of your answer (which was great).
/r/TheRedPill12/05/13 09:43 PM
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On one side...this is funny (and sad) - but kind of heartening. I mean, at least there's no hamstering - she just flat out said, hey I want lots of sex (pre-qualifying with a I've-had-a-horrible-relationship, but still). One the other ....why does this matter? What's the relevancy to TRP sub-reddit (yeah, she's got a trumped sense of how good she looks, and is seeking validation on the 'net, how is this an epiphany?) When the fuck did this place become Hot-or-Not?
/r/TheRedPill12/05/13 09:32 PM
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Relevant: Advocates, Truthseekers, and World-Creation (fr The Rawness) You basically have to remind yourself, if I understand your post correctly, not to fall into the trap of being an unrealistic cooperator: A third type of player is the unrealistic cooperator. This type will keep cooperating, no matter how many times the competitor, or free rider, takes advantage, for whatever reason (e.g. strong moral values, the belief that he can change the competitor, masochistic tendencies, low intelligen…
/r/TheRedPill12/05/13 09:24 PM
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The real heart of TRP is about being true to yourself, This! not just hating on women like this subreddit seems to think. Not this. There was a thread not more than a week back where the OP complained his new RP knowledge was causing him to hate women - I chimed in with wiser, longer-subscribed fellows to argue that the point of RP is not to make you hate women, or any-body - but to lead you an understanding of why they behave the way they do. As I said there, it's like hating a fish for being a…
/r/TheRedPill12/05/13 09:03 PM
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More and more I'm seeing that many problems can be examined both apart from and in addition to the context brought to them by other fields of study through the red pill prism. Terms like Alpha and Beta provide easily digest-able handles to categorize and label behaviors under for neophytes like myself, and as I've read and learned, I find I'm now better served by treating them as more nebulous than static and strictly defined. That said - you said it yourself: a "misguided perception of masculin…
/r/TheRedPill12/05/13 08:42 PM
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Read the rest of the comments in this and other threads, man!
/r/TheRedPill12/05/13 08:35 PM
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For clarity, /u/weezbo's comment here demonstrates he did learn the problem - just belatedly; still, better late than never: Source: Worshiped my wife of sixteen years in much the same way. She lost her love for me a year ago and having her on a pedestal is her primary given reason for doing so. But she didn't tell me she was feeling that way until last month and moved out last week.
/r/TheRedPill12/05/13 08:24 PM
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I don't see it that way. Having an "edge" competitively is at best a short-sighted motive. If everyone acted this way society would be for the better. In that context, it seems insecure to hope that more people don't turn on to this way of thinking.
/r/TheRedPill12/05/13 08:17 PM
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His stuff dates back to the 2001 and before, but still reads as fresh and relevant as ever. Concrete examples of how to deal with the rampant FOMO mentality would have been helpful (beyond command attention), but this really is something I wish my 10-years-younger self had.
/r/TheRedPill12/05/13 12:27 AM
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Where the analogy fails for me is that in our society there are not necessarily spectators - "the women watching the men encounter tigers"- of our failures. Unless you're moaning to every girl you meet about how the last 3 didn't like you, or you've got such an aura of self-hatred/apathy/despondency around you that anyone can tell, it's not something the next girl you meet would judge you on. To quote the story, But still, these men can only fight off so many tigers before they end up a mangled …
/r/TheRedPill11/05/13 11:37 PM
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Be first and foremost honourable to yourself. Honor as a verb means to show a high respect for those you deem to be honest, fair, and who act with integrity. I question even whether always honoring other men is necessarily wise - there are many men who will take advantage of that. It is not something I extend to others unconditionally...the people I honor have earned that regard by dint of their actions, character and moral behavior.
/r/TheRedPill11/05/13 04:22 PM
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Excellent advice. I would also add: instead of trying to redpill/alpha front in clubs (and then start resenting who you attract), go to meetup.com events or the like where you can baseline your beta self and spike your alpha side occasionally, letting it peek through.
/r/TheRedPill11/05/13 01:22 PM
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but without actually talking about the issues you're not really teaching them anything about the how and why. I've tried just that tack in my last relationship. Didn't go over well - denial and over-sensitivity everywhere. And I never overly criticized or attacked character. I'd usually demonstrate by using role-reversal scenarios or hypothetical examples, then draw comparisons to real world behavior...then I'd get back-pedaling or "That's not the same/that's not what I meant/said" excuses.
/r/TheRedPill10/05/13 09:05 PM
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Doesn't mean you can't find them or teach that behavior in those willing to reform. In the absence of that though, yeah I can see how one might be disgusted after a while.
/r/TheRedPill10/05/13 08:16 PM
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I look at it like hating fish for being fishes or birds for being birds...only from my POV it's less a natural inclination/instinct than simply learned behavior from a flawed culture. And, as other posters have commented, not all girls are like this. A thread a few days old actually linked to two female red-pill mentality bloggers. Proof the Winged Unicorn exists, I guess.
/r/TheRedPill10/05/13 08:14 PM
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Hey XD! "Another hard lesson learned: never put someone on a pedestal. It will only make them look DOWN ON YOU."
/r/TheRedPill10/05/13 08:12 PM
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But if the guy is willing to deal with it (⌐□_□) ( •_•)>⌐□-□ ｏ(•_•)ᕤ
/r/TheRedPill10/05/13 07:46 PM
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Marriage or engagement is a morally-neutral decision. It's when you lower your self-worth and make what may have been a good or right decision with another person into a poor choice instead with someone who is a distant third or sixth place - you make the decision to for the wrong reason.
/r/TheRedPill10/05/13 04:47 PM
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This is the key to happiness, quite apart from anything to do with seduction/the PUA lifestyle/or getting sex. Detach yourself from outcomes, experience the present for better or worse - that is more than just happiness, that is contentment. I've read that the Buddhist analogue is the cultivation of an awareness that you can control everything about yourself. Usually you start with your breathing. Then you become aware of and learn how to control your heart-rate. Then Your "instinctual" reaction…
/r/seduction10/05/13 04:30 AM
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Anecdotes like this helped me realized that Alpha behavior is not about being perfect (or that is, anyone -else's- idea of what perfect is) all the time, right all the time, scoring every last hoop or having all your physical, mental, or verbal swings be metaphorical home-runs out of the park. It's about having enough pride and self-confidence to own your likes, your dislikes, your interests and your values un-apologetically, or even your mistakes or failures borne of honest effort. (note: does …
/r/seduction10/05/13 04:25 AM
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This is also very true, despite my earlier comment. Fiction is just that (but maybe it's also because of a story/character archetype is so often repeated, becoming so pervasive, that it becomes reality...)
/r/TheRedPill10/05/13 03:37 AM
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I noticed even going back to the early 90's growing up all the Dad's were completely Beta. Not like an Alpha that behaves generously/compassionately when the situation dictates, but just full-on, door-mat, screamed-at by the Wife, used by the kids, clueless, klutzy, BETAS. The only exception? Al Bundy, I think.. also I love that Barney is the alpha'est fucking bro and is played by NPH, a gay man (nothing wrong with that - just that it realy helps you appreciate the irony of what shmucks the othe…
/r/TheRedPill10/05/13 03:33 AM
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That's some powerful motivation..to not be a beta.
/r/TheRedPill10/05/13 03:29 AM
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Most spottest-on answer. There are those women, who, raised in a 1st World Western Culture, will want/gravitate towards/orbit around/be attracted to an Alpha that they foolishly hope will develop permanent beta tendencies through the power of this woman's uniquely special personality...or their magic vag.
/r/TheRedPill10/05/13 03:18 AM
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The amount of reasonableness in this subreddit continues to give me hope. (I would clarify that "betaness" is not something you look past, because alpha-ness can not comprise the whole of any man's entire personality - rather, it's a question of how little beta-ness is too little, and how much alpha-ness is too much) From the same site linked to in another comment: http://marriedmansexlife.com/2012/11/five-steps-forward-nuked-for-one-step-back/
/r/TheRedPill10/05/13 03:00 AM
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Incredible advice in this thread. If your Mom and Dad get along, why ruin that OP? That's their dynamic, they settled into it, and it works for them. If it doesn't, that's their problem, not yours. Being Alpha isn't about dominating others. It's about mastering yourself. Want to challenge the rule of the house? Rebel? Man up and get your own place. Or don't complain.
/r/TheRedPill09/05/13 09:24 PM
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Uplifting to know. Thanks.
/r/TheRedPill09/05/13 08:42 PM
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Only if you cede your personality to hers. Aware and self-empowered individuals know how to compromise without changing at their core. The subtext of the Onion article actually suggests that the fictional musician-turned-home-body likes being that way.
/r/TheRedPill09/05/13 08:40 PM
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IMHO, use it as a test of your self-confidence / ability NTGAF. Negative/Failure: you have allowed yourself to become overly-attached to some ideal beyond what you could realistically expect out of this arrangement (NSA sex) Positive/Success: maybe she is, maybe she isn't. But she's still coming to you anyway, you're both mutually satisfied. Where it gets complicated - you decide you want her to be exclusive to you, but you still want to be with others. Doesn't work that way.
/r/TheRedPill09/05/13 08:22 PM
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