Dristang Archive

Upvotes	Title	Category	Author	Subreddit	Date (UTC)

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13	Anyone in Sweden actually has success with women from cold approach? Stockholm is good for cold approaches. I've met a few guys who've gotten success in other places like Gothenburg and Malmö.	/r/seduction	11/08/26 07:58 PM
3	Is cold approach in this day and age pretty much dead? Why or why not? It's always been niche, and most guys either don't approach at all or don't stick with it long enough for it to matter. Public communities naturally die out when there's no sustained commitment keeping them alive. The private routes, coaching and bootcamps, run into four figures plus time and travel, which filters out most people pretty quickly.	/r/seduction	31/07/26 10:47 PM
3	Is cold approach in this day and age pretty much dead? Why or why not? The public ones available to everyone are mostly gone or have dropped off significantly. But like you said, if you know the right people or pay for coaching, you'll find your way into the good ones. Can't speak for everyone, but that's been my experience at least.	/r/seduction	31/07/26 08:40 PM
6	When I look at these dating coaches I see typical white or black guys A few good YouTube channels to start with: Improve Your Voice, Brett Maverick, Vinh Giang, and Voice Confidence with Elisa James. If you want something more structured, Roger Love's The Perfect Voice is a well-known coaching programme from one of the top vocal coaches in the US. He also has free content on his site and YouTube if you want to get a feel for his approach first.	/r/seduction	31/07/26 06:44 AM
8	When I look at these dating coaches I see typical white or black guys The soft voice isn't a dealbreaker, but if you do want to address it, it's very fixable. Practicing accent placement and shifting into chest resonance builds more depth and projection. A few months of consistent work, self-study or with a coach, will sort it.	/r/seduction	31/07/26 04:32 AM
1	Guys who don’t care about rejection what is your mindset? Personally speaking, rejection feels like an "Oh well". There's nothing tied or connected to it like feelings or self worth. Sometimes when people react harshly to rejection, I'd be standing there looking very confused as I can't wrap my head around the idea of taking rejection personally. Also, I'm not trying to get people to like me. It's more about finding someone compatible.	/r/seduction	30/07/26 03:39 PM
0	Picked up & hooked up with a woman sitting behind me at restaurant. If the socializing is that bad, what you'll need is a dating coach & more approaches with people out in public.	/r/seduction	17/07/26 04:57 PM
3	No bs answer - how can I become a player? That numbers game aka cold approach method certainly isn't for everyone. If you fear rejection or if your ego gets shit on, then yeah it's certainly Not something you should do. Aside from that, the initial user gave solid advice.	/r/seduction	13/07/26 02:13 AM
1	32 years old and I feel like I’ll never be able fathom how people date casually Actually if you've got the finances, a dating coach might be what you're looking for. I'd recommend that instead of therapy like how other redditors mentioned, generic therapy talk isn't really going to help in this situation. Understanding and solving childhood trauma in therapy, sure that can be done but Flirting, seduction or inner game work has to come from a dating coach who've usually done thousands of cold approaches in person to understand how or where you go wrong in seduction.	/r/seduction	28/06/26 04:10 PM
1	32 years old and I feel like I’ll never be able fathom how people date casually So basically, we've got to just sit around doing nothing and one day that one person will somehow magically fall into our laps from the sky? Yeah right... Sounds like some make believe nonsense.	/r/seduction	27/06/26 09:00 PM
1	What are the biggest factors that stop you from cold approaching? I started with 5 approaches a day for 30 days to build it as a habit. I don't have fear of rejection or ego, but the issues I noticed: # Spotlight effect: Feeling like everyone around is watching you approach, especially in crowded areas. # Excuse avalanche: Your brain will find a dozen reasons. She looks busy, wearing headphones, bad weather, walking too fast, not my type and such. # Social conditioning: A lot of guys are raised to think approaching strangers is bothering them which keeps you s…	/r/seduction	12/06/26 11:18 PM
1	Meeting girls at a convention Neither. I went on all the apps and I don't get shit back except some trans/strange individual 🤦🏻‍♂️	/r/seduction	08/06/26 03:08 AM