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Drummerdan1984/r/TheRedPill03/08/23 09:31 AM
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Drummerdan1984/r/ExRedPill21/08/23 10:14 PM
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Interesting argument! Lol. I think you might have got the intellectual upper hand. All jokes aside, would you mind elaborating?
/r/ExRedPill30/04/25 12:08 PM
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I was in your position brother. I was a very big dude, and i grew up in the LA area where pretty much all women are very picky. When I moved to a me rural town and lost most of the weight, I found that country girls actually like bigger dudes. And I understand the huffing and puffing. I have terrible stamina and I struggled at the gym and I still do. Remember that weight lifting burns more calories then cardio. It took me a year to lose 100 pounds; and I stayed at about 1000 calories or less a d…
/r/ExRedPill22/02/25 11:47 PM
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Below redpill was a thing back in 2002 I was a very angry virgin who wanted to hurt the women who hurt me and bullied me my entire life to to that point. I got in shape and learned how to dress, and studied a lot of psychology subjects and social experiments so I could learn how to talk to people. I got what I thought I wanted; and thought that sex and a girlfriend would solve every self esteem issue i ever had. It mage sex a shallow, hollow act that brought me no joy because I thought all women…
/r/ExRedPill20/12/24 05:42 PM
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I totally agree. One of the shitty things about mental illness, is that there is never a finish line. I have to temper my expectations weekend it comes to self care. I've always had this irrational thought that normies are literally happy all of the time, and never get depressed or sad, lol.
/r/ExRedPill23/08/23 04:45 AM
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Dude. I totally understand how you feel. Im not trying to shit on the other side and tell you that there isn't a single good thing about it, and I know it's sucks when someone that has something telling someone else to not want that thing is a bit hypocritical. If you want want actual advice on how to speak with women in a healthy way I can point you in the right direction. Im not the biggest fan of the advice that moat redpill advocates give out. I agree that no amount of self improvement, or c…
/r/ExRedPill22/08/23 11:45 AM
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I'm going to assume that you either haven't had much sex or are young, or both. I understand why you would feel this way. When I was young it's all I ever thought about and I thought that way because I was alone, and lonely, and I can't speak for everyone, but that shit has a negative effect on one's mental health. Once I got what I wanted I went right back to being the same depressed lonely person because all of those women I fucked, ended up leaving me in the same position I was when I was an …
/r/ExRedPill22/08/23 11:25 AM
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Well you completely miss the point of the post. My past lifestyle was the precursor to the shitty existence I have now, and wouldn't wish this pain on anyone. Had I known what I was being myself into, I would have stayed a pissed off virgin without mental illness then a pissed off pimp with a fucked up brain and no hope of it getting better. When as many women as I've been with consistently pick other men over yourself, you learn real quick how depressing and lonely it is to be told over and ove…
/r/ExRedPill22/08/23 11:05 AM
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I've got great social skills and many great friends. Most, if not all have families and careers, and struggle to keep up with me because of how severe my mental illness at this point. Even though all of that is great, I grew up in a dysfunctional family, and was exposed to a lot of crime and violence, and those themes never disappeared, and a lot of my close relationships ended in suicide, overdoses, and prison sentences. My life isn't any where near where it was the way it was in my story. Im s…
/r/ExRedPill22/08/23 02:08 AM
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I fail to see how being involuntarily celebate at the point in my life prior to having sex means that I wasn't an incel, lol. I wanted to have sex and meet women and was completely ignored. I didn't say that I still identify as one, only that I identify with the feelings I had when I was involuntarily celebate, as I started hooking up with girls.
/r/TheRedPill21/08/23 11:08 PM
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Well said. I'll admit in the beginning that it was pretty awesome, but after 20 years of this I don't feel the same
/r/TheRedPill21/08/23 10:49 PM
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Firstly, can you tell me how you found goods online? I've been looking forever. Unfortunately I have a horrible memory and I couldn't really say what they are. Let me take a look at the copy you found and maybe it will job my memory.
/r/TheRedPill20/08/23 05:53 AM
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Dude your going on the right direction! It's a good quality you have that you are able to be so honest with yourself... it will definitely help you in the end. One piece of advice that I can offer so you cab get more insight, is to simply ask the girls you've been with or hooked up with, what you did wrong because you want to change and be a better man. Don't say that your doing this to win them back. This actually might help you get laid, but if you ask a girl for an honest assessment of what y…
/r/TheRedPill04/08/23 11:15 PM
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No doubt! Lol. I completely agree. At this point in my life, I'm comfortable just being alone. I've been in some firm of therapy, or addiction counseling for well over 20 years. I get really paranoid around normies. It's like I can feel them judging me by my sheer presence, even rig I know that is completely irrational. Im not very good at setting bounds and I still hate confrontation, so it's a lot easier for me to just be alone. So a lot of the distrust I have comes from myself, and not everyo…
/r/TheRedPill04/08/23 09:45 PM
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Yea I'm down. But I want to stay anonymous. I actually thought about doing this myself, but im still a little scared to pull trigger so to speak and do it. Maybe this will give me the push I need.
/r/TheRedPill04/08/23 09:41 PM
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Never heard of that. It sounds like something I would like though. I think the hardest thing about learning this stuff is reversing all of the behavior that leads to being such a nice guy. Confidence isn't something that comes naturally to s lot of people, and I still don't have it. I literally just pretended that I did, but felt like a fraud the Entire time.
/r/TheRedPill04/08/23 01:14 PM
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I had a very similar revelation about my family, and the friend I kept company with. It really gave me a lot of insight into why I acted this way. That's awesome you are taking the time to understand yourself. I always seemed to be drawn towards broken people, and would actively invite chaos into my life.
/r/TheRedPill04/08/23 01:11 PM
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Lol. I was wondering when someone would say this.
/r/TheRedPill04/08/23 01:07 PM
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I appreciate you saying that. I've had a number of business's. I owned and operated two truck stops, but we took them over not long before the 2008 recession, and just recently had a small trucking company.
/r/TheRedPill04/08/23 05:27 AM
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I appreciate you posting this. Learning attachment theory was something that really helped me to better understand myself and the women I chose. I agree with Everything you said
/r/TheRedPill04/08/23 02:56 AM
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We're you an 80s or 90s kid? I am and that's a term I used to hear all of the time back in the day, lol
/r/TheRedPill04/08/23 02:54 AM
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Oh no doubt, LOL. I share a similar past as do most incels. I was bullied horribly, and was very sensitive and neve stood up for myself. I developed a very unhealthy attachment to people, and was addicted to validation. I've had relationships in the past, but I set very rigid boundaries and if I ever perceived them to be broken I promptly ended things, and would act completely aloof and disregard their feelings about anything. This attitude was a big reason why women started paying me any attent…
/r/TheRedPill04/08/23 02:40 AM
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At one point I was and now I'm not. The title said lessons from a former incel. Your missing the forest for the trees if this is what you gathered from what I wrote lol, but if you want to split hairs, then I guess.
/r/TheRedPill04/08/23 01:03 AM
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You get it, lol. I was incel before I got laid, but I didn't really shed the thinking when I got what I wanted.... it was awesome at first. Im not saying to not have sex. Im saying that getting what you asked for isn't always what you need, but I understand the only way to gain that wisdom and knowledge is to experience for yourself. I suppose I'm trying to make sense of why I did the things I did, and maybe someone that reads this might connect with it and learn to see their behavior in a diffe…
/r/TheRedPill03/08/23 08:55 PM
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Dude. I really appreciate you sharing your story. You seem like you have a pretty solid understanding of how to get women, but like me struggle with keeping them. There is nothing wrong with being vulnerable, as long as it's with the right women. I personally don't see the problem with getting with a women who has got the wall, or has a high body count, but that's just how I'm wired. I appreciate women that have experience because I don't like to feel alone, and I don't like not being understood…
/r/TheRedPill03/08/23 08:28 PM
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I agree. Which is one of the points I want to get across. I don't want anyone to do the things I did in an attempt fill a void like I did. I want to help people get a better understanding of how and why they talk to women. I guess this is my way of trying to make up for my shitty behavior and thinking
/r/TheRedPill03/08/23 08:15 PM
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The book is out of print, and only available in hardback and they can be a bit pricy, usually around$40 to$50, and have to find it second hand, but it became my Bible. It gave me the most practical knowledge I've ever received in how to talk to women. I know your struggle bro. I think a lot of people have the same thinking about their standards, and it's good to have standards because it means you have some self respect. Growing up, I wasn't blessed with the best genes, and struggled with my wei…
/r/TheRedPill03/08/23 08:12 PM
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I called myself that, because I didn't stop any of the behavior and thinking I had grown to inhabit. I treated women as if they were still trying to hurt me, and I often complained that I was still getting sex but not from ALL of the women I felt I was owed it from. I had invested a lot of time and did a lot of nice guy, white knight things in attempt to parlay this into some kind of sexual currency/ favors but it never worked. I actively hurt a lot of women. I still thought the majority were ac…
/r/TheRedPill03/08/23 01:32 PM
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Good point. I probably wouldn't, since I really hated any one telling me what to do, lol. I think the fact that more and more men are just checking out proves that a lot of them are learning from others mistakes. I didn't say there was anything wrong with having sex, just that its not the answer to everything
/r/TheRedPill03/08/23 01:25 PM
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That's a good point, and another one of those things that could be an entirely different story. I had the opportunity to date many, MANY women, but I acted like a lucky modern day feminist, lol. All I saw were people faults and reasons NOT to date, but a lot of thst had to do with my mental illness and my intense fear of being rejected. I was asked repeatedly to be a boyfriend and I tried a few times, and was married once, but that in and of itself was the relationship that sent me into full on …
/r/TheRedPill03/08/23 01:22 PM
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It's pretty one sided, and uses the very minimum amount of data to encompass such a broad topic. He uses an individual article as a way of backing up his point in a pretty broad way. That being said, he's not wrong about how dating has changed especially due to tinder and the rise of the #metoo, and what tinder has done to people. I don't blame women for wanting to take control of their lives, and so what they want. But people are free not to date them. Hypergamy is very real, and he's right abo…
/r/ExRedPill21/03/21 04:21 PM
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