| Upvotes | Title | Category | Author | Subreddit | Date (UTC) |
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| 31 | [FR] Newb FR - Very short solo night out working on approaches | Ducharbaine | /r/seduction | 21/09/17 04:27 AM | |
| 3 | 100 percent nonverbal game? | Ducharbaine | /r/seduction | 08/12/17 05:17 PM | |
| 1 | What happened to James Marshall? I connected w his low energy vibe, but haven't seen his material out there much in a while. | Resources | Ducharbaine | /r/seduction | 08/08/21 03:35 AM |
| 1 | [FR][BQ] Short night out, minor breakthrough. No "success" but def progress | Ducharbaine | /r/seduction | 14/09/17 03:04 AM | |
| 1 | WTF She liked my message? How do I respond to that? | Ducharbaine | /r/seduction | 02/07/18 11:23 PM | |
| 0 | Scarcity mindset is insidious and keeps coming back | Ducharbaine | /r/seduction | 26/12/19 06:24 AM | |
| 0 | Beginner learning the basics | Ducharbaine | /r/seduction | 18/08/17 10:17 PM |
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| 1 | is your goal one woman or multiple?I want a primary partner and two or three fwb, plus the opportunity to fuck others if the situation arises. No exclusivity required. | /r/seduction | 12/08/22 02:43 PM |
| 1 | Do girls get off on ghosting guys?Partly if they were never interested anyway, it's easier to forget. Partly they don't want to feel bad for breaking bad news, so they ghost, Partly because so many guys lose their shit when they are rejected, they feel safer just disappearing. | /r/seduction | 11/08/22 01:20 PM |
| 4 | What is good sex?Feeling like she desires me sexually. Not just being willing, or enjoying the touch, but viscerally wants me. The heat and passion and desire, the smoky looks, hair twirling, flirty come on, expressions of excitement at seeing and touching. | /r/seduction | 10/08/22 09:01 PM |
| 1 | How to properly implement push-and-pull technique? Is there an incorrect way?Apparently my way is incorrect | /r/seduction | 10/08/22 01:59 AM |
| 1 | So I found out a new strategy to pick up women according to this guyI did visit a lesbian bar once, and got picked up myself by a bi girl. | /r/seduction | 04/08/22 07:54 PM |
| 3 | How much has your dating life improved since finding this subreddit?0% | /r/seduction | 03/08/22 04:57 AM |
| 7 | Is it true that sex/relationships aren't as great as everyone makes them out to be? Should the pussy be taken off the pedestal?Did he say anything about ease? | /r/seduction | 16/06/22 07:06 PM |
| 1 | Is it true that sex/relationships aren't as great as everyone makes them out to be? Should the pussy be taken off the pedestal?Both. Neither. It's amazing to get laid, and awesome to be loved and cared about. But it is complex, difficult, and requires sacrifice and dedication. So depending on your priorities you may prefer singledom, celibacy, and no entanglements, or you may prefer debauchery, hedonism, and all the drama that comes with it, or a balance with one or two partners and carefully curated emotional attachments. There is no answer that anyone but you can provide. | /r/seduction | 16/06/22 07:05 PM |
| 3 | We all know a guy who seems to drown in poon juice despite having almost nothing going for him, so what's the deal?It's rough. Being agreeable and not stepping forward or being assertive is so ingrained as "good" that it is hard to switch from a mentality of "good" meaning unoffenive and quiet to "good" as meaning being of high quality and knowing it. | /r/seduction | 08/06/22 07:26 PM |
| 1 | Do men find it unappealing when a woman is more upfront (ie less of a chase)?Ugh. That chase sucks. | /r/seduction | 08/06/22 06:36 PM |
| 2 | We all know a guy who seems to drown in poon juice despite having almost nothing going for him, so what's the deal?Unfortunately, these guys aren't the bastards. They're pretty cool 9/10 of the time. The bastards are the incels who get mad about it. | /r/seduction | 08/06/22 06:33 PM |
| 10 | We all know a guy who seems to drown in poon juice despite having almost nothing going for him, so what's the deal?Yeah I was raised to be hyperaware of how I come across to others. Always to read the room and behave appropriately. Always be concerned about being rude, or annoying, or loud, or taking up too much space. Don't offend. Don't take over, be aware of others at all times and never step forward when someone else might do so at the same time. It was well intended but utter bullshit. | /r/seduction | 08/06/22 06:32 PM |
| 7 | We all know a guy who seems to drown in poon juice despite having almost nothing going for him, so what's the deal?Idk... I've seen it too and don't understand.... social skills I guess. Having that perfect mix of attractive and sketchy, safety and danger, rebellious and predictable. One thing though, ALWAYS skinny. Not ripped, not muscular, not chubby, never fat, always very slender. Rarely super tall but sometimes short. But always skinny. | /r/seduction | 08/06/22 06:28 PM |
| 3 | Guys would accept an apology from someone who ghosted you?Wait, this happens? I thought that once we have been thrown away, we are never thought of again, forgotten within seconds. Must just be me then. | /r/seduction | 09/05/22 05:59 AM |
| 7 | Why does every girl seem to be with a guy at bars?Many is the time the guy turned out to be another random, a friendzoned orbiter, just someone standing nearby, the bf of another friend who is on the phone /having a smoke, a gay best friend. You don't know til you meet them. And yeah if you zero in in girls only to talk to the entire venue will see you as a creeper. Be sociable and attract, not a prowler set to pounce. | /r/seduction | 08/05/22 03:01 PM |
| 2 | Why do some guys (like me) think that girls will like them if they are NICE?We are taught that very explicitly and directly when we are kids. Be nice so people will like you. All the media we grow up on has this nice guy narrative | /r/seduction | 04/05/22 01:20 PM |
| 2 | “I like tall tatted toxic men who treat me like shit”I DO know What women want. It's clothes with pockets. All about them pockets. | /r/seduction | 18/04/22 05:58 PM |
| 3 | How to break the touching barrier with a girl without looking like a pervert?Don't start w her clit. | /r/seduction | 18/04/22 01:16 PM |
| 1 | How do you defuse people who call you a creep for dating younger women? Why is there so much hate on some subreddits for men in their 30s who date/seduce ADULT women in their early to mid 20s?"It's not me, it's society" sure. | /r/seduction | 17/04/22 03:24 AM |
| 1 | The reason why girls who want 6ft/6fig/6pac men piss me off and why I personally think it means you're a low quality women.You have invested a lot of thought and energy into being angry at one woman who you don't like. This is a you problem, not a her problem. Ignore her and focus on women you do like. | /r/seduction | 16/04/22 03:54 PM |
| -2 | How do you defuse people who call you a creep for dating younger women? Why is there so much hate on some subreddits for men in their 30s who date/seduce ADULT women in their early to mid 20s?My boss's wife is 14 years younger than him. She is 50. Is he being a predator? Your "finding" legal age gaps creepy is a you problem. | /r/seduction | 16/04/22 03:32 PM |
| 9 | How do you defuse people who call you a creep for dating younger women? Why is there so much hate on some subreddits for men in their 30s who date/seduce ADULT women in their early to mid 20s?Spot on. What gets me is this idea of a "correct" relationship dynamic of absolute equality that almost never really happens. These same people who whine about power dynamic differences based on age conveniently forget about the spouses of powerful politicians, executives, stars, and pro athletes, who may not differ much in age, but who have vastly different levels of social power. Who is whining that Warren Buffet's wife doesn't have as much power as her husband? Frankly, even if a younger woma… | /r/seduction | 16/04/22 03:28 PM |
| 2 | Why do people think babyface and gym body is a good combo?Nope. Being fat is the bottom of the barrel. Lots of people love skinny. Lots of people find baby face cute. Being fat means zero attraction for a guy. Women who are fat have lots of admirers but fat guys, nothing. This isn't being whiny, bc what woman wants someone who looks unhealthy. | /r/seduction | 15/04/22 04:46 AM |
| 1 | I noticed a lot of guys at clubs/bars would rather talk to other guysWell, yeah... exactly | /r/seduction | 28/03/22 05:03 PM |
| 7 | I noticed a lot of guys at clubs/bars would rather talk to other guysOh sure, if you aren’t being genuine, it shoes. No doubt | /r/seduction | 25/03/22 09:00 PM |
| 99 | I noticed a lot of guys at clubs/bars would rather talk to other guysWell for one thing, a guy who bounces from girl to girl and doesn't talk to pretty much anyone else is obviously on the prowl. It's a red flag. Plus, the social guy is more attractive in general. | /r/seduction | 25/03/22 08:00 PM |
| 2 | She flaked a second time without any excuse or rescheduling should I ghost her?Ghost? No. Next her? Yes. | /r/seduction | 25/03/22 06:19 PM |
| 1 | Dudes that use to (or still use) alcohol in approaching and talking ,doesn’t it hurt your game?A little bit helps with anxiety and narrows your perspective to "right now" instead of thinking about all the 'what if' scenarios. Thing is, the alcohol is a crutch. Key is to learn to take on that 'live in the moment' mindset without actual alcohol. | /r/seduction | 04/03/22 03:07 PM |
| 1 | Are you flirting or just being friendly???Being friendly. I think of it as banter if it's not aimed at getting laid, flirting if it is. | /r/seduction | 03/03/22 02:53 PM |
| 12 | Dudes Gotta Stop Dropping Their Morals For a Fat Ass..I like slim girls. | /r/seduction | 03/03/22 04:26 AM |
| 1 | [deleted by user]Why do skinny people think they are unattractive? Skinny is a baseline to be attractive. Sure being muscular is better, but skinny isn't a negative. | /r/seduction | 11/02/22 10:47 PM |
| 1 | Why do girls match with you but act cold?Sure, but the baseline doesn't have to be "shit" just "not someone I know" | /r/seduction | 10/02/22 03:17 AM |
| 1 | Contrary to Popular Opinion : Can i buy you a drink still works?If you don't go in knowing already that you like her, you're better off. Go see if she's worth it first. The attitude of "are you cool enough?" Is much better than "I like you already". | /r/seduction | 09/02/22 09:23 PM |
| 1 | Contrary to Popular Opinion : Can i buy you a drink still works?Never. When you offer to buy a drink, you advertise yourself as a creeper. If she asks you to buy her a drink, while you are off to get it, she and her friends ghost out. If you send her a drink across the room through the bartender, it's better(less threatening), but still it's supplicating. Fuck buying drinks, it's boomer bullshit. That stuff worked in the 70s when it showed you had resources to buy something for her on no guarantees of return. Now it's a clumsy attempt to obligate her and pos… | /r/seduction | 09/02/22 09:21 PM |
| 3 | Does she like me (M17)Yes. Ask her tf out right tf now. | /r/seduction | 09/02/22 09:10 PM |
| 6 | The power of noThat is culture not biological. | /r/seduction | 09/02/22 09:09 PM |
| 10 | Why do girls match with you but act cold?I would. Games suck. Life is too short for stupid mind games. | /r/seduction | 09/02/22 09:06 PM |
| 1 | Why do girls match with you but act cold?I get better matches by swiping left a lot. Funny that. | /r/seduction | 09/02/22 09:05 PM |
| 8 | Why do girls match with you but act cold?To be fair, you almost have to. A new person isn't special until they make an effort to stand out to you as particularly important or desirable. | /r/seduction | 09/02/22 09:04 PM |
| 1 | Feeling embarrassed and ashamed. Should I be?First step taken. Good job. You've already taken steps by trying, reading books on self improvement and reaching out. These are often the hardest steps. One step at a time, learn from your mistakes and don't beat yourself up about them, just learn and move on. There are no silver bullet epiphanies, Life is too short for bad relationships, including with yourself. You got this. | /r/seduction | 31/01/22 09:42 PM |
| 1 | Feeling embarrassed and ashamed. Should I be?Read my expanded edit, lol | /r/seduction | 31/01/22 09:25 PM |
| 5 | Feeling embarrassed and ashamed. Should I be?Lots to unpack here. I am not going to get into all the details of that clusterfuck. I'll just start with "Don't bother girls at work." You VERY badly misread her reaction. You jumped the gun hard core trying to invite her out. You did good in trying, but you were 0% calibrated. The responses she gave according to your own account say: "I'm deeply uncomfortable" A good interaction would have had her bantering and chatting with you. Instead her body language was closed and her reactions were desi… | /r/seduction | 31/01/22 09:05 PM |
| 19 | As a woman you can’t seduce me by flirting if I’m not attracted to you :She and her bf were fucking in the next bed over in a hotel room. After they split, she became available and we had some fun for a few months vafter that. | /r/seduction | 31/01/22 08:47 PM |
| 1 | [deleted by user]The discomfort of others is their problem. As long as you are being reasonable and respectful of others, you're good. Too often we forget that emotions don't come from other people, inflicted like an attack, they come from within ourselves, as reactions based on our own experiences. So dont tear yourself up trying to be responsible for other people's feelings | /r/seduction | 31/01/22 08:46 PM |
| 51 | As a woman you can’t seduce me by flirting if I’m not attracted to you :I got a fwb because she liked the sounds I made my gf make the next bed over. I went from friend who likes her boobs to friend she fucks. You never know what it might be. | /r/seduction | 31/01/22 07:34 PM |
| 12 | What should I reply?Say "Say yes" | /r/seduction | 31/01/22 03:20 PM |
| 3 | How the hell does dating work once you get out of highschool?Your answer seems very much like autism, especially the disliking eye contact and not getting the extremely clear billboard-like indicators of interest. No one is going to make an unsolicited effort to "just be nice" to you without some kind of interest there. | /r/seduction | 25/01/22 03:35 PM |
| 1 | How the hell does dating work once you get out of highschool?Wow, you're swimming in opportunities and interest from girls and you aren't seeing it. I'd love to have ever gotten that kind of attention. And here you are complaining about it. What do you need, the girls to signal you toward their vaginas like taxiing in an airplane? | /r/seduction | 25/01/22 03:32 PM |
| 2 | Why is it damn easy to approach girls in a porn video?Imagine a porn movie but the women all turn the guy down and play mind games and end by ghosting him. Betcha that becomes the next "Backdoor Sluts 9" | /r/seduction | 25/01/22 03:27 PM |
| 1 | [deleted by user]You don't make the move, the girls will not be interested. You're going to spend a lot of time by yourself in bars and clubs regardless of how fit you are, how well dressed you are, etc. Girls will make themselves available but without you making the move, nothing will happen. | /r/seduction | 19/01/22 02:25 PM |
| 1 | I don’t talk to girls at the gym.Well OP says he is seeing them come near him and hover, not that he sees them minding their own business and working out. Sure, it would be different if he said "I want to talk to girls while they are working out" but he said the opposite. But if they are showing signs of interest, there's nothing wrong with being available for them to hover nearby after a workout or otherwise away from the gym floor. Then if they hover, nothing is wrong with saying hi. | /r/seduction | 17/01/22 07:20 AM |
| 2 | I don’t talk to girls at the gym.It's not so much a rule as a best practice. Sure, never bother someone when they are working out, but it's not so bad when they are on the way to the locker room or at the front desk or otherwise not actively in process of their workout. I mean, never follow them but if you were to make yourself available by the water fountain or the front desk or someplace away from the workout area, you could set yourself up for them to hover nearby, then it's no problem to talk w them | /r/seduction | 17/01/22 07:16 AM |
| 2 | I can't get laid, what can I do?Pffft nah. The 0hone doesn't matter. Ignore the Apple cultists | /r/seduction | 16/01/22 04:59 PM |
| 12 | I can't get laid, what can I do?Found the cultist 🤣 | /r/seduction | 16/01/22 04:57 PM |
| 1 | Does crying in front of your girlfriend/partner destroy sexual attraction?Early on? Yes. After you have been in a committed relationship where she has had the opportunity to trust in your frame? You should be fine. | /r/seduction | 12/01/22 10:33 PM |
| 3 | [deleted by user]Maybe no one possesses anyone and you should chill. Ask her out and ignore him. | /r/seduction | 12/01/22 09:37 PM |
| 1 | [deleted by user]Ugh no. Look, those are good qualities to have. BUT. being nice, kind, etc is not a qualification, just a baseline. It is not enough. You need to bring her good experiences, safety, and direction to your relationship If you deferred to her, let her make the plans, or came to her without a plan or your own life to bring her into, you weren't living an attractive life. I don't mean be controlling or demanding, but have direction and do not make everything in your life about her. You aren't losing … | /r/seduction | 01/01/22 03:31 AM |
| 24 | Women, do you know the exact reason of why you're not feeling a guy?So to you, "don't go overboard" = "do nothing" No wonder you're frustrated. Make your move, but Accept "no" the first time she says it. This is not crazy talk. | /r/seduction | 27/12/21 07:21 AM |
| 5 | Do as much small talk as possibleAbout small talk. Many guys, especially ones who struggle the most with women, think that small talk is a waste of time, and get impatient or frustrated when engaging in it. It seems trite, empty, vapid, and intellectually valueless. This is a huge misunderstanding. Small talk is not about what is being communicated on the surface. It is about what is being subcommunicated. The topics are fluff for good reason. It frees up cognitive capacity to focus better on assessing the important parts of th… | /r/seduction | 25/12/21 06:50 PM |
| 0 | All psychology is ultimately physiology, specifically biochemical.All biochemistry is basically chemistry All chemistry is basically physics This isn't news | /r/seduction | 16/12/21 08:00 PM |
| 33 | How to Properly Employ the PUSH-PULL Method to Create AttractionThat stuff isn't "push" It's just being a jerk and playing mind games. Push is teasing, disagreeing, not responding to comments made in the moment, asking about her hot friends, ignoring opportunities to compliment her, and holding your frame and boundaries when tested. Its not about playing silly games with text timing, and trying to live in her head and control her with mind games. | /r/seduction | 16/12/21 07:56 PM |
| 8 | How to approach a chick at the club for a one night stand"Nice boots, wanna fuck?" | /r/seduction | 16/12/21 03:47 AM |
| 10 | At what age for men is it easiest to attract and seduce women?Forget fomo. You're doing fine. You'll hit a stride from 25 to 30 or longer, then refine your tastes and get pickier. 4 women at 21 isn't player fboy but its respectable. If you want to be swimming in sex then focus your lifestyle around it. Otherwise, keep doing what you're doing. | /r/seduction | 09/12/21 02:45 AM |
| -1 | Looks matter..Be Attractive Don't be unattractive Sad fact is ugly and skinny beats average, but fat. | /r/seduction | 29/11/21 06:35 PM |
| -5 | Cute guy at gym: Will he ever notice me?Women in public do see all men as threats unless they know them. . And they are not wrong to be cautious. The rest of your argument isn't just wrong, its absurd. | /r/seduction | 17/11/21 09:50 PM |
| -48 | Cute guy at gym: Will he ever notice me?Because of the perceived threat involved. If some dude three times your size who does 5x5 sets with twice your bodyweight started following you around, you'd see why. Esp if you or your friends had been followed and attacked before. It 8s not a double standard. | /r/seduction | 17/11/21 05:04 PM |
| 1 | What’s the fastest way to loose your virginityPay for it | /r/seduction | 05/11/21 03:10 AM |
| 1 | How many red flags till you call it quits?I make up red flags and run away from the delusion of a problem. Either that or I'm RG colorblind and green flags look red to me. | /r/seduction | 27/09/21 12:59 AM |
| 1 | [deleted by user]You can can be hot af without being conventionally pretty. Sexy transcends pretty a lot of the time. I know one girl in particular. In pictures, she's a bit homely w odd teeth. In person, I'd push aside any number of hotter girls if I could have a night w her. Her personality and demeanor drip sex. She's cheerful and fun, too. I think you are too fixated on the looks thing. | /r/seduction | 16/09/21 05:23 PM |
| 4 | Are all women like this?Real question is, why are you NOT doing the same? No one is special til they make themselves special to you. And vice versa. You are the one who put all your eggs in one basket. | /r/seduction | 13/09/21 07:03 PM |
| 7 | For guys, what's one dating advice that never worked for you?Be yourself. WTF does that even mean? If "myself" was attractive I'd be successful. The real rule is have integrity, hold to your frame, set and keep your boundaries and don't settle for less than you want for serious relationships. | /r/seduction | 04/09/21 04:19 PM |
| 3 | Screw the bad boy bullshit"Be yourself" should be "Have integrity, set boundaries, keep them strong and don't compromise on what matters to you in a partner, even when doing so means being alone" | /r/seduction | 03/09/21 10:57 PM |
| 1 | How do I become an alpha male?Forget that nonsense. The whole alpha label thing is absurd and hurts you and the women you pursue. But.... having authority is attractive. Start something, run something, find something to be in charge of where attractive women can see you doing it. | /r/seduction | 03/09/21 10:52 PM |
| 6 | What are early signs of flake? Any other than those I listed?Every girl might be flaky. You don't know til they don't show up. The best flakes cancel instead of ghosting. | /r/seduction | 30/08/21 08:45 PM |
| 2 | [ Removed by Reddit ]Nope. And don't hang around waiting for her either. | /r/seduction | 23/08/21 07:43 PM |
| 7 | What to do when she does a grossed out/weirded out face after you approach?Because I thought it was funny, when I'd see a cute girl I wanted to talk to, I'd say something like "I remember you, you're the one with all the guinea pigs." And dealing with her amused confusion and denial was a fun way to chat her up. This was exactly as successful as you might think, but I had fun and met some nice girls that way. | /r/seduction | 19/08/21 07:23 PM |
| 2 | If only i would know how to keep a frame, i would get my ex backUgh.. You're destroying yourself by thinking like this. | /r/seduction | 19/08/21 07:14 PM |
| 13 | [deleted by user]Lol never mention watching her from your window | /r/seduction | 19/08/21 03:47 PM |
| 1 | What is the problem with "just be yourself"?It is not at all clear what it means in practice. | /r/seduction | 19/08/21 02:11 PM |
| 2 | She's not coming is she?Um no thats ridiculous. You can deliberately misinterpret and mock if you like but the principles of outcome independence and of being a fun person are solid. A date in the old fashioned sense is a lot of pressure and expectation placed on her. Unless a woman is already very interested, or she's already dtf, your best bet early on is not some baby boomer nonsense about asking out a girl and going on some formalized courtship ritual where she has to deal with the prospect of taking her time out, … | /r/seduction | 16/08/21 04:09 PM |
| 1 | She's not coming is she?I'm saying that in general if you already have plans and then invite her to join you, you lose nothing if she doesn't show up. The point is in not arranging things around a girl so early on, even so much as a date. | /r/seduction | 16/08/21 12:43 AM |
| 2 | She's not coming is she?Nope. This is why you invite girls to join you on things you were going to do anyway. Either way, your plans don't have to change. | /r/seduction | 16/08/21 12:31 AM |
| 1 | Is it a turn off to women if you have no social life/no friends?Probably. Having friends is preselection If someone has no friends, that is a red flag because why not? What drives people away? Best case, they are too busy for friends, so the guy will be too busy for her. Worst case, he's weird or dangerous in a nonsexy way. Looks only get you the occasional fuck and a few more seconds of attention up front. There is a reason ppl who have only looks and money, or only seek looks and money, are called "shallow" | /r/seduction | 11/08/21 02:59 PM |
| 19 | Is it normal for a girl to approach a guy?Definitely. Its a good thing. I had a girl call me over to dance before. Was a blast. These are the best girls bc they don't buy into the bullshit. | /r/seduction | 04/08/21 03:09 PM |
| 1 | Is the success chance for all approaches determined at the first three seconds?But you can get a "not no". If you get that no in 3 seconds its not likely to change. Its like she can lock the door on you or not lock the door on you. But she's not going to open it for you 9x/10. Thats where your opening comes in. Then its on her to close you out or let you come in. | /r/seduction | 15/07/21 08:06 PM |
| 1 | The single most effective way to improve your overall confidence is to take on a leadership role, no matter how small. Stepping outside of your comfort zone and leading others will yield results in other areas of your lifeDmed you the basics | /r/seduction | 13/07/21 03:34 AM |
| 4 | The single most effective way to improve your overall confidence is to take on a leadership role, no matter how small. Stepping outside of your comfort zone and leading others will yield results in other areas of your lifeDude if my chubby ass can bang a hottie 10 years younger (I was 28) because of the social proof of being in a leadership role then yeah anyone can benefit from this. As long as you don't self sabotage anyway. | /r/seduction | 13/07/21 02:21 AM |
| 2 | The single most effective way to improve your overall confidence is to take on a leadership role, no matter how small. Stepping outside of your comfort zone and leading others will yield results in other areas of your lifeThis has gotten me laid and I'm chubby, so you know its legit. Just running a small chapter of a hobby organization got me into the pants of the cutest girl I've been with yet. If you can't find something to be in charge of, start something. This is no joke true. If it can get me laid, any one else can do it. | /r/seduction | 13/07/21 02:18 AM |
| 8 | First harsh rejectionYeah I've been there.You did good. Keep going. | /r/seduction | 11/07/21 07:11 AM |
| 9 | Racial preferences from girlsSounds to me like you're in a great position to find all the girls you could want, just maybe broaden your scope? And don't listen to friends when they say bullshit like that. A tall fit smart guy like you is probably ignoring and being oblivious to more girls interest than you could dream of. Throw out that negativity and presumption and go for what you want. Its not on you to decide to turn you down, its on them, so go forth and get some. | /r/seduction | 06/07/21 06:15 PM |
| 44 | You can literally improve your game by 50% overnightSocial circle! We can't know from third hand examination but maybe he did. If anything, taking cues from him gave OP a much more fun night. | /r/seduction | 04/07/21 01:28 AM |
| 2 | Why bartender act like they're entitled to every hot girl in the bar, and get super jealous and douchy when some guy scores hot girl?Never seen that happen. Mostly I've seen bartenders, even the chadliest ones, help guys at the bar by pointing out fun girls and warning of trashy ones, if anything. Maybe you just give off a shady vibe? I could see them block a guy they thought might be predatory? Or maybe you just ran into a particular douche? | /r/seduction | 29/06/21 11:32 PM |
| 1 | My biggest problem is I have few friends can I move past this?Someplace you know and like and where you would enjoy going with or without her. | /r/seduction | 24/06/21 06:40 PM |
| 2 | My biggest problem is I have few friends can I move past this?Quit creeping and ask her out. | /r/seduction | 24/06/21 03:59 PM |
| 1 | Need help getting cultured!!Find social hobbies. Work on internalizing socialization before anything romantic. Make friends. Attend shows, get intriguing hobbies like exotic cooking, skydiving, or photography. . Learn to dance. Learn improv. Take up a martial art or other highly physical sport. Work out. Lots of girls fantasize about being with a pilot. Become that fantasy. Enjoy the cities you stay over at when you can. Build up experiences to share. Become an experience. | /r/seduction | 23/06/21 06:56 AM |
| 1 | Am l too skinny for a 6ft tall dude?Trade ya. I put on six pounds if I smell a pizza. | /r/seduction | 12/06/21 07:05 PM |
| 2 | How should I as a straight woman accept that many straight men behind closed doors like trans porn and penises on women? And how should I not let this make me feel that vaginas are appreciated far less than penises are?Confirmation bias and sample error. While its likely true most men look at porn, you can't assume that most men look at pornhub specifically. Also people seek out what they like and self-select themselves into groups. What you're doing here would be like going to a gay bar and assuming most men were gay based on that experience. | /r/seduction | 12/06/21 06:26 PM |
| 1 | Does a girl want to fuck if she signs my HS yearbook?Gl! | /r/seduction | 12/06/21 01:51 AM |
| 2 | Does a girl want to fuck if she signs my HS yearbook?No dick pic, yes ask her out, yes go for the fclose if she seems down | /r/seduction | 11/06/21 04:50 PM |
| 1 | Getting back into it at 36I will hop back in soon myself. I hope so! | /r/seduction | 10/06/21 01:41 AM |
| 5 | Did you guys ever picked up a model?I high fived Miss World Australia in a bar in 2016. Thats as close as I ever got to that. | /r/seduction | 25/05/21 11:53 AM |
| 2 | Get used to women SLOW TEXTING!! UghIdk what to tell you. They want these stupid text games read nonexistent meaning into how quickly you text back, and then complain that guys ghost them. Htf can you tell ghosting from mirroring them? Shit, no wonder they say not to use texting for anything but making plans | /r/seduction | 23/05/21 01:28 AM |
| 6 | As a younger guy, am I going to regret avoiding casual sex when I'm older?I definitely do regret not taking most of the shots I chickened out on. | /r/seduction | 07/05/21 07:01 PM |
| 0 | Unpopular opinion a girl would only hook up or date you if she thinks you’re HIGHER value than her.This tracks | /r/seduction | 27/04/21 01:20 AM |
| 3 | "Remember that picking up women is not like gymnastics. You don’t get extra points for difficulty. So make it as easy and natural as possible." - Juggler. Some guys overcomplicate it. But this is meant to be simple. Drop the pride and ego, it doesn't count in this area of your life.What is James Marshall doing these days? I haven't seen anything from him in ages. I like his low key energy, and I have had better results from his low-fi pickup chill vibe than from the usual "first step, look like an underwear model" types. | /r/seduction | 22/03/21 06:26 AM |
| 1 | Approached two girls at a bar last night and made a fool of myself.Good job! This is the way. | /r/seduction | 01/03/21 06:22 PM |
| 1 | Putting the "nice guy" vs "jerk" vs "kind" debate to rest. [Part 1]ok mr hopelessness. Don't care. Not concerned about you. You're a very wrong-headed person and I'm not going to communicate with you any more. | /r/seduction | 01/03/21 12:22 AM |
| 1 | Putting the "nice guy" vs "jerk" vs "kind" debate to rest. [Part 1]You're mad bc you're lonely and hopeless and filled with despair. I'd rather be wrong, enjoy my relationships and not think about you any more. | /r/seduction | 28/02/21 06:44 PM |
| 1 | Putting the "nice guy" vs "jerk" vs "kind" debate to rest. [Part 1]Fucks sake of course it's a thing, but its not the only thing, plus those are all about online dating, which is not the only way, nor does it capture a representative sample. But that doesn't matter, obviously, because you're undesirable, short and cranky. So clearly your confirmation biased research is the definitive word. Good job. Now stop whining about your undesirableness, no one cares. Only you can fix it, its no one else's problem. | /r/seduction | 26/02/21 03:38 AM |
| 1 | Putting the "nice guy" vs "jerk" vs "kind" debate to rest. [Part 1]Why are you so determined to be right about your abject hopelessness. Ok fine, you'll die alone and wailing in misery, short stack. But at least you'll be right on reddit one time. (Even though you're not) | /r/seduction | 26/02/21 03:34 AM |
| 1 | Putting the "nice guy" vs "jerk" vs "kind" debate to rest. [Part 1]Are you 4ft 2? Even if you were, if this guy can find a wife, so can you (The prince thing is a stage name) https://en.m.wikipedia.org/wiki/Prince_Randian | /r/seduction | 25/02/21 02:11 PM |
| 1 | Putting the "nice guy" vs "jerk" vs "kind" debate to rest. [Part 1]Do this experiment: conduct any experiment at all using a deeply un representative sample and try to publish your findings in any respectable science journal. I'll wait here. | /r/seduction | 25/02/21 02:08 PM |
| 6 | Finally grew some balls and started approaching strangers, here's what happened.". It feels like none of these interactions really ever happened. These interactions just came and went so quickly. I probably wouldn't have remembered them if I didn't write them down." This is how it was for them, too. Think about that when you feel anxious. There is literally no reason to be afraid of judgment from others for an interaction that will be forgotten very shortly. Only a very positive interaction, one they are willing to pursue further, will stick with them (barring shitty behavi… | /r/seduction | 21/02/21 06:42 PM |
| 0 | what is something attractive that women do during conservation (in person)?Be female and in at least reasonable shape and hygiene. They don't need anything else. But ones that make me go "wow"? One girl went up on stage at live band karaoke, snagged the guitarists guitar, and rocked out like Joan Jett. She also was a high society real estate agent. | /r/seduction | 20/02/21 07:04 AM |
| 1 | Social proof is all that mattersWow,. I should get started then. 🤣🤣😝 | /r/seduction | 17/02/21 12:48 AM |
| 1 | Social proof is all that mattersSo if I were to say, write naughty stories targeted to female audiences and build up an online presence around that? | /r/seduction | 16/02/21 10:02 PM |
| 1 | A once in a lifetime reminder: Confidence attracts beauty.Idk this dude wasn't ugly. He just had a Colorado stoner hippie vibe and dreads and didn't look well off at all. | /r/seduction | 16/02/21 01:59 PM |
| 3 | On dates I often act intensely platonic.🤣🤣 wait, you're serious? | /r/seduction | 15/02/21 07:53 PM |
| 4 | On dates I often act intensely platonic.I know what you mean, but what I want is to pop her boobs out right at the table and bang her right there. Not going to, but thats whats on my mind. | /r/seduction | 15/02/21 07:51 PM |
| 6 | A once in a lifetime reminder: Confidence attracts beauty.I've seen it happen. Dude who would go to a bar I used to hit. Looked like he lived in a van down by the river. White guy w dreads, dingy clothes, smelled like weed, and absolutely crushed it. He would kiss several girls right at the bar and take his fucking pick and leave w a hottie every time. Was nuts. I showed up in $1000 of stylish clothes (shoes, shirt, jacket, pants combined) and got compliments on my style, but got very little traction w women. | /r/seduction | 15/02/21 05:44 AM |
| 1 | You can't become good at seduction (or anything) by reading about it online. You have to try it, fail, then learn from your failures.Camel caps are harder to read | /r/seduction | 14/02/21 07:52 PM |
| 1 | You can't become good at seduction (or anything) by reading about it online. You have to try it, fail, then learn from your failures.Its weird, when I feel unworthy, people treat me unworthy. When I feel worthy, I get a lot more traction. | /r/seduction | 14/02/21 07:51 PM |
| 1 | Putting the "nice guy" vs "jerk" vs "kind" debate to rest. [Part 1]I do. And I'm right. Your absolute statement isn't supportable with facts | /r/seduction | 11/02/21 04:00 AM |
| 3 | If she mentions her ex pay attention to what she saysI like to think so. I've been disillusioned with nonsense so much that I'm bound to learn something from the experience. | /r/seduction | 10/02/21 11:27 PM |
| 0 | Putting the "nice guy" vs "jerk" vs "kind" debate to rest. [Part 1]More like: "All men have 3 arms!" "This one doesn't" | /r/seduction | 10/02/21 11:25 PM |
| 2 | If she mentions her ex pay attention to what she saysWow, is it bad of me that I find your clearheaded take on this is kinda hot? | /r/seduction | 10/02/21 09:11 PM |
| 0 | Putting the "nice guy" vs "jerk" vs "kind" debate to rest. [Part 1]Oh really? This dude begs to differ: http://imgur.com/a/7417P8u | /r/seduction | 10/02/21 09:04 PM |
| 33 | Putting the "nice guy" vs "jerk" vs "kind" debate to rest. [Part 1]Bonus note: girls want interactions with guys to be a fun experience. "Nice" is a bare minimum expectation of interaction with anyone at all. A "nice" guy brings nothing to the table and expects love for doing basically nothing. Its bland, its neutral, its dull. Not attractive. If the answer to "Who are you and why should I care?" is "nice" then you're going nowhere. If its "Whoever you want me to be" then you're actively repelling her. | /r/seduction | 10/02/21 09:00 PM |
| 11 | Stop censoring yourself around womenWell when you're young, act uncensored, and get punished for it because your interests are different from your peers, you build up walls and hide your truth behind them to keep others from harming you. If you hated organized sports at 6 because you'd rather free play, you get turned off of athletics. (Why should I stand by this base and not tackle the pitcher? This is boring. Free play is always active) When you're reading Frankenstein instead of skateboarding. When you find a bug interesting in… | /r/seduction | 28/01/21 09:30 PM |
| 8 | What does it mean when a girl tells you she’s trying to fly under the radar?Probably has a bf and is cheating? | /r/seduction | 24/01/21 06:59 AM |
| 7 | What are the Unspoken Rules in Threesome?Communication. Check in w everyone. Each person is there to please both the others. Pay attention. | /r/seduction | 23/01/21 03:07 PM |
| 37 | The Two Defining Traits of Being a Man: Competence plus StrengthSome values are poison. Sticking to those is weakness. Dogmatism is lazy. | /r/seduction | 13/01/21 04:43 PM |
| 1 | Friendzone? Women and their secret life revealed suddenly... OMG!Did you ask if she was in an open relationship? You're making a lot of assumptions | /r/seduction | 06/01/21 01:57 PM |
| 7 | Shouldn't you just look for signs of attraction instead of trying to spit game?I'm a dimmer switch lol | /r/seduction | 26/12/20 05:29 PM |
| 1 | A TRUE, HARSH and BRUTAL STORY. ( NO CHASING WOMEN. NO GIFTS. NO FREE ATETION....NO NO NO). Read what happens when you do those things.After her beauty and adventurousness are used up | /r/seduction | 16/12/20 06:14 AM |
| 3 | A TRUE, HARSH and BRUTAL STORY. ( NO CHASING WOMEN. NO GIFTS. NO FREE ATETION....NO NO NO). Read what happens when you do those things.Glad you did | /r/seduction | 16/12/20 06:12 AM |
| 22 | A TRUE, HARSH and BRUTAL STORY. ( NO CHASING WOMEN. NO GIFTS. NO FREE ATETION....NO NO NO). Read what happens when you do those things.Truth. Got to avoid even the appearance of neediness. | /r/seduction | 15/12/20 09:28 PM |
| 126 | A TRUE, HARSH and BRUTAL STORY. ( NO CHASING WOMEN. NO GIFTS. NO FREE ATETION....NO NO NO). Read what happens when you do those things.We are taught by well meaning parents and others when we are very little that people like you if you're nice to them. It sets up a false transactional mindset that says "IF I'm nice THEN reciprocation." Its very hard to shake that unintentional bullshit lesson. Truth is, attraction is called "attraction", not "transaction". You have to be attractive and people will be attracted if they are so inclined. You can't nice your way into friendships, love, sex, etc. All being nice does is lower barrier… | /r/seduction | 15/12/20 09:27 PM |
| 1 | My ex broke up with me saying that I texted him too much. I decided to write a program to analyze our text and using hard data to show him wrongI thought this was from r/dataisbeautiful until the very end... wow. It is interesting to see a chart of what overinvestment looks like. | /r/seduction | 08/12/20 02:10 PM |
| -5 | You can't earn a person’s affection through performing unrequested actions and then getting upset when they don’t give you what you want.Just don't do it. Even if she has already verbally agreed to sex and you'd help anyone else the same way. Women don't have sex w anyone who even might possibly be needy. | /r/seduction | 10/11/20 07:22 PM |
| -3 | You can't earn a person’s affection through performing unrequested actions and then getting upset when they don’t give you what you want.Even if it does, such behavior will come across as needy, no matter your intentions. Even if a woman asks you to have sex w her, don't go out of your way to help her before you have sex even if you'd do the same for anyone. Not if you have any interest in sex w her anyway. | /r/seduction | 10/11/20 07:19 PM |
| 1 | Older guys, what is some advice you can give to younger guys?With women,, don't buy their friendship and don't go out of your way for them, do things for them, or buy them things until AFTER sex. even then, don't do it much. (Ask me how I once had a girl ask me to fuck her, then I screwed it up by helping her too much) Chivalry is suspicious behavior these days beyond basic politeness. | /r/seduction | 09/11/20 03:19 AM |
| 7 | Older guys, what is some advice you can give to younger guys?Life is too short for bad relationships. Never stay with someone just to avoid being alone. Crazy is not worth it. Learn the red flags of emotional abuse and run at the first sign of legit crazy. Its better to ask a girl out and be shot down than to chicken out. More girls like you than will ever let you know about it. Women are not tender porcelain dolls. Most actually do like to be fucked rough, to some extent. Toss them around, make them feel your strength, once they have consented enthusiast… | /r/seduction | 09/11/20 03:16 AM |
| 1 | How to have an abundance of women if you're naturally an introvert?Following... I've seen a bit of success but not much | /r/seduction | 07/11/20 05:11 PM |
| 1 | I can't get laid life's not fairOnly if you remember to say "m'lady" every time. | /r/seduction | 07/11/20 04:13 PM |
| 2 | I can't get laid life's not fairBe sure to grow a long beard around just your neck, and cultivate a thin mustache too. Always bow when you meet women, and put on a ren faire accent to be funny. Try a Trilby and a button up silk shirt with wolves, dragons, or phoenixes to spice up your wardrobe. A top-knot ponytail with a buzzed undercut all the way around will surely give your hair that sexy style. Be sure your hair is oily enough to stain your shirt - the lanker the better! | /r/seduction | 07/11/20 04:54 AM |
| 1 | Recovering nice guys: Small acts of self respectWhat? | /r/seduction | 28/10/20 02:31 PM |
| 4 | Recovering nice guys: Small acts of self respectIm crushing the couch cushions son | /r/seduction | 28/10/20 02:30 PM |
| 5 | Recovering nice guys: Small acts of self respectTime to myself is the problem. Covid destroyed my self improvement plan bc 90% of it was about going to social events and large gatherings. No gym, no dance events, no music festivals no martial arts classes, no improv classes. Stuck at home in my own head with you tube and video games and the refrigerator.... not a good mix. | /r/seduction | 28/10/20 02:29 PM |
| 83 | Recovering nice guys: Small acts of self respectI've been backsliding | /r/seduction | 27/10/20 09:31 PM |
| 2 | Smiling at Strangers?Smile and a smouldering look | /r/seduction | 27/10/20 09:26 PM |
| 2 | Smiling at Strangers?I did that and she turned around and extended a hand and introduced herself. | /r/seduction | 27/10/20 03:48 AM |
| 1 | if you're a woman, stfu and stop acting like you're an expert because you were born with a vaginaBasics are basics. If your goal is just getting laid then that will show. | /r/seduction | 24/09/20 02:15 AM |
| 7 | Are bars or clubs even good places to find someone?Alcohol should be weaned off as soon as possible. It's a crutch and once you understand the relaxed, present-focused mode it puts you in, you can take on that frame without it. Treat it like training wheels if you must but relying on it too much will ultimately hurt your game. | /r/seduction | 20/09/20 06:52 PM |
| 5 | if you're a woman, stfu and stop acting like you're an expert because you were born with a vaginaIdk... I think that a lot of women give advice filtered by societal expectations of what they "should say", and leave out the parts that "good respectable women" won't admit to in public, but that doesn't mean they don't have good advice to give. Most of the advice I've heard from women has been along the lines of "1. Actually listen and see her for her, not some ideal in your head or only in relation to some man. 2. Have something interesting about you, and 3. Don't be a needy creep" All good s… | /r/seduction | 20/09/20 07:56 AM |
| 1 | For all the guys out there if you lock eyes with a girl and she smiles approach her please!I walked past a stunning woman at work and locked eyes with her, gave her a smirk and she opened up immediately and introduced herself. I then proceeded to drop the ball and screw it up but I can confirm this statement. | /r/seduction | 13/09/20 12:01 AM |
| 3 | How do I "hit it off" with someone I have nothing in common with?No just keep looking and don't settle | /r/seduction | 02/09/20 12:08 AM |
| 3 | How do I "hit it off" with someone I have nothing in common with?Why would you want to hit it off w someone you have nothing to connect w them about? | /r/seduction | 01/09/20 08:06 PM |
| -2 | Things a learnt from a very successful guyWhen people say don't "Lower yourself" what they mean is that they are jealous and they're making up an imaginary moral superiority because of sour grapes. | /r/seduction | 13/08/20 05:35 PM |
| 0 | REMINDER: It is natural to want and to have sex.Thes3 arw the kinds of women who judge you. Why care what they think? http://imgur.com/a/6S4DXr2. | /r/seduction | 10/08/20 07:31 PM |
| 2 | Do You Think Your Looks Are Holding You Back From Getting Attractive Women?I've been in the receiving end of this and its True. I met a 430lb dude w a huge belly and a hot petite girlfriend who obviously adored him. I'm not quite so big but I've had a hot friend ask if I wanted to sleep w her and tell me shes interested and was attracted to me. I had a smoking hot girl in a bar beckon me over to close dance w her. My fwb has said both she considers me a "9" myself but that I'm also by far the heaviest guy shes ever slept with. Another hot friend of I friend I met at a … | /r/seduction | 10/04/20 02:33 PM |
| 1 | Scarcity mindset is insidious and keeps coming backFair. There are limits. Crazy or STDs are def limits. | /r/seduction | 26/12/19 07:42 AM |
| 2 | Social dating code as understood by an autistic person who gets aroundWow... that's heavy I'm sorry that happened... | /r/seduction | 23/12/19 08:32 AM |
| 4 | Social dating code as understood by an autistic person who gets aroundHowd it go? | /r/seduction | 23/12/19 06:55 AM |
| 11 | Social dating code as understood by an autistic person who gets aroundI had an attractive autistic friend tell me outright she wanted to have sex but I screwed it up somehow during the months after and it never happened bc she changed her mind. I don't get what I did wrong and am still confused. | /r/seduction | 22/12/19 09:17 PM |
| 1 | Men were facing the same challenges we do, centuries ago.The Legend of Genji ftw | /r/seduction | 16/09/19 06:02 AM |
| 1 | Men were facing the same challenges we do, centuries ago.Ovid's Art of Love is spot on for basics and it was written 2000 years ago (except the parts about taking women by force) | /r/seduction | 16/09/19 06:01 AM |
| 1 | Tip: Take Improv Comedy Acting Classes.I went to a trial class but was expecting to be moving soon so didn't follow up. I really wanted it. Kinda salty that I let it go... but I'll try to find more classes in my new place. | /r/seduction | 26/08/19 01:54 AM |
| 1 | 🔥 OFFICIAL GUIDE: Dealing With All Shit Tests From Women (In Depth + Examples)I think he knows that won't always work. If it did he wouldn't have listed two more techniques | /r/seduction | 19/08/19 03:59 PM |
| 10 | Why girls freak out when their best friend proposes them?Yeah they are not saying they want a male friend to propose they want a lover to become a friend as well. Not the other way around.. FRIENDS do not become a girls LOVER practically ever. Maybe a fwb if they are lucky but marriage isnt happening. Going from a friend to anything else is so vanishingly rare that it is not worth it to try. And why would you ever think you can ever go from a platonic friendship to engaged to be married in one shot? Oh and ignore every hollywood/disney romance ever. I… | /r/seduction | 17/08/19 09:16 PM |
| 5 | How to Get Laid Tonight (Even If You're Only Mediocre With Women)Can you link that thread? | /r/seduction | 14/08/19 07:30 PM |
| 1 | How to Get Laid Tonight (Even If You're Only Mediocre With Women)This looks like the exact formula under Mystery Method | /r/seduction | 14/08/19 07:20 PM |
| 10 | Why do girls say they don't like gym pictures on Tinder, when that seems not to be the case in the majority of girls?Also, girls are different from each other. So it's not likely to be the same girls in each case | /r/seduction | 29/06/19 05:32 PM |
| 21 | Why do girls say they don't like gym pictures on Tinder, when that seems not to be the case in the majority of girls?I think they also verbalize through a filter of ASD then what they actually do when there is no risk of social judgment is quite different | /r/seduction | 29/06/19 05:30 PM |
| 9 | I found a way to bang foreign chicks who are visiting my cityHow about you post AFTER you have had an awesome summer banging hot tourist chicks using DuoLingo | /r/seduction | 10/06/19 12:19 PM |
| 2 | The game for gameThis looks very cool. I contributed. | /r/seduction | 03/06/19 08:56 PM |
| 2 | Eye contact! How funny!Yeah I look like a stormcloud by default | /r/seduction | 30/05/19 04:11 PM |
| 7 | Eye contact! How funny!Hmm. I kind of have resting gruff face. I might be replaying a hilarious comedy show in my head and in a silly mood but look like I have grim business to take care of regarding a fuckboy with a guitar and my little sister. I'll look into fixing that default. | /r/seduction | 29/05/19 09:35 PM |
| 7 | Eye contact! How funny!Ok. As far as I know I don't act creepy. I'm just walking by. | /r/seduction | 29/05/19 09:30 PM |
| 21 | Eye contact! How funny!What is this eye contact thing you people are always on about? IME women very deliberately avoid eye contact like the plague. It's either a very deliberate stare forward with no eye movement, a turn of the head away at just the right moment, or looking over my shoulder. I'm not being weird or staring, but I exist in a tunnel of averted eyes. I just thought that was how things were for everyone until I started hearing about how important it was for seduction and how getting it has been treated as… | /r/seduction | 29/05/19 08:15 PM |
| 5 | Can we get a Karma requirement for this sub?This is why I post almost exclusively to AskSeddit. I dont get enough success to have much to contribute here. | /r/seduction | 23/05/19 09:53 PM |
| 1 | I put a dog picture.. what should I say to this in a flirty way?Depends who youd rather hump your leg | /r/seduction | 21/05/19 06:40 PM |
| 0 | STOP!!!!!Except that it isnt like that for everyone. Dealing with women is not like pulling your hand away from a hot stove. You're describing a natural's instinct. It's more like a goose flying south on instinct. Not every bird has that instinct. Not every person has the proper instinct with women. Not everyone is like you, and the sooner you realize that the sooner you will understand people other than yourself. ETA: I'm not the one who first replied to you but you responded as though I were. | /r/seduction | 19/05/19 07:02 AM |
| 1 | STOP!!!!!If your instincts are wrong and fail, you need to learn to correct those bad instincts. Not everyone has good instincts. | /r/seduction | 18/05/19 05:43 AM |
| 1 | Oneitis is starting to resurface again. I need helpAgreed, setting up pretexts makes you awkward, go straight for what you want, no prevarication. Rip the bandaid off, dont pick at it. Fortune favors the bold, as my natural friend says | /r/seduction | 09/05/19 01:50 PM |
| 8 | How do you get over a woman losing attraction to you?This is good. I made a rule that I can only let myself get off if my dick is inside a womans body or in her hands. So handies, bj, fucking, anal (I'm not into that but it would count if I did it) etc. I dont always succeed, but it helps. | /r/seduction | 29/04/19 04:53 PM |
| 9 | How do you get over a woman losing attraction to you?Accept how you're feeling. Dont fight it, just experience it and focus on feeling it. Don't hide from it or shove it down inside, just accept it, acknowledge it, then let it go. | /r/seduction | 29/04/19 04:49 PM |
| 75 | How do you get over a woman losing attraction to you?No, that's how you get that interest in the first place. You dont get to tap into abundance until you start by opening up first. Go out, fill your time with things you love to do. Dont try to grab and keep, try to accept and embrace. It takes letting go of NEED and giving abundantly in order for it to come back. It takes letting go of the need for a specific woman for you to be in a place to build a life that includes many women. This is accomplished by rejecting the philosophy of having to rece… | /r/seduction | 29/04/19 04:47 PM |
| 2 | My first 2 approacgesAdjectives? Striking is solid. Dont go all word nerd and use pulchritude (creepy qnd not sexy aounding). Svelte (great word but a bit obscure, but has been used as a euphemism for chubby) or callypygian (more obscure) Basically look for words describing how you feel rather than about the woman directly. Striking works because it's about your feeling ( struck by her beauty) rather than her body (sexy, hot, stacked, curvy, etc) So stunning, breathtaking, distracting (deliver playfully), all work Y… | /r/seduction | 16/04/19 07:02 AM |
| 3 | My first 2 approacgesHeres what I do I speak playfully to the girl. Accuse her of always hanging around the place, If shes new, tell her you could tell because she's still shiny. Give high fives, ask her how her day is going. If she's cheerful and responding well a light bit of hand play can be fun, like an impromptu arn wrestling match. I like to say 1 2 3 go! Then not budge as she pushes and say go! again a couple times while ignoring her efforts. Just do what works for you. Sometimes I'll let them do their cust s… | /r/seduction | 16/04/19 06:47 AM |
| 2 | My first 2 approacgesGotcha, still general advice to avoid asking out girls at work Flirt like crazy, it's fun, but dont stick around too long and dont ask them out at work. I've had a number of embarrassing lessons on that myself. | /r/seduction | 15/04/19 03:03 PM |
| 3 | My first 2 approacgesVary the 'cute' thing. Cute is pretty generic and neutral. Not bad but not great. Try to focus in choices she made, so the compliment is to something about her personality or expression. If you like, say, her quirky style, say that. You could say she is 'striking' which covers both her style and physical attractiveness and tells her how you felt about it. Its possible to go too far with it. You don't want to sound like one of the stars of queer eye. Def don't belabor the compliments. One and don… | /r/seduction | 15/04/19 02:55 PM |
| 1 | The "Cuckold phenomenon"This is an awesome post! Personally when my partner fucks other guys, for me it reaffirms she is desirable to others but I have her. Makes me appreciate her more and keeps sex wher fresh (plus she learns new techniques in bed) When I fuck other women, I'm experiencing the variety you mentioned, plus I get a sense of abundance and acceptance. I feel sexy too.. Plus it's hot and I learn new ways to please my main partner. Rn she she and I both have one other regular fwb plus I'm starting up with a… | /r/seduction | 13/04/19 05:33 AM |
| 2 | The "Cuckold phenomenon"You have a big monogamy bias. Having other partners doesn't have to mean being submissive. (Many are but it's not always the case.) Women love sex and it doesn't necessarily follow that just because a man is ok with his wife/gf fucking other people that he is being a sub, or is into being humiliated or thath 5h3 other man or men are more dominant. He may have other women he sleeps with himself and figures it's only fair that his women get to play too. Plus, women aren't always desperately seekin… | /r/seduction | 12/04/19 09:36 PM |
| 3 | As a girl, how do i pick up guys in bars?Lol, I walked into a bar q couple winters ago and before I got out of the foyer, this girl shrugged off the arm of the guy pulling her from the bar and she asked me what secrets were under my overcoat and tried to climb inside it. She was drunk af and the guy grumpily dragged her out of the bar but it was funny and if not for him and my surprise, I'd be telling a story of pulling a girl in one second, though she was too drunk to mess with, but hey, the night was young and sobering up doesnt take… | /r/seduction | 08/04/19 07:48 PM |
| 4 | As a girl, how do i pick up guys in bars?Stand near the guy and make sure he sees you. Smiling and eye contact, winks, lip biting, hair twirling. Make sure any girlfriends you have with you wont act as guard dogs. Dont be with too many friends in a group, two others at most. Look at what the male PUA groups tell guys to look for as IOIs and do those things. Basically be available, show interest and be forgiving of nervousness | /r/seduction | 08/04/19 07:42 PM |
| 1 | Had multiple successful dates. Here’s the pattern that’s working for me.To me, this looks like a "Friendzone me" approach that cuts out the desperation. Unfortunately it hinges on getting matches without addressing how to get matches. If you're not model-hot, women straight up wont match you. | /r/seduction | 21/03/19 09:16 PM |
| 1 | 5 Tragic Reasons Why The Average Guy Doesn't Get GirlsWhat? I'm not portraying myself as a sex god and I didn't say I had more than 7 lovers myself but I see that as a small number and I want more | /r/seduction | 18/02/19 10:27 PM |
| -4 | 5 Tragic Reasons Why The Average Guy Doesn't Get GirlsOh I do...And so do my partners Hey practicing makes you better at things. Seven lovers does not an expert make | /r/seduction | 18/01/19 01:34 AM |
| -8 | 5 Tragic Reasons Why The Average Guy Doesn't Get GirlsETA Oh, you're a woman... quit spewing lies. You know damn well you say shit like this to hide your own sexual nature even from yourself. Below is what I originally wrote before misgendering you lol ......... That's hilarious. And deluded. A good woman doesn't want some bumbletoungued inexperienced goober fumblegroping her tits, flapping around naked on top of her and cumming in three seconds because hes hardly even touched a woman before. No, a quality woman wants a skilled and experienced love… | /r/seduction | 18/01/19 01:25 AM |
| -5 | 5 Tragic Reasons Why The Average Guy Doesn't Get GirlsThis sounds like an excuse for mediocrity | /r/seduction | 17/01/19 11:15 PM |
| 1 | Criticism to PUA (My friend seems crazy).Cite examples? | /r/seduction | 07/12/18 05:47 PM |
| 1 | Criticism to PUA (My friend seems crazy).Listening to what the rsd guys are actually saying, there is nothing of misogyny about it. It's easy to take it that way if you if you take it out of context, but when they describe guys like OPs friend, it's as an example of how not to be. Frankly I think Tyler and Maddison would be disgusted by the attitude and behavior this guy is displaying. | /r/seduction | 07/12/18 05:43 PM |
| 1 | 5 Devilish First Date Tips For Men To Seal The DealI wonder if you mean that, or if you say that because of social stigma of respinding to confident men who put themselves forward rather than hiding behind a table. It's ok to want the guy you're with. | /r/seduction | 02/10/18 07:42 PM |
| 1 | Got told by friends that I was attractive enough to date and fun enough to hang out with, but I don’t seem like the type to hook up with girls casually. How do I become more hook up worthy?Is this where direct action and indirect words applies? | /r/seduction | 05/07/18 03:31 PM |
| 1 | Solo Game TipsI made bar friends w a hot 9 who made me instantly more attractive bc I would hug and swing her around . Shes a blonde fitness trainer and just her being happy to see me made me the cool guy. Plus I learned a lot just hanging w her and watching as she would do the things pickup coaches say women do. Stand near guys she liked play w her hair etc. Its amazing how oblivious guys are | /r/seduction | 05/07/18 03:28 PM |
| 3 | 10 principles of gameDirect nonverbal, indirect verbal | /r/seduction | 13/06/18 08:00 PM |
| 10 | I’m Flattered but I’m Engaged - 100 Women in 50 Days - Day 5Good job doing this man. I wish I heard "I am rejecting you in a romantic context. You are not my type and simply don't do it for me" in a rejection. What I hear is this: "Eew you're disgusting both physically and socially. Your approach is insulting to me personally and to women in general. I am revolted physically and traumatized emotionally by your having dared speak to me, and you should be ashamed of your very existence. Unwelcome approaches, such as yours by definition are, are tantamount … | /r/seduction | 07/06/18 08:34 PM |
| 2 | [FR] Minor successes for a beginnerKino is kinesthetic Here referring to touching her. Something like touching her arm or showing her a trick with her hand. Tonight I did some kino by messing with a girls elbow and saying she should take muay Thai (she had knocked over a glass with her elbow earlier so there was context to justify it.) Read the sidebar to get all the basic lingo | /r/seduction | 30/05/18 06:20 AM |
| 1 | What is wrong with me?Be interesting. Women of quality want a good experience not just a rich fit guy and if you can provide good experiences that engage her physically and emotionally then she'll be drawn to you. So yeah find yourself and the experiences you enjoy for yourself then start inviting women to explore those with you. This is why dinner and movies are a shitty date. Working all the time does not help you provide experiences that attract women to you. Maybe try toning down the wealth display and going with… | /r/seduction | 22/04/18 02:31 PM |
| 1 | What does it mean if a girl does thisThat's interest. Not love not a soul connection but a definite sign she's into you at least in the moment | /r/seduction | 22/04/18 02:24 PM |
| 1 | Let's be honest here. How many of you on this subreddit actually approach?I've never seen white guys or girls care too much about that. | /r/seduction | 22/04/18 02:22 PM |
| 1 | Let's be honest here. How many of you on this subreddit actually approach?I approach but my intent is weak and I'm oblivious to ioi Case in point last week I talked w a girl and gave her a high5 which SHE turned into a hand squeeze as I walked by and I was long gone before I realized 'Hey wait a minute... I bet she thinks I rejected her...' It's bad but I'm learning. | /r/seduction | 22/04/18 02:20 PM |
| 1 | DayGame Insta Date breakthroughOk... wall of text makes this hard to get through And you didn't actually say what happenned. I'm assuming you got to take the cute bike shop girl home? | /r/seduction | 22/04/18 02:17 PM |
| 1 | The BEST trait a man can haveI start looking for things to disagree w her about. I almost kind of get disappointed when she likes something I like too. I'm afraid I'll come off try hard just because we share an interest. I guess I like too much stuff. | /r/seduction | 21/04/18 03:20 PM |
| 1 | STOTD - I could out drink you, any dayIt's shocking how much common knowledge flies right over people's heads | /r/seduction | 19/02/18 08:42 PM |
| 1 | STOTD - What kind of car do you drive?Remember he hates LA because of the driving culture there and lack of walking-accessible venues | /r/seduction | 19/02/18 08:23 PM |
| 1 | STOTD - Isn't that guy cute?!This is actually true. Girl picked me up in a lesbian bar one time. Surreal but fun. | /r/seduction | 19/02/18 08:01 PM |
| 0 | Women linger around me for some reason in unusual situations.Dude this is how girls do it. They make themselves available. I've seen them do it and heard them outright say they're doing exactly that to get a guys attention. You're insulting them by ignoring them. Knock it off its rude. Just talk to them, they want you to. | /r/seduction | 08/12/17 05:22 PM |
| 1 | [FR] I went for it.To put it briefly, don't bias the jury against you and don't take their decisions away from them by self-rejecting. That's like not taking yes for an answer and is almost as bad as not taking no for an answer. | /r/seduction | 08/12/17 05:09 PM |
| 1 | I'm really depressed by my lack of success with women.I was balding at 27. I realized I didnt want to be the guy w the combover before 30 so I shaved my head and it was like a weight lifted off my spirit. I was immediately more attractive than before not just bc I shaved my head and grew a goatee but because I was no longer short circuiting myself because of my hair. Every improvement you make will do double duty like this. The immediate improvement in appearance plus the boost in confidence. Long term goals like building muscle or losing weight do… | /r/seduction | 18/10/17 07:08 PM |
| 1 | Success story - didn't think this would ever happen and wanted to share what worked for meThis is awesome. I'm still in an earlier stage and frustrated but its good to see that it does eventually work. I never bought into the Redpill though I do think their concerns are valid if not their bitterness. I've noticed a growing sense of abundance attitude and that women are responding better if not to the point of being sexual just yet. Girl gave me a bit of close dancing last night before moving on at a club which was nice and I had some genuine interest from others before I lost it but … | /r/seduction | 07/10/17 07:34 PM |
| 4 | First date sober. Learn from my mistake.Thing is alcohol doesn't add anything to anybody that wasn't already there. All it does is drop your filters. All that smooth is still there you just need to learn to do it sober. | /r/seduction | 25/09/17 01:02 PM |
| 2 | Long term: Pickup ain't enough. You have to BECOME your best version for good.Good luck in your life Without being an alpha Why don't you like it? -actual haiku form | /r/seduction | 25/09/17 12:59 PM |
| 1 | [FR] Newb FR - Very short solo night out working on approachesThe only thing I can think if is don't bother a table who are all super focused on each other or huddled together. Find a table w one or more girls looking around or not super engaged w the others. This girl is hoping to get attention from outside the group. Sometines a girl like this is rebounding and needs to get filled to take her mind off an ex or something. | /r/seduction | 22/09/17 02:23 PM |
| 1 | [FR] Newb FR - Very short solo night out working on approaches"Fuck it" is a superpower. | /r/seduction | 22/09/17 02:51 AM |
| 3 | [FR] Newb FR - Very short solo night out working on approachesThanks! | /r/seduction | 21/09/17 12:41 PM |
| 1 | How to deal with a guy that is trying to pickup your my girl? The guy is actually her dance partener.98% he's gay. This is very common in ballet. The few straight guys in ballet have their choice of flexible athletic women who are thirsty for male attention. This guy if he is straight might just be after your girl bc he can't have her. | /r/seduction | 20/09/17 02:23 PM |
| 3 | Yes, One Mistake is Enough to Lose HerGiving a shit about "Should" doesn't get you laid. Girls "should" like you if you treat them kindly and respect their bodies and words. Girls "should" be repulsed by the guy who walks up and says sexual things to her and makes fun of you or beats you up. Girls "Should" value your years of adoring romantic love for her. "Should" is worth precisely jack plus shit. The fact is what they do get wet for is a confident man with an iron hard frame and a cock to match and who will make her feel desired … | /r/seduction | 18/09/17 07:32 PM |
| 2 | Thanks fellas!Cool. I'm absorbing wisdom too. What subs have helped you? | /r/seduction | 14/09/17 04:06 AM |
| 1 | [FR][BQ] Short night out, minor breakthrough. No "success" but def progressThanks. One time I was at a piano har and a cute 7 or 8 flirted w me and told me she liked Champaign so I escorted her to the bar to get her one. I was about to order when a big muscular blonde guy came up and tapped my shoulder. "Hey. This is my wife" he says. She looked sheepish. I shook his hand and said "Hi! You want some Champaign too?" That got a laugh and some drunken bullshit from her about me passing her test. I excused myself saying " Im sure you have a lot to discuss" and didn't spend… | /r/seduction | 14/09/17 04:03 AM |
| 1 | FR: Papi Takes Her VirginityAwesome FR. Great example of text game too. Thanks for posting that. This sort of thing is great for newbs like me | /r/seduction | 07/09/17 09:50 PM |
| 2 | Whatchu Wanna Know Ask Away (Seduction Related)Ok Avoiding stallout in conversation? | /r/seduction | 04/09/17 08:00 PM |
| 3 | My (22F) thoughts on nice guysSemantics. Not an epiphany. The nice guy puts women on a pedestal and is thrilled when a woman graces him with her favor. He holds doors for her because he wants her to like him. The good man holds the door, too, but it's because he wants to be the kind of man who holds the door not because he seeks praise. The woman can tell the difference. | /r/seduction | 28/08/17 05:24 PM |
| 3 | Girl gave me her number. Now What? I've never gotten this far.now ask her on a more serious date assuming the coffee went well. Don't do movies though. Something like in a Rom com. A carnival or museum or comedy show or indoor skydiving or something cool | /r/seduction | 21/08/17 08:29 PM |
| 1 | Beginner learning the basicsany thoughts on how to calibrate these factors? Or is that down to experience? | /r/seduction | 19/08/17 07:04 AM |
| 1 | Beginner learning the basicsThat's a good point. Hadn't considered that. So the hot waitress who told me she felt safer w me in her section needs more of that I'm guessing | /r/seduction | 19/08/17 02:21 AM |
| 2 | Beginner learning the basicsNot trying to troll. This is why I'm here to get opinions. I'll figure out what I think works for me and try it out. If I find myself friendzoned I'll turn those girls into social proof for other girls So for 1, do you try to make them feel like you're a danger to them? Like for the thrill of the bad boy? I get not being the Safe Guy. So would it work for them to feel safe with you but not safe from you? Some clarity would be helpful As for 2 I said for her to feel special not be special to me. … | /r/seduction | 18/08/17 11:12 PM |
| 2 | Flying soloI fly solo way too much. How long can you do it before you become That Guy? I had one girl shit test me for drinking alone bc I didn't come w anyone and I blew it. Not badly but I stumbled on it and didn't recover fast enough or well enough and she bailed. | /r/seduction | 18/08/17 04:00 PM |
| 2 | How I made it happen (m,24)Was interested in the one w the blonde girl but it sucks you had to remove audio. Can you lay down the concepts behind how you got with her? | /r/seduction | 18/08/17 04:30 AM |
| 1 | What's a crucial part of your game?My black microsuede blazer | /r/seduction | 18/08/17 12:21 AM |
| 4 | I think I fucked up with a HB8.Your door isn't closed yet but she's ready to slam it shut forever. Running away now w/o a word is petulance. Basically taking your ball and going home. Her quote there shows she's smart and able to curate her feelings but I'm not seeing a fuck off there but she is pissed. Time to take a page from Mr Darcey. There is nothing to be lost at this point by showing a hint of masculine vulnerability in a stoic manner here. Tell her you accept that you caught feelings and panicked, acknowledge your mis… | /r/seduction | 16/08/17 09:53 PM |
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