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I may be remembering wrong, but didn't you use to date casually? If so, yeah you're full of shit. No one is hot enough for everyone to be into them.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/01/23 06:02 PM
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What… what are you talking about? “Every man you want wouldn’t want you”? That doesn’t resonate with me, like… at all. I have never been rejected in my life. I’ve never even worried about being rejected. Lol sure you haven't
/r/PurplePillDebate18/01/23 02:30 PM
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That's fair, but I'd say it's better people who have a problem with it date similarly minded folk than ignore a boundary of theirs and end up in a toxic relationship with no trust.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/01/23 01:21 AM
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You know it is
/r/PurplePillDebate04/01/23 03:35 PM
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But can't you understand why that might be a problem for some men? It can be insecurity, difference in value, religion, etc. There are many reasons why people care about this, even some women do.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/01/23 03:27 PM
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By definition a non virgin can't be an incel
/r/PurplePillDebate04/01/23 12:11 AM
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I'd just like to know why you decided to be a dick out of nowhere. Can't handle someone countering your point?
/r/PurplePillDebate03/01/23 08:45 PM
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Why bother responding if you're just going to resort to sarcasm?
/r/PurplePillDebate03/01/23 08:01 PM
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I didn't see said posts so I wouldn't know about that. But even then some people just dislike holidays and traditions, doesn't necessarily mean they have 0 friends either.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/01/23 07:53 PM
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Yeah, I've seen firsthand here how they immediately assume you must be some creep if you struggle to find people, and if you try to argue how lookism is to blame for that you're bombarded with insults like incel and virgin. I try because every once in a while I find sensible women here who at least are open to listening and changing their minds about this topic, but unfortunately they are few and far between.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/01/23 06:30 PM
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Yes, because society has never been egalitarian, and never will until you acknowledge we exist
/r/PurplePillDebate03/01/23 05:29 PM
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And I'm pretty sure that was the case for the majority of people. Just because they were on Reddit that day means they were alone in a basement somewhere? Lol
/r/PurplePillDebate03/01/23 05:28 PM
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Not trying to defend real bullies here, but sometimes we can internalize attacks that aren’t really attacks. I know what that looks like, also perspective can change with age too. You are correct, but have been bullied my entire school career pretty much, mostly targeted at my looks, I know how the average person's experiencing with bullying is, and seldomly it comes from well intentioned interactions that the victim misinterpreted, most kids at tween age beyond are complete shitheads, and quite…
/r/PurplePillDebate03/01/23 02:55 PM
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I mean the notion that sex determines a men's value. I see very few women, specially in this sub, that actually fight against this idea. Most just reinforce it because it's an easy dig at men they don't like.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/01/23 02:32 PM
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I mean you're not wrong, but women certainly reinforce that as it's more important to offend us than dismantle this notion you guys consider toxic.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/01/23 12:35 PM
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Being angry yes, being bitter, no. Anger is a healthy emotion and one should allow themselves to feel however they need to feel in order to process those emotions and not end up spiteful and resentful. As to how does it help? It doesn't really, but let's be real, undesirable people on that level just aren't gonna be presented with many options in life, and being stuck in that situation is quite disheartening. Knowing that you'll always have a massive disadvantage to others can make one very frus…
/r/PurplePillDebate03/01/23 12:34 PM
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Bullying is always wrong, and I don’t blame them for being bullied, I’m just saying there is a perspective. I'm sorry, but the fact you're going out of your way to see the perspective of bullies and not the bullied says a lot. Bullies don't deserve empathy, they deserve punishment. Someone can internalize others being friendly to them as an attack, even if they meant well. Someone can internalize someone being just friendly the wrong way. Sure, it still doesn't justify bullying that person back …
/r/PurplePillDebate03/01/23 12:27 PM
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How do you know if anything you do or did could work for incels and other ugly people? It's only destructive if there's an actual, healthy alternative to it.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/01/23 12:03 PM
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Are you ugly tho?
/r/PurplePillDebate03/01/23 11:53 AM
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So because the majority enjoys going out to overcrowded parties during New Year's Eve to get wasted, everyone else should as well? Imagine thinking being a drone is a flex.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/01/23 11:49 AM
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Lol you guys are literally here all day as well. TF are you flexing about?
/r/PurplePillDebate03/01/23 11:44 AM
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The whole "Red pill" name is so idiotic when they are the ones that are trying to hold on to patriarchy and how things have always been done while society is moving in an egalitarian direction. Yeah, except for the lonely and undesirables, they can just die for all you guys care. Egalitarian my ass.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/01/23 11:40 AM
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Non virgins can also struggle to find new partners
/r/PurplePillDebate03/01/23 11:35 AM
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So basically you wrote this entire manifesto just to blame men for being bullied, made fun of them for their lack of experience and said if they're being called incel they deserve it. Way to prove the meme wrong buddy, lol
/r/PurplePillDebate03/01/23 11:25 AM
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When your "men's problems" is you have nowhere to put your dick then yes, you're an incel. What a beautiful way of describing the desire for forming romantic connections. Y'all are as bad as the incels
/r/PurplePillDebate03/01/23 11:21 AM
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Not necessarily, a lot of men have had previous sexual encounters but struggle to find new people all the same. Not only incels struggle with dating.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/01/23 11:16 AM
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Really? You never see women here insulting men? Sorry but you're either new or being disingenuous
/r/PurplePillDebate03/01/23 11:14 AM
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How does one make themselves as ugly as possible? Do you shove your face into into fire or smth?
/r/PurplePillDebate02/01/23 02:30 PM
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I already told you Japan is an outlier, none of the other major countries are in any serious danger due to lower birthrates.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/01/23 02:28 PM
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Exactly, the sign of more developed countries is having lower birthrates, not less. And we are not in crisis, we deal with the consequences of overpopulation everyday, and are destroying the planet to feed people's ego to breed. Enough people are being born, we would need to go down significantly for that to actually become a problem. And most developed countries aren't Japan, whose issues are very specific to their country and culture. We'll do fine, better in fact, with less people procreating…
/r/PurplePillDebate02/01/23 08:16 AM
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Lol buddy please, if anything there are way too many people already in the world. We should be striving for lower birthrates, not more.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/01/23 05:41 AM
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Nope, the comparison is ridiculous
/r/PurplePillDebate02/01/23 05:31 AM
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A man who is desperate for sex and who doesn't regret it is the subject of ridicule. Nope, women don't like guys who are desperate, true. But they absolutely will make fun of, or at least think lowly of, grown men who are virgins. And if said man does something that pisses her off? You can bet she will use that as an insult. You interpreting this as virgin shaming is just wrong. No, you just don't want to admit women are cruel and do this often. Women don't like promiscuous men. Sure, but that d…
/r/PurplePillDebate01/01/23 01:33 PM
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Nope, annoy a woman and her go to insults to hurt a man will be either his penis size or his lack of success with women, aka getting sex, which usually translates into calling them a virgin.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/01/23 01:21 PM
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Because logically it makes no sense and my own experiences corroborate to that as well as others I know.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/01/23 01:09 PM
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Go find a hobby then. Can't imagine someone older than my parents spending their time arguing with teens.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/01/23 01:08 PM
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Nope, one can be awkward af at flirting but killer in bed. There's zero correlation.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/01/23 01:07 PM
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Woman, why are you on your 50's and married and spending time arguing with 20 yo's on PPD. Get your life together geez
/r/PurplePillDebate01/01/23 12:44 PM
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That's dumb. Just because women don't pay attention to a guy doesn't mean he wouldn't be a good lover. How would those women even know without trying it? Your argument makes no sense.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/01/23 12:42 PM
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Lots of people, but to women that's the go to insult
/r/PurplePillDebate01/01/23 12:32 PM
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Yeah, and how many obese women there are compared to the number of men who have no luck in those apps? These two scenarios are in no way comparable
/r/PurplePillDebate01/01/23 10:39 AM
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Sure, but then maybe we should stop pretending passing from hand to hand is something to be proud of. Also, maybe women would be shamed less if they themselves stopped using their privilege to humiliate men for being virgins. You didn't earn your sexual success, you did 0 of the work, so like stop giving men shit for having to actually learn how to play the game instead of being given cheat codes.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/01/23 10:36 AM
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Why are you here then?
/r/PurplePillDebate01/01/23 10:31 AM
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Of course not, that's not something women go through. Why would they complain about that?
/r/PurplePillDebate30/12/22 04:57 PM
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This cope is next level
/r/PurplePillDebate30/12/22 04:49 PM
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Yes physical attractiveness is important the most important nah. Nah, if you aren't attracted to someone physically, no other quality can make him a valuable option. Unlike any flaws that can be overlooked if he's hot enough. In the case for Mr. Friendzone. She could have gotten to know him he may not be her type physically. But like also there's a personal quality too that just says friend? And the attraction just isn't clicking. Now I don't think it's right if this guy approaches to date and y…
/r/PurplePillDebate30/12/22 12:47 PM
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It's not really their failure if they never had a chance to begin with
/r/PurplePillDebate27/12/22 11:11 AM
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Calling it insecurity is 100% your own projection. There are people who don't like promiscuity due to values, people who find it shameful, impersonal, indicative of issues with commitment and emotional unavailability. Not everyone who has an issue with n count is insecure because they can't do the same, that's a small subset of people.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/12/22 07:07 PM
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But were you ever tempted to date them? If not you were never really attracted to them, you just recognize they are likable and attractive people.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/12/22 08:03 PM
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Having similarities does not make you “essentially the same.” Maybe men view women who are similar enough as being the same, but women aren’t viewing men that way.. small differences in the way you get on with someone can have much larger “consequences” in terms of compatibility. Women focus on these details and we pick a lot of it up based on how our very basic banter/interactions go. These small differences shouldn't be enough to completely kill your interest in someone who's your type. I'm in…
/r/PurplePillDebate22/12/22 07:59 PM
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But how can they be more compatible if you're essentially the same type of person? Liking ones looks over the other's isn't a matter of compatibility. Also can you guys please stop with this "women don't own you anything" crap? This is not what's being argued.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/12/22 07:03 PM
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That I can agree, as that happened with me and my ex (well, sort of). Attraction can definitely develop at later stages. However this isn't really a contradiction to what I was saying before. Just because it's a premature rejection doesn't change the fact they aren't interested in what you have to offer. Maybe that can change later, but in that moment they had to judge with what info they had and it just wasn't enough for them.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/12/22 07:01 PM
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Half the time saying you're not compatible is just a polite way of saying you don't like the person. Most people get rejected way before discussing kids. Like I said, I don't believe the one rejecting is being mean, but most often then not they are rejecting you because they don't like what you have to offer.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/12/22 06:57 PM
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What about rejecting someone to then date someone similar to them? How is that not personal to you?
/r/PurplePillDebate22/12/22 06:50 PM
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I wouldn't, but that's a different situation as well. The homeless guy isn't criticizing me, he's refusing change. I wouldn't care if a gorgeous woman refused money from me. But yes, I'm way more affected to criticism by people I'm interested in than a random bum. Because my brain decided they are enough for me, but that person doesn't reciprocate that feeling.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/12/22 06:47 PM
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I mean I don't dwell on it and move on, but obviously at the moment it kind of stings. It's essentially the same as someone criticizing you, you're gonna feel a little defensive at the moment because your ego's being attacked. But after the initial "shock" I say fuck it and move on.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/12/22 05:23 PM
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I'd be willing to agree with you if people didn't often date others that are so different from each other. Like, our of your previous relationships, were all your ex's similar people? Most women I know date very different people throughout their lives. So if it was just about personality aligning people would stay within a type, right? But people often date a variety of people throughout their lives. Not to mention when they reject someone only to date someone else who's very similar, but more t…
/r/PurplePillDebate22/12/22 05:19 PM
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You seem overly combative for no reason. Do you wanna talk my friend? If you think I support going back to the 50's or smth you are mistaken. I think individual freedom of choice is more important than my own happiness regarding dating, so no I don't think what happened and is happening to women in some places is fair. But just because women having been dealing with this shit for longer doesn't mean I can't vent about my own situation.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/12/22 05:15 PM
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So, NOTHING to do with a individual women in question, connecting on a personal level, growing to love and care for someone in a reciprocal relationship. No? Because we were talking about men who are interested in casual dating. I did mention romantic relationships bellow tho, can you read? There was just no need to go in depth as to why paying for a hooker wouldn't fill that void, as it's pretty obvious to anyone paying for sex and having a relationship are completely different. No, you want re…
/r/PurplePillDebate22/12/22 05:11 PM
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The difference is an where men lose women's sympathy is for the most part, once a woman knows she is definitely not interested in you as a person she will let you know or she will. not lead you on. In most cases, not all. Sure, if you call ghosting letting you know lol. Very few women have actually just told me they're not interested, majority just stop talking to you with no regard to your emotions. MEN on the other hand feel perfectly justified in sleeping with women once and ignoring them for…
/r/PurplePillDebate22/12/22 05:04 PM
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They don't affect how I view my own worth, but essentially what they're saying is that to them my worth isn't good enough. I move on after, but no way to not call it personal.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/12/22 04:54 PM
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Definitely with you there. I look after my girls IRL, the rest can scram.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/12/22 07:11 AM
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What you are describing is not as simple and as available as you made yourself to believe. Considering about 90% of people get to experience it I'd say it's pretty simple and available. How many people do you know who missed out their 20's and 30's and just didn't date? I don't know any. I am a conservative, and we are apparently known for our lack of empathy. Nothing to do with conservative. Women are very indifferent for men's plight, this isn't new or exclusive to you. I do not believe in the…
/r/PurplePillDebate22/12/22 06:55 AM
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Then by your definition everyone is entitled. There's nothing wrong with desiring something and being sad was for not getting it, especially something as simple and as available to the vast majority as sex and romance. You guys lack of empathy never fails to amaze me tho. Very easy to say "deal with it" when you're not the one who'll miss out on having relationships and have to live with it.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/12/22 06:43 AM
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Sure, but the sheer volume of posts like these says allot. Also every girl I know kinda hates hook ups because of this. Meanwhile, my guys friends who do well with casual sex are jerks to the women they sleep with and ghost.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/12/22 06:31 AM
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Most people I know who do are complete dicks about it. And other people and the internet seem to agree with this, just need to read how many ghosting stories people post here every day, for example.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/12/22 06:20 AM
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Wow we got to the conclusion a lot faster than normal, props. Well yeah, it's not really a hard conclusion to reach and it's something I've been aware for years now. Just takes a bit of self reflection. Here’s the thing I don’t give a flying fuck if a man has been conditioned by his peers or society to believe his self esteem/self worth is tied to his sexual prowess. Do I think society has failed young men by pushing this narrative? Absolutely! Still has nothing to do with women needing to make …
/r/PurplePillDebate22/12/22 06:16 AM
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It's not the promiscuity that society judges, it's the assholery. This type of behavior is part of hookup culture tho, so criticizing the behavior is criticizing promiscuous people.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/12/22 06:08 AM
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At least you're up front about it and seem to have emotional responsibility for who you sleep with. That already puts you above most promiscuous people by quite a margin.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/12/22 06:05 AM
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I like the sentiment but, how can rejection not be personal? When you approach, you're showcasing what you are and what you have to offer. You're showing little snippets of your personality, sense of humor, values, aspirations, etc. When the other person rejects you, they're basically saying that's not good enough for them. You've exposed to them who you are, all the little things that make you yourself, and they just said "nah". Doesn't mean they're trying to be cruel to you, but this is straig…
/r/PurplePillDebate22/12/22 05:52 AM
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What do you mean we don't have free will?
/r/PurplePillDebate22/12/22 05:44 AM
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Doesn't help. The point of being successful in dating/ hooking up isn't Just for sex, but to actually achieve attracting someone, having that person willingly want to have sex with you. It's a form or validation, to feel wanted and desirable and not inferior to more successful men. Obviously can't have that paying a hooker. And if we're talking about wanting a relationship, well I don't even need to address how paying for sex won't help with that either.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/12/22 05:42 AM
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Guys tend to be very resistent to therapy tho. Most female friends I know so therapy, most male ones don't and have a negative opinion about it.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/12/22 05:38 AM
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The bar is low for normal men. Men in PPD tend to be the bottom of the barrel, so for us the bar is all up there.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/12/22 05:36 AM
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I get you but like we can't just violate people's free will just because a lot of us are unhappy. Imagine being forced to be with someone you hate because you have to? Sounds miserable. This crisis with ever increasing lonely men is concerning and particularly sad for me, but the solution just isn't going back to the 50's.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/12/22 05:34 AM
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Different needs. You people don't seem to understand that.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/12/22 05:27 AM
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Only if you're around average. Ugly people don't have a chance there.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/12/22 05:25 AM
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I wouldn't call feel you're missing out on an experience most people have as entitlement. Knowing you don't measure up to others and that there's nothing you can do to change it is pretty shitty, and takes a blow at one's self esteem.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/12/22 05:20 AM
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I don't think it's worth trying at this point. If you're at least average there may be some saving grace if you apply yourself, but for ugly men like me there's just nothing you can do. No matter how much you try you'll never measure up to other people who were lucky enough to be attractive. This is something I've been processing for a while since I quit dating and I've already accepted it, but sometimes it's hard to find the motivation to keep going. Hard to love yourself when you know people f…
/r/PurplePillDebate22/12/22 05:17 AM
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Tom Holland is dating Zandaya, what are you talking about?
/r/PurplePillDebate21/12/22 09:50 PM
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Well 100 was a hyperbole, but yeah to me promiscuous is extreme cases, not just attractive women who hook up once or twice. But yeah, I wonder what percentage promiscuous people represent in total.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/12/22 09:56 PM
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I'd ask her about previous experiences, we would share a couple stories then I would just straight out ask her how many people she's been with, trying to not sound judgemental in doing so. Depending on what I hear next will define my following actions, but I wouldn't try to make her feel bad about it, I'd just end it and say we're incompatible.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/12/22 09:54 PM
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Anything over 20. I would already be uncomfortable with around 15 but maybe it could be understandable if she started having sex early. Twenty plus is a no go for me
/r/PurplePillDebate20/12/22 07:39 PM
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10 people isn't being promiscuous. Having slept with 100 guys by 25 is, and all those cases always have some underlying issue behind it, it's never about just "women enjoy sex too!" I'm not going to search down the internet for something that's easily observable from people who live those lifestyles.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/12/22 07:37 PM
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Simple matter of logic. If someone is unattached to sex, is impulsive and tends to make poor decisions, is hypersexual usually due to trauma coping or trying to fill some hole, what do you think they'll do when presented with the opportunity and temptation to cheat?
/r/PurplePillDebate20/12/22 05:01 PM
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I don't consider 10 partners being promiscuous, tho I'd say her being in a new relationship every year would be the real red flag. Also sex is most likely not a small thing or an itch to scratch unless You are a nympomaniac, which is a mental disorder and rather an addiction. I mean, how would one reach absurdly high numbers otherwise, then? There are many people in their 20's who have had dozens and dozens of partners, how would they reach that without being very impulsive and treating sex as s…
/r/PurplePillDebate20/12/22 04:57 PM
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You as well!
/r/PurplePillDebate20/12/22 09:20 AM
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Seems like I have a fan. Waves my baby from the balcony
/r/PurplePillDebate20/12/22 09:08 AM
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Like I said you can judge people but why do you need to go out and try and shame people or convince other people to feel the same way? I don't, but this is a discussion sub right? And the whole point is to debate subjects like this. IRL I don't think I even talk about this stuff other than rarely with friends. Promiscuous trashy people can keep doing their stuff for all I care. Say a young lad reads this sub and is happy in his relationship but starts freaking out after all this n count stuff an…
/r/PurplePillDebate20/12/22 09:04 AM
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As if you were serious to begin with. Go troll somewhere else.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/12/22 08:57 AM
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“Your sort” lmao you don’t even know me. You’re deranged 😂. As a pretty stupid individual once told me: "this comment is pretty telling". Your defensiveness over a trashy lifestyle says all I needed to know my friend. Bless you trying to get my n-count number out of me lmfao Say, where you come from do they teach figures of speech? You seem to be lacking a bit in that lol
/r/PurplePillDebate20/12/22 08:56 AM
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So not only are you running away but are now devolving into ad hominems. I thought I was the childish one?
/r/PurplePillDebate20/12/22 08:48 AM
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Are we gonna pretend we don't judge people all the time? You'd judge some guy for admitting to doing something you find weird, or off putting. I see promiscuous people, not just women, as trainwecks, so it's gonna be hard not to judge even if I keep quiet. And when a narrative gets pushed that you shouldn't care about a perfectly valid standard, it's natural for people to defend it.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/12/22 08:47 AM
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This may be shocking to you, but you can have sex with someone and simultaneously view people as humans. Your sort definitely doesn't. Or would you rather explain to me what sort of "connection" you formed with drunk dude number 7? This comment in particular has made it very obvious to me that your perspective is definitely not representative of most young people. Thanks for engaging, but I’m definitely dipping out of this one. It definitely is, but again feel free to live in your "diverse" bubb…
/r/PurplePillDebate20/12/22 08:42 AM
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Ever heard of a hyperbole, my dudette?
/r/PurplePillDebate20/12/22 08:39 AM
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Yeah and I disagree with those dudes. It's ridiculous to expect an attractive woman to be a virgin by her mid 20's, people date and fuck and up to a point that's completely normal and fine. My issue specifically is with extreme cases.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/12/22 08:38 AM
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Women aren't cool with dudes who are openly against dating promiscuous women either. Y'all seem to think you shouldn't be allowed to be judged by your past actions and get super defensive.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/12/22 08:36 AM
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How is it self destructive and “using people” to engage in protected consensual sex with another other adult? What a very strange and frankly immature way of viewing sex. Yea, most young people (I’d argue people in general) offline do not think this way. This is more my view than others, but there's nothing immature about it. What did those casual hookups mean to you? Nothing. What mark are they living in your life as people? None. What is the only thing you got out of your encounter? Using thei…
/r/PurplePillDebate20/12/22 08:33 AM
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Good for them? If y'all are happy getting wasted and having orgies, knock yourselves out. But other people (most) have different standards and are definitely put off by such behaviour. Why should they stop caring about something important to them?
/r/PurplePillDebate20/12/22 08:19 AM
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Sex isn't shameful, agreed, but let's not pretend it isn't a very intimate act that shouldn't be done with just anyone. It's cool that you like sex and all but if you fuck shady people just because they look attractive I'm gonna think there's something wrong in your head. And that's the crux of the issue, a least to me. People with high body counts come with a shit ton of issues, because statistically, there's no way all those dozens of partners were all well adjusted individuals in normal and h…
/r/PurplePillDebate20/12/22 08:18 AM
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Same age as you, which is why I'm telling you we clearly hang with different people. You're incorrectly assuming being progressive has anything to do with being okay with promiscuity. It does not. I'm left leaning myself, which means I support people being sexually free, as it's their right as autonomous beings. Doesn't mean I find it admirable or in any way praise worthy, if anything I find it sad how many of those people were subjected to sexual abuse and are using this lifestyle to cope. Ther…
/r/PurplePillDebate20/12/22 08:02 AM
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It definitely is, we just clearly hang with different crowds. If you are around club goers and drunks all the time, of course you're only going to be around these type of people. But news flash, they are not at all representive of young people as a group.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/12/22 07:30 AM
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Well he is either promiscuous himself or has very different standards than most. Promiscuous people come with a plethora of issues I'd never want to deal with.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/12/22 06:26 AM
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Maybe older people wouldn't? But I don't know a single dude who would be okay commiting to a girl who's been with hundreds of guys.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/12/22 05:17 AM
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I mean, yeah 15 at age 23 is kinda a lot now that you mention it. Still, it's more in a grey area from what I'd really call promiscuous.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/12/22 04:40 AM
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The way you were describing I thought you slept around a bunch, not a few times. Having a few sexual encounters over 4 years isn't being promiscuous tho, so I wasn't really referring to you. People who do go home with someone new every other week clearly have an issue they're trying to cope with through sex. Being attractive and having a few partners here and there isn't that.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/12/22 01:51 AM
1

As they should be. You are a wise one.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/12/22 01:47 AM
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High body count means you don't see sex as anything special, quite the opposite it's more like an itch to scratch, either that or you have past trauma and used sex to cope in unhealthy ways. Which if not treated means you're unlikely to be satisfied being with one person. Also considering it's statistically impossible to have a high number of sexual encounters and have all of those be with safe, good and well adjusted people, this points to poor impulse control and self destructive behaviour. Al…
/r/PurplePillDebate20/12/22 01:37 AM
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Promiscuity in one's past increases the likelihood of cheating.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/12/22 01:32 AM
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Says the one who'll likely cheat.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/12/22 11:30 PM
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Promiscuous people sure are defensive about their drunken mistakes
/r/PurplePillDebate19/12/22 11:29 PM
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Would you be ok with a celibate marriage for the sake of protecting such an awesome n number?
/r/PurplePillDebate19/12/22 11:25 PM
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Why shouldn't guys care about it? Do you believe n count isn't indicative of personal values, lifestyle choices and impulsiveness?
/r/PurplePillDebate19/12/22 11:23 PM
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Lol that would've been an interesting discussion
/r/PurplePillDebate19/12/22 11:19 PM
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I don't get why you promiscuous folk always need to paint your past as this beautiful and magic journey of self discovery rather than just being an impulsive youth making bad decisions. People who don't sleep around like crazy are perfectly able to discover what they like and don't like without needing to have an unhealthy relationship with sex.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/12/22 11:17 PM
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I believe he means long term
/r/PurplePillDebate19/12/22 01:31 AM
1

Humans are incapable of being one note. Maybe on the surface. Also interest isn't something you spark. They either are interested on who you are or you're not compatible.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/12/22 08:22 PM
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This criticism makes no sense, everybody has a personality. Even the most detestable human is still a layered and complex individual, people aren't one note. So saying that someone needs a personality doesn't make much sense
/r/PurplePillDebate17/12/22 05:06 PM
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Like someone said, it's probably because you have a rest bitch face, you look very pretty but also angry and unfriendly. Do you feel uncomfortable smiling to people? Maybe that would make folk feel more comfortable approaching you.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/12/22 02:43 AM
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Ah I see, I was under the impression you actively disliked him other than his looks. This makes more sense.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/12/22 02:01 AM
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Don't most women just not care about this? I was under the impression women disliked when men viewed them as lesser for sleeping around and did so anyway.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/12/22 02:00 AM
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Is that you on your profile pic? If so it's definitely not your appearance, you're pretty conventionally attractive But yeah the issue is more complicated. Ugly folk are perceived as bad and uncomfortable to be around and prejudged to have worse personalities than attractive folk. It's called the halo effect
/r/PurplePillDebate17/12/22 01:51 AM
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Really? I usually see the opposite. From my understanding men in general just don't like women who get around.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/12/22 09:22 PM
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I'd argue they'd better off with therapy rather than feeding an unhealthy relationship with sex. But yeah, until men stop being so pathetically desperate the scenario will remain.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/12/22 08:52 PM
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That's why I said depending the age. Someone my age (25) who has had that many relationships is more of red flag hthan someone who casually slept with that many men
/r/PurplePillDebate16/12/22 08:51 PM
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Yeah, but people explaining it is different from experiencing in person. You'll only know once you do it.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/12/22 08:50 PM
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Yeah dude, we're done here
/r/PurplePillDebate16/12/22 08:48 PM
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Not like that, I mean if she had a super high number I wouldn't be with her anymore.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/12/22 08:48 PM
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Idk a single person who thinks 2 men is a high n count. Most would say above 4-5 depending on her age.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/12/22 07:58 PM
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Do they specifically talk about counts and numbers, yes or no? Simple question simple answer. Sounds like an entitled rude prick to me You won’t bother saying why or how. Need I say more?
/r/PurplePillDebate16/12/22 07:57 PM
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Sex requires a lot of physical effort and involves lot's smells, tastes and fluids you are not used to. It's not for everyone, and you're inexperience is showing if you think sex and masturbation are remotely the same.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/12/22 07:53 PM
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You're coming off extremely douchy and you say it's coming out of nowhere?
/r/PurplePillDebate16/12/22 07:50 PM
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Yes, I already responded that, stop being rude
/r/PurplePillDebate16/12/22 07:36 PM
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How did you manage to sleep with someone you dislike their personality? Like, are they looks alone enough for you to get into it?
/r/PurplePillDebate16/12/22 07:29 PM
1

I don't mean to burst your bubble but masturbation is literally nothing like sex, other than you cum at the end. Be careful not to go into marriage with the wrong idea.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/12/22 07:27 PM
1

The rise of STI's says otherwise
/r/PurplePillDebate16/12/22 06:42 PM
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A couple years. Gay men usually talk among friends who they bang all the time. But they don't view getting around as bad usually, since a big part of gay culture is engaging in casual dating.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/12/22 06:30 PM
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I wouldn't say being ugly is as rare as being ultra attractive. Inceldom is an epidemic on the rise and almost all of them are pretty ugly.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/12/22 06:29 PM
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If someone only has sex when in relationships, they won't have a high n count
/r/PurplePillDebate16/12/22 06:27 PM
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People who are promiscuous very often engage in drunken ONS. Hence being impulsive.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/12/22 06:24 PM
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Eh, only to a certain point. If you look like gollum no amount of training and stylish clothing is gonna help you.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/12/22 04:53 PM
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There is no "fucking truth" it's all anecdotal. Also chill man
/r/PurplePillDebate16/12/22 04:51 PM
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I'm not so sure about that, people who are overly promiscuous and emotionally unavailable tend to not do well with relationships because of their bad impulse control and struggle to commit. Living a lifestyle that unattached comes with consequences later on, also many people who are extremely promiscuous use sex to deal with trauma or mental health issues, so it's also a factor.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/12/22 04:50 PM
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But not everyone gets it. Yeah, but those people won't just disappear because they are unable to find partners. They get to stay alone and miserable while the rest goes from relationship to relationship. I think they earned the right to complain at least. I have never had a woman lash out at me but have had men get violent when rejected Men getting violent is a real issue, but I've seen many women throw tamper tantrums for being told no for the first time in their lives. Men and women are simila…
/r/PurplePillDebate16/12/22 11:32 AM
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Nobody likes being rejected. Women lash out and pout often when rejected too, it's just they approach less. I don't judge people who are missing out on stuff they want and get frustrated. It sucks, specially since you usually can't do anything about it. It's not really about being owed, more like "everyone gets it, why can't I?" That brings out insecurity and feelings of inadequacy.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/12/22 11:25 AM
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Gay men are notoriously promiscuous tho, so not the best example lol
/r/PurplePillDebate16/12/22 11:13 AM
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Curious, what compells you to keep trying marriage after so many divorces? Not trying to insult or anything, but most people are usually done by the second or third.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/12/22 11:10 AM
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Idk, I last had sex a couple months ago, but last year I was in a relationship, aka having sex often, and n count was still a factor.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/12/22 11:06 AM
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Sorry but your numbers here just correlate to reality. Maybe to your bubble of open relationship folk that is the case, but most men would care about settling down with a woman with 20 ex partners.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/12/22 11:05 AM
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Well, I'm 25 so to me a girl my age would be anything beyond 10
/r/PurplePillDebate16/12/22 11:01 AM
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But do they manage to keep those men in long, fulfilling relationships with themselves, or do they just hop from meaningless relationship to meaningless relationship? Cause that's mostly what I see from people like this.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/12/22 10:57 AM
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Like drunk impulsive people actually care about protection
/r/PurplePillDebate16/12/22 10:46 AM
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I believe the idea is that sleeping around is the issue? If she only has sex with romantic partners it wouldn't be a problem
/r/PurplePillDebate16/12/22 10:40 AM
2

Seems Op touched a nerve
/r/PurplePillDebate16/12/22 10:30 AM
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What if you're both
/r/PurplePillDebate16/12/22 10:26 AM
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All of this is false
/r/PurplePillDebate16/12/22 10:16 AM
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Thank you, you too.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/12/22 08:32 PM
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Yeah, unfortunately a lot of lonely men (who allot happen to be ugly) tend to get jaded and bitter due to bad experiences and lash out by hating women. I don't condone that in any way and while I can empathize with them because I know how it's like to be super down bad, treating women like trash isn't cool and I 100% will not excuse that. Honestly your female friends sound like sweethearts and they deserve way better than your male friends who act like assholes. Regardless of how they look, peop…
/r/PurplePillDebate12/12/22 08:15 PM
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I can't speak for other men, but I have nothing but sympathy for undesirable women who struggle as much as we do. To me they're my sisters in battle, and I think everyday an ugly person manages to attract people, specially if more attractive than themselves, is a victory for us undesirables. Having said that I don't really buy into the narrative people should stay within their "leagues" if that's not what they're attracted to. Obviously we should be realistic and not super picky, but if I don't …
/r/PurplePillDebate12/12/22 05:49 PM
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Dangerous mentality to have, but good luck
/r/PurplePillDebate12/12/22 03:56 PM
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That's assuming it's something within your control. Life doesn't just go according to our whims
/r/PurplePillDebate12/12/22 03:52 PM
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How does being a divorce attorney change the likelihood of your own wedding failing? 🤔
/r/PurplePillDebate12/12/22 02:54 PM
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I'm sorry but as long as you guys keep empathizing how much disdain and indifference you have towards unnatractive/ sexually unsuccessful men and their struggles I wouldn't count on men's support for much. This sub attracts assholes like OP who like punching people down and y'all praise and agree with them. Empathy and cooperation is a two way street.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/12/22 07:42 AM
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Sorry for intruding here but I feel like you're letting quite a radicalized place taint your view of men. It's not like reddit is a good representation of your average person, IRL men aren't nearly as concerned about the topics that are discussed here at nauseum, and people act way more civilized outside of the web. Also PPD is basically a warzone where people literally hate each other and say the meanest shit. But I don't even think most people here even mean what they say, it's just there's a …
/r/PurplePillDebate12/12/22 07:37 AM
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Most marriages end in divorce, so do come back to us in a couple years hun
/r/PurplePillDebate12/12/22 07:25 AM
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Your comment had nothing to do with OP's either, so it seems fitting.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/12/22 08:02 PM
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Maybe you're too attractive and people find that unapproachable?
/r/PurplePillDebate07/12/22 04:42 AM
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Can't speak for others, but I do. I have more female friends than male ones. However if they introduce me to someone or I meet them through circumstance, their friends and I usually get along and I even sometimes make new friendships, but dating is almost never an option because they clearly don't find me physically attractive. Same can be said for when I asked friends to set me up. At the end of the day looks are always the deal breaker.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/12/22 04:12 AM
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I was a virgin until 22 and honestly I don't get why people care so much. Until I lost mine I was pretty insecure about it but after my first time I realized how stupid all that pressure is, and three years later I couldn't care less about who's a virging and who isn't. But yeah, I see virginity used as a punching bag all the time, mostly because it's an easy and low blow for stupid people to hurt others. Don't mind them and do things in your own time.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/12/22 09:13 PM
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Well, in my case I consider success in dating to come with numbers, as I don't do relationships well and rather just enjoy different phases of life with different people. But for that something needs to click in one way or another and it's just so rare for that to happen to me with other people. I'd argue even for casual sex, which I'm not a fan of, still require "clicking". Like at least your vibes and chemistry need to click, and me being ugly those are kind of a requirement, looks alone aren'…
/r/PurplePillDebate30/11/22 02:19 AM
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Well, many people would rather just have their meal lukewarm. I'd say it's a perfectly reasonable expectation to have.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/11/22 02:07 AM
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Because the best way to get a woman is to stop trying to meet one. Let go of that expectation, live life, eventually the opportunity will arise.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/11/22 02:06 AM
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That makes sense, especially the numbers angle. So a possible solution for someone with a "niche" personality would be to interact with as many people as they can to increase their likelihood of running into someone similar . Tho if you're also an introvert that's gonna complicate things further, as interacting with too many people completely drains you. A possible counter measure would be going to spaces where you're more likely to meet like-minded people, but introverts are usually home, so no…
/r/PurplePillDebate30/11/22 02:05 AM
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Did you really just try to flex on him for no reason? Lol that was sad girl
/r/PurplePillDebate30/11/22 01:55 AM
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Stop trying, go live life and forget about women.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/11/22 01:36 AM
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I thought church girls were all secretly super wild and promiscuous?
/r/PurplePillDebate30/11/22 01:35 AM
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Do you only eat your food freezing cold or scorching hot?
/r/PurplePillDebate30/11/22 01:27 AM
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Being emotionally available is something worth cultivating, but not because you want to get more women; it leads to a happier life. It's also an attractive trait (ask any woman), and someone who is attracted to you will appreciate it. If someone isn't attracted, just move on. There is no need to change their mind. Then it's not worth cultivating if any positive outcome at best will take years, and at worst might not even happen.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/11/22 01:23 AM
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Hear me out: sometimes...people you're interested in aren't interested in you, and people who you're not interested in, are interested in you. Sometimes it's tough finding someone where you both "click" together in the right ways, and it's neither person's fault if you don't find a person who likes you compatible. And why do successful people in dating manage to "click" so much more often than dudes that spend years to find one person who does? Are some personalities just naturally much more eas…
/r/PurplePillDebate30/11/22 01:21 AM
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There's a phenomenon I've noticed with myself over the years, which is: the girls I was attracted to had nothing to do with me and we didn't click personality wise, and the girls I had tons in common with and clicked weren't physically attractive. Maybe this is what's happening?
/r/PurplePillDebate30/11/22 01:06 AM
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Don't see any incel content anywhere
/r/PurplePillDebate28/11/22 08:12 PM
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Sure, but then we can say the same about everyone else who thinks the couple is on the same level. That is the problem with "leagues"
/r/PurplePillDebate28/11/22 01:38 PM
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Oh I see you're demi, that actually makes a lot more sense. Yeah tbh I wish more people were demi like yourself, I think dating would be much better, and people would be less hung up on superficial stuff. Too bad it's quite the opposite. But i know not everyone is like me. Some people do have a desire to jump into bed with someone based on looks. The thought of that is gross to me. Honestly I get you. I sometimes think I'm somewhat demisexual myself because I see zero point in hooking up with pe…
/r/PurplePillDebate28/11/22 01:37 PM
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First, I don’t find people repulsive based on looks… hygiene? Pathology? Maybe. But not like plain looks Repulsive as in the opposite of attractive, not repulsive as in gross. Like someone you consider ugly is usually someone who you would never want to have sex with, not because you think they are gross, but like your body just rejects them when it comes to sex and romance. There is 0 attraction. Second, we were the only two people around the same age at this dinner party. Everyone else was old…
/r/PurplePillDebate28/11/22 04:05 AM
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How did that even work for you? If you thought he was ugly initially like the others, I can't see how someone could ever go from finding someone sexually repulsive to super attractive, regardless of emotional connection. For most either the attraction is there from the start, or it will never come.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/11/22 03:46 AM
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Most? Come on. Most people date their equals. Stats back that up. Yep, most. What "stats" can quantify and categorize "leagues" and "levels"? It's all subjective in the first place. That’s their cross to bear. I’d argue many of the people having a hard time dating are having a hard time because they want better. There’s nothing wrong with wanting higher but they have to accept the challenge that presents. Funny, because when the discussion is about women lowering their standards, I'm betting you…
/r/PurplePillDebate28/11/22 12:06 AM
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In case you can't read, I'm no pill. I don't believe in the back pill. However, genetic traits are by far the most important factor when it comes to dating. An ugly person may improve themselves to the best of their abilities, at the end they'll still be ugly and no one wants an ugly partner. There is always a chance someone will find them attractive enough, but it's so rare I wouldn't recommend counting on it. If you want to believe this fairy tail that women don't care about looks same as man,…
/r/PurplePillDebate28/11/22 12:00 AM
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Maybe, but then again if complaining helps them deal with their reality and getting things off their chest, I don't see the issue. Go crazy on Reddit, take out your frustrations than close the app and go enjoy your day.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/11/22 10:35 PM
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Plastic surgery is an option true, but the majority of people will never be wealthy. It's kind of the whole point of capitalism.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/11/22 10:34 PM
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I’d tell those people that they should’ve learnt when they were 5 that world doesn’t bend and shape to their desires. I'd say the fact we've gone from living in caves to building massive cities, going to space, landing on the moon, we've basically been molding the world to our own desires, I don't see why the same wouldn't apply to an individual level. No one needs to accept their current state, it's a personal choice. If the people you want don’t want you, improve yourself or move on Improve yo…
/r/PurplePillDebate27/11/22 10:33 PM
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Never heard of that one before
/r/PurplePillDebate27/11/22 10:15 PM
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That makes sense if you meet the minimum threshold for attractiveness, work on your personality and people will come to you. If you're ugly tho, working on yourself will at most get you friends. Some games are just rigged from the start, so it's better not to play.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/11/22 10:09 PM
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Thankfully most people aren’t like this, most people accept their dating pool or work on their appearance enough that they can jump to a new pool and live their lives. Idk, most couples I see one is usually a couple "levels" over the other. Also somethings you just can't change. So let's say someone is disfigured, but they aren't physically attracted to other disfigured people. What then?
/r/PurplePillDebate27/11/22 10:07 PM
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And what if the person doesn't want to be single?
/r/PurplePillDebate27/11/22 10:03 PM
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All the ones I knew of are gone. Unless you consider manosphere subs incel spaces?
/r/PurplePillDebate27/11/22 10:02 PM
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Some things can't be changed tho. And ugly person is an ugly person with a dad bod or a six pack
/r/PurplePillDebate27/11/22 10:01 PM
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And what if you weren't attracted to your own pool?
/r/PurplePillDebate27/11/22 05:06 PM
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There is no man who is a virgin in his 40s where it’s not painfully obvious to anyone upon meeting him why he’s a virgin. There’s no mystery to solve there Wether the reason is obvious or not is irrelevant. My point is a 40 yo virgin isn't going to be some walking red flag just because they haven't managed to find someone compatible in 40 years. Maybe they're very awkward with flirtation and romance, maybe they're neurodivergent, maybe they just don't click sexually/ romantically with most peopl…
/r/PurplePillDebate27/11/22 11:12 AM
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Well said
/r/PurplePillDebate27/11/22 03:29 AM
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that is literally you projecting your view of sexually successful men onto women. Nope, ask your friends and other women you come across what they think of a 40 yo virgin. Women don’t need to “assume” what’s high value or attractive. (Do you need to “assume” what’s attractive to you in women?) You do, because you’re not a woman and don’t understand what women find attractive. Nope, because they aren't assuming wether observable characteristics are attractive or not, they have all the information…
/r/PurplePillDebate27/11/22 03:26 AM
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to me low/no body count for a man is not an indication of desirability (women can gauge a mans desirability by our own personal metrics, we are not slaves to the Great Female Hivemind) but of self discipline which is actually a desirable trait in a partner. Sure, but we're mostly talking about men who have a low body count because they struggle, not just because they have discipline. Would you find them admirable if the reason they're a virgin is they're awkward around women, or they don't go ou…
/r/PurplePillDebate27/11/22 01:49 AM
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Wow, that's sad. And by sad, I mean incredibly cathartic. FDS users were borderline psychotic sometimes. Nice to see their shit in shambles.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/11/22 01:42 AM
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I get that, yes. But there's the catch, women assume HVM when a guy is sexually successful (not a manwhore), and assume loser LVM when the guy is unsuccessful (not borderline incel, just inexperienced). However these assumptions are misguided. First, there's many reasons a low n count may be in that situation without being a walking red flag. Second, silver tongue narcissists manage to charm basically everyone around them, and they are usually very successful with dating. So yeah, the numbers ar…
/r/PurplePillDebate27/11/22 01:40 AM
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I feel like you’re probs talking about me because I recently had this argument with someone, used this kind of language, and I recognize your username (though I think we have talked before on diff topics so I may be mistaken.) Could be, I definitely talked with people with your avatar before but I'm not sure if it's you or other people. Anyway, I'm going to assume in this case it's you lol My argument was not “men who sleep with 100+ women are such studs! 😍”… it was “a man who hasn’t had about a…
/r/PurplePillDebate27/11/22 01:31 AM
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How about dropping an argument instead of a zinger? That was their assumption anyway, doesn't mean it's the truth. Unless you agree the only reason an adult male could be a virgin involuntarily is because he's a walking red flag, which is asinine.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/11/22 01:16 AM
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Some yes, but there are even others with lower body counts that would be put off by a man that didn't have much experience. Women want someone who's seen as desirable, a catch. Even if she likes a guy, if she finds out no else wants him and people likely judge her for being with him, chances are she'll be embarrassed to be with him. No one wants the world to consider your partner grotesc and undesirable.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/11/22 01:13 AM
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That is a very old-fashioned way of thinking and perhaps the reason your struggling? You do not turn up with presents or flowers until you’ve started the relationship officially, if you always expect to pay for the date your going out with the wrong people and I’m sorry but holding the door open should just be something you do for everyone, not just cause you want to fuck them. These were just classic examples, but like, even more modern dating dynamics it's still basically on the guy to make th…
/r/PurplePillDebate27/11/22 01:09 AM
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This is just something you can’t teach, Exactly, so the whole work on yourself and be nice isn't really true. You need to be born an extrovert. If you don’t enjoy talking to people or entertaining them because it entertains you, your not going to get it. Other than my friends? No. Socializing is exhausting, and honestly I'm a much better company to myself than most people out there. Someone charismatic will enjoy being charismatic to everyone and everything, it’s not a game or a show he has to p…
/r/PurplePillDebate26/11/22 11:25 PM
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Except according to your own comment being nice males people like you, and some of those even to want to date you. So yeah, if being nice works for some but not for others, clearly niceness isn't the game changer here. Start to notice if those super cool people also happen to be physically attractive.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/11/22 11:17 PM
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It’s not back the mods just post ads for their instagram and podcast. They have a podcast now? Oh Lord Go on r/tinder any time a woman asks a man’s height (couple times a week) the posts gets 4k comments of angry men. ALL THEY DID WAS ASK. The fragility is insane Yeah, I'm on r/tinder. People there go rabbid over anything. I find the 6'0 thing annoying myself, but like it's not worth getting this obsessed, these chicks aren't even worth it, move on.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/11/22 11:14 PM
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The thing you don’t realise though, is good guys don’t use underhand methods to ‘get sex’ They understand women and sex aren’t trophies, and so naturally treat women like other individuals. That's not really how it works. If you treat women like you treat your friends or an old man at the park you'll get female acquaintances/ friends, which is good on itself. But to generate romantic and sexual attraction you need to put on an idealized version of yourself. One that's always funny, witty, confid…
/r/PurplePillDebate26/11/22 11:04 PM
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Being nice doesn't make someone attractive. If that was the case Nice Guys would actually be successful. Dude needs to have either looks or good game at least.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/11/22 10:50 PM
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Rude
/r/PurplePillDebate26/11/22 10:44 PM
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I mean, this isn't exactly true. I've argued with women here quite recently who told me they wouldn't date a man with a low count because they wouldn't be on their level, or that it meant there was something wrong with the man. I agree most women don't, but quite a few do.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/11/22 10:40 PM
2

FDS no longer exists. It's back, at least it was a few weeks ago. But I was exaggerating. Some form of this exists on TikTok and Twitter. I think women and women do it just as much Yep, I've seen it quite a lot, tho not as much as men
/r/PurplePillDebate26/11/22 10:34 PM
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Femcels used to be a thing yk? Also FDS is still here.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/11/22 10:27 PM
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The more dicks a woman “receives” has absolutely no bearing on her being relationship material They absolutely do. You're failing to consider many factors here.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/11/22 10:02 PM
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Reducing a woman to "goods" is sexist, but not taking promiscuous women seriously is perfectly normal. There are so many red flags that accompany promiscuity, that the Soviet union would be jealous. There's nothing wrong with a bloke eliminating a woman from his dating pool for whatever reason, and that includes previous experiences. Because at the end of the day it's his standards, and also yeah, the more a woman sleeps around the less suitable she is for monogamy.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/11/22 10:01 PM
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Considering what heavy subjects I talk with my female friends, that is very unlikely
/r/PurplePillDebate24/11/22 09:52 PM
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Victims of abuse often find themselves gravitating towards abusive partners, and it's not until they work on their trauma that they can break the cycle. Doesn't mean it's their fault, but it's their responsibility to seek help and to learn to identify early signs of abusive behavior. Same thing here, I don't know how many partners this woman had, but according to her every single one cheated and left her for another woman. This isn't normal, there's clearly something going on that's attracting h…
/r/PurplePillDebate24/11/22 04:13 PM
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So all women think all men cheat and abandon their partners? Mate you and I know very different women lol
/r/PurplePillDebate24/11/22 04:07 PM
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Sure, but when it happens everytime you get into a relationship, it should be cause for concern. There are some obvious early red flags that are being missed here.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/11/22 01:54 PM
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If you're born ugly no amount of work and self improvement will make up for that. So if it's something that really bothers you, might as well "whine" about it. At least one might find temporary relief getting things off their chest.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/11/22 08:30 AM
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Agreed but when every single person you dated turns out to be unfaithful and treat you as disposable, maybe it's worth analyzing what is drawing you towards people like that.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/11/22 08:26 AM
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Being a hetero woman doesn't make women choose cheaters and people who'd abandon you. Or are you implying all men do stuff like that?
/r/PurplePillDebate24/11/22 05:05 AM
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Id look into what attracts you to such individuals
/r/PurplePillDebate24/11/22 01:52 AM
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You sure know how to pick'em
/r/PurplePillDebate23/11/22 10:58 PM
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Two things: I can and have found relationships before, all of them were below average/ average. I also lucked out to catch the eye of one gorgeous girl once but our personalities didn't mesh. None of these ended due to looks. Second, what the other guys said. Just because we're ugly doesn't mean we can find people we consider ugly attractive. Tho it's possible to be attracted to someone considered ugly by most but not by us, tho it's rarer.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/11/22 03:07 PM
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If you lose the genetic lottery there isn't a thing you can do. Might as well rant to get it out of your system.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/11/22 12:12 PM
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Not on this sub maybe, but other subs about ugly/ fat/ people there's ton of women complaining same as men. Also r/femcels used to be a thing
/r/PurplePillDebate23/11/22 12:10 PM
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Yep, unfortunately, though neither of us are American. So the gun thing wouldn’t be a factor anywhere but here. Given that it is a factor, yes, being responsible and accurate with a weapon is a good thing. Sure, but I don't understand why you need to be a gun owner in the first place. Except it isn’t. Maybe to YOU. But not to someone having a good personality. Given how many shitty and mediocre dads there are, even being a good dad is uncommon. Being as good of a dad as he is is exceedingly rare…
/r/PurplePillDebate23/11/22 02:11 AM
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What is reddit Oh boy, he's in for an interesting conversation lol
/r/PurplePillDebate22/11/22 06:49 PM
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If that' true, then yeah he's a 10/10
/r/PurplePillDebate22/11/22 06:34 PM
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Being well trained and responsible with a weapon is actually a great thing. Particularly considering in the US, there’s no real requirements for owning a firearm. I'm against civillians being armed, in any situation, so I'm gonna disagree with you there. But since you apparently live in the US that's better than most I guess. ​ And since this is all the bare minimum, I assume you meet or exceed all of this? As do the majority of the men you know, of course? Personally? Yah, at least the emotiona…
/r/PurplePillDebate22/11/22 06:33 PM
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I think everyone prefers confident people in some way or another
/r/PurplePillDebate22/11/22 06:21 PM
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Objectively or to you? Brad was considered the hottest man on earth at one point.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/11/22 06:12 PM
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The last two sentences aren't about personality... also good with a gun is an immediate counter to the whole "amazing personality" That aside your husband seems like a good guy but the absolute majority of what you listed is the bare minimum. An incredible personality kind of give a grandiose expectation, like feeds the poor and does social work.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/11/22 06:05 PM
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Like according to societal beauty standards. Like does he look like Brad Pritt or Chris Hemsworth, or some Instagram male model.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/11/22 06:01 PM
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Is your husband an actual 10/10 or is he a 10/10 for you? There's a big difference there.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/11/22 05:01 PM
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They can, usually other alpha men who almost have shit personalities. Would like to hear what your definition of a great personality is
/r/PurplePillDebate22/11/22 05:01 PM
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What does make a man undatable?
/r/PurplePillDebate21/11/22 05:33 PM
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Very few of my buddies have children and I don't personally care about kids, so no I don't have a horse on this race either way. Just think you're being a bit extreme here.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/11/22 10:52 AM
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Depends on the situation. You seem to think it's very black and white
/r/PurplePillDebate18/11/22 01:59 AM
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Im sorry? You do know shared custody sometimes is arranged this way? How could this be being a deadbeat?
/r/PurplePillDebate18/11/22 01:01 AM
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I guess
/r/PurplePillDebate18/11/22 12:45 AM
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A father that sees their child on the weekends isn't a deadbeat.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/11/22 12:25 AM
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You need to date better women mate
/r/PurplePillDebate17/11/22 06:28 PM
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Yah but it's totally different from a dad whose child lives with him. I know plenty of women who are ok with fathers who are ok with dating fathers who see their kids on the weekends, but are not okay with fulltime dads. Those are very different dynamics of relationships.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/11/22 06:27 PM
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I'm constantly seeking validation, so I come off super strong towards new people, and those that aren't scared off immediately get attached. Once they do and I notice they aren't walking away, I start to get bored and resent them. But I just don't end things because I'm afraid of being alone, so I basically fake it until I can't take anymore unhappiness. Then I end things out of nowhere, usually not so tactfully, the person feels discarded and confused. I break their heart and feel immense guilt…
/r/PurplePillDebate09/11/22 04:35 PM
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Can relate, I'm a shut in myself
/r/PurplePillDebate08/11/22 02:50 AM
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Men have vilified women’s emotionality for centuries. That’s why their language contains so much misogyny, “don’t be a pussy”. They oppress themselves by hating on traits associated with women, that’s not lack of judgement. This is fair, but how do you explain "dick" and "score" also being used as insults?
/r/PurplePillDebate08/11/22 01:21 AM
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You really need to know better men
/r/PurplePillDebate08/11/22 01:15 AM
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Nah I'm good
/r/PurplePillDebate07/11/22 07:35 PM
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I just did. Two in fact. You dismissed one for no reason and didn't even read the other. Go hang
/r/PurplePillDebate07/11/22 05:40 PM
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Sure buddy, and I guess your sources have more legitimacy... Oh wait, you don't have any sources
/r/PurplePillDebate07/11/22 04:27 PM
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Yet you are part of the view/ideology that its men who are the rapists and abusers while denying or that downplaying women who do the same. Nowhere in feminist ideology is this ever said. Most feminists take male rape more seriously than even other men.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/11/22 04:10 PM
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For whatever reason we men usually have a terrible sense of aesthetics and design. Idk why
/r/PurplePillDebate07/11/22 02:55 PM
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Hard to answer because I don't particularly like any gender based on their gender alone. But things I like that I find in women often? Sure, lots: - Women tend to be more emotionally mature and vulnerable than men. You can count on your female friends to discuss personal shit more than male ones imo. - Women tend to be more empathic overall, tho the exception is usually male issues, so it's kind of a double edged sword here. - I tend to align politically and values wise with women more often. - …
/r/PurplePillDebate07/11/22 02:43 PM
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I don't think I am. Therapy is your friend.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/11/22 02:35 PM
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Did mommy drop you on your head by any chance?
/r/PurplePillDebate07/11/22 02:34 PM
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Heterosexual marriages are experiencing high rates of sexlessness (25 to 50 percent). For Generation Z, sexual intimacy appears to be on the decline. There is likely gender role confusion as couples create new and shared meaning about what equality in romance looks like. Men must be active in these conversations to reach higher levels of sexual satisfaction and emotional connection. Psychology today article Study on PIV sexual frequency among americans ​ If you can you read little buddy, check o…
/r/PurplePillDebate07/11/22 02:33 PM
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This is strange, you're giving off vibes you take pride in being less than ideal personality wise? Why not just better yourself?
/r/PurplePillDebate07/11/22 02:23 PM
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Common interests and personality are always the biggest factor. Chemistry is also important. Tho I do need to find her at least somewhat cute, even if she's usually considered below average.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/11/22 01:37 PM
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Inecls are the minority, yes. Sexless men aren't necessarily Incels and they make up a very significant amount of male population. You're incorrect
/r/PurplePillDebate07/11/22 12:47 PM
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Men don't have issues getting sex. Incels do Men don't have a problem with women's expectations of marriage and relationships. Incels do This is ridiculous. I'm not an incel and I don't know anyone IRL who is but I know so many men that have very few flings/relationships. Just because you only hangout with fuckboys who get wasted every weekend doesn't mean that represents any meaningful percentage of men, at all.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/11/22 12:44 PM
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Nope, attractive men do. Average dudes rarely get hit on
/r/PurplePillDebate07/11/22 12:42 PM
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These 2 statements are incompatible. If it is an odd example then that means the general rule is hot people get with hot people and ugly people get with ugly people. Aka: people date within their league. Nope, it's an extreme example of the universal fact that attraction is relative and dependent on the self. So much so that there are even folks who find ugly people attractive. The greatest way to disprove your league theory is the fact that most couples consist of an average and an above averag…
/r/PurplePillDebate04/11/22 10:25 PM
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Someone being a virgin and then paying for sex is the dealbreaker. Hmm, what's so wrong with paying someone a couple hundred bucks to have sex/ have a moment of intimacy? The conditions that lead to them being a virgin do not exist in a vacuum. I don’t need to know your actual n-count to be able to pick up on the things that lead to you not having had sex. You ever stopped to think some people struggle to find people they connect? Or feel that "spark"? Again struggling with dating isn't a red fl…
/r/PurplePillDebate04/11/22 10:09 PM
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Hmm really? Then why don’t hot people and ugly people typically have sex or marry each other? Hot people marry hot people, ugly people marry ugly people. What would YOU call that? Because ugly people are outliers. Hot people get together with average all the time, boh casually and settling down. Ugly people are lucky with whatever they get, people already hate us just by virtue of being ugly, let alone having desire. That said there are odd examples off ugly people having super hot partners. Alm…
/r/PurplePillDebate04/11/22 09:40 PM
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Leagues are real. Nah, they aren't. Humans don't live in this weird cast system you guys created on yout head. What we do have are societal beauty standards which heavily favor some people (usually white) and fucks over the rest. These standards are constantly changing throughout history, you for example wouldn't be considered hot a few centuries ago. They only serve to create bias on young people instead of allowing them to grow up to form their own standards more freely. ​ but it’s definitely …
/r/PurplePillDebate04/11/22 08:36 PM
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Do you only value people who can offer you sex or romance…? That’s really weird. No, but if someone I'm interested in says they haven't had sex yet and I suddenldy lose interest, then yeah I clearly don't think very highly of this person. ​ People don’t struggle with dating/sex in a vacuum. If someone isn’t attractive, funny, ambitious, etc. at the same level I am then no, they aren’t in my dating pool. They do, at the end of the day being hot is the only real thing that matters. Being funny get…
/r/PurplePillDebate04/11/22 08:20 PM
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It doesn't mean they have no value, but it means they have no value to you. The only flaw this hypothetical person has is they struggle with dating. Otherwise they're completely normal and up to your standards. If a lack of a body count is enough for you to throw them away that can only mean you think very little of people who struggle with dating. The question is why? Is it about status? Bragging rights?
/r/PurplePillDebate04/11/22 07:22 PM
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I see, so you believe in leagues and think you're above people under yours? What a weird way to see people and relationships.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/11/22 07:20 PM
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It was hyperbole dude. You didn't literally say that one thing, you still said the other stuff. Can you address the other points tho?
/r/PurplePillDebate04/11/22 07:17 PM
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I compliment men I know. I already said I care about the men in my life. I’m not sure why you said not random men when I specified I care about the not random men in my life. I used coworkers as an exmple. I wouldn't consider coworkers "someone in your life" unless you're close outside of it. ​ We also disagree on a good deed. Good deeds are donating and volunteering in my opinion. I don’t consider going out of my way to to compliment someone not worthy of a compliment a good deed. It’s fake and…
/r/PurplePillDebate04/11/22 06:38 PM
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Couldn't come up with a counter response huh? Thanks for proving my point.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/11/22 03:24 PM
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“Not always”. It’s enough that we don’t believe it’s platonic. The majority of the time it’s not platonic. You’re one offs and outliers mean nothing. They do, I'm showing one of my experiences. And I've lived plent and so did other people. ​ Yep. I was polite at first with the approaching asshole. I kindly told him I was just out to have a day with my friend and wasn’t interested. I actually am always polite with the rejection at first. Especially if approached respectfully. He wouldn’t leave me…
/r/PurplePillDebate04/11/22 03:10 PM
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>Oh please. Men use compliments for sex. And get mad it doesn’t work. Not always, depends on the men. A random example, last friday a chubby coworker was going out after our shift, so she came back from the bathroom all dolled up, and everyone complimented and joked around (applauses and such). She's not attractive to any of the men here as we've discussed this before, but everyone joined in because we like her and wanted to make her feel good and that her efforts were noticed. >I had a legendar…
/r/PurplePillDebate04/11/22 02:33 PM
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Just because you are unnatractive doesn't mean there's nothing about you worthy complimenting. Like, maybe your hair looks particularly nice that day, or your choice of clothes are good and stylish, or you got a new cool tatoo. Men compliment women platonically all the time, regardless of finding them attractive.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/11/22 02:02 PM
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If someone not getting laid constantly is enough for you to eliminate them as an option it's clearly because you think less of them for it. It wouldn't make sense otherwise.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/11/22 01:22 AM
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Yes, finally someone gets it. It's great to get validation for things relating to your skills/ personality, but a lack of erotic validation can destroy your self esteem. It's already hard for average men, but below average ones struggle really badly with this.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/11/22 12:47 AM
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So to you a man only has value if he's sexually success/ active?
/r/PurplePillDebate04/11/22 12:01 AM
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Agreed
/r/PurplePillDebate03/11/22 06:48 PM
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I agree with the sentiment overall, but this: Sister "Sally in the office is such a fuckin bitch because of a,b,c,d"..... Even if you completely disagree with the assessment and you think your sister is the issue (or something else is) your job is to empathize "God, yeah she's a bitch, I can see why that's so upsetting" I refuse to do that. Enabling bad behavior isn't doing anyone any favors. A true friend/ brother/ partner will have your back, but will always call you out when needed. Being a y…
/r/PurplePillDebate03/11/22 06:47 PM
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Men just don't have the same liberty to call each other handsome that women do. Macho culture and homophobia, among other things. Also a compliment towards your looks from someone of the sex you're attracted to means 10X more than one from the sex you only see as platonic. Even if the woman who did is just a friend and you have attraction to her, her opinion is still more valid as a woman who likes dudes, as they represent more what women find attractive in men than the former.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/11/22 03:06 PM
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Because the point is men are starved of validation about our looks. Many men few ugly and undesirable, and you can't expect your bros to call you handsome.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/11/22 08:22 AM
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Wow, way to dismiss all his points. Is this the kind of empathy these men receive?
/r/PurplePillDebate01/11/22 12:34 PM
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I’m a little tired, so I may come back and debate the rest tomorrow, but ultimately it’ll be things I’ve already said. Just repetition because i don’t feel like you really countered what I’ve said. However, I do respect you because you show intellectual curiosity and maturity, so I’ll just withdraw my entire argument. Sound good? Sure, that's fair. My mom… I mean 😂She’s a whore, always was, has always been a horrible influence to me and my siblings (dont have the same dad, fyi), is one of those …
/r/PurplePillDebate31/10/22 02:39 AM
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And I’m very confident and secure with how I conduct myself. Thank you. That's good, we should always be happy with who we are. No… Maybe the person just prefers to be single instead of taking on another imperfection that they don’t find worthwhile. Then it's not about men not being up to your standards. That's you prefering to be alone because you'd rather not deal with the bad sides of having a relationships. Totally your right, but not what were discussing here. I know the life I want to live…
/r/PurplePillDebate31/10/22 01:33 AM
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You should talk to the other women who share my views. I guess that’s my fault too, right? No, it's their fault obviously. You're responsible for yourself only. Nah, you just hate that men don’t measure up. Can’t stand it. Lol Not really? I hate seeing men suffering from loneliness and rejection, and can be insecure sometimes over my own experiences, but I don't think it's all that important. I'm focusing on being whole and happy with myself, and would like other men to do the same. Clearly most…
/r/PurplePillDebate30/10/22 11:29 PM
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Companionship between friends and lovers isn't remotely the same. Different needs and all. Also, don't know why you guys assume men are incapable of being loving and respectful husbands. Tons of good men are out there, if you only focus on the bad apples that clearly is gonna taint your views. My parents and grandparents certainly didn’t marry for love and even mocked the idea. They married out if economic necessity. I'm aware, but things are quite different for quite some time wouldn't you agre…
/r/PurplePillDebate30/10/22 11:18 PM
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Nah, the dude might not even exist. Then it's a projection, aka your fault, not men's. If you're in love with an idea, no real person will ever measure up. Being single is just better in every way imaginable. Debatable, saying this as someone who doesn't do relationships well and enjoys singlehood. There are many things you'll never have if you don't have a partner,many experiences you'll never live. Society also benefits married couples. She’s not going to take everything to the table with a gu…
/r/PurplePillDebate30/10/22 09:54 PM
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Usually in feminist spaces (not saying feminists and bitter single women are the same, but those types always conglomerate at those subs)
/r/PurplePillDebate30/10/22 07:42 PM
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I think you're the one projecting here OP. Many women may say they're happy single, but I can bet the majority feel lonely and wish they had someone most of the time. They're just trying desperately not to show it because women want to be seen as strong. Only older women who already were married or had families I'm willing to believe are actually okay being single. Younger women say that because casual dating is still an option and it's abundant. Give 10-20 years and most will have long abandone…
/r/PurplePillDebate30/10/22 07:32 PM
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Or maybe, and this might be a hot take so buckle up, they could just stop having unrealistic standards and find real happiness with real people rather than holding to some idealized version of what a good partner should be.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/10/22 07:28 PM
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Women don't need men to survive, but women like companionship and romance. They may put a happy mask, but the majority would rather be with a partner than single. The only demographics I'd put as exceptions would be widowers and older divorced women
/r/PurplePillDebate30/10/22 07:25 PM
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You're the one coping here. If someone lives their entire life without a partner because supposedly "no one can meet her requirements", it's almost downright impossible for her to have never met said person in all the decades she lived. The most obvious scenario is she did meet Mr Perfect, he just couldn't give a shit about her because no one likes picky people, specially those that don't bring anything noteworthy to the table.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/10/22 07:23 PM
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That's fair dude, and I don't think lying to anyone will do any good. Just like, the language was kind of harsh. Instead you could've put it like "I'm not personally invested in this topic enough to lie about it", instead of just saying you couldn't care less about random men's feelings. The latter feels really dismissive and cold.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/10/22 08:16 AM
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I'm not bald, but it literally costs nothing to be empathetic to people and not act like you don't give af. Like, would you act so coldly to a woman who's insecure about being fat? From spending five minutes in your page I've learned you're married to a 6'3 dude, both of you had relationships and engaged on plenty of casual sex. Therefore it's quite obvious you're quite privileged in the looks department. Yet you still go out of your way to knock down those with unfortunate genes? Why, do you en…
/r/PurplePillDebate29/10/22 12:40 AM
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Again, how very kind of you
/r/PurplePillDebate28/10/22 03:57 PM
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But what incentive would I have to lie about this? Making bald men feel better? 😭 Idc about random bald men’s feelings. How kind
/r/PurplePillDebate28/10/22 12:33 PM
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True, but convervative young women are kind of rare. Your best bet would be at the southern states, heavy european influence/ancestry, most white part of the country and most conservative.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/10/22 05:22 PM
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I know, but in Brazil isn't much better. If you're ugly with poor social skills you're still not getting any.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/10/22 04:47 PM
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What I'll give you is a lot of women here are attracted to foreigners from first world countries, and the US is one of those. However, that'll only get you anywhere if you are pretty attractive, otherwise you'll just get rejected all the same. Also gen Z women tend to be way more left leaning, aka usually anti US, so that attraction will also be limited to more conservative women. ​ But also I disagree with your statement sure the bonus might be smaller than in some asian countries, but it gives…
/r/PurplePillDebate27/10/22 04:45 PM
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Just letting you know, Brazil has a shit ton of white people, and most of our culture is very westernized, unless we're talking about traditional regionalities which are basically not present in everyday life. Literally no one will think a white dude is special here lol
/r/PurplePillDebate27/10/22 02:31 PM
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Man you guys live on your own little world, I swear to god.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/10/22 03:32 PM
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Great comment
/r/PurplePillDebate24/10/22 02:20 PM
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Normal people, regardless of age and confidence, have insecurities. If someone isn't insecure about anything, something's definetly wrong there.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/10/22 01:47 PM
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Nah dude, that's just fucked up
/r/PurplePillDebate23/10/22 09:39 PM
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Agreed. Nothing excuses cheating
/r/PurplePillDebate23/10/22 03:05 PM
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You'll be a terrible dome if you genuinely see them as "little bitches". Yk you're supposed to like and respect your subs, right?
/r/PurplePillDebate22/10/22 11:04 AM
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Or just some horny mediocre looking guy You guys really hate ugly people huh?
/r/PurplePillDebate21/10/22 11:22 AM
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You did meet guys like that, you were just never interested in them.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/10/22 11:12 AM
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So you look down on men who like anal stimulation? Nice
/r/PurplePillDebate21/10/22 11:07 AM
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I mean, it’s likely a mix of both. I’m not ugly, just meh. Not fat, but probably a bit too tall (guys deny it, but they seem to prefer cuter, more petite women), a few odd facial features, and I had pretty noticeable bad acne well after high school. Yeah, as a guy I can confirm most prefer smaller, petite women. It's my preference as well. But I don't understand men who don't find tall women attractive or feel emasculated. If she's cute that to me just means she comes in a different type of pack…
/r/PurplePillDebate20/10/22 01:24 PM
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It is a flaw in dating, based on my experience, although not as much of a flaw as failing to be born beautiful. I was in a very very male dominated major and yet I have almost never been pursued— it’s obviously not a plus. Well, I agree with you that being below average or even ugly is pretty much a death sentence in terms of dating, nothing will limit your options quite like it (speaking from experience, am ugly). With that in mind, couldn't it be your lack of suitors is related to your looks r…
/r/PurplePillDebate20/10/22 02:52 AM
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Being a physics major isn't a flaw, that guy was probably just insecure. If anything a woman having a big brain makes her way more attractive imo, as long as she isn't obsessed with her field or super snobby about it.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/10/22 04:28 PM
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The world entitled is seriously becoming a pet peeve of mine. People immediately jump to that whenever men are venting about anything.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/10/22 11:31 AM
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Masochism. CBT can be pretty fun.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/10/22 03:06 AM
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This is mostly because rape rarely has anything to do with libido or sexual urges. It's almost always about taking control and humiliating the victim.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/10/22 06:12 PM
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People are always emphasizing how men aren't entitled to sex and relationships and attraction can't be forced, so what else is there for undesirable men other then porn? Many are going to die without experiencing romantic love, so I think porn is at least a form of temporary relief. Won't change anything else, but at least there's that.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/10/22 05:51 PM
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I don't think that's the solution. Would you appreciate pity sex? I wouldn't. I do believe we could benefit from women being more lenient towards looks but if isn't coming from the heart there's no point. But just less bullying would be good. I engaged someone yesterday who literally left me speechless over how much they despised ugly men. It really left me down bad. I think people like that should be called out always.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/10/22 02:05 AM
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You should never have sex you don't want, no one wants that. But like, maybe don't say those cruel things to people who are already miserable? I try to listen and give advice whenever I can, maybe offer a few kind words. You don't need to go so far but just don't be cruel man, that's just punching down.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/10/22 02:02 AM
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Yeah, but there are usually more underlying issues behind dead bedrooms. I don't think women get married with the purpose of having no sex life.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/10/22 08:04 PM
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Just because it's a certain demographic that's suffering from isolation it's not a problem worthy of sympathy? But if it became 50/% suddendly it would be worth worrying about? I really don't understand how you people can have this little care for others. Even if it was 1% I'd be compelled to help anyway I can, people being miserable doesn't make me happy.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/10/22 07:52 PM
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No I meant the opposite, men having the option to forsake financial obligations isn't all that feasible right now, but I hope some day it will be.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/10/22 04:12 PM
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I didn't mean I think now is a good time to implement those measures, but it should be taken as a goal for us to get there with time. I don't expect something like this in my lifetime, but it's something I'd like for future generations.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/10/22 05:23 PM
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Get help dude seriously
/r/PurplePillDebate14/10/22 04:19 PM
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Oh so you can’t pinpoint anywhere that you told men on here to stop dehumanizing women? I can, I argued yesterday with someone here who called me delusional for thinking trans people aren't sick in the head. I have other examples as well but I won't keep engaging with a hateful person who does nothing but try to insult me. Either control your temper or leave me alone.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/10/22 02:52 PM
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Get therapy dude, you're deranged. “You can keep fucking your chads” I don’t need your permission or ok to have sex with attractive men. It was a figure of speech you twat, idgaf who you fuck or don't fuck. Go wave your false bravado somewhere else.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/10/22 02:24 PM
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Not saying men are monoliths, but I'm guessing we're surrounded by very different types of men then.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/10/22 09:19 AM
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Considering how much aggression and hatred you obviously have for ugly men, I wonder why so many are bitter and angry? Lol Whether you like it or not we're human beings with complex thought and feelings, we're much more than just our looks and the right people will see that. You can keep fucking your "chads" all you want dude, but stop dehumanizing people because you personally find us revolting. That's says way more about you than us.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/10/22 09:15 AM
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That makes zero sense. Because men on here talk about women settling for them all the time and her secretly wanting a man she’s physically attracted to more than her husband. It's not about settling, if you paid attention to my comment it's about giving a shot to different types of men. If you don't end up liking it, go for your male models then. But we uggos have much to offer, and there's all the chance in the world the love of someone's life might not be super conveniently attractive, but you…
/r/PurplePillDebate14/10/22 01:51 AM
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Sure dude
/r/PurplePillDebate14/10/22 12:00 AM
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The fact you think that your mother would prefer to be a struggling single parent than to get child support to afford you better outcomes shows how you have simply no understanding if the female perspective. I know she would, as that was a constant squabble between the two when my dad was somewhat still in my life. Their situation is a bit different tho, my father was the one who wanted kids and my mom accepted to save the relationship or something. In cases where both parents decide to have a k…
/r/PurplePillDebate13/10/22 11:00 PM
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It's probably cultural but I thought it was. very common. I live in a large city in America so I thought I was pretty representative of normal. I also do think like minded people naturally group together, so non-commitment people probably just don't enter my social group because they probably won't feel like they belong. Could be that, but I just always grew up with this knowledge that men are less about commitment than women, at least judging by my circle and like media and stuff. If there are …
/r/PurplePillDebate13/10/22 10:52 PM
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You don't think that's the case? Not talking about below average, but like most average looking women wouldn't struggle to have sex if that's what they only wanted. As a man I know very few other men who would pass up easy sex with a moderately attractive woman.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/10/22 10:42 PM
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Ok
/r/PurplePillDebate13/10/22 07:16 PM
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Me having a different opinion on a moral question does not equal lack of proper education, you elitist ass. My mom gave her all to give me quality education with the help of my family, so refrain from speaking about things you don't understand. And go insult someone else.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/10/22 07:15 PM
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Also, it's not just me. No one around me has commitment problems. I always thought it was the guy that wants to push for commitment. They're the ones that ask girls to be their girlfriends and is the one that literately does the proposing and usually put in a lot of thought and effort into it. Girls are usually the ones not sure or slowing the relationship down. I didn't even know guys not committing was a problem until I got into online spaces. Could be cultural from where you're from, I'm not …
/r/PurplePillDebate13/10/22 07:13 PM
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Nope. I haven't distorted anything. And I bet you would have better outcomes if your mother was able to afford more for you, including a quality education. What an asshole thing to say. You're a very meanspirited person, huh? I'm not giving you further attention
/r/PurplePillDebate13/10/22 06:15 PM
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Ok
/r/PurplePillDebate13/10/22 04:53 PM
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You're distorting everything I've been saying, that is a strawman argument. Yes because financial abandonment is exactly what you are advocating for. I am, but single parents are perfectly capable of taking care of that, getting help from family and friends, etc. I'm a son of a single mother, she managed fine.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/10/22 04:31 PM
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If you'd read my other comments you'd know I already suggested measures to be addressed by the government to decrease birth rates exponentially over time. I don't want a dystopic future with starving children and a broken economy, I do however want to protect myself and other men from being hostage to a broken system.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/10/22 04:28 PM
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You would disagree because you clearly hate when Did you mean I hate women? If so, can you please stop strawmanning every single thing I say? All the cards? You're taking about a living being in such flippant ways. Women do NOT hold all the cards but just because you don't like the choices men have you won't accept that. Yes, currently you hold all the cards when it comes to pregnancy termination and parental rights. And yes, as a men I don't have to accept conditions I find unfair. Not to menti…
/r/PurplePillDebate13/10/22 04:26 PM
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I'm not even going to address the straw man here as it's pretty obvious I'm not advocating child abandonment. For the rest, I'm aware all options available to women aren't consequence free and come with costs and risks, however they at least have alternatives. We men don't. And even if we did, it wouldn't be without consequences. What if a guy gives up legal rights to a child but comes to regret later? Too fucking bad.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/10/22 04:21 PM
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Yeah, and just punish men for engaging in sexual activity, but still giving all the cards to women? Nah, I disagree. I'm pro choice on the simple basis I don't believe the government has a right to override a woman's bodily autonomy, in the same way the government shouldn't have the right to violate a man's financial independence by forcing him to parent an unwanted child. Also: If men want rights to exercise their desire to not have children then they need to abstain or take preventative measur…
/r/PurplePillDebate13/10/22 10:50 AM
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Nope, women have all the agency once the egg is fertilized. They can decide to abort at any point, and there's nothing really stopping them from giving the kid up for adoption or even just ditching, other than social scrutiny. Holding men's hostages because they dared to have sex is immoral imo.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/10/22 10:45 AM
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Like I said in another comment, I don't believe a child's rights should override an adults just because they're children. Men are fully formed, complex individuals, who have been citizens for decades, and for some reason are considered not as important because they're older is asinine.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/10/22 10:40 AM
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I disagree here. Not that sex is this huge deal, but it takes a lot of effort on a guy's part to constantly attract women, unless he's naturally super handsome or charismatic.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/10/22 10:38 AM
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That does get repeated allot, I agree
/r/PurplePillDebate13/10/22 04:13 AM
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IDK seems kinda mean to twist the knife like that. Many of these guys here get suicidal often.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/10/22 04:12 AM
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Everyone's caught by surprise. Honestly I fear we may not be a democracy for long, but not much we can do at this point.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/10/22 03:22 AM
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Yes! Take your own agency, get a vasectomy or don’t have sex, we are in agreement. I actually plan on getting my vasectomy soon, just waiting till I'm 25 so I'll be legaly allowed to, and then I need to look for a doctor who'll agree to do it. Becoming a dad is one of my worst fears. Also been in a dry spell since I broke up, so no worries there lol A parent who would be a hinderance shouldn’t be around, you’re right, they shouldn’t create children to begin with, nor should they leave them in po…
/r/PurplePillDebate13/10/22 03:21 AM
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I believe I am, but then again it's unlikely we are from the same part of the world, and my country is being absolutely dominated by far right politicians this year. So yeah, there's that.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/10/22 03:09 AM
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Y'all? I'm not RP dude. I also don't believe the "women stop being attractive after 30". My first casual partner was 31 and I was 20
/r/PurplePillDebate13/10/22 03:08 AM
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Agreed, I'd never said it'd be easy or that men aren't part of the problem
/r/PurplePillDebate13/10/22 03:06 AM
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Invest heavily on pregnancy prevention and sexual education, take power away from churches and stop allowing them to exploit poor people, make abortion cheaper and more easily accessible, less traumatic and guilt ridden, make adoption less of bureaucratic nightmare, like I said plenty of approaches to take.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/10/22 12:58 AM
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Meh, I'd rather protect the rights of rich and complex human beings with decades of life over fetuses and infants. Also, there are ways to approach the financial support of the children. The easiest one being the mother aborting, our taking financial care herself, but there are other approaches.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/10/22 12:36 AM
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Considering the upvotes he isn't really screaming into the void, also this sub has a lot of lonely guys, and most posts are about dating and how unfair it is to men. If it's not a topic you care, why are you on this sub in the first place?
/r/PurplePillDebate13/10/22 12:33 AM
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I'm actually doing okay rn, some days are better than others and I'm working on overcoming some insecurities. But overall I'm much better than a few years ago.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/10/22 12:31 AM
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It isn't ideal, but I'd like to protect my rights as a men. Due to biological differences us men have no agency in a pregnancy and this creates a very unbalanced scenario. To me the most moral course would be to give men the option to no be financially responsible for children they don't want.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/10/22 12:29 AM
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This isn't a men's sub, so I'm perfectly entitled to be here and say what I think. Entitled, sure. Appreciated, not really. Like I said, you're just making sad people feel worse, if you're cool with that knock yourself out I guess. Just don't call it helping. So it's OK for OP to insult women? To call them narcissists? No, and even in this sub the most extreme ones are deleted and banned. I myself get into arguments with dudes who say things out of line, just engaged with a guy being transphobic…
/r/PurplePillDebate13/10/22 12:25 AM
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As a teen male girls found me grotesque. When I hit 20 I had a short period with a lot of attention from women for whatever reason, and then when I hit 23 it just stopped completely and I'm invisible again. Honestly not to sure what to make of it lol
/r/PurplePillDebate13/10/22 12:18 AM
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As a child of a absentee father, I'd loathe living in a world where law forced men to be in their children's lives. My dad was abusive and would've been a terrible influence to me. Also, if I were to ever get a girl pregnant, if abortion wasn't on the table I wouldn't think twice before disappearing. I decided long ago I don't want children, I'd be a terrible father, and I don't want my future to be hostage of a woman's pregnancy. I'm taking my own agency, if it's what it takes.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/10/22 12:16 AM
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If you want to keep it you should pay for it, no? If you don't abortion should be the way to go, problem solved
/r/PurplePillDebate13/10/22 12:11 AM
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I'm below average myself, like a 3 at most. But inferior? C'mon man, we're people too.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/10/22 12:09 AM
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Are trans men not real? I've met several, and I'm 24.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/10/22 12:08 AM
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I don’t see why it’s up to women to broaden their dating pool to people they’re not attracted to when they’re capable of seeing men who already fit their standards. It's not up to women, but they could be part of the solution instead of just complaining about men being bitter and lonely. Men already have a way more broad definition of attraction which makes a more balanced environment for everyone. Women aren't meeting halfway so the issue is there. Sure it's not your problem, but many women end…
/r/PurplePillDebate13/10/22 12:07 AM
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I never had issues with men and commitment. You're definitely one of the lucky ones then. It would be strange if I can randomly pick up someone of my husband's calibre off the street with no effort whenever I feel like it. See, what you call calibre is what I'd call compatibility, rather than his "value" in the dating market. Idk if he's a hunk of a man, who won the genetic lottery and makes big bucks in a successful field, but these are usually the standards women mean in these discussions, tho…
/r/PurplePillDebate13/10/22 12:01 AM
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I'm just here to wake this guy up to the reality of his own short comings and his failure to see them. The sooner he accepts that his situation his his own fault then the sooner he can start to improve his life. If that's your objective you're going about it the absolute wrong way. Insulting people is pretty much a guarantee that they won't listen to a thing you say no matter what it is. Also, you don't know him personally, so any advice you can give will be surface level at most, and also somet…
/r/PurplePillDebate12/10/22 11:53 PM
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So what are you on about matching his energy? He didn't insult you, so you're just being a dick.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/10/22 11:45 PM
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Like I said, it's not about predicting the future, or even about you personally. My point is just that the more requirements you have, the less people you'll have in your dating pool, therefore you're more likely to not find "the one". I'm glad things worked for you tho.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/10/22 11:44 PM
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When he meant the top 1% of men he clearly meant supermodel looking, conveniently attractive, rich ones. I don't personally believe all women go after this type of guy, but it's been my experience that women are way more limited to a type than men and refuse to try something different. Add to the fact that due to beauty standards there is a heavy bias for certain phenotypes, guys who are conveniently attractive, super social, and somewhat successful still heavily dominate dating. So average and …
/r/PurplePillDebate12/10/22 11:41 PM
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It's not about predicting per se, but more being a victim of circumstance. Meaning, if you had fewer requirements, you've might gotten with someone your normal self would never have given a chance but it may have turned out to be a pretty good match. Of course it's all speculation, but if we apply this concept to a worldwide scale many lonely people might be happily partnered up if they were willing to compromise in a requirement or another.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/10/22 11:31 PM
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People don't ever improve without sympathy and support, but I digress as fixing him isn't the point. Guys here in general are pretty miserable, so coming here to call people pathetic losers is very much asshole behaviour. You already have all the sexual power you want, are clearly confident about it, so go enjoy life instead of twisting the knife on those who don't. You're welcome to participate if you want to add to the discussion, but so far it's only been about offenses. I don't understand wa…
/r/PurplePillDebate12/10/22 11:25 PM
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Good to hear, but again, if your standards for relationships weren't as high your first husband might've been someone else and you might have nailed it on the first try. Having more deal breakers decrease your chances of finding suitable partners. It still worked out for you of course, but it won't for many others.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/10/22 11:20 PM
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Clearly to the wrong people since it didn't work out. My point stands.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/10/22 11:13 PM
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Let's not act like women getting sex is some sort of achievement tho
/r/PurplePillDebate12/10/22 11:04 PM
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You can but it'll definitely make finding someone way harder. A lot of men aren't about commitment as it is.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/10/22 11:00 PM
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Wouldn't they reavaluate why they are only attracted to the exact same type of men be a start? Men seem to be able to find many types of women attractive to varying degrees, but women seem to struggle to find variety attractive for some reason.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/10/22 10:59 PM
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someone inferior Jesus Christ, you people..
/r/PurplePillDebate12/10/22 10:57 PM
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Dude if you think dudes here are just whiney and pathetic why are you here? To beat on a dead horse? Being cruel to others because you think their unhappiness is invalid gets you off or smth?
/r/PurplePillDebate12/10/22 10:55 PM
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No one was offending you or the OP
/r/PurplePillDebate12/10/22 10:53 PM
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If you were able to match with the top 5% of women, wouldn’t you? I'd date the top 5% of women, sure. But I wouldn't only go after them or refuse to date anyone "below". There are many things that make up attraction, and looks are just one of them. Yet you're talking as if you giving the time of day to anyone who doesn't look like Chris Hemsworth is below you. Like, have some humility dude, geez.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/10/22 10:44 PM
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Trans men
/r/PurplePillDebate12/10/22 10:14 PM
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Something's troubling you stranger?
/r/PurplePillDebate12/10/22 08:56 PM
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It is, sort of at least. Virginity is the complete lack of sex, the complete opposite of that would be like "having all the sex", but since that doesn't make sense the closest achievable thing would be someone who has as much sex as possible.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/10/22 08:55 PM
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It literally is tho
/r/PurplePillDebate11/10/22 11:02 PM
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Are you sure you are done with me? Seems like you keep coming back. Don't worry tho, goodbyes are always hard 😭
/r/PurplePillDebate23/09/22 07:10 PM
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Damn, had the biggest Deja Vu right now
/r/PurplePillDebate23/09/22 04:16 PM
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Feelings just happen, it's not some convoluted ploy to hurt women. I also don't get why being friends is seen as undesirable for a relationship? Like, if you're not attracted to that person sure you don't want to think of them like that, but then the issue is the attraction, not the friendship, right? Ideally, you'd want your future partners to have been your friends first.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/09/22 02:19 PM
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You're assuming they wouldn't just lie and say they hooked up instead of paying for a hooker.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/09/22 01:52 PM
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If you hookup once a week for a year that's 52 partners. Put like that it doesn't sound as that significant. Yes that's true, but even then a new partner every week is a lot. Maybe it's just because of how I am, but I struggle to understand how you'd find suitable and interesting people that you vibe with that frequently. I know some people just need to find someone hot to sleep with them, but IDK that sounds so alien to me lol, not demi or anything but I need to at least vibe with the person, c…
/r/PurplePillDebate23/09/22 01:51 PM
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Damn, who hurt you?
/r/PurplePillDebate23/09/22 01:44 PM
1

Makes sense, didn't think about it that way.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/09/22 01:41 PM
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Saying something is common isn't portraying it as normal. Keep your opinions to yourself sugar. Also weren't you done with this conversation? Damn I really must've left an impression lol
/r/PurplePillDebate23/09/22 01:39 PM
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It's okay sweety, not everyone evolves past the attention span of a five yo. You're special in your own way 💖
/r/PurplePillDebate23/09/22 01:38 PM
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Some people really broaden your horizons man lol
/r/PurplePillDebate23/09/22 01:33 PM
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Really, you don't believe me? Golly, didn't see that coming! How could that be, you're such a nice gal after all, taking the time of day to argue in complete good faith and not to try and bait people? Vai pela sombra querida, as we say in my country! Next time remember it's better to stay quiet sometimes rather than yapping when you haven't got a single thing of worth to say. Always remember darling, shit comes out of the ass, not your mouth 💖
/r/PurplePillDebate23/09/22 05:31 AM
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Do you struggle with reading comprehension? I'd see a doctor about that. I said and I quote: He's one of my childhood friends... and When I asked one of my other childhood friends, this one who I actually still keep in touch... So as you can see, my story isn't weird, you're just making an effort to not understand. But I'll make a TLDR just in case: He was my friend when we were children, I moved. Out of my childhood friends I only kept in touch with the one who told me about the wedding. 16 yea…
/r/PurplePillDebate23/09/22 05:23 AM
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Hey, self awareness is the first step. I believe in you 🙏
/r/PurplePillDebate23/09/22 04:37 AM
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What do you want me to do? Call the police? Lol The dude is my CHILDHOOD friend, I last saw him like 16 years ago before last year the guys did a reunion. But yet I'm supposed to get involved and do what? Warn the girl I don't even know?
/r/PurplePillDebate23/09/22 04:36 AM
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Man, you must be awfully bored in your mom's basement today. Why don't you call your VR chat pals to hang? You need to get all those Cheetos out of your system girl
/r/PurplePillDebate23/09/22 04:14 AM
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How am I responsible by my friends actions? I'm not him, he's the one playing with that girl.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/09/22 04:13 AM
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Well it's good you took care of yourself, and the fact group sex was involved makes way more sense now lol. But you mentioned something curious to me, that you liked to experimented and was learning what you liked and didn't. I see that argument being used a lot by people who hook up and it always leaves me curious. Is there a correlation between number of people and experimentation? Like, theoretically couldn't you have the same amount of experience with fewer or even one person, or do you feel…
/r/PurplePillDebate23/09/22 04:10 AM
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That's fair, but I don't see many people being okay openly discussing pasts like that. It's certainly territory I don't go into.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/09/22 04:02 AM
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Are you even hearing yourself? Statistics are there for you to see, indeed most men are anti feminists (that does not equal misogynistic btw). And you also seem to imply that most men would lie to be in a relationship. Not most, but many would because they do. I've met plenty that did and continue to do so. But clearly anything I say you'll just dismiss as a lie so I won't even bother. You really have a low opinion of men. I just know how most of us are. Your arrogance to come here and call me a…
/r/PurplePillDebate23/09/22 04:01 AM
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Dude you're ridiculous lol, you clearly only came here to pick fights so please go troll somewhere else
/r/PurplePillDebate23/09/22 03:56 AM
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Wow, all in your early 20's? But if you don't mind me asking, what drove you to hook up so much? Like, you just wanted to enjoy being single, or were you like dealing with stuff and sex helped? (BTW not trying to be judgmental, I'm genuinely curious)
/r/PurplePillDebate23/09/22 03:55 AM
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Men are, and the whole point is to brag to your friends about it
/r/PurplePillDebate23/09/22 03:45 AM
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Maybe not getting into ltr but surely jealousy and insecurity has arised before due to this?
/r/PurplePillDebate23/09/22 03:44 AM
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Idk if this is sarcastic or not but how does one even get to such a number?
/r/PurplePillDebate23/09/22 03:42 AM
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Imagine you knowing how many sexual partners your mom had
/r/PurplePillDebate23/09/22 03:40 AM
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If you know that why the hell have you been arguing with me this entire time? My entire point was, most men are anti feminism, especially youth. You basically just supported my point, so what was all this about? Just to be a contrarian?
/r/PurplePillDebate23/09/22 02:34 AM
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Third hand by someone who's close with both. Also what is there to understand? Dude didn't wanna get married, tried to get laid but she wanted to wait, he proposes and tells my friend at his bachelors party he's finally getting laid. Put two and two together, c'mon I believe in you!
/r/PurplePillDebate23/09/22 02:32 AM
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I don't have to use my own anecdotal evidences. Ever used the internet? Go to mainstream spaces other than your radfem bubbles and tell me what you see there. A sea of progressive folks, I'd imagine! /s Also never said all men, said majority which is true. Go see the studies of how each generation feels about feminism, Gen Z men are the least accepting demographic.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/09/22 07:10 PM
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He's know the girl for a year, she's a virgin and they rushed to marriage. When I asked one of my other childhood friends, this one who I actually still keep in touch, told me he was complaining she wouldn't put out and decided he was gonna propose earlier. But again, these are people I know IRL, but please keep womansplaining my own real life relationships.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/09/22 07:07 PM
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No, I speak for the men around me. Ever heard of locker room talk? Yeah, were privy to things you're not aware, but keep being an idiot and live in your fantasy world
/r/PurplePillDebate22/09/22 06:47 PM
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He's my childhood friend, but sure clearly you know best lol. Believe whatever you want then
/r/PurplePillDebate22/09/22 06:46 PM
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You sure take things literally lol. It's not so much mind reading as just knowing how the average guy thinks. We are socialized in a similar way, we have access to info we never let on to women, men are themselves among other men. And yes, we can easily spot a fuck boy from a mile away. And anywho, should I start bringing up stats on how many men get fooled by other men thinking they would make good friends? That would also cast a doubt on your claims men can just magically read the minds of oth…
/r/PurplePillDebate22/09/22 06:34 PM
1

Some guys are very patient. I know someone who's getting married just to take the girls virginity.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/09/22 06:30 PM
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I'm telling you because I'm a man and I know other men. It's up to you if you want to believe or not.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/09/22 06:28 PM
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Your personality is irrelevant as long as they can get an easy lay
/r/PurplePillDebate22/09/22 05:03 PM
1

What I got from your post is that your ex clearly didn't like you as a person. Not saying the reason was your feminism necessarily, but many men will enter relationships with women they dislike for the benefits.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/09/22 05:02 PM
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Dating wise yes, you play tutorial mode.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/09/22 09:13 AM
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Man here and I can tell you, your average guy absolutely loathes feminists, let alone radical ones. So unless you exclusively date pro feminism men, the guys you see are 100% only interested in boning you, and are put off by your personality. Case in point, your story here
/r/PurplePillDebate22/09/22 09:12 AM
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Not abusive people, abusive men. Men know how men act and think, women don't.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/09/22 02:56 AM
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Okay, but you genuinely believe 95-99% of men are like that? IDK seems like you're letting some bad experiences cloud how you view half the world's population. Many men are douches, but definitely not as many as you're implying here.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/09/22 04:07 PM
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Nah, I think I'll stick with roller coaster dude
/r/PurplePillDebate21/09/22 04:04 PM
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Idk, your uncle seems fun
/r/PurplePillDebate21/09/22 02:00 AM
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What do you classify as an asshole tho? I think 1-5% seems unrealistic when speaking about almost 4 billion people
/r/PurplePillDebate21/09/22 02:00 AM
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Got any sources for that? Even spaces that are dedicated to vent or criticize men you'll rarely see women that actively hate all men. Everyone has at least a couple men in their lives that they love.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/09/22 09:41 PM
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I think men could be more vulnerable with each other, but I don't think we mistreat each other either. Our banter isn't supposed to hurt any feelings, and if it does any decent guy will apologize and not do it again.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/09/22 09:38 PM
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What? Have you ever gone to an amusement park? Roller coaster are the bomb dude
/r/PurplePillDebate20/09/22 09:20 PM
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They definitely don't share your view that all men are assholes tho
/r/PurplePillDebate20/09/22 09:06 PM
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That's a very extreme way of viewing things don't you think?
/r/PurplePillDebate20/09/22 09:02 PM
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no mine does matter, your doesn't. did not you not understand my analogy? i am saying i've seen harm being done, you are saying you haven't seen it. your comment is irrelevant Lol dude, get over yourself
/r/PurplePillDebate11/09/22 09:56 PM
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I mean, this sub is full of Incels and social rejects, that's to be expected.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/09/22 04:14 PM
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Very insightful
/r/PurplePillDebate04/09/22 02:42 AM
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That's fine and dandy, expect men can easily spot these types among the crowd, but women seem to consistently fail to do so. We don't need psychology degrees to differentiate genuine kind and sociable guys to fuck boys who are very obviously faking it. "We can smell it", as you guys always say. But say anything of the sort and people just accuse you of being jealous or feeling inferior to more successful men, even tho no knows men better than other men. The only reason women can easily spot a ni…
/r/PurplePillDebate03/09/22 12:13 PM
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Great way to prove him right btw lol
/r/PurplePillDebate24/08/22 08:56 PM
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PIV feels good but I’d think the pleasure would decrease dramatically if the dick were going soft a lot or if the sex didn’t last very long. It’s like why tampons aren’t arousing. I am a lesbian and still need penetration in my sex life so I’m not saying it isn’t important, I’m saying a lot of men either can’t or don’t know how to use their dicks. Yeah obviously a dick isn't going to be able to reach the same potential that, let's say, a toy would in terms of hardness and control. But even with …
/r/PurplePillDebate29/07/22 11:55 PM
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Erectile dysfunction in young men is caused by porn addiction more often than not. Poor health is the next most likely reason which I’m sure is a leading cause for guys beyond that age too. I’m sure it’s its own plight and probably sucks to deal with, but I’m not super sympathetic to dudes in their 20s who have it because they can’t get off pornhub. True, the main cause of ED in young men comes from porn addiction. But that also is usually accompanied by depression and social isolation. It's an …
/r/PurplePillDebate29/07/22 11:28 PM
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I’m resentful because I said most men are shit in the sack? Sheesh. Apparently facts are resentment now. You're resentful because of your agressive tone, not because of your message, I thought I made that pretty clear. When hit with the fact that a lot of men deal with ED or have other difficulties to reach orgasm the answer you found appropriate was "I don't care", which means you're either resentful or just an asshole that enjoys being rude for no reason, which is why I ignored your points.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/07/22 10:55 PM
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You don't have to date men to be bitter and resentful about them. Your overly agressive language makes it pretty clear how sour you are about this subject.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/07/22 10:41 PM
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Cool, not my problem Lol, so bitter
/r/PurplePillDebate29/07/22 10:38 PM
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How is that stupid bro? If you can't go on for long, get her off first then do your thing.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/07/22 07:19 PM
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You do know there's plenty of men that struggle to cum as well right? Also, just because you require more to get off and your partner don't doesn't mean you shouldn't put effort into pleasing him.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/07/22 07:17 PM
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Dude stop this BS women aren't logical, c'mon.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/07/22 02:00 PM
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Nah, I think she's Canadian and is just being polite
/r/PurplePillDebate15/07/22 05:46 PM
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That's fair, but don't you think that's a little odd to be saying about your friends? hookup guys aren’t really desirable, they are just convenient. The sex is generally awkward and not satisfying. And generally speaking you don’t want to fuck them again. Or be seen in public with them. Or want anybody to know you ever touched them. Especially this part: Or be seen in public with them. Or want anybody to know you ever touched them.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/07/22 05:37 PM
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Weren't your hookups your friends? Why do you speak of your friends in such a harsh manner?
/r/PurplePillDebate09/07/22 05:29 PM
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Are you implying that I'm a virgin?
/r/PurplePillDebate02/07/22 06:55 PM
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That was neither funny nor am I American.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/07/22 12:44 PM
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Dehumanizing anyone is gross. Someone being a bad person does not stop making them a person.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/07/22 09:57 AM
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Why the quotation marks? Do you not see men as people?
/r/PurplePillDebate02/07/22 09:50 AM
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How? His sexual past is his business alone.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/07/22 09:44 AM
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Nope, not every virgin is totally lost when it comes to sex. Also someone being awkward in bed doesn't necessarily mean they're a virgin, they can still be inexperienced even tho they've done it once or twice.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/07/22 09:36 AM
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Lol, seems like you dogded a bullet there
/r/PurplePillDebate18/06/22 12:00 PM
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Question: if you really wanted to date the other guy, wouldn't it be easier just to ask him his number, instead of waiting for him to suddendly notice you?
/r/PurplePillDebate18/06/22 11:42 AM
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Don't need to, unlike you I don't put my value in how much sex I'm having
/r/PurplePillDebate15/04/22 10:16 PM
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Oh look, the incel is pulling the white knight card, how original
/r/PurplePillDebate15/04/22 09:53 PM
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Fuck off man, she can wear whatever she wants without warranting assholes commenting on them and making her uncomfortable
/r/PurplePillDebate15/04/22 09:07 PM
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I'm not the one claiming that my country is better than others and that people over the world would trample themselves over the privilege of being with a brazilian
/r/PurplePillDebate08/03/22 01:41 PM
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Do you even know where I'm from?
/r/PurplePillDebate08/03/22 05:43 AM
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yes,most non-americans want to date americans.american men are considered very cool even in the netherlands.they're associated with Justin Bieber and Chris Brown etc while noone in the world wants to long term date a american woman. Lol American delusions of self importance are great. Outside of your country you're more well know for: -Mass shootings - Obesity - Consumerism - Xenophobia - Self absorbed attitude - War crimes - Redneck racists - Imperialism - Electing Trump So yeah, you may be in …
/r/PurplePillDebate07/03/22 11:20 AM
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NGL this was a pretty uncomfortable read. That doesn't sound like a wife, that sounds like a victim of sexual trafficking. Where's her fucking agency ffs?
/r/PurplePillDebate04/03/22 10:46 AM
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Sure but I never heard of that ever, and I'm Brazilian. It doesn't even make sense as we are a western county through and through, just a developing one. He'll we currently even have our own version of Trump as the president.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/03/22 10:50 PM
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What woman from Germany would want to marry a traditional guy from Brazil who would be pretty ruthless about her maintaining a 25-year-old body? The fuck did you get that from?
/r/PurplePillDebate01/03/22 09:34 PM
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