DueSuggestion6670 Archive

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1	Is there really an out I hate to say this but choose your hard. Divorce sucks. It's hard and I tell anyone who listens to try not to go there. Then again it sounds like you are miserable. This seems to just get worse in my experience. You are not your best self, and she will feel that. Resentment grows. Choosing to recommit to each other is hard, and takes both. I'd try to see if thats possible but that's me. Might take therapy. Young children change things and that makes things seem worse than they useually are. If y…	/r/Divorce_Men	30/05/24 04:01 AM
3	Too fast or am I good? Everyone is different. I'd say getting a lawyer is a goid idea. Also be aware that even if this is entirely her fault she will go full on hate mode. In her mind this will be your fault. That hate was hard for me to take. Don't give in on things to "make the process easier" it won't be reciprocated. As far as dating goes everyone is different. In my experience I can say I thought I was ready but after looking back I was not. Be honest with yourself and others. It was very helpful for me mentally …	/r/Divorce_Men	24/05/24 01:15 PM
2	I had to borrow to finance this Please tell me you got something signed. Even then she needs to be paying her half. If she had to borrow or take a loan, then that's on her. I don't know yours but my ex and I borrowed money from my family. I didn't think she'd be dishonest, but she straight up lied to not pay it back. I wouldn't borrow another cent on her behalf. Also I hope you have texts or emails or some sort of document on the loan already taken. Sorry bro.	/r/Divorce_Men	29/06/23 03:50 AM
2	Divorce advice Is she intiating? Lawyer up. Find a good one. Don't give in to things thinking it will make the process smoother. I and so many other guys do that and it almost never works. Emotionally be prepared to be wrecked. All I can say there is it gets better with time. She is no longer the woman you know. Try, and I know its hard, to look at this as an unemotional accountant. Take everything your accountant says you are entitled to. If you feel like you got too much you can deal with that later but for …	/r/Divorce_Men	27/06/23 02:33 AM
3	Legality of spying on cell/tablet devices/invasion of privacy and dating I am from Michigan and had a similar situation. I asked my lawyer, and she said not to keep looking. Any info I got from it wouldn't help, and if she was hiding money or anything, they'd catch it the financial disclosure. This is just personal advice. I kept spying and hinestly to see what she was saying about me too. I might still have her password but I after awhile I realized any helpful information I got from spying wasn't worth the emotional toll it was taking. For that reason I say don't s…	/r/Divorce_Men	08/05/23 03:40 AM
2	My soon to be ex is a stay at home…she wants to keep the very expensive house which is solely under my name since she can’t afford it for roughly 7 years until she can refinance it under her name…would you do it? We have several kids and she says I owe it to them since I destroyed our marriage. This is a common tactic. Women play our emotions to get what they want. Not easy. Kill your heart and listen to your brain. If its not good for you (and that includes your kids) then do what is best for you. Don't let her tell you whats best for your kids. Thats up to you now.	/r/Divorce_Men	30/04/23 03:21 AM
2	Advice post divorce I'm confused at how she can still be on the mortgage after the divorce is final. Wasn't the house decided in the divorce. I see no reason for you to be housing her family after a divorce. That should be her problem. You should be looking out for yourself. As far as what you should do with the market the way it is depends on your situation. Interest rates are up. If you are locked into a low interest rate >3 or 4 percent you may find that selling and buying a smaller place results in a similar mo…	/r/Divorce_Men	28/04/23 02:37 PM
1	I live in California and have been married for 20 years and my wife has been having another affair. This is the second time she’s done this and will be the third time she’s moved out, assuming she’s serious again. Keep a journal of what you do for the kid daily. Everything. Laundry, help with homework, etc. Show them you csn care for your child. Courts tend to fuck over men but if you show you can take care and do then they can't take your rights. Unfortunately the judge won't give a shit that she's been whoring around. As long as she can't say you are a degenerate though you should at least get 50/50.	/r/Divorce_Men	28/04/23 05:14 AM
1	Attempted to have a conversation with STBXW regarding best way for us to try and go uncontested but her attitude/tone and her fight/flight nature has me rather concerned that this will not go well as a whole. I think most start out with the hope of reason and coming to a mutual agreement. Unfortunately I haven't ever heard of that actually working. At least cosult with an attorney. Most likely you will need it. Wish I had better news man.	/r/Divorce_Men	19/04/23 07:58 PM
4	How bad is it to look at internet search history? Man this sucks hard. And I went through a lot of it. As far as the attorney goes they are expensive. If you both can be reasonable then maybe you can avoid this, but in my experience reason does not play here. Its so emotional. So if she hires one you need to as well. Also, and this is harder than it sounds, do not give on anything with the thought that this will ease the process. In my experience women use this to get more and never reciprocate. Sorry man, but the woman you loved will be ome so…	/r/Divorce_Men	18/04/23 03:11 AM
3	Post-separation dating I know everyone says to wait and its probably good advice. It personally helped me to start dating as soon as possible. Let me see that there was hope. The most important part is to be completely upfront about your situation. This will significantly deplete your pool of matches online dating, but its way better. Do you really want to start developing feelings for someone just for them to nope out when they find out. Also be prepared to have some say they are ok, but not be later after they think…	/r/Divorce_Men	16/04/23 02:06 AM
1	My wife just dropped the bomb today during our couples counseling session. It takes time to process and get yourself ready. Wish I could say I knew how to take the pain away. All I can say is it does get better with time even when it feels like it won't. Expect her to go make the rounds with your mutual freinds. I called my ex's the tour of hate. You will lose some, and some won't buy all her BS. Try to not complain to your mutual freinds about her. Just leave it vauge "communication just broke down". People will realize who the adult is. The good news is you will also…	/r/Divorce_Men	15/04/23 03:54 PM
2	Can I Use my Ex’s Weed Dependency to Get Full Custody? If she's been doing it when she was with you and you didn't care or think it affected her parenting, then why care now? If she's a good mom then I'd say leave it at 50/50. You may be able to use it in court since it's illegal in your state, but it would cost a ton to fight it out. Likely she could just quit, pass a drug test and you wated your money. No judgement, but in my opinion kids do better when both parents are in their lives. If I didn't think my ex was doing something endangering the ki…	/r/Divorce_Men	13/04/23 08:53 PM
1	people who did mediation, how much did they charge? Don't pad it for the lawyers or mediators Make as little as possible.	/r/Divorce_Men	09/04/23 03:19 AM
2	Equity sharing company to buy a STBX out of house? If you think the housing market will go down it mitfht make sense would need more details. I think I bought my ex out high but made sense as I was locked in a low interest rate. House was in my name so she couldn't force me to refinance. HELOC is what I used (Home Equity line of credit)	/r/Divorce_Men	09/04/23 01:25 AM
2	It takes all my strength to even function for my kids. Man I hear this. I was there and to some degree I still am. I got lucky. I have never been religious, but somehow someway people I didn't even know showed up in my life and provided support in ways I didn't even know I needed. I hope that happens for you. Look for it. That guy at work who takes on a little extra while you heal, the long time freind that you may not really talk to as much but will listen to you without judgment, its also an opportunity ro get closer to family. People are there fo…	/r/Divorce_Men	07/04/23 03:59 PM
2	What’s with her? It seems to be a tactic. I can't speak for everyone but my ex cheated, and filed. Then she hates and I mean HATES me. Like I chose this. I don't know if its a women thing or what. I did the whole I want to be amlicable thing. I gave a lot. Maybe it was to try and keep the peace or deep down get her back 🤷‍♂️. Bit objectively as I can be...when girls are done its over. Just don't give in to her demands/asks. It won't be recipricated. No Mercy. Cobra Kai!	/r/Divorce_Men	30/01/23 07:51 AM