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| – | Did you learn and use certain strategies for dating?you are running a course for men who get zero results, while I am talking about men who actually have options and need to know what to do with them. You keep narrowing the scope to the guys who can't even get a foot in the door. I agree that those men need a different set of rules just to survive, but they aren't the only men who exist. By focusing exclusively on the zero-results demographic, you're prescribing a permanent state of performance that becomes a trap for anyone who actually manages … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 22/04/26 12:13 PM |
| – | Did you learn and use certain strategies for dating?Just to visualize the timeline: I only entered the conversation initially to correct your dating strategies by differentiating between optimizing for numbers and vetting for who you want to find. Then you replied to me, confusing vetting with adapting your game to specific groups of people, then I course corrected you that that's not what vetting means, and finally you replied saying that most guys have a completely different set of problems, like literally not getting dates period, with which I… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 22/04/26 06:06 AM |
| – | Why ranking people 1–10 doesn’t really work.Being a bit richer, taller, or better looking doesn’t guarantee better outcomes in life Correct. And being a bit poorer, shorter, or uglier doesn't guarantee you die alone in a studio flat in Slough. you've discovered that water is wet and probability isn't destiny. You've just used the most tired rhetorical sleight of hand in the universe: intentionally confusing does not guarantee with does not correlate. A 195cm investment banker doesn't guarantee he pulls a Victoria's Secret model any more t… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 22/04/26 05:37 AM |
| – | Did you learn and use certain strategies for dating?I appreciate the elaboration, and I want to be clear: your advice is good. It's coherent, actionable, and will absolutely help a guy find a woman who shares his interests. No argument there. But you just described market segmentation, not vetting. You're still standing on the seller's side of the counter, optimizing the bait for the specific fish you want to catch. The shift I'm describing, the one you kinda keep dancing around, is when you stop applying for jobs and start posting the job listin… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 22/04/26 05:10 AM |
| 2 | Did you learn and use certain strategies for dating?some of it is just overall good general advice, like #1 and #6, but most of everything else is optimized for numbers and sample size, not attracting and vetting for your person, assuming you know what you're looking for. for example take #8, if I can't have a serious and deep conversation with a girl during a date I don't even want her. I know what you meant was for more serious conversations to come much later, but that's not a hard rule for me, I want to be able to be myself with her from day … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 20/04/26 02:28 PM |
| 1 | Did you learn and use certain strategies for dating?There's no such thing as using one specific strategy in dating. everything has to become part of who you are and that takes time. some things in your behavior you're born with, some you pick up from your environment growing up, some you learn over time and a few naturally click causing you to eventually internalize them over a very long period of time. the only active "strategy" I use when looking for a relationship (I hate the term dating, it's equivalent of people whoring around for me) is vet… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 20/04/26 02:02 PM |
| – | Have you ever realized that it's better for you to be alone than in a relationship? (if that's the case for you)This is one of those very vague and general questions that's impossible to answer from a place of intellectual honesty because everyone interprets it differently. It really all depends on the relationship and the person you're with. I've only had 2 relationships in my entire life, my last one and my current one, since I'm a long term type of person, and I would rather be single than with my ex, just as I would rather be with my current girlfriend than single. But sure, during most dates I went t… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 19/04/26 08:03 PM |
| 3 | Q4W: Do you respect for men who work from home or in low-impact jobs?Yeah, it's all hypothetical anyway, life is more messy than that. In my last relationship I did 100% of the work and provided 100% of the income, in my current one last time I did the dishes was last year. It really depends from couple to couple. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 08/04/26 04:00 PM |
| 0 | Q4W: Do you respect for men who work from home or in low-impact jobs?It's about how you initially framed it as a problem. You make the reward for optimizing my career and providing a high-income lifestyle to become the full-time housekeeper. Doing 50% of the chores and paying 90% of the bills is asymmetrical and only leads to resent. I only agree with you if the financial contribution to the household is also 50 50 regardless of income, and I get to put my money away. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 08/04/26 03:43 PM |
| 0 | Q4W: Do you respect for men who work from home or in low-impact jobs?It's not about the workloads it's about the financial output. I worked my ass off to work less in my career, no way I'm compensating that with more household work. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 08/04/26 03:29 PM |
| 3 | Q4W: Do you respect for men who work from home or in low-impact jobs?they didn't respect you, your job had nothing to do with it. and the fact that you even ask this question gives all the wrong vibes and makes it make sense. your job is your way to support yourself, who gives a shit what anyone thinks about it, women or otherwise. I work remotely too, and it was never an issue. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 08/04/26 02:56 PM |
| 1 | What comes to your mind when you hear of a straight guy with many female friends but is still a virgin?Sociable but safe, vanilla, low sex appeal, and doesn't initiate / never takes any risks to flirt, escalate, and display intent. You're both your own worst nightmare, and the worst nightmare of any boyfriend or husband out there. No guy wants other men around his girlfriend, but you're very hard to shake off and make arguments against because you're "just that friend" who never makes a move. You're literally the guy women justify having male friends for, the very textbook definition. Nobody need… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 06/04/26 06:24 AM |
| 3 | Women have no choice but to be privileged in dating, at least eventually.It's a combination of biology and culture. If men didn't initiate, our species would go extinct. Apps just heavily emphasize this dynamic, but apps are not at all reflective of real life. Besides, I have a lot of advantages as a guy that I would not want to lose by being a woman, and for what? Being courted? I don't mind going for what I want. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 03/04/26 10:25 AM |
| 5 | Women have no choice but to be privileged in dating, at least eventually.You have a fetish with putting all women on a pedestal and try to make it seem like science. Women have way more matches on dating apps because of the sheer disproportionate amount of men vs women that exist in that environment, and the reason for that is that women don't need them, they can find partners off the apps by just existing, as long as they're not physically repulsive or actively try to not find anyone. For men, just existing doesn't work. You can be way above average looking and have… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 03/04/26 07:50 AM |
| 3 | Men: would this be a dealbreaker for commitment?pass, fuck that. if she's done oral she's not a virgin in my books. The only acceptable past I accept to consider someone for a LTR is either no sex of any kind, or sex with one person throughout one long relationship. two long relationships are also acceptable but in the age range I'm dating 20-25 it's usually rare for that to have happened. casual hookups or multiple short term relationships instantly disqualify anyone for me so the girl you're describing would not even be on my radar for anyt… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 31/03/26 07:58 AM |
| 3 | Do you think you understand female dating perspective?Yea, women are less eager and more selective you've got the causality backwards. Selectivity isn't the cause, it's the natural result of an oversupply of thirsty dudes often experience sexual harassment from a young age Source: Trust me bro. I didn't realize we were doing creative writing today often feel overwhelmed with the attention society puts on their bodies The heavy burden of attention is funny because it only seems to be overwhelming if you aren't winning the genetic lottery. Pretty pri… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 29/03/26 03:01 PM |
| – | You told men to not approach you, so we listened.who's we? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 29/03/26 11:56 AM |
| – | Men value good genetics over a low body countWe value looks when we're either young and stupid or when we just want to sleep with someone. We value a low body count when we want to settle down. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 28/03/26 12:04 PM |
| 2 | What’s a common mainstream/blue pill dating belief that you think is incorrect?and I said it doesn't. I know you're trying to make this about "someone's history only matters if he or she was abusive, a junkie or a murderer". body count and lifestyle choices do matter and you will get filtered out by most people with standards because of it | /r/PurplePillDebate | 28/03/26 07:12 AM |
| 5 | What’s a common mainstream/blue pill dating belief that you think is incorrect?dating is a selection process not a rehabilitation program. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 28/03/26 06:53 AM |
| 3 | What’s a common mainstream/blue pill dating belief that you think is incorrect?You'll irk a lot of people with this one. It's not even just using someone's past to guesstimate about their present and future, you're perfectly allowed to draw a line in the sand and vet based on history simply because you can and you want to. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 28/03/26 06:47 AM |
| 1 | Redpillers : Are You Aware Of The Various Contradictions Within RP?you're getting lost in logic puzzles but you're mistaking a filter for a preference. For men attraction is a veeery wide angle lens while for women it’s a sniper scope. About the hypergamy semantic game, yes, you’re right, everyone wants the best. But men are "and" creatures. We want the 10/10, AND we'll happily, enthusiastically sleep with a cute 6/10. There's no settling angst there because our floor is low and our ceiling is non-existent. AF/BBis a workflow and not at all a contradiction.Hype… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 27/03/26 06:47 AM |
| – | 2025 pornhub analytics and trans attractionYou make a good point | /r/PurplePillDebate | 25/03/26 07:19 AM |
| 7 | Women don't like when men have healthy boundariesFirst of all, no such thing as "healthy" boundaries, they're subjective by nature. Second, they're literally meant to disqualify everyone but your type of person. So when someone is rubbed the wrong way by them, those are just your boundaries working as intended. third, way too many people have either completely ridiculous or borderline illogical boundaries. everyone takes pride in being selective but a person can only vet as well as their intelligence allows them. generally, the louder the boun… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 25/03/26 07:14 AM |
| – | 2025 pornhub analytics and trans attractionI remember trying to watch porn for the first time with my ex, and we could find absolutely nothing that she liked because I was accidentally logged in onto my account and my feed was full of lesbian porn, there were zero black cocks in sight no matter how much we scrolled lmfao. Built that feed over a decade of hard work. Who the fuck watches trans porn? But I always had the same question for granny or fat porn as well so, people are weird bro. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 25/03/26 06:58 AM |
| 2 | “There are more good men than good women” and “a good man is just an average woman” - what is the metric for good in these statementsWoman do generally preform better in education but are payed less at work. Nuances like gender pay gap for the same jobs, less likely to be promoted to higher positions, taking on child rearing so less likely to develop careers. Men who have families are more likely to get promoted or treated better at work. Of course this had to degrade into political nonsense. Why is this thread even allowed here? Anyway, before the 404, here goes. Women have the degrees, but men have the specialization. A deg… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 25/03/26 06:52 AM |
| – | The Delusion from Manosphere guys, that only beautiful Women have good Dating Options, and the other Women just get pump and dumped is laughable.You're looking at a crowded showroom and thinking every visitor is a serious buyer with a down payment, when in reality most of them are just there for the free coffee and a test drive. Dating is more of a lease agreement than a car market. Sure, you can list a 2005 Toyota and get a thousand calls but those guys aren't buying the car to keep in the family garage for the next twenty years. They are treating it like a short-term rental because the cost of entry (a couple dates and some game) is at… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 23/03/26 06:52 PM |
| 2 | Good men don't push boundariespretty much. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 23/03/26 06:43 PM |
| 5 | Good men don't push boundariespushing boundaries is all about calibrating and finding out what she's comfortable and not comfortable with, basically always doing as much as you can get away with and playing it at that fine line. that's how you adjust the volume knob to either more or less. this is only until you get to know the other person and can then stabilize to a certain point and keep it steady. it's the word boundary that seems to have tripped people but in dating it's most often about pushing your own boundaries rega… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 23/03/26 04:48 PM |
| 10 | Good men don't push boundariespressuring != pushing boundaries. A guy has to constantly push boundaries by nature, because it mainly falls on us to progress the dynamic forward. But that's totally different from pressuring which is very close to manipulating someone and a whole bunch of other shady stuff that have nothing to do with pushing boundaries. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 23/03/26 01:27 PM |
| 1 | Politics absolutely do matter with who you’re dating. Not so much the content of it, but rather, alignment between yourself and your partner(s)There's like a minority of around 5% of people that are very into politics, typically socially left-wing (finances stance differs), but they're so "loud" about it that you don't need to read too much into it, they will let you know very quickly either in their dating app bio or during the first date. If someone doesn't have anything related to politics in their bio or doesn't talk about it quickly, you can safely assume they don't care, and that will happen in most cases. As far as general polit… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 22/03/26 03:07 PM |
| 0 | Politics absolutely do matter with who you’re dating. Not so much the content of it, but rather, alignment between yourself and your partner(s)I live in Europe, most people in my country are apolitical thus politics rarely came up in dating for me, and I mean very rarely. It's not even on my radar, never needed to make a filter for it. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 22/03/26 02:39 PM |
| 4 | Q4M: What is the real reason y'all want to go out for drinks?I went on a first date today, started with late morning coffee, went for a walk, then went to a pub for drinks in the afternoon. There's ways you can play around coffee as well | /r/PurplePillDebate | 21/03/26 10:17 PM |
| 1 | Bumble is proof that women have to been taught to be very lazy when it comes to courtshipSome things I like, some things I don't, some things I would build more on top of. It would have strict filters for age, religion, race, has children, wants children, food preferences, alcohol preferences, smoking, and distance. Food preferences is completely irrelevant to me, religion is whatever. But overall this is missing my biggest filter in dating, social life. I want to be able to filter away tags like clubbing, bars, traveling, rave, tattoos, and whatnot, and while Tinder does have filte… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 17/03/26 05:54 PM |
| 1 | The hate on single moms seems to have stopped now.I completely agree with you. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 17/03/26 01:24 PM |
| 5 | Men should be more radicalised and actively work against women's interests.Why would I act against women's rights because of some radicalized dorks that take it too far? The answer is never to fall into the other extreme. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 17/03/26 01:20 PM |
| 0 | Your type is who likes you not who you likethis is about how other people perceive your market value not one's own mental masturbation | /r/PurplePillDebate | 17/03/26 01:17 PM |
| -1 | Women want a wedding, not marriage.I'm saying live and let live. People design their relationships however they please. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 16/03/26 07:54 PM |
| -9 | Women want a wedding, not marriage.traditional gender roles exist for a reason, and dorks on the internet only like to point to the imbalance that conveniently favors their point of view. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 16/03/26 07:50 PM |
| – | Young men offer less but demand moreWhat is the point of this thread? It's all a generalizing gibber gabber | /r/PurplePillDebate | 16/03/26 07:47 PM |
| 6 | Women want a wedding, not marriage.That's exactly why cooking is 50 50 in my relationship. That's also why when two drunk weirdos jumped on us on our way back home from a christmas party last year, I fended for myself first and counted on her to pull her own weight | /r/PurplePillDebate | 16/03/26 07:45 PM |
| 1 | The hate on single moms seems to have stopped now.Educated? It's just a baseless assumption used to deflect which most people do here - "people who don't like X are probably Y anyways" is a ridiculous stance. This is an open online forum that is free from typical backlash, it is much easier to give an opinion that is unrelated to you and then go back to your positive life, literally what everyone claims to do here. Are you actually trying to do language policing? You're confusing this for North Korea. It's not a baseless assumption, it's logica… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 16/03/26 07:39 PM |
| 5 | Your type is who likes you not who you likeI think this is all just a language barrier problem and we actually agree here. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 16/03/26 07:36 PM |
| 3 | The hate on single moms seems to have stopped now.It's an educated guess, which is the best anyone can provide. Why would a guy hate a single mom? And what does that say about him and his dating market value? A guy that lives a happy fulfilling life doesn't worry about that shit. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 16/03/26 05:54 PM |
| 8 | Your type is who likes you not who you likeIt has nothing to do with who you target, because you can target anyone. but it's all about how whoever you target responds to you, yes. However that's a different statement from the one you've made in the title of your post | /r/PurplePillDebate | 16/03/26 05:52 PM |
| 15 | Your type is who likes you not who you likeYou're confusing preference with market value. Preferences can differ greatly within the same market value pool. My value in dating as a guy is dictated by the top 10% of girls I attract that want a long term relationship with me, and within those boundaries I choose the one who fits my type the most. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 16/03/26 05:26 PM |
| 1 | The hate on single moms seems to have stopped now.People that hated single moms never did much dating in the first place. Because, let's be honest, as long as the mom's hot and/or very likable, she's getting a man. Well, this is a completely different topic that you tried to slip by that has nothing to do with the title of your post. She might get a man, that doesn't say much about anything. Point is having a kid is tangible history, and history of any kind is expensive in dating as a woman, lowers your market value a ton (having a kid greatly … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 16/03/26 05:22 PM |
| 3 | How much do you “be yourself” vs. following the advice of others?Listening to people on the internet is crazy, because it's obvious based on how they speak that they have little to no experience. I don't follow the advice of "others", I just treat the advice of specific people I actually trust because I resonate with it and it worked for me in the past (in my case that's only Austin Dunham) as a rough guidance and I adapt it to my life, personality, and situation. Like to give you an example, people on r/tinder or any other dating app subreddit swear you shou… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 15/03/26 08:04 AM |
| 0 | Why are men obsessed with “submissive”women?why make this thread? liberal progressive reddit will just piss all over the real responses, so in turn you get all fake and virtue signaling top level commenters saying "they don't want someone submissive". so pointless. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 10/03/26 05:20 PM |
| 1 | Why do men “neg” women?can work during a first date but only when you date someone super high interest. it's not really a way to build attraction, but rather to confirm value. still cheeks though, rubs me the wrong way I don't know why. I understand it only if it comes from a place of being genuine, like that's just something someone does and who he is. but if they do it after "reading about it on the internet", I can't imagine anything being more lame lol | /r/PurplePillDebate | 09/03/26 02:42 PM |
| 4 | Why do men “neg” women?it seems like a high risk strategy to you because you think about it cold hearted from your living room with noone in mind. in order to judge it at face value you need to consider it when it comes from a guy you're really into, after seeing him for couple months, when the intensity, infatuation and investment build up is already there. will it always work? def not, but nothing does. anyway, I don't do negging I think it's lame as cheeks. I'm a much bigger fan however of it's cousin, playful teas… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 09/03/26 02:13 PM |
| – | r/PurplePillDebate comes down to this...this is a huge oversimplification that overlooks the fact that the most selectable men are usually the ones with the most aggressive filters. being chosen is only step one. The actual challenge begins after youve been chosen, when you have to decide which of those "selectors" actually meets your own standards. if you aren't filtering just as ruthlessly as you are being filtered you aren't even playing the same game, you're literally just equipment leaving the final say to the other person is for… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 06/03/26 08:07 AM |
| -6 | On a date, men are just trying to not mess it up. But, women enjoy dates. What does that feel like?you do have a point, your filters are certainly not useless, or absurd. I'm just saying that the layer at which you vet is closer to the surface and real-time, while men's filters can't be influenced by behavior in the present moment, we look at how the person sitting next to us arrived to that point in time and space. that can't be changed during a date, it all lives in the past, hence why I said you should feel no pressure. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 05/03/26 06:39 AM |
| -6 | On a date, men are just trying to not mess it up. But, women enjoy dates. What does that feel like?Think of it like prepping a fight. I don't need to know your life story to see your footwork is cheeks. My filters are binary, mental state and nerves don't change data, the specs stay the same. If the facts don't align with what I'm looking for, she gets filtered out. We rarely filter based on how the other person makes us feel in the moment, or based on what happened during the date, we vet who she is, history and lifestyle. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 05/03/26 06:24 AM |
| 2 | On a date, men are just trying to not mess it up. But, women enjoy dates. What does that feel like?exactly, he's projecting his own life experience so much when he's saying that "normal" guys go into the date focused on being liked. going into any first date I only have once concern, attach one of two labels on her forehead: "hit n quit" or "I wanna find out more", either one completely changing how I approach things moving forward. if you go into the first date wanting to be liked by the other person, you're either desperate and have no standards, or you just wanna get laid | /r/PurplePillDebate | 05/03/26 06:13 AM |
| -7 | On a date, men are just trying to not mess it up. But, women enjoy dates. What does that feel like?well yeah but us not liking you is much more often about who you are and what you represent as a person, we reject you, not however you acted or made us feel during the date. so there's nothing you can do to not mess it up, you're either what the guy is looking for or you aren't | /r/PurplePillDebate | 05/03/26 06:05 AM |
| 8 | There is no point in complaining about people you won’t vet out your dating pool.The otherwise funny irony of your post is that the vast majority of guys who complain about women don't have a dating pool in the first place. I tend to agree with you except this one tiny thing you threw out at the end here Lastly, you don’t get to complain about women “not showing their genuine desire for a guy by date 3” and wasting your time/money when you’re not going to be upfront about your views on sex. how does a guy's view on sex relate to a girl's desire for him by date 3? sex never c… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 04/03/26 06:55 AM |
| – | Asking women for advice does not work.For someone who isnt losing sleep you sure seem to spend a lot of time in the trenches of a debate sub just to say you have nothing to contribute lmao. you're literally proving OP's point. Instead of actually debating the logic, you're running the highschool level "I'm unbothered" reply because you don't have a rebuttal for what he said. Also, thanks for speaking on behalf of every woman on Earth. I didn't realize we were dealing with the high priestess of the gender. wonder how women who disagr… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 01/03/26 03:54 PM |
| 1 | If attractive men use women as disposable with all that entails simply because they have options, then logically any man who will have options will behave like that, and others will just quietly want to, what makes a man a desirable to have in woman's life?I feel you | /r/PurplePillDebate | 28/02/26 07:34 PM |
| 2 | If attractive men use women as disposable with all that entails simply because they have options, then logically any man who will have options will behave like that, and others will just quietly want to, what makes a man a desirable to have in woman's life?Like why do you think it's a tempting selling point. Hey babe, i will have you in my life simply because i can't pull of a harem" That's not a selling point for any guy, no idea why you framed it like that. Is there truth to it? Yes. But nobody advertises themselves that way because it's counterintuitive, it pushes girls away Regarding the rest of your thread (also read some of your replies below), lot of the frustration comes from the disconnect between hookup value and relationship value. If a… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 28/02/26 07:26 PM |
| 5 | Wanting people to be honest that they just want sex is not the same thing as being sex negative.As always, love the tactical precision of your threads, but who exactly are we fighting this time? Because it feels like you've spent three hours building a handmade villain out of a handful of 2AM reddit comments and one guy you dated way back when again you're literally talking about horny guys like its a philosophical conspiracy lmao. Who are these guys that need sex like vitamin c that you're talking about? these threads do be hit or miss lately lilith, up your game | /r/PurplePillDebate | 28/02/26 07:16 PM |
| 4 | Normal adults accept that their fantasies will rarely become reality.another masterclass in "rules for thee, but not for me" from Lilith. The idea that a woman's sexual timeline is a fixed setting like this is hilarious. "If she’s slow with one, she's slow with all" is the biggest lie told to average guys to make them feel better about being stuck dating low and medium interest women as providers. the wait x dates rule miraculously evaporates the second a guy she's actually obsessed with walks into the room. pretending otherwise is like saying a club with a $100 … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 28/02/26 08:14 AM |
| 2 | How women can find men that prioritize connection above sexit filters out men who don't want to ask you out. incorrect. most men that don't approach you don't approach anyone. it's not at all an anti IOI by approaching yourself you're tapping into a resource no other girl has access to. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 28/02/26 06:59 AM |
| 2 | Men shouldn't approach women unless the woman has "genuine desire" for the man.Correct, but this only applies after you've already been introduced. Applying the same rule to approaching is just shooting yourself in the foot, because most high-interest girls will not act highly interested when they see you in a supermarket. I'm a pretty attractive guy but if I only approached when I got those really strong IOIs right off the bat, I would've only walked up to a single digit amount of women lol. You should only date high-interest women, makes dating a breeze. But approaching?… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 27/02/26 06:17 PM |
| 51 | Men say they want “good girls” but they reward hoesThe reality is that being a "good girl" isn't a currency you exchange for a committed boyfriend. If you're getting ghosted and played consistently it's usually a sign of two things that have nothing to do with your celibacy. You're not vetting properly. You're vetting for what men say rather than what they are. Any guy with a pulse knows how to say he wants something serious to get his foot in the door. If he's ghosting you, he didn't choose the sexually open woman over you, he just never had hi… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 27/02/26 09:15 AM |
| – | The idea that a guy is morally obliged to date an old chick just because he’s old is regarded"morally obliged" is all about your interpretation of the outside world and the effect it has on you. I guarantee you that actor doesn't fall asleep thinking about what society expects of him. You should frame this into something that's actually within your power to change: how you react to something you think, say, or do, that causes harsh society feedback. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 27/02/26 09:07 AM |
| 1 | Is there a reason people think relationships require a heirarchy or "structure"?this conversation thread died when you replied using AI generated content and insult my intelligence by lying you didn't. See how you in that reply you used ” while in other replies you used "? That along with other AI generation cues like contrastive negation and AI's tendency to pick up on the most trivial and most virtue signaling of stuff. I didn't even have to run your reply through any detector but I just did now for curiosity and guess what? 100% AI generated text absolutely boring. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 26/02/26 07:03 AM |
| 8 | What is your strongest Pro Blue Pill Argument?It's funny how you define blue pill as "women aren't a monolith" while simultaneously appointing yourself the spokeswoman for global female libido lmfao. you literally can't make this shit up. You said "we are all individuals" in one breath and then went with "we all find X unattractive" in the next. you also have a false binary in there by diagnosing every rpiller as either a womanizer or desperate. Because of course by framing it as a choice between evil man and pathetic loser you avoid engagi… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 26/02/26 06:48 AM |
| 4 | What is your strongest Pro Blue Pill Argument?It's great that you've found a setup that works for you, but "trust me, I'm happy" is more of a testimonial not a data point. Using a sample size of exactly 1, your own marriage, as "proof" that blue pill works is absurd. OP specifically asked for data that isn't subjective and you replied with the most subjective thing possible: feelings. Your otherwise happy relationship may be another person's hell to live. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 26/02/26 06:40 AM |
| 1 | Is there a reason people think relationships require a heirarchy or "structure"?no clue why you're trying to make this a debate, not trying to sell you anything, I'm not changing your mind, you're not changing mine | /r/PurplePillDebate | 25/02/26 08:48 AM |
| 1 | Is there a reason people think relationships require a heirarchy or "structure"?Correct. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 25/02/26 08:45 AM |
| 1 | Is there a reason people think relationships require a heirarchy or "structure"?Who's we? If feeling like you speak for 4 billion women gives you more apparent confidence, by all means. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 25/02/26 08:44 AM |
| 1 | Is there a reason people think relationships require a heirarchy or "structure"?Worry? Seeking approval? They're filters, standards. You must've been reading a different comment. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 25/02/26 08:43 AM |
| 1 | “Men will treat you as well or as poor as you let them” is a mindset that absolves men of accountability.and with that, /thread | /r/PurplePillDebate | 25/02/26 07:44 AM |
| 0 | Almost all women in the developed world are dating men out of their leagueOP is a dummy but that's just pure cope. It's something that exists in everyone's subconscious, blueprinted into us by thousands of years of evolution. A lot of people just don't talk about it openly | /r/PurplePillDebate | 25/02/26 07:28 AM |
| 2 | Almost all women in the developed world are dating men out of their leagueDating? Yeah. But relationships tend to be the opposite in my experience, I see a lot of chopped dudes with pretty attractive girlfriends everywhere, in the gym, malls, on the street. My bar for dating is pretty low because dating itself is part of the vetting process. Went out with this average by all metrics chick two weeks ago on a first date, she was not only not attractive but was also boring the hell out of me, we had nothing in common. but I still closed her couple days later for reps and… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 25/02/26 07:26 AM |
| 1 | Is there a reason people think relationships require a heirarchy or "structure"?fully agreed. but you still need to solve the situation where both of them care about the same thing | /r/PurplePillDebate | 24/02/26 04:22 PM |
| -5 | Is there a reason people think relationships require a heirarchy or "structure"?I've lived the 50/50 model and it's just a guaranteed way to kill the chemistry and emasculate the man. For a dynamic to actually thrive, there needs to be a level of respect for a man's strength and determination (which of course needs to be deserved). If she doesn't see me as the guy who is capable of making the tough calls, she's not it. Equity is for business partners, relationships need some sort of polarity. Your AI buddy can call it "asymmetrical" all it wants, but I've never seen a 50/50… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 24/02/26 04:20 PM |
| 3 | Is there a reason people think relationships require a heirarchy or "structure"?Never knew this is a popular preference. As far as my LTR model is concerned, I usually delegate most of the decisions to her if she wants to, but I only get into relationships where I have veto power over the 1% of stuff that actually interests me. With my ex, everyone even my family and close friends thought she's the "boss" in our relationship and was always blamed especially by my mom that I just do what she says. That was because she always made a lot of the decisions, like whose parents we… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 24/02/26 03:35 PM |
| 2 | Online dating is “broken” but somehow millions of people are dating 🤔Men often can't articulate why they don't like the apps, or why they're not seeing results. I'll tell you why. Online dating sucks for most men because it requires presentational skills. Skills most people in general don't have, but towards which girls are often naturally more exposed to throughout life than men, so they have more experience. Unlike most women, you can't just sign up for an app and see results, you need to know photography, posing, staying consistent in the gym for at least a co… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 24/02/26 12:57 PM |
| 1 | Many men and women basically operate as a hivemind.Bro's still living in early 2010s with third wave feminism for women, and RSD as red pill pioneers for men. Dating coaches of both genders post pandemic teach the same thing now: multidate, stay detached, let the other person chase, you're the prize and don't need anyone. You need a software update. Boring as fuck but it is what it is. Not to mention that we have to make the important distinction from the internet and real life. All the "gender wars" completely disappear the moment you close you… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 23/02/26 08:12 PM |
| 2 | Who would be better at Dating, a good or Bad person?You described a sociopath who can waffle vs a sentient sack of recycled granola who thinks having zero ambition and still wearing his clothes from college is a personality. The fuck does this have to do with good vs bad? And what is "good" at dating? Do you mean who gives himself better chances to find his person? Or who can sleep with more women in a defined timespan? And does the quality of said women matter? You need to provide a definition otherwise we have no scale. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 23/02/26 08:00 PM |
| – | If you are fine with having casual sex, then claiming “I feel love through sex” is a lie. You just want sex and wont admit it.Your whole argument rests on the idea that sex is a transaction where women are the sellers and men are the buyers. It's the same tired caricature I see daily from you, that women don't actually like sex (they just use it to get a boyfriend), and men are just dopamine chasing chumps. Come up with the new script this one's been beaten to death, everyone's bored of it I swear Not to mention that ironically, the guys screaming the loudest about sex are usually the ones who barely get any. For those… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 23/02/26 02:47 PM |
| 35 | Blue Piller beliving "dont drowns in pussy = bad human"The irony here is thick enough to choke on lol. You're essentially writing a manifesto against generalization while using a brush so broad it could paint the moon to describe blue pillers. Anywy, to answer your question, the good vs evil binary exists because nuance doesnt get you places on the internet. Nobody cares about dating being complex mix of timing, personal preference, and socioeconomic factors. People want the 1% extreme case sold as the 100% reality because ragebait is the only curre… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 22/02/26 05:12 PM |
| 1 | FWB material is better than both hooking up and a relationship.You don't seem to be capable of completing a phrase start to finish in a semi-coherent manner so this is my cue to unsub from this thread. All the best to you lad! | /r/PurplePillDebate | 22/02/26 04:09 PM |
| 1 | FWB material is better than both hooking up and a relationship.So your entire contribution here is tone policing? Boring. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 22/02/26 03:33 PM |
| -1 | FWB material is better than both hooking up and a relationship.Do you actually have a point to make? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 22/02/26 02:55 PM |
| – | How have your dating habits changed as you became more aware of how men behave on dating apps?If you're given 1000 chances to find one decent person and you're still coming up empty-handed the issue is on your end. Because even if by reductio ad absurdum your 99% stat is correct, that still leaves 10 men you miss vetted at some point during the process. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 22/02/26 09:25 AM |
| – | How have your dating habits changed as you became more aware of how men behave on dating apps?I think we're ships passing in the night here. I'm not saying a bio is a deep dive into someone's soul, but it's a filter. If a company has 1000 resumes, they're going to find a better hire than a company with 5, even if they both only interview 3 people in person. The whole benefit of a massive pool is that you can be ruthlessly picky so that the few you do meet have a much higher floor of quality. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 22/02/26 09:15 AM |
| – | How have your dating habits changed as you became more aware of how men behave on dating apps?That scenario definitely happens, it just slips by unmentioned most of the time because it's rare and often a result of really bad pics, incomplete bios, or often, bluntly put, being very unattractive. Like, I setup a Bumble account for my mom at her request one evening and she got couple hundreds matches by morning, and she's in her 50s, lol. The bar is super low. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 22/02/26 09:10 AM |
| – | How have your dating habits changed as you became more aware of how men behave on dating apps?Vetting starts with their profiles, that's the first layer, second being the first couple texts. Point is the "few" you get to are going to be much closer to what you're looking for when you get there by filtering through thousands compared to if you filtered through dozens. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 22/02/26 09:04 AM |
| – | How have your dating habits changed as you became more aware of how men behave on dating apps?Well yeah, I would hope that going on hundreds of dates, even in a lifetime, is not something we'll ever normalize. That's why you vet to a select few. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 22/02/26 08:38 AM |
| – | How have your dating habits changed as you became more aware of how men behave on dating apps?The average girl who signs up on Tinder gets 1k matches in the first 24 hours. While I admire your resilience and clean sheet, would you say that if you go over a couple thousand men and don't find a single one to not categorize as either too pushy, dishonest or unattractive, that maybe you were unconsciously not there intently, to actually find someone? I hope nobody thinks I'm walking a line here for suggesting that just maybe you were part of the "problem" as well. Because yeah, I agree, apps… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 22/02/26 08:10 AM |
| 1 | FWB material is better than both hooking up and a relationship.Do you actually have a point to make or are you just wasting everybody's time with vague sentences and onomatopoeia? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 22/02/26 08:01 AM |
| 2 | FWB material is better than both hooking up and a relationship.He made a generalization that I completely disagreed with. What are you even saying? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 22/02/26 07:58 AM |
| 2 | FWB material is better than both hooking up and a relationship.What does your comment have to do with this thread, at all? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 22/02/26 07:58 AM |
| 16 | FWB material is better than both hooking up and a relationship.This post has some major "I just discovered I can get laid and now it's my entire personality" energy. Tell me sex is a scarce resource for you without telling me sex is a scarce resource for you. If boyfriend responsibilities feel like a chore, you're either dating people you don't actually like or you're just a bad teammate. A solid relationship is a force multiplier, assuming you know what works for you and you know how to vet for it. A ride or die is a massive life hack. And this doesn't eve… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 21/02/26 06:48 PM |
| 2 | What are the problems with dating apps?I lived in Denmark for 2.5 years with one of my exes who was Danish, in Aarhus. I wouldn't say Northern Europe is that different in terms of dating compared to Eastern Europe where I'm originally from, traditional values are still very present, the only thing is the slightly higher percentage of "different"/cosmopolitan that you come across, especially among women, so if you have more conservative values like I do, you have to do a tiny bit more filtering, but men are very, very similar. Anyway,… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 21/02/26 11:58 AM |
| 3 | What are the problems with dating apps?Now imagine your issues, all on top of a foundation of only getting like 2 matches per month. In a world where a lot of matches lead nowhere, the average joe is never finding his person on the apps. That's one of the biggest problems with them. Then there's also the selection bias issue. Most women are in a position where if they really truly want a relationship, they are so spoiled for choice that they can and will be out of the apps very quickly. Same applies to the "top" men. And who does tha… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 21/02/26 09:17 AM |
| 1 | Feminists will do all sorts of mental gymnastics to avoid admitting that women objectify themselves whenever it's convenient, and would rather demonize male sexuality instead.Yeah you're right. Feel like the problem is that some people's engagement traps have long become most people's realities. If you don't go out to live it, and all you do is learn about it from the internet, your perception is going to be skewed as hell. Cause like you said, bad experiences happen, like I've been smoked by girls before, gotten a couple of mean reactions, I got used once or twice, but when these are the outliers, your mind kinda just unconsciously puts it on the people that've done… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 21/02/26 08:49 AM |
| 5 | Feminists will do all sorts of mental gymnastics to avoid admitting that women objectify themselves whenever it's convenient, and would rather demonize male sexuality instead.Wish it was only this post. Most online content in general about dating and adjacent topics seem alien to me. People have such different experiences than me that I kind of unconsciously put it on culture difference, but if you're saying that's not it either, then it's probably just the kind of bubbles the internet creates. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 20/02/26 05:14 PM |
| 4 | Feminists will do all sorts of mental gymnastics to avoid admitting that women objectify themselves whenever it's convenient, and would rather demonize male sexuality instead.please do elaborate, seeing someone explain the concept of checking girls out to me of all people will be funny lol | /r/PurplePillDebate | 20/02/26 05:09 PM |
| 42 | Feminists will do all sorts of mental gymnastics to avoid admitting that women objectify themselves whenever it's convenient, and would rather demonize male sexuality instead.I've been checking girls out in all sorts of ways, and I was never told off. Even when they're not into me, or they have a boyfriend, and I walk up, girls typically go to extreme lengths to make sure they don't hurt my feelings. They soften the rejection so well that I sometimes can't even tell whether or not I've been rejected until after the fact. Same with checking them out in the gym for example, if I look twice and she hasn't looked back, I don't ever look again, and this does happen a lot,… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 20/02/26 08:21 AM |
| 4 | Feminists will do all sorts of mental gymnastics to avoid admitting that women objectify themselves whenever it's convenient, and would rather demonize male sexuality instead.To be fair to him, I think it's more about who is looking than how he's looking at them. If you're attractive you can get away with virtually everything and certainly lot more than a normie who's usually seen as an inconvenience that makes girls feel uncomfortable and embarrassed by simply looking at them, because they don't want others to think you could ever even have a chance with them. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 20/02/26 08:14 AM |
| 3 | Out of your partners who wouldn’t be able to attract you on a dating app, but did attract you in real life: what did they do?On the app she only had two pics, one of which was with the back turned, and both low rez and had a shit quality. I right swiped her because she seemed like the indoorsy dorky type who doesn't put in a lot of effort because she isn't into the attention. A week later, we go on our first date and I see this blonde girl waiting for me at an intersection, getting honked and whistled at by literally everyone. She was wearing these pink short overalls, her legs were so long and gorgeous, and I was lik… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 20/02/26 08:00 AM |
| 0 | Out of your partners who wouldn’t be able to attract you on a dating app, but did attract you in real life: what did they do?"creep", "red flags" How did you manage to be more blue pill and vanilla than a blue pill guy you're replying to lmao | /r/PurplePillDebate | 20/02/26 07:47 AM |
| – | Many women use sex as a reward in dating and relationships.its generally not men here we go again how do you even know? and even if you had some remotely accurate statistics to back up your claim, who does it help that 46.5% more women use sex as a reward than men? and whose fault is it? the person using it as a reward, or the person that allows it to be used as a reward? these general, philosophical, abstract questions help absolutely nobody. every couple has a different dynamic. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 18/02/26 01:10 PM |
| – | Many women use sex as a reward in dating and relationships.ah, again generalizing dating are we? It's never been used as a reward in my relationship. The only frame it had was her being frustrated that we don't do it enough. when will you learn it's never "men" or "women", it's people, it's individuals, and these situations can only be quantified on a case by case basis not society wide. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 18/02/26 10:17 AM |
| 0 | Can you explain why you want more dates/vacations?I'm not attacking the concept of walking. I'm calling out your framing. You started this by suggesting that if someone's not "exploring" or "trying new food" like a tourist, they're somehow losing at life or rotting their brains. Nice try though. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 18/02/26 09:11 AM |
| – | Can you explain why you want more dates/vacations?Imagine pathologizing a picnic as a medical requirement to avoid dementia. If you need a field of flowers to keep your mind nimble, that's a skill issue. I perform activities that require more neuroplasticity, reflexes, and real-time problem-solving in one round than a decade of looking at waterfalls. I'm not adverse to new things, I'm just bored by performative wandering. It's funny that you've framed being a high-maintenance tourist as a personality trait, but hey, if staring at a mountain is … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 18/02/26 09:06 AM |
| 3 | Can you explain why you want more dates/vacations?Selection bias. Most girls on the apps are more cosmopolitan and outdoorsy. you're not gonna catholic girls who go shopping with their moms on the apps, or the girl who was the weirdo in her highschool class with perfect grades who stays in and watches anime or kdramas all day. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 18/02/26 09:04 AM |
| – | Can you explain why you want more dates/vacations?Needing to change your physical location for mental stimulation because you're allergic to staying in isn't the flex you think it is chief. I'm in the gym or the ring daily, that's more stimulation in an hour than you get in a month of "going out for fun". I don't look down on people who hike, you made that up, I just find it funny that you've rigged the definition of fun to going out. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 18/02/26 08:48 AM |
| 0 | Can you explain why you want more dates/vacations?you did the same thing in another reply that I already answered. you keep framing fun and going out together, virtually boycotting any answers you could get from a large part of the population that doesn't think going out in itself is fun. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 18/02/26 08:36 AM |
| -1 | Can you explain why you want more dates/vacations?Oh yeah. hit em with the classic loaded question trap, curious if anyone will bite. By adding the qualifier "when you go out" , you’ve intentionally narrowed the definition of fun to only include the specific brand of performative wandering you like. baiting someone to reply that doesn't play by your rules, just to label them "no life lolol" . Cause who cares about people who have fun indoors. Walking up a hill just to take a picture of it isn't a personality trait. I prefer my movement to have … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 18/02/26 08:33 AM |
| -2 | Can you explain why you want more dates/vacations?"Loser" by what metrics? I'm a very active guy but I still spend most of my time inside. I always have something to do when I go out: gym, boxing, groceries, office. I read this Hike? Go to the beach? Explore? And all I hear is high maintenance normie. No thanks. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 18/02/26 08:25 AM |
| – | "Dating for men is so easy. You have to be normal" Is one of the most cringe and false statements of all timeYou're not a clown brev, you don't have to entertain anyone, you just need one person to like you, that you like back. I'm tired of people generalizing dating. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 17/02/26 03:35 PM |
| 1 | What’s keeping the red pill alive?In my experience there's three categories of men who identify as red pill: (usually) introverted young men after a breakup, bad friendzone or some degree of romantic disappointment which they eventually grow out of, unattractive grown men, and sociopaths. What's keeping the red pill alive? There's always going to be a constant flood of men who are not successful in dating for different reasons, the "golden" combination usually being poor, introverted and unattractive. Red pill is fine as long as… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 16/02/26 08:14 PM |
| 1 | Group Houses Can Dramatically Improve DatingLook, I did the dorm life thing for four years in college, and by graduation I couldn't wait for it to end. After years of living either by myself or with my ex, the idea of sharing a kitchen with anyone else but my significant other sounds like a complete nightmare. There’s a massive assumption here that everyone is looking for that single and ready to mingle energy. My person wouldn't be at a Bay Area house party, she's the reserved, introverted girl going to the supermarket with her mom on a … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 16/02/26 03:26 PM |
| 2 | Men, why are you surprised that attractive women are attracted to attractive men af/bb? And should women feel the same?First, thanks for the AF/BB terminology, I had to Google it and now I need to clear my search history before my brain rots. But to your point, this whole premise seems to assume that every man on the planet is an unattractive joe who spent his 20s chasing "baddies", only to reluctantly settle for a "mommy" who cleans his house. What the fuck? Get out of the house lads. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 16/02/26 03:11 PM |
| 0 | Casual sex is the only way to know you are desirable as a man.I know I am desirable from the attention I'm getting. I don't want to sleep around because I want to hold the same standard I'm setting for my future partner. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 15/02/26 05:59 PM |
| 2 | Men are spinning narrative about them being desperate but they are desperate for top percent of womenbrev, you keep using extreme examples like double ds to make standard preferences look like a character flaw, but you’re just trying to logic your way into being happy with less. Lowering the bar doesn't buy you a better relationship | /r/PurplePillDebate | 15/02/26 05:53 PM |
| 2 | Men are spinning narrative about them being desperate but they are desperate for top percent of womenSince we're liberal on putting our opinions out there. I think your "wisdom" is essentially coping with the scarcity, optimizing the reject pile because you need the volume. You can call it shallow if it makes the compromise feel more like a choice, but some of us don't need to pathologize our standards just to fill a room. I have the luxury of choice, you seem to mistake my abundance for a lack of depth. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 15/02/26 05:32 PM |
| 5 | Men are spinning narrative about them being desperate but they are desperate for top percent of womenYou think excluding X is unwise, I think betting on "she'll be different with me" is unwise. That's exactly why standards don't get debated into consensus. Everyone thinks their heuristic is enlightened and everyone else's is self-sabotage, which is why standards exist in the first place, they're personal filters not proposals for policy. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 15/02/26 12:28 PM |
| 1 | Men are spinning narrative about them being desperate but they are desperate for top percent of womenWho are these men you're talking about that say they are desperate? Guys you interact with online? You're putting labels on all men based on the bottom x% of dudes that usually live on the internet. We're not desperate, I assure you, a lot of us are doing really well, but thanks! You're saying men go for top percent of women, and the qualities of those top percent according to you are, I quote: no single mothers, no fat women, no sluts, no gold diggers (they have no gold usually but still). chuc… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 15/02/26 12:23 PM |
| 6 | Men are spinning narrative about them being desperate but they are desperate for top percent of womenThen at least he's not hypocritical. "At least he’s not hypocritical" implies there's still something wrong. If he clears the same bar he's setting, what's the crime supposed to be? That "at least" is doing weird work here, like there is some hidden moral charge left over. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 15/02/26 12:16 PM |
| – | Men who claim that women are the most attractive from 18 to 25, what stops you from finding 17 year old girls attractive?It's not about who I find attractive or not, it's about abiding the law | /r/PurplePillDebate | 15/02/26 12:07 PM |
| 3 | Women who use dating apps, genuine question - are you actually trying to filter for personality?A disgusting amount of politics in this thread that seems to go about ignored just because it's the "right" kind of politics for the medium (reddit). Chuckled. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 14/02/26 06:46 PM |
| 1 | Women who use dating apps, genuine question - are you actually trying to filter for personality?you can't tell most people's politics by their dating profiles, in the real world most people don't even talk about or have an interest in politics. politics before personality? seems to be a tendency of someone already radicalized, one way or another. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 14/02/26 06:41 PM |
| 1 | Young Men's Perception Of What Responsible Masculinity Looks Like, And Women's Perception Of Men In General Are Distorted.I love how we've reached a point where trauma-dumping is considered a valid substitute for a logical argument. Look, nobody is saying those experiences don't suck, catcalling is trash and sandwich jokes haven't been funny since 2005. But if men used that same "I had a bad experience, therefore the whole gender is cooked" logic, we’d be in a permanent standoff. If I let every time I got ghosted, lied to, or saw a guy get absolutely wrecked in family court dictate my view of women, I’d be living i… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 13/02/26 07:14 AM |
| – | The feminist narrative of 30+ men’s preference for younger (18-25) women being due to their inability to get women their age is one of the most laughable things I’ve ever heardThe "sperm is cheap" argument is a total non-sequitur. Just because the "investment" is low doesn't mean the "target" doesn't matter. the instinct is to maximize the quality and health of the offspring at every single opportunity. You're over-intellectualizing a primal drive. Men don't look at a gorgeous 21 year old and think about her financial contribution or her maturity level, they see the peak of health, vitality, and beauty. Calling them financial drains is just moving the goalposts from b… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 12/02/26 07:55 PM |
| 4 | Would women’s dating problems change if they had fewer suitors?So you’re a "taken" woman who hits bars and clubs, then wonders why men think you're single? Make it make sense. You keep saying you’re "off the market" while describing a lifestyle that actively signals open for business. Random men do not materialize out of thin air. They approach where approach culture exists. My ex was a smoke show and never dealt with this because she lived a life according to her relationships status. It's funny how women who actually hate the attention find ways to avoid … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 12/02/26 07:49 PM |
| -1 | Would women’s dating problems change if they had fewer suitors?If you've been on the market for that long to observe that pattern, you're part of the problem. Most people actually looking for their person/life-long relationship are in and out of the market very quickly. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 12/02/26 12:22 PM |
| 2 | Would women’s dating problems change if they had fewer suitors?After seeing your flair, I fully expected nonsense going forward, but there's nothing but facts here. The only thing I'd add is that you’re describing the average very well, but averages hide a pretty spicy distribution. At the top end, attractive men absolutely swim in options. And not just more options than the average man, often more than most women too. On top of that, their options are usually higher quality in pure market terms. Youth, looks, social "value", fewer expectations, more flexib… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 12/02/26 09:43 AM |
| 1 | “Sex is neccessary but insufficient” is a lie if you only want to talk about sex and physical “intimacy”.There is no contradiction. You are confusing people behaving a certain way with a statement being false. "Sex is necessary but insufficient" describes what sustains a relationship. When people reduce everything to sex, they are quite literally demonstrating insufficiency in real time. As for the second point, adding "if you only want to talk about sex" does not rescue your argument. You still are not engaging with the claim itself, instead you're just restating your frustration with how you've p… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 12/02/26 08:57 AM |
| 4 | “Sex is neccessary but insufficient” is a lie if you only want to talk about sex and physical “intimacy”.You are arguing against people and attitudes you dislike, not against the claim in your title. "Sex is necessary but insufficient" is a structural statement about relationships. It says sex matters, and it also says sex alone does not sustain a relationship. Pointing out that some men behave poorly, ignore complaints, or reduce everything to sex does not refute that claim, it actually reinforces it. A relationship is much more than sex. This post keeps sliding between "some people here act like … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 11/02/26 07:04 PM |
| 1 | Should you seek infatuation when dating?I am not a fan of the expression "long-term", I prefer everlasting, everyone should be seeking their last partner, not the next long term relationship. Long-term implies finite. Anyway, to get back to our topic, higher age disparity doesn't disqualify "long-term", quality matches. But yeah, there is a big difference between high interest that comes from a place of good selection and high interest born out of inexperience or low standards. You can work around a lack of experience, even though it'… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 11/02/26 11:12 AM |
| 0 | What do you actually want women to do?Woman sleeps with guys early. “Slut” No disagreement there. Woman learning from experience and no longer sleeping with guys early. “Inconsistent.” Nope, just reformed slut. Woman never sleeping with guys early. “She’s not attracted to me.” “Don’t want to jump through hoops.” Incorrect. It's actually the greenest flag there is for LTR material. It only scares away guys looking for a hookup. Woman only picking men she is instantly attracted to. “Entitled” “Should lower her standards” Only idiots j… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 11/02/26 09:02 AM |
| 0 | Honesty is ruining romanceI think they're too performative. A lot of people are trying to fit a societal quota that hasn't even been done by the very individuals that created it in the first place. People have just dated too many people, everyone is way too used up. Bonds that were supposed to be one in a lifetime can't even be recognized for being special anymore. We give up on each other way too easily, everyone is obsessive about filters, borders and red flags. It's like we're all collectively trying to keep ourselves… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 11/02/26 08:29 AM |
| 0 | Should you seek infatuation when dating?First of all, why is he dating mid 30s women? is he in his 40s? Secondly, he's right. He should only be dating high-interest women. Infatuation looks the same at all ages. Should've seen my dad and his ex-fiancée living teenager love in their late 50s lmao. If he's in his 30s, he should be mainly dating in the 25-28 range, and maybe only occasionally a woman in her 30s here and there, just so he doesn't feel like he's missing out (he isn't). But to answer your question, yes, you should seek infa… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 11/02/26 08:23 AM |
| 1 | Other than physical contact, there is no difference between a friendship and relationship.Yeah, obviously a relationship should include friendship and emotional intimacy. Nobody is arguing for a silent roommate you occasionally have sex with. The issue is that you flattened the whole debate into a straw version where men supposedly think relationships exist purely as a vending machine for sex. That position is loud and easy to dunk on, so congrats on winning the argument you invented lol. When people say sex is important, they are usually saying it is necessary, not sufficient. Treat… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 10/02/26 03:57 PM |
| 1 | Other than physical contact, there is no difference between a friendship and relationship.This feels so unnatural on so many levels, it's like from a different planet. Like the language checks out grammatically, yet my brain refuses to accept it as a real human experience. It goes straight against evolution, human wiring, and basically all of history. For me, men and women being truly close friends just does not compute. Maybe this makes sense in some alternate universe. In this one, that level of closeness almost always means suppressed attraction, asymmetry, or feelings being manag… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 10/02/26 03:43 PM |
| 8 | There will never be a solution to stoping men cold approaching women. Because certain people of a gender demographic suffer from cognitive dissonance.Even attractive men shouldn't approach. Are you really telling other people what to do or not do? Relax Kim Jong Un. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 10/02/26 01:36 PM |
| 0 | It’s not a bad thing to be focused more on the woman’s pleasure than your ownIn LTRs, I agree. I'm not that sexually attracted to my LTR type anyway, I secretly perceive sex like a responsibility. Meaning I'm always focused on her cumming because that's the entire point of our bedroom anyway, I don't care much about what I get out of it. For hookups and anything else, I completely disagree, I always come first. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 09/02/26 12:34 PM |
| 1 | The constant characterization of male sexuality as something 'dirty' needs to stop.saying "status quo can be changed" is true in the most useless way possible. Everything can be changed. The real question is what you replace it with and what incentives survive after. but that was never the issue, was it that was exactly the issue, you talked about societal expectations and I told you nobody gives a fuck about society. you dress however you want. most people choose to dress for results, whatever that may mean for them, not because they're pressured into it by their neighbors. T… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 08/02/26 03:44 PM |
| 2 | The constant characterization of male sexuality as something 'dirty' needs to stop.Yeah, most of those sticked around for way longer than they should've lol. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 08/02/26 03:34 PM |
| 3 | The constant characterization of male sexuality as something 'dirty' needs to stop.Trends cycle. What was ugly 30 years ago comes back as ironic, then cool, then overdone, then embarrassing again. Baggy jeans had their moment in the 90s, normal and skinny jeans had theirs, and theyll come back once everyone gets tired of looking like you could fit at least two more people into whatever they're wearing. Fashion just has the memory of a goldfish and keeps reinventing the same mistakes with better marketing. Also important detail people ignore is that most of this stuff lives in … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 08/02/26 03:07 PM |
| 1 | The constant characterization of male sexuality as something 'dirty' needs to stop.Lol that's a wild reach. Women wear revealing clothes because it benefits women. Attention, validation, dating leverage, social capital. You're trying to turn basic sexual signaling into some one sided conspiracy where everyone is secretly working for men. Reality is way more boring. People do what gets them rewarded. If revealing clothes only benefited men, women wouldn't keep choosing them voluntarily across cultures, decades, and social classes. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 08/02/26 02:49 PM |
| 8 | The constant characterization of male sexuality as something 'dirty' needs to stop.People dress to look hot. Hot is defined by what works. What works gets copied. Repeat that loop for a few decades and boom, you have norms. Women wear revealing stuff because it reliably gets them attention and status. Men wear suits because they signal money, competence, and power. Like I don't know what you're imagining bro, nobody sat in a council meeting and decided this. Trial and error did. I dont dress the way I dress because society bullied me into it. I do it because I want results. I … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 08/02/26 08:05 AM |
| – | How do you feel about women's bodies after pregnancy?If it helps, I stopped being attracted to her long before a baby came. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 08/02/26 07:08 AM |
| 6 | The battle of the sexes in dating is mostly an online thing.Online discourse feels louder because it has zero friction. Real life feels calmer because saying half that stuff costs you your job, friends, or reputation. People are still thinking it, they just keep it in drafts. So yeah, congrats, you proved the internet is where people talk freely and reality is where people self censor. That does not mean the tension vanished, it means it learned when to shut up. Calling it childish banter also feels wild when the same ideas quietly shape how people date,… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 07/02/26 08:14 PM |
| – | Male sexuality just seems borderline antisocial to meThis reads like a lot of fog for a very simple point. Invoking "patriarchy" here just turns men's sexuality into a political abstraction instead of something people actually experience and act on. Men's sexuality being complex and varied is obvious. I hope nobody serious disputes that. What people are reacting to is the recurring, statistically visible patterns that keep showing up across cultures and time. Hand-waving those away as "the loud acceptable face" dodges the question instead of engag… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 07/02/26 04:51 PM |
| – | Male sexuality just seems borderline antisocial to meCalling it "antisocial" feels like you're miscategorizing it. Antisocial means hostile to social bonds. Male sexuality like you've described it just shows fiction with monogamy and long-term ideals.. Desire patterns existing in your head do zero social damage by themselves. What matters is behavior. Plenty of men experience attraction, feel sexual urges, but still choose commitment and restraint because societies literally run on impulse control. If raw desire equaled action, civilization would … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 07/02/26 04:47 PM |
| 1 | If it was about women being consistent with their sexual behavior, then it would make more sense for men to pursue women who makes everyone wait for sex.If someone can't afford to vet and screen better because they run out of options, that's a problem of the individual in question, not of it as a framework. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 06/02/26 05:28 PM |
| 4 | If it was about women being consistent with their sexual behavior, then it would make more sense for men to pursue women who makes everyone wait for sex.I had to double check who made this thread because it felt as if it came from me. Imagine my shock when I see your name of all people at the top. You usually have such chaotic takes that leave me scratching my head after the first paragraph lol. Nothing but facts here, I don't understand what anyone can even disagree with from this post. I think the problem you're going to run into is that most men don't have enough options to even afford to vet. Their dating pool is made of whoever shows intere… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 06/02/26 05:21 PM |
| 2 | What do you think Blue Pill is?Being everything red is not, is a stance in itself. Most blue pillers I see around here have very white knighty takes, and some are borderline misandrists. Personally, I tend to agree with the average red way more often than I do with the average blue, but the best posts I've ever seen that are in line with my own views and experiences generally came from blues as well. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 06/02/26 05:11 PM |
| 1 | A lot of women talk about their dating experiences in very casual ways if the context isn't arguing with men, which makes it look like they indeed have it pretty good.put this comment at the top /thread. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 06/02/26 08:57 AM |
| 2 | A lot of women talk about their dating experiences in very casual ways if the context isn't arguing with men, which makes it look like they indeed have it pretty good.Source: your ass. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 06/02/26 08:57 AM |
| 3 | How do you treat a girlfriend you deem as only “temporary”?Have any of you guys had experiences where you strung a woman along for comfort I mean, I'm doing that right now. Looking for my last partner / future wife, but the road there would be much more painful if I didn't make some pit stops along the way. That's how I started, actually. I would push all these girls away because they weren't "the one" so quick. It became discouraging to keep trying, keep going on dates, felt like my person just isnt on the apps and I'm wasting my time. And she probably… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 06/02/26 08:54 AM |
| 3 | Women have a much bigger problem accepting when a men is not dominant, then men accepting when a women is not submissiveThis whole debate feels way too abstract. People are arguing about which gender is more "accepting" like dating is a collective moral project. It isn’t, it's just two people checking whether their preferences line up. Like, you don’t need society wide acceptance. You need one person. In an ideal world, you pick once and you’re done. After that, all these grand gender debates instantly become irrelevant. These references are filters, not indictments. You screen, they screen, most people don’t mat… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 05/02/26 12:33 PM |
| 10 | Men struggle with not liking people but hating being alone.You're talking about the first category of guys I mentioned, which matches any sub's population to the letter. You're not gonna run into them on dates, trust me haha. So this is a non issue. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 04/02/26 05:51 PM |
| 24 | Men struggle with not liking people but hating being alone.This feels like you are arguing with a very specific guy you dated and then extrapolating him into "men". Most of what you describe applies to a narrow slice of dudes who are either: chronically online and socially off. or very attractive and avoidant. Those guys get recycled through the same dating pool, so they feel common. You made so many points in a single thread but let's take them one by one. First, when men talk about leadership, we mean things like initiating, planning, escalating, taki… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 04/02/26 05:44 PM |
| 0 | Those who do not believe delayed sex is a cause of concern, how would you respond to this scenario?First of all, I wouldn't date a promiscuous girl. On the contrary, my LTR type is more prude in nature. Second, delayed sex is actually a green flag as long as it's not something she only did with me. Tells me sex is very intimate for her and only something she does in long term relationships. Which means she kept the hounds away. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 04/02/26 07:11 AM |
| 4 | Q4M: what is something you think guys overestimate women care about in dating?Do you have the same beliefs as all men? You never met another guy you disagreed with on anything? This is just about something you've noticed most, or a lot of men men oversell in dating, that you don't agree with. Bruv. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 03/02/26 04:33 PM |
| 16 | Guys seem not to understand the concept of enjoying one’s company.This feels like a convenient reframing. Nobody is saying interest only exists if sex happens immediately, but that high interest is almost always accompanied by sexual desire. So if there's no sex, it likely means there's also no interest. I don't care about the sex itself, I can get it anytime, I only care about what it means. When a girl tells me to come upstairs, I don't think "finally bro, it time", but "okay, so she's mine if I want to". I can read social cues just fine. The problem is that… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 03/02/26 04:24 PM |
| 1 | If men prefer women under 25, what women expected to do about it?You read too much into it because you wanted something to feel butthurt about it since you didn't like the overall message. Hope you find your person. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 03/02/26 04:09 PM |
| -2 | If men prefer women under 25, what women expected to do about it?I very rarely date past 26, but it has less to do with looks and more to do with the resume. Past that age, I'm much more likely to bump into women that are bringing baggage. Every piece has a story, a previous owner, and a taste I had no say in. I'm looking for a more blank canvas. What are you expected to do about it? No idea. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 03/02/26 12:59 PM |
| 1 | Drama keeps most relationships alive.It does sound like shit. Because it is shit. But that's how it works. Early dating is instinct, vibe. It's pretty much all signal. When hormones are high, most people aren't logical, they're chasing a feeling. And that feeling is strongest when they're the one reaching for someone juuust out of grasp. You're not wrong for hating how it sounds like. I hate it, that's why I make sure to play for the other team in the pitch lol. But you're naive if you think people don't choose it every single day.… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 02/02/26 05:45 PM |
| 3 | Drama keeps most relationships alive.I disagree. Girls just want a man to look up to, someone at least slightly out of her league. When she's in scarcity, when she's so into you that she's paranoid of losing you, you can do no wrong. And this is only valid short term, when dating and early into a relationship, the first year or two tops, because after that it doesn't matter anyway, the "balance of power" evens out when you become a team. At that point the fuel of the relationship changes into other, deeper things. As a guy, if you … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 02/02/26 09:04 AM |
| 4 | What are ways (besides sleeping with him on the first date) that a woman can prove she's as attracted to her current partner as she was to her exes?People often get butthurt about standards that exclude them. He may be one of those dudes that doesn't get blowjobs because his gf told him she isn't into it, and he actually believed her lol | /r/PurplePillDebate | 01/02/26 10:51 AM |
| 6 | What are ways (besides sleeping with him on the first date) that a woman can prove she's as attracted to her current partner as she was to her exes?You came into this thread, ignored everything I actually said, built a whole strawman just to be able to punch it down, and then got mad at what you yourself invented. I laid out a pretty straightforward point about reading interest levels and you turned it into some fever dream about rimjobs. Touch grass, king. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 01/02/26 09:01 AM |
| 5 | What are ways (besides sleeping with him on the first date) that a woman can prove she's as attracted to her current partner as she was to her exes?I literally just told you I screen for high interest women and walk away the second something feels off. That's the opposite of sitting around torturing myself over what my girlfriend did with her exes. You read "I pay attention to signals" and conveniently turned it into "I'm obsessed with my girlfriend's sexual history" because standards leave no room for debate, while insecurity is a low hanging fruit. Nice try. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 01/02/26 08:51 AM |
| 5 | What are ways (besides sleeping with him on the first date) that a woman can prove she's as attracted to her current partner as she was to her exes?Never said she sits down and fills out a form about it. The point is the behavior itself speaks for itself. You don't need someone to consciously decide to jump off a cliff to conclude they jumped off a cliff. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 01/02/26 08:41 AM |
| 39 | What are ways (besides sleeping with him on the first date) that a woman can prove she's as attracted to her current partner as she was to her exes?Bro wrote a whole essay trying to solve a problem that disappears the moment you have standards. If you're sitting there wondering why she's not as sexually aggressive with you as she was with her ex or someone she dated in the past, the answer is pretty simple: you're not exciting to her. That's information. Use it. The "but the other guy got it on night one" thing is a screening tool. High interest women make it obvious they're into you. You can feel it. If I'm having to wonder whether she's a… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 01/02/26 06:49 AM |
| 2 | People say “demisexual” when they’re really describing the normal sexuality of a typical femaleThat’s the boy experience Source? We hit puberty and got a period Do you speak for all women? This post would've been great if you made clear that you're stating your opinions here, not debating facts. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 31/01/26 08:14 PM |
| 32 | Most dating problems wouldn't exist if women were into menI actually agree with a lot of the issues you’re pointing out but I disagree on the why. In my experience, all of this happens because most women take better care of themselves than most men. Genetics play a big role in how attractive you are, yes, but anyone can up their score by a lot by getting jacked or at least fit, having a good style (clothing, hair, beard), skin care, maybe even fixing minor issues with plastic surgery if you wanna go that far. Most men I see in my day to day life, at th… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 31/01/26 11:11 AM |
| – | Modern " average " men are just repeating the same mistakes of the previous generationYou're mixing in a lot of totally different things without concluding it all into one real point to debate on, so I am not even sure what anyone can even reply to this lol | /r/PurplePillDebate | 31/01/26 08:29 AM |
| 4 | After a casual hookup, who usually reaches out first to set up the next meet?It's a hookup, meaning I don't care how she perceives me bro. When I'm in the mood again, I'll text. If she is, she'll text me. Or she won't. It doesn't matter. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 31/01/26 08:23 AM |
| 0 | How many of the large red pill influencers are actually just trolls?Most new gen red pillers I've seen teach mental masturbation. The blind leading the blind. I only trust the old RSD crew, attended a bootcamp a couple of their instructors held in Bucharest more than a decade ago when I was in college and I've seen them game in the field, they were the real deal. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 30/01/26 08:36 PM |
| 6 | What do you wish women would understand about dating women?Some girls I dated also found it normal. Not only that, but sometimes they initiated it. But most tend to get turned off if it's not all flirt and banter. I have to have that hookup energy cuz as soon as it gets serious early on even for a split second, it's kinda done. That's why I avoid it. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 30/01/26 05:03 PM |
| 2 | What do you wish women would understand about dating women?Yeah. Any tips on how to subtilty find out these things without turning it into an interview but also not needing up to a month of dating to find out? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 30/01/26 04:58 PM |
| 2 | What do you wish women would understand about dating women?You're right, that was my experience as well. But I forgot mentioning being heavy into travelling, which combined with having male friends cuts my options in half or less almost instantly even after already preselecting who I match. The girls I tend to run into on Tinder and Bumble are pretty cosmopolitan by nature, my LTR type has a different energy. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 30/01/26 04:44 PM |
| 6 | What do you wish women would understand about dating women?If she's into bars or clubs, smoker, drinker, drugs, male friends. No to all doesn't mean we're compatible, but yes to any means we're not. And I have to wait until I naturally find out, which sucks because not only we both waste a lot of time but also they often get attached and it hurts for no reason. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 30/01/26 01:58 PM |
| 32 | What do you wish women would understand about dating women?I wish they understood how backwards the filtering process feels from the guys side. I can’t openly screen for what I’m actually looking for at the start, because being direct kills attraction fast. So the process becomes: flirt, banter, invest energy, build interest, create vibe… all before I even know whether we’re compatible on the things that actually matter to me. Only for most of the time to eventually find out that she has traits and characteristics not compatible for a LTR with me, and b… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 30/01/26 01:38 PM |
| 1 | What is something you would wish men would STOP doing in dating?A prude is a person with a very sensitive attitude and narrowness towards custom and morality.\1])\2]) The word prude comes from the Old French word prudefemme also prodefemme meaning loyal, respectable or modest woman,\3]) which was the source of prude in the 18th century.\1]) According to Pierer's Universal Lexikon in 1861, prudery is "modest in an exaggerated and affected way; seeming delicate, squeamish". In a broader sense, prudery refers to an attitude of mind that aims to largely exclude … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 29/01/26 06:40 PM |
| 1 | Case Study - Where do you categorize this man?And those are good qualities as long as they're not the only ones. By themselves they make you a cuck, not a husband. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 29/01/26 04:53 PM |
| 1 | Case Study - Where do you categorize this man?Absolutely not. Even if nothing happened between them, it's about not following through with the consequences when someone steps on your boundaries. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 29/01/26 04:52 PM |
| 1 | What is something you would wish men would STOP doing in dating?Prude is a characteristic someone has in public. Behavior in the bedroom is dictated by the level of interest. You must have never dated a prude who's obsessed with you. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 29/01/26 04:51 PM |
| 1 | What is something you would wish men would STOP doing in dating?But of course I know exactly what prude means, so mind actually making a real point? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 29/01/26 04:49 PM |
| -1 | When is a woman too picky or superficial?There are only two types of women who are too picky: those that are completely delusional about their own looks or want to date up, and those that subconsciously make up unrealistic standards about men just so that noone can reach them because they love their single lifestyle but feel guilty about it. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 29/01/26 04:46 PM |
| 1 | What would you change about online dating?I kinda get what you are describing, but that is basically a preference for organic social environments rather than something dating apps could realistically fix. Seeing someone in a group setting works great if people share social circles, go out often, and naturally run into each other through friends. A huge chunk of people do not live like that. They work, do groceries, go home. So you would never even have the chance to meet them in public, because they simply don't exist there, they're not… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 29/01/26 04:41 PM |
| 1 | What would you change about online dating?One thing I would change immediately is showing how long someone has been on the app. I just want to opt out of the girls who are serial daters that turned swiping and going on dates into a lifestyle. Let me filter for new users because they're much more likely to only be there to find their person and leave. Apps already track it, but they hide it like it's radioactive. From a business perspective, it directly threatens the engagement loop. That is probably why it will never ship. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 29/01/26 08:08 AM |
| 0 | What would you change about online dating?That's literally what dates are for. You might not be able to draw a full picture of the person sitting next to you date one, but it will get clearer as dates go by. What pressure are you even referring to? I don't really understand what you're suggesting, if apps made you record videos of yourself in specific situations, everyone would script it to look as good as possible, just like they do with pics. Not to mention apps would never do that because it would up the barrier of entry too much and… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 29/01/26 07:55 AM |
| 1 | What is something you would wish men would STOP doing in dating?I'd wish they were more selective and less desperate for affection, it's so pathetic. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 29/01/26 07:46 AM |
| 4 | What is something you would wish men would STOP doing in dating?Guys that filter out prudes are a small minority, I don't know what the fuck you're talking about. It's usually one of the greenest flags out there for most men I know when dating to marry. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 29/01/26 07:43 AM |
| 3 | What is something you would wish men would STOP doing in dating?It will, which is exactly the type of girls most men are after when dating to marry and not to hit and quit. The guy you're replying to is completely delusional. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 29/01/26 07:42 AM |
| 3 | Case Study - Where do you categorize this man?He's a loser. He not only did not break up with her when she stepped on his male friends boundary, but he also took her back after she literally confirmed his suspicions by breaking up and shooting her shot with her male "friend", then went back to him after that didn't work out. He has no decency, no self-respect, he's a nobody. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 29/01/26 07:40 AM |
| 1 | Trying to pretend like you can vet someones character on a first date is very ignorantI'm not vetting character date one, I'm looking to see if we're incompatible. As in I won't filter anyone in, but I can easily filter someone out. People can fake any trait for a couple hours but they can't fake their baseline wiring. Of course I won't be able to tell how kind she is, but I will be able to paint a pretty accurate picture of how her Saturday evenings look like. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 29/01/26 07:31 AM |
| 1 | Do men not seek companionship out of a relationship ? If that's the case, what's the reasoning ?Why do women think that men care so much about sex in a relationship? I don't know a single guy for whom sex is not a chore 5 years into a relationship. You get so bored of fucking her and have to keep playing pretend just so she doesn't think your sex life is fucked and that you don't love her anymore. Sex is fun the first few months and tolerable a couple years after that. From that point its a house chore. Of course we care about companionship, otherwise we wouldn't stay past that point. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 28/01/26 08:16 PM |
| 0 | “We want consistency” is a lie. If it wasn’t about immediate sex, you would never require it.I don't need sex from the girls I date, hell they often care more about it than me. I don't remember the last time I initiated anything sexually. The only thing sex related that interests me is that she doesn't make me wait more than she let another guy, not because I wanna fuck her but because I only date very high interest girls. That's also why consistency is important, because it signals that very same thing. Seems like you're just talking about a small subset of men that only date to hit an… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 28/01/26 08:05 PM |
| – | Do dating apps self select for picky women?Social discussions anywhere operate on inductive reasoning, not Popperian falsification tests. Dating apps are self selecting because entry is voluntary, incentives differ from offline dating, and attrition is asymmetric. People who pair off quit. People who enjoy novelty and validation stay. That alone skews the sample over time. This is literally a selection bias, I'm not coming up with conspiracy theories. Asking "what makes it unrepresentative" while ignoring incentive structure is strange. … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 28/01/26 04:59 PM |
| – | Do dating apps self select for picky women?Evidence like what, exactly? A peer reviewed randomized controlled trial on people who enjoy attention and novelty? I'm using the same kind of evidence everyone else is using. Observations, patterns, lived experience, and common sense. Dating apps are a self selecting environment by design. People who find what they want leave. People who enjoy the process stay. That pattern does not require a lab coat to notice. What evidence do you have to disprove it? Exactly. Some people here are fucking wei… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 28/01/26 12:42 PM |
| – | The big disconnect in modern dating: ending the first date strong vs. going for the same-night hookupFirst, skill gap. Closing night one consistently is rare. Most guys simply don't have what it takes to do it. Second, it's better to calibrate and adapt depending on who's sitting next to you. Like sure, you can and should have some structure, but you can't be too rigid about it because every girl's going to be different. Some girls will read restraint as composure and intent, some will read it as low interest, and others will straight up think you're boring. Trust in yourself and in how you cho… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 28/01/26 09:14 AM |
| 1 | Do dating apps self select for picky women?Women aren't that picky, the women on apps are. This is also valid for men. The population on the apps is not representative for either gender because 95%+ people there love to date more than they love the end result. People that actually look for a relationship are in and out of the apps in a couple months at most (not valid for non-attractive men, which might stick around longer simply because they're not getting matches and not because they're not looking for a relationship). When you get on … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 28/01/26 08:39 AM |
| 4 | You can't expect people to like you if you dont work on your social skills and self-awareness.This reads less like a clear thesis and more like few different arguments duct-taped together. You've collapsed several different things into one moral bundle and then argue against the bundle instead of making a clear claim. What is even the point of this post? What are you trying to debate? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 28/01/26 08:33 AM |
| – | The bar is in hell and the guy who swiped on 2 million women on Tinder proves it.I don't know how much you studied probability and statistics but you're working with a sample size of 1 here | /r/PurplePillDebate | 26/01/26 05:46 PM |
| 2 | Self-centered men just can't handle the change that comes with having kidsAnd why do I care or how is this the men's fault? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 26/01/26 04:15 PM |
| 1 | Self-centered men just can't handle the change that comes with having kidsContrary to popular belief, women usually suffer great financial losses after divorce. Yeah, the guy's bank account. She can't be your sex kitten anymore Don't worry, sex is usually dead long before a baby shows up. After a couple years into a LTR sex is like fucking your sister. Of course the child will be her priority now. That's fine, as long as I remain a very close second. You got divorced because you chose to play video games/smoke weed/join a red pill forums instead of taking care of your… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 26/01/26 12:23 PM |
| 26 | Red Pill" isn't a manifesto, it's just a maintenance manualIf you strip red pill down to a few key principles and remove the internet culture, a lot of it is just relationship maintenance 101, framed in a more blunt way. Therapists and couples counselors say versions of it without even knowing it, all the time, just with softer language. The problem is the community that surrounds it, who it attracts. People turn it into a dogma and build their whole identity around it. Most guys into RP get overly conscious in their interactions with women which does m… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 25/01/26 03:35 PM |
| 0 | The whole concept of fighting over someone is dumbIf some dude is already comfortable shooting his shot at my girl, she didn’t just "politely decline"… she socially positioned herself outside the boundaries I run relationships on. If random guys think there's a lane, it's because one was left open. I'm not here to play bouncer for my fiancée. Never had this problem in my LTR because the stuff that invites that scenario in the first place (male friends, bars, clubs, party environments) were already clear borders. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 25/01/26 05:58 AM |
| – | What draws you in deciding your partnerIt's not about what draws me in, it's about knowing what works for me and what doesn't, so I pick my partner accordingly. It's less arts and more math. She has to be highly interested in me and have traits with which I'm compatible long term: little history, loyal, prude in public, low ego, careless and oblivious to outside attention and validation, warm, feminine energy that enjoys closeness. Basically, a dork that likes kdramas and anime who sits on my back all day and I can't shake off. Mind … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 24/01/26 08:01 PM |
| – | Nobody is trying to get you to lower your standards, dating is a free marketI mean you're not wrong. You can have any criteria you want, nobody can force you to adjust them. The invisible hand of the market just slaps you with outcomes. Personally? I only date high-interest women, even if that means often (but not always) dating slightly down. Makes dating super low friction instead of chasing fantasy trophies. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 23/01/26 08:00 AM |
| 6 | Apparently my unpopular opinion is that I think dating is easier than ever.I made the same mistake. Professional photographers only make a difference when everything else is already perfect: style, haircut, grooming, clothing, fitness level, and most importantly, posing skill. I also paid around 1000 euros for 2 photoshoots and it was absolutely terrible. I got a combined 400+ pictures out of it and not a single one reflected how I looked in the mirror even remotely. My base level attractiveness is definitely above average, but my lack of investment into my appearance … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 23/01/26 07:10 AM |
| 1 | I've heard people say that men's lack of success on dating apps doesn't occur in real life. I don't believe thatYou're comparing the experience of average men to the experience of the top slice of women, then concluding that women universally have it easier. You're describing hot women and make an universal female baseline out of it. If you want symmetry, compare the experience of top 5 percent of women vs top 5 percent of men, and average women vs average men. Top women always work with a full inbox, sure. Top men also get flooded, just from a smaller pool and less publicly. Attractive men in big cities … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 23/01/26 06:50 AM |
| – | Chasing women is actually a waste of time.Correct, but why fix something that's to everyone else's advantage? Those that chase filter themselves away. The more they want it, the further they are from getting it. And the tiny slice of men that invest in themselves, into how they look, their finances, hobbies and lifestyle, get the majority of the pie. You can't build anything without the 95%, let them do the heavy work for the rest of us and stop trying to fix what's not broken. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 22/01/26 12:54 PM |
| 1 | Men are very woman centered and it's destructive to them.Everything in a man's life has always been women centered since the dawn of time, it's just about how you use and project that energy outward. This isn't about any patriarchal conditioning, it's natural evolution and biology. The problem is most guys use it to get "this one girl", instead of investing all that energy into working on themselves and becoming someone who attracts women in general. Had this pal at the muay thai gym about a year ago, we were like 5 or 6 guys just sitting and drinking… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 10/01/26 07:29 AM |
| – | "You can't know what someone is like romantically if you're just friends with them!" - the most idiotic argumentNot everyone who doesn't share your or even the mainstream's societal moral values in public is a bad partner. Not everyone who is polite in public is a good partner. You keep referring to likeability as this videogame stat that predicts how good a relationship's gonna be, and that's not how it works at all. How you solve conflicts, your shared values, how good the sex is, family dynamics, and aligned goals are what keep two people together. And none of those are there when you are evaluating ho… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 08/01/26 06:39 PM |
| – | "You can't know what someone is like romantically if you're just friends with them!" - the most idiotic argumentI always look for some common ground, something to agree with on a post. Found none of that here, it misses by all measurable metrics. Friendship is not the internship for dating and people do not unlock romance by accruing platonic XP. You can be a great friend and a terrible partner, or a mediocre friend and an amazing partner. Dating screens for things friendship never triggers, like intimacy, loyalty under strain, conflict skills, sexual compatibility, family alignment, shared timelines, and… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 08/01/26 04:36 PM |
| 15 | Misogyny is often mistaken for confidence in online dating spacesOutside of certain bubbles, confidence is often mistaken for misogyny the same way decisiveness gets mistaken for arrogance, in most mainstream online spaces. Most people online are so used to validation and permission seeking behavior that anything self-contained looks hostile. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 07/01/26 05:53 AM |
| 0 | Women's insecurities are considered "cute" and endearing, but men's insecurities are called toxic.I find it cute, because I don't give a fuck and because I have nothing to hide. Also the past has shown me that I'm way more compatible with an insecure dork like that than with a girl who's never imposed any limits on me out of convenience because she goes out every weekend. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 06/01/26 04:03 PM |
| -1 | Women's insecurities are considered "cute" and endearing, but men's insecurities are called toxic.I hate how men always bring up the "no male friends in my relationship" discussion as making demands for what they consider acceptable while already inside the relationship. You guys are not that smart are you. You are making it so easy for everyone else to attack this very fragile stance you take. Start filtering the girls you date for it while you're dating them, save yourself the headache from getting into a relationship with a girl you're virtually incompatible with. And when you talk about … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 06/01/26 04:01 PM |
| 1 | If you want someone to choose you, bring what they want to the tableThere are some things here that I fully agree with. You cannot be universally attractive. There are tradeoffs. Different women want different archetypes. And yes, narrowing your pool via standards and filters is healthy. Otherwise you are just dating noise. Most men however skip this part because they barely have a pool in the first place, which is sad both for them and for the person they'll end up with because they're virtually taking whatever they can get. So far, so good. But then you go off… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 05/01/26 07:16 AM |
| 10 | What do some men mean when they say 'woman have life on easy mode?'An average girl creates a dating profile tonight and has couple hundred matches by next morning. An average guy does not get that same amount of matches in a decade. A skinny girl is wow. A skinny guy is whatever. A fit girl only needs to work 6-12 months for it. A guy has to do it for at least 2-3 years to reach an even remotely similar physical market value. A fit girl gains access to the very best of men, despite having little to nothing else going for her. A fit guy with poor finances opens … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 04/01/26 09:07 PM |
| 17 | The Manosphere Preys on Immaturity, Not Misogyny or EntitlementYou're talking about access. The issue is outcomes and incentives. Women's baseline social value is now decoupled from performance, while men's is not only still tightly coupled, they need to overperform more than ever. That creates easier dating for women and harsher filtering for men on average. And my biggest problem with the mainstream outside the manosphere is that it tries to sell it as equality. It's not oppression, but it's definitely not symmetry. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 04/01/26 08:54 PM |
| -5 | At what age do women expire to men?My future SO will never become undesirable to me, that's crazy talk. I will love her until the day I die. As far as dating goes, I rarely date over 25. Often too much history and I'm looking for someone that's still moldable. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 04/01/26 08:45 PM |
| – | Preferences make sense when it’s about characteristics that aren’t immutable, otherwise it’s bigotry. Dating is also the most socially acceptable form of being a bigot, and nothing will really change that.Your take is technically clever but practically useless. If you remove discrimination from dating, you remove dating. Attraction does not give a shit about your moral taxonomy. People aren't attracted to choices, they're attracted to bodies, behaviors, signals, vibes, histories, patterns. Some of those are mutable, some are not, some are partially mutable, some are socially constructed, some are biologically anchored. Trying to draw a clean ethical line here is cope. Dating isn't activism or vir… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 04/01/26 11:10 AM |
| 3 | Cheating on your partner sometimes without telling them is probably more sustainable than an open relationshipIf I can place someone's nationality on a map and their social media bio by the first line of their post, I tend to stay away, but here goes. The answer is neither. An open relationship is just a close friendship where sex is on the table. Cheating is just playing pretend in the daytime to go save Gotham during nighttime. There's nothing "relationship" like about either of them. A relationship ends the moment a partner cheats, emotionally, openly or otherwise, what follows is a caricature of it.… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 04/01/26 11:01 AM |
| 11 | If you want to sleep with a woman you are attracted to you might have to do things to woo herYou're describing less how dating looks like, and more how dating the wrong person looks like. I just show up and the wooing happens automatically. If me simply being there doesn't make everything and everyone else irrelevant, I don't even want it. My dating pool is not made of the girls I'm into, it's made of those that are into me. If I don't get clear intent and consistency by the second or third date the latest, she's not even on my radar. Dating is easy as fuck. If it isn't, you're dating t… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 03/01/26 07:17 PM |
| – | A not insignificant number of takes and opinions on here (and a lot of other places) are formed by online opinions, imagined scenarios and ragebait, rendering them fundamentally useless to any productive discourse.I never argued for obsession or thinking about other men. You're fighting ghosts. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 02/01/26 12:47 PM |
| – | A not insignificant number of takes and opinions on here (and a lot of other places) are formed by online opinions, imagined scenarios and ragebait, rendering them fundamentally useless to any productive discourse.The thing is that you are arguing with a caricature and not my position. Most women don't go around fucking random men in the name of "finding themselves" I never said this. You're trying to turn a compatibility filter into a moral indictment because admitting it is just preference would end the argument immediately. These are not normal because they're statistically not the norm. Calling something statistically uncommon, which you have yet to prove anywhere by the way, does not make discomfort … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 02/01/26 12:30 PM |
| – | A not insignificant number of takes and opinions on here (and a lot of other places) are formed by online opinions, imagined scenarios and ragebait, rendering them fundamentally useless to any productive discourse.This post keeps doing a neat little sleight of hand: you start by criticizing people for building beliefs off imagined scenarios, then quietly replace them one by one with your own imagined baseline of what is "normal". Calling certain thoughts "not normal" because you personally dont experience them is just self-soothing and not an actual argument. Choosing not to think about your partners sexual past is fine. It's your choice and nobody else's business. Declaring that anyone who does is "funda… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 02/01/26 11:41 AM |
| – | Most male-female friendships are built upon a foundation of female deceptionMost male-female friendships Stopped reading there because such thing doesn't exist. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 02/01/26 07:44 AM |
| 1 | Stop looking for unconditional love. Its unrealistic and entitled.You stacked the deck to lazy, selfish, mediocre men wanting unconditional love because that's the easiest villain to beat. Plenty of men are disciplined, improving, socially calibrated, emotionally available, and most live in the massive and very uncomfortable for your argument, in-between. Unconditional love exists. I've lived it, and I'll live it again. When it's real it doesn't feel hard or earned, it really just happens. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 02/01/26 07:42 AM |
| 2 | Women who have traits that would be undersireable in men should not bear sonsGave me a morning chuckle, thanks internet stranger! | /r/PurplePillDebate | 02/01/26 07:33 AM |
| 1 | Why I quit dating apps forever (and what I now do instead)And it's pretty black or white thinking to assume that the only alternative is to pretend you care about cooking just to meet someone. Ah, it was just a way of putting it, I had a look at your listed suggestions, and other than dance classes (think street/club/breakdance, definitely not salsa, bachata), and boxing/martial arts, every single cell in my body was like "fuck no" at each and one of them haha. They're simply not places I would ever go to without a specific goal in mind. I have no main… | /r/seduction | 12/11/25 09:16 AM |
| 1 | Why I quit dating apps forever (and what I now do instead)Apps are much more convenient to me personally, I get dates without putting in a lot of effort and I don't have to join a cooking class just to pretend I care about it so I can hopefully meet someone. | /r/seduction | 12/11/25 06:13 AM |
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