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Dull_Description_710/r/Divorce_Men24/05/22 08:29 PM
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You're not going to "manage" it. Just focus on managing yourself. You don't know what her intimacy will be like. She might wear the lingerie and he can't get it up, of she farts, or it's awkward....you don't know. If you're gonna tell yourself stories, make them positive ones. She's doing her own thing and you don't get a say. So go do your own thing.
/r/Divorce_Men27/05/25 12:49 AM
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You got this bro. Big days ahead for you. Some dark, and probably many, and darker than you can expect. And some bright ones, and probably many, and brighter than you thought. Coming up on a year divorced, and 3 years separated. It's not all about sex, but I think I had sex with my girlfriend more in 1 year than 10 years of marriage. She is more affectionate and physically loving than more wife ever was, even in our 20s. Stay hydrated and healthy, go for it
/r/Divorce_Men17/01/25 03:50 PM
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strong incel vibes here. The las is the law. OP, if you inheritance is protected, so be it. If it's not, so be it. If it's a windfall for you, it's a windfall for her. My advice, take the high road and don't let be trapped. You are not too rich to divorce, you are too stubborn.
/r/Divorce_Men16/01/25 12:58 PM
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buy your happiness with your dads money? yes, thats my advice
/r/Divorce_Men16/01/25 12:55 PM
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Nothing against your dad, but if some his value went up in the stock market, isn't that free money? And isn't it all free money anyway? You (assumably) said "In good times and in bad"...this financial win for her would be a good time. If your dad left you with $1.5 instead of $3, would you still be happy? I bet there are guys on here who would pay $1.5 for a cleaner/better divorce. And surely some have paid more. Easy for me to say, of course, but I saw don't fight it. Get divorced, pay what you…
/r/Divorce_Men16/01/25 05:19 AM
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Man isn't it so weird doing that? If you bump into someone at the grocery store you say hello or give them a smile. It's so weird acting this way with someone I used to love.
/r/Divorce_Men30/12/24 02:35 PM
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Wow. Same. Well, almost the same. Very similar with all the logistics and communication. Can't say I'm at the stage where I don't get jealous… She ended up with house, and things were in our generally Moore stay low when they're with her. She's got more custody as well. I'm in my third place in about 2 1/2 years, but this one I just bought and I think I'll be here for a long time so finally feeling like my feet are under me. Kids are young and impressionable, so Sometimes I can be helpful thing,…
/r/Divorce_Men30/12/24 02:34 PM
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This book is great and one of the best I read as I went through my divorce. Also loved and was greatly appreciative of Codependent No More by Melody Beattie
/r/Divorce_Men12/08/24 05:01 AM
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It gets better
/r/Divorce_Men18/07/24 02:34 AM
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Spoken like a man who has a lot of growth ahead of him. I respectfully disagree and encourage others not to waste their time reading this. An amazing waste of your time to write this. Good luck dude
/r/Divorce_Men04/07/24 02:32 PM
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Do this. Divorce dad or not, if you can swing it, swing it!
/r/Divorce_Men03/06/24 01:34 PM
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Surreal dude. It's all surreal. It will become real. I remember grabbing my toothbrush as I left, for my friend's little guest house, knowing it was over but hoping it would be temporary. Opening the door and seeing the bed, bathroom, 1 small table, microwave, sink. The marital home was 3300sf of awesomeness in a great neighborhood, full of life and love. Or so I thought. You've got lots to look forward to; reflect but don't dwell to much. You are looking at things with rose colored glasses. It'…
/r/Divorce_Men03/06/24 01:32 PM
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Step 1 lawyer for sure. Step 2 focus on yourself. This is not selfish, this is crucial. Gym, health, hydration. Don't start drinking or swiping online dating or self soothing with some unhealthy habits. Be kind to yourself and buckle up. Likely this is going to suck. It has to suck for the other side to be great. It will be great, it's just gonna suck for awhile and it's gonna take a lot longer than you think. You got it bro
/r/Divorce_Men24/03/24 02:44 PM
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You got this dude
/r/Divorce_Men23/03/24 05:08 AM
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Not gonna read your post. Hope it was cathartic to write it all down. You got this bro. Chill out, drink some water and take care of yourself. All these details will be water under the bridge, some day. Not now, but someday it will seem like small potatoes. Take care of yourself, focus on your health and your wealth and the kids, if you got em.
/r/Divorce_Men23/03/24 03:14 AM
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Thanks for letting me know
/r/Divorce_Men10/03/24 04:58 PM
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Going to respectfully disagree with OP on this. Seems like he has some anger issues and some growth ahead of him. There are a lot of ways to do this. I was just trying to get laid when I first started swiping online, and I've been with the same woman, the first and only once since the divorce, and it's been 18 great months.
/r/Divorce_Men10/03/24 04:48 PM
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Nothing laid out, no consequences specified. My guess is if I press it, contempt of court?
/r/Divorce_Men16/02/24 08:40 PM
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I got similar language in my decree for her father. Not a genuine safety issue, probably, and I wanted it in there mostly as a way to stick it to her. A bit petty, yes. She agreed to it, I suggest you agree to it and move on. At the risk of sounding like "if you've got nothing to hide, why not consent to a police search"...I'd say, if there's no chance of the kids being around him unsupervised, what's the risk? You sign it, as a concession to her and in return, you get the ability to move on. Mo…
/r/Divorce_Men16/02/24 06:11 PM
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Agreed
/r/Divorce_Men13/02/24 01:12 PM
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Lawyer dude
/r/Divorce_Men12/12/23 08:40 PM
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Stay strong dude. Keep reading, hydrating, bring healthy. I'm not sure there's anything you can do to make this better. I am 100% certain there are things you can do to make this worse. I'm still in the middle of mine and it's been extremely hard. It's supposed to be hard so it can be great later. You got this bro
/r/Divorce_Men19/11/23 02:19 PM
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Just pay for the appraisal and move on, mentally. You may always wonder what would have or could have happened. You likely have thousands more dollars to mess with. Buy the peace of mind for $500
/r/Divorce_Men27/07/23 07:52 PM
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Why out a dollar figure on it? What would you do with the money? You are worth far more than a bank account can show.
/r/Divorce_Men15/05/23 09:50 PM
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Nope. Why do you ask?
/r/Divorce_Men12/05/23 05:07 PM
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OP, this is the pathetic echo chamber I mentioned. Don't go into it. Imagine if you did though...let's say this weak man has a point...let's say it's all her fault. Let's say you did everything right. Now what? Nothing changes for you. She thinks you were wrong. You think she was wrong. You can think all you want. My advice? Find the opportunity to grow. Do the work. Don't let yourself get into this position again. You don't think you did anything wrong? That's ego. Recognize it, accept it and l…
/r/Divorce_Men12/05/23 12:54 AM
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I'm a man going through a divorce, offering my advice and opinion to another man. You sound like a hurt man as well. I wish you the best.
/r/Divorce_Men12/05/23 12:50 AM
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You gotta find it dude. What role did you play? YOU didn't listen. YOU didn't clean. YOU waited for her to divorce you instead of taking action to divorce her, or go to counseling or whatever. As long as you think like a victim, you will feel like one. Blaming her won't make you feel any better. Blaming her is obvious and she certainly played a role. You can blame her all you want. The work you need to do on yourself begins now. Maybe you didn't have the self esteem and you let her walk all over…
/r/Divorce_Men11/05/23 07:00 PM
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If you're here on this sub, hopefully you're real and into getting some real opinions. Our stories are somewhat similar, my divorce is raging, and I moved out a year ago. I'm not judging you, so this comes from a place of support… You gotta take more responsibility bro. Whatever went down, whatever you think, it all comes down to you. It doesn't matter if she truly is to blame or truly did change your blah blah blah… Here you are, and you can only control your actions. As long as you blame her a…
/r/Divorce_Men11/05/23 03:40 PM
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Too late for me, but this is good advice.
/r/Divorce_Men02/10/22 06:07 PM
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This is some toxic bullshit bro. I'm 40m, wife chose to leave me. I don't agree with this at all.
/r/Divorce_Men05/09/22 01:52 AM
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Yes. If they are buying points to lower their payments, those are excluded. But generally speaking, include them and the split them.
/r/Divorce_Men29/08/22 05:09 AM
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My wife left me (both 40) and i was crushed for a few months. No cheating, abuse or drugs, she just felt disrespected and wanted out. I worked on myself, lots of therapy, working out, quit smoking weed (was smoking a lot to dull the pain) and drinking (wasn't drinking much anyway). Im in great physical shape now, I'm happy, our kids are handling the transition well (3 from 4yrs-9rs); I bought a fixer upper bachelor pad, ive gone on a few dates and my life is on a great trajectory. You got this!
/r/Divorce_Men28/08/22 08:14 PM
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Thanks for checking back in and glad you are doing so well. I'm on my way back up too. These posts were crucial for me to see in the early days and are now a good check in on progress for me.
/r/Divorce_Men13/08/22 04:26 PM
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Get used to it. This phase lasted me a few months. All you can do is the healthiest things. I was pretty healthy already and added more exercise, stayed hydrated, quit weed, cut drinking down to basically nothing, took my vitamins, melatonin, lots of caffeine free tea, therapy, reading and talking. This sub and others like it were good places to spend time. And it still felt like nothing was "working". Likely won't feel that way for you, not for a few weeks anyway. I used to hear that time would…
/r/Divorce_Men07/08/22 11:57 AM
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Let it go
/r/Divorce_Men14/07/22 11:38 PM
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Why do you care bro? Move on. With respect, seriously. Don't let her affect you in any way. Keep your mind right. Fuck this bullshit.
/r/Divorce_Men11/07/22 12:28 AM
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It's a nice smack of reality. I need those from time to time and needed them a lot in the early days. I was out to lunch on the state of our marriage and it took me a looong time to realize I was telling myself stories. Move on from the what ifs...they don't serve you. You were telling yourself a story, as we all are, and you can tell yourself a better one. You got this. Stick with or return to the healthy habits you developed when you split - water, exercise, reading etc.
/r/Divorce_Men07/07/22 04:00 PM
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Hard to let it go, no? I'm feeling better each day. Not much but after many days, I feel a little bit more like i can do this.
/r/Divorce_Men05/07/22 05:25 AM
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They give you a tranquilizer before the procedure. It's very quick. Don't sweat it.
/r/Divorce_Men05/07/22 05:24 AM
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Interesting. There's a few things for me to noodle on here and I'm glad you shared. Thanks
/r/Divorce_Men04/07/22 05:12 PM
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Same with mine. She's expecting me to walk away from the house and let her make the payments while I rent elsewhere. This amazing house is getting sold and all the other consequences of divorce are going to happen too. I wasn't making a killing but my earnings afforded her many luxuries of time and hobbies. She was an excellent mother. She's going to have to get a real job, do a lot lore driving, skip out on a lot of the things she liked to do and live on less, and in another house. She didn't t…
/r/Divorce_Men28/06/22 12:21 AM
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Double almost same here. She's not a workaholic, though hard working. As I say this I wonder if it's that she took on so many projects in general. She definitely let her true self be lost in becoming an excellent mother, and neither of us knew or recognized the impact that was having.
/r/Divorce_Men25/06/22 02:03 PM
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Glad to hear about it coparenting. I'm hopeful about our divorce having a similar outcome. Thanks for sharing and congrats
/r/Divorce_Men25/06/22 01:50 PM
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Lacing my sneaks and heading out for 6 miles! Thank you!
/r/Divorce_Men21/06/22 12:49 PM
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My wife fell out of love with me. And she realized that at marriage counseling. We tried a few counselors and then she asked for time and space. So I moved out. And in the time and space, she asked for a divorce. I've worked on my self a lot - quit weed (a lot) and drinking (not much), upped my fitness, reading, therapy, hot tea, healthy diet, good people in my corner. They all said I couldn't tell her I changed, I had to show her. I started to, and then she asked for a divorce. I made one last …
/r/Divorce_Men21/06/22 12:14 PM
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Thank you! Also needed to hear this today. It's right on for me too
/r/Divorce_Men21/06/22 05:28 AM
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Wow well said! I totally agree and also needed to hear this. Thank you
/r/Divorce_Men21/06/22 05:28 AM
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If he's cheating with your wife, could you believe him? What could he possibly tell you that would put you at ease?
/r/Divorce_Men20/06/22 11:39 AM
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That's well said, and probably wasn't easy to admit. Cheers
/r/Divorce_Men19/06/22 09:17 PM
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"She left for whatever reason" is giving off bad vibes to me. Sounds to me like you have work to do on yourself. You played some role in her leaving. You may need to accept that, to accept yourself and the rest will come. Your abs and lifts are objective. They are true. Your great social skills are not objective. If you had great social skills, you'd have the results of those skills, namely a relationship. A partner is no guarantee so my point is more along the lines of you can't say you have gr…
/r/Divorce_Men19/06/22 05:44 PM
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Depending on the state, could be shared property. It's not a federal crime if that's the case. Soon to be ex is not ex
/r/Divorce_Men18/06/22 09:25 PM
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Interesting arrangement, didn't know that was an option. Thank you for sharing
/r/Divorce_Men16/06/22 07:37 PM
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Are you just giving her the house? My wife is leaving me but wants the house. Our income is different though I'm bread winner. She is expecting me to just walk away from the house. She's probably honor my equity and pay me out someday, but I'm unwilling to just start renting somewhere and let her have it. We are amicable but im going to force her to sell it, but me out, or let me live in the apartment on the garage. She doesn't want to be near me right now, so I moved out to give her time and sp…
/r/Divorce_Men16/06/22 07:25 PM
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I don't understand this at all
/r/Divorce_Men16/06/22 07:22 PM
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Can you guys do some art, draw some pictures or make something to memorialize the day? Get crafty with something on YouTube, spray paint some macaroni, that sort of thing? Or what about taking her handprints in a little cement stone you could put in the garden or something. Can you get a souvenir out of the day? It's OK to feel incredibly sad. My birthday is tomorrow and I'm taking my kids out for donuts. Then normal workday, bike ride with them around mid day, and then some sort of dinner plans…
/r/Divorce_Men13/06/22 05:36 AM
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Thank you for sharing! Our stories are similar...no new sex for me yet, and this is very reassuring and inspiring. Glad to know there's light and other enjoyment at the end of this dark tunnel. Cheers
/r/Divorce_Men13/06/22 03:42 AM
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Good attitude and good for you. Glad to hear you don't give a fuck and sounds like he's a decent guy if he's going to date someone with a two-year-old and meet the kids father and what not.
/r/Divorce_Men12/06/22 08:24 PM
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Quit the drinking bro. No judgement, that's my advice. Check my post history - I've been struggling with weed and am 65 days clean. It's not easy. Good luck.
/r/Divorce_Men01/06/22 02:27 AM
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Good call, thank you
/r/Divorce_Men26/05/22 11:49 AM
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Needed this today too bro. My experience is quite different although I am crushed. Nice to know there is good sunshine on the other side.
/r/Divorce_Men25/05/22 05:01 PM
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Thank you for the sunshine, needed this today.
/r/Divorce_Men25/05/22 05:01 PM
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I didn't even know about these accounts of hers. I guess we can go back in time, see her withdrawals etc? She is tight with her mom and I wouldn't be surprised if they were getting crafty together. I guess if it comes to it, she's obligated to disclose everything? Or is it just everything I can prove or find?
/r/Divorce_Men24/05/22 10:50 PM
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What if I sell it to an LLC or other partner? I'd have to share the proceeds, but can't I sell it for less than its worth?
/r/Divorce_Men24/05/22 08:48 PM
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Woof. Need this dose of reality. No woman wants a weak man is exactly right. I haven't had a paycheck in months, been living off commissions for my sales job. Time to get my freaking head in the game!
/r/Divorce_Men24/05/22 08:39 PM
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Not following the other story, but needed to see this myself. Thank you.
/r/Divorce_Men24/05/22 08:32 PM
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I needed to see this. I don't know what this sub is about but this is the post that's getting me to leave. OP, you're a sad little man. You could just believe what this woman says. Any reflection of judgment on her, is a reflection of you. We see people as we are, not as they are. You're a sad and weak man bro, good luck.
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