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A roughly baggage-matched relationship would appear to be ideal, in many respects. However, pretending that men and women accrue baggage in the same ways, and to the same degrees in those ways, is silly. And pretending that men and women want the same things from each other in relationships is also silly. It’s difficult to find a man who demonstrates the social-proof women find attractive without him having been with other women, unless he’s a guy you snag young and right after a major glow-up w…
/r/RedPillWomen20/07/26 02:16 PM
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I have a potentially interesting perspective I can offer you on a similar situation, but from a man’s side. I was a very nerdy, overweight, somewhat effeminate adolescent boy and young man. I dated a bit, in high school and university, but never really had a drive to do it much, because I wasn’t getting much attention from the opposite sex. Then, in my early 20s, I had a major glow-up, losing weight and changing my style and all that jazz. By the time I was done, I was getting huge amounts of fe…
/r/RedPillWomen22/06/26 11:40 PM
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You should show this post to both of them. I’m sure they’ll choose to fight to the death over you, after seeing this, and then you can have the (clearly stronger/better) winner.
/r/RedPillWomen18/06/26 02:12 PM
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My girlfriend showed me this sub once, and I believe she still browses it occasionally, and I *really* hope she sees this post. Very well thought out and written.
/r/RedPillWomen09/06/26 08:30 PM
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No man wants to wait longer than the last guy did, or do more than the last guy had to, to sleep with a woman. If he has reason to believe you’ve held that standard consistently for everyone, of making them wait, maybe he’ll think you’re worth working and waiting for. But if he gets the sense you’ve got all kinds of hookups and flings under your belt, he’s probably not going to be too keen on doing 10 dates to get what others got after 10 Tinder messages.
/r/RedPillWomen22/05/26 02:28 AM
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Ah, I see. Unfortunately, I don’t really have any good advice for you, then, if you’re trying to gauge commitment to exclusivity, instead of just interest, since there seems to be interest. In mine and my girlfriend’s situation, we planned to meet in-person like >2 months after that chat I mentioned, so it was much easier for us both to just commit to exclusivity in preparation for that meeting, knowing if it didn’t go well, we didn’t waste too much time with each other. I had a date with anothe…
/r/RedPillWomen06/03/26 02:10 PM
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I was in a similar spot with my now-girlfriend about two years ago. She was living abroad, but from my country, and I had met her online and helped her through some difficult stuff, chatting with her every day for a couple months, and enjoying building that connection. I remember, one day, she asked me “do you think about me when we’re not talking?” as a way to sort of gauge what type of relationship I thought we had. I told her that I thought about her all the time, and then we sort of just acc…
/r/RedPillWomen06/03/26 01:49 PM
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Yeah, I think that’s a good way to look at it, from your perspective. I don’t think there’s any way to know though really, just based on what you said, if it’s trauma or prudence. I don’t doubt there is trauma, but it’s hard to know what it is or isn’t driving, and how long that’ll last. I’d lean towards the trauma for the proposal and kids things, and then prudence for any sort of conventional measures like a solid prenup, or very thorough vetting of you. I assume you don’t want to talk to him …
/r/RedPillWomen26/02/26 03:44 PM
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First off, some of that (trying to take your kids from you, hypothetically) is really, really weird/excessive on his part, and don’t let anyone tell you otherwise. How did you find out about this, though? Like, did you snoop his search history (where charitably, this is something he briefly considered once but doesn’t actually intend to follow-through on at all), or did he tell you this himself as stuff he actively wants to do? I think that matters, here. Regardless though, divorce (primarily in…
/r/RedPillWomen26/02/26 03:29 PM
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The most compelling information I’ve seen, that is at least true for myself and every man I’ve spoken to on this subject as well, is that these three characteristics are almost universally desirable. Men want a woman who: Is beautiful (for obvious reasons) Is kind/nice (again, I think obvious) Is easy/interesting to talk to (no man wants to spend his time, or life, with someone whose company he doesn’t enjoy). And even within those, some men do want a woman who’s a little mean to them, or have d…
/r/RedPillWomen26/02/26 04:14 AM
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I’ve personally never had a purely sexual relationship, but if I did, I’m pretty sure I wouldn’t have a girl I’m doing that with interact with my friends very much, and my parents at all. Especially because you are presumably the first girl to meet either of those groups, as the first girl he ever kissed. Again, I don’t know the whole story, but I think you’re probably reading into things that you shouldn’t. He treats you well (and like his girlfriend), seems to have passed your vetting, and has…
/r/RedPillWomen21/02/26 10:39 PM
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I really don’t think it needs to be that serious. Relationships involve compromise, and on matters of style (not principle), I’d argue compromise can even be good. For example, you’re an early/regular sleeper. Communicate that to him, without making a big deal about it, after clarifying that you still enjoyed that late-night cuddle. I’m sure he’ll take it fine. Unless you suddenly spring up a bunch of new rules to deny him things you had previously given freely and often, all at once, I don’t th…
/r/RedPillWomen21/02/26 09:56 PM
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Your odds of marrying a millionaire are almost zero. Your odds of being married to a millionaire one day are actually quite high.
/r/RedPillWomen17/02/26 11:12 PM
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So, you haven’t found them, actually. You haven’t found a successful man you’re interested in, who wants a “successful” woman in the ways you’re successful. I wish you luck with finding them, because I’m sure they’re out there somewhere, but don’t really know any myself.
/r/RedPillWomen16/02/26 01:22 PM
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I think your lived experience shows what the successful men you’re interesting in consider “successful” for a woman, more than any academic and hypothetical discussion on here ever could. And it’s apparently not a 30-something career oriented woman. As to the “why”, just think about it. What does a 30-something career oriented woman have to offer them? If they’re successful in their careers, then her success in hers is probably nothing special. They already have that. What they lack is youth, fa…
/r/RedPillWomen16/02/26 03:59 AM
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Firstly, get back into better shape. Lean is law, and it’s mostly diet, so no “I’m busy” excuses. You’re not gonna look like you did years ago when you were working out like that, but it’ll be easier for your charm/game to make up for a gap in physique, as opposed to the apparent current chasm. That’s sort of a medium-long term thing though, since it obviously takes time. Secondly, and in the short term (assuming this date is soon, and you’re not gonna lose weight in time), accept that she’s goi…
/r/TheRedPill05/02/26 09:33 PM
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He broke your trust by reading private things in your diary, and you broke his by lying to him about your past. This resulted in him literally packing his shit and leaving the next day, without resolution. He doesn’t want you to do anything for his birthday, and you shouldn’t do anything for his birthday. He doesn’t want to talk to you, and it seems like you don’t really want to talk to him either, unless he apologizes, apart from some obligation to reciprocate birthday presents that you don’t h…
/r/RedPillWomen20/11/25 05:56 PM
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Yeah, I don’t doubt it in this context, for some random guy you’d just met on Bumble or whatever. He seems to have been just asking you what you wanted to set you up for this line from him, which is rude of him. I’d say you definitely did the right thing. I just wanted to provide a bit of context to that as well.
/r/RedPillWomen19/11/25 12:52 AM
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If he’s asking you that question, it’s almost certainly because he’s not interested in dating you. I think I should just lead with that. There is sort of a meme in certain male circles that there’s a particular type of women who has a long list of expectations in what she wants in/from a man (confidence, height, attractiveness, income, attentiveness, etc.), while offering very little of value as a girlfriend/wife in return, while being apparently oblivious to the reality of this imbalance. It ha…
/r/RedPillWomen19/11/25 12:33 AM
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Reaching 22 with a single-digit body count practically makes you a virgin these days, in many circles/places. Add on top of it the fact that you are repentant of it, and want to turn over a new leaf, and that’s even more rare. I don’t say that to minimize your feelings, but just to offer an alternate perspective (that still sorta minimizes your feelings, but whatever). That being said, you are right that it will rub many men wrong, either that a number of men before got sex without commitment an…
/r/RedPillWomen12/11/25 10:12 PM
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He can beat you in an arm-wrestle. I’m 99% certain of that, even based on what I heard, without knowing either of you. If I had to guess, it’s a confidence issue for him and a sore spot. I’m sure he knows he’s a small guy, and he probably got beaten by a girl in an arm-wrestle or something when he was 12 (girls at that age are often bigger/stronger than small boys), and so lacks confidence there. From his perspective, the only thing worse than not arm-wrestling you is arm-wrestling you and losin…
/r/RedPillWomen17/08/25 09:54 PM
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It’s hard to say if you’re “settling” without knowing what you bring to the table, and what your prospects are. Wanting a certain lifestyle (that you potentially can’t realistically have) doesn’t mean you’re “settling” if you get less than it, just because you want it. I’d love to marry a billionaire and never work again, but I’m not in a position to do that, so I’m not “settling” by dating someone who can’t buy me a private jet. For almost all women though, yes, you are probably being greedy, h…
/r/RedPillWomen13/08/25 03:41 PM
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Have you considered asking him about it? Like, why continue to avoid the topic, while continuing to see him and have the relationship get more and more serious? What if you spend the next year with him, and he relocates closer to you and then proposes, and you find out only then that his idea of how expenses should be split is not something you want or can accept? I think it’d be reasonable (for you both) for you to tell him something like “I’d be interested in moving in with you, but I’m not in…
/r/RedPillWomen11/08/25 01:05 AM
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Of course it is. It negates the height thing, and makes it a lot easier for money/status to negate everything else. There are still men not in a position to do even that though, and it’s not an ideal situation for a lot of men who are. But yeah, I like that element of the black-pill, if I have to pick one, just because it isn’t a full-blooded “it’s over.” Because for most people, it’s not over.
/r/TheRedPill24/07/25 05:26 PM
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It is true that there are some people for which red-pill philosophy does not work, but I think the number of them is greatly, greatly overestimated, and used as an excuse/cope by losers who don’t have to be losers. What percentage of guys are like exceptionally ugly to the point where even if they did everything right (BF%, grooming, haircut, skin-care, etc.), they’d still be below average enough to be hopeless? Maybe like low single-digits percent? What percentage of guys are below 5’6” and als…
/r/TheRedPill24/07/25 02:56 PM
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Sorry I struck a nerve again. I’m sure your mother or girlfriend or wife or whoever isn’t like the rest. I’m sure this feeble retort isn’t you gas-lighting yourself against the truth. I’m sure she’s different, bro 😘 I know reading comprehension is hard, and you probably didn’t read past the first line anyways because you’re clearly emotional (because you think I insulted someone you hold in high regards), but I did allow my opinion to change based on evidence. I modified my statement and everyth…
/r/TheRedPill24/06/25 08:56 PM
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“Freedom comes with accountability” is perhaps the single most fundamentally missing and unrecognized element from our society at large.
/r/RedPillWomen24/06/25 05:18 PM
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I won’t outsource my opinion to blue-pilled AI, but I will address AI’s outputs a bit. I think the fact that they’re literally top 2 cheaters is more compelling than a below average divorce rate. It just means they’re better at cheating, and all their free-time due to their time off could likely facilitate that, just like how the odd hours of the other professions facilitates that for them. So you haven’t convinced me of anything different there. If anything, I’m more convinced now of their infi…
/r/TheRedPill24/06/25 05:10 PM
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Okay dude, I’m sorry that your mom or girlfriend or whoever is a teacher, since you clearly singled that out and took offence at that on in particular. Since you didn’t push back at on the other four fields I mentioned, apart from genetically saying I’m stereotyping (which I am doing) without providing evidence yourself, I’ll just assume you don’t disagree specifically with those four. For teachers, they are the exception schedule-wise, compared to the other four. They work normal hours, and onl…
/r/TheRedPill24/06/25 12:33 AM
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I think I’m gonna make a whole post on this, so stay tuned. Basically though, they all have some combination of shitty schedules, high opportunities for cheating/unwarranted attention, having to deal with bullshit (which will make them nastier in dealing with a partner), hero complex (feeding narcissism and attracting narcissists), and gossipy environments. It’s a combination of attracting people predisposed to those things, and worsening those characteristics.
/r/TheRedPill23/06/25 10:45 PM
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Yeah, I think that’s true for bar/nightclub workers in general, actually, when you put it like that. They work shitty hours with shitty people too, which is common across all of the other ones (except teacher) as well. That would probably be worth adding to my list as #6 (in no particular order). In my head, I was picturing like a waitress at my local Italian or breakfast place, and I think there’s a difference between that and say like a bottle girl that’s meaningful if you’re gonna exclude the…
/r/TheRedPill23/06/25 05:33 PM
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Ah yeah, 100% it’s not exhaustive. Those top 4 especially though are massive employers of women, so they deserve a highlight, I think. But there are plenty of others. Anyone involved with nightclubs (promoters, cocktail waitresses, DJs, etc.) should be excluded from serious romantic interest by default.
/r/TheRedPill23/06/25 05:26 PM
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Strippers should really go without saying. And it’s not an exhaustive list, anyways. Like, corrections officers and security get lumped in with law enforcement, and masseuses get lumped in with hair dressers, and so on. Waitresses and bartenders would go on the second-tier of jobs that should send up warning bells, but aren’t immediately disqualifying like the others, in my opinion. Along with like women in HR or middle-management type jobs they’re ill equipped for, and probably many other jobs,…
/r/TheRedPill23/06/25 05:04 PM
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It’s never gonna be all, but in all those jobs, it’s substantially more than the general public, and simply not worth the risk. It’s like women who take SSRIs or have tattoos, or an obvious past/present party phase. There are good ones, and you could potentially find them by digging in further, but you really just shouldn’t. It’s not worth the effort of finding out she’s not quality (which will probably happen), the anguish of getting tricked/trapped by one who pulled the wool over your eyes (se…
/r/TheRedPill23/06/25 04:02 PM
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Yeah, most guys don’t have the options to discriminate on all the metrics they ideally should, but I’d argue this one should be higher up than a lot of guys think it should be. Like, I’d compromise on a lot before I tried to seriously date a nurse or teacher or any of those other jobs. It really should be up there with like SSRI usage and clear signs of being a past/present heavy long-term partier on the list of major red flags to avoid for long-term companionship.
/r/TheRedPill23/06/25 02:52 PM
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Oh yeah, they all have the potential for it, and 95% of them would find a way to do the exact same shit in a different job, if not for that one. The job attracts people who are like that, and the few good ones who sneak through the cracks will be like that soon enough anyways. That’s true of all the jobs I mentioned. I’m sure there are a few women who get into nursing to help people, or teaching to help kids. That’s not most of them though (especially these days), and even then, dating within th…
/r/TheRedPill23/06/25 02:47 PM
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Nurses get worshipped by the general public too, just for doing their jobs, essentially. That’s the narcissism you mentioned at work. COVID lockdowns were a very red-pilling time for a lot of people, and this is just one reason. Our “healthcare heroes” demanding our thanks while Tik Tok dancing around empty hospitals was hopefully illuminating for a lot of people, as it was for me.
/r/TheRedPill23/06/25 02:37 PM
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The partying is 100% true, but it’s the cherry on top. That type of girl has permeated every profession, to some extent. Maybe they’re in teaching more so than others, but even if they weren’t, there’s reason enough to avoid teachers outside of that.
/r/TheRedPill23/06/25 02:33 PM
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The old ones are still not ideal. They spend all day gossiping, bossing children around, and dealing with bullshit. They get used to treating everyone like the idiot, 10 year old subordinates they spend all day nagging. Plus there’s a hero complex (like nurses), where they think their very normal job is the most important thing on earth, and that they should be applauded for it. And unlike nurses, it’s not even like they work a lot or particularly hard. I wouldn’t want to date/marry someone like…
/r/TheRedPill23/06/25 02:24 PM
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Yeah, it’s just not worth it to even try, in my option. And this is coming from the son of a very wonderful woman who was a school teacher for 30 years. She’s just the exception to that rule (her coworkers all suck), and this next generation of them now are much, much worse. Exceptions don’t disprove rules. I’m sure there’s a wonderful nurse out there who would make the perfect partner, but unfortunately, her fellow nurses should make it so any smart man never dates her. There’s a potential exce…
/r/TheRedPill23/06/25 01:58 PM
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There are plenty of “good” jobs where you’ll still find bad apples, unfortunately. It’s just about stacking the numbers in your favour, and avoiding land mines. But yeah, if a girl says she’s a waitress or a cashier or a secretary, those shouldn’t automatically be counted against her like the ones I listed should be. Even jobs like engineer or government worker or accountant, while potentially not ideal (depending on your own goals and desires), probably shouldn’t be immediately disqualifying fo…
/r/TheRedPill23/06/25 01:52 PM
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A very simple way to avoid this is to, as you said, avoid seriously dating women from certain “high risk” professions. This isn’t to say that every women in these professions is a bad serious partner, but the odds that they are (and will be made worse by the job) are high enough that the whole profession should be avoided by prudent men. These include, but are not limited to: Nurse School Teacher Hair dresser/aesthetician Flight attendant Law Enforcement/Military I know those first four industri…
/r/TheRedPill23/06/25 01:30 PM
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As someone who did something similar once, the only thing I’d potentially caution you about is the arbitrary 1-year timeline. That’s a very ambitious plan, and it’s both okay if it either taken more than a year to complete, or if after a year, it’s still not complete, but you decide to move on romantically anyways while finishing reaching those goals as you do. Just the weight loss on its own could take more than a year, if it was your only goal, depending on your size and if you ideally wanted …
/r/RedPillWomen29/05/25 01:08 PM
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Glad I could help. And yeah, definitely talk to him, even if it won’t be a super comfortable conversation for you in the moment. The comfort it will give long-term will be more than worth it.
/r/RedPillWomen06/05/25 02:05 PM
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Disclaimer: I have yet to comment on anything here, but as a similarly aged man to your BF, in a long distance relationship, who essentially schedules and pays for everything (and who came across this group through my GF), I feel like I have a relatively unique and potentially valuable perspective on this. We’re even in similar fields, lol. He’s probably not viewing this scenario through the lens you are. I imagine he’s delighted that you took the initiative to show your affection and come see h…
/r/RedPillWomen06/05/25 01:11 PM
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