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DuneThingsAgain/r/askMRP18/04/24 02:44 AM
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So much wrong here but here’s some perspective (which you clearly need). Stop worrying about whether she is attracted to you. Who the fuck cares if a nut-job who’s making your life hell wants to bang you. Work on getting an abundance mindset. You need to take her threats seriously. Involve the authorities. Even though (we all know) she’s using it to get you back her little box where she’s comfortable. This is a red-line issue and not for you to handle.
/r/askMRP28/05/24 06:14 PM
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OYS #11 44 yo, 6’1”, 190lbs, 13% BF (estimated) Married 17yrs, together 23yrs, Wife is 44yo, 3 kids 15, 12, and 9 Fitness: BP: 165 4x5 (injury) / SQ: 265 3x5 / DL: 155 4x12 (Injury) / Pull-Ups 4x8 Sidebar: READ: NMMNG, MAP, Rational Male 1 & 2, WISNIFG, TWOTSM, 48 Laws of Power, PFP, SGM, MMSLP, Praxeology Frame & Dread, Book of Pook, Bang, The Game, Models, Seduction, CURRENTLY READING: NMMNG again and just started working on the 30 Day Recover Journal based on NMMNG by Chuck Chapman. We’ll see…
/r/MarriedRedPill21/05/24 04:39 PM
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I see. My frame and what matters to me, nothing else as input.
/r/MarriedRedPill03/05/24 06:58 PM
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Well, thanks for drilling down on this so I could see my lack of frame here. I was thinking that I needed to have a winning to case to initiate a divorce where I gather up evidence. This is pathetic, I just need to make a decision based on my own metrics. Thanks.
/r/MarriedRedPill03/05/24 03:19 PM
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Taking money without asking and not returning when asked to do so. Not the leverage I think it is?
/r/MarriedRedPill03/05/24 02:24 AM
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You're right about all of this. My only true leverage is divorce, until then its all empty posturing as far as she is concerned. She does not value my time and attention. She notices when it's missing but that's about it. I dont want to do the immature thing that she did and transfer money to my account. I am trying to come out of this as clean as I can. "she is totally exposed" meaning showing a huge vulnerability for me to exploit in the future.
/r/MarriedRedPill03/05/24 01:29 AM
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This sums up a victim mindset really well. Thanks for sharing.
/r/MarriedRedPill01/05/24 03:29 AM
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What I meant by "one way or another" is either she complies or I am done with her altogether. It won't be an immediate reaction but it will be the impetus of the divorce to come. I actually read that a couple times now. I know I am not very good at the boundary thing yet, but I think did pretty well here. Maybe I am not explaining the scenario well enough. This is a new boundary, she wasn't aware that I would demand the money remain in our shared account until we make joint decisions for it. I o…
/r/MarriedRedPill01/05/24 01:20 AM
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OYS #10 44 yo, 6’1”, 189lbs, 13% BF (estimated) Married 17yrs, together 23yrs, Wife is 44yo, 3 kids 15, 12, and 9 Fitness: BP: 145 4x5 (injury) / SQ: 255 3x5 / DL: 135 4x12 (Injury) / Pull-Ups 4x8 Sidebar: READ: NMMNG, MAP, Rational Male 1 & 2, WISNIFG, TWOTSM, 48 Laws of Power, PFP, SGM, MMSLP, Praxeology Frame & Dread, Book of Pook, Bang, The Game, Models, Seduction, CURRENTLY READING: Frame (again) Physical, & Lifting: PHUL Program is on again, I love it. Starting to introduce cardio on my of…
/r/MarriedRedPill30/04/24 09:34 PM
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I keep telling myself it’s a deal-breaker. Honestly I am having a hard time defining whether these behaviors are a result of me training her to be this way or if she never had the capacity to step into my frame. It’s hard to run that test cleanly when I keep introducing variables like my inconsistent frame. Fuck.
/r/MarriedRedPill26/04/24 11:13 AM
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I agree and will work on shedding my nice guy guilt and work this into my everyday.
/r/MarriedRedPill25/04/24 03:16 PM
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“Shitty carrot” should be my nickname. I am fun when I want to be but when it comes to leading I am all business. This has to change. I will make my desires known one more time.
/r/MarriedRedPill24/04/24 02:13 AM
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I need to work on this for sure. I live in a small town and everytime I go out I end up running into someone I know. I’ll up this next time leave town for sure.
/r/MarriedRedPill24/04/24 02:06 AM
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These are astute observations. I am fixing the myself before I blow anything up. If I can start to captaining the ship well and she wants to stop being the constantly complaining passenger that would be nice. If not, I'll be dropping her off at port. Not sure what my time-frame is.
/r/askMRP23/04/24 01:53 PM
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OYS #9 44 yo, 6’1”, 189lbs, 14% BF (estimated) Married 17yrs, together 23yrs, Wife is 44yo, 3 kids 15, 12, and 9 Fitness: BP: 135 4x8 (injury) / SQ: 245 3x5 / DL: 135 4x12 (Injury) / Pull-Ups 4x8 Sidebar: READ: NMMNG, MAP, Rational Male 1 & 2, WISNIFG, TWOTSM, 48 Laws of Power, PFP, SGM, MMSLP, Praxeology Frame & Dread, Book of Pook, Bang, The Game, Models, Seduction, CURRENTLY READING: Frame (again) Physical, & Lifting: REALLY need to up this some more been weak AF with my discipline, starting …
/r/MarriedRedPill23/04/24 01:48 PM
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I like your style. Seems fun, and more importantly, effective.
/r/askMRP18/04/24 05:08 PM
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Obviously I have a lot to learn and internalize even though I have read all the books. Time to start over again. Thanks for the insight.
/r/askMRP18/04/24 04:59 PM
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Stupid. I get it now.
/r/askMRP18/04/24 04:57 PM
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Ha! Got it. Thanks.
/r/askMRP18/04/24 02:31 PM
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Stupid, I know.
/r/askMRP18/04/24 02:30 PM
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Now I see it. Thanks for the insight. I need to work on my tingles and my emotions. I guess I was locked into wanting to be able to dominate with my bigger, scarier, and more manly reaction. It’s all a display of lower value.
/r/askMRP18/04/24 02:28 PM
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I’m not looking for permission to divorce. I was looking for perspective on how I should handle this type of scenario. It sounds like the answer is two-fold: i suck, and so does she. That being said i do need to get an abundance mentality. I am in great shape. I go out regularly and get IOI from young women. I haven’t tried cold approaching but honestly that’s because I am afraid of getting caught. I live in a small town. It’s no excuse though, I need to get more abundance in my life. I’m going …
/r/askMRP18/04/24 01:40 PM
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Thank you for the response here. This kind of info is what I am missing.
/r/askMRP18/04/24 01:31 PM
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Sex is actually happening, not as much as I’d like, but we fuck in our bed then goes elsewhere to sleep.
/r/askMRP18/04/24 03:51 AM
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I get it now. Thanks again for explanation.
/r/MarriedRedPill18/04/24 01:29 AM
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I have over-complicated to the point where in mind all these things were connected and impossible to tackle. These individual parts make it digestible and you're totally right here too. I'll look at how to have multiple ways to address these issues if they happen in the future. This is one of my areas I struggle with. As for the sharing more in my OYS, there are a few areas where my life is REALLY out of bounds. Most of which have to due with my wife. I already got a rule 9 ban once, trying not …
/r/MarriedRedPill17/04/24 09:03 PM
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Thanks for your insight here. Historically I haven't done well that early in the AM. I'll give it a shot though. As for meditating, I am meditating on and visualizing abundance which would include becoming Chad. Meditation certainly has helped me dig through the layers of bullshit that my mind has laid down all these years. Personally, that's what I used it for. To each their own though. This is was a very helpful definition of what disrespect looks like. I will observe and study. Benevolent Dic…
/r/MarriedRedPill17/04/24 08:48 PM
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That’s dread bro. She’s trying to put you back in her little box. You may soon encounter a Main Event and maybes she’ll get on board. Maybe she won’t.
/r/askMRP17/04/24 01:32 PM
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You’re absolutely right. I see the difference between having solid frame and what I’ve been doing. Deep down I am afraid of her feelings. I react to her feelings and anger from being called out with my own anger. Pushing back and arguing instead of what you described. I delude myself into thinking I am not afraid of her feelings by arguing. It’s just a weird cope.
/r/MarriedRedPill17/04/24 12:51 AM
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Exactly why I am here. I let this grow into a monster. Bottom line is that I know I am not awesome enough to call her out on this shit and have it resonate. I've tried. At some point I will be objectively awesome and she will either step into my frame or I will walk.
/r/MarriedRedPill16/04/24 06:36 PM
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Don't get me wrong, I have one foot out the door. This is just one of those things that I am trying to be on the right side of. I am tip-toeing along a knife edge on one side is displaying lower value and on the other is her total indifference. I know she will adhere if I demand (negotiate, DLV) that she sleeps in the same bed and she will become the proverbial "Unhappy Wife" (even though I'm not even talking about sex). If I simply exude OI, she's so dense she'll just happily keep on with her p…
/r/MarriedRedPill16/04/24 05:23 PM
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Yes. All revolving around me being in her frame and acknowledging her as the winner of a power struggle. This was my response: "First of all I don’t give rip about controlling where you sleep, I'm not desperate and I’m not begging. But I will say that I want to be married to a woman who sleeps in the same bed as me, I don’t want to be married to a woman who doesn’t. Make your own choice."
/r/MarriedRedPill16/04/24 04:46 PM
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OYS #8 44 yo, 6’1”, 188lbs, 13-14% BF (estimated) Married 17yrs, together 23yrs, Wife is 44yo, 3 kids 15, 12, and 9 Fitness: BP: 135 4x8 (injury) / SQ: 245 3x5 / DL: 135 4x12 (Injury) / Pull-Ups 4x8 Sidebar: READ: NMMNG, MAP, Rational Male 1 & 2, WISNIFG, TWOTSM, 48 Laws of Power, PFP, SGM, MMSLP, Praxeology Frame & Dread, Book of Pook, Bang, The Game, Models, Seduction, CURRENTLY READING: A New Earth: again Physical, & Lifting: Lost a few pounds while slacking off on eating. Haven’t been gettin…
/r/MarriedRedPill16/04/24 02:21 PM
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You’re not even good at LARPing. You’re a mess, OYS or go away.
/r/askMRP03/04/24 03:51 AM
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“Our life isn’t porn” - shit test You should laugh at this. She is trying to avoid the anxiety she has about keeping up with your sex-drive. She fears that if she can’t keep up you might stray. This is dread, this is good… if you don’t fail the shit-test.
/r/MarriedRedPill03/04/24 03:29 AM
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Kicking YOUR guests out of YOUR party!?! WTF? You need to work on your Mayor Game
/r/MarriedRedPill03/04/24 02:09 AM
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Other guys have said it, but I’ll reiterate, she needs to get a job. Does she have a degree? Has she worked before? At the very least if you can prove that she doesn’t NEED your money then you’re not in as bad of a situation as you think you are. I was looking at similar scenario prior to my wife going back to work. She got back into her career and now I would be looking at $200/month in child support and no alimony. It makes a BIG difference.
/r/MarriedRedPill02/04/24 05:30 PM
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OYS #7 44 yo, 6’1”, 187lbs, 13-14% BF (estimated) Married 17yrs, together 23yrs, Wife is 44yo, 3 kids 15, 12, and 9 Fitness: BP: 135 4x8 / SQ: 225 4x7 / DL: 135 4x12 (Injury) / Pull-Ups 4x8 Sidebar: READ: NMMNG, MAP, Rational Male 1 & 2, WISNIFG, TWOTSM, 48 Laws of Power, PFP, SGM, MMSLP, Praxeology Frame & Dread, Book of Pook, Bang, The Game, Models, Seduction, CURRENTLY READING: A New Earth: again Physical, & Lifting: Took the week off for spring break and realized I am shit at keeping up on w…
/r/MarriedRedPill02/04/24 02:50 PM
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Stop caring about your emotions. Start caring about who YOU are at your core.
/r/MarriedRedPill25/03/24 12:39 PM
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Realizing this more and more each day.
/r/MarriedRedPill20/03/24 02:38 PM
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If dread hasn’t worked and the 1,000 foot rope hasn’t started to tighten, Bitch Management seems a far better approach as a last-ditch attempt instead of continuing the lead/follow dynamic. Still, if she has no attraction to you, the compliance tests are just a path to knowing where you stand with her rather than getting her to do what you want her to do. One word of caution, if you think she is going to keep failing the compliance tests, and this are headed for divorce, are you sure you want he…
/r/MarriedRedPill20/03/24 03:41 AM
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< “everytime I receive some comfort or results in my life” You are nowhere near being your own mental point of origin. You’re looking for external approval, validation, and a pat on the head. What’s worse is that you’re not angry. You should be angry at yourself at the very least for not seeing your behavior as frameless. Dig deep.
/r/MarriedRedPill20/03/24 03:14 AM
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All true but I’ll add that for many guys early on it’s important to create a little time and space between rejection and moving on. Otherwise, whether you are or not, you look butt-hurt.
/r/MarriedRedPill20/03/24 02:45 AM
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Flowers? Ouch. Reward bad behavior much?
/r/MarriedRedPill20/03/24 02:25 AM
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So I challenged myself in terms of going out at a bar alone. Honestly I’ve always considered this to be very degrading to do This is so dumb. Just go. If you need a reason, how about people watching or listening to live music? Some guys who have lives full of abundance go to bars alone. Mick Jagger did it recently and no one noticed.
/r/MarriedRedPill19/03/24 08:55 PM
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In one moment you're feeling despair, in another you're feeling free. I would argue that in your case freedom is the opposite of despair. Those negative feelings will fade over time. Keep focused on the feeling that the idea of freedom carries. Marriage or Divorce, either way you're going to come out better on the other side. Keep it up.
/r/MarriedRedPill19/03/24 06:19 PM
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OYS #6 44 yo, 6’1”, 190lbs, 13-14% BF (estimated) Married 17yrs, together 23yrs, Wife is 44yo, 3 kids 15, 12, and 9 Fitness: BP: 135 4x8 / SQ: 225 4x7 / DL: 135 4x12 (Injury) / Pull-Ups 4x8 Sidebar: READ: NMMNG, MAP, Rational Male 1 & 2, WISNIFG, TWOTSM, 48 Laws of Power, PFP, SGM, MMSLP, Praxeology Frame & Dread, Book of Pook, Bang, The Game, Models, Seduction, CURRENTLY READING: A New Earth: again Physical, & Lifting: Making headway with figuring out my nerve damage, getting more sensation as …
/r/MarriedRedPill19/03/24 01:57 PM
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Mate-guarding, except it’s over a sweatshirt, not a strong look. You should’ve just made fun of her by asking “oh is that your new boyfriend” or something to make her know you’re not threatened , but then you’d be lying. Right? Now you have to back it up. What are you gonna do to not further DLV?
/r/askMRP18/03/24 03:09 AM
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Have you tried Horns’s Cheat Codes to Blow Up Your Sex Life?
/r/askMRP16/03/24 03:22 AM
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Although this scenario is absolutely crossing a boundary, you don’t have the frame to enforce it. You’re gonna blow it and end up displaying low value especially if you don’t have evidence. In the mean-time get your fat ass to the gym and become the prize. Then make your decision.
/r/askMRP14/03/24 07:39 PM
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So you’re learning that looks alone aren’t enough. Add to your program Frame and Game and also be willing to walk away There are no cheat codes so hit the sidebar and get to work.
/r/askMRP10/03/24 02:12 PM
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Iron rule #7? Do you even like your wife?
/r/MarriedRedPill07/03/24 03:56 AM
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I agree with everything you called me out on. Nah you are just a validation whore and when you dont get it you act out. I think this is the best summarization my past behavior and mental state. See yourself as a man who is worth something and learn to value your time. Create a vision for yourself and stop coasting through life This will be the focus of my actions this next week. Thank you.
/r/MarriedRedPill05/03/24 09:56 PM
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OYS #5 44 yo, 6’1”, 190lbs, 13-14% BF (estimated) Married 17yrs, together 23yrs, Wife is 44yo, 3 kids 15, 12, and 10 Fitness: BP: 135 4x8 / SQ: 225 4x7 / DL: 135 5x12 (Injury) / Pull-Ups 4x8 Sidebar: READ: NMMNG, MAP, Rational Male 1 & 2, WISNIFG, TWOTSM, 48 Laws of Power, PFP, SGM, MMSLP, Praxeology Frame & Dread, Book of Pook, Bang, The Game, Models, Seduction, CURRENTLY READING: A New Earth: again Physical, & Lifting: Still trying to get past the nerve damage that’s caused my right arm and pe…
/r/MarriedRedPill05/03/24 04:15 PM
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your hypothetical future woman doesn’t care how or why you’re awesome just that you are awesome. U/sepeans had a great post on this: https://www.reddit.com/r/marriedredpill/s/xbkJYyJ1cw
/r/askMRP27/02/24 12:10 PM
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OYS #4 44 yo, 6’1”, 190lbs, 15% BF (estimated)Married 17yrs, together 23yrs, Wife is 44yo, 3 kids 15, 12, and 9 Fitness: BP: 135 4x8 / SQ: 225 4x7 / DL: Injury Sidebar: READ: NMMNG, Rational Male, WISNIFG, TWOTSM, 48 Laws of Power, PFP, SGM, MMSLP, Praxeology, Book of Pook, Bang, The Game, Models, Health, Physical, & Lifting: Took the week off from lifting due to getting a vasectomy.I am looking forward to pushing it hard in the gym this week. Mindset: I realized last week just how much of my ow…
/r/MarriedRedPill13/02/24 10:13 PM
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Mainly STFU, be positive, be present, recognize ego, get to work and OMS.
/r/MarriedRedPill07/02/24 06:25 PM
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You’re right, I should’ve been ready to actually divorce. I bluffed, she called it. It was all part of my going Rambo with no plan. I’m moving on like you said with small, actual changes. Instead of the stupid LARPing shit I was doing.
/r/MarriedRedPill07/02/24 02:02 AM
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I agree on all points except for the quitting part.
/r/MarriedRedPill06/02/24 06:35 PM
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OYS #3 (my last OYS was almost 2 years ago on a different account) 44 yo, 6’1”, 190lbs, 15% BF (estimated) Married 17yrs, together 23yrs, Wife is 44yo, 3 kids 15, 12, and 9 Fitness: BP: 135 4x8 / SQ: 225 4x7 / DL: Injury Sidebar: READ: NMMNG, Rational Male, WISNIFG, TWOTSM, 48 Laws of Power, PFP, SGM, MMSLP, Praxeology, Book of Pook, Bang, The Game, Models, CURRENTLY READING: A New Earth, and You Are the Placebo Health, Physical, & Lifting: Back in March of 2023 I got a disc bulge. The most pain…
/r/MarriedRedPill06/02/24 05:26 PM
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