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hell yeah, gotta celebrate the wins man
/r/MarriedRedPill24/10/24 06:30 PM
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Glad I could help. I've learned a lot from Horns and he's helped me work out a ton of stuff (whether he knows it or not), so I'm glad I could pay it forward it some way
/r/MarriedRedPill25/09/24 09:51 PM
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Yeah, she's been wanting it for years. She certainly wants to feel better for herself and she also wants to look good for me
/r/MarriedRedPill25/09/24 09:17 PM
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yessir, good things happen to you when you're putting in the work
/r/MarriedRedPill20/09/24 03:27 PM
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The fact that I'm still with her means that she also went and lost a ton of weight. That being said, I'm still more attractive than her. And that's how I want it to be. It's a neat little stat bonus guys get as they age. Once I get used to my new financial rhythm from my promotion, I'm gonna get her some tits.
/r/MarriedRedPill19/09/24 06:21 PM
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There are dozens of us! Dozens!
/r/MarriedRedPill19/09/24 03:02 PM
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Oh yeah, right now my wife makes it easy by constantly begging for bondage violence but it's definitely the kind of dynamic where you can easily go way too hard in the comfort side. I remember years back reading about how you were on Cialis and I was like "holy shit that's insane!" And then I got there and I was like "Ah, yeah this is absolutely necessary, my dick feels like a flat bike tire right now". it consumes a lot of time training a girl this way to associate all feelings in a sexual way.…
/r/MarriedRedPill19/09/24 12:40 AM
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I did a lengthy dirty bulk last year and I definitely looked like Beefycake Cartman once 2024 kicked off I'm definitely paying for it this year, most of my time has been spent cutting with a few maintenance breaks to keep my metabolism from falling off a cliff
/r/MarriedRedPill18/09/24 07:49 PM
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Man, sounds like things worked out pretty well for this "guytahtvisualizes" dude. ;) Glad to see you're still doing your thing, man
/r/MarriedRedPill18/09/24 02:47 PM
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Maybe by the fourth pass it'll be publishable :D
/r/MarriedRedPill18/09/24 02:30 PM
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DM me
/r/MarriedRedPill18/09/24 02:21 PM
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We do what we can ;)
/r/MarriedRedPill17/09/24 11:27 PM
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Yikes...did he say why?
/r/MarriedRedPill17/09/24 10:13 PM
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TRT also helps a lot. Also, I recommend checking out Hims. They're a lot easier to go through to get that kinda stuff
/r/MarriedRedPill17/09/24 10:11 PM
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I'm on Cialis. Not because my dick is broke, but because it's the only way I can keep up with the demand. That woman is a full-on succubus at this point, not that I'm complaining.
/r/MarriedRedPill17/09/24 09:30 PM
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yeah I remember reading it years ago. it was a good one. What happened to blarg? Why did he delete out?
/r/MarriedRedPill17/09/24 08:49 PM
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You're right, I do know why I wrote this FR. If I was looking for MRP attaboys, I would have been posting here a lot more in the first place. That being said, you did have a pretty good point about that post being a pile of shit wall of text.
/r/MarriedRedPill17/09/24 08:39 PM
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Oh, I saw that. I stand by everything I said. I'm talking about your agreement to not be "left alone with the kids for an extended period of time." And setting a covert contract around return times. And being butthurt and scoreboarding that you had to "proceed with bedtime" at all. Those don't tend to come from a place of competence. Again, it's pretty unattractive behavior. And she can feelz the real reason behind it a lot better than you realize. You're not in a place yet where you can demand …
/r/MarriedRedPill10/05/23 05:04 PM
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I'll take it one further -- if you can't handle three little kids for an extra hour, then now you know what you need to level up with in your life. 'Cause honestly, the whole "can't be left to manage them solo for an extended period of time" bit is pretty pathetic. And nothing says "man child" more than needing mommy to come home on time so that you don't have to be left with the kids for too long, poor baby. That's unattractive as fuck. Don't be unattractive. What's that thing we talk about her…
/r/MarriedRedPill10/05/23 04:35 PM
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With the Kino stuff you could try making it more non-sexual and perhaps focus on just introducing more physical touch without it needing to be sexual. One autistic point here -- it's not about "non-sexual" touch, per se -- it's about blurring the lines between sex and intimacy. It means that sexual touch doesn't have to be just grabbing her ass or squeezing her tits. It means that you're also doing all those things you describe and they're fun -- but you also have to understand that to women, to…
/r/MarriedRedPill10/05/23 03:53 PM
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​ I just thought it was kind of disrespectful and presumptuous because I know the reaction I’d get if I had done the same. Do you see where you're scoreboarding here? Do you see this covert contract here? If you were more assertive, and if you had real frame and not ego posing as frame, the whole "if I had done the same" bit would never even register to you. You wouldn't be trying to "TeAcH tHaT bItCh A lEsSoN". You'd just go out and freely do what you want. If you got shit about it you'd have f…
/r/MarriedRedPill10/05/23 03:38 PM
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Have you thought of upping your surplus by a bit more, like 100-200 calories a day? Also, here's the deal with both weight loss and weight gain -- it's not linear. Sometimes it feels like an eternity before your average weight budges in either direction. That's just how it is. Stay consistent with it and don't freak out. Maybe slow down and stop weighing yourself daily, look at your weight every week or two instead.
/r/MarriedRedPill10/05/23 02:42 PM
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You don’t need to “be the emotional author” of your house, that’s a huge covert contract and I hope you see it there. The difference between that and frame is with frame you’ll enjoy yourself and be positive whether they are or not, and you understand that the invitation is extended to them and they’re free to accept it or not
/r/MarriedRedPill05/05/23 01:22 PM
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Another way is just to learn the words like: "Oh yeah? Tell me more", or "No way....", or "Mmmhmm". That's not being an emotional tampon. It took me way too long to realize exactly this and give myself permission to play the game instead of getting all hung up about whether I was being an emotional tampon or not. Women don't want your advice, they don't want you to saaaaave them -- they just want to feel strength back. Sometimes it's as simple as (appearing) engaged, or you just responding with …
/r/MarriedRedPill04/05/23 09:08 PM
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2 months?! You're either super optimistic or you have no idea what you're getting into. Try 4 months unless you're one of those people that can get by on 1500 cal/day
/r/MarriedRedPill04/05/23 08:29 PM
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Going by your lifts, at this point if you can gain 10 pounds of muscle in a year then you're probably on gear. Nothing wrong with that, and peptides will help with a few things but you've gotta be realistic with your expectations
/r/MarriedRedPill04/05/23 08:25 PM
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been holding off on it for way too long!
/r/MarriedRedPill03/05/23 05:52 PM
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You can either start living in the moment and finding joy and contentment in all the things that make your life awesome or just cut to the chase and suck start a shotgun. And if you don't have things in your life that make them awesome, then start finding those. If you "chase" fulfillment, you'll never find it. Kind of like how if you're always begging for sex you never get it. It's almost like there's a book in the sidebar that has a whole section in it about letting go and living life instead …
/r/MarriedRedPill03/05/23 02:42 PM
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Oh right, I forgot about that residency situation. But either way you definite get the gist — no sense drawing it out longer than you have to. I think something that often goes I acknowledged is that when guys get their heart broken, it hurts a lot deeper and worse than it does for girls. There’s a reason why you see some dudes take years to get over something like this. Don’t rush the process or anything…you’ll probably be working through this long after the papers have been signed. Don’t let t…
/r/MarriedRedPill02/05/23 06:47 PM
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Can I push through the bullshit if a return is in order and work on my assertiveness and breaking nice guy behaviors? ​ Sounds like you're still working out the feelings, and a part of you still is in love with her. That's normal, these are a lot of complex emotions you're processing and it's not going to resolve itself overnight. Here's the reality: your marriage is black on ammo, bingo on fuel, past the point of no return, Article-15'd, NJP'd, masted, KIA, or whatever other military term you w…
/r/MarriedRedPill02/05/23 02:45 PM
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Yeah, answering “officer” or “enlisted” from a throwaway account on an obscure Reddit board is definitely gonna give that Chinese OSINT team the lead it needs to build a target profile for this guy 🤣🤣
/r/MarriedRedPill02/05/23 03:38 AM
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Yeah…the older ones were better, the crews were a lot more interesting and you see the whole red pill Petri dish thing a lot more
/r/MarriedRedPill02/05/23 03:34 AM
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Oh man I haven't even seen the latest season. Captain Lee is awesome and he always is awesome. There's one season where they have a different captain for like an episode and you can tell how bad he sucks. The one I'm on, Season 9, has a really good example of both a chronically insecure Nice Guy and a dude who is the polar opposite of that.
/r/MarriedRedPill01/05/23 06:50 PM
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Yeaaaaaaah that's my bad then, I don't go back and read through comment history that much and I figured you were just another new guy going Rambo with his physique and trying to get shredded before he'd actually built up any muscle. Also I'm lazy and I didn't read your actual stats :D
/r/MarriedRedPill27/04/23 03:37 PM
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Dude I’m gonna level with you here Sub 10% body fat is super overrated and unless that’s your HARD goal you’re gonna give yourself more mental issues trying to get there. Like honestly, is the body dysmorphia worth it? Does that help you build a frame? Hard abs are also super overrated. You know you can bulk your way into that kinda stuff, right? Like shit man, even at 18% I still have an outline and an Adonis belt. It’s not SHREDDED but you can tell it’s there. Being even 18-20% body fat but al…
/r/MarriedRedPill27/04/23 01:35 PM
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Bruh that ain’t enough to compromise OPSEC
/r/MarriedRedPill27/04/23 12:46 PM
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For real man. This shit came so naturally to you at one point
/r/MarriedRedPill26/04/23 10:17 PM
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the water gain told me I'm not as lean as I thought, What the hell does that even mean? Water is not fat. Shifting to a surplus means you gain a few pounds of water weight and glycogen in the first week dude. That's just how it is. It doesn't affect your overall body composition at all, and if you're suddenly "too fat" from that then you are way too much in your head about how you look. What's your bf%?
/r/MarriedRedPill26/04/23 08:40 PM
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I'm gonna jerk myself off a little using a quote I dug up from my memories and left in another comment for another guy In all of living, have much of fun and laughter. Life is meant to be enjoyed, not just endured. They're bluepilled AF but sometimes long-dead Mormon leaders have some pretty decent life advice. I'm gonna be living that more myself. I really enjoyed Dieda's lectures. It doesn't come off as much in his writing but he has a really sharp sense of humor in person.
/r/MarriedRedPill26/04/23 08:36 PM
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It's really easy to get OI about it when you're having a good time no matter what. Look man, I'm sure it's part of the process (certainly was for me) but it's really easy to get autistic with this stuff and turn into a robot. In my case, I ended up getting so hung up on OI that I stopped being OI because OI became the outcome I started to depend on. I started taking this stuff too seriously and everything felt like a slog. I forgot that life is still meant to be enjoyed, not just endured. I was …
/r/MarriedRedPill26/04/23 08:06 PM
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yeah, I'm more or less in agreement with you on that. At this point I find more value in commenting on stuff than posting OYS entries every week, and having the refreshers is pretty helpful right now as well
/r/MarriedRedPill26/04/23 07:56 PM
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Here's something that we don't say as much as we should here -- Your sex life should be about FUN. That shit should be another hobby for you. Like, hell. I got into building model airplanes lately, and y'know what? I'm damn near obsessed with it. I think about it all the time. I have a list on my phone of all the kits I want to build. I get a ton of satisfaction seeing my skills and eye for detail improve with every model I finish. What is a hobby? Something you enjoy doing. You think about your…
/r/MarriedRedPill26/04/23 06:14 PM
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as long as you focus on "punishing", you are keeping a scoreboard and letting it run your life. The whole "teach that bitch a lesson" mentality just robs you of actual self development and it means you have no frame.
/r/MarriedRedPill26/04/23 06:02 PM
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Free Weight Curls 20 lb 5x5 You are wrong. You have fuckarounditis. And nobody cares how much you can curl, that doesn't mean shit. 5x5 is absolutely worthless for an accessory lift that needs to be set in the 8-12 rep range at the very least. Stop wasting your time. Get on a structured program like Stronglifts 5x5 or GZCLP or the like. When you're starting out, your routine needs to be focused on the following: -Bench -Squat -Deadlift -Overhead Press -Pull-ups/Chin-ups/Rows -Dips And that's it.…
/r/MarriedRedPill26/04/23 05:43 PM
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totally unrelated -- are you officer or enlisted?
/r/MarriedRedPill26/04/23 05:26 PM
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This is why The Rational Male and Practical Female Psychology are required reading.
/r/MarriedRedPill26/04/23 05:22 PM
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RP is about fucking initially, and but it's ultimately about self-actualization. And for me, I am still very much in the process of "having" frame and becoming congruent with that vision of the ideal me in my head. That's why I came back to OYS and why I still post them from time to time. I've certainly found a lot of helpful material outside of here but sometimes I'd rather hear from the other guys who are also in the trenches
/r/MarriedRedPill26/04/23 05:19 PM
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Yeah I don't mention it in my normal OYS stuff because I haven't had problems there for quite some time now ;)
/r/MarriedRedPill26/04/23 02:53 PM
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Who said that's pity? That's the helpful shit to focus on so you don't turn into a victim
/r/MarriedRedPill25/04/23 09:41 PM
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That first one is normally what I do. I’m gonna try more of your second approach, I like immediate disengagement followed by the delayed consequence/compliance test approach
/r/MarriedRedPill25/04/23 07:01 PM
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It’s been a legit surprise to me…normally i hate reality TV but I gave it a go when my wife started watching it and I actually ended up loving it.
/r/MarriedRedPill25/04/23 06:59 PM
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Nah, my dads anger was a lot more uncontrolled than that. Mostly just had fear around him in general, which is a lot of the reason why I was working so hard on controlling all of my yelling and stuff. I took on a lot of his bad behaviors. Good points though. I’m at a point now where I can be a lot more deliberate with things like anger and have it be more meaningful. My biggest challenge, honestly, is that my oldest seems to tailspin into doubling down on incredibly shitty and disrespectful beha…
/r/MarriedRedPill25/04/23 06:29 PM
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Sex is on demand, usually twice a day. Went to a sex shop last week and added some new toys to the rotation
/r/MarriedRedPill25/04/23 06:22 PM
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Don't be that guy that goes off and gets a DUI
/r/MarriedRedPill25/04/23 04:51 PM
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Sure, but I'm trying to point out the bright side here. It's a little tiny bit of a sugar coating over an extremely bitter pill for the poor guy to swallow but I also imagine that it's one of the more liberating things to realize in a situation like that.
/r/MarriedRedPill25/04/23 04:49 PM
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OYS 42 Stats - 34 y/o, married 11 years, 3 young boys, 6'1 215 lbs, ~17% bf Lifts: BP 300, SQ 335, DL 405x2, OHP 200 Yesterday I realized that I'm in another anger phase -- but it's at myself and my own lack of consistency. I'm seeing a lot of glaring holes in my life now that I will be sorting out. Sometimes it feels absolutely overwhelming -- I know what and where I want to be, but it feels like for every thing I sort out 2 more things I want to improve take its place. I've getting lost in the…
/r/MarriedRedPill25/04/23 04:44 PM
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if you want another example of Frame... This is gonna sound really weird but hear me out for a sec. There's this show on Bravo/Peacock called Below Deck. It's a mostly trashy reality TV show about a crew on a private yacht but it's also a total redpilled petri dish. But first and foremost -- the one crew member that never changes is the yacht captain, Captain Lee -- and that guy is like Frame Incarnate. He's also one of the better examples you'll ever see in anything of what leadership really lo…
/r/MarriedRedPill25/04/23 04:04 PM
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Update: I found damning evidence of the affair. Fuuuuuck dude, that sucks. I felt that. Feel your emotions, let yourself process them, and then remember something -- your emotions aren't you. There is a pause between the thought and the feeling, and you can stop before you tailspin. Especially moving forward, the best thing is just being stone cold around her. Looks like the Go Plan is the Go Plan now. At least in that sense, you're free. Set up your divorce to favor yourself as much as possible…
/r/MarriedRedPill25/04/23 03:58 PM
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Spot on. I can sense the temptation to fall back into some beta behaviours as a "reward" based on my previous programming. Luckily I know that this is a trap, especially on the back of Perseus experimentation. Rian Stone talks a lot about this. I definitely did the same thing, it happens to most of us at one point or another. Here's the thing, though -- Beta isn't bad. It's part of the equation. For a sustainable LTR you need Alpha to generate attraction and Beta to generate comfort. You just ha…
/r/MarriedRedPill21/04/23 06:27 PM
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Dude honestly it sounds like you got a good woman at your side. The anger you feel is normal, it’s your ego telling you to be entitled. Just keep doing your thing, you’re on a good track right now. Your biggest challenge will be making sure to not backslide. Also, storms will come. Don’t think they won’t. Nothing is ever complete and the sunny weather you enjoy with your wife isn’t permanent. It will also come again, you just have to make sure you know how to properly handle the weather when it …
/r/MarriedRedPill20/04/23 02:50 AM
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Honestly I'm not actually that SUPER technical with my bench (I don't even know what Westside is), but here's what I do: -Focus on the mind-muscle connection and feel your chest and triceps doing the pushing the most. Also, engage your lats. Feel them assisting your shoulders in pushing the weight up. You'd be surprised at how much they come into play. - Leg drive is essential, I like to keep my legs bent and my feet as close back to the bar as possible. I like to imagine that my legs are like a…
/r/MarriedRedPill19/04/23 06:00 PM
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Yeah, bench is my one lift that's been pretty solid this whole time. It's my only lift that's consistently gone up even on my cut...once I get over this cold I have I could probably hit 305 or 310 if I'm having a really good day. Squat's always been my hardest one, and yeah I do squat high bar. I've been back on a 5x5 routine with it and I'm currently working on getting 295 5x5, which translates to about another 10 pounds to my max. We'll see in a few months what really happens
/r/MarriedRedPill19/04/23 03:30 PM
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It's called Overcoming Retroactive Jealousy. Super useful book that has a lot of good tools in it that go far beyond just overcoming that one specific issue. Has a lot of overlap with some of the sidebar material too. I just checked that song out -- fucking slaps, man. I love rap when it's actually good like that
/r/MarriedRedPill19/04/23 03:28 PM
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Bench 300x1, Squat 335x1, DL 405x2, OHP 200x1. On a cut right now so I'm not really pushing those numbers up too much but I bet I'd probably have ~+5-10 pounds on my bench and squat by the time I move back to maintenance for a few weeks before starting the next bulk. 6'1, currently around 215, cutting down to 205.
/r/MarriedRedPill19/04/23 03:21 PM
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Idk if this is blue pill or not, or maybe it’s just the beta comfort side…but a little bit of appreciation can go a really long way. People close off to you when you’re adversarial and open up when you’re communicating that they’re on your team together. This is where calibration comes in to play. A lot of stuff here makes it seem like we’re all stuck in these hellish dead bedroom relationships married to frigid awful cunts. Maybe you are. But maybe it’s your fault. And maybe it’s your mindset a…
/r/MarriedRedPill19/04/23 03:14 AM
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You can get away with a lot more than you think…missing slightly for a few days won’t effect you in the slightest. Hell I just took a vacation for a week and I definitely did a lot of eating and drinking and not much in the way of exercising. I also have an overuse injury so I have to tone my workouts down a bit so I can recover. I’m spite of that after a couple of weeks my average weight is mayyyyybe a pound more than it was before I left. And I’m back into my cutting routine so it’s going to g…
/r/MarriedRedPill19/04/23 03:05 AM
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Yeah but it’s a praxeology, not an ideology. Just tools in a toolkit. Take what works and leave the rest. I think your last sentence there is powerful as hell and many people would get a lot of benefit with that kind of a realization in life. Hell, it’s part of NMMNG - learning acceptance and finding the flow of life. I really like Watts for the same reason I like Dieda. They do a really good job blending together East and West
/r/MarriedRedPill19/04/23 02:56 AM
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The book I learned that from actually used that exact quote. It’s amazing
/r/MarriedRedPill19/04/23 02:52 AM
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Where I fucked up this week is that I let the negative thoughts of my wife's actions in my last OYS 1 affect me. After the wife ghosted me for almost 2 days I lost focus on studying for the project and got butthurt. I STFU and did not mention it to her but it definitely hurt my ego. Having this shit affect my career is unacceptable and I need to find a way to manage this. I found a pretty powerful tool for dealing with obtrusive thoughts that lead to a spiral of obsessive thinking when I was ove…
/r/MarriedRedPill18/04/23 07:11 PM
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Maybe a red pilled man takes what's useful there and applies it in his life. TBH I think there's a pretty similar track of thinking here -- "you ain't shit and that's okay". We talk a lot about having a mission in life that you commit to wholeheartedly, and that very much is a way of "losing one's self." Maybe that's part of it. I don't think that Watts is suggesting we abandon our needs and wants and personas. I think he's more talking about being able to reach out and perceive the broader univ…
/r/MarriedRedPill18/04/23 07:00 PM
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Here's why I don't think I'm wrong: ​ When I finally do like her, my initiations are not high quality. I get rejected, and I do something else, but I probably radiate an aura of butthurt that's starting to feel like this: "You really don't want to have sex? I hope you realize I'd much rather have sex with the younger hotter women who are absolutely everywhere, AND I've put effort into desiring you again."...but regardless of what I imagine is an abundance mentality, regardless of the evidence st…
/r/MarriedRedPill18/04/23 06:56 PM
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Oh I’m still balls deep in the process and I don’t believe that anyone is ever truly done
/r/MarriedRedPill18/04/23 03:08 AM
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1.) I don't initiate because I don't like her If you don't like her, why are you still in this marriage? ​ 2.) When I finally do like her, my initiations are not high quality. I get rejected, and I do something else, but I probably radiate an aura of butthurt that's starting to feel like this: "You really don't want to have sex? I hope you realize I'd much rather have sex with the younger hotter women who are absolutely everywhere, AND I've put effort into desiring you again."...but regardless o…
/r/MarriedRedPill17/04/23 06:01 PM
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Do you love her? Do you like her? Honest answers only. There's no wrong answer, but you need to own whatever it is and act accordingly.
/r/MarriedRedPill17/04/23 05:04 PM
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I need to own my shit. If I don't, I will become a drunk captain again - whether it is in this relationship or a future one. Therrrrre ya go. Stay plan is the go plan. Do you. For you.
/r/MarriedRedPill17/04/23 05:00 PM
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I have that same abstract strategist that over-plans and assumes shit incorrectly all the time. You know what his real name is? Ego. It's an entitled little shit goblin that utterly distorts your view of reality. It makes you defensive. It makes you adversarial. It makes you act like a child. It makes you entitled. It makes you feel insecure. It makes you see differences and problems when they aren't actually there. It makes it impossible to have any semblance of Frame. You've got it too. All of…
/r/MarriedRedPill17/04/23 04:48 PM
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Second, I informed her that I was taking her shopping and I would decide on a dress for her for Easter. I'll tell ya what man -- I enjoy shopping a lot more now because I pick out things for my wife to wear that I want to see her in. It's at the point now where she straight up will not get clothes without consulting me on it first. And it's fun as hell. I dress her up like my tastefully slutty little doll. Lots of crop tops and thong bodysuits and tight pants that make her hips and booty pop. Pr…
/r/MarriedRedPill17/04/23 04:34 PM
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yeah, it's basically finding joy in the journey in all of the aspects of your life. Been a massive step forward for me and it's definitely been contagious in my house
/r/MarriedRedPill14/04/23 08:28 PM
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You gave some advice last week that really resonated with me and straight up changed the dynamic I have with my kids now — learn to find joy in them, in the people they’re becoming. Learn to turn your interactions with them into adventures and fun little things you do together. All of a sudden your family seems a lot less of a burden and you have a lot more fulfillment in your life.
/r/MarriedRedPill14/04/23 01:50 PM
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Get those arms bigger. U/killingtheblue is right on about size. The nice thing about being small is you get a way greater return in terms of physique when you put on a little mass. I’m 6’1 and it takes a ton of work to make my arms look even a little bigger. An inch around your arms will look a lot bigger and fuller than an inch around mine. Triceps are actually more important to work on than biceps, they’re what give your arms mass and I’m not ragging on you here but your arms could use a good …
/r/MarriedRedPill14/04/23 01:26 PM
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Every PR I’ve gotten in the last year has been to The Only Thing They Fear Is You. That song is like dry snorting a scoop of pre workout for me
/r/MarriedRedPill06/04/23 05:11 PM
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This is excellent
/r/MarriedRedPill06/04/23 02:28 AM
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Mine is the Doom Eternal soundtrack
/r/MarriedRedPill06/04/23 02:28 AM
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110% this was what I realized. It was a massive revelation for me, and I hadn’t realized just that I was being insecure and defensive, but also that I was basically getting in the way of my First Officer doing her job. Making an adversarial scoreboarding climate instead of an appreciative and mutually reinforcing one. I’ve seen some subtle changes in my own behavior now that I’m in better tune with with reality and honestly I feel more in love with my wife now that I’m seeing what she does for w…
/r/MarriedRedPill06/04/23 02:25 AM
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OYS 41 You can see my stats in my last OYS Phone posting cause it’s been a busy day but I wanna at least drop something in and keep accountability I had a really productive week by just sitting back and paying attention to my ego. All of the little negative, entitled, insecure, or just plain incorrect thoughts that would creep in and subtly influence more thoughts and eventually behaviors. A few examples: My 3 year old had a rough night one weekend night when my girl and I were drinking. I went …
/r/MarriedRedPill05/04/23 03:10 AM
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110% agree, I just needed to get back on the wagon
/r/MarriedRedPill01/04/23 04:29 PM
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Here's an example of one I action I took last night: Part of me backsliding has been regressing a lot in my sexual game. My wife got diagnosed with fibromyalgia last year and when that happened I my ego went "oh sweet, looks like you're getting a dread boost." That thought turned into a covert contract of entitlement and began manifesting itself in my behaviors as me expecting her to "up her game" without me setting any kind of expectations or putting in any effort myself to lead that aspect of …
/r/MarriedRedPill31/03/23 07:11 PM
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Being aware of the entitlement hamster as it was spinning in my head. Watching my perspective and making sure I was seeing reality instead of what my ego wanted to see. Just having that awareness again at all would've made a huge difference. Backsliding sucks and you have to spend all that time restoring yourself to your previous state instead of moving forward further.
/r/MarriedRedPill31/03/23 05:40 PM
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Yeah, I get that...I had the same thing when I started bulking. It was scary and I was afraid I'd get fat -- but the truth is, if you keep it moderate (~300 calories) you don't really notice much change and your weight doesn't climb nearly as fast as you'd think. The moderation is the key, and you have to watch your intake just as closely as with cutting since it's so damn easy to overeat.
/r/MarriedRedPill31/03/23 05:36 PM
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Dude you don’t need to turn into a shut off paranoid pussy. Just be more situationally aware.
/r/MarriedRedPill31/03/23 02:11 AM
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It’s almost as bad as Blazer Brass lol
/r/MarriedRedPill31/03/23 12:38 AM
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Storing ammo together with firearm is illegal where I am from. Having guns and pot products under the same roof is a felony where I live. I still keep my gummies in my nightstand gunsafe right along with my pistol Just sayin' ​ But I am also fortunate enough to live in a safe neighborhood. I lived on military housing during a lot of my 20's. "Safe" neighborhoods, regularly patrolled by cops, and I believed in the security theater that it provided. In spite of all of that I still had someone try …
/r/MarriedRedPill30/03/23 08:57 PM
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don't get complacent or backslide That's the hardest part. It's why I'm back here. Keep an eye on your ego, it's not your friend right now.
/r/MarriedRedPill30/03/23 08:53 PM
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I really like the way you laid out your mission here, and the bullet points for what your next year looks like. I'm gonna be stealing a few of them because they're also exactly what I want. Re: 1000 pound club -- did you have a few injuries that made it difficult to progress? Have you tried a calorie surplus yet? My numbers were higher than yours when I started my first bulk 8 months or so ago but after 5 months of pure hypertrophy focus I still ended up well within the 1000# club without really…
/r/MarriedRedPill30/03/23 08:52 PM
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Yeah, and that's a really good way to put it. Something I'd felt for a long time but I couldn't really put it into words until now. ​ Does this desire for comfort limit you Not in the slightest -- it's just nice to know that I'm not a special snowflake by any means.
/r/MarriedRedPill30/03/23 03:06 PM
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When I think back on it, ultimately that's why I stopped posting. Not just to "fly the nest" but also because found that I all too easily fall into that trap as well -- the one where you don't calibrate what's being said to your situation at all, and also the one where you see these people who have succeeded and you immideately feel like you need to improve 9000 things and do it tomorrow and then you'll be there too. You want to put yourself into all those boxes because maybe then you'll "make i…
/r/MarriedRedPill29/03/23 05:16 PM
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Hey no offense taken and I agree with you -- in this place everyone else ultimately is just a projection we've conjured up in our heads based on some words.
/r/MarriedRedPill29/03/23 05:05 PM
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Neediness, validation seeking, insecurity and scarcity mindset, "fixing" behaviors, covert contracts all over the place...all the standard textbook stuff. Since what's holding me back right now the most is my ego, and it always seems to manifest the hardest when I give, and then morph into insecurity and neediness, I'm doubling down this week on BFA #13 and #14 from NMMNG.
/r/MarriedRedPill29/03/23 04:13 PM
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Re-weight and lifts: I put on some weight, yeah, but my goals during my bulk were focused on hypertrophy a lot more than strength gains. And I still saw some pretty decent gains, those numbers are low now 'cause I'm on a cut. I got in to the 1000# club without really meaning to do so -- and I know that it's not that impressive, but the point is that it happened as a side effect to me achieving my physique development goals. But I think you're right, I absolutely did declare victory prematurely t…
/r/MarriedRedPill29/03/23 04:09 PM
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It's a good one. If I'd have read it a month or two ago I might've been able to save myself a lot of hassle from the situation I created for myself right now
/r/MarriedRedPill29/03/23 03:50 PM
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See, I differ from you in that sense. Like, yeah we may be just be collections of ones and zeroes on a computer screen but there are real people creating that input. There's real people on the other end of that input. It's not the same as, say, a group of guys fighting in a war together but in its own weird limited matrix-y way I'd say a lot of us still have something approximating a bond here. Yeah we might not be "old buddies" in the sense of guys who actually did something face to face IRL, b…
/r/MarriedRedPill29/03/23 03:43 PM
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For me it was more that old mental models hadn't been fully discarded, and I was starting to give credibility to ideas and things that I'd thought I'd thrown out. It was weird...almost like a reversion in a lot of ways. I was certainly seeking validation externally in a lot of ways. I was getting hung up on my wife's past again when I'd previously gotten over that shit because for a time I was secure in who and what I was. If you want to ditch the ego, worry less about who may or may not be eye-…
/r/MarriedRedPill28/03/23 10:19 PM
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Thanks man...I'm back here for a reason. Got an ego needs killin'. And yeah, it's a shit situation with ammo. Nobody's "too good" for Wolf steel-cased ammo anymore 🤣
/r/MarriedRedPill28/03/23 09:56 PM
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OH I gotta save that for my cheat refeed days ;) Good to see you too man. TBH your last post was what made me thing "ah dammit maybe I should start posting again for a while to see how it goes"
/r/MarriedRedPill28/03/23 09:54 PM
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Dude I...feel the same way. I stopped doing OYS for a while because I was ultimately running the same game as you - validation seeking, not setting boundaries, attention. Once I took my break, internally as a person I felt much better, like a burden had been lifted off my shoulders. I just had a bit of a nice guy vomit backslide so I'm posting here today for the first time in months thinking it'll help me, but I can't help but feeling a tension in my stomach as I do. Like a constriction wrapped …
/r/MarriedRedPill28/03/23 09:22 PM
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OYS 40 34 | 6'1 | 216 lbs - 17-18% bf - SQ 290x5 (335 1RM) DL 365x3 (405x2 RM) BP 265x5 (300 1RM) Took a 9-month hiatus from OYS to see if I could fly on my own like a baby bird. Things went well for a while. I started just doing stuff more and I stopped being so much of an autistic stoic robot. I stopped worrying about what my posts on OYS would look like. I figured out a lot of things about myself, started being comfortable back in my own skin again. For a few months my marriage, work, and hom…
/r/MarriedRedPill28/03/23 09:13 PM
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Take that Glock and train, train, train. Pistol shooting is way harder than rifle shooting. Your groups are gonna be pretty shitty for a while until you get your trigger press, grip, and flinch control figured out. Flinch was the hardest thing for me, you have to fight your body's natural reflex to want to protect itself from the concussion of the shot. It's kind of like learning to put in a contact in a way, you have to expose your body to it enough to where it doesn't affect you any more. I'm …
/r/MarriedRedPill28/03/23 08:23 PM
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I'm not sure if my previous injury was SI or just muscles being retarded -- or even a combination of both -- but doing actual back exercises is a really underrated part of sports therapy. I am not a doctor, but I can put my broscience sleeveless lab coat on and tell you that weightlifting is a really underrated form of physical therapy for everyone. Because it tends to work really well. Building strong muscle systems and training your CNS to use them properly goes a really long way to rehabbing …
/r/MarriedRedPill21/07/22 06:18 PM
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Stop being fat and 80% of your problems go away. Let's see if you actually do it or not.
/r/MarriedRedPill20/07/22 08:16 PM
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Re: your deadlifts, slow and steady and consistent in the beginning is key to getting over injuries. I had a persistent CNS injury from ego lifting Deadlifts in the past that was only corrected after I basically parked it at 155 for a couple of months and got my back muscles to stop freaking the fuck out any time a load was put on them. I just did my last heavy DL at 335x2. Not a huge number by any means but you'll be able to go a long way if you put in the effort to get your injury healed first…
/r/MarriedRedPill20/07/22 08:14 PM
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If ya really wanna get in the reeds about it ... Jesus -- the Western exemplar of the Golden Rule -- still did the following: -Kicked money changers out of the temple and fucked their shit up -Dunked on the Pharisees in public ALL the time -Hung out with the people most of the public scorned -Lived DNGAF to the fullest when it came to worldly stuff Basically Jesus wasn't the pussy little hippy that most modern Christianity made him out to be. There's a lot to learn there.
/r/MarriedRedPill20/07/22 08:10 PM
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That's a really good point, thanks for that insight. I honestly had debated whether or not to include it in my OYS for that exact reason -- pretty much all of my relationship stuff doesn't really have the headspace to even be included in OYS anymore, I'm a lot more concerned about figuring out me and what I want now. Kinda ended up confirming what my gut was telling me.
/r/MarriedRedPill14/07/22 02:40 PM
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Praising her — yep. Good reminder, and I agree. I try to emphasize the positive and when she slips on diet, I remind her she’s doing well and the important thing is to stay / get back on track. I had also tried to explain how to shift mindset to embrace the hunger / pain / struggle (similar to how someone else mentioned recently in OYS)…just got a dumbfounded look back. Guess I’ll stick with praise / reinforcement. It's not a bad approach, but what you want to do more is praise her when she does…
/r/MarriedRedPill14/07/22 02:25 PM
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Regarding weight loss, have you tried praising her? Even something like “I think you look sexy in workout clothes” can be enough of a bread crumb to get the ball rolling way more effective than “stop being fat or I’ll leave you” will. WotSM is pretty evenly loved and despised in this corner but one thing David Dieda gets absolutely right is that the feminine thrives on praise. One of the most useful tools in your toolbox is praise. You want her to do stuff, you praise her in that direction. Seem…
/r/MarriedRedPill14/07/22 03:47 AM
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I guess preamble was the wrong word. Unexpected would be better.
/r/MarriedRedPill14/07/22 03:24 AM
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It totally just came out of the blue, no preamble or anything. Just an interesting observation, this is not what things looked like at all last year.
/r/MarriedRedPill13/07/22 01:55 PM
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Holy fuck dude nobody is going to read that long boring whiny cunt novel you wrote. STFU and make your shit better. From the few things I did catch in that vaginal discharge of a post it seems like you’re well aware of what you suck at. Stop talking about it and start doing something to fix it EDIT: Against my better judgment I went through and took time to read though your victim puke. There's a recurring theme here. You know what your issues are. Start actually doing the work. Pull your head o…
/r/MarriedRedPill13/07/22 04:35 AM
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Can you elaborate a little more on what you mean here?
/r/MarriedRedPill13/07/22 04:24 AM
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I'll be honest, I don't like it with lighter weights. It's when shit gets heavy for me (which is around 285 lbs with where I'm currently at on DL) that mixed grip feels a lot better. I don't like it with higher reps (6-12), either. You gotta try it a few times with the heavier weights. Let your forearms stretch a little bit and get used to it.
/r/MarriedRedPill12/07/22 08:21 PM
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So just do mixed grip, dude. Why are you so stuck on conventional?
/r/MarriedRedPill12/07/22 06:32 PM
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OYS #39 Me: 34, Married 10 years. 3 young boys. Stats: 6'1, 201 lbs, 15% bf (strongur and Navy).I started bulking last week. It felt right, and I didn't see any sense in waiting around till September to do it. I'm eating around 3300-3400 cal/day and seeing where to adjust from there. Gym: BP 270x1, SQ 290x3, DL 335x2, OHP 170x2 Bumped some of my numbers up in the last couple weeks, which was cool. I'm going to do a straight hypertrophy cycle during my bulk to take a break (and probably push my 1…
/r/MarriedRedPill12/07/22 05:52 PM
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Can confirm, getting rule 9'd a few times was what really helped me get it through my retarded head that I wasn't in my own frame.
/r/MarriedRedPill12/07/22 05:01 PM
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Not really. Sure, I think OP's post was over-the-top and validation-seeking. But he's not doing "twice the work for half the gain," he's getting what he wants in his marriage and he'll be in a spot to be able to continue on with his life as normal if things all go tits up. All the work is something he needed to do for himself regardless.
/r/MarriedRedPill12/07/22 04:57 PM
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Seems like that comment hit a little too close to the heart
/r/MarriedRedPill12/07/22 04:52 PM
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You ever met a woman that wasn't Depressive and/or Anxious?
/r/MarriedRedPill12/07/22 04:51 PM
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That's pretty much the entire experience here summed up. You'll do it again and again and again. We all do.
/r/MarriedRedPill12/07/22 04:47 PM
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You're definitely right about "you haven't clicked into your own". There's a lot I'm figuring out right now, a lot of layers that I've never peeled back until recently. Thanks for the open door.
/r/MarriedRedPill30/06/22 07:04 PM
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Don't thank me. You owe it to yourself.
/r/MarriedRedPill29/06/22 09:54 PM
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You gotta learn to weaponize it, else it'll weaponize you
/r/MarriedRedPill29/06/22 06:52 PM
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I updated parts of my wardrobe, this was a red area and quite frankly still needs more work. I just ordered more jeans and pants from a brand I like last week. I bought some good fitting t-shirts and polos when I was away last week, they fit me way better than my existing shirts and I’m going to make a point of changing out my wardrobe with better fitting clothes This is good. Always dress like a man. Be attractive. Don't dress like a dad. Tanner Guzy is a pretty good resource for figuring out s…
/r/MarriedRedPill29/06/22 03:57 PM
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so I slipped into expecting a particular quality of sex that matched what we had been doing the past month Well, at least you see where that was wrong. You're always responsible for having the sex you want.
/r/MarriedRedPill29/06/22 03:48 PM
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- I rationalize reasons for skipping leg day. of all of your problems, this one is by far the worst. Take the lessons you learn from not skipping fucking leg day and then apply it to the rest of your problems.
/r/MarriedRedPill29/06/22 03:38 PM
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Yup, me too, I think we all have to deal with that little beta shit goblin more than we admit to each other. You can't be brave if you're not scared first. You can't overcome something if it doesn't challenge you first.
/r/MarriedRedPill29/06/22 03:32 PM
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Everyone needs to read this post
/r/MarriedRedPill29/06/22 03:31 PM
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Not him but I think he's saying you can tease all you want, you just are better off keeping it mild and fun.
/r/MarriedRedPill29/06/22 03:29 PM
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"OI means I can walk away" is the aurtistic way to describe it. "OI" is not "walking away in a pouty little huff because mommy didn't want to make your peepee wet". OI -- in the context of having sex with your wife -- is that you carry on with your life and with your day and with your treatment of people around you -- wife included -- the same regardless of whether you fucked her or not. It has to come from a place within, a place of abundance, an attitude that you're not gonna be bothered by a …
/r/MarriedRedPill29/06/22 03:24 PM
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Those were some really awesome reads, thanks for passing that along. I don’t know that I would have been really ready for that message until recently
/r/MarriedRedPill28/06/22 11:34 PM
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You are making the mistake a lot of other people do, where you read that particular post and assume that everything about you is wrong and bad and needs to die. That's the takeaway you make when you have no frame and you're not your own mental point of origin. The intent of the article is for you to deprogram your beta training, not to get you to completely erase everything about yourself. To own yourself, not destroy yourself. To be your own mental point of origin, not to become a hollow joyles…
/r/MarriedRedPill28/06/22 10:59 PM
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My section on Social in my OYS should be called - Work I'm doing to develop new male friendships. That's the area that needs focus. I've dropped having all of those different categories from my OYS all together. I now focus on my breakthroughs, successes, and what needs to be strengthened...partially because nobody cares how much I'm fucking or hanging out with my friends anymore, or what adventure I took my family on that weekend, but also because all that really matters to me right now is if I…
/r/MarriedRedPill28/06/22 07:12 PM
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OYS #38 Me: 34, Married 10 years. 3 young boys. Stats: 6'1, 198 lbs, 14% bf (strongur and Navy). Been working on my tan. I look awesome. Bumped calories to 3000-3100 each day. Gym: BP 260x3, SQ 290x3, DL 325x3, OHP 165x3 I feel like I've been at a plateau for a while, so I'm taking some steps to break it. I saw a thing on a MindPump podcast the other day where they were talking about Doubles for strength gains and I'm going to see how well it'll work for me. If it goes well enough I'll do anothe…
/r/MarriedRedPill28/06/22 07:05 PM
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To go a little further -- If you're doing something -- for yourself or someone else -- because you feel like you "should" do it, then you're already doing it for the wrong reasons.
/r/MarriedRedPill28/06/22 05:42 PM
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No, no, and fuck no. You do not "kill your former self." That's the worst possible fucking advice you could ever give here. MRP and RP in general isn't about killing your former self, it's about becoming self-actualized and congruent. Part of being congruent means you take the things about yourself that you love, you own the shit out of them, and you calibrate them to your new RP existence. You get rid of the bad shit, not all of the shit.
/r/MarriedRedPill28/06/22 03:51 PM
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No, no, and fuck no. You do not "kill your former self." That's the worst possible fucking advice you could ever give here. MRP and RP in general isn't about killing your former self, it's about becoming self-actualized and congruent. Part of being congruent means you take the things about yourself that you love, you own the shit out of them, and you calibrate them to your new RP existence. You get rid of the bad shit, not all of the shit.
/r/MarriedRedPill28/06/22 03:49 PM
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Buddy you're still balls-deep in her frame. This is 110% an OYS post and it would get you Rule 9'd.
/r/MarriedRedPill28/06/22 03:47 PM
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Pretty much it...the big moment comes when it becomes clear that they won't win their last game, so they just decide to go out with as big a bang as possible. Anyways, I just figured you might find it useful considering your situation.
/r/MarriedRedPill27/06/22 03:32 PM
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Thanks for the sparring. I feel like I just got down on the mat and learned a new way to get out of a hold
/r/MarriedRedPill23/06/22 04:42 PM
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It's paradoxical, but the less you seem to care about sex, the more of it you end up having. And that doesn't mean to act sexually disinterested. I mean to not make such big deal over whether you get it or not. Like no joke, most of the time if I get a rejection and then I just go about things as normal, with an "it's all good baby, we'll be having plenty of sex later anyways" and a sly smile she initiates on me pretty soon after. I'm sure it's a shit test or something but honestly I don't care.
/r/MarriedRedPill23/06/22 04:11 PM
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I mean, yeah I think you sound like a selfish cunt. But I'm also open to the idea that I have something I can learn. Maybe even something I can make work for me. Maybe I need to be more of a selfish cunt myself.
/r/MarriedRedPill23/06/22 04:03 PM
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Man up dude. Have you ever thought of just...gently grabbing her phone, taking it out of her hands (or pushing them away from her face) and initiating? Try that next time. Show some confidence and determination. She's not "disrespecting" you, it might just be testing to see if you'll go after what you want. And if it's still rejected, then oh well. There will be plenty of opportunities in the future. The world isn't over if you don't get your dick wet that night. The last thing you want is a sco…
/r/MarriedRedPill22/06/22 09:40 PM
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Don't kink shame me bro ...but yes I get the point
/r/MarriedRedPill22/06/22 08:16 PM
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yeah tbh I started reading through 48 laws of power not too long after I posted that as a sort of self check and it was like "ahh...shit." Perfectly willing to accept where I'm wrong about stuff. I was actually coming in to edit the post and saw you already replied to it so...too late haha. You're right though, it's all amoral and amoral =/= bad, these are just more tools in the toolkit and you use them where needed.
/r/MarriedRedPill22/06/22 06:52 PM
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Ah, that makes a lot of sense to me. What nationality are you? And what do you do for a living? I mean this in all sincerity, good on you for finding something that makes you gobs and gobs of cash and also allows you all the free time in the world to do the shit you actually want to do. Y'know, not all of us Americans are indoctrinated into the plow horse culture either ;) I could be reading you wrong and just assuming the most extreme examples of each of those traits, but the way you describe y…
/r/MarriedRedPill22/06/22 04:38 PM
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Idk if you’ve watched Shoresey on Hulu or not, but you should. You might find something similar to that in the last episode. They’re a hockey team that’s horribly mismatched at the end, so they stop worrying about the scoreboard and the pain of loss and just give their all to playing hard and having fun together. I don’t envy your situation at all man, but looks like things will go out with quite a bang and some good memories
/r/MarriedRedPill22/06/22 01:17 PM
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I get where you’d think that but no. Good read though. I completely agree with your assessment. You think working with them is bad, try working under them and being subject to all the bullshit rules and penalties that they can throw at you. I’ve probably never been more jaded in my life than that last year of my contract. Military leaders are utter shit in general and that’s why my old Drill Sergeant still stands out to me. Who knows, maybe he wasn’t that great and it’s the contrast that makes h…
/r/MarriedRedPill22/06/22 12:42 PM
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None of it. It’s how I’ve been going about it already, and it is how I have felt about the whole situation.
/r/MarriedRedPill22/06/22 12:57 AM
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I agree. One of the best leaders I’ve ever had was one of my Drill Sergeants. He was a fucking hardcore infantry guy who was a very involved and generous mentor. Dude had stories you literally wouldn’t believe. He was really noble and committed, and usually went the soft power route whenever he could. But if someone fucked up he’d drop the hammer and hard so we wouldn’t mistake his kindness for weakness. And anytime we got punished he got down in the trenches with us and subjected himself to it …
/r/MarriedRedPill22/06/22 12:48 AM
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Oh dude, I totally feel where you’re coming from. It didn’t really come across at all, but I just because I am different now and more of a man doesn’t mean I don’t still see and understand the necessity of connecting with them, trying to find common ground, and being self-aware enough to know that nobody likes the self-important dick who dunks on them all the time. Nobody likes the high horse asshole who actively makes them feel bad, and that’s not the game I play. And honestly, I fully realize …
/r/MarriedRedPill22/06/22 12:32 AM
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OYS #37 Me: 34, Married 10 years. 3 young boys. Stats: 6'1, 198 lbs, 14% bf (strongur and Navy). I was out of town on a work project last week and didn't have access to a gym. Also all my coworkers are fat fucks so I had to really watch my eating like a montherfucker. I came up with a bodyweight routine that challenged me pretty well...not the same as lifting heavy things but it was much better than nothing. No excuses to sit around and be lazy, and where I'm at now I honestly hate not working o…
/r/MarriedRedPill21/06/22 05:38 PM
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Yeah, that song was SUPER SOAD-ish, it’s what turned me on to them in the first place. They’re actually gonna be playing Hellfest together this week which is pretty rad. And thanks man. I’m trying to find a before picture but I don’t have any. But I’ve been working my ass off in the gym and kitchen and I’m just getting started. I’m so hyped for what I’m gonna look like after a proper bulk this winter
/r/MarriedRedPill08/06/22 03:42 PM
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Shiiiiiiit, that’s insane. Thanks for the recommendations. I’m gonna have some fun experimenting in the gym
/r/MarriedRedPill08/06/22 01:05 PM
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Thanks man. I’ve been debating switching to front squats for a while now. There’s still a part of me that wants to be squatting at least three plates first and I’m relatively close to that, but we’ll see how the next month goes And I actually do have some direct trap work right now, I bet I’ll start seeing the results in a few more months
/r/MarriedRedPill08/06/22 12:05 PM
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Nah man the point is that nobody cares, and it doesn’t really help you much in your RP goals outside of using game to evangelize to random strangers. Maybe it matters to you, great. There’s a ton of spiritual stuff that really matters to me that I don’t mention in my OYS because it’s not related to my RP goals and truly nobody cares.
/r/MarriedRedPill08/06/22 12:53 AM
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Now go to your nearest mall and practice game on all the toddlers there and then take it home and try it on your wife
/r/MarriedRedPill08/06/22 12:48 AM
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Yeah I brought them up since we’re on the Dragonball Train🤣…they have a song called “F” that they wrote about Frieza, and it’s rad as fuck. Akira Toriyama liked it so much it inspired him to write the Resurrection ‘F’ movie. As for other good songs…god they have so many. Maximum the Hormone, What’s Up People?, Yōshu Fukushu, Beauty Killoseum, G’olden Guy, and Akagi are in my top. They’re this crazy fusion of punk and metal and they switch genres like mad in their songs all the but they make it w…
/r/MarriedRedPill08/06/22 12:38 AM
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Yeah that’s because I wrote it for a retard like I was a few months ago when ALL I did was overtly sexual physical contact and it ended up making me seem less attractive for all the other reasons that go along with it. Really the point (based on my own experience ) is that just because YOU might not always see it as sexual doesn’t meant that it isn’t. It’s a neglected component of game to just be fun physically like that. And as you see that it works, you want to do it more. Cause yeah, ultimate…
/r/MarriedRedPill07/06/22 11:14 PM
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Maybe you're right, I have been a bit wishy-washy recently. The external feedback is always appreciated and usually helpful, but I get to be the judge of myself in the end. Either way, that was a brilliant metaphor and a good point 🤣 As a side note, if you're into punk/metal at all have you heard of a band called Maximum the Hormone?
/r/MarriedRedPill07/06/22 09:35 PM
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This is just one of those 3-episode arcs where Goku spends the whole time powering up
/r/MarriedRedPill07/06/22 09:16 PM
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Are you, though? You're making a lot of excuses for yourself
/r/MarriedRedPill07/06/22 09:02 PM
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It wasn't really what I was getting at, but I've been discussing "there" with Blarg lately. You'll never be "there", in fact there is no "there". It's all a process, life is a process, there is no destination. As I said, it's a sideline to the more important points I raised above, but think you might find that mindset helpful as well. That one comes down me needing to strengthen my frame. I still find myself getting too caught up in comparisons at times. 'Cause it's true, there's no "there," thi…
/r/MarriedRedPill07/06/22 09:02 PM
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60% of the time, it works every time
/r/MarriedRedPill07/06/22 08:53 PM
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Spiritual: Assurance of Salvation: yes Quiet Time/Devotional: 7/10 less here, spending more time on MRP content Bible Study: 0/10 Scripture Memory: 3/10 Doing these with my son, has been good, would like to do this more, we have done it less the past few weeks Prayer: 4/10 getting better here Evangelism: 3/10 practicing talking to people to up my social game and stop being weird around new people Fellowship: 4/10 Dude nobody gives a shit. And ranking your "spiritual" life on a scale of 1-10 isn'…
/r/MarriedRedPill07/06/22 08:52 PM
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I used IG instead of porn once this week. Not sure if that violates no porn or not. But its still not what I want out of my sex life. Then stop it, bro. Just stop it.
/r/MarriedRedPill07/06/22 08:49 PM
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There's also a hugely valuable thing in here -- non-sexual (to you) touch. You're just being playful and having fun. And it may not explicitly turn her on in the moment, but all of that physical contact and fun dominance that you're showing are hugely attractive.
/r/MarriedRedPill07/06/22 08:48 PM
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OYS #36 Me: 33, Married 10 years. 3 young boys. Stats: 6'1, 198 lbs, 14% bf (strongur and Navy). Kept things around 195-198 all week. bumped up to 2800 cal/day. I think TDEE is somewhere between 2900-3100 cal. I'll keep things in this range in the summer and then it's bulk time, baby. I'm taking a closer look at my physique -- my upper body is coming along nicely, but my thighs have lagged a bit and so I've added Leg Extensions and Leg Presses to the routine. Gym: BP 260x3, SQ 290x3, DL 325x3, O…
/r/MarriedRedPill07/06/22 08:24 PM
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Do you see the difference I'm getting at? Oh shit, that was huge man. but I see something slightly different in you. I can't quite pinpoint it, but it's a general sense, perhaps that you feel you don't deserve or you aren't quite there or you're pretending or something. That's spot on. It's that imposter syndrome mixed with a bit of a sense that a lot of ways deep down I really don't feel like I'm "quite there" yet. It's just like that mindset framing issue you pointed out -- instead of a defaul…
/r/MarriedRedPill07/06/22 07:44 PM
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Well, it's not that I'm not confident so much as it is fighting off the beta shit goblin/imposter syndrome/failure mindset or whatever else you want to call it. We've all got our moments of self-doubt and hamstering and that fight is probably never well and truly finished. And to put some more perspective on it, what it really is like to me is more of a "how do I take this to the next level" kind of a thing. How do I keep climbing toward the top? I'm sure you've felt this before too...once you s…
/r/MarriedRedPill06/06/22 07:51 PM
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We’re getting pretty autistic about this now dude
/r/MarriedRedPill05/06/22 07:22 PM
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All Mrpers are like that. Don't we all brother. See, that's exactly where my old way of thinking hurt me. What you just said right there? That's the truth. We're all just kind of floundering our way uphill until we start to be less retarded. I keep having this beta shit goblin that makes me think that I'm worse than everyone else, but the truth is that scoreboarding is retarded and the only thing that really matters is "am I doing what I want, and getting to where I want to be?" And I ain't spec…
/r/MarriedRedPill04/06/22 05:20 PM
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The way I understand it is like this: Confidence is a rational by-product of your successes. Irrational self-confidence is the deep internal belief that you can do something and succeed no matter what it is, even if it's something you've never done before. In a comment on this article Rollo defined it as: ...before you became proficient at something you had to irrationally believe that you could. The irrationality comes from daring to think you could.
/r/MarriedRedPill04/06/22 05:18 PM
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It does make a lot of sense though...ultimately the only thing in the way of your success is you.
/r/MarriedRedPill03/06/22 06:22 PM
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Porque no los dos? Irrational self-confidence is just the byproduct of being driven by your successes
/r/MarriedRedPill03/06/22 06:18 PM
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yeah, it's exactly what I am doing. First thing I do while I'm at the gym is jot down all of my successes from the previous day. It's really been helping at keeping my mindset focused on the positive
/r/MarriedRedPill03/06/22 06:15 PM
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That's exactly it right there. My "missing piece" so to speak is killing off that stupid beta shit goblin and shifting my focus to consistent success instead.
/r/MarriedRedPill03/06/22 03:10 PM
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I do, and I like that model a lot better. It is a small nuance, but the removal of obligation ends up producing a much different (and better) effect because it's fully congruent with who you are. By owning yourself and being congruent, their looking to you for direction and leadership is a sort of passive side effect, not your primary intent. You're actualized and self-realized and others naturally see it as something they want to emulate and follow. Gonna be dropping "should" from my vocabulary…
/r/MarriedRedPill02/06/22 07:49 PM
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What changed? A few missing pieces that came together after Horns pointed out that I very badly am in need some legit irrational self-confidence. And he was absolutely right. So I did a little more reflection on it and why I have such a hard time with it. It's not so much that I'm "different so quickly," it's that this whole MRP thing has been this massive disjointed puzzle to me for the last few months. I started the sidebar and at first I was just a dancing monkey -- I wanted to just correct a…
/r/MarriedRedPill02/06/22 05:51 PM
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Yeah, I agree there. No “should” is intended, and it never ought to be. That kind of thing should come naturally as a side effect/consequence of being awesome and having an abundance mindset
/r/MarriedRedPill02/06/22 03:09 AM
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Yes, just go cold turkey. Get it out of your life. Find better shit to do. Like having actual sex. Or doing things that are actually worth your time. Or literally anything else than fapping to porn. The first week is hardest. But it's worth it.
/r/MarriedRedPill01/06/22 08:15 PM
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I didn’t keep up with the gym when I reprioritized my life to deal with an issue. I have good genes that can keep me looking ok, so it’s not as important. Fix this the most. Stop accepting mediocrity. "Good genes" don't mean shit. Take care of that issue and everything else will be a lot easier to handle.
/r/MarriedRedPill01/06/22 07:57 PM
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Nah, dude, StrongLifts sucks. It's barely adequate as a beginner program, and only because you do compound lifts. It's useful for like 3 months and that's only because you get the practice in with compound lifts. GZCLP is a lot better framework for getting started and it's a great springboard for adding in accessory stuff later.
/r/MarriedRedPill01/06/22 07:50 PM
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No shame in crying. Deal with your grief. Do not shy away from it. Trust me on this. It will bite you in the ass if you don't deal with it properly. 110% this. I lost my grandma suddenly a few months back. It hit me like a freight train and one of the things that consumed me was that I felt so guilty that I'd essentially neglected her the last 15 years or so despite her being a massive fixture in my life as a child. It was the first time I'd openly wept in at least a decade. About a month ago I …
/r/MarriedRedPill01/06/22 07:43 PM
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But I can agree with your point that my ego needs to be checked. Strong people with a strong frame are a gift to everyone around them. They lift others up and inspire them and bring the best out of them -- just because they're fucking awesome, they know it, and they have it in abundance so why wouldn't they share it. I've been working on re-writing my shit mental code to stop focusing on negativity and potential for failure and instead focus on the awesome shit I'm doing and how to keep the succ…
/r/MarriedRedPill01/06/22 07:28 PM
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Lemme give you another perspective, and I'm sure the other .mil vets here can back me up on this. The best leaders I had in the Army had one thing in common -- they were in control of themselves at all times. Especially in Basic Training. The Drill Sergeants everyone respected to the point that they'd follow them into enemy fire in real combat had that in common. Sure, they'd raise their voices occasionally when there was a damn good reason to do so, and I think one of them really blew his lid o…
/r/MarriedRedPill01/06/22 07:11 PM
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OYS #35 Me: 33, Married 10 years. 3 young boys. Stats: 6'1, 198 lbs, 14% bf (strongur and Navy). Kept things around 195-198 all week. Raised calories to 2700/day. I'll start slowly adding 100 every week or so and get back to maintenance for the summer. Really stoked I hit my goal. I look better than ever. I'm not peeled or anything but that's not what I want right now. Gym: BP 260x3, SQ 290x3, DL 325x3, OHP 165x3I was very much in recovery mode last week, so I went about 80% of my normal on all …
/r/MarriedRedPill31/05/22 03:59 PM
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Yeah, I do. That and developing that irrational self-confidence are my big focus right now. A lot of resetting and self-assessment going on. Honestly, I misspoke by saying I'm going after a purple-pilled goal. I'm really not, the issue that I had was that I wasn't focusing on me. I just said some dumb shit without really understanding where I was coming from with it first.
/r/MarriedRedPill31/05/22 03:20 PM
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Huh, it’s that simple. Not gonna lie, it’s way too easy to get lost in the reeds with the sheer amount of stuff here. Really I just need to own and strengthen “Daddy knows best” as my frame since that’s literally what I want to be in pretty much every aspect of my life. And then give that gift to the world
/r/MarriedRedPill26/05/22 08:56 PM
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I guaranfuckingtee your woman who's accepted in the bedroom Daddy would gladly welcome the everywhere else Daddy... She's told me as much, in her covert solipsistic way. The reason everything failed was because I lacked the frame and self-confidence to begin shifting the needle in that direction. And honestly, whether it's in this relationship or some other one, that is ultimately what I want to be. That's like my ideal version of myself. Daddy inside and outside of the bedroom. That's the missi…
/r/MarriedRedPill26/05/22 04:57 PM
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When you just offer good beta without the judgement or covert contracts, and your woman knows you're not a pussy, that's the safe space. That's the oak. It's really nothing more than that. That was honestly the best way I've ever seen it defined. Offer good beta, but don't be a pussy. Don't judge. That whole post was gold. In the most fucked up way I've trained her that when she has bad feelz to regress into a more youthful feminine approach to unload them. Can you elaborate a little more on thi…
/r/MarriedRedPill25/05/22 07:20 PM
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create a constant, warm, inviting safe space for women to land within the man's frame. That's nothing you have to do other than be the oak. This is a retard question here, but really looking to swap notes more than anything else. What are some of the things you actually do in order to create that space? To hold that frame? To "be the oak?" We talk a lot about that concept in near-poetic generalities, but I have a hard time seeing specific, practical things that you can actually do sometimes.
/r/MarriedRedPill25/05/22 03:36 PM
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Same here. I wanted to fuck my wife a whole lot more too. That shit is absolute fucking poison
/r/MarriedRedPill24/05/22 09:32 PM
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I didn't say anything so you could fluff me. I'm passing on my experience. Showing you what you can look forward to. I've still got a long ways to go. I am committed to this process. You're on OYS 2, you have no idea what you're getting into.
/r/MarriedRedPill24/05/22 07:35 PM
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No one respects someone who doesn't respect for themselves - and a man's way of showing the outer world he is respectable is by being not fat. It's the most basic illustration of self-respect. It'lll solve 80% of all this. Just to provide an example for you, u/theta_gambler... Around this time last year was when I finally got my shit together and decided it was time to lose weight. I started at 260-ish, and I'm 6'1. I looked like ass. I bloated up as far as 280 at one point. I look at old pictur…
/r/MarriedRedPill24/05/22 06:01 PM
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OYS #34 Me: 33, Married 10 years. 3 young boys. Stats: 6'1, 198 lbs, ~15-17% bf. Having the puke shits all week last week really helped the cut along. I think I dropped like 5 pounds. Waist is solidly at 34" now. Seeing the light at the end of the tunnel in terms of my goal. I haven't been under 200 lbs since I was fresh out of Basic Training. Gym: BP 260x3, SQ 290x3, DL 325x3, OHP 165x3 Didn't hit the gym at all last week for obvious reasons. Still in recovery mode a bit -- my lifts felt about …
/r/MarriedRedPill24/05/22 04:54 PM
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Holy fuck. What a cuck pussy. Thanks for the callout, then. I feel gross now. I haven't mentioned this on MRP but I have cucked a married (Mormon) man before, back in my Army days. We used to hang out a bunch. He was a fat beta. We went out drinking one night and he showed his tiny little Latina wife that he'd rather chat with an ugly Navy dyke at the bar instead of going to dance with his wife. I filled his role nicely for him. Got her drunk at a party a week later and had a three-way with her …
/r/MarriedRedPill19/05/22 06:44 PM
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Ultimately I want to be at a place where I have the abundance and frame to be able to congruently say "we're both here by choice, the door is always open and you or I can leave any time you like." I'm not there yet. It's a tough place to get to for me because I don't have full-on oneitis by any means, but I do love my woman. She's got a lot of good things about her and it makes me want to keep her around because she's a good match in a lot of ways. That's where my scarcity mentality finds its ro…
/r/MarriedRedPill19/05/22 05:50 PM
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TFA is a purple pilled pussy who's wife cheated on him and now he's willingly choosing to be a cuck. Fuck, seriously? Where does one go to find that out? Not that I don't believe you, just looking to get the story there. ​ Read some of my last OYS. I'm not hers, it's just her turn. You better fucking believe it I did, it was pretty crazy. And I get it, that's the mindset I need to take back. I'm not hers, it's just her turn. It's up to her to determine how long that lasts. And I need to have the…
/r/MarriedRedPill19/05/22 03:38 PM
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I think it's self-doubt mixed with scarcity mindset, now that you point it out like that. Honestly, I do have a bigger goal in mind here but there are other things that should be taking more of my attention. I've been doing a lot of meditation and working on mindfulness. I'll check those books out.
/r/MarriedRedPill17/05/22 06:46 PM
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Thanks for that. That's going along the lines of what I'm trying to figure out. It's almost like a placeholder, but when you call it out like that I really don't like how it looks. When you say it like that, I think I'm overly possessive. And I need to really re-vamp my frame into being something that isn't shit. Thanks man.
/r/MarriedRedPill17/05/22 06:45 PM
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Nah, you're right there. That's the reframe I need.
/r/MarriedRedPill17/05/22 06:36 PM
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OYS #33 Me: 33, Married 10 years. 3 young boys. Stats: 6'1, 202 lbs, ~15-17% bf. Gym: BP 260x3, SQ 290x3, DL 325x3, OHP 165x3 Got a full 5x3 of 260 knocked out on the bench. Got 2 full sets of 290 on the squat. Moving the needle up on my OHP. Got puke sick this morning, so looks like I'll be taking a break from the gym this week until I feel better. On the plus side I get a boost to my cut! What's going good: Started getting myself back on the right track this week. Every morning at the gym I re…
/r/MarriedRedPill17/05/22 02:24 PM
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The point was for you to examine your intentions. If you see it as a reward for doing something around the house, it's chore play and you have a massive covert contract you need to kill. If you're just out there doing shit to get shit done, because it's what you want then you're just being attractive.
/r/MarriedRedPill16/05/22 05:53 PM
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I also notice my wife consulting me for advice or suggestions for handling little everyday decisions. I decided whenever this happens to just make a decision instead of deliberating over it. Those are nice easy little wins, and it's a good sign. She trusts your leadership more, even if it's mostly in little ways. You build on these, and they're great practice for when you need to be decisive about the bigger things. Mine asks me for my input on almost everything now and it's second nature at thi…
/r/MarriedRedPill16/05/22 05:52 PM
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Bench- 75kg for 10DL - 120kg for 8Squat - 100 for 8 Currently focusing on abs, arms and cardio over compounds. Bisep Curl is up to 20kg for 12 reps for the first time in my life. Quads look good and defined at this bodyfat but fuck me they are tiny. This is the gayest thing I have ever read. Who gives a flying fuck if you can BiCeP cUrL 20 kg for 12 reps? You actually think that's an achievement on par with something like deadliting 4 plates for reps. Or squatting 3. Or benching 2. "Peeling off …
/r/MarriedRedPill12/05/22 05:18 PM
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Yeah you’re fine, TRT is just doing its thing for you. You’re making great progress on your lifts! Once you get to around 20% body fat give yourself a refeed break and then add refeed days every week when you start cutting again. You're gonna be feeling ragged as hell once you get there and it's a good place to take a little break. Just swapping notes here -- once I got around 18-20% is when I started TRT, and then I took a good 5 month break eating at maintenance. I even ended up doing a little…
/r/MarriedRedPill11/05/22 01:10 PM
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I planned a day off with some friends to hang out, go shooting and enjoy the sun. literally nothing better in life to me than that, right there. That's my nirvana. Ammo prices have really sucked lately, though.
/r/MarriedRedPill10/05/22 09:00 PM
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Lifts : SQ:5x80Kg (176lbs), BP:5x60Kg (132lbs), Row:5x70Kg (154lbs), OHP:5x42Kg (92lbs), DL:5x100Kg (220lbs). How long have you been lifting for? If it's more than like...6 months then those numbers are sad and you need to try A LOT harder. But also have you gotten your T levels checked? Cutting fucks with testosterone and if you're like most men you're probably pretty low anyways, so it wouldn't be hurt to make sure your hormones are decent.
/r/MarriedRedPill10/05/22 08:51 PM
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In the last 2 months I’ve lost 2 inches off my waist but body weight remains unchanged at 190#. Clothes are fitting better, but the weight on the scale is not moving. I’m cheating too much and adding extra junk calories. If your waist is changing, but your weight hasn't gone down... You're still losing fat, bruh. You're in the newbie gains phase, lots of weird and crazy shit happens. You might be cheating too much, sure, but have you also considered that you could be gaining some muscle along th…
/r/MarriedRedPill10/05/22 07:07 PM
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It is too paint-by-numbers, and I don't actually use counting very much on my older boys. My youngest still responds well to counting, but with my older kids it's more of fogging/letting them feel their emotions while also either showing them the consequences of their actions or teaching them how to do something a better way.
/r/MarriedRedPill10/05/22 07:01 PM
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This is the real value I found in the book as well. Not that any of it is "new," by any means, but more that it helps you give yourself permission to use RP stuff on your kids if/when you're feeling bunched-up about it at the time. That's the same use I got out of it as well. It's all the same basic frame/assertiveness stuff, but gives you a lens into how that could look in the Parenting world. Some of the smarter guys figure it out on their own. Some of the retards like me needed to see it thro…
/r/MarriedRedPill10/05/22 06:58 PM
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Revamping my OYSes a little bit, because I like what u/Ryaninthesky123 said: what was your goal for x last week; what did you do last week in the service of that goal; and what did you learn that you are going to correct/repeat? I've been paring my OYSes down to that kind of format anyways, but I'm going to focus more on that. OYS #32Me: 33, Married 10 years. 3 young boys.Stats: 6'1, 202 lbs, ~15-17% bf.Took a break to eat around maintenance for a week. I feel a million times better now. Crushed…
/r/MarriedRedPill10/05/22 06:02 PM
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Thanks man. That's what I'm hoping to get to. In fact, it might BE frame. That's a great point. That's the root of having that control, is that ability to have that space where you take/maintain control over yourself. This week should be an interesting one
/r/MarriedRedPill03/05/22 06:47 PM
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I frankly think it's just basic intimacy. Yeah man, that's exactly what it is
/r/MarriedRedPill03/05/22 06:07 PM
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I mean yeah, you're doing a pretty hard cut right now if you've dropped 14 lbs in 6 weeks. I don't think a deload would help without the proper eating to go along with it. Take a few days and eat at (or close to) maintenance. Just let your body recoup for a bit. I plan on trying out the reverse dieting approach this time around when I'm wrapping up my cut. I'm going to ease my way back to maintenance over a couple of weeks and then see what happens when I slowly bump my calories up over the cour…
/r/MarriedRedPill03/05/22 06:06 PM
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I'm making very S L O W gains haha. Looks like we've been losing at about the same rate, though. I'm not sure if lifting fasted makes that big of a difference or not. I do pre-workout and a protein shake before I go. I also do a refeed day each week. I'm approaching this as more of a marathon than a sprint, and I'm actually giving myself a bit of a quasi-refeed break this week as well just because I'm listening to my body more and I'm not trying to be on a huge deadline. I'm just trying to drop …
/r/MarriedRedPill03/05/22 04:40 PM
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Holy shit...I've done exactly this before a whole bunch of times without even realizing that's what I was doing. I like those moments. They're fun.
/r/MarriedRedPill03/05/22 04:29 PM
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The first blind spot that I identified involved the way that I am talking to and disciplining the boys. I recognized that my tone still gets too condescending and my communications with them too critical. I don’t go completely off the rails, but I also do not maintain the calm authoritative non-emotional demeanor that is needed. I am not giving them enough space to be themselves and find their own way. This is something I need to pay very close attention to. You sound a lot like me here. Boys ar…
/r/MarriedRedPill03/05/22 03:29 PM
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Progress is slow. welcome to the rest of your life, buddy. Probably been my hardest lesson to keep learning and re-learning
/r/MarriedRedPill03/05/22 03:23 PM
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I have a challenge for you. Stop posting the same shitty picture of your body every week. You think you look good because your upper abs are visible. That's literally the only thing you have going for you. The rest of your aesthetics are shit. You do not have the physique you think you do. Your hands look absolutely enormous, because you have skinny girly noodle arms. Your chest sucks. Your shoulders suck. You have no traps, no lats, and I'm sure your entire posterior chain is lacking. I bet you…
/r/MarriedRedPill03/05/22 02:50 PM
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OYS #31 Me: 33, Married 10 years. 3 young boys. Stats: 6'1, 202 lbs, ~15-17% bf. Cut is still going. I'm looking better than I ever have before. I took my kids to a park to enjoy the nice weather last night and it was the first time that I noticed that a bunch of the moms there were looking at me like a slab of meat. I've probably got another month and a half to go. I'm feeling a bit ragged right now, so I'm taking a couple of days to just eat a few hundred calories more than what my deficit is.…
/r/MarriedRedPill03/05/22 02:40 PM
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No, I’m totally on the same page as you there. I also think there’s been an element of reactivity in me too much, like I haven’t been showing that I’m in control. She probably senses more of that in me than I think she does. It’s definitely what I’m aspiring to — masculine container that can also open and express. It’s definitely easier said than done though
/r/MarriedRedPill29/04/22 12:33 PM
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I am getting major red flags still with respect to the fact that you seem like an emotional basket case. Y'know, for all I know I probably am. I think it's just kind of the pendulum swinging from lifelong repression intto openness. It'll even out over time. It seems like the challenge is to harness it. Dude you have no idea. Is it possible that these emotions are subtly causing distrust from your woman? Shiiiiiiiit man. Thanks for pointing that out to me.
/r/MarriedRedPill28/04/22 07:11 PM
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Yeah that’s true. I talked with Horns about it yesterday and it it actually figured out. Heads back on straight now
/r/MarriedRedPill28/04/22 12:36 PM
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I do 5g a day. I don't really notice it anymore because I'm used to it but if I cycled off it for a couple of weeks I'd definitely be able to tell.
/r/MarriedRedPill26/04/22 07:42 PM
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Oh no, I know the maxim -- "she's not yours, it's just your turn." And I actually was thinking of it when I typed up my OYS. Doesn't mean you have a cop-out from taking ownership in your relationship. But it goes along with the rest of the lesson I was talking about...you have to be able to face the pain of loss and still do your thing anyways. "It's just your turn."
/r/MarriedRedPill26/04/22 06:40 PM
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Absolutely. Totally aware of how close I'm taking it to rocky shores right now, but I feel like that's necessary at this moment in order to steer the boat to where I want it to be. Honestly, I haven't really been asking as much of her as I could be. The relationship started out as her job. She pursued me in the beginning. She had to sell herself and prove herself to me pretty much until she got pregnant. She still does pretty much anything I'd ask of her, from making me a meal to getting me a dr…
/r/MarriedRedPill26/04/22 06:39 PM
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That was some excellent shit. I've got a lot to think on in the coming week
/r/MarriedRedPill26/04/22 06:01 PM
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I'd also add that defined abs are great if you have them, but they're overrated and personally I'd rather have a well defined silhouette and Greek God proportions over super shredded abs. Both are possible but dammit I like eating.
/r/MarriedRedPill26/04/22 05:53 PM
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I'm in the same boat as u/AcademicDumbass on finding a life purpose, this was really helpful to see. Penetrate though your current layer to your next layer of purpose. Give yourself permission to "make room" for it.
/r/MarriedRedPill26/04/22 05:27 PM
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I am satisfied with my physique You shouldn't be. All you have going for you is low body fat and defined abs. wanna get bigger arms mainly For that to look good you also need bigger shoulders, bigger traps, bigger lats, a bigger chest, bigger legs... oh shit, sounds like you need a real weight program using heavy weights and compound barbell lifts. the boxy look I agree, it appeared now when bulking. Fun fact: no it didn't. you've been bulking for like 3 weeks. Physique progress moves on a times…
/r/MarriedRedPill26/04/22 05:19 PM
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OYS #30 Me: 33, Married 10 years. 3 young boys. Stats: 6'1, 202 lbs, ~15-17% bf. Seemed like weight loss had stalled a bit for some reason, and then I woke up 3 pounds lighter today. Shit is fucking weird. On track to be under 200 lbs very soon, which is somewhere I haven't been for 10 years. Starting to feel the center line coming in with my abs now. Sometimes it's even a little visible in the right light. I went down a notch on my belt and my waist is now somewhere between 34.5-35". I've got a…
/r/MarriedRedPill26/04/22 04:48 PM
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You'll soon see they don't follow the vision - but they follow captain. This has been my exact experience in the last week. She would follow you anywhere. Yeah, that's definitely been my experience over our time together. She quite literally has followed me anywhere, and that certainly means something. ​ A good captain knows his crew and keeps them safe. You have responsibility now, and it's all "for her". That was something I really needed to hear, it's actually exactly what I needed to hear. T…
/r/MarriedRedPill18/04/22 07:32 PM
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Yeah, that's definitely been the experience based on this week. Been a lot of Oak Tree along with a lot of patience and taking baby steps. Good to know it's normal
/r/MarriedRedPill15/04/22 04:28 PM
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Sometimes when I'm at a urinal I drop my pants all the way to my ankles because I'm sure it's what Ben does
/r/MarriedRedPill14/04/22 04:25 PM
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And like Ben says, facts don’t care about your feelings. I wish I was more of a man like Ben
/r/MarriedRedPill14/04/22 12:29 PM
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I'm so secure I don't even worry that she's never had an orgasm with me. She has vaginismus most of the time anyway
/r/MarriedRedPill13/04/22 03:49 PM
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Nah man, I never took it as that. I always appreciate outside perspectives here. And it's definitely something to be on the lookout for.
/r/MarriedRedPill12/04/22 09:19 PM
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I think you're right on with that. I mean, I did say it was a roller coaster of a week and I'm not kidding about that, haha. Part of it is absolutely a lack of patience, but then it's honestly just things working out in ways I don't expect, where I haven't fully processed the reality of what I'm going through. Shit moved fast this week, and I'm not exaggerating the super low low going into a very high high. There's also a lot of detail that I leave out -- I notice that I get unnecessarily descri…
/r/MarriedRedPill12/04/22 08:22 PM
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You're such a lucky guy, sounds like you've got the best girl in the whole world. Do you take her out to wine bars and have witty banter? Mine loves that so much. Almost as much as she loves it when I ask her to bring me back her leftovers after she goes out for a night with one of her guy friends. She sees that I'm totally secure and so I know she'd never do anything.
/r/MarriedRedPill12/04/22 06:37 PM
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Thanks man! It's been relatively painless this time around. I run a couple times a week and my gym sessions are usually an hour and a half 4x a week so it's been adding up. I might finish this on schedule after all! I'm pretty excited for the challenge moving forward. I just got around to reading Horns' 2nd wave of cheat codes and I've got a lot of twisted ideas brewing now
/r/MarriedRedPill12/04/22 06:23 PM
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I started around 218, today I clocked in at 204. That's not taking averages week to week, though. I've purposely been avoiding that this time around because it gets me thinking about it too much. And I've only been at my cut for a month and some change. I've been eating around a 500-600 cal deficit and take a refeed day each week. Contracts, collars, kink etc. can then be thrown in - but it isn't what is doing the heavy lifting I totally see that. The sex stuff is the fun cherry on the cake and …
/r/MarriedRedPill12/04/22 05:58 PM
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OYS #29 Me: 33, Married 10 years. 3 young boys. Stats: 6'1, 206 lbs, ~18-20% bf. Had a work conference this week, and that meant putting the cut more or less on-hold. I still kept to a slight deficit as much as possible, so I never gained anything that wasn't glycogen. Back on it this week. Gym: BP 250x3, SQ 280x3, DL 315x3, OHP 165x3 Lifts didn't go up, but holy shit did I feel a difference yesterday. Got my 315 5x3 DL back. I was absolutely beaming after I finished my last set. Eating close to…
/r/MarriedRedPill12/04/22 04:43 PM
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Say what now?
/r/MarriedRedPill11/04/22 06:10 PM
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Truthfully…after posting that I started thinking about how gay all of that sounded and I was actually going in to edit it out because it was retarded. Cause you’re right. I was over complicating it, looking at it the wrong way. It does imply a huge lack of abundance. Here’s a better thing then: Be awesome. Be on my shit. And I make my choices and own them. Thanks for that. I was way off the mark with my thinking there
/r/MarriedRedPill06/04/22 02:25 AM
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OYS #28 Me: 33, Married 10 years. 3 young boys.Stats: 6'1, 206 lbs, ~18-20% bf. Weight has been dropping pretty consistently, looks like I'm doing around a pound and change a week. My waist is down to around 35.5", which is where it was before I started my little mini-bulk think. Gym: BP 250x3, SQ 280x3, DL 315x3, OHP 165x3 So my lifts have been progressing, just slower. I got back up to 315 on the deadlifts but only had gas for 3 sets. Gonna shoot for 4 next week. Bench died on the last set, Sq…
/r/MarriedRedPill06/04/22 01:28 AM
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yeah, that was exactly the lesson I learned from the whole thing. I went too overt. I pushed too hard. I tried to ask for something that I wasn't in a position yet to deserve, and in a way that took the covert mystery and process of it all away from her. And that's the thing. Patience. I just need patience. Consistency. To be owning my shit better every day. To be getting in better shape. To be owning my masculinity more. To be directing and demanding and making it all natural part of what I do.…
/r/MarriedRedPill06/04/22 12:30 AM
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Y’know, ultimately, I’d say the entire reason we all ended up here in the first place was because we weren’t men who were worth submitting to. Our women were unhappy because they weren’t able to relax into their feminine and naturally enjoy submission. And the whole RP journey here is about becoming that man. It’s not just “I am the prize,” it’s “I am worth submitting to.” Cause, like you said a few comments back…all of this has carry over into the rest of your world and your mission. A man is w…
/r/MarriedRedPill05/04/22 01:54 AM
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That’s a good tip right there. Gonna try going a little higher up next time :)
/r/MarriedRedPill31/03/22 12:37 PM
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the root is always the same: it's something we do for a woman Totally true. I'm starting to see sex in general that way a lot of the time too. Like, I do it for me ultimately, but I also want to have a well-fucked woman. We both win here. "If she needs it, give it to her.' That's my approach from here out. Formal D/s is not off the table, but it's not needed at this time. Might be in the future. Either way, the shit I want to do in bed isn't going to change. Here's a little field report I'd like…
/r/MarriedRedPill30/03/22 05:04 PM
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back off a bit and watch what she does That’s exactly what I’ve been doing. Good to see it was the smart choice here
/r/MarriedRedPill30/03/22 02:42 AM
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The difference in women like my wife is that in the absence of this, they are fully aware of their NEED (unlike AWALT who just want this). Yeah, I see that difference here. My wife falls into the latter category. And I can see how your wife would fall into the former. I recognized the overt need in my woman. That real need. That "if I don't have this I will never be happy" kind of need. Yeah, and...while my woman definitely wants that direction and submission, and she certainly likes it and want…
/r/MarriedRedPill30/03/22 01:23 AM
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Yeah, it totally is. Went a little too retard with it, but it was a good lesson either way. The dynamic has more or less been naturally progressing anyways, and I see now that I just need to keep doing the work. Like, she’s straight up overtly said she likes me telling her what to do both in and out of the bedroom. This is one of those “peeling back your ego” experiences for me
/r/MarriedRedPill29/03/22 11:43 PM
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Yeah, just cars. Yup. Only cars. 😂
/r/MarriedRedPill29/03/22 11:20 PM
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When my kids blow up things with fireworks I feel guilty
/r/MarriedRedPill29/03/22 08:27 PM
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It wasn't you making them all NASTY back then, good boy. I wish lol. I've cleaned my fair share of other people getting theirs though 🤣 Nothing matches the horror show that was cleaning out afterbirth. Probably because my wife does a better job at it (albeit slower) than I do, because I'm not putting effort into shit that doesn't matter to me. Same here dude. My wife has a little home cleaning business now and does great at it. I'm competent enough to make the house not look like total ass. And …
/r/MarriedRedPill29/03/22 08:17 PM
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I think I need a Moon Stone before I can evolve to (NASTY)
/r/MarriedRedPill29/03/22 07:25 PM
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nah I'm just nasty like that
/r/MarriedRedPill29/03/22 06:24 PM
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Yeah, exactly
/r/MarriedRedPill29/03/22 05:51 PM
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It's OK if you are faking it to make it. But, atually being calm is the goal. Not projecting calm. Are you an oak or trying to project an oak? In other words, kids and women don't rattle me, I don't ACT like they don't. Y'know, for the most part neither does. It's easier to truly be the oak with my wife than it is with my kids at times. My enemy here is my ego. Why are you pushing this? Curiosity, and I'd convinced myself that it would put my on my edge. And as I type this up, I see that the rea…
/r/MarriedRedPill29/03/22 05:31 PM
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20% BF at 210lbs with those lifts? Your scales is fucked. Bin it. Nah, I use Navy method + pics for the bf%. Scale is purely for tracking trends over time. The numbers are off, but they're consistently off. That easier for your made-up-syndrome ass to read? Only slightly Either you're not leading or you're a dickhead with zero patience. Or both. I'm guessing both. Probably both. Patience has never been a virtue of mine. Pointing it out like that, I see that it's something I really ought to be pr…
/r/MarriedRedPill29/03/22 05:26 PM
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Nah, more about the whole "getting off on the power dynamic thing." But I can see that I was leaning on it too much as a crutch to do shit I should just be doing anyways.
/r/MarriedRedPill29/03/22 05:20 PM
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Maybe when he's on OYS 50
/r/MarriedRedPill29/03/22 04:37 PM
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Y'know, I never needed to sneak out as a kid. Not because I was boring, but because I had a cool home life with a wide amount of freedom and never felt the need to.
/r/MarriedRedPill29/03/22 04:36 PM
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It’s been a few years since I’ve been excited about going to work everyday and found ways to weave my work into my mission. It's refreshing to see that perspective from someone who's "made it." Sometimes you just gotta suck it up and grind it out at work while you find fulfillment elsewhere. Car detail Love that shit man. Car detail was my first job as a teenager and it got downright fucking nasty sometimes but nothing beats the satisfaction you get from taking a car and making it spotless insid…
/r/MarriedRedPill29/03/22 04:33 PM
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for the rest of us this is a slight adjustment Speak for yourself, I love period sex
/r/MarriedRedPill29/03/22 04:25 PM
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OYS #27 Me: 33, Married 10 years. 3 young boys.Stats: 6'1, 210 lbs, ~18-20% bf.Weight has been going down. I don't trust the bf% number to be super accurate on my digital scale, but that number has been declining and those measurements have been consistent so that's really all I care about. And I can see a bit of a difference in how I'm looking. Gym: BP 250x3, SQ 275x3, DL 315x3, OHP 165x3Had a shitty cold for the past week, so my last two lifting days last week were deloads. That being said I e…
/r/MarriedRedPill29/03/22 03:49 PM
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Sure thing man. I get why it's not on the sidebar, but it's one of the best guides out there to what Masculinity is, in my opinion.
/r/MarriedRedPill29/03/22 03:14 PM
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I remember when I went full retard and made a book report about a book I barely understood. I got permabanned. IDK why the mods took pity on me. Maybe they'll do the same for you.
/r/MarriedRedPill29/03/22 03:02 PM
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There's an OYS Youtube Show? Say what now?
/r/MarriedRedPill29/03/22 02:43 PM
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Hah I thought my wife was the only one that medicated this way. Seriously though, have you noticed any improvements in her anxiety/depression since you've begun this journey and made your own progress? Of course, not wholly relevant to your journey but I'm asking for my own sake here if your providing a different container has allowed her to flourish and improve? I'd say it's more common here than we think, it's a much better alternative to SSRIs and also I get the side benefit of skimming some …
/r/MarriedRedPill25/03/22 05:00 PM
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Admittedly I haven't finished Pook. I found its style long winded. I'll make an effort to get back into it. There's an audio version and that's honestly what I'd recommend. The guy who does the voice work is really good. It's great to put on while you're doing chores or working out or driving around. Its about being fun and in the moment rather than trying to repeat what has worked in the past, and I'm still learning that. Good, keep up with that. You'll keep getting better at it over time. And …
/r/MarriedRedPill23/03/22 02:47 PM
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Thanks man! Yeah like everything else here it’s been work but worth it. I’m happy to say that I’m at a point where I wouldn’t be jumping into something like this “just because.” Couldn’t say that about myself even a couple months ago
/r/MarriedRedPill23/03/22 04:30 AM
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Oh yeah, I’m not going through anything like that…already went through that same thing. OYS is supposed to be something we write for ourselves and so that’s just me writing through my thought process. I already know I’m way better than all those past boys, and I fuck her good for me. She’s told me as much that I’m the best she’s had, and though I’m sure part of it is meant to stroke my ego I do believe her when she says that. Her actions confirm as much given how much she wants to smash these da…
/r/MarriedRedPill23/03/22 03:07 AM
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Thanks man! I’ve lifted and done conditioning before, so I wasn’t fully starting from zero when I started lifting haha.
/r/MarriedRedPill23/03/22 03:02 AM
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Fuck yes, thanks man. Not sure how I see it going for me, but I do see the contract serving as an initial framework that eventually gets abandoned. Just because I know myself and my wife. And because it's more to get in the pace of things, but either way it's a dynamic that I see as the natural progression of my relationship.
/r/MarriedRedPill22/03/22 08:42 PM
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How does ego stop you from owning yourself? How many times has your ego stopped you from doing a hard thing you know you should do because you stubbornly cling to some imagined end result or obligation? I know I do it a lot. Is there something you see that makes you so confident there’s no way the ship will turn around? A few things really. You took her back once before...after she left you. You even said yourself that she hit the wall and then got afraid and came back. You're balls-deep in a Be…
/r/MarriedRedPill22/03/22 08:06 PM
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Him: "But you're still a fat fuck". Aussies, amirite? 🤣🤣🤣
/r/MarriedRedPill22/03/22 07:29 PM
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It looks to me like drip sex to keep you in beta bux. she broke up with me she hits the wall and wants to get back together The sex never really came back I’ve been fucking 1x per month for 8+ years and the needle hasn’t moved at all since I started in 2017 but she never wants to except around ovulation. By taking her back you showed her that you don't respect yourself, so she can't respect you. ​ If I had some frame Frame starts with you owning yourself and accepting yourself and owning what yo…
/r/MarriedRedPill22/03/22 07:03 PM
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Turns out someone has it worse than Mormons! GFL buddy.
/r/MarriedRedPill22/03/22 05:51 PM
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Do you have a job? Do you not look like a fat bag of ass? Do you not have a FunkoPop collection? Can you find the clitoris? congratulations you are by default more fuckable than 90% of men. Go you. I'd much rather just be awesome.
/r/MarriedRedPill22/03/22 05:31 PM
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My wife didn't even want to fuck me on our honeymoon. wtaf dude Normally I tend to be pretty solidly in the "try to make it work" camp, but fuuuuuck. If she couldn't even fake it on the honeymoon...fuuuuuuuck. Get those papers drawn up man. You deserve a lot better for yourself, and you need to understand that. Don't trap yourself in beta bux longer than you have to be. That's not the "beta shit goblin" telling you it was over before it started, that's your soul speaking to you. The beta shit go…
/r/MarriedRedPill22/03/22 05:22 PM
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it goes against God What in the fuck Are the mixed signals because you're not attractive yet? Maybe. But they seem more like shit tests to me. You spend the whole day getting riled up, she wants to see if you're serious and if you're gonna take her. Asks for cuddles in bed because “it makes her feel safe.” I oblige Big mistake. But also good luck buddy, I don't envy the man who's got years of religious repression to fight against.
/r/MarriedRedPill22/03/22 05:06 PM
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Don't get a trainer, do the research and find a program that actually works. Hint: at your level, it's either Stronglifts 5x5, GZCLP, or Starting Strength. You're a noob. You need to build muscle. "Hypertrophy" programs won't help much, since you'll be noob gains anyways.
/r/MarriedRedPill22/03/22 05:01 PM
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When I wanted act, I acted. And that's why self-validation is the most powerful thing in the world.
/r/MarriedRedPill22/03/22 04:58 PM
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I had some good kino and innuendo throughout the day on the weekend but failed to initiate in the evening (once kids were in bed). here's a protip - PUA is really easy to go autist retard with. It's laden with covert contracts if you're not thinking for yourself a little bit as well. You don't put a "kino coin" in the bank and take it out later. You're working on some massive covert contracts here and they're making your sex life harder. Just be authentic. Be natural. Yeah, we can all work on be…
/r/MarriedRedPill22/03/22 04:53 PM
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I could have reached the main event or maybe a biblical shit or comfort test. Probably an ultimatum. based on your description it was none of those. You are a dancing monkey still. You've changed and gown, sure, but you're still ultimately doing it for her and you probably don't realize it yet. You're not being your authentic self, and if you think you are you need to really re-evaluate why you think so. Been there, done that. like u/AlphalfaSprout said, you're a mess and so she's a mess. Sort y…
/r/MarriedRedPill22/03/22 04:41 PM
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Last night I was asked to help fill my wife’s bedside humidifier with water. I froze for a split second and recognised this as a compliance test. How was this a compliance test? Were you being inconvenienced to do it? Did you just not feel like being helpful?
/r/MarriedRedPill22/03/22 04:34 PM
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I realized recently why none of the PUA stuff really jived with me. And it's not because it doesn't work, it's because it's so easy to be a LARPing covert contract retard with it. PUA's in general have always seemed really fake to me, but I never really could put my finger on why. Dr. Glover said something against it that I really agree with -- you're doing it entirely in someone else's frame. Nothing about it is for you. Be your authentic self. Fuck if you wanna fuck. That's it.
/r/MarriedRedPill22/03/22 04:32 PM
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100% Controlling cumming takes a lot of work and mental discipline. If you're not doing it for you, you're doing it for the wrong reason.
/r/MarriedRedPill22/03/22 04:24 PM
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y'know, multiple rounds are also a thing. Just sayin'.
/r/MarriedRedPill22/03/22 04:13 PM
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OYS #26 Me: 33, Married 10 years. 3 young boys. Stats: 6'1, 210 lbs, ~18-20% bf. Weight tracking is done, I'm right around 210. At least some of that was muscle, I bet! I'm not going to obsessively track my progress like I did before. It ended up being pretty counterproductive in the long run, I just kept getting in my head and looking for cheat codes so I wouldn't have to just be patient and trust the process. I have a Digital scale that links to an app on my phone. I still weigh myself every m…
/r/MarriedRedPill22/03/22 03:36 PM
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the real pro gamer puts in sesame oil and an egg too 🤣🤣
/r/MarriedRedPill21/03/22 08:43 PM
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It really is, man. It's like discovering how to cook. And I don't mean like "throw some veggies in my ramen like a big boy," I mean like "spend 16 hours smoking a brisket to perfection" or "making a perfect steak". You just appreciate yourself and life in general so much more.
/r/MarriedRedPill21/03/22 08:13 PM
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I gotta drop like 20 lbs to get there, it's skinny. ​ ;)
/r/MarriedRedPill21/03/22 08:09 PM
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I love every word about this and wish I could upvote it a thousand times. Time to mature in your own frame which takes years, and also your time to dedicate to your new hobby: enjoying all parts of the feminine. Not just the sex. But mostly sex. You want to play with and manipulate the matrix surrounding the feminine. Blarg and I were talking about this privately. I get why we don't emphasize it so much in the main space here, but it's really one of the best things I've gotten out of this place …
/r/MarriedRedPill21/03/22 07:47 PM
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Do you tell your wife about this so you can get good-boy points from mommy? Not a single mention of a barbell in there. Nobody fucking cares about your skinny ass doing pushups. Pull-ups are a compound lift, but you ain't actually lifting here.
/r/MarriedRedPill21/03/22 07:42 PM
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LARP LARP LARP None of this reads like an authentic man who knows himself and loves himself. You're still LARPing online like a pickup autist but you don't understand half of what you say, and you certainly aren't in your own frame about it. Everyone can see through your bullshit for a reason. Because we were that bullshitter at some point in the past. Take the L, learn from it, and move on. Or don't, it's your life.
/r/MarriedRedPill21/03/22 07:41 PM
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Dude I really appreciate your input here. I have a pretty hard line against SSRIs in my house. I have the same hard rule with my wife, because she was on SSRIs for a bit and they hurt her way more than helped. She uses cannabis to treat anxiety and depression and even though it gets a bit expensive it’s worth it to me to have a functional human in the house and not a zombie. I think your approach is the better one. It’s the harder one for sure, but worthwhile things are never easy and like you I…
/r/MarriedRedPill19/03/22 04:16 PM
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Books like PFP and The Way of the Superior Man start putting a spin on that old model that moves those who are "against" you into a category of them acting neutrally according to their own internal models. If you check out books like Pook, The Alabaster Girl (not sidebar), and Mating in Captivity (not sidebar), you can start to see that there is not really a "neutral" or "enemy" or "ally" or team, because there is no war going on. There's no conflict. The only conflict is the frame with which yo…
/r/MarriedRedPill18/03/22 10:03 PM
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We were still in a small group and she started discussing all the things wrong with mormons, like sexual repression. She talked to me about docking and some other weird belly button sex stuff. She told me her and husband were not virgins when married and she actually said to me, "I used to date exclusively athletes, then I married _____, lol". I'm an ex-Mormon, and I went to BYU (which is a private university owned and run by the Mormon church, for those who don't know) and...yeah. Docking is fu…
/r/MarriedRedPill18/03/22 09:45 PM
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While a wife’s input may present you with insight you may have overlooked, she must ultimately acquiesce to your Frame’s primacy. Shoulda put something like that in my previous post lol. I get what Rollo's stabbing at, and I know you also touched on the same thing a couple of years ago.
/r/MarriedRedPill18/03/22 12:52 AM
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It's way easy to go overboard with resting, too. Nothing I hate more than feeling like I can't go do anything...because then I get complacent eventually.
/r/MarriedRedPill17/03/22 09:17 PM
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That's pretty interesting...I've been chasing after 1g/protein per pound of bodyweight and just trying to throw as much into carbs as possible after that, and I've ended up around that level of fat naturally. I'm toying with the idea of just collecting the weight stats for the first month to make sure I'm eating at the right deficit, getting dialed in to where I think is good, and then just taking a peek for a week (to get an accurate average) 1x a month and making tweaks from there. I was hyper…
/r/MarriedRedPill17/03/22 09:14 PM
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100%. At the beginning, especially, I thought being called out on my fuckups was a "shit test."
/r/MarriedRedPill17/03/22 09:00 PM
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So, see your life as your dictatorship: you make all the decisions of what is done and of whom stays or goes. So fucking make your life your kingdom and rule it like a motherfucker who only cares about his own opinion of himself and who will never compromise what he wants for himself because of one of his “guests”. That's literally what being a solid Captain is, bruh. Captain, Benevolent Dictator, King...it's all ultimately the same mental model. You're the one in charge. You make the decisions.…
/r/MarriedRedPill17/03/22 02:43 PM
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I know, and it doesn't feel weird saying that stuff to myself now either. It's just true.
/r/MarriedRedPill16/03/22 08:36 PM
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bruh, barbells aren't next level. The bar is 45 lbs. You just keep adding weight till you can't anymore, then you work past that until you can again. you've got a lot of scarcity mindset here and you're making excuse after excuse. How seriously are you taking this?
/r/MarriedRedPill16/03/22 08:27 PM
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Yeah dude. None of this made sense to me a few months ago. Now it all perfectly resonates because I've been seeing it play out time and time again in my relationship
/r/MarriedRedPill16/03/22 07:06 PM
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Smaller doughnut = smaller calories
/r/MarriedRedPill16/03/22 07:05 PM
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And that's why writing is important. It's okay to be accommodating. In fact, it's pretty damn good leadership to be accommodating when it makes sense to. Hell, I think even u/RStonePT is going along with his woman's Vegan diet sometimes. The way I see it, she's working really hard and being extremely disciplined about her diet. That's not easy. That deserves some respect and support. If it was you...would you be pretty annoyed after a while of trying to be disciplined and maintain your diet all …
/r/MarriedRedPill16/03/22 03:16 PM
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here That guy's physique is like...meh at best. Especially his tiny-ass arms, given that he's all about dumbbells you'd think he'd have better developed arms. He's been using dumbbells to chisel what little he has, but ultimately he really just looks decent, and mostly because he's got low body fat. He has very little actual mass. Dumbbells are detail chisels. Good tools, but that's their application. Along with machines. Whatever strength and mass you get from dumbbells, you'll get tenfold on a…
/r/MarriedRedPill16/03/22 03:02 PM
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Sounds like you've got it figured out man. Seriously, been really awesome to watch your progress here.
/r/MarriedRedPill16/03/22 03:01 PM
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Ah, got it. Well then, you've got a legit reason, disk herniation is no joke.
/r/MarriedRedPill15/03/22 08:16 PM
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So this is my plan for the week: Go to the gym every day and not give a fuck about everything else. (And well drink two shots of whiskey every day to while meditating about not giving a fuck) This plan is not ambitious, but if I plan on fundamentally changing 10 things next week I will have even less progress. My wife just gave birth So you're literally drunk captaining as well as metaphorically drunk captaining. Here's an idea: Just go to the fucking gym 3x a week. Put the fucking fork down. St…
/r/MarriedRedPill15/03/22 07:55 PM
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I'll give you the first one on your list for free: A shit test is being called out on your bullshit. Being given a chance to step up to the plate and prove that you really are what you say/act like you are. Usually the primary subject is "you". A shit test is not getting called out on something when you fuckup. Like if you said you were gonna take the trash out and then didn't and you get yelled at for it. In those situations you just calm down, own your shit, and move on. A comfort test is when…
/r/MarriedRedPill15/03/22 07:38 PM
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I think part of being vulnerable is being open to what I am feeling and also being open to what others are feeling That's my take on that. Re: the shit test -- what was the meaning, and what did you do to show it? STFU is an important and effective tool that really never loses its efficacy, but you seem to be further enough along in your journey where open expression of your masculine emotion is another tool you can use. The primary purpose of STFU for the new people is to teach them to stop DEE…
/r/MarriedRedPill15/03/22 07:32 PM
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Lifting x 3 Martial arts x 3 I'm going to report on my main compound lifts mostly. Any dumbells I refer to is each. So if I say 20kg it means 40kg total. Chest: Incline DB presses - worked up to a set of 7 reps at 44kg's. Shoulders: DB shoulder press - 3 sets of 30kg's - slow controlled eccentric to the count of 5 seconds. Back: 35kg DB rows - 3 sets of 8. Plate loaded rowing machine 120kg total and 5 shit reps for 2 sets. Dropped it down to 80kg and 2 sets at 15 reps. Legs: Pendulum squat - 4 s…
/r/MarriedRedPill15/03/22 07:20 PM
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3x a week: 8 sets of weighted (+4kg) pull-ups, weighted crunches on pull-up station. bicep curls (14kg), weighted squats, weighted rows and weighted russian twists, all until exhaustion; 1x a week: 7km (4.3 miles) run in 35 minutes a. what do you mean by weighted squats and weighted rows? Are you using a barbell? If not, you're wasting your time. If not, weighted pull-ups are the one actual compound lift and worthwhile exercise in your routine d. for fuck's sake, pick up a goddamn barbell and st…
/r/MarriedRedPill15/03/22 07:12 PM
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Protip: Instead of having an overwhelming dancing monkey retard list, just focus on one or two of those things and do them until you've accomplished it. And take "find my Morpheus" off the list, that isn't something that's under your control. Morpheus will find you.
/r/MarriedRedPill15/03/22 07:06 PM
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Most of any kind of kino/gaming instantly shot down. Silent treatment most of the time. 45 weeks in
/r/MarriedRedPill15/03/22 07:02 PM
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OYS #25 Me: 33, Married 10 years. 3 young boys. Stats: 6'1, 210 lbs, ~18-20% bf. Didn't really bother tracking my weight since the first week of the cut is losing water weight and glycogen and so it's not the most accurate picture in the world. Started tracking yesterday, we'll see what the average actually is. I might be fatter than I expected, or maybe the TRT helped me put on a little extra mass. I'll know more by next week Gym: BP 250x3, SQ 265x3, DL 315x3, OHP 165x3 Glycogen depletion is re…
/r/MarriedRedPill15/03/22 06:00 PM
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I had already bought the tickets and was thinking about who I'd have the most fun with and it was her because of her upbeat attitude. It's only simping if you're using a gift as covert contract to get into her pants. And clearly you understand the difference. This is abundance, OI, and you just wanting to have a good time with someone. Good job dude. In like 2 months you've figured out how to spin plates and have an awesome time
/r/MarriedRedPill15/03/22 04:18 PM
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Read more about weight lifting He's gonna get stronger by osmosis here u/MRPDark I'll save you some time. Do StrongLifts 5x5. Replace the squats on your Deadlift day with Incline press. Reassess your routine once you can bench your bodyweight (you should be squatting and deadlifting a little more than bodyweight at that point). Stop treading water and start fucking doing. It's not hard. Pick a simple plan and stick to it for a while. You'll be lifting weights for the rest of your life, you don't…
/r/MarriedRedPill15/03/22 03:18 PM
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And it's not all sexual either. This is huge, actually. And it's a huge part of game in general. When I stopped being overtly sexually aggressive all of the time with my wife, and just started being fun, her attraction to me shot way up. Because instead of creating pressure and bad feels, I was creating good feels and controlling our interactions that way. It's a subtle thing...you're not like overtly leading necessarily, but you are leading the interaction by setting the tone and being fun. I s…
/r/MarriedRedPill15/03/22 03:09 PM
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Good questions here. I believe he has ADHD because we were on that vacation with my in-laws, one of whom does have actual diagnosed ADHD. He was the one who started pointing out my son's behaviors as ADHD symptoms. Hell, hearing him describe the symptoms made me question if I might have it in a mild form. One thing in particular stuck out and it was my son to a T. He said that having ADHD is like being possessed by yourself. Like there's just this asshole demon version of you that takes over som…
/r/MarriedRedPill11/03/22 06:37 PM
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We're all retards, just different from the TRP retards in that we're not incels. Acta non verba. All that learning ain't mean shit if you're not actually applying it
/r/MarriedRedPill10/03/22 10:49 PM
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Man that was a doozy but it was an enlightening one to be sure. Because I would also say that if you are the leader, if you are the teacher, if you are the authority figure...then you will always be throwing some portion of your gift to someone who doesn't fully appreciate and understand it's value because they dont have the perspective to. Either because they are not aware enough to see it. Or simply because they are looking at it from a different perspective, one based on values and understand…
/r/MarriedRedPill09/03/22 07:52 PM
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Yeah man, always appreciate the proofreading. And thanks! There's one in particular -- it's this F14 model where he took the little decal with the pilot's name (fighter planes typically have the pilot's name, rank, and callsign painted under the cockpit) and cut up the tiny little decal letters so it was his name instead. Absolutely mind-blowing dexterity. I've had my eye on that model plane my entire life. It now sits in a spot where I can see it every day.
/r/MarriedRedPill09/03/22 07:26 PM
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to be fair lack of sleep makes you more retarded I remember the first time I got a solid 5 hours of sleep in a row with my first kid. It felt downright luxurious
/r/MarriedRedPill09/03/22 07:17 PM
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He's using a scale for bf%, so it's gonna be way off. Seems more like a skinny fat to me.
/r/MarriedRedPill09/03/22 07:14 PM
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At home, sex is regular three times this week. Somehow I started to not feeling the spark. Weird. Last year when I started OYS, I was deprived of sex. Now that it becomes regular, I don't feel it is what I was looking for. Maybe it's because I was worry to much that I failed at building a family. This happens to everyone. Partly because once it's abundant, you're not bothered anymore that you don't get it and you feel almost a little bored. Also because you've more or less fulfilled your purpose…
/r/MarriedRedPill09/03/22 07:11 PM
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And yet here you are learning the basics of nutrition and muscle building from a random retard on the internet.
/r/MarriedRedPill09/03/22 04:04 PM
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That’s pretty good progress if you’re starting from nothing. But I’d say you’re at a point now where it’s okay to start adding some auxiliary things in if you feel like you could use the extra help
/r/MarriedRedPill09/03/22 02:14 PM
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I think I switched away from my first program after my first 4 months or so. How long have you been at yours for? And what kind of stats did you start with?
/r/MarriedRedPill09/03/22 03:32 AM
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Damn man, you've got the Socratic method down. I get what you're poking at here. However, I do feel that there is a distinction between a covert contract and not being one who throws their pearls before swine. And in fact, the prompt I initially referenced also is worded in a way that goes along with your sentiment -- vulnerability or emotional access is something that needs to come from a place of abundance and generosity in the first place. It's also more worded in a way where the message is "…
/r/MarriedRedPill09/03/22 12:09 AM
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You are 100% a dancing monkey. And you will be for quite some time. I am definitely still outcome dependent and use sex as a gauge. You're not gonna fix yourself overnight. Keep trying, keep fucking up, keep resetting. In time, you'll start figuring it out.
/r/MarriedRedPill08/03/22 11:39 PM
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Here's the deal -- all of those nutritional recommendations are built around keeping sedentary people from being morbidly obese. And in that sense, a caloric deficit is technically healthier than morbid obesity. Hell, what they recommend eating is pretty good, but the macro ratios they recommend tend to be a joke. Especially when it comes to protein. But you have to remember...they're meant for fat sedentary people. You need to think of your nutritional standards like you're an athlete, not like…
/r/MarriedRedPill08/03/22 11:37 PM
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Ooooh, I feel like I'm learning something new here. For who are you being vulnerable? I'd say for both of us. For me, because I'm doing it because I can. And for them, because it's a gift that I give to them. Of who do you need control? Of myself. I can't control the outcome, and I can't control how anyone else reacts.
/r/MarriedRedPill08/03/22 11:12 PM
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Got it. She's just comfort testing then. Maybe it wouldn't hurt to take her in your arms, say something like "well I mean I love the sex we have but I also really like x and y about you too" and then give her a kiss on the forehead. It's okay to be loving and tender sometimes too. Just don't be gay about it.
/r/MarriedRedPill08/03/22 11:05 PM
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"Caloric restriction is associated with better health and lifespan" -- what is a "caloric restriction" to you and where have you read that makes you healthier or live longer? Being weak and underfed doesn't sound "healthy" to me. And if you refer me to some source written by a skinny or skinny fat little twerp, I'm going to laugh at you. If they fail the physiognomy check, their advice on health is moot.Going off of the insanely low amount of calories you're currently eating given your height/we…
/r/MarriedRedPill08/03/22 10:56 PM
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exactly. My girl can be pretty shy a lot of the time, so I want to get her to be more open
/r/MarriedRedPill08/03/22 09:50 PM
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Do you still sometimes get pissy or mad if you get turned down for sex, or if it just doesn't work out for whatever reason?
/r/MarriedRedPill08/03/22 08:39 PM
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How else can you Express Your Emotions Like a Man? Here's where I saw this. And to be fair, my cliff notes of it aren't great. Sharing it because it helped reinforce a few things for me that I'd figured out on my own. It's kind of all just semantics anyways -- it's basically just OI with self-ownership and Prize mentality -- just phrased in a different way than we're used to here.
/r/MarriedRedPill08/03/22 08:33 PM
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"What I CAN push" i.e., what's a HARD NO vs what's a soft no. Would probably be more accurate to say that, again, there's a lot of stuff in that questionnaire that I'd never have thought of otherwise. And yeah, I'd like to gauge her interest in some of the stuff there. Not because I need permission (I mean hell, I started choking her last night just because I felt like it in the moment), but to know what kind of things would be a fun surprise and what kind of stuff might take a little more work …
/r/MarriedRedPill08/03/22 07:27 PM
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Oh it's not about asking permission at all. Even if I don't draw up a contract, it's useful information to have as I lead in the bedroom. There's a lot of shit in that list that I'd have never even thought of.
/r/MarriedRedPill08/03/22 06:37 PM
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Ice, stretch, ibuprofen. Maybe rest for a while. You don't need to "reschedule," you just need to stop being a lazyass and wake up earlier. Start your day out right, go lift in the morning. 3x a week isn't hard. Especially at the beginning, most workouts won't take longer than 45 minutes.
/r/MarriedRedPill08/03/22 05:59 PM
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She's comfort testing you, not shit testing. So here's the real question for you -- do you value her in other ways? Do you love her? Do you like her? If you answer yes to any of these questions, what's the problem with telling her or (even better) showing her? I used to get "I'm just a hole to you" a lot. I stopped when I started congruently expressing praise and appreciation -- mostly through action -- in other ways.
/r/MarriedRedPill08/03/22 05:47 PM
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Dancing Monkey. You have no frame and you're just trying out random shit like a dancing monkey to see if you're making your wife happy or not instead of doing things for you. You're on OYS 4. You're a dancing monkey, whether you think you are or not. I mentally hype myself up for really hot sex - then have lights off under the covers sex. A constant reminder that I'm expecting changes having done fuck all really. You create the sexual experiences you want. You lead the interactions here. You can…
/r/MarriedRedPill08/03/22 05:38 PM
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Here's the bright side for you: You have an excellent base to start building a physique. Low bf% and you're skinny but you're not a skellington. You can bulk and bulk and bulk forever. u/hornsofapathy has a lot of stories about how much he's had to eat in order to bulk. You have zero reason to be eating such few calories. In fact, you're barely eating above your BMR right now, which according to your stats is in the ballpark of 1500 cal/day. That's not maintenance, mind you, that's just to keep …
/r/MarriedRedPill08/03/22 05:28 PM
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Wondering if I should add some other exercises in regularly or forget about it and return to the old program. What's your current program? I like to keep mine flexible enough to where I can add in auxiliary exercises here or there as I need to. I've added a lot of shoulder and lat work since those are my weak points, and have also added in some more chest work since I need that extra development as well. You spend a few more minutes in the gym but when is that ever a bad thing?
/r/MarriedRedPill08/03/22 05:18 PM
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pretty covert contract-y when you frame it that way. ​ homeboy is on OYS7. Taking any responsibility for things is a huge step forward at this point, even if it's still in his wife's frame.
/r/MarriedRedPill08/03/22 05:12 PM
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I have pain in my elbow and deltoid muscle. Could you be more specific? Is it tendonitis? Or just "pain"? A lot of other people have already said it, but if it's just "muscle" pain then lifting will actually make that better. Ask us how we know. I have tendonitis in my left forearm. It doesn't stop me from lifting. I have to do my barbell rows underhanded and modify the way I hold dumbbells for my shoulder raises. And then I ice, stretch, and take ibuprofen. Nothing should stop you from lifting,…
/r/MarriedRedPill08/03/22 05:09 PM
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OYS #24 Me: 33, Married 10 years. 3 young boys. Stats: 6'1, 210 lbs, ~18-20% bf. Two weeks of vacation and a funeral and drinking and overeating are finally over. I got a little bit fluffy. Started my summer cut yesterday, aiming for 2400-2600 cal/day with a 2900-3200 cal refeed day. I'm shooting for 10k steps every day as well. I'm taking a different approach to this cut than I did with my last one. I've giving myself 3 months, upping my steps, and I might add more cardio in a month or so depen…
/r/MarriedRedPill08/03/22 04:55 PM
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Kickass post. A lot of us are coming to these same realizations around the same time. That's neat. The real point is to try this shit out and see what works for you. And accept that you're always gonna have ups and downs. Good days and shit days. What matters is that you keep learning and owning yourself and accepting yourself and trying to be a little better than you were before. I basically took a couple of months off of reading sidebar stuff just so I could get out of my own head for a bit an…
/r/MarriedRedPill04/03/22 04:56 PM
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One of the best things I ever learned was that the whole point of all of that Kino and whatever else you wanna call it shit is just that it lowers her shields and makes her MORE OPEN to you. Not “add x and y with a dash of z and SEX”. Realizing that allowed me to just drop that covert contract and start living and just having fun. And ironically, when you’re just having a good time and being physical and fun in non-sexual ways, you end up having a lot more sex. When you’re not always projecting …
/r/MarriedRedPill24/02/22 04:52 AM
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And when she says shit like "I feel disgusting" ignore it and tell her how turned on you are by her, or don't say anything and let your actions do the talking. The feminine grows through praise. With your words and your cock. She's either making a good point, or it's mouth noises. To clarify more for our new tard: Either she’s calling you out on your bullshit - giving you something to learn from - or she’s making sure you’re the real deal - giving you the opportunity to demonstrate that you are.…
/r/MarriedRedPill24/02/22 04:45 AM
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Once you do it a few times it gets pretty easy to spot bullshit in your candidates. I do interviews pretty regularly in my job and I like asking them about times when they failed and what they learned from it. I want to see who will come up with an honest answer.
/r/MarriedRedPill24/02/22 04:33 AM
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Yeah dude, I finally feel like I understand what “vulnerable” really means. I’ll do a better write up in a couple weeks when I have time
/r/MarriedRedPill23/02/22 07:03 AM
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They are behaviours, not Categories of Man. Oh shit, that’s it. So simple.
/r/MarriedRedPill23/02/22 12:36 AM
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OYS # yadda yadda 20 something Don’t have a lot of time to write an OYS, had a really hectic day getting the family and house ready for a vacation. Life is good. I had a huge personal breakthrough last week and I can honestly say for the first time that I have something like Frame now. I understand vulnerability a lot more now and for the first time I’ve been able to be vulnerable and OI about it. I understand who and what I am a lot better and that will dictate my course moving forward. Once I …
/r/MarriedRedPill22/02/22 11:40 PM
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holy shit I just barely saw I had this in my inbox like a week later. There's a guy on Instagram named Tanner Guzy. He does a lot about men's fashion and style, and he's probably my favorite person on that topic because his approach is spot on: you're a man, and men have power, so they should dress like someone who has power and respects himself. He loves to post pictures of men all over the world, looking badass and fully embracing whatever fashion was "in" at their point in time with the capti…
/r/MarriedRedPill18/02/22 09:00 PM
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Tall, blonde, athletic, rich stable family, sweet and kind disposition, wanted kids and a family, wanted to save the world together. All we have to go off of is that description but that seems like some great First Officer material to me. Frankly, I’ve reached the point where I am pretty ambivalent about my wife. I am still attracted to her physically, but not to her level of femininity. Probably most importantly, I don’t really respect her. She is a classic anxious and depressed wife. And a SAH…
/r/MarriedRedPill18/02/22 07:46 PM
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Cheers, buddy
/r/MarriedRedPill18/02/22 07:21 PM
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Hard no. His has probably been the most useful and descriptive post (for me at least) I’ve seen in a long while. Seems like you’re projecting a lot into him that isn’t there. This place isn’t meant to churn out cogs.
/r/MarriedRedPill18/02/22 06:29 PM
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That’s the trick I’m finding in my own life. How do I stop faking it and just act in accordance with me? That approach has been working out pretty well for me recently
/r/MarriedRedPill18/02/22 06:25 PM
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This was an amazing post. No joke, I'm almost the exact same story as you. Like, down to the spending 30 minutes on the shitter fapping till my legs were numb. Your TL;DR is my TL;DR, word for word. It's kind of freaky how much the life you describe in your post is almost an exact mirror of what mine was before I came here. ​ I assumed that simply by marring me, my wife must think I was the beta bucks and there must be an Alpha Chad out there she couldn’t tame and I got mad. was exactly me. And …
/r/MarriedRedPill18/02/22 06:06 PM
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Things get a lot better -- A LOT better -- once you start being fun again.
/r/MarriedRedPill16/02/22 08:46 PM
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I appreciate that feedback. Honestly, my current mountain is just taking ownership of myself. A self I've repressed for way, waaaaay too long. Truth be told, this is more of a big hill than a mountain, but it's the one I need to summit first before I can move on to my next mountain and do it for me. I have long-term goals for lifting and physique, but I get what you're really poking at here. Foot has to stay on the gas. I need a direction. I need to spend more time finding what my mission in lif…
/r/MarriedRedPill16/02/22 07:14 PM
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Have more fun with this shit. Stop being such a fag and forgive yourself for being such a retard. This is the way. Edit: To go along with your point about labeling yourself as a Frustrated Chump -- for me, the worst and most counterproductive part of reading Rollo first was that because I saw facets of myself in those negative male archetypes he describes, I just assumed I was those archetypes. Literally up until a few weeks ago I thought of myself as a beta frustrated chump deep down. It took t…
/r/MarriedRedPill16/02/22 04:22 PM
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People can detect your bullshit because they've been there before. Some of your individual circumstances might be unique, but overall a lot of us go through the same shit.
/r/MarriedRedPill15/02/22 10:03 PM
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Have you read MMSLP yet? There might be something helpful there for you. ​ Same thing while we are having sex and she'll do or say something to try to bring us out of the moment. She's so bored she's shit testing you during sex. It's not just about passion and aggression. Those certainly have their place. But it's also about fun. She needs to have fun with you -- and, often times, fun that you might not consider overtly sexual -- in order to get her barriers down and be open to you seducing her.…
/r/MarriedRedPill15/02/22 09:47 PM
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Absolutely fucking brutal takedown. Something like this would've been insanely helpful to a guy like me a few months ago. Genuinely helpful post, awesome job. I definitely had (and still kinda have) some shitty Nice Guy tendencies, but overall I was a lot more Drunk Captain than Nice Guy. As I've started to focus on fixing the Drunk Captain shit, things have started coming together much better for me overall.
/r/MarriedRedPill15/02/22 09:33 PM
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You're in the dancing monkey stage. The first little while you're just LARPing and acting like a complete fucking retard. Then after 10 or so OYSes, you start to see results from your LARPing and things start to click a little more, so you keep trying more random shit thinking that it's how you "set boundaries" and "have frame." Eventually you realize that you're doing all of this shit for the wrong reasons and nothing has actually been for yourself. I got my start a lot the same way you did, fr…
/r/MarriedRedPill15/02/22 09:23 PM
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I am going to stop thinking about how "far along" I am this is way harder to do than you think, but the sooner you can embrace it the better off you'll be
/r/MarriedRedPill15/02/22 06:23 PM
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It definitely takes shopping from a "ugh this is such a waste of time" experience to something you start looking forward to and enjoying. And honestly, I'm really starting to like how she always asks me for the final word on something she picks. The real key is to have her model it for you later.
/r/MarriedRedPill15/02/22 04:53 PM
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When we got to bed, I found out that shark week was still in full flow, so PIV wasn’t available. Says who? you or her? Maybe it's just me, but I fucking love a good period fucking. Like where you need to change the sheets after. Sends a message.
/r/MarriedRedPill15/02/22 04:40 PM
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men swapping notes, it being something that worked for other people. FWIW, mine doesn't really like the butthole rub but I do the same sort of blurred lines thing by tracing my fingers on her stomach while I spoon her. I trace it around the edge of her panties and bra but I don't take it further sometimes just to show her I make the choice here.
/r/MarriedRedPill15/02/22 04:34 PM
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OYS #22 Me: 33, Married 10 years. 3 young boys. Stats: 6'1., 205 lbs, ~16-17% bf. I ended up making a wood chopping thirst trap and I'm still laughing my ass off about it. Chopping wood gets my woman's motor running I guess. I got some really good loud ones in, practically sounded like gunshots. I timed it to the Monty Python Lumberjack Song for some lulz. Seeing my body at work on camera has given me a really good look moving forward of what I need to work on with my physique. Surprised at how …
/r/MarriedRedPill15/02/22 04:16 PM
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hmmm...TIL I've actually been going too hard
/r/MarriedRedPill13/02/22 02:03 AM
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First it starts all innocent, and then before you know it you're mainlining maple syrup and replacing your entire wardrobe with flannel and blue jeans and suspenders. Friends don't let friends do Lumberjack Thirst Traps
/r/MarriedRedPill13/02/22 02:02 AM
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Yeah man, it's a tough one to break through. The real key is understanding that letting go and just having fun will get you way further than pushing for it all the time. Having fun with everything makes it a lot easier to keep that OI too. If it doesn't work out, then oh well, it'll work out some other time. You just do you and enjoy yourself.
/r/MarriedRedPill10/02/22 07:14 PM
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Good luck man. That's a solid goal. You've got a long, horrible slog ahead of you. Ask me how I know. Once you get to 20%, give yourself a refeed break where you eat at maintenance for 2 weeks and then give yourself a refeed day each week. It'll help you stay sane and feel a little less shitty.
/r/MarriedRedPill09/02/22 10:46 PM
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So...one bit of advice here as well. Coming from someone who lost a bunch of weight, took a pause for a while and is now gearing up for another long cut. Cutting SUCKS. It fucks with your hormones, your lifts, and the constant hunger just drives you crazy sometimes. And you're always wishing you could be done with it and feel normal and eat normal and have real energy again. And while it's awesome to set goals for bf%, keep in mind that you can very easily drive yourself into body dysmorphia and…
/r/MarriedRedPill09/02/22 10:41 PM
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I'd say it's a few things and they're all related: way too much fucking cardio. You can be strong, or you can run forever. Pick one. If you pick strong (and you should), drop cardio down to 2x a week, with one session being your running day. Testosterone levels probably aren't great. Have you gotten a blood panel done? You need to be mentally tougher. You're not pushing yourself nearly as hard as you should be on your lifts. Diet overall. Are you getting at least .7g/lb of body weight of protein…
/r/MarriedRedPill09/02/22 09:17 PM
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You should still be able to up your weights 5-10 lbs each time you do them. What's your current routine?
/r/MarriedRedPill09/02/22 12:35 PM
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Oh whatever you know you're into it
/r/MarriedRedPill09/02/22 12:34 PM
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Yeah. At least you're above bodyweight for the big 3 but after 2 years of lifting you'd be a lot heavier than that if you'd actually been trying.
/r/MarriedRedPill09/02/22 04:11 AM
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Kinda hard to tell for sure from the lighting...but I'd say that 25% might be closer. Try to take another one with more solid lighting from the front.
/r/MarriedRedPill09/02/22 04:05 AM
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Barbell is 45 lbs, and it definitely counts since you're lifting that weight along with the plates
/r/MarriedRedPill09/02/22 03:39 AM
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I'm at a similar place right now. I don't really care to have a super crazy low bf%, where I'm at now is the highest I want to be at moving forward but I'd fuck me the way I look right now. I want to drop 10-15 lbs before the summer but the rest is just body dysmorphia lol
/r/MarriedRedPill09/02/22 03:37 AM
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Wait you've been lifting for 2.5 years and those are for stats?!
/r/MarriedRedPill09/02/22 01:02 AM
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Strong.ur is...idk, I don't trust those numbers too much. That being said, if your scales are at least consistent then they'll still at least be okay for tracking your BF loss. As long as you're eating enough protein, you shouldn't lose enough muscle to be worried about...like 1-2%.
/r/MarriedRedPill08/02/22 10:55 PM
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I had no idea about what any of that actually was...but holy shit, it's pretty close. There's less of the hypertrophy volume with what I'm doing, and I'm doing 3x5 heavy instead of 5/3/1. But honestly, that might be something to look into if/when I get bored of what I'm doing and I start my bulk phase come fall.
/r/MarriedRedPill08/02/22 10:53 PM
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I am not sexual without intent, because I'm always going for the kill. Overall, just thirsty as fuck. This is obviously unattractive...So what do I do? Paired with taking the "seriousness" out of getting sex (and I use the word "getting" intentionally because that's how I've treated it), the natural extension is to back off, focus on myself, and be more casual about it. You're on the right track. I had this exact same problem until fairly recently. I had shitty mental models and I thought that i…
/r/MarriedRedPill08/02/22 10:29 PM
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Definitely in a funk that I need to get out of by getting back to my regular schedule now that everyone is healthy again. Moving out of your alcohol dependency will definitely help you in this regard
/r/MarriedRedPill08/02/22 10:16 PM
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This. Get on a program like SL 5x5 or Starting Strength or GZCLP.
/r/MarriedRedPill08/02/22 10:15 PM
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I started grooming my beard more regularly, keeping it looking tidy. I started showering 2-3x/day, my back had some spots starting to appear, I got some specific shower gel for them and they're gradually going. I bought new trainers/shoes, mine were falling apart. I am going to look into teeth whitening this week. This is good. We harp a lot on the condition of your body here, but we don't harp enough on personal appearance and style. Your look is your most basic form of communication to the res…
/r/MarriedRedPill08/02/22 10:11 PM
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Typical Asian upper middle class guy activity). I don’t really have social activities which don’t involve drinking that involves my friends. Holy shit are you Japanese? Kind of explains the boringness if you are.
/r/MarriedRedPill08/02/22 10:03 PM
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I'm fucking fat! (More than 26.8 % on Strongur.io I tried to calculate his fat ass' body weight but Strongur wouldn't let me input numbers as low as his lifts, I'm not fucking kidding I'm dead serious.) Can confirm, when I was around 225 lbs I was about 24-26% BF...and I'd worked up to around a plate on my squat and bench at that point. I have no idea how the fuck he's lifting "10 kg" for compound lifts when just the bar is like 20kg. reframe my internal voice from ”the hunger hurts, I should ea…
/r/MarriedRedPill08/02/22 09:57 PM
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Weight lifting at least 4 times a week Bench 1RM: 150lbs; Deadlift 1RM: 180lbs; Squat 1RM: 185lbs; Bent over row 1RM: 150lbs; Overhead press (dumbbells) 1RM: 60 lbs How long have you been at this for? I am working on this still but improvements are happening. DON’T SAY ANYTHING UNATTRACTIVE. Keep your mouth shut. There is a lot of strength in that. Good. Also, relax a little bit. You're on OYS1, you don't need to go Rambo here. You're running a marathon, not a sprint. You'll be at this for a lon…
/r/MarriedRedPill08/02/22 09:48 PM
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100% agree with you there man. This isn't a sprint, it's a marathon and it's for life. So, I liked GZCLP for the flexibility. But I personally don't respond so well to the methodology here -- the idea is that once you hit failure on your Tier 1 (heavy) lifts, you drop a rep and add a set. So you go 3x5 to failure, then 2x6, and then you go to 1x10. Once you fail 1x10, you do 80% of wherever you're at and start back at that for 3x5 again. Maybe it's really useful for breaking through plateaus, bu…
/r/MarriedRedPill08/02/22 08:49 PM
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Do you use your nipples as telescopic antennae to transmit data back to earth?
/r/MarriedRedPill08/02/22 08:16 PM
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Yeah, decimals are bullshit and no bf% measurement is THAT precise
/r/MarriedRedPill08/02/22 07:25 PM
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Yeah my DL is relatively small, and that's intentional. For probably my first 3 months lifting I never went past 155 because of back issues from Army and overtraining. I tweaked it twice, but I'm glad I spent the time on the lighter weight because it did fix my back and now I can go all out.
/r/MarriedRedPill08/02/22 07:24 PM
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some people are really into rocket shaped bitch tits I guess
/r/MarriedRedPill08/02/22 06:21 PM
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smart scale. Tape yourself or use calipers and then compare with other pictures. Scales suck for BF% measurements. The only reason to use them is if you have a nice enough one that at least throws off the same inaccurate number with a little bit of consistency so you can track changes in your BF% over time...but even then, tape is faster and more accurate once you know what you're doing.
/r/MarriedRedPill08/02/22 06:05 PM
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22.77% BF (scales) Have you tried Navy method or calipers instead? Scales suck for BF% measurement and they tend to overestimate. There's a possibility that you're actually closer to your goal than you think. Also, it's taken me a while to accept this but pictures really are the best way to get an accurate idea.
/r/MarriedRedPill08/02/22 05:58 PM
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I think everyone should be posting progress photos now. Not just to see your progress over time, but also for accountability purposes. It's one thing to write down a number in your OYS every time, it's another thing to put that body on display to everyone. Also, what's this "19.3%" bullshit? No body fat measurement is accurate enough for a decimal point.
/r/MarriedRedPill08/02/22 05:28 PM
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I'm convinced that Arnold is the greatest person of the 20th Century. Absolute Iron Frame and indomitable will and accomplished every single thing he set out to do, while also maintaining humility and abundance.
/r/MarriedRedPill08/02/22 05:19 PM
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You probably won't have to do that though because as soon as you go no-touchy-feely you'll find your woman polarized and coming to you instead. Yeah, that's been exactly my experience.
/r/MarriedRedPill08/02/22 05:02 PM
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OYS #21 Me: 33, Married 10 years. 3 young boys. Stats: 6'1., 205 lbs, ~16-17% bf. Planned my eating a bit more -- I'm gonna eat normal for Feb (gonna be a pain in the ass to cut anyways since I have a 2-week vacation coming up), then March-Early June is going to be my cut time. And then I've got some serious physique goals that I'm going to go after and crush. u/ragnar_Daneskjold mentioned something in his post about posting progress photos...and I think it's a really good idea. It's important t…
/r/MarriedRedPill08/02/22 04:13 PM
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you may be missing those lovely words of affirmation from mommy pretty much sums up everything in a nice, neat sentence
/r/MarriedRedPill07/02/22 10:39 PM
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Nothing turns a woman off more than viewing sex with her as something that you "get."
/r/MarriedRedPill07/02/22 09:05 PM
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The sex isn't the battle, it's maintaining the assertiveness. You can never let off the gas or slack off. The cost of good, strong, stable leadership is constant effort.
/r/MarriedRedPill07/02/22 09:03 PM
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Part of the trick (IMO) is to NOT hate on that guy. You can laugh at how fat he is but realize that this fat weakling from many weeks ago had "potential" and he didn't fucking squander it. Then realize, you're still that guy and you have lots more potential to explore, so get to it. Love that. I definitely look back at my old self with a lot of judgment and disdain. Probably should stop that, since he found his balls and started realizing his potential a little bit.
/r/MarriedRedPill07/02/22 05:27 PM
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I think that Arnold's autobiography ought to be sidebar material. It's a perfect example of the type of mindset we're trying to develop here.
/r/MarriedRedPill07/02/22 04:44 PM
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Everyone's already bukkae-ing their praise on you so I'll just add to the pile of validation cum on your face. Hope you like it Absolutely fucking stellar post man. You 110% deserve that flair. Your OYS is one I look at every week for inspiration and course corrections to apply in my life. And you've given me a ton of stuff to consider about how I'm doing in my own life. Honestly, reading your post helped me realized that I've come a lot farther in some ways than I realize. Still got a ways to g…
/r/MarriedRedPill07/02/22 04:35 PM
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Sounds like you're doing pretty great even if you feel like you're just LARPing. You're only gonna go up from here.
/r/MarriedRedPill03/02/22 01:50 PM
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Having a good body is certainly part of being attractive, and everyone here should be in the gym grinding it out and making themselves the best possible version of themselves that they could be. That being said, mindset is the most important and attractive thing about a man. Confidence, dominance, abundance, and OI are your most attractive features, period. Your immaculate bod won't mean shit in the long run if you aren't just as mentally tough and built out. I was watching TikTok with my wife t…
/r/MarriedRedPill02/02/22 05:16 PM
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In the end, it's really just being honest with why you're helping out people. All the self-sacrificial altruism is just virtue signalling bullshit. We're all just doing nice things so that we feel good in the end. All the other shit is just a side benefit
/r/MarriedRedPill02/02/22 05:03 PM
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OH RIGHT. Lol Cory is a Chad amongst chads. I'm kind of in your boat about helping people. Like, I feel a sort of tug in that direction of finding ways to mentor other men, especially young men, and help the ones that are willing to accept the help so they don't have to go through the shit we had to.
/r/MarriedRedPill02/02/22 03:57 PM
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Nah I think they're safe, there's anonymity in the crowd there 🤣🤣
/r/MarriedRedPill02/02/22 03:43 AM
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It was interesting to see the response change in her. We still had sex a few times before I got in the right headspace, but it was very much Duty Sex, when I needed to feel the fire.
/r/MarriedRedPill01/02/22 09:50 PM
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Well, good on you for owning it. It's painful but I'm sure you'll never forget the lesson 😂
/r/MarriedRedPill01/02/22 09:07 PM
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Shark week for half the week, so no initiations most of the week… until last night. I initiated, got a no, and then made the stupid mistake of asking “then when are we going to have sex?” This let to a downward spiral of me running my mouth saying crap about how I want sex, that I didn’t sign up for this, and other DLV. I also said “it seems our intimate life has come to an end” and received a response of “what are you trying to say?” I guess I was implying I want a divorce but didn’t have the b…
/r/MarriedRedPill01/02/22 07:17 PM
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Thanks for sharing your mission statements. That's insanely helpful to see what someone else has come up with. I'm working through that same exercise right now and I've always had a hard time coming up with things like that. I'd imagine things are going to be tweaked a bit as you figure out what works and what doesn't. I think your spiritual/recreational mission could just be shortened to I will learn absolutely everything I can about myself and the world I live in. but otherwise it looks pretty…
/r/MarriedRedPill01/02/22 07:09 PM
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it was that the stress of court makes missing lifting okay and my focus was on finding reasons that my failure was okay. From my experience -- choosing to do the hard then when it's hard will always leave you feeling better in the end. I didn't want to be in gym during a particularly shitty day last week. I had to force myself to get under the bar. The first few sets sucked. But gradually it all started getting better and then by the end of my workout, I felt incredible. And that sustained me fo…
/r/MarriedRedPill01/02/22 06:22 PM
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Social/Hobbies: Always DnD, always good times. I also took my nephew airsofting, along with my brother-in-law. And that little 9-year old was tough as nails. I was expecting some complaining and maybe even needing to leave early, but nope. He had a riot. His parents were really appreciative, and I plan on taking him out with me again. He was a lot of fun. Now that the dust has settled a bit, I can open up a bit more about the death in the family from last week. It was my Grandma, and it hit us a…
/r/MarriedRedPill01/02/22 05:29 PM
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OYS #20 Me: 33, Married 10 years. 3 young boys. Stats: 6'1., 205 lbs, ~16-17% bf. Planned my eating a bit more -- I'm gonna eat normal for Feb (gonna be a pain in the ass to cut anyways since I have a 2-week vacation coming up), then March-Early June is going to be my cut time. And then I've got some serious physique goals that I'm going to go after and crush. Gym: BP 240x3, SQ 260x2, DL 285x3, OHP 165x3 Hit some walls with my squats and bench this last week. DL progress is steady but I'm finall…
/r/MarriedRedPill01/02/22 05:29 PM
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She's playing the long game
/r/MarriedRedPill30/01/22 10:08 PM
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I wish I could upvote this twice
/r/MarriedRedPill30/01/22 05:53 PM
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0 yelling this week. It took me 3 weeks to get here. Even though this is like saying, "I'm not unemployed anymore" I'm stoked I hit this milestone on my way to excelling as a father. That's something to celebrate, quite a few fathers never end up accomplishing something like that. Good job. And it was hard, but not as hard as you thought right? You could do it.
/r/MarriedRedPill27/01/22 11:29 PM
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Yeah, it's this one
/r/MarriedRedPill27/01/22 03:57 PM
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I did not neigh. missed roleplay opportunity right there, 0/10
/r/MarriedRedPill27/01/22 03:56 PM
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Hey man, I get the lack of direction thing after separating. You no longer have clear goals given to you by someone else and now you have to make something of your life and yourself. Don't do the safe shit. Go after what you want. It'll take a while to adjust but just remember all of that resentment you felt for your NCOs and especially officers about the dumb shit they'd always tell you to do for no reason. Well, now you don't have to deal with that anymore. You chart your own course. Ease your…
/r/MarriedRedPill27/01/22 02:09 AM
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Here's the thing most people don't get about the military: If you're not Special Forces/Ranger/some of the better Combat Arms Units, you're gonna be a beta pussy. It's systemic and deliberate. You train yourself to defer to others' leadership and that carries over into the home. You ever want to see some crazy, cringey shit just spend a few days on a Military base and talk to the married lower enlisted about their home lives. You will lose faith in the armed forces so fast.
/r/MarriedRedPill27/01/22 02:06 AM
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Sometimes I get jealous of the skinny fuckers who "get" to eat and eat and eat to gain. And then I read something like this and I'm glad that most of my journey has been cutting instead.
/r/MarriedRedPill27/01/22 02:01 AM
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I'd also add Tanner Guzy to that list. He's got a great take on men's fashion and I really like his style advice
/r/MarriedRedPill27/01/22 01:56 AM
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Been learning a lot firsthand about your woman and how she really acts when you're down. Not sure if it's just AWALT or if it's seriously time for me to consider ending my relationship. Edit: nah it's just AWALT. You never get a break from being the Oak
/r/MarriedRedPill26/01/22 04:30 PM
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OYS #...19? I think Not gonna post on much this week. Had a death in the family and it hit me HARD. Way harder than any other family deaths have before it. Had some absolutely relentless shit testing around it for a bit and I full on yelled at my wife for the first time in years. This family death marked the first time I have well and truly wept in...a decade at least. Probably a lot longer. It's put a lot of things into perspective for me. The first of which is that I still don't really allow m…
/r/MarriedRedPill26/01/22 03:04 AM
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Maybe you're the Prize and doubting yourself and your judgment isn't helping anything. That very well could be it. My ego still gets in the way a lot, I still step on my own dick all the time, and so sometimes I still end up feeling like I haven't achieved "the Prize" status for myself yet. Like it's some sort of trophy you get after crossing the finish line. And even just writing this out now I realize that's the wrong way to be looking at it. I see how other people are doing here, and what the…
/r/MarriedRedPill21/01/22 05:26 PM
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Sure thing, it'll totally revolutionize your sex life
/r/MarriedRedPill20/01/22 04:50 PM
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Truth be told, I don't really need to stand up to her about much in general. She doesn't throw a lot of stupid curveballs or "get x for me even though it's clearly inconvenient to you" shit tests my way. In general she follows my lead without much complaint, especially when it comes to big decisions. And she's always been that way, which was extremely helpful when I was in the Army. She's a pretty good FO and provides me with valuable input that tends to be worth considering if I'm not seeing so…
/r/MarriedRedPill20/01/22 04:44 PM
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Sure thing, man. Keep in mind that this is a VERY long Thousand Foot Tow rope situation, but your positive feedback will be critical to helping her stick with it. She will be doubting and discouraged very often for the first few months, and it might take a very long time until she believes it herself. That doesn't matter, don't relent in your praise, but also make sure to be judicious about how you apply it. Be congruent. Going overboard will instantly be seen through as fake. It will be several…
/r/MarriedRedPill20/01/22 04:41 PM
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nah, but I need to give it another read-through for sure.
/r/MarriedRedPill19/01/22 07:43 PM
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Have you read Sex God Method?
/r/MarriedRedPill19/01/22 03:40 PM
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And also...normally you want to put a little alpha on it and all of that, but Pregnancy is the one time where you can make some exceptions here and there. Especially with Dread. That woman's hormones are going wild and the best you can do is just ride on the roller coaster and give your support. Don't be needy, and don't take things personally, and you'll do better than 80% of men out there. And if you need external motivation -- that's your baby she's carrying, and its health (as well as hers) …
/r/MarriedRedPill19/01/22 03:31 AM
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yeah man, it's a great segue. Honestly my DnD group is kind of boring for the most part. It's fun and we have a great DM, but two of our players get really bogged down in metagaming and rules lawyering. Me and my wife are the only ones there who aren't Mormons so we're the ones who drink and smoke and stuff.
/r/MarriedRedPill19/01/22 03:29 AM
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Awesome, saving this comment.
/r/MarriedRedPill18/01/22 10:32 PM
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On one level I know this re anger but I still don't know how to accept it. It's my fucking kid, I'm trying to accept that pain. Just to face life as it is and move forwards anyway, I think I'm making progress here. So your situation is shitty. And telling you "you're not the only one to have dealt with this" is actively unhelpful. I haven't been in your shoes, but I bet it's a fucking terrible, soul-crushing place to be. Right now you're letting your life happen to you. You're letting events sha…
/r/MarriedRedPill18/01/22 09:58 PM
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it's basically new since MRP. Haven't done it for such a long time...we'd sort of dirty text back when we were dating, more of a "mmm x or y was so hot" kind of thing. When I was in basic training we'd send some really detailed and explicit letters back and forth, and then when we got back together we did the texting thing for a few weeks and that was it. But that was nearly a decade ago. I was basically coming back at it from square one. I'd tried quite a few other times not too long ago, mostl…
/r/MarriedRedPill18/01/22 09:26 PM
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Have you gotten your T levels checked? I was in a similar situation to you when I started. I've dropped probably 60 pounds of fat mass, really hard cut for the first four months here. Eating between 1900-2100 cal/day. My lifts weren't amazing, but I was still progressing. But I got to what felt like an enormous wall trying to break my Big Three over 200 lbs, and my OHP was around where yours is. A huge cut takes a massive toll on your body and your testosterone levels. You can't sustain it forev…
/r/MarriedRedPill18/01/22 08:57 PM
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When she’s on the rocks and feeling chaotic the thing that sets her world right is when I make her feel totally and securely loved. Men swapping notes here, what kind of stuff do you do?
/r/MarriedRedPill18/01/22 08:41 PM
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For the next 3 months I’m expecting nothing back from her. For the next 3 months the rest of my life I’m expecting nothing back from her. FTFY. language class Great choice. In my experience the RP journey has been a lot like learning new languages has been.
/r/MarriedRedPill18/01/22 08:36 PM
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Yikes man, sounds like you've got it pretty rough then
/r/MarriedRedPill18/01/22 07:17 PM
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I shared this with /u/dunlop60 a while back - Make sure you're praising the right way, with congruency, and not doing it overboard. And I can personally attest that it has worked extremely well. Especially when you do it with your cock. You don't have to go overboard with it. Simply saying "you look sexy in your workout clothes" or something like it will be huge. Then tell her to wear that outfit to bed. And in a few months, when it becomes more noticable, you'll start finding more things you ca…
/r/MarriedRedPill18/01/22 07:02 PM
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I dropped down to yelling 6 times this week from 10 last week. It's still too much but I'm glad to see positive progress. I'm not losing on easy situations as much any more, but I've still got to get my end-of-the-day patience squared away. When both kids are going off at the same time, I just need to detach from the situation. No one is in life-threatening danger, I need to chill the fuck out. Good progress, shoot for 0 this week. I've found this has been effective for me -- when I feel the ang…
/r/MarriedRedPill18/01/22 06:51 PM
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The mental picture of a 7 month old being stoic while sledding is hilarious. Some little chubby cheeked infant being absolutely stone faced while snow is flying everywhere and everyone else is yelling is damn near meme template material
/r/MarriedRedPill18/01/22 06:45 PM
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Well, when you put it that way, I guess it is technically logistics. That's about 90% of what I was doing this week, creating anticipation for future stuff. But it is different than text game when you look at it like that.
/r/MarriedRedPill18/01/22 06:41 PM
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. My wife rejects 100% of my initiations, but initiates herself roughly once every two weeks. What does the rest of your relationship with her look like? Do you flirt with her? Tease her? Are you fun?
/r/MarriedRedPill18/01/22 06:35 PM
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Have some fun with it, escalate, and calibrate. That's the key there, have some fun. You don't always gotta be fondling her tits or grabbing her pussy. Just try being physically fun with her. Even if it's something as dumb as playing footsies or thumb wrestling or tickling her -- that kind of stuff will drop her guard and open her up to being seduced by you. Being fun and open is a critical part of game. All of that shit generates feelz. For women, all touch is sexual even if it doesn't seem ove…
/r/MarriedRedPill18/01/22 06:25 PM
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If anyone has any pregnancy game articles or field reports to read I'm down to read them. I initiated a few times last week but no sex. Hormones, nauseous, bloated, and my body is not feeling it right now were the spoken reasons du jour. Pregnancy is its own barrel of crazy. Those are all legit reasons, and your sex life will be very up and down as her hormones go crazy. And think of it this way -- if you were feeling bloated and gassy all the time, and sick a whole lot of the time, and your moo…
/r/MarriedRedPill18/01/22 06:18 PM
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I’m still angry – more at ‘the system’ than women but I’m angry, sad, irritable and probably not that great to be around. Sure, I have beaten so much over the past year but I have lost my enthusiasm for life while doing it. You're likely angry because you're insecure about your life, and how 'the system' affects it. The only way you'll be able to get through this is to not give a fuck about any of it. The world is what it is, and it's usually a piece of shit. You need to understand that you're m…
/r/MarriedRedPill18/01/22 06:08 PM
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I've got another date lined up for Friday with a different woman. After a fair bit of banter on Bumble she shared with me that she was into DomSub. I checked out some DomSub porn to get some sort of idea of what the fuck I was getting myself into. Holy shit. Send help. Being dominant in bed might feel a bit uncomfortable at first, and that's just your Nice Guy conditioning getting in the way. Once you break through that, you won't be able to have sex any other way. Allowing that natural dominanc…
/r/MarriedRedPill18/01/22 05:59 PM
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OYS #18 Me: 33, Married 10 years. 3 young boys. Stats: 6'1., 205 lbs, ~16-17% bf. Finished-ish with 3 months of TRT, so I started back on my cut. This time I'm going for -500 cal/day, doing it a little slower for now since I really like my progress in the gym. I'm giving myself the option to cut harder if I get sick of how slow this cut goes. Estrogen spikes got under control and I didn't need a blocker this week. Awesome. Weight loss seems on track...was actually a little more than I was expect…
/r/MarriedRedPill18/01/22 05:51 PM
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Text game I had a similar experience this last week...I used to treat 'logistics only' as gospel. Then I found that dirty texting adds a whole new layer of anticipation. I had a few positively raunchy evenings dirty texting my wife while she was off hanging out with her sister and the sex later was out of this world. I also dirty texted her during our DnD session and we had to kick everyone out early so we could tear each others' clothes off.
/r/MarriedRedPill18/01/22 05:07 PM
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The whole mission part is missing at the moment. You may spend your whole life working to discover your mission and fulfil it. The key is to focus on what is drawing you now. Throw yourself into it. Eventually, you will get bored of it. That's your sign that you've fulfilled that purpose of your life and you can now search for the next, deeper layer of purpose.
/r/MarriedRedPill18/01/22 05:04 PM
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Sure thing man. I think Ego is a sub-optimal container word here. To get all Jungian, Ego has a shadow side, and the shadow side is the thing we're all trying to overcome here. That's what we're really talking about when we say stuff like "kill your ego." Sometimes I think of it as Good King vs Petty Tyrant. The Good King understands that his power is a stewardship -- i.e., he's responsible for being judicious and thoughtful with how he uses it -- and the Petty Tyrant thinks of himself as a sort…
/r/MarriedRedPill13/01/22 05:18 PM
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Yeah man, I haven't gone shooting since ammo got scare and expensive. Used to be my main hobby. For Ego, we all have two sides. Healthy Ego is the "I'm the Prize" ego, unhealthy Ego is the covert contract-y, entitled, easily offended at every slight Ego that we all need to get rid of. Healthy ego is "I am the prize, and when I have sex (for example), it is a gift I give. But if that gift is not wanted, then oh well. There will always be another time." Healthy Ego is abundance and OI. Unhealthy e…
/r/MarriedRedPill12/01/22 11:53 PM
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Good to hear, that's why I shared it. I figured I wasn't the only one here dealing with that or something similar to it. Getting over that hurdle has healed me in ways I didn't expect. I never realized how long I'd been allowing that to erode me until I finally got past it. And it's helped a lot in my marriage...I'm not an insecure little child anymore, so that baggage doesn't hang over everything like it used to. She can feel that I accept her for who she is, and I can better focus my time and …
/r/MarriedRedPill12/01/22 04:01 PM
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In the end, I yelled about 10 times this week That's not too bad. Whittle it down to 5 this week. Breaking out of that cycle of yelling at your kids is hard. Unless it's a truly serious disciplinary issue, or a life-and-death emergency, yelling at your kids is really just you losing frame. Realizing that made it a lot easier for me to keep myself calmer.
/r/MarriedRedPill11/01/22 11:39 PM
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sweet. Can't wait to see you pack on 20 pounds of muscle. You're gonna be a legend, kid. I hope you posted in OYS this week, 'cause they're gonna be a blast to read.
/r/MarriedRedPill11/01/22 11:25 PM
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I could see her finding a way to fuck with me with that, and honestly if she is that's pretty damn funny. But... she wasn't wrong at all. I was smiling like an old man handing you a Werther's after feeding the ducks at the park. I threw up in my mouth a little bit when I demo'd it in the mirror.
/r/MarriedRedPill11/01/22 11:22 PM
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I have a hot ass yoga instructor waiting Don't count your chickens before they hatch, bruv. My wife has one fucking chance to make this shit right as rain. She’s bending over backwards too. Sex every night, multiple times a night. She’s moving fast. She's hysterical bonding. None of it is real, she's doing it to keep you around and lower your guard. What are your stats? Height/weight/bodyfat %? Do you lift?
/r/MarriedRedPill11/01/22 09:16 PM
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That's a good question. For now it's more of a general feeling, reactiveness and passivity have been such a hallmark of my life for so long I just automatically default to undesirable behaviors and thought patterns being the result of reactive laziness. I'll do a little more thinking on this and pinpoint some concrete things I can take action on.
/r/MarriedRedPill11/01/22 07:54 PM
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Height: 6', 224 lbs, 24.1% BF (scales) - down 8lbs/1.5% this week That was me 4 months ago. Keep it up man, you're doing awesome work here.
/r/MarriedRedPill11/01/22 06:45 PM
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I looked at myself in the mirror. My hair looked awful. I don't smell nice. I stuttered when I talk. I don't project a high SMV. Goal for next week: improve my appearance when going out. I had something happen to me this week that really opened my eyes -- I shot a smile at my wife and she got pissed and said "it feels like you smile at me like I'm a co-worker". I looked at my smile in the mirror and, sure enough, she's right. I unconsciously and unknowingly had a shitty, unpolarizing, unattracti…
/r/MarriedRedPill11/01/22 06:36 PM
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Work: Still waiting to hear back. But I'm really getting sick of my current job. I had a little spark of insight a couple days back when I was fixing a sticky button on a vacuum cleaner. I'm good with my hands, I have a pretty intuitive sense for mechanical things, and I'm fascinated about how all the parts work together. I'm strongly thinking about using my GI bill and going back to school for a Mechanical Engineering degree. The problem I'm having is thinking through it to the next steps -- ok…
/r/MarriedRedPill11/01/22 06:28 PM
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OYS #17 Me: 33, Married 10 years. 3 young boys. Stats: 6'1., 206 lbs, ~17% bf. Finished-ish with 3 months of TRT, so I started back on my cut. This time I'm going for -500 cal/day, doing it a little slower for now since I really like my progress in the gym. I'm giving myself the option to cut harder if I get sick of how slow this cut goes. One of the fun things that happens with TRT is that around 8-10 weeks in, your body starts converting some of that testosterone into estrogen naturally. You e…
/r/MarriedRedPill11/01/22 06:12 PM
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This is a super interesting post. Totally bridged a gap in my mind with what I'm doing now and what I've down before with other things. As a noob, I've found that a lot of my experience coming here and grinding it out parallels my experiences learning languages. For the first 6 months or so, your brain is totally inundated by all of these foreign concepts that have absolutely no place at all in your current mental framework. Your brain has to grow and adapt and forge new neural pathways to make …
/r/MarriedRedPill11/01/22 04:54 PM
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You might feel a little weaker lifting on a deficit, but that's almost entirely in your head. Just remember that.
/r/MarriedRedPill21/12/21 10:33 PM
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I use my fitness pal and I track EVERYTHING. Same. I'll overeat if I don't, and you always need to know what your macros are.
/r/MarriedRedPill21/12/21 10:32 PM
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u/ghostCanape recommended switching from SrongLifts to Starting Strength or GZCLP. I have looked at GZCLP and it looks convincing, but, given my lack of knowledge, so does StrongLifts. Does anyone else have any knowledge/experience re the relative merits of the 2 programs (or indeed other programs)? His recommendation of GZCLP was what convinced me to switch over. SL 5x5 is great if you've already got some conditioning. It's great for getting strong squats real fast. But its utility is limited a…
/r/MarriedRedPill21/12/21 10:25 PM
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In retrospect, that was a blessing. I talked with a high ranking warrant officer last night about the officer job I wanted and deliberated on my options. I won't get into specifics, but during the phone call he mentioned "you'll have your answer on pursuing this career as soon as you put this phone down." He was right. Fuck that. I've decided to get another BA in IT while Active Duty, go Reservist when my 4 years is up and go to law school. On top of that, get a LLM in cybersecurity and national…
/r/MarriedRedPill21/12/21 10:13 PM
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For the sake of notes, her response: "No it is not, my body is mine, I just let you use it for your pleasure." Next time say it when you're inside her
/r/MarriedRedPill21/12/21 10:09 PM
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GZCLP I just switched over to this from SL 5x5 and I like it way better. Looks like you've really done your research. Your stats are pretty good for only being at this for a couple of months, too. Sex God Method It will transform your sex life. Creating immersion is an enormous deal, and I never knew before reading it that truly incredible sex is probably more psychological and spiritual than it is physical. Great first post. Can't wait to read more about your fuckups in the future.
/r/MarriedRedPill21/12/21 10:02 PM
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OYS #16 Me: 33, Married 10 years. 3 young boys. Stats: 6'1, latest weigh-in was- probably around 207. Using MFP to track calories, eating TDEE until I'm done with month 3 of TRT, and then will probably go back on a cut for a couple more months. I'm not necessarily seeing weight loss, per se, but I'm edging closer to the next lowest notch on my belt and my abs have been showing a little more definition. I'd say I'm at around 17% bodyfat, but my end goal is 13%. I had a little freakout yesterday w…
/r/MarriedRedPill21/12/21 09:49 PM
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Hey, if that upfront vulnerability works for you, then it works for you. The real key here is congruence and strength. As long as you're owning yourself, and it truly is who you are inside, and you do it from a place of giving and of strength and not a place of neediness, then you do you my man.
/r/MarriedRedPill21/12/21 09:07 PM
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Glad the words were helpful, here's hoping that they turn into actions that stop you from turning into an incel. Pretty girls are my kryptonite. I have a very specific type and look that just makes me weak and retarded. It's that small dainty, long hair, girl next door, sweet and innocent demeanor with a sprinkle of slut eyes. Every time i get into it with one of these girls I lose my shit and my frame. And boom, my hamster goes off the rails and I get a taste of that narcissistic fantasy. I bec…
/r/MarriedRedPill17/12/21 06:05 PM
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There's a few different ways...For all you know, some of your friends might already be into it. DnD doesn't have that nerd stigma that it used to. I mean, if chads like Vin Diesel and Joe Mangionello and Henry Cavill are openly, passionately into it then surely regular people can like it too. Shit, even Rollo is into tabletop games and he talks about it all the time. You can talk with your friends and see if you can get a game going, or you can stop by your local tabletop games stores (surely th…
/r/MarriedRedPill17/12/21 05:20 PM
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yuuuuuuuuup
/r/MarriedRedPill16/12/21 11:02 PM
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Because of my religious upbringing I was shamed for asking for help instead of given help. Man that hits home real hard. It makes honestly stating your needs feel incredibly vulnerable and useless. Which doesn’t make the needs go away it just drives them underground and we all know the result of that. This was 110% the exact same thing for me for almost my entire life until about 8 months ago. I didn't ever feel like it was even okay to have needs, or that needs were actual needs and not just re…
/r/MarriedRedPill16/12/21 06:26 PM
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Looking at your vision for yourself, I see: A man who knows what he truly wants and goes after it. Become free. You don't become free by limiting yourself to an outdated mental model, or by having unrealistic expectations of the world as it is. You don't become free by holding on to anger. You don't become free without valuing yourself, loving yourself, and liking yourself first. And you can't know what you truly want and go after it if you don't truly, deeply, and confidently love and like and …
/r/MarriedRedPill16/12/21 06:12 PM
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Chest: BP 165 5x (smith) // Shoulders: ShoulderPress (machine) 60 5x // Arms: BicepCurl (dumbbells) 55 5x // Triceps: Triceps Pulldown (cable) 72.5 5x // Core: Squat 175 5x (smith) // Back: LatPulldown 140 x5 *vomits in mouth The fuckarounditis is strong with this one. You need real compound lifts and you have to stabilize yourself. Unfuck your routine. StrongLifts 5x5. Starting Strength. GZCLP. Pick one.
/r/MarriedRedPill16/12/21 05:12 PM
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I used to actively avoid asking for anything from my parents when I was a kid because I always felt so guilty that I was forcing them to spend money on me.
/r/MarriedRedPill16/12/21 04:36 PM
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DM: "you literally trip over your own dick and become the Dragon's power bottom for 10,000 years"
/r/MarriedRedPill16/12/21 04:31 PM
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Oh, absolutely. I'm finding that I prefer things that are either social or something that helps me improve myself. I hardly ever watch TV or play video games like I used to outside of hanging out with my wife at night.
/r/MarriedRedPill16/12/21 04:31 PM
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I'd say you're probably fine. in 5 weeks your waist only changed by a half inch, and your waist size should be more of your metric to be concerned about than your actual weight, since that's the actual reflection of your change in BF%. I'd imagine that the first week was also a bit of a red herring since you probably have water weight and increased glycogen playing a bit of a role there as well as you started your bulk. The inverse of that happens when you start a cut -- your first week has a fe…
/r/MarriedRedPill15/12/21 10:48 PM
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"I FUCK THE DRAGON TO DEATH WITH MY MAGIC MISSLE"
/r/MarriedRedPill15/12/21 10:13 PM
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that's not too bad of a rate, but for what your BF% is you could honestly double your weight loss and still be within a healthy range. You could be cutting 800-1000 cal out of your intake and make faster progress. It's kind of a tradeoff...either it sucks less but you're doing it for longer, or it sucks way more but you do it for shorter. You seem pretty close to a lat pulldown at your body weight, which is why I suggested the pull up. You still might not be there in terms of strength, but it co…
/r/MarriedRedPill15/12/21 10:12 PM
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So then do you see a consistent gain of weight over several weeks that seems higher than you should be putting on, or was that just the result from one week to the next? Do you have enough data points to accurately track your path yet? This is the kind of stuff I wish I would have known when I was cutting and getting stressed that I wasn't always making the kind of consistent progress I was expecting. We have our numbers we try to stay on top of, and usually the results tend to follow predictabl…
/r/MarriedRedPill14/12/21 10:46 PM
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Well, you're optimistic about it. She's not sexually unavailable, she's just sexually unavailable with you. Now you need to become the Chad that fills her holes. And if not hers, then someone else's. Honestly, I don't envy you at all. If my wife was obsessed with a korean ladyboy group and lusting after them that hard, I'd probably have been just as much of a mess as you probably feel like right now. The sooner you can figure out DNGAF and STFU and really apply them in your life, the better. The…
/r/MarriedRedPill14/12/21 10:40 PM
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So, you could definitely go hit the gym more, or do some cardio, or just something active to bump up your TDEE. I might be biased because I'm taller, but 2200 cal/day seems pretty low if you're even just hitting the gym 3x a week and doing nothing else. It would take a few weeks of diligently tracking your calories and weight, but this method is a real great way of figuring out what your actual TDEE is. I had to go to a doctor and get Phentermine prescribed. It worked wonders, though. I may have…
/r/MarriedRedPill14/12/21 08:20 PM
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2 of my little sisters are like that. One of them is a super angry feminist and the other one is a lesbian. Both are foreveralones. But you're right with that. She's trying to fill a hole in her life (giggity) that you aren't.
/r/MarriedRedPill14/12/21 08:15 PM
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Will do man
/r/MarriedRedPill14/12/21 08:14 PM
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She also started obsessing over BTS right around when this coldwar started. I’ve read some messages where she lusted after some of the band members like a pubescent fangirl. Sounds like your wife is either a closet lesbian or the next worst thing after a horse girl if she's lusting after a bunch of dancing Korean ladyboys
/r/MarriedRedPill14/12/21 06:32 PM
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1- Mental point of origin: What’s Ragnar doing?What’s he want? How’s he doing at getting it/going after it today? Anything else he wants/needs? 2- Mission First: What’s my mission? Am I prioritizing that today? Or distracting myself? 3- On The Edge: I am on my edge today? If not, how do I get to it before the day’s over? 4- I am the prize, I. AM. THE. PRIZE. All this is for me. Everyone else is lucky to share it with me. 5- Play your nice card. You have it all. All the weapons, all the cards, al…
/r/MarriedRedPill14/12/21 06:27 PM
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What is your current calorie deficit? At your BF% level, you can stand to go pretty high. Also speaking from experience here...I was a pretty similar BF% level before I started cutting and going to the gym, about a month and a half before I started OYS here. What has worked for me has been discipline at counting calories. Even though I'm eating my TDEE right now, I still count those calories. I also took Phentermine for my first 2 months. Made a huge difference, but it's also kinda cheating. How…
/r/MarriedRedPill14/12/21 06:21 PM
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but still putting down a lot of turkey or ham when I eat lean protein I feel guilty
/r/MarriedRedPill14/12/21 06:16 PM
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Lifting isnt going that well. I'm starting to feel really, really tired after lifting, and it feels like I am not progressing at some lifts(lat pulldown for ex is stuck at 80kg). I believe this is happening because I'm cutting, but I'm not really sure, as I have a lot of energy in my body in the form of fat to burn. Even then, I've progressed a fair bit on my lifts. Some of that low energy is purely psychological. How long have you been cutting for? What's your bf%? Some of it may be related to …
/r/MarriedRedPill14/12/21 06:13 PM
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I’ve noticed I don’t last as long as I did when I was masturbating daily but since I am cavemanning these days I haven’t seen it as a problem yet. My desire remains low but I did start to have some sexual thoughts this week about my wife. Been there before. Thinking back on it, my porn addiction time ended up creating a bunch of passive dread because I just didn't really desire her at all. Give it some time. Your dopamine system is all fucked up and it's gonna need some time to recover. But it w…
/r/MarriedRedPill14/12/21 06:03 PM
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Did a month of maintenance calories in October. Now I'm on week 6 of my first bulk aiming at 1/lb per week The problem is my BF went up 1.4% which is about 2.5lbs of fat (out of the roughly 4lbs total I've gained). I screwed something up because this seems like too much fat to me. How are you measuring your weight? Do you weigh yourself each morning and then take a weekly average? You went from maintenence to bulk. This could be a red herring, and you might be taking on a little more glycogen an…
/r/MarriedRedPill14/12/21 05:55 PM
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I had to learn this the hard way this week...overt promises guarantee nothing.
/r/MarriedRedPill14/12/21 05:45 PM
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OYS #15 Me: 33, Married 10 years. 3 young boys. Stats: 6'1, latest weigh-in was- probably around 206. Using MFP to track calories, eating TDEE until I'm done with month 3 of TRT, and then will probably go back on a cut for a couple more months. I'm not necessarily seeing weight loss, per se, but I'm edging closer to the next lowest notch on my belt and my abs have been showing a little more definition. I'd say I'm at around 17% bodyfat, but my end goal is 13%. Gym: BP 215x5, SQ 230x5, DL 265x5, …
/r/MarriedRedPill14/12/21 04:57 PM
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I must admit I had a cheeky cry when I saw his head pop out. That's the mark of a father right there. I've found that I tear up a lot easier now that I've had kids. Is this your first? Because if so, get ready to feel like the Captain Protector on an whole new level. Congrats, man!
/r/MarriedRedPill14/12/21 04:26 PM
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the ugly abyss I have in myself, that I don't really want to look at. You can't be brave without being afraid first. You'll need to confront the ugly shit about yourself if you want to overcome it. It's hard, and we all have to do it. Stop being a victim to yourself. I have better things to do than appeasing this shit You're scoreboarding. How do you think she'd be acting if you'd fuck her on the reg, and had frame and abundance? Would she be acting like this if you were the Oak in your house? I…
/r/askMRP13/12/21 11:32 PM
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So, there's another delicate balance here -- ​ as my natural behaviour is what caused the problem in the first place. Can be true sometimes. Sometimes it's not. And it's hard to spot when. Often, I find that actual shit tests come about because of a lack of leadership and/or initiative on my part. And in that way, I see those shit tests as gifts because they point out areas I can improve in. But sometimes, your behavior had absolutely nothing to do with it. u/Blarg_Risen started a great little c…
/r/MarriedRedPill13/12/21 05:06 PM
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As a follow up/mini FR, I had an experience last night with this exact thing u/Blarg_Risen was talking about. Was hanging out with the wife, we'd had a pretty good day. Lots of kino and touching, and I tried (unsuccessfully) to pull off a day bang. No big deal, I just kind of laughed it off and we went on throughout our day. She was still being really flirty and sexual. She even flashed me on a whim. And then she pulled that damn "I'm just your bang maid, you only want me for sex" shit test that…
/r/MarriedRedPill13/12/21 04:55 PM
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I just wanna say that this week's OYS has been fucking solid. There's been so much good shit in the comments
/r/MarriedRedPill09/12/21 10:30 PM
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Just be warned -- it is a fucking grind to get there. I have a brother-in-law who's nearing the end of his Ph.D track to be an economics professor. He went into it a bit naievely, but he also thought that he'd have had a job lined up 3 years ago. He's basically been grinding through research papers for 3 years and finally got published so he can actually get awarded his degree.
/r/MarriedRedPill09/12/21 10:19 PM
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Yes, squats every day was what I believe led to injuries. The frustrating thing was that deloads were large, and resulted in weeks of workouts which weren't as hard as they could be. Y'know, it's funny you brought all this up. I had a super sketchy final rep last week with a (for me) heavy squat and it's actually killed my progress this week. Like I can just feel a back injury coming on when I use more than 2 plates. I've been in a deload not from stalling, but more because I want to give my bac…
/r/MarriedRedPill09/12/21 10:06 PM
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Yeah, SL builds up like that.s Based on some of u/ghostCanape's comments, though, I'm re-evaluating my own SL program and I've started giving GZCLP a shot. We'll see how it goes for a few months. Damn man, sounds like COVID really sucked. I think the hardest part of this whole thing (definitely speaking from personal experience here) is figuring out how not to be full autismo about it all. When you read up on what you're supposed to be doing, a lot of it is written from a kind of clinical, detat…
/r/MarriedRedPill08/12/21 09:29 PM
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Great shit, that makes a ton of sense. It's all about reprogramming those previous responses. Thanks!
/r/MarriedRedPill08/12/21 03:19 PM
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Yeah, totally get that. Your time and attention are rewards, and whatever you're doing needs to be done sincerely and honestly. Good stuff man, thanks for that.
/r/MarriedRedPill07/12/21 09:03 PM
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Great post, man. I've never thought about increased reps or rest times as another metric for progress. Genuinely curious here -- what about SL was frustrating and injurious to you? Was it the high-weight/high volume part? (heavy) Squats every time? I've modified my SL routine a bit so I'm doing Squats 2x a week instead of 3, and not doing them on the same day as my DL. I sub in incline bench on the day that I'm doing DLs instead. I've also added Chin-ups, dips, and curls to the routine. I love i…
/r/MarriedRedPill07/12/21 08:56 PM
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Wow, can't believe I have a reason to link my least favorite post written You're welcome for that ;) And thanks for that. It makes sense, and seems natural. Seems like it's more or less a case of getting out of your own way and letting what's underneath express itself without fear.
/r/MarriedRedPill07/12/21 07:53 PM
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Saved that shit
/r/MarriedRedPill07/12/21 07:44 PM
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Thanks man, it's coming along, just takes time like everything else does. Even compared to who I was a month ago I feel like I've moved forward a lot, just got a lonnnnnng ways to go. I think "Arts vs. Chad" is a pretty common demo here. I'm pretty sure "musician" and "tech industry" are also pretty common here. But the lesson we all have to learn as part of Frame is owning and accepting that we did have great facets of ourselves before we started all of this, and that there needs to be a place …
/r/MarriedRedPill07/12/21 07:38 PM
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I let out an audible chuckle when I saw your new flair. You'll be fine man. Grill up some chicken breasts at the beginning of the week and have one for lunch every day.
/r/MarriedRedPill07/12/21 07:32 PM
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Given that I’m with an argumentative, passive-aggressive, and extremely disrespectful person a woman, the mindset that everything I do is intentional and right is helpful to me. I've found when my woman is acting argumentative, passive-aggressive, and disrespectful that it can still put me on the defensive sometimes and look at her in an adversarial light. That's really just my ego getting in the way. That's flooding at work in my life. I'm scoreboarding. It doesn't mean I have to reward bad beh…
/r/MarriedRedPill07/12/21 07:15 PM
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One, I spend about 10-20 minutes a day talking to my wife in the evenings after the kids go to bed. Not in a needy way, but about things I want to talk about. I also ask how her day went, because I’m interested. I let her vent a while. Man, that seems so simple and easy. I'm gonna start doing this more. I get "you're a stranger to me" a whole lot (along with a lot of the same comfort test phrases that u/Mapplan20 reported), and ultimately the root of it is that I closed off too much during Anger…
/r/MarriedRedPill07/12/21 06:59 PM
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What do you define as "progress" here? Are you talking about 2.5 hours of actual working time for the entire week? As in, that's the cumulative time you're spending doing the lifting? Asking because SL 5x5 3x/week has been very effective in getting me to above bodyweight for 5x5 in the Big Three. It's great for beginners while your body gets used to doing actual work.
/r/MarriedRedPill07/12/21 06:27 PM
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she can't read through this bullshit "against myself". Barf. Dude - you have to eliminate entirely, even the faintest smell, of any and all scoreboards for a sustained amount of time before you can congruently create new ones where the points don't matter. At all. yeah, I do understand that. Saying "against myself" was stupid bravado. It's not like I'm actually making a note each time of how many times it's happened and stressing that I need to get those numbers up next time. Here's the truth: "…
/r/MarriedRedPill07/12/21 06:13 PM
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I get more butthurt about rejections than I’d like to admit I find it interesting how hard it is to get over this sometimes. Seems like it's a weak point for a lot of us, even after being at this for nearly a year. You're much further along here than I am...are you still doing sex for validation?
/r/MarriedRedPill07/12/21 05:58 PM
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Diet is complicated and the simple answer is Calories in Calories out, but the more complicated answer is "there is such thing as too much fat." What's wrong with protein power and chicken breasts, or turkey, or fish, or greek yogurt? Why isn't eating meat sustainable for you?
/r/MarriedRedPill07/12/21 05:53 PM
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The main lesson for me is to keep going and be patient. Get on a real routine. You don't need to be in 6x a week but you should be at least 3. I say it to everyone with a shitty routine -- get on Stronglifts 5x5. You go to the gym 3x a week, your sessions are relatively short in the beginning, you make a ton of real progress in all of the important compound lifts, and you get a ton of volume doing it. And after a few months you'll start getting heavy and your 50 minute gym sessions are suddenly …
/r/MarriedRedPill07/12/21 05:42 PM
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Same here. But then, sometimes, I'll go to the comments section of one of Rollo's or Rich's videos. Like a video Rich did recently about dirty talk. And I'll see angry incels taking entirely the wrong track and sperging out about how "dirty talk won't be a turn on because men are evolutionarily supposed to stay silent during sex" or some other stupid bullshit and then I'll think Y'know, at least I'm not those guys
/r/MarriedRedPill07/12/21 05:25 PM
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I don’t ignore her outside of sex. In the past year, I’ve included her in my mission on a management end. I bring her with to any guest speaking gigs, where she handles logistics and day of events. So, no, she’s not just a sex doll that’s put away. Do you touch her? Flirt with her? Blur the lines a little? I wonder if finding some of those old parts again would help me fill whatever void is here right now. Other people who've made it can speak to this stronger than I can, but it looks like you'r…
/r/MarriedRedPill07/12/21 05:16 PM
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OYS #14 Me: 33, Married 10 years. 3 young boys. Stats: 6'1, latest weigh-in was- probably around 206. I don't know, I've stopped using weight as a metric and now I care about my BF% more now. Currently using myfitnesspal to track calories. Bodyfat is somewhere between 16-18% (Navy and Visual), down from 26% in OYS #1. Abs are starting to take more shape. I want to see what the first 3 months of TRT are like before I go back on a cut...if I can pretty much get to where I want to be without hating…
/r/MarriedRedPill07/12/21 04:58 PM
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Most of the other redpill spaces are chock full of bitter incel LARPers. Most of us here are just retarded.
/r/MarriedRedPill07/12/21 03:33 PM
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Shit, that's intense.
/r/MarriedRedPill02/12/21 04:01 AM
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I'll cut it out next time.
/r/MarriedRedPill01/12/21 04:24 PM
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<3 you too boo To be fair I mostly hate cardio because it's not a required part of my life any more. And I got bone spurs so I had to stop. But you mentioned something I totally have forgotten: I think out a LOT of my stress on runs. In fact most of my good posts have been constructed on a run. I started enjoying running once I started looking at it as a chance to just trance out to your breath and your steps and let your thoughts flow. And honestly, maybe it's worth re-considering adding in a r…
/r/MarriedRedPill01/12/21 04:23 PM
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You tell me. Never meet your heroes. Fuck, that's more disappointing than JP's daughter. Maybe in a year. Maybe less. But definitely after you've successfully squashed all these bluepill fantasies and are dominant over yourself. I guess that applies to pretty much everything here
/r/MarriedRedPill01/12/21 01:07 AM
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No retard. Get out of this alpha and beta mindset. Do what you want through the lens of WHAT DO I WANT TO DO HERE? and stop going Rambo. That's great shit
/r/MarriedRedPill30/11/21 11:57 PM
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Don't do this. Not now. You're in no position to be gay. Yet. And it's not congruent. You're lying to yourself if you're telling yourself it's "just a gift to someone I value". Don't lie. You're not there yet and you know it. Not because I'm telling you - but because YOU know it. Bluepill cheat codes don't work. That's the kind of feedback I was hoping for. It's something I want to express. I don't expect it to turn into doe-eyed affection for me. I'm hoping it would be something meaningful. And…
/r/MarriedRedPill30/11/21 11:01 PM
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I think if RP jargon is in a name, it's the same as Alpha[animal]
/r/MarriedRedPill30/11/21 10:20 PM
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"Don't make the norm success" i.e. Don't make success something that's expected and easy. Success needs to be earned. It has to be a challenge. Or it won't mean shit.
/r/MarriedRedPill30/11/21 10:13 PM
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Dunlop60's comments last week made me questions whether I'm running away from lifts. I gave this more thought, and I think it's not the case. Bruv, you lost 4 pounds and less than half of that was actual fat mass. What do you think the rest was? Running gives me a different, lower but longer pain or discomfort. Sometimes it's the legs, sometimes it's the burning sensation in my lungs. This is what I'm seeking. I want to embrace it and go beyond it. I am still pushing for a one hour run at 6.5mph…
/r/MarriedRedPill30/11/21 09:53 PM
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Part 2 Work : Resume for the huge Move Up Opportunity is almost ready to go. Gonna submit it to my friend this week and then prep my ass off for it. Parenting: u/ragnar_Daneskjold recommended 1-2-3 Magic: Gentle 3-Step Child & Toddler Discipline for Calm, Effective, and Happy Parenting. Couldn't find a torrent or a .pdf anywhere, so I just bought it today. I've had some moderate success already (before reading it) at simply giving Strikes as warnings. We'll see how it goes. Social/Hobbies: Playe…
/r/MarriedRedPill30/11/21 09:30 PM
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OYS #13 Me: 33, Married 10 years. 3 young boys. Stats: 6'1, latest weigh-in was- probably around 206. I don't know, I've stopped using weight as a metric and now I care about my BF% more now. Currently using myfitnesspal to track calories. Bodyfat is somewhere between 16-18% (Navy and Visual), down from 26% in OYS #1. Abs are starting to take more shape. Week 4 of TRT was a lot less eventful than week 3. No huge spike like last time, just felt a lot more evened out. Gym: Still on 230 5x5 squats.…
/r/MarriedRedPill30/11/21 09:27 PM
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too many people live in Utah
/r/MarriedRedPill24/11/21 08:27 PM
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I tried it with the shitty cover band I used to play in...we had a sax player and keys and it sounded pretty decent, but it's definitely missing something without the harmonies. TBH I think stripped down would've sounded way better
/r/MarriedRedPill24/11/21 05:21 PM
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I see you too live in Utah
/r/MarriedRedPill24/11/21 04:11 PM
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perfected that fat, funky bass line to Superstition That riff that matches the horn section (like right after he sings "thirteen month old baby") during the verses is so sick. It's such a pain in the ass to get the finger work down, but god damn you feel like a boss when you can pull it off. Stevie Wonder is an actual god among men. Also this whole thing is awesome. I'm gonna try it on.
/r/MarriedRedPill24/11/21 04:10 PM
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Yeah, I have stopped worshipping her. There are still times where I feel like I give too much, just because that's the kind of person I am. And maybe that ultimately doesn't matter. You're right, sometimes a cucumber is just a cucumber Edit: Huh, just saw a comment from /u/bluepilllprofessor in this post Example number #41,799 that it is impossible for women to be happy in a relationship unless they are unhappy. You can give them the gift of anxiety or the "gift" of simpery. Both will make her u…
/r/MarriedRedPill24/11/21 03:54 PM
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way better is my secret garden I see you too are a man of taste
/r/MarriedRedPill24/11/21 03:33 AM
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There's always something to go back and rediscover about yourself in NMMNG. Covert contacts and Nice Guy behavior are really hard to root out of your life, turns out
/r/MarriedRedPill24/11/21 03:30 AM
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Thanks a ton man, that looks like some really solid advice. I'll give it a look
/r/MarriedRedPill24/11/21 03:00 AM
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Yeah, the good thing is that everything in the reading list needs to be read over and over again, so you'll never be done! No pressure, you don't need to figure it all out at once. Worry more about allowing yourself to open first. If dirty talk and expression is a challenge right now, get good at allowing that out first. If you're shy about being Dominant, work on that as well. SGM might be too much for now, come to think of it. Getting off the script and out of the pattern is hard. I'm the same…
/r/MarriedRedPill23/11/21 11:59 PM
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7, 5, and 2. My parenting style has been utter garbage until fairly recently. It was either Army Drill Sergeant or My Dad, who was always very frustrated and angry. I think you're right, I'm almost entirely reactively dealing with the bad behavior. Never thought about it like that before. What's worked for you?
/r/MarriedRedPill23/11/21 11:55 PM
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that's a great analogy. gonna keep that
/r/MarriedRedPill23/11/21 11:41 PM
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It's a tough nut to crack (giggity), but one of the greatest things you can ever do for yourself is to allow that Openness during sex. Everything becomes infinitely more pleasurable, and everyone's pleasure becomes your pleasure. If you haven't read SGM, I highly recommend that as well. It's essential for understanding the ebb and flow of the psychological aspect of sex. I've had some really awesome results since I read it and allowed myself to just let go and fling around from one emotion to th…
/r/MarriedRedPill23/11/21 11:41 PM
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That method seems kind of bullshit, tbh. I plugged in my stats and it overestimated my bf%. I don't know how you'd determine bf% based on weights you lift, since that doesn't seem like a very accurate way to estimate lean muscle mass at all. I've seen skinny ass hardgainers pump up 225 on the squats no big deal. And I see guys at the gym who look bigger than me who can't put up their own bodyweight on the bench or squat. Measure your neck circumference, then your waist circumference (around the …
/r/MarriedRedPill23/11/21 11:22 PM
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Scales are horribly inaccurate. No BF% measuring method is 100% spot on, but the Navy method is pretty decent for something you can do with a cheap tape measure at home. Give that a shot, it'll give you a much better idea without costing you much. And track your calories. People don't make progress because they usually horridly underestimate their intake.
/r/MarriedRedPill23/11/21 10:56 PM
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Ah, gotcha. How'd you get the injuries?
/r/MarriedRedPill23/11/21 10:54 PM
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Jesus tapdancing christ dude. Like, I get that latina women are fucking crazy and all but find your pinche cajones and go fuck the bitch out of her. Is the sidebar material even available in Spanish?
/r/MarriedRedPill23/11/21 10:23 PM
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Why are you not doing any compound lifts, and why are you spending so much valuable muscle building time doing cardio? I've shed about 4 pounds and 1% body fat in the last 3 weeks Let's do some fun math. You weigh ~160 pounds. You lost 1% bodyfat, therefore of the total weight you lost, ~1.6 pounds was fat. So what was the other 2.4 pounds? Muscle! You literally lost more muscle mass than fat in 3 weeks. Your cardio routine sucks and it's killing you. Cardio is fucking garbage for fat loss, musc…
/r/MarriedRedPill23/11/21 10:19 PM
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Do yourself a favor: Quit wasting your time fucking around with resistance bands. Go pick up a barbell like a real man. I'm gonna tell you what I tell everyone: Stronglifts 5x5. How the hell are you 190lbs with a 34" waist and obese? Are you measuring yourself correctly? Are you actually tracking your calorie intake? If you're not, you're wrong.
/r/MarriedRedPill23/11/21 10:11 PM
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Can't go wrong with Turkey and Chicken. If you smoke meat, nothing beats having some turkey in the fridge that you smoked yourself
/r/MarriedRedPill23/11/21 09:50 PM
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Part 2 Social/Hobbies: Went Airsofting on Saturday, but waffled on it internally a bit. Shark Week started last weeked, migraines go along with it sometimes, and I was going back and forth in my head on whether or not it was a shit test, or if the migraine was real this morning, or if I was Drunk Captaining. Still not sure if it was real or not, but I'm leaning on the side of "it was real" based on how the last few days have been. There was anger that I had gotten ready to go at all, and I just …
/r/MarriedRedPill23/11/21 09:42 PM
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OYS #12 Part 1 Me: 33, Married 10 years. 3 young boys. Stats: 6'1, latest weigh-in was- probably around 208 lbs. I don't know, I've stopped using weight as a metric and now I care about my BF% more now. Currently using myfitnesspal to track calories. Bodyfat is somewhere between 16-18% (Navy and Visual), down from 26% in OYS #1. Talked with u/HornsOfApathy about it, and eating my TDEE (~2900 cals) is the path forward for the time being. I want to see if I achieve the same fat loss on the first f…
/r/MarriedRedPill23/11/21 09:41 PM
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Initiated 3 times. Was OI and DNGAF. Masturbated next to her instead while she was watching TikTok. Felt Alpha as fuck.
/r/MarriedRedPill09/11/21 10:40 PM
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I am still getting shit tested alot, and I am still handling them easily, Fog, Fog, STFU. Think of it this way -- more shit tests means that your woman is starting to see some positive changes in you and she's making sure that you're for real. She's seeing you become stronger, so you can handle more. You're like Atlas, asking for stronger shoulders. You can start viewing them as opportunities to fuck her mind with your mind cock bless her with your unwavering masculine strength, and they'll get …
/r/MarriedRedPill09/11/21 10:24 PM
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Seems to me that I ought to be provisioning and caring for my wife Yes, that's your most basic duty. And it all has to come without any expectation of reward. Your own validation needs to matter way more than anyone else's. And it doesn't just stop at the home and at your wife. That shit eventually needs to extend out into the world. It's a big reason why you should go out and talk with other women people, apart from the attractiveness that comes with preselection and the OI and lack of oneitis …
/r/MarriedRedPill09/11/21 10:16 PM
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Now, don't get too literal about being serious. Like, be funny, have fun, be playful if you want. Just mean it. Decide you're gonna go for it, and then go for it. Your wife is a dirty, filthy slut deep inside. Whatever weird shit you can think of utterly pales in comparison to how insane and fucked up her fantasies are. She wants you to own her and penetrate her and dominate her. She wants to call you Daddy. She wants to be smacked around and called a whore. You'll bring that out of her once you…
/r/MarriedRedPill09/11/21 09:53 PM
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I am hoping this is just a period of readjustment. It is. Keep pushing, it's all in your head. Your body is capable of a lot more than your lizard brain gives you credit for.
/r/MarriedRedPill09/11/21 09:30 PM
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Awesome advice, thanks. Just be present in the moment and stop stepping on my own dick so much.
/r/MarriedRedPill09/11/21 09:28 PM
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The area that needs attention doesn't have anything to do with sex. My wife is a SAHM to three little kids. She's exhausted. I know there are opportunities for me to step up my game as a father, better take care of my household, my kids, to relieve her of the burden the keeps her from getting horny. Before we had kids, we had sex frequently. Of course, I'm sure these OYS's will dive into sex more often, but right now I want to deal with the me that's lackluster and irresponsible. Rule 9, dude. T…
/r/MarriedRedPill09/11/21 09:09 PM
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^^^^^^^ Worry about your protein macros above all else. Get that .7-1 g/lb each day. Don't fall into the mental trap of "oh I'll burn off these extra calories 'cause it's my WoRkOuT dAy!" That shit will kill your progress so fast. If you're gonna eat an extra 144 cals on your workout days, then your rest days need to have 144 calls less. Also, how much weight are you actually trying to lose? It's mentally easier if you just back off 500 cals from your TDEE. If you don't want to eat less, then go…
/r/MarriedRedPill09/11/21 08:42 PM
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Your mission doesn't just have to be your career, and it doesn't have to be one fixed thing. Your mission will change as you get out of your own way and allow your true inner self to be expressed more. You've got a lot of conditioning to fight against, but you need to find ways to find a quiet place and just listen to yourself. Don't be afraid to experiment. Don't be afraid of doing the "wrong" thing. Don't be afraid to try a new hobby. And then just pay attention to how you feel when you do thi…
/r/MarriedRedPill09/11/21 08:31 PM
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I'm usually always fasted while lifting, it's largely a mental thing This. You're still fat, you're grinding off that weight. You're fighting your lizard brain and millions of years of evolution right now screaming at you to stop burning up all of that precious, precious fats. These are all mental. Your body is fine, it works fine, it's 100% all in your head. Speaking from experience on this one.
/r/MarriedRedPill09/11/21 08:23 PM
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Sunday notwithstanding, my frame during the week was good. I was able to recover from any small lapses and keep driving forward. I'm not disappointed, but I can do better. Even when I fucked up on Sunday I was able to recover frame by late afternoon and right the ship Wrong, you have no frame. You're on OYS #2. If you have to say you "have frame," or you "recovered frame," you don't actually have it at all yet. Your first full challenge here is to figure that out. Frame is just you owning who yo…
/r/MarriedRedPill09/11/21 08:18 PM
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Last night my wife said something similar, like "of course you're just gonna get what you want."Yup, I am. I took it. And left her quivering by the end. She wants you to take her. She just wants you to be serious about it. Try some of Horns' cheat codes, and go read My Secret Garden just so you can get a look into how completely fucking dirty and twisted your wife is. u/SigmundRoids you're really afraid of yourself.
/r/MarriedRedPill09/11/21 08:14 PM
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Squats: 8x32kg/70lbs, Incline BP: 6x50kg/110lbs, Seated Dumbbell Press: 10x12 kg, Front Lunges: 8x32kg, Plank: 6:00 (5:40 last time), Push-ups: 30, Dumbbell row: 12x18kg You have chronic fuckarounditis. Get on an actual program like StrongLifts 5x5 or Starting Strength. This shit you're doing is a waste of time. Plank = doesn't matter. Stop wasting your time on it, you can make it a part of a routine in a year or two when you actually have muscles to work. Compound lifts will all give you a way …
/r/MarriedRedPill09/11/21 07:58 PM
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Think of her as a cat. She's gonna run away if you try to smother her with affection uninvited. Wait for her to meow at you, or nuzzle up to you. Then give her some pets and let her go her way. Or, rather, tell her to come sit on Daddy's lap for a bit and enjoy the moment and then let her go her way when she's had her fill. The more abundant you become, the more she'll want.
/r/MarriedRedPill09/11/21 07:53 PM
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OYS #11 Me: 33, Married 10 years. 3 young boys. Stats: 6'1, latest weigh-in was 205 lbs, down from 265 when I started ~4 months ago and 220/221 when I did my first OYS. Currently using myfitnesspal to track calories, eating 2100 calories a day with an emphasis on protein. Bodyfat is around 18% (Navy), down from 26% in OYS #1. I added a refeed day at my TDEE every week. My appetite has gone up a good bit since starting the TRT. As an experiment, I'm going to raise my calories for a week and see w…
/r/MarriedRedPill09/11/21 05:25 PM
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Only if being fodder is what you're willing to settle for
/r/MarriedRedPill09/11/21 04:13 PM
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It's such a weird paradox..."fail to plan and plan to fail" is totally true, however you've gotta be able to think on your feet and improvise once it all goes to shit, because it will go to shit.
/r/MarriedRedPill09/11/21 04:06 PM
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100% agree. I've made it a point since then to let him know that we need to take break when he's being aggravating when I'm trying to either discipline him or just get him to listen to something. I need to stay in control of myself, and he needs to see me doing that.
/r/MarriedRedPill03/11/21 08:59 PM
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Agreed. It's inexcusably garbage-tier behavior. It won't happen again.
/r/MarriedRedPill03/11/21 07:06 PM
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Absolutely. I wouldn't say that shit if I didn't mean to make it a part of myself moving forward
/r/MarriedRedPill03/11/21 07:04 PM
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Awesome post, I understand something a little better now -- I want to see if I can apply this unconscious flow of presence to other aspects of my life. Seems to me like this is what everyone's always talking about when they're saying "just be better." Stop thinking, step out of your own way, and let the authentic you come out. I've never done DMT, but I want to. Real bad.
/r/MarriedRedPill02/11/21 08:57 PM
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You don't have to do that last part. Hell, you don't even have to do the first part, but it's good practice. This is seriously one of the most thoughtful and powerful gifts you can give to someone. Make sure you're really only breaking it out for the ones you really care about. I like that perspective. I'll treat it accordingly moving forward. The best way to offer a woman escape is to transform yourself into a man that is an escape, naturally, for most all women. Not your wife in particular. Fo…
/r/MarriedRedPill02/11/21 08:47 PM
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OYS #10 Me: 33, Married 10 years. 3 young boys. Stats: 6'1, latest weigh-in was 204 lbs, down from 265 when I started ~4 months ago and 220/221 when I did my first OYS. Currently using myfitnesspal to track calories, eating 2100 calories a day with an emphasis on protein. Bodyfat is around 18% (Navy), down from 26% in OYS #1. I added a refeed day at my TDEE every week. I did my TRT consult and those blood panel results were shit. ~230ng/dl and a really low level of both Estrogen and Free Test. I…
/r/MarriedRedPill02/11/21 06:43 PM
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I had to work past a lot of back tweak issues from previous deadlift injuries from lifting with shitty form. Turns out my real issue was an untrained CNS that was still in injury recovery mode from the first time I tweaked it in the gym, and then made worse from the second time I REALLY tweaked it helping my dad lift a 450+lb oak table into his house. At first my ego kept feeding me excuses: "Oh, you're hurt, you should find an alternate exercise" or "no don't do it, you'll only get hurt again".…
/r/MarriedRedPill01/11/21 07:51 PM
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We learned that lesson really hard in the Army. Everyone gets "hurt," and you push through hurt. You take a knee, drink some water, and drive on. When you can't do it anymore, then you're "injured," and that's when it's time to listen to your body. I remember the first time I saw this for real -- it was our final Ruck March in Basic Training. The guy in front of me was this 240 lb personal trainer former high school football star. I saw him roll his ankle, wince in pain a bit, prop himself back …
/r/MarriedRedPill01/11/21 07:41 PM
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Weird as it sounds, I find this happening the most when I sit down and play music. I've been focusing a lot on writing my own stuff -- and now it's like I just sit down and my hands know what to do. I hardly ever think about it, it's kind of like I detach myself and let my body do its thing and then my ears occasionally provide feedback. It's like I'm digging it up from somewhere within and then it finds its way to express itself. I guess that's the same mental model to adopt to self-realization…
/r/MarriedRedPill01/11/21 07:35 PM
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I'm a huge Jung fanboi too...but another thing you can link this to in terms of Sidebar material is Way of the Superior Man. It's a book that won't really make any sense if you have no frame (you don't understand and own your identity) because you went full retard and threw out the baby with the bathwater and decided that all the good things about pre-RP you were also just Beta/Loser/Bluepill shit. Once you've gotten your bearings back a bit, the vast majority of the "A Man's Way" section is bas…
/r/MarriedRedPill28/10/21 09:13 PM
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It's how I felt reading King, Warrior, Magician, Lover. On u/hornsofapathy's advice, I'm going through Way of the Superior Man again now that I've sort of figured out some basics and that "new but familiar" feeling is almost overwhelming. It's great, and it's a really good indicator that you're on the right track. And yeah, it feels like it's resonating with the deepest part of your soul.
/r/MarriedRedPill28/10/21 09:08 PM
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The good news here is that with time and some lighter load training for a while, your back should eventually strengthen without overloading and your CNS will quit freaking out. I'm still a little nervous whenever I get up to the bar, but I had to push past the animal fear and just say fuck it and see what happened. I spent probably 2 months hovering around 135-155, just making sure I was practicing good form. Tried pushing to 195 and had a tweak and spasms, did those stretches and was mostly bet…
/r/MarriedRedPill28/10/21 03:21 AM
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It's quite refreshing not speaking to complete fucking retard. Occasionally I don't disappoint. I.... am trying really hard not to recommend this at this point in your journey.... really hard.... but if you can maintain the frame of "don't fall into archetype LARPing frames".... a much better use of your time would be a re-listen (listen! not read) of TWOTSM. Be wary though, this book makes more men LARP than any other. But I can recommend it to you with that caution because I think it's what yo…
/r/MarriedRedPill27/10/21 10:31 PM
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When a woman goes direct she is speaking in the masculine. It's not in her nature, and definitely not in her programming. It's womanese for: "Dunlop, what the fuck? Can't you just get it you fucking retard? Jesus fucking christ. Stop being so dense and retarded. It's unattractive." I need a moratorium on new reading material for a while so I can go and re-read Practical Female Psychology again. I've totally spaced on essential stuff like that. There is value to doing things you read from others,…
/r/MarriedRedPill27/10/21 03:36 PM
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Fair warning: TRT blows up more marriages than anything else. Whatever that means to you. You will need a serious outlet (lifting) to blow off steam coming from ~200 levels. Thanks for the heads up. I'm hoping that the TRT will also mean that I can end my cutting sooner. Depending on how I feel, I get the sense that I'll be heading to the gym more days each week. You've doubled down on doing the exact wrong thing, which I think you recognize. It's just part of going through the anger stage. Just…
/r/MarriedRedPill26/10/21 10:42 PM
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That's the real gift of the shit test. Yeah, they're fucking annoying and stupid sometimes, and sometimes you wish she'd just shut the fuck up and let you be. But they're also opportunites for you to see where you're full of shit, and where you're not. I saw a quote somewhere a while ago that men provide women safety and shelter, and women provide men opportunites for strength and growth.
/r/MarriedRedPill26/10/21 07:41 PM
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Apparently I needed someone to call me out on the BS directly and tell me to start this program just to finally consider it. It's my third week on this program and I'm steadily progressing in my lifts each week. Of course, I had to add some assistance work to the routine because just doing 3 compound lifts for every workout didn't feel like enough. Glad to hear it's working. The sense of progression is really great motivation, and the volume is great for actually getting stronger. Are you at a p…
/r/MarriedRedPill26/10/21 07:38 PM
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OYS #9 This week absolutely kicked my ass. My ego has gotten way out of line and I needed to be humbled, and got exactly that. Me: 33, Married 10 years. 3 young boys. Stats: 6'1, latest weigh-in was 204 lbs, down from 265 when I started ~4 months ago and 220/221 when I did my first OYS. Currently using myfitnesspal to track calories, eating 2100 calories a day with an emphasis on protein. Bodyfat is somewhere between now 18-19% (Navy) depending on the day, down from 26% in OYS #1. I added a refe…
/r/MarriedRedPill26/10/21 07:09 PM
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Good point, I let myself get way too triggered there. Thanks for the call out
/r/MarriedRedPill25/10/21 10:35 PM
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They don't care about you. You just make them feel internet famous I take it you're speaking from personal experience, given how much advice you post on RP and FRP and AskMRP. Is that what you're after? Internet fame? Or are you somehow different, and you're the only pure-hearted person on the internet who's posting advice out of genuine altruism and the self-enlightened goodness of your superior heart? They will not ease the weight of your own life - only you can carry that. Man, I'm so glad I …
/r/MarriedRedPill25/10/21 06:25 PM
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Maybe some self reflection Sounds like you need to take your own advice before casting such a wide stereotype net and projecting so hard
/r/MarriedRedPill25/10/21 03:00 PM
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Yeah man, give it a shot. This here might be one of the definitive podcasts on Resistance Training: https://youtu.be/bENxvFEhuow?t=2800 I learned something really important at around the timestamp -- a huge part of weightlifting and its benefits is that it's not just making your muscles stronger, it's training your nervous system to relax and not freak out so much when you engage it. The reason your muscles get stiff is because your nervous system is trying to protect them from overextending and…
/r/MarriedRedPill25/10/21 02:36 PM
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Happy to help, the key is not being a retard and we're all just different levels of retard. I'm still mostly a retard but I at least kind of get abundance mindset. Once you figure that out and apply it in your life, a lot of stuff gets a whole lot easier. Neediness finds its roots in scarcity mindset, i.e. "if I don't have sex now, I'll never have it again." That was how I used to approach it, and my wife always felt like I was a child. It was super unattractive behavior.
/r/MarriedRedPill25/10/21 02:09 PM
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But you fail to give the single fuck about the value that person or relationship gives you, and this undermines you just as badly as nice-guying (or perhaps worse, because you're mostly blind to it). (I have spent the last several weeks here, I think.) That's been me too. I've been going full-retard with DNGAF and I've forgotten that the value in my relationship does deserve a single solitary fuck. I'm working on recapturing some pre-MRP vulnerability without all the fucked-up neediness of my pr…
/r/MarriedRedPill25/10/21 01:20 PM
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Good points, that was a lesson I needed to learn the hard way.
/r/MarriedRedPill21/10/21 07:30 PM
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Good luck, and don't quit. The first two weeks of anything new are the hardest. Stick it out and you'll find that even if your view doesn't change, your ability to tolerate something that sucks will have increased and that's good enough for now. There's a SL app that's pretty decent. It tracks your progress, automates your rest periods, and automatically assigns your weight to you for your next session, so you just kind of fire and forget. Whenever you don't complete a set, it has you re-do that…
/r/MarriedRedPill21/10/21 07:15 PM
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There sure is a validation aspect to it, but mainly I want to fuck because I'm a red-blooded male and I get horny. On the recommendation of a few posts I read on here, I almost completely stopped watching porn several months ago. We're all red-blooded males who get horny. The growth here that you need (and that we're all working on) is not letting the red-blooded horniness control us and our emotions. That's what I mean by the "addict" part of this. I could've explained a bit better. When you un…
/r/MarriedRedPill21/10/21 03:55 PM
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DO NOT LET THE BABY SLEEP IN YOUR BED. EVER. +10000 to this. I made that mistake with my last kid and my one true regret is that I can't go back in time and kick my old fat retard self right in the balls for allowing that stupid bullshit. 6 hard weeks is so much easier than the months and months and months that shit can drag on for.
/r/MarriedRedPill20/10/21 09:59 PM
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I started reading My Secret Garden. I don’t find any of the specifics of the book particularly useful. More talk of dog fucking than I needed in ten lifetimes. I’m going to keep reading though. I grew up in a fundamentalist church being told women are sexless and fucking is bad. This feels like a good way to reprogram that women want to fuck and fucking them is a gift. That's the biggest takeaway. And pay attention to the things they find attractive -- non-judgment from their partners and men wh…
/r/MarriedRedPill20/10/21 09:57 PM
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Screwed my lower back doing deadlifts. As a fellow retard who fucked up his back with bad form deadlifts long ago, I relate. That shit is a sword of damocles every time you walk up to the bar. My back tweaks used to be so bad that they'd put me out of comission for a couple of days and the spasms would continue on for a week or longer. I've found these stretches to be enormously helpful in speeding up recovery: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=bcbuhePZZj0 ​ https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=2UpSBfs…
/r/MarriedRedPill20/10/21 09:53 PM
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I got a good scolding last week about my excuses for not lifting enough. So, I thought about it. The unadulterated truth is that I don't like it. Yes I've finally seen I can get back on the saddle and take charge of my life, and I like that, and have lots of good stuff to do. BUT - if I had to wake up at 5.30am to fuck, I'd do it in a beat. For lifting? Not so much. I don't like it. So, in the chapter of "doing things I don't like", I have decided I will do it. Until I like it. I started right a…
/r/MarriedRedPill20/10/21 09:46 PM
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It will take time to figure this out. NMMNG is going to be your best resource right now. Read all the other sidebar stuff too, but make NMMNG your focus unless you can find something better that will sort this out for you. You are too outcome dependent on your wife, and you use her sex with you as a form of validation. You take her rejections too personally still, and everyone can see the resentment from here. You are bouncing between your Impotent Lover and Addicted Lover shadow poles. Internal…
/r/MarriedRedPill20/10/21 09:28 PM
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OYS #8 Me: 33, Wife 35 Married 10 years, together 10 years. 3 kids 7 (m), 5 (m), and 2 (m) Stats: 6'1, latest weigh-in was 207 lbs, down from 265 when I started ~4 months ago and 220/221 when I did my first OYS. Currently using myfitnesspal to track calories, eating 2k calories a day with an emphasis on protein. Bodyfat is somwhere between now 18-19% (Navy) depending on the day, down from 26% in OYS #1. Gonna stop when I'm around 13-15% bodyfat. I've been at a weird place where my weight has mor…
/r/MarriedRedPill20/10/21 09:14 PM
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But I want to be a King, Warrior, Magician and Lover Man for such a shitty post, something there must've really stuck. ;)
/r/MarriedRedPill19/10/21 07:38 PM
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The point of this place is for you to figure out what you want, not for us to tell you who to be. +100000 Too many of us rely on this place as the "font of knowledge", and develop a sort of learned helplessness around it. Yeah, it's a good place to come and get help but it's really easy to fall into the trap that it's also got to become your identity. Really it's just another tool in your toolkit. There's no rule out there that says "You have to fit this exact mold in order to become Chad Thunde…
/r/MarriedRedPill19/10/21 07:35 PM
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Yeah, you see that a lot. Either a lot of immaturity, or a lot of being stuck between cowardice and tyranny. I certainly know I was that way at first, and they're some of my biggest struggles
/r/MarriedRedPill14/10/21 08:29 PM
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You are confusing growth as a man with sexual strategy. There is overlap, but they are not the same journey. True, the sexual strategy is the initial thing that draws people here. But as far as I've understood it, that's the first stage of growth. The ultimate end goal for all of this is growth as a man, not just chasing pussy. It's actually quite a bit easier than becoming the "ideal man". Yes but also no. Like you said, the two overlap. Sexual strategy is the primary motivation for coming here…
/r/MarriedRedPill14/10/21 08:27 PM
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Appreciate the critiques. Here's my responses. I DGAF about Susan's container, I'm looking to become a well-rounded man. I want to chase the ideal and incorporate it into myself as much as possible. I could care less if it's what some cat lady fantasizes about. That's not important to me. Being an example is. I want to pursue excellence, and this is the way that inspires me the most. I actually totally agree with that, and they also actually cover that in the book. I also totally agree with that…
/r/MarriedRedPill14/10/21 08:07 PM
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And that's cool. Some people are into this kinda shit, some aren't.
/r/MarriedRedPill14/10/21 06:56 PM
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The death of the Hero and the birth of Warrior is a valuable lesson in killing the ego, I like to see your thoughts. I think the best example of it in modern media is at the end of Return of the Jedi, when Luke turns off his lightsaber and says "I am a Jedi, like my father before me" knowing that his death is the consequence. His principles and his mission became more important than his pride, or what his mentors said needed to be done. Still figuring it out in my own life.
/r/MarriedRedPill14/10/21 06:54 PM
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Book Aragorn is GOAT, but Movie Aragorn is still pretty rad
/r/MarriedRedPill14/10/21 06:44 PM
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Go read the book. There are some great videos on YouTube, too. I've got a long way to go with not using lot word when less word do trick.
/r/MarriedRedPill14/10/21 06:43 PM
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Now go do it. Starting out with SL shouldn't take more than 45 minutes a session unless you have absolutely zero muscle/strength and need long rests between sets from the get go. Which you shouldn't if you do it right and start with the bar and develop your form for the first couple of weeks. Weightlifting is slow progress, even with noob gains. You will learn patience and before long the gym will be your temple. But it requires you to sacrifice your shittiness on the altar and be willing to acc…
/r/MarriedRedPill13/10/21 04:48 PM
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It's why we all come here, we need our asses whipped so we can make ourselves into people who are worth a damn. SL isn't as leg heavy as you think, and you can add in dips and pull ups as accessories if you want to target your upper body more. It's centered around compound lifts that work your whole body. Deadlifts work your hamstrings and calves and thighs, but they also get your spinal erectors, traps, and forearms. Squats got your glutes and quads, but they also are a killer ab workout and al…
/r/MarriedRedPill13/10/21 04:13 AM
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You seem like a complete mess. Stop making tiny small font bullshit, you look like a mousy little pussy when you do it. ​ Deal with the fact that i cant get a hair transplant due to DUPA meaning i will lose all my hair at sompoint I went bald in my early 20s. Bic or buzz your head, grow out a neatly trimmed beard (goatees look fucking retarded, giant bear mode beards are tryhard ugly shit and a moustache has only ever looked good on Burt Reynolds and Tom Selleck) and own that shit. Literally not…
/r/MarriedRedPill12/10/21 10:32 PM
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Lifts My BP has been stuck at 155 lbs for the past 3 weeks (no I haven't been skipping any gym sessions.. Most of the time). I'm not eating enough and my sleeping pattern is fucked. I've been working on this. I'm going to start tracking my calories to ensure that I'm eating at least 3,000 calories a day because my metabolism is so damn fast apparently. My leg lifts have also been stagnant. It doesn't help that I sometimes skip leg day (which is Friday for me). Stupid, I know. Today I'm going to …
/r/MarriedRedPill12/10/21 10:28 PM
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SL 5x5. Bam. Done. The first month or so of it, the workouts are barely 45 minutes. It's not until you get to the point where you're actually pushing yourself and you need long rest times that you actually even approach an hour. Zero excuses. Go lift.
/r/MarriedRedPill12/10/21 10:00 PM
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OYS #8 Me: 33, Wife 35 Married 10 years, together 10 years. 3 kids 7 (m), 5 (m), and 2 (m) Stats: 6'1, latest weigh-in was 208 lbs, down from 265 when I started ~4 months ago and 220/221 when I did my first OYS. Currently using myfitnesspal to track calories, eating 2k calories a day with an emphasis on protein. Bodyfat is now 19% (Navy), down from 26% in OYS #1. Gonna stop when I'm around 13-15% bodyfat. Finally got enough data to accurately figure out my TDEE, and it's a little bit higher than…
/r/MarriedRedPill12/10/21 08:04 PM
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Got it. It's not the worst approach, and right now whatever works well for you is good. However, having been in a similar place to you not long ago, I can tell you that at some point sooner than you think you'll need to start counting calories...might as well get used to that dieting style since your end goal is pretty similar to mine and it does suck. I got prescriped phentermine for my first month or two of weight loss and it was like a cheat code. Kill your hunger and keep all your energy kin…
/r/MarriedRedPill08/10/21 04:22 AM
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Because high-level nuanced stuff says you can fix her feelz. But really, new retards like myself shouldn't be worried about her emotions because she's going to be going through like 80 billion more throughout the day.
/r/MarriedRedPill07/10/21 09:00 PM
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I just wish I’d kept my fucking mouth shut. That's why we all have to do it first before we can start talking again. I'm the same as you, I DEER way too much and I've always felt this stupid need to explain myself to everyone. It's an unattractive habit and it takes a lot of effort to break. ​ On the other hand, I can’t say nothing. She hates this even more, and it just shows I’m sulky and butthurt. This week has been tough. Here's an idea (and I'm going to try this out too, I have the same issu…
/r/MarriedRedPill07/10/21 08:57 PM
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Don't worry about how fast you are making progress, stick with the plan, your numbers will go up. +1 to this, you'll hit a struggle point where you're really pushing yourself a lot sooner than you know. You'll be grateful for those recovery days once you get there. Recovery is just as important to building muscle as the actual weight lifting work is.
/r/MarriedRedPill07/10/21 08:43 PM
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Get into Airsoft or paintball. you get the thrill of shooting people without the permanent consequence of getting shot with a real bullet. Photography is a great hobby too, that also will get you outside of the house a lot. Music is another popular one...if you don't play an instrument (or if you did a long time ago), it's a great thing to get into it (again). Especially if it's an instrument that you can get into a band with. Now is the best time to get into guitar or bass because entry-level i…
/r/MarriedRedPill07/10/21 08:38 PM
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(3) WEIGHTLOSS No progress here. Gained 0.9kg (nearly 2lbs). Not surprising due to no exercise and no cycling. Will start writing down everything I eat in a journal. “What gets measured gets managed” Fun fact -- "no exercise and no cycling" does NOT translate into 2 pounds of weight gain. Even hard exercising every single day translates to maybe 800-900 calories of energy expenditure for the entire week. Eating 7000 calories more than you should have in that week is what translates to 2 pounds o…
/r/MarriedRedPill07/10/21 08:26 PM
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That's exactly on point. Weight loss is basically a game of averages and keeping consistent. You get disciplined that way, but you also establish good eating habits that become second nature to you. The weight loss grind is absolutely brutal and excruciating, but that's as good a lesson as any to make sure that you don't let yourself bounce back once you're at your goal weight. And it takes fucking forever. Some questions about your diet -- why low carb? How many calories are you taking in, and …
/r/MarriedRedPill07/10/21 08:16 PM
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It was a huge eye opener for me, and I've already kind of understood that my wife can be a slut when I dominate her. I think what truly makes it useful is that there's no advice given. It's just a documentary basically that shows what's going on in the hamster cage. It gives you a lot more to go off of than some chick telling you "I wish James Bond would seduce me, that's an archetype now so be that archetype" bullshit.
/r/MarriedRedPill07/10/21 08:08 PM
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OYS #7 Me: 33, Wife 35 Married 10 years, together 10 years. 3 kids 7 (m), 5 (m), and 2 (m) Stats: 6'1, latest weigh-in was 208 lbs, down from 265 when I started ~4 months ago and 220/221 when I did my first OYS. Currently using myfitnesspal to track calories, eating 2k calories a day with an emphasis on protein. Bodyfat is now 20% (Navy), down from 26% in OYS #1. Gonna stop when I'm around 13-15% bodyfat. Right now I want to get to a good place and just start building. I'm consciously making sur…
/r/MarriedRedPill07/10/21 05:00 PM
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Something happened today that really showed me I'm being too much of a sperg about this. Goes in line with what you're saying about just being better. I'm so set on not DEERing all the time that I forget that there's a pretty huge difference between explaining yourself like an inferior and directing someone like a superior. She's been resentful lately and feels like I don't give a shit because I just tend to get silent. She's had a bunch of complaints that were kind of nonsensical, and I just sh…
/r/MarriedRedPill30/09/21 07:29 PM
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​ I started to initiate and was met with a shitty/boring attitude. "It's early, kids are still not sleeping, couldn't we watch more TV?". Instead of cavemanning here and now, I was like "sure, you go watch more TV. I'm gonna read something", kiss on the forehead, went upstairs, no butthurt. Perfect way to handle it, that was 100% exactly how you need to keep doing it from now on. ​ The good thing is that I did not settle for bad quality sex. Good job, that's a really hard barrier to break throug…
/r/MarriedRedPill28/09/21 07:19 PM
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OYS #6 (I think) Me: 33, Wife 35 Married 10 years, together 10 years. 3 kids 7 (m), 5 (m), and 2 (m) Stats: 6'1, latest weigh-in was 212 lbs, down from 265 when I started ~3 months ago and 220/221 when I did my first OYS. Started back on the cutting deficit this week. I saw this guide on getting a more accurate idea of your TDEE so I'ma collect some data for a few weeks. Currently using myfitnesspal to track calories, eating 2k calories a day with an emphasis on protein. Bodyfat is now 21% (Navy…
/r/MarriedRedPill28/09/21 06:40 PM
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When 'no' is not a big deal, then you'll have progressed Abundance mindset right there. You'll have sex again some other time, no worries. Having that kind of attitude often leads to more sex anyways. Once she feels like you're not groping after her like a needy little child who needs her to wet his peepee, and who will throw a temper tantrum if he doesn't get his way, she'll actually open up and want it a lot more.
/r/MarriedRedPill27/09/21 04:49 PM
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re: dirty talk, and sex in general -- it's really about just being uninhibited and chasing the chaos and giving in to your impulses. A lot of us get this weird block where we feel like we need to hold back EVERYTHING in bed (I think this is touched on in NMMNG) and that's the key to a boring sex life. You're the man, and so you lead and own everything, and that especially applies to sex. be expressive. If it feels good, vocalize it. moan and groan and all of that. you'll get off on it, and she'l…
/r/MarriedRedPill27/09/21 04:34 PM
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That's great advice, I think I'm gonna have to modify my goals a bit as well. Bigger Leaner Stronger has a pretty optimistic goal BF% to get down to, and cutting sucks.
/r/MarriedRedPill27/09/21 03:30 PM
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Exactly. It's also helping me aim higher and push harder than I have before in life. Where I'm at right now in terms of weight and BF% is about where I was back in my Army days. If I wasn't aiming very high I could just park it here and maintain and do small gains/cuts, yadda yadda. And I'm extremely tempted by that prospect. Old me would've said "good enough" and called it a day. But I'm not trying to be "good enough", I'm trying to be excellent. So I legit do have another 20 pounds or so to go…
/r/MarriedRedPill23/09/21 05:00 PM
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Honestly, most of the time I take that positive approach to myself. I have been reflecting a lot on how far I've come, but seeing those old vids of the old guy I used to be ignited this like...primal loathing I haven't felt in a long time. I don't hate me, I hate the old me, and these are valuable moments because it helps me stay motivated to never allow that to happen to myself again. You underestimate the power of anger and it's good qualities. In this case he's going to cuck his former self. …
/r/MarriedRedPill22/09/21 07:01 PM
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OYS #6 Me: 33, Wife 35 Married 10 years, together 10 years. 3 kids 7 (m), 5 (m), and 2 (m) Stats: I'm 6'1, latest weigh-in was 214 lbs, down from 265 when I started ~3 months ago and 220/221 when I did my first OYS. Finished creatine loading and I can see a difference in how I look. If you're not taking creatine, I can't recommend it enough. You plump up a bit and also you do have a bit more to give in the gym. Currently using myfitnesspal to track calories. Finishing my refeed tomorrow because …
/r/MarriedRedPill21/09/21 09:57 PM
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The sooner you can not just accept it, but internalize it, the better off you'll be. Nobody wants to look like the fat sack of shit average person that society has built an industry around making excuses for.
/r/MarriedRedPill20/09/21 03:29 PM
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That reads like there's still some covert contract/dancing monkey behavior going on so you will need to make a mindset adjustment if that's the case. Appreciate the feedback, I'll be looking out for that. The intent was more to show that I'm capable of looking good on my own, since I used to ask her for advice on how to dress all the time. But you're right, I need to be careful and make sure that I'm doing it for me, and so I feel good about how I look -- not to make her swoon for me. If it happ…
/r/MarriedRedPill17/09/21 08:02 PM
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Get a calorie counter like myfitnesspal and then go full on autistic with that thing. Put in your stats and set your activity level at Sedentary. Track every single thing you eat and see how many calories you're taking in a day. After like two days you'll see how much unnecessary food you're stuffing in your bitch valve. Stop making excuses. You either want this, and want it enough to suffer a little, or you don't really want it and you just want to remain a formless blob of angry, entitled fat …
/r/MarriedRedPill16/09/21 07:53 PM
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I'm beginning to see they all boil down to whining about deserving this or that. That's good! You've taken your first steps into a larger world I recommend reading through NMMNG again. Maybe not the whole thing, but the beginning parts that talk about Nice Guy syndrome and where it comes from. It sounds like you're still making a lot of your self-improvement into a covert contract. Remember: You're entitled to nothing. And you don't earn attraction and affection if you expect it. For me, it was …
/r/MarriedRedPill16/09/21 07:45 PM
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OYS #5 Me: 33, Wife 35 Married 10 years, together 10 years. 3 kids 7 (m), 5 (m), and 2 (m) Stats: I'm 6'1, latest weigh-in was 214 lbs, down from 265 when I started ~3 months ago and 220/221 when I did my first OYS. Just about done with my creatine loading. Currently using myfitnesspal to track calories. Taking a 2-4 week refeed break on my diet -- basically it's been 3 months and 2k calories a day is shitty for that long. Eating around 2500 each day to give myself a little more stamina and a bi…
/r/MarriedRedPill16/09/21 07:30 PM
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Thanks for that, man. I saved your comment.
/r/MarriedRedPill10/09/21 07:45 PM
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OYS #4 Me: 33, Wife 35 Married 10 years, together 10 years. 3 kids 7 (m), 5 (m), and 2 (m) Stats: I'm 6'1, latest weigh-in was 217 lbs, down from 265 when I started ~3 months ago and 220/221 when I did my first OYS. It's also up from the last time I did a weigh-in because I'm creatine loading right now. Currently using myfitnesspal to track calories, eating 2k calories a day with an emphasis on protein. Bodyfat is now 21% (Navy), down from 26% in OYS #1. Took measurements for the whole body the …
/r/MarriedRedPill09/09/21 08:59 PM
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> Your son seems like a tough case... or, wait. Could this be a reflection of you? Great point there > What is wrong with you? I'm not sure why I'm wasting time responding to this. Too much ego and trying to impress internet dudes you dont know... Touche, I was definitely just stroking my ego there. Thanks.
/r/MarriedRedPill02/09/21 04:08 PM
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OYS #3 Me: 33, Wife 35 Married 10 years, together 10 years. 3 kids 7 (m), 5 (m), and 2 (m) Stats: I'm 6'1, latest weigh-in was 216 lbs, down from 265 when I started ~3 months ago and 220/221 when I did my first OYS. Currently using myfitnesspal to track calories, eating 2k calories a day with an emphasis on protein. Bodyfat 24% (Navy), down from 26% in OYS #1. Haven't measured for a while. No hard goal weight, currently aiming for 15% Bodyfat and then will start a bulk. Gym: Did 3 sets of 185x3 …
/r/MarriedRedPill01/09/21 08:24 PM
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Is this an actual boundary that you have or is it something you're saying because you've seen others have that boundary and think that's the RP thing to have? In hindsight, I was still a bit fired up from what I'm now realizing was a shit-test fight from the day before. Looking at it more calmly and rationally now, I can see that we're still a good way off from lifting the clear plastic cover off of the Big Red Button and threatening to push it. Are you actually prepared to burn it all down? Goo…
/r/MarriedRedPill30/08/21 07:55 PM
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Appreciate the advice and the "get off the ledge, you're not ready to jump" talk. Looking back on that day, I was a little more fired up coming pretty fresh off of a fight that I'm now realizing was more of an expected thing. Definitely wasn't a "main event" but had some of the tremors of one. It was probably more of a shit test than anything else. We're definitely not at a "nuke this shit" level yet
/r/MarriedRedPill30/08/21 07:44 PM
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OYS #2 Me: 33, Wife 35 Married 10 years, together 10 years. 3 kids 7 (m), 5 (m), and 2 (m) Stats: Latest weigh-in was 218 lbs, down from 265 when I started ~3 months ago and 220/221 when I did my first OYS. Currently using myfitnesspal to track calories, eating 2k calories a day with an emphasis on protein. Bodyfat 24% (Navy), down from 26% in OYS #1. No hard goal weight, currently aiming for 15% Bodyfat and then will start a bulk. I look noticably better now and people tell me all the time at w…
/r/MarriedRedPill27/08/21 07:37 PM
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OYS #1 Me: 33, Wife 35 Married 10 years, together 10 years. 3 kids 7 (m), 5 (m), and 2 (m) Stats: Currently ~220 lbs, down from 265. Started dieting 2 months ago, lifting 1 month ago. Currently using myfitnesspal to track calories, eating 2k calories a day with an emphasis on protein. Bodyfat 25% (Navy), no hard goal weight, currently aiming for 15% Bodyfat and then will assess from there whether I want to go down a bit more or bulk. Gym 3x/week, doing deadlifts, bench, squats, barbell rows, lat…
/r/MarriedRedPill10/08/21 06:58 PM
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