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This is, of course, completely unprovable, but I am quite cerain that the "regardless of who is doing it" is in response to an unmentioned bias like "it's different if a woman does it". It would be interesting to to a few dozen of each and try to see if there are any consistent tells. Timeskip.... (First off, I just want to note that it titled both chats as "Unwanted touching at work", and that I am not sure which gender it presumes the poster to be) I did 10 of each, and it does seem to be a re…
/r/MensRights28/07/26 02:52 PM
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It's odd, some of the comments give off obvious botted vibes, but the names don't support it
/r/MensRights28/07/26 02:33 PM
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This is absolutely insane. Has sex to make partner happy in a relationship What the fuck? Person with down syndrome eagerly has sex with a neurotypical Again, what the fuck? So people with down syndrome just should be permanently avoided on the topic of relationships? Don't these people realize this is more harmful than beneficial? Pretending to like a sexual hookup out of fear of disrupting mutual social circles This one particularly irks me. I've long felt that a at least some of what men get …
/r/MensRights27/07/26 02:15 PM
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It can, and they are trying, but as you can see from this example, it doesn't always work
/r/MensRights27/07/26 12:56 PM
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That's the case whether or not the rules say so, though.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/07/26 02:03 PM
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I don't agree with either of you. Men don't see women as people? That's absolutely not my experience
/r/PurplePillDebate17/07/26 01:52 PM
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I don't want to enable victim blaming, but if you can't prove the sexual assault, what do you want to happen? But yes, perhaps at minimum, a restraining order (or a slightly weaker version of one) could be made just by word.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/07/26 01:53 PM
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It's funy that you adjusted the goalpost from "men don't protect women" to "men don't always protect women"
/r/PurplePillDebate16/07/26 01:42 PM
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They act a certain way because a stranger is talking to them, why is that not obvious? That certain way is different than how most men would act, why is that not obvious?
/r/PurplePillDebate29/06/26 10:21 AM
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Do most men lie to get laid? Certainly some men do, but I think that number is pretty small—maybe bigger than those who see escorts, but still. The question is interesting, because outside of this subreddit (surprised by most of the answers here tbh), it seems like women really, really do not like men who have paid for escorts, yet the men who do lie or manipulate to try to get sex is undoubtedly higher, and without the same pushback
/r/PurplePillDebate22/06/26 12:00 PM
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And again. We are talking here about baggage. The OP wants to disqualify people for baggage and then has no issues adding more onto others. You are trying to shift the topic. Which is just bad faith arguments. I very much disagree. We are discussing the validity of the claim you made: "You are giving her the baggage that you are mentioning older people have". Everything I have done is try to explain or show to you why I consider that claim to be unfair, as there is nothing in OP's post that reas…
/r/PurplePillDebate11/06/26 02:51 PM
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I don't really follow
/r/PurplePillDebate11/06/26 01:53 PM
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You are implying their relationship is guaranteed to fail without evidence, purely based on general statistics. And since you brought in statistics on divorce in age gap relationships, let me bring in some other statistics and ask you a question. https://worldmetrics.org/lesbian-domestic-abuse-statistics/ This source, the sames as yours, has several statistics on lesbian relationships, some of which are: 49.8% of lesbian women report emotional abuse from intimate partners. 35% of lesbian survivo…
/r/PurplePillDebate11/06/26 01:45 PM
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Unless he dies in the next like 10 years and leaves her a very big inheritance she will waste her life with a guy with genetically inferior sperm if she wants children. That's her choice though. Being in a relationship with a man in his fifties does leave her more vulnerable to manipulation, but she is still the one who chose to be in that relationship. Saying anything else would imply that actual manipulation between OP and her has already taken place, which, again, would need you to point out …
/r/PurplePillDebate11/06/26 01:22 PM
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That is a pretty fair assessment, I think. Not in the sense that it is directly unattractive, but that "unattractive" traits like being less socially aware, more awkward, less decisive, etc. are more common in autistic people
/r/PurplePillDebate11/06/26 01:09 PM
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You are giving her the baggage that you are mentioning older people have How so? You can say that a 50yo dating a 19yo is odd, and I'd agree, but implying anything further than that requires you to back it up
/r/PurplePillDebate11/06/26 12:35 PM
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He's average-looking and autistic, it's not his fault but he doesn't know how to talk to a girl he's interested in I just want to point out that posts like yours could contribute to giving autistic people (men in particular) a bad rep. If your brother is autistic, you should have good first-hand experience with the ways he differs from "average" people. By bringing up a story about a pleasant experience because a man was overtly sexual or direct in his attempt to flirt, and then becomes invasive…
/r/PurplePillDebate11/06/26 11:52 AM
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Equating "men being much more insisting and creepy" with "just men approaching" is dishonest.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/06/26 11:23 AM
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Before anything else, I'll just make it clear that this isn't meant to argue that people should ignore what they are attracted to and what they aren't. But I think what you are attracted to and what you find undesirable is very heavily influenced by empathy. And discussing specifically traits that are typically regarded as unattractive could very well influence someone to be less bothered by traits they normally find undesirable, to the point where it becomes either less important or a non-issue…
/r/PurplePillDebate10/06/26 06:02 PM
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women and girls tend to like media that portrays social scenarios and situations. Sex kind of comes with that territory. But sex doesn't have to come with that territory unless including it has shown to make for more engaging media, so in that sense, isn't it because the seuxal content itself is valued rather than it coming with the territory?
/r/PurplePillDebate10/06/26 05:41 PM
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The simple act of insinuating that someone is gay is a MASSIVE INSULT in many cultures and societies And that's what I am questioning. Someone coming up and calling you gay to your face, sure that is a deliberate insult. I don't see how them adding a trans person into the lineup is comparable to that, though. And in the first place, even if someone insults you, it's up to you how you're gonna take it, and you are also probably gonna be judged a whole lot more on that than on the fact that you we…
/r/PurplePillDebate09/06/26 05:26 PM
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Well, for starters, I don't think I've seen you engage with someone even once without twisting or adding your own spin to their words
/r/PurplePillDebate08/06/26 04:28 PM
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Is this actually just a bot? Suspended account and very LLM sentence structure and word choice
/r/PurplePillDebate08/06/26 04:10 PM
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The content is staged, the reactions to it here aren't. I gotta actually give Lilith the credit for this one, because any possible disrespect there is for providing options that don't fit the guy's sexuality is way lesser than aggressively popping the balloon before the show even gets started.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/06/26 03:51 PM
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I'm sorry, but how is that an insult, exactly? Even if they actually know his sexuality, how does the simple act of giving an option become an insult? Especially when the reason they did it is simply to try to get people to watch in any way, and has nothing really to do with this individual.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/06/26 03:48 PM
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An ugly person trying to be confident comes off as annoying. I don't think we have the same view of what confidence is. To me, someone confident would act self assured, calm and not nervous, without annoying performative "peacock" behaviour, which I would rather refer to as arrogant.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/06/26 03:36 PM
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What you are describing here is different to what is usually meant by cuckold. A cuckold is either someone who is unwittingly cheated on, or someone that is into being cheated on. Being in a casual / open relationship kinda by default means it is not cheating, but you can of course still play into the fetish.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/06/26 02:52 PM
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OP, I don't disagree with your overall point, but not having "misandry is bad, misogony is worse" is really hurting the post
/r/PurplePillDebate08/06/26 02:13 PM
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Sure. You are not talking about grown men though, you explicitly said "while growing up".
/r/PurplePillDebate08/06/26 01:40 PM
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When they are children? That's not exactly the kind of non-nasty behaviour you seem to preach
/r/PurplePillDebate08/06/26 11:51 AM
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An adult doesn’t need everything explained to them while growing up. They figured it out by observing. You can criticize adults for lacking all you want, but if you criticize people who are growing up, you need to look at their parents, schooling and other sources of social inheritance to really make your points.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/06/26 10:50 AM
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Men who are neurotypical do not struggle with learning social skills I think most people struggle to some extend with social situations, which comes down to social skills, neurotypical or not. Yes, it's usually harder for neruodivergent people, but saying that neurotypicals don't struggle either doesn't seem right
/r/PurplePillDebate08/06/26 10:38 AM
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Take this as a possible outlier, but as someone with autism (again, might be an outlier among autistic people), I'd rather have a stable FWB than an asexual relationship
/r/PurplePillDebate22/05/26 03:26 PM
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Men who are constantly trying to be funny come across as pathetic, and they completely turn me off. You are making a point about self deprecation, but here you are also saying that men who "constantly" try to be funny are a turn off (for you), which brings the question, what do you consider constantly? Because in general day-to-day interactions, I don't see how someone trying to be funny would be a bad thing, even if they do it whenever they see an opportunity. It's only when they try to be funn…
/r/PurplePillDebate22/05/26 03:10 PM
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The women on this app are shape-shifting. You can’t easily tell who you’re actually attracted to. Most profiles are weird angles, filtered, obscured, low-effort, misleading, or context-free. You match with “interest,” not clarity. It would be nice if you could tell what these women looked like in a bikini, but you can't. For some reason on this app, you need more information about what they're like in real life, or how much other men want to date them in order to understand how hot their bodies …
/r/PurplePillDebate25/02/26 09:55 AM
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I am an advocate for just being more openly honest in any situation. But you can be honest and still be polite / not rude. Publicly rating anyone a 4/10, not to even mention your own wife, is not honesty, it's being a dick. You can keep your mouth shut without being dishonest.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/02/26 09:26 AM
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Alright, if you say so
/r/PurplePillDebate02/02/26 01:28 PM
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I don't agree at all. When someone says "I wish people were nicer", they could perhaps be hypocritical, but why would they lie? And you say hatred is the most effective motivator for people. Do you really think someone helps homeless people because of hatred? That is the exact opposite of hatred, at worst, it is greed (for clout). And why do you think there are homeless, starving people to begin with?
/r/PurplePillDebate02/02/26 01:22 PM
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Are you sure you know what virtue signalling is? How is saying what is basically "I wish everyone was nicer to each other" virtue signalling? Maybe it COULD be argued that it was virtue signalling if they had said something like "I wish everyone was nicer to each other, so I always give people the benefit of the doubt", but even that is a stretch
/r/PurplePillDebate02/02/26 01:15 PM
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I was responding to the person that says people into fetish stuff gives him the ick, saying that he probably knew quite a few people who had read 50 shades without being aware of it. It's not about anything else, I am not here to discuss 50 shades itself
/r/PurplePillDebate23/12/25 08:54 AM
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Everybody who started reading it knew what it was. Whether they specifically enjoyed 50 shades or not doesn't matter, my point is that they chose to read it, knowing that it was basically a smutty BDSM book
/r/PurplePillDebate22/12/25 09:15 AM
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There's another problem with the term. A lot of people seemingly use it beyond the meaning of "involuntarily celibate", and use it to refer to people who are creepy/weird/other
/r/PurplePillDebate15/12/25 12:04 PM
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Do you mean financially or biologically? Financially, healthcare should be free (read: paid by taxes)
/r/PurplePillDebate09/12/25 03:05 PM
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I don't think it's fair the other way around either. Both parties should pay for themselves. Barring unique circumstances, adults should take care of themselves, including financially
/r/PurplePillDebate09/12/25 03:03 PM
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No, you should pay because you accepted going on the date. If you don't want to go on the date, or in other words aren't interested in the person asking you out, you shouldn't accept going on the date. So it's a two-way street
/r/PurplePillDebate09/12/25 02:58 PM
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"I'm only using 5% of my power!"
/r/PurplePillDebate20/11/25 09:11 AM
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Do they exist? Probably. But someone who has sex for the first time won't know what to do the same way someone who has had it regularly
/r/PurplePillDebate17/11/25 09:03 AM
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Maybe a major male figure in their lives could help out young boys a lot as well? Such as.. a father to show that helping out around the house is a shared obligation.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/11/25 12:26 PM
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I think the main reason Japan has a dating/birth crisis is because of the working culture. You can't really build a family if you have no time for them
/r/PurplePillDebate12/11/25 11:48 AM
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Doesn't matter if you have the guy you want or not. If you're in a position to cheat, you should have ended the relationship. If you haven't, you don't fuck anyone else
/r/PurplePillDebate12/11/25 11:43 AM
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Just a few days ago I saw a woman on reddit say she got the ick because her boyfriend was hesitant and timid during sex. That seems to fit in with what most women seem to want, which is assertive men who knows what they're doing. Those men are not virgins
/r/PurplePillDebate12/11/25 11:40 AM
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How about... Both are wrong? They don't cancel each other out
/r/PurplePillDebate12/11/25 11:35 AM
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No one here said autistic men cannot be selfish assholes. But everyone can be selfish assholes. It has nothing to do with autism.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/11/25 06:04 PM
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You: It’s not a false diagnosis. They just don’t want to learn social skills nor empathy I claim it because you, despite having it pointed out for you that being selfish and an asshole is not even remotedly linked specifically with autism, keep defending the assumption that diagnosing people who are selfish assholes as autistic is not a false claim. Also because you referred what I once said in a previous comment, which I assume was where I discussed a similar topic with someone who did claim th…
/r/PurplePillDebate11/11/25 02:27 PM
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I repeat, you have zero clue about autism. It is not simply being childish. Even as children, autistic people are very different from other children. Some of these ways lead to specific delevopments being delayed or stunted in ways that could be perceived as "childish", sure, but it's NOT the same.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/11/25 02:21 PM
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There is a big difference between struggling with something, and being unable to do something. Are you honestly here to discuss, or do you just want to troll?
/r/PurplePillDebate11/11/25 02:19 PM
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but dont think autistic people are capable of learning social skills and empathy. What? I claimed the opposite. It's you who are claiming that
/r/PurplePillDebate11/11/25 02:16 PM
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I didn't say it did. I'm just pointing out that maybe Superannuated_punk isn't as aware of who is a "greasy, perpetually hornt-up sex nerd" as assumed
/r/PurplePillDebate11/11/25 02:15 PM
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Look at you two circlejerking each other, marvelous /s
/r/PurplePillDebate11/11/25 09:30 AM
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Did I get that right? Are you actually saying sexually unsuccessful people are rapists? What the fuck?
/r/PurplePillDebate11/11/25 09:29 AM
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This is exactly proving Fan_Service_3703's point. No one is expecting you guys to cuddle autists or autistic men for all their lives. But at least try to understand us and have a little empathy. That seems to be lacking for a lot of people in here, but then again, very few people here seem to be here in good faith to begin with
/r/PurplePillDebate11/11/25 09:27 AM
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You literally have it in the title?
/r/PurplePillDebate11/11/25 09:26 AM
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That is a lack of being able to indetify and understand which emotional state others are in; that is not a lack of empathy
/r/PurplePillDebate11/11/25 09:13 AM
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You clearly have no idea how autism affects people
/r/PurplePillDebate11/11/25 09:12 AM
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Almost guaranteed at least a few women in your family has read 50 Shades of Grey
/r/PurplePillDebate11/11/25 09:10 AM
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You are singling out specifically "pick me's", but your overall argument works for the opposite too, and I think that's worth considering. I've seen at least a few stories of women saying something like they'd dating a cute guy that they liked, but their friend group nitpicked this and that and raised the bar impossibly high, and the relationship fizzled out and they they later regretted not giving really giving him a chance at all. So always take advice with a grain of salt
/r/PurplePillDebate06/11/25 07:01 PM
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I am physically attracted towards you and you must be at least on the same level look wise. Emotionally, does this matter at all? I am fat, I am bald, I am not particularly attractive. I am at most 5/10. I still don't feel attraction for fat women, I very very rarely think short hair looks good, and I also don't feel attracted to women with too bland/unattractive features
/r/PurplePillDebate06/11/25 06:55 PM
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to find new practices to try with your partner Sure, it can give inspiration, but with most produced porn (as in, porn with a producer, camera crew, and so on) having the dumbest positions imaginable, because apparently it is more important to see a cock going inside a vagina and a saggy scrotum swinging around under a hairy butthole than it is seeing two people enjoying some hot, intimate sex,... Well, you get the point, I can just never get enough of ranting about how so much porn is so god da…
/r/PurplePillDebate06/11/25 06:50 PM
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Can you see that placing sex lower in priority than men would make a woman very unattractive to a large swathe of men? Does this mean that this hypothetical woman should compromise and make an effort to be more sexually active in order to be more appealing to men? Anyway, if you take the deadbedrooms subreddit as an example, a very insignificant amount of posters there are women. So having a higher libido than your partner, and your sexual needs not being met, is far from exclusive to men. I am …
/r/PurplePillDebate06/11/25 05:18 PM
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Saying that a group of individuals who do something ruin something for a larger group is the opposite of putting them all in the same box. It very directly puts them into two distinct boxes
/r/PurplePillDebate06/11/25 04:54 PM
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You just choose to collectively put all men in a box. She did no such thing. The title explicitly says "men who claim touch is their love language are a yellow flag"
/r/PurplePillDebate06/11/25 04:52 PM
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Maybe this is an autism specific thing, I wouldn't know. But personally, I am very "touch averse". It's not like I go into hysterics because of it, but I just find it awkward and unnecessary to do hand-shakes, hug people and so on on typical social situations. I would melt into a puddle if someone I was into played with my scalp (that's right, I'm fucking bald), my earlobe, stroked my back etc. So, unless this is an autism-only thing, I do not think men who likes physical touch as "love language…
/r/PurplePillDebate06/11/25 04:45 PM
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If you couldn't care less what she does that doesn't affect you, why would you be in a relationship with her?
/r/PurplePillDebate06/11/25 04:39 PM
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You can be confident in a specifc outcome, which means you are certain of that outcome happening. This is different from having confidence in yourself, which is what most people mean in this subreddit. And although perhaps a lot of people here are overrating the importance of self-confidence as a "cure all", it does matter, and not just for dating. Having self-confidence doesn't automatically mean you'll see more success in either dating, friendships or career, but it helps you get out there, sp…
/r/PurplePillDebate06/11/25 04:34 PM
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A lot of men here also argue in bad faith, to be fair, which doesn't help
/r/PurplePillDebate06/11/25 04:29 PM
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You are mostly right, but why are you framing your comment as if OP was trying to justify that other people deserve to suffer for their own experiences? I don't see that happening at all
/r/PurplePillDebate06/11/25 04:22 PM
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Agreed. And with more empathy for men in general, we could start trying to raise young men better. Right now, a lot of stuff seem to demonize anything related to male sexuality, so lot's of young men never learn to express it in a healthy way
/r/PurplePillDebate06/11/25 04:16 PM
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Porn is made because of money. The only people who make porn for anything other than money, do it because of exhibiotism or similar kinks. Porn does not satisfy men's libido in any respect, it only intensifies it with no further outlet. Incorrect. The libido is satisfied when men reach orgasm. Surely you've heard of post-nut clarity. As much as it's memed about, it happens pretty much every time a man orgasms. And during that window after the orgasms, the sexual aspects of stuff like porn just b…
/r/PurplePillDebate06/11/25 04:14 PM
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But men are wired to want to nut in a "variety" of women everyday. Says who? You? I personally do not feel this urge. If I see an attractive woman, sure, I'll be attracted to her. If I see multiple attractive women in a day, sure, I'll be attracted to all of them. But it's more a reaction than a "biological wiring" that somehow gives me the urge to specifically inseminate multiple different women. It's just that for presumably a lot of, if not most, men, they have an active libido that makes the…
/r/PurplePillDebate06/11/25 04:09 PM
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You've done it. you have taught an entire generation of men that their biology is wrong. That a male's sexuality is a shameful disease. How dare you want to have sex?! How dare you use the porn we eagerly shove down your throats?! How dare you think women wearing no clothes is immodest?! Women can dress and act HOWEVER they wish! This doesn't check out. The majority of people demonizing men's sexuality are women. Everything you stated here is mostly something women think. You're just a lazy virg…
/r/PurplePillDebate06/11/25 03:53 PM
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If not taking an opportunity to make a lot of money at the cost to yourselves is immoral, then does that mean not taking on multiple jobs to make even more money also is?
/r/PurplePillDebate06/11/25 03:46 PM
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What exactly do you think her motivation for wanting a partner that makes 7 figures is?
/r/PurplePillDebate06/11/25 03:40 PM
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In that case, shouldn't we first look at the billionaire oligarchs who, instead of using even 10% of their wealth for making the world better, use it to just make EVEN MORE FUCKING MONEY at the expense of everyone else. Who the fuck needs more than 10 million USD? Anyway, let's not tell people they are morally wrong for not doing something that is very likely to entirely fuck up their relationship when billionaires exist.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/11/25 03:13 PM
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Are you seriously saying "making fun of" and "criticizing" are the same thing? This subreddit is impossible with all the presumably bad faith discussion going on
/r/PurplePillDebate30/10/25 09:50 AM
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Many celebrities being autistic might be true, but many celebrities are also very odd. What you call "chads" typically does not refer to celebrities, but rather people who are very confident, outgoing and successful, be it school or career. And no, many of those people are NOT autistic. Comparing us normal people to celebrities doesn't really make sense
/r/PurplePillDebate29/10/25 12:21 PM
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Come on man... Fine. Would you rather shag 1980 Shelley Duval or 2010 Scarlett Johansson
/r/PurplePillDebate29/10/25 12:18 PM
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Would you rather shag Shelley Duval or Scarlett Johansson?
/r/PurplePillDebate29/10/25 12:02 PM
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Yes, I agree there needs to be more pushback against misandry, at least here on reddit. But... I'm not sure we should take inspiration from South Korea. From what little I know, it sounds like you don't have much, if any, actual experience with being a woman in South Korea. Not that I do either. But it sounds like the situation for women in South Korea is genuinely worse than for men, so the backlash against feminism there is not warranted.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/10/25 10:21 AM
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Holy shit, you think autistic people can't form connections with their own child? I didn't even think that was in question. Of course they can
/r/PurplePillDebate20/10/25 02:16 PM
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Are you not understanding what I wrote? I literally described how I personally think social connections matter and you just glossed over it. Also, I literally have autism. So no, I am VERY familiar with all the ways it limits me. I don't think you are.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/10/25 02:10 PM
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What do you say makes a good father? In my opinion, it's someone who can guide the children and be there for them to support them, to make it concise. Where do social connections fit into that? As long as the father can get along with the parents of other children, help his children with their hobbies and so on, he has fulfilled the "social aspect" needed in regards to his children. Autistic people are fully capable of that
/r/PurplePillDebate20/10/25 01:51 PM
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I agree that men, or anyone for that matter, who stay in relationships with toxic or abusive partners partially do have themselves to blame. But you aren't addressing the circumstances of a man with an abusive girlfriend/wife properly. He will, by default, be considered in the wrong for the majority of his friends, and maybe even his family. When a woman slaps a man, people are far more likely to think the man must have done something to deserve it than they would of the woman if the situation w…
/r/PurplePillDebate20/10/25 11:35 AM
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Excuse us, some of us prefer big butts
/r/PurplePillDebate20/10/25 11:24 AM
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there is a guarantee of the opposite. Bullshit. I do agree that there is a higher chance that autistic people make worse partners than non-autistic people, but not to the extent you are describing. And autistic people absolutely can make and feel connections. It might be more challenging for them, but just like with any disability, it just requires a little adjusting. I am not saying autistic partners are 100% good partners, but the well adjusted autistic people just being more awkward, less abl…
/r/PurplePillDebate20/10/25 09:23 AM
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You got your reason as a response to your first comment. As one of those socially awkward, introverted, autistic men in question, you're not going to run into us at random because we don't go out that much. And you might also not notice the majority of those you meet, because we don't stand out compared to more outgoing, less awkward people.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/10/25 09:07 AM
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That's when school officials called him to the principal's office. "That's when the principal proceeded to tell me that it wasn't appropriate that he was writing the note and that if he writes another note, they are going to file sexual harassment charges on my 9-year-old," Uhm. Shouldn't sexual harassment charges be filed by the involved party? Sounds like the teachers / principal are a little egalomaniacal, on top of what Sea2Chi said probably being true. Did they even look into what was actua…
/r/MensRights07/10/25 02:52 PM
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It's not inherently about the intimacy between friends, it's that you share intimate detail about someone who isn't you behind their back
/r/PurplePillDebate06/10/25 11:06 AM
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It still isn't. These are not your details to share
/r/PurplePillDebate06/10/25 11:02 AM
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I'm not arguing for or against what you said, but I'm not sure how much of it is actually biology versus simple social inheritance
/r/PurplePillDebate29/09/25 09:15 AM
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It's funny you say that, because OP's post is not about men who can't get laid
/r/PurplePillDebate29/09/25 09:12 AM
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Actually, yes. Society has collectively built up trends that make up what is considerered attractive, interesting, cool, call it whatever you want. I thought this subreddit was for discussing, well primarily sex and gender issues, but the struggles of ND people are closely aligned with those, especially when men arguably are hit harder by having ND traits than women. So I find it very curious that so many people like you seem to not even try to understand where OP is coming from and instead doub…
/r/PurplePillDebate29/09/25 08:58 AM
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If that's what you want, what's the point in a partnership? Can't you just have a string of FWBs?
/r/PurplePillDebate22/09/25 11:18 AM
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Apologies for late comment. I see a lot of women talk about faking orgasms and so on. In those situations, how often have these women tried giving instructions to their partner before they start faking it?
/r/PurplePillDebate22/09/25 10:34 AM
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Wtf hahaha. I don't really buy into many of the more extreme opinions around this subreddit, but the "women do not see average men" is actually being kinda proven right here, that's amazing
/r/PurplePillDebate22/09/25 10:17 AM
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Fucking hell, you are a piece of work, mate. Take a look in a mirror before you start claiming that neurodivergent people getting children is somehow entitlement. Being autistic > being an allistic asshole
/r/PurplePillDebate22/09/25 10:08 AM
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As an autistic man, I feel like discussions about autistic men's struggle with dating is often misconstrued. Yes, if autistic men are smelly, forceful, and whatever else, of course that should not be overlooked. But from my experience, a lot of autistic men are NOT these things. Yet it feels like there is something about us that repels people. From what I've gathered so far, it seems like our specific flavour of social awkwardness often comes across as creepy, even if we are not being forceful, …
/r/PurplePillDebate22/09/25 10:03 AM
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How would you know they are women beaters if they were never in relationships?
/r/PurplePillDebate22/09/25 09:43 AM
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How so?
/r/PurplePillDebate22/09/25 09:40 AM
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Having sympathy for someone doesn't mean you shouldn't hold them accountable. What is this?
/r/PurplePillDebate10/09/25 10:46 AM
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Does anyone really identify as an incel?? Also, maybe there's a difference in how we use the term, because to me, it just means someone who can't get into a relationship, or get laid, to put it straight.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/08/25 02:28 PM
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They don't want to be called incels. They are, per the definition of "involuntary celibate", incels. So when so many people go around and use incel as a way to refer to (typically) men who are misogynistic, unsociable, awkward and so on, you're kinda also insulting people who are merely unsucessful at dating
/r/PurplePillDebate29/08/25 02:12 PM
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How would you know? Unless the man asking you out is someone in your social circle, you'll never know if he's actually an incel or not
/r/PurplePillDebate29/08/25 02:09 PM
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Really? I see most guys being very open about their preferences if asked.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/08/25 03:07 PM
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Oh no, I agree, we don't need to be apologetic at all, but being clear about exactly what you mean never hurts
/r/MensRights15/08/25 07:54 AM
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It does matter though, because posts on this subreddit might be referenced outside the subreddit, so better to be clear than allow people to spin what is said
/r/MensRights14/08/25 02:37 PM
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This is why I feel like people who complain about experiencing racism are doing it to themselves. Of course, there are actual racists out there, and of course, there are actual victims of racism out there. But if your biggest problem in life is that you see people more attractive than you in ads and TV, you're pretty well off. Yet they fall over themselves in hordes to find things to be offended about and act like victims. Get over yourselves.
/r/MensRights13/08/25 09:58 AM
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Your personal experiences or those of your close friends don't define the experience for everyone, and you shouldn't generalize like this. You say OP shouldn't make generalizations based on his AND his friends experience, but you do the same with only your own: I've been constantly sexualized, even exploited/abused, by women throughout my entire life. I never pursued those women. Please do not pretend to know or speak for all men
/r/PurplePillDebate11/08/25 09:52 AM
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Yes? Women are the demographic who are targets of, and arguably victims of "objectification", so obviously they are the main part of the discussion. The fuck you on about?
/r/PurplePillDebate28/07/25 04:25 PM
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How am I moving goal posts? Okay, so some men, like you, also use the term, that's besides the point. Most people who complain about the male gaze and objectification are women, and what I am saying is, in most of those cases, the complaints seem to be more about the male sexual attraction itself being problematic rather than how they are treated because of it.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/07/25 01:09 PM
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So what if a woman is posting content where her car shows up in the background and it's a really nice car, so a lot of people are talking about the car instead of what the content is about. Do you think that's similar?
/r/PurplePillDebate28/07/25 10:05 AM
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Please explain further, because every time this topic is argued, I just can't wrap my head around what people who have a problem with this really are complaining about. (Also, I pretty much suck at being coherent sometimes, but it is what it is) You claim that men who spend a lot of time in strip clubs only view women for their sexual desire. So using the relevant words, are you saying these men are objectifying all women? Because in my opinion, this is not true. First of all, according to a thr…
/r/PurplePillDebate28/07/25 09:59 AM
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Pretty sure you can become a farmer if you want that lifestyle. Get up at 4am to feed the animals, then get going with the rest of your day :P
/r/PurplePillDebate28/07/25 09:35 AM
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Then that is what you should have said.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/07/25 09:08 AM
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Really dumb argument. There's a lot we have today that we haven't had for most of human history, yet we are here today anyway. Just because it's a recent thing doesn't mean it shouldn't be here
/r/PurplePillDebate28/07/25 08:43 AM
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If every woman you look at, you immediately determine the level of if you want yo have sec with them and then how you treat them (or ignore them) is based on their fuckablity, then you are objectifying them That's not how most women seem to use the term though. It seems like most of the time the male gaze or objectification is brought up, it's about the sexual attraction itself being bad, not the risk of it influencing the treatment
/r/PurplePillDebate28/07/25 08:20 AM
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Good parents don't want their kids seeing certain things. They don't want them to see nudity. Kindly speak for yourself. In my opinion, nudity should be more normalised. As in casual, no one gives a fuck normalised.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/07/25 12:03 PM
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Then it seems like your point is not in line with your title. It seems you are are saying this: 1) Women are attracted to "bad boy" traits. 2) Men are faking these traits in order to be perceived as more attractive. And from that, it seems you are concluding that this means that women don't truly like "bad boys" because some men are faking these traits. But as IntrusiveThot6 says, this doesn't make sense, since that's just how attraction works. Are these women at fault for men deceiving them by …
/r/PurplePillDebate17/07/25 10:57 AM
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I don't quite understand where your anger comes from if you don't really care about the downsides from being circumsized? I am not downplaying having something unnecessary and even potentially harmful done to you without your consent, but if you actually don't care about it, maybe it's not a mountain worth dying on if it is damaging your relationship with your parents?
/r/MensRights17/07/25 10:44 AM
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Guys in this subreddit have asked me if I'm a nun because my rule was to wait 6 months to have sex. As I see it, near everybody in here seems to have a problem with generalizing to "solidify" their points. So I wouldn't be concerned with those comments if I were you
/r/PurplePillDebate15/07/25 08:35 AM
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That was not your question though. There is a difference between "high body count signifies lower 'value'" and "having sex lowers value"
/r/PurplePillDebate15/07/25 08:27 AM
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Like almost everything, yes you can absolutely practice and train behavious that are perceived as charismatic. Changing your personality is another thing, but your behaviour matters more than what you are into and your key traits in how you are perceived
/r/PurplePillDebate08/07/25 09:59 AM
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How many men have you approached?
/r/PurplePillDebate03/07/25 02:40 PM
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I straight up don't believe you. Men being approached by a women they are interested in, nearly every single time, they'd be ecstatic. Of course outliers exist
/r/PurplePillDebate03/07/25 02:18 PM
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If you're attractive and approach your the most advantaged. This doesn't make sense. Anyone doing the approaching is the one at a disadvantage. The woman, in this case, being approached has literally all the power, unless the man is willing to force her, which is a whole other discussion. But the woman is the one who has the choice to either accept the man's advances or reject them. How does that translate into the man being the most advantaged, even if he is attractive?
/r/PurplePillDebate03/07/25 12:25 PM
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Men don't want the women they're interested in to approach them. That's their job. And you speak for all men, I suppose?
/r/PurplePillDebate03/07/25 12:19 PM
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but it is still important to encourage men to stop engaging in immoral and exploitative behavior, especially when it affects the women they interact with. I encourage you to get rid of any electronic devices you have, only buy locally grown food and only own fair trade certified clothes. Also, you better not have a car
/r/PurplePillDebate18/06/25 02:36 PM
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Do you still watch Hollywood movies? Then you support the exact same kind of sexual exploitation you're talking against. And you are right that it is far more rampant in the porn industry, but that is an industry problem, not because people are clicking on a pornographic video on pornhub
/r/PurplePillDebate18/06/25 02:31 PM
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I never understood these feminist talking points. How am I objectifying someone by being sexually attracted to them? Could not agree more, I don't get it either. Men bad I guess
/r/PurplePillDebate18/06/25 02:29 PM
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You have got to be a troll
/r/PurplePillDebate18/06/25 02:28 PM
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This isn't him being consciously malicious or looking to exploit women, but the clear result of this attitude is that women will have to do things they don't want to in order to keep an audience. Your entire argument ignores the fact that the average OnlyFans model is not forced to do content, it is something they have chosen to do on their own. There are plenty of alternatives if you're not willing to perform sexual acts on camera.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/06/25 02:19 PM
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Because he is literally gaining access to the female body on demand Ignoring revenge porn and other similar cases, by uploading a pornographic video to any public site, the people involved are consenting to the video being watched. So what exactly is your problem with this? I could easily say that by shopping in a super market, you are gaining access to the employee's body on demand too. Yes - they chose to work there.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/06/25 02:12 PM
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The woman in the clip didn't make this post or ask someone why they would deserve prince treatment.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/06/25 02:56 PM
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You're not understanding the situation. Men who do not trust their partner are already getting paternity tests, or ending their relationship. They are not a part of this. The victims, that standardizing paternity tests could help, are unsuspecting partners who DO trust and love their partner, but have been cheated on and are now either raising someone else's child, or have a partner who has had a child outside of their relationship. Also, what exactly would you "sacrifice" if paternity testing b…
/r/PurplePillDebate12/06/25 02:18 PM
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If you're gonna ask this question, I also think you should list reasons why women deserve queen treatment in your post, just saying
/r/PurplePillDebate12/06/25 02:09 PM
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This isn't about you. Standardizing paternity tests would help a small subset of married men who are unawarely raising someone else's biological child. And if it was standard, on every child birth, no one would be feeling slighted. It could even help women too. Men would not be able to hide having children with other women than their partner
/r/PurplePillDebate12/06/25 01:50 PM
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Maybe, but you ARE picking on many individuals here
/r/PurplePillDebate03/06/25 03:10 PM
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Your title states that "women expecting men to... ...pay for a date is not gold digging", yet you don't explain this in your post.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/06/25 03:09 PM
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You might be right, but you are not really disproving OP's statement with that. In fact, I'd say you are helping support it. If her mannerisms appeared less "typically masculine" and closer to more "typically feminine", and that causes less women to be attracted to her, that pretty much means that "typically masculine" is seen as more attractive by the majority of women, right?
/r/PurplePillDebate03/06/25 03:06 PM
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I get where you are coming from, and there might really be a double standard here, but picking on individuals about it isn't helping anyone
/r/PurplePillDebate03/06/25 03:01 PM
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Honest question, what if someone is into BDSM for the control / trust aspect instead of the dominant / violent aspect?
/r/PurplePillDebate03/06/25 03:00 PM
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Most of the time, female friends come to you with their emotional problems. And it’s not just venting, they expect you to listen, understand, and often fix things for them emotionally. You end up playing the role of a therapist, not a true equal in the friendship. This seems extremely biased. Maybe some are like this, but I'd wager the majority of those women just treated you like.. their friend? Just listen and offer encouragement, you don't need to do any more than that unless you are specific…
/r/PurplePillDebate27/05/25 08:52 AM
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Unless you're willing to enter a relationship, or hook up, with these people, your opinion is irrelevant
/r/PurplePillDebate26/05/25 09:40 AM
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No.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/05/25 06:20 PM
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That's quite a wilfully negative conclusion. It's an objective fact. If you are able to function, even while in pain and/or discomfort, it only impacts your own wellbeing. Is that wrong? I do not believe pointing this out means I lack empathy, even more so with me telling you I have a problem with the amount of medical negligence women face. But the degree of impact is really not the point, even though I was the one that focused on it. The point is that this kind of medical negligence annoys me …
/r/PurplePillDebate15/05/25 03:39 PM
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Depends on what medical issue is being neglected. As I understand it, most of the medical negligence women face is related to pain or discomfort not being taken seriously. Ultimately, pain and discomfort does not directly affect anyone but the person experiencing it, depending on how debilitating it is. Edit: edited section moved to newer comment
/r/PurplePillDebate15/05/25 03:18 PM
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Not directly. It only impacts the man directly if the woman asks him to communicate with medical practitioners on her behalf for this reason.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/05/25 02:19 PM
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That doesn't check out. Whether you face threats often or not has no influence on threats being moderated on reddit
/r/PurplePillDebate15/05/25 01:13 PM
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Personally, I get second-hand annoyance (is that a term?) at just how shit women are treated medically.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/05/25 01:05 PM
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firetrap's example is a regular cause-and-effect claim where the effect is simply a difference in outcome between women and men. In your example, the effect is directly misogynist by having the man scream "I hate women" and shooting only women. Don't talk about logic, please.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/05/25 12:50 PM
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Okay, honest question. In your example, you say something that can be boiled down to "reducing someone down to only their 'sexuality'". But say this is about a stranger you pass on the street. You don't know them, so their thoughts, skills, hobbies, whatever makes that person them, has nothing to do with you, and you have no knowledge of it. The only think you know about this person is their appearance. How is this "objectifying" them in this case? I guess I am just struggling to understand why …
/r/PurplePillDebate12/05/25 11:06 AM
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You need to expand on "controlling your sexualisation" because it doesn't make sense. You really seem to put a lot of weight into the difference between being attracted to someone and "sexualising" them, seemingly implying that sexualisation is bad, but I don't agree with that. As I said in another comment, as long as it stays in your head, you can have as many sexual thoughts about someone as you want, and it has nothing to do with anyone else.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/05/25 10:59 AM
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But why is that necessary? Seeing someone attractive, and noticing that that person sure is attractive, is not a problem. What about that is creepy? The creepiness, imo, would be if you start acting different because of it. And comparing this situation to surgeons operating with boners is absurd.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/05/25 10:53 AM
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Don't you ever have macabre thoughts? I guess it's possible, but I'm pretty sure everyone, even you, sometimes thinks macabre, nasty, even violent things. So judging people solely for that is ridiculous
/r/PurplePillDebate12/05/25 10:50 AM
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Young women getting catcalled is nothing new, so it's not an exaggeration
/r/PurplePillDebate02/12/24 06:41 PM
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I can't speak for OP, and neither than you (unless you are using duplicate accounts of course). But unless you try to gauge OP's intent, yes, that is literally the question here.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/12/24 04:28 PM
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Fuck off. OP literally asked her, and she responded
/r/PurplePillDebate02/12/24 04:05 PM
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Are we seeing the same thing? Because I don't see Downtown_cat_1745 bring up misogyny at all until it was directly asked
/r/PurplePillDebate02/12/24 04:04 PM
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You implied a lot there without being very specific. Are you trying to say autistic people do not have a personality? Because lol
/r/PurplePillDebate02/12/24 03:55 PM
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There are always exceptions. I have autism, and I get along great with other autistic people I knew 10+ years ago, and see once a year at most. Meanwhile, it is so hard for me to click with most people I meet Your friend sounds like she is not entirely comfortable with being on the spectrum, and wants to avoid acknowledging it.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/12/24 03:53 PM
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It just sounds like you have an issue with your partner ever finding anyone other than you attractive enough to be interested in them. Tell me honestly, are you the type who would not go for it if, at a time when you are single, someone you found attractive showed interest in you and willingness to have sex with you? If the answer is not yes, you are a hypocrite
/r/PurplePillDebate21/11/24 02:16 PM
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/r/PurplePillDebate07/11/24 01:44 PM
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Someone being in a relationship or not has no say in their ability to determine what they find positive or negative in dates
/r/PurplePillDebate15/08/24 02:50 PM
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Stuff like "the male gaze" is inherently seen as bad. If women are shown in a sexual light in video games, books, movies, anything, it's seen as objectifying. Yet there are lots of examples of stuff catering to women, although maybe not as much. But some steamy romance books write men just as bad as their "male gaze" counterparts, yet are not villainized the same way
/r/PurplePillDebate15/08/24 02:43 PM
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Your argument does not have any weight. You listed way too few examples to rule out how many things are turn offs, and what things are turn ons
/r/PurplePillDebate15/08/24 02:26 PM
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How about you attack those woman instead of a woman on here with a very sensible and realistic take? Not all people are the same. Do you actually want women to be reasonable? Then stop attacking them when they are
/r/PurplePillDebate05/12/23 02:08 PM
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I know OP phrased it this way, but who cares about the sex. You're basically saying that men have to pay for the date to even have a chance to get to further know the woman?
/r/PurplePillDebate05/12/23 01:29 PM
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I think everyone should just split the bill so as to not have 40 different types of expectations with 40 different people
/r/PurplePillDebate05/12/23 01:28 PM
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I can't even tell if this is sarcasm lmao
/r/PurplePillDebate10/08/23 01:06 PM
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I'm semi-anti redpill not because it's complete bullshit (but likely nitpicked and exaggerated), but because everyone that "takes the red pill" looks like a cult member
/r/PurplePillDebate10/08/23 12:38 PM
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I only read the first paragraph, and this is definitely pulled out of his ass: The reason why Women initiate the vast majority of divorces is because they will usually end up left in better financial position then their partner.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/08/23 12:00 PM
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I think this might count as scummy behaviour. If you want to just have sex, go for one night stands or the like, not someone who might hope to actually get a relationship out of it
/r/PurplePillDebate10/08/23 11:14 AM
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No it isn't, it's a boundary you are telling the girl you are dating about, and if she is not willing to comply with that boundary, you and her are not compatible and should not be together.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/07/23 08:36 AM
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Harsh phrasing is the only bad thing about the comment you replied to, it's much worse denying whatever little appreciation dads get.
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