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Lol I don't recall what the original topic was, and I'm too burnt out from dealing with real life stuff to bother to remind myself. But I do know that this whole "blame women as some monolith" online trope that this sub seems incapable of escaping as a topic of conversation, to me, seems like a great way for algorithms to continue to push divisive narratives that increase those companies profits, while simultaneously increasing the likelihood that the people that subscribe to those views, feel m…
/r/PurplePillDebate20/12/25 04:54 AM
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Lmao. I'm still factually correct with my reply to the above person's comment. His side note was inaccurate. And that makes it distracting without being efficient. I was correcting HIM. I was not however, trying to correct you. If you had made the comment I was replying to, you would have a point. But me stepping in, to point out that all the evidence the above commenter used to support the original claim, happens to be inaccurate, isn't actually the same thing. It's me saying "hey your evidence…
/r/PurplePillDebate18/12/25 07:30 AM
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I believe the more recent stats do suggest there is a change in the tide...which makes sense given that previously what allowed the numbers to be so skewed in men's favor was that they were less inherently tied the consequences of it (they didn't have to worry about pregnancy, being left destitute and such bc of it and being unable to work to support themselves). Hormonal birth control changed that. However, higher testosterone and more delayed frontal lobe development in men, suggests that shor…
/r/PurplePillDebate18/12/25 07:12 AM
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Not the same. Cheating actually is gendered, bc statistically men have higher rates of cheating than women. It's something that can be to some extent quantified, as opposed to the subjective perspectives that a man and a woman may differ on (which you can't quantify as easily). Whether your actual point is valid or not, I'm not interested in getting into lol. Simply suggesting that you may want to use another example to share your argument, since the cheating example doesn't really work.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/12/25 04:35 AM
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I’m a millennial woman, and in real life and on my Reddit, I don’t see any of my fellow millennial women complaining about age gap relationships, or having any negative view of younger women as “competition.” I see most younger women as being in a completely different phase of their life than me, one that I’ve already experienced. And that’s what I see the other millennial women viewing it as too. Are you sure this perception of yours isn’t just a social media feedback loop you’re getting bc the…
/r/PurplePillDebate04/09/25 03:51 AM
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Who is “you guys”?
/r/PurplePillDebate04/09/25 03:46 AM
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Sees daily in real life happening in real time? Or “sees daily” as in on social media and Reddit where the algorithm is constantly working to gain and maintain your attention, and the image that can ultimately portray may actually be molded by what your particular brain seems to put attention into (therefore creating more and more results that seem to suggest it’s a consistent reality/norm in real life…but it may not be).
/r/PurplePillDebate04/09/25 03:44 AM
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Yeah well it should, esp if you have children with the person. Having children as a woman in relationship without that legal protection, leaves you incredibly vulnerable financially, medically, and physically. Nature did not evenly distribute the burdens of pregnancy and childbirth, and we still don’t have many legal protections for women who birth children outside of marriage (shout-out to Utah for being one of the only states to require that both parents share childbirth medical expenses at th…
/r/PurplePillDebate03/07/25 11:55 AM
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It’s called trauma bonding and it’s literally the same chemical response in the brain as stockholms syndrome. Might want to look into it.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/05/25 04:53 PM
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Yes it’s exactly that. It’s called trauma bonding and it’s literally the same chemical response in the brain as Stockholm syndrome.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/05/25 04:51 PM
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You’re missing a crucial detail (one you yourself mention) so blatantly that it’s almost painful for me to read. You literally say that she had a honeymoon period with him and then after that it slowly increased in abuse. So he trauma bonded her to him (that’s a real thing, look it up), and you can’t see how that warped her perspective and experience, and hope that this initially perfect person he gave her and still gave her small glimpses of would come back? Have you ever experienced a woman be…
/r/PurplePillDebate03/05/25 04:45 PM
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I read that other thread and with all due respect Dude, your thought process in that one sounded like you’re struggling with the ability to put cohesive thoughts together. I get you have a point you’re trying to make, but you may want to slow down next time and think about your point a bit more critically next time first. It did not have the effect you seem to think it did… And I’m not saying that to be rude, I’m saying it bc it was difficult to follow your train of thought bc the point you were…
/r/PurplePillDebate19/04/25 03:27 AM
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Most people don’t stay with their first, but since most of them are NOT the ones falling into this category (meaning they did have sexual experience at an age that it was still the norm), because they have higher hormones and more life to live for a longer part of that connection. We technically don’t really know how a world that is vastly different socially from even a generation ago, will cope with an increase in individuals with very little sexual experience at an older age. But it’s definite…
/r/PurplePillDebate15/03/25 02:29 AM
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This was certainly previously true, but there seems to be an indication that the younger generations are growing up more isolated and less sexually engaged than Gen X and older Millennials. So I wonder if that will impact those in their 30s who aren’t experienced, and mean there’s a larger portion of individuals who either have no, or very limited, sexual and romantic relationship experience in their dating pool, effectively bringing up that “normal” age of what seems unusual to something more w…
/r/PurplePillDebate15/03/25 01:40 AM
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No, you’re missing my point completely. I wasn’t referring to how my personal worth felt, nor how gay men felt. I was trying to give you a more equivalent comparison to how being a woman on a dating site might feel and what she is likely to value and how that sexual attention will likely feel.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/03/25 01:06 PM
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Except what if your worth wasn’t generally measured by the men wanting to sleep with you, but the men wanting relationships. Go back on grinder, play that game, and THEN tell me if it feels better lol.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/03/25 01:37 AM
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Wtf did I just read? lol this reads like you were high when you wrote it.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/03/25 12:31 AM
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This isn’t technically the case. Not if you look at the complexities involved in attraction. I’d imagine that part of the reason why a lot of women are opting out of dating at all is that a lot of what they have historically been attracted to aren’t good men, and they would rather be alone than be with someone who isn’t a good man. But unfortunately, that doesn’t mean she will be attracted to the good men she comes across. And that attraction doesn’t make those women bad women, but it may speak …
/r/PurplePillDebate04/03/25 01:51 PM
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I would feel like it was an indication that he needed to do trauma therapy prior to dating, and that he was being deeply unfair to me by putting those emotions on my plate to solve in that moment. He’d be putting it psychologically on the person he is trying to build something positive with, right before an intimate moment that leaves ME, the smaller female, at the physical disadvantage, where simply my engaging in it is an inherent display of trust in him or a desire to trust in him. The idea t…
/r/PurplePillDebate26/02/25 04:57 AM
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Lol in a magical scenario where that happened to me, yes I’d be open to it
/r/PurplePillDebate24/02/25 05:57 AM
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I think it depends on the person, and how her physical attractions work (not generally something fully within our control). For me personally, I don’t really enjoy staying friends with people who I would want to be in a relationship with bc it weakens my ability to show up in the ways I want to as a friend if my feelings turn romantic. I know some people can do this, but I’m not one of them. I also have a few friends who think they can do this, but it’s always obvious to me when they are lying t…
/r/PurplePillDebate24/02/25 05:51 AM
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I think what you’re missing is that women will be friends with men we find both attractive and unattractive. And the physical attractiveness doesn’t mean we want to be in a relationship with them (I find one of my closest male friends very attractive physically, but we have very different values for long term, and I wouldn’t ruin the friendship for something short term). While what a lot of people in this thread are trying to highlight, is that often, men will only be friends with women they alr…
/r/PurplePillDebate23/02/25 07:43 PM
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So the female friends you had, you thought were physically UNATTRACTIVE before the friendship began? Because that’s what you seem to be suggesting here.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/02/25 06:01 PM
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Lol your vision of equity (or perhaps your presumption of what equity will mean for as I see it), is that women will automatically get paid more than men? That’s how you think what’s equitable would work as I had described it? (Talk about short sighted…) What specifically in my initial comment gave you that impression? No where did I say that equitable treatment was the inverse of the status quo. What would you like me to gain from your comment other than the fact that you don’t understand what …
/r/PurplePillDebate13/02/25 12:19 AM
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Shallow and short sighted? How? I haven’t the faintest idea how that could be your interpretation of anything I said. So explain it to me like I’m 5, please.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/02/25 09:47 PM
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I’d argue that women demanded “equitable” treatment - meaning some areas the same as men where appropriate, but some altered to account for the impacts that our sex differences have on our lives (like the time off we may take for having children, and how that will impact everything from our income to our social security payouts), but what we got was “equality” bc people are generally too stunted and selfish to really understand the various details of how sex differences impact our lives. But the…
/r/PurplePillDebate12/02/25 04:37 PM
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She also loses out on the financial contributions to her retirement and social security during this time. So add that cost in too
/r/PurplePillDebate12/02/25 04:27 PM
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Let’s not forget that the amount of time that she isn’t working, or working less, she’s also not able to contribute to her retirement and that it will impact her social security payouts later on
/r/PurplePillDebate12/02/25 04:24 PM
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Lol when did any of us say that?? I sure as shhhh didn’t 😂 I’m attracted to people that take care of their bodies. I put effort into being healthy, into fitness, into nutrition, etc. And since I began that about 10 yea ago, I tend to find myself attracted physically to men who pour into their own health in similar ways. As for the latter, that’s what women say they WANT - meaning in the person they are ALREADY attracted to. It’s not what they are attracted to per se, but part of the treatment th…
/r/PurplePillDebate01/02/25 09:03 AM
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This really needs to be higher up. Well said!
/r/PurplePillDebate07/01/25 05:35 AM
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It’s only women that birth men into this world. You think there aren’t plenty of mothers, daughters, sisters and wives that care about their male loved one and their best interests being protected? If you want a law to be in place, go rally together, market it to the masses in a way that shows them the validity of the argument, and convince state representatives to help bring it to a vote in your jurisdiction.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/12/24 02:06 PM
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Or back to my initial comment of preventing all that with hormonal contraception pills for men
/r/PurplePillDebate23/12/24 04:35 AM
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Men do, but it stops with their ejaculation if it goes into another person’s body. Nature didn’t evenly distribute the burdens of pregnancy, and until it does, the legal protection of choice for a baby can’t be “even” either.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/12/24 02:13 AM
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So start voting for elected officials who will ensure that a male hormonal contraceptive comes to market. Then you’ll have similar control that women do before making the abortion choice. Then it’s more about two people both choosing to be sexually active and hoping their birth control works as expected…
/r/PurplePillDebate21/12/24 08:16 AM
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You say that as if a man who doesn’t want kids can’t get a vasectomy or a man who doesn’t want kids with that woman can’t wear a condom. He has a responsibility to protect the future he wants. You’re making it sound like these men are just meek lil lambs who had no control over themselves. Do not nut in her raw if you don’t want a child. Period. Women have to protect themselves from their potential to get pregnant when they have sex. And that’s why women became more promiscuous to begin with - b…
/r/PurplePillDebate21/12/24 06:19 AM
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Lol where did you get “self righteous baby killing fury”? I’m a woman who is pretty romantically traditional, who can’t imagine going through an abortion in the case of rape, and who has only ever wanted to be a mother (I teach at a pre-K…and I can assure you, it’s not for the pay lol). So don’t make assumptions on where I stand with abortions. I care that women get uncompromised medical reproductive care BECAUSE I care about babies. And if you know enough about how pregnancy complications work,…
/r/PurplePillDebate21/12/24 04:52 AM
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Let’s just make something clear before I address your response. This would be an argument potentially worth having if the medical/reproductive autonomy of women’s body’s wasn’t something men were so willing to sacrifice to the wolves. The moment the threat to the ability, right to have, and access to a D&C medical procedure ends up under scrutiny for women and medical professionals, what men want to happen in pregnancy becomes an almost laughable entitled topic to bother discussing. Because with…
/r/PurplePillDebate21/12/24 03:05 AM
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How is it artificially tilting in the favor of women to allow women to be the ones who decide if they move forward with a viable pregnancy. You just said that biological differences mean men carry certain physical weights that women don’t, and the same is true in reverse - with women carrying the weight of the potential to get pregnant, to have to make a decision about it, to have her body changed from it and to have the impact of pregnancy, childbirth and it’s recovery. So why would that biolog…
/r/PurplePillDebate20/12/24 08:11 PM
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I think the commenter was referring to you running with another woman and things with your wife escalating negatively since then. He’s likely implying that if you see a clear distinction in behavior from your wife from before you started something that she doesn’t seem too happy about, perhaps you should rethink routining lighting that fire (i.e. find another running buddy or do it solo).
/r/askMRP29/11/24 12:41 AM
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The people who are “cuck,” are they married and building a life with someone who seems to love them and that they seems to love back? In comparison to these “cucks,” are you single and alone? With all due respect, given your post 100 days ago about how the future of partnership is with AI partners, I don’t think you’re exactly the model for how one should judge healthy human romantic relationships… and I’m not saying that to be mean, I’m simply suggesting that perhaps you would be better served …
/r/PurplePillDebate18/11/24 01:34 AM
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Again, to be clear, I was initially simply asking the commenter if I was interpreting what he was saying correctly. And I was stating how incredibly sad I find what that interpretation was. Then I was simply clarifying a misunderstanding However, my initial comment/question wasn’t an indictment of either the commenter or other men who felt similarly. It wasn’t saying they should only seek out potential partners in the US, nor judging them if they find their happiness within a romantic connection…
/r/PurplePillDebate15/11/24 07:41 AM
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I was referencing “the generations of men” who “created the system” when I then mentioned men “repeatedly voting” for certain policies. It wasn’t aimed at assuming who you specifically voted for, nor the current post election political climate in the US.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/11/24 06:07 AM
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So you’re suggesting that generations of American men created a system that put American women in a super uncomfortable and unsafe position, and rather than stepping up and dealing with it and helping the American women fix it, American men are going overseas to seek out women who have the safety net that American men repeatedly voted for Americans (and American women) not to have? All so they can skip to the feel good feelings with less work? Please feel free to correct me if I’m misunderstandi…
/r/PurplePillDebate14/11/24 05:06 AM
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Makes you wonder if they’ve ever met any of the women they are pointing to. I think American men who think this way tend to misunderstand that traditional values doesn’t necessarily correlate with submissive and gentle because life doesn’t generally treat most people or their families with kid gloves. Gentle and submissive, means that that individual’s ability to be gentle and submissive is protected somehow, without life having the opportunity to harden them.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/11/24 04:58 AM
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👍🏼
/r/PurplePillDebate23/10/24 05:19 PM
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You’re right…it means I have no refractory period, and you do lol.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/10/24 11:59 AM
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Speak for yourself. My desires aren’t less powerful just because they are disciplined.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/10/24 04:12 AM
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I’m a woman and I’m horny 24/7/365, not just selected parts of my cycle…and my standards are high AF. I’d rather get myself off alone than lower them. Go read my last comment that explains this in more detail. You’re equating “libido” with “spontaneous desire/lack of sexual disgust” which is specifically testosterone driven. “Libido” with “responsive desire” like mine is for the most part, still has a heavy sexual disgust factor. It doesn’t make it any less consuming or intense of a feeling/expe…
/r/PurplePillDebate23/10/24 04:09 AM
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No, men just have lower levels of sexual disgust (this has been studied, and has nothing to do with a desire to have sex with a partner, for women this just creates selection parameters meant to remove less desirable mating prospects so she would reproduce with those who are likely to care for her offspring and had opposite immunities to blend with). Also, a big part of what you’re talking about is “arousal” not libido. Women are more likely to experience arousal through “responsive desire,” whi…
/r/PurplePillDebate23/10/24 04:01 AM
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Are you being intentionally obtuse? Or unintentionally stupid?
/r/PurplePillDebate23/10/24 03:46 AM
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No, the issue being discussed is that she won’t do it again with the safe person. Try to keep up lol. If someone feels like they don’t like the thought of having to accept things their partner did things prior to them being in the picture, they can make that clear early on or seek out someone with only their same level of experience. Frankly, I don’t understand how someone could hear that their partner did something with a past partner and that they never want to do it again, and think “if they …
/r/PurplePillDebate22/10/24 01:47 AM
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Meaning women should do what exactly? I’m unsure what you’re actually trying to suggest when you say taking “sole responsibility.” Though to be clear, nothing in the above comment of mine referenced myself or my personal experiences.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/10/24 06:51 PM
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I’ve only seen women who have previously tried sexual things they really didn’t like or felt coerced into by the “exciting but not very protective of her needs” guy, and then felt safe enough to not be pressured into those same things by the “safe guy.” So if the issue is solely focused around “does she let me do xyz with her” then sure, the safe guy may feel like he is losing out somehow on those experiences. But if you love your partner and generally, that particular sexual action isn’t a deal…
/r/PurplePillDebate21/10/24 06:41 PM
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It doesn’t guarantee they will be serious back or honest with you (or even themselves). “Only sleeping with someone you’re serious about” unfortunately doesn’t equate to it protecting women from being used for recreational purposes.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/10/24 06:34 PM
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Lol yeah I have always had higher libido than my partners too. This tracks. Might be influenced additionally influenced by adhd and weight training/fitness in my case.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/10/24 12:08 AM
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Just an FYI, there’s an entire subset of Dominant/submissive dynamics that overlaps with a lot of the “Princess” terminology you’re using. Also, given the casualness of dating these days, I’d be careful about assuming that women who express wanting such treatment want anything other than a man who treats them with kindness and consideration, while simply still taking care of himself. As for the either can be breadwinners, regardless of kids, that’s true…but…given that nature didn’t evenly distri…
/r/PurplePillDebate20/10/24 04:10 PM
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Why is it that opinions like this, seem to suggest that women on a societal level should collectively lower their standards for the benefit of all men, rather than suggesting that for the same betterment of society, that all men become better in order to be the type of men those women are willing to be with? Why is the self sacrifice always the expectation of womanhood? It’s not enough that their bodies create quite literally all of mankind and sacrifice those bodies and most valued (by society)…
/r/PurplePillDebate19/10/24 07:59 AM
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Amen…and that username 😂
/r/PurplePillDebate19/10/24 07:44 AM
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Lol only the women use it for that? 🤣
/r/PurplePillDebate13/10/24 01:47 AM
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Thinking both parties should be treated with respect, isn’t the same as wanting women to have the upper hand. Anyway, I’m done talking thru this since it’s Kol Nidre. Best of luck to you…
/r/PurplePillDebate11/10/24 10:49 PM
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Sure 👍🏼🎀 But you should still probably stop sticking your dick in people you can’t empathize with. That’s just gross and lacking basic self respect.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/10/24 10:14 PM
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Dude, that is some malignant ego driven behavior/thinking that you should probably go to therapy for. And I don’t even mean that in an unkind way, I mean that in a “I hope you can grow from feeling that type of intentional negativity towards those women, and get to a place where you feel simply at peace with who you are now, without that resentment tied to it” type of way. Because that’s a lot of negative energy to hold onto for women you don’t even seem to like.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/10/24 10:01 PM
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Not sure how that goes against my points.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/10/24 08:22 PM
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Why not just actually communicate and enforce your own boundaries with them? I’m not sure why you would feel contempt and judgement for them just because you want different things from one another. If you have trouble avoiding those negative feelings you end up having towards them, perhaps it means you either need to communicate your boundaries differently, or simply not stick your dick in those women you feel you couldn’t respect if they don’t want to just be used for sex (which most are unlike…
/r/PurplePillDebate11/10/24 08:19 PM
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Dating for women inherently tends to include far more hypervigilance during that “process” than it does for men. Plus when women have fun with dating they are often on a societal level judged negatively for it in ways men aren’t. Additionally, if they sleep with the person, they have a much higher likelihood of not orgasming from the encounter than a man does. So women not enjoying “the process” of dating in the way you’re suggesting, makes sense if you can actually consider how life and dating …
/r/PurplePillDebate11/10/24 08:09 PM
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Not all women! Lol 😝
/r/PurplePillDebate13/09/24 02:28 AM
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Well if they have kids, she’ll face all the consequences of gestating, birthing, and possibly nursing those children, as well as all the stigma that comes with being a single mom in the dating marketplace later on, which would make her either stupid or independently wealthy in order to go for this. Either that or intentionally childfree.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/07/24 04:55 AM
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For women it’s fun? Have you seen how many women are opting out of dating entirely at this point? That doesn’t exactly suggest that it’s fun for women.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/07/24 11:44 AM
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You didn’t answer any of my actual questions lol. Didn’t really respond to any of the points I made either. Just used my comment as a way to reiterate what you already said, which I had questions about. And you clarified…[checks reply again]…absolutely nothing? Lol. Also, the question of knowing one’s own league isn’t about whether or not another man is in your league, it’s about knowing whether a woman is in your league or not. Your comparison to other men isn’t relevant in what I’m trying to g…
/r/PurplePillDebate02/07/24 03:15 AM
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Serious question - if plenty of the men that are “out of a woman’s league” still show interest in her, how does she actually know those specific men are out of her league and not just incompatible in some way? Where is this imaginary line that men think women ignore? I’d imagine that in the scenarios that you’re referring to, the actual real life experience of that woman is to feel pursued by someone she’s deeply attracted to, but it doesn’t work out how she’d hoped? I highly doubt that these in…
/r/PurplePillDebate02/07/24 01:52 AM
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It technically depends on the court district. The more conservative the court district is politically, the harder it is for fathers to get 50-50. But bc a lot of densely populated areas lean progressive politically, and the total number of custody cases that award 50-50 custody ends up being inherently higher in the overall nation. So the individuals who claim that most men have the ability to gain custody if they ask for it, are going by the higher national average of that being the case, witho…
/r/PurplePillDebate11/06/24 12:24 AM
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You didn’t respond to any of my points you’re welcome to highlight something I missed though), you simply reiterated your own. And I’m not upset lol so I genuinely have no idea what the “throwing a temper tantrum” comment is referencing or where you’re getting that from. Is that just an assumption bc I’m a woman that I must be getting emotional? Lol In terms of the point you keep reiterating, you seem to also be missing the fact that so many younger men aren’t being taught the social-emotional s…
/r/PurplePillDebate09/06/24 03:50 PM
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Do you have daughters? Are you going to make these assumptions about a dating market that you’re not even part of, and haven’t experienced yourself, and then preach the same things, to your daughter - that she should ask for less in her romantic connections? Or is this outlook just reserved for some abstract idea of what today’s younger women should be accepting of…all because you feel some weird sense of scorn towards a proportion of the female population that you have nothing to do with romant…
/r/PurplePillDebate09/06/24 03:21 PM
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Dude, if you’re just going to parrot what you’ve already said all throughout the comments, rather than respond to anything others said in their reply to you, why did you even post anything? It kind of seems like you just want to hear yourself talk…. And what you keep hyper focusing on, is not even a worthwhile thought. It’s just being uselessly annoyed with people whom, you don’t seem to respect. What was the point of your post? I’m genuinely curious given how uninterested you seem in any though…
/r/PurplePillDebate09/06/24 01:39 AM
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This reads like one of those things that sounds like it makes sense in the abstract, but when you think about reality, and how complex romantic human relationships are, it’s just one of those platitudes that doesn’t apply to real life. What someone “offers“ will vary, especially overtime, depending on their health, promotions, etc. And what someone “asks for“ can be purely dependent on their confidence, or their self-awareness and their boundaries around what does and doesn’t work for them or ma…
/r/PurplePillDebate08/06/24 10:18 PM
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The issue I’m seeing with your argument is that the only people who you claim should have to learn quickly is women… and worse, you seem to hold contempt for women for it…actually it’s worse than that too lol - you seem to only hold the women who “fail to learn quickly,” with contempt despite initially implying that men don’t have learn a similar fast lesson, that men’s value lasts beyond that learning curve. Which is a really long winded way of expressing scorn for such a large portion of the p…
/r/PurplePillDebate29/05/24 04:11 AM
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No where did I say those women didn’t exist. I said not even one 40+ female I personally knew, was like that. That still stands. Go reread my initial comment that you replied to. I’m going to sleep, I don’t care enough about this topic to spend more time going down rabbit holes, much less trying to prove I’m right about my own experiences (which is the only thing I initially referred to). Bye.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/04/24 01:45 AM
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There’s an enormous difference between suggesting all young women steer clear, and pointing out to those young women that ARE in those relationships that there’s an enormous and inherent power imbalance in age gap relationships. There simply is. That’s reality, not malice. Making young women aware of those complexities allows those women to make informed decisions and that means that if they stay in those age gaped relationships, they are hopefully better able to advocate for themselves and prot…
/r/PurplePillDebate18/04/24 01:40 AM
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No, I’m not emotionally trying to gaslight you 🙄. I guess I just happen to feel feelings more deeply than I probably should and felt like that view must have been formed somewhere, and felt some weird compassion for it. Clearly undeserved, thanks for the correction. But to be honest, I just don’t have the bandwidth to argue over something like this with a stranger who seems intent on being so cynical about a specific segment of the female population (which is esp concerning given that you seem t…
/r/PurplePillDebate18/04/24 01:31 AM
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A fact to who? In my experience, that’s simply not the case. I’m sorry you’re around such toxic individuals though (can’t imagine the men around all those toxic women are much better, so that’s kinda sad actually).
/r/PurplePillDebate17/04/24 10:04 PM
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You say this as if there aren’t plenty of horrific stepfathers in existence, so I’m not sure you’re proving much. Are there toxic women? Yes. Toxic women of all ages? Yes. Are there toxic men? Yes. Are there toxic men of all ages? Also, yes. But let’s remember that society only decided to highlight and make movies about the awful stepMOTHERS, rarely ever about the awful stepfathers. Do you really think that’s bc it doesn’t exist? There are always toxic people. There are always going to be people…
/r/PurplePillDebate17/04/24 10:01 PM
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Lol this comment proves how young you are. Not even one woman over 40 that I know cares enough to be jealous, they are all confident and could not give les of a F***….But…ALL of them have at one point been the teenage girl who older men paid too much attention to and they recognize how vast the life experience difference was and how strong the power imbalance was looking back on it. So of course they take issue with those things now - bc they know the girl will eventually grow a sense of self as…
/r/PurplePillDebate17/04/24 06:55 PM
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You do realize that what she was doing wasn’t a manipulation, right? It’s fairly normal for people to tend to “show” their love in the way they like to receive it. If something makes you feel most loved and valued, you tend to unconsciously do similar things for the person you’re with, and women esp tend to show their love in the ways they want to be loved bc that’s simply what feels loving to them personally. If it wasn’t what made YOU feel loved, that’s perfectly okay, but then it’s your respo…
/r/PurplePillDebate01/03/24 07:44 PM
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THIS. But I envy them for the ability regardless. It sounds like a much more peaceful existence (inner peace anyway lol)…
/r/PurplePillDebate29/02/24 01:09 AM
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THIS
/r/PurplePillDebate06/02/24 01:42 PM
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Uh no lol. The man who isn’t having sex isn’t in the equation at all. The only people in a sexual equation are the consenting adults partaking in the act. But the fact that you’re trying to insert a random man who’s not getting any sexual contact into the equation between two sexual partners is highlighting how entitled you seem to feel to be part of it. And I’m genuinely confused as to how you came to that conclusion…
/r/PurplePillDebate04/01/24 04:54 PM
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You may want to share you checklist to help educate other men on here. It could potentially be super helpful for those with less experience (and therefore you’re not only helping other men, but their partners too). Like a sex mitzvah lol…
/r/PurplePillDebate04/01/24 04:46 PM
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These articles you posted are actually completely misinterpreting the data collected, and show that whomever wrote the articles didn’t do their due diligence in thoroughly reading what they were reporting on. I have read at least one of studies the article is referencing and the VICTIMS of sexual and domestic violence can be found in higher percentages in women whose sexual orientation is not purely heterosexual (and this included sexual violence outside of the home, and domestic violence outsid…
/r/PurplePillDebate25/12/23 05:49 PM
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First, I think it depends on what you mean by “safe option.” When most people hear it, they think of it as the backup plan that wasn’t really wanted, so the individual was chosen as accepting a loss, and no one wants to be identified as that to their partner. So if that’s what you’re referring to, I think that both men and women can hear something like that and feel a sense of protection towards the partner being labeled that way, bc they know they want to feel like they were chosen bc they were…
/r/PurplePillDebate15/12/23 01:45 PM
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Uh feminism is inherently for women’s issues. If you care about men’s issues, create a group that works to change those issues, stop getting mad at women for working on their own issues instead of men’s. No one was talking about men’s personal lives, but I was referring to a man personally investing in what he claims to care about as male issues. Why are women supposed to fix their own issues and men’s too? Stop being mad that women are focused on their own imbalance and leaving it to men to foc…
/r/PurplePillDebate22/10/23 05:21 AM
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You’re equating showing grace and being supportive of another groups’ efforts to alter their own inequalities to “women should be pouring into these causes too if they are feminists.” Men love to point out how women aren’t showing up for their causes, but I’m talking about them applauding you for putting in the work to make the change happen (the same way feminists put in said work for women’s causes). You’re upset that they aren’t showing empathy to your complaints but I’m talking about empathy…
/r/PurplePillDebate22/10/23 04:27 AM
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Feminism isn’t supporting an outlook where men “should” be suspected of being abusers. It’s about the addressing the differences and how the challenges of womanhood are different than that of a man’s. And for most of history, those in power, those with the ability to identify challenges and create comprehensive solutions, were men, which means that they were simply more likely to better find solutions for their own challenges (not out of maliciousness, but out of personal necessity and awareness…
/r/PurplePillDebate21/10/23 11:58 PM
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Does it say anything in that study about how unmarried women live longer than married women…but married men live longer than unmarried men?
/r/PurplePillDebate19/09/23 06:09 PM
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Oh so you’re assuming a woman can’t a) feel happy and validated in her own personal life as a human being, b) have experienced or witnessed examples of systemic dismissiveness towards women, and c) also write longer responses in an online platform in an attempt to highlight a different way of thinking about something that you may not have previously considered? Hate to break it to you bro, but those things aren’t mutually exclusive. Lol do you think that “the type of women” who are happy and val…
/r/PurplePillDebate16/09/23 12:17 PM
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You frame that as if it’s a needy thing with women. However, perhaps you might want to consider that when the default the world is constructed around is technically often a default of the male experience, it is far easier as a female for your experiences existing to be treated with dismissiveness or invalidated. Meaning when those who, throughout most of recent history had the most decision making power in everything from what medical research to fund or what should be considered visually satisf…
/r/PurplePillDebate16/09/23 12:07 AM
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What did you two agree to prior to her decision to no longer work part time? Was there a clear discussion and agreement that she didn’t have to work if she was acting as the cleaning lady? Also, if this was always an area she faltered, why would that even be an expectation, rather than simply insisting that she continues to have an income? To be clear, I’m not suggesting your wants in this are in any way unreasonable, I’m simply suggesting that it’s unclear from your post what you have and haven…
/r/Divorce_Men09/08/23 10:53 PM
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Has she seen a psychiatrist or obgyn with some experience with it though? A medical doctor who can prescribe her medication to help her rebalance the brain chemicals that got out of wack to begin with? Therapy is great, but what she likely needs is medical intervention.
/r/Divorce_Men10/07/23 10:12 AM
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May I ask if all of this personality change began after she gave birth? Because some of this could absolutely be tied to untreated postpartum depression, postpartum anxiety, or postpartum psychosis. If so, regardless of what you decide to do to protect your assets and well being, you should really help her get treated for the sake of your kid. I don’t have suggestions for the rest of it, but I did want to simply say that an extreme personality shift like that is a huge sign of postpartum mental …
/r/Divorce_Men08/07/23 08:36 PM
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Do you understand how power and status are inherently economically coercive in a romantic connection that’s abroad, if the woman is less financially secure than you? Here’s the rest of whether it’s purely the SE culture vs. economic coercion at play tipping the scale - do the women who have more power and status in Thailand than you do, connect with you in the same way? Or have you only connected with the women who just so happen to have a lower economic status than you? Because if your theory i…
/r/PurplePillDebate17/03/23 10:13 PM
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I’m not sure if this is sarcasm, or if you’re completely blind to how what you outlined is a great example of how having higher economic status than the female population is both attractive to them (and simultaneously economically coercive).
/r/PurplePillDebate17/03/23 09:26 PM
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Women absolutely still get fired for being pregnant and don’t get hired bc they are single mothers
/r/PurplePillDebate17/03/23 09:22 PM
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Her point was so why do you seem so fired up and defensive about it?
/r/PurplePillDebate04/03/23 08:00 AM
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Ask the women in the bdsm community how they felt about that movie, I guarantee you won’t get the answer you seem to assume...
/r/PurplePillDebate04/03/23 07:56 AM
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Practice communicating over time, knowing themselves and their needs better, learning how to respond to other people’s needs that require compromise, consciousness towards personal boundaries...
/r/PurplePillDebate04/03/23 07:52 AM
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Lmao uh not even close to accurate. Source: my mom had me at 35, my brother at 37, and with my brother she got pregnant in the first few months they began trying. And most of the women that are friends of mine had a child between 31-37. But keep believing whatever helps you believe that women lose value at 30. Just stop saying it out loud without evidence...
/r/PurplePillDebate04/03/23 07:49 AM
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You’re so busy being self righteous about what you think she’s attacking, that you just missed her point repeatedly bro lol...
/r/PurplePillDebate04/03/23 06:37 AM
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Correction: The video below shows that she did have body pics up…he knew what she looked like. https://m.youtube.com/watch?v=zyW9nHI5f6Q&t=60s&pp=2AE8kAIB
/r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen02/01/23 03:51 AM
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Is it wrong that the first thing I thought when watching this was that I’m jealous bc my face is the FIRST part of me to show weight when I gain? (My build is fairly petite/athletic, but the moment I gain even 5 lbs it’s obvious in my face).
/r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen02/01/23 03:46 AM
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The issue with even this take though (and living in the society we have today in general where we don’t have as much family around or close knit communities), is that watching a kid all day may not entail tons of intellectual stimulation, but you can’t leave the kid to attend to chores all day. So it’s really two jobs you’d be expecting her to do - house cleaner AND childcare. That’s my nice way of saying that you’re young, seem to have little insight into how much time, energy and focus goes in…
/r/PurplePillDebate09/12/22 12:56 AM
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Not ALL women! 😤🤣
/r/Divorce_Men05/12/22 11:01 PM
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Well that’s all great to hear in terms of the support systems in place! I still really think that the marriage counseling, ideally someone specializing in the Gottman method and perhaps even with an additional sex therapy background (which is often less focused on sex specifically, and more about how desire and attraction can be reignited and worked on long term) would be something you two could benefit from. I think it could give you a platform to better communicate with her about such a touchy…
/r/Divorce_Men02/12/22 08:25 PM
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First, I really think you two should at the very least try couples counseling prior to just skipping to the divorce route. Divorce doesn’t just mean paying alimony and child support. I can be super costly in lawyer and court fees, and more importantly changes your whole life and future. It means not seeing your child for half the time, not seeing half their Christmas/Hanukkah/etc type of family holidays, potentially not seeing them for half their bday parties, not having any say whatsoever in ho…
/r/Divorce_Men02/12/22 07:41 PM
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Technically the state matters less than the county/district you live in, and the judges involved in the family courts in that county/district. Contrary to popular belief, custody awarded to fathers and consciousness paid to their ability to be an equally stable environment to the children, is actually higher in blue districts than red (red leaning districts tend to have more judges that think mom should raise the kids and dad should provide for it). Your biggest hurdle will be getting her income…
/r/Divorce_Men29/11/22 05:55 PM
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Have you tried marriage counseling? If you’re both open to it, you might want to seek out someone with a background in sex therapy. They tend to approach counseling with a focus on how to navigate issues pertaining to intimacy, attraction, and desire, and could likely help you two figure out if the relationship just needs oxygen added to an incredibly low flame, or if it’s healthier to part ways.
/r/Divorce_Men16/11/22 01:10 AM
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Yes you did...but I do not think it means what you think it means lol. The “nice guy” is who that quote was about that said “girls are not machines that you put kindness coins into until sex falls out.” They are human beings just like you, with dreams and desires and rich histories and complex thoughts. If you’re upset that women don’t respond in some transactionally satisfying way to you when you’re kind towards them, you can choose to not interact with them. But if you don’t want to take that …
/r/PurplePillDebate01/11/22 09:04 PM
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This! Very well put...
/r/PurplePillDebate01/11/22 08:49 PM
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In response to me to shut up? I’m not the person you first replied to bro, this is the first reply to my comment. Also, the issue with just using an unattractive woman in that comparison is its not the same - men aren’t shamed by society for sleeping with unattractive women, nor do they have to consider the potential for pain with penetration when sex isn’t pleasurable, or the other person being physically much stronger than them. So your comparison just shows how much you don’t know about all t…
/r/PurplePillDebate29/10/22 12:38 AM
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This is one of the most fascinating spins on reality that I’ve read in a while. The level of cognitive dissonance used to avoid including in your arguments that women are human beings and should be treated with similar levels of personal bodily autonomy, is quite remarkable. Also, you clearly didn’t understand what the person you were responding to was making comparative analogies around (lol though your wildly incorrect assumption about the men with men scenario was so far out in left field tha…
/r/PurplePillDebate28/10/22 11:39 PM
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Actually I appreciate your saying that, since I thought it was Ohio, Texas, and North Carolina that all made it illegal to cross state lines, but apparently those are proposed bills, not legislation that’s already been passed. So I stand corrected on that (though it doesn’t mean that travel is accessible and possible for all women). Legally compromising medical/bodily autonomy is a very dangerous slippery slope to open the door to. I don’t think people have a solid grasp on the actual real world…
/r/PurplePillDebate27/10/22 07:05 PM
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You recognize this specific “go out of state where it’s legal” solution you’re offering is illegal as well right? Most of those states that have it as illegal also make it illegal to go out of state for the procedure. And men may not be able to go to another state to avoid child support, but almost all are fully aware that sex can lead to pregnancy, and that that’s where their independent choice takes place (whether or not to engage sexually). Men can choose not to have sex if they don’t want th…
/r/PurplePillDebate27/10/22 05:17 PM
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If that’s what you so firmly believe - that the majority of women in the porn industry are doing it by choice, feel genuinely empowered by their content online, that it doesn’t target women who are already vulnerable (very few of those women had financial stability before hand), have never felt exploited by it or coerced into it or abused during it, and don’t need to do drugs or use substances to make it tolerable (and I’m talking solely about those women who film within the actual industry, not…
/r/PurplePillDebate18/10/22 08:45 PM
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Who wants to explain “responsive desire” vs. “spontaneous desire” and how more than 85% of women experience only responsive desire and how more than 85% of men can experience spontaneous desire? OP, googling those two ways that desire is formed and the difference between them, would be a good place for you to start gaining a more thorough understanding of how most women’s experience of arousal differs from yours. It’s a consequence of your body producing a certain level of testosterone, and most…
/r/PurplePillDebate18/10/22 07:26 PM
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That’s not a good analogy, drunk drivers don’t profit from alcohol, they depend on it. Alcohol supports the alcohol industry. I get where you are trying to go with that - that the responsibility of bad people belongs with bad people - but you’re missing the part where you don’t have to be a bad man or treat the women in your life poorly, in order to support an industry that harms a lot of women. You may not know which porn is “safe,” but you do know that there is solid evidence of human traffick…
/r/PurplePillDebate18/10/22 06:05 PM
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I think there’s something to be said for men needing to feel a responsibility towards the woman’s enthusiastic consent and enthusiastically continuing while engaging in whatever acts there are...and part of the problem with porn is that it makes it seem like men can just whip their d*ck out and magically create spontaneous desire and lubrication in a woman, and if the real girl in person is not engaging with enthusiasm, that means she must be less of a sexual person and have a small sex drive (l…
/r/PurplePillDebate18/10/22 05:42 PM
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As others have said, if you don’t already know the girl offline, her expectation to meet and have some form of date is about comfort and safety. That being said, even if you do know her offline, most women experience “responsive” desire, as opposed to “spontaneous” desire that most men experience, and I’d imagine a date helps with how her body’s arousal works differently than yours. Lastly, I don’t know any women who have legitimately wanted to waste an evening of their time on a man purely for …
/r/seduction14/10/22 02:28 PM
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Well said...
/r/PurplePillDebate11/10/22 02:32 PM
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I’m going to say something you’re not going to like hearing, but know that I’m not saying it to insult you, I’m saying it to help with the issue you’re referencing, so whether you hear it as something worth heeding or you allow your ego to be pissy about it and consume your reaction, is your prerogative. The issue you’re having in dating isn’t that you have a high sex drive, that women have high standards or body counts or anything else you’ve referenced. From what you describe, the biggest diff…
/r/PurplePillDebate11/10/22 01:56 PM
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And way cheaper of a process
/r/PurplePillDebate11/10/22 12:29 PM
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This is definitely not true. It is true that men assume that it’s the case lol, but it’s not accurate. I was a virgin until after graduating high school/ legally an adult, spent most of 18-31 in two long term relationships, and have never slept around, but I’ve been interested in discussing sexual topics intellectually from an insanely young age (to the point that my parents’ way of handling it when I was a child and asking questions was to sit me down in that part of the library and allow me to…
/r/PurplePillDebate07/10/22 04:47 PM
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It just sounds like you have friends with questionable morals... and don’t understand the difference between data points and causation. Statistics are often oriented around correlation NOT causation.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/09/22 05:01 AM
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I feel like this is far more likely to happen in one’s 20s than in their 30s. I’m loyal to a fault, and have certainly acted exclusive even when me and someone I was talking to weren’t officially there, due to how much my interest was focused on that one person and how consistent they were in our communication. However, I personally think that these are important enough details to have the exclusivity conversation more directly, and expectations surrounding said exclusivity bc people have varyin…
/r/PurplePillDebate09/09/22 07:10 PM
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May I ask if you’re basing that on just reading the title or reading the synopsis of all of them? (Genuinely curious, not trying to create an argument lol…full disclaimer that I’ve read none of them other than The Catcher in the Rye and Death of a Salesman…which I read in high school more than a decade ago).
/r/PurplePillDebate05/09/22 03:02 PM
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That doesn’t actually speak to the root cause of those divorces or reasons they remained married, nor does it speak to their overall level of satisfaction in their married life. It’s possible that those that have the smallest number of past sexual partners simply don’t have the confidence to leave bc the unknown world beyond marriage feels uncomfortably large. It could also mean those with higher counts simply feel more confident that they are capable of living a happier existence even if single…
/r/PurplePillDebate05/09/22 05:01 AM
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There is a difference between tolerating/excusing disrespectful behavior, and understanding/showing compassion to emotion someone communicates with you. Whenever I’ve said “it’s that time of month” as part of what I’m sharing, I’m rarely sharing it as an excuse, but as insight to ensure that the other person knows that I’m aware of my own heightened emotion, and I’m aware that my heightened emotion may mean I’m additionally sensitive to something in that moment. But it’s not an excuse for acting…
/r/PurplePillDebate28/08/22 04:31 PM
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This this this! Why is it that the men who bitch about a woman who is not disregarding looks while picking a mate, aren’t going for a woman whose personality or intelligence outweigh her looks? It’s so interesting to me that they are always so blind to the double standard suggested - that she should compromise what she finds physically appealing, but he shouldn’t.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/08/22 01:16 PM
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To be clear, I’m not suggesting there shouldn’t be limits or even how a man should handle or not handle those scenarios. I’m simply identifying that when it happens, the disconnect is partly due to how men and women’s needs tend to differ in communicating with one another (broad generalization). On a personal note, I certainly understand what you’re saying and why it’s frustrating or not worth your buy in to engage.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/06/22 05:02 PM
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I’m not debating anything, I simply came to clarify the way women differ than men in this particular respect... When men discuss problems, they are seeking solutions, but often when women are sharing problems (esp with a significant other...but could be any other social agent) they are seeking to feel understood in their experience of the problem. It’s not the desire to bitch repeatedly about something they don’t want to fix that women enjoy, it’s the desire to feel understood and connected to s…
/r/PurplePillDebate15/06/22 04:48 AM
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Sounds like something you should explore if you have questions. I don’t owe you answers, I’ve done my research, it doesn’t interest me to do yours too. I’m simply taking the time to provide you with new considerations. Don’t want to explore your assumptions? Cool, that’s not a me problem dude
/r/PurplePillDebate11/05/22 03:52 PM
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It’s just conditional on the couple being married at the time said decision was made. What if the man doesn’t want to be married anymore and is completely checked out? What if there is no clear fault and both are deeply unhappy and the man simply avoids dealing with any of the issues that arise, using work as an excuse to never be present? You’re suggesting that they both just stay in a marriage they’re unhappy with forever? The above assertions about marriage laws making everything favorable to…
/r/PurplePillDebate11/05/22 02:09 PM
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It’s extremely rare that a spouse just magically decided not to work, usually that’s a decision agreed to by both partners, in which case that marital decision is a decision as a unit to create a home around that. Especially if the couple has kids, the decision to stall ones career and stay home to raise a child, maintain the house, etc, is generally a decision to avoid incurring those costs elsewhere (daycare is insanely expensive, and most cleaning services aren’t exactly cheap). And to be cle…
/r/PurplePillDebate11/05/22 01:10 PM
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You’re saying a woman should be a perfect wife or be trapped, or self sacrifice her own well being for the kids rather than their be an equal division of assets? That’s wild. It’s clear this error is part of why you’re so riled up about this. It’s not HIS house and HIS money, it’s THEIRS. They built it as a married couple. If you don’t feel like your exwife contributed fairly to your marriage, it means you made a bad bet or investment, and should have pulled out of it sooner rather than continui…
/r/PurplePillDebate11/05/22 03:03 AM
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You’re assuming that a disparity in living scenarios doesn’t negatively impact children, but it does. And you’re treating “fault” as some singular easy to prove liability, but it’s not when it’s in the context of a romantic relationship ending. Abuse is super hard to prove bc most domestic violence victims are too consumed with trying to do damage control and not unravel emotionally to collect clear evidence until after they’ve already escaped. Also, requiring a woman to obtain proof that a man …
/r/PurplePillDebate11/05/22 02:19 AM
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Lol you say that as if both people aren’t typically at fault for their divorce. Somewhere along the line they likely both fuxked up. Who would be the judge of whose “fault” the divorce was in order to secure alimony in the magical scenario you’d support?...now tell me all of the ways that could be a slippery slope lol. Generally speaking, alimony is actually not very common, and child support supporting the child’s mom to have a similarly stable life to the children’s father is actually for the …
/r/PurplePillDebate11/05/22 01:54 AM
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Do you care about a) her body count/past, b) if she previously slept with her male friends, or c) if she’s currently sleeping with any of her guy friends? Not sure how old you are, but women in their 20s and 30s experience a fairly significant female friend drop off as those in their female circles begin getting married and having children. The result is that single females end up with a growing circle of male friends purely by default as their female friends become less accessible. I’d be caref…
/r/seduction07/05/22 09:14 PM
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This. Well said.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/05/22 05:35 AM
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You must be fairly young, and while I understand your thought process, that’s simply not how everyone thinks. Frankly, it seems a bit dramatic, but I get how that is when your life experience is more limited, and that’s okay. The idea that I’m not over that ex (or any ex, since I was the one who walked away from each) is laughable. I broke up with him, and at the time, I blocked him, got a new number and moved to ensure he couldn’t contact me. If I had still wanted that relationship I’d have it.…
/r/PurplePillDebate15/04/22 06:52 PM
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I agree with most of what you highlighted above, and those are actually great questions I hadn’t asked regarding those studies but certainly important stats to consider. Thank you for sharing that! And I don’t think it’s that divorced men aren’t considered, but I do think it’s concerning that the suicide rate has been steadily climbing for the last decade. I’d argue it has far more to do with our wealth distribution and the pressure and lack of value that men feel from that increasing income div…
/r/PurplePillDebate14/04/22 06:09 PM
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There’s a difference between women wanted things to be equitable - for society to be understanding and supporting of women’s needs, life cycle patterns, and challenges that it already does for men - and equal - like wanting equal pay for equal work - and fair or not neither of those are relevant to desire. Men may not feel that society caters to them and it’s not to suggest that life doesn’t come with its own massive amount of challenges regardless of sex bc it certainly does, but it does mean t…
/r/PurplePillDebate14/04/22 06:01 PM
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You think it’s a blame thing? It’s not, it’s about what gets a woman turned on, and just like you can’t help what turns you on, a woman can’t help what turns her on. And it’s not all about novelty, it’s about effort and seducing her mind and fantasies before expecting access to her body. It’s about exploring her, evolving with her, and actively putting practices into place where you preserve and prioritize time for that part of your lives together. It’s about making sure everything kid and home …
/r/PurplePillDebate14/04/22 03:06 PM
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She pulled the videos off her device. I have an entire normal album of my ex (not sexual), and all it would do would remind me of how abusive he was, so I never look at it and it’s in storage. But it’s still mine, and up to me when and if I throw it out.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/04/22 10:52 AM
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Actually it’s proven that women stop finding sexual attraction to their partner for a variety of reasons, reasons which once addressed, tend to revive her libido. Men think foreplay is sexual, but women need it to include the pursuit, courting, and seduction the man put in in the beginning. Never stop “dating” your partner...
/r/PurplePillDebate14/04/22 10:48 AM
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THIS!!!
/r/PurplePillDebate14/04/22 10:37 AM
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It’s not sexual favors. You have no idea what she enjoyed and didn’t and why should she be retraumatized and in pain all over again to prove her love to you? How entitled to her body and sacrifice of her body do you think you are? This is appalling...
/r/PurplePillDebate14/04/22 10:36 AM
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How is no one focused on how violating it is to show someone nudes or sexual images of his girl or ex to a friend without that girl’s explicit permission? Technically the bf stumbled on it accidentally and even he didn’t have a right to look at it, especially given his suspicions of what was on it. He should have asked to see it but watching something of hers she didn’t give him permission to see, knowing full well it wasn’t his to view, and then showing it to a friend?! That’s so so fucked up. …
/r/PurplePillDebate14/04/22 10:32 AM
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THIS THIS THIS
/r/PurplePillDebate10/04/22 07:22 PM
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YESSSS! I LOVE her audiobook! It’s like my favorite subject to learn about combined with her cute Belgium/French accent is happiness for my brain lol. I’ve watched her videos too, and I also keep meaning to listen to her other book, The State of Affairs. Have you listened to that one yet?
/r/seduction26/03/22 02:58 PM
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Well said. And I love Esther Perel (I just mentioned her in my comment above before reading yours...great minds...). That woman is my idol lol, her books are amazing, so I’ll definitely second that sentiment.
/r/seduction26/03/22 02:32 PM
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I believe there have been studies that suggest that while men are more likely to end up in a physical affair, women are more likely to leave the relationship emotionally or psychologically first (but separately from them engaging emotionally or physically outside of the partnership with someone else). It’s possible that the statistics of men’s infidelity being higher are also partly due to the fact that the sexual revolution post birth control is still evolving and so that could change over time…
/r/seduction26/03/22 02:27 PM
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