EMSterling Archive

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1	How do I lose my virginity before the end of next year? Go out at least twice every weekend and talk to girls. Fuck up when talking to them. Go online and learn how you fucked up. Iterate for the next time you go out. Rinse and repeat. In essence you are evolving your mind and tuning it to be better socially. Its a pretty simple process but it requires you to go out a lot to learn. It also requires you to set your ego aside as you will get rejected a lot (not harshly, unless you really offend people). You also have to stick with it and find the win i…	/r/seduction	11/12/19 10:46 AM
1	Where can college aged guys, meets girls outside of college? You can speak to people, you just have to speak up. Lots of us have done it and so can you. You don't have to get into long drawn out conversations. In night clubs with dancing you can use a lot of non-verbal communication anyway so its easier. Non-verbal communication is often much more powerful than verbal. Again tho, don't look for an excuse as to why you can't do it. Instead look for a reason to do it and go do it. Winners look for ways to get something done and losers make excuses. I assume…	/r/seduction	11/12/19 10:34 AM
2	little Field report You're probably coming across as really gamey and not genuine to the girls. Instead of attempting all these mental mind games (DHV's, negs, etc) try just being fun and genuine and NOT NEEDY. Fun dudes who are not needy but also show some intent get far better results. And yes, there's an aspect of girls not being into you no matter what, but to capture the ones who would be into you, try being fun, not needy, but also show some intent.	/r/seduction	11/12/19 04:43 AM
1	What happened recently It can come across as kind of creepy. The more effort you put into trying to meet or takeout a girl you don't know, the creepier it comes across as. Writing a note because the girl isn't available in person is somewhat creepy. If shes right in front of you at a store while you're doing your own thing and you strike up a convo, thats a lot less creepy because it didn't require much effort. Why is this girl so important to you? This sounds like a case of "oneitis" where you get wrapped up around o…	/r/seduction	11/12/19 04:22 AM
2	Where can college aged guys, meets girls outside of college? If you were getting girls in nightclubs you wouldn't give a shit how loud they were. Change your attitude about them. Once you go and get results in them you will have an epiphany that they aren't bad at all and will actually come to love them. Guys use introversion as an excuse to not step up. Those who do that, I hate to say, won't succeed. When I started out on this journey I was a shy nerdy dude and didn't like the idea of a night club at all. But went and tried it anyway and got some result…	/r/seduction	11/12/19 03:51 AM
3	Need some advice This is probably the most common story I've ever heard. I've been there too, so read through this as its crucial... There are a lot of things you will need to work on if you ever want to have a girlfriend, the first being confidence. Girls need to know from the get go whether you are into them or not. This is done by the way you talk to them and the vibe you give off. You'll have to experience rejections if you ever want a girlfriend - simple as that, no way around it. It sounds like you've prob…	/r/seduction	10/12/19 05:37 AM
3	Does this stuff actually work? Some PUA stuff, especially back when you first found out about this was a little too "gamey" and could probably come across as weird because it was the guy just masking his lack of confidence. If a woman is getting weirded out its probably because you weren't being congruent and were trying to get something from her (being needy). Almost all guys who succeed with this (including myself) went through a phase where they weirded out women. Eventually with more interactions you will learn what works…	/r/seduction	10/12/19 04:31 AM
10	Sex A few men are having sex with a lot of women. Most men aren't getting any. My first year learning about this stuff (around 21 yrs old) I went from a socially retarded virgin to getting laid about once every two weekends that I went out. Now I'm 25, have a beautiful girlfriend and do not go out looking to get laid. You'll find that you are not compatible with the vast majority of women, even the ones you sleep with. If you come from a low place like I did you can use it as motivation to kill it. …	/r/seduction	10/12/19 02:41 AM
3	I finally did it!! When a girl doesn’t text back for a date it usually means your initial interaction wasn’t that strong. Get her really interested in meeting up with you again, THEN get the number and invite her out. Have a really fun good vibe over a decently long period of time and the girl will be exponentially more likely to go out with you. Either way, great job approaching- next step is working on the interaction	/r/seduction	06/12/19 03:02 AM
1	That girl you decided not to approach could very well have been your wife I think about this every time I think about how I met my girlfriend one night out. So true haha	/r/seduction	28/11/19 09:39 AM
2	I (24F) am trying to start dating again, but am very self-conscious. Since you came to a forum dedicated to getting to the truth I will tell you the truth. I recommend ignoring advice given to make you feel good as it will only perpetuate your problem. I, as with most guys, do not want to fuck a fat girl. A very small segment of the population are attracted to them, mostly because they have no other options. Ask yourself if you want to be the girl that has a boyfriend who had no other options and settled with you. You have a choice right now between two options i…	/r/seduction	18/09/19 05:05 PM
1	Did I make the right call in this situation? Best piece of advice is go find another girl to go on a date with. The abundance will calm your excitement and ultimately be good in the end as you’ll have more options.	/r/seduction	03/09/19 11:42 PM
1	1st Successful Number Close 1) have a strong interaction in person and texting won’t be an issue 2) during the initial interaction layout a plan to go do something (hence a reason to get the number). People who get numbers just to have them in a contact list typically don’t do anything with the person since it wasn’t established that you were getting the number for that reason. 3) as someone else said, social media’s can be a better option too	/r/seduction	30/08/19 02:03 AM
3	Ok now what the f*** do I do? Talk to her like she’s your dorky little sister. Don’t put her on a pedestal and start off with “hey beautiful”. Also your initial interaction probably was not strong enough. Also charge your phone :) Don’t want to run out of juice at the north side social!	/r/seduction	30/08/19 01:56 AM
1	I cant remember a single time were I did a cold approach and I didn't end up at least making out with the girl. I just like the fact that you’ve been “lurking” through this subreddit 😂😂😂. Great work bro keep it up.	/r/seduction	30/08/19 12:52 AM
12	Did I make the right call in this situation? You made the right call, just be patient. Rearranging your schedule for a girl is needy and will show when you interact with her. If she wants to see you, she will.	/r/seduction	29/08/19 02:20 PM
2	Approached with a ridiculous intro Good work!	/r/seduction	22/08/19 04:35 PM
1	No women in my day-to-day lifestyle I mean this completely constructively: Why does it even matter if you meet a woman? If you carry that negative attitude you are showing in the post no girl will be attracted to you anyway. You are coming into a forum asking a question and preemptively attacking people attempting to help you. How do you think women view a person like this? Also as a note: you would be surprised by the type of girls that you meet out. I’ve met shy types, gamers, sweet girls, bible thumpers, edgy hipsters, extrover…	/r/seduction	20/08/19 07:39 PM
3	Getting numbers but not dates... While it may not seem like it- you may still be attached to the outcome. When you TRULY could care less if a girl will text you back for a date they WILL text you back for a date. This isn’t to say that 100% of all women will go on a date, as the emotional connection may not have been strong enough. But focus on your mindset some more that it doesn’t matter if a girl texts you back or not. (If you weren’t still somewhat attached to the outcome you wouldn’t be making this post) Regardless it soun…	/r/seduction	20/08/19 06:52 PM
3	Im sorry im just very, i don’t understand. So you guys say to just go up and talk to her but thats the hard part for me. It’s only “hard” because you are mentally making it hard. The act of talking to a girl is very simple. You move your right leg and then your left several times until you are in her vicinity. Curl your lips into a smile then open your mouth and introduce yourself or say something funny. You haven’t done it so you are assuming that you will not get good reactions. Go do it - it’s not scary once you do it. Your metric for success needs to be to keep a conversation going for 30 seconds. Once you do …	/r/seduction	13/08/19 10:05 PM
11	I’ve always been nervous about asking out women, any tips on boosting self confidence? The root cause of you getting red in the face is that deep down you don't think you deserve to be with her. Which is true, your current self does not deserve to be with her. Change that. You generate confidence in yourself by going out and gaining experience. You do not currently have any experience so just go out and talk to women. Start with platonic conversations with women. When you are confident with that, move on to making the conversations man to woman (sexual inuendo, etc.). When you are…	/r/seduction	13/08/19 05:11 AM
5	Texting doesn’t work unless shes extremely interested How good the interaction was when you met her will set you up when texting. Simply do well in the initial interaction and you will just have to text her one sentence to get her to hang out. Very simple. Trying to engineer a text does not work if the underlying initial interaction was bad.	/r/seduction	13/08/19 04:54 AM
8	Made out and got the number but now she is not replying Yeah lines like that are cringy and can torpedo you instantly, but it was probably an overall aura of neediness that you put off after you got the kiss. If I were in her situation I would get buyers remorse and ghost. She didn't want to fuck after you asked her to (asking her back to your place is equivalent to saying "wanna fuck?"). So then I give him my number and shortly thereafter he texts me this cringy line "hey beautiful text me when you're home safe". Why is this guy that I just met call…	/r/seduction	13/08/19 04:48 AM
1	Pamplemousse Field Report ;))))))))))))))))) Did you get the urinals # for a day two?	/r/seduction	13/08/19 03:00 AM
1	I cant get out of my friends shadow (M 21) I've been in the same spot you are before (its actually the spot just before I started to hit a groove and getting results). You are still too attached to the outcome. You know how I can tell that? Because you are making this post. You say you are going out to have fun but in reality you are deluding yourself. You are still grasping on to needing a woman to validate you. If that wasn't the case, you wouldn't be making this post and you would just be going out with your friend having a blast and …	/r/seduction	13/08/19 02:29 AM