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Upvotes	Title	Category	Author	Subreddit	Date (UTC)

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47	I have never seem a guy spit game like this It's a mindset. The guy believes he is good enough, that he belongs there, everyone around him is a friend and will embrace him. When you actively think/believe those things, you give off a positive vibe which opens people up, all you have to do is say hi or anything really. Like OP says, sometimes he thinks he's a scammer when wanting to talk to women which many of us would have similar negative beliefs making us hesitant and nervous.	/r/seduction	27/03/22 12:28 PM
3	Approaching at college with no social circle The beauty of being at college is you will most likely see these girls again around campus. So first interaction, do not hit on them, just be friendly and chat. Introduce yourself. Then you can build on that next time and earn trust. If you do this with a few different girls, you may end up with a few to choose from to ask on a date later. Highly unlikely you'll be labelled creepy if you're not overtly hitting on them.	/r/seduction	20/01/22 01:12 AM
1	The inner Nice Guy never completely dies. You must constantly destroy him, or he’ll start taking over again. The difference between nice and kind. Well said mate. I assume you've read Robert Glover's book? Sounds like you're on that path, it was eye opening for me when I first read it years ago. Have you noticed improvements with your girlfriend since making these changes with yourself?	/r/seduction	08/08/21 03:28 AM
3	Not sure what I did wrong Yep, exact same circumstance happened to me and yeah, it sucks. I can understand girls being super flakey on the dating apps as they get so much attention, but when you've met them in real life and they do that, just means they are a shit person. Best just to move on, I know it leaves you feeling like you were did something wrong or were too needy or something but that's a dark path.	/r/seduction	07/08/21 12:06 AM
3	Don't limit your resources when it comes to meeting women. Online dating is a useful option to meet attractive women, if you approach it properly and don't take it too seriously. My experience and recommendations. Thanks for mentioning the ups and downs of Bumble as I had a similar experience. I abandoned Tinder pretty quickly too after recently trying again. Almost got catfished haha.	/r/seduction	06/08/21 07:18 AM
2	How to not be a nice guy online? This doesn't address the OP's issues. He said he's tried getting dates online and IRL, but it's not happening for him. Of course any guy would want to do this after a breakup, but not easy for most.	/r/seduction	14/07/21 03:11 AM
6	I approached 14 girls and got rejected 6 times That's great, well done. You've proven you can approach girls and talk to them. I think now, you should focus on quality interactions rather than mass approaching in large numbers. The problem with mass approaching is you risk coming off ingenuine and if the girl picks up on that you're just ticking off a box with her, she'll be turned off. The last thing you want is to do all this approaching and get very low results as this will end up making you feel worse about your situation. I say this fro…	/r/seduction	27/06/21 02:59 AM
7	How to “flip the script” with women No worries, when I eventually understood all this, it made interacting with women so much easier and I could noticeably see the change in the way they responded to me. Women want you to be thinking like this too, it's not arrogant to be talking yourself up in your head. This also gives you freedom to say/talk about whatever you want because you understand that's its not the words but sub-communication (thinking/body language) that is doing all the work.	/r/seduction	06/06/21 03:04 AM
20	How to “flip the script” with women These are all mindsets, the conversation you're having with yourself in your head while you're interacting with the girl. Eg. You are thinking "I hope she likes me, what should I say that will impress her?" -> Neediness. You are thinking "I'm relaxed, just casual chat with this girl to see what she's about, will she impress me?" -> Being Cool. You are thinking "I'm a great guy, of course she's into me, I have confidence, smarts and a good attitude". -> Showing value. You may need to practice thi…	/r/seduction	06/06/21 12:16 AM
1	TL;DR: Something changed in my dating life. Here are the things that I worked on (they're not particularly new or ground-breaking): Awesome, thanks.	/r/seduction	17/05/21 01:07 PM
2	TL;DR: Something changed in my dating life. Here are the things that I worked on (they're not particularly new or ground-breaking): Originally it was an ebook, I first read it around 2007. Looks like is free online now: https://www.academia.edu/19104685/David_De_Angelo_Double_Your_Dating_What_Every_Man_Should_Know_About_How_To_Be_Successful I just browsed the contents and think I'll read it again to see how I feel about it after all this time :)	/r/seduction	15/05/21 05:40 AM
1	TL;DR: Something changed in my dating life. Here are the things that I worked on (they're not particularly new or ground-breaking): This is a great breakdown, thanks very much for posting. I'm one who has struggled getting quality matches on dating apps and it's probably because I take and choose my own photos. I just did a search and found a professional photographer in my area who specialises in dating profiles so if I have another go at it, I will definitely invest the time to get great photos using a third party. Do you put much in your profile text? Or just let your photos do the talking? Once again, some great advice y…	/r/seduction	15/05/21 04:31 AM
2	You Are On Your Own. John Sonmez with The Bulldog Mindset I used to follow him when he was doing the Simple Programmer thing, didn't know he had this new project, checking it out now.	/r/seduction	23/02/21 11:37 AM
8	Advice from my grandma It's the wholesome version of "don't put the pussy on the pedestal". LOL. Wise granny.	/r/seduction	02/02/21 12:04 PM
1	I, a (M20) college student feel lost Yes there are some dodgy guys out there like that, but Dan Bacon is absolutely not like that, he doesn't call himself a PUA at all, you clearly have not watched any of his videos. Believe it or not there are genuine teachers out there that really want to help guys because they have been in the same position themselves. And now you're accusing everyone who's a member of this sub of being like that? Why the fuck are you posting in here, what a sad sad troll you are.	/r/seduction	23/01/21 03:53 AM
1	I, a (M20) college student feel lost That is absolute rubbish. Also, telling the OP not to change is terrible advice because he clearly is struggling.	/r/seduction	23/01/21 01:23 AM
1	I, a (M20) college student feel lost I highly recommend you watch some Dan Bacon videos on youtube, it will really start to help with fixing some of your mindsets. He's the real deal.	/r/seduction	22/01/21 12:54 PM
2	Almost kissed a 9/10 when clubbing last night (FR) Brisbane had a 3 day lockdown + mandatory masks last week because of a single case getting out of hotel quarantine, that is how strict it has been here. However, it has allowed for many things to re-open within certain limits including bars and dancefloors.	/r/seduction	18/01/21 05:32 AM
1	Almost kissed a 9/10 when clubbing last night (FR) I was also thinking perth or adelaide ;)	/r/seduction	18/01/21 05:29 AM
3	Become the king of your world Good post. I was thinking about this the other day. I think it is not a matter of "being yourself" as people can not help but be themselves. It is a matter of "accepting yourself". By not accepting ourselves as we are, we then think we need to be something else which is where insecurities arise. The insecurities show up in social interactions and subtly push people away. By accepting that you are a man, as you are, with all your weaknesses and understanding that is good enough for most women is …	/r/seduction	05/01/21 05:34 AM
1	The play of alcohol, nicotine, and drugs in game Yes, it's an important distinction. Alcohol does make you not care what other people think but you have to sacrifice other things like your balance, speech and motor control, natural charisma, health etc to get to that point and I found out the hard way it's just not worth it.	/r/seduction	23/12/20 03:01 AM
3	The play of alcohol, nicotine, and drugs in game I think most women would agree.	/r/seduction	22/12/20 05:34 AM
174	The play of alcohol, nicotine, and drugs in game Enhanced cognition from alcohol? What I learned from being a fairly heavy drinker for 20 years is that alcohol does not make you confident or charismatic, it only works against you. The only thing it does is make you not care, which is completely different from confidence. It may be able to make you not care enough to go and approach, but it will be an up-hill battle from there as you forget things she said, sway a bit on your feet, laugh a bit too hard at her jokes etc. You'll just be less genu…	/r/seduction	22/12/20 04:57 AM
1	Pivotal Reminder: You're Taking Her Too Seriously Well said.	/r/seduction	13/12/20 12:23 PM
1	There's really only 1 method that truly works and you don't really need to know anything else. I don't think he literally means everyone, maybe "talk to anyone" is something that is more comfortable for you? No need to put unnecessary pressure on yourself that will make things worse. I agree with the basis of his comment though and that is, you've got to start somewhere so just talking to anyone about anything is a great start and you try to build momentum from there.	/r/seduction	02/11/20 07:35 AM
10	Got rejected last night, but it all worked out in the end "looks like you're in timeout"... good one :) And a good lesson about not letting the rejection stop you from moving on.	/r/seduction	01/11/20 05:41 AM
4	First Cold Approach after a year of being a pussy If she re-engaged, she didn't think you were a creep and may genuinely have a boyfriend so you did well!	/r/seduction	24/10/20 04:15 AM
1	Social gains Very well done mate, inspirational.	/r/seduction	17/10/20 01:10 AM
2	this 20 seconds of courage changed my life. I had posted this 1 year ago on this subreddit Well, that would be a damn fine start. I know you're being sarcastic, but this is the point of the post, to start small and do something at least.	/r/seduction	16/10/20 03:44 AM
23	this 20 seconds of courage changed my life. I had posted this 1 year ago on this subreddit Great advice. Yesterday, I went to my local coffee shop as usual in the morning. Got out of my car as this cute blonde girl was bending over next to her car attending to her dog or something. Got a very nice view of her bare ass haha . Dayummm. Later, after I ordered my coffee she was standing outside waiting for hers and I sat at the empty table next to her. I hesitated for a couple of seconds then just blurted out "is that a golden retriever in your car?". We ended up having a fun little convo…	/r/seduction	15/10/20 10:45 PM
3	I just realized how much of a fucking pussy I am This is actually great advice. The problem that stops most of us is the pre-planning of the interaction before we've started. Fine to have an opener, but the rest should happen spontaneously (just like all your other conversations with friends and family). If we try to have all these things ready to say, we psyche ourselves out or if we do approach, we then come off as ingenuine.	/r/seduction	04/10/20 06:07 AM
2	How do you fix your self esteem? It sounds like you are interpreting things that way, or you are giving off weird vibes (which would be the result of negative thinking). The idea behind the assume rapport mindset is you assume these people already like you and they are your friends and you treat them as such. If you know you're a good guy, that vibe will open people up easily. It will take some practice getting used to the mindsets, especially if negative thinking is the norm for you.	/r/seduction	17/09/20 11:46 AM
5	How do you fix your self esteem? Except it's much harder to take action to change behaviour when the thoughts and beliefs are limiting what's possible. If that works for you great, but I tried that for years and got nowhere.	/r/seduction	17/09/20 03:38 AM
16	How do you fix your self esteem? Well said, Changing your beliefs and mindsets internally automatically takes care of the external behaviours.	/r/seduction	17/09/20 01:38 AM
16	How do you fix your self esteem? It comes down to the thoughts running through your head. Mindset. The biggest mindset changes I made that started making a huge difference were: - Assume attraction, assume rapport - I'm good enough for most women Essentially, if you can adopt these mindsets when interacting with women, it takes away all the neediness and outcome dependence. If you KNOW (or assume) most hot women are attracted to you by default, because your are a man, then you have nothing to prove when interacting with them. T…	/r/seduction	17/09/20 01:36 AM
1	Assuming attraction Sorry for the late comment, but these are really wise words and I have only started experiencing this in the past 3 or 4 months. After learning how to properly start changing my mindset to a confident one, I started automatically re-interpreting the world around me and women now seem to be attracted to me much more often! It's pretty amazing and I've struggled with this stuff for many years. Still got much progress to make, but the change in perception and reactions is snowballing my confidence …	/r/seduction	01/01/19 07:03 AM
1	Asked out about 200 women in the past 4 years. Been on 80 dates. Rejected by all of them. You're not attracting these women, it's that simple. You're being too friendly/neutral instead of displaying attractive behaviors. I know because I've had the same type of dates many times, but it's slowly starting to change for me. Check out Dan Bacon's you tube videos, no joke, his material is the absolute best out there. It's all about learning these attractive behaviors and developing confident mindsets. His paid products have helped me so much in the past few months and I've been trying…	/r/seduction	24/12/18 09:12 AM
3	If you could give a 90-day plan to go from socially anxious to comfortable to speaking with women, how would you lay it out? Turn transactions into interactions (eg. asking the waitress how her day is going, chatting to the uber driver) Assume attraction (with the woman you meet, assume they are already into you which puts you into a non-needy mindset) That's it. No fancy plan needed, just do that until you start seeing girls respond better to you and that it's actually easy just to say hello and get into a conversation. As you are not forcing yourself to approach random women at this stage, it's a good starting point…	/r/seduction	28/10/18 06:58 AM
1	Can anyone explain something like this? I'm definitely no expert but have been making progress with my confidence mindsets recently thanks to themodernman.com teachings. Check Dan Bacon's YouTube videos too, they are absolute gold. Edit: here's one he has about why women test man's confidence https://youtu.be/FhH0ZfcibGQ	/r/seduction	28/10/18 06:26 AM
1	Can anyone explain something like this? To me, that sounds like a test of your confidence. This is what they do, they don't want to appear easy but at the same time want you to have the confidence to move it forward. It drives you nuts unless you understand that ;)	/r/seduction	23/10/18 12:00 PM
2	Can anyone explain something like this? I lost a girl in a similar way. Great first date, kissing etc but I didn't sleep with her and looking back I'm pretty sure she wanted to (but I'd decided I wasn't going to try to take pressure off myself). She seemed keen to meet up again but said she had a busy week coming up. She replied to my first text a couple days after the first date but then went no responses when I followed up again. Just straight-up up ghosted. I think I sabotaged myself by not showing the confidence to close the d…	/r/seduction	23/10/18 11:02 AM
2	I'm tired of approaching just because it's better than regret, I want results now.... I think they are meaning "i like your courage" which is different to confidence. You may still be coming off as a bit insecure, not unshakeably confident which is what really attracts them/polarises them. Check this article: https://thepopularman.com/always-assume-attraction/ Assume attraction is, i think, what youre missing. Do not dismiss this, i am only just starting to understand the power of this concept after hearing about it so many years ago. Basically, by assuming she is already into yo…	/r/seduction	26/09/18 01:55 PM