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Damn a dance class that's mostly men? Crazy. Every one I go to I'm swarmed by women and if it's a small class I'm likely to be the singular guy in there. You are right though. You location matters a lot. It doesn't need to be Chicago, NYC or Miami but if it isn't known for being a yuppy city with a thriving social scene you're kinda boned when it comes to meeting people organically.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/05/24 07:23 PM
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From personnel experience with all the guys I know. If we aren't attracted to someone we aren't sleeping with them. There's one guy who doesn't have standards but everyone else is pretty picky with who they go after. Now what does happen is that we might have casual sex with a girl we don't plan to have a long-term relationship with but I consider that different we're still attracted to that type of girl we just don't see a future.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/05/24 07:21 PM
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I've yet to meet a guy who's mad about being single that doesn't come across as desperate. Guys with options and guys who are single by choice? Always end up with people chasing after them because they're automatically more attractive than their peers.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/05/24 11:38 PM
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sending flowers on a first date is overkill and cheesy and screams you are way too enthusiastic for someone you just met. on date 5,6,7? After you've known someone for a while and established a proper connection? Unless the woman is made of ice she'll probably find it cute and romantic. It is incredibly easy to see when someone is desperate for both genders because you shouldn't be that into someone from the beginning, it's irrational and makes no sense you don't know that person well enough to …
/r/PurplePillDebate19/05/24 11:36 PM
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He's probably not social enough, and when he is social he's not all that interesting. People who look like him don't have to try nearly as hard but they still need to be able to flirt at a somewhat decent level. Attraction is a mix of looks and charm you need both.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/05/24 10:48 PM
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Unless you want to date gold diggers nothing after the first 4 matters. It's a combination of those 4 factors and social skills/game. I'd assume I'm a top 20% man with how low the bar is and I'm like 5'7, bald with I'd say a decent face so it can be any combination of things to get you there.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/05/24 06:59 PM
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Considering every self-proclaimed communist in the US is a blithering idiot with 0 knowledge of economics no I don't want to deal with that. I don't want to deal with hyper-conservative women either. If your politics are your whole identity you aren't a fun date. Most normal people are just living their lives they might have issues they feel strongly about but it doesn't bleed into ever piece of their interactions. I'm an immigrant so I have a lot of strong opinions about immigration topics for …
/r/PurplePillDebate17/05/24 04:52 PM
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Yeah what looks good is very dependent on what your body type is. Some people look good shredded. Some people look better with some fat on them. I look emaciated if I ever go under 12% body fat as a guy despite having quite a lot of muscle on me. In comparison despite 15% bodyfat being somewhat high, I look amazing just because of how I'm built only issue is I have to deal with a slight gut at 15% to look good in clothes lol.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/05/24 03:38 PM
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If you look good for your frame it's fine. It's pretty obvious when someone is just fat and when someone is built. Generally, though the big girls tend to also be quite tall so I don't interact with them as much for dating since they usually want taller guys (for obvious reasons). Whenever guys say "fat chicks" the sane ones just mean don't be obese. If you're like 5'1 and well over 200lbs it's pretty obvious you need to lose some weight. You don't need to be fitness model level of in shape just…
/r/PurplePillDebate17/05/24 03:36 PM
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most are and unless you're in the absolute bottom of the genetic bucket you aren't part of the small category of true undesirables
/r/PurplePillDebate16/05/24 09:46 AM
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be less undesirable
/r/PurplePillDebate16/05/24 08:59 AM
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oh no they're even more picky and about 10x less fun to interact with since they all think they're gorgeous models so you better treat them like queens. There's 0 benefit to interacting with ugly women 99% of them are completely deluded.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/05/24 08:57 AM
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not just you. it's either bikini model or obese uggo there's very few girls in the middle
/r/PurplePillDebate16/05/24 05:18 AM
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for pure sex? Just be hot 99% of the time. If I don't have to deal with you in a longterm relationship that it's just a matter of physical pleasure. for someone I actually want to date you better match my energy and be someone I actually want to be around. Normal well adjusted men are also very picky because everyone should be if you don't enjoy being with someone than don't be with them it's that simple.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/05/24 01:30 AM
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skinny fat guys one donut away from obese: "I don't want fat chicks" bro you aren't an athlete you just aren't in whale territory
/r/PurplePillDebate15/05/24 08:09 AM
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Being "decent" to get laid isn't a personality. You can be a nice kind man and still be charming, attractive, assertive with a backbone. all the "decent" men here seem to think regular flirting makes you an "asshole" you aren't decent you're a doormat. You know what scores of women call men with those qualities I just listed? "unicorns" You clean up when it comes to getting relationships. The thing so many guys are missing is that they think being nice, boring and agreeable with women will get t…
/r/PurplePillDebate15/05/24 04:15 AM
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well enjoy dating in bumblefuck nowhere.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/05/24 04:08 AM
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He's mad about the looks barrier. Remember guys on PPD think the concept of chemistry and compatibility just boils down to the guy being hot enough.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/05/24 01:53 AM
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well duh it's a rich persons city in one half. If you can't afford to date in the soho circuit don't go after the women in the soho circuit it's not rocket science. Obviously they're the most conventionally attractive ones because it's all the Instagram models but they're of a certain standard and they expect the same. "average joe" shouldn't be trying to grab soho party girl who's an attorney by day
/r/PurplePillDebate15/05/24 01:36 AM
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NYC is one of the dating markets skewed towards men instead of woman so it's actually one of the best places to be as a single guy. Maybe not the "I want to find a wife right now" types but if you're just looking to date and play the field. It's the greatest playground.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/05/24 06:06 PM
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uh what? No living in a large city is where you should be having a great time dating. Especially if you get off apps since the whole point of being in a city like that is to SOCIALIZE. You spend a night or day roaming around NYC talking to people. If you're a okay looking dude with some charm you'll find a ton of women who'd be down for a date and they won't be low quality options either.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/05/24 06:05 PM
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if there's no chemistry they didn't tick all the boxes simple as that. if I'm not in a better mood and having fun from seeing you and hanging out you aren't worth dating it's that simple.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/05/24 06:02 PM
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I mean personally from what I've seen from you. You just don't meet enough women and you're in your own head about "not being good enough yet" to really pursue it. If a woman is saying your a catch she generally means it. It might not be for her but she can see qualities that would make other women happy.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/05/24 07:19 PM
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wow an actual good use of rule 1 and 2 that isn't some dude using it as the "just be hot" bro excuse
/r/PurplePillDebate09/05/24 07:17 PM
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UH most people aren't getting into relationships expecting the other person to massively level up in the middle. You do the levelling up to attract the partner in the first place. Keeping a relationship is a much simpler process than getting one in the first place. If either you massively glow up in the middle that's mostly a bonus. I'm not going after a woman thinking "yeah she'll lose weight" and women aren't dating me expecting I'm going to change massively either.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/05/24 07:13 PM
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oh we were definetly fitter. Less ability to sit around and be vegetables on the couch back then. The better looking and less shallow part is a meme though.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/05/24 02:02 PM
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so were the men
/r/PurplePillDebate09/05/24 01:57 PM
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this is just the gay friend that isn't actually gay, but a loser
/r/PurplePillDebate09/05/24 02:54 AM
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you start seeing receeding hairlines and pretty obvious bald spots at that age in about half of men. If you have a full head of hair post 30 you're pretty lucky genetically as a man. I lost most of mine before I was even 25. Thanfully I look good bald.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/05/24 01:22 AM
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all you'd get is people way to deep in the weeds. Normal social people aren't bothering to run around to activist discussions (yes this falls in that) they're just living their lives meeting people and going about their day.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/05/24 03:46 PM
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Why is it always the ugly chicks who are the most delusional
/r/PurplePillDebate08/05/24 03:43 PM
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Or you know just interact with normal people
/r/PurplePillDebate08/05/24 03:41 PM
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you know how some "confident" men just come off as arrogant and full of themselves? Yeah same shit with these women who clearly think they're hotter than they are. Sorry if you're some ugly fat chick and you think you deserve some hot fit guy you don't have "high self esteem" you're detached from reality. self esteem and confidence is sexy in both genders. Delusion is not.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/05/24 03:39 PM
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you lack braincells
/r/PurplePillDebate08/05/24 02:24 PM
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I'd say the main use of pill stuff is learning how to spot this bullshit in other people so you know when to run in the other direction. If I can tell a girl is one of those people I'm bolting immediately.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/05/24 03:54 AM
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I will opt for the guy who is mentally fascinating and has great personal chemistry ah yes a normal person. I see it in guys too. They're dating the most boring women I've ever had the displeasure of talking too and the only reason they're doing it is because they're hot.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/05/24 03:33 AM
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oh they're usually fine with that. If you ever outright reject a girl who think she's pretty it's like you just kicked her puppy. Especially if she's the type who subconsciously thinks she's the one dating down by being with you. Hilariously this usually leads to them being INFURIATINGLY clingy. I'm talking if this chick was a guy she'd be banned from social groups and cancled on social media but you know it's a women doing it to a man so they get a pass.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/05/24 03:30 AM
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I have very little tolerance for bullshit dating games where people dance around issues. If I'm dating you it means I enjoy your company enough to give you a decent chunk of my very valuable (to me) time. I cannot understand this concept of "practice girlfriends" or going out with people you're not genuinally attracted to just to get laid like some guys do. Life is too short to spend it with people who don't make you happy, and constantly thinking "could I do better" will just make you miserable…
/r/PurplePillDebate08/05/24 03:09 AM
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If anything I see more dudes dimish it than women. guys on this sub act like getting in shape won't help your dating life at all and act like you're "coping" when you say getting in shape will help you get date. calling it "self improvement bullshit" while they complaining ad nausuem about how height and face are the only things that matter. I have NEVER met a women who doesn't respect a guy who's taken care of himself. Yeah saying making 6 figures and having a 6 pack is "bare minimum" when you'…
/r/PurplePillDebate07/05/24 11:28 PM
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I'm a man, and yes the average compared to several decades ago is in the gutter. Just because the "average" is now shit doesn't mean we should accept it as the new normal. This is why we have an obesity crisis. I have a beach physique and make good money. I repeat the "average' modern man is a loser which is why the bar for dating truly is on the floor. I apply this same mentality to women btw. I think large swathes of women are comically delusional thinking they deserve high earning fit men whe…
/r/PurplePillDebate07/05/24 11:14 PM
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I'm under 30 and don't want to be married yet. I value my independence and see no reason to be tied down completely this early in my life. I'm not going to monkey branch to infinity like a lot of women do, but I'm very clear about my intentions. I date multiple people and have a good time if one of them wants to put an exclusive label on it and I think she's good enough I'll do it. Until that point I see 0 reason to ever offer my full commitment with someone I don't think is 100% what I want.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/05/24 11:06 PM
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You'll get there. It took me several years to get on track but I'm sure glad I did even without the thought of dating it just made my life better.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/05/24 10:54 PM
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just because the average in the US has slipped into the gutter doesn't mean we should be praising mediocrity lol. A mentality like this is why the modern man is a joke.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/05/24 10:53 PM
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Male side is "don't be fat" and "be pleasant to be around" on average. I have higher standards because I can. For women. The meme is "6,6,6" but reality for most women is be handsome enough, don't be fat, be charming. I'm 5'7 and south asian in the US and I only date white girls. Sure some have comically delusional standards but most are pretty great. I'm also 28 so I'm still in the dreaded 20 something bracket where pretty women apparently only date 6'2 chads.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/05/24 10:52 PM
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being in shape, not being a basket case and having friends are in fact a bare minimum. Doesn't mean 6 pack but considering the average dude in the us is approaching beached whale obesity just being a healthy weight is an achievement these days apparently.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/05/24 10:49 PM
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Well I can tell you none of that trying to be a feminist ally bullshit will get you anywhere in dating. They genuinally don't care. Being a "better man" just means you're attractive enough, charismatic and charming. If you can hit those 3 things for any particular woman she will be attracted to you, and you just have to pursue from there. You know how many discussions I've had about the patriarchy and feminist talking points on my dates? Big fat goose egg. Unless you want to date an activist typ…
/r/PurplePillDebate07/05/24 09:33 PM
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Height matters a ton on dating aps because it's just a looks buffet. The concept of charm doesn't exist on an app. Women do care but when you have other things going for you (no not money) they will "settle" for someone who's not 6ft and up.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/05/24 09:26 PM
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Think of it like a social resume. You don't need to be glued to it and constantly posting, but it gives people a (obviously coloured) view of what your general life is like. It can be either straight off Instagram or a lot of the time a girl won't give you her number but will trade instagrams and if she likes what she sees will be more interested. There have been instances where I traded grams with a girl and she hit me up weeks or months later off some random story I posted.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/05/24 09:22 PM
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Exactly. Be a charming fun dude that doesn't look like a hobo most women will entertain you hitting on them even if they aren't interested. A lot of them actually go out of their way to point out they're flattered by it.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/05/24 09:19 PM
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Because women A) don't want to apporach in the first place outside of a very small subset and B) they all have terrible game because the concept of approaching and chatting up a dude is alien to them. They expect men to carry the conversation. Most of the messages I get on bumble are about as bad if not worse than the boring shit most dudes send on stuff like tinder. Bumble as a concept was always doomed to failure because women (in general) do not make the first move no mater how much some wome…
/r/PurplePillDebate07/05/24 05:03 PM
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can't say I have, but that scenario is a whole different discussion. I'm talking more about the whole thing about men being butthurt when women "Make them wait" for sex when chad got it on the first date, and the flipside of the women withholding intimacy to string along a guy they're not that into. Sex should just be a natural easy progression of the getting to know each other phase that happens when the chemistry sparks. People who are super into one another generally struggle to keep their ha…
/r/PurplePillDebate07/05/24 03:22 AM
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2nd date. Here's the thing normal people really don't care about all this stuff. If you two have a connection the reality is you won't end up waiting long to have sex because you'll both just want it really badly. A good date and good chemistry just leads to mutual arousal no one sane is consciously going "I'm going to make this person wait x amount of dates before I let him/her sleep with me"
/r/PurplePillDebate07/05/24 12:55 AM
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obese people are sexually repulsive. I lose any and all respect for someone who's let themselves get obese or sleeps with an obese person. It is not that hard to be at a healthy bodyweight just stop stuffing your face.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/05/24 10:02 PM
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I'm not struggling or loney. Any women who claims she doesn't think guys with swimmer bodies are hot is lying through her teeth. Maybe a percent of a percent of women don't find that physique attractive but they all want a guy in good shape. Not sub 10% extreme athlete good shape but they never mean actual beer gut dad bods when they say they like "dad bods" they mean a guy with slightly more fat than shredded and still muscular.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/05/24 05:05 PM
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stop posting this every couple weeks for fuck's sake, and no I will not fuck crack whores, land whales and random bar rats. Have some fucking self respect you losers.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/05/24 04:48 PM
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borderline everyone starts going to the gym and all that for superficial reasons. It's that or a straight up doctor scare. They do it because they want to look good and be happy with their own body.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/05/24 04:04 PM
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I eat everything in moderation. the protein obessesion is vastly overblown. As long you track calories well you'll be fine. Now if you're diet is lacking in protein entirely that's when the problem arises, but you don't need to do the whole "OMG YOU AREN"T GETTING 1G PER POUND? YOU'll HAVE NO MUSCLE" I don't even hit 1g of protein per KG and I have a borderline beach model physique (currently mid cut for summer so a little chubbier than usual lol).
/r/PurplePillDebate06/05/24 03:37 PM
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it can definetly get your foot in the door especially in places where you go to pool parties or the beach a lot. Anyone who thinks having a six pack and good muscle definition everywhere else won't make a good chunk of women notice you is out of touch with reality. It won't get you laid immediately but it sure helps.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/05/24 03:32 PM
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absolutely you can have a slight belly and some muscle and still come off as hot if you have the confidence to back it up. I don't think you can save being in full on beer gut mode though at that point you're just very unhealthy.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/05/24 02:47 PM
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they get told that because it is statistically likely if you live in a western nation you are overweight if you've never been to the gym or exercise. Very VERY few people are in great shape by doing nothing. Women do care about muscle but dudes take that as meaning they have to become roided out behemoths. No the physique women love is a guy between 10-15% bodyfat with a decent amount of muscle that's visible. Even if you're slightly above that (say around 17-18) you still look pretty good. Most…
/r/PurplePillDebate06/05/24 12:52 PM
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Having something helps in this day and age especially if you skew younger, but like I work in media and have to use socials for work constantly so my personnel ones are barely touched. They're mostly there for me to share random things I find fun once in a while. You don't need to be a social media addict but having some socials does help if the girls doesn't know you that well (say you met at a bar or something).
/r/PurplePillDebate06/05/24 12:43 PM
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the easier answer is just take a dance class. Learning to dance ups your sexual appeal several notches as is and dance classes tend to be at worst gender balanced.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/05/24 12:39 PM
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Idk how guys can't just send one text and wait. That's all I ever do. If I don't get a response I barely register it because I'm sending the text in between other parts of my day just to say hi.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/05/24 02:20 AM
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I mean the "average" dude going by this sub or somewhere like the US will take anything with a pulse so it's not like they had standards to begin with.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/05/24 04:53 AM
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yeah and of that 1/3rd the only people being "left behind" are the ones who are single not of their own choice. There are a lot of young men who choose to be single because we don't want to be tied down just yet. Most people by the time they're in their mid 30s are going to be in some form of happy committed relationship if that's their end goal because we're all on average choosing to settle down later. Getting married or long term dating isn't the norm in your 20s (especially early 20s) anymor…
/r/PurplePillDebate03/05/24 05:52 PM
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it's because a type can encompass multiple things. I have physical features I like but there are also lots of personality traits I find sexy as hell. I obviously have a baseline level of appearance I need to be aroused but a pretty girl who happens to not have the hair color I prefer but ticks a bunch of the personality boxes is still going to be hot to me. We all work this way both genders from my experience
/r/PurplePillDebate03/05/24 03:16 PM
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generally those end up being great friends. When there's no sexual element the friendship is that much more genuine. Most of my best female friends are women who aren't my type.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/05/24 02:58 PM
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yeah because they can't lol. Even if you give them the exact blueprint on how tobe better the response is usually some along the lines of "I'M NOT DOING THAT THEY SHOULD LOVE ME FOR ME" when the "me" is boring as fuck with 0 friends so good luck with that.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/05/24 02:42 PM
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while true doesn't really factor in here. That's all well and good for a healthy relationship. This is more attracting women in the first place. Housework and all that only really comes in when you're reached the point of living together which I'd hope for most people is pretty deep into the relationship.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/05/24 02:29 PM
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Men don't want to chase women that show 0 interest. If anything that's one of the first things men who are struggling are told to stop doing. Any guy worth dating does know how to play the field though and is looking for signs of interest. So you need to give some kind of single that you're interested otherwise we're just going to assume you're friendly. You are correct though being super open and honest will either get you fuckbois or desperate dudes. I wish I could turn off the psychological t…
/r/PurplePillDebate03/05/24 02:04 PM
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I still can't fathom how guys who have never had any success with women think they're some kind of authority on what is required to attract women, and will then vehemently oppose any advice from the people who do know how to attract women.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/05/24 01:50 PM
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More like the majority of men. The few losers who are less interesting than watching grass grow or paint dry are rightfully being left behind.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/05/24 01:49 PM
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nah you see guys who have 0 success with women clearly know everything about the female pysche and how they choose partners.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/05/24 01:29 PM
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yeah pretty girls are a dime a dozen. Especially in you live in a metro area
/r/PurplePillDebate01/05/24 07:54 PM
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That and you should be seeking women who are actually worth the time. I'm not going to date a girl who thinks work and then going home to watch Netflix all day or scroll on her phone is a great lifestyle for example. Lots of women aren't good life partners but neither are a lot of men. There's a reason we have an obesity crisis in the US.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/05/24 07:45 PM
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if you ever think you're the "finished article" that's when you stagnate as a person. Self improvement is more or less an eternal thing and being in that mindset is how you avoid becoming a lazy slob.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/05/24 07:34 PM
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yes and the ones who fall into that category tend to be people who already had good habits ingrained in them when they were younger. the "self help bullshit" is literally just stuff you should be doing anyway whether you're doing it to attract more women or not.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/05/24 07:32 PM
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It's twofold. hitting the gym, eating healthy, caring about your appearance/skin are all things you should be doing anyway because it's part of being a functioning human. On top of this though if you're never bothering to be social then you aren't going to get anywhere. They're called social skills for a reason it's something you get better at over time like any other skill.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/05/24 07:31 PM
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like attracts like that's really about it. You'll find most friends groups tend to be about the same in competence and attractiveness with some exceptions, and generally those exceptions will do something to get themselves removed eventually. It's the same for both men and women. If you see a guy who's below the other dudes in a group he's either A) in that excising phase or B) has something else that keeps him in the group, and the smaller you make a social circle the less you see this happen. …
/r/PurplePillDebate01/05/24 03:48 PM
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It's NYC. everything is an effcient method lol. I met women just walking through central park or shopping in saks when I lived there. NYC in one of those spots when dating is actually skewed in favor of men.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/05/24 01:04 PM
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I respect you for not giving landwhales the time of day. Never take the fat pill
/r/PurplePillDebate01/05/24 12:46 PM
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Women like em because they're skewed basically entirely in their favor and they have to put in even less effort than they already do to attract high quality men. Also men have lower standards on dating apps because they're mostly used for sex so women who don't get approached IRL suddenly have vastly increased options because it's a lot less effort to swipe on a girl you're meh on than wasting your time in a bar. I know the few times I bother to use dating apps I swipe yes on girls that I wouldn…
/r/PurplePillDebate01/05/24 12:41 PM
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Lol maybe other guys. I'm insanely picky so it never bothered me that he got laid more often than I did because I outright didn't want the women he went for. Our group has 2 fuckbois and 2 picky dudes. Us picky ones will be out enjoying our drink watching the other 2 have their fun until we find girls we actually want haha.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/04/24 12:22 PM
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oh they weren't sixes
/r/PurplePillDebate30/04/24 12:19 PM
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oh I was talking actual dumpster diving. 6 is still cute and in decent shape
/r/PurplePillDebate30/04/24 12:19 PM
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I agree. It's why I don't see fuckboi as a compliment. To me that just means the dude will bang anything with a pulse.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/04/24 11:41 AM
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Yeah I have a friend like that too. He probably approaches 3x the women I do but boy have I given him shit for the quality of a good chunk of them.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/04/24 11:38 AM
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fuckbois don't have a concept of standards. To them a lay is a lay especially in a dry spell.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/04/24 11:34 AM
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If you actually have stuff going for you you'll be able to date women around your own age. The only guys being "left behind" are the ones that should be. As for dating older women I do it quite a bit and it's pretty rare for women to go for it. Unless you're outright cougar hunting. They're usually willing to just hook up but actual dating is a much longer discussion.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/04/24 06:03 AM
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Don't be fat and refuse to lose the weight.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/04/24 05:59 AM
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Move to a better location. I live in a yuppy city I haven't touched a dating app in ages because I simply don't need them. Now if you're one of those "I'll get arrested for talking to a girl" people can't really help you there.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/04/24 02:21 AM
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The problem you're going to have is that as a 6/10 why exactly would these top 20% men choose to make you their exclusive family girl? I don't date under my league because I consider it too much work but my friends do and it's always the case that the girls who are clearly below them in attractiveness are relegated to being fun lays at best. You can be hypergamous there's nothing wrong with that but if you aren't at least a fit girl no guy with options is going to settle for you. Your age is pre…
/r/PurplePillDebate29/04/24 04:07 PM
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There's a reason a lot of quality women have moved off them. You use dating apps to find hot girls to hook up with. I don't really care which app it is that's really all they're good for. Even our lord and saviour Hinge which is just tinder with slightly better filtering lol. If I trace back all the good dates I've had in the last 5+ years I can probably count on one hand the amount of good ones that were off dating apps. Learn to put yourself in social situations to meet women "organically" it'…
/r/PurplePillDebate29/04/24 02:21 PM
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Seriously. Guys jumping through all these mental gymnastics when most of their dating issues could be fixed with losing 10-20lbs and getting any amount of charisma. Idk how many times it has to be said that how moral and good of a person you are means close to jack shit when it comes to attracting women. It might factor in towards KEEPING women but that's a whole other discussing.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/04/24 02:12 PM
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being a shithead and being charismatic aren't mutually exclusive. For an extreme example look at some historical serial killers. You can be nice and charismatic or an ass and charismatic the important point is being charismatic. If you're a raging shithead and have no magnetism to speak off you won't be drawing anyone.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/04/24 01:08 PM
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That's both genders tbh. We will do everything in our power to to turn someone down without calling them ugly because it never ends well lol.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/04/24 01:05 PM
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Being a misogynist doesn't really matter; it doesn't factor into how attractive you are. If anything being slightly misogynistic helps you because it stops you from putting women on a pedastle. When it comes to attractive women all that matters is that you're handsome and charming. All you have to do is pass the looks barrier and then be a good enough flirt to get her into you. Whether you're a raging misogynist or not will never come up unless you're incapable of not spouting at all times, and …
/r/PurplePillDebate29/04/24 01:04 PM
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It's kinda shitty but all that stuff is implied. Men list qualities they find attractive and hot. Women list the qualities they want in a guy they already find attractive and charming basically. They do care about find a kind chivalrous man but they expect him to be attractive and charming enough to be able to seduce her in the fist place. Also yes you're correct there is a method to flirting that is different from just being a good conversationlist. The upside is that if you're already good at …
/r/PurplePillDebate25/04/24 10:18 PM
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the funniest part is "minimum looks threshold" for most women is far lower than her looksmatched male counterpart. You'd be shocked how far "out of your league" you can pull being charming as a guy.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/04/24 10:15 PM
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Duh, but the "minimum looks threshold" is a lot lower than people think, and we tell obesse women to stop going after chad all the time. Scarwy skinny fat white bois shouldn't expect to be dating borderline models either.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/04/24 10:13 PM
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People super opposed to you make for great sex. AWFUL relationships.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/04/24 12:52 AM
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oh that first conversation is code for "I think you're hot and want to bang but I don't want to say it". I'm sure her friends do think you're attractive too but she's the one who brought it up for a reason lol. As for the ballistic thing she sounds like the type who wants to "play the field" but doesn't expect the guys she's into to do it. Tell her to grow up. I will tell you from experience hooking up with multiple girls in the same friend group will cause some fireworks you probably won't want…
/r/PurplePillDebate25/04/24 12:50 AM
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well when you think "easy mode" is being able to get laid and get dates with desperate dudes who have basically nothing to offer. I can see where they get that idea lol.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/04/24 12:41 AM
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Someone get ChatGPT away from this man
/r/PurplePillDebate25/04/24 12:01 AM
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Jesus christ an actual thoughtful comment it's wacky town on this sub today. Also yes I'd agree women are more obsessed about their looks than even most men simply because a much larger percentage of dudes (that they'd actually want to go out with) simply do not care about a girl aside from her appearance at least not for initial dating. Especially since men are the ones who do the approaching if you aren't a pretty girl you might as well not be there. I have overweight friends who moan about th…
/r/PurplePillDebate24/04/24 11:44 PM
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She enjoyed the benefits of not having to do girlfriend stuff but still basically having access to GF perks like being the plus one. That and it's likely she actually did want the full GF/BF package but like some men she has some kind of attachment issue or she just assumed he didn't have other options so if she didn't want to move past what they had she didn't have to. Then she gets the shock that yes this guy does have other options and he will move to them if you don't give him what he wants.…
/r/PurplePillDebate24/04/24 11:42 PM
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They handle it pretty badly from my experience. I've seen some get borderline starlkerish with how much the guy suddenly becomes a prize. It's not even just sexual. I've had women get used to my company (maybe friends of friends, social groups etc.) and they do something that makes me not want to interact with them anymore (I'm a generally amiable and social person with everyone) so I either give them a reality check or cut them off. I suddenly become the greatest prize to ever exist and they wo…
/r/PurplePillDebate24/04/24 08:52 AM
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most of the time they can't. Most age gaps you see that work and are happy are with the people you'd classify as "young/old souls". The thing about people dating in the same age range isn't about the actual number it's that people who are at very different life stages usually don't have anything in common or shared interests. Now when you have an old sould they probably have interests that are more in common with an older crowd and the reverse is true. Like a really fit 30 something who's super …
/r/PurplePillDebate22/04/24 07:35 AM
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I'm actually not. I'm just flirty in general, but I make it pretty clear when I'm actually into someone. I have pretty high standards for the girls I want.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/04/24 08:02 AM
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There are more cats and and dogs than people in my house
/r/PurplePillDebate18/04/24 06:58 PM
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Hell for me looks are probably the LAST reason I wouldn't commit to someone. If I'm taking a girl on a date or sleeping with her she's already hit my looks threshold. If I think someone isn't pretty enough I don't even enter the flirting phase, and I'd say most decent guys are the same way. The idea of all men being horndogs who'll fuck down at a moment's opportunity is about as overblown as girls only chasing chad.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/04/24 06:25 AM
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I'll agree with all of em except 2. I'm agnostic as they come and I'd have 0 issue getting a girl to commit this moment if I wanted. Hell some of them are trying right now but I'm not ready to settle down just yet with a single girl. Really just doing 1 and 3 will up your market value enough that pretty girls will start giving you clear signals to talk to them assuming you have the social skills to actually charm a woman.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/04/24 05:39 AM
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No the point is there is a massive pool you just can't go in and start hitting on girls right away. What happens is because they filter themselves out of so many groups they all congregate in the same ones over time. This actually makes is really easy to get yourself in if you go with the intent of making friends first. One of my socials has new women come in basically every week and they're always single. The usual crowd of guys there are well respected and here's the big kicker the women who k…
/r/PurplePillDebate18/04/24 05:01 AM
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Reps. You'll get there eventually if you're actively trying to get better and improving other stuff along with it. I have seen some what I would call truly ugly dudes end up doing well. They ain't pulling dimes but they're pulling girls I'd never expect to even give them the time of day.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/04/24 11:27 PM
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no but it's how you turn those borderlines into a yes. If you're a decent looking guy that isn't a chad most girls you run into you will fall into the borderline of "eh he's cute enough" then it's on you to charm her. Yes the truly genetically blessed guys end up falling so far above the line they'd have to try to screw up the flirting phase, but it's not like the rest of us are up a creek.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/04/24 11:27 PM
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Welp but all my good conversations involve light flirting. Granted I'm the funny guy who flirts with basically everyone I talk to in a teasing way. When I'm into someone I dial it up a couple notches.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/04/24 11:22 PM
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Well you don't have a dialogue tree but having solid ideas on how to answer common questions and such can make you stand out a lot more. The classic "what do you do for work?" you know how many dudes give a one sentenceanswer and then toss it back to the girl? I swear I can see the boredem cross their faces everytime. It's not about having a script that never works but you can't learn to improv if you don't have some idea of what works for you and what doesn't. I used some canned lines when I wa…
/r/PurplePillDebate17/04/24 11:19 PM
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Yes MOST flirting is pick up artistry. What do you guys think pick up is? That's the entire point to get a girl more into you through conversation. If you don't understand how to flirt with a girl (and yes there is a rough method you can follow) even if a girl likes you unless she SUPER likes you. You won't get anywhere.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/04/24 11:16 PM
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Are they the type who will outright throw you at women to make a move? Sometimes we just need that push. I've opened a girl for my buddies before and then walked them over immediately. The women can tell when you're being a wing and will play along if they think the friend is cute.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/04/24 11:14 PM
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if they think you're weird you probably are weird sorry dude, but yes approaching a group for 4+ girls is a bit of a struggle if they aren't interested in multiple members of your group. That's why girls who want to be hit on generally only go out in groups of 2.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/04/24 11:11 PM
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Oh they exist you just won't see them because the single women only consistently attend groups that have a good amount of women and men who aren't incompetent at making conversation and flriitng. Unfortunately we have no way of filtering out creepy dudes consistently so even our big groups end up losing a good chunk of the women who turn up.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/04/24 11:10 PM
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the way reddit acts you'd think so much as saying hello to a woman you don't know at a bar or social gathering might get you arrested for sexual assault.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/04/24 11:08 PM
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Yeah no one really cares especially once you get past 20. If two consenting adults are attracted and want to bang and date that's up to them.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/04/24 08:42 PM
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Yeah I don't buy the whole 80/20 thing but you're an idiot if you think a good chunk of gusy aren't being filtered and frankly they should be. The point I always shit on is the guys who keep acting like it's not in their control to become one of the guys who aren't getting filtered on. Like you said the amount of dudes who are born that way is tiny everyone else you see be successful with women has guaranteed had to work their ass off in some way to get there. Hell I don't even remember the last…
/r/PurplePillDebate17/04/24 08:39 PM
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I mean most guys problems are solved by just getting to 15% bodyfat and below. That also tends to fix the "bad face genetics" unless you're a complete goblin in which case sorry bro. After that it's just socializing. It's not that 8/10 guys are ugly it's that 8/10 guys are fucking weird and it's not just women who notice there's a reason HVM are very selective with their circles.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/04/24 07:45 PM
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Yeah some things about how attractive you are are out of your control. Some things aren't you gotta live with it. The only double standard I have issue with is girls being mad about us judging them on their weight as if it's the same as height when one of those IS in their control. As I said above the guy I know who goes on the most dates in a week is 5'5 and I'm not lacking in tall friends to compare him with. One of my wingmen is like 6'2 I routinely poach women from him by accident.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/04/24 07:37 PM
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Yeah many many women actively love my chest hair so it's not like I'm complaining haha. I could do without the back hair though. super annoying to shave every week.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/04/24 06:36 PM
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to the point where if a girl asked me to shave me everything it'd be completely unreasonable. I shave my back, shoulders, and upper arms. Keep my man parts and arm pits groomed, and I'm still a hairy man lol.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/04/24 06:35 PM
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Lucky you lol. I have hair goddamn everywhere
/r/PurplePillDebate17/04/24 05:14 PM
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Depends on you vibe. I'm been dating/hooking up with older women since my mid 20s (i'm 28 now) and the consistent thing has pretty much always been that they think I'm older than I really am everytime. Now granted most of my social circle is also generally older than so I run into girls my age less often. I've been told multiple times that I don't come off as a 20 something and I attract older women a lot cause of it. I dress a bit more upscale. I'm much further in my career than a 20 something …
/r/PurplePillDebate17/04/24 05:10 PM
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If you don't approach somebody else who actually has a pair of balls will lol, and then you will start crying about why they picked him. You sound like a guy I know who won't make a move if a gun was pointed to his head and then gets mad when other guys swoop in and take "his" girl who he has shown 0 intent too.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/04/24 05:04 PM
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I shave my back, shoulders and upper arms at all times. Keep the man parts trimmed. I'm not touching my beard and asking your man to shave his chest hair is an absolutely terrible idea unless you like cuddling with a porcupine rofl. I don't see a reason to shave arms and legs and I've never seen a woman care granted I don't really go after or bother with women who want hairless guys because I'm never gonna be that. I might as well be a bear with how much of my body surface is covered in some amo…
/r/PurplePillDebate17/04/24 04:55 PM
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Rofl sounds like the GF I had that somehow pavloved me by making me get an erection everytime she put her hair up (whenever she did the deed she'd always put her hair in a pony tail).
/r/PurplePillDebate17/04/24 04:38 PM
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The point is you're competing with a lot of other dudes for the SAME women. It's a harsh reality but simply being a normal weight without kids and under 30 isn't good enough as a guy you need more. Girls can get away with it because a lot of dudes simply don't care what is girl is like past how she looks. If you can't get them then technically yes your standards are too high for current you.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/04/24 04:34 PM
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If you don't have the ability to attract them then you have two options. Either improve until you can attract them (whatever's lacking clothing, charisma etc.), or if you're one of those "I'll take anything guys" then yes go for the old fat moms.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/04/24 04:32 PM
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That's exactly what I did. Most of you are just too lazy and undisciplined to put in the work.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/04/24 04:28 PM
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Lol yeah most of the pill followers know absolutely nothing about women they're just parroting podcasts to make themselves feel better
/r/PurplePillDebate17/04/24 04:25 PM
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It tends to be a domino effect where after a guy attracts one girl and stops giving off any kind of desperate energy or just has the confidence and entitlement to think "yes I can get girls" he has an energy shift that women pick up on pretty quickly. You don't even need to get laid just having a girl be into you a couple times is enough for most men to start really getting the ball rolling.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/04/24 04:24 PM
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Yeah I prefer giving and recieving oral over actual intercourse. Guys who don't like giving oral are whack. Oh and OP needs to watch less porn with that description lol
/r/PurplePillDebate17/04/24 06:32 AM
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Both genders do it. It's a case of "wanting what you can have" and the other psychological thing is that if someone is committed and their partner is attractive it immediately spikes that person's desirability because they've already been prove to be able to attract a mate. Have you never heard the stories of people flirting but one never really being interested but suddenly when the other party starts getting settled they're super interested?
/r/PurplePillDebate17/04/24 05:41 AM
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idk why I read this and why it made me laugh so much, but thanks haha.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/04/24 05:39 AM
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Not as much as this sub likes to cry about no they don't. If I believe this sub I'd think I could never get a date at 5'7, and no it's not because of my "resources" that's what losers use an excuse for why they can't get any.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/04/24 05:37 AM
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can say there's very few feelings as fun as being on the other end of this as the guy and seeing the girl slowly get more and more into you as you try to charm her haha.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/04/24 03:13 AM
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Truly baffling how the men who've never been laid in their lives think they know better than the men who have.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/04/24 03:08 AM
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You see em on social media a lot because they get filtered out and no one wants to hang out with them in mixed company. Look no guy likes dudes who hit on all their female friends and can't take a hint.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/04/24 07:58 PM
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GF, Female Friends, Relatives. We outright don't invite people who've shown they can't be trusted around women. Some of the guys we know are way too handsy. They don't get invited out.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/04/24 07:47 PM
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It's like they're mean bitches on purpose because they want you to be as dominant as possible lol. Some of the subbiest of sub women I know are like 10s on mean bitch scale lol. They don't have a dominant bone in their body in the bedroom.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/04/24 07:13 PM
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well biologically we do have a higher sex drive, but any normal guy has control over it. Any man with a good level of T will have some reaction to seeing a pretty girl in his space, but that doesn't mean I'm outright attracted to the women it just means I find her pretty enough in looks. Anyone who isn't a desperate loser who'll take anything he can get has a lot of other things he cares about after looks.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/04/24 07:09 PM
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Hell I've turned down someone I consider a 9 before because she was the nicest girl and I don't think I'd have been capable of looking myself in the mirror if I'd strug her along even unintentionally. For anyone who might be curious I was enjoying a casual phase and travelling a lot she very clearly was looking for someone to stick a ring on it and I was not even remotely ready for that.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/04/24 07:06 PM
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Could be. Despite what desperate men will say we also value our independence and peace. Sleeping with a girl who has very clear feelings and doesn't think it's casual is always messy afterwards. I don't need to get my rocks off that badly to both hurt someone and complicate my peaceful existence lol.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/04/24 07:04 PM
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Some of them got hired for talent. Half of them got hired because facility hiring wanted to look progressive. As someone who works in that sector whenever I have to deal with the diversity hires I want to blow my brains out they're always complete trash at their jobs and think they got there on talent. Really annoying as an asian male since all diversity quotas have ever done for me is make my life harder since it's expected someone from my demographic is talent and hard working but apparently m…
/r/PurplePillDebate16/04/24 06:55 PM
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do you have all the stuff a women would want in you bathroom? If no that's probably one of the bigger reasons. If a girl can't peacefully remove her makeup and take a shower and all that she ain't staying in your place. I learnt this the hard way. If you want to bring women over make sure you have all of it ready to go.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/04/24 03:11 AM
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You have no idea how many women come up to me in social places just to compliment my outfits sometimes. guys really don't understand how much a good sense of style can up their game. I walk in with a well fitted blazer and a shirt that flatters my upper body. I guarantee you at least a couple women will comment on it over the course of a night.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/04/24 03:03 AM
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Sounds about right from my experience. I don't think women even have a scale it's just "are you hot enough and have other qualities" whenever I'm trying to hit on them. I am curious how you judge guys "on the line" initially. Do you just let them try and charm you for x amount of time and see how it goes?
/r/PurplePillDebate16/04/24 03:00 AM
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Well yeah there's no stats for this stuff, but I've yet to meet a single person who struggles with being single that has ever been a good partner. They always end up being the overly attached type who can't handle some distance for any length of time. In extreme cases you end up with co-dependance and separation anxiety which I expect for my puppy not my goddamn girlfriend or wife. No one should require a relationship to "fix" their problems that means you aren't capable of building real connect…
/r/PurplePillDebate16/04/24 02:19 AM
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Yup. Being in shape and having a six pack wasn't some magical thing people thought was a giant pain in the ass. In our parents generation people were simply in shape by living and looked a lot better. The modern man is a fat antisocial loser, and is then shocked the opposite sex would rather go for the men who aren't that. On the flipside a lot of women are also horrible overweight these days and actually are delusional when they ALSO still want those few examples of still solid men.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/04/24 08:04 PM
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because the people who feel like they need a relationship to be fulfilled tend to be shitty partners. This is true for both genders btw it's not just men. Overly clingy women are also insufferable to anyone who isn't desperate.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/04/24 08:00 PM
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As the fun rebound guy can confirm. Anytime I deal with a girl who's fresh off dating one of the "I NEED A RELTIONSHIP" types she thinks I'm the greatest thing ever because I date almost entirely for fun lol. I just want a girl around to go do fun couple things with like dancing because it's always more enjoyable that way.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/04/24 07:55 PM
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LOL I used to live in NYC that's so true
/r/PurplePillDebate15/04/24 07:33 PM
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Of course, they can. A good chunk of my friends are women. Now I will caveat that it's two very different sets of friendships. Men will always bond better with their male friends than their female ones IMO. I don't think women can be friends with men who have no standards because they will never be able to control their libido. Most of my female friends are my friends because I don't have any interest in dating or sleeping with them even if it was offered Having female friends as a man is someth…
/r/PurplePillDebate15/04/24 05:44 PM
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Look it's very simple. There is no way you can act that is genuine and authentic that won't piss SOMEONE off. How you flirt. How you display interest. How you try to physically escalate with a girl. That's all uniquely you and some women will like it. Some will think you're an idiot or a creep that's just how the world works. At some point, you just have to accept that not everyone will like you and nor should they. Some girls you hit on will remember the interaction as a fun time even if nothin…
/r/PurplePillDebate15/04/24 12:53 AM
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oh maybe that's why. I don't do fat but I have no issues dating women older than me (I'm 28). I've gone out with women all the way up to 40. Anyone who thinks 30 and 40-something women can't be drop dead gorgeous is high
/r/PurplePillDebate15/04/24 12:26 AM
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That's the funny part I don't think I even fall into "stable and safe" is the traditional sense because I like partying so much and I'm hyper-spontaneous. I ended up at a rave just walking a girl home once lol. I think I might just have a thing for older women (I actually end up dating women who are almost 40 a lot too) but I'm not complaining. Now if only society would stop acting like some of them are "taking advantage" of me as a 28 year old man.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/04/24 12:22 AM
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Is it really that low for single childless women? I feel like I run into so many between 20-50.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/04/24 12:14 AM
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Or be me and date them as a 20-something lol. Idk why but every woman my age or slightly younger that I've dated has never interested me. They're either gorgeous and boring or smart + interesting but the physical attraction isn't there. I love that so many dudes act like women are undateable at 30 or something when the combination of pretty, intelligent and stable is so much easier to find with women who are slightly older than me.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/04/24 12:12 AM
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Not Gen Z but pretty close since I'm 95 born. If we're talking just dating I rarely see it start with sex. Probably cause most of the people meet when alcohol is involved and well only takes a few drinks before most dudes can't get it up lol. Personally, I've gone from meeting a girl to making out on the same night and then had casual dates that involved sex, but I don't think most people go for the whole committed label part that quickly these days. You may or may not be seeing other people but…
/r/PurplePillDebate15/04/24 12:06 AM
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you were getting eyes and didn't bother to go chat them up? Missed opportunity there sir lol.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/04/24 10:01 PM
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Correct you should be doing those things for you first and foremost. Obviously we all want some kind of external validation, but I can't understand the people who don't feel better about themselves when they look in the mirror and see that they're buffer, healthier, dressed better etc. Litearlly no one could have commented on the fact I lost a bunch of weight when I first did it. I was still waking up every week watching my body get visibly better looking in the mirror.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/04/24 09:56 PM
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I love all the women acting like this is some super easy task that doesn't take any time out of the guy's day that he should be happy to do every week. Guy made it pretty clear that her dorm is somewhat out of the way and he gets tried having to walk the extra distance every week. Then they assume she's some super amazing friend who does all this stuff for him, so he's now not putting in enough effort.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/04/24 08:30 PM
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After I got hotter I ended up becoming somewhat of an older women magnet. Even at 28 I still get a lot of them who are hesitant to go for it. Like a lot of dating stuff it's a very personnel thing. It does become less of an issue as you get into the higher ranges. Oh and for me personally the reason I tend to do well with them is that I'm constantly told I have a much more mature vibe than my actual age. I like dressing formal. I hold myself well, and while I still look young the beard adds quit…
/r/PurplePillDebate14/04/24 07:31 PM
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I think anyone who was a loser when they were younger and then glowed up later in life ends up somewhat red-pilled. Not the loser modern red pill that is filled with losers who stayed losers, but the saner older one than I heard about in college about 10 years ago. I thought it was complete nonsense at first, but the more successful I got with women as I got hotter the more I just started losing respect for them as a whole. At its core I think red pill is just getting on the self-improvement tra…
/r/PurplePillDebate14/04/24 07:21 PM
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previous comment assumes the guy is already fit and "looksmaxxed"
/r/PurplePillDebate14/04/24 07:15 PM
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And most of the women I meet who are single and older tend to be very attractive and like hot men enjoy being single because (shocker) women don't magically become ugly witches in their 30s and 40s if they were hot in their 20s. If they were hot then and took care of themselves they're still smoking 10-20 years later. the "forced to settle" amount of the female population is probably like a single digit percentage point and on this sub you'd think it was 90% of women over 30 lol.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/04/24 07:08 PM
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PPD men learning that social skills are important and can be worked on is truly an impossible challenge.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/04/24 07:05 PM
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"you weren't born a genetic chad so give up and be a loser" every black piller
/r/PurplePillDebate14/04/24 07:03 PM
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The origins of both pills were fine. It's just they've both become memes because many of the people in it now are lazy, defeatist losers who don't want to actually put in the work. The concept of both was to make you understand that yes women are as shallow as men are and they won't magically sleep with your fat ass because of "what's inside". They will care about how you look. They will care about how good your friend circle is etc. Now the appropriate response to learning this would be to star…
/r/PurplePillDebate14/04/24 06:52 PM
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I don't do one-night stands, and I pretty much never try to sleep with a girl on the first date (if there's a really good connection and booze isn't involved an exception might happen). Sure I enjoy sex and like it a lot but I like it a hell of a lot more when I have an actual connection with the person I'm banging. If all I cared about was a pretty face and getting off why wouldn't I just watch porn? I think the obsession with casual sex in a lot of guys is mostly just because they're desperate…
/r/PurplePillDebate14/04/24 06:41 PM
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Seriously it went from self-improvement and flirting game. To this nonsensical garbage about n-counts, genetics, "alpha" mindset, and whatever other bullshit that has nothing to do with actually getting a date. I am convinced some of these people have never interacted with real-life women at any point in their lives.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/04/24 04:17 PM
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funnier than you. I call that a great night. I remember I had a flirting session that amounted to us trying to one-up the other on who was funnier. The result was the entire bar turning into our impromptu standup venue.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/04/24 04:08 PM
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They get given the blueprint on how to stop being "average" and make themselves look better probably daily on this sub. They keep finding a way to moon logic around the advice and keep circling back to it being about the genetic lottery and nothing else.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/04/24 03:25 PM
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Nah you're probably vastly underestimating yourself. Truly unattractive people don't pull anything, but borderline every man can get themselves into a position where they look good enough for even the prettiest of women to at least entertain their advances. The gift of gab is super powerful though. That is 100% why you're pulling the stunners I just doubt you're as much of a goblin as you think you are.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/04/24 03:23 PM
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even though it's true whenever we tell these guys how they can fix that problem and make themselves more attractive the response is pretty much always some excuse about how it won't work and it's all just down to how terrible their genetics are.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/04/24 03:22 PM
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Not a chance in hell. I'd be bored to tears
/r/PurplePillDebate13/04/24 07:53 AM
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No, they really don't. They will make it super easy for a tall dude with a model face, but they will entertain any moderately attractive dude hitting on her and at that point, all you have to do is be more charming than the tall dude. I have "stolen" girls from men almost a foot taller than me because I'm charming and funny, and I live in a very competitive area since it's Florida Every fucker looks like a model down here.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/04/24 07:48 AM
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Most dudes expect a skinny girl with an above-average face. That's about on par with the barrier most girls have which is a muscular in shape dude with an above-average face. Like I said any guy who has any level of self-respect and standards isn't hitting on fat ugly chicks. That's relegated to the desperate guys who can't laid ever and the nutso chubby chasers who are beyond saving lol. Like no attractive man in my circle entertains fat chicks ever and a lot of them try to hit on us because th…
/r/PurplePillDebate13/04/24 07:44 AM
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Like anyone saying standards aren't high is lying, but they're high for both genders. Let's be real no one is talking up fat ugly chicks if they aren't either desperate or a degenerate chubby chase.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/04/24 07:36 AM
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get off the fucking studies they're useless. If you went off studies you'd think being 6ft is a minimum. It's not I'm 5'7 at this point I'd be considered a fucking chad with how many women are fighting for my attention. The main thing most guys need to do is lose weight. you don't need a 6 pack cause. I didn't to start seeing success but get as close as possible and get your shoulders wider. Even with an average face women are going to start being interested. I get felt up at bars on the regular…
/r/PurplePillDebate13/04/24 07:32 AM
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Women care about looks but they don't care about them as much as men. Women have a barrier of how attractive you have to be before they will entertain your existence Once you pass that barrier everything else is what determines if she wants to jump your bones, and it's because of this that you see girls go after guys who aren't the most objectively attractive people in a space. The problem is blackpill and a lot of redpiller make it seem like all that matters for you to get a girl is how you loo…
/r/PurplePillDebate13/04/24 07:27 AM
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I just want guys to do better lol. Flirting and approaching girls is not a complicated process they just have to stop being weird idiots. Well, that and get off their asses and work on their looks.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/04/24 07:23 AM
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and the funniest part is attractive kind men get laid the easiest and they naturally repel all the crazy so you only get the hot stable girls coming after you most of the time.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/04/24 09:12 PM
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no, they are fucking not and I do not care about whatever random ass studies you people decide to consider gospel. Just the beach is enough to tell you fat women are delusion. 99% of fat guys if they're at the beach will never take their shirts off because they know there's a gut under there. Meanwhile, the landwhales are running around in the same bikinis hot girls should be wearing. Body positivity was a mistake. Hell, I know a girl who weighs more than me and she's one of the most delusional …
/r/PurplePillDebate12/04/24 07:44 PM
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ah, this is the thing people tend to miss. I'm not saying sit there and take up her whole day. You say hello (respectfully), mention you think she's attractive in some way so your intentions are clear. If she's receptive you chat for a little bit and banter, try and get her number and then you both move on with your day. Sometimes if the girl is actually doing nothing she could be down for a longer interaction or even a casual day date right then but I don't go in expecting that. Taking the dog …
/r/PurplePillDebate12/04/24 04:45 PM
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yeah where did I say it wasn't? If I'm not getting good sex with someone I'm not dating them. The reason I want people to explore their sexuality is that it makes them better at it (hopefully). Idk about you but last I checked virgin girls aren't the best in bed when they have no fucking idea what to do with a dick or what they themselves like.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/04/24 04:35 PM
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Oh I'm not saying he hits on all of them. I'm just saying his job lets him interact with women a lot more than the average bloke so he's gotta be very very good at talking to women in general cause of it, and I'm sure at least some of the women who come into his shop have the hots for him it's just statistically likely lol.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/04/24 04:30 PM
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I'm in the middle. I tell people to practice their social game even when they're trying to get fit (but have realistic expectations) because hot or not you need to put in the reps. I was still pretty good when I was fat and now I have "fat guy game" in a fit body. Might as well be a cheat code at this point. The more you use your social skills the better you get at the process.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/04/24 04:13 PM
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Yeah for a while I thought there was something off with my game because I could charm girls and get them talking but never really "pull". Turns out the actual answer was to lose about 35lbs, get a little swole, and change nothing else. Pretty privilege is very real. It's not just women who want to interact with me more either. I've become one of those "new guys want to be my friend to be me" guys in my circle cause of it.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/04/24 04:09 PM
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Yeah, I wish I could sit at 15 and do nothing but I'm one of those guys whose fat goes right to his lower abdomen first so at 15% I have that little tire that infuriates me lol. 12 is so much harder to maintain in comparison but at least on my frame, it looks significantly better.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/04/24 04:05 PM
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Usually, the frienzone guy has passed the personality test he just isn't hot enough (yet) for the girl to want to fuck him. It sounds like a movie cliche but I know a lot of formerly fat dudes (I'm also one) whose female friends very quickly got a lot more touchy-feely and flirty the moment they got themselves in better shape and started dressing better. You lose 10,20,30lbs and get a little ripped women will notice, and it almost always coincides with a big confidence boost in the guy because h…
/r/PurplePillDebate12/04/24 03:05 PM
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oh no I'd say at least half of all dudes will just ignore the personality part entirely lol.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/04/24 03:04 PM
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Is that what guys are actually looking for when they bring up the "approaching" topic? yes because they're all terrified that being told no will end up with them plastered on social media and their lives ruined for some reason as if that's the norm. I'm pretty sure being rejected by a girl will not instantly turn you into a social pariah.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/04/24 02:37 PM
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No young to slightly less young professionals in a fairly large US city. We all make bank. We all have time and we're all very social people. None of us take life or ourselves all the seriously either. I'm a musician who's actually successful enough to make a living off just making music for an exmaple of the kind of people who turn up. My friend is a lawyer. This is a group that gathers 60-100 people weekly just to socialize and party. Pretty sure the blue hair nose ring people would consider u…
/r/PurplePillDebate12/04/24 02:26 PM
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it's just how modern dating works when you have options running around. If people have the time they will date multiple people until someone has the exclusivity talk. It's all consensual though we're pretty honest about the fact we're "shopping around" to the people we go out with. If they want to lock us down it's on them to bring up the conversation. Dating is also just supposed to be a fun activity that I think a lot of people have forgotten. It's not all about going through your checklist an…
/r/PurplePillDebate12/04/24 02:17 PM
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Yeah pretty much. I have a huge social circle and in the top part of the hierarchy so everyone is trying to talk to me anyway, but we go out so much I still end up hitting on random girls because they're there and I see no reason to not talk to them if they're making themselves available. I don't OLD or talk to girls in the day any more cause of this though because I'm just rotating women in my circle and I can only handle so many at once (some of my friends are crazy and can juggle close to dou…
/r/PurplePillDebate12/04/24 02:07 PM
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When you reach a certain level (something that is attainable for most men) you'll start to notice how women subtly make themselves available to talk in social spaces. One of the most common if you're a bargoer is that she'll have multiple spots to go try and get a drink but she will just so happen to pick the spot that is right next to you. Now obviously this won't always be the case but you'll learn that people by default in most places are actually rather friendly if you aren't a weirdo, so ev…
/r/PurplePillDebate12/04/24 02:04 PM
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So 45% of 20 something men are autistic and/or clueless? autistic probably not. Clueless and lacking social skills. 100%. Most guys I know my around my age are fucking hopeless with women I've had to practically throw girls at them before because their ability to read signs is almost nonexistent.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/04/24 02:00 PM
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The social repercussions of finding out are often not worth the try This mentality right here is why so many of you are struggling. There are no repercussions you're all grown adults asking for a date. Stop being terrified of asking a girl out. Get off the fucking internet and go outside. Most women (I'd say at minimum 80-85%) are perfectly happy being approached if you don't look like a hobo and have some charm. Be it at a bar or in a well lit safe public space in the day (don't corner women in…
/r/PurplePillDebate12/04/24 01:58 PM
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Single by choice is when you have options to go exclusive with people you could maybe see doing that with but choose not to. I'm single by choice for example because I have about 4 women in rotation and date for fun. The only reason I'd stop being single is if "the one" turned up and I wanted to lock her down immediately.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/04/24 06:39 AM
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guy is a hairdresser Volume lol. He probably meets so many women in a day that his odds of hitting one who likes him are a lot higher. Also Hairdresser he's charming by default It's basically a requirement to be one of those.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/04/24 09:48 PM
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Oh no everyone needs charisma. You only stumble on girls and get laid when a lot of liquor is involved. I've seen 6'3 hot white boys completely fumble the ball the second they opened their mouths. It's a total package thing. If you're taller or facially hotter you can fumble a bit more than say someone who's 5'5 if you were trying to pull the same girl. When I was fatter I used to still get dates but I had to basically be casting a mind control spell or some shit because my appearance wasn't hel…
/r/PurplePillDebate11/04/24 09:44 PM
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yeah if you're under like 5'10 you need the charisma. Shorter guys have to work harder. It's not a fair thing but that's how it works, but I will tell you that 9/10 girls might have a height preference they will immediately toss out that preference if you're charming enough. I have outright "stolen" girls from dudes 5-6 inches taller than me (I'm also 5'7 but I don't have small frame so I look taller still tiny compared to these giant white boys though lol). If you want a bit of a height hack fo…
/r/PurplePillDebate11/04/24 09:17 PM
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1) Dance 3 days a week. Lift 2-3 times a week (I used to do more but it's excessive for me because I'm not trying to be huge just built). Bald so hair maintenance is super easy for me. I alternate between a stubble beard and a slightly longer depending on the time of year and how I feel I get it shaped up once a month at my barber to make sure nothing gets out of hand. My sense of fashion is considered so good in my circle that both men and women ask me for fashion advice (I have a bit of cheat …
/r/PurplePillDebate11/04/24 09:14 PM
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well, it's pretty clear you've never tried to get in shape at any point in your life bodybuilders sit in the single digits. 10-15% is beach lean you have visible abs and look lean. Many MANY people sit at this level of bodyfat year-round it's not a super difficult thing to sustain if you have any kind food discipline. If anything 15% is a little high but quite a few guys can get away with it. I unfortunately can't and have to sit somewhere around 12 at all times to not have Pudge start coming in…
/r/PurplePillDebate11/04/24 07:37 PM
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Oh, I'm one of the guys the women gravitate toward I'm fine lol. I've been in alt circles before back when I was a gigging musician very different vibe. It's probably why I'm good at being social because I've worn a lot of different hats despite being pretty young.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/04/24 07:23 PM
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Also, it's not like you pick or the other. Most of the smartest people I know are completely shredded because being in good physical health also helps your brain so why would I sacrifice either?
/r/PurplePillDebate11/04/24 06:47 PM
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Yeah can kind attest to that. My larger social circle is pretty standard youngish professional fair and the guys have a very clear hierarchy. The women all gravitate towards the same guys en masse. If you don't have something to stand out as a man in this group you won't get noticed or (if you're weird) worse get dropped in the creepy bucket which good luck ever getting out of cause all the girls talk.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/04/24 06:38 PM
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Yeah, I noticed I have a couple of very specific types a while ago. A friend asked me to show him girls I was into or dated before, and afterward we realized I've dated basically the same girl 5 times because they could have all passed for sisters rofl.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/04/24 06:28 PM
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in shape, social competent nor groomed 10-15% bodyfat with any amount of muscle (5lbs is usually more than enough depending on genetics). After that it's about dressing well for your body. If you struggle with that find a stylist. Some stores have them for free and even if they don't the small investment to know what looks good on you is well worth it If you can't figure out "groomed" than you guys are hopeless. Don't have massive mains of hair coming out of nose, ears and back. Get a haircut th…
/r/PurplePillDebate11/04/24 05:59 PM
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It's in the term. Social skills. You can learn this stuff and get better at it. It'll be awkward to begin with but gets easier pretty quick. As for the handsome bit just get to down to 10-15% bodyfat + dress well and unless you have a face that looks like a Picasso painting I can guarantee you will get female attention.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/04/24 05:50 PM
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Women are perfectly happy being approached by and talking to guys in real life. Do not buy into the tirades from terminally online people who think OLD dating is the only way you're allowed to talk to women. Women would much rather meet a guy organically than swiping on an app. This does not mean go up and talk to every pretty girl you find on the street, but if you see a girl at the mall or maybe at a cafe just go up and say hello she's not going to bite your head off. I barely even use dating …
/r/PurplePillDebate11/04/24 05:48 PM
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well I'm not one to kink shame but that's quite the fetish.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/04/24 10:24 AM
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Idk women point out and/or feel up my shoulders a lot (I have very well-developed wide shoulders). Granted I'd argue I already have a handsome face so I'm not sure if they'd still go for it if I look like a goblin.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/04/24 10:23 AM
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If you're in shape, social competent, dress and groom well and somehow still can't women then you are in the bottom of bottom rungs when it comes to look genetics because that is every skill required to meet women lol.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/04/24 10:21 AM
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I've been bald since I was 22 it means absolutely nothing. Hell some girls salivate over a shaved head they think it's masculine as fuck. Now balding is ugly as sin and looks disgusting.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/04/24 10:19 AM
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I'd bet a very large amount of money that I could figure out why you're not successful with women within 30 seconds to a minute of talking with you or by just watching you interact with a pretty girl.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/04/24 10:17 AM
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it's not standards. People are just socially inept. I'm a 5'7 bald brown dude and I"m beating women off with a stick. The most common thing I hear is that guys my age don't know how to flirt and carry a conversation (I'm 28). Sure some women want a 6ft 6 figure white guy with a 6 inch dick but more of them don't really give a shit. Women care more about how they interact with a person over what he actually looks like as long as he's handsome enough which most dudes are capable of reaching if the…
/r/PurplePillDebate11/04/24 10:14 AM
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Marriage is for "the one" aka that person you have a such a strong connection with that you don't even want to bother shopping around anymore. Also yes people should explore their sexuality and have fun. The only people who are up in arms about this are the loser dudes who have 0 options because they're intimidated by women who have actual experience. I would never date a virgin . I want a girl who enjoys sex and knows what gets her and me off.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/04/24 10:11 AM
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Yes if you want to show off your wealth you need to actually spend it on something. No one particularly gives a shit about how big your bank account is if you don't have disposable income. If you want to be tasteful. Get yourself a nice tailored suit and a decent watch. Boom every woman who takes a look at that picture is going to know you make good money.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/04/24 10:09 AM
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I was bullied until I got to highschool and I've been called an 8 and even a 9 by multiple women at this point. Being pretty doesn't save your from bullying kids are just assholes and will attack anyone who is different or "weird". It was so bad that this pretty girl in college that I had a crush on called me handsome at a party to my face and I basically couldn't fathom the concept that I was anything but a goblin.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/04/24 10:06 AM
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yeah can't say I've run into anything like that myself yet. Sounds great.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/04/24 01:14 AM
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I think it's less we're waiting on purpose more we've just became insanely picky. Not saying you and you wife were "eh good enough" or anything, but basically my thought process is "my life is pretty set if I'm going to put a single girl into it who's going to eat up a lot of that time I want to feel like it's worth it". From talking with a lot of my friends male and female we all have a similar mindset. We aren't opposed to settling down or anything but we want it to be with someone we really r…
/r/PurplePillDebate11/04/24 01:00 AM
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exceptions do exist. A couple in my graduating class started dating in our senior year and got married recently. I'm not saying it doesn't ever happen or that everyone who settles down is a loser or something, but especially younger Millennials and under (the ones who are well off and thriving anyway) value their freedom in their 20s a lot more. I'm assuming you're a decent bit older than me since you said 2002 and I was 8 during that time lol.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/04/24 12:44 AM
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oh oops didn't highlight the whole thing lol
/r/PurplePillDebate11/04/24 12:29 AM
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A girl wanting to settle down with her best option. I'm pretty sure every guy who isn't desperate wants this too. The desperate ones want to as well but they aren't gonna admit that they would do the exact things women and successful men are doing if they had the chance.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/04/24 12:20 AM
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Yeah if (pardon the cliche) "the one" runs into my life and it's fireworks then sure I'm locking that down as fast as possible, but I have multiple women who want to spend time with me and they're all fun why would I care about putting a ring on anyone at this point in my life and complicate things. I'm riding this freedom train right into my 30s.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/04/24 12:17 AM
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Shitty people exist everywhere. Cheating isn't an indication you were settled for It does mean you ended up getting a shit partner though. Women have cheated on gorgeous dudes, and men have cheated on absolute bombshell wives with what can only be described as "wtf why?".
/r/PurplePillDebate11/04/24 12:10 AM
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okay, you are confusing being well-off with being wealthy. People with money may not splurge on 15 cars and 20 watches, but people with real wealth (successful entrepreneurs, successful artists things like that) who have money to spare can do treat themselves to things to make their appearance better. Wear nicer outfits, buy a not crazy watch. A good sense of fashion can help you a lot with women and unfortunately unlike women's clothing which looks good at pretty much every price range. The mor…
/r/PurplePillDebate11/04/24 12:07 AM
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Anyone who takes care of themself can age well. We literally have a whole category of porn about older women because shocker a women who stays in shape who was gorgeous in her 20s will still be gorgeous in her 40s unless she decides to start doing meth or some shit. Same with dudes you stay buff and take care of yourself you'll look good as you age. you'll probably have to shift things around but lot of women go crazy for the silver foxes with the salt and pepper in suits for a reason.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/04/24 12:01 AM
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"settling" is more an online boogeyman than anything lol. I know it's hard to believe for some of the guys here but most women do like their partners even if they aren't 6ft6 Chad Thundercock. Women have made it pretty clear they'd rather be single than be with someone they don't like so idk where the whole settling meme came from. It's mostly some cases where the guy being "settled" for just happens to be worse at sex than a previous partner and their ego can't take it.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/04/24 11:58 PM
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Yeah duh. The only people who want to settle down and go suburban in their 20s tend to be religious types, and the loser dudes who have no friends or dating options so they're desperate. your 20s are when you're trying to advance your career and really enjoy your adult social life why would you want to immediately run right into a LTR or marriage at that point in your life.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/04/24 11:55 PM
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the secret art of "not giving a fuck" might as well be a cheat code when it comes to attracting women.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/04/24 06:05 AM
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Can confirm. I openly tell the women I date that I'm seeing more than one girl at a time if we aren't exclusive. I'd say about 60% of them don't like it, but I'd rather be honest than deal with the inevitable fallout and hurt them, and I'm a musician so I'm very much dating the social media girls who this sub deride as the ones always trying to monkey branch. A lot of them want that monogamy as fast as possible.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/04/24 04:34 AM
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I'm actually from overseas so being in the US is technically an international game for me.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/04/24 04:23 AM
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Every hot girl I've ever been with has chosen me over men I would 100% call objectively more conventionally attractive than me because of my "energy" or something. Looks matter sure but far less than people think.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/04/24 04:12 AM
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uh yeah you'd be shocked how much work going from whatever overweight point you start at to ripped will do for you. if they're 5s and 6s they probably already have decent faces (but they're covered in a layer of fat). Most likely they're just fat or scrawny, dress badly, and don't have any real game to speak of. the 5s will most likely stop at 7 and the 6s generally do go from pretty average looking to being quite handsome so 8s. I say a year because the biggest time sink is going to be losing w…
/r/PurplePillDebate10/04/24 03:55 AM
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yes and I'm sure all those men are in great shape, and have learned how to talk/test with women, and have developed a circle that lets them meet women, and/or hired a proper photographer to make their dating profile pop. but you're right it's definitely just that all their faces aren't chad thundercock and they aren't 6ft.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/04/24 03:39 AM
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Most 5s and 6s can make themselves 7-8s or even 9s (this one is genetics) with 6 months to a year of work, but it's hard, scary, and requires them to enter awkward situations repeatedly. Most men simply aren't going to do it and would rather say it's something out of their control. Also yes I have seen multiple guys come out of their shells and go from being shy to being very social and able to attract both men and women into their circle. I was one of them. I'd be considered a loner introvert i…
/r/PurplePillDebate10/04/24 03:34 AM
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I'm pretty sure at least half these losers think game just means "I'm hot".
/r/PurplePillDebate10/04/24 03:30 AM
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I mean when it's pretty clear it's just self-sabotage and they have 0 interest in taking any of the advice it's not like we can do much but laugh at them. They can rean and quote 5000 different studies till their eyes fall out but it's pretty obvious to anyone who's ever actually done the process that unless they're all in the actual bottom percentile of men (statically unlikely) it's refusing to acknowledge the problem is in their control tha's fucking them.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/04/24 03:28 AM
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yes but they aren't talking to the ugly girls they always claim they go for "Normal" girls but we all know they mean the blonde fitness girls won't talk to them.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/04/24 03:25 AM
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Seriously guy is out here trying to tell us people from high school act the same a decade later.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/04/24 03:22 AM
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If you are the same person you were in high school in your mid to late 20s you have fucked up somewhere and have done 0 things to improve yourself over that time. Anyone I can think of if you go back 5 or 10 years they will be vastly different people over that timeframe. Your personality and how you act is 100% in your control, and this isn't some fake being a douchebag talk if you act the same way for over 10 years you are stagnant as a person.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/04/24 03:21 AM
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Are you both having fun? Are you both happy? Do you both feel fulfilled in the relationship? It's successful. Our lifespans are too short to waste it on people that don't make us happy.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/04/24 06:45 PM
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well, my first piece of advice is stop going after snapchat girls. That's a bigger fuck app than tinder at this point lol. Get her number or Instagram or something. Snapchat is such a low commit social people barely even consider it giving out their contact.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/04/24 04:31 PM
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most impactful for initial attraction yes, but whether you get the girl or not at the end of it requires a lot of other things. I agree if you don't hit that initial attraction barrier you're fucked but it's not as hard to hit as a lot of guys think, and judging by how much wining I see above from how hard it is to not eat like a pig and exercise most guys aren't much competition. Unless we're talking only OLD at which point you get a six-pack, hire a photographer and start the crapshoot
/r/PurplePillDebate09/04/24 04:12 PM
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You're mixing up having a backbone with being an asshole. "nice" guys who look to avoid conflict and people please at every turn are about as interesting as soggy white bread. kind men get laid and if anything they have it easier than the badboy assholes because they attract FAR more stable women so they don't have to learn how to manage drama every 30 seconds. There is nothing cool about being a background character who's only personality trait is being as nice as possible to everyone who talks…
/r/PurplePillDebate09/04/24 04:51 AM
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making yourself look better is actually the easiest thing you can do and probably has the least impact on whether you will pull the girl or not. All you have to do is pass the looks barrier for her to be interested enough to not push you out the second she looks at you (not a high bar). If you can't properly flirt and are a nice guy pushover you can be a fucking hypothetical 10/10 chad you will be dead in the water.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/04/24 04:44 AM
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28, and it's mostly charisma.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/04/24 11:24 PM
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all the work and mental gymnastics a dude is doing to try and be presentable bro it's not that complicated. Some guys are just incapable of not being weird and I don't know why.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/04/24 11:16 PM
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you can make it up somewhere else. I'm 5'7 and don't even need dating apps to keep a consistent dating schedule.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/04/24 11:11 PM
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Honestly with how slovenly and depressingly mediocre the modern man has become you might actually be right lol
/r/PurplePillDebate08/04/24 11:10 PM
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get in shape, get a stylist, get social skills, Learn how to really talk to and flirt with women (by far the most important thing). If you dating app dates hire a photographer and just get a bunch of good stuff done in a day with different outfits. Otherwise, just be social and go out to events, bars, cafes, the beach. There are hordes of attractive single women out and about every night and day in most areas. The whole 80/20 thing is a complete joke no you do not need to be a rich 6ft+ white gu…
/r/PurplePillDebate08/04/24 10:51 PM
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well done tattoos and piercings are smoking hot and no one will convince me otherwise.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/04/24 06:18 PM
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I think in my case I view it a little differently because I've moved so much. Most of the relationships I've had that ended. Ended on very good terms and I still occasionally talk to them because the only reason they didn't continue was that I left the country for one reason or another.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/04/24 06:15 PM
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Does every relationship that doesn't end in marriage need to be considered a failure? Serious question because that's actually an interesting discussion.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/04/24 05:55 PM
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Hmm a guy who has no success with women but has "Studied" them or a guy who has recorded success of attracting and taking women on dates, sex etc. Gee I wonder which one understands women better
/r/PurplePillDebate08/04/24 05:53 PM
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I refuse to believe he has ever gone outside and talked to a women in public, because this worldview is fucking wild. I have probably single digit interactions that are even close to this nonsense and I talk to a lot of women in my day to day life.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/04/24 05:51 PM
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Not entirely. Men select in that they get to chose who they want to ask out, but women have final say when it comes to any initial romantic interaction. Normal guys understand this and just accept that rejection is part of the game, but in the context of this if a guy goes after a toxic girl he still has to get chosen by said toxic girl and some guys feel like they have so few options they need to take any "yes" that comes their way.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/04/24 05:48 PM
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If you can pull the toxic chick. You can pull the quiet virgin girl. The toxic party girl will be an order of magnitude more difficult to get interested.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/04/24 05:45 PM
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I'd argue the only not super fucked up generation is younger millennials just because of the way our lives timed out. The Older millennials are by and large terrible parents so Gen Z is a mess on top of being the covid gen, and the generation above us also had horrible parents.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/04/24 05:43 PM
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Yup. What I usually tell people is if you can't think of any people who outright dislike you. You're probably too nice and a complete people pleasing bore. If you've gone your whole life without ever turning someone off you're just a 'nice guy" who wants to avoid conflict as much as possible. We all know those people are too nice and fade into the background.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/04/24 10:55 PM
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if you're decently in shape and have social skills trust me you're above average. The average for both genders is depressingly low these days lol. Just not being borderline obesse and having some muscle puts you squarely into above average ignoring everything else you could be flat broke and a pyscho you'd still be above average.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/04/24 09:09 PM
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I'm still convinced you're fucking up somewhere because if you've done all those things you should not have to be stuck dating fat chicks. Are you in some fucked up market in the middle of nowhere where there's like 0 girls? A guy who looks like you with good social skills should have a perfectly fine time dating attractive girls in metropolitan areas.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/04/24 07:27 PM
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not entirely true. They just want a man who can lead. They don't particularly care how you get to that point. Some people are naturals. Some people know how to lead from platonic interactions (yes you can learn doing this), and some learn it from lots of dating. There's nothing super unique about "navigating a relationship" it's the same as learning how to lead in a workplace or learning how to be a leader and focal point of social group. People look up to and respect men who are assertive and k…
/r/PurplePillDebate07/04/24 07:13 PM
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yup, I want to date stable mature women and thankfully those seem to be the ones I attract. The ones that don't want usually end up being drama queens (a lot of them end up going after some of my friends lol), and my response, later on, is "Well dodged a bullet there". My main issue is usually I'm very a high-energy person who likes to have a good party so trying to get that tiny venn diagram of stable mature girls who also like a good party is a process.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/04/24 05:42 PM
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Welcome to the concept of "game" Your physical looks only get you so far if you aren't in the real 1% of genetics. I have "stolen" women from dudes who are objectively more conventionally attractive than me because I'm just a much better flirt.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/04/24 05:39 PM
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lol yeah. I commented on a different post about how the vibe between a girl being friendly and girl being into you is different, and got two comments about how the vibe is exactly the same. Either they've never experienced it or they just can't see the hints.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/04/24 05:25 PM
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I could probably fill a comedy book with the number of times I fell on my face learning it. I can guarantee you I was not one of the people born with it. it's a skill you can train and master like anything else. You just have to get out of your own head and accept the fact you're going to put yourself in awkward situations doing it, especially at the start. The hardest thing for most guys is shifting from a scarcity to an abundance mindset most simping behavior isn't intentional it's from that n…
/r/PurplePillDebate07/04/24 05:21 PM
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If you are decently handsome, kind, and have a backbone (aka know how to flirt, tease and yes even be a dick) you will clean up. There are multiple archetypes of men who get laid you don't have to be the bad boy unstable nutjob, and yes your looks do matter but most guys vastly overblown how much they matter. Most dudes can get themselves to a point where attractive girls will be into them enough to talk by just hitting the gym and learning some fashion sense. I am the "kind funny guy" and I hav…
/r/PurplePillDebate07/04/24 06:59 AM
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Seriously it's been established women do not give two shits about boring simps who treat them like they're a princess at every turn. If you think you're losing dates because of simps you are deluding yourself. I just had the scenario happen the other day where some other guy in our group was trying to come on to this girl way too hard. I showed a small amount of interest earlier and then looped back around later after I was done talking to my friends. I'll give you one guess who walked out with …
/r/PurplePillDebate07/04/24 12:43 AM
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not really. No girl wants the desperate simp, and yes that is how it shakes down. The guy who shows some interest but isn't desperate and trying to appease her at every turn will always win out over the simp. Especially because the self-assured guy is always the more attractive one. "ambition" in this case is chasing and coming on too hard. How many times has it been made clear women do not like this?
/r/PurplePillDebate07/04/24 12:41 AM
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it's very subtle but even if a girl doesn't give you super explicit signals you can tell if they're into you while you have a conversation with them. I can't really explain it but the vibe when a girl likes you and is friendly and when a girl likes you has a very different feel to it, unfortunately, it's one of those things guys have to stumble on their face a half dozen times before they start getting it. I know I did.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/04/24 07:24 AM
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She had been my exclusive girlfriend for over a year at that point so we weren't really "just dating" tbf.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/04/24 04:59 AM
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Hah. That's because 99% of the pickmes have the exact same type and neurotic men scared of approaching women do not fall into that category. They expect hyper-masculine lumberjack men more than any other type of girl I can think of.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/04/24 04:52 AM
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I’m so afraid he will get to college, have a little freedom and just go off the rails Considering what I saw happen to my friends this is a very real possibility and I suggest you and your husband try to stay in very close contact with him as much as you can. It probably still won't help if he really wants to vent out years of frustration but it might keep him from doing something he really regrets later. My parents weren't anything like this but they were very overprotective and I grew up quite…
/r/PurplePillDebate06/04/24 04:50 AM
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Oh I do. I hate OLD never gotten a good date off those things. Idk where you got I'm complaining that dating is too hard. Unlike a lot of guys, I enjoy the process of meeting people and flirting whether I get a relationship out of it or not doesn't bother me. I just don't like double standards applied to either gender, (the whole body count meme) or "progressives" who are only progressive when it benefits them (eg a lot of younger feminists). I'm just saying there's not been some revolution wher…
/r/PurplePillDebate04/04/24 07:09 PM
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Neither. I'd probably be left of center if anything (actually left of center not the comedy that is the US left), and a girl being religious is borderline a deal breaker for me since I'm agnostic at best and hate religion in its entirety most of the time. A lot of "progressive" women also expect the guy to pick up the tab it's not limited to just conservative trad girls. At least the trad girls are filling a niche in that scenario. The liberal ones who do this want the guy to fill all those toxi…
/r/PurplePillDebate03/04/24 09:29 PM
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You're in a very closed circle then, because I'm 28 and women in their 20s still expect the guy to pay a lot of the time. It's why I always go cheap for a first date because I'm not wasting dinner date money on a girl I'm not even sure I like yet. Also a good way to weed out the meal ticket hunters because they're always against cheaper dates.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/04/24 08:35 PM
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I usually just wait to see if the girl asks. A) it gives me an idea of if she expects me to pay for everything and B) It's a tiny thing but you get that old-fashioned courting vibe not letting a girl pay that we don't get much of these days in dating.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/04/24 08:32 PM
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Hell, I'm a guy who can fly women out to Dubai on a whim. Any of the ones you'd actually want to date longterm really don't care. Actually, one girl (bless her) was so stressed out how much the trip was costing me (I didn't mind) I ended up canceling it and taking her boating somewhere closer because she was simply not going to enjoy the trip if she was that stressed about it. Hell I've met a lot of women who see my wealth as a negative for some goddamn reason. I don't have to work anymore becau…
/r/PurplePillDebate03/04/24 07:04 PM
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If its not that hard like you say why did it take you all that time to find success? cause it took me that long to become a guy girls wanted. I was a nerdy out-of-shape loser in high school who didn't know how to interact with women. 4 years later after fixing my shit (I did an accelerated grad program) it was no longer an issue. Yes, you need to hit a certain looks standard for girls to talk to you. The point is that the standard isn't that high if you have other things to make up for it. You h…
/r/PurplePillDebate03/04/24 06:14 PM
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yeah, and the ones who aren't social rejects generally aren't black/red pill doomers who think women are satan spawn. They're usually the ones who are looking for something specific and just haven't found it because dating in general is hard you're trying to find someone you want to spend the bulk of your time with that's not a simple process. I know lots of single people who are super social (I was one of them) they flirt, have fun, and go after people they like just at a lower rate than others…
/r/PurplePillDebate03/04/24 06:04 PM
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Its just funny to me how the guys who push this stuff the most are the ones who never had issues with girls. So how can you give someone advice on a situation youve never experienced? You cannot relate at all but are talking as if youve been in their shoes I didn't get laid till my last year of grad school so I do in fact know the struggle. Assuming you're fucked and it's your genetics is just going to make you miserable forever and the reality is (because I've been there) that you're actually s…
/r/PurplePillDebate03/04/24 09:04 AM
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YUP. Every mid-girl thinks she's a dime and if some average guy goes to flirt with them they take it as a personal affront.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/04/24 08:55 AM
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I wouldn't do solo bar runs or anything that takes a certain level of social ability most people don't have. Do things solo during the day. It's good exercise to just walk around random social areas that people go to and you run into a much bigger variety of people. In that scenario if someone's unreceptive you just leave and move on with your day because you aren't just in one bar or club venue trying to make friends.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/04/24 03:31 AM
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yeah I don't do solo bar or club runs. A) because I usually have friends who want to go and B) it's just kinda boring being at the bar or club by yourself, but I go out for walks around town in busy areas by myself pretty much every day I run into so many people, and it's a lot easier to strike up a conversation in broad daylight over something like the person's dog. That and I just really wanted places where I could talk to people who weren't intoxicated as fun as that can be.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/04/24 03:29 AM
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because once you get into that age range there are far more single women than men and as much as they like to spew the "MUH HAPPIEST DEMOGRAPHIC" line if you live in an area filled with them as I do you'd notice just how fucking thirsty and grumpy they are now that they don't have hot dudes lining up to date them anymore. They also usually have ludicrous standards and think they're a catch when most of the dudes they want could easily date several years younger which they do. Any super attractiv…
/r/PurplePillDebate01/04/24 08:58 PM
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exactly the opposite of what most men have been told since they started being interested in women. Especially once feminism became the joke it currently is. If we all acknowledged look, money, status, and the fact that at a primal level we're all very superficial the pill ideologies wouldn't have took off the way they did.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/04/24 08:51 PM
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Women shouldn't be vilified for seeking men who they are more attracted to anymore than men who do the same. Yes but a lot of us have gone our entire lives being told women are attracted to the exact opposite of what the majority go for by women and then have it beaten over our heads about how "nice and respectful" we need to be to get dates. Turns out for most the actual answer was that we simply weren't hot, charismatic and "dangerous" enough for them and that's what we actually needed to chan…
/r/PurplePillDebate01/04/24 08:47 PM
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oh I have. The uglier a girl is the more delusion she is. Pretty women are far more open minded about the guys they want to date in my experience.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/04/24 05:53 AM
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Ugly women are far worse than pretty ones. Some of the most delusional standards I've ever seen and heard came from the lowest of uggos. If anything it's more likely for an atypical guy to end up with a pretty girl because most of them don't think they have something to prove at every turn. I've had far more pleasant interactions talking to girls far out of my league than women below me even when I've been rejected.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/04/24 05:52 AM
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That doesn't mean they were only after you for sex. Think of it from the guy's perspective. He has feelings for you, and while he might value your company and friendship do you really think it's fair to expect him to stick around and "Just be friends" after making it clear he wants more? What happens when you find a guy you like? Women talk all the time about how men aren't entitled to relationships. Well by that same token you aren't entitled to a man's friendship. He's in his rights to break i…
/r/PurplePillDebate01/04/24 05:47 AM
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Well yes, The assumption is that you do that over a couple of dates, but with how quick people are to dump and move on for the smallest thing (men and women even if we lambast women for it more) the whole "meaningful connection" part isn't as common anymore. If anything the friendzone has become a more enjoyable experience because you can form a deep bond with the opposite gender without all the hoopla of both your dating calendars making you go "Hmm is this worth my time".
/r/PurplePillDebate31/03/24 07:30 PM
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sucessful men are also just more in control of their emotions. They have to be. Attractive men are generally expected to be mostly stoic and reality is people don't end up stoic at birth most of the time they just learn to really temper and control their feeling. Also this does happen a lot, because girls are used to being the ones with leverage. When they aren't this scenario ensues because they WANT you in a relationship when the most you want is a FWB situation. You can be as upfront as you w…
/r/PurplePillDebate31/03/24 07:22 PM
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yeah it's kinda crazy the more successful you get with women the less respect you have for them in general no matter how much they'd like to pretend they're "Not as bad as men" as a whole. I had a similar thing where post glowup my opinion of women just started falling off a cliff with the shit I kept seeing and hearing. Not only will Every women flirt with any hot dude that turns you can see very clearly how many are super willing to "Trade up" at the first opportunity if they think they just f…
/r/PurplePillDebate31/03/24 07:15 PM
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Yeah that's just cruel. Like I know women do garbage like this all the time and I've seen it but man I can't fathom pretending to like a girl for "practice".
/r/PurplePillDebate31/03/24 07:10 PM
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This. It also helps if you have single friends with a similar mindset so you can laugh about it later. Some of the funniest talks over a snack or beer tend to be the time jimmy got blowout at the bar by the blonde. If you're just running around cold approaching solo 7 days a week that shit is going to wear on you eventually. Life needs balance.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/03/24 07:05 PM
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It's not just men. The entire generation slightly younger than me (28) is struggling to form any kind of real connection especially after the pandemic. It's just affecting women less because they were always more social by nature. I saw a title once somewhere where it was "The modern man has 0 close friends" and it's very accurate to a lot of guys. You see it on this sub a lot where you bring up the concept of social circle and a lot of the guys here seem to think it's a perfectly normal thing t…
/r/PurplePillDebate30/03/24 11:14 PM
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Dating apps are outright more work than just meeting women IRL at this point the early 2010s era of it being a buffet for everyone who's even moderately put together is over. I just stopped using them because it was a pointless exercise when I could go out and meet higher quality women doing things that were actually fun.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/03/24 07:09 PM
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Seriously. In one of my dance classes there are a total of TWO men in a class of 25-30 people. Even forget things like leagues whenever I go to singles events I've had multiple instances where we were 2-3 dudes in a room full of women. Men can't really complain if they aren't even trying.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/03/24 07:08 PM
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From my experiecne in college and as a south asian who's friends and family are basically all stem people (I'm not). Most high earning stem guys generally lack the social skills and confidence to really pursue women. I've had to borderline throw them at women and make it clear they were into them before they'd so much as HUG as a girl. it's a real problem these days guys just don't know how to flirt and simply put most guys even good looking ones aren't good looking enough to make a girl be will…
/r/PurplePillDebate30/03/24 05:22 AM
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can confirm. Most of my income is passive at this point so I end up on reddit to kill time. Especially when my GF is out of town and I'm in the apartment alone.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/03/24 04:56 AM
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Nah they wouldn't respond the next couple days sober if that were the case. Like I'm not claiming dudes aren't predatory fucks I've had to save enough female friends myself to know it's a dangerously common thing. but pretending that this is a super rare occurrence when it isn't gets really aggravating to listen to. Those same female friends have told me in these occasions how much that girl was into me until the "friend" decided to ruin both our nights. Granted this isn't the exact same case OP…
/r/PurplePillDebate27/03/24 07:20 PM
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every single method is hard. The club is easiest for some men. Harder for others. Bars and clubs are good for me because I'm a very outgoing social person who is also a good dancer. That is literally the perfect environment for me to charm women. Oh and I'm also very loose and funny so my normal energy level is suited to nighttime partying. I have a buddy who is godawful at night game because he just comes off as super serious every time he opens his mouth. Other dudes would have a much easier t…
/r/PurplePillDebate27/03/24 12:57 AM
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the gym is physical activity, and the overlap of "I do lots of physical activity" and "I don't like the gym" might as well be microscopic, and I don't mean professional athlete that's a different ball game. Yeah, some nutty gym bros are unhealthy, but your common fit lean dude with a flat stomach is never "unhealthy" lol that's a comical level of cope. Something tells me you aren't walking around with a six-pack running a 5k every day to talk about how healthy you are and how you don't need the …
/r/PurplePillDebate27/03/24 12:51 AM
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You need a high level of sociability, You need to be able to at least attempt to dance, and you need to preferably have a couple of friends (I've gone out alone but it's a lot more work than it's worth). I have all 3 so clubs are a good time whether I pick up a girl or not. If I didn't I wouldn't set foot in them. The average dude on this sub lacks all three. That and some people don't like the club scene. I have met some great girls at the club, but I'm also a guy who fits with a club/party gir…
/r/PurplePillDebate27/03/24 12:46 AM
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physical activity Duh? Most of the guys saying they don't like going to gym aren't magically athletes or something they're usually white boys with lucky skinny fat genetics who play video games all day but don't become whales like they should. If they were born less lucky they'd be twice their current size. If you do sports or something that's the same shit, but pretty much every athlete also works out because it's just good for you.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/03/24 12:29 AM
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Seriously. I've had girls take my phone out of my pocket to put their number in without me asking before we went back to dancing and these Redditors would still insist the fat friend was being "signaled" to come help out. Yeah right she's just mad no one wants to talk to her. This also doesn't happen when I have wings with me either (we have one that's a chubby chaser dudes a real homie in these exact scenarios).
/r/PurplePillDebate27/03/24 12:27 AM
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also, everyone should be in the gym in the first place. Saying "fitness isn't me" just means you're a lazy fuck. Forget women being a fat fuck isn't good for you period. The problem with "be yourself" IMO is that guys take it as meaning they're a massive catch as is just need to keep trucking along. When the reality is EVERYONE should be improving themselves day by day especially young people under 40.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/03/24 02:30 AM
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it'll take you longer than smoldering direct dude but it also tends to have a better hit rate because you aren't banking the girl find you so hot she sleeps with you immediately. The core concept is you just vibe and talk with a girl (who's receptive any girl who stays and talks with you for a decent length of time finds you attractive enough) until you think she's in a good enough mood for you to push further. My wing and I were having lunch the other day and two girls sat next to us. I think w…
/r/PurplePillDebate26/03/24 02:23 AM
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that fact that this was right under the comment chain of guys going "You can't seduce women they just pick" makes it even funnier.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/03/24 02:16 AM
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Lot of dudes don't believe it, but being the "funny one" can and will get you laid because humor just makes everyone feel good. Especially if you learn to stop giving a fuck and know how to push a girl's buttons. Obviously you still need to look good, dress well etc and be in decent shape but not everyone approaches seduction the same. Oh and you can very much get in girls pants in the short term by being funny if you learn to properly shift being funny into a more serious flirting situation.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/03/24 02:12 AM
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a woman literally told me "If I dance with you It'll end in my divorce" guys just gonna make their own dating lives if you're an antisocial loser that; 's on you. girls are there you just have to make the move.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/03/24 07:06 AM
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it usually tends to be pretty hot sex too because neither of you gives a shit about the other person not liking it which paradoxically means you're both going at it like rabbits
/r/PurplePillDebate21/03/24 06:33 PM
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considering angry hate sex tends to be hot and steamy I'm taking the latter lol. This is assuming the girl is good at it and wants to get off.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/03/24 05:55 PM
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the funny part for me was when I started having good success on dating apps I realized most of the girls off them weren't interesting. I spent ages going "I need to get my online good to get a dating stream going" then when I did every single date I got was boring and the only thing the girl had going for her was her looks. It made me realize I vet a lot harder than I initially thought and it's a lot easier to do when you can actually have a conversation with the girl before asking her out.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/03/24 05:29 PM
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she's not. Florida beach blonde is about as wanted an archetype as you can get. Hell, I'm surrounded by attractive women who all seem to dump their checklist whenever a charming guy turns up. I'm less flexible on my standards than the women I know lol, and I'm in a major beach city in Florida 90% of the population in our age bracket is hot, so it's not like we have slim pickings
/r/PurplePillDebate21/03/24 01:38 AM
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ton of guys don't have a lot going to derive self-esteem from. Middling physique, middling career. Not much of a social circle. At that point, the only thing they got is their biological need to attract the opposite sex. Does every guy derive some of their self-worth from how successful they are with women? Absolutely. We're biologically wired like that it's impossible to avoid. The human race wouldn't be where it is if men weren't constantly trying to impress women. Successful well-adjusted guy…
/r/PurplePillDebate20/03/24 06:51 PM
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I have a friend who has repeatedly said she only wants tall dudes. All I've ever seen her date and hook up with are dudes shorter than me (I'm 5'7). A girl will give you the whole ass checklist but if you can get the right vibe the checklist goes out the window pretty quickly.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/03/24 01:24 PM
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the first thing I'd tell them is get your appearance on point. That's number one on the list. The closer I got to beach lean when I first started cutting the more and more women were receptive. When I'm in full six pack beach mode women will outright hit on me or find ways to "accidentally" be right in my path/eyeline repeatedly.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/03/24 02:19 AM
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it's blatantly obvious 99% of the time. People just want to excuse being fat, especially women.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/03/24 02:14 AM
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ah yes, the classic women "Not all the girls are fat because they're unhealthy" speech. yeah sorry 99% of them are just gluttons. They could be just like their fit counterparts if they put in a modicum of effort like they usually expect every guy to.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/03/24 02:13 AM
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No combination of alcohol and drugs would make me want to bang a fat chick. I'd have to be unconscious and taken against my will. So no it is not all men. Some of us do in fact have standards for the girls we want in our bed casual or not.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/03/24 12:18 AM
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the "average" dude who complains about his dating life on a sub like this 100% has no standards. Well no he has standards but he will drop any and all of them at the drop of a hat if even the most unattractive girl was giving him attention because he's that desperate. Well-adjusted dudes who aren't struggling to even talk to women or land a date will have standards. I have very specific types of girls I go for and so do my friends. I won't ever date a fat chick. Some are looser than others but i…
/r/PurplePillDebate19/03/24 08:43 PM
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oh yeah. It's fascinating to think about. Women are so inundated and bombarded with compliments from men about everything under the sun that they barely remember any of them. Men on the other hand get complimented so rarely be it by randoms or girls they're dating that most of them will remember nice things a girl said to them about their appearance or whatever years after the fact. A guy I know was told he had nice calves about 2 years ago. he still brings it up.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/03/24 08:38 PM
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I've found that taller girls have less hangups about a dude's height when it comes to dating. It barely seems to be a blip for them. I'm 5'7 and have dated all the way up to 6ft. Meanwhile, the super short ones who are barely pushing 5ft seem to demand a dude a foot taller than them constantly it truly makes no sense to me.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/03/24 02:37 PM
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Unless you're truly ugly which is a very small percentage of men and you're not batting comically out your league where the woman's usual is models you won't be "Settled" for. By the sound of it you probably aren't very good at creating arousal. Attraction and arousal aren't the same thing. If the girls are dating they're at least somewhat attracted to you. Women don't really bother dating dudes they seriously find unattractive it's not worth their time unless they're gold digger type who want a…
/r/PurplePillDebate19/03/24 02:31 PM
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it is not normal to be so attached to every girl you try to ask out that her saying no causes emotional turmoil. Yeah, rejection sucks but you don't know these girls that well to be so invested. Some of you treat getting told no for a date like you just got dumped from a 5-year relationship. Being emotionally unavailable is not the same thing as not being ruled by your emotions.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/03/24 02:12 AM
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at 6% (the average portfolio) return that's about 2.5mil in assets. Depending on the career and how much someone is willing to give up other parts of their life it's very much possible to get to that level of assets in your 30s. Not very common obviously (this whole scenario isn't) but it's quite possible.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/03/24 02:29 PM
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Lazy short-sighted people don’t achieve that level of financial independence and stability if they’re truly self-made. thank you. SOMEONE in this thread connected the dots. Like how do you read someone created a net 6 figure passive income and go "Yup zero drive or ambition"
/r/PurplePillDebate18/03/24 02:26 PM
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Tell me about I had to borderline draft a whole canned answer whenever the "what do you do for work" question comes up. Also yeah. I make more than enough money to subsidize my partner to not have to work either but why would I do that before we're married?
/r/PurplePillDebate18/03/24 02:23 PM
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As one of those guys (worked almost 100 hour weeks for 6 years and just tossed the money in investments). Women generally don't care as long you don't come off like a bum. also, this thread has taught me that a lot of people seem to think their random office jobs are some valuable pieces of society rofl. Unless you're a doctor or something you really aren't doing much of value compared to the trust fund kids partying all day. Some middle manager at x company meaks jack squat. Even if I did nothi…
/r/PurplePillDebate18/03/24 02:21 PM
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Beats dating an ugly fat chick who's guaranteed to think she's still dating down somehow.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/03/24 03:55 PM
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Correct because it overwhelmingly attracts loser men who can't land a date and are desperately searching for anything to blame but themselves. The overarching concept itself is just accepting women are even more superficial than men are and looking to improve yourself to the point where you meet those requirements, but that takes effort so most of their time is spent being mad at women for "overinflating their value"
/r/PurplePillDebate14/03/24 03:52 PM
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Not really. Women just don't care about picking mediocre dudes anymore whether they deserve to have those standards or not. The average attractiveness has gone down the toilet so when you run into someone new there's not a high chance you'll find them attractive. This is true for both genders. Red Pill rhetoric can work to help guys but only if they use to make themselves better instead of bitter.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/03/24 03:40 PM
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Tell me about it. Desperate Landwhale chasers making it worse for everyone else by making these girls think men want them. At least most short dudes I see know it's not a trait people want and try to fix everything else. Meanwhile fat chicks got nothing and still think they're 10s
/r/PurplePillDebate14/03/24 12:23 PM
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men do all the time out of desperation. Women not so much Women have a looks barrier if you don't pass it you can be the most charming man alive she won't even entertain your existence. That barrier might go down as she gets older and her preferences change, but generally speaking, the whole "settling" thing isn't something I see all that often if people are dating and happy they're usually genuinely happy. it's not the 50s women don't need to feel "secure" so if they're dating you and being aff…
/r/PurplePillDebate14/03/24 12:00 PM
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it's the experience of most men who've been in the position. Women don't want "emotionally vulnerable" it's one of their usual say one thing that means the exact opposite by action scenarios. Sorry but when multiple women have suddenly lost interest (LONG into the relationship) when I brought up the fact my dad died (and no I did not rip off some mask and go full depression I'm not a psycho) I'm not very willing to listen to the same gender trying to espouse how much they love emotionally open m…
/r/PurplePillDebate13/03/24 10:10 PM
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Women do the same song and dance every time. "I WANT MY MAN TO BE MORE OPEN" he opens up "NO NOT LIKE THAT HE TRAUMA DUMPED ON ME" A man could so much as talk about the shit day he had at work and a woman will act like he's using her as a therapist. Women are allowed to bitch and moan in a relationship. Men are not. Being emotionally vulnerable is for your very close male friends or if you have women you're close to platonically. Oh and the stoicism is only about the man. You're still expected t…
/r/PurplePillDebate13/03/24 09:55 PM
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Not that bad if you live in a major city like me. Since we have a lot of beach culture the women are more willing to keep themselves in shape. Still, way more landwhales than you'd like (actual eye bleach at the beach I cannot fathom woman like that thinking they should wear bikinis) but quite a lot of pretty ones. Outside that though the average woman is fat and unhealthy and doesn't do shit to make herself look better while thinking guys in far better shape than her would want her. Dating isn'…
/r/PurplePillDebate13/03/24 07:33 PM
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as a man? Never unless you want your girlfriend to cheat on your or outright leave you immediately because you "lost the spark" which is code for she thinks you're weak now. I do not give two shits what women will say on this sub or in this thread 99.99% of women expect their man to be this stoic emotional sponge they can dump on and expect him to never do the same. If you have things you need to work through get close male friends or just learn to process them on your own. Unfortunately, as a g…
/r/PurplePillDebate13/03/24 07:26 PM
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Oh it's a incredibly hard journey to actually improve yourself that's why so many guys here would rather complain than bother to do it. Yeah I don't tolerate fat women like some of the more desperate guys I know. Being in shape is a baseline for me it's non-negotiable and I won't even bother flirting if it's not met. I'm not looking for model-thin (I think it's just as bad as Obesse for your health) just healthy.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/03/24 06:07 PM
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it's not that narrow most of you guys just don't bother since whenever the questions of "do you have friends" and "do you go out" get asked the answer is usually a big fat goose egg for friends and "idk I sometimes do random only male hobby" for going out. Like yes we get it boohoo some dudes are more genetically blessed and get more eyes from girls on them. You aren't competing with them. you're competing with whoever happens to be in your area, and unless you tell me you all live in Miami your…
/r/PurplePillDebate13/03/24 03:57 PM
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So why the gum culture is on the rise . and yet obesity numbers keep going up. Hell finding a not fat woman can be a struggle if you don't live in the right areas. Gym culture is not "on the rise" You'd only think that if you were terminally online and thought Instagram was an indicator of real life. The average person is still a lazy fuck who thinks exercise is getting off the couch to get a snack from the fridge. I also have eyeballs I can see the men around me. They're visibly soft, but fun f…
/r/PurplePillDebate13/03/24 03:51 PM
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If it was so easy for every single man to improve they would. They don't. Where do you think the hierarchy comes from? It ain't all genetics. The "average" dude is a fat fuck literally just getting into a modicum of decent shape catapults you up the male hierarchy and guys can't even manage that. It's not even a nebulous thing like practicing social skills it's just "eat less and move more"
/r/PurplePillDebate13/03/24 01:23 PM
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It's part of it. your spot on the totem pole depends on multiple factors around your social circle. If you have a big group of friends and always have someone on call to go out or make a party then you're higher on the totem pole. If you're someone who sits on the fringes during social gathering then whether you have a date or not people aren't going to care that much. I was almost terminally single (by choice but no one knew that) before I settled down but I was still well near the top of my 60…
/r/PurplePillDebate13/03/24 01:21 PM
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I imagine most single men probably don’t go out much Boy is that wrong. how the hell do you expect to meet single women if all your friends are male and none of you go out? Doesn't even have to be clubbing and getting drunk. Seriously some of you guys seem to think women fall from the sky for men who have dates.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/03/24 06:47 AM
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Those aren't the problems lol The real problems are. The "average" dude is fatter that ever while also not that successful, and then they lack the social skills to be able to charm anyone let alone women. The "average" girl has become overweight (a lot bordering on obese and being fed lies they're still attractive) and delusional and thinks that while being fat she can pine for gym bros with 6 packs. These delusions then get fed more by desperate dudes from the first paragraph having 0 self-resp…
/r/PurplePillDebate12/03/24 01:20 AM
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Duh. Both genders are hoping that their partner likes them more than they do because it puts the relationship on easy mode. You have to deal with so much less bullshit when the girl thinks you're dating down for her. God forbid she thinks you're dating up; actual nightmare.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/03/24 01:12 AM
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I've yet to run into a woman who cares whether I'm flirting or goofing around in mutual friend groups. As long as you know how to tell a joke it doesn't matter. comparing it to the holocaust or slavery is laughable though. Some women need a dose of reality.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/03/24 12:54 PM
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When the girl is the one heavily lusting after you instead of the other way around, and yes it does happen. It happens more the hotter you are, but any decently attractive dude can and will have women at some point putting in the extra effort to get their attention. In that scenario, the guy is the one "settling" and has most of the power because the girl is trying to keep him interested and not the other way around. The earliest sign of this tends to be her texting you nonstop more than you bot…
/r/PurplePillDebate10/03/24 04:28 AM
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For everything but kids yes. Look if your partner is the breadwinner and the income isn't passive then expecting them to both work all day and then come home to help clean mess they probably didn't contribute to (since they aren't home all day) is a bit much if you're a stay at home with nothing else to do. Now when you have kids both people need to contribute but outside that if you're a stay-at-home wife or husband you should be doing 99% of the household work especially when people vastly ove…
/r/PurplePillDebate10/03/24 04:23 AM
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to quote multiple girls in my life "I didn't realize you were under 30 because guys your age don't have your social skills" (I'm 27). 20 something dudes seriously shoot themselves in the foot. You have no idea how many women I've borderline thrown at dudes because they were eyeing him and he proceeded to do the verbal equivalent of shitting his pants in public. It's painful. Half your competition in my age bracket is similar to the angry incels on reddit it is not hard to come across as charming…
/r/PurplePillDebate07/03/24 09:27 PM
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yeah it's pretty cut and dry. Men date younger. Women date older. The surplus of women are all 50+ (and all in Florida in the US lol) and the male surplus is all the 18-25s who can't land a date. There's no real 80/20 cabal going on. On the casual sex front you either have the social life to get laid or you don't. I wouldn't even say it's anyone's fault that's just how we're biologically inclined.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/03/24 09:22 PM
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some of these guys need to live a little. I doubt i'd marry the woman (my family might kill me) but I've dated strippers in the past and dating someone who's that free about her sexuality makes for a very entertaining sex life. Which considering most of the guys are mad they can't get laid you'd think they'd be chomping at the bit for.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/03/24 09:19 PM
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It's weird and pathetic if you're doing it just to go meet women, but I've dated girls while traveling. Your dick and eyes don't magically stop functioning when you board a plane and there are hot people everywhere.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/03/24 07:12 AM
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What the fuck is wrong with some of you. There's nothing wrong with makeup when it's not caked on. That's like being mad about a guy dressing well. Oh wait you guys get mad when told to do that too.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/03/24 07:08 AM
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they're mad they won't sleep with them. Older childfree women are some of the most fun people I know they also make great FWBs lol.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/03/24 03:11 AM
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yeah I have a friend who will swear up and down her type is "tall blonde guys" I have seen her date everything but that the last year. Actually, she scared off the one tall blonde guy she did try to date.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/03/24 03:07 AM
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someone gets it. Almost like talking to people and flirting is a skill.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/03/24 03:04 AM
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I didn't exercise for years and control my diet for a six-pack to date a fat chick so I'd stay single. Being fat is a choice and I refuse to date anyone who can't control their weight. The "average" girl being a chubby isn't my problem and never will be. Also the uglier women tend to be the ones with more inflated egos anyway so they aren't even worth talking to. I've had far more enjoyable experiences being turned down by dimes than even spending 2 minutes talking to an ugly girl who thinks she…
/r/PurplePillDebate07/03/24 02:59 AM
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no, it's not. If you're guy it's a numbers game you just keep talking to women until you find one that you connect with. You should be doing all these things for you because it makes you a better person, but if you want to find a LTR as a dude in the current day you need to just keep putting yourself out there and talking to girls. Women are incredibly selective and they will happily delete a guy for the smallest thing so waiting for the "right time" will just lead to you being dateless for exte…
/r/PurplePillDebate28/02/24 07:15 PM
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Depending on other factors that's usually when you start drunk dialing your ex or end up at the strip club, or if you're already out that's usually when decent-looking dudes turn into flirting machines because the male sex drive is a powerful thing and deletes anxiety lol.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/02/24 07:13 PM
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Hierarchy. We're biologically wired to do it and whenever social dynamics change the men who know they're on top will subtly make it clear to everyone else that yes they are still on top. Hence where the banter comes from, and if you're someone who can't handle it we know you aren't worth respecting. It's also just fun. Banter is a thing you do with friends and it's the bro version of flirting. Women do this too. Every social setting has clear people who stand out and people who blend in.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/02/24 09:53 PM
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This is super common. The most common way people meet each other is through friend groups.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/02/24 09:49 PM
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the lower-quality ones do because they get to screen harder than real life would let them. Most girls you'd actually want aren't looking for Mr. right on an app and if they are on the app it's usually to find something casual. Most dating app dates suck and these boring woman want to keep perpetuating the idea that "approaching doesn't work" because it takes power away from them. They want to be able to screen harder because apps are skewed towards favoring woman (especially since with all the h…
/r/PurplePillDebate25/02/24 09:42 PM
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delusional standards. Fat women thinking they deserve a gym bro who makes a 6-7 figures. Boring broke nerdy dudes thinking they're a catch who deserves a 10/10 model. If you lack so much selfawarness you can't notice that shit do us all a favor and get off the dating market so people don't have to be subjected to you.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/02/24 09:37 PM
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correct. Remember that a lot of these men started in the dumpster and may as well have been invisible to women. By the time they've dragged and reinvented their assess most of them have lost what little respect they had for women as whole to begin with and paradoxically they will notice that suddenly losing that respect has given them much more success than doing what they were "supposed to" ever did. like a lot of women have a "hoe phase" these men have a "fuckboi phase" but the phase could be …
/r/PurplePillDebate25/02/24 09:35 PM
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no amount of bullshit studies and data are going to change people. The only thing that probably could would be life experiences that directly contradict whatever pill ideology they like swallowing.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/02/24 09:20 PM
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PPD men find their testicles challenge: Level impossible. It would help if some of the women here didn't start talking about how approaching is a crime every time it's brought up.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/02/24 11:20 PM
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It's not a thing. Lonely dudes just can't fathom that attractive women do in fact like and date men who aren't 10/10 chad for reasons other than looks.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/02/24 04:10 AM
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Oh, it's comical how many perks women get in the workplace by just virtue of having a vagina. I can always tell which ones are the ones that are used to exploiting it because they get really bitchy when I refuse to give them the special treatment they've come to expect. Most of them aren't even bloody qualified for the positions they apply they just expect to get hired for being a woman.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/02/24 04:07 AM
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of course, society does. The women are the only ones who benefit in that scenario
/r/PurplePillDebate19/02/24 10:29 PM
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The best advice you can take to heart as a man is never listen to women when it comes to dating advice. Listen to other men who you know are successful. Also, don't approach is the single biggest lie in existence. It's purported by jealous bitter women who are usually mad that their hotter friends get approached in bars and clubs. Women 99% of will range from indifferent or flattered if they aren't into you that's about all that will happen. Just don't be a caveman about it and learn to read the…
/r/PurplePillDebate19/02/24 10:28 PM
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No, you need to find your testicles and talk to women. Pretty girls date average dudes all the time. In most of the LTRs I currently know the girl is 100% the one "settling". So unless you guys are only going for the standard 8-9 blonde gym girls like you claim you don't it's not the hardest thing in the world to find a date if you're capable of leaving the house and having a social life. The problem most of you have is that you're so obsessed with not being "settled" for that you end up shootin…
/r/PurplePillDebate19/02/24 09:11 PM
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Hah I saw both getting approached earlier that night multiple times. Just because you guys aren't ever going to be approached by attractive women doesn't mean it never happens. If a woman finds you attractive enough she will let you know it's honestly that simple. Dating and attraction aren't about "studies and data" go out in real world and see how women act around men they truly find attractive.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/02/24 02:53 PM
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nah most of them are just delusional about what they can pull long-term. They're convinced that sleeping with the top dude will make him commit over time. Thankfully most women aren't like this but the ones that do exist are both sad and funny.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/02/24 02:44 PM
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It's a common kink for both high-power men and women. They spend 99% of their life having to be perfect and in control that at some point they want to relax and let someone else take the wheel.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/02/24 02:16 PM
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It doesn't even have to be people they know that well. One girl last night physically dragged me away from my friends to chat me up. I hadn't even noticed her before that moment. Also, conservative women will also try to pull you they're just a little more subtle about it. These guys don't seem to understand that if they want pretty girls to approach them, they have to stand out in their circles. Why would a women approach average joe smo and waste their time. I'm not approaching ugly girls to g…
/r/PurplePillDebate16/02/24 09:37 PM
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A woman quite literally dragged me away from my friends at the bar last night. Another one borderline fell on me tits first to get my attention on the dance floor. If a girl likes you enough she'll let you know. If you can't make yourself hot enough to have that happen (grooming, six pack, style, dancing ability) then you need to learn all the other stuff to create attraction with women who aren't assertive or find you hot enough to go pull themselves.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/02/24 09:32 PM
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that's just a good way to live. You only have so much social battery at any given time why would you waste more of it on people who don't give you something of value in return? I do have some female friends but they're the exception not the norm. Why would I waste my time interacting with women constantly who aren't giving me romantic or sexual fulfillment when I could be interacting with my male friends who by and large will have more in common with me and similar interests? So many women say m…
/r/PurplePillDebate16/02/24 09:28 PM
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I will regret asking this, but what moon logic did you use to get "just be young and handsome" from learning how to make social connections? Also, I know 40-somethings that have more social graces than most of the people on this sub, and I wouldn't call most of them attractive so yes it's a you thing. Even butt ugly people manage to find friends so idk what the lot of you are doing.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/02/24 04:07 AM
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I call them socially inept because a good chunk of them say they have no friends so they can't put themselves in positions to meet women. If you have zero friends you are socially inept and don't hide behind "I'm an introvert" Being an introvert doesn't mean you're a goddamn hermit. Unless you live in the middle of honkey tonk nowhere making at minimum acquaintances is not a hard thing if you have any form of social aptitude.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/02/24 10:31 PM
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I usually just ask if they wanna walk my dog with me. Low pressure for everyone involved and well cute dog is the greatest wingman.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/02/24 02:13 AM
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and this is why we have a generation of anti-social idiots. It's not "imposing" to have a damn conversation people do it all the time. Even if we take randomly walking up to people on the street away which seems to every idiot's default on this sub. There are 5000 other locations where you can talk to people. I don't even do it to meet women half the time. I've run into good friends around the city just talking in places like coffee shops. Forget picking up women. men on this sub talk about how …
/r/PurplePillDebate14/02/24 02:10 AM
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Women want a no-fault divorce it only benefits them. The courts are going to side with the wife 99% of the time anyway even if she's the one who cheated or something.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/02/24 08:03 PM
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Day Dates are cheaper, and you have more options for a fun first date I have no idea what people's problems are with them. Like do they want to shell out for a fancy dinner do you think that will get you in her pants? The witness thing is a big red flag though that's just rude unless she was trying to be funny in context.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/02/24 08:02 PM
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The male version of what you described is going to the gym explicitly to get a pump which a lot of guys do. Dudes don't really dress themselves up to feel hot for themselves but they will 100% go to the gym to get that big muscle pump whether they're going out or not.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/02/24 07:57 PM
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You guys need to stop waiting for signs and stop being little bitches. Just go talk to people it's not hard. If they aren't into it step away. Most people if they aren't having a shit day are friendly. I feel sad for people who can't figure out the minute social skills required to just go talk to people they don't already know.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/02/24 07:53 PM
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The only significant penalty they face is that the delusional ones can no longer hook the dudes they want. a 9 or 10/10 in her 20s is still going to be smoking hot at 30 so obviously those women won't have any issues as they age if they don't decide to do the classic and get fat. Most of the time the only reason a woman starts facing issues in her 30s is that most of them didn't have to do shit to look hot in their 20s and then suddenly started having to learn healthy habits in their late 20s an…
/r/PurplePillDebate13/02/24 06:13 AM
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Depends. If they're doing it out of genuine curiosity and to have more stuff in common then yeah. If we're still dating and they're doing it to try and look better then obviously not. It's not an uncommon thing. Lots of people end up picking up hobbies from their partners when you're with someone that often it's kinda inevitable you'd be curious to try what they do.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/02/24 06:10 AM
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I think every human being alive is lying through their teeth when they say "I don't care about looks" Everyone cares about looks to some degree but not everyone finds the same things attractive. I have 0 interest in the standard hot blondes my friends salivate over and people would think that means I don't care about looks.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/02/24 05:02 AM
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if all you want to do is fuck and you pass the looks barrier enough your personality doesn't matter. If you want to date the woman then it matters. Your personality comes into play in a hook-up when you don't pass the looks barrier enough to get immediate attraction but the girl finds you attractive enough to at least humor you. The times you get completely blown out the girl thinks you're ugly lol, or she's having a real shit day either or.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/02/24 04:59 AM
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There are ranges to this. It's not all like the shit you see in porn where your foot is on the girl's head. You can do gentle sensual dominance and a lot of women love that because it's just touching more sensitive areas. Also, sexual preference is a fluid thing sometimes the girl wants it rougher other times she doesn't. Generally speaking though if the women herself isn't a dominant they want the guy to be "dominant" and in charge
/r/PurplePillDebate10/02/24 06:45 PM
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YUP. I love making elaborate dishes but hate cleaning. My GF loves fancy food so our solution just became that she cleans everything whenever I cook the good stuff, which leads to me making the fancy stuff more often. She loves this deal cause I cook way better than her, but that doesn't stop some of her hyper-feminist friends acting like I'm making her do all the work in the house while I sit on my ass.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/02/24 06:41 PM
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But it’s ironic that fat men want thin women oh I've always found this funny. Dad bod dudes going after gym girls like "Bro do you think she's going to pick you over a dude in shape?". Same with the borderline obese women who talk about wanting a guy who "takes care of himself" Also the weight thing seems to be from the whole height mania some women have where they seem to think height is a comparable metric to weight when one can be controlled while the other is assigned a birth and can't be al…
/r/PurplePillDebate09/02/24 06:19 PM
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Men have become addicted to gaming avoiding real life. Become overweight and lack energy to stay fit. this also describes most women though. You can just replace gaming with social media addiction. These same women also have the same standards as the attractive fit emotionally intelligent quality women which is most likely where the whole divide comes from. Most average to lower-quality men accept they're lower. The women don't. If you fulfill all the qualities you expect have whatever standards…
/r/PurplePillDebate09/02/24 04:49 PM
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active social life yes. If you're one of those people on this sub who somehow has 0 friends he hangs out with then no you're never going to run into anyone because you aren't putting yourself in an environment to meet people.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/02/24 02:48 AM
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