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Ugh. I’m in the same place, and it’s fucking awful.
/r/Divorce_Men11/10/25 01:27 AM
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Almost at the three year mark, $280,000 in legal fees and we’re heading to trial. She filed, and she’s the one not responding for months at a time….
/r/Divorce_Men27/08/25 03:06 PM
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Grief demands a witness? How very ChatGPT of you….
/r/Divorce_Men08/08/25 01:58 PM
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Why do we value the relationship with our kids above our own happiness?
/r/Divorce_Men23/07/25 04:47 AM
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This is DEFINITELY a thing. It’s actually good to read the comments. I’ve dated A LOT this last 18 months and was finding myself with a new woman every few days, and realized that it has a lot to do with how safe and comfortable you feel with the woman. The first few times with a new woman were always “I’m not getting there”, but if we were vibing, by the 4th or 5th time I was good to go. No vibe, no cum. I miss the days when I was 20 and could cum just walking down the street… but a good partne…
/r/Divorce_Men16/02/24 03:54 PM
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Oh man, I’m with you. My wife has a viscous therapist who has turned me into a monster, to the point my youngest kid won’t even speak to me. I’ve thought about this a lot. All of this 2023 psycho babble about narcissists, empaths, covert narcissists, gaslighting…. I think it sows the seeds of destruction in BOTH men and women. We just didn’t have this vocabulary before Instagram, and now here we are - everyone is a fucking narcissist.
/r/Divorce_Men17/10/23 12:12 PM
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That’s interesting. Mine started it, then regretted it, but I’m finishing it. I don’t even know how to answer my own poll…
/r/Divorce_Men07/09/23 05:14 PM
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4 years? Why so long? I’m 8 months in and everything is soooooo slooooow….
/r/Divorce_Men30/04/23 03:00 PM
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Tinder is a dumpster fire. Good luck!
/r/Divorce_Men30/04/23 02:55 PM
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Hey… I’m in the same boat. My “wife” did the same shit, and when I would call her out, she would go talk to my daughter after the conversation and “explain” that I wasn’t thinking correctly and to “not be afraid of how angry I got”. Now, after filing for divorce, she literally will not speak to me - and we were always so close. I’ve talked to my lawyer, there’s just not much they can do because she’s almost 18. It’s brutal.
/r/Divorce_Men30/04/23 02:54 PM
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Yes, this. Lawyer can get a court order to force her to release them. Even if she doesn’t have exclusive on the home, you want to get your shit with a minimum of drama, so the lawyer would be the move.
/r/Divorce_Men28/02/23 08:44 PM
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Working out and tattoos are good. I’ve been on a non-stop tattoo binge for 6 months, I look like a self help book. But it helps. Reminding myself to keep going and build that new life.
/r/Divorce_Men24/02/23 04:18 PM
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I’m in the middle of a divorce now, after 29 years. It’s fucking brutal, but the hope of waking up one day with true freedom drives me forward. At what price freedom?
/r/Divorce_Men24/02/23 04:14 PM
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Lots and lots and lots of sex. It doesn’t change the underlying feelings though.
/r/Divorce_Men14/12/22 02:04 PM
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You’re going to have a very limited pool of candidates then.
/r/Divorce_Men14/12/22 02:00 PM
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Finally - the last comment I see is the only one worth space in the internet. Everyone has stories guys - and if you’re divorced and 45 and don’t have kids, what happened? Risks there too. I’m (very) casually dating a single mom - she’s smart, funny, and fucks like a freight train. Hardly someone I would avoid just because she had a kid and then got divorced.
/r/Divorce_Men13/12/22 03:31 PM
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So I am the cheater in this situation, developed an emotional affair with a co-worker over the pandemic which turned spectacularly physical over a year ago. Wife found out about it and filed the NEXT DAY. That being said, here's a few things I've learned: I was miserable in my marriage. She was extremely controlling, and treated me like an ATM machine, with very little accommodation for the man who had given her everything. I knew that if I ended the affair to just be with her, I would find anot…
/r/Divorce_Men21/11/22 02:56 AM
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Dill, I generally love your comments, but this is simply wrong. If you're in a long marriage and you have thoughts, fears, goals, concerns that your wife doesn't give a shit about, of COURSE you will have an emotional affair. With anyone who will listen and who will validate you as a person.
/r/Divorce_Men21/11/22 02:50 AM
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First holiday season alone, it's pretty crazy actually. I took a work assignment for a few weeks in Asia over Thanksgiving (having American-style Thanksgiving with co-workers on Thursday). Christmas will be hard. The oldest is OK, and we'll get together, but the two youngest are firmly in mom's pocket and not even communicating with me, so I'm sure I'll be hiking or drinking on Christmas Day.... It's the price we pay for getting out of relationships we hate. It's good to hear from some of the gu…
/r/Divorce_Men21/11/22 02:41 AM
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This is the best advice in this thread.
/r/Divorce_Men21/11/22 02:36 AM
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Omg thank you for this. The shit I get from my stbx is unbelievable, and I need to remind myself not to give her the hit of my reply. Thank you.
/r/Divorce_Men09/11/22 03:07 PM
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52, mid divorce, mine is scheduled for next Monday. Also, dating in early 50’s is fucking amazing. Women in this phase of life are DTF and not shy at all. Get your vasectomy, and enjoy life. You’ve earned it.
/r/Divorce_Men03/11/22 04:58 AM
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This is great advice. The wife needs to tell herself whatever she needs to in order to not take responsibility for a failed marriage, so she's going to do what she needs to do. You've GOT to move on - get off the socials, find a hobby, chill on the drinking, and work out. It's literally the only way to keep from going crazy.
/r/Divorce_Men19/10/22 10:29 PM
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My oldest sees exactly what’s happening, but even she is so afraid of the STBX that she’s like “good luck with that” It’s horrible.
/r/Divorce_Men18/10/22 06:05 PM
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Thank you, this is my thought exactly. What kind of psycho weaponizes your closest child so that she can just hurt you more and more. Divorce sucks. Why did I get married again?
/r/Divorce_Men18/10/22 06:01 AM
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Speaking as a guy in the middle of a horrific dumpster fire divorce, there's only so much the lawyer can do honestly. Lawyers need to represent both so they can be effective. Mine is a case where she's going nuts, but my guy is like "I've represented hundreds of women like your wife, and this is what we do..." Much more important is finding someone who you feel you can work with. I interviewed about 5 lawyers before I picked my guy, and during that time, my wife kept cranking up the crazy, so I …
/r/Divorce_Men14/10/22 02:08 AM
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I was served by my wife though fucking email, so you can always go that route. The email was from her attorney that said "You're being served, sign and return within 3 days or we'll send a process server." Get your money out, get your stuff to a safe place, get your shit together before you do, because once she gets that, it is ON.
/r/Divorce_Men14/10/22 02:03 AM
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My god, I’m so with you. These last few months I was thinking about it all the time …. Home was tense and horrible, but even with all of that, I didn’t think I could just end the marriage. Her finding shit on my phone was horrible- but it did end it. I honestly think that a lot of men are like frogs in the slowly boiling pot of water - we’re in horrible marriages and we just can’t climb out of the pot. Good luck man…
/r/Divorce_Men10/10/22 05:09 AM
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I was there man. Every fucking day thinking about how to get out of the marriage. You’re in the “maybe” zone and it’s brutal. When my stbx found photos of my girlfriend on my phone, that was it - game over. Attorneys, problems with the kids, it’s a shit show. But if she hadn’t found those pics (my therapist is convinced I self-sabotaged) I would be still where you are - should I? Can I? I’m feeling for you….
/r/Divorce_Men09/10/22 10:37 PM
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First, why did you wait 2 years? I'm dating 2 weeks into filing for divorce. Be free man! Second, you have to re-learn all this shit, so just go for it and see what happens. Online dating is nuts, and you'll just have to figure it out. The sooner the better. Close the web browser and go meet your girl.
/r/Divorce_Men07/10/22 03:10 AM
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So here's the deal - you're essentially an adult. Stuff doesn't always work out, and your parents are going to divorce. You'll be fine. You might even learn to appreciate them more on their own, when they're allowed to be more authentic than they are now. In my family, my wife set the tone on everything, and I'm going to be a better parent now that I can speak for myself. It will be tough for a while, but you'll get through it - and hey, who doesn't love two Christmases?
/r/Divorce_Men07/10/22 03:09 AM
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Listen, go running, watch Seinfeld, but get your shit together. This stuff happens, and it doesn't mean you're not going to have a great life going forward. Take it day by day, and you're going to be OK.
/r/Divorce_Men07/10/22 03:01 AM
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Going through this divorce, I now have a real heart for the challenges men face. In a state like CA, where I am, it's better - but in some other states, the guy is fucked from Day 1. Fathers are important, get it together people.
/r/Divorce_Men07/10/22 02:58 AM
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26% of American men say they've been in an extramarital affair, and I'm guessing that 50% of the guys on here have had infidelity as part of their experience, so yeah, you're shooting fish in a barrel...
/r/Divorce_Men07/10/22 02:52 AM
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It's depressing over there.....
/r/Divorce_Men07/10/22 02:51 AM
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Have of the population in the US could be classified as "narcissist" - you're going to need more than that....
/r/Divorce_Men07/10/22 02:48 AM
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I would kill to do Zoom mediation. The stress of being in the same room with that horrible woman....
/r/Divorce_Men07/10/22 02:47 AM
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I agree with the others here that you need to own your cheating. I get why it happened, but you’re fucking delusional if you think that this behavior could be exposed and your wife wouldn’t be devastated and want to get out of the marriage. There’s nothing to save. No judgement on your cheating - it happens A LOT - but you really need to grow up and own your behavior, accept the consequences and work hard to move your life forward. Good luck…
/r/Divorce_Men28/09/22 11:34 AM
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Yeah, I have a 17 year old daughter that I'm worried about - she's definitely "aligned" with her mom and it's making my life very uncomfortable. It's funny, because I see what you're saying that the Pasta and Wine are her attempt to stay connected, but it's actually the most infuriating part - because she'll do this a day after being savage in an argument, and I'm supposed to just hop on along back to normal. It's the back and forth - the unpredictability - that's driving me insane. And in this …
/r/Divorce_Men26/07/22 08:47 PM
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My god. I can totally picture myself there. You know, this really came about - the thing that jarred me out of my stupor - while watching my dad pass away with my narcissistic mother (who never forgave him for an affair FORTY YEARS AGO) treating him so poorly that it was a huge wake up call. For the first time I pictured myself at 85 - with my shrew wife never forgiving me - making my life unbearable, and it just hit me so hard that I was literally repeating his mistakes. Thank you for your comm…
/r/Divorce_Men26/07/22 08:33 PM
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Wow, someone in my exact situation. Can I ask how your kids took it? I will be the bad guy, no question. Can I ask how you finally made the final leap to ask for the divorce? Was it just an accumulation of things or one big thing that gave you enough conviction to finally make the jump? For me, we will have two days of fighting and I'm ready to come home from work and have the "talk" - then I'll walk in the door and she's cooking some pasta and has a glass of wine ready for me and she's her char…
/r/Divorce_Men26/07/22 05:58 PM
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I actually told her I wanted a divorce 9 months ago, and she freaked out in such a huge and terrifying way, I actually agreed to counseling before making a final decision. First counselor was from her church, and I knew 3 minutes in that wasn't going to work. Second counselor was a woman I found, who we both liked, but by the third session the wife was accusing her of taking my side, and acting like she wanted to hook up with me after the divorce. Third counselor is like 90 years old, and says a…
/r/Divorce_Men26/07/22 04:43 PM
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True. There's costs both ways, no question - no good options here. It's horribly sad, actually.
/r/Divorce_Men26/07/22 04:38 PM
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Thanks man, really appreciate that. If I take the plunge, I'll need it...
/r/Divorce_Men26/07/22 04:35 PM
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My fucking god, this is me. Years ago I told myself to just focus on supporting her and the kids, and I built up such a huge reservoir of resentment I can barely stand the sight of her now. It's hard, because I COULD have stood up for myself years ago, but when you have kids in school, so often you just put your head down and get through it - then when you hit 50, you're too tired to fight it anymore and slide into the misery of old age. When you say it's OK for me to be happy too, I don't even …
/r/Divorce_Men26/07/22 04:35 PM
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Doesn't sound like it based on these replies.
/r/Divorce_Men26/07/22 04:18 PM
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Man, this hits home.... jesus...
/r/Divorce_Men26/07/22 04:16 PM
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My god, thank you. I literally teared up when you even intimated that it was possible to go home and not get passive agressived to death. Also, the idea of paying any price to be happy - that resonates, because the price is very very high. But what difference if a man has everything but can't enjoy it?
/r/Divorce_Men26/07/22 04:14 PM
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