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Fun Fact: Every major speed dating company does it wrong. Data shows that having men sit and women move leads to more matches.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/08/22 05:50 PM
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I couldn't say for certain without seeing you, doing a deep interview, and understanding all the variables. I will say, just based on what you've written here, you don't seem very assertive or upfront with your feelings. A guy who constantly gets "friend zoned" is clearly self-selecting for those relationships on some level. The same thing is true in your case, I'd guess. Feel free to reply or Chat/DM me.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/08/22 04:01 PM
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It's all about perspective. Do you internalize the advice correctly or incorrectly? Do you strawman or steel-man? Strawmanned version of "Be Yourself": Keep doing the exact same things that aren't working, don't bother trying to improve yourself. On and on. Is that a fair or logical interpretation of "be yourself" though? Steel-manned version of "Be Yourself": Don't be fake. Don't pretend to be someone completely different from your true self, especially just to trick someone into dating you, sl…
/r/PurplePillDebate30/08/22 11:40 PM
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Glad you acknowledged Tyrone. XD
/r/PurplePillDebate30/08/22 11:23 PM
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I got nothing. I can't disagree.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/08/22 11:21 PM
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I don't think children make all women happy. I further don't think the lack of children makes all women unhappy. (Two separate, but highly related points.) However, I do think there are more pro-natalist women than not. Pretty sure studies prove this, not to mention observable reality. So if a majority of women want children, that's a relevant data point. Why then do some of these women still end up single? Might have something to do with the "I'd rather be single than settle" phenomenon. Once t…
/r/PurplePillDebate26/08/22 10:31 PM
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This reply feels like it's aimed squarely at my first paragraph but also born out of a failure to read/understand the second.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/08/22 07:38 AM
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The sort of honesty you're talking about runs counter to the psychology of most people, especially most women. They don't want to be seen as capricious, mean or unfair, even if their actions may be fairly read as one or more of those things by outside observers. Also a person's behaviors are often not consciously understood by said person. This again is why people end up repeating the same problematic patterns in their dating life. In a hypothetical world where people were more brutally self-awa…
/r/PurplePillDebate15/08/22 11:06 PM
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Article sounds extremely cherry picked in terms of data and un-nuanced in terms of conclusions. Women and men both benefit from healthy relationships. Women in particular crave, and love, commitment. Men crave connection, whether permanent and monogamous or intermittent and non-monogamous. The big disconnect seems to be that women are less willing to compromise and more willing to be single. Doesn't mean they're better off that way, just means they can accept the resultant lifestyle more easily.…
/r/PurplePillDebate14/08/22 04:53 PM
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This kinda feels like a trap. The beginning of a potentially fruitless argument really. If your starting point is "dating is pointless (except for procreation)," am I supposed to believe you've got an open mind? No offense, really. I just don't want to waste my time or yours.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/08/22 07:36 AM
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You feel how you feel. Just a term of endearment. I do. And I'm just telling you, with equal "love" and respect, that addressing internet strangers in that way is off-putting. I hope you'll actually listen and take that to heart in the spirit it's intended, not take offense or disregard it as my own eccentricity. I'm pretty sure other people have probably felt similar to me, even if they didn't tell you.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/08/22 04:30 AM
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Uh...thanks for the random "love," internet stranger. Maybe just err on the side of addressing me and others in neutral terms though. Some people might find that sort of thing disingenuous and off-putting at best, creepy at worst. Just sayin' Anyway, I don't doubt or dispute that there are problems with modern technology and our relationship to it. I just think the benefits at least equal the drawbacks, if not handily outweigh them. We have access to so much knowledge, support, and other resourc…
/r/PurplePillDebate11/08/22 04:22 AM
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Economics, self-involvement, lack of self-awareness, lack of empathy, plus a certain degree of complacency and avoidant behavior. Dating successfully is like being (and staying) in shape; we all kinda know what's required, but many of us reject it because it's hard and we assume (wrongly) that the juice isn't worth the squeeze.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/08/22 04:17 AM
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I would agree on the economic piece, but I'm agnostic to dismissive on blaming technology. The former grafts well onto observable reality, the latter seems like a lazy, under-baked supposition.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/08/22 04:13 AM
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Do you only use apps? How's your social life?
/r/PurplePillDebate11/08/22 04:09 AM
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Boomhauer has entered the chat
/r/PurplePillDebate29/07/22 05:48 PM
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There's a gendered difference at play though. Male virginity may be stigmatized, but female virginity broadly isn't. 27 also isn't really that old. Focusing on the dating and relationships piece will solve the virginity piece more naturally. Just finding a guy to "break you in," so to speak (forgive the word choice), and bounce? Meh. Probably won't be as positive or mollifying an experience as you're imagining.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/07/22 02:04 AM
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Did you? You're treating virginity as something wrong with her. It's not. She needs to pursue healthy dating and relationships. Having sex will come if, and when, it comes. Your advice is just a gender swapped version of "let's take him to a brothel and get it over with."
/r/PurplePillDebate25/07/22 09:22 PM
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Gotta disagree. Female virginity and sexual inexperience/insecurity isn't as much of a problem, let alone a deal-breaker, for women. She should focus on finding a boyfriend, not just a warm body to get some reps with.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/07/22 09:03 PM
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Take all the advice here with a grain of salt. Some guys will just advise you on how to become the type of girl they want, rather than the type of girl that's broadly successful (and happy) in the dating market. That said, I do see some good stuff here, mostly the general self improvement stuff. Also try to be proactive, not just passive/reactive in courting men.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/07/22 09:03 PM
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I get that. Maybe don't rule out trying again and putting yourself out there down the road. If you have no experience playing a game, you're not going to be good at it (let alone win) during your first few times. Maybe you just need more reps, so to speak?
/r/PurplePillDebate25/07/22 08:42 PM
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For sure. From personal experience, doing something directly rather than just theorycrafting has always changed my view on a pursuit or activity. Just my own little theory here, but I think a lot of people's "problems" in dating boil down to lack of experience and making up reasons why they're unhappy or doomed.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/07/22 08:24 PM
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Think you answered your own question, bud
/r/PurplePillDebate24/07/22 07:13 AM
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