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EffectiveProgram_404/r/askMRP08/09/24 12:15 PM
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Oys 36 Stats: 34 | 333 | 350/365/250 squat-dead-bench orm | one kid | divorced Break-through: I went through a shit ton over the last few months. I dealt with some mental hang-ups and limiting beliefs. I killed some old scripts that don’t serve me. I took the comments to last post like a gut punch. WMP is right. I was a fucking loser. I can’t read my old posts without shame. Everything was everyone else’s fault but mine except it’s my story. I was too busy proving how good I did my OYS. I wanted…
/r/MarriedRedPill25/11/25 10:52 AM
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OYS 35 Stats: 34 | 318 lbs | 6’1” | Divorced | 1 kid (primary custody) Lifts: sq - 140 | ben - 185 | rdl - 235 | leg press - 500 | shoulder press - 40s Weight: Average Cal : ~2400 I didn’t try to cut this past week. My energy levels have been okay but I’m feeling like shit. I added casein as my last meal for the night starting last week. Average daily protein is now around 150 for ~2000 calories. Running: Did a couple more 5k runs. First one was 51 minutes. A few days later I got it down to 47 m…
/r/MarriedRedPill27/05/25 08:23 PM
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I've dealt with some similar issues at a previous job. In the end, the only option was to leave as quickly as possible, executing a career change. After leaving, a bunch of my other issues, that I thought were unrelated, disappeared. That being said, it sounds like you might be bound by some sort of non-compete and NDA. Is there a similar field that you can go into temporarily?
/r/MarriedRedPill25/05/25 01:06 PM
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Reminds me of the meme, “on my way to meet my arranged marriage after getting creampied by my {random not Indian race} boyfriend.”
/r/askMRP25/05/25 12:39 AM
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P1 - sounds like an arranged marriage your dad set up. It also sounds like you haven’t slept with her so “technically” she isn’t a plate. You’re going as far as talking about avoiding your dad because you don’t want to do this. P2 - you’re in her frame. She’s set the terms of the relationship and thinks that you’ll eventually marry her because you’re still around. She is also disrespectful of you and you deserve it. You have haven’t proven to be a leader. You don’t have a solid idea of what you …
/r/askMRP24/05/25 05:35 PM
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No, I don’t really get out all that much. My son lives with me. We’re out of the door no later than 0530. I get home around 1400 and run and lift. Usually finish that up around 4pm. That’s when my son would get dropped off. Then we usually either play in the house or go somewhere until 6-630. Bath and bed gets us to 7:30. Then I’m either firefighting around the house until 10 or studying for a certification exam I’m getting ready to take. I’m pretty much in survival mode. I had to push back drop…
/r/MarriedRedPill21/05/25 08:57 PM
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Heavy running days (over 3 miles running plus neat calories) I burn around 4000. Normal lifting days are around 3200 calories but I also don’t add the calories the lifting burns to my tracking. I don’t suspect it would be more than a few hundred calories.
/r/MarriedRedPill21/05/25 08:49 PM
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Kid is almost two. And yeah, I told her to stop saying I love you to me about a month ago. I kept quiet on that for several months because I thought she was just trying to get something in return. I’m okay to mutual outings with the kid but nothing further. I’m not grasping the frame and boundaries aspect of this. I know that I’m good at conversation but I suck at when it comes to women and power imbalance relationships (such as boss-subordinate). I don’t understand what I’m missing with this. I…
/r/MarriedRedPill21/05/25 08:46 PM
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OYS 34 Stats: 34 | 318.8 lbs | 6’1” | Divorced | 1 Kid Lifts: squat - 300 | bench - 185 | deadlift - 285 (deficit) | Shoulder press db - 40/each Weight Loss: Calories: Tu - 2700 | Wed - 2055 | Th - 2700 | Fr - 2300 | Sa - 2900 | Su - 2600 | Mo - 1508 I’ve been a ton of carbs for running and lifting. Between 190g and 320g. Protein is between 95g and 150g. Most of my cutting has been fat based. However, I have noticed strong cravings after exercises. But generally, it’s for volume as opposed to sp…
/r/MarriedRedPill20/05/25 10:53 AM
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Take what I say with a grain of salt. I had shit frame while I was dealing when my ex was pregnant . About two months after my ex got pregnant, I was dealing with a completely different person. I went from having a sweet, caring, and fuckable wife to having an a person who blew up at the slightest shit or crashed into a depression from a minor comment taken as a negative and hated being touched. I suspect that the hormones just amplified what was already there. That shit is probably why there is…
/r/askMRP19/05/25 01:53 PM
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My fault, I’m 33. I didn’t see this as an argument, more so, I was tired of her talking shit about other people in front of me. I thought I was setting a boundary, which I’m trying to get better at. Is there a better way to do this?
/r/MarriedRedPill13/05/25 06:19 PM
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Oys 33 Stats: weight - 320.2 | height - 6’1” | divorced | 1 kid Lifts: Sq - 250 | ben - 185 | deads - 285 (deficit) | sh press - 40 Weight: Kcals: Tu - 1835 | Wed - 1884 | Th - 2199 | Fr - 2176 | Sat - 1831 | Su - 1262 | Mo - 2343 I ate my ass off over the weekend but I’m shocked at how little there were calories in what I ate. I had home made Cajun food at a friend’s on Saturday. I despise anything from the water. Sunday I had multiple burgers. I made smash burgers that were less than 500 calor…
/r/MarriedRedPill13/05/25 09:38 AM
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First 5k is in 18 weeks and I told two people I respect that I am doing the race. If they have the time, they will probably join me.
/r/MarriedRedPill09/05/25 06:48 PM
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I understand that somewhat. In my teens, I would lash out at any criticism (often causing fights). There’s also the possibility that I over corrected in adulthood, and take too much criticism seriously. But, like OP, I thought I knew red pill and I didn’t need to post my OYS until I was already filing for divorce. It’s gotta be a broken record for people who’ve been here a while.
/r/askMRP07/05/25 06:17 PM
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OYS 32 Stats- 324 | 6’1” | Divorced | 1 kid Lifts(lbs) - Squat 285 | Bench - 210 | 1-Leg RDL 80 | dumb bell shoulder press 35/each Weight: Tues: 2181 Wed: 2102 Thurs: 2930 Fri: 1961 Sat: 2330 Sun: 2230 Mon: 1985 I started to take my foot off of the gas again which I noticed Thursday after finishing transferring my stuff into my log. By then the damage was done and I was up three pounds on the morning after. Thursday was mostly eating out. I felt like shit the next day. I could bullshit and say t…
/r/MarriedRedPill06/05/25 09:32 AM
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If you’re an experienced lifter, you know what you need to do. You’re either asking for permission to do the program you want to do or you’re fucking around. Ask me how I know. Squat, bench, deadlift, OHP, Barbell Row until you plateau with your increase. Then worry about programs and accessory lifts.
/r/askMRP05/05/25 07:31 PM
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I guess I’m not the only one who “can’t smell his own bullshit” that is clearly visible for everyone else to see. Are you afraid of what everyone here is going to point out?
/r/askMRP03/05/25 08:45 PM
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Yeah, I’m working on it. Still not used to being the new version of myself.
/r/MarriedRedPill29/04/25 06:42 PM
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I’m interested in more information about the new plate. I met someone recently that I started noticing the M/W complex. What are you experiencing in regards mentally when you’re think the complex? Mine was more, I could see myself with this one long term and thinking she wouldn’t be into the type of sex I like having because she’s a “good girl” type of nonsense.
/r/MarriedRedPill29/04/25 01:04 PM
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OYS 31 Stats: 325 | 6’1” | Divorced | 1 kid Lifts: Skipped Mondays lifting, ~2 hr cardio Weight: Tues 2026 | p - 75 | c- 151 | f-79g Wed 2176 | 76 | 159 | 93 Thur 2264 | 60 | 140 | 82 Fri 2575 | 154 | 134 | 158 Sat 2197 | 138 | 164 | 109 Sun 2509 | 119 | 191 | 138 Mon 2518 | 118 | 216 | 134 Today’s plan is 1404 | 68g | 64g | 50g It’s already cooked, just needs to be reheated. I may add a protein shake if they’re in stock at the cafe. Last week I bumped up my protein but I also bumped up my carbs…
/r/MarriedRedPill29/04/25 10:46 AM
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I’m sort of bad at abstraction. What I think you’re saying is a version of the Be-Do-Have cycle. Because I been a fat ass, I’ve done fat ass things, therefore I am a fat ass. If I want to change, I have to not be a fat ass (or insert trait here) and do the not fat ass things (like eat less, move more). Is that what you mean?
/r/MarriedRedPill22/04/25 11:18 PM
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I took sometime to digest this thread. This is one of those things that inside of me, I feel there is a correct response but subconciously know there isn't. I'd really love to see you stop suppressing everything and start being yourself. Aside from a couple years in my late teens, it happened once. Not to long after my attempt, I went to a campus party with a friend. I got beligerently drunk off of monster and vodka plus anything else people put in front of me. I started getting friendly with th…
/r/MarriedRedPill22/04/25 09:12 PM
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I did quite the opposite. I threw that bitch in reverse, and did the exact opposite of what got me down to 250. Fast food in large quantities, no exercise, and agoraphobia. By the time I found out my ex-wife was pregnant, I was diagnosed as a diabetic and 435 lbs. I started the relationship at 260.
/r/MarriedRedPill22/04/25 07:24 PM
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OYS 31 Stats: 328.2 | 6’1” | Divorced | 1 kid Lifts: Squat: 230 4x8 | Bench: 185 2 x till failure | Deadlift 225 1x5 Weight: Calorie breakdown since last Tuesday (break down from the app) - 1684kcal p: 43g c: 148g f: 71g - 1802 kcal p: 58g c: 69g f: 44g - 1761 kcal p: 59g c: 86g f: 39g - 2125 kcal p: 157g c: 110g f: 121g - 3109 kcal p: 93g c: 266g f: 191g - 1500 kcal p: 76g c: 207g f: 43g - 2390 kcal p: 97g c: 202g f: 67g This week I’m focusing on reducing the carbs and fat while increasing prot…
/r/MarriedRedPill22/04/25 10:56 AM
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Just took the numbers and ran it through the calculator. Weight: 333 Neck: 18.75” Waist (at navel): 55” % = 40.9%
/r/MarriedRedPill16/04/25 06:14 PM
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Honest answer is no, not before I ate it. And I wasn’t tracking good enough. I logged at the end of the day and wasn’t consistent with filling everything for the day. Some days I missed altogether. It wasn’t the most important thing for me to do so.
/r/MarriedRedPill16/04/25 06:02 PM
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I don’t know how to respond to this. Are you asking me when I’m going to give up again? I don’t know what you mean by broke enough. The short answer is that I’m not. I may not be posting here but I won’t give up. My poor decisions regarding food is why I haven’t lost weight. I’ll go super hard for two or three days with intermittent fasting, shredded chicken breasts, and eggs. Then I’ll fall off for a couple days and try to overcorrect with more fasting because I feel guilty for not being a lowe…
/r/MarriedRedPill16/04/25 02:27 AM
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I changed it and can navigate to it but that’s the same as the last link for me.
/r/MarriedRedPill16/04/25 01:52 AM
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A couple weeks ago, I was going to drop down to maintenance lifts to keep what I have but focus solely on cardio variations. Why do you say 200 lbs. though? My long term goal was 225 lbs. Closest I got was 259 before I started dating my ex wife and suffered a severe injury. I never thought of it but I can see now that I'm doing the same shit now that was plateauing me before.
/r/MarriedRedPill15/04/25 11:59 PM
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No, the overall said that I was at 38% body fat and bmi was 44%. The section on body fat said 91 lbs. overall, with most of it being in my gut and upper legs. When you say vary the heel/toe and back leg, what do you mean by that? Step count is generally between 9k-12k the past week.
/r/MarriedRedPill15/04/25 11:52 PM
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I'd say I'm between the last two on the picture. Here's where I'm currently at . It's pretty rough, so weak stomach warning. As for the tape, I'm down 6 inches in chest and waist since I've started but no change from last week. Edit: attempt three
/r/MarriedRedPill15/04/25 11:33 PM
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OYS 30 Stats: 333 lbs | 6’1” | Divorced | 1 kid Lifts: sq - 285 3x5 | ben - 215 3x5 | DL 235 1x5 Weight: IF has given me severe migraines and sleep issues for the last few days. I’m certain it’s a nutrient imbalance as I haven’t been consistently been taking vitamins and minerals over the last few weeks. I got a bio-impedance body scan through a work event. 336 total: 91 lbs. of fat and 120 lbs. of lean muscle. Water balance is slightly high, indicating inflammation. The PT administrating the sc…
/r/MarriedRedPill15/04/25 12:29 PM
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Why are you focusing on your wife? Have you been lifting? Are you socialable and have a life outside of your marriage? Do you dress well? Are you worth being faithful to? I couldn't find any OYS posts from you in your history after a quick look. Side bar and OYS is critical. Having the anxiety that your wife may be cheating on you is a sign that you value yourself less than you value her. Seeing the comment below where she lives in a completely different state and her behavior, you should conver…
/r/askMRP09/04/25 07:54 PM
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OYS 29 Stats: 335 | 6’1” | Divorced | 1 kid (1.5 y) Lifts: going to address below Going to have to come back to edit the markup. Weight: I didn’t plan out my meals and gained back. I bought a bunch of bs intending to make healthy meals and never did. I know that a failure to plan is a plan to fail. Half efforts and trying to outwork 33 years of eating like shit. Crash dieting too. I’m working on building a list of things that I can eat everyday and stick to that. I have added more fruit and prot…
/r/MarriedRedPill09/04/25 02:19 AM
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Social sucks atm. I was into a lot of social groups in high school but everyone went into military or to prison. I was on track for the latter and completely destroyed who I was to escape it. I was starting to rebuild a social group before I met my wife through mixed martial arts. However, I stopped hanging out with those people. I also hung out with people at car shows but I realized that it wasn’t my scene. When it’s warm, I do take my son to car shows. I don’t mind my former in-laws. They’re …
/r/MarriedRedPill07/04/25 08:25 PM
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Those are earned titles unfortunately.
/r/MarriedRedPill07/04/25 08:10 PM
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OYS 28 Stats: 330 lbs. | 6'1" | Divorced | 1 Kid (1.5 yrs) Lifts: Bench 215 lbs. 3x5 | Leg Press: 450 lbs 3 x 8 | RDL: 60 lbs. 3 x 12 | calf raises: 50 lbs. | DB Shoulder Press: 40 lbs. | Forearm Roller: 24 lbs Back from a short break and a ban. In retrospect, I deserved the ban because I didn't add value. Weight: My weight has been going down slowly. On the low-end I've been 328, 338 on the high-end. My waist is down to 46 inches without being uncomfortable in the pants. I increased my protein …
/r/MarriedRedPill03/04/25 06:42 PM
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Generally 30 minutes to an hour. Cardio is 15-30 minutes rowing or 30min-1hr walking with a weighted pack and an incline.
/r/MarriedRedPill13/03/25 12:04 AM
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OYS #27 Stats: Age - 33 | Weight - 333 | Height - 6'1" | Divorced | 1 Kid Lifts: Squat - 300 3x5 | Bench - 205 3x5 | OHP - paused | 1L-RDL 50 Weight-loss: 7-day average: 2200 kcal Weight: Low 333 | High - 346 | Mean - 339.5 Didn't change much this past week. I did take a few days to eat purely lean meats and not passing more than 50g of carbs for the day. My body seemed to react almost immediately. I ate about 200-400 calories more but still lost the weight. This could be psudeo-science but I ra…
/r/MarriedRedPill12/03/25 08:48 AM
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OYS #26 Stats: Weight: 340 | Height: 6'1" | Divorced | 1 Kid Lifts: Squat: 300 | Bench: 205 | 1L-RDL: 50 lbs Weight-loss 7-day average: 1950kcal/day Weight: low - 338 | high - 346 | mean - 341 I've been all over the place the past week. Just slowly consistently working towards never being fat again. I've been using addiction pyschology to move away from eating and being fat. As an example, its more effective to say I don't smoke instead of I quit smoking. It isn't easy to do something opposite o…
/r/MarriedRedPill04/03/25 09:48 PM
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The four hour nights were nights the kid woke up and I couldn’t get back to sleep or I’d fall asleep in the chair in his room. I have to wear a Cpap mask and without it, my resting heart rate stays above 90bpm. I think my watch doesn’t count an elevated heart rate as sleep. As for calorie tracking, I have been doing a bullshit job at tracking and not being accountable to myself. I can’t have any sort of mobile device on me at work so I was going solely off of memory. My entire feed window is dur…
/r/MarriedRedPill27/02/25 01:27 AM
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OYS 25 Stats Weight: 342.3 lbs | Height: 6'1" | Divorced | 1 Kid Lifts Squat: 250 3x5 | Bench: 155 3x5 | 1-Leg RDL 50 lbs. 2x10 per side Weight-Loss Calorie 7-day Average: Total: 2164 kcal/day 7-day Weight: mean: 343 lbs. high: 346 lbs. low: 342.3 lbs (this morning). I've added my average weight to help tracking like u/Alpha_wolflord9 recommended in my last OYS. I'm taking my weight upon waking up in the morning. I've been carrying a small journal and a pen to write down everything I put in my m…
/r/MarriedRedPill25/02/25 07:18 PM
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I get what you’re saying but saving face has nothing to do with it. I have a home gym. It’s the loss of progress that bothers me. Generally I try to avoid screens and read a book an hour before bed. Room is around 65 degrees, and my bed is comfortable. No light and I covered the window with blackout tape. I also have a Cpap machine that I’m adamant in using. Regardless of what time I go to bed 6 hours later I’m awake or my son will wake me up within four or five hours. When he’s older, I may try…
/r/MarriedRedPill19/02/25 10:29 PM
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OYS 24 Stats: Weight: 344 lbs. | Height: 6'1" | Divorced | 1 kid Lifts: Squat: 285 lbs 3x5 | Bench: 135 5 x 12 | 1-Leg RDL: 50 lbs 3 x 8 Weight and Weight-loss: Caloric intake: 1800 calories/day for the last 7 days according to MFP. I figured I'd start posting my weekly calorie consumption. I was looking back at my old posts, and determined that I need to track the most important things more accurately in my post. The huge jumps have seemed to have settled down. I jumped back up Friday to 349.8 …
/r/MarriedRedPill18/02/25 09:22 PM
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Death by a thousand paper cuts but, this post is a little different. It's basically a rehash of Rollo/Rich saying if you're attractive, she'll break the rules she makes others go through, up to and including cheating, for someone who hits all of the attraction buttons.
/r/MarriedRedPill17/02/25 12:58 AM
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Nah, it’s just another opportunity to fix my broken, fat ass. There’s no excuse to be had here. I also don’t look good with blue hair.
/r/MarriedRedPill14/02/25 08:38 PM
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It’s also a realization that I had issues that everyone else dismissed or gaslit me into believing I was just lazy, trying to get out of doing work. I’ve had most of these symptoms since I was a kid. I never even told my doctor about the symptoms because I didn’t think it was anything.
/r/MarriedRedPill14/02/25 07:04 PM
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I pretty much have every symptom under hypothyroidism lmao.
/r/MarriedRedPill12/02/25 06:11 PM
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Looking back, that could be a reason why I couldn't break past 260 in my mid 20s despite tracking and maintaining a 6-day/week training session. I'm going to look into this more to see if some other symptoms I'm having coincide with electrolyte imbalance.
/r/MarriedRedPill12/02/25 05:49 PM
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Yeah, I’ve added table salt to my first meal. I’ve not noticed a difference yet but it’s only been a few days. I had an elder granola woman recommend I put sea salt in my water to help rebalance my electrolytes but they all came out fine in my blood work. What does the sea salt add?
/r/MarriedRedPill12/02/25 09:05 AM
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Roger that.
/r/TheRedPill12/02/25 02:00 AM
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You definitely need to describe the problem better. Women: You probably have a type that you haven’t identified yet who are very receptive to your style and mannerisms. From the sounds of it, you are also probably attracted to a different type who won’t be receptive to your style and mannerisms. I messed this up in my late teens and early 20’s. I was an urban skater type who was trying to go for country girls. I would have done better with a trucker hat, plaid, and work boots than my skate gear …
/r/TheRedPill12/02/25 01:10 AM
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OYS 23 Stats: 33 | 343.4 | 6’1” | Divorced | 1 kid Lifts: Sq: 330 2x5 1x3 | 135 3x8 | OHP: paused | Deadlift: paused Health: My weight went all the way up to 352 by Friday. On Saturday I started to drop back down. I was severely bloated and retaining water like crazy. I have to retest Testosterone but it’s going to have to take a week before I can go back. The test was thrown out for some reason. Vitamin D was at 18.5. Everything else had solid numbers in the green. My strength is starting to re…
/r/MarriedRedPill11/02/25 09:28 PM
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So, you're filing on a Sunday? You've wasted so much time getting to this point. You have still not STFU. You want to get revenge by rubbing it back in her face or cutting her off from your work vehicle. How is any of this shit helpful? You want tips and advice but you haven't done the work. To the people who give the advice, who've done the fucking work, you want more? from u/WMP_v2 two months ago: What weak bullshit. If your goal is divorce, why not just execute? Why use a weasel mentality? Do…
/r/askMRP09/02/25 03:26 AM
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This is a pretty interesting take on this. My potassium came back as slightly elevated, could that be a sign? My TSH was 1.9, slightly lower than the last reading in 2023. A friend told me to get my T3 and T4 looked at if nothing shows up.
/r/MarriedRedPill05/02/25 09:08 PM
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Yeah, I got everything pulled together. I was mainly worried about having to pay out alimony while having all of the debt dumped on me. My ex had a credit card with a $5k balance I didn’t know about, and we had a $3,000 mattress. I paid the mattress off and only have student loans left about $50k but I make double that a may jump to make triple or more in the near future.
/r/MarriedRedPill05/02/25 09:04 PM
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OYS #22 Stats Weight - 344 lbs | Height - 6'1" | Divorced | 1 Kid Lifts Squat - 230 5x5 | Bench - 175 5x5 | OHP - paused | RDL - 40 Health Issues I have some issues going on with my health. What I wrote about last week ended up being more about health than motivation. I thought I was just depressed and I was being a bitch, needing more motivation. That doesn't seem to be the case anymore. I've lost a ton of strength, I'm losing hair a lot of hair, and I have some brain fog that is accompanied by…
/r/MarriedRedPill05/02/25 02:29 AM
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When divorce? Got a time line?
/r/MarriedRedPill04/02/25 05:51 PM
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Remember shutting the fuck up is free. Crucial advice. Your bitchness is showing.
/r/askMRP02/02/25 07:29 PM
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I’m implying this post has more fantasy in it than a books for women section in a metropolitan bookstore.
/r/askMRP02/02/25 10:49 AM
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Outside of all of the obvious contradictions and bullshit wrong with this post, the short answer is: you're not. If something like this happens to you, you've been dealt a shit card. Your best bet is to take some of that $5 mill and try to find a cure.
/r/askMRP01/02/25 08:42 PM
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I'm thinking the same thing. $5m net worth at 37 plus the ability to bench 6 plates (315 lbs.) is probably less than .1% of the entire world pop. $5m nw at any age is 3% of total population.
/r/askMRP01/02/25 08:33 PM
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You know, I use to think you’d pick specific shit out to get under my skin. It fucking worked, except I realized that you (and horns as well) were speaking to my reality. You don’t sugar coat shit and that’s exactly what I needed to hear. That’s what everyone here needs, but emotions and ego get in the way for most. As for my weight, it’s coming off so slow I felt like not posting about it because it didn’t felt like I earned the privilege to post this week. I think I’m feeling the burnout becau…
/r/MarriedRedPill29/01/25 12:01 AM
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I didn’t even think about laundry service. That would save me a fuck ton of time on the weekends. Housekeeping is definitely on the list. I also have a friend’s daughter who wants to babysit. I’d need to vet her but I hear that she has a good head on her shoulders.
/r/MarriedRedPill28/01/25 09:29 PM
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OYS #21 Stats: 336lbs | 6'1" | Fully Divorced | 1 Kid Lifts: Squat - 300 x 1 | Bench - 200 3x5 | OHP - Paused | One-leg RDL - 40lbs 2x15 Divorce Done. One court trial. I got everything I wanted. It's pretty fuckin surreal that I didn't get my holes reamed out. My lawyer came in clutch with his recommendations for my situation. I got my ex to sign the agreements morning of, and the hearing was held same day. Lifting I wasn't able to push through my squat warm up last leg day. I warmed up with the…
/r/MarriedRedPill28/01/25 08:10 PM
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Reading is apparently the difference.
/r/askMRP28/01/25 01:27 PM
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Adult ADHD is code for “I don’t have a better excuse” to not do the stuff I have to do.
/r/askMRP25/01/25 12:17 AM
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Thank you. I’m fully divorced now. We opted to expedite our case. Yesterday was only supposed to be a scheduling case but they asked if we wanted to see a judge same day due to having a separation agreement and a parenting plan. It was surreal how easy I got off when you hear all of nightmare cases, and the second hand experience between my father and his first wife.
/r/MarriedRedPill23/01/25 10:32 AM
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Hey bud. I’ve filled and fully divorced in a shorter amount of time than you’ve been been asking about this. No one here knows your state/province/country better than a lawyer in your state/province/country. They are going to break you of any fantasy or anxiety you have in your head and give you the reality. STFU, lawyer, file. Quit asking us how when we aren’t in the same situation. The only advice I have is that first movers usually get the advantage. The longer you wait, the more likely she i…
/r/askMRP23/01/25 12:01 AM
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I’m not sure about rice. Potatoes seem to be okay, specifically sweet potatoes. As for inflammation, the affected area is warmer than the rest of my body and painful the entire day. An example is my abdomen feels like all of the muscles are stuck together/tearing until I fully stretch out and take ibuprofen. I’ve never had to put it to words before but it’s been this way my entire life. As of today, I’m single. We met with a magistrate today and wrote up a separation agreement and a parenting pl…
/r/MarriedRedPill22/01/25 09:07 PM
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glycogen storage vs water retention Due to the speed of the fluctuations and amount of the weight gain, I believe it’s water retention. Let’s say on Monday, I have a meal consisting of 150g of pasta and weighed 345. The next day my weight is 351 lbs. The day after it’s down to 343 lbs and the only difference is that I didn’t eat gluten. Muscle definition goes down as well. The inflammation may be completely unrated but it only happens after a solid workout where I eat gluten after. Normal muscle…
/r/MarriedRedPill22/01/25 10:07 AM
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You just do. If you plan it, it becomes a task on the checklist. What kind of boring ass sex would that be. “Ahh gotta cut the grass but I better go initiate with the wife first cause I might get lucky!” Earlier in my relationship, if I felt horny, I’d push my ex against the wall or pull her across the couch and make out with her for 20-30 seconds. Sometimes I’d escalate. Sometimes I’d be a dick and not escalate any further to let her chase. The dominance stuff is something that needs calibratio…
/r/MarriedRedPill22/01/25 04:05 AM
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To be straight up with you, talking to women shouldn’t be your priority. You need to be out on your own as fast as possible. What’s stopping you from moving out today?
/r/MarriedRedPill22/01/25 03:54 AM
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The hobbies you listed are okay if you like doing things alone. I’ve gone to a few maker spaces events and they were fun but not really social. I’d recommend looking at trivia nights at pubs or bars. Tons of interesting people at those. If you’re not into the bar scene, I would say to look at pickup games in your area. You could also look at civics events (political/religious/science) to meet like minded people.
/r/MarriedRedPill22/01/25 03:44 AM
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The hobbies you posted to look into are okay if you like doing things alone but kind of terrible to meet people. I’ve gone to a few maker spaces that put on decent events but most projects are solo and people are “around” if you need help with something. If you are looking at meeting interesting people, look for local trivia nights in your area. It always draws a crowd. If nightlife isn’t your thing, I recommend weekend pickup games for sports or civic events (political/religious/science-based) …
/r/MarriedRedPill22/01/25 03:39 AM
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OYS #20 Stats: ~340 lbs. | 6'1" | Divorced | 1 Kid Lifts (lbs): Bench- 190 3x5 | Squat- 330 3x5 | OHP- 95 3x5 | Single Leg RDL: 40 3x8 Weight Loss: I did my first 24-hour fast from Sunday 4:30pm to Monday 4:30pm. I have a ton of mental deprogramming that I have to overcome in regards to how I approach eating. I don't typically eat meals but always on-the-go/a la carte style foods. I intentionally sat down for my first meal yesterday and ate slowly, enjoying my food. I wasn't able to eat the enti…
/r/MarriedRedPill21/01/25 04:37 PM
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The negative assertion part is definitely something I’ve been implementing. I haven’t had a conversation like that since well before the ex moved out. I stopped caring about her opinion months before we actually separated. As for food, I’ve always looked at it as something I had to do, even when I didn’t want to. My family has some strict societal programming when it comes to stuff like that. Meals were always a social thing. When I got off on my own, I just continued the programming. Aside from…
/r/MarriedRedPill16/01/25 11:28 AM
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OYS #19 Stats: Weight: 340 lbs. | Height: 6'1" | Divorced | 1 Kid Lifts: Squat: 330 2x 5 | Bench: 200 2x4 | OHP: 95 3x5 | SL RDL: 40 lbs 1x20 Reading: The Obesity Code Lifts: I started doing a lifting journal that I fill out on my lift day, immediately after lifting if I can. I try to convey how each set felt and what I was thinking while repping out. It's funny how many times I'll be thinking, "I'm going to die with this rep" or I think something is going to pop or snap and usually end up fine.…
/r/MarriedRedPill15/01/25 04:25 PM
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Look man, if you were really her best option, would she gripe about coming to you? No she would be fucking ecstatic to come see you. You make those sacrifices because you believe you don’t have other choices. So, what the fuck is a conversation about boundaries going to do? “You better come fuck me at my house or else!” That will go over so well. Sidebar, STFU, and lift.
/r/askMRP08/01/25 09:43 AM
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Definitely an interesting experiment to try. Wouldn't eating that much increase stomach volume, resulting in more hunger though? I've been using 95% lean ground for chili instead of 80/20. Dropped from 600 calories a bowl to around 250 with onion and low-fat cheddar and low-fat sour cream.
/r/MarriedRedPill07/01/25 08:27 PM
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Thank you for pointing this out. I need to start a lifting journal again to track consistency. I'm not sure if I should put my rep weight or my 1RM in the lift stats. I'm leaning towards whatever my last lift before the report was. As for my upper body, I'm afraid to tear my rotator cuffs (all 4, both sides) or my biceps tendon again. I've been replacing OHP with dumbbell lifts (Front/Side/Rear delt raises). I feel those lifts are more for show than strength though.
/r/MarriedRedPill07/01/25 08:22 PM
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OYS 18 Stats: 344 lbs. | 6’1” | Divorced | 1 kid Lifts: Squat - 350 | Bench - 195 | OHP - 100 | Dead - 340 Divorce: The meeting with the lawyer is set for next week (Thursday). My first hearing is towards the end of the month. I hope that it will just be one hearing to finalize the separation however, the lawyer I'm meeting with said it's just a scheduling hearing. I've read through both of the recommended posts on my last OYS. I've implemented a few things from the Pre-Empting a DV Charge , and…
/r/MarriedRedPill07/01/25 05:24 PM
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The book you’re avoiding would explain why no one is explaining anything to you. There’s a reason it’s a side bar prerequisite.
/r/askMRP02/01/25 09:29 AM
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Your shit is confusing as fuck. Your wife is clearly attracted to you but you aren’t happy because you have no purpose or thing that separates you as a person from your wife? Ahh so you’re an unhappy dildo.
/r/askMRP01/01/25 09:09 PM
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OYS #17 Stats: 348 lbs. | 6’1” | Divorced | 1 kid Lifts: Squat - 350 | Bench - 190 | OHP - 100 | Dead - 340 Divorce: In the process of contacting and interviewing lawyers who specialize in my county’s divorce law. One I talked to said that I likely wouldn’t get full custody without seeing anything. I thanked him for his email response then moved on. That’s not an option for me. I appreciate the realism but I want someone who believes they can help me get what I want. Especially with all of the e…
/r/MarriedRedPill01/01/25 12:47 AM
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On two, I’ve been pretty naive about everything because of how passive my ex is being towards the whole situation. From my perspective, it seems like I’m the only one who wants the kid. I wasn’t worried about her trying to get anything from the divorce, and have tried to keep things amicable between the two of us. This was more peace keeping bullshit on my part which is why my father chewed my ass out when I told him my plans. I needed to hear it. There’s a chance that I can get fucked over unti…
/r/MarriedRedPill24/12/24 08:05 PM
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OYS #16 Stats: Age - 33 | Weight - 350 | Height - 6’1” | 1 Kid Lifts:: Squat - 320 | Bench - 185 | Deadlift - 340 | OHP - 100 Diet I didn’t make any changes to what I ate this week, hence the lack of movement in my diet. Instead I logged everything. I picked up a food scale to show myself what a serving size was. I had no idea what a serving size looked like for anything I’ve been eating. What’s more shocking is that I haven’t been gaining a ton more of weight. I over consumed in oils, cheese, a…
/r/MarriedRedPill24/12/24 10:24 AM
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Nobody is reading that shit.
/r/MarriedRedPill20/12/24 10:04 AM
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Appreciate the advice but I’m doing okay right now. I recover pretty quick, despite the low-cal diet I’ve been on, and lack of sleep I get. I’ve seen significant improvements in health/strength overall. Just can’t seem to break 350 bodyweight. I since I hit 300 squat, I’ve been alternating between lower weight and more reps and heavier weight and less reps on each workout because of fatigue. My last leg was Wednesday prior to Monday’s session. I probably shouldn’t have dropped the weight and bum…
/r/MarriedRedPill17/12/24 04:09 PM
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**OYS #15** **Stats:** Age - 33 | Weight - 352 | Height 6'1" | 1 Kid | Divorced **Lifts(lbs.):** Squat - 350 | Bench - 185 | Deadlift - 258 | OHP - 100 **Mission** Do main character shit. **Weight-loss** I went very low-cal (under 1,000 kcal per day) from Friday to Monday but only dropped 2 lbs. on the scale. I just need to stop being a bitch, and being anxious about how I'm going to act when I fast. I've increased my water intake to minimum 1/2 gallon of water per day. My step count is up to 8,…
/r/MarriedRedPill17/12/24 09:53 AM
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Why are you here? Do you have a dead bedroom? Did you get told ILYBINILWY? So far there are only vague references to being worried about your future and STFUing. Reading your physical section, it looks like you’ve either had some experience with a personal trainer or are one.
/r/MarriedRedPill12/12/24 09:40 PM
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Your whole mission is about someone else and mostly goals. This is not a mission or vision. Also, what the fuck is habit adherence and why is it a percentage. You do or you don’t. No in between.
/r/MarriedRedPill12/12/24 09:22 PM
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It’s in the name. You spread the sheets to spread the cheeks.
/r/MarriedRedPill11/12/24 12:18 PM
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Type 2. Doc thinks I was undiagnosed for 10-15 years. Caught it in Aug ‘23 when I was > 430 lbs.
/r/MarriedRedPill10/12/24 10:25 PM
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3 weeks roughly. I don’t know if the fact that I’m diabetic, and they just took me off ozempic three weeks ago but those are just excuses imo. If you count the past 15 pounds, 6-8 weeks of very slow decline. Even if I’m over calories, I’m well under the 2 lbs./week Option for MyFitnessPal.
/r/MarriedRedPill10/12/24 07:22 PM
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Smart goals 325 in six weeks (4 lbs per week). Calorie intake under 1800 per day. Walking 12k steps per day (4K more than a normal day unless I do cardio)
/r/MarriedRedPill10/12/24 03:38 PM
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Basal + activity is around 3400 calories burned every day not including cardio or lifting. 23,880 per week. Intake varies between 1500 - 2000 cals on days. I generally keep it under 1800. ~12600 per week. I should be losing between 3-4 lbs/week but it’s not budging. Tape measure and clothing are showing significant changes though. Overall, down 6 inches at the waist and 4 inches at the nips. Clothing is fitting much more loose than 3 weeks ago. Had to size down on pants again.
/r/MarriedRedPill10/12/24 03:35 PM
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OYS #14 Stats: age - 33 | weight - 354 | height - 6’1” Lifts(3x5): squat - 300 | bench - 185 | OHP - 100 | Deadlift - 258 Lifting I’ve been regressing on my bench strength. I was solely performing incline for a while but that wasn’t great for getting stronger in my lifts. I’ve incorporated flat bench again and I’m progressing at a minimum of 5lbs. per session. I added forearm lifts and grip exercises to help me go heavier on deadlifts. The hex bar I have has oversized grips so it’s more of a gri…
/r/MarriedRedPill10/12/24 11:41 AM
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OP: You’re clearly illiterate. How this is going to go down: Him:”I’m gonna sleep in a different room if you don’t fuck me!” Her:”Sweet, now I’m going to get a full nights sleep after rubbing one out to 50 Shades of Cuck my Husband with a vampire, billionaire, pool boy.” See ya in six months 👋
/r/MarriedRedPill10/12/24 12:15 AM
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So don’t and continue to feel like you need a woman’s validation to be your “best” self. We’ll see you in 6 months to 2 years when your wife leaves you and takes your money for Chad.
/r/askMRP06/12/24 06:48 PM
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> Listen if you don’t have it to give then don’t give it. The first part wasn’t some honest, strong, and vulnerable attempt to own your own misgivings, it was an attempt seek parity and play into the score system (her game) that she set out for you. Just STFU. Next time you think you want to say something just don’t. That's the way I've been handling it. I don't try to fight or argue my position anymore. I've have a much better time dealing with her on the days after I get blown up at and don't …
/r/MarriedRedPill04/12/24 02:23 AM
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I don't have any pain in the ankle, it just doesn't feel like it works when I'm doing my 30/30's for running. Oddly for how big I was, the only pain I had load bearing was in the damaged foot after going for distance (3+ miles).
/r/MarriedRedPill04/12/24 02:14 AM
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OYS #13 Stats - Age: 33 | Weight: 354 lbs | Height: 6’1” Lifts(lbs) - Squat: 300 | Bench: 165 | Deadlift: 258 | OHP: 100 Lifting: Finally hit 300 lbs on the squat, 3x5. I had some pain with bracing past 280 so I dropped the weight for a bit. I ordered a belt that could fit around my fat ass. 300 lbs. seemed light compared to 290 without a belt. My legs feel amazing today. Upper body has been regressing. I’ve been doing incline bench for a few weeks now. My Friday session I could get past my warm…
/r/MarriedRedPill03/12/24 11:43 AM
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What’s important to you? Where do you wanna improve?
/r/MarriedRedPill01/12/24 07:18 PM
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This is a better post but you’re still only focusing on your consumption and lifting. I get the feeling that you have a huge covert contract that fixing the areas you post about will fix your marriage and sex life. If you can’t, or don’t want to, kick the drinking and smoking you should quit your journey here. Where I’m from, we called people like you burnouts.
/r/MarriedRedPill30/11/24 02:27 PM
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Don’t tell me to read sidebar, I’ve already done that Clearly, you have not.
/r/askMRP30/11/24 01:59 PM
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Focusing too much on the woman's pleasure is what we want to avoid. That's the whole point of NMMNG. Nice guys focus too much on the woman and ignore or hurt themselves in doing so.
/r/askMRP27/11/24 12:46 PM
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I’m definitely staying focused. I’ll flirt when it’s available but I’m not trying to do anything. I don’t even have a day available for anyone or anything else right now.
/r/MarriedRedPill26/11/24 08:39 PM
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I’ve brought it up a few times. I can’t change this at the moment because of my obligations (kid+work). Some nights I can get things done earlier and sleep earlier. But most of the time I’m up from 4:30am-11:30 pm
/r/MarriedRedPill26/11/24 08:37 PM
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OYS #12 Stats: W - 351 lbs. | H - 6’1” | Divorcing | 1 kid Lifts(lbs.): Sq - 265 | Incline Bench - 160 | Deadlift - 258 | OHP: 95 Overall: Life is going pretty good right now. The past week has been a rollercoaster with having the kid get sick and having to take him to the hospital. I'm starting to have fun. I also have peace now. New experiences are popping up all the time now. I have women, mostly ones that I find unattractive, approach me or stop me in public. The other day, I had a younger w…
/r/MarriedRedPill26/11/24 10:34 AM
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what are you doing for cardio Right now, walking or rucking which is walking with a weighted pack, and usually pushing a stroller for 1.5 miles or more per day. Even though I move at a relatively fast pace, my heart rate doesn’t go over 120 unless I’m rucking. Do you feel qualified to give advice Nope. If someone asks my opinion, the I tell them what I believe and give them my ymmv warning. you’ve already nexted her, time to start living like it I’m not sure how much more I can do to live it. I …
/r/MarriedRedPill19/11/24 09:26 PM
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Pretty well covered in the rational male. Did you read the sidebar?
/r/askMRP19/11/24 06:33 PM
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Roger that. I’ve never looked at the interactions from that point of view.
/r/MarriedRedPill19/11/24 05:58 PM
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Filed two weeks ago, separated two months. Sunday was a surprise invite from my ex-FIL and wasn’t planned. I keep the ex out of the loop of everything unless I include specific instructions. Still working on the DEERing. I need to put a trigger in my brain for when I’m starting to explain things.
/r/MarriedRedPill19/11/24 05:57 PM
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Got a good laugh from this.
/r/MarriedRedPill19/11/24 05:51 PM
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OYS #11 Stats: W - 355 lbs. | H - 6’1” | Divorcing | 1 kid Lifts(lbs.): Sq - 255 | Bench - 155 | Deadlift - 208 | OHP: 95 Lifting: I’m still working back up after deloading to switch programs. I’ve been sick since last week so I’ve been battling not wanting to lift at all and struggling with even my deload weight. I’m struggling with the reverse lunges and incline bench the most. Next time I do lunges, I’m going to film myself because I feel like I’m off balance, even when holding on to somethin…
/r/MarriedRedPill19/11/24 10:25 AM
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You’re not owning your shit though. You’ve only been posting about your lifting and reading. It sounds like a huge covert contract. Lifting and reading won’t save your marriage or get you new women. Have you applied anything from the two books you read? How has your wife responded to you STFU? Have you quit smoking weed? Have you tried to fuck your wife instead of your hand? Did you get denied or laid? What’s your body fat %? How’s your hygiene? Style? Teeth? Is your house in order? People here …
/r/MarriedRedPill13/11/24 08:11 AM
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Why are you here? You can read books and lift weights without telling people.
/r/MarriedRedPill12/11/24 09:27 PM
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I think you were right though. I need to incorporate fasting or exercising while fasted. I'm not burning as much as I was scale wise in the beginning. The positive is that I don't look like a overfilled sausage in 3XL anymore.
/r/MarriedRedPill12/11/24 09:18 PM
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My bad, I put the wrong weight in. I’m 357 as of this morning. What I get for rushing this out.
/r/MarriedRedPill12/11/24 05:28 PM
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OYS #10 Stats: Weight - 357 lbs. | Height - 6’1” | Divorcing | 1 kid Lifts(lbs.): Bench - 155 | Squat - 290 | Deadlift - 258 | OHP - 90 Marriage: I filed the divorce paperwork last. It should come back this week. I haven’t seen my ex since last Tuesday. I got a bunch of pictures of the festival but was never asked how our child was doing over the last week. I think this behavior is further cementing my sole custody case. I had a conversation with my father about all the things my ex was doing. I…
/r/MarriedRedPill12/11/24 04:01 PM
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Time and money are my limiting factors right now. I’m looking at taking a job where my income will jump from $90k to $140-$160k, in a VHCOL area. I’m legally obligated to stay my current position but I’m told I can break the contract if I pay back what they paid me for my degree. I am moving away from cars for the time being. I might try to find a cheap motorcycle to fix over the winter and trade that for a decent Jeep Wrangler in the Summer to take off-roading. Some things I wanted to do are: O…
/r/MarriedRedPill12/11/24 01:08 AM
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Yeah, I wasn’t close to my 1rm so I figured I’d be okay without warming up. I also have gone heavier than that without warming up. My 1rm for bench (200 lbs) was done cold. I’m surprised now that I didn’t hit snap city again. I was heavy into fitness before my wife and girlfriend prior to her. I stopped doing everything and made them my personality, especially after I tore half my arm off at work. I was in a deep depression in the years preceding them. I stopped living for myself around 2008. I …
/r/MarriedRedPill11/11/24 09:22 PM
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The Future: I wrote out what I want/where I want to be over the next ten years at the behest of my therapist. I want to be healthy, ~12%-15% body fat, living in a small/midsized house with land and a detached garage where I can work on my cars and build out my home gym. I want to have a net worth around $2m USD with no debt but mortgage. I don't want to enter another LTR but I'd like to date freely without choosing the same people I've been choosing. I want to run a bunch of 5k races and do some…
/r/MarriedRedPill06/11/24 02:25 AM
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OYS #9 Stats: Weight - 359lbs. | Height - 6'1" | Divorcing - | 1 kid Lifts(lbs.): Squat - 290 | Bench - 175 | Deadlift - 258 | OHP - 85 Where I'm at mentally: I've been using this forum for a hit for validation. The being told what to do made it easy to shut off my own mind and say, "Once I am/am not (strong/fat) I'll have everything I need to start dating again." I didn't realize this until I sat down and started writing my goals at the recommendation of my therapist. I have never perceived mys…
/r/MarriedRedPill06/11/24 02:25 AM
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The only thing I’m truly confident in, is my lifting. I asked for a form check to put my money where my mouth is. I wouldn’t put up a bullshit number if I couldn’t back that shit up. It would be a waste of time for me and everyone else here who’s commented on my stuff. I wouldn’t be taken seriously. I already have enough of that with being fat. That being said. I think I can tighten up my form as the push part of my exercise, my right side rises a hair slower. My core could be stronger, I think …
/r/MarriedRedPill29/10/24 07:04 PM
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Would you be willing to form check me?
/r/MarriedRedPill29/10/24 06:30 PM
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OYS # 8 Stats: Weight - 366 lbs. | Height - 6'1" | Divorcing - | 1 kid Lifts(lbs.): Squat - 270 | Bench - 170 | Deadlift - 258 | OHP - 85 Weight and Health: No scale movement this week, but 366 at the time of posting. I'm still maintaining a caloric deficit and logging everything. My clothes are quickly becoming oversized again as my 3XLT tees are starting to sag past my elbow. Measurements on Sunday came out to down 6 inches at the waist, and 2.5 - 3 inches at the neck. I know with what I'm doi…
/r/MarriedRedPill29/10/24 03:22 PM
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Yeah, tracking everything in MyFitnessPal. Average has been 150g of protein per day. Average 80g fat and the remainder of my 1500 calories come from carbs usually consumed after lifting or a long ruck. Goal is 200g of protein (just under half of my calories) but I’m having trouble getting that in. Burning around minimum 800 calories in exercise per day, according to stat tracking.
/r/MarriedRedPill25/10/24 08:16 PM
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>Very insightful. This is probably true everywhere in your life. I think it is starting to be the paradigm. I hurt, I'm tired, I have nothing left in the gas tank, but I can't stop. I refuse to stop. When I stop, I lose the things that I love. That's a better motivation than anything I've ever felt before. >This shit takes time and you won't see any difference if you just skipped breakfast for a day or whatever. Make sure you're eating enough protein and sleeping a lot if you're planning to take…
/r/MarriedRedPill23/10/24 02:11 PM
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OYS #7 Stats - Age: 33 | Weight: 364.8 lbs. | Height: 6’1” | Divorcing | 1 son Lifts(lbs.): Squat 255 | Bench: 180 | Deadlift: 228 | OHP: 80 Weight-loss: I stalled last week but I’m back on track. I’ve been cooking meals but with how limited my time is, I either need to spend a day meal prepping for two weeks or use one of the meal prep services for one or two meals per day. I also resumed my cardio after healing for a bit. I’ve started intermittent fasting, which has been effecting my glucose l…
/r/MarriedRedPill22/10/24 02:49 PM
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OYS #6 Stats: Weight- 372 lbs. | Height - 6’1” | Divorcing | 1 kid Lifts: Squat - 245 lbs. | Bench - 175 lbs. | Deadlift - 158 lbs. | OHP - 70 lbs. Reading - No More Mr. Nice Guy Fitness/Health: I messed up pretty bad this past weekend with eating. I didn’t track what I was eating until the end of the day, and over ate Friday and Saturday. Friday, I had 2800 calories and Saturday I had 3250 calories of bullshit fast food. I let shit I can’t control get to me again and in defiance, I lashed out a…
/r/MarriedRedPill16/10/24 12:08 AM
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I've been losing about 4 lbs. a week, so about 12 lbs. Your comment about the HMV reminds me of the Be - Do - Have matrix that I found in a business group. You have to be the person who does the things for what you want to have. I was looking at it from a mixed perspective though. Do - Have - Be. If I put in the work, I'll have a good body and I'll be a HMV. Except my perception is slightly flawed.
/r/MarriedRedPill09/10/24 07:05 PM
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Down around 30 lbs in the since Sept. 1st, give or take a pound. I was barely exercising before. Now I’m going hard 3-5 times a week. I squat 240 lbs for 3x5 now. 220 lbs. was my highest squat before and it had been several years since I did it. I’m actively dressing better and talking to women where I avoided both before because I was, “in a relationship”. I’m cooking for myself where I use to predominantly eat fast-food or order from DoorDash. I’m sitting at the table for meals with my kid. In…
/r/MarriedRedPill09/10/24 06:06 PM
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She presented you with her game and took the hook. You are full of shit by the way you do care. I do. I should have just left it alone and gone about my day as normal. As much as I want to stop it, if someone intends to self-delete, they're going to do just that when I'm not around. My anger is definitely kicking in around this. Not just at her but my desire to be Capt. Save-a-Ho
/r/MarriedRedPill09/10/24 01:55 PM
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I believe this is the area of my life where I could outdo everyone and scale up. What's stopping you? It's easy to say scale up, but it isn't easy doing it. I helped scale a housekeeping business to $10k/month but they refused to hire more people and eventually lost customers for being late to jobs and then doing a piss poor service. Don't talk about scaling until you know what you need to maintain scale. Additionally, I’ve been thinking about starting a second business on my own, but I’m not ev…
/r/MarriedRedPill09/10/24 02:04 AM
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You definitely hit the nail on the head there. I don’t think psychedelics are a negative and would encourage them to anyone not involved with any of the three things you mentioned without being at least two years out from applying for any of those jobs. A good friend of mine put his life back together and is thriving after ketamine therapy.
/r/MarriedRedPill09/10/24 12:20 AM
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Navy method says I’m 58% using an online calculator but I could be off on either side. I’m looking into getting a DEXA scan soon. Just need the money. I’m already in therapy. I have my next session next week. I should probably try to stop avoiding it and just bring up my damn childhood. I read bits of what to expect when you’re expecting which covers up to one year I believe. Not really great information imo. My experience has been completely different from the book.
/r/MarriedRedPill08/10/24 06:06 PM
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Thank you for that. I’ve understood that for a while but definitely trying to work through it still. Would love to try psychedelics but can’t due to my current career path. I’m going to look into EDMR, it looks promising from a quick glance.
/r/MarriedRedPill08/10/24 04:57 PM
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I don’t understand the passage about it in the first part of the book. I didn’t enter in to 2/3rds of my adult relationships to look good, and the partners usually didn’t display behaviors that I would try to fix until much later. I entered into them due to genuine attraction. The first adult relationship I had was like that though. It beat the shit out of me emotionally. Is this a subconscious attraction kind of thing?
/r/MarriedRedPill08/10/24 04:45 PM
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OYS #5 Stats - W: 368.6 lbs. | H: 6’1” | Divorcing (6.5/2.5) | 1 child (1 yr.) Lifts(lbs.) - Sq: 240 | Bench: 175 | Dead: ? | OHP: 105 Reading: NMMNG Fitness: Progress is slowing on lifts. I'm starting to hit failure on several of the lifts. I failed 175 lbs. bench Friday and 110 lbs. OHP the previous Wednesday, both on the 3rd set. My protocol is repeat the weight next session if I hit failure. Two failures and I drop 5 lbs. I am looking at substitutes for the OHP. I had partial tears on all fo…
/r/MarriedRedPill08/10/24 01:56 PM
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They are absolutely contradicting ideologies. I’ve started laying down the framework for full divorce before my brain tries to do the easy, comfortable thing.
/r/MarriedRedPill02/10/24 09:06 PM
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These days it feels like every fucking sentence from me is DEERing. I don’t know how to stop. It feels like it when it’s not even a situation that I need to DEER for.
/r/MarriedRedPill01/10/24 11:21 PM
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I don’t disagree but I don’t think an ounce of whiskey was my problem. My problem was eating fast food for every meal when my wife was in the picture. I believe that we spent near $70,000+ on DoorDash. I have also been militant in tracking my caloric intake, knowing I had some room that day for it. Would 71 calories of protein been a better choice? Yes. But, I wanted a small bit of something I stopped having seven years ago and made the changes to accommodate that choice.
/r/MarriedRedPill01/10/24 10:12 PM
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At the time I wrote it, I believed it was an afterthought. But you may be right about me wanting to know why. I’m probably also thinking that my judge lives in a glass house of bad behaviors. Though, I’m not here looking for validation. No one here knows if anyone is doing what they say they are doing. I’m here because no one points out a stupid thought process like an anonymous person on the internet. Which I thank you for point out that it was bothering me, at least subconsciously.
/r/MarriedRedPill01/10/24 09:34 PM
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video/skull crushers I’ve been using a loadable ez curl bar. Watched the video made me notice that I’m tucking my elbows in because my shoulder width is about the same as the bar. Thank you for sending that. helping STBX comment I stopped being Mr. fixit for her problems about four years ago after I wrote a resume for her and it went unused and nobody hired her. This time I was asked sincerely for help(I used to try to fix everything without being asked), I had an interest in the subject (I’m go…
/r/MarriedRedPill01/10/24 09:28 PM
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My bad. Editing messed up. It was more of a rhetorical question. Nothing is wrong with me having a small drink with food that’s why the conversation changed.
/r/MarriedRedPill01/10/24 04:21 PM
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I could see how that looks like a problem if taken to excess. I cut some other things out to make room for the ounce of whiskey. I’m down almost 50 lbs since the middle of June.
/r/MarriedRedPill01/10/24 02:55 PM
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OYS #4 Stats(lbs) - W: 373 | H: 6’1” | Divorcing (6.5/2.5) | 1 child Lifts(lbs) - Sq: 210 | Bench: 165 | Dead: 135 | OHP: 110 Reading: NMMNG | Shawn Smith Fitness: Failed my final sets of OHP and Bench this OYS. I’m going to stay at 110 and 165 respectively for the next session I perform those lifts. Lifting was interrupted on Monday by my son being dropped off 10 minutes early. Didn’t get a chance to finish with my one-arm rows and skull crushers. I’m having some intense elbow pain that lasts f…
/r/MarriedRedPill01/10/24 12:28 PM
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I appreciate the clarification. I'm not doing a full starvation, although I know I can. I'm focusing on getting quality protein as the main source of calories. I'm getting around 150-200g of protein per day on average. I'm trying to make permanent changes to my lifestyle and losing a bunch of weight from starvation is going to create a negative enforcement. I will use water-fasting to break through plateaus though.
/r/MarriedRedPill25/09/24 04:46 PM
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Hey, you’re probably right. Most of my weight loss has been over the last four weeks, right around 4 lbs./week. So I’m falling short by about 20% of my goal per week. It is a pretty dumb goal if I’m trying to gain muscle. Although I’m not sure I understand what do you mean about mediocre lean gains?
/r/MarriedRedPill25/09/24 12:59 AM
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On mobile so this may not go well. so you can’t Shut your fucking mouth except when it might actually benefit you Yes. If I put my phone down and engage in something else, I can STFU unless it bothers me. The most successful thing I’ve done is when I feel the need to respond or explain, I take the kid for a walk. The times that I have DEER’d it’s been over text, usually in response to intense emotions. Since this is a pain point for you I’ll give you some cheat codes. Thank you for this. I’ve fe…
/r/MarriedRedPill24/09/24 01:10 PM
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My bad, forgot height. I’m 6’1”. Coupled with poor diet and a shit ton of sugary drinks throughout my teens and twenties. I was also physically inactive for several years. Even more so when I stopped work to finish school.
/r/MarriedRedPill24/09/24 12:48 PM
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OYS #3 Stats: Age - 33 | Weight - 379 lbs. | Separated (6.5 Tot. / 2.5 Mar.) | One child - primary custody Reading: WINSNIFG - audio | The Rational Male - text This OYS is covering my two-week Rule 9 ban plus Sunday and Monday of this week. The week that I got banned, I was acting like a little bitch, and was following everyone else’s ideas for my relationship but my own. I fell into their frame and believed that the relationship was salvageable. Early on in my relationship, I stated that the tw…
/r/MarriedRedPill24/09/24 09:31 AM
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From her perspective, it was abusive up until we started dating. I think that analysis may be blown out of the water. He was a teacher for over 30 years so personality defects like that wouldn't have made for a long career teaching small kids.
/r/askMRP22/09/24 08:31 PM
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That’s definitely a good theory. This person was a random from a Facebook group who sent her a message. She is definitely attracted to her friend though. Unrequited though.
/r/askMRP09/09/24 05:31 PM
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I’m leaning to this partially because of how things went down. But I’m sure if the right straight man gave her attention, she would have taken it too.
/r/askMRP09/09/24 12:15 AM
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Straight answer would be engineer brain and weaponized autism. Something happens for a reason, and I’d like to get to the root causes. This is only because I want to know the answers. Sounds retarded because it is. I’m also interested in the underlying psychology behind this variety of cheating but, I know that not everything has an answer.
/r/askMRP08/09/24 11:20 PM
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My wife doesn’t really have a social circle. She has one friend and a bunch of loose acquaintances through work. Introvert is a good description which explains why this was a long distance/social media fling.
/r/askMRP08/09/24 04:49 PM
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One real friend. Other than that, she avoided relationships. Her friend is pretty woke but not as bad as the rest of the area we live in.
/r/askMRP08/09/24 04:48 PM
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I was solely using it for protection. You can’t control a person’s actions or desire. Papers didn’t stop her from reciprocating interest before, so papers won’t stop her from reciprocating interest after. The assertiveness comes from not tolerating the life we had before and during the emotional affair. Holding myself to a higher standard and not accepting bullshit effort from either of us. I gave a time frame - 6 months separation is required in the state for an uncontested divorce - if there i…
/r/MarriedRedPill07/09/24 09:31 AM
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OYS #2 Stats: Age: 33 | Weight: 387.2 Lbs. | Height: 6'1" | Separated (6.5 years, 2.5 married) | 1 Kid Lifts (1RM): Bench - 200 Lbs. | Squat - 220 Lbs. | Deadlift - 340 Lbs. | OHP - 140 Lbs. Progress: Down 7 Lbs. from last week. Still lifting but I haven't felt as strong. It is definitely taking more time to recover from the soreness. I increased my step count by 3k steps per day. Goal is to hit 8k per day then once my legs catch up, I'm going to add another ~3k steps to my step goal. I'm findin…
/r/MarriedRedPill07/09/24 04:15 AM
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Alright. Brass tax. Got MyFitnessPal installed to track meals. Weight goal is 350 in 10 weeks. Setting my step goal to 8,000 steps per day and doing cardio (rowing) after the rugrat goes to bed or rucking after work. Not worried about sex at all. I’m worried about not living to see my kid graduate high school or being able to chase him once he’s mobile. Should I keep progressing with lifting, or should I just focus on conditioning doing the cardio and calisthenics?
/r/MarriedRedPill02/09/24 07:46 PM
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I wanted to be angry at your comment but you’re completely right. Before I met my wife, I was doing things that had me in the best shape of my adult life after years of negligent and ignorance of what I was doing to my body. I stopped all that due to my injury and to cater to her. I’m sure this created an unhealthy codependent relationship. Not trying to make another excuse. Just reflecting. I could have kept running or taking long walks. I could have kept eating the same way before I met her. W…
/r/MarriedRedPill02/09/24 11:12 AM
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You are right. When I was at my lowest adult weight (260 lbs.) I was measuring everything. Maintenance calories right now is around 3300. The last few weeks I’ve been around 2800. Since yesterday morning, I’ve only had about 1200 calories. I have no appetite and had to force myself. I have been on Ozempic for two months. Doc said that my glucose numbers were screwed up and recommended using it. It brought me down from 6.5% to where I’m at now. As for the protein sickness thing, I made myself sic…
/r/MarriedRedPill31/08/24 02:33 PM
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My vice was sugary energy drinks. I dropped 30 lbs. within a few months after quitting them. I’m sure that’s what made me diabetic. I’m almost to pre-diabetic levels now. Slow going though. 5.8% A1C from almost 9% in one year. Diet plan now is lean meats and whole carbs. Occasionally I’ll have a fatty cut of meat and other fats to make sure I don’t make myself sick. Sticking to around 1 - 1.5 lbs. weight loss per week. It should be easier now that I’m not catering to what another person wants to…
/r/MarriedRedPill31/08/24 01:38 PM
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OYS #1 Stats: 33, Divorcing, 1 child Height: 6'1" Weight: 395 lbs. Current Lifts: Bench - 200 lbs. Squat - 220 lbs. Deadlift - 340 lbs. (with straps) OHP: 140 lbs. My Story: I have been a lurker here since 2020. I didn't suffer from the lack of sex but I have had quite a few experiences with being cheated on in monogamous relationships before my current relationship. I wanted more help and information on managing long-term relationships. I still read the majority of the side bar and the recommen…
/r/MarriedRedPill31/08/24 02:50 AM
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