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| 1 | Aparna from Indian MatchmakingYes, see my comment somewhere above. I think she has a long way to go however. Her choice of an astrologer displays her lack of insight. She needs a therapist and perhaps a psychiatrist. But I think she isn’t ready to be challenged in ways where she may be the one who doesn’t have total control. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/08/22 10:45 PM |
| 1 | Aparna from Indian MatchmakingI don’t think seeing an astrologer is what she needs—she needs a therapist. She needs to be challenged in an evidence-based, structured way, like CBT. I also suspect she is repressing many feelings given what her mother said, “they just said, ‘yes mommy’”. Repression underscore larger issues. As a psychiatrist, I can’t dx someone who I haven’t evaluated but generally, someone who displays such clear tunnel vision, black/ white thinking, + chronic dysthymia ( her affect and the “negativity” repor… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/08/22 10:42 PM |
| 1 | Aparna from Indian MatchmakingIt isn’t that she is ‘too picky’ but that she is pejorative and elitist. She also lacks insight. The line, “I don’t have to grow, evolve, compromise or change to be in any relationship’ is quite telling because she is basically saying, “I just want someone just like me”. Its okay to be alone, but its unrealistic (and shallow) to assume that you superior to most people. Her mother isn’t helping. Enmeshed relationship, poor boundaries. If and when she does marry, I suspect her mother will triangul… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/08/22 10:28 PM |
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