ElCuervoMiguel Archive

Upvotes	Title	Category	Author	Subreddit	Date (UTC)
3	Pick up men, for girls. How to? Some literature	Resources	ElCuervoMiguel	/r/seduction	30/09/20 11:14 PM
1	The concept of ALPHA is created for men, not for women.Do not be an ALPHA to hit on girls.	Fundamentals	ElCuervoMiguel	/r/seduction	21/06/21 12:10 PM

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1	She told me "You make me happy & I talk about you all the time"...now she's VERY distant...Where did I fuck up? Ok, way long but I read most of it. Short answer: IMO the point is not what she does, but what YOU Wanna do with the girl. You can't keep someone's feelings in stanby, expecting a total balance. This girls will obviously made her moves in the meanwhile: sometimes TOWARDS YOU (and she did a lot) and sometimes AWAY FROM you (as she is doing now). Which of the two directions is winning? I don't know and I do not care. Do you care? -yes? you should stop pissing in your pants,dude, and decide you wan…	/r/seduction	13/09/21 11:25 PM
1	How do you ask for her number/social media/...? Ok dude. First of all: there is not that much vibe in the story. If she is pissing you off, just stay chill Then, just find a funny way yo deliver the question: example "shall we share numbers? So we can stop meeting by chance and go out for a beer" or something similar. -be prepared to a YES: do not freak out, and stay calm "that's great. Text me the next time you pass by" Be prepared to a NO: "ok, just let me know if you change your mind"(smiling) Be prepares to PUSH a little bit:"you don t gi…	/r/seduction	13/09/21 10:10 PM
1	Reddit is anonymous, so no need to lie: be honest and tell me. How old are you? How many girls have you had sex with/dated through cold approach? In what time span? And how attractive do people consider you? 36, had 11 girls (3 serious, 5 casual dating, 3 extra-curricular dating. 10 hetero, 1 LGBT). Lost virginity at 24 yrs old(with one of the 3 "serious) dates). Until 29 I was an average frustrated chump. I had girls when girls decided they wanted me. Then I put some effort, and I result very attractive to women, and I started deciding which girls to hook. This is how I see myself: Muscles:low Alpha male attitude: low Carisma: medium-high Cocky-fun:high Know when to strike: medium-high.* *I was "ve…	/r/seduction	01/09/21 08:20 AM
1	Have any of yall splitted the bill? do as atx1211 says. Excellent advise. Your goal is making good time, not buying it. And for doing this you don't need to do extraordinary things. I used to take girls on places I already knew, that meant something to me, and that I wanted to share with them. Be it a cozy picnic place, or a nice town, or a bikeride in the woods.	/r/seduction	12/07/21 09:55 AM
1	What are some challenges of getting into seduction for the first time in your 30s? I did lots of things worse than that, trust me ;-) And girls did much worse things to me.	/r/seduction	09/07/21 09:55 PM
1	I’m too nervous to kiss a girl until the very end of the date and ask to kiss them how do I stop being so scared? First kiss can be difficult, yeah. Why? Because you are disclosing your cards. So a big ingredient is: disclose your cards before. How? Just let her know you like her. You feel good with her and you want to go further. If she stays, a kiss is just natural. then there are practical tricks: example: you sit on a bench in the park, late in the night. you keep with chit chat, but careful! you are not there to entertain her. So at a certain time stop talking. Look for physical contact (arm around her…	/r/seduction	06/07/21 05:17 PM
5	I FUCKING APPROACHED AGAIN I do think you played it well, man. Really. sometimes you are just nurturing your future. If she gives you her phone number/fb name, you gain If she does not, then just tell her"So, see you again on this bus. Do you often get this bus, do you? Because I do not. It was a pure hazard that you met me!" And leave her for the next time.you meet her.	/r/seduction	21/06/21 06:22 PM
1	Any "beta" or traditionally non-masculime men here who are successful with women? Dude, Alphas are not so trendy anymore. Men are hypnotized by alphas just as much women are mesmerized by Disney princesses. The storytelling has changed. I am not an alpha. I am trendy, sensitive, intellectual and cocky when needed, well in shape without being masculine, and I have always had troubles in being respected by "alphas" But Girls do love me. Even lesbian ones!(and those will never sleep with an alpha, for sure). So forget about alpha,beta, just pick up the al0habet letter you are. A…	/r/seduction	17/06/21 08:09 PM
5	Mission 1: I approached 5 women and asked them for time. At the beginning, I used these tricks -ask advice to shop assistants." Which trousers do best suit me?" "I have a date and I want to be cool! But I really suck at choosing clothes. Can you help me?" "I would like to choose some lingerie for XXX(immaginary girlfriend, hot birthday present etc...)". -ask directions. Many girls will just pick out their mobiles and show you (tell them you forgot your one!) -when you are in a disco, pretend to be the official photographer [photogrqpher trick]. Push g…	/r/seduction	20/12/20 11:29 AM
0	Recommendations Needed Everyone will have his favourite. My one is undoubtedly, absolutely "The Game: penetrating the pick up artist society", by Neil Strauss. Then you can also add, of the same author, "The rule of the game". Why? "The Game" is not a how-to manual. First of all it is a wonderful tale.It's an autobiographic novel, which also shows some how-tos and tricks. This for me was very important, for several reasons. it creates an excalation from doubtful curiosity, to empathy for the protagonist, to engagement…	/r/seduction	17/12/20 12:40 PM
3	Hey there, girls always say that “they don’t see me in that way” whenever I’m trying to date or fall in love, how do I make them see me that way? Avoid the friend zone. Once I had a beautiful chat with a beautiful girl. This is what I tought. "She laughed, she smiled, I did it great!". Actually she was looking for a speed date, and she clearly told me that I was "a very good entertainer" (and no more). You don't want to entertain girls, neither by showing out nor by listening to their endless pains with their lives(ex boyfriend, relatives, etc...). Don't just be funny, be cocky funny. Don't be just emotional, be also ironic and cinical. D…	/r/seduction	13/12/20 06:39 PM
1	How can I go about being more open and easily talkative I see there is a lot of psychology behind your question. That's good, because it suggests where to start working from. There is a lot of meat on the fire. -forced adaptation (talking of topics that do not really matter to you) -weak "reality modification"(asking for directions is one of the funniest things: you do not need a reason, since people will tell you the way to go to "mandarin plaza" anyway, but you can fill your request with unwanted details) -concern on the emotional.connection rather…	/r/seduction	10/12/20 08:06 PM
1	How can I go about being more open and easily talkative Hi. Even if the moderator has removed it (correctly), I do not care. The moderator is right however. To help you, we need to get some more inputs. Some questions: 1-Do you mean talkative with girls only, or talkative in general? 2-Lot of men are not talkative at all, and leverage on this to increase their mistery (which believe me, it works!). Now the question is: do you want to become more talkative because you are shy anda associate talking with becoming less shy? Or are you simply looking for…	/r/seduction	10/12/20 07:58 PM
1	Girls loose interest after talking for some time Interesting point. It is VERY broad, and you may need a lot of introspection to cope with it. Example: a female friend of mine has the same problem. After the first 1-2 dates she can not keep the connection high enough to go on, so she is dumped. I have never seen her in action, so I can not spot her weakness. She is cute, but she is not the standard gorgeous prototype, so a little bit of chemistry is neededto gobeyond the first date. She fails in chemistry, and I think this your problem as well…	/r/seduction	16/10/20 11:55 PM
2	You can't logically convince someone to find you attractive. A comment on the last sentence. I do not think that giving something yo have something back is just matter of being a nice guy or not Often it is something deeper. It is our need for approval. And we often are willingly to do anything for approval sake, without even realizing it. For someone, this lead to manipulation. For someone else, this simply leads to miss his/her own true aspirations, flawly following someone else's footsteps. It is not just a matter of being a nice guy. It is a matter of…	/r/seduction	11/10/20 10:15 AM
1	Is it better to be disloyal to your girlfriend whom you met when she is in her late 20's? More context, plz. What is your concern and what would you expect to compensate by being disloyal? Do you fear she is "higher valued" coz you are younger and less sexually experienced?	/r/seduction	05/10/20 10:15 PM
4	What is a good simple job that allows me to interact with a lot of people to practice social skills, eye contact, and speaking to overcome social anxiety? Waiter/cashier taking orders. Salesperson in a dress shop giving advice Tourist information, library assistant. Try to attend places where people are smart/nice/polite/happy because they amuse(ticket service at theatre/opera, assistant to rides for children)rather than places where.people are in need (hospital, post office,supermarket) Amything where you assist the others, but without the chance of negative professional vibes. Consider different ages if you think this might help you(children, ol…	/r/seduction	05/10/20 10:01 PM
1	F4M Even better. Welcome onboard;-)	/r/seduction	05/10/20 09:17 PM
1	F4M Anyway, welcome onboard;-)	/r/seduction	05/10/20 09:15 PM
2	Giving a girl space works Ok, but wait...it is a matter of time scales, isn't it? I am talking about days (2-4). If someone disappears frome the radars for more than one week, than he/she is not interested right now. If you pixture this scenario I agree with you.	/r/seduction	05/10/20 09:05 PM
2	Giving a girl space works Love that. This simply means you have to behave yourself a little bit more. I call it text diet You write only1outOf2 text you would like to. Or even 1out of4. do this for 2-3days then relax (go freely). Of course, be natural: I never interrupt a spontaneous chat on smth. text diet used to make me write better stuff and increased the tension on both sides. The reason is simple: it looks like you are into something, and she perceives the fact that you are sharing your precious time with her.	/r/seduction	05/10/20 08:56 PM
1	She Wants To Be Dominated Maybe. Sometimes. By the right man.	/r/seduction	05/10/20 08:44 PM
1	F4M Hi man	/r/seduction	05/10/20 08:37 PM
1	How to hook girls that pet my dog on walks? No pickup line is good untile you practice and test it. I would start by giving clues, and looking is she rises to the bait. -Do you REALLY like it that much? I borrow you for his morning walk, so that I have to stop get up so early in the morning/for his night walk, so I can see my favourite TV serie/supermodel at ework/introduce fasfinating interest i may rent you for a ride, I can do cheap prices for my cutest clients;-) **I would him/her let come with you, but without papa he/she starts…	/r/seduction	05/10/20 05:39 PM
1	Escalating sexually You do not have to talk about sex, you have to "communicate" sex. All your body, your behavior can do that, without actually saying a word (if necessary). You have to make her understood what your intentions are. In other words: give her the chance to blow you off. Reach that limit and go past. You do not do that because you are afraid of. It is matter of training. The more you know a girl(as a friend) the less you want to "waste" her by missing the shot(if she dumps me I will loose A friend and…	/r/seduction	04/10/20 09:47 PM
2	I feel like nothing I say is actually Interesting. What can I do to be better? I agree. But we are social animal, dude. If you can't solve a social problem...just go more social. But in a friendly context. I would mix all these ideas -positivity/self confidence -creativity/vocabulary And I would add a theatre workshop, if you are really desperate. A workgroup, where you do exercise with other people, using body,words,creativity. You will be fueled by others' ideas, but unlike in a pub you will not be overwhelmed by input. You can copy,replicate,improve,get feedback. No mor…	/r/seduction	02/10/20 09:27 PM
4	How do you make the questions on a date sound not like an interview Wonderful answer!!!⬆️⬆️ In addition to this I'd just say: do not focus on questions only. Use whatever can create connection. Gossip, chit chat, comment about the skinny man with the red umbrella who just entered the pub. Everything. Keep it short enough not to be boring, unless she is really into that.	/r/seduction	02/10/20 09:09 PM
2	Why is it that I have way better luck with strangers than I do with people I’ve worked/gone to school with? The Holy Bible says "no one is a prophet in their own land". I think this is told for a reason. We grow with certain beliefs -about the world and about ourselves-, which are strongly dependent on the context. We all have stages in which we are model builders( we are curious, we lcreate opinions, discussions), and stages in which we are model defender (we hold our positions). Such a mindstate involves both onself and the surrounding people. In a new situation sith stranger, both you and stranger …	/r/seduction	02/10/20 08:24 PM
1	Just random questions Is her emotional baggage about her relationship? If so, the scenario is totally different. I would post a dedicate question on that and start a new discussion...	/r/seduction	02/10/20 08:05 PM
1	Pick up men, for girls. How to? Some literature Thank you for sharing your opinion. However the focus of the topic was about links, people, coaches. Not speculations. This just to keep it packed;-)	/r/seduction	02/10/20 07:14 PM
2	Pick up men, for girls. How to? Some literature This is an interesting point. I have collected (as a man) some statistics across Europe. And it turns that the scenario is quite variegated. Take the same person, put her/him in different cultural context (we are talking about fully formed persons, not teen agers;-) and they will have different impact. So... nope. I do not think it is bullshit. Perhaps we should just better agree on the meaning of "independent"...just as gray, a word has 50 shades.;-)	/r/seduction	02/10/20 07:02 PM
1	Just random questions There are two kind of support. Operative (=giving hints and advice, spot errors) and Emotional (=being empathic, listening). In most of cases, when people comes to us with their pain, they do not want us to spot their mistakes. They want emotional support. Just the fact of listening quietly, can be important. So by listening you are doing something. Sharing your experience create connection. So do not give advice, but tell about your past stories. Even if they are diffetent, let her find the lin…	/r/seduction	02/10/20 06:52 PM
1	Just random questions Some theories say: not validate girls. Go negging instead. I only partially agree. It depends on what is the ego of your target. We all assume that women are self confidrnt and snooty. This is not true. I use validation and negging carefully, often I use both of them at the same. I neg AND I validate (in different situation during the date). This proove that YOU lead. If she looks for validation because her ego is low, you can give her. Then neg her a little bit to remember that ia not gold all …	/r/seduction	02/10/20 06:44 PM
-2	Just random questions Hi atticusishe. Obvious answers are: 1) obviously not 2) apply Gibb's rulw#52(more or less): if you think she's looking for validation, then she's looking for validation:-) More practically: 1)A conversation shall be a dialogue. This involves input and output in boths directions. If this is not happening, one of the two is using the other one. Temporary suspension of disbelief is possible. How long? 1 date, no more. 2)Be generous. Always provide social validation, and observe the reaction. Givin…	/r/seduction	01/10/20 11:01 PM
1	Pick up men, for girls. How to? Some literature Good starting point!	/r/seduction	01/10/20 06:12 AM
1	Pick up men, for girls. How to? Some literature Btw we are talking about "inner game" not physical limitation, mr Mystery;-)	/r/seduction	01/10/20 06:11 AM
1	Pick up men, for girls. How to? Some literature I do not agree. It is not way too broad: it asks for literature. If any member of the community asked me on books on seduxtion I would instantly give him 5 must-read titles changin his life. Time answer 1 minute. Tooe effectiveness. If covere a lot: good. How to recover affectively the result? I expect that the person/bot who is bannin me has the metrics who can help me to find the answer. The rest is a nonsense. Please re-admit the post. If not I will post again, with this complain included. We…	/r/seduction	01/10/20 06:09 AM
1	Pick up men, for girls. How to? Some literature Thank NDex. But I fear that will not be enough even if you are totally right. She's 34, so she's getting "old". As we all know, the market turns at that age. And if a girl wanna ride the market she needs to master her inner game. We do have a lot of books on that. Isn't there anything for women?	/r/seduction	01/10/20 06:02 AM
2	I complimented this one girl on her photo and she responded “thank you💋.”What does “💋”mean? Nothing. It s like flares on a F11. You look at kisses, wonder what it means, ask us, we answer you, we all waste a lot of time thinking it's important. And in the meanwhile, she's gone;-)	/r/seduction	30/09/20 11:43 PM
5	Which dating coaches are legit? Couldn t find a better reply!! I am impressed. On the top on that I can also say: find someone to go through the process. A wingman, a confident, someone in the community. Do not work alone. The secret is: State your commit. And to do that, either you are strong and perseverant enough, or having someone will help you. Start with easy goals. Process yes, event no. I will keep it in mind;-)	/r/seduction	30/09/20 11:30 PM
4	Pre-covid London street approach Great report and great story. And If a story sounds good to be told, it will also sound good to happen again. Or to make it happen.	/r/seduction	30/09/20 11:20 PM
2	There is no seduction techniques I like your PRINCIPLES. But IMO TECHNIQUES are also possibles. It is just a matter of definition. Personally, I would just define as TECHNIQUES(or lines or TACTICS) those behaviors which help you engaging your PRINCIPLES. Matter of schools. Your one is certainly more fundamental. Did TECHNIQUE (or "technology" as it is sometimes called) work for me? TERRIBLY And PRINCIPLES? Also ;-) Thank you for sharing.	/r/seduction	30/09/20 07:17 PM