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Oh sure. Cronic contradictions: no matter what I say, how irrelevant or how important, I was always contradicted. I say left she says right. I say sushi she says pizza. On and on and on. Gaslighting: the ability to fabricate a full believable story while making eye contact. I would find later it was a lie. Minimizing: no matter what I did it was not good enough. The SMIRK!! Oh this one here. When you get totally triggered and they give you the smirk !!! Oooohhhh. This one here is downright scary…
/r/Divorce_Men27/08/25 08:08 PM
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True. Not always always Congratulations your case went the right way. Unfortunately yours is an exception, not the rule. By far guys get screwed the most. Happened to me and to many others. All the best in your new life.
/r/Divorce_Men27/08/25 06:42 PM
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Oh right. Not a big fan.
/r/Divorce_Men27/08/25 06:37 PM
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Oooooh yezzzzzzzzz Yes yes yes Maybe I will write more on divorce lawyers another time. Not today.
/r/Divorce_Men27/08/25 06:31 PM
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Congrats on finding a new life - well done ! From The Matrix Take the Red Pill and you see reality Take the Blue Pill and you will wake up tomorrow living the same life not knowing anything else.
/r/Divorce_Men27/08/25 06:29 PM
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Yes exactly. This is the exact same script that repeats over and over again. And then again and again. I have a good idea why you married her and why you are still there. The only thing I would encourage you to reflect on is your words: “That’s my lot” Is it yours? Why is it yours? How it became yours? Are you sure it is your lot to keep? All the best
/r/Divorce_Men27/08/25 06:26 PM
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Oh I can sure relate. Think machine language programming It is the low level programming we all get in childhood Reflect on it and search for parallels in your present. All the best !
/r/Divorce_Men27/08/25 06:22 PM
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I found language to be very important. The words and the story we tell ourselves will make us or break us. You can also say that you are in a new journey to re-discover your authentic self, discarding the story others imposed on you. Others stories are the illusions that traps us…. The Truman Show AKA Your Hero’s Journey starts now. All the best.
/r/Divorce_Men27/08/25 06:20 PM
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Oh yeah for sure. I am a big fan of AI and use it all the time. I had the same question too. Is coaching dead ? In my opinion, the answer is no AI is an amplifier of knowledge, the secret sauce is in the prompt. While AI can give you great advice on rules and regulations, it still cannot intuitively read a spectrum of human behaviours and unify them into a coherent divorce story. And during divorce we don’t get the answers because we have no idea what to even ask!! At any rate I love producing c…
/r/Divorce_Men27/08/25 03:07 PM
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5 years, a. Ton of money and way more than just one lawyer I was given a ton of really bad information, and got to learn a lot about lawyers. I became a coach after, to help guys cut through the BS.
/r/Divorce_Men27/08/25 01:48 PM
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Thank you for sharing this story. It is great. I’m glad to hear you’re doing well. There is a lot to unpack, but I’d like to put the spotlight on this: “she even told me I was strong and was going to be ok, yeah they are heartless.” most men do not speak their truth because it is going to hurt someone else, thinking that we want to keep peace, that it is better to not stand our ground for fear of consequences. The statement above represents many women. It just shows how men and women operate fro…
/r/Divorce_Men27/08/25 12:52 PM
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Seems to be almost always the case
/r/Divorce_Men27/08/25 11:41 AM
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According to psychologists experts on this. Stats are 10% of alienated kids manage to wake up. The other 90% go to their graves believing dad was an absolute monster
/r/Divorce_Men26/08/25 07:13 PM
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True. The lawyer can’t help but they sure can stretch it as long as possible, and that is the risk. Lawyers already know their settlement offer will sync while in transit. They just do it as a cash cow manoeuvre. Very profitable for them
/r/Divorce_Men26/08/25 07:10 PM
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It will not be easy and not simple. You are either divorcing a narcissist, or a sociopath. I think a narc. Lawyers and other professionals will be giving you terrible advice. This kind of divorce is different and professionals do not like getting dirty, they just want the money Sorry but there’s no other way to put it, she’ll want divorce blood. Use AI extensively !
/r/Divorce_Men26/08/25 07:07 PM
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It is 100% a free for all. Judges have a ton of discretionary power and are not obligated to follow the rules. Divorce is nothing less than 3D chess.
/r/Divorce_Men26/08/25 03:06 PM
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Yes. This is correct and everyone need to know this
/r/Divorce_Men26/08/25 01:11 PM
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All good points I think 99.9% of us have no clue what is happening. The lawyer says: LEts zEnD aN ofFeR !! We say: oK No clue what is happening. We don’t know is a lawyer’s cash cow at that time. Thanks to Reddit everyone is catching on
/r/Divorce_Men26/08/25 01:10 PM
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Nice to hear about success stories. Nice work
/r/Divorce_Men26/08/25 01:04 PM
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I wrote a divorce book. A work book of sorts. Listed on Amazon in case you are looking for tips
/r/Divorce_Men26/08/25 02:35 AM
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I agree with you on that. My opinion on lawyers is not a good one now.
/r/Divorce_Men26/08/25 02:06 AM
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That would be a pretty good guess, but not in this case. To her credit she retained one of the most corrupt high conflict lawyers, a narcissistic lawyer, in town, ON CREDIT!! The lawyer did not charged her any fees and promised her to clean me out and only collect after the fact. A way to look at this arrangement is that the lawyer worked on contingency, if you will. Something you never hear in divorce world. I was a frogs hair from ending on the streets..
/r/Divorce_Men26/08/25 02:04 AM
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I can relate. I overstayed by many years, mainly because of kids and some of the worst advice that I received. She made me pay the price in divorce and nearly took me out.. today I am the alienated targeted parent, so there’s that. Today, no regrets, divorce was the only solution. There’s a price for staying. There’s a price for leaving (in your case it may likely be a high price) Stay, and lose your soul Leave and at least you have a chance at getting it back (long journey ahead) Decide on one …
/r/Divorce_Men25/08/25 09:34 PM
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Just the fact that he said it’s cheaper to not use his services and pay alimony, tells me he may very well be the lawyer for you. Trust me, plenty of lawyers out there who will reel you in over a case you have no business fighting, and vice versa, lawyers dropping cases that should be fought. 1st option is far more expensive. Divorce industry is not kind to men. Pick your battles wisely.
/r/Divorce_Men25/08/25 08:11 PM
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Divorce is the highest stakes casino in the universe where the only winners are the lawyers. All you can do is do as much homework as you can to hedge your bets. Judges have a ton of discretionary power that allows them to do almost anything they want, so common law looks more like a suggestion to them than the rule. So when someone says to you "the law says this and that and therefore you should get this!!" well.. take that with a grain of salt. Truth is that the real battlefield in divorce is …
/r/Divorce_Men25/08/25 04:17 PM
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I agree. One of the 1000 things I didnt know about divorce is that judges have discretionary power and pretty much can do as they please. In one of my court dates the judge muzzled my lawyer and did not allow him to present my case. Brutal.
/r/Divorce_Men25/08/25 01:29 PM
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Thanks for this. My kids are in a very similar situation. Interesting point is that my divorce took 5 years. Very messy, she almost cleaned me out, I am today the alienated parent. I can only pray one day they wake up.
/r/Divorce_Men25/08/25 01:25 PM
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Texting instead of calling her family would be in order. I think a 5s time investment if writing and sending a text is fine. Hopefully you will get a response ..
/r/Divorce_Men25/08/25 01:05 PM
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That is a great tip ! Never heard that one before
/r/Divorce_Men22/08/25 06:42 PM
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Agree. That is real good
/r/Divorce_Men22/08/25 06:40 PM
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That is a really interesting point!. Never thought about it that way.
/r/Divorce_Men22/08/25 04:10 PM
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Thanks! That helps, and I would say those are pretty valid reasons. We can always hope and pray that those who leave before us are in a better place now.. Mind my asking? How did your wife become someone else?
/r/Divorce_Men21/08/25 06:28 PM
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Do you know if it surpasses ChatGPT? Has anyone done any tests on this?
/r/Divorce_Men21/08/25 06:25 PM
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Oh boy! I got stung by my lawyers multiple times, so I know the feeling of betrayal. What your lawyer did there really stinks. Good to hear you got another one fast. Many people get stuck with the same lawyer thinking they cannot get another one. Nice to hear you had a good outcome.
/r/Divorce_Men21/08/25 05:05 PM
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Oh nice !
/r/Divorce_Men21/08/25 05:00 PM
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AI is a great tool now. Maybe not completely replace lawyers but I could say AI is a fantastic paralegal
/r/Divorce_Men21/08/25 04:59 PM
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Good point. Imposible to say what is best in cases like this..
/r/Divorce_Men21/08/25 04:23 PM
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Classic narcissists move.
/r/Divorce_Men20/08/25 05:52 PM
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Lucky man
/r/Divorce_Men20/08/25 05:38 PM
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“They string you along” IS EXACTLY RIGHT !!!
/r/Divorce_Men20/08/25 03:16 PM
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Ooh I thought about it, but at the time I was in the middle of a high conflict divorce against a man hating lawyer. So my hands were full. Thinking of suing a lawyer was just not for me. Pick your battles carefully as they say.
/r/Divorce_Men20/08/25 02:55 PM
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My divorce is done so too late for me. Hope it helps others
/r/Divorce_Men20/08/25 02:53 PM
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Unfortunately, it happens all the time. It's always a power move, a way to keep controlling and manipulating the other. In divorce, nothing is about the mechanical execution of things. It's about how much both parties want to move on in life. If one wants revenge, then that's it, it only takes one.
/r/Divorce_Men22/05/25 04:35 PM
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Keep in mind that therapy is a female-dominated field, and most therapy modalities are geared for women. It really is a hit-and-miss for a guy to find a good therapist who understands men. I saw three therapists during my divorce; no one knew what a divorce was...... My reason for becoming a coach.
/r/Divorce_Men02/04/25 09:35 PM
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Nobody thinks it could happen to them... First. Life happens Second. It happens to them. Parental alienation is a little hidden, unspoken, worst-kept secret problem we have happening everywhere. There is no solution for it
/r/Divorce_Men01/04/25 05:35 PM
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I am curious about the term "qualified friend." What does that mean? There are only two options: stay and fix the marriage or begin a divorce. Limbo is a bad place.
/r/Divorce_Men01/04/25 05:08 PM
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My divorce was somewhat similar, I divorced after 20 years of marriage. My first few lawyers did not tell me anything about the 20-year mark; I knew nothing of it until court day. It was one of the many things lawyers didn't tell me.
/r/Divorce_Men01/04/25 03:26 PM
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Perhaps she gained weight on purpose to keep you away? Once the mission was accomplished, she lost it.
/r/Divorce_Men01/04/25 02:14 PM
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I can see you are still entangled with her even after the divorce and is damaging. I went completely without contact after, and no contact has been the only and best way. I am a coach and I ask my clients if therapy helps them, and the feedback I get is that therapy is a hit and miss, that seems to work okay occasionally. I can say that during divorce, I went through 3 therapists, and they didn't understand divorce.
/r/Divorce_Men01/04/25 02:12 PM
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I have found that in every relationship, there are elements of narcissism and codependency, and by the time divorce arrives, personal boundaries have been demolished. The stress and anxiety that we feel during divorce are due to a lack of personal boundaries and compulsive entanglements. Took me many years to unpack all of this and put myself back together. Now that I can look back at all of it, I can see I had to go through a crazy divorce to piece myself back together in a better way, now I co…
/r/Divorce_Men01/04/25 02:05 PM
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There is a very good chance you can prove parental alienation. It takes a bit of work and money, but in your case, it will be worth every penny. Nothing is a sure bet in divorce court, but definitely worth a shot, and who knows you may end up with sole custody for years to come All the best
/r/Divorce_Men07/11/24 11:58 PM
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"We want to show the world how hurt we are." I completely agree; there is a big victimhood mentality on both sides of the fence. This one is HUGE!! "we know we can build Everything again easily." Sometimes, yes, but most definitely is not the rule. "bounce back better than ever." Most definitely not the rule. I agree that many guys bounce back better, but many stay angry for a very long time after.
/r/Divorce_Men22/12/23 07:47 PM
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“The things you own end up owning you. It's only after you lose everything that you're free to do anything.” ― Chuck Palahniuk, Fight Club Some events in life we call successful other events we call failures They are all life experiences. It's called life Don't try to get your past life back. past is past and behind you It's time for a whole new chapter. A better version of yourself. All the best
/r/Divorce_Men21/12/23 12:06 AM
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Well done!
/r/Divorce_Men19/12/23 09:53 PM
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First, the wife tries to take you out. Second, the ladies are disappointed you did not let her, and you are now standing on your own two feet. Imagine. Isn’t it amazing how easily that question rolls off their tongues? - Did she take you to the cleaners?
/r/Divorce_Men19/12/23 07:17 PM
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Ah! - YES! On that, we are both in full agreement.
/r/Divorce_Men19/12/23 01:35 AM
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well. only two questions. Have you heard the phrase "SHE took him to the cleaners?" have you ever heard "HE took her to the cleaners?"
/r/Divorce_Men19/12/23 12:33 AM
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Oh yes, this is a big one. Most guys go to the lawyer thinking that is the solution, not knowing it is just the beginning of a new set of problems.
/r/Divorce_Men19/12/23 12:26 AM
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Many agree that a prenup should be almost close to mandatory. And yes, prenups do! Help. Just be extremely careful about the lawyer you use for the prenup; I hear stories of lawyers creating problems where none exist. If you have the means, traveling to other countries would not hurt. Believe it or not, there are plenty of women out there with strong conservative views who will make great partners and are looking like guys like you. They just happen to NOT be on TikTok Lastly, some self-reflecti…
/r/Divorce_Men18/12/23 06:27 PM
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Entitlement is the very definition of a narcissist. Narcissists do not take divorce kindly, and they typically make divorce one of the toughest things anyone can go through. Divorce law can easily be weaponized, and that’s precisely what narcissists are really good at. They weaponize divorce law.
/r/Divorce_Men17/12/23 04:41 PM
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"If I can get this done and through it quickly with minimum lawyer expense I'm all in" This statement is precisely the same statement I made to myself at the beginning of my divorce, and I got seriously T-boned. Based on your description, I cannot see how an amicable divorce will be. I mean, yours could be the one surprise when you manage just that, but that would be unusual. She will want as much as possible, which means more than 50/50. A lot more. Women who make husbands walk on eggshells are…
/r/Divorce_Men17/12/23 06:44 AM
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There's a relatively new branch of history called revisionism, which questions everything we have been told. The basic premise is that victors get to write history, so they would have conveniently left out lots of information. Revisionists get canceled all the time. You are describing the memory hole from 1984.
/r/Divorce_Men16/12/23 06:57 PM
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My case is very similar to yours. It is nearly impossible to deal with parental alienation through the courts; you would need to mount an extremely strong case with court-approved reports that will cost several thousand dollars to obtain, and even after all the evidence in the world is presented, the court may likely not want to change anything. Most of the time, it is the mother alienating the father, and it is an uphill battle from there; the more you try to fix, the more things break. The mot…
/r/Divorce_Men16/12/23 04:52 AM
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sounds like you are dealing with a sociopath. Sociopaths are not known for being reasonable people. the only way for her is her way or the highway, this is how they operate.
/r/Divorce_Men15/12/23 11:13 PM
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I agree three is strongly tied to the 5M threshold, but I understand what you are saying. A divorce would need to be planned for a few years by taking cash withdrawals, investing in crypto, etc. In other words, all these strategies require lots of hand-holding. I don't think guys with 5M net worth go to online chat groups to get answers. What is a preemptive legal separation? This is the first time I've heard this. I find lots of bias in divorce corp; typically, men have a hard time finding a la…
/r/Divorce_Men15/12/23 10:42 PM
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I agree with all of it. My perspective is that there is no brotherhood to lean on. At the same time, there is a strong sisterhood.
/r/Divorce_Men15/12/23 10:22 PM
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IDK how many times over the marriage she screamed, "I WANT A DIVORCE" at me. This phrase is so familiar I cannot count how many times I have heard it. One spouse uses it all the time to control and manipulate the other. It is typically a wife's weapon, but I need to find out how much men use it. Your story is a story that repeats all around the world, and yet guys go through it alone. Which is why I made this post. It's wild to see guys going at it alone. I am all too familiar with the you-must-…
/r/Divorce_Men15/12/23 07:23 PM
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This is what 95% of us men want. We want to split and go on our separate ways, not understanding that divorce can turn into a 3D chess game and suddenly get t-boned. You want divorce done quickly and cheaply, which we all want. How about her? Is she willing to be friendly? If you are at the beginning of it all, even if she says, "I just want half," you cannot believe it until the papers are signed, the ink dried up, and all properly filed. So the question is, have you had meaningful conversation…
/r/Divorce_Men15/12/23 04:45 PM
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Thank you for this. There are a few pearls of wisdom here. fully agree Now, this one really piques my interest, and I would love to explore it. not 50/50? I thought it was. ? Deeply curious about this. I always thought that whatever protections were put in place in the last few years before a divorce would be easily traced via bank transfers, etc. This isn't the case? It happened to me and most of us. I agree with all of them. That sums it up. How rich are we talking about? Is there a threshold …
/r/Divorce_Men15/12/23 05:41 AM
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Someone who has done it and been through it all. Recently, a friend of mine was told by his lawyer not to claim spousal on his filing. I mentioned that he MUST claim it. Whether he ends up getting it or not remains to be seen. But the point is that he has full rights to claim it, and his lawyer tried hard to convince him otherwise. The truth is that it is hard to tell which side your lawyer is really playing.
/r/Divorce_Men14/12/23 07:22 PM
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"She is a fantastic “actress” - you’d think she’s the sweetest, most wonderful person who just really got taken advantage of if you weren’t me or her family." Sounds like you are dealing with a narcissist. And if this is the case, you have a 99% chance of going to court. The divorce rulebook for a narcissistic divorce is quite different from the 95% of patients who settle out of court. In my case, they probed seven years' worth of financials; it is the most invasive thing anyone can experience. …
/r/Divorce_Men14/12/23 06:34 PM
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This is what I am trying to understand. How extensive and how deep does the drama-queen syndrome go?
/r/Divorce_Men14/12/23 05:05 PM
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Makes sense. Did you work with a lawyer in your divorce?
/r/Divorce_Men14/12/23 05:01 PM
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This is the part I am baffled with. While I have yet to do a deep dive on this forum, I follow the groups on other social media sites. I do not see helpful advice besides petty parties, where one feeds on the other. Nine times out of ten, the only advice is "Stay strong and go the gym.”Divorce is a process with a thousand moving parts, particularly litigious divorces.May I ask? What are the top two pieces of advice you received in this forum that you implemented and genuinely helped you?
/r/Divorce_Men14/12/23 04:58 PM
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She nearly took me to the cleaners. 5-year litigious divorce. It was very expensive. 4 court appearances, and I represented myself at my summary trial. No yes. Yes quite hard I became a divorce coach after my experience. There are practically no men helping other men through divorce. I could have used a hand then, but I am well-versed now.
/r/Divorce_Men12/12/23 09:52 PM
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