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DiscussionEleanorAbernathyPhD/r/PurplePillDebate31/05/21 05:04 PM
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What do you think is an exact percentage of women who're into meaningless hook ups? I have 2 friends into hook ups out of 20. Even when we were in our early 20s and used to go out frequently, someone hooking up rarely happened. Percentage of women settling for "betabuxxers" without liking them that much? None of my friends has mentioned that they consider they are settling for their partners. Some of the partners are guys I wouldn't date but they always talk very positively about them, afaik non…
/r/PurplePillDebate07/10/21 09:48 PM
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My bf is 5´4 and he has had a lot of girlfriends and hookups, some of them with girls taller than him. When all I am trying to say is women are superficial People are superficial. Some of them are men, some of them are women.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/10/21 09:34 PM
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I highly recommend you to look for cotija made out of goat milk, I like it a lot much more than the regular one
/r/PurplePillDebate03/10/21 03:52 AM
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Smoked gouda
/r/PurplePillDebate02/10/21 04:45 PM
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Normal people balance out looks and personality. Maybe the guy/girl isn't a 8+ but they are compatible and they like them enough to sleep with them .
/r/PurplePillDebate01/10/21 06:29 PM
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Looks matter a lot but not as much as the blackpill believes
/r/PurplePillDebate01/10/21 05:54 PM
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Ive introduced my girlfriends to my friends when they are looking for relationships. Im not making it easier for them to pump and dump a woman I care about.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/09/21 02:12 PM
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I only have 2 overweight single friends and they are aware of it
/r/PurplePillDebate13/09/21 01:59 AM
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That list is insane
/r/PurplePillDebate13/09/21 01:26 AM
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Are the grey sweatpants really a thing? Do women check out the bulge? Yes and yes
/r/PurplePillDebate13/09/21 01:25 AM
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I havent! Do you know if its quieter than the satisfyer? I love mine but I wish it made less noise
/r/PurplePillDebate13/09/21 01:19 AM
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Its a big no from me. Im not putting anything into anyone. It would change way I see him and its a big turnoff.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/09/21 04:48 PM
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Satisfyer supremacy represent
/r/PurplePillDebate11/09/21 09:06 PM
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This comment has been paid for by El Chapo
/r/PurplePillDebate11/09/21 05:58 PM
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Probably, he has gained a lot of weight lately
/r/PurplePillDebate11/09/21 03:38 PM
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Im a bit of an antinatalist because I think theres too much of us already and I see the future pretty grime. Im childfree for multiple reasons but the biggest one is that im very selfish with my time and I dont want to sacrifice it for someone else. I also have very little patience and have zero maternal instinct. I would be a terrible mother. I support adoption because theres a lot of kids needing a home and a lot of couples who cant get pregnant. Also, although I am pro choice I think abortion…
/r/PurplePillDebate11/09/21 03:32 PM
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In a way I undestand it because for some people food is the only way they get a bit of dopamine release but they should be looking for alternatives, like doing cocaine
/r/PurplePillDebate11/09/21 03:18 PM
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Not on the first date but I do on the first time we have sex.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/09/21 03:12 PM
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i think so, shes upset because he wont have sex with her but would look at photos of hot women on instagram (idk if he masturbates to them or not). I understand why it bothers her but dont want to break up and he wont change 🤷‍♀️
/r/PurplePillDebate11/09/21 03:11 PM
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Mi sister´s MIL called her son My husband "accidentally" the other day. It was super creepy.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/09/21 01:14 PM
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She got a whole body makeover a few years ago and looks amazing. He is obese. I dont think that's the problem.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/09/21 12:25 PM
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One of my friends has a recurrent issue with her bf of a year because he follows girls on instagram. They are 36 and 41, I already told her multiple time to just break up with him if its going to be such an issue for her. Shes hurt because he is always tired from work and rarely wants to have sex. I told her they are incompatible and to just let it go but she won't. I try to be the friend that supports her friends during their relationships but this one is getting on my nerves.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/09/21 12:02 PM
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CMV: If a couple doesn't have an agreement about what will happen in case of an accidental pregnancy they shouldn't be having sex.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/09/21 10:06 AM
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So its gonna be forever or its gonna go down in flames?
/r/PurplePillDebate10/09/21 07:38 PM
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I dont know a single woman who would fuck Chad in a cockroach infested apartment on a shitstained mattress. In other words, ALL WOMEN. Maybe all the women that YOU know.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/09/21 04:37 PM
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Women will happily fuck Chad in a cockroach infested apartment on a shitstained mattress, then turn their noses up at Billy Beta who has his own nice place, car, and job... until it comes time for marriage, then Billy's looking pretty "good". What kind of women do you hang with wtf
/r/PurplePillDebate10/09/21 04:23 PM
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We've been together for a few months and im not planning to move in with anyone unless im married or at least engaged.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/09/21 04:18 AM
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4/6 depends on the brand
/r/PurplePillDebate10/09/21 04:06 AM
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What do you think about giving husband/wife privileges to bfs/gfs? I just spent an hour watching tiktoks of wives packing husbands lunches and im seriously thinking on doing that on the days I sleep over at my bf´s. A friend said I shouldnt be doing that for a boyfriend but i dont see the problem.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/09/21 09:10 PM
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We dont, we all obey to El chapo orders and if he wakes up tomorrow and wants every pregnant woman to abort we just do it no questions asked
/r/PurplePillDebate09/09/21 07:20 PM
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Ive never been pregnant but Im so glad that women who need to get one can do it safely!!
/r/PurplePillDebate09/09/21 04:36 PM
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We used to talk about it in college but now that we are late 30s I never hear it being mentioned. I havent being asked about my body count in many years and I dont care about my partner´s number either.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/09/21 03:46 PM
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Its already legal in Mexico city and 3 states! Im so glad it got decriminalized. A college classmate was in serious trouble because she had an abortion at home and ended up in the hospital with a severe infection. She admitted to having an abortion and the doctors reported her to the police. I dont know much details so I dont know how she got away from jail but it was really bad. Fun fact, her boyfriend was the son of the hospital´s director and he bailed on her because he didnt want to get in t…
/r/PurplePillDebate09/09/21 03:33 PM
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Those arent babies but yayyyy!
/r/PurplePillDebate09/09/21 03:29 PM
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Ive thought of this. For a group of men who apparent to want to be an AF they really really want to be a BB
/r/PurplePillDebate09/09/21 04:04 AM
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They want to believe they could be next!
/r/PurplePillDebate09/09/21 04:00 AM
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Can you explain how?
/r/PurplePillDebate08/09/21 06:11 PM
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You dont need to be in a relationship to get sex. When I was single my satisfyer was more than enough lol.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/09/21 05:36 PM
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Thats when you get your BB 👈😎👉
/r/PurplePillDebate08/09/21 05:34 PM
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Recently divorced, recently out of rehab and having a baby with his gf of a few months...that sounds healthy
/r/PurplePillDebate08/09/21 05:31 PM
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Im talking about needing a romantic relationship
/r/PurplePillDebate08/09/21 05:07 PM
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AF/BB - bang and date the chads in your 20s to take it out of your system
/r/PurplePillDebate08/09/21 02:19 PM
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My issue with this guy is that he is highly sensitive and most things bother him, like sunlight, noise, temperature so he gets upset and can be very rude about it. And I get it, he is in the spectrum, he probably doesnt know he is being rude, but I couldnt be with someone who talks to me like that. He reminds me of this guy because he always looks like he is in pain and also because he is tall, pale and has long black hair lol. He isnt a bad person and the few times Ive talked to him we have bee…
/r/PurplePillDebate08/09/21 03:12 AM
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I am with someone but not because I was unhappy. Neither of us was looking for a relationship when we met but we fell for each other.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/09/21 10:10 PM
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Im not breaking up with my boyfriend to make a point lol
/r/PurplePillDebate07/09/21 03:58 PM
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I need This is the problem. No one should need anyone else to be happy. I was single for almost 7 years before I met my bf. I dated a little but I was perfectly ok with being alone - I have a good career, a good amount of close friends, a bunch of hobbies and a fulfilling life. When I met him I wasn't looking for a relationship and he was the same way, he had his life going and wasn't looking for a girlfriend. We were both already happy and now that we are together we are happier. Im very much i…
/r/PurplePillDebate07/09/21 03:32 PM
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My bffs new boyfriend has autism and she is crazy in love with him. Ive only seen him like 4 times and tbh I could never do it, I dont have the patience needed to be with someone in the spectrum.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/09/21 03:12 PM
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A relationship should bring extra happiness to your life, not be your only source of happiness. Someone thinking they need a partner to be happy is a major red flag for me. I dont want anyone depending on me to be ok with their life.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/09/21 03:07 PM
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Bf likes anime ugh On a more serious note, I guess it would be smoking and drinking. I dont smoke and im not a big fan of alcohol (My parents never had alcohol at home, no one in my extended family drinks much). My bfs dad is an alcoholic and it is very normalized for him to have one or two beers everyday after work. I feel like thats too much but I can tolerate it as long as he isnt getting drunk.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/09/21 02:00 PM
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My ex moved out while I was out of town and I had to file a police report so he would pay me back what he stole. Im never moving in with anyone unless im married to avoid this from ever happening again.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/09/21 01:31 AM
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The amount of men who enjoy putting things in womens anuses is too high for your theory to work.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/09/21 02:13 PM
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My bff has pink hair, is covered in tattoos and is into witchcraft. She's actually a Suicide girls model. She was raised to be the perfect housewife, she knows and enjoys cooking, sewing, keeping her house neat, ironing her bf´s clothes and cant wait to become a mother. She's also the most sensitive person I know and is full of love for everyone. Ive learned a lot about judging people by their looks since I met her.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/09/21 12:42 AM
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I cant imagine having sex with someone on a first date. No matter how much I like them I would still feel weird of being intimate with someone I barely know. I did had sex with someone on a second date and I regret it because the guy turned out to be kinda crazy and the sex was bad, I think it would have been better if I hadn't slept with him at all.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/09/21 12:33 AM
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How is it that there are so many religious women in the US and at the same time men here complain about how every woman is a drunk carrousel rider slut?
/r/PurplePillDebate04/09/21 01:11 AM
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As if a Pointdexter couldnt be an asshole and now you are suffering for a guy who isnt even hot.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/09/21 01:08 AM
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Imo you shouldnt engage anyone who wants to sleep with you when you are in a relationship. Im a non ugly non fat woman, that would mean I wouldn't talk to most men lol I understand your position, Ive been there. I also learned a lot from it and one of the things Ive learned is that those who are prone to cheating will do it no matter if its a friend, a coworker or a stranger from social media and being worried about your partner cheating is an everyday torture. Back when I was single I tried OLD…
/r/PurplePillDebate03/09/21 05:17 PM
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I think it would be disrespectful if I was flirting with them and encouraging that behavior but Im not. One of my bfs friends is his ex who I believe still has feelings for him. They only hang in group and text once in a while. I have no problem with them talking because I know that if he wanted to be with her he would. And if tomorrow he wakes up and realize he is in love with her, yes I would be hurt but I would want him to be happy with the person he wants to be with. Ive been the crazy jealo…
/r/PurplePillDebate03/09/21 05:03 PM
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Ugh I made a long reply and it got deleted -_- but basically, if my male friends want to sleep with me that's their problem not mine. I have zero romantic/sexual interest in them. If I did I would be dating them and not my bf. Like I said, cheaters cheat. If I started developing feelings for one of my friends then I would end either the friendship or my relationship with my bf. But if I havent had any interest in the years Ive known them, I dont see why I would stop hanging with them now that im…
/r/PurplePillDebate03/09/21 04:47 PM
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Well the stakes are completely different if you are married and/or have kids. You said people in monogamous relationships OR marriages. Why is that? Personally i dont have any female friends. I dont see the purpose. Its not like any woman really has your back the way men do. Its not like most women would jump in a fight alongside me, its not like they would take big risks for me. Exactly because of this. You have very sketchy views of women and I rather avoid men that think like you. Both me and…
/r/PurplePillDebate03/09/21 03:43 PM
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A man not having any female friends is a major red flag for me. Cheaters cheat. If my bf cheats on me I would break up with him and get over it. Its not the end of the world.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/09/21 03:08 PM
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One of my friends had an abortion a few months ago. She is 36, married with 3 kids. She lost her job last year and they simply cant afford another child. She had an IUD. I hate abortion and Im pro choice. Im childfree and do everything I can do avoid being in that situation (im 37 and ive never been pregnant). Although abortion is banned in my state, Im glad women have the option to abort in a safe environment in other places and I wish someday we have it here too. People seem to forget that ban…
/r/PurplePillDebate03/09/21 03:06 AM
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Accidental pregnancies happen
/r/PurplePillDebate03/09/21 01:34 AM
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They dont tell their daughters not to cry
/r/PurplePillDebate31/08/21 06:18 AM
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Is it the fat guy with the beard? He isn't top 20%. He isn't even top 50% lol.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/08/21 10:57 PM
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It was a man the one who coined the term toxic masculinity. Seriously dude, read a little about the subject before trying to argue about it.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/08/21 06:42 PM
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Thats not what toxic masculinity refers to. Toxic masculinity is men not being allowed to cry, being called gay for showing emotions, being told to "man up", etc.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/08/21 06:05 PM
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If an ugly man approaches her, that's toxic masculinity. If a hot man rejects her, that's toxic masculinity. If a man doesn't pay for the date and opts to split the bill, that's toxic masculinity. If a man doesn't step up and raise the kids of a single mother, that's toxic masculinity.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/08/21 05:52 PM
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Are you sure it isnt your personality? Because a non short non fat 7 shouldnt be ”struggling”
/r/PurplePillDebate30/08/21 03:46 PM
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What are you talking about? It wasn't like this 20 years ago, I was there Thats because the internet wasnt as mainstream but its been talked about since ancient greece.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/08/21 03:43 PM
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Self improvement is for one self, not for others. The problem I see is that many men do those things to get women and when they fail they get frustrated. Being happy with themselves and having a fulfilling life is the point. It is not a guarantee it will get you women but it does increasea your chances than the ones an obese video game addict has.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/08/21 03:39 PM
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You have no idea what toxic masculinity refers to but I admire your confidence to be so wrong
/r/PurplePillDebate30/08/21 03:24 PM
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Wow
/r/PurplePillDebate30/08/21 03:16 PM
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Here in Mexico men usually are the ones who tell their sons that ”men dont cry”. Ive heard a lot of stories of men beating up their sons and telling them that if they cry the beating will be worse. Its an awful thing but fortunately things seem to be changing with millenials and youger generations.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/08/21 03:13 PM
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Yeah same here, I wouldn't date a man with kids. I dont see it as a red flag but im childfree and I plan to keep it that way
/r/PurplePillDebate29/08/21 09:15 AM
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I thought single parent meant that they were not married/in a relationship with the other parent not that they were raising the kids by themselve
/r/PurplePillDebate29/08/21 09:08 AM
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Q4RP: What does TRP means when it says that women dont know how to love?
/r/PurplePillDebate27/08/21 10:59 PM
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Im sorry you went through that, hope you are doing better
/r/PurplePillDebate27/08/21 05:44 PM
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This is what we mean when we advice young women to be wary of older guys. Love glasses are a thing and for the inexperienced is worse.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/08/21 05:32 PM
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Im a pretty cold person and I dont like being touched, I dont really hug anyone but my partner and my mom once in a while. My bf is very affectionate and is always telling me how much he loves me and wants to touch me all the time and I worry that he would think that I dont like him or that im not that into him but I am. Im struggling with my boundaries and trying to be more affectionate with him because I do not want to make him feel that way but its not easy for me to express how I feel. We ha…
/r/PurplePillDebate27/08/21 07:29 AM
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1) Im an idiot and I always think guys see me as a friend 2) Im truly clueless 3) Same as other comment, has a crush, wants to date, not only looking for sex
/r/PurplePillDebate26/08/21 04:20 PM
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The same woman making you wait has sexually gone a lot further a lot sooner with other guys. How can you know this if she doesn't tell you? Also, what if she had a bad experience and decided to not do it anymore?
/r/PurplePillDebate26/08/21 04:16 PM
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I had two very toxic relationships. I always admit that we were both toxic, both on this sub and irl. Im not a victim, I allowed most of the situations that happened when we were together. I also admit that im crazy attracted to toxic men. Like a bug to the lightbulb. I avoid them because I already know how it goes and I dont want to go though that again. Current bf is meeting my friends in a couple weeks, I need them to tell me if they see any red flags im ignoring because I cant trust myself a…
/r/PurplePillDebate26/08/21 04:15 PM
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I didnt know this. I went to the thread and the third comment brings it up, the OP didnt know it either
/r/PurplePillDebate25/08/21 05:57 PM
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Majority of men are aware of women’s issues. The fact that you believe this is very telling. Men and women are guilty of the same thing because we cannot experience what the other gender experiences.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/08/21 05:07 PM
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I guess its the same with men not acknowledging womens issues until feminism brought them up and some still make fun of it. Im glad this stuff is been talked about now for both men and women, its bringing a lot of awareness but many people still reject it. Im accepting it and learning and according to other guy Im sexist and dont see men as people 🤷‍♀️
/r/PurplePillDebate25/08/21 03:24 PM
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If I didnt view men as people I wouldnt be here writing about how I learned and changed what I thought of them. My ex and I joked that he was actually a robot because he never showed emotions. My dad laughed one day we were talking about love. Its not like what I thought came from nowhere.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/08/21 02:09 PM
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Like I said, men here rarely show emotions. Yes they laugh and get angry, but they rarely show sadness or love or other emotions that make them look feminine to others
/r/PurplePillDebate25/08/21 01:51 AM
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Idk about where you live, but where im from most fathers don't want to be around their kids. My brother in law just told my mom that he sometimes pretends to be busy so he doesn't have to spend time with my niece and if my sister ever leaves him he "would be sad but ok with it bc he wanted a boy anyways". I can give you a ton of examples like that, even my dad was an abusive asshole but would play victim about how my mom "stole our love from him". So I dont doubt there are some men who are good …
/r/PurplePillDebate24/08/21 11:54 PM
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So where are the father figures in those kids lives?
/r/PurplePillDebate24/08/21 11:48 PM
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Prince William
/r/PurplePillDebate24/08/21 11:41 PM
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You are free to look for another job
/r/PurplePillDebate24/08/21 07:57 PM
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Im from a society where men rarely express their feelings and they need to keep a "macho" frame all the time. When I was younger I honestly thought men had no feelings, that sure they could love you but they would never love you like women love men. Men were also rarely scared, rarely sad, rarely had any emotions basically other than content or anger. It wasnt until my 30s, when my guy friends started opening more about themselves where I learned that we are basically the same but they are taugh…
/r/PurplePillDebate24/08/21 06:06 PM
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It makes me really sad to think of the men and women who do not want to live under islamic law and that now are at risk of losing their lives over the religious lunatics who think they know better. Reading about how most afghans are illiterate and dont know any other way of living breaks my heart. I wish I could do something about it. It also has made me think about how fortunate I am to live in a country that although it is very far from perfect, I can live my life the way I want it. We have ou…
/r/PurplePillDebate21/08/21 09:21 PM
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100% agree. Not once have I wished I was back in my 20s.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/08/21 08:22 AM
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He admitted to planning to get me drunk and rape me buddy, stop trying to blame me
/r/PurplePillDebate18/08/21 04:27 PM
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He had but he was pretending to drink it, he only drank like half a glass
/r/PurplePillDebate18/08/21 04:21 PM
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I was raped by my ex who I was with for 9 years one night we opened a bottle of wine and he pretended to drink while he kept filling my glass. I still got the ”well you shouldnt have gotten that drunk” speech.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/08/21 02:24 PM
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What do you do on your free day?
/r/PurplePillDebate17/08/21 09:27 PM
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I didnt think I still had it in me to fall this hard for someone and here I am! We are both on the same page about our future and I couldnt be more excited. Im also kinda terrified lol but im enjoying it, seriously I never thought I could have this kind of relationship. I thought all of that "it will come when you least expect it" was a line to give people hope yet im living it. He says he felt the same way, he wasn't looking for a partner and this got him by surprise. Good luck!
/r/PurplePillDebate17/08/21 02:04 AM
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I was thinking about this yesterday. AF/BB is only looked down because most men cant do the same thing - Date Stacies and then marry someone that is wife material when they are ready to settle down.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/08/21 05:35 PM
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Like having a well paid job for having a college degree. Kids today need a red pill on that.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/08/21 05:28 PM
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And voila, that way men will emancipate from the concept of “a man needs a woman in his life” and finally understand, that, no matter how women try to put it, women are not a requirement for a man’s fulfillment and joy. I honestly believe this is a great thing. No one should depend on anyone else for fulfillment and happiness.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/08/21 02:20 PM
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Good for you!
/r/PurplePillDebate16/08/21 02:18 PM
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I dont doubt there are men set in their ways who dont want any sort of commitment but you seem to forget that not every woman is lonely for being single - Im sure there are but im not one of those. Im 37. I take great care of myself, Im childfree, I have my own career and I was single for 7 years (went out with some guys but just for a couple dates). I recently got in a relationship with someone who has me head over heals for but it was completely unexpected and Im so glad I didnt settle for any…
/r/PurplePillDebate16/08/21 02:17 PM
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I totally understand you, I was severely depressed for years. I was very close to killing myself so I made a list of all the things I wanted to do before dying and gave myself a timeframe - If I was still depressed after doing those things I would go on with my plans. Luckily for me it worked better than I expected. Took me a while but I can honestly say that im happy with my life and am very excited about my future plans. Im no longer on antidepressants but I did microdosed psylocibin for a whi…
/r/PurplePillDebate16/08/21 01:41 PM
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Men had to work their asses off for that paycheck you all take for granted And women dont? You’re not a necessity. You’re not a requirement for fulfillment like you think you are. The amount of incels and desperate men says otherwise but ok
/r/PurplePillDebate16/08/21 01:29 PM
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Is this self awareness? ON PPD??? Joking aside, I think it all comes down to how happy you are with your current situation. If you are happy living like this, that's great! If you are not happy living like this, theres always room for improvement. IMO, life is too short to spend it stoned and playing video games - this coming from someone who used to smoke daily and who doesn't own any consoles because I know myself and I can spend all my free time playing instead of doing other things. I realiz…
/r/PurplePillDebate16/08/21 01:15 PM
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Most warm holes can live happily without a NVM tho, can you say the same thing?
/r/PurplePillDebate16/08/21 01:07 PM
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I tried OLD when I owned a restaurant and didnt have time to meet people IRL unless they were customers. I ended up blocking every guy I met there because they were all weirdos/married/only looking for sex. Its not only the women who use it who are undesirable buddy.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/08/21 07:38 PM
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They usually love it and dont mind the working out part lol
/r/PurplePillDebate15/08/21 07:18 PM
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> My baby mama has one but hers is related to cooking and watching people eat and enjoy her food she gets really mad when people don't eat her food. This, but with men it does become sexual
/r/PurplePillDebate15/08/21 06:20 PM
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I have a past of mental illness (severe depression, anxiety, eating disorders and c-ptsd). None of them are an issue now but I could see some people having a problem with it. Im one of those childfree people who cant stand kids. My cats are my babies and theres no way im not going to have cats at home. Because of trauma I have both anxious and avoidant attachment styles. I can both be obsessed about why is the guy not texting me and then want to run away the second things get more serious (Im wo…
/r/PurplePillDebate15/08/21 06:14 PM
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What? And im here paying for stuff like an idiot? Where is this magical place and how can I move there?
/r/PurplePillDebate15/08/21 02:06 PM
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Never and nothing
/r/PurplePillDebate15/08/21 05:59 AM
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Listening to my bf talk about how he stood his ground to his boss got me hot AF. I love how he's super sweet to me but a shark at work.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/08/21 07:28 PM
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Many are scared to be alone, specially after hearing everywhere how a woman’s life is over after 30
/r/PurplePillDebate13/08/21 05:39 PM
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I dont think so. Im 5´1 and if I was a man I would still be very short. On the other hand, my bf is 5´4 and for what ive heard he has never had a problem getting women and we are very alike so maybe?
/r/PurplePillDebate13/08/21 12:06 AM
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because feminists arent focusing on it. I think they should, I believe being aware of ones mistakes makes you grow so Im all in for having this conversation. What parts of feminity do you think are toxic?
/r/PurplePillDebate13/08/21 12:02 AM
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Retired at 45?! How?? My retirement plan is murdering someone when im 65 so I end up in jail and dont have to worry about food and a room
/r/PurplePillDebate12/08/21 10:31 PM
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Dude I have a life outside of reddit, im not glued to my phone all day. Could you please clarify what is your question exactly?
/r/PurplePillDebate12/08/21 10:14 PM
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I honestly have no idea. I mean, We've been friends for 15 years and we meet for dinner and play video games like once a month. This is the first time he talks about women other than his exgirlfriends and he has been single for 4 years. His only hobby are video games and he rarely goes out. My other friends and I have been trying to solve the mystery but no one can come up with an answer.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/08/21 07:25 PM
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Does his town in Mexico have lots of eligible men? Could be scarcity This is probably it. Its one of the reasons why im moving out of here.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/08/21 07:20 PM
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At least 2 of them are real (our other friends know them) and Ive never caught him in a lie
/r/PurplePillDebate12/08/21 07:17 PM
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I only saw a picture of each of them, I dont know them irl. Nothing special about them, just that they arent ugly nor fat.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/08/21 04:48 PM
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he said he had no idea! he is honest to them and tells them he doesnt want a relationship ever. He was considering seriously dating one of the women but he admited it was mostly because he feels pressure and like theres something wrong with him and he should be married, but other than that he isnt interested.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/08/21 04:47 PM
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I did ask him, he said he had no idea
/r/PurplePillDebate12/08/21 04:44 PM
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That feminism is principly about women? Obv yes. we should be hearing all about toxic femininity most of the time Be the change you want to see bby, just like women are bringing up toxic masculinity.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/08/21 04:11 PM
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Had dinner with my least attractive friend last night and he showed me texts from 3 women who want to be in a ltr with him and 3 others that he sleeps with ocassionally. I love him but the dude is obese, diabetic, has bad breath from liver damage, lives with his mom at 37 and spends his money in videogames. He specifically has a twin bed so no one spends the night with him. The women arent ugly nor fat (some are on the chuby side but not obese). He is low libido and doesnt really want a partner …
/r/PurplePillDebate12/08/21 04:03 PM
2

And also when you have reached your goal and set up a new one.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/08/21 03:16 PM
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Nothing stops you from talking about toxic feminity. Ive brought it up in my group of friends who are activists, feminism shouldnt be anyones whole identity and it can be harmful if taken to an extreme.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/08/21 03:13 PM
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MMA for both
/r/PurplePillDebate09/08/21 08:28 PM
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I agree...although I do have many friends irl who are miserable being mothers and who keep telling me to enjoy life while I can 😬
/r/PurplePillDebate09/08/21 06:33 PM
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I used to frequent the childfree sub back in 2013 because it was the first time I found people who have also been judged and pressured to have kids when they didnt want them. I felt validated and like I wasn't a freak but then the name calling and the exaggerated stories bored me and I havent been there in ages. ​ Many childfree people are happy. The people at that sub aren't.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/08/21 06:26 PM
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Yup, I dont feel bad about it at all.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/08/21 10:43 AM
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Im moving from my small hometown to Mexico city next month and im starting to declutter and picking what im taking with me and whats going to be sold. Im sad that i’ll probably wont be able to take my kitchen stuff, damn iron cast pans are heavy as fuck.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/08/21 03:09 AM
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No. We are all within our right to have the dealbreakers we want.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/08/21 11:14 PM
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I believe age gap relationships are a case by case thing, it depends on the age and motives of each partner. An 18 and a 23 year old? Dont see the problem. A 20 year old with someone over 30? yeah, I would like to know about the intentions of the older partner. Ive talked about my former FWB, who I thought was 24 when I met him in 2015 (I was 32) and I just learned his real age last year - He was actually 20! and not only did he looked and behaved like someone much older (when I met him I though…
/r/PurplePillDebate08/08/21 10:48 PM
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Nooo really?
/r/PurplePillDebate08/08/21 06:40 PM
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I believe its both hormones and also how comfortable I am with my body now so I enjoy sex more. Wish I had this confidence in my 20s lol
/r/PurplePillDebate08/08/21 03:24 PM
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No, I met the new guy a few months ago and I was already hornier than what I used to. I believe its a number of factors, like others mentioned not only hormones but also that im waaaay more comfortable in my body now.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/08/21 03:16 PM
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Bc of my age, Im 37 now, its been like this for the last 2 years
/r/PurplePillDebate08/08/21 01:21 PM
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Ever since I turned 35 Ive been horny most of the time. I used to crave sex once a week and now im a daily kind of gal. The new bf and I are going to be long distance for a month and im dying 🥲 thank god for the satisfyer.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/08/21 12:35 PM
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Aww good luck!
/r/PurplePillDebate08/08/21 02:52 AM
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Thought so. Im an enfj april aries capricorn rising.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/08/21 10:19 PM
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March or april aries?
/r/PurplePillDebate07/08/21 09:24 PM
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F, 37, ENFJ, Purple leaning red
/r/PurplePillDebate07/08/21 08:30 PM
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Im like that too. I dont mind men talking about their exes because they are part of their history and who they are today.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/08/21 08:14 PM
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I used to go out to bar and clubs with my friends from 18-21. I never hooked up with anyone I met there and I can count with one hand the times my friends did. I didnt even drink that much lol we were really just dancing and having fun. After that I focused more in college and my career but used to hang out with my friends/boyfriend, we would cook and have dinner at home, go to the beach, go to amusement parks, stuff like that.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/08/21 06:34 PM
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I never did and most of my friends didnt either. We are not americans though. Edit: maybe its because im from a more conservative background but I dont see the appeal of sleeping around. I dont find the fun in getting new dick and I was even more closed to the idea in my 20s.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/08/21 06:12 PM
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100% agree We keep changing and growing up through our 20s and we are way more stable in our 30s. Also, I believe we all should have a fun selfish phase in our life- and I dont mean to sleep around but to be able to take decisions and do what we want when we want to.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/08/21 06:04 PM
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If guys act too quick and direct I get scared but im also super dense so if they are indirect I swear they see me just as a friend so it gets pretty difficult for me. Thats how I ended up single for almost 7 years lol.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/08/21 02:36 PM
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Yes, together as in already dating
/r/PurplePillDebate04/08/21 09:21 PM
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I dont like it at all but one of my bffs goes insane for long haired guys.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/08/21 02:27 PM
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I had a friend who was 6´ in high school and told me to stop dating taller guys because I was leaving her with no options (Im 5´1).
/r/PurplePillDebate04/08/21 02:26 PM
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You’re throwing out buzzwords like healthy (when you’re not referring to actual physical health) and codependent but it doesn’t seem as though you’ve really thought about the meaning behind them. A lot of these buzzwords are just a way to vilify behaviors that certain people (such as you) don’t like but other people (such as me) don’t necessarily have a problem with. Im a therapist.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/08/21 01:46 PM
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Its pretty obvious when someone is acting out of desperation once you have experienced healthy relationships and know someone being desperate to be in one. Desperation implies the person is not emotionally that well. Someone with emotional stability and a life of their own would not be desperate to be with someone. By being desperate to be with someone they could become codependent and that would make a relationship unhealthy.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/08/21 01:27 PM
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No, I want someone who wants to be with me in a healthy way, not out of desperation
/r/PurplePillDebate04/08/21 01:16 PM
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It is very uncomfortable to me having someone begging me and acting desperate to be with me. Many people use it as an ego boost, to me is awkward and weird.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/08/21 12:43 PM
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Love bombing: omg Ive never met a girl like you before, I never thought I would meet someone so compatible with me, you are everything I was looking for, you are the perfect woman, i cant keep you out of my head Desperation: I would give up my dreams for you, if you give me the chance I would change whatever you need me to change, begging, buying gifts to win over the person I guess the difference is that desperate people try to convince their loved one to be with them and love bombing occurs wh…
/r/PurplePillDebate04/08/21 12:22 PM
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Thats why I said they CAN be abusive, not that all are
/r/PurplePillDebate03/08/21 01:02 AM
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Im just going to post a comment I made a few weeks ago: RP men: Women lied to us saying we only needed to be ourselves to find a woman, I hate them. They’ll see once im older and rich and young girls throw themselves at me. Women: Dudes when we were young, old men who hit on us grossed us out. Most young girls dont want an old man for a partner. Relationships with large age gaps can be abusive since the guy has much more experience and only want a young girl so they can manipulate her. RP mens h…
/r/PurplePillDebate03/08/21 12:03 AM
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I was surprised to see him playing with Willow. Not complaining either he is fucking awesome.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/08/21 10:17 PM
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I live in the state with more single mothers by population in Mexico, both never married and divorced, so a lot. It is very normalized and single mothers have no trouble finding partners here, Ive known men who actually prefer to date single mothers since they get to be stepfathers without having to raise the kids.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/08/21 04:30 PM
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Purple pill is a mix of both philosophies, the person doesnt identify entirely with either of them but takes some parts of each
/r/PurplePillDebate02/08/21 02:48 PM
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I know myself lol I think its a cultural thing, im from Mexico where society is very redpilled so thats what im used to. Ive been approached by bp guys and im not attracted to them.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/08/21 01:58 PM
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I prefer purple leaning red men. A RPM will not be a good partner and a BPM will bore me.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/08/21 01:53 PM
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Grilled them with butter, salt and pepper
/r/PurplePillDebate01/08/21 08:16 PM
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Had ribeye for dinner last night with asparagus and mashed potatoes chef kiss
/r/PurplePillDebate01/08/21 07:58 PM
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I like it haha I think its cute
/r/PurplePillDebate31/07/21 07:45 PM
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Baseball hats
/r/PurplePillDebate31/07/21 06:36 PM
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/r/asianladyboners ❤️
/r/PurplePillDebate30/07/21 09:08 PM
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Or the guys that get super mad and passionate defending porn and dont see that as abnormal behavior
/r/PurplePillDebate30/07/21 06:05 PM
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I woke up to a ”Thank you for the laughs and the talk, I have a wonderful time when im with you” text. Swoons
/r/PurplePillDebate30/07/21 03:20 PM
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Hey cats are awesome and I love them
/r/PurplePillDebate29/07/21 11:53 PM
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I think many people get upset because they dont know how to be happy with themselves or have never had a relationship so they dont know how it really is. The truth is that a relationship based in codependency and fear of being alone is not a healthy one.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/07/21 11:53 PM
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Guys, I dont have a PhD (yet). Let me introduce you to Dr. Eleanor Abernathy
/r/PurplePillDebate29/07/21 11:46 PM
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Sorry, Im going to continue to tell everyone to create a happy life for themselves! Rather be happy single than with a man who believes a woman happiness is an infection
/r/PurplePillDebate29/07/21 10:00 PM
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Im very flattered you think I have so much influence on society but I think humanity will be just fine if I dont get married and remain childfree
/r/PurplePillDebate29/07/21 09:24 PM
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Yes, my life is about me, that is correct
/r/PurplePillDebate29/07/21 08:40 PM
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Yeah how can I dare to do the things that make me happy im such a selfish bitch
/r/PurplePillDebate29/07/21 07:00 PM
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Exactly this. Seems like many PPD men believe that just because someone is married they are automatically happy. In reality, the amount of misserable marriages is too damn high.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/07/21 05:03 AM
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Im 37, single, have a good career, have a wonderful group of friends, and Im childfree. Being in a relationship does not makes me happier than being single because I love my life and dont need anyone to make me happy. I already did the living with someone thing and it was awful, it was like I had a 30 year old child. I dont plan on doing that to myself ever again.I would like to have a serious relationship but I would not marry or move in with someone if im not 100% the guy is a functional adult…
/r/PurplePillDebate29/07/21 03:39 AM
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seriously wtf what kind of psycho hates cheese
/r/PurplePillDebate29/07/21 02:36 AM
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Had a former Bff get a the same haircut as me, bought all the things I said I wanted and even dated my ex. I think she's a psycho but im also kinda flattered, I dont blame her, Im pretty rad 💅
/r/PurplePillDebate29/07/21 02:17 AM
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We dont know much about what is going on. What if she is suicidal? Would you want her to perform anyway?
/r/PurplePillDebate28/07/21 01:40 AM
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When I heard the news I thought "Wow, how bad was it that she had to take the decision to quit something she has trained so hard to get to" and think that is actually a great message to kids that their mental well being should be a priority, specially if they are from a country with the amount of mental health issues as the US. I was very excited to watch her perform but I'll live. Im glad she has the chance to put her needs first.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/07/21 01:06 AM
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He was with a friend and other guys at a bar and me and my friends sat with them. He added me on fb and asked me out a couple weeks later.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/07/21 03:24 PM
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Most women are just starting to hit their sexual peak in their thirties. Ladies in their mid to late thirties are the horniest they’ve ever been and most comfortable with their sexuality and their bodies. So much this. For the last 2 years Ive felt like a horny teenager most of the time. I met my former FWB when I was 32. We went on a date, he thought I was younger and I thought he was older but he was actually 12 years younger than me (still lied and said he was 24, I learned his real age just …
/r/PurplePillDebate26/07/21 03:00 PM
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I meant that I have students at college level and also at gradschool.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/07/21 01:32 PM
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You are correct.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/07/21 01:01 PM
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The fact that you even consider it a positive is just sad It is the equivalent of a worker bragging that he goes to work on time every day as if it is rare. Im from Mexico, men cheating is extremely normalized but I do not tolerate it.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/07/21 12:59 PM
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English is not my first language, idk how to say it lol
/r/PurplePillDebate26/07/21 12:34 PM
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I dont ask for anything that I dont give in return. Im an extrovert who loves to laugh and to make people laugh. Ive tried dating introverts or guys who are more serious than me and I just cant be with someone who rolls their eyes at every dumb joke I make. Im a therapist and a lecturer at college and masters level and expect someone with a similar level of education as I have and with a similar income. I love sex and in most of my relationships I’ve been the HL partner. Ive never cheated, im ve…
/r/PurplePillDebate26/07/21 08:19 AM
0

Most men I know are ambivalent to kids
/r/PurplePillDebate26/07/21 03:07 AM
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Allows a more average woman to be married to a very attractive or wealthy man. Assuming many men who are most sought after will exercise their option to be polygamous. Of course many sought after men will choose monogamy but not every woman can win that game. I dont share and so far I have no problem attracting the kind of guy I like. you don't need to make the unfortunate decision of choosing someone you're not crazy about in a monogamous marriage or being alone I have no problem being alone. c…
/r/PurplePillDebate25/07/21 11:26 AM
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I find Putin very sexy tho
/r/PurplePillDebate24/07/21 05:23 PM
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What an evil mastermind, not only does he wants to improve his smv he wants to lower the smv of others so he has even less competition. Maquiavellic.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/07/21 02:07 AM
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Leave it to a Trump supporter to cry discrimination because liberal women dont want to date them LOL
/r/PurplePillDebate24/07/21 02:02 AM
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A vasectomy is a procedure way more easy than a tubal ligation and the recovery is way more faster. That being said, I’ve been trying to get a a tubal since I was 30 and no doctor has agreed to it, they dont even give me any information on my options because “what if I marry a man who wants kids”.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/07/21 01:34 AM
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I forgot to mention how im childfree and he told me he would give up his dream of being a father for me.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/07/21 09:04 AM
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yeah I get that. I don't get the part of him imagining a future with me after 4 days.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/07/21 08:57 AM
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Idk I never assume anything, much less than someone likes me and even less to get that intense sfter knowing someone for less than a week
/r/PurplePillDebate23/07/21 12:53 AM
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He was my ex’s best friend and I slept with him out of revenge lol
/r/PurplePillDebate22/07/21 09:14 PM
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Many people hate her but I love marshall and lilys relationship from How I met your mother. I want someone who is my partner, my lover and my best friend
/r/PurplePillDebate22/07/21 08:55 PM
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Thanks 🙏🏼🙏🏼
/r/PurplePillDebate22/07/21 07:54 PM
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Many guys have told me they dont care but I do. Good for you for making her feel comfortable!
/r/PurplePillDebate22/07/21 07:54 PM
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LOL I thought about doing that the moment he told me his plans. He is more serious than I am but he always laughs about the dumb shit i do
/r/PurplePillDebate22/07/21 07:50 PM
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I dont do casual sex and ive been longer without it but ever since I turned 35 2 years ago im like a freaking hormonal teenager. I also like this guy a lot.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/07/21 07:30 PM
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Guy im dating invited me to a weekend away next week. PPD, please light up a candle and pray I get my period today or tomorrow so Im done by then and have sex without worrying about it. I havent had sex since new years eve, I need thisss
/r/PurplePillDebate22/07/21 07:23 PM
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Yeah thats the plan. A laughed it out and told me he knows how intense E can be. He told me he isnt worried about us affecting their friendship, which is what i was worrying about
/r/PurplePillDebate22/07/21 06:29 PM
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They can’t hold the interview on zoom? How vintage
/r/PurplePillDebate22/07/21 06:15 PM
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A couple weeks ago I went to a small gathering at my cousins. The guy im dating was there (they are bffs) but only a few people know about us (it isnt official yet) so we werent acting like we were together or anything. Anyway, at this party there was another one of their friends, E, who ive only met once before. Im very friendly to everyone and ever since I read about how little Compliments men get I try to say something nice to guys. E was wearing a knitted sweater and I told him that the colo…
/r/PurplePillDebate22/07/21 06:08 PM
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I wouldnt mind if he was bald but if getting a transplant made him feel better I would support him
/r/PurplePillDebate22/07/21 01:43 PM
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Oh yeah most definetely
/r/PurplePillDebate22/07/21 01:32 PM
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I was physically safe but my dad was/is emotionally abusive.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/07/21 10:41 AM
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Im not saying all large age gap ARE abusive, im saying they CAN be if the older psrtner has morr experience and wants a younger woman so he can manipulate her. you need to decide if RP men are clueless sexless dweebs or experienced master manipulators Judging by the posts on here, many of those sexless dweebs aim to become master manipulators and thats why they want a naive young girl.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/07/21 10:30 AM
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I agree with the basics and some of the other stuff. I dont like sensitive lovey dovey men and toxic hot men attract me like a bug to a light bulb - i avoid them though, after an abusive relationship (from both sides) that left me in rough shape I took my time to find someone who has some of the characteristics I like without being a complete asshole and seems like I just find it :)
/r/PurplePillDebate22/07/21 10:22 AM
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where did I say older women are a catch? Instead of getting defensive go read it again
/r/PurplePillDebate22/07/21 10:12 AM
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They replaced one belief with another one and when comfronted their brain short circuits. I lean red. I agree with most RP theory. However, it isnt a cult. These guys are following it blindly without any self reflection and no room for analysis.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/07/21 10:07 AM
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RP men: Women lied to us saying we only needed to be ourselves to find a woman, I hate them. They’ll see once im older and rich and young girls throw themselves at me. Women: Dudes when we were young, old men who hit on us grossed us out. Most young girls dont want an old man for a partner. Relationships with large age gaps can be abusive since the guy has much more experience and only want a young girl so they can manipulate her. RP mens hamster: Look at them being jealous and LIE. You Lying Mc…
/r/PurplePillDebate22/07/21 09:40 AM
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We are in Mexico, the higher earner of the four of them probably makes 50k pesos a month (2500 US) and it isnt the lawyer
/r/PurplePillDebate22/07/21 09:16 AM
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Lol we are in mexico, the four of them and me are lower middle class for mexican standards
/r/PurplePillDebate22/07/21 09:13 AM
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The last 4 guys i’ve dated have told me that they dont like girls in their 20s because they think they are like children. It wasnt like I brought up the topic, one of them didnt ask me out until he learned my age bc I look younger and explained to me why he didnt think of me that way before and the other 3 mentioned that they only date women their age or older. 1 of them is a giga chad (jiujitsu champion and hot as fuck), another one is very tall and very handsome and the other 2 (a lawyer and a…
/r/PurplePillDebate22/07/21 03:01 AM
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I respect the fuck out of them.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/07/21 09:21 PM
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Maybe you should date women into poly relationships
/r/PurplePillDebate21/07/21 02:09 PM
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If men held women to those standards, 90% of women would be virgins They should.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/07/21 02:07 PM
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BREAKING NEWS: People want to have fun and not being committed in their youth. Most people dont like to share their partners while in serious relationships.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/07/21 01:52 PM
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His kids were on his right
/r/PurplePillDebate21/07/21 12:04 AM
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When I was 13 and the man sitting next to me at the movies started touching my leg. He was with his kids and I froze
/r/PurplePillDebate20/07/21 08:29 PM
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The thing Ive seen most men complain about when talking marriage is divorce rape. Of course no one marries with divorce in their minds but I believe each partner should protect themselves before getting married. In Mexico, when you marry you have the option to marry with joint or separate assets, that way the couple can decide beforehand if they want to share everything or not and avoid getting "divorce raped". AFAIK men aren't obligated to pay alimony and child support is ridiculously low - A g…
/r/PurplePillDebate20/07/21 02:17 PM
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At 32 my body suddenly stopped having a belly (I wasn't fat but Ive never had a flat stomach) and started storing fat in my boobs and booty. At 37 I feel like I have a much nicer body than what I did in my 20s.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/07/21 12:38 PM
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How much hyperbole and exaggeration are used on subs like this one worries me. Those of us who are older and have real life experience know life isn't like that but those who are young and with no experience can believe what they say its true. I think that's what causes a lot of the radicalization that we see in these types of forums.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/07/21 01:25 AM
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I went to a drive in movie date this weekend and it was amazing! Movie was great, snacks were great and we could talk a little instead of being in complete silence like in a movie theater. 10/10 Experience, would do that again.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/07/21 02:41 PM
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Ambition as in having goals and working to achieve them. Like, good for a guy who is happy with a routine and having a comfortable job but Im not attracted to that.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/07/21 09:09 PM
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Not all women are bitches to their friends you know? I love it when I see my friends being happy with themselves, who am I to judge their bodies? I have 2 friends who are overweight and single. They both are pretty aware of their body size. Its not that I dont want them to be hot, is that its non of my business.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/07/21 05:18 PM
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How do you know if a woman has a high or low N count? If she is new in town how could you tell?
/r/PurplePillDebate14/07/21 02:10 AM
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Well, I am empathetic towards them in the sense that I now understand their position and I have brought up the topic with my friends but theres not much else I can do.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/07/21 05:32 PM
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Its not that common afaik. At my restaurant we only did it once in 6 years.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/07/21 05:27 PM
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Kinda, I didnt want to repeat after that one time
/r/PurplePillDebate13/07/21 04:58 PM
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Worst sex of my life was with a friend of mine who only dates girls 18-21 (he is in his 30s). I had to do everything and by the end I asked him if he was open to hear some feedback lol. He still smashed but his self steem took a hit.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/07/21 03:38 PM
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How much caring are we talking about? Is caring recognizing its a real issue or caring like actively doing something to help them?
/r/PurplePillDebate13/07/21 03:35 PM
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It has made me way more compassionate regarding men issues. It has also made me appreciate dating culture in my country and that says a lot.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/07/21 02:26 AM
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I can only imagine I can also imagine Its too early to debate with your imagination tbh
/r/PurplePillDebate11/07/21 04:59 PM
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I heard a lot about him since man of steel. Ive never watched but when I saw Man from UNCLE I was like oooh that's why many people think he is hot. Cant tell you if I heard it from men or women though.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/07/21 04:54 PM
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Ive never seen the Witcher but I loved him in Man from UNCLE
/r/PurplePillDebate11/07/21 04:28 PM
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I was in one and many of my friends have been.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/07/21 04:59 PM
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Its part of their revenge fantasy to hope that once we are old and alone we suffer as much as they did while they thrive in their 30s-40s dating younger women. Im 37 and just had to tell a guy last night that I cant date him bc his biggest life goal is to be a father. He is a wonderful man and if it wasnt for that I would love to date him but I have zero interest in being a mother.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/07/21 02:45 PM
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Yes its been an eye opener tbh
/r/PurplePillDebate07/07/21 06:27 PM
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I always tell guys i’ll pay the next one but they usually dont let me pay until we are official 🤷‍♀️
/r/PurplePillDebate07/07/21 06:23 PM
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I havent and also im not american, maybe thats why I dont feel comfortable with it
/r/PurplePillDebate07/07/21 06:14 PM
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For what I see on the other comments it is an issue mostly in the US I dont even flirt with other guys if im seeing someone, even if it isnt official yet 🤷‍♀️
/r/PurplePillDebate07/07/21 06:12 PM
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Oh ok So for the guys who just wants fwbs yeah, I dont care as long as the women know its just that For the guys who are looking for a ltr, I would prefer they weren't dating anyone else at the same time.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/07/21 04:49 PM
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Doesn't spinning plates means that its just sex and not looking for a LTR?
/r/PurplePillDebate07/07/21 04:30 PM
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I don't care what he does as long as long as the plates know its not going anywhere.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/07/21 04:16 PM
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You don't think there are people who are relationship material and some that are not? Im talking both genders
/r/PurplePillDebate05/07/21 01:54 PM
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Testify 🙌🏻
/r/PurplePillDebate04/07/21 01:06 AM
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Someone is a bit emotional today 👀
/r/PurplePillDebate03/07/21 12:04 AM
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Im not interested in sleeping with multiple men, having threesomes or anything like that. I think That if I ever get married and we are older and bored I could try swinging with my partner but not interested in orgies or group sex
/r/PurplePillDebate01/07/21 10:09 PM
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I can feel it but it doesn't happen just by seeing a random hot guy. I do think women say it figuratively
/r/PurplePillDebate01/07/21 12:18 AM
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Im talking about real feminists and not the first world version of feminism
/r/PurplePillDebate01/07/21 12:07 AM
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lmao that's why I asked first, I don't want anyone to die tonight
/r/PurplePillDebate30/06/21 11:45 PM
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Do you mean like from a total stranger or from a partner? Because I can think of a few things a stranger can do but he has to be hot and I don't think that's what men from PPD want to hear Edit: Ok so random hot men: Wear grey sweatpants + white t shirt Play rough sports: football, rugby, martial arts. We could also include surfing. Some blue collar jobs: carpentry, welding, black smithery For my partner: all of the above + I get crazy turned on when seeing my guy eat a lot, specially something …
/r/PurplePillDebate30/06/21 11:41 PM
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when it was a patriarchy we didn't have these problems Wow, saying the quiet part loud
/r/PurplePillDebate30/06/21 09:04 PM
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I think your chances are good
/r/PurplePillDebate30/06/21 05:53 PM
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They dont support the dinamic, they support the ability to choose the lifestyle the woman want
/r/PurplePillDebate30/06/21 03:56 PM
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Feminists who shame women for their decisions arent real feminists. Feminism is having the option and choose for yourself, not just because of gender roles.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/06/21 01:09 PM
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And many of them arent even getting sex regularly -_-
/r/PurplePillDebate30/06/21 12:05 PM
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The other day someone posted about asking their parents why they got married and the dad just said something like « idk it just happened » I wish people were more conscious about such decisions. Not only they deny themselves the chance to find someone more compatible but also make it harder for others.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/06/21 11:45 AM
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Because of my former business I got to work with many american and canadian men living in Mexico, all of them white and over 50. Only a couple of them had stable long term relationships with mexican women. The rest would have to date very poor and unattractive women who were only there for money. These guys couldnt comprehend that more attractive women or women qho were looking for a real relationship werent interested in some old guy who only had money to offer. There was a guy in particular wh…
/r/PurplePillDebate30/06/21 11:36 AM
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I like your username
/r/PurplePillDebate30/06/21 11:21 AM
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This is normal advice women get when going out
/r/PurplePillDebate30/06/21 10:36 AM
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Leave your personal biases out of debates That’s a problem most women here have LMAO
/r/PurplePillDebate30/06/21 09:44 AM
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Thats what im told every time I talk about toxic masculinity 🤷‍♀️
/r/PurplePillDebate30/06/21 09:23 AM
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Theres tons of men on this sub I disagree with. This guy is something else.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/06/21 09:19 AM
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Dude im a therapist. Ive met many suicidal people. None of their exes was to blame because of their decisions. Its nuts to me that you believe that the majority of men would put so much responsibility of their actions onto someone else.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/06/21 04:56 AM
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You believe every man that commits suicide is because a woman hurt him? wow
/r/PurplePillDebate30/06/21 04:25 AM
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Did I complain about suicide rates? Not you personally but it is often brought up on this sub Also pro tip: if you want to look like you care about negative consecuences for men of toxic gender roles then call them that. I didnt name it but its the same thing (it was actually male authors who called it toxic masculinity). I understand your point tho, I feel the same way regarding feminism (I believe it should be named something more regarding egalitarianism)
/r/PurplePillDebate30/06/21 04:21 AM
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Then dont get rid of it but stop complaining about suicide rates in men because they can't talk about their feelings 🤷‍♀️ Toxic masculinity affects mostly men. If you guys are happy having to keep their "stoic" persona, go ahead.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/06/21 04:00 AM
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I dont want a feminine man. I dont want a "scaredy cat" like I was told in another thread. I dont want a guy who cries every day.I dont want a guy who acts like a woman. I would like to see men to be able to express their feelings in a healthy way and get emotional support without being judged. Its gets very tiresome how everything is taken to the extremes on this sub. Oh you want to get rid of toxic masculinity? THEN WHY DONT YOU SLEEP WITH FEMININE MEN - First of all, getting rid of the TOXIC …
/r/PurplePillDebate30/06/21 03:46 AM
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You think that if you get married you won't check out other women?
/r/PurplePillDebate29/06/21 11:26 PM
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Is it hypergamy when a man leaves his wife for a younger woman?
/r/PurplePillDebate29/06/21 10:44 PM
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...Its a debate sub and different POVs are needed for debating?
/r/PurplePillDebate29/06/21 07:37 PM
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I was just discussing love with some guy on another thread. I feel very sorry for those who have never experienced it or that were so burnt that they completely closed themselves to it.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/06/21 07:27 PM
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An empathic person doesnt choose who they feel empathy for
/r/PurplePillDebate29/06/21 06:59 PM
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That is correct
/r/PurplePillDebate29/06/21 06:11 PM
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Ok so you think only ugly men can fall in love and that's because they dont get nsa sex, is that correct?
/r/PurplePillDebate29/06/21 04:50 PM
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You didnt answer my question
/r/PurplePillDebate29/06/21 04:46 PM
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You dont think men fall in love?
/r/PurplePillDebate29/06/21 04:41 PM
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Love happens with time and its a real deep feeling. Limerence is an obsession with a persona you created in your head.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/06/21 04:34 PM
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Some attractive men also want LTRs and a family. Edit: Guys, I didnt mean he wanted a relationship with a FDS woman, calm the f down
/r/PurplePillDebate29/06/21 04:23 PM
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Men underestimate the amount of plastic surgery most 9-8 women get done.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/06/21 03:23 PM
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I dont think they are insecure or lazy. I think they have a worship like concept of dicks that makes them believe a dick has the power to change a woman´s life and personality. I can see not wanting to date a high N woman, but specifically asking for a virgin is weird.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/06/21 03:20 PM
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Mexico, 37F. Society is very red pilled. I lean red and for Mexican standards Im a radfem. Men cheating is normalized so it really isn't a cause for divorce (unless the guy is extremely cynical and does it in the open with multiple women). Not saying that women dont cheat but it isn't as common and way more judged. Men who want to spend time with their kids are rare. Being a single mother isn't an impediment to find a partner (I know men who prefer to date single mothers since their kids are gro…
/r/PurplePillDebate29/06/21 02:36 PM
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Dude im not attacking masculinity
/r/PurplePillDebate29/06/21 01:17 AM
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https://www.dictionary.com/browse/toxic-masculinity
/r/PurplePillDebate29/06/21 01:06 AM
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Good point, although the thought of making a guy so crazy that he would abandon his beliefs would probably work with younger me
/r/PurplePillDebate28/06/21 08:33 PM
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ULPT for virgin men: Tell the woman you are seeing that you are a hardcore christian and was waiting for someone special but after you met her you dont think you'll be able to wait because you are that much attracted to her.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/06/21 07:33 PM
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I have helped all my bfs and many friends to set up their skin care routine. Im a huge fan of self care and Im glad to help them do something that makes them feel better with themselves.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/06/21 07:28 PM
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Toxic masculinity is men thinking using moisturizer turns them into women
/r/PurplePillDebate28/06/21 06:57 PM
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This problem will never be fixed if women don't stop being attracted to stoic or "tough" Men Sorry but no. Its up to men to look for a solution, just like women organized and demanded equal rights
/r/PurplePillDebate28/06/21 05:46 PM
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Maybe it just needs be renamed to something else? Its like the term Feminism. I believe the true feminist movement should be renamed to exclude toxic feminists who use it to throw temper tantrums and get their way, maybe what we are looking for is something more egalitarian.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/06/21 04:02 PM
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Women and society are the primary ones who ridicule and punish men for this shit. Wouldn't you want for this to change? Women can have toxic concepts regarding masculinity, you know? Toxic masculinity isn't an attack to all masculinity, just to those traits.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/06/21 03:54 PM
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I wouldn't with a scaredy cat but I would with a man who can identify his emotions and lets me know when he is mad/sad/happy/scared/whatever. For a long time I thought men didnt have emotions like women do. Men in mexico are even less expressive than in other cultures, unless its anger, so I just assumed they didnt feel much. Men have every right to feel whatever they feel and express it without fear of being ridiculed or mocked by other men and women.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/06/21 03:45 PM
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it is because society doesn’t care about men who are suffering. So it is better to hold it in then lose status (includes friends, family, wives, etc) or be mocked for being a victim ...Thats exactly what toxic masculinity refers to. It doesn't mean men are toxic and women are not. It means that certains aspects of masculinity are toxic, like ridiculing a man for not wanting to do something he is scared of, not letting a man express his feelings and to "man up" or the pressure to be the alpha. Br…
/r/PurplePillDebate28/06/21 03:07 PM
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Well, that's you. That is correct, I answered a question asking if I would support my husband for the rest of the relationship and I replied according to my POV, yes. If I made enough money for us to live comfortably, it's perfectly fine if he takes care of the household and the children Ok? good for you
/r/PurplePillDebate28/06/21 01:12 PM
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yes. To me career ambition is important in a partner so I wouldnt want a SAHH.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/06/21 12:28 PM
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I dont think lying to get sex is equal as rape. Its amoral and an asshole thing to do but it isnt the same as rape. I do believe women who lie about paternity should Get some kind of punishment. Maybe like paying back for everything the guy paid for the kid thinking it was his.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/06/21 04:56 AM
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Ive always thought that Roosh is too ugly to be a PUA. I think his stories are greatly exaggerated, only believed by teenagers/college kids, like Tucker Max. Regarding his new spiritual path, if it makes him happy that's ok I guess. Dont really believe him but its non of my business. Madonna did it and not many people remember she was wild in the 80s and 90s. I can't think of another example of a woman turning into a trad lifestyle. What do you think? Why do you think many redpilled trads are mo…
/r/PurplePillDebate28/06/21 02:46 AM
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You can get into an accident randomly or get cancer any moment
/r/PurplePillDebate27/06/21 05:36 PM
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Beardfishing is real I think its the same as women who look completely different when wearing makeup.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/06/21 03:25 PM
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Ive never done it and I dont think I would. I believe we all should take a break between partners to heal whatever we need to heal and dont date until we are ready.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/06/21 03:22 PM
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It depends on the libido of the person, although it tends to be overrated in people who dont get it easily.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/06/21 03:20 PM
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Only if he was sick or something. I couldnt do it if it was because I had a better salary, I would see him as less of a man tbh.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/06/21 03:12 PM
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I only like granny panties for sleeping. Thongs are more comfortable to me during the day
/r/PurplePillDebate27/06/21 02:34 PM
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Hell no. I actively avoid repeating my parents patterns. My mom is not as bad as my dad but I could never date an adult that throws tantrums.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/06/21 02:24 PM
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My state is one of the hottest of the country and we are kinda used to it but this year it started 2 months early. The worst is felt around august-september but this year we’ve been in the 40s since may.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/06/21 02:17 PM
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Every country has good and bad sides. This post is particularly talking about a side of the US that is one of the main points of this sub. Also, Germany takes good measures to prevent something like nazism to happen again. In the US people seem to be encouraged to be shallow.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/06/21 02:11 PM
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We’ve been locks, cars and now houses.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/06/21 07:18 AM
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I hear you. Heat makes me lose my will to live. I need to move somewhere else.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/06/21 07:15 AM
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Export them to Russia and become rich
/r/PurplePillDebate26/06/21 02:29 PM
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I still see it as something positive. Cats are the best.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/06/21 01:16 PM
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I love cats and the guy Im with has to at least tolerate them bc im always going to have cats. If the guy not only tolerates them but loves them that would be like 1000 extra points.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/06/21 01:06 PM
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My dad is fully vaccinated and tested positive today. Hope it is not what you have and wish you a speedy recovery.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/06/21 04:11 AM
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it is not possible to be the same human being after engaging in intercourse with someone. It changes you on a spiritual level. Do you think it applies to both genders? It alternately grieves me and baffles me that women on here deny this Some of us really dont think that a dick is that transcendental in our life. I mean, Im not a fan of casual sex, but even if its with someone Im truly in love with I dont view sex as an spiritual experience. I view it more as an animal/carnal thing.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/06/21 03:49 AM
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I just said the same thing.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/06/21 03:42 AM
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Do you think that becoming a confident and charming would help average men to meet women?
/r/PurplePillDebate26/06/21 01:57 AM
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Just look at the replies lol Of course im going to remember my first, I remember vividly the guys I was super duper in love with.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/06/21 01:16 AM
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Whenever a guy mentions wanting a virgin because of pair bonding I cant help to think of them as Lucas Werner and telomeres
/r/PurplePillDebate25/06/21 11:52 PM
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I dont care but I rather not know.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/06/21 11:36 PM
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You are not forced to date anyone you dont want so good luck? I hope you are really hot if you think its that important your partner finds you attractive.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/06/21 11:14 PM
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Aren't you guys always crying about how women only want to hook up with chads?
/r/PurplePillDebate25/06/21 11:12 PM
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Woman dates hot guy:women are so evil they only want chads Woman dates ugly guy: women shouldn't date someone they were not attracted to the first time they saw him
/r/PurplePillDebate25/06/21 11:09 PM
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Again, theres a whole spectrum from Chad to someone im disgusted with. What I meant is that when you get older, you realize looks aren't everything and you rather be with someone who isn't physically perfect but who has other characteristics. I think its possible to find someone who has all the traits I mentioned and that I like enough to sleep with.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/06/21 11:06 PM
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So now we are not supposed to give guys who aren't Chad a chance?
/r/PurplePillDebate25/06/21 10:27 PM
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No it isnt true because I never said that wtf
/r/PurplePillDebate25/06/21 08:27 PM
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These guys cant think of anything but black and white
/r/PurplePillDebate25/06/21 08:24 PM
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Yeah its not an alpha/beta thing. Its a crappy people thing.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/06/21 06:42 PM
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My cat who went missing over a year ago :((
/r/PurplePillDebate25/06/21 05:16 PM
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Theres like a whole spectrum from chad to someone I dont sexually desire.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/06/21 05:14 PM
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Idk ive never cheated on anyone but I have been cheated on multiple times
/r/PurplePillDebate25/06/21 05:13 PM
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I meant it for relationships not for just sex. For sex, yeah the guy just has to be hot. For relationships, a stable income is more important than looks. Not because I want a free ride but because I want to be with someone who can afford the same lifestyle I have.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/06/21 03:54 PM
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I dont want a millionaire, I want a guy who knows when his next paycheck is coming. BETA BUCKS Men with beta traits are better for relationships, that is correct.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/06/21 03:37 PM
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Eh, it still differs from woman to woman. My bff is super into skinny guys with long hair while for me both things are a huge turn off.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/06/21 03:35 PM
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Nah, it means one of them is HL and the other LL or that one of them likes to do stuff the other isn't comfortable with
/r/PurplePillDebate25/06/21 02:49 PM
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Ive noticed the opposite. In high school and college the guy only has to be hot and funny for a girl to like him. As we grow up we start to take other things into account: Job stability, intelligence, goals, whatever and physical appearance becomes less of a priority. a good portion of girls were into it's opposite, and different kinds of guys; the skinny artsy boys, even gamers and nerds Still true. Not every woman likes the same. My BFF and I have completely opposite taste in men.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/06/21 02:47 PM
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I think the problem with video games is the easiness to become an addiction and the isolation/unhealthy habits that come with it. I like video games. I actually like them so much that I dont have any consoles/PC because I know myself and I would spend any free time I get playing. My ex is a gamer and he would rather play video games than do anything else. I am never dating someone who likes video games that much ever again.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/06/21 02:34 PM
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Winners according to men, losers according to women
/r/PurplePillDebate24/06/21 05:32 PM
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House cleaning was one of the main issues I had with my ex. Hiring someone to help us stopped those issues immediatly.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/06/21 05:30 PM
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Captain Save A Ho LOL Wish I had read that yesterday, I was talking to a friend about his savior complex towards a girl he is seeing.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/06/21 08:46 PM
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Longest - a little over 1 year Currently - 6 months I had a FWB for a couple of years but we ended it on New Years eve. We would usually see each other when we were both single, the longest was for like 4 months straight.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/06/21 04:58 PM
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Theres a big issue with lack of water here. I live in a middle class area and we have running water once a week, twice if we are lucky. I have two water tanks and I can afford to get a (tanker truck? dont know the word for the trucks that deliver water) if needed but most people aren't that lucky. So to begin with, theres a hygiene factor. We also have big issues with both malnutrition and obesity, vaccination is at 12% rate and theres a lot of science denialism - more people than what I thought…
/r/PurplePillDebate23/06/21 03:20 PM
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Masks are obligatory for all ages in most places. You are supposedly only allowed to take it off while eating in restaurants but most people take it off the moment they sit and put it back on when they leave. You dont have to wear it at the beach but you are supposed to only have contact with the group you are in. Thing is, a tourist who is staying all day at a beach restaurant isn't wearing the mask at all. If they have the virus they infect workers who then go to their families. All public hos…
/r/PurplePillDebate23/06/21 02:54 PM
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I dont want to be too specific but its a small city in Mexico. 1.5 hrs from a tourist hot spot, guess where the entitled tourists who refuse to wear facemasks are from.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/06/21 02:41 PM
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The Delta variant that is more contagious and is causing even vaccinated people getting sick, that is correct. 3 kids died from it in my city yesterday. Hospitals are at full capacity mostly with young people intubated. Please consider your privileges before calling people sheep.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/06/21 02:35 PM
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Can confirm, im 37 and Still DRE and Forgot about Dre are on my gym playlist.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/06/21 03:45 AM
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They wanted Dr Dre, not some guy bumping Still Dre like he doesn't live in a suburban white home that's never even seen black people in real life Omg this brought memories. My HS boyfriend was the whitest and skinniest guy in school. I used to lie to my mom to get on his car (93´green Dodge Shadow) while we blasted Still DRE. Good times.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/06/21 03:34 AM
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They attacked civilians today, 15 dead. Where I live is pretty safe but most of the country is in awful shape.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/06/21 03:24 AM
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very mucho
/r/PurplePillDebate23/06/21 03:11 AM
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Tom Hardy or a bit older Zac Efron (like 5 years older) His personality is similar to mine: Sometimes wants to go out, sometimes wants to stay home. Sometimes feels likes chatting sometimes we are both quiet reading. Works out and has hobbies on his own but we also do stuff together. Weed and alcohol are ok in moderation, maybe shrooms or acid if we are in a festival together. Not necessarily a minimalist but someone who doesn't shop mindlessly or has the house full of stuff he doesn't need. Mus…
/r/PurplePillDebate22/06/21 07:57 PM
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Most of my friends are single and over 30. Just 1 of my friends is into casual sex and she hooks up maybe like once a month? The rest of us just got toys. I live in a small city in Mexico where most people in our age bracket know each other. Even the women who are known for being into casual sex arent that much active like some of the experiences other commenters described.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/06/21 05:18 PM
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It isn't a custom in my country but I would do it if it was. My last name is long and inconvenient sometimes.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/06/21 12:37 AM
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Yeah that's what people who have never been in an abusive relationship dont get, it doesn't go to 0 to 100 suddenly. You know what's the worst part? I read what I posted and I thought "I should delete this im exaggerating it wasn't THAT bad".
/r/PurplePillDebate21/06/21 05:03 PM
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It’s usually about two broken people caught in a cycle. Exactly this
/r/PurplePillDebate21/06/21 04:55 PM
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Can you share with us some early signs so others realize someone is an abuser?
/r/PurplePillDebate21/06/21 04:48 PM
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At the beginning there was a lot of love bombing. I was 21 and he was 20, I thought that being obsessed with your partner was love. There was also a lot of gaslighting, specially regarding other girls. He would constantly text other girls but never really cheated or said something over the line, he was looking for validation on them. So when I got mad he could say that it was them texting him, that he did nothing wrong. Emotional violence would include him ignoring me and giving me the silent tr…
/r/PurplePillDebate21/06/21 04:47 PM
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Sure!
/r/PurplePillDebate21/06/21 03:22 PM
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I didnt reply to your original question bc I was in an abusive relationship from both sides but im also a psychologist. Abuse usually doesnt start at the begining of the relationship. In my case it started years later. The first few years were a bliss, he was the perfect man for me. This is typical behavior of abusers, they dont start behaving that way until they are sure you are hooked and wont leave. You become codependent and think you are going crazy. How come someone that loves you like he …
/r/PurplePillDebate21/06/21 01:38 PM
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He has a government desk job. Nothing exciting but he likes it :)
/r/PurplePillDebate21/06/21 12:12 AM
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This made me lol. He is actually a geeky lawyer who has his apartment decorated with funkos. Although he takes them out of the box, that's probably the psychopathic part of him im attracted to.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/06/21 12:04 AM
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Theres something magnetic in those murderous eyes.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/06/21 10:10 PM
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Yup, I dont care about height. Guy im seeing is 5´4.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/06/21 10:09 PM
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My friends call me crazy bc I find Putin sexy lol
/r/PurplePillDebate20/06/21 08:57 PM
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I´ve been thinking about this since its the only solution I can think of. Women dont have a need to change this. We can be fat and unattractive and theres going to be at least one man who would date us and even if there wasn't, we dont need sex/relationships that bad. For those who want kids theres the option of a one night stand or IVF. So either men come together and do something or every guy who complains about sexlessness/singleness shuts up. I also wish women who complain about Where are al…
/r/PurplePillDebate20/06/21 03:43 PM
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Women dont need men to support themselves anymore so men now have to provide something else for women to choose them.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/06/21 12:02 AM
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I had the same experience.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/06/21 11:54 PM
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All his replies are pure cringe. No wonder no one wants him.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/06/21 01:58 AM
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Last year I moved back in with my mom because she got a herniated disc and couldnt move. She is now able to walk around 30min per day but Im still helping her with most chores. My dad is a narcissist, theres no doubt about it. But now that Ive been with her for so long Ive realized that she is in no way the victim she always claimed to be. She won't shut up, she is always nagging me, everything has to be done the second she wants it and how she wants it. If I dare to be quiet when im with her (w…
/r/RedPillWomen17/06/21 12:49 AM
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The promiscuous women I know have a lot of abandonment and codependency issues which they try to canalize by using sex for self validation. One of them told me a while ago "people told me being promiscuous was supposed to be fun" and we talked about her using sex to fill the void. I guess its like using drugs or alcohol to suppress your feelings.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/06/21 07:29 PM
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Yeah its pretty bad. Most women here are raised to take care of their husbands and deal with the cheating (Ive heard many women say "sure he sleeps with other women but im THE WIFE" plenty of times) so I dont think theres going to be a change of culture at least in my lifetime. About half of the men Ive dated are foreigners (American, Canadian, German and British) and theres a huge difference between them and Mexican men regarding how they see relationships.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/06/21 03:56 PM
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Good point, I keep forgetting that men have to lie for sex.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/06/21 02:08 PM
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You would be amazed by the amount of lonely men her age and older. Because of the business we used to have, our main clients were retired American and Canadian single men living in Mexico. I know many women in their 50s and 60s who have married some of them, my mom was asked out looking for a relationship many times but she never wanted to.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/06/21 01:58 PM
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I do not believe that AWALT is valid for everything. Sure for some things, but not for every aspect of being a woman. I do not agree with the angry men that has taken over the RP label. Just like I dont agree with the women who throw tantrums in the name of feminism, I think many men justify their misoginy in the name of RP.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/06/21 01:53 PM
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Im from Mexico and men here express their emotions even less than in other cultures. Also, most men are cheaters and dont care about their kids so I grew up thinking men basically had no feelings like women do. Before coming to PPD, I never thought it was that important for men to feel desired nor that their self worth was so attached to it. It has been an eye opener to learn and understand this.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/06/21 01:47 PM
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You make a lot of assumptions buddy. Why does it bother you so much that there are women over 30 who dont need to settle? There are only two possibilities for why you “refuse to settle” either 1. You feel that no one is good enough for you in which case you’re a terrible partner and a rampant narcissist and that’s the real reason you’re alone or 2. The people who you feel ARE good enough for you aren’t interested. This is the actual truth because the men you want can date you but 10 years younge…
/r/PurplePillDebate16/06/21 01:22 PM
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Where did I admit im a couple steps down from your equivalent man on the desirability scale? Dude you are all over the place. You should monetize your mind reading abilities. Im sorry to ruin your fantasy of women over 30 being alone and sad but that's just not my case. I dont "need" a partner so I will never settle for someone I dont like or who I just like enough just to have someone besides me.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/06/21 12:46 PM
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Where do you get that i tell myself im as desired as a 27 year old?
/r/PurplePillDebate16/06/21 12:29 PM
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Im currently seeing someone that im completely smitten with. Theres at least 4 other guys that I know would date me in a sec. None of them is creepy. One of them I would consider if I wasnt seeing someone else, the others I dont like for different reasons.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/06/21 12:26 PM
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Im way more sympathetic towards men issues now. I never thought men put so much of their self worth on being desired/ sex intimacy. I also learned that TRP is more right than wrong in women nature (thers still some stuff i dont agree with but now i lean red way more than i used to)
/r/PurplePillDebate16/06/21 12:19 PM
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Im 37 snd im not lacking options 🤷‍♀️ My mom is 62 and even she isnt lacking options. Maybe you arent interested in older women but in my experience, most dont care
/r/PurplePillDebate16/06/21 12:06 PM
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I feel the same way as her. I see Jason Momoa and think he is hot but I dont get wet and think about having sex with him. Is just like « yeah he is hot » and thats it
/r/PurplePillDebate16/06/21 12:29 AM
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Im technically single (nothing official yet with the guy im seeing) but I´ve never gotten horny just by looking someone. This is something that Ive talked with one of my friends actually because she says that when she sees a hot guy "she wants to fuck him right there" and Ive never gotten that. Its more like if I see a hot guy I think "oh he's hot" and that's about it. The other day I took my mom to the beach and there was a very hot guy sitting. My mom and I were walking around and she pointed …
/r/PurplePillDebate15/06/21 10:55 PM
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Have you read what men say on PPD about women having sex more easily because we have more options?? They can't understand that it means nothing to us because we dont want them
/r/PurplePillDebate15/06/21 06:55 PM
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No but since many men have no standards we have to use analogies this extreme to try to find an equivalent.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/06/21 06:35 PM
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All the women in my family (grandmas, mom and aunts) have told me to be independent and to not let a man control my life. They all had to marry because it was the norm back then and couldn't leave because being financially dependent of their husbands. Men in my family are all cheaters who didn't had much relationship with their children and who loved to make those my wife is the worst hurr durr jokes. I think everyone in my family would have been much happier if they didn't marry/didnt have kids…
/r/PurplePillDebate15/06/21 06:26 PM
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Ok same example with a bunch of no teeth crackhead women
/r/PurplePillDebate15/06/21 04:32 PM
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What? You think that adults grow up because they can't have what they want? Growing up come from having experiences and learning from them, specially from those where we mess up. Please tell me you are very young and that is why you think like this because if you are older then...yikes.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/06/21 04:32 PM
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OK so how do you feel about the crackheads that live around the corner. How would you feel if a crackhead woman with no teeth wanted to have sex with you? Would you feel like your emotional needs are met? Would it influence what you are looking for in a relationship? Would it stroke your ego?
/r/PurplePillDebate15/06/21 04:27 PM
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Growing up IS change. Your priorities changing IS change.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/06/21 04:19 PM
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They changed because they had to change. Soo...they changed?
/r/PurplePillDebate15/06/21 04:13 PM
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How would you feel if 90% of gay men would like to sex with you? Would you feel like your emotional needs are met? Would you feel privileged? Would it influence what you are looking for in a relationship?
/r/PurplePillDebate15/06/21 03:51 PM
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Use your mouth and your hands
/r/PurplePillDebate14/06/21 08:27 PM
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You know, me and my friends joked about creating a hot guy fight club and charging women and gay men to watch them fight. I think I could have made good money by having those two as the main event.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/06/21 07:41 PM
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25% (n=8) Stamina, confidence, they were hot Not gonna lie, they are complete chads. Not only attractive but also aggressive, confident and funny. One of them is a jiujitsu champion and the other one used to do boxing. Fun fact: the worst sex Ive ever had was a one time thing with a good friend of mine who is known for only dating girls 18-21. When we hooked up I was 34 and he was 32. It was so bad I gave him feedback about wtf he was doing.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/06/21 07:30 PM
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Satisfyer FTW
/r/PurplePillDebate14/06/21 07:22 PM
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I would say men in gray sweatpants are the equivalent of women in yoga pants
/r/PurplePillDebate14/06/21 04:47 AM
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You are not wrong although I wouldn't say extremely attractive, just that I like enough to sleep with him.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/06/21 03:55 AM
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I don't even casually date two people at the same time.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/06/21 08:27 PM
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She grew up watching her dad hitting her mom so she saw it as normal. She decided to get a divorce the day her oldest son (I think he was like 8 back then) confronted his dad and got in between so he couldnt hurt her. An awful situation, im glad she could get out of there. The oldest son has a lot of psychologycal issues and she isnt doing very well regarding money (shes in real state and still hasnt gotten better because of the pandemic) so she had to take the kid out of school for the time bei…
/r/PurplePillDebate12/06/21 05:42 PM
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Not at all, he was very violent. If anything she should have left him earlier.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/06/21 04:07 PM
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Im very comfortable being single and it would take someone im very into to take me out of my comfort zone.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/06/21 03:49 PM
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When one of my friends asked for a divorce her now ex told her that if he ever remarried he wouldnt be seeing her kids again out of respect for his new family. They divorced two years ago and although he hasnt remarry yet he rarely sees them and barely give her any child support for their 3 kids. Where I live, I dare to say that the majority of divorced men use their children to hurt their exes and punish them for getting divorced.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/06/21 03:45 PM
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You are literally in a debate sub
/r/PurplePillDebate12/06/21 01:16 PM
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I'm in the wrong dimension or they are lying? If you dated men you would see what they mean. Just as if I dated women I would see what you guys mean.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/06/21 12:03 AM
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Why do you think that is a bad thing?
/r/PurplePillDebate11/06/21 06:30 PM
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Yes I would. Do you think this would help with how people are struggling to find someone in the current climate? I think so. It would help those of us who find dating too much work.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/06/21 06:22 PM
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Im 37 and im still waiting for the clock to start ticking
/r/PurplePillDebate11/06/21 06:16 PM
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RP talks about hypergamy in women thinking they can get a better guy but I think many married men also go through it by thinking they could get more women if they were single.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/06/21 04:11 PM
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Please read my others comments. That was not the case.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/06/21 02:31 PM
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Yeah I think the guys replying to me have never been in a relationship that long.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/06/21 02:30 PM
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Right? We typically hear that women are the LL partners, who dont put effort into the couples sex life but anyone who has had a LTR knows that's not always the case. I have a friend who is gorgeous and her boyfriend is tall but obese and ugly. Their main issue is that he rather watch pictures and videos of girls on twitter and instagram than having sex. I live in Mexico and I believe is a Maddona-whore issue.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/06/21 02:29 PM
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I get that men who aren't chads dont get it and believe that if they got constant sex they wouldn't need to cheat or watch porn but LTR aren't easy and sex is one of the most common issues between couples. Not saying that its just a porn issue, I get that there are many women who are the problem in a dead bedroom, but at least in my case and many other women I know, its been the men who are the LL partners and won't stop watching porn.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/06/21 02:24 PM
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It was both actually lol
/r/PurplePillDebate11/06/21 02:20 PM
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I think its more of a madonna-whore complex. Men cheating is very normalized in Mexico so it wasn't just porn.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/06/21 02:20 PM
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Maybe men can only bang starfish for so long... It wasn't the case Where's that and how do you know that? Small city in Mexico and I know by talking about it with many women
/r/PurplePillDebate11/06/21 05:50 AM
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Well, are you his type or what he would consider attractive? We broke up many years ago but he would always say he found me really attractive. Was he satisfied in bed? He always insisted in vanilla sex. I tried many things but he wouldnt even hear it.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/06/21 02:35 AM
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I tried to talk it out many times and even tried couples therapy but he would clam up and just say something like " I cant believe we are fighting for this issue like we are a couple of 50 years old" and nothing would get solved. We lived together for 6 years and these issues started like 2 years after moving in.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/06/21 02:32 AM
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You have no idea how hard I tried. He insisted on vanilla sex once a month.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/06/21 01:37 AM
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I tried many things. He insisted on having vanilla sex. My friends have also told me about being the adventurous high libido partner and their exes being the tame ones.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/06/21 01:36 AM
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Because they want to
/r/PurplePillDebate11/06/21 01:34 AM
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My theory is that men become bored of having sex with the same person. At least thats what I see where I live.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/06/21 01:21 AM
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You would be surprised by the amount of men in relationships who rather watch porn instead of having sex with their partners. It happened to me in my mid 20s and it has happened to many of my friends (and just so you know, we werent fat).
/r/PurplePillDebate11/06/21 12:57 AM
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Unfortunately, many women have used the label Feminism to justify their entitlement. Im a feminist. I live in a country where 10 women are killed everyday mostly by their partners. I've been raped. All my friends have been raped. We no longer ask "has it happened to you?" we directly ask "When did it happen to you?". To see our fight being taken over by some women having a tantrum is insulting and I hate seeing it. That being said, I think feminism is still needed in the US. In particular, regar…
/r/PurplePillDebate09/06/21 09:17 PM
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This is so sweet. Congrats.
/r/RedPillWives08/06/21 06:15 PM
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/r/lostredditors go post on /r/purplepilldebate for a discussion on the subject.
/r/RedPillWomen08/06/21 06:12 PM
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spend our time and money on things we find fun Or play victims on reddit 🤷🏼‍♀️
/r/PurplePillDebate08/06/21 02:35 AM
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Not yet 🤷‍♀️ We used to have water everyday a couple years ago. Never thought it would get this bad so soon.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/06/21 12:12 AM
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Small city in Mexico
/r/PurplePillDebate07/06/21 11:32 PM
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I literally live in a city where we get running water once a week
/r/PurplePillDebate07/06/21 11:06 PM
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Im a childfree millennial and I have a hard time trying to understand why people feel the need to pass down their genes. Ive never felt any maternal instinct and tbh I think that bringing a kid is the most selfish thing someone can do. You are bringing someone to a world of suffering just because you "feel the need" to reproduce. There isn't even going to be enough water for the coming generations, why would anyone want their kids to go through that?
/r/PurplePillDebate07/06/21 09:29 PM
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Yeah I get what youre saying.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/06/21 05:41 PM
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I guess, but they were also guys I already knew so its not like they didnt know me at all.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/06/21 05:21 PM
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Thank you. Sometimes I have to read some comments multiple times to try to make sense out of them and think Whelp I guess im not as proficient in English as I thought
/r/PurplePillDebate07/06/21 04:54 PM
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Im sorry, English is not my first language and I dont get what you are trying to say, can you explain it some other way? What am I assuming? the relationship by whom?
/r/PurplePillDebate07/06/21 04:46 PM
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Ok now im confused. Af/BB means the same woman has sex with the alpha and get money from the beta? I thought it was alpha gets sex but beta gets the relationship? Idk I've seen the term AF/BB thrown for multiple situations
/r/PurplePillDebate07/06/21 04:40 PM
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Reverse, as he would be settling for the "good girl" because it didn't work with the one he wanted
/r/PurplePillDebate07/06/21 04:28 PM
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When men want someone they take the risk. I´ve taken the first step with men twice. Both times we only went out once bc they didnt really like me. I dont know why they went out with me if they didnt like me but I guess it was an ego boost? My friend is the one to always take the first step with men she likes and she is 35 and single and longing for a family so...I dont take her advice regarding relationships. I also know men who are asked out by women and their attitude towards them. I have a fr…
/r/PurplePillDebate07/06/21 02:56 PM
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Something I dont understand about RP theory is that they say "women dont know how to love" but then I read something like what you wrote and...well I dont think that a guy that enters a LTR just for sex knows how to love either. Maybe that's the root of all these discussions? No one knows what love really is? Does it really exists? Ive been loved and Ive been in love with someone, am I naive to think that I can get that again?
/r/PurplePillDebate06/06/21 06:37 PM
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Dude life is not fair, deal with it. I never planned my life to end up like it did but it happened. I could be bitter about it but I decided to make the best out of it. Victims are not attractive, not even for young women.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/06/21 01:10 PM
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Both. Personality can be influenced by genetics but its mostly the environment in which the child grows up. Introversion/extraversion is part of the personality. A child who grows up with extrovert parents will probably be an extrovert because he was exposed to socializing his whole life. Sure, it can happens that the kid is different than the parents but its usually not the case.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/06/21 01:52 AM
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Yeah internalized misoginy is a big problem here. I lean red and im called a radfem because I support feminist protests against violence. I would love to find someone normal lol I recently met someone I like a lot and I´ve been avoiding "the talk" haha
/r/PurplePillDebate04/06/21 08:49 PM
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Thats why me and most of my friends are still either single or already divorced. Marriage isn't worthy for women here. We have to work and also do all the house work and child care by ourselves, I dont know any guy who doesn't cheat (not saying women dont cheat but men cheating is extremely normalized) so theres no point.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/06/21 08:27 PM
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Men tend to play women a lot here in Mexico. No matter the age, "the talk" is always awkward, its usually brought up by women because we start going out with someone but we dont know if its dating or what. You can't ask a guy too son because he might get scared and think you want get married next week or maybe he is also dating other women and you are just another one.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/06/21 07:31 PM
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Whenever I read such posts of people victimizing themselves on here is like damn...the first world sounds super nice.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/06/21 07:22 PM
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Relationships aren't like what you read on here. Everyone can have good or bad experiences, some are lucky to find what they are looking for on the first try, some of us go through a lot of heartbreak...but when you hit the pot its worthy.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/06/21 07:04 PM
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Can you link me to one of the comments saying a 12 year old boy should know those things? Ive never seen one and I would like to know what are you talking about
/r/PurplePillDebate04/06/21 02:47 PM
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And BTW I would give the same shit to a 36 year old woman dating an 18 year old boy
/r/PurplePillDebate04/06/21 02:38 PM
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I said THEY because I was talking about both genders, not just boys
/r/PurplePillDebate04/06/21 02:37 PM
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At 12 years I really hope someone has given them "the talk" and they have clear what consent means, for their own safety. There are posts all over this subreddit in which women express shock and disbelief that men in their 20s don't have a basic understanding of sexual attraction or male or female nature, Theres an almos 10 year different from a 12 year old to a guy in his 20s.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/06/21 02:32 PM
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Bravo 👏👏
/r/PurplePillDebate04/06/21 02:20 PM
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Wtf are you talking about? Who expects a 12 year old boy has basic understanding of sexual attraction? Wtf does that even means?
/r/PurplePillDebate04/06/21 02:20 PM
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My grandma told me that she wished she had the option of not getting married like we do know
/r/PurplePillDebate04/06/21 02:05 PM
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Micro penis no doubt
/r/PurplePillDebate04/06/21 06:44 AM
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I know, I feel bad bc I love my cousin but theres nothing I can do for him. A few years ago I tried to include him when I was out with my friends but he never wanted to go out with us. The time I saw him a few weeks ago I was on my way to the beach and a friend invited the guy she is dating and he brought my cousin (they had recently became friends). Im very worried because that guy does a lot of drugs (lsd, shrooms and weed).
/r/PurplePillDebate04/06/21 06:42 AM
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idk I saw him a couple weeks ago but I hadn't see him since before the pandemic. He kept repeating the story to everyone about how she left him and that the last time he saw her he asked to see the dog he gave her when they got together and took him home. AFAIK, she tried to get the dog back at first but then just let him have it instead of keep having contact with him.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/06/21 06:19 AM
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They broke up 3 years ago and he stills talks about how much it hurts him but sure. Last time he saw her he stole her dog.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/06/21 06:09 AM
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You have a great point there. My cousin was 32 dating an 18 year old. My cousin is autistic . The 18 year old out grew him and dumped him 2 years later.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/06/21 05:40 AM
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You agree that men have no self control, are more violent and are a danger for women? The only way a woman can be protected from a man is by another man because men are not capable of not being behaving like animals?
/r/PurplePillDebate04/06/21 03:02 AM
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So you agree with /r/nametheproblem?
/r/PurplePillDebate04/06/21 02:37 AM
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Bill gates, the guy who was friends with Epstein and visited his island?
/r/PurplePillDebate03/06/21 11:30 PM
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Do you think your maturity level is the same as an 18 year old girl?
/r/PurplePillDebate03/06/21 08:44 PM
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Oh please, being « lovable » has nothing to do with it. I dont think a 36 year old MAN could be in love with an 18 year old GIRL. Stop playing dumb you know what I meant
/r/PurplePillDebate03/06/21 06:20 PM
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Honestly I dont. What could they have in common to "fall in love"?
/r/PurplePillDebate03/06/21 04:55 PM
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That is the exact reason why we think its predatory. At that age you are still dumb and ignore the red flags, believe what he says and think its going to be different with you.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/06/21 04:49 PM
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No because they are equally stupid. Theres a huge difference between an experienced man and a stupid boy.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/06/21 04:43 PM
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I KNOW. I dont give a fuck what a sugar baby does, I do care for the 18 year old who believes her 36 year old boyfriend loves her.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/06/21 04:30 PM
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Theres a huge difference between a sugar baby and a girl who is gaslighted by an older man for sex.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/06/21 04:28 PM
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They have lots in common lol Do you think power and wealth is the only thing that matters in a relationship? My dad got one of those. He was 50 she was 19. He was rich, she was poor and wanted money. They are still together but their relationship is damn awful. He is 70 and is afraid to be alone because of his age, she is 39 and has had multiple affairs. I hate her guts because how she treats my dad but its his choice to stay there so I cant do anything about it. I bet it was fun for my dad at f…
/r/PurplePillDebate03/06/21 04:26 PM
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the only thing driving your desire to mature is lack of dick options on the weekend... We dont crave dick like men crave pussy. Ive never met a woman who looks for dick every weekend, let alone thinking about settling for the lack of options.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/06/21 01:25 PM
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Same for me but we broke up when I was 30. Took my time to heal. Ive never had interest in sleeping with tons of different men, not even as a single mid 30s woman. I didn't plan to stay single at this age but things happened. If I was desperate I can think of at least 4 guys who would date me right now if I wanted but I dont like them and it wouldn't be fair for them or for me. I rather stay single.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/06/21 01:22 PM
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I wouldn't feel good with myself by taking advantage of someone else. I dont care if he wants to, I wouldn't be comfortable getting something from someone I dont love/like.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/06/21 04:03 AM
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Thank you for your response. do you think romance books can replace those feelings and delay your desire for a relationship I don't read romance books so that is not my case but I guess that's the reason why those books are popular with women. Ive been told that im "colder" than other women because Im not too fond on romance but I do have other turn ons. I appreciate flowers/massages/whatever but they dont turn me on. Cooking for a guy and seeing him eat on the other hand makes me go crazy.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/06/21 07:40 PM
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Honest question: Is masturbating not enough to keep your desperation under control? Ive been single for a while and I value having a low n count so I just use a satisfyer and that's good enough for me. Is it different for men?
/r/PurplePillDebate02/06/21 12:36 PM
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Do you really think you are nice, good and decent?
/r/PurplePillDebate02/06/21 01:13 AM
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Run from there and move on.
/r/RedPillWomen01/06/21 08:04 PM
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It has changed the way I see some of men issues and also to recognize certain behaviors in me. I think that analyzing issues from different points of view is very enriching and I really hope others are also open to leave their echo chambers and be a bit more open minded regarding gender struggles.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/06/21 07:44 PM
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Thats why vetting is so important for both genders.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/06/21 07:39 PM
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One of my BFFs finally left her husband after their oldest kid (was probably 8 or 9 then) got in the middle of them so her ex couldn't hit her. She was raised to be a submissive wife and although it was a traumatic situation for the kid at least she got the strength to leave him right there.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/06/21 07:38 PM
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Thanks! Im very happy where I am now but it hasn't been easy.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/06/21 05:44 PM
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Yes I think many people use relationships as a distraction from facing their issues. I dont think that's ok but most people dont think.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/06/21 04:17 AM
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Do you believe in therapy?
/r/PurplePillDebate01/06/21 03:04 AM
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Im a huge fan of everything self care and self improvement. I believe people can change if they want but change is difficult and slow. I used to be a crazy jealous insecure girlfriend. I have mentioned before that I was in a toxic relationship with a psychopath and I was codependent. After a very traumatic break up I realized that what I was doing was hurting me. I had to be very honest with myself, I took responsability on my part of why the relationship went the way it went and started from th…
/r/PurplePillDebate01/06/21 03:01 AM
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Why does it bothers you?
/r/PurplePillDebate01/06/21 02:39 AM
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I thought men didnt even get dates
/r/PurplePillDebate31/05/21 05:59 PM
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I see you are a man of culture
/r/PurplePillDebate31/05/21 04:51 PM
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After a very VERY toxic relationship that lasted all my 20s, I decided to take my time to heal and work on myself until I was ready to date again. A lot of people told me I should just keep dating anyone and that it would help me heal faster but I didn't think it was fair for the guy. I think its a extremely selfish thing to do and people should do more self reflection before entering any relationship.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/05/21 04:41 PM
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Of course I do but I also want the owner of said dick haha
/r/PurplePillDebate31/05/21 04:20 PM
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Thats why I quit OLD. If I dont say anything = she is here for the dick If I say Im not looking for hookups = shes lying she wants dick badly WoMeN aRe So CoNfUsInG
/r/PurplePillDebate31/05/21 03:59 PM
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For the way they talk you would think most PPD men work fishing for alaskan king crabs
/r/PurplePillDebate31/05/21 02:21 PM
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I tried OLD for a little while, specifically said I dont do hook ups and still got a ton of messages from guys whos first line was something about sex. People forget they are talking to a human being on those apps
/r/PurplePillDebate31/05/21 12:19 PM
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until she developed a drug problem Totally fine
/r/PurplePillDebate31/05/21 04:59 AM
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Can some of you live without a man/family? I dont "need" a man. I want a partner. Im very content with my life so anyone who adds more value to it is welcomed but im ok if it doesn't happen. Im also childfree so im perfectly ok with the no family part. What age are you now? 37 Do you think that its plausible as soon as that fertility of yours starts to decrease that family might be something late to consider? I dont care, I dont like kids. Im from Mexico so family values here are different than …
/r/PurplePillDebate31/05/21 04:54 AM
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What about Mad Men?
/r/PurplePillDebate30/05/21 08:01 PM
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Men here are very misogynistic. I haven't met a guy who isn't a cheater. Basically you either condone cheating or stay alone. And it isn't even about women not putting out. It happened to me with my ex and all my friends complain about how men are the ones with low sex drives (maybe its because they are having sex with their mistresses who knows). I take great care of myself. I work out, I eat healthy, I have a career, I have hobbies, I have a very good social life. Im very loyal to anyone I car…
/r/PurplePillDebate30/05/21 07:58 PM
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Im not like the other girls syndrome. The cool girl monologue from Gone girl explains it well.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/05/21 07:33 PM
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Agree. I know stuck up women or complete bitches who are married but the clingy ones remain single.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/05/21 07:29 PM
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Yes that's what I meant. And I agree, I prefer naturally imperfect people than plastic perfect ones.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/05/21 02:32 PM
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Yes, Mexican living in Mexico. Its funny because for Mexican standards im a radfem lol
/r/PurplePillDebate30/05/21 02:30 PM
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Yes, I fall into some traits of the women stereotypes they describe and in relationships I prefer traditional gender roles
/r/PurplePillDebate30/05/21 08:08 AM
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Yeah they remind me of people who only listen to news that agree with them. Of course they are going to be radicalized, if all you listen is to some distorted reality with an agenda any of us could fall for it Edit: english is hard
/r/PurplePillDebate30/05/21 08:05 AM
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Im sorry english is not my first language. What does Ethnic enclave means?
/r/PurplePillDebate30/05/21 07:58 AM
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To you
/r/PurplePillDebate30/05/21 07:58 AM
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I lean red and thats the reason why i avoid rp subs. They def become echo chambers
/r/PurplePillDebate30/05/21 07:57 AM
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Leaving guys scratching their heads when the girl they like fucks the guy that she said she hates There are guys for fucking and guys that are marriage material just like theres girls for fucking and girls who are marriage material
/r/PurplePillDebate30/05/21 07:54 AM
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Where do you live and how old are you? Not saying that i dont believe you but…yeah
/r/PurplePillDebate30/05/21 07:51 AM
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Chloe Moretz mogs her in virtually every way To you
/r/PurplePillDebate30/05/21 07:49 AM
1

I agree if childcare is also included
/r/PurplePillDebate30/05/21 02:26 AM
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Thanks! The son of one of my mom´s friends just got his Swedish citizenship and Ive just heard wonderful things about your country. Mexico has a very good scholarship program to attend grad school out of the country but its currently suspended bc of the pandemic. Im waiting for all of this to be over to check my options to move abroad.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/05/21 11:53 PM
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Im lucky to live in one of the safest cities with better than average quality of life but the misoginy in the whole country is terrible. At least I can still go out by myself during the day here but I might need to move to Mexico City in a few months and Im very worried about it. I consider myself a feminist because I want safety and equality for everyone. I can't stand tantrums from "feminists" that want to do whatever they want without consequences. My family can't see the difference and they …
/r/PurplePillDebate29/05/21 11:13 PM
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Am I missing something? because this sounds like a textbook case of paranoia. My dad is a narcissist and my ex turned out to be a psychopath (he has raped 2 women afaik, I suspect theres at least another one). Im still working on a lot of issues left from the relationships I had with both of them and im also a psychologist so I notice some traits other people might not. Because of my new job I haven't been hanging out with my friends that much so last weekend I met 3 new people in the group: The…
/r/PurplePillDebate29/05/21 10:25 PM
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Im very dense and I never know when a guy is flirting with me lol I always think they are being friendly
/r/PurplePillDebate29/05/21 05:02 PM
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I dislike the generalizations TRP makes about women (AWALT etc) and I used to get into heated discussions about it until I realized that most posters are from the US and your experiences are very different than ours. For example, here in Mexico feminists are fighting for women to not be raped and killed. Me and all my friends have been raped or victims of assault, im not even exaggerating. The other day I brought violence against women on a post and one of the replies was something like "here we…
/r/PurplePillDebate29/05/21 02:37 PM
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I think negging might work with young women with no self esteem. Once you learn what the guy is trying to do is so pathetic and you avoid them like the plague.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/05/21 02:01 PM
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Los Huevorados Lool where did you get that from?
/r/PurplePillDebate29/05/21 05:23 AM
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Before my HS prom I was waiting for my mom to pick me up after getting my hair and makeup done when the husband of the hairdresser came up to me and started flirting with me. I just told him "I think you know my parents..." and after I told him their names he wanted to die. When I told my dad he wanted to kill him lol
/r/PurplePillDebate29/05/21 05:16 AM
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I dont remember the brand name but theres a liquid soap that smells like peaches that I love. Peachy smelly dick sounds like a good band name.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/05/21 05:07 AM
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I dont like the smell of bubblegum so no, he would have to wash it before getting his dick near me .
/r/PurplePillDebate29/05/21 04:56 AM
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Yes of course, I prefer dicks that dont smell or smell like soap
/r/PurplePillDebate29/05/21 02:49 AM
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I am attracted to status. I have friends who dont care about it but I do.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/05/21 01:56 AM
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Current guy im seeing seems like a perfect match for me. Its still very recent but I have a really good feeling about him 😍 (for the curious, he is 5’4 and super geeky, not a chad at all)
/r/PurplePillDebate28/05/21 05:26 PM
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Someone im attracted to. Not a 9-10 but someone im atracted enough to sleep with him for the rest of my life. A sense of humor similar to mine. I love laughing and making jokes and being stupid. I wont be happy with someone who takes himself too seriously. Someone who has goals and works towards them. Specially regarding work and education. A stable income similar to mine. I dont care what they do as long as they are happy doing it. Someone who is a foodie and eats a lot. I love cooking and I ha…
/r/PurplePillDebate28/05/21 05:13 PM
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Whenever I read about people women only wanting top 20% of men and men claiming not wanting a fat woman, I forget that most posters are from the US. We also have high obesity rates where I live but they are nowhere near to what I see when I go to the US.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/05/21 02:27 PM
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Its awful, im very sorry she had that experience
/r/PurplePillDebate28/05/21 02:04 PM
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I was in charge of my family restaurants for a while. While I was there I didn't hire any mothers. I know its horrible but every week there was a sick kid/school festival/meeting with teachers. I know its wrong and it sucks but I was in charge of a business and I needed my staff to be there.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/05/21 12:29 AM
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Try to do that where I live and you'll never see your kid again
/r/PurplePillDebate28/05/21 12:26 AM
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