Electric_Donut_Mouth Archive

Upvotes	Title	Category	Author	Subreddit	Date (UTC)

Upvotes	Comment on	Subreddit	Date (UTC)
-2	Men, what are your experiences with creepy woman at childhood When I was 15 a 24 yo teacher at wedding blew me. She wanted to fuck but I was still a virgin and didn’t want her as my first.	/r/MensRights	24/02/25 09:17 PM
3	DEI Dying is Great for Men How many of these women are attending college for the grants and other programs that create income for them but don’t count toward income for child support and alimony calculations? I believe a large percentage are not actively degree seeking.	/r/MensRights	24/02/25 07:07 AM
1	Just Let It Go, What the Fuck Does That Mean - a guide Sorry I thought this was going to go a different direction but I think it applies. I think I big issue men deal with is the fact that men are left with big debt they are owed. Whether it is closure or an explanation for the years she was checked out, or lots lots worse. When the divorce or the split happens everyone wants you to just drop this debt and start fresh, work towards whatever, but it is so unjust. I think a lot of men aren’t actually struggling with the loss of their partner but with …	/r/Divorce_Men	20/02/25 08:20 AM
1	Do all long-term relationships get dull? My opinion isn’t that they get dull but there is a shelf life on her accepting you for you. There is a pretty hilarious video on how “situationships” or “just hanging out” turns into relationships for women. And it’s just the girl agreeing with the carefree low commitment relationship that men like. For me that seems to be the reality, I’ve taken the time to write down exactly what I want from a relationship and what I consider acceptable behavior. Women will be like “hell yeah this is great!” F…	/r/Divorce_Men	14/02/25 12:30 AM
8	Why can’t they just apologize? No they aren’t apologizing without apologizing… that would be if she came up with a sandwich and put the hair tie in. Then I could say ok the act of saying it is tough but they feel remorse we are good. But no she’s just trying to ignore it. Idk why apologizing is so hard and feeling bad is so hard. My ex wife isn’t a good example because she was incapable of feeling remorse. She apologized 3 times in 11 years and each of those apologies lasted less than a day. But the last woman I dated I could…	/r/Divorce_Men	13/02/25 06:01 PM
3	Deal with Ex who doesn’t want to cooperate It’s honestly the worst part and they never really get better. You kinda just fight until you get a situation you can deal with and then live with it. They will drag things out and threaten at every turn. They will try to get you arrested and lie to the courts without any remorse or accountability. It’s just about managing your expectations and staying in your little peaceful world.	/r/Divorce_Men	12/02/25 05:38 PM
1	Tips for keeping spousal alimony low I completely understand and hate that. After tons of fighting I convinced my ex to “get a job” because we were struggling. She got a job that made $60 a week. Asked me if she should call out of every shift. If i said no we need the money we would fight. She would spend probably $80 after every shift blowing off steam from her job, luckily she spent two hours getting ready before it started. Was vehement that she didn’t want any extra responsibility or money. And the kicker was she would yell at …	/r/Divorce_Men	10/02/25 07:02 PM
8	Tips for keeping spousal alimony low This is like my ex and I get so annoyed at the constant chant of “you decided that she would stay home” “she stayed home because he said he would take care of her”. The only people I know that actually agree to have the wife stay home have been pretty well off and the wife being fairly high achieving and then went on to be a high achieving SAHM that anyone would be a fool to divorce. I try to argue that the bigger issue is refuse to work parents, not stay at home parents.	/r/Divorce_Men	10/02/25 05:53 PM
3	Alimony My lawyer had us get a vocational evaluator that basically testified that my ex could be making $XXX. The judge didn’t accept it but I still think it’s a solid strategy. As far as the abuse allegations. Two things 1) in divorce the judge only needs a preponderance of evidence which means they believe it might have happened and 2) pushing definitely meets the criteria, mine was the ex had shoved a phone in my face and grabbed it and threw it. There are lots of weird little “if there is a preponde…	/r/Divorce_Men	01/02/25 01:56 PM
3	For those of you who had to go through “war” in your divorce I want to hear your story and how you made it out. I hit arrested at the kids birthday, then didn’t have any where to take the kids because I forced to continue paying all the bills in the house I didn’t live in while she would load the kids in the car with neck pillows to door dash and save her non custody nights to go out. Finally got a place after temporary orders but still had to pay her rent with the judge saying I’d get the money back. But didn’t have anything because i couldn’t go back in the house. Ended up with a tent and an air mattres…	/r/Divorce_Men	31/01/25 08:13 PM
4	Hot Bedroom Toxic Relationship This was kind of my situation. It wasn’t as great as when we first started dating, but it was never bad. I would say we averaged 5 times a week and were pretty adventurous. But generally everything else was a fight and walking on egg shells. Sex is different as a single divorced guys. I’ve had lots of partners and checked almost everything off my bucket list, but it’s less fulfilling knowing that eventually it will lead them to a place I don’t want to go relationship wise removes some of the lus…	/r/Divorce_Men	28/01/25 11:40 PM
6	Does it get any better once papers are signed? You are going to deal with and mourn the loss of that particular future. It’s just part of it but hopefully at some point you will look around in all your sadness and say “what do I have to be so sad about?” And then it’ll just stop. I was happy when it all ended and happy I was getting divorced but I was still sad about the change, then one day after about 18 months I had the above thought and life has been really great. My ex is pretty awful still but you have to take a step back and realize h…	/r/Divorce_Men	28/01/25 12:47 PM
3	Does it get any better once papers are signed? I love the way my house is decorated and styled. I don’t think my ex would have allowed four gaming consoles set up in the master bedroom so me and the boys could play Fortnite together. Her and I have similar decorating styles but she was so messy and I need to declutter every week.	/r/Divorce_Men	28/01/25 12:42 PM
3	Any advice on how not to be a narcissist co-parent would be appreciated. Learn about boundaries. Write them down. Stand by them.	/r/Divorce_Men	18/01/25 11:43 PM
2	I am struggling to get by. I got a job offer to work as a contractor at Facebook. I could pick Miami, Austin or Atlanta. My son lives in Orlando, which office should I pick? I drove for work daily, not to work daily. First it was big loop Orlando to Tampa to fort Myers to Miami back to Orlando then it eventually it was one coast one day, the other the next.	/r/Divorce_Men	17/01/25 07:42 PM
1	I am struggling to get by. I got a job offer to work as a contractor at Facebook. I could pick Miami, Austin or Atlanta. My son lives in Orlando, which office should I pick? Miami I used to drive from Orlando to Miami every day	/r/Divorce_Men	17/01/25 03:50 PM
1	How do you guys get along with your ex’s boyfriend/husband? Especially if you have kids, how has that been? I didn’t care she had a boyfriend. And was actually happy he was inspiring her to be a good mom if only for show. But it’s been a year, they live together (essentially), which means he lives with my kids and he has yet to introduce himself to me. That is annoying to me. I try to be empathetic because I know my ex probably said I was the worst and he’s trying to be solid but there are certain things you do as a man. First opportunity I had I introduced myself to the step kids dad. The important t…	/r/Divorce_Men	15/01/25 07:14 PM
4	Reason for divorce I always talk about how no one would ask their wife to marry them if they were having sex the way the are having sex… and being told to be thankful they are getting what they get. And I love that try and argue that men are there for more than sex or that they aren’t using sex as a weapon because women like sex too. But basically you go in paying $10,000 for 10,000 items and one day they show up with 8,000 and if you call them on it, they say how dare you, you are disgusting. To get your other 2,…	/r/Divorce_Men	12/01/25 11:56 PM
8	Ex lazy during marriage but not after divorce? Haha yes mine was awful for the first year. Fed the kids $2 walmart pizza and chicken nuggets, refused to take them to sports or the doctor. Met a new guy and is pretending she’s super mom, she cooks him dinner every night and they go to the kids games together. The kids notice that they are just an accessory	/r/Divorce_Men	08/01/25 03:30 AM
2	Any divorced military dads? Bought to go pick up the kids, but yes I’d say I’m thriving. It sucked but it was so worth it.	/r/Divorce_Men	25/12/24 07:09 PM
15	Lost interest in women Damn where do you find these women! I make it really clear from the beginning that the highest rule is “if I feel like you are trying to change me or I’m altering my behavior for you… we are done” But I think you nailed it when you said you don’t like to sleep alone. Women are imho more likely to be predators because they don’t believe they can be predators and you are probably ringing a dinner bell for them. I also think that a lot of women have been taught to be abusers by tv and movies. Our g…	/r/Divorce_Men	25/12/24 03:58 PM
4	Wife complains about my job. I used to work seriously like 120hrs a week, we were seriously struggling financially she wasn’t working and Id get back at 9 o’clock from driving a truck for 16 hours and she’d be made I didn’t have time to listen to her complain about her life or to do the house work she didn’t do all day. I think a lot of women just lack empathy and personal responsibility and expect you to magically remove struggle and unhappiness from them.	/r/Divorce_Men	21/12/24 08:02 PM
4	Wife complains about my job. I bent over backwards for my ex, and even divorced she is still like why can’t you bend over backwards more. I’m going to give you advice for your future ex (sorry to be harsh but you need to realize this) that I wish someone would have given me. Don’t budge! Every step you take toward what she wants you will just lose respect for yourself and she will lose even more respect for you. Don’t budge! I know you will sit over there and say no I can do the right thing and compromise, but truly comprom…	/r/Divorce_Men	21/12/24 07:57 PM
3	Did you any of you guys benefit from therapy post divorce? There was a good post on here or r/mensrights about having the right kind of therapy as a man. That a lot of therapy is geared toward women. I’m not going to pretend to know what I’m saying about this. therapy was awesome and great but I have found that it isn’t helping me solve problems and I’m kinda over that and need a therapist now to help me work toward better.	/r/Divorce_Men	18/12/24 10:36 PM
2	How many other gay men are here? I scrolled a bit and didn’t see anyone else comment about him. There is a guy named Jack Donovan and he is according to Wikipedia “is an American far-right writer and activist. A self-described masculinist, Donovan was an influential figure in the alt-right until he disavowed the movement in 2017.”I only have a peripheral understanding of him… and as I look him up I’m like “yikes”. But why I brought him up is he is big into masculinity and talks about when he first came out feeling like he neede…	/r/MensRights	06/12/24 12:11 PM
2	Butt kicked in court Sorry so you take home 3k a month and they told you, you had to pay 2240 a month? This is for alimony? And this is temp orders? What state? Like until the trial? I’m not a lawyer but your lawyer doesn’t have to live with the outcome and you do. So pay your bills first then give her the rest. Also dig into your statutes and find out what the deal is on them awarding it. Like in my state the two factors first does she need it then can you pay it. So I ask about temp orders because in my temp order…	/r/Divorce_Men	13/11/24 04:51 AM