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This made my soul leave my body. 1.) Do you have a head injury sir? 2.) WTF are these mythical ‘2 traps’ and how does this ‘avoid’ them?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/12/21 06:51 AM
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God I’m so sad for her. Imagine thinking this clown is your life partner. I hope she gets help, stays out, and learns to love herself more. She deserves so much better.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/12/21 06:42 AM
1

This is so sad. What a literal nightmare.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/12/21 05:50 AM
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I really hate that they do that.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/12/21 05:32 AM
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I hope if anyone has the audacity to say this to me I have the confidence to say “good.” Because I’d rather be alone forever than settle for a man who doesn’t treat me right.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/10/21 03:28 AM
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Allegedly there is an Irish proverb that says “beware of those who dislike cats”. I’ve followed this advice and it’s kept me out of a lot of trouble.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/10/21 03:25 AM
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Wow holy shit. This guy is insane.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/09/21 07:45 PM
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Yeah bud you don’t actually want to marry her, that’s clear, so just break up. Cheating is worse but it’s also not ok to keep a relationship on the hook for 11 years. Low self esteem is a hell of a drug but they would both be better off.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/08/21 10:13 PM
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It can be like Glitter said or, in my experience, this is a ‘secret’ relationship that she’s not telling those close to her about because deep down she knows it’s not ok. Which is unfortunate because predators like this thrive on it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/08/21 10:07 PM
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Oh yeah he tried lighting one of those electric scooters on fire to get it going. Something that he also ranted about on the date before the last one. Like they’re annoying but I remember thinking “yeah he’s TOO upset about that.” I guess I should have called it quits then but all it took was one more outing so I think that’s still a win. Unsurprisingly it didn’t work and the laundromat is fine. I guess a dark part of the story is he honestly wasn’t the most unhinged person I’ve gone on a date w…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/08/21 09:31 PM
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Red flag city. Any responsible single parent will NOT rush having you meet their kids and will go out of their way to protect them. Sad but unsurprising to see the kids have grown up to be just like their father and he sounds like a real son of a bitch.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/08/21 09:26 PM
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It’s not necessarily a bad thing if it’s done in moderation but those kids look a little too young and I know they must also spend a lot of time at the computer since they each have their own. That’s weird. My sister and I were into gaming too when we were kids but we just had one computer so we had to learn sharing and time management with it. I think that ended up being helpful. But with how this looks I don’t think they’re going to end up with those lessons.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/08/21 08:51 PM
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God I love this book. It helped me so much when I left an abusive NVM and it’s helped me so much when vetting partners. Bad relationships do happen and yes men can be abused too but Lundy does a good job at breaking down the warning signs of an abusive man who is trying to ‘hide in sheep’s clothing’. Went out on a couple of dates with a guy who ended up talking about his ex wife like this. When I found out, I ghosted. A year later he was arrested for attempting to light a laundry mat on fire. Bu…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/08/21 08:44 PM
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Yeah she really needs to learn some self respect.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/07/21 10:05 PM
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Aw dang she’s gonna look back on this when she’s older and CRINGE. I hope her parents find out and this gets nipped in the bud.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/07/21 10:04 PM
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God this is so sad. Lose his number sis, he ain’t into you and he sounds like trash. He’s stringing her along because she’s not taking no for an answer. LVM will tell you they aren’t interested but still waste your time like this. If he was a decent person he would stop placating her. And I’m sure we’ve all been there where we wonder to ourselves what can WE (barf) do to get the relationship back to ‘where it was in the beginning’ but there’s nothing you can do. Because at the start you were get…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/07/21 10:03 PM
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I’m sure too, it’s the finding and waiting part that’s killer. But I have faith that WHEN I fall in love again it’s going to be something really wonderful. I’m just super jealous you had a friend that knew someone that was single. My friends are usually friends with people who are couples.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/07/21 09:34 PM
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Oh it’s fine. If you fall for a trick it’s not YOUR fault it’s the fault on the person tricking you. And if it makes you feel any better I’ve fallen for the various stupid tricks boys pull even after 19. It happens. It’s so weird that guys think that by doing this a girl will like you. It just hurts our feelings and makes us feel inadequate.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/07/21 09:31 PM
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Yes!!! I’m so happy for you! I’ve saved your post for later so I can reference it when I find someone worthy of my time. Sending positive vibes out there for you and that this works out famously, and positive vibes for those of us like me who haven’t found there person yet so that we find them soon.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/07/21 09:28 PM
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I’d also add be skeptical of any guy you had a ‘flirtation-ship’ with that didn’t work out and now this guy is suddenly back. In my experience it’s usually them using you for a confidence boost before bouncing and breaking your heart again. Which god do I hate it when they do that. I hate that they simply don’t care about hurting people.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/07/21 09:19 PM
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Well I am friends with someone who is in an age gap relationship (which boy howdy you guys would roll your eyes if I went into detail about their ‘relationship’). My advice is yes you can be friends but do everything you can to NOT get involved with their relationship drama. Let her figure it out on her own because she isn’t gonna listen to you. So I guess my answer is yes but make it more of a ‘hang out’ buddy than a best friend or anything like that.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/07/21 09:07 PM
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Cant relate but damn, that’s something. Sounds like she really needs some help because that’s really bizarre behavior. Either that or she needs to learn some self respect. You are not into this dude! Stop bothering him!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/07/21 01:38 AM
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God, this girl is ‘on the hook’ in a BIG way. Lose his number, he clearly doesn’t value her even as a person let alone a ‘friend’. I dare a man to do this shit to me now because that’s how we have a final conversation where I rip ‘em to sheds for 30 minutes. This man is traaaash.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/07/21 01:31 AM
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So you’ve been harassing strangers every month but it sounds like none of them have taken you up on it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/06/21 12:13 PM
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They are just a bunch of fucking vampires aren’t they?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/06/21 03:11 AM
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Hey you got this! Yeah breaking up is tough and awkward every time but what you’ve listed out are all deal breakers. I always like the whole ‘hey this just isn’t working out for me and it’s unfair to keep wasting your time when there is someone out there for you that will be crazy about you.’
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/06/21 01:20 AM
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I’ll never be the same again. After reading that I just wanted to go run away and live in the woods so I can scream forever.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/06/21 09:38 PM
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Slug boyfriend in the making.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/06/21 09:16 PM
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Omg! So glad you posted. I’m going through the ‘I see me’ and it’s great. It’s good to think that way but it feels so good to hear someone else say it out loud.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/06/21 09:07 PM
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Yep, and I feel for those girls and hope they get in and out with minimal damage and learn to not go for these little boys.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/06/21 09:05 PM
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Don’t know. I’ve helped friends before with their profiles and yeah sometimes the girls can come off as salty but it’s usually not mean spirited like this.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/06/21 08:57 PM
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Yeah my favorite was the one liner of ‘narcissist here to ruin lives’. He wasn’t even cute! I chuckled and thought of you all while I swiped left so fast.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/06/21 08:44 PM
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I think it goes hand and hand with thinking of women (and children) as property and not people. Because how dare they help raise ‘another man’s kid’! It’s not theirs! Why should they care! That single mother is a whore!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/06/21 08:43 PM
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Disclaimer: I usually don’t advocate for apps and will probably be uninstalling soon. I just wanted to see what it’s like now that I’ve been leveling up with you all. But thought you all would get a kick out of this. Why do they always tell on themselves like this?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/06/21 08:31 PM
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Yep in my experience it’s usually the guys fresh out of relationships that do this because they don’t know how to be alone. This is why one of my rules is depending on how long the last relationship was you need to be anywhere from 3 months to 1 year single for me to take you seriously.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/06/21 07:00 PM
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Don’t be embarrassed. Like I said this happens to all of us. Hell, this happened to me just last week and I’m still a little sad about it. But here’s the thing if these boys just said these things to us to ‘keep us on the hook’ or to avoid a real conversation then they are cowards. And Queens don’t associate with cowardly knights. But if their hearts are true and they do return then let us look at them with some scrutiny before allowing them back into the court. Because we don’t got time for tri…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/06/21 09:15 PM
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Yeah I’ve been there before. Honestly I was dwelling a bit on my own shit like that today and was really bummed out so I needed to hear this. Such a good reminder. These guys are all missing out. :)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/06/21 08:48 PM
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Yeah I’ve been there and god does it suck. I hate it when things are going great and they are putting a lot of attention and effort into you and then boom they’re gone. This always hurts me a lot so I really feel for you right now. I say it’s best to walk away. Don’t send any more messages. If he’s being honest with you and he’s actually interested in you he’ll come back around once the dust settles. And if not that’s ok too. With every unsuccessful endeavor we walk away knowing more about ourse…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/06/21 08:38 PM
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Naw hon that’s called ‘being on the hook’. If he isn’t proving his interest in you then he’s probably doing that LVM/NVM push-pull thing to keep you thirsty for his attention. If this is happening to you get out of the house and do something else. You don’t need some silly boy living in your head rent free.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/06/21 08:40 PM
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Yay! I’m so happy for you! And thanks for sharing, I’m definitely taking notes on this one and using it for when I’m vetting.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/06/21 08:30 PM
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Yeah I agree. If you’re constantly feeling anxious about your relationship I think you need to have a talk to your partner about it because you should feel safe and secure with the person you love. I think often people can get anxious when they are being validated by the other in the relationship. Be with someone who makes you feel so appreciated that you don’t need to worry.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/06/21 08:24 PM
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Yeeeep I had a fling with a guy who said shit like that. You hit the nail on the head. A guy who says shit like this just wants to use you for attention before running off and leaving you in the dust. Super low value. But good on you! I think you are asking some great questions for your calls and I know you’re really going to find someone great. Don’t settle for anything less till you do.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/06/21 08:15 PM
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Yeah OLD just made me bitter and sad about the idea of dating. So many guys are just on there to dump their problems on you and get a confidence boost before running off to chase the girl they’re ACTUALLY interested in. So demoralizing. I uninstalled all of them back in 2019 after giving it a good go for 3 years. Honestly I’m happier but I feel like my confidence isn’t back to where it was before. I’m working on it though and you ladies have been a great help. I should search through FDS to find…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/06/21 08:11 PM
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If you push someone away because you want something more then it’s for the best because if they don’t want something more with you now, as you’re considering something serious like moving to be closer to him, he ain’t gonna want something more with you later. And ooof hon I bet ya he’s not a ‘great guy and worth it’.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/06/21 08:02 PM
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Huh where is ‘treating each other with mutual love and respect’?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/06/21 12:04 PM
7

So she basically married a vampire.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/06/21 07:18 PM
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Oh yeah I totally agree. I also take that approach to any ‘online argument’ I might be tempted to get into. It’s best not to cast your pearls among swine. It’s just not worth it and it’s just going to stress you out. We here at FDS are all about living a less stressful life.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/06/21 07:17 PM
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God it is hard to maintain close female friends because I’ve had a lot that ended up being ‘pick mes’. For example, I had a very close female friend for years who basically ghosted some important plans we had for a man she only knew for 2 weeks. When we talked about it and I told her how hurt I was (but was willing to drop it and move on so long as she didn’t do it again which is a bit of a ‘pick me’ move on my part) she blocked me on everything and never spoke to me again. But I’ve learned a go…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/06/21 07:06 PM
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Though I agree yes you should complement his body and have him feel desired because in a healthy relationship that’s what both of you should be doing for the other. That’s what being a loving partner is. I greatly disagree with his complaint of ‘waaaa men face so much rejection in dating! Women have it so much easier!’ Honey, dating sucks for women too. Do you know how many dates I’ve been on where a guy just emotionally dumps on me about his problems and uses any kind of reassurance I give him …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/06/21 06:15 PM
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Omg I’m so glad you’re leaving him. That dude needs to grow the fuck up and you deserve to have a life where you aren’t constantly taking care of a man child who insult you.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/06/21 06:02 PM
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Naw dump him sis.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/06/21 05:58 PM
10

Why on earth would any of us ‘love’ cheaters? That sounds stressful as hell.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/06/21 05:56 PM
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“Take souls, never let them take yours” is a mood for life. Keeping you in my thoughts OP while you kick cancer’s ass.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/06/21 12:35 PM
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Jesus fucking Christ. Girl leave his ass. And shame on his friends for not getting up and leaving when he pulled that stunt. I don’t care who you are if you use my presence to abuse your partner I’m out and I’m never talking to you again.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/06/21 06:36 PM
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I’m so sorry your Dad is like this but I’m also so very proud of you for calling him out. That was very brave. You also handled that like a pro so please give yourself a sec to pat yourself on the back. You deserve it! Such a queen moment! I know we shouldn’t hold our breath over it but I really hope that conversation at least makes him think for a minute about his ‘opinions’ and he decides to be better. I know we can get a little jaded here because of how bad things are but I do have hope that …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/06/21 01:02 AM
9

And yet there is an unattractive neck beard who is crying right now because a woman won’t see ‘how great he is inside!’.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/06/21 12:54 AM
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I’ve felt this for a while but I hate the ‘men need sex’ thing. It just enables men to have bad behavior and encourages them to just see us as things and not people with emotions, hopes, and dreams. I’m so happy to see other women talking about this too. It’s such a bummer to use this as a defense for nefarious deeds. I’ll never understand why they don’t want to be better people.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/06/21 12:51 AM
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It’s sad we have to be like this but you’re right. I’d say that single fathers do have a ‘plus side’ in a sense that you can figure out who they are pretty quick. I think your rules are GREAT for that. If he isn’t bullshit then he’s not going to break those. And unless you’re married he should NEVER ask you for free child care (unless it’s an emergency and the grandparents for some reason can not). I’d still proceed with caution though because you never know. I’d also add, from personal experien…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/06/21 12:41 AM
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Aaaand that’s how you know how he feels about women. When they tell on themselves like this it’s best to say ‘thank you, next’. Men who say shit like this are weak sauce and looking for a mommy. We are strong in the real way and deserve to be with someone who is the same.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/06/21 12:29 AM
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Ya know, I actually don’t have a problem with men like that lipping off because then I know to avoid them. If someone doesn’t know how to ‘shut up and listen’ then they don’t get to be in my inner circle let alone date me. So keep it up little boys, show us who you are.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/06/21 12:21 AM
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If he actually values you he’ll want to unpack these things on his own with the help of a therapist, not use you for emotional labor.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/06/21 09:37 PM
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God this poor woman. Rest In Peace darling, I hope the rest of this Man’s life is full of misery before he burns in hell.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/05/21 06:16 PM
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Hey you might not have family to turn to but you got us sis. If you aren’t married and don’t want to keep the kid I’d look into what you can do for giving them up for adoption but I know laws can be different based on where you’re at. Stay strong and know you can always lean on us for help. I know I’m not the only one here who’s had to help a friend out of a situation like yours so you have a good team in this sub. Also if you haven’t already read “Why does he do that” by Lundy Brancoft. He has …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/05/21 06:07 PM
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Aw yeah this profile has lies, racism, and bragging about being unemployable. Hurry ladies, while he’s still single!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/05/21 11:52 AM
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Exactly. I think Scrotes are quick to panic and say ‘gold digger!’ if we show even a slight concern over a potential partner’s financial situation. They make the mistake thinking it’s something materialistic or greedy when in reality it’s really about ‘will my union with this person make my life more difficult or not?’ Unfortunately, finances are a big part of this. I think all of us have been burned before by men who have no drive who just want to use us for our paychecks and stability so they …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/05/21 09:16 PM
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And I bet he cries at night wondering why he’s single. SMH stop sending rape threats and go to therapy dude.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/05/21 03:55 PM
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Yep I’ve also found that men who do this use it as a way to express what they REALLY think without taking heat for it because if you get mad they can just say “but I’m only playing Devil’s Advocate!” Naw dude, you’re just being a jerk with bad opinions.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/05/21 06:10 PM
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God I love to see it. I think we all have this in common when I say I never hated going out in public more than when I was 15-23 because of all the creepy old men who would try to get in my face. But my favorite story of this is when I finally lost it at 20 and when some creepy older guy tried to flirt with me I just yelled “you’re old enough to be my dad you sicko!” He got embarrassed and called me a bitch under his breath while he walked away.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/05/21 05:52 PM
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Yeeeep girl needs to stop doing that. I think the best introspective moment I had when dating was “if someone can’t see your value it isn’t your fault”. I feel like women do the whole ‘pouring energy into men’ because they want them so badly to see their value. But people like this won’t and that’s ok. Just lose his number.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/05/21 09:40 PM
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