Ellabelle797 Archive

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2	If women don’t dress provocatively for men, what do they do it for? Yeah that's kinda my thoughts. They're dressing for style/comfort/joy, the "provocative" element is coming from the viewer, not them getting dressed.	/r/PurplePillDebate	01/10/25 03:04 AM
1	Expecting autistic men to mask and upgrade their entire lives, especially dating, while not even giving them a chance or ever trying to approach them is hypocritical and illiberal. They have issues unmasking in public or in private? Both honestly. In public I understand we all have some kind of "mask" but with enough pressure, that mask can become permanent in a way that's hard to shake off in private. It's taken me a few years of prioritising alone time to start unmasking properly and start expressing rather than suppressing my own instincts and quirks. Again anecdotal, but it does seem more common with women within the autism communities at least. I agree that getting di…	/r/PurplePillDebate	03/09/25 09:16 PM
–	Expecting autistic men to mask and upgrade their entire lives, especially dating, while not even giving them a chance or ever trying to approach them is hypocritical and illiberal. This. It's largely social, if anything women tend to have a much harder time UNmasking, even those who aren't ND are often corrected and pushed to be quieter, more generous etc. As an adult, finding your true self under all of that can be so hard, a years long journey. It makes sense to me that autistic women have an easier time socialising as adults, they're never left alone about "appropriate behaviour" whereas for various reasons, boys seem to get left out of that pressure. It sucks for them …	/r/PurplePillDebate	03/09/25 01:31 AM
–	Women need to come to terms with the fact that they put too much unnecessary mental load onto themselves, and they should stop blaming men for that. This is the part that frustrates me the most. These things include keeping track of an entire human's growth, nutrition, social development, physical and mental health etc in so many different ways. "Unnecessary load" and "just don't do it then" comments are so often coming from ignorance of the consequences of just not doing it, and it sucks so many people would rather remain ignorant because it's easier. Of course the other parent is going to pick up the slack, if they've taken the time to lea…	/r/PurplePillDebate	06/08/25 05:56 AM
2	If women actually had such good personalities - men would just hire them to ghost write their dating profiles and chats. My first line was referring to OP I'm sorry, I was agreeing with your points! It's an interesting discussion but the premise is so loose, no sarcasm when I say I'd be interested in any studies, but yeah they'd have to account for a bunch of things..	/r/PurplePillDebate	17/06/25 09:14 PM
2	If women actually had such good personalities - men would just hire them to ghost write their dating profiles and chats. "This fact can be proven by [different assumption]" 🤔 I'd be interested to see that study if it happens. But there's gotta be a market for things like ghostwriter agencies, it's equally possible atp that the people who would benefit from that help aren't asking for it, or are only going so far as to ask people they know rather than considering hiring someone. Not to mention there's possibly plenty of writers trying to make their way online who would be happy to for money, if anyone reached out t…	/r/PurplePillDebate	17/06/25 05:50 AM
2	Men are judged for pretty much any perceived lack of independence, but women are allowed (and sometimes encouraged) to be independent at their convenience That's a great point, I can't say I wouldn't react if someone said they don't bathe for instance, everyone's expectations are different depending on their location, family etc and I would probably be shocked to hear that from someone in my area, it'd be my first time hearing it yk. I never want to make people feel bad about their situation or choices (mostly, some choices are abhorrent but they're not what I'm talking about here) but hiding shock isn't always easy.. that's something to think abo…	/r/PurplePillDebate	19/05/25 12:23 AM
2	Men are judged for pretty much any perceived lack of independence, but women are allowed (and sometimes encouraged) to be independent at their convenience Yeah we could do without the disgust. While the actual issues vary between genders, I feel like there's way too many people who can't get past "my preferences = the correct way to live/look/whatever, everyone else is wrong" vibes, which is so narrow minded and upsetting to be on the receiving end of.	/r/PurplePillDebate	18/05/25 11:48 PM
3	Men are judged for pretty much any perceived lack of independence, but women are allowed (and sometimes encouraged) to be independent at their convenience I wonder if it's more like.. idk elitism and maybe ableism, in the sense that you're not a real adult if you can't/haven't learned these things. And yes one gender may experience it more than another, I can't speak to the ratios, but the root issue is experienced by both sides for sure. I can see why someone might be looking for a partner who can drive, that kind of thing can easily impact what their future might look like, especially with kids, depending where you live etc, but it doesn't make …	/r/PurplePillDebate	18/05/25 11:07 PM