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My bf did well on the gifts department so far. We are only dating for 4 months so he gave me flowers and some pastries for my birthday. He knows my favorite flower but he also added 2 more flowers that have meaning to us. The bouquet is also custom made and the message that came with it is heartfelt. The pastries? He dislikes sweets and is very much in low carb diet but he remembered that I was disappointed in the pastry we tried in one of our travels and he got that specific pastry for me. I di…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/04/22 07:41 AM
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That song is playing on repeat lol
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/12/21 12:58 PM
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I knew this post would make it here. At this point, I just want to date myself.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/12/21 10:47 AM
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Oh no, I'm sorry you had to experience that. I'm glad that she's out of your life now. May we all find friends who's there for us through thick and thin and not only when they want to vent.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/12/21 08:02 PM
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Exactly! Sadly, all my other close friends are living overseas. I'm shaking my head at the moment because I changed holiday plans to include her because I felt sorry that she is going through a breakup.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/12/21 05:37 PM
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Thank you; this is solid advice. I will talk to her and see how she reacts.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/12/21 05:19 PM
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Not a lot. It's draining and disrespectful. I used to be like this back when I was a teenager, but then a friend of mine pointed it out, and I worked on it, so I don't center my world to my relationship. We planned trips this December over the holidays, and I'm not even sure if she wants to go through with it anymore because she has not responded to my message for 3 days already. I'm annoyed, seriously.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/12/21 04:15 PM
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I never said these men are the prize. I don't want to call anyone as the prize as I feel it's objectifying. I'm looking for a partner not a trophy. I've dated men I met in RL and in OLD. I said in my reply above that dating is hard. Manipulators aren't exclusive to OLD. They are everywhere and it's not a woman's fault if she fell victim to them because they deliberately lied and concealed their intentions. Also, a cheater will cheat on you whether you met him in OLD or not. The cheater I once da…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/11/21 10:03 AM
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Yeah, it is a lot of work. I take a break if it gets a little bit too much. Currently, I'm on a break and just focusing on myself. However, I think dating takes a lot of effort whether you meet in OLD or in real life. Vetting is hard because not everyone will make their intentions known. Some will deliberately lie or manipulate you and you will never know it unless their masks slip.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/11/21 01:44 AM
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I've met a number of guys from old who took me to proper dates and were quite decent (given the low bar) and weren't like the guys I normally read here (no job, unhygienic, etc). We just didn't work out because we were not compatible or I just thought I was ready for commitment but really wasn't. It takes a lot of effort but if you filter them enough you can find decent guys who meet your minimum standard. Also, OLD is good for practicing your vetting strategies. Of course, just make sure you ar…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/11/21 06:38 PM
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A guy hitting on me told me he was breaking up with his gf over the weekend if I went out with him. Guess who didn't break up? Sometimes I can't really comprehend how men can be such liars.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/11/21 05:54 PM
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Exactly! My male friends said to me that men won't really turn down women who initiate because they'll mostly never reject the opportunity to have sex.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/11/21 12:26 PM
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Then when he gets what he wants he's back to being an asshole
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/11/21 09:27 AM
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Thank you for this. This made me feel better despite having a shitty day. 😊
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/11/21 03:56 PM
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Thank you. And sorry about the formatting. I was using my phone. Sometimes, we need to remind ourselves why we have to leave and not romanticize the what could have been.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/11/21 09:04 PM
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When I was dating, I would do this as well because the guy I was seeing pays 80% of the time. He insisted on paying because he was the one who picked the place and planned the date. He's got a taste for expensive restaurants so I let him be. But when it was my turn to treat him, I chose the activities and the places which I know I could afford to avoid this kind of situations. But then again my dude wasn't like the guy she dated. Not once did he make me uncomfortable about splitting the bill etc…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/10/21 10:08 PM
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When I first moved into the city I am in, I was naive and didn't know better. I noticed that a friend of a friend seemed to like me. Now, I don't normally entertain men who are using me to cheat on their partners but his guy was the only exception. We had a lot of similarities and were both really attracted to each other. I have no plan on acting on my attraction because I know he has a gf. However, one time when we were hanging out with two other friends, they left us alone (something about mee…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/10/21 08:40 PM
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Yep, I initially enjoy giving bjs but after seeing the memes I was repulsed. Plus the fact that some men are stinky down there.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/10/21 09:02 PM
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I guess I will buy him expensive stuff if he's equally as generous. Also, buying someone expensive gifts can be burdensome to the person so I don't see myself doing that. I only treated the guy I used to date for dinner because he was always treating me so I just returned the favor.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/10/21 06:42 PM
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I can't imagine paying $600 for a trip with someone I'm not married to.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/10/21 06:27 PM
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She had to walk to the ranger station around 6am when it was bright and then called her mother to pick her up.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/10/21 06:23 PM
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I can't understand how the male brain works. They keep on saying nobody wants them. Well, maybe if they aren't such a weirdo/creep then someone might date them.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/10/21 03:39 PM
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Agreed. She could have died! Then he has the audacity to ask her to apologize the next day? Wtf is he thinking!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/10/21 03:26 PM
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You're right. The image appears to me when I click it though. Basically what happened was the scrote left OP behind stranded after a fight. She had to fend for herself fighting wild animals with no light and a dead phone. Then the guy had the audacity to come back next morning and demand her to apologize. Op got lucky she wasn't eaten by a bear.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/10/21 03:07 PM
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I feel you. It's disappointing when we dressed up for a date and then the guy showed up dressed like he's going to Walmart. Fortunately, where I am people tend to dress nice and there is an abundance of good looking men. Their personality might suck and they might be lvms but at least they are eye candy.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/10/21 10:09 AM
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Ugh, my dad looks young (he also married young) and most of the time when we're out people assume that we're a couple even though we look alike. He's quick to correct them though but I'm still grossed out. Incidents like these made me a little bit against the idea of going out alone with my dad. I hate that instead of assuming a father-daughter relationship society is defaulting to romantic relationship when they see a young woman and an older man together.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/10/21 09:34 AM
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I'm reading that one too! I think the feminist movement in Korea is influencing their webtoons and I'm loving it. I hope we have more literature of this kind. We need more representation of healthy relationships.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/10/21 07:40 PM
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That's a good rule but we can never really tell with men. Our only move is to be ruthless in our vetting process. I let these few red flags slide because he was alright on the other areas but never again. I just need to level up and focus on myself for now.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/09/21 03:01 PM
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I get that. After all the dates we've been through, I deserved an honest conversation that he doesn't see a future between us and not the 180° that he pulled. We could have parted amicably like the adults that we are. It's sad that he thought I don't deserve that. It's different if it's just 1-3 dates, we've been on dozens of dates! How can he spend that amount of time with someone and not see them as a human deserving respect? The real answer is because he didn't see me as one and that hurts mo…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/09/21 01:38 PM
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Thank you! Yes, I already blocked him and deleted his number. I'm not going to be one of his options and I don't want to play his games.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/09/21 07:46 AM
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Yeah, that's why I normally ask guys I date what they are looking for early on. Most of them tell me the truth. This is the first time someone lied to me blatantly.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/09/21 07:42 AM
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Thank you. Yes, I've already blocked and deleted him. I'm not gonna be one of his options.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/09/21 07:39 AM
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Haha not the same guy but this tells us they are both time wasters. Sorry about your ex. I hope he didn't waste a lot of your time.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/09/21 07:36 AM
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💯. However, he was pretty good at leading me on to be honest. He immediately set a date after we were both back from holidays. He also sent me texts a few times during his trip and was really excited when we were both back. So he did a complete 180° when he said he didn't want to be exclusive. My only advice would be to not let yourself indulge too long in (if any) “why me?” thinking Yes, I won't waste more time on thinking if it's a "me" issue. He's blocked and deleted. Hope he's having fun wit…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/09/21 08:37 PM
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Exactly! Why is it so hard for him tell the truth? Oh, I know because he's unsure with the other woman and he wants to keep me as a safety net.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/09/21 08:12 PM
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Sorry for what you experienced. Glad, that you didn't give more than what you gave to him. I'm really thankful it happened sooner rather than later. I can't understand why some(or rather most?) men do this. They are leeches.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/09/21 07:47 PM
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Yeah, that's why I had to do the exclusivity talk. I don't want to drag it forever and I don't want to develop deeper feelings. I have to nip it in the bud. I know better now.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/09/21 07:03 PM
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I'm happy that you came out stronger from your relationship with your ex. They always ask us why we don't do 50/50 on dates. Maybe because we need to save our money for the therapy after the mental damage they left after dating us. Also, I will always trust my gut after this. Everytime I ignore my gut feelings it always bit me in the end.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/09/21 06:55 PM
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I agree! I kinda feel stupid on missing that glaring red flag. Thank you and rest of the ladies for pointing that out.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/09/21 06:42 PM
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I agree. I still have pick-me tendencies and still misses a lot of red flags. I already blocked him though so yey for me.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/09/21 06:27 PM
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This kind of men are the worst. Usually, the men who I dated and weren't into exclusivity were normally quick to decide that we aren't compatible or literally say it flat out that they are not looking for something serious (usually around 2nd or third date). Guys like this however wastes everyone's time including his own. Oh well, block and delete.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/09/21 05:41 PM
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My friends also often tell me about kissing lots of frogs while dating. And I'm like why can't men just be decent humans and not frogs for a start? Although this guy isn't the worst, he still wasted a lot of my time. My only consolation is that we had great dates which he paid for (thank you, FDS!). Can't imagine wasting both my money and time.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/09/21 05:34 PM
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This is probably true. I don't even have to ask him to confirm. He took a 180° after the holiday.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/09/21 05:26 PM
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I guess this is a blessing in disguise in a way. At least I didn't have to be in a relationship before he showed his true intentions. Sorry about your ex.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/09/21 05:23 PM
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Yes, I plan to do that. Thank God for FDS!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/09/21 05:18 PM
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Oh, you are absolutely right! Now that you pointed it out, I completely missed that. He's a serial time waster.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/09/21 04:52 PM
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He must get a kick out of wasting a woman's time.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/09/21 04:46 PM
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Can you also share with me?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/08/21 12:21 PM
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Haha I can't count how many guys ghosted me because I didn't sleep with them easily. 🤷‍♀️
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/06/21 06:31 PM
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I have similar experience. Hot men, the kind of men you can see on billboards and magazine covers, treated me better than the men who are so-so. Not saying all hot men are better but from personal experience they were. They didn't comment on my physical appearance and treated me like I'm a goddess. When they were with me, I have their undivided attention. They also paid for everything and also 100% went down on me without hesitation. Oh yeah, they also know how to honor my limits and boundaries.…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/06/21 08:55 AM
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Hey, you've got this. The important thing is you recognised that you've made an error. We all stumble. One thing great about being a woman is we always rise up.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/05/21 05:37 AM
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I'm rooting for you. People who haven't been on the exact same spot will not understand what went through your mind and how you arrived at the decision you made at that time. As long as you acknowledge that you messed up and work on a plan to not repeat the same mistakes then you'll be fine. We are all human and we make mistakes sometimes. The important thing is that we learn from it and try not to do it again.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/05/21 05:33 AM
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Ugh...each day I'm getting more repulsed. Really, with the current dating climate the best thing I can do is give up on them and live happily with my cats. Hopefully, they will leave us alone in public spaces. I can't wait until I get older so I become invisible to men.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/05/21 12:17 PM
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I'm sorry that this had to happen to you and your friend (or to any woman). I also have my fair share of harassments ranging from grabbing my butt and other body parts to following me almost up to my house. This is the reason why I used to hate my body before. I am "curvy". Men took it as an invitation to grab my butt, thighs or boobs. I wore baggy clothes most of my teenage years because of this. Ugh.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/05/21 09:58 PM
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Yes, this is so heartbreaking especially the one on the bus because nobody helped her. It's like the whole world telling us that women should just fend for themselves. We really need to look out for each other.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/05/21 02:08 PM
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Yes! Patriarchy made us believe that without men we are nothing for so long. I think there has been a slow shift of mindset in women today because we are slowly realising that we actually don't need men and if they don't level up then more and more women will choose to be single rather than be in a parasitic relationship with men.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/05/21 01:39 AM
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I'm the same! I started dating at around 25 and it was a trainwreck. I should have stayed away from it forever! Now, I'm just happy with myself. I'm still attracted to men (sadly) but when I remember how cunning they are, I get chills and my stomach feels quesy. You can never tell what they are thinking. I've dated men who acted wonderful but secretly despises me in reality. I've dated men who would neg me to lower my confidence. And everytime I'm seeing someone it makes me feel miserable becaus…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/04/21 07:37 AM
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If you think about it, there are a lot of HVM behaviors which can be observed in birds. Albartross, penguins and vultures mate for life. Albatross courtship is also complicated because it requires the dance mentioned above. Also, peacocks! They have fabulous feathers to attract their mates.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/04/21 12:27 AM
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When I see things like things, I'm starting to wonder if the men around me are secretly like this and are just good at masking their behavior. Being a woman is tiring because we never know when we can relax. Then these men have the audacity to call us paranoid when they have an arsenal of manipulation tactics like PUA etc.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/03/21 10:02 AM
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This is my go to TedTalk when I'm feeling down or hurt.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/03/21 06:57 AM
You can kill a man, but you can't kill an idea.

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