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DiscussionElver86/r/PurplePillDebate09/12/21 12:48 AM
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Elver86/r/PurplePillDebate29/06/20 02:24 AM
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You're trying really, REALLY hard to make this sounds like a good idea.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/01/23 03:54 AM
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What, does being in a monogamous relationship mean you can only make sweet, gentle love in missionary position, with rose petals scattered on the sheets? It just sounds like you are not sexually compatible with your partner. If for some reason you absolutely need to have sex outside of your relationship to be satisfied, find a boyfriend who is ok with that. Don't try to change somebody who isn't.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/01/23 05:14 PM
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Ok, let's say that's true. My choices would then become being ok with it and choosing the sex life my partner could give me or walking away and finding somebody new who is better suited for me. The ONLY way what you are talking about makes sense is if both parties are already ok with open relationships. There is no scenario where it works out well otherwise.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/01/23 05:10 PM
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Feeling attracted to somebody and wanting to have sex with them are two different things. All men (and all women too) feel attraction to people they are not in a relationship with. That doesn't mean they want to sleep with them.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/01/23 12:58 PM
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That's fine if both people agree to it, are ok with it, and enjoy it. It's not fine if one person has to be talked into it, or just does it to 'save' the relationship. What isn't fine is judging somebody for not wanting that. I will never be in a non-monogamous relationship, ever. It just isn't for me. If I was in a wonderful loving relationship which didn't satisfy me sexually, I would try to work on that with my partner. If it doesn't get better, chances are that either I'm not attracted to hi…
/r/PurplePillDebate06/01/23 12:56 PM
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Let's be real though, they may technically have the same tools, but it's less socially acceptable to use them. A man wearing makeup can be seen as feminine and thus less desirable to some people.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/08/22 08:25 PM
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All I'm saying is that women have a whole set of tools to improve their looks that men don't,whether or not they chose to use them. I'd also say that men have the ability to improve their overall attractiveness via their job/finances, which statistically speaking will not make a woman more attractive to a man.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/08/22 01:53 AM
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I think we also have to take into consideration that women have tools that men don't really have. Makeup, hair, etc. Obviously a man can improve his appearance through caring for their skin and styling their hair but it's nowhere close to the same thing.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/08/22 07:54 PM
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Not necessarily. I think it depends on the kind of attractive they were. I've heard the phrase 'grimes up good' applied to actors like Henry Cavill- I think age is a way to grime someone up, and make them attractive in an entirely different way. For example, young Jonny Depp was a very pretty sort of guy- very even, almost delicate features. As he got older, age roughed him up a little, and I think he hit his peak attractiveness after he lost the prettiness (pre Amber Heard at least, he's lookin…
/r/PurplePillDebate21/04/22 02:38 AM
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I mean... I wouldn't say hotter, but in shape, well groomed older (30s-40s) guys do have a certain look that younger men just don't have. I think it's harder to be as physically appealing as you get older, for both men and women, but the ones who can pull it off REALLY pull it off. Woman in my twenties, if it matters.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/04/22 02:31 AM
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25 year old woman. Lost it at 16 with my first bf, who I am still with today.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/12/21 01:33 PM
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Thank you
/r/PurplePillDebate09/12/21 01:00 PM
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Thank you
/r/PurplePillDebate09/12/21 12:54 PM
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Thank you
/r/PurplePillDebate09/12/21 12:50 PM
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Thank you
/r/PurplePillDebate09/12/21 12:42 PM
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Why do you think that conversation should come so much later in a relationship? It seems to me that the reason for having it early is to have a person's sexual and romantic history tell you something about who they are, which is more useful early than later.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/12/21 12:35 PM
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How is my trust meter broken? It's not that I automatically think most people are cunts, it's that I don't know them. There's a different level of trust to thinking most people are fundamentally good (which I do for the most part- good people can also suck) and trusting them deeply for such an intimate act. Sure, most people won't be an axe welding serial killer who will strike down poor defenseless me, but there still isn't that level of trust. It makes me uncomfortable when people I don't know…
/r/PurplePillDebate09/12/21 12:30 PM
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Thank you
/r/PurplePillDebate09/12/21 12:18 PM
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Thank you
/r/PurplePillDebate09/12/21 03:05 AM
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Thank you
/r/PurplePillDebate09/12/21 03:04 AM
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Do you plan to ever have children? If so, how, without committing?
/r/PurplePillDebate09/12/21 03:04 AM
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Question- how? Literally, how do you sleep with that many people? Are your relationships non monogamous, or have you had a lot of time between monogamous relationships?
/r/PurplePillDebate09/12/21 02:57 AM
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Why is 0 so important to you for commitment? Also how hard is that to find?
/r/PurplePillDebate09/12/21 02:55 AM
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Do you think being a virgin so relatively late in life impacted your dating life at all?
/r/PurplePillDebate09/12/21 02:36 AM
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Makes sense. Thank you
/r/PurplePillDebate09/12/21 02:35 AM
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To me, friends of friends almost may as well be strangers when it comes to something so intimate. All you really know about them is that x friend likes them, you know? And you can trust x friend all you like, it doesn't transfer to someone i dont have that foundation with. Would you do anything differently, knowing what you know now as an older person? And do you think that treating sex so casually will affect how you feel about it long term, casually and in relationships?
/r/PurplePillDebate09/12/21 02:34 AM
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How would you feel about a serial monogamist? What about someone who enjoys or has enjoyed casual sex between relationships?
/r/PurplePillDebate09/12/21 02:29 AM
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Thank you
/r/PurplePillDebate09/12/21 02:13 AM
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Honestly it's got to be TOUGH to be a virgin in your 30s, if your interested in changing that. It would be an instant deal breaker for a lot of people I think. It would be a plus to certain people maybe through your late 20s, but at a certain point the implicit question becomes 'what is wrong with you for that to be true'. Of course things are often much more complicated than that, but still- a virgin 30+ would probably say baggage'. Because whatever the reason is, there would have to be a reaso…
/r/PurplePillDebate09/12/21 02:13 AM
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When you say psychologically freer, how do you mean? Like,what attitudes do you hear now that you would consider restricting, and what are the inverse attitudes you grew up with? It's funny. I always thought of the sexual revolution being mostly in the free love/flower child era, which was a little bit before your time I think? Idk I was born in '96, so it's all before me!
/r/PurplePillDebate09/12/21 02:07 AM
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Anyone who would say that is someone who's opinion I don't care to hear.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/12/21 02:04 AM
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Thank you
/r/PurplePillDebate09/12/21 02:03 AM
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Impressive. How do threesomes work for you guys? Do you have rules? Do you go for people you know and trust like a friend, or people you won't see in your every day life?
/r/PurplePillDebate09/12/21 02:01 AM
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Would you care about count if it was extreme in either direction? Like, if it came up somehow in conversation that your date was a virgin or had been with 300 people?
/r/PurplePillDebate09/12/21 01:59 AM
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How do you think life was different for you because of time period you grew up in? I'm slap bang between millennial and gen z, so I can't really comment on what my generation is like as far as our attitudes with sex, because I don't really have one, lol. Also, that seems super early to me to start having sex- was that normal for your area/time period? I was 16 when I started having sex, and that was pretty normal in my high school, maybe even earlier than most.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/12/21 01:58 AM
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Cool. Out of curiosity, would a divorcee or single mother be a red flag for you? Everyone has a different story and motivation of course, but in general, would those be things you would avoid? And often you hear people say that they had a "phase" when they were younger- would this be a deal breaker for you even if that is not how someone is living their life now or has for quite some time? Essentially, do you think it's truly possible to leave the past in the past, or do you think it's more like…
/r/PurplePillDebate09/12/21 01:54 AM
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I'm sorry to hear about that. I imagine how I would feel if it happened to me or to someone i know and I feel sick. The internet is a strange place that I can learn something so intimate about someone whose name and face I don't know, but I guess it's better for it.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/12/21 01:43 AM
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In the 100s! Wow, lol. Can I ask about how old he is? Cause that will set my level of impressed.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/12/21 01:37 AM
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Thank you!
/r/PurplePillDebate09/12/21 01:35 AM
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Thank you
/r/PurplePillDebate09/12/21 01:33 AM
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What is a lot, of you don't mind my asking? I'm not judging anyone here, I've just never really dated, so I don't know what 'normal' is. From what I'm seeing, it's something different for everyone and hearing everyone's thoughts on the topic is really interesting.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/12/21 01:33 AM
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Thank you
/r/PurplePillDebate09/12/21 01:29 AM
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Makes sense. Weird question: I'm assuming at least a couple of those 8 we're casual hookups. What's the mental state behind doing that? To explain a bit, I've been in a ltr since I've been of dating age, and have never really been in the dating game. One of the things that's so crazy to me is how people can sleep around casually and enjoy it. To me, a huge part of sex is trust and I can't see myself being able to trust someone who I don't know well. I don't judge, I just imagine that someone who…
/r/PurplePillDebate09/12/21 01:27 AM
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Can I ask about how many of those 50 or so were committed relationships vs non committed dating vs hook ups?
/r/PurplePillDebate09/12/21 01:22 AM
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If I understand correctly, you mainly did your dating in your late 20s, but only have had one partner, your husband. If so, can I ask if you did not date prior or did you only have non physical relationships?
/r/PurplePillDebate09/12/21 01:20 AM
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Idgaf how many partners my SO has had Do you ask? Is it important for you to know the history, number of people regardless?
/r/PurplePillDebate09/12/21 01:17 AM
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I'm assuming you're fairly young- would this change if you were, say, in your thirties and single, where it would be less likely to find a potential partner who had been with only two or three people?
/r/PurplePillDebate09/12/21 01:15 AM
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How many is a lot, of you don't mind my asking? I'm very curious- I am still with my high school sweetheart ten years down the road, so this is all kind of unknown territory and interesting to me because I've never dated as an adult.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/12/21 01:12 AM
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I mean.. it doesn't guarantee anything, but being more attractive can help things along.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/10/21 02:00 PM
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Lol, I think that's how it's going to go for us too, judging by his dad
/r/PurplePillDebate10/09/21 06:39 PM
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Definitely depends on the person. I didn't stop growing until I was around 20- between being very slim, socially awkward, and having a baby face, I came off as very young. And then there was my bf who was pretty much done growing at, like, 15. We would occasionally get some LOOKS from middle aged ladies when we went out together, and we were only a few months apart!
/r/PurplePillDebate10/09/21 05:13 PM
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I mean, I think it's more social media than anything. Makeup has been around forever, why is it only now that you say this issue occurs?
/r/PurplePillDebate10/09/21 05:09 PM
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I know what you mean by your edit, but let's also acknowledge that you can be attracted to a person who is not "pretty" to you, as well as vice versa, think someone is "pretty" but not be sexually attracted to them. I think this evens out some as you get to know the person behind the face, if you're compatible with them. Like, the guy you have crazy sexual chemistry with but don't find attractive in other ways can become so once you get to know and like one another, and so on.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/09/21 01:01 AM
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Why would you sleep with nine people you weren't attracted to?
/r/PurplePillDebate04/07/20 01:37 AM
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Thank you guys for answering- I appreciate it. Would anyone mind telling me what an n-count is?
/r/PurplePillDebate30/06/20 08:37 PM
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