EmbarrassedEmu27 Archive

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1	Where may I find women who do not care about looks/height? What is your ethnicity?. I am Asian and height is top criteria for dating here as most fellow brothers are short here. May be try socialising among ethnicity where height is not judged harshly. Also, work on your insecurities. There is difference between being in pain vs suffering. Yes being short makes few things difficult and consumed by thoughts of you not being good enough is a suffering you are choosing upon yourself.	/r/ExRedPill	09/02/23 09:32 AM
–	Do any other men in their early twenties just feel socially crushed? Read the book attached . This is not a problem with women but you having inhibition to be vulnerable with people in general.	/r/PurplePillDebate	02/02/23 06:43 AM
8	Is it true that on average women have less dating options once they are over 30 while men have more dating options as they gain wealth and status?? Why does he have to become wealthy then . He can find women from poverty at any timeline.	/r/ExRedPill	01/02/23 09:38 PM
9	Is it true that on average women have less dating options once they are over 30 while men have more dating options as they gain wealth and status?? The reality is that even the guy in his 30s with wealth will never have high number of option as young pretty girl does. The card does not change like what your are going about here. The wealthy 30 plus might have increased his chances of finding a partner but he has to still pursue women and impress them. Wealthy guy with awkward social skills still won’t get woman if he has not worked on that aspect. It’s not biology but very cultural. People who don’t socialise and spend time on internet are …	/r/ExRedPill	01/02/23 02:07 PM
2	So, how does a guy supposed to get confidence and be interesting to women? Confidence is believing that you are capable of doing it rather than already knowing or been done it. Looks like you don’t have reference of doing things outside your comfort zone hence finding it difficult is have a reference for what it is to be confident. What is currently lifestyle ? Are you working or studying?. How many male friends do you have?. How often do you socialise with them?. If you don’t socialise with them start somewhere where you could socialise. There are apps where people wa…	/r/ExRedPill	01/02/23 08:27 AM
11	Is it true that on average women have less dating options once they are over 30 while men have more dating options as they gain wealth and status?? My comment is in reply to your interaction in the thread rather than question. While you are sitting and reading anthropology study alone in your room I would also suggest you also read on divorce status. Starting with a reference point of the same age couple, a couple who has a 1-year age difference has a 3% greater likelihood of divorce. If there is a 5-year age difference, the risk increases 18%. 10 year age difference yields increased risk of 39%. If there is a 20-year age difference, the ri…	/r/ExRedPill	01/02/23 04:56 AM
3	The fall of Afghanistan: an analysis of gender relations between men and women in Afghan society pre taliban take over and its consequences on societal integrity Do you read the studies you add brother?. Study says abuser’s at female prisons are predominantly male officers. Those male staff are literally paid by people’s tax and government to protect women and yet they assaulted them. You need to read your studies fully. Here a thesis on survey data shared in study. Women on women assault is low in the studies you have quoted. Men on the other hand are raped based on race, physical structure etc.	/r/PurplePillDebate	16/01/23 04:02 PM
1	Why women think their Degree/Money/Career of their own is important I am Asian and I could not relate to this post. Choices of education and career is heavily influenced by parenting we received and what interests we are exposed to at early age. Most Ivy League graduates, doctors , academic scholars marry women from similar profile. Men wouldn’t care about degree for hooking up with a women but for marriage and commitment women’s personal accomplishments does matter to many men. There education and exposure does shape who they are as person , their social circle…	/r/PurplePillDebate	02/01/23 12:26 PM
3	Buy my book or I'll cry We can have personal ethics to not make fun of it. He was suicidal too. Men gets mocked for sharing their mental health struggles and that’s juvenile.	/r/PurplePillDebate	31/12/22 06:44 PM
1	CMV: you can’t generalize when men peak in terms of looks Lol peaking looks-No, confident- Yes .	/r/PurplePillDebate	31/12/22 12:17 PM
0	Harsh truth of equality between genders, races, nationality, looks, etc This is a stupid comparison. I come from 3rd world country where arranged marriage is still practiced. Here the suicide rates among women is exponentially higher than any other country. https://www.thelancet.com/journals/lanpub/article/PIIS2468-2667(18)30138-5/fulltext https://www.thinkglobalhealth.org/article/suicide-and-indian-housewives Suicide rate is significantly higher among housewives than salaried women workers, students and daily wage workers.	/r/PurplePillDebate	31/12/22 12:10 PM
15	What actual pain (and not just lying for attention) looks like. I come from a country where arranged marriage is still practiced. Here the suicide rates among women is exponentially higher than any other country. https://www.thelancet.com/journals/lanpub/article/PIIS2468-2667(18)30138-5/fulltext https://www.thinkglobalhealth.org/article/suicide-and-indian-housewives Suicide rate is significantly higher among housewives than salaried women workers, students and daily wage workers.	/r/PurplePillDebate	31/12/22 12:07 PM
4	Buy my book or I'll cry This was distasteful. I don’t like his ideologies either but don’t make fun of his depression. I have seen videos of him with his daughter and his struggle with depression was indeed bad.	/r/PurplePillDebate	31/12/22 11:15 AM
3	It makes no sense how men can do everything right yet suffer like animals. Female doesn't realize how painful it is. I would first ask this dude how many male friends he has. Most men who post like with black and white view of world usually struggle with making relationships as well. What effort is he actually putting in find companionship other thinking he deserves one. If women are impulsive why are they not jumping on this attractive thug? Impulsive people won’t wait for IQ test right?	/r/PurplePillDebate	31/12/22 11:09 AM
3	I recently saw something that made me think of the RP view that feminism is sexual strategy for women I come from a country where arranged marriage is still practiced. Here the suicide rates among women is exponentially higher than any other country. Staying together is not success but staying happy is. Unhappy parents traumatise kids. Just staying together or divorced does not speak about happiness of individuals. I wish divorces rates were high in my country so the young generation does not have to spend money on therapy. https://www.thelancet.com/journals/lanpub/article/PIIS2468-2667(18)30138…	/r/PurplePillDebate	21/12/22 08:48 AM
8	Female women, do you find it weird that men are unable to "turn off" their attraction towards women most of the time? My answer is in the comment. It’s risk vs reward . Women don’t have reward to notice all men as walking penis but flip side men have more reward than risk in those situations. There is no guarantee in orgasm nor protection for women why would they just want it from anybody. If women too can climax in few seconds and pleasure is guaranteed they will sexualise men more.	/r/PurplePillDebate	19/12/22 07:38 AM
29	Female women, do you find it weird that men are unable to "turn off" their attraction towards women most of the time? Yes men can put it in any vagina for few seconds and climax with no consequence of violence or to get killed . Women can do “would” or “would not” in their head but can never act on it because risk of pursuing it bigger than reward of getting it. Girls are seen as object of desire from time they are born and many prepubescent girls get abused all around the world . You don’t have to preach women that men sexualise them with no regards to them as human as almost all of them know that since their …	/r/PurplePillDebate	19/12/22 05:57 AM
1	can anyone stop me from falling into the red pill? Thanks for the compassion. I brought up my grief because I didn make friends at party either and met friends them with common factor that we had depression at that timeline. When things get hard we want to blame someone but the reality is no one needs to blamed and Bad things just happen. We sometimes want a narration that can self preserve us from shame and hurt we feel. When you have anxiety we might have this need control the environment the we feel about ourself. Make the external world fit …	/r/ExRedPill	12/12/22 03:41 AM
5	Please!! How to save my 23 year old brother from this toxicity It makes me sad how much young boys are brain washed by TRP. Young girls haven’t got everything figured out either. They will make dump mistakes too but the solution cannot be manipulation:	/r/ExRedPill	06/12/22 06:24 PM
1	Aging? I hear you. You don’t have to figure out everything right away. Let time tell you what the reality would be. Worrying is basically suffering twice, one in anticipation of things going wrong and two when things actually go wrong. If you can’t stop it bothering you can you postpone it for 10 years and see what happens? . Why suffer of unknown living in a healthy happy relationship.	/r/ExRedPill	06/12/22 01:34 PM
2	Mate choice is not just biologically driven Asians with short height and less muscle mass won’t be the highly populated set of human race if we were still choosing biologically. We have evolved socially and cognitively. Our emotional centre - Amygdala in brain makes us feel shame, guilt, joy, anger grief etc and it’s not an animalistic experience. We are indeed more than our biology because our decisions are made by prefrontal cortex which learns things and patterns from young age. Our upbringing has bigger influence in mate selection tha…	/r/PurplePillDebate	06/12/22 07:17 AM
21	Please!! How to save my 23 year old brother from this toxicity He had a set back in life and wants to blame it on someone. Blaming women will temporarily protect him from the pain and shame of a break up but he is suffering. Is your dad a good role model? Can he speak to him?. He needs a reality check from men to ground him and call out his bullshit. Sit down and ask him what does he want in next 20 years and how will red pill knowledge get him a good family ?. He is going to chase out more women not attract them actually. If he has kids will he tell his da…	/r/ExRedPill	06/12/22 06:36 AM
5	Aging? Red pill is all about sex and short term relationship and people who want long monogamous relationship have no take away from it. They exaggerate outliers as norm which is not reality of the world. Firstly where will 50year old men meet all the young girls they are claiming to be queuing for them? . Young girls are in college dating their peer or living in with their BFs . How many parents of young girls will be okay with these kind of relationships? . Imagine being 50 and still swiping at girls…	/r/ExRedPill	06/12/22 06:13 AM
1	You get successful by your 40s: would you leave your wife for your dream girl? I would base my decision in “what is” than “what ifs”. Can’t get over the logical fallacy that I married someone who is my dream girl in the hypothetical question. If a successful 40 year old man divorces at 40 he is going lose wealth to the ex wife and won’t be rich as before . If he has to pay child support then he is going to even more poor. A hot girl might pick a successful single guy over old dude with high alimony and child support payments. Say you did end up getting a hot girl there is …	/r/PurplePillDebate	05/12/22 09:36 AM
2	Where did this idea that younger women make better partners come from? On the flip side how is 35+ man’s mental state who is so focused on women’s sexual past. The people who are giving this as reason should take accountability and work on their insecurity, lack of social skills, trauma from rejection and self worth from being late boomer etc. In reality some don’t and the marriage goes downhill. Think about all the men who scarred your GF what kind baggage they carried to their wives.	/r/PurplePillDebate	04/12/22 01:39 PM
2	can anyone stop me from falling into the red pill? I too have compassion for what he is going through but one woman won’t fix all his hurdles. At this timeline he is having hard time with relationships in general blaming women won’t solve it.	/r/ExRedPill	04/12/22 12:12 PM
10	can anyone stop me from falling into the red pill? For anybody who is stuck with redpill ideology I wouldnask them how is their life besides lack of girl friend. How many close guy friends do you have and how often do you talk to them?. What do people close to you like about you? . Who are people in your current life that make you feel loved and cherished?. If women are the only problem because they are gold diggers what happen to guy friends? Why the resentment is focused only women when men too didn’t make you feel included in parties. Most ho…	/r/ExRedPill	03/12/22 11:26 AM
2	Update from last post: "Afraid to accept Im straight" I can’t even imagine how difficult it must have been for you. When bad things happen some of us have this urge to blame someone or ourself. The reality is bad things happen and that’s just it . We don’t have to look for anyone to blame at all. You had difficult teen years and you matured . Most of what you went through was beyond your control and looks like anger triggered by TRP gave you control though it didn benefit you. You are more all these bad experiences. Don’t let this define you anymor…	/r/ExRedPill	03/12/22 10:59 AM
3	As a leftist man, I believe that men are better off not pursuing progressive/feminist/leftist women for long-term relationships. After reading few sick comments on sub I have wondered what kind of parent they would become with such understanding of world and gender. Many people have PTSD with word traditional or conservative in my country because its is synonym to oppression.	/r/PurplePillDebate	02/12/22 12:40 PM
3	As a leftist man, I believe that men are better off not pursuing progressive/feminist/leftist women for long-term relationships. Exactly. India is one of few places where suicides among women is higher than men by big percent. Hope people with those perspective read these studies. https://www.thelancet.com/journals/lanpub/article/PIIS2468-2667(18)30138-5/fulltext https://www.thinkglobalhealth.org/article/suicide-and-indian-housewives Suicide rate is significantly higher among housewives than salaried women workers, students and daily wage workers.	/r/PurplePillDebate	02/12/22 10:52 AM
2	"I'm single because there are not enough good guys for me" is just narcissism Yes I was disagreeing with OP above. ADHD brain hit the enter too soon. Men willing to offer sex to anyone is not premise for relationship was my point.	/r/PurplePillDebate	02/12/22 08:53 AM
1	Women are indeed incredibly complicated to understand. I have ADHD and run a small support group for Neurodivergents of all gender. Here is my take from mental health perspective. Neurodivergents find both neurotypical men and women both complicated. I get to speak with many men who are battling depression, anxiety and self worth issues . They too do the push and pull stunt with their loved ones because they don’t feel worthy of love. Men look for validation same as women and they may show it may different from women based on how they are socialised…	/r/PurplePillDebate	02/12/22 07:43 AM
1	"It's harder for women to find the right guy" Good looking young women have it easier not all women . Good looking young men have it easier than average men. The below average men have it better than below average women. Having option to sex does not mean option to marriage and long term commitment . The difficulty varies at different age and needs.	/r/PurplePillDebate	02/12/22 07:25 AM
3	"I'm single because there are not enough good guys for me" is just narcissism Women have options to have sex not necessarily mean same options are available for relationship. Men are still gate keepers of relationships and marriage.	/r/PurplePillDebate	02/12/22 07:17 AM
9	As a leftist man, I believe that men are better off not pursuing progressive/feminist/leftist women for long-term relationships. South Asian here. Divorces are low here because of taboo. Premarital sex is low here because its a taboo so are many other things normal in west. Children can be physically punished because it’s not a taboo. Low divorce rates does not correlate happy marriages. Many young adults are facing mental health issue here living with parents who have no love for each other but just coexisting to do their roles. Some children have to step up and comfort adults because mom and dad can’t take care of each …	/r/PurplePillDebate	02/12/22 07:10 AM
12	Turns out that kindness and companionship is the biggest turn on for men and women I wonder why people talk like, men and women are operate as individual entity in society. We are what we are because of parenting we received and peer group we were exposed too. The reference for love comes from those relationships and compassion resembling those life experiences definitely impacts us to make decisions. Desire and attraction is influenced by the culture and peer group as well. Koreans face structure wouldn’t be seen as desirable in west few decades ago and now K-pop as changed i…	/r/ExRedPill	24/11/22 07:41 AM
4	I feel like I’m in too deep and broken You weren’t born this way and some unfortunate life events shaped your present but you can start now and reshape it again. There is big world outside internet that you haven’t explored yet. It’s okay even if you have made some wrong choices and what matters now is that you still held on to integrity even while getting bullied. You still have your critical thinking and resilience intact otherwise you won’t be here trying unlearn the bro science. You still have so much undiscovered potential in yo…	/r/ExRedPill	21/11/22 04:00 AM
2	Nice guys are not mean or creeps, they are men who interact with women platonically in the hopes women will make the first move It’s hard for some men to express their emotions and it’s completely okay. Many relationships start with friendship as well. My point is to accept the consequence of our choices and not blame the woman who never knew guy’s interest for not seeing it.	/r/PurplePillDebate	20/11/22 05:07 PM
1	Major gender differences in how the brain works I was listening to a podcast where this man claimed that the part of the brain for conscientiousness and avoiding excess risks - the CEO part of the brain, allegedly for men reaches on par with a 13 year old girl only at like age 24 or something. However I’m sceptical of these claims I feel like the brain is very complex and we literally only recently started understanding any of it. This does not correlate with increased rate of addiction , violence among young men vs young women. Young boys ar…	/r/PurplePillDebate	20/11/22 12:31 PM
3	Major gender differences in how the brain works I am from Asian country and here women in high percentage choose STEM and girls don’t lose interest but actually excel well. Education is the only escape from poverty in my country so that’s the motivation for us. Culture and the socio economic background of the individual has a lot of impact in this decision. Do men from rich family or rich countries like Dubai choose STEM?. Steve jobs and Bill gates sons are doctors and not in tech. I don’t thing it is do with lobe size but the choices are bas…	/r/PurplePillDebate	20/11/22 12:26 PM
17	Women's instinctual desires often contradict what they consciously desire. This isn't the case for men There is no logical thinking there. During dry spell they will hit it with woman who they dont see hot as well. Men can afford to take more risks and have control over the situation during hook ups. It’s all risk vs reward. For men orgasm is almost always guaranteed in sexual escapades but for women that’s not the case . When it comes to marriage men also listen to emotions and believe in their gut that she is the one. There is narrative men only want sex with hot girl is the only that matters w…	/r/PurplePillDebate	20/11/22 12:05 PM
8	Nice guys are not mean or creeps, they are men who interact with women platonically in the hopes women will make the first move Nice guys get the reputation because how they react to rejections. Say your parents told you not bully kids at school and treat everyone with compassion and you did it. Do you just expect everyone to be your close friends immediately just for that ? You still have to find the person who have common interest with and spend time with them and see if they also find you fun etc. Few are going to get rejected for friendship because they have different needs and in that’s scenario would it be right to…	/r/PurplePillDebate	20/11/22 11:54 AM
17	Women's instinctual desires often contradict what they consciously desire. This isn't the case for men You are trying too hard to connect too many things to prove your personal belief. I don’t know what age group was your anecdotal reference from. How you say things matter in personal relationships where emotions are invested. If your dad is screaming at you then you would be focusing how it is said more than what is said. Men are not by default same in bedroom and outside plenty of studies to say otherwise and all women are not into dominant role play. In hook up situation It’s all risk vs rewar…	/r/PurplePillDebate	20/11/22 11:30 AM
0	Why being an amazing mother is not considered successful? You are trying to connect too many variants here. We are not making life decision based on “what we are programmed to” “evolved to”. We are byproducts of parenting we received and peer group we were exposed to . Many men are not into sports and many woman are into academics it’s all not black and white. Things that work for casual hook up don’t work for marriage and parenthood either. Men still are gate keepers of relationships and select woman whom they could build a family. This involves many …	/r/PurplePillDebate	10/11/22 12:12 PM
2	I can't quit blackpill, I can just take a break. Whatever I do, I'm back to the beginning. Anyone have an idea about this? Is there any other way but to fool myself? Your beloved evolutionary biologist themself said it will reach plateau at Dutch country as well. You assuming things won’t change the reality it’s not a zero sum game for short people.	/r/ExRedPill	10/11/22 08:33 AM
2	I can't quit blackpill, I can just take a break. Whatever I do, I'm back to the beginning. Anyone have an idea about this? Is there any other way but to fool myself? Do you even understand how immature you are sounding in comments. Believing only two extremes is cognitive distortion and can be improved in therapy. People make friendships at all ages and it’s not artificial. It’s normal to not fall out with school friends. Familiarity breeds trust and closeness, most people become friends with peer group they spent most of their time with and it’s completely natural. My current best friends are from work. Indians born smart and not hardworking is the MOST abs…	/r/ExRedPill	10/11/22 08:31 AM
2	I can't quit blackpill, I can just take a break. Whatever I do, I'm back to the beginning. Anyone have an idea about this? Is there any other way but to fool myself? You still did not answer why are you not having friends? If black pill is truth is causing your lack of dates what is causing your lack of connection with your own gender?. I am Indian and this study is irrelevant to me and no matter what it DOES NOT say its a zero sum game for short guys. The Indian origin short men are all over the globe being CEOs and having families, one become president at UK as well. Sitting at college without friends and not focusing on studies, not developing social skil…	/r/ExRedPill	10/11/22 07:46 AM
5	I can't quit blackpill, I can just take a break. Whatever I do, I'm back to the beginning. Anyone have an idea about this? Is there any other way but to fool myself? Listen kiddo, I worried for you because you are completely brainwashed and not using your logical thinking. If you used actually cognition you know there is no correlation to causation here in the study. Speak to older men and seek mentorship. Make friends that’s the way to go. Human height has steadily increased over the past 2 centuries across the globe. This trend is in line with general improvements in health and nutrition during this period. No one can save you from distress if you are not …	/r/ExRedPill	09/11/22 06:52 PM
2	I can't quit blackpill, I can just take a break. Whatever I do, I'm back to the beginning. Anyone have an idea about this? Is there any other way but to fool myself? Yes , Her ted talk on listening to shame was a break through in understanding my ADHD and even my therapist did not coach me to differentiate between guilt and shame. I would recommend more people to watch her talk about vulnerability and shame. If only young men understood being vulnerable is the only way to find human connection and not shy away from it.	/r/ExRedPill	09/11/22 06:57 AM
7	I can't quit blackpill, I can just take a break. Whatever I do, I'm back to the beginning. Anyone have an idea about this? Is there any other way but to fool myself? So Entire medical fraternity are dimwits and only bros on internet have figured this out. How are you not using any critical thinking here? . Do you analyse things the same way in other parts of your life too? . If chads are taking all the girls who is taking all your male friends?. If men are non judgmental why are they not friends with you? . You really need start reading books and get a broader world view . The fact short men exist and short children continuing to exist is proof enough woman …	/r/ExRedPill	09/11/22 12:44 AM
5	I can't quit blackpill, I can just take a break. Whatever I do, I'm back to the beginning. Anyone have an idea about this? Is there any other way but to fool myself? Looking at your post it seem like you are 20-21 age and saying making friends is difficult at that age sounds bit silly. if looks are the only reason women are ignoring men like the black pill says then why are you struggling to make male friends? Why are woman the only way out of male loneliness?. Buddy, I would suggest you to read a bit about guilt vs shame online. The emotion behind I made a mistake is “guilt” this is an appropriate emotion when we make mistakes and we often and learn from it…	/r/ExRedPill	09/11/22 12:27 AM
19	I can't quit blackpill, I can just take a break. Whatever I do, I'm back to the beginning. Anyone have an idea about this? Is there any other way but to fool myself? You have been spamming this sub for while so don’t know if you genuinely want to learn or just want to spam.I really wish you got better mentoring and nurturing. We all are by products of parenting we received and peer group we grew up in. Before answering your question I would like ask- how many close friends do you have ? Do you have a place(beyond online) where you feel like you “belong”. Men who are usually stuck in manospheres don’t have close friend or a safe space to express themself. Who…	/r/ExRedPill	08/11/22 09:37 AM
7	I think I can ask women questions in this sub. "Women only like the tallest, richest, and most handsome men and don't give the others a chance" and "They don't care if a man with these qualities is an asshole." Why do you bother about when we say this? It won’t be crime but a projection. Would you date a ugly woman (as per whatever standards goes on current timeline) in campus ?. Most men your age don’t look at average women and assume that’s how other genders world works too.	/r/ExRedPill	07/11/22 08:41 PM
16	There is one thing that I don't even understand about matt cross Matt cross said his 24 year old ex broke up with him and later married a 33 year old who had house and financial stability. Dude is just still butt hurt and trying hard to prove he is better than her. One dude in comment under his that video you are talking about said he is 37 and his wife is 22 and they were arrived for 3 years. Apparently when she was 18 she said she likes older men. The over all theme is it is hard to impress woman of their age so showing 19 year old woman with daddy issue at…	/r/ExRedPill	07/11/22 07:44 PM
21	I think I can ask women questions in this sub. "Women only like the tallest, richest, and most handsome men and don't give the others a chance" and "They don't care if a man with these qualities is an asshole." Why do you bother about when we say this? It bothers me because I am an Asian , living in second largest populated country in the world and we don’t fit those standards yet get dates .	/r/ExRedPill	07/11/22 05:32 PM
2	As a woman, I think gender roles are natural We are making choices based on cognition than nature was my point. Amygdala in the human brain is evolved to feel emotions like joy, shame, guilt, grief etc which has influence in both genders. This heavily influenced by nurture than nature. If Single women not choosing not having babies is criticised then single mothers bearing children and being in nurturing role should have gotten praises but that’s not the reality. Things we think as roles are constructed by society for convinces. Now with c…	/r/PurplePillDebate	03/11/22 06:29 AM
2	As a woman, I think gender roles are natural I disagree. We cannot use inherently, naturally as logic of roles if we are not fully living in the natural environment. We have come beyond survival and reproduction being the only purpose of life. We are living in a human made environment with high end technology advancements and which has changed the gender roles. We are cognitively evolved species . Amygdala (emotional centre) in the brain produces emotion range on grief, joy, fear, anxiety, shame and guilt. Prefrontal cortex (cognition cent…	/r/PurplePillDebate	03/11/22 06:05 AM
5	As a woman, I think gender roles are natural It’s not all the same though. Single mothers who kept their babies don’t have same respect as feminine just because she did her gender role.	/r/PurplePillDebate	03/11/22 05:38 AM
2	What is something you didn't know about the opposite sex until PPD? WEEKLY DISCUSSION THREAD They grew up being gaslighted into believing that men and women are the same, so it makes perfect sense the new generation of men would believe women should desire them as much as they desire women. Desire as in sexual desire? Who exactly are believing it’s same for both genders? Men want to see as many naked women as possible and that does not a need for women. Men can hit climax in few seconds in any hole that not the same with women. Men don’t pregnant, so who are these thinking it is the sam…	/r/PurplePillDebate	03/11/22 05:17 AM
1	I have been getting approached by girls first but I can’t find confidence to approach girls first myself My ex decided to get a new bf after just a month of our breakup, and being heartbroken I feel the urge to find someone more attractive that likes me more than she did. That’s your problem. You will never be satisfied if that’s your base for all your dating options. You are insecure about ex finding partner so quickly and want to reach some high standards to make up. Why do you need that validation. You are 20 and it’s time to mature emotionally. Choose your battle well. Proving against your ex i…	/r/seduction	02/11/22 01:31 AM
3	Everyone talks about how easy it is to game on college:- just join clubs, just be social Tell me how do you people make friends in college ? Do they just go up to someone and ask to be best friends . Usually in academic years familiarity breeds trust and closeness. So these kind of engagements are important for finding people anyway. You can choose where you would feel the most comfortable and improvise. I would infact advise to chat up with both men and women in clubs and be approachable for both do causal follow next day saying it was fun meeting them etc so they remember you . It…	/r/seduction	27/10/22 10:13 PM
1	Some women are to blame for the toxicity of some men, through the enabling of bad behaviour it is lot to do with self worth. What kind of parents did your friends have?. Read a bit about guilt vs shame. Families which instill shame in children get traumatised is all kinds of crazy way. People in those kind of relationships are reliving something from their family dynamics. What is obviously wrong to you could be familiar trauma to them hence it’s not a big deal. Some also have this saviour syndrome where they are trying save flawed people and think they can get them better. Even if the…	/r/PurplePillDebate	27/10/22 09:51 PM
1	Some women are to blame for the toxicity of some men, through the enabling of bad behaviour We are by products of parenting we received and peer group we are exposed to. Some women attach their worth to “being needed” because of conditional love they got at home. Many men are that way as well. They go above and beyond for bread crumbs other person gives. They don’t think they deserve love but have work hard for it which includes being insulted or gaslighted. People from healthy families understand what “being wanted” is , they have reference to being in loving relationships and wanted …	/r/PurplePillDebate	27/10/22 09:39 PM
1	Redpill, Blackpill made me gay. That is what toxic shame does to your our belief system. When I try to understand a scientific concept I often learn to have clear understanding that I can even teach it to a child. Can your ever tell your children the stories these pill seekers lay out as reality of human relationships? It’s a cult it will only make sense to the members. Emotion behind “I made a mistake” is guilt which is healthy emotion which encourages us to lear and grown to not repeat. Emotion behind” I am a mistake” is sha…	/r/ExRedPill	24/10/22 04:57 PM
0	Men that have had a tough time getting girls, what have you done to change this and get more options and success? How many close male friends do you have? When you are struggling it would good to let your brothers take you to their girl friends social circle, parties so it’s not all men. You can ask girl friends of your friends to give intro as well. Gaining confidence from there you can take to it strangers. The probability of impressing some stranger is far less and it will killing your confidence. Start with your circle:	/r/seduction	23/10/22 07:22 PM
8	I don’t want to believe in the redpill but I keep seeing some of the things they say manifest themselves in real life Where do you think women are learning that cheating is manly and desirable? Are they all joining a cult? If you had a daughter will you teach her that ? Your GF is someone’s daughter and suffering with mental health issues . We are by product of parenting we received and peer group we grew up in. She has no reference to what a healthy good relationship is supposed be. This is about her attachment issue not redpill. Seems like you have no idea what a healthy relationship is supposed to be either.…	/r/ExRedPill	22/10/22 12:09 AM
14	I've been told Women think about sex in a more romantic way, how can a guy appeal to that? Like the other user said -You have to just understand one women who you might be dating not the whole women population. Choose your battle wisely. Understanding population is not going to be a battle that anyone can win. We all are by products of parenting we received and peer group we grew up in. Lot of things influence us on what we perceive as love, respect and affection. Do you have close friends ? How do you bond with them? . What do they like in you. What are your quirks. Start with that. …	/r/ExRedPill	20/10/22 08:30 PM
1	There is no evidence to support that 80% of women are sleeping with 20% of men. There never was This is the actual okcupid study. This study also recorded messaging trend and It shows quantitatively women being LESS PICKY based on looks.Female messaging to men peaks for men that they rate less than average in looks. Men, on the other hand overwhelming send messages to women they rate as most attractive. If you are basing all your argument on this study why skip the parts in messaging . Why cherry pick within the study. If you argue messaging trend is wrong as per population it would mean t…	/r/PurplePillDebate	15/10/22 07:12 AM
3	There is no evidence to support that 80% of women are sleeping with 20% of men. There never was How come you trust only one part of study and say other part is false from the same data set. What kind of cognitive dissonance is this?. My point if you take this study as base for all your argument read the damn study fully .	/r/PurplePillDebate	15/10/22 07:05 AM
2	There is no evidence to support that 80% of women are sleeping with 20% of men. There never was This is the actual okcupid study and if you are basing all your arguments on this study you should also shows women’s messaging trend. Study shows quantitatively women being LESS PICKY based on looks.Female messaging to men peaks for men that they rate less than average in looks. Men, on the other hand overwhelming send messages to women they rate as most attractive. If you actually believe the study as representation of population then you need to agree to the other parts of study as well and c…	/r/PurplePillDebate	15/10/22 06:43 AM
2	There is no evidence to support that 80% of women are sleeping with 20% of men. There never was Sample size studies cannot be extrapolated as population statistics. Women were asked to rate ok Cupid profiles so we don’t if they judged while profile or just pictures. How does judging profile lead to understanding of entire population’s attractiveness. https://www.reddit.com/r/OkCupid/comments/ccpmvj/debunking_the_8020_rule/?utm_source=share&utm_medium=ios_app&utm_name=iossmf	/r/PurplePillDebate	14/10/22 10:15 PM
0	There is no evidence to support that 80% of women are sleeping with 20% of men. There never was That ok Cupid data is sample statistics and it does not apply to population. The survey assessed which online dating profile women and so it more of which profile pictures women found it attractive. This cannot be extrapolated as population level attraction between genders.	/r/PurplePillDebate	14/10/22 09:50 PM
3	If studies show that women are happier when they are single and childless; should we as men stop relationships with women and leave them alone? Yes, you in specific should leave women alone. If you cannot use critical thinking or have original thoughts of your own to a point that you make life decisions based on small statistical data then it shows you don’t have maturity to be in relationship.	/r/ExRedPill	14/10/22 03:51 PM
8	One of the latest studies on the outcomes fatherless families, shows that what matters more are positive male role models more than a mere father at home. This is something I keeping saying under those JP videos and other influencer videos who spew hate on single mothers. I am also against the glorification of the traditional family where the father is busy working or sacrificing like influencers say. What is point of becoming father and not able enjoy the parenthood, be there for your kids as parenting is two person job. I am from Asian households and in my country divorce and single motherhood is extremely low that being said we have many house …	/r/ExRedPill	12/10/22 08:17 PM
1	There are more women who sexually select for evil men than vice versa. Thus, in a way, evil men exist because of some women No you are wrong. I am basing my comment on DSM. Dr Ramani has done extensive work in this she has many data of personality B disorder being diagnosed majority in men. It would be foolish to use a medical disorder diagnosis as an adjective for population. This shows your inadequacy in understanding medical science and lack of common sense not the reality. Also, Personality B disorder is not same as mood disorder BPD. As you know nothing about the topic I see no point interacting further. Do not …	/r/PurplePillDebate	11/10/22 09:51 AM
1	What factors determine a woman's attractiveness? Global scale. Yes. Asians have healthy marriages with well behaved kids and what you described is the average Asian dude. There are many Indian CEOs in USA. How do they look?	/r/PurplePillDebate	11/10/22 06:19 AM
1	There are more women who sexually select for evil men than vice versa. Thus, in a way, evil men exist because of some women It is though. 90 percent of people with personality B disorder like narcissism, Antisocial and psychopathy are men. BPD is seen in good percentage in women . To be in protector role men should have compassion for the one they are protecting but all personality B disorder by definition are lack of empathy. Strength without compassion is evil.	/r/PurplePillDebate	10/10/22 08:18 PM
2	Is alpha widow a real thing? I already do buddy. I have therapist and a ADHD coach. I also run a support group for neurodivergents. I take accountability of my actions and seek support. My father was narcissistic and it took me years to heal from his abuse so I empathise with what you are going through. But you are choosing wrong battles. Red pill or trashing women won’t help you gain confidence . Read about shame vs guilt and see if that resonates with your issues.	/r/ExRedPill	10/10/22 02:04 AM
8	Is alpha widow a real thing? These are your words The experience was incredible and it was my first taste of what it was like to actually sleep with a girl that is attractive who i actually want to hook up with. It was like ecstasy. I was actually really upset when she ghosted me because i was so hooked on the sex with her. She smelt great, she was good in bed and had a great body compared to the previous women. Now back on dating apps and the same results as before, very very fat, ugly or old women i get matches with. Ever…	/r/ExRedPill	10/10/22 02:01 AM
10	Is alpha widow a real thing? I called out your bullshit. If you are not in therapy please seek support. Heal from narcissistic abuse but choosing to get on red pill will worsen your mental health.	/r/ExRedPill	10/10/22 01:49 AM
1	How do I make real connections with women? Looks, Money, Status This is your post where you are open about treating unattractive girls like cum dump and drooling over attractive girl. Hypocrite much? You are projecting your insecurity with assumption that the women are assessing you like the way you are assessing them. Most women I match with on dating apps are not attractive. I have slept with a few but didn't really enjoy the experience as i was not attracted to them but just wanted sex. The experience was incredible and it was my first taste of what it wa…	/r/ExRedPill	10/10/22 01:37 AM
8	Is alpha widow a real thing? This guy is a troll. Look at his post history One post he says he is gay, one post he is 25 and then almost 30 in other, one post he is dating a escort other post asking whether his GF will cheat him as she slept with 150 people.	/r/ExRedPill	10/10/22 01:32 AM
1	How do I make real connections with women? Looks, Money, Status Show me studies. What is horrible?	/r/ExRedPill	10/10/22 12:27 AM
1	How do I make real connections with women? Looks, Money, Status Lol that was your take from my entire comment. Okay buddy!. How many ugly girl friends do you have to assume without actually hearing from them. Most men don’t even notice ugly women they don’t know they exist.	/r/ExRedPill	09/10/22 10:24 PM
5	Another Reason why I left the Red Pill What do you think women bring to table besides sex? I used the word love in contrast to lots of sex which is what RP sells an ultimate achievement like pyramid scheme in context of OP’s post. Context being earn 6 figure salary and bed a 19 yr old advise that RP gives . Hypothetically young girl gave sex but what next?. I did not mean it’s mutually exclusive thing. I disagree with narative that everything is push vs money. Would you say that as description of relationships to a child? If you ask …	/r/ExRedPill	09/10/22 10:02 PM
3	How do I make real connections with women? Looks, Money, Status I have some questions. How were before when you were not attractive? Were you confident in talking to women? . Are you judging women only on their looks and projecting that belief or wondering if women are doing the same to you?. Listen, attraction can bring two people together but individuals have to still build a relationship top of that. If not ,there won’t be so many break ups in the world. RP teaches a lot about seeking/ manipulating women to get sex but can you manipulate people to love yo…	/r/ExRedPill	09/10/22 12:03 PM
3	How do I make real connections with women? Looks, Money, Status How many ugly women have you cared about? Would you love an ugly women?	/r/ExRedPill	09/10/22 11:40 AM
4	Another Reason why I left the Red Pill The biggest flaw I see with RP is that they think men suffer being sexless more than living without love and compassion. You can manipulate women to some extend to get sex but how will you manipulate them to love you. How can we control something which is not under our control and the only thing you can do is self improvement. RP complain about women having sex, about women's body counts (making them not good enough for relationships, only sex), women "giving Chad more sex", feminism ruining wom…	/r/ExRedPill	09/10/22 11:34 AM
1	Girls say im very cold What does your friends say about you? How about your family? Seems like you both are not compatible.When you choose a partner think about traits that has bearing on your day to day life. Sweet talking is not faking sincerity it’s just harmless banter. What are you afraid of?. If you grew up in a home where people were not open about their feelings and said such silly things it might be a unfamiliar territory for you. Use some creativity and see how you can make them feel special if words are not…	/r/ExRedPill	06/10/22 09:06 PM
3	Pick up artists = redpill enablers Anyone with little critical thinking can call out their bullshit. How is blaming women going to help any way? As it worked in other areas ? An unemployed American would say all immigrants are taking there jobs, a unemployed white supremacist will say all black and brown people are taking their jobs. Will his life change because of this big discovery? Whenever I videos like that and see huge following it makes me really upset how much harm they are causing the young boys. If they ever decide to h…	/r/ExRedPill	06/10/22 09:01 PM
4	Is redpill right about pair bonding? The theory does not say “faster” or “slower”though. Women bond with high amounts of happy hormones like oxytocin and men by stress hormone vasopressin. Even by that theory it implies that women need multiple orgasms, good cuddles and amazing foreplay because that give oxytocin. By majority this all happens inside relationships and most women don’t even climax in hook ups. Vasopressin is distress hormone so by that hypothesis men will bond faster just getting rejected by a women or who plays hard…	/r/ExRedPill	06/10/22 05:46 AM
1	Young man damaged from the RedPill How do you cope- By using critical thinking The emotion behind “I made a mistake” is guilt and it is a healthy emotion as it helps us to learn, grow and correct overself by not repeating it. The emotion behind “I am a mistake” is shame. This emotion cripples people and when you think you as person is wrong the cognition is not going to work to fix it. Shame does not give space for love to exist either . RP recruits people like you and gives them inflated superiority complex. They will never ask …	/r/ExRedPill	05/10/22 07:57 AM
3	New to ex Red Pill-is hypergamy even the norm? Do women love cocky Dbags? Is any of this stuff even true? Here is my story. The big logical flaw in red pill is that they think women are monolith and they have figured out the algorithm. You might get sex being the man they teach you and even that I think it more to do with confidence not the whole Alpa man thing but how is that going work out long term. Jeff bezo and Bill gates are divorced so is a poor high school teacher. What does it tell? Like you , women are also by product of parenting they received and peer group they grew up. The perception they have about lif…	/r/ExRedPill	05/10/22 07:10 AM
3	29 years old. Very Successful Academically yet Unable to Garner the Interest of Females There very limited information to say anything here. Are you implying all men who don’t have PhD should die single?. Will you date an ugly woman with social anxiety & poor communication if she has an double PhD because of her PhD? In different situation different skill needed just IQ is not enough in social situations. How does your “male” friends treat you when there is no women around? Do they get impressed with your intelligence and praise you for it? Who is your best friend and what does he …	/r/ExRedPill	05/10/22 05:52 AM
3	Why men prefer younger women I think it is do with perspective of red pillars that having a young wife is an achievement. If a guy is 36 years old and single his status in society will increase if he marries a young attractive wife. Most men date in their peer group are in age gap 2-3 so they are not thinking about it. Young woman are naive and many will fall for smooth talk and no actions to follow. Older men can easily manipulate them with minimal attention.	/r/ExRedPill	26/09/22 09:53 AM
3	Why men prefer younger women I am talking about perspective of red pillers. They think it will make up for their failed long years of single hood. In actual society older men marrying someone younger that 25 is seen definitely manipulative. There were plenty of post on Leonardo di capris supporting he could date as many young girls he want because he has money and looks but more people were criticising him.	/r/ExRedPill	26/09/22 09:50 AM
7	Why men prefer younger women I think it is do with perspective that having a young wife is an achievement. If a guy is 36 years old and single his status in society will increase if he marries a young attractive wife. Most men who date in their peer group are in age gap 2-3 so they are not thinking about it. Young woman are naive and many will fall for smooth talk and no actions to follow. Older men can easily manipulate them with minimal attention.	/r/ExRedPill	26/09/22 07:16 AM
1	Is it over for autistic men? I have ADHD and have lived longer than you hanging out with other ND . I also run a support group for Neurodivergents because I understood how isolating it was for NDs. Autistic buddies in my gang have got married and are dating. It is okay if you cannot hold compassion for others today but keep seeking companionship . Our emotions are not facts. Autistic women don’t have it easy because people want their pussy that is even more isolating for many and it is okay if you cannot empathise that in t…	/r/ExRedPill	19/09/22 02:09 AM
1	Is it over for autistic men? It is a possibility but not the only fact/truth. Nobody/ never/ none is not rational description of reality but an emotional description our perceived truth. Your dating life will be different from average neurotypical but that does not necessarily mean it is going to be bad. Different does not default mean bad. The fact neurodivergent people exist is proof enough that women loved ND men and had kids with them. After your post a women posted shared her experience.	/r/ExRedPill	18/09/22 05:05 AM
1	Is it over for autistic men? I asked that question because entering dating with view that there are superior people than you is being overly critical and bit harsh. That may restrict your chances . I once did a mistake of breaking up with someone great because I believed they deserved better but it was my RSD from ADHD. Do not hold up yourself against neurotypicals it is not fair . Dating world is not the same for different genders , different races and different ethnicity and different socio economic group. That’s the real…	/r/ExRedPill	14/09/22 10:05 PM
1	Is it over for autistic men? I have ADHD and in my experience I haven’t had any issue with dating but keeping relationship has been difficult. People do get attracted to our quirks. Attraction can bring two people together but individuals have to still work on building the relationship on top of it. No one is born smooth with socialising and we all learn as we go. Join Neurodivergent support groups and practise socialising there. You can tutor/mentor the subjects you like to practise as well. There are plenty of introvert w…	/r/ExRedPill	14/09/22 07:03 AM
4	Should men wait until their 30's ? This concept roots from insecurity than confidence which is what TRP does regularly. When people are very insecure they tend to keep very high unachievable goals or aim for perfectionism. But there is no perfect relationship. Confidence in this context means no matter what happens you will learn and grow from the experience. Confidence is putting trust in you and your ability to learn. So hoping to achieve perfectionism by getting money, confidence, hot body and be in a powerful position at 30 a…	/r/ExRedPill	10/09/22 02:54 AM
1	Introverted confidence? I have ADHD and was constantly told to shut up as child as I was curious with lot of questions. Eventually I did shut up and now I cannot have have small talk even at gun point. You sound like introvert why change for others. All those noisy people in gatherings are superficial anyway. There is book called quiet which discusses super power of introversion. May be play the role that will suit you. If talking is not something you enjoy you could work on being the dependable guy. Someone who could …	/r/ExRedPill	09/09/22 06:12 AM
1	Red pill rage after a breakup Critical thinking and compassion can calm the rage. Hold compassion for yourself and the girl. You guys are young and still figuring out desire and pleasure. It seemed like a situation of rushing into feelings without longterm consideration , a normal thing that happens at your age. Attraction can get two people together but they have to still work to build a relationship on top it. Read up on triangle theory of love to get a perspective. Alexi pappas Olympic athlete said this in interview which…	/r/ExRedPill	09/09/22 12:01 AM
1	CMV: Wanting a virgin/low body count woman isn't about pussy Looks like you are OP from different account. So universally men want virgins then why do men have sex before marriage? If men don’t have sex before marriage there will be plenty of virgins in country. You can’t sleep around and also want virgins the math won’t add up. In culture where arranged marriage it is common for many men and women to be virgins till they get married.	/r/PurplePillDebate	08/09/22 02:12 PM
1	Why shouldn't EVERY guy prefer a virgin for a serious commitment? I don’t support OP . Some Men/ women in India stay virgin till theirs 30s. Here arrange marriage have evolved into arranged dating but most rely on arranged married to find partners.	/r/PurplePillDebate	08/09/22 01:54 PM
4	Why shouldn't EVERY guy prefer a virgin for a serious commitment? But why would religious virgin woman value a non religious man with body count ? She did not live with those belief system to attract a non religious insecure guy.	/r/PurplePillDebate	08/09/22 11:41 AM
2	Why shouldn't EVERY guy prefer a virgin for a serious commitment? My question is why would a virgin woman value men with such double standards? She is not going to see such men positively, how is men having sex but also feeling insecure and humiliated at a thought of women doing the same a good long term partner. Honestly I would think a man like that would make a bad father. I don’t want a man who would give different morals to a son and judge a daughter. The one who has such belief that men are lord to sleep around but women at whore is going to be pathetic …	/r/PurplePillDebate	08/09/22 11:19 AM
3	Why shouldn't EVERY guy prefer a virgin for a serious commitment? Lol even in hypothetical situation it is penetration with strap on not normal even sex? . Seems like you are grossed by penetration/ pounding and have messed up views on it. Brother I sorry to say this is clearly your personal insecurity. Emotions are not facts. I can understand people who have religious beliefs of purity culture and obstained because of personal beliefs finding it unsettling being virgin themself. But you don’t fall into either of the category. You have pounded woman and you ar…	/r/PurplePillDebate	08/09/22 09:25 AM
3	Why shouldn't EVERY guy prefer a virgin for a serious commitment? You said every man in the post now there are categories wow!! . So men like you who want virgin fucks women and men who don’t want also fucks. Where is the fault of women here. If you have stayed virgin then I can empathise with you that you have obstained and that is your personal belief system and respected. Low body count seeking body count is understandable too. But your only reason is you cannot imagine the girl being with someone else. I am sorry to say the stereotype exist because of men …	/r/PurplePillDebate	08/09/22 08:45 AM
2	Why shouldn't EVERY guy prefer a virgin for a serious commitment? Pounded by other guy. Well he is gay then why would women even marry gay guy!!!! This is your personal insecurity and you are hypocrit saying you want virgin while are out there having sex.	/r/PurplePillDebate	08/09/22 08:28 AM
3	Why shouldn't EVERY guy prefer a virgin for a serious commitment? How does the math work though. If ALL men want virgin for relationship but ALL men also want sex before relationships how will there be any virgin women left? Did you not think of this population statistics ? If you want more virgins there should be more men keeping it in their pants like archaic religion era of past. You cannot have both. Do the math.	/r/PurplePillDebate	08/09/22 08:23 AM
1	Women prefer toxic men I disagree. Read more on difference between guilt and shame. Guilt can help motivate but shame is a crippling emotion and that leads to low self esteem, anxiety and depression. People need support and professional help to heal from shame. For someone who is using other’s body you may not get it but when you become a father you might understand.	/r/PurplePillDebate	08/09/22 05:57 AM
3	Addressing the whole "80% of men are below average" clam: It's likely complete horeshit. Thanks for saying this . You cannot rationalise to anyone who brings up this study s their bible. On purplepildebate sub they bring this study every 3rd seconds. On the same study okcupid published that woman messaged men who they rated low but men messaged women they scored high. The behaviour followed by scoring should be considered as well. For credibility of research people should post the methodology as well. Ok Cupid never posted what did they actually ask as questionnaire. Also small stud…	/r/ExRedPill	06/09/22 08:11 PM
3	Addressing the whole "80% of men are below average" clam: It's likely complete horeshit. This. If you do simple google search the study page clearly says woman messaged those men who they rated low. This was back in era people dated within peer group, cameras were bad, bios were macho.	/r/ExRedPill	06/09/22 07:20 PM
16	How can i reverse TRP bullcrap out of my mind? I'm 29F, engaged to a wonderful man but can't help feeling that I am only ''useful'' for him in the next 4 years since when fertility goes, women have no value. I know this is false but cannot stop believing it and feeling self loathing. I was with you till 20 married someone 20 years older was aspiring to you. Get a hobby brother. Impersonating is not a hobby <so i wont be 30 til sept 2023 <wealthy doctor spent entire life single Lol who even talk like this ha haaa. Also he sounds like absent father who dumped parenting to his wife. When that 3 kids in imaginary story grow older they are going to have daddy issues.	/r/ExRedPill	06/09/22 07:10 PM
2	Redpillers claiming that young (18-29) women are sexually attracted to men in their 50s/60s: are they really this fucking delusional??? When people are very insecure they often keep high goals and standards to make for it. I empathise with people struggling with low esteem and them seeking support but TRP just gives people like this delusional impractical goals.	/r/ExRedPill	03/09/22 09:31 PM
10	Redpillers claiming that young (18-29) women are sexually attracted to men in their 50s/60s: are they really this fucking delusional??? They often sell exception as norm. Where will all the young women meet such older guy with resources in real life compared to young men who already are available in their peer group and has potential to earn. Also what do these men do till that age, do they get married or divorced in hope young will come along. Do they want children at such an age and will they be good fathers. How does that theory even translate outside their Mano spheres.	/r/ExRedPill	03/09/22 07:28 PM
3	Men, what is one thing you wish you could freely share with your other male friends about your mental health without judgement? Reassure them that you will be there to listen to them that means a lot . I think best is to ask the person who is sharing. Do they want share or fix the problem and take it from there. Help with what they are struggling booking an appointment with therapist on putting down their thoughts in email draft or journal. In my case I was convinced that I had NPD. There is so much content on how to recover from abusive partner or one who had lot of red flags. But there isn’t much online on if you were …	/r/ExRedPill	03/09/22 04:14 PM
10	Men, what is one thing you wish you could freely share with your other male friends about your mental health without judgement? My mistakes and regrets. I have made mistakes in past and treated my partners badly by being hot and cold. I went to length thinking I am narcissistic assh****. Took therapy and therapist pointed out I might have ADHD which turned my life for better. I had to pick myself from lowest point of mental health state alone understanding why I what I did and handling the shame that came from hurting someone I dearly loved. My mates thought whatever I was going through is just consequence of my choices …	/r/ExRedPill	03/09/22 01:03 PM
1	Evolutionary psychological findings on sex differences could be interpreted socioculturally Most species are not cognitively evolved species. We humans have amygdala which is evolved to produce emotions like happiness, grief, guilt shame and when amygdala is over active cognition is not at best as prefrontal cortex function is suppressed. So emotional Our behavioural choices cannot be compared with mammals who are not cognitively evolved. We bond with strangers and oxytocin and vasopressin has a big role in it. Human’s biochemistry and neurobiology is far more superior than other mamma…	/r/PurplePillDebate	28/08/22 08:06 AM
1	Evolutionary psychological findings on sex differences could be interpreted socioculturally I think we are evolved to mitigate orgasm gap. We are one few mammals who have sex for recreation and this cannot happen without cognitive evolution. If nature did not want woman to have pleasure the clitoris would gone vestibule through years because it has literally no function in body other than to give pleasure . We evolved to produce emotions from amygdala such happiness, grief, fear ,guilt, and shame. Amygdala sits next to memory center and it can intensifies emotions with memory. The feel…	/r/PurplePillDebate	28/08/22 07:36 AM
2	Women prefer toxic men That’s the link most people miss. We all are byproduct of parenting we receive. Parents who instill shame and guilt in children mess them up so good.	/r/PurplePillDebate	27/08/22 08:41 AM